1 00:00:08,394 --> 00:00:10,542 Hello, everyone, Terry Well brought here of the 2 00:00:10,542 --> 00:00:11,519 healing police podcast. 3 00:00:12,770 --> 00:00:15,554 Hope you're having a wonderful day. It's gorgeous 4 00:00:15,554 --> 00:00:17,880 here on Hilton Head Island south... Carolina airline 5 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:18,519 where I live, 6 00:00:19,160 --> 00:00:21,400 looking out the window right now from my 7 00:00:21,400 --> 00:00:23,079 office at the Spanish moss. 8 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:26,289 It's just swing. I hear a thunderstorm kind 9 00:00:26,289 --> 00:00:28,783 of way off in the distance, starting to 10 00:00:29,001 --> 00:00:30,378 roll in, which happens 11 00:00:30,835 --> 00:00:33,308 on island. Sometimes it'll be in the distance, 12 00:00:33,468 --> 00:00:35,398 and Never quite get here. I think the 13 00:00:35,398 --> 00:00:35,898 ocean 14 00:00:37,556 --> 00:00:37,955 the loop. 15 00:00:38,754 --> 00:00:41,471 Way the currents and winds work that it 16 00:00:41,471 --> 00:00:43,560 keeps it at bay. Here so we can 17 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:44,458 hear it. But 18 00:00:44,834 --> 00:00:46,826 right now, the sun is shining, and it's 19 00:00:46,826 --> 00:00:48,578 absolutely glorious out there it's hot. 20 00:00:50,012 --> 00:00:51,659 But absolutely beautiful. So 21 00:00:52,097 --> 00:00:54,164 hope you are having a beautiful day as 22 00:00:54,164 --> 00:00:54,323 well. 23 00:00:57,583 --> 00:00:59,014 What did I wanna share with you something 24 00:00:59,173 --> 00:01:01,104 I was gonna tell you something, oh, so 25 00:01:01,573 --> 00:01:02,129 My daughter, 26 00:01:03,399 --> 00:01:06,758 I have 3 kiddo, and my youngest who 27 00:01:06,814 --> 00:01:08,720 just graduated from high school and it's getting 28 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:09,911 ready to head off to college. 29 00:01:11,197 --> 00:01:12,152 To become a pilot, 30 00:01:13,107 --> 00:01:16,153 which is really cool because only 7 percent 31 00:01:16,448 --> 00:01:16,948 of 32 00:01:17,323 --> 00:01:19,233 pilots in the United States at least, 33 00:01:20,364 --> 00:01:20,843 our women. 34 00:01:21,642 --> 00:01:23,560 So she has been working on her private 35 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:24,380 pilot license 36 00:01:24,759 --> 00:01:27,475 and study and studying and studying so impressed 37 00:01:27,475 --> 00:01:28,035 with this kid, 38 00:01:28,687 --> 00:01:30,197 working 2 jobs in the summer, 39 00:01:31,310 --> 00:01:33,614 studying for this flying in her free time, 40 00:01:35,204 --> 00:01:37,111 well she went to take her private pilot, 41 00:01:37,763 --> 00:01:38,821 exam today 42 00:01:39,358 --> 00:01:41,374 and got to the airport and 43 00:01:43,346 --> 00:01:45,920 yep, everything was shut down because of this 44 00:01:47,349 --> 00:01:48,247 big It 45 00:01:48,784 --> 00:01:49,284 global, 46 00:01:52,772 --> 00:01:53,889 Microsoft issue, I guess. 47 00:01:54,846 --> 00:01:56,441 I haven't read a whole lot on it, 48 00:01:56,601 --> 00:01:57,055 but 49 00:01:57,413 --> 00:01:58,929 She got there, and they said, yeah. Our 50 00:01:58,929 --> 00:02:01,401 systems are just shut down here at the 51 00:02:01,401 --> 00:02:01,561 airport. 52 00:02:02,279 --> 00:02:04,592 So Kiddo had to turn around and come 53 00:02:04,592 --> 00:02:06,506 back home, so we took out to lunch 54 00:02:06,506 --> 00:02:07,006 too 55 00:02:07,717 --> 00:02:09,812 anyway, he celebrate all of her hard work 56 00:02:10,349 --> 00:02:11,865 even though she wasn't able to take the 57 00:02:11,865 --> 00:02:13,858 test. So now she just gets to study 58 00:02:13,858 --> 00:02:15,693 a little bit more, and hopefully get this 59 00:02:15,693 --> 00:02:17,301 in before she heads off. To college, 60 00:02:18,415 --> 00:02:20,403 and walk in with her private pilot license. 61 00:02:20,642 --> 00:02:23,187 So reason I'm bringing this up is I 62 00:02:23,187 --> 00:02:23,824 still am doing... 63 00:02:24,619 --> 00:02:25,278 I'm in 64 00:02:25,667 --> 00:02:26,167 licensed 65 00:02:26,778 --> 00:02:27,278 broker 66 00:02:29,316 --> 00:02:30,982 in the state of South Carolina, but I 67 00:02:30,982 --> 00:02:33,306 also can add other states in 68 00:02:33,773 --> 00:02:35,760 So if you are a pilot or you 69 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:37,452 know of a pilot or 70 00:02:38,939 --> 00:02:40,472 know anyone who might 71 00:02:40,925 --> 00:02:41,958 need some guidance. 72 00:02:43,489 --> 00:02:45,087 Financial guidance as a pilot. 73 00:02:45,646 --> 00:02:46,765 A lot of times, 74 00:02:48,204 --> 00:02:51,421 insurance policies, life insurance policies will exclude 75 00:02:52,294 --> 00:02:53,652 those who fly airplanes. 76 00:02:54,531 --> 00:02:54,851 So... 77 00:02:56,289 --> 00:02:57,407 But I have some products. 78 00:02:58,126 --> 00:02:59,186 And think can help 79 00:02:59,739 --> 00:03:03,345 with that. So, yes, have them go to 80 00:03:03,403 --> 00:03:04,620 or if you're a pilot 81 00:03:05,075 --> 00:03:06,668 and need it yourself or if you know 82 00:03:06,668 --> 00:03:08,204 someone, have them go to 83 00:03:08,914 --> 00:03:14,119 terry well brock dot com. It's TERIWELLBR0CK 84 00:03:14,895 --> 00:03:15,374 dot com. 85 00:03:16,570 --> 00:03:17,607 And then there's a tab, 86 00:03:18,818 --> 00:03:19,535 that says, 87 00:03:20,172 --> 00:03:22,323 request a quote, and you can put down 88 00:03:22,323 --> 00:03:23,062 at the bottom 89 00:03:24,394 --> 00:03:24,793 pilot, 90 00:03:25,350 --> 00:03:27,262 and then I'll know that we'll need to 91 00:03:27,262 --> 00:03:29,508 look at that... Pacific. I have access to 92 00:03:29,508 --> 00:03:32,057 30 different companies. So, yes, if you need 93 00:03:32,057 --> 00:03:33,092 life insurance in general, 94 00:03:34,606 --> 00:03:36,279 or mortgage protection insurance, 95 00:03:37,649 --> 00:03:38,128 Investment, 96 00:03:38,528 --> 00:03:41,185 college savings, for your kids, annuities, 97 00:03:41,963 --> 00:03:44,280 all kinds of fun stuff. So basically financial 98 00:03:44,280 --> 00:03:44,520 health, 99 00:03:45,892 --> 00:03:47,568 I can certainly help you out with that. 100 00:03:47,807 --> 00:03:49,504 So please reach out to me 101 00:03:49,881 --> 00:03:52,036 through terry w dot com. You can send 102 00:03:52,036 --> 00:03:52,490 me 103 00:03:52,926 --> 00:03:55,706 and email at info at terri dot com, 104 00:03:56,421 --> 00:03:58,724 and we can get on a phone call 105 00:03:58,724 --> 00:04:00,471 and have a little chat or even meet 106 00:04:00,471 --> 00:04:01,901 by Zoom and meet face to face. 107 00:04:02,789 --> 00:04:04,615 I would love to chat with you. Alright. 108 00:04:05,646 --> 00:04:06,519 Today's episode, 109 00:04:07,393 --> 00:04:10,927 again, always so very enlighten, but another wonderful 110 00:04:10,986 --> 00:04:12,023 beautiful episode. 111 00:04:12,661 --> 00:04:15,215 Love this conversation learned a lot again, myself. 112 00:04:15,773 --> 00:04:18,656 Alright? Enjoy. To Welcome everybody to the Healing 113 00:04:18,735 --> 00:04:20,883 Place podcast. I am your host, Terry well 114 00:04:20,962 --> 00:04:22,951 Brock and happy to be back at this 115 00:04:22,951 --> 00:04:25,436 again. I took a little Hiatus. As you 116 00:04:25,436 --> 00:04:27,670 all know, for the past couple of weeks. 117 00:04:27,909 --> 00:04:28,308 And 118 00:04:28,867 --> 00:04:31,021 yeah. So super excited to have with me 119 00:04:31,021 --> 00:04:35,130 today. Jennifer Mo Su, and she is creator 120 00:04:35,190 --> 00:04:36,148 of Sw yu, 121 00:04:37,107 --> 00:04:40,072 transformational expert and performance coach. And I just 122 00:04:40,072 --> 00:04:41,978 talked to her few minutes beforehand and it's 123 00:04:41,978 --> 00:04:44,599 just so super excited to have her sharing 124 00:04:44,599 --> 00:04:46,506 her wisdom with all of us. So welcome, 125 00:04:46,744 --> 00:04:46,982 Jennifer, 126 00:04:47,554 --> 00:04:49,147 Thank you so much for inviting me to 127 00:04:49,147 --> 00:04:50,422 join you. It's a pleasure to be here. 128 00:04:50,820 --> 00:04:53,928 Oh, for sure. And again, I... I'm excited 129 00:04:53,928 --> 00:04:57,057 to learn about... Sw you, and the inspiration 130 00:04:57,057 --> 00:04:58,596 really behind it. And 131 00:04:59,534 --> 00:05:01,852 what the Sw AGGR 132 00:05:01,852 --> 00:05:02,411 stands for. 133 00:05:04,183 --> 00:05:06,118 Well, you are right. It is an acronym. 134 00:05:06,415 --> 00:05:08,567 And so I I like to think about 135 00:05:08,727 --> 00:05:10,481 Swag in a couple ways. So 1, I 136 00:05:10,481 --> 00:05:11,836 talk about Swag as, 137 00:05:12,408 --> 00:05:15,031 it's not the dictionary definition of Swag that 138 00:05:15,031 --> 00:05:16,303 most people think of. Because if you look 139 00:05:16,303 --> 00:05:19,028 it up, it actually has things like arrogant, 140 00:05:19,244 --> 00:05:20,913 and I mean, it's not very flattering. 141 00:05:21,564 --> 00:05:24,031 And so I've literally defined Swag in a 142 00:05:24,031 --> 00:05:25,566 completely different way. And 143 00:05:26,181 --> 00:05:28,967 I'd like to describe it as if you've 144 00:05:28,967 --> 00:05:31,777 ever... Experience someone who walks in the room 145 00:05:31,777 --> 00:05:34,094 and literally just lights up the room. 146 00:05:34,894 --> 00:05:37,232 And you're just drawn to them. There's an 147 00:05:37,291 --> 00:05:39,622 energy about them and they have quiet self 148 00:05:39,622 --> 00:05:42,816 assurance and and self confidence. And there's just 149 00:05:42,816 --> 00:05:45,610 something about them. They know exactly who they 150 00:05:45,610 --> 00:05:47,765 are. They're comfortable in their own skin. They're 151 00:05:47,765 --> 00:05:49,218 una ap jed about it. 152 00:05:49,937 --> 00:05:52,015 And if the waiter were passing by, you 153 00:05:52,015 --> 00:05:53,374 would kinda tap them on the shoulder and 154 00:05:53,374 --> 00:05:55,612 go, excuse me. Can I have whatever they're 155 00:05:55,612 --> 00:05:57,610 having because I really want some of that? 156 00:05:57,783 --> 00:06:01,060 Whatever that is. So it's that kind of 157 00:06:01,274 --> 00:06:04,129 energy that comes from the inside that I 158 00:06:04,129 --> 00:06:06,447 talk about as being swag. Whatever And I 159 00:06:06,447 --> 00:06:08,677 also say that Swag is is not just 160 00:06:08,677 --> 00:06:12,182 a word. It's a lifestyle. It's something that 161 00:06:12,182 --> 00:06:14,571 has to be worked on and practiced daily. 162 00:06:15,304 --> 00:06:19,155 And for that, I actually broke Swag down 163 00:06:19,293 --> 00:06:22,346 and created an acronym, so use the word 164 00:06:22,659 --> 00:06:24,809 to help you figure out what do I 165 00:06:24,809 --> 00:06:27,994 have to do to get my swag. And 166 00:06:27,994 --> 00:06:31,122 so Swag actually stands for self worth 167 00:06:32,231 --> 00:06:34,303 Appreciation for your strengths and limitations, 168 00:06:34,941 --> 00:06:38,050 gratitude for how your life experiences have helped 169 00:06:38,050 --> 00:06:39,086 shape who you are, 170 00:06:39,818 --> 00:06:41,433 grounded in your core values, 171 00:06:42,367 --> 00:06:45,873 empowered to overcome self limiting beliefs and renew 172 00:06:45,873 --> 00:06:48,343 through a greater focus on your passion and 173 00:06:48,343 --> 00:06:48,821 purpose. 174 00:06:49,633 --> 00:06:51,866 So that's kind of the the gist of 175 00:06:51,866 --> 00:06:54,758 swag, but you also asked me about my 176 00:06:55,135 --> 00:06:56,650 inspiration for it. So do you want me 177 00:06:56,650 --> 00:06:58,245 to go into that piece as well? Yeah. 178 00:06:58,499 --> 00:07:01,290 Yes. Quick. I just wanna say, well, popped 179 00:07:01,290 --> 00:07:03,204 into my head was I've had people throughout 180 00:07:03,204 --> 00:07:05,517 my, really my life that have said, Terry 181 00:07:05,517 --> 00:07:08,481 radiate joy, Terry radiate joy and I've made 182 00:07:08,481 --> 00:07:10,468 stranger stopping a parking lot seriously and be 183 00:07:10,468 --> 00:07:12,716 like, gosh, you just radiate joy 184 00:07:13,090 --> 00:07:15,809 like... And so... And but you just that 185 00:07:15,809 --> 00:07:17,563 is so true. It wasn't... That I was 186 00:07:17,563 --> 00:07:20,216 just born with it. I obviously had horrific 187 00:07:20,593 --> 00:07:21,072 childhood, 188 00:07:22,029 --> 00:07:24,602 enrollments in my childhood, I should say. And 189 00:07:25,314 --> 00:07:27,170 But, yeah, it was practicing 190 00:07:27,947 --> 00:07:31,537 gratitude. It was it was learning to go 191 00:07:31,537 --> 00:07:31,776 through. 192 00:07:33,466 --> 00:07:34,982 What I been through and you and I 193 00:07:34,982 --> 00:07:37,614 talked a little bit off air absolutely. About 194 00:07:37,614 --> 00:07:39,927 learning the lessons and finding the lessons. We'll 195 00:07:39,927 --> 00:07:41,442 come back to that. But, yes, talk about 196 00:07:41,442 --> 00:07:42,240 your inspiration. 197 00:07:43,051 --> 00:07:45,834 So there's a about 3 different places that 198 00:07:45,993 --> 00:07:47,924 I say that I've kind of been inspired 199 00:07:48,060 --> 00:07:49,650 or that have inspired me to, 200 00:07:50,778 --> 00:07:52,927 to kinda go in this down this path 201 00:07:52,927 --> 00:07:55,235 and to create swag and the book, claim 202 00:07:55,235 --> 00:07:56,053 your swag 203 00:07:56,826 --> 00:07:57,326 and 204 00:07:58,274 --> 00:08:00,746 The first 1 was my work with cancer 205 00:08:00,746 --> 00:08:03,616 survivors. So when I worked with cancer survivors, 206 00:08:03,855 --> 00:08:06,407 I was coaching them, and I found that 207 00:08:06,407 --> 00:08:07,699 when they're in... Treatment, 208 00:08:08,258 --> 00:08:10,975 surviving treatment becomes their whole life. They can't 209 00:08:10,975 --> 00:08:12,094 focus on anything else. 210 00:08:13,053 --> 00:08:15,231 And once they get past that 211 00:08:16,024 --> 00:08:18,254 They are fundamentally changed by the experience. They 212 00:08:18,254 --> 00:08:20,007 can't go back to who they were before, 213 00:08:20,246 --> 00:08:22,078 and they really don't know where to go 214 00:08:22,078 --> 00:08:24,805 from here. And I always wanted to help 215 00:08:24,805 --> 00:08:27,460 them see cancer as the spark that creates 216 00:08:27,758 --> 00:08:28,976 the rest of their life 217 00:08:29,434 --> 00:08:30,870 instead of something they survived. 218 00:08:31,604 --> 00:08:33,122 But then when I looked at that further, 219 00:08:33,362 --> 00:08:35,061 I also recognize recognized that 220 00:08:35,440 --> 00:08:37,757 that's not unlike any of us where we're 221 00:08:37,757 --> 00:08:40,406 going through any kind of traumatic experience in 222 00:08:40,406 --> 00:08:42,554 our own lives. So it's not just about 223 00:08:42,554 --> 00:08:46,236 cancer survivors. It's about helping people learn to 224 00:08:46,531 --> 00:08:49,656 get through and survive those experiences in their 225 00:08:49,656 --> 00:08:52,767 lives take from them and become that much 226 00:08:52,767 --> 00:08:53,724 better for them. 227 00:08:54,521 --> 00:08:56,696 And so that was 1 of the early 228 00:08:57,087 --> 00:08:59,628 operations for another 1 of the inspiration with 229 00:08:59,628 --> 00:09:01,772 actually my older sister who passed away when 230 00:09:01,772 --> 00:09:04,099 she was only in her in her thirties 231 00:09:05,044 --> 00:09:08,232 And I always wondered if I had been 232 00:09:08,232 --> 00:09:11,102 able to help my sister kinda see how 233 00:09:11,102 --> 00:09:13,747 amazing she already was that she didn't have 234 00:09:13,747 --> 00:09:16,139 to be somebody she wasn't. She didn't have 235 00:09:16,139 --> 00:09:18,690 to try and please everybody else. She always 236 00:09:18,690 --> 00:09:20,045 seemed to be 1 of those people who 237 00:09:20,045 --> 00:09:21,182 was looking for 238 00:09:22,053 --> 00:09:23,671 External reasons or 239 00:09:24,128 --> 00:09:26,363 external ways to be happy. 240 00:09:26,842 --> 00:09:29,316 Couldn't figure out how to be happy herself, 241 00:09:30,528 --> 00:09:31,028 And 242 00:09:31,485 --> 00:09:33,160 I just wondered if I've been able to 243 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:35,313 help her when she was still here, would 244 00:09:35,313 --> 00:09:37,945 she still be here. And so I wasn't 245 00:09:37,945 --> 00:09:40,670 able to help my sister, but I am 246 00:09:40,670 --> 00:09:43,771 able to help millions of people today, and 247 00:09:43,771 --> 00:09:45,282 that's what I'm trying to do. 248 00:09:45,918 --> 00:09:47,747 And then the third piece was my... 249 00:09:48,398 --> 00:09:51,177 My experience as a global leadership consultant, and 250 00:09:51,256 --> 00:09:54,058 I spent the past 12 years or so 251 00:09:54,273 --> 00:09:56,912 traveling the globe working with a... Aspiring leaders 252 00:09:56,912 --> 00:09:58,188 all the way up to the c suite 253 00:09:58,188 --> 00:09:59,485 of organizations 254 00:09:59,942 --> 00:10:02,196 and designing and facilitating, 255 00:10:02,972 --> 00:10:04,886 and delivering workshops, 256 00:10:06,339 --> 00:10:09,215 experiential learning programs. So we learn best by 257 00:10:09,215 --> 00:10:09,535 doing. 258 00:10:10,174 --> 00:10:12,891 When we do things instead of being told 259 00:10:12,891 --> 00:10:14,583 what the answers are when we come up 260 00:10:14,583 --> 00:10:16,734 with the answers and solutions ourselves. And so 261 00:10:16,814 --> 00:10:18,885 I really wanted to take all of that 262 00:10:18,885 --> 00:10:20,421 knowledge and what I saw 263 00:10:20,797 --> 00:10:22,948 when I saw those light bulb moments happening 264 00:10:22,948 --> 00:10:23,879 for those leaders 265 00:10:24,237 --> 00:10:26,225 and how could I package all of that, 266 00:10:27,020 --> 00:10:28,689 plus what I learned with my sister and 267 00:10:28,689 --> 00:10:30,676 my canon and the cancer survivors and put 268 00:10:30,676 --> 00:10:31,494 it into 269 00:10:31,884 --> 00:10:34,597 a program and a format that was applicable, 270 00:10:34,756 --> 00:10:35,155 doable, 271 00:10:35,714 --> 00:10:36,214 reachable 272 00:10:36,671 --> 00:10:39,558 for everyday people who don't have acts access 273 00:10:39,558 --> 00:10:41,786 to corporate trainers. You don't have access to 274 00:10:41,786 --> 00:10:44,014 some of this information. So that was kind 275 00:10:44,014 --> 00:10:46,401 of and then obviously my own life because 276 00:10:46,560 --> 00:10:48,524 I've gone through this, and I live this 277 00:10:48,644 --> 00:10:50,961 and practice it every single day. So I 278 00:10:50,961 --> 00:10:53,039 literally practice what I preach every single day. 279 00:10:53,598 --> 00:10:55,915 Oh my gosh. I love it. And and 280 00:10:55,915 --> 00:10:56,155 again, 281 00:10:56,808 --> 00:10:59,515 I love the idea of there's there's people 282 00:10:59,515 --> 00:11:01,505 out there. I see it every day. I 283 00:11:01,505 --> 00:11:02,142 hear it every day. 284 00:11:02,938 --> 00:11:05,182 What do I... What do I do? Yeah. 285 00:11:05,501 --> 00:11:06,854 I I don't know what to do And 286 00:11:06,854 --> 00:11:08,287 so they're just gonna stand and stuck in 287 00:11:08,287 --> 00:11:10,118 the mock as I say. It's right. Frozen, 288 00:11:11,392 --> 00:11:13,800 not knowing and so when... Someone like, you 289 00:11:13,800 --> 00:11:16,759 comes along and says, hey, take my hand, 290 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:19,559 and I'll help you... I'll help you take 291 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:20,759 that step out of the month. I'm not 292 00:11:20,759 --> 00:11:22,526 gonna. I'm not gonna do. I'm gonna do 293 00:11:22,526 --> 00:11:24,990 it for you. That's right. No. And that's 294 00:11:24,990 --> 00:11:27,534 the thing about, claim your nurse swag and 295 00:11:27,534 --> 00:11:30,413 the activities and the... Daily reinforcements in there. 296 00:11:30,732 --> 00:11:33,918 These are things you can do right now 297 00:11:33,918 --> 00:11:36,626 today. You can take a step right now 298 00:11:36,626 --> 00:11:38,950 today if you want to. But the first 299 00:11:38,950 --> 00:11:41,179 thing you have to do is decide that 300 00:11:41,179 --> 00:11:41,895 you want to. 301 00:11:43,009 --> 00:11:45,318 Decide that it's important to you, you have 302 00:11:45,318 --> 00:11:46,773 to have that desire 303 00:11:47,387 --> 00:11:47,887 to 304 00:11:48,198 --> 00:11:50,031 be in a different place than you are 305 00:11:50,031 --> 00:11:52,820 today. And I also think sometimes it's really 306 00:11:52,820 --> 00:11:53,877 important to 307 00:11:54,891 --> 00:11:56,405 before we can get to where we're going. 308 00:11:56,565 --> 00:11:58,489 We have to acknowledge and accept where we 309 00:11:58,489 --> 00:11:58,648 are. 310 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:01,266 You have to... I I like to think 311 00:12:01,266 --> 00:12:02,535 of it kind of a little bit as 312 00:12:02,535 --> 00:12:05,074 a Gps. I mean, there are 2 pieces 313 00:12:05,074 --> 00:12:07,578 of information you to put into the Gps 314 00:12:07,638 --> 00:12:09,316 to be able to get to your destination. 315 00:12:09,555 --> 00:12:11,393 1, you have to know where you're going 316 00:12:11,393 --> 00:12:12,911 because you have to know the destination you're 317 00:12:12,911 --> 00:12:13,630 trying to get to, 318 00:12:14,364 --> 00:12:16,437 But the other piece is your current state, 319 00:12:17,313 --> 00:12:19,966 your current location. And so 320 00:12:20,821 --> 00:12:22,909 acknowledge and accept where you are and side 321 00:12:22,909 --> 00:12:24,907 do I wanna stay here or not? Is 322 00:12:24,907 --> 00:12:26,425 this where is this where I wanna be? 323 00:12:26,584 --> 00:12:28,822 And if not, there are things you can 324 00:12:28,822 --> 00:12:30,100 do right now to change it? 325 00:12:30,753 --> 00:12:31,070 Yes. 326 00:12:31,705 --> 00:12:33,870 Now does it always have to be that 327 00:12:33,926 --> 00:12:35,433 a person is going through a dark night 328 00:12:35,433 --> 00:12:37,971 of the soul like, surviving cancer or something 329 00:12:37,971 --> 00:12:38,209 or... 330 00:12:38,859 --> 00:12:40,368 Can it just be they wanna shift in 331 00:12:40,368 --> 00:12:43,229 their life? Oh, absolutely. It's as shift as 332 00:12:43,229 --> 00:12:45,318 it... You don't have to go through 333 00:12:45,692 --> 00:12:45,931 traumatic. 334 00:12:46,504 --> 00:12:48,105 Experiences to get to a point where you 335 00:12:48,105 --> 00:12:50,345 can say, wow. Now I can transform myself. 336 00:12:51,304 --> 00:12:54,524 Transformation gonna happen in an instant. It's truly 337 00:12:54,585 --> 00:12:56,516 a matter of you... Deciding, 338 00:12:57,788 --> 00:13:00,515 acknowledging and deciding what you wanna do. So 339 00:13:00,969 --> 00:13:03,855 taking the time, I think to reflect 340 00:13:04,230 --> 00:13:06,790 siding and ask yourself some questions, am I 341 00:13:06,790 --> 00:13:09,256 truly happy and fulfilled in my life right 342 00:13:09,256 --> 00:13:09,495 now? 343 00:13:10,290 --> 00:13:13,402 Am I status side with my daily life 344 00:13:13,402 --> 00:13:15,226 with what that looks like, What it feels 345 00:13:15,226 --> 00:13:18,653 like, The routine is, do I feel to 346 00:13:18,653 --> 00:13:20,646 your point stuck in a rut? Am I 347 00:13:20,646 --> 00:13:23,616 just going through the motions? Am I really 348 00:13:23,913 --> 00:13:26,200 thriving every day. Do I get 349 00:13:26,794 --> 00:13:28,460 when I get out of bed every morning 350 00:13:28,460 --> 00:13:30,839 to go, okay. I'm gonna tackle the day 351 00:13:30,839 --> 00:13:32,583 today, or am I just like, oh, gosh. 352 00:13:32,742 --> 00:13:33,535 Here we go again. 353 00:13:34,264 --> 00:13:37,207 And I think just taking a moment to 354 00:13:37,207 --> 00:13:39,593 just ask yourself and be honest with some 355 00:13:39,593 --> 00:13:40,650 of those questions. 356 00:13:41,359 --> 00:13:43,353 Will give you a good sense as to 357 00:13:43,353 --> 00:13:45,905 whether or not you're in need of some 358 00:13:45,905 --> 00:13:48,457 kind of a shift in your life. And 359 00:13:48,457 --> 00:13:50,531 only you can answer it. Nobody else can. 360 00:13:51,423 --> 00:13:53,912 Right. Right. Yes. I had somebody 361 00:13:54,764 --> 00:13:57,093 in the last few days who just basically 362 00:13:57,309 --> 00:13:57,628 said, 363 00:13:58,437 --> 00:14:00,897 here's my situation. What do I do? 364 00:14:01,531 --> 00:14:02,721 Yeah. And I was like, 365 00:14:03,436 --> 00:14:06,133 oh, gosh. I I could give you... 366 00:14:06,863 --> 00:14:09,087 Like, I I wrote up all these ideas, 367 00:14:09,484 --> 00:14:11,947 but it's like, III 368 00:14:11,947 --> 00:14:14,250 can't implement these. I can't Yeah. Do this. 369 00:14:14,489 --> 00:14:16,819 I mean, I have some ideas and suggestions, 370 00:14:17,059 --> 00:14:17,559 but 371 00:14:18,100 --> 00:14:20,279 that's... Yeah. That's such a personal 372 00:14:21,620 --> 00:14:22,519 decision of 373 00:14:22,994 --> 00:14:24,350 how do I take that first step? 374 00:14:24,989 --> 00:14:27,244 Right. Where do I go? What's what's resonating 375 00:14:27,383 --> 00:14:29,936 with me? Really? That's right. That's right. Yeah. 376 00:14:30,176 --> 00:14:30,335 Yeah. 377 00:14:31,066 --> 00:14:33,286 Well, on the... So on... Like, when you 378 00:14:33,286 --> 00:14:36,244 go through this this program, the self worth 379 00:14:36,458 --> 00:14:37,965 appreciation, does it have to be done in 380 00:14:37,965 --> 00:14:40,051 a particular order or can... If some... If 381 00:14:40,051 --> 00:14:42,765 somebody resonates with something and says, oh, wow. 382 00:14:42,925 --> 00:14:45,500 I, like, the gratitude piece of it or 383 00:14:46,278 --> 00:14:48,604 what whatever piece of it Like, that's what 384 00:14:48,763 --> 00:14:49,877 I wanna wanna work on. 385 00:14:50,832 --> 00:14:52,900 I I wrote it to meet people. I 386 00:14:52,900 --> 00:14:54,252 wrote the book to meet people where they 387 00:14:54,252 --> 00:14:54,411 are. 388 00:14:55,143 --> 00:14:57,293 And it's it's the kind of book, so 389 00:14:57,293 --> 00:14:59,126 claim your swag is literally the kind of 390 00:14:59,126 --> 00:15:00,263 book you can 391 00:15:00,719 --> 00:15:03,427 keep coming back to because you're gonna get 392 00:15:03,427 --> 00:15:05,270 something different. Out of it each time. 393 00:15:06,301 --> 00:15:08,205 Because you're gonna continue to evolve. And as 394 00:15:08,205 --> 00:15:10,743 you evolve, you're gonna get something different along 395 00:15:10,743 --> 00:15:13,324 the way. So out Ideally, 396 00:15:13,783 --> 00:15:16,021 I like people to start with self worth 397 00:15:16,021 --> 00:15:18,179 because it's such a strong foundation. If you 398 00:15:18,179 --> 00:15:20,097 don't have a strong sense of self, the 399 00:15:20,097 --> 00:15:21,935 rest of it's gonna be more difficult to 400 00:15:21,935 --> 00:15:25,216 do. Now that being said, if something is 401 00:15:25,216 --> 00:15:28,265 resonating with somebody, and they feel like gratitude 402 00:15:28,402 --> 00:15:30,472 is the absolute best place for them to 403 00:15:30,472 --> 00:15:30,711 start. 404 00:15:31,284 --> 00:15:34,064 For me, just starting is the most important. 405 00:15:34,302 --> 00:15:37,559 So wherever somebody resonates, whatever makes the most 406 00:15:37,559 --> 00:15:39,624 sense for them is where they should be 407 00:15:39,624 --> 00:15:40,442 because that's 408 00:15:41,149 --> 00:15:43,781 whether it's there the universe speaking to them, 409 00:15:44,021 --> 00:15:46,254 their higher power, whatever they wanna say. If 410 00:15:46,254 --> 00:15:49,067 you're open to listening to what's really resonating 411 00:15:49,125 --> 00:15:51,014 with you, that's where you should focus for 412 00:15:51,134 --> 00:15:52,195 sure. Wonderful. 413 00:15:52,654 --> 00:15:53,795 Now you do 414 00:15:54,735 --> 00:15:58,095 transformational work? Obviously, with corporations and travel. Do 415 00:15:58,095 --> 00:15:58,835 you do 416 00:15:59,215 --> 00:16:01,945 work with sure like, in group coaching sessions 417 00:16:01,945 --> 00:16:04,739 or with individuals as well? Both... I do 418 00:16:04,739 --> 00:16:06,197 both. Yes. So 419 00:16:06,575 --> 00:16:08,730 I'm getting ready to actually launch. 420 00:16:09,619 --> 00:16:12,476 A program on u, which is gonna be, 421 00:16:13,032 --> 00:16:15,016 I don't exactly know what I'm gonna call 422 00:16:15,016 --> 00:16:16,389 it yet. But 423 00:16:17,259 --> 00:16:19,019 we'll work on that part, but it'll be 424 00:16:19,019 --> 00:16:21,419 kind of the the piece where people can 425 00:16:21,419 --> 00:16:23,500 go through the journey, have some other people 426 00:16:23,500 --> 00:16:25,672 to go through it with. So it's gonna 427 00:16:25,672 --> 00:16:27,369 be a community based program 428 00:16:28,066 --> 00:16:30,481 as well as that would be a weekly 429 00:16:30,540 --> 00:16:33,606 coaching or a monthly coaching of, group coaching 430 00:16:33,662 --> 00:16:35,803 session that goes along with it. So we'll 431 00:16:35,803 --> 00:16:37,945 be digging into some of these topics and 432 00:16:37,945 --> 00:16:38,342 being 433 00:16:39,055 --> 00:16:40,190 answering people's questions 434 00:16:40,563 --> 00:16:42,566 and going through some things so they can 435 00:16:42,566 --> 00:16:45,669 get more detail, maybe even doing some live 436 00:16:45,669 --> 00:16:48,215 coaching in the session where somebody volunteers to 437 00:16:48,215 --> 00:16:50,227 be the person coached in session. So 438 00:16:50,855 --> 00:16:53,393 oftentimes just listening to somebody else's experience, 439 00:16:53,949 --> 00:16:56,829 we learn so much from. Again, that's that 440 00:16:57,360 --> 00:17:00,325 experiential learning component. We don't always have to 441 00:17:00,325 --> 00:17:01,784 experience it ourselves 442 00:17:02,164 --> 00:17:05,045 to actually gain the knowledge and the learning 443 00:17:05,045 --> 00:17:05,444 from it. 444 00:17:06,259 --> 00:17:06,579 So, 445 00:17:07,378 --> 00:17:09,935 yes, I do, and I also coach individuals. 446 00:17:10,654 --> 00:17:13,232 Yes. I've been through a a group coaching 447 00:17:13,612 --> 00:17:16,422 myself at a previous podcast guest actually, gifted 448 00:17:16,422 --> 00:17:19,932 me the session with him. And well, it 449 00:17:19,932 --> 00:17:21,846 was such a cool experience. Like, you're right, 450 00:17:22,005 --> 00:17:24,478 Like, having that community, and it really was 451 00:17:24,478 --> 00:17:26,189 such a powerful sense of community 452 00:17:27,284 --> 00:17:29,538 as we communicated with each. And then it 453 00:17:29,596 --> 00:17:31,351 it also... And I've talked about this a 454 00:17:31,351 --> 00:17:32,069 lot on the show. 455 00:17:32,866 --> 00:17:34,642 When we share our truths 456 00:17:35,114 --> 00:17:37,027 All a sudden we realized, oh, there's other 457 00:17:37,027 --> 00:17:39,578 people going me too, and we don't feel 458 00:17:39,578 --> 00:17:41,810 so all alone. You don't feel so alone. 459 00:17:41,969 --> 00:17:44,134 You're going through it together. You almost speak... 460 00:17:44,691 --> 00:17:46,678 When I did some of this said deep 461 00:17:46,678 --> 00:17:47,178 work 462 00:17:48,427 --> 00:17:49,222 with leaders. 463 00:17:49,699 --> 00:17:52,481 I found that they really truly almost became 464 00:17:52,481 --> 00:17:53,613 like, there a family. 465 00:17:54,333 --> 00:17:56,889 Even though they were... They walked into the 466 00:17:56,889 --> 00:17:59,286 session morris as colleagues and walked out as 467 00:17:59,286 --> 00:18:01,474 like brothers and sister, I mean, they literally 468 00:18:01,609 --> 00:18:03,538 became family because you're sharing 469 00:18:03,990 --> 00:18:07,483 some some pretty personal things about yourself, but 470 00:18:07,483 --> 00:18:08,674 at the same time, 471 00:18:09,643 --> 00:18:12,033 Because you're doing that, you're breaking down barriers, 472 00:18:12,193 --> 00:18:14,742 you're connecting more as human beings and you're 473 00:18:14,742 --> 00:18:16,416 becoming that much closer together. 474 00:18:17,147 --> 00:18:19,531 And you don't have to share your deepest 475 00:18:19,531 --> 00:18:22,074 darkest secrets with everybody to be able to 476 00:18:22,074 --> 00:18:25,293 create those connections, but I've found that those 477 00:18:25,431 --> 00:18:27,925 connections when we share some of ourselves 478 00:18:28,781 --> 00:18:30,158 with people that 479 00:18:30,775 --> 00:18:32,950 they are just some of the most strongest 480 00:18:33,088 --> 00:18:34,045 connections that we can create. 481 00:18:34,777 --> 00:18:37,486 Yeah. And they're really amazing to see. Yes. 482 00:18:37,963 --> 00:18:40,592 Agreed. I had someone wants to talk to 483 00:18:40,592 --> 00:18:42,065 me about... Vulnerability, 484 00:18:42,684 --> 00:18:43,184 and 485 00:18:44,525 --> 00:18:46,525 like, almost as if it was something that 486 00:18:46,605 --> 00:18:47,884 I had to fix, and I was like, 487 00:18:48,045 --> 00:18:49,565 oh I, no. No No. Like, 488 00:18:50,298 --> 00:18:51,275 being vulnerable 489 00:18:52,206 --> 00:18:54,137 and allowing that vulnerability 490 00:18:55,068 --> 00:18:55,568 to 491 00:18:56,022 --> 00:18:56,522 shine 492 00:18:56,976 --> 00:18:59,543 is is really a gift to others because 493 00:18:59,773 --> 00:19:01,787 you're... Yeah. You're right. It just 494 00:19:03,277 --> 00:19:06,065 I must I'm smiling. I'm smiling terry because 495 00:19:06,065 --> 00:19:07,418 it is something I had to learn. 496 00:19:08,709 --> 00:19:10,627 Because, see, I'm a recovering perfection. 497 00:19:11,187 --> 00:19:12,625 And I will be my whole life. 498 00:19:13,344 --> 00:19:15,582 But because of that, and because of the 499 00:19:15,582 --> 00:19:17,580 roles that I've played and you're in front 500 00:19:17,580 --> 00:19:19,346 of all these leaders and you think you 501 00:19:19,346 --> 00:19:21,118 have to portray this kind of 502 00:19:21,651 --> 00:19:24,511 persona that you're you have to be seen 503 00:19:24,511 --> 00:19:26,100 as the expert in the front of the 504 00:19:26,100 --> 00:19:26,600 room 505 00:19:27,149 --> 00:19:28,987 even though you're pulling the learning out from 506 00:19:28,987 --> 00:19:31,464 others, you still have this... I had this 507 00:19:31,464 --> 00:19:33,222 idea in my head of how I needed 508 00:19:33,222 --> 00:19:34,900 to be portrayed and perceived, 509 00:19:35,873 --> 00:19:38,810 And I had 1 of the most amazing 510 00:19:38,810 --> 00:19:41,430 learning experiences of my life that is stuck 511 00:19:41,430 --> 00:19:43,177 with me forever and really. 512 00:19:43,669 --> 00:19:45,423 I mean, I I am so grateful to 513 00:19:45,423 --> 00:19:47,417 these people for sharing this information with me. 514 00:19:47,576 --> 00:19:49,331 I was at a session where we were 515 00:19:49,331 --> 00:19:50,549 learning as facilitator, 516 00:19:51,085 --> 00:19:52,760 how to become better facilitator. 517 00:19:53,492 --> 00:19:55,165 And so we were giving each other feedback, 518 00:19:55,325 --> 00:19:58,033 and I had the exact same feedback from 519 00:19:58,033 --> 00:20:00,263 3 different people, and they said you need 520 00:20:00,263 --> 00:20:01,936 to be more vulnerable in front of the 521 00:20:01,936 --> 00:20:04,021 room. And I was looking at them going. 522 00:20:04,260 --> 00:20:06,409 What what are you talking about? What are 523 00:20:06,409 --> 00:20:08,240 you what's the matter? What are you talking 524 00:20:08,240 --> 00:20:09,832 about? What do you mean vulnerable in front 525 00:20:09,832 --> 00:20:12,320 of the room? And but I listened, I 526 00:20:12,320 --> 00:20:14,236 was open to the feedback. I took it 527 00:20:14,236 --> 00:20:16,551 to heart, and the very next day, 528 00:20:17,748 --> 00:20:19,424 we each had an assignment to do the 529 00:20:19,424 --> 00:20:20,817 next day, and I chose 530 00:20:21,353 --> 00:20:23,426 to share a story, and I've chose to 531 00:20:23,426 --> 00:20:26,297 share the story about delivering my sister's Eu, 532 00:20:26,456 --> 00:20:27,993 which I had not shared 533 00:20:28,784 --> 00:20:31,814 with anybody and definitely not in a public 534 00:20:31,814 --> 00:20:32,314 place 535 00:20:32,851 --> 00:20:33,887 since her passing. 536 00:20:34,764 --> 00:20:38,843 And so emotions were pretty raw and I 537 00:20:38,843 --> 00:20:40,671 kept them at bay, but you could tell 538 00:20:40,671 --> 00:20:41,465 they were there, 539 00:20:42,340 --> 00:20:42,840 and 540 00:20:43,293 --> 00:20:46,654 I could see the emotion, in every person's 541 00:20:46,654 --> 00:20:49,234 eyes in the audience and what I really 542 00:20:49,375 --> 00:20:52,015 found in that moment, which was so profound 543 00:20:52,015 --> 00:20:52,755 for me 544 00:20:53,787 --> 00:20:54,287 was 545 00:20:54,738 --> 00:20:57,617 this notion of being willing 546 00:20:58,464 --> 00:21:01,992 to open yourself up and show your humanity 547 00:21:02,126 --> 00:21:04,924 and show that you're real and show that 548 00:21:04,979 --> 00:21:07,778 you make mistakes and show that you're broken 549 00:21:07,832 --> 00:21:08,570 and show 550 00:21:09,277 --> 00:21:12,384 that that's where we connect. That is truly 551 00:21:12,384 --> 00:21:14,478 where we connect on that human to human 552 00:21:14,536 --> 00:21:16,607 level. And I I would not be here 553 00:21:16,607 --> 00:21:18,042 today. I would not have been able to 554 00:21:18,042 --> 00:21:20,285 write claim your swag and share all of 555 00:21:20,285 --> 00:21:22,615 the things about myself and my own life 556 00:21:22,751 --> 00:21:24,445 in there? Had I not gotten 557 00:21:24,820 --> 00:21:27,366 that amazing piece of information in my life. 558 00:21:27,605 --> 00:21:30,001 Your Oh, that's so 1 beautiful story, and 559 00:21:30,001 --> 00:21:32,304 thank you for sharing. Yes. And I I 560 00:21:32,304 --> 00:21:34,924 talk about it so often about how that's 561 00:21:34,924 --> 00:21:37,645 we're so... Soul connections happen and... That's right. 562 00:21:37,964 --> 00:21:38,282 In that... 563 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:39,898 Sharing that vulnerability. 564 00:21:40,274 --> 00:21:43,080 Yes. Or or showing, I guess, that... Well, 565 00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:45,400 and for some people, so because I worked 566 00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:46,700 across the globe, vulnerability 567 00:21:47,080 --> 00:21:49,320 can be a very negative word in some 568 00:21:49,320 --> 00:21:51,480 cultures because it's seen as weakness. And so 569 00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:53,640 what I tried to help people learn is 570 00:21:53,640 --> 00:21:54,140 that 571 00:21:54,592 --> 00:21:57,607 if vulnerability as the word doesn't resonate with 572 00:21:57,607 --> 00:21:58,798 you and your culture, 573 00:21:59,368 --> 00:22:01,853 think about it as demonstrating your humanity 574 00:22:02,464 --> 00:22:04,870 because it's actually courageous 575 00:22:05,322 --> 00:22:07,704 to be willing to show a side of 576 00:22:07,704 --> 00:22:07,942 yourself, 577 00:22:08,989 --> 00:22:12,880 that demonstrates your humanity. It's not weakness. It's 578 00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:15,977 actually courage, and it takes strength to do 579 00:22:15,977 --> 00:22:18,809 it. So I tried to help people recognize 580 00:22:18,950 --> 00:22:22,169 that you're not showing weakness. You're actually demonstrating 581 00:22:22,630 --> 00:22:24,650 strength, and you're also demonstrating 582 00:22:25,429 --> 00:22:25,929 that 583 00:22:26,404 --> 00:22:27,704 you are 584 00:22:28,005 --> 00:22:28,505 this 585 00:22:28,964 --> 00:22:30,805 shows that you have a really strong sense 586 00:22:30,805 --> 00:22:31,545 of self 587 00:22:31,924 --> 00:22:34,325 and your self worth because you're willing to 588 00:22:34,325 --> 00:22:36,976 share that with people. And you know that 589 00:22:36,976 --> 00:22:38,730 you're not gonna fall apart in the process. 590 00:22:38,890 --> 00:22:41,123 You know, you're not gonna something bad isn't 591 00:22:41,123 --> 00:22:43,596 gonna happen because of it. You're actually willing 592 00:22:43,596 --> 00:22:45,590 to go. I'm okay with sharing this with. 593 00:22:46,002 --> 00:22:49,343 I'm confident enough in myself to be able 594 00:22:49,343 --> 00:22:51,491 to should to let you see this side 595 00:22:51,491 --> 00:22:51,889 of me. 596 00:22:52,859 --> 00:22:56,136 So it's strength, not weakness. Yeah. Oh, for 597 00:22:56,136 --> 00:22:57,974 sure. I could not agree more. And I 598 00:22:57,974 --> 00:22:59,492 had just a funny little story that popped 599 00:22:59,492 --> 00:23:00,930 into my head when you were talking about 600 00:23:00,930 --> 00:23:01,330 perfectionism. 601 00:23:01,824 --> 00:23:02,702 So when my boys, 602 00:23:03,260 --> 00:23:05,335 my boys are now 30 and 28, my 603 00:23:05,335 --> 00:23:06,611 older 2, kids. 604 00:23:07,250 --> 00:23:07,649 Hold on. 605 00:23:09,660 --> 00:23:11,580 And when they were little, we had this 606 00:23:11,580 --> 00:23:13,580 play room. So we had a 4 bedroom 607 00:23:13,580 --> 00:23:15,259 house, they each had a room, and my 608 00:23:15,259 --> 00:23:16,860 husband, then husband and I had a room. 609 00:23:17,340 --> 00:23:17,840 And 610 00:23:18,551 --> 00:23:20,299 so we had this extra we made at 611 00:23:20,299 --> 00:23:22,841 their play room. And I'd sit in there 612 00:23:22,841 --> 00:23:24,747 with the boys. I was fortunate enough to... 613 00:23:24,906 --> 00:23:26,495 We owned a company, so I was able 614 00:23:26,495 --> 00:23:28,599 to work from home. And 615 00:23:28,900 --> 00:23:30,339 be at home with with the kids. 616 00:23:31,059 --> 00:23:32,740 And so we would just play with everything 617 00:23:32,740 --> 00:23:34,440 in the room and everything was a mass 618 00:23:34,819 --> 00:23:37,464 but every night not kidding. And boys kiss 619 00:23:37,464 --> 00:23:39,133 them and read them their stories and, you 620 00:23:39,133 --> 00:23:41,358 know, do their little nighttime routine. I'd go 621 00:23:41,358 --> 00:23:41,915 into that room, 622 00:23:42,868 --> 00:23:45,274 and the living know the little people, remember 623 00:23:45,274 --> 00:23:47,906 the little people. Yeah. The... So, like, the 624 00:23:47,906 --> 00:23:50,379 farmer would be flying the plane and the, 625 00:23:50,538 --> 00:23:52,771 you know, and so I would have to 626 00:23:52,771 --> 00:23:53,271 move 627 00:23:53,902 --> 00:23:55,730 all of the plane people back to the 628 00:23:55,730 --> 00:23:57,639 plane and put everybody back in their proper 629 00:23:57,639 --> 00:23:59,547 seats and put the play. And then all 630 00:23:59,547 --> 00:24:01,535 the... Like, the farm animals wouldn't be in 631 00:24:01,535 --> 00:24:02,989 the jet or the camper 632 00:24:03,299 --> 00:24:04,647 it they'd all be back on the farm, 633 00:24:04,806 --> 00:24:06,314 and the fence would be back in place 634 00:24:06,314 --> 00:24:08,932 holding them in. Like, everything was back to 635 00:24:08,932 --> 00:24:11,232 perfect. Knowing that the next day, 636 00:24:11,804 --> 00:24:13,325 they were going to come back in and 637 00:24:13,325 --> 00:24:14,365 be kids and be like, 638 00:24:15,325 --> 00:24:17,644 just but you realized that was your sense 639 00:24:17,644 --> 00:24:19,724 of your need to exert control over things 640 00:24:19,724 --> 00:24:21,571 that you had control over. Right? And I 641 00:24:21,571 --> 00:24:23,315 realized that there was some... That was an 642 00:24:23,315 --> 00:24:26,169 element of you going. I can't control everything, 643 00:24:26,407 --> 00:24:28,644 but I can control this and pho. To 644 00:24:28,644 --> 00:24:30,558 gosh darn it, I'm going to. Right? 645 00:24:31,196 --> 00:24:33,110 I can put these things in their place. 646 00:24:33,349 --> 00:24:35,184 Nothing else is in place right now, but 647 00:24:35,184 --> 00:24:37,497 at least this is. And that I can 648 00:24:37,497 --> 00:24:39,748 be okay with. I get... I totally get 649 00:24:39,748 --> 00:24:41,586 it. I had to totally get it. Yes. 650 00:24:41,826 --> 00:24:44,303 Yes. Yes. So yes, folks. If you're feeling 651 00:24:44,303 --> 00:24:46,561 that way and putting those little plastic fences 652 00:24:46,621 --> 00:24:47,740 but I get place. 653 00:24:49,185 --> 00:24:50,455 Know that you're not alone. 654 00:24:52,043 --> 00:24:55,138 Exactly I'm in a good company. And anne, 655 00:24:55,789 --> 00:24:58,024 you can recover from it. You know, it's 656 00:24:58,024 --> 00:25:00,659 it's okay. It's something you can... I I 657 00:25:00,659 --> 00:25:02,756 think that's part of it too is acknowledging 658 00:25:02,815 --> 00:25:04,890 these things about ourselves. And then figuring out, 659 00:25:05,304 --> 00:25:07,551 How do we keep them from being barriers 660 00:25:08,401 --> 00:25:09,433 to our progress? 661 00:25:10,068 --> 00:25:12,371 I know this about myself? I know when 662 00:25:12,371 --> 00:25:14,536 it shows up, I know when it starts 663 00:25:14,536 --> 00:25:15,595 to, kind of 664 00:25:15,973 --> 00:25:18,367 get in my way, and I can... I 665 00:25:18,367 --> 00:25:20,362 now have coping mechanisms, you know, that I 666 00:25:20,362 --> 00:25:22,607 create. And it's... It might be ways that 667 00:25:22,687 --> 00:25:24,994 I talk to myself or phrases that I'll 668 00:25:24,994 --> 00:25:27,539 say, or just things that'll get me to 669 00:25:27,539 --> 00:25:29,782 snap out of that. Kind of mode and 670 00:25:29,782 --> 00:25:32,407 go into a more productive place. So if 671 00:25:32,407 --> 00:25:34,237 you're listening out there and you're feeling what 672 00:25:34,237 --> 00:25:36,385 we're talking about, know that you're not alone, 673 00:25:36,545 --> 00:25:38,392 and you don't have to to stay there. 674 00:25:38,631 --> 00:25:39,610 You can create 675 00:25:39,987 --> 00:25:40,487 working... 676 00:25:41,502 --> 00:25:43,895 I would say... Coping mechanisms and things that 677 00:25:43,895 --> 00:25:45,969 you can do to to move yourself forward. 678 00:25:46,128 --> 00:25:47,245 So don't don't panic it. 679 00:25:47,979 --> 00:25:48,298 Yes. 680 00:25:48,938 --> 00:25:51,654 Exactly. Exactly. And you can, like, you can 681 00:25:51,654 --> 00:25:53,492 make these shifts and you can make these 682 00:25:53,492 --> 00:25:54,770 changes because I... 683 00:25:55,663 --> 00:25:57,253 I left that marriage, 684 00:25:57,809 --> 00:25:58,309 and 685 00:26:00,035 --> 00:26:02,023 moved on to another relationship. It was just 686 00:26:02,023 --> 00:26:05,851 so peaceful and calm and loving and inclined. 687 00:26:06,169 --> 00:26:08,631 And then we have a daughter, 688 00:26:09,187 --> 00:26:11,808 and wow, what a difference that play was? 689 00:26:11,967 --> 00:26:14,293 We were... We was just like, what and 690 00:26:14,293 --> 00:26:16,291 then that was leave it that way because... 691 00:26:18,049 --> 00:26:20,606 Yeah. I I didn't need... Because you didn't 692 00:26:20,606 --> 00:26:22,445 have that same sense of need. Right? 693 00:26:23,099 --> 00:26:25,660 That's right. You you didn't have to exert 694 00:26:25,660 --> 00:26:28,059 control in that area because there were other 695 00:26:28,059 --> 00:26:29,259 things that were flowing. 696 00:26:30,153 --> 00:26:33,180 Much easily, much more easily, and you didn't 697 00:26:33,180 --> 00:26:35,968 feel that that so out of control everywhere 698 00:26:35,968 --> 00:26:37,402 else in your life that you had to 699 00:26:37,402 --> 00:26:38,916 exert control in certain places. 700 00:26:39,408 --> 00:26:43,065 Yes. Yes. Absolutely. Yeah. 100 percent. And so 701 00:26:43,065 --> 00:26:44,440 you help people really 702 00:26:45,370 --> 00:26:45,870 recognize 703 00:26:46,245 --> 00:26:47,358 if if they would come to you and 704 00:26:47,358 --> 00:26:49,599 be like, oh my gosh. Like, I I 705 00:26:49,599 --> 00:26:50,872 have to put my little people back in 706 00:26:50,872 --> 00:26:51,747 their proper places. 707 00:26:53,736 --> 00:26:55,088 I don't know what to do. That that 708 00:26:55,088 --> 00:26:56,838 you can help. Start I start to ask 709 00:26:56,838 --> 00:26:57,236 questions. 710 00:26:57,729 --> 00:26:59,401 Okay. I start to ask some questions. And 711 00:26:59,401 --> 00:27:01,152 so we kind of try start to uncover, 712 00:27:01,232 --> 00:27:03,461 like, maybe why? Why is that taking place? 713 00:27:03,780 --> 00:27:05,532 I I help people reflect on... 714 00:27:06,184 --> 00:27:08,505 What's going on. III 715 00:27:08,505 --> 00:27:10,184 meet them where they are, 716 00:27:10,904 --> 00:27:14,079 and I encourage them to do the cell 717 00:27:14,437 --> 00:27:16,824 exploration and discovery until we get to more 718 00:27:16,824 --> 00:27:18,892 of the root cause of what's going on 719 00:27:18,892 --> 00:27:20,983 and what might be caught... What might be 720 00:27:21,214 --> 00:27:23,855 creating the situations they're dealing with in the 721 00:27:23,855 --> 00:27:24,335 first place. 722 00:27:24,974 --> 00:27:28,230 And then we start to identify collectively some 723 00:27:28,587 --> 00:27:31,128 actionable steps, some things they can do right 724 00:27:31,128 --> 00:27:33,272 now to start working on it to start 725 00:27:33,272 --> 00:27:34,066 moving forward. 726 00:27:34,622 --> 00:27:36,686 And it could be, like, even in claim 727 00:27:36,686 --> 00:27:39,090 your Swag and the in the book, I 728 00:27:39,090 --> 00:27:41,345 talk about when it comes to self limiting 729 00:27:41,403 --> 00:27:44,854 beliefs. There's an exercise in there a little 730 00:27:44,913 --> 00:27:45,152 routine... 731 00:27:45,870 --> 00:27:47,406 Excuse me that I call reps 732 00:27:47,799 --> 00:27:49,797 Rec like doing reps in the in the 733 00:27:49,797 --> 00:27:52,433 wait room if you will. But it's... How 734 00:27:52,433 --> 00:27:53,333 do we recognize, 735 00:27:53,871 --> 00:27:56,923 evaluate and then pivot So recognize when our 736 00:27:56,923 --> 00:27:59,160 self limiting beliefs show up, how do we 737 00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:02,757 evaluate what they're saying because they are just 738 00:28:02,757 --> 00:28:04,569 that, they're things we believe, but they're not 739 00:28:04,849 --> 00:28:06,708 necessarily the truth or facts 740 00:28:07,806 --> 00:28:09,904 and how do we create 741 00:28:10,283 --> 00:28:13,734 a different thought pattern or something we say 742 00:28:13,734 --> 00:28:16,055 to ourselves to help us pivot into a 743 00:28:16,055 --> 00:28:19,595 more positive direction. So giving people some actionable 744 00:28:19,654 --> 00:28:22,295 things something tangible that they can do, 745 00:28:22,788 --> 00:28:25,330 to start working on whatever it is that 746 00:28:25,330 --> 00:28:26,204 they wanna address. 747 00:28:26,999 --> 00:28:29,223 And they bring it. So I don't I 748 00:28:29,223 --> 00:28:29,723 don't 749 00:28:30,032 --> 00:28:31,780 have a laundry list of things and go 750 00:28:31,780 --> 00:28:33,130 check the box. What do you wanna work 751 00:28:33,130 --> 00:28:35,671 on today? They're the ones that tell me, 752 00:28:36,307 --> 00:28:38,292 here's what I'm really struggling with or here's 753 00:28:38,292 --> 00:28:39,816 what I would really like to Gus in 754 00:28:39,816 --> 00:28:41,269 our session today. And 755 00:28:41,643 --> 00:28:44,501 so that's... It all comes from them. Wonderful. 756 00:28:44,898 --> 00:28:45,295 Awesome. 757 00:28:45,931 --> 00:28:48,652 Take our time. Wow. Alright. So I certainly 758 00:28:48,652 --> 00:28:50,967 wanna give you an opportunity to talk about 759 00:28:50,967 --> 00:28:53,441 anything that we haven't had a chance to 760 00:28:53,441 --> 00:28:53,601 yet. 761 00:28:57,045 --> 00:28:59,454 Well, I mean, for me, I just 762 00:28:59,988 --> 00:29:02,135 I think the biggest thing that people need 763 00:29:02,135 --> 00:29:02,795 to recognize 764 00:29:03,170 --> 00:29:04,226 is that 765 00:29:05,093 --> 00:29:07,661 they already have everything they need 766 00:29:08,115 --> 00:29:10,580 to not only become the leader of their 767 00:29:10,580 --> 00:29:10,978 life, 768 00:29:11,693 --> 00:29:14,159 but to live their best life. 769 00:29:15,049 --> 00:29:17,529 It's truly within their control. 770 00:29:18,250 --> 00:29:20,589 And the first step is 771 00:29:20,890 --> 00:29:23,210 recognizing. I think that we are the leaders 772 00:29:23,210 --> 00:29:25,220 of our lives. So many of us don't 773 00:29:25,220 --> 00:29:27,296 realize that. We think life is kind of 774 00:29:27,296 --> 00:29:29,392 happening all around us and to us 775 00:29:29,850 --> 00:29:33,290 instead of us realizing that for We actually 776 00:29:33,290 --> 00:29:35,989 can control our thoughts. They don't control us. 777 00:29:36,624 --> 00:29:38,529 And that means we can shift them. We 778 00:29:38,529 --> 00:29:40,830 can change them. We can create new neural 779 00:29:40,830 --> 00:29:43,076 path. Pathways. We can create new habits. 780 00:29:43,714 --> 00:29:45,308 It does take time, 781 00:29:45,945 --> 00:29:48,789 but we have the capability of doing it 782 00:29:49,149 --> 00:29:52,665 So wherever people are, if you're feeling stuck, 783 00:29:52,825 --> 00:29:53,805 if you're feeling 784 00:29:54,503 --> 00:29:57,221 alone, you're not alone, first and foremost. And 785 00:29:57,221 --> 00:29:57,721 secondly, 786 00:29:58,513 --> 00:30:02,497 you have everything you need to become who 787 00:30:02,497 --> 00:30:04,090 you would love to be. 788 00:30:05,938 --> 00:30:08,251 I love it. And I... Again, well, we... 789 00:30:08,490 --> 00:30:11,202 Brain re wiring, boy, my favorite topic. I 790 00:30:11,202 --> 00:30:13,754 love it. Yes. It's so so true. 791 00:30:14,392 --> 00:30:14,632 Well, 792 00:30:15,763 --> 00:30:17,199 yeah. And it's just... I could sit in 793 00:30:17,199 --> 00:30:18,953 here and talk to you for for hours 794 00:30:18,953 --> 00:30:22,064 on annie. So appreciate you being here and 795 00:30:22,064 --> 00:30:23,978 talking about this. How do folks connect with 796 00:30:23,978 --> 00:30:25,015 you? Where did they find you? 797 00:30:26,067 --> 00:30:28,380 The easiest way to connect with me is 798 00:30:28,380 --> 00:30:30,693 through swag u dot com. They can they 799 00:30:30,693 --> 00:30:32,847 can send me a a note there. They 800 00:30:32,847 --> 00:30:35,080 can also go on swag u dot com 801 00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:36,605 and take the Swag quiz. 802 00:30:37,161 --> 00:30:40,257 The Swag quiz will it's really designed to 803 00:30:40,257 --> 00:30:40,757 help 804 00:30:41,607 --> 00:30:43,929 determine how you feel about your self and 805 00:30:43,929 --> 00:30:46,086 your life and your circumstances right now. So 806 00:30:46,086 --> 00:30:47,845 it'll give you a little snapshot of where 807 00:30:47,845 --> 00:30:49,044 your swag is right now. 808 00:30:49,843 --> 00:30:52,775 And that will also put them on my 809 00:30:53,133 --> 00:30:55,363 email list as well so that they'll get 810 00:30:55,363 --> 00:30:58,389 my weekly Swag sense newsletter where I just, 811 00:30:58,628 --> 00:31:00,619 talk about my real life and things that 812 00:31:00,619 --> 00:31:03,500 are happening, give tips and ideas and and 813 00:31:03,500 --> 00:31:05,251 actionable steps on a weekly basis. 814 00:31:05,888 --> 00:31:06,365 Wonderful. 815 00:31:06,843 --> 00:31:09,883 Alright. Well, again, thank you so much. 1 816 00:31:09,883 --> 00:31:11,958 for joining me here today and sharing your 817 00:31:11,958 --> 00:31:13,016 wisdom, and 818 00:31:14,192 --> 00:31:16,027 yeah. I just... It's just been joyous for 819 00:31:16,027 --> 00:31:18,518 me. Thank you. 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