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I am your host, Tony Overbay.", 0.62, 5.02, 1.0]]}, {"start": 5.018, "end": 11.631, "text": "I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, and I am also host of the Virtual Couch Podcast,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, and I am also host of the Virtual Couch Podcast,", 5.02, 11.63, 1.0]]}, {"start": 12.108, "end": 16.018, "text": "and then a couple of others, Murder on the Couch and Waking Up to Narcissism Premium", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and then a couple of others, Murder on the Couch and Waking Up to Narcissism Premium", 12.11, 16.02, 1.0]]}, {"start": 16.018, "end": 21.018, "text": "Question and Answer, and also creator of The Path Back, which is an online pornography", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Question and Answer, and also creator of The Path Back, which is an online pornography", 16.02, 21.02, 1.0]]}, {"start": 21.018, "end": 27.018, "text": "recovery program that I need to talk more about because it's just one of the most amazing", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["recovery program that I need to talk more about because it's just one of the most amazing", 21.02, 27.02, 1.0]]}, {"start": 27.304, "end": 31.858, "text": "things that I have been involved in because there's an online course, which I love. I", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["things that I have been involved in because there's an online course, which I love. I", 27.3, 31.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 31.976, "end": 37.778, "text": "feel very confident about the tools. But then there's a weekly group meeting that is fantastic.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["feel very confident about the tools. But then there's a weekly group meeting that is fantastic.", 31.98, 37.78, 1.0]]}, {"start": 37.999, "end": 44.298, "text": "And to sound like a broken record, the men's group is very, very close. And as a reminder,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And to sound like a broken record, the men's group is very, very close. And as a reminder,", 38.0, 44.3, 1.0]]}, {"start": 44.298, "end": 48.438, "text": "this is for men who are waking up to their own emotional immaturity or narcissistic traits", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["this is for men who are waking up to their own emotional immaturity or narcissistic traits", 44.3, 48.44, 1.0]]}, {"start": 48.438, "end": 54.138, "text": "and tendencies, or men who have found themselves in relationships that they feel are perhaps", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and tendencies, or men who have found themselves in relationships that they feel are perhaps", 48.44, 54.14, 1.0]]}, {"start": 54.138, "end": 59.978, "text": "more emotionally immature or narcissistic. And that could be a spouse, it could be a", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["more emotionally immature or narcissistic. And that could be a spouse, it could be a", 54.14, 59.98, 1.0]]}, {"start": 59.978, "end": 66.878, "text": "parent, it could be an adult child, it could be a boss, an organization, a religious institution.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["parent, it could be an adult child, it could be a boss, an organization, a religious institution.", 59.98, 66.88, 1.0]]}, {"start": 67.184, "end": 71.818, "text": "You name it. I want to really start putting together this men's group and then some calls,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["You name it. I want to really start putting together this men's group and then some calls,", 67.18, 71.82, 1.0]]}, {"start": 71.818, "end": 76.858, "text": "some group calls around that as well. So there's just a couple of things going on behind the scenes", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["some group calls around that as well. So there's just a couple of things going on behind the scenes", 71.82, 76.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 76.858, "end": 82.698, "text": "to be able to facilitate that. If you are still interested in that, reach out at contactattonioverbay.com", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["to be able to facilitate that. If you are still interested in that, reach out at contactattonioverbay.com", 76.86, 82.7, 1.0]]}, {"start": 82.698, "end": 88.698, "text": "or info at tonyoverbay.com. And then the women's group has been flourishing. It just is an", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["or info at tonyoverbay.com. And then the women's group has been flourishing. It just is an", 82.7, 88.7, 1.0]]}, {"start": 88.698, "end": 94.298, "text": "incredible entity that is so supportive and so amazing and wonderful. So if you are interested", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["incredible entity that is so supportive and so amazing and wonderful. So if you are interested", 88.7, 94.3, 1.0]]}, {"start": 94.298, "end": 98.858, "text": "in that, please reach out as well. Today, this is, I already did the interview, so I can tell you,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["in that, please reach out as well. Today, this is, I already did the interview, so I can tell you,", 94.3, 98.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 98.858, "end": 106.587, "text": "this is one of my favorite interviews. I felt like the interviewee was so just, it was so easy", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["this is one of my favorite interviews. I felt like the interviewee was so just, it was so easy", 98.86, 106.59, 1.0]]}, {"start": 106.731, "end": 114.618, "text": "to talk with her. Her name is Jodi Carlton, and she is a neurodiversity expert. And I went in", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["to talk with her. Her name is Jodi Carlton, and she is a neurodiversity expert. And I went in", 106.73, 114.62, 1.0]]}, {"start": 114.618, "end": 119.258, "text": "just completely open and vulnerable and let her know that I do not know what I do not know to", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["just completely open and vulnerable and let her know that I do not know what I do not know to", 114.62, 119.26, 1.0]]}, {"start": 119.258, "end": 125.578, "text": "even ask the right questions in the world of neurodivergent people and neurotypical people", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["even ask the right questions in the world of neurodivergent people and neurotypical people", 119.26, 125.58, 1.0]]}, {"start": 125.726, "end": 130.058, "text": "and how that shows up in relationships and why we're talking about this primarily here on Waking", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and how that shows up in relationships and why we're talking about this primarily here on Waking", 125.73, 130.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 130.058, "end": 137.498, "text": "up the narcissism, there are a lot of similarities in how narcissism manifests itself in a relationship", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["up the narcissism, there are a lot of similarities in how narcissism manifests itself in a relationship", 130.06, 137.5, 1.0]]}, {"start": 137.591, "end": 142.778, "text": "and how autism, formerly known even as Asperger's or high-functioning autism,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and how autism, formerly known even as Asperger's or high-functioning autism,", 137.59, 142.78, 1.0]]}, {"start": 142.857, "end": 147.258, "text": "shows up in a relationship because there's a lot of similar characteristics in the world of", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["shows up in a relationship because there's a lot of similar characteristics in the world of", 142.86, 147.26, 1.0]]}, {"start": 147.258, "end": 153.183, "text": "emotional immaturity. But there are also some key differences, and Jodi is an expert in that field.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["emotional immaturity. But there are also some key differences, and Jodi is an expert in that field.", 147.26, 153.18, 1.0]]}, {"start": 153.579, "end": 158.378, "text": "And just reading a tiny bit about her background, I knew that that was what she was bringing into", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["And just reading a tiny bit about her background, I knew that that was what she was bringing into", 153.58, 158.38, 1.0]]}, {"start": 158.378, "end": 164.588, "text": "the interview. I'd had a friend of mine ask me to interview her a year or more ago, and it was fun", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["the interview. I'd had a friend of mine ask me to interview her a year or more ago, and it was fun", 158.38, 164.59, 1.0]]}, {"start": 164.698, "end": 168.298, "text": "at the beginning of this interview, you'll hear that it turns out that same friend had reached", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["at the beginning of this interview, you'll hear that it turns out that same friend had reached", 164.7, 168.3, 1.0]]}, {"start": 168.298, "end": 171.658, "text": "out to Jodi and said that she should get a hold of me, so I'm really grateful that we did.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["out to Jodi and said that she should get a hold of me, so I'm really grateful that we did.", 168.3, 171.66, 0.9949253797531128]]}, {"start": 172.582, "end": 176.473, "text": "But she has over 20 years of experience as a therapist. She's an educator. She's a coach.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But she has over 20 years of experience as a therapist. She's an educator. She's a coach.", 172.58, 176.47, 1.0]]}, {"start": 177.849, "end": 184.233, "text": "But she actually is a survivor of a narcissistic abusive relationship where she said that she", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But she actually is a survivor of a narcissistic abusive relationship where she said that she", 177.85, 184.23, 1.0]]}, {"start": 184.233, "end": 189.353, "text": "had to do a lot of work to recover from her own codependency that had resulted from that abuse.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["had to do a lot of work to recover from her own codependency that had resulted from that abuse.", 184.23, 189.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 189.525, "end": 192.793, "text": "So we talk a little bit about that in this interview, but I think we're going to need", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So we talk a little bit about that in this interview, but I think we're going to need", 189.52, 192.79, 1.0]]}, {"start": 192.793, "end": 196.793, "text": "to bring her on again to talk more about her story because we got really deep into", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["to bring her on again to talk more about her story because we got really deep into", 192.79, 196.79, 1.0]]}, {"start": 196.793, "end": 202.353, "text": "to the differences between narcissism and autism, the similarities.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["to the differences between narcissism and autism,", 196.79, 201.39, 1.0], ["the similarities.", 201.51, 202.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 202.353, "end": 210.073, "text": "And we talked about the entire neurodivergent spectrum and how even things like ADHD could fit on there", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And we talked about the entire neurodivergent spectrum", 202.35, 206.03, 1.0], ["and how even things like ADHD could fit on there", 206.19, 210.07, 1.0]]}, {"start": 210.073, "end": 216.913, "text": "and how people are also starting to want to talk about putting personality disorders on that same spectrum.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and how people are also starting to want to talk about", 210.07, 214.32, 1.0], ["putting personality disorders on that same spectrum.", 214.47, 216.91, 1.0]]}, {"start": 216.913, "end": 222.033, "text": "And that can, that's a lot. So we talk about that, but a little bit more about her background.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And that can, that's a lot.", 216.91, 218.69, 1.0], ["So we talk about that,", 218.69, 220.09, 1.0], ["but a little bit more about her background.", 220.23, 222.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 222.033, "end": 227.153, "text": "She's a leading expert in neurodiversity and she's helped teenagers, parents, adults,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["She's a leading expert in neurodiversity", 222.03, 224.51, 1.0], ["and she's helped teenagers, parents, adults,", 224.51, 227.15, 1.0]]}, {"start": 227.153, "end": 232.367, "text": "couples understand brain differences in everything from language, emotions,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["couples understand brain differences", 227.15, 229.3, 1.0], ["in everything from language, emotions,", 229.36, 232.37, 1.0]]}, {"start": 232.473, "end": 234.873, "text": "sensory processing and behavior.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["sensory processing and behavior.", 232.47, 234.87, 1.0]]}, {"start": 234.873, "end": 238.513, "text": "She has her own podcast, her Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["She has her own podcast,", 234.87, 236.55, 1.0], ["her Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast,", 236.55, 238.51, 1.0]]}, {"start": 238.513, "end": 243.547, "text": "which has couples, partners, professionals, and I will put links to that in the show notes.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["which has couples, partners, professionals,", 238.51, 240.69, 1.0], ["and I will put links to that in the show notes.", 240.77, 243.55, 1.0]]}, {"start": 243.61, "end": 249.048, "text": "And she also has a couple's assessment that she talks about,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And she also has a couple's assessment", 243.61, 247.91, 1.0], ["that she talks about,", 247.91, 249.05, 1.0]]}, {"start": 249.12, "end": 253.981, "text": "and I feel like she has just a lot of tools, so I'll link to all of those in the show notes.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and I feel like she has just a lot of tools,", 249.12, 251.75, 1.0], ["so I'll link to all of those in the show notes.", 251.75, 253.98, 1.0]]}, {"start": 254.073, "end": 258.095, "text": "But let me just get right to that interview. So without any further ado,", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["But let me just get right to that interview.", 254.07, 256.49, 0.957750678062439], ["So without any further ado,", 256.49, 258.09, 0.957750678062439]]}, {"start": 258.533, "end": 262.155, "text": "let's get to the interview with Jodi Carlton, neurodiverse relationship expert.", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["let's get to the interview with Jodi Carlton,", 258.53, 260.35, 0.957750678062439], ["neurodiverse relationship expert.", 260.55, 262.15, 0.957750678062439]]}, {"start": 262.16, "end": 268.24, "text": "Music.", "newpara": true}, {"start": 268.232, "end": 269.613, "text": "That's really funny. Yeah, I was just saying all kinds of funny things.", "confidence": 0.96, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["That's really funny.", 268.23, 268.61, 0.957750678062439], ["Yeah, I was just saying all kinds of funny things.", 268.61, 269.61, 0.957750678062439]]}, {"start": 269.613, "end": 271.355, "text": "I thought, oh, is this the modern day example of Jodi says, because we were trying to record on a different platform,", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["I thought, oh, is this the modern day example of Jodi says,", 269.61, 270.61, 0.957750678062439], ["because we were trying to record on a different platform,", 270.94, 271.36, 0.957750678062439]]}, {"start": 271.613, "end": 272.613, "text": "a very fancy studio that was glitchy.", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["a very fancy studio that was glitchy.", 271.61, 272.61, 0.957750678062439]]}, {"start": 272.613, "end": 289.613, "text": "You just gotta roll with the punches sometimes. That was really funny. Yeah, I was just saying all kinds of funny things. I thought, oh, is this the modern day example of Jodi says, because we were trying to record on a different platform, a very fancy studio that was glitchy. And then we came over to good old zoom. And I'm like, what if Jodi just disappeared? Just like, you know what, I don't like the vibe of this guy.", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["You just gotta roll with the punches sometimes.", 272.61, 274.61, 0.9616828560829163], ["That was really funny. Yeah, I was just saying all kinds of funny things. I thought, oh, is this the modern day example of Jodi says, because we were trying to record on a different platform, a very fancy studio that was glitchy. And then we came over to good old zoom. And I'm like, what if Jodi just disappeared? Just like, you know what, I don't like the vibe of this guy.", 274.61, 289.61, 0.9616828560829163]]}, {"start": 290.17, "end": 293.186, "text": "He just left. I'm just sitting here waiting. Yeah.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["He just left.", 290.17, 290.61, 0.9616828560829163], ["I'm just sitting here waiting.", 290.61, 292.52, 1.0], ["Yeah.", 292.91, 293.19, 1.0]]}, {"start": 293.825, "end": 298.133, "text": "So it's good to talk to you and thank you for joining me on.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So it's good to talk to you and thank you for joining me on.", 293.83, 298.13, 1.0]]}, {"start": 298.133, "end": 301.373, "text": "So we're going to we're going to say initially I'm waking up to narcissism, but I'm sure", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So we're going to we're going to say initially I'm waking up to narcissism, but I'm sure", 298.13, 301.37, 1.0]]}, {"start": 301.373, "end": 307.713, "text": "I'm going to run this over on the virtual couch as well. Because I I say so often that we don't know what we don't know.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm going to run this over on the virtual couch as well.", 301.37, 304.09, 1.0], ["Because I I say so often that we don't know what we don't know.", 304.09, 307.71, 1.0]]}, {"start": 307.959, "end": 317.573, "text": "And I don't know a lot about what you are an expert in. And I have wanted to know more about neuro diverse couples and autism versus narcissism", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I don't know a lot about what you are an expert in.", 307.96, 311.69, 1.0], ["And I have wanted to know more about neuro diverse couples and autism versus narcissism", 311.69, 317.57, 1.0]]}, {"start": 317.573, "end": 318.221, "text": "and all these things.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and all these things.", 317.57, 318.22, 1.0]]}, {"start": 318.573, "end": 322.453, "text": "I know that I've just proverbially kicked the can down the road and thought to myself,", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["I know that I've just proverbially kicked the can", 318.57, 321.21, 0.9894475936889648], ["down the road and thought to myself,", 321.21, 322.45, 0.9894475936889648]]}, {"start": 322.453, "end": 324.55, "text": "well, I'll figure it out later. And so I guess later is now.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["well, I'll figure it out later.", 322.45, 323.41, 0.9894475936889648], ["And so I guess later is now.", 323.41, 324.55, 0.9894475936889648]]}, {"start": 325.093, "end": 329.6, "text": "So I am excited. Yeah. I am so glad that you reached out to me.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["So I am excited.", 325.09, 326.94, 0.9894475936889648], ["Yeah.", 327.13, 327.44, 0.9894475936889648], ["I am so glad that you reached out to me.", 327.97, 329.6, 0.9894475936889648]]}, {"start": 329.733, "end": 333.693, "text": "You were on my radar a year or two ago, a colleague or not a colleague,", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["You were on my radar a year or two ago,", 329.73, 332.09, 0.9894475936889648], ["a colleague or not a colleague,", 332.09, 333.69, 0.9894475936889648]]}, {"start": 333.693, "end": 338.813, "text": "but a friend of mine actually had mentioned you to me. And I'm just so glad you reached out", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["but a friend of mine actually had mentioned you to me.", 333.69, 336.97, 0.9894475936889648], ["And I'm just so glad you reached out", 336.97, 338.81, 0.9894475936889648]]}, {"start": 338.813, "end": 343.058, "text": "because it's such an important conversation to have because...", "confidence": 0.83, "timestamps": [["because it's such an important conversation to have", 338.81, 342.45, 0.9894475936889648], ["because...", 342.45, 343.06, 0.6636179685592651]]}, {"start": 343.833, "end": 349.523, "text": "There is so much confusion around narcissism and neurodiversity and there's a lot of overlap", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["There is so much confusion around narcissism and neurodiversity and there's a lot of overlap", 343.83, 349.52, 1.0]]}, {"start": 349.523, "end": 351.483, "text": "and it can look really similar.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and it can look really similar.", 349.52, 351.48, 1.0]]}, {"start": 351.638, "end": 353.603, "text": "And I think that it's so important.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I think that it's so important.", 351.64, 353.6, 1.0]]}, {"start": 353.915, "end": 358.443, "text": "It's just we need to start all of us, you know, as far as kicking the can down the road,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It's just we need to start all of us, you know, as far as kicking the can down the road,", 353.92, 358.44, 1.0]]}, {"start": 358.443, "end": 363.003, "text": "it was I kicked that can for a while myself too, but I had to stop.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["it was I kicked that can for a while myself too, but I had to stop.", 358.44, 363.0, 1.0]]}, {"start": 363.003, "end": 368.723, "text": "It was one of those things that my clients needed me to really start getting into the", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It was one of those things that my clients needed me to really start getting into the", 363.0, 368.72, 1.0]]}, {"start": 368.723, "end": 370.803, "text": "weeds with it more and more.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["weeds with it more and more.", 368.72, 370.8, 1.0]]}, {"start": 371.01, "end": 373.936, "text": "And so I just had to. Thank you so much for having me on.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so I just had to.", 371.01, 372.0, 1.0], ["Thank you so much for having me on.", 372.2, 373.94, 1.0]]}, {"start": 374.098, "end": 377.003, "text": "Okay, so it's funny that you say this because there's, I don't know if it's the same person", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Okay, so it's funny that you say this because there's, I don't know if it's the same person", 374.1, 377.0, 1.0]]}, {"start": 377.003, "end": 382.363, "text": "then, but I immediately sent a text yesterday to somebody and said, hey, I have this expert", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["then, but I immediately sent a text yesterday to somebody and said, hey, I have this expert", 377.0, 382.36, 1.0]]}, {"start": 382.363, "end": 385.323, "text": "coming on and they said, yeah, I recommended her to you a year ago.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["coming on and they said, yeah, I recommended her to you a year ago.", 382.36, 385.32, 1.0]]}, {"start": 385.45, "end": 386.843, "text": "I think that, yeah, it's probably her.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I think that, yeah, it's probably her.", 385.45, 386.84, 1.0]]}, {"start": 387.643, "end": 391.563, "text": "I love it. I do. I love it. Shannon can say she told me so. That is correct. Yes, that's right.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["I love it. I do. I love it.", 387.64, 388.84, 1.0], ["Shannon can say she told me so. That is correct.", 388.84, 390.76, 1.0], ["Yes, that's right.", 390.76, 391.56, 1.0]]}, {"start": 391.563, "end": 397.323, "text": "Right. Yes. Okay, so I'm so glad then. This is, but then in reading your background, I didn't realize that", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Right.", 391.56, 391.56, 1.0], ["Yes.", 391.56, 391.96, 1.0], ["Okay, so I'm so glad then. This is, but then in reading your background, I didn't realize that", 391.96, 397.32, 1.0]]}, {"start": 397.323, "end": 401.643, "text": "you, reading about it, it says that you're also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["you, reading about it, it says that you're also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and", 397.32, 401.64, 1.0]]}, {"start": 401.643, "end": 406.763, "text": "then spent years recovering from codependency. I can't even imagine what that was like as somebody", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["then spent years recovering from codependency. I can't even imagine what that was like as somebody", 401.64, 406.76, 1.0]]}, {"start": 406.763, "end": 411.083, "text": "that were you working in the field at that time. Oh gosh, it's been such a journey. So", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that were you working in the field at that time. Oh gosh, it's been such a journey. 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But no, tell me, yeah, wherever you want to go. Let's, let's hear.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["story, right? Yeah. But no, tell me, yeah, wherever you want to go. Let's, let's hear.", 421.96, 425.96, 1.0]]}, {"start": 425.963, "end": 431.483, "text": "Narcissism first got on my radar with a book that I read in my twenties. That's the first time I", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Narcissism first got on my radar with a book that I read in my twenties. 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And so there were a lot of people that struggled with that.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But she still calls herself an Aspie.", 763.1, 764.9, 1.0], ["And so there were a lot of people", 764.9, 767.38, 1.0], ["that struggled with that.", 767.38, 768.6, 1.0]]}, {"start": 768.902, "end": 772.702, "text": "Well, I appreciate, I'm so grateful that you could just answer it with that clarity", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Well, I appreciate, I'm so grateful", 768.9, 770.34, 1.0], ["that you could just answer it with that clarity", 770.34, 772.7, 1.0]]}, {"start": 772.702, "end": 774.782, "text": "because I do feel like as a clinician,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["because I do feel like as a clinician,", 772.7, 774.78, 1.0]]}, {"start": 774.782, "end": 777.902, "text": "when that was taken away, I feel like I just started to really understand", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["when that was taken away,", 774.78, 775.94, 1.0], ["I feel like I just started to really understand", 775.94, 777.9, 1.0]]}, {"start": 777.902, "end": 783.482, "text": "Asperger's and I had the concept of high-functioning Asperger's clients that were, they were fine", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Asperger's and I had the concept of high-functioning Asperger's clients that were, they were fine", 777.9, 783.48, 1.0]]}, {"start": 783.482, "end": 784.575, "text": "taking ownership of that.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["taking ownership of that.", 783.48, 784.57, 1.0]]}, {"start": 785.102, "end": 788.022, "text": "And then, you know, how do I learn how to interact in the workplace?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And then, you know, how do I learn how to interact in the workplace?", 785.1, 788.02, 1.0]]}, {"start": 788.022, "end": 792.38, "text": "But then I felt like once I remember the first person that came in and said, I don't want to be autistic.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But then I felt like once I remember the first person that came in and said, I don't want", 788.02, 791.64, 1.0], ["to be autistic.", 791.64, 792.38, 1.0]]}, {"start": 792.642, "end": 797.07, "text": "I'm fine being, having Asperger's and it got into the whole concept around labeling and,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm fine being, having Asperger's and it got into the whole concept around labeling and,", 792.64, 797.07, 1.0]]}, {"start": 797.362, "end": 801.542, "text": "and then as a card-carrying ADHD, and now see, look at me, I have to say ADHD person,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and then as a card-carrying ADHD, and now see, look at me, I have to say ADHD person,", 797.36, 801.54, 1.0]]}, {"start": 801.542, "end": 803.857, "text": "but I have ADD, but we got rid of that.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["but I have ADD, but we got rid of that.", 801.54, 803.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 803.942, "end": 804.524, "text": "Right?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Right?", 803.94, 804.52, 1.0]]}, {"start": 804.942, "end": 813.502, "text": "Yeah. 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And I generally go with what my client, I mirror my client. I like that. Yeah.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Asperger's himself, Hans Asperger's was identified as being a Nazi. And so now that that brings within a lot of a lot of negativity. So a lot of people are really up in arms about using that term at all. And I generally go with what my client, I mirror my client.", 830.82, 846.15, 0.9963951706886292], ["I like that. Yeah.", 846.15, 847.31, 0.9963951706886292]]}, {"start": 847.309, "end": 851.389, "text": "Yeah, I have to tell you, I feel very comfortable already talking with you. I have to tell you that", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Yeah, I have to tell you, I feel very comfortable already talking with you. I have to tell you that", 847.31, 851.39, 1.0]]}, {"start": 851.641, "end": 855.125, "text": "it's funny because the reason I am also very excited of how you explain that was,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["it's funny because the reason I am also very excited of how you explain that was,", 851.64, 855.13, 1.0]]}, {"start": 855.422, "end": 859.041, "text": "I don't know if you're familiar with the concept of confabulation, confabulated memory.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I don't know if you're familiar with the concept of confabulation, confabulated memory.", 855.42, 859.04, 1.0]]}, {"start": 859.383, "end": 863.966, "text": "It's a term that's big in the narcissistic world, but basically it's that we create a new narrative", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It's a term that's big in the narcissistic world, but basically it's that we create a new narrative", 859.38, 863.97, 1.0]]}, {"start": 864.335, "end": 867.648, "text": "to then fit the way that we see the world. So in the world of narcissism,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["to then fit the way that we see the world. 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It's funny, I just recorded a video this", 934.43, 940.27, 1.0]]}, {"start": 940.269, "end": 948.429, "text": "morning on confirmation bias, which is what you just described, where we believe we see and", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["morning on confirmation bias, which is what you just described, where we believe we see and", 940.27, 948.43, 1.0]]}, {"start": 948.429, "end": 956.189, "text": "perceive what we expect to perceive. And I think what you just said about that confabulated", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["perceive what we expect to perceive. And I think what you just said about that confabulated", 948.43, 956.19, 1.0]]}, {"start": 956.189, "end": 963.869, "text": "narrative and why gaslighting is so powerful, it's because it's not...", "confidence": 0.91, "timestamps": [["narrative and why gaslighting is so powerful, it's because it's not...", 956.19, 963.87, 0.9079768061637878]]}, {"start": 962.909, "end": 966.6, "text": "It's not actually a lie. No, to them it's not.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It's not actually a lie.", 962.91, 965.31, 1.0], ["No, to them it's not.", 965.61, 966.6, 1.0]]}, {"start": 966.789, "end": 968.84, "text": "Jodi, I gave an example. It's funny now.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Jodi, I gave an example.", 966.79, 968.28, 1.0], ["It's funny now.", 968.28, 968.84, 1.0]]}, {"start": 968.84, "end": 971.96, "text": "I feel like I'm an old person saying, you know, on this TikTok thing.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I feel like I'm an old person saying, you know, on this TikTok thing.", 968.84, 971.96, 1.0]]}, {"start": 971.96, "end": 974.04, "text": "But I've got somebody putting some of the videos on TikTok.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But I've got somebody putting some of the videos on TikTok.", 971.96, 974.04, 1.0]]}, {"start": 974.04, "end": 978.6, "text": "And I did one that I took a screenshot. And I have a client that will show up a little bit late.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I did one that I took a screenshot.", 974.04, 976.28, 1.0], ["And I have a client that will show up a little bit late.", 976.28, 978.6, 1.0]]}, {"start": 978.6, "end": 981.8, "text": "And I will make a joke. 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And then he shows up.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["And he sent me one.", 986.63, 987.24, 1.0], ["And I jump here on my desk.", 987.24, 988.6, 1.0], ["And then he shows up.", 988.6, 989.24, 1.0]]}, {"start": 989.24, "end": 991.16, "text": "And he was six minutes late. 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I mean, that is.", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["And then that is the truth.", 1156.72, 1158.28, 0.9776254892349243], ["I mean, that is.", 1158.28, 1159.07, 0.9776254892349243]]}, {"start": 1159.283, "end": 1163.327, "text": "And that is their truth. 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He wasn't so on board, so I didn't push it.", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["That was also he had autistic Asperger's, I recognized it.", 1208.16, 1212.44, 0.9644318222999573], ["He wasn't so on board, so I didn't push it.", 1212.44, 1214.2, 0.9644318222999573]]}, {"start": 1214.203, "end": 1218.61, "text": "But I remember one time he told me I was verbally abusive and I was just.", "confidence": 0.92, "timestamps": [["But I remember one time he told me I was verbally abusive and I was just.", 1214.2, 1218.61, 0.918025553226471]]}, {"start": 1219.366, "end": 1225.856, "text": "I was mortified because I'm like, what? You know, as a trained therapist and someone who works with", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["I was mortified because I'm like, what? You know, as a trained therapist and someone who works with", 1219.37, 1225.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1225.856, "end": 1233.536, "text": "relationships, I know what my definition of abuse is and verbal abuse. 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So even if it's excitement and expressive, it can feel overwhelming and overstimulated.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Yeah. So even if it's excitement and expressive, it can feel overwhelming and overstimulated.", 1274.66, 1279.38, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1279.618, "end": 1284.471, "text": "Yes. And he even said that, I remember one day I was, so if it was a disagreement,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Yes. And he even said that, I remember one day I was, so if it was a disagreement,", 1279.62, 1284.47, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1284.795, "end": 1289.856, "text": "that's when he felt it was verbal abuse. And I'm going through my lens of, I'm not calling you", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that's when he felt it was verbal abuse. And I'm going through my lens of, I'm not calling you", 1284.79, 1289.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1289.856, "end": 1294.576, "text": "names. I'm not trying to, you know, I'm not trying to gaslight you and all the things that, you know,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["names. I'm not trying to, you know, I'm not trying to gaslight you and all the things that, you know,", 1289.86, 1294.58, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1294.576, "end": 1299.171, "text": "I think of as abuse. I'm just disagreeing with you and I'm doing it in an animated way.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I think of as abuse. I'm just disagreeing with you and I'm doing it in an animated way.", 1294.58, 1299.17, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1299.296, "end": 1303.696, "text": "Yeah. But one day I was describing something that happened at work and I was really excited about", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Yeah.", 1299.3, 1299.7, 1.0], ["But one day I was describing something that happened at work and I was really excited about", 1299.78, 1303.7, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1303.696, "end": 1312.056, "text": "about it. And he literally said, you're scaring me. 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I mean, right there, I want to say, Okay, and of course, you didn't you at that", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["know, I'm filtering a lot of them. I mean, right there, I", 1320.5, 1322.38, 1.0], ["want to say, Okay, and of course, you didn't you at that", 1322.38, 1324.34, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1324.336, "end": 1327.537, "text": "point, you said, Let me show you a loud voice, because then he learns, right?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["point, you said, Let me show you a loud voice, because then he", 1324.34, 1326.98, 1.0], ["learns, right?", 1326.98, 1327.54, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1329.416, "end": 1337.016, "text": "I'm good with humor is a good thing. 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Okay.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It can also be referred to as cognitive empathy.", 1388.67, 1391.67, 1.0], ["Okay.", 1391.67, 1392.67, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1393.065, "end": 1402.668, "text": "But what it really refers to is the ability to recognize that my mind, my thoughts, my perceptions, my experience are actually mine.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But what it really refers to is the ability to recognize that my mind, my thoughts, my perceptions, my experience are actually mine.", 1393.06, 1402.67, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1402.668, "end": 1406.982, "text": "And they are different from someone else's. I love that, theory of mind, is that what you call it?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And they are different from someone else's.", 1402.67, 1405.03, 1.0], ["I love that, theory of mind, is that what you call it?", 1405.03, 1406.98, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1407.268, "end": 1412.468, "text": "Theory of mind, it's like a theoretical understanding that my mind is one mind.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Theory of mind, it's like a theoretical understanding", 1407.27, 1410.21, 1.0], ["that my mind is one mind.", 1410.31, 1412.47, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1412.468, "end": 1418.397, "text": "And so I oftentimes use an analogy when I'm explaining this to my client of a mountain,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so I oftentimes use an analogy", 1412.47, 1414.83, 1.0], ["when I'm explaining this to my client of a mountain,", 1414.83, 1418.4, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1418.548, "end": 1424.132, "text": "and I'll say, okay, let's say you and your partner are standing on opposite sides of a mountain,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and I'll say, okay, let's say you and your partner", 1418.55, 1421.67, 1.0], ["are standing on opposite sides of a mountain,", 1421.67, 1424.13, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1424.268, "end": 1429.548, "text": "and this partner is seeing lush, green waterfalls, and this partner on the other side", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and this partner is seeing lush, green waterfalls,", 1424.27, 1427.8, 1.0], ["and this partner on the other side", 1427.91, 1429.55, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1429.548, "end": 1431.343, "text": "is seeing rocky and barren,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["is seeing rocky and barren,", 1429.55, 1431.34, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1431.588, "end": 1437.563, "text": "And then when I ask you to describe the mountain, you're gonna give me totally different descriptions, but who's right?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And then when I ask you to describe the mountain,", 1431.59, 1434.14, 1.0], ["you're gonna give me totally different descriptions,", 1434.35, 1436.28, 1.0], ["but who's right?", 1436.53, 1437.56, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1438.288, "end": 1441.668, "text": "And I've had so many of my neurodivergent clients have this light bulb go off and they're like,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["And I've had so many of my neurodivergent clients", 1438.29, 1440.31, 1.0], ["have this light bulb go off and they're like,", 1440.31, 1441.67, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1442.188, "end": 1447.124, "text": "oh, because to them, their partner has been wrong on all these things.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["oh, because to them, their partner has been wrong", 1442.19, 1445.87, 1.0], ["on all these things.", 1445.87, 1447.12, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1447.908, "end": 1452.462, "text": "And it's like, okay, your partner's not wrong, but your partner has a different perspective.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And it's like, okay, your partner's not wrong,", 1447.91, 1450.75, 1.0], ["but your partner has a different perspective.", 1450.75, 1452.46, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1452.588, "end": 1458.61, "text": "Now, now that you take that, some of my neurodivergent folks are able to go, OK.", "confidence": 0.95, "timestamps": [["Now, now that you take that,", 1452.59, 1454.37, 1.0], ["some of my neurodivergent folks are able to go,", 1454.55, 1458.15, 1.0], ["OK.", 1458.15, 1458.61, 0.8645798563957214]]}, {"start": 1459.538, "end": 1464.828, "text": "I can recognize this and I can I can check I can realize it was it's like a light bulb. I can", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["I can recognize this and I can I can check I can realize it was it's like a light bulb. I can", 1459.54, 1464.83, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1464.828, "end": 1471.948, "text": "realize that I need to check in with me to really ask myself what is it that I'm perceiving and why", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["realize that I need to check in with me to really ask myself what is it that I'm perceiving and why", 1464.83, 1471.95, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1471.948, "end": 1478.668, "text": "and and do that self self-confrontation or yeah yeah yeah whereas some of them struggle with that", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and and do that self self-confrontation or yeah yeah yeah whereas some of them struggle with that", 1471.95, 1478.67, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1478.668, "end": 1484.188, "text": "some of them and sometimes it's topic specific or it's person specific sometimes and we all that way", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["some of them and sometimes it's topic specific or it's person specific sometimes and we all that way", 1478.67, 1484.19, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1484.188, "end": 1491.829, "text": "Sometimes we're a lot better at it in one setting than we are another, but the narcissist absolutely can't.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Sometimes we're a lot better at it in one setting than we are another, but the narcissist absolutely can't.", 1484.19, 1491.83, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1492.009, "end": 1497.708, "text": "Exactly. It's funny when you were just saying that, I was about to say, oh, I have to bring up though, but actually the narcissist can't, but that's exactly where you're going.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Exactly. It's funny when you were just saying that, I was about to say, oh, I have to bring up though, but actually the narcissist can't, but that's exactly where you're going.", 1492.01, 1497.71, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1497.708, "end": 1510.708, "text": "Because I do find that when I started noticing the similarities, because I would notice that some of my, because I work so much in that population of emotional immaturity and narcissism, but then the man, the autistic person, there's always just a little bit of,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Because I do find that when I started noticing the similarities, because I would notice that some of my, because I work so much in that population of emotional immaturity and narcissism, but then the man, the autistic person, there's always just a little bit of,", 1497.71, 1510.71, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1510.708, "end": 1518.308, "text": "but they were willing to confront here or they were willing to sit with this discomfort here or go on a journey here, but then it still just didn't feel.", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["but they were willing to confront here or they were willing to sit with this discomfort here or go on a journey here, but then it still just didn't feel.", 1510.71, 1518.31, 0.9839247465133667]]}, {"start": 1519.148, "end": 1523.948, "text": "Yeah. Yeah. OK. And so with neurodivergence, there's oftentimes disbelief.", "confidence": 0.98, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Yeah. Yeah. 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I like the word intrigue and Jodi, I talk so often about we don't like to sit with discomfort and what do we do with that discomfort?", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But there's still that intrigue and that interest.", 1565.76, 1568.1, 0.996094822883606], ["I like the word intrigue and Jodi, I talk so often about we don't like to sit with discomfort and what do we do with that discomfort?", 1568.22, 1573.81, 0.996094822883606]]}, {"start": 1573.814, "end": 1576.614, "text": "And I feel like the narcissist just immediately sheds it.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I feel like the narcissist just immediately sheds it.", 1573.81, 1576.61, 0.996094822883606]]}, {"start": 1576.614, "end": 1582.572, "text": "Do you feel like the neurodivergent person is equipped to sit with that discomfort or what's that like for them?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Do you feel like the neurodivergent person is equipped to sit with that discomfort or what's that like for them?", 1576.61, 1582.57, 0.996094822883606]]}, {"start": 1582.869, "end": 1586.014, "text": "It really depends on the individual and it depends on the situation.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It really depends on the individual and it depends on the situation.", 1582.87, 1586.01, 0.996094822883606]]}, {"start": 1586.014, "end": 1589.914, "text": "And this is where the partnership dynamics really come into play.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And this is where the partnership dynamics really come into play.", 1586.01, 1589.91, 0.996094822883606]]}, {"start": 1589.914, "end": 1596.734, "text": "Because I see so, I mean, just all the time, the pattern is that neurodivergent individuals", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Because I see so, I mean, just all the time,", 1589.91, 1593.57, 1.0], ["the pattern is that neurodivergent individuals", 1593.57, 1596.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1596.734, "end": 1599.134, "text": "pair up with codependent, just like narcissistic.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["pair up with codependent, just like narcissistic.", 1596.73, 1599.13, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1599.134, "end": 1603.714, "text": "And narcissistic pair, it's like a real common pairing. Human magnet syndrome.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And narcissistic pair, it's like a real common pairing.", 1599.13, 1602.59, 1.0], ["Human magnet syndrome.", 1602.59, 1603.71, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1603.714, "end": 1607.254, "text": "I don't know if you are familiar with that concept from Ross Rosenberg, but I love that human magnet", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I don't know if you are familiar with that concept", 1603.71, 1605.37, 1.0], ["from Ross Rosenberg, but I love that human magnet", 1605.37, 1607.25, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1607.254, "end": 1609.515, "text": "and they say it's breakup resistant in a sense.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and they say it's breakup resistant in a sense.", 1607.25, 1609.52, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1609.614, "end": 1617.714, "text": "Yeah, it's so true. And so my codependent neurotypical partners have come from their own abusive backgrounds,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Yeah, it's so true.", 1609.61, 1611.6, 1.0], ["And so my codependent neurotypical partners", 1611.67, 1615.07, 1.0], ["have come from their own abusive backgrounds,", 1615.07, 1617.71, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1617.714, "end": 1625.154, "text": "which has made them, So they're just inherently, they're hardwired to defer and take care and meet the needs", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["which has made them,", 1617.71, 1618.55, 1.0], ["So they're just inherently, they're hardwired to defer and take care and meet the needs", 1618.55, 1625.15, 0.990099310874939]]}, {"start": 1625.154, "end": 1627.097, "text": "of others and put themselves last.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["of others and put themselves last.", 1625.15, 1627.1, 0.990099310874939]]}, {"start": 1627.314, "end": 1632.874, "text": "And then, but what that as you know, that results in eventually resentment and anger", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["And then, but what that as you know, that results in eventually resentment and anger", 1627.31, 1632.87, 0.990099310874939]]}, {"start": 1632.874, "end": 1635.074, "text": "and bitterness and pain and hurt.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["and bitterness and pain and hurt.", 1632.87, 1635.07, 0.990099310874939]]}, {"start": 1635.074, "end": 1640.474, "text": "And so depending on the nature of the relationship, I tell people, do you have some people, some", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["And so depending on the nature of the relationship, I tell people, do you have some people, some", 1635.07, 1640.47, 0.990099310874939]]}, {"start": 1640.474, "end": 1645.767, "text": "couples have the boxing gloves on and they're in the boxing ring, whereas others are still in a stage of.", "confidence": 0.86, "timestamps": [["couples have the boxing gloves on and they're in the boxing ring, whereas others are still", 1640.47, 1644.59, 0.990099310874939], ["in a stage of.", 1644.59, 1645.77, 0.7236863970756531]]}, {"start": 1646.344, "end": 1649.034, "text": "We love each other, we care, and we want to figure this out.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["We love each other, we care, and we want to figure this out.", 1646.34, 1649.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1649.034, "end": 1655.553, "text": "And it's harder when couples are in that boxing ring and there's that contempt and antagonism.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And it's harder when couples are in that boxing ring", 1649.03, 1652.91, 1.0], ["and there's that contempt and antagonism.", 1652.91, 1655.55, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1656.012, "end": 1662.8, "text": "It's harder for the neurodivergent partner to pause and self-reflect because it's really vulnerable.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It's harder for the neurodivergent partner", 1656.01, 1658.71, 1.0], ["to pause and self-reflect because it's really vulnerable.", 1658.71, 1662.8, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1663.232, "end": 1667.354, "text": "Because when you, and it's harder for both partners. Because when you pause and say,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Because when you, and it's harder for both partners.", 1663.23, 1666.0, 1.0], ["Because when you pause and say,", 1666.13, 1667.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1667.354, "end": 1671.854, "text": "okay, let me look at what I'm doing here, then you're opening yourself up for the other person to go,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["okay, let me look at what I'm doing here,", 1667.35, 1669.25, 1.0], ["then you're opening yourself up for the other person to go,", 1669.83, 1671.85, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1671.854, "end": 1673.882, "text": "yeah, you sure are.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["yeah, you sure are.", 1671.85, 1673.88, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1674.014, "end": 1679.436, "text": "And what can that overwhelming feeling be even bigger than for that to neurodivergent person?", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["And what can that overwhelming feeling be even bigger than for that to neurodivergent person?", 1674.01, 1679.44, 0.9892037510871887]]}, {"start": 1679.625, "end": 1686.094, "text": "Okay. Yes. Yes, absolutely. Because the skills to well to emotionally regulate.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["Okay. Yes. Yes, absolutely. Because the skills to well to emotionally regulate.", 1679.63, 1686.09, 0.9892037510871887]]}, {"start": 1686.094, "end": 1691.214, "text": "Yeah. We're talking about emotional immaturity. Yeah. So many neurodivergent folks are still", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["Yeah. We're talking about emotional immaturity. Yeah. So many neurodivergent folks are still", 1686.09, 1691.21, 0.9892037510871887]]}, {"start": 1691.214, "end": 1697.374, "text": "very stuck in like the middle school and maturity level, which is another reason why they can.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["very stuck in like the middle school and maturity level, which is another reason why they can.", 1691.21, 1697.37, 0.9892037510871887]]}, {"start": 1698.014, "end": 1701.374, "text": "That middle school, those middle school years, that's the narcissistic years. You know,", "confidence": 0.99, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["That middle school, those middle school years, that's the narcissistic years. You know,", 1698.01, 1701.37, 0.9892037510871887]]}, {"start": 1701.374, "end": 1705.214, "text": "That's the years that all the middle schools are a little narcissist. All the middle schoolers. Yes,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["That's the years that all the middle schools are a little narcissist. All the middle schoolers. Yes,", 1701.37, 1705.21, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1705.214, "end": 1711.934, "text": "they are. And then some go ahead and mature and pull out of that. But a lot of my neurodivergent", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["they are. And then some go ahead and mature and pull out of that. 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Because you think about what what a middle schooler does.", 1723.45, 1727.77, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1727.774, "end": 1734.654, "text": "My son's 17 so thank goodness we've we've pulled out of it. Yeah. But you know in his 14, 13, 14", "confidence": 0.95, "timestamps": [["My son's 17 so thank goodness we've we've pulled out of it. Yeah. 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But", 1747.41, 1753.04, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1753.399, "end": 1758.862, "text": "the thing is, is they can learn how. It's another muscle that can be exercised.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["the thing is, is they can learn how. It's another muscle that can be exercised.", 1753.4, 1758.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1758.862, "end": 1762.702, "text": "It's funny because I talk, I call it the let's go ride bikes. And I talk about the emotionally", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It's funny because I talk, I call it the let's go ride bikes. And I talk about the emotionally", 1758.86, 1762.7, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1762.702, "end": 1767.182, "text": "mature, they can yell and scream and curse you out. And that does alleviate their discomfort,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["mature, they can yell and scream and curse you out. And that does alleviate their discomfort,", 1762.7, 1767.18, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1767.182, "end": 1771.022, "text": "but then they feel better. So then five minutes later, do you want to go ride bikes? And for the", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["but then they feel better. So then five minutes later, do you want to go ride bikes? And for the", 1767.18, 1771.02, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1771.022, "end": 1774.702, "text": "adults, it's where, what do you want to go to eat? And so I like what you're saying, because I feel", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["adults, it's where, what do you want to go to eat? 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Like, why can't they get over it?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And now they can't go to dinner with me.", 1786.22, 1788.46, 1.0], ["Like, why can't they get over it?", 1788.46, 1790.45, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1790.802, "end": 1794.142, "text": "So what's happening? Yeah, yeah. What you just described is something", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So what's happening?", 1790.8, 1791.64, 1.0], ["Yeah, yeah.", 1791.64, 1792.46, 1.0], ["What you just described is something", 1792.46, 1794.14, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1794.142, "end": 1796.902, "text": "that's really crazy making for neurotypical partners", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that's really crazy making for neurotypical partners", 1794.14, 1796.9, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1796.902, "end": 1802.062, "text": "of neurodivergence, because they will, like you said, they'll get that energy out.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["of neurodivergence, because they will,", 1796.9, 1799.84, 1.0], ["like you said, they'll get that energy out.", 1799.94, 1802.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1802.062, "end": 1809.342, "text": "They'll expel it. They feel better. withdraw for a little while. It's either outward or they'll withdraw. 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I'm still...", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["neurotypical partners left like, I'm still reeling over this interaction we just had. I'm still...", 1818.22, 1824.49, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1824.85, "end": 1828.334, "text": "They just called me a whatever word. I mean, I can't, I can't undo that, right?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["They just called me a whatever word. I mean, I can't, I can't undo that, right?", 1824.85, 1828.33, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1828.462, "end": 1833.102, "text": "I can't just move on from that. Yeah, you call me names, you mischaracterized me.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I can't just move on from that. Yeah, you call me names, you mischaracterized me.", 1828.46, 1833.1, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1833.771, "end": 1838.02, "text": "I can't just, but then the neurodivergent oftentimes is like, well, it's in the past.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["I can't just, but then the neurodivergent oftentimes is like, well, it's in the past.", 1833.77, 1838.02, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1838.128, "end": 1842.782, "text": "Yep. Let's just move on. It's in the past and neurotypical partners are like.", "confidence": 0.95, "timestamps": [["Yep. Let's just move on. It's in the past and neurotypical partners are like.", 1838.13, 1842.78, 0.9481124877929688]]}, {"start": 1843.655, "end": 1850.865, "text": "I can't do that. That's that emotional immaturity. But again, the difference between the narcissist", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["I can't do that. That's that emotional immaturity. 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And sometimes it's both, and that's a really bad combination.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["is this narcissism? 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Yeah, I feel so validated right now.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["It's always about fixing their partner.", 1904.67, 1906.47, 0.9856768250465393], ["Yeah, I feel so validated right now.", 1906.47, 1908.21, 0.9856768250465393]]}, {"start": 1908.305, "end": 1912.425, "text": "Because, yeah, right? The pathologically kind person comes in and like, what can I do?", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["Because, yeah, right?", 1908.31, 1909.39, 0.9856768250465393], ["The pathologically kind person comes in", 1909.39, 1911.39, 0.9856768250465393], ["and like, what can I do?", 1911.39, 1912.43, 0.9856768250465393]]}, {"start": 1912.425, "end": 1913.729, "text": "No, it's me, it's my fault.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["No, it's me, it's my fault.", 1912.43, 1913.73, 0.9856768250465393]]}, {"start": 1913.825, "end": 1917.996, "text": "I'm the narcissist. And then the other person's like, I, yeah, let me tell you what she did today.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["I'm the narcissist.", 1913.83, 1914.67, 0.9856768250465393], ["And then the other person's like,", 1914.67, 1915.78, 0.9856768250465393], ["I, yeah, let me tell you what she did today.", 1915.89, 1918.0, 0.9856768250465393]]}, {"start": 1918.125, "end": 1922.705, "text": "Like, then you'll, you can help her. And then, yeah, the covert narcissists,", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["Like, then you'll, you can help her.", 1918.13, 1920.19, 0.9856768250465393], ["And then, yeah, the covert narcissists,", 1920.19, 1922.71, 0.9856768250465393]]}, {"start": 1922.705, "end": 1927.705, "text": "which are much less, much less outwardly grandiose", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["which are much less, much less outwardly grandiose", 1922.71, 1927.71, 0.9856768250465393]]}, {"start": 1927.785, "end": 1935.425, "text": "and kind of the in-your-face bullies, They are nice guys, you have a podcast about Mr. Nice Guy, which is a lot of my neurodivergents", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["and kind of the in-your-face bullies,", 1927.79, 1929.03, 0.9856768250465393], ["They are nice guys, you have a podcast about Mr. Nice Guy, which is a lot of my neurodivergents", 1929.03, 1935.43, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1935.425, "end": 1937.705, "text": "are those nice guys.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["are those nice guys.", 1935.43, 1937.71, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1938.413, "end": 1945.705, "text": "But every time, it's about how I'm being victimized by this relationship.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But every time, it's about how I'm being victimized by this relationship.", 1938.41, 1945.71, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1946.083, "end": 1949.585, "text": "And it's so when I go to challenge them, and I have a there was a family I've been working", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And it's so when I go to challenge them, and I have a there was a family I've been working", 1946.08, 1949.59, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1949.585, "end": 1952.425, "text": "a couple and I've been working with for a while.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["a couple and I've been working with for a while.", 1949.59, 1952.43, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1952.425, "end": 1956.905, "text": "And I've been trying to really figure out because those are the hardest ones to figure", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I've been trying to really figure out because those are the hardest ones to figure", 1952.43, 1956.91, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1956.905, "end": 1964.817, "text": "out if it's, it's, if there is neurodivergence there, and there is with this man, he's absolutely on the spectrum.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["out if it's, it's, if there is neurodivergence there, and there is with this man, he's absolutely", 1956.91, 1963.95, 1.0], ["on the spectrum.", 1963.95, 1964.82, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1965.825, "end": 1970.865, "text": "But I kept thinking I was seeing some covert narcissism too.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But I kept thinking I was seeing some covert narcissism too.", 1965.83, 1970.87, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1971.155, "end": 1976.285, "text": "And so just this week, I really challenged him and said, look, I know every time we talk,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so just this week, I really challenged him and said, look, I know every time we talk,", 1971.15, 1976.29, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1976.285, "end": 1978.905, "text": "you're telling me how overwhelmed you are.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["you're telling me how overwhelmed you are.", 1976.29, 1978.91, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1978.905, "end": 1983.758, "text": "And yes, a lot of that is autism. But there are things you're bringing to this too.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And yes, a lot of that is autism.", 1978.91, 1981.83, 1.0], ["But there are things you're bringing to this too.", 1981.83, 1983.76, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1983.905, "end": 1988.376, "text": "And we need to look at what you're bringing to it, because that's where your power empowerment is.", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["And we need to look at what you're bringing to it, because that's where your power empowerment", 1983.91, 1987.53, 0.9709816575050354], ["is.", 1987.53, 1988.38, 0.9709816575050354]]}, {"start": 1988.525, "end": 1992.245, "text": "That's when you look at you, you can only look at you. Absolutely.", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["That's when you look at you, you can only look at you.", 1988.53, 1991.25, 0.9709816575050354], ["Absolutely.", 1991.25, 1992.25, 0.9709816575050354]]}, {"start": 1992.245, "end": 1996.685, "text": "He sent me a text the next day cancelling, he said, I'm not going to, I've decided not", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["He sent me a text the next day cancelling, he said, I'm not going to, I've decided not", 1992.25, 1996.69, 0.9709816575050354]]}, {"start": 1996.685, "end": 1997.685, "text": "to work with you anymore.", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["to work with you anymore.", 1996.69, 1997.69, 0.9709816575050354]]}, {"start": 1998.035, "end": 2005.845, "text": "I've been working with this couple for a year. 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Well, Jodi, can I ask you too, and I", 2029.49, 2034.37, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2034.368, "end": 2037.888, "text": "feel bad because I started this way. Tell me about your journey and now we went in a completely", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["feel bad because I started this way. Tell me about your journey and now we went in a completely", 2034.37, 2037.89, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2037.888, "end": 2041.648, "text": "different direction, but it is guaranteeing that you'll have to come back on again. I'm so enjoying", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["different direction, but it is guaranteeing that you'll have to come back on again. I'm so enjoying", 2037.89, 2041.65, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2041.648, "end": 2046.648, "text": "Right. So when, when you do have that, how do you coach that?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Right. 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I tell them,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["how they're going to do it safely. And I just, I become a reflection. I tell them,", 2146.72, 2152.0, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2151.997, "end": 2157.917, "text": "this is what I'm seeing. This is what's there. This is how it's going to be. And I start working", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["this is what I'm seeing. This is what's there. This is how it's going to be. And I start working", 2152.0, 2157.92, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2157.917, "end": 2164.226, "text": "on that element of hope because so many of that, so many of those partners are still hoping. And I", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["on that element of hope because so many of that, so many of those partners are still hoping. And I", 2157.92, 2164.23, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2164.397, "end": 2169.517, "text": "start working on that with them and say, look, we need to put hope away and we need to look at what", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["start working on that with them and say, look, we need to put hope away and we need to look at what", 2164.4, 2169.52, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2169.517, "end": 2174.717, "text": "is, and this is what is. And you choose it. You have a choice to be in this relationship, in this", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["is, and this is what is. And you choose it. You have a choice to be in this relationship, in this", 2169.52, 2174.72, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2174.717, "end": 2178.237, "text": "marriage, you have that choice, but you need to really know what you're choosing.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["marriage, you have that choice, but you need to really know what you're choosing.", 2174.72, 2178.24, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2178.522, "end": 2184.557, "text": "Yeah, this is so that's where I start working with them. When there is not narcissism, yeah,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Yeah, this is so that's where I start working with them. When there is not narcissism, yeah,", 2178.52, 2184.56, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2184.557, "end": 2189.037, "text": "maybe there, there's some emotional immaturity that really feels like narcissism. And it can,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["maybe there, there's some emotional immaturity that really feels like narcissism. And it can,", 2184.56, 2189.04, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2189.037, "end": 2194.317, "text": "there can involve gaslighting. I start working with both of them. And one of the things I do", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["there can involve gaslighting. I start working with both of them. And one of the things I do", 2189.04, 2194.32, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2194.317, "end": 2201.117, "text": "with the neurotypical partner is working on the codependency and to stop taking care of the other", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["with the neurotypical partner is working on the codependency and to stop taking care of the other", 2194.32, 2201.12, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2201.117, "end": 2203.755, "text": "the other's needs at their own expense", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["the other's needs at their own expense", 2201.12, 2203.75, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2203.877, "end": 2208.166, "text": "to start setting boundaries, to learn what that means and what that looks like.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["to start setting boundaries,", 2203.88, 2205.36, 1.0], ["to learn what that means and what that looks like.", 2205.36, 2208.17, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2208.417, "end": 2213.237, "text": "And so I work with them jointly. One, we start working on self-awareness,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so I work with them jointly.", 2208.42, 2210.64, 1.0], ["One, we start working on self-awareness,", 2210.64, 2213.24, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2213.237, "end": 2217.917, "text": "we start working on emotional regulation, the neurodivergent partner, and the other partner.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["we start working on emotional regulation,", 2213.24, 2215.32, 1.0], ["the neurodivergent partner, and the other partner.", 2215.32, 2217.92, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2217.917, "end": 2222.039, "text": "I actually have had several neurotypical partners say to me,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I actually have had several neurotypical partners say to me,", 2217.92, 2222.04, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2222.117, "end": 2233.797, "text": "I had no idea how much work I was gonna have to do here Because they come in really recognizing, well, both partners recognize that the other one's", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I had no idea how much work I was gonna have to do here", 2222.12, 2227.12, 1.0], ["Because they come in really recognizing, well, both partners recognize that the other one's", 2227.12, 2233.8, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2233.797, "end": 2234.797, "text": "the problem.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["the problem.", 2233.8, 2234.8, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2234.966, "end": 2239.597, "text": "Yeah. But they do, the neurotypical partner, the codependent one really does see a lot of the", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Yeah.", 2234.97, 2235.8, 1.0], ["But they do, the neurotypical partner, the codependent one really does see a lot of the", 2235.8, 2239.6, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2239.597, "end": 2243.203, "text": "dysfunction in their neurodivergent or narcissistic partner.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["dysfunction in their neurodivergent or narcissistic partner.", 2239.6, 2243.2, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2244.117, "end": 2249.797, "text": "But it's not victim blaming. I don't victim blame them and say, well, you know, you did this to yourself, but I start", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But it's not victim blaming.", 2244.12, 2245.24, 1.0], ["I don't victim blame them and say, well, you know, you did this to yourself, but I start", 2245.24, 2249.8, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2249.797, "end": 2256.157, "text": "working with them to see how their own, what they've brought with them is contributing to the problem.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["working with them to see how their own, what they've brought with them is contributing", 2249.8, 2255.16, 1.0], ["to the problem.", 2255.16, 2256.16, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2256.157, "end": 2261.037, "text": "To just speak to, we talked about implicit memories. I actually have in my communication", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["To just speak to, we talked about implicit memories. I actually have in my communication", 2256.16, 2261.04, 0.9593418836593628]]}, {"start": 2261.037, "end": 2266.402, "text": "model, I walk them through four stages of an interaction. And in the first stage is", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["model, I walk them through four stages of an interaction. And in the first stage is", 2261.04, 2266.4, 0.9593418836593628]]}, {"start": 2266.789, "end": 2267.824, "text": "What's in your backpack?", "confidence": 0.79, "timestamps": [["What's in your backpack?", 2266.79, 2267.82, 0.7857844233512878]]}, {"start": 2268.382, "end": 2274.152, "text": "And so I have this analogy of the backpack that is it's strapped to our back and we wear it", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so I have this analogy of the backpack that is it's strapped to our back and we wear it", 2268.38, 2274.15, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2274.152, "end": 2280.632, "text": "throughout life and everything in there is what makes us who we are. 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Yeah, and not even only not motivated.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["They don't want to sit with any discomfort.", 2928.53, 2929.93, 0.9945084452629089], ["Yeah, and not even only not motivated.", 2929.93, 2932.05, 0.9945084452629089]]}, {"start": 2933.074, "end": 2936.747, "text": "But that confabulation happens in real time. 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And that would be a key difference", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Yes, yes, so the motivation's not there.", 2943.05, 2945.45, 1.0], ["And that would be a key difference", 2945.69, 2947.05, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2947.048, "end": 2952.968, "text": "between neurodivergence and narcissism because the neurodivergent individual is very aware", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["between neurodivergence and narcissism", 2947.05, 2949.01, 1.0], ["because the neurodivergent individual is very aware", 2949.01, 2952.97, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2953.14, "end": 2954.848, "text": "that there have been problems.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that there have been problems.", 2953.14, 2954.85, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2954.848, "end": 2958.289, "text": "They're very aware they've been different from a very young age.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["They're very aware they've been different", 2954.85, 2957.01, 1.0], ["from a very young age.", 2957.01, 2958.29, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2958.888, "end": 2961.348, "text": "They're very aware that something's different about themselves.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["They're very aware that something's different", 2958.89, 2960.51, 1.0], ["about themselves.", 2960.51, 2961.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2961.348, "end": 2966.068, "text": "Say they feel like an alien in a human body, that whole Superman analogy resonates with", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Say they feel like an alien in a human body, that whole Superman analogy resonates with", 2961.35, 2966.07, 0.9961678981781006]]}, {"start": 2966.068, "end": 2969.146, "text": "people and I look like a human being but and even have some superpowers.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["people and I look like a human being but and even have some superpowers.", 2966.07, 2969.15, 0.9961678981781006]]}, {"start": 2969.508, "end": 2973.908, "text": "And that's some of those, you know, things, but that awareness is there that there's something", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And that's some of those, you know, things, but that awareness is there that there's something", 2969.51, 2973.91, 0.9961678981781006]]}, {"start": 2973.908, "end": 2978.796, "text": "about me that's different that other people don't get or don't like.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["about me that's different that other people don't get or don't like.", 2973.91, 2978.8, 0.9961678981781006]]}, {"start": 2979.068, "end": 2984.508, "text": "And so that depending on when they learn about their neurodivergence and everything else", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["And so that depending on when they learn about their neurodivergence and everything else", 2979.07, 2984.51, 0.9961678981781006]]}, {"start": 2984.508, "end": 2990.988, "text": "that's in their backpack, they are more likely to have that motivation to figure it out and", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that's in their backpack, they are more likely to have that motivation to figure it out and", 2984.51, 2990.99, 0.9961678981781006]]}, {"start": 2990.988, "end": 2995.348, "text": "to understand it where this probably should be a whole other episode, but where it gets", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["to understand it where this probably should be a whole other episode, but where it gets", 2990.99, 2995.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2995.348, "end": 3000.348, "text": "really complicated is when you have a combination of neurodivergence and narcissism.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["really complicated is when you have a combination of neurodivergence and narcissism.", 2995.35, 3000.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 3000.348, "end": 3003.129, "text": "And there are lots of different reasons why that happens.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And there are lots of different reasons why that happens.", 3000.35, 3003.13, 1.0]]}, {"start": 3003.388, "end": 3010.868, "text": "We're still learning about why that happens. I've actually seen clients who were neurodivergent who had a narcissistic parent and it's a learned", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["We're still learning about why that happens.", 3003.39, 3004.82, 1.0], ["I've actually seen clients who were neurodivergent who had a narcissistic parent and it's a learned", 3004.88, 3010.87, 1.0]]}, {"start": 3010.868, "end": 3015.256, "text": "Absolutely. It was modeled, right? That's all they know that they, yeah, that's so wild.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Absolutely.", 3010.87, 3011.87, 1.0], ["It was modeled, right?", 3011.87, 3012.87, 1.0], ["That's all they know that they, yeah, that's so wild.", 3012.87, 3015.26, 1.0]]}, {"start": 3015.48, "end": 3021.948, "text": "Yeah. And so is it true narcissism or is it just a script? my NeuroDivergent folks.", "confidence": 0.95, "timestamps": [["Yeah.", 3015.48, 3016.35, 1.0], ["And so is it true narcissism or is it just a script?", 3016.35, 3018.75, 1.0], ["my NeuroDivergent folks.", 3018.75, 3021.95, 0.8513405919075012]]}, {"start": 3020.639, "end": 3036.303, "text": "Their way of interacting is by scripting. They study people, they learn how to, in this situation, this, this, this. And we all do it, but it's vicarious. For neurotypicals, it's kind of happening in the background. Whereas neurodivergent folks, it's intentionally, it's very intentional.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["Their way of interacting is by scripting. They study people, they learn how to, in this situation, this, this, this. And we all do it, but it's vicarious. For neurotypicals, it's kind of happening in the background. Whereas neurodivergent folks, it's intentionally, it's very intentional.", 3020.64, 3036.3, 0.9863866567611694]]}, {"start": 3036.573, "end": 3049.329, "text": "And so when they realize, I had one guy realize that he had been very abusive in a narcissistic way. And he was absolutely devastated when he realized how much harm he had done his wife. But then he was motivated.", "confidence": 0.99, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["And so when they realize, I had one guy realize that he had been very abusive in a narcissistic way. And he was absolutely devastated when he realized how much harm he had done his wife. But then he was motivated.", 3036.57, 3049.33, 0.9863866567611694]]}, {"start": 3049.489, "end": 3054.489, "text": "Absolutely, and it's interesting because as the therapist working with this population,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Absolutely, and it's interesting", 3049.49, 3051.45, 1.0], ["because as the therapist working with this population,", 3051.45, 3054.49, 1.0]]}, {"start": 3054.489, "end": 3058.369, "text": "it's interesting because I work with so many people that are continually trying to show up", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["it's interesting because I work with so many people", 3054.49, 3056.23, 1.0], ["that are continually trying to show up", 3056.23, 3058.37, 1.0]]}, {"start": 3058.369, "end": 3062.969, "text": "and they're continually handing their heart to the narcissist who is then using it against them.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and they're continually handing their heart", 3058.37, 3060.25, 1.0], ["to the narcissist who is then using it against them.", 3060.25, 3062.97, 1.0]]}, {"start": 3062.969, "end": 3067.209, "text": "But then I also get that person that just didn't, that's why I like to say didn't know what they didn't know.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But then I also get that person that just didn't,", 3062.97, 3065.01, 1.0], ["that's why I like to say didn't know what they didn't know.", 3065.01, 3067.21, 1.0]]}, {"start": 3067.209, "end": 3070.489, "text": "And yeah, it's gonna be uncomfortable, but all of a sudden they get the tool", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And yeah, it's gonna be uncomfortable,", 3067.21, 3068.74, 1.0], ["but all of a sudden they get the tool", 3068.85, 3070.49, 1.0]]}, {"start": 3070.489, "end": 3072.222, "text": "and they just can't do enough with it.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and they just can't do enough with it.", 3070.49, 3072.22, 1.0]]}, {"start": 3072.489, "end": 3075.129, "text": "I mean, they want to just figure it out as quickly as they can,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I mean, they want to just figure it out", 3072.49, 3074.21, 1.0], ["as quickly as they can,", 3074.21, 3075.13, 1.0]]}, {"start": 3075.129, "end": 3076.876, "text": "which is a whole thing in and of itself.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["which is a whole thing in and of itself.", 3075.13, 3076.88, 1.0]]}, {"start": 3077.659, "end": 3080.889, "text": "So, Jodi, I feel bad. I have a client or I would talk for another hour, right?", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So, Jodi, I feel bad.", 3077.66, 3078.33, 1.0], ["I have a client or I would talk for another hour, right?", 3078.33, 3080.89, 0.9988704323768616]]}, {"start": 3080.889, "end": 3087.449, "text": "Will you come back on and we can talk about your story. And I mean, I really, I feel validated as a therapist.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Will you come back on and we can talk about your story.", 3080.89, 3085.05, 0.9988704323768616], ["And I mean, I really, I feel validated as a therapist.", 3085.05, 3087.45, 0.9988704323768616]]}, {"start": 3087.449, "end": 3089.689, "text": "I feel like I learned what neurodivergence is now.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I feel like I learned what neurodivergence is now.", 3087.45, 3089.69, 0.9988704323768616]]}, {"start": 3089.839, "end": 3093.129, "text": "I feel like I'm going to have confirmation bias for the rest of the day.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I feel like I'm going to have confirmation bias for the rest of the day.", 3089.84, 3093.13, 0.9988704323768616]]}, {"start": 3093.129, "end": 3095.849, "text": "And wait a minute, is this person, you know, that sort of thing.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And wait a minute, is this person, you know, that sort of thing.", 3093.13, 3095.85, 0.9988704323768616]]}, {"start": 3095.849, "end": 3099.369, "text": "I would love to come back. And don't ever hesitate to reach out to me too.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I would love to come back.", 3095.85, 3097.45, 0.9988704323768616], ["And don't ever hesitate to reach out to me too.", 3097.45, 3099.37, 0.9988704323768616]]}, {"start": 3099.369, "end": 3101.479, "text": "If you need anything, I'm happy to. Yeah.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["If you need anything, I'm happy to.", 3099.37, 3101.48, 0.9988704323768616], ["Yeah.", 3101.75, 3101.48, 0.9988704323768616]]}, {"start": 3101.769, "end": 3104.169, "text": "Cause I'm really fascinated by the assessment you do with couples.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Cause I'm really fascinated by the assessment you do with couples.", 3101.77, 3104.17, 0.9988704323768616]]}, {"start": 3104.169, "end": 3106.395, "text": "And maybe we can talk about that too. Cause I think that would be really helpful.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And maybe we can talk about that too.", 3104.17, 3105.06, 0.9988704323768616], ["Cause I think that would be really helpful.", 3105.37, 3106.39, 0.9988704323768616]]}, {"start": 3106.844, "end": 3110.329, "text": "Okay. Definitely. What a joy. Hey, this is a pleasure. I look forward to talking with you again.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Okay.", 3106.84, 3106.57, 0.9988704323768616], ["Definitely.", 3106.97, 3107.53, 0.9988704323768616], ["What a joy. Hey, this is a pleasure. I look forward to talking with you again.", 3107.72, 3110.33, 1.0]]}, {"start": 3110.77, "end": 3112.552, "text": "Very much. Thank you. Thank you for having me tonight.", "confidence": 0.86, "timestamps": [["Very much. Thank you. Thank you for having me tonight.", 3110.77, 3112.55, 0.8633607625961304]]}, {"start": 3112.56, "end": 3154.991, "text": "Music.", "newpara": true}]