- Hello and welcome back to the show.
I hope you're going well.
How has your weekend been?
Chances are, it was a long one for
you if you were lucky enough to enjoy
the public holidays over Easter.
I'm planning this is recording this
one ahead of time and I'm planning
on heading away with family and just.
Spending a few days relaxing and
enjoying each other's company.
So I'm really looking forward to that
and also enjoying other people's cooking.
My family are much better at cooking
than me and they quite enjoy it.
So, uh, I'm looking forward to that side
of things too, and just being together
and having Lando there with us too
and his extended family.
Now, this week on the podcast, I have
two guests, and I think this might be
the first time that I've actually had
two people on the other side of the mic.
The two people that I'm talking about are
Melissa Ambrosini and Nick Broadhurst.
This is a very, very cool episode
because I actually subscribe to
Melissa's podcast many years ago.
It's called the Melissa Ambrosini
Show, and it was one of the very first
podcasts that I actually listened to.
So now to have her on my own
podcast is a pretty cool moment.
, Melissa and Nick, they have just
released in the past week their
book, which is called Time Magic.
Reclaim Your Time, Reclaim Your Life.
And this book is going to help you
discover the surprising ways that
you are losing time and the simple,
very practical ways to claim it back.
And then how to make the most
of that time that you free up.
? What should you be doing with that time?
This is for people that are feeling
time poor, stretched and stressed out
parents, entrepreneurs, employees,
creatives, and anyone hungry for
a more spacious, meaningful life.
I was pretty happy as I read through
that I had a few of these things in
place and other areas were just, uh,
I could see how I could take things
to the next level to make things
again for me, more calm, more spacious
more organised and to continue to
refine and improve the way that
I'm spending my time and making the
most of the time that I have to do
the things that matter most for me.
So as you tune into this episode,
you're going to hear how the two of
them made time to actually write this
book and why they have written it.
How particularly Melissa's life has
changed now that she has welcomed
her first bub,, Bambi into her life.
Their biggest tips to get started on
today when it comes to reclaiming your
time and much, much more in this episode.
So grateful for the two of
them to coming on the podcast.
They recorded this on the day that their
book was released into the world, so it
was a really exciting day, and I know
that you're going to love this episode.
So without further ado, allow
me to introduce you to Melissa
Ambrosini and Nick Broadhurst.
thank you both first of all for being
here and making the time to do this
episode.
We are so excited to be here.
And congratulations.
Today is the actual launch day
for your new book Time Magic.
So what a thrill and honor to chat
with you on this really exciting day.
Thank you.
It's, it's super exciting.
It's, um, it's been a lot of work
to get it to this point, but, we're
excited to see what everyone thinks.
It's slightly nerve wracking actually,
because yeah, you start getting reviews.
We did see the first review come
back and it was very positive,
so we're happy with that.
It is absolutely jam-packed your
book, uh, with so many practical
tips and also reflections and stories
from both yourselves and also your
peers, your friends, uh, incredible
people from around the world around
how they make time work for them.
I wanna start off with why
did you write this book?
Well, I think for us, you know,
we weren't always the way we are.
We have come from backgrounds
where I was incredibly time poor.
I went from being a successful, um,
musician to working in real estate
and all of a sudden I had no time.
And I used to spend time with my
son, my young son at the time, and
I just wasn't present with him.
I was on the phone, I was
trying to close a deal.
It was the worst feeling.
And you know, I always say you
should never regret anything.
But if I could go back and change
anything, it would be being present
with with Leo when he was younger.
And that's because I was really time poor.
I didn't know these things.
Nick tells a story how he would be
playing cricket with Leo and throwing the
ball with one hand and be on the phone,
closing deals on with the other hand.
And that's just not how he wants to
do life or how either of us wanna do.
Yeah.
So Melissa was similar.
She, well, I'll let you tell the story,
but you were very much a people pleaser.
You said yes to everything.
Yep.
That was me, said yes to every
single thing that came my way.
Wanting to people please.
That came from like a long lineage
of people pleasers, like my
mother, my mother's mother, my
mother's mother's mother, you know?
And it was deeply ingrained
within me and it actually burnt
me out and burnt my adrenals.
And I ended up with chronic fatigue
and adrenal fatigue and ended up in
hospital and that's a similar time to
when I really started my journey and
I realized that the way that I was
living my life was not serving me.
It wasn't inspiring me and it was
not how I wanted to live my life.
You write about that so well
in Mastering Your Mean Girl.
I'm due for a reread of that.
I was just trying to find it.
I'm like, I've lent it to someone.
, but you covered that so well.
And do you know what my
favorite line from your book is?
This one?
And it really reflects on
what you've just both said.
Page 72, if you're happy
for me to read it out.
It says, "Remember, it can be
uncomfortable to disappoint someone else
in order to not disappoint yourself,
but your ability to create the spacious,
priority driven schedule and life.
of your dreams rises in direct
proportion to your ability
to tolerate that discomfort.
That's so good, babe.
So good.
And that hit me across the face and
I said no to something a few days
ago that normally I would say yes to.
And, um, I've recently become a Mum.
I have a, an almost seven month old son.
He's downstairs with my
partner at the moment.
And um, it has made me much
more, , protective of my time.
And I know that these are
lessons that are for me to learn.
I'm a people pleaser too, and
recognizing when I was about to
jump in to say yes, absolutely.
And I was only doing that for the
other person out of the fear that
they may not like me if I said no.
What part of reclaiming your time
do you think this own practice and
I guess strength and awareness plays
in being able to say no to other
people and their priorities when it
feels like they're encroaching on
us and maybe we don't even realize.
Well, I think it starts
with awareness, right?
It really starts with awareness.
And when you become aware of how,
like truly how precious time is you've
gotta sort of understand that first
in order to, then it's like anything,
if someone goes through a massive
health crisis, all of a sudden their
health becomes a massive priority.
Right?
And they change a lot of things in
their life about the way they live.
Same with time when you
realize how precious it is.
In fact, I'll give you some statistics.
So you, you would've known from the
book, we worked with a statistician
to figure out like, how are
we actually spending our time?
And when you look at
on average, we are living around 79,
80 years on, on average, the average
person is sleeping for about 26 years.
We are working for just over 13 years.
We're on our phones for almost 13 years.
And that's actually interesting
because that statistic is also
based on when a average 15 year old
child will get their first phone.
But these days they're getting
phones much younger than that.
So you can probably turn up the
number of years on the phone there.
which is pretty scary.
There's almost 10 years watching tv.
There's almost five years
doing domestic duties.
We are eating for almost
four years, which is,
I'd like to increase that one.
That's, I'm cool with that.
Yeah, that's a great
good one.
We're spending about three and a half
years on vacations, just over three
years on holidays, which is great.
A lot of people don't get
that in their lifetime.
Schooling for 1.6 years.
But I was just gonna say like,
just over three years in your
whole life on holidays, like for
me, I'm like, that's not enough.
You know what I mean?
It's not enough.
And then so when you add all these
things up, you end up with, if you
imagine if you zoom out and you look
at your life as a pie chart And where
you're spending your time, the biggest
chunk being sleep, of course, and
what's left at the end of your life.
For the things that bring us the
most, meaning it's just over a
year, which is really quite scary.
So when we actually found these numbers,
it's spurred us on even more to write this
book because we realized we are living in
a way which has afforded us to carve out
a lot of space for the things we love, and
we wanted to show people how to do that.
And we had sort of done it our
own way separately and then coming
together had sort of amplified that.
And time magic really is the
solution to that question of,
you know, where did my time go?
I haven't got enough hours in the day.
That common feeling that we tend to have
and time magic is the solution to that.
You write in the book about one of.
your friends Who, um, has a very
I think, familiar story that he was
working all hours of the day working
around the clock until he hit, I think
it was, he decided he was going to reach
50 and then he would retire and then he
would enjoy life and spend time with his
children and spend time with his wife.
But over those years of him working all
hours, not really being there at dinner
time or for his kids' activities you
write that the marriage broke down.
He's now living a single life and not
really able to see his kids as much as
he would like and all that type of thing.
And it's such a familiar story around
not I think living presently in the time
we have now and thinking, I'm gonna do
this so that I can have that time later.
I would love to hear for you that,
, both of you, you've implemented these
strategies in your book and you've
created more of that time to do
the things that you want to do now.
What does that look like for both of you?
I know that Nick, it sounds like, some
rock climbing and abs sailing and surfing.
Anything else that you are
doing, just that you adore?
And then for you Melissa,
what that looks like as well.
How are you choosing to spend time
now that you've really consciously
and intentionally created more space?
Well, for me, Music, really music
is almost everything I do to create
more space, goes towards creating more
space to, to do my music because we're
already living a life which allows
us to spend time in nature to be with
our friends, to have time together.
Not as much as we would like always.
I mean, certainly we have to improve.
Like anyone, you know, we, when you have
a book launch, you know, things change,
you know, so we have lots of interviews
today, so things change for us today.
But for me, and we'll talk about this
later I'm sure, it comes down to what
brings me the greatest sense of meaning.
Meaning the definition of meaning is
when you feel that you are contributing
to something bigger than yourself.
And to me, that's my music.
So there's lots of things we do
personally, which Melissa can speak
to, but for me it's about music.
And when I'm in that zone and I have
no distractions and I'm writing,
that's when I feel like I'm truly
living my dharma, I'm here, like
I'm really alive in those moments.
And for me, a majority of my time
is spent with my beautiful daughter.
So that that is just the best.
It lights me up so much, and
I love just being with her.
I love playing with her.
I love taking her to the beach,
going and seeing the animals, you
know, we just have the best time.
I love having conversations with her.
I just love sitting with her
and chatting whilst she eats.
So my daughter is like my number one.
And that's where I spend a lot of my time.
And then also with my
work, which I love doing.
You know, I love my
work, I love my podcast.
I love my Holy Mama community, my books,
you know, I love all of the work that I
get to do, all of the women that I get to
support, And then my friends, you know,
spending time with our friends is such a
huge priority because I love it so much.
It makes us feel so good.
I am a generator in human
design, so for me, I get full
from interactions with people.
So we do lots of that.
And then a lot of, you know, that time
with our friends and with my daughter,
our daughter, is always in nature, so
mostly at the beach or outside at a park.
We are always outside unless
it is raining, we are outside.
And so that's where I spend a lot
of my time , and also with Nick.
But you know, that's definitely an area
where we could improve because you know,
since having a child as you know, you
have to be even more intentional with
creating the space for your partner.
Like you have to be really intentional
cuz you know, everything shifts and
you know, this whole book is about
creating a life that is meaningful
for you because we only get one.
This isn't the dress rehearsal.
You don't get to 60 then retire,
then start living your life.
You don't wait till Friday afternoon and
then start living and enjoying your life.
You enjoy your life today.
You treat every day like a
holiday or a vacation every day.
So how can you bring that
magic into your every day life?
That time magic into your everyday
life because we only get one and
we don't know when it's over.
We don't know when that
curtain is going to come down.
No one does.
We don't have a crystal ball.
We don't know when the people in our life,
when their curtain is going to come down.
We may only have one or two more
Christmases with our parents.
You know, like we don't actually know.
And so all of this stuff like was just
so at the forefront of our mind and we
were like, how are we living our life?
Like we needed to make some really big
changes when we first got together,
and this is why this book was born.
And because so many of our friends kept
on saying to us, how do you do it all?
How do you have thriving careers and a
thriving family and still have time to
go to the beach for an hour every day?
Like how do you do it all?
And we share everything in the book.
And healthy boundaries is a huge part.
And also discipline, you know,
discipline and consistency.
They play a huge role as well.
But you know, life is so precious and we
need to live every day like it's the best
day ever because it is the best day ever.
I did one of the activities in your
book around writing out what you are
prioritizing, and then also what you want
to prioritize and what makes you happy.
And I realized making my son
giggle is just if I can do that
every day, oh, that is a good day.
Yeah, if I can make time for that, that
is just what brings me so much joy.
And I think, um, just being in the
moment with him and being silly.
* That's been really fun now
that I have a, a child it's
kind of brought that out to me.
And I love both of your funny videos
that you do, and I'm sure a lot
goes on behind the scenes where
you're just being goofy and laughing
and just, um, enjoying the moment.
I would love to ask how you went
about creating time, making time
to actually write this book.
What did that practically
look like for you?
it's no small task.
How did you.
make that work?
Well it's It's interesting
because this book initially
had a totally different title.
We wrote 80,000 words
of it, four years ago.
There was probably 50% of it was in there.
I would say 40, 50%.
but it had a different sort
of message, a different angle.
And then Covid, good
old covid comes around.
And we just sort of had this,
or Melissa had this intuition
that this was not the next book.
And she said about writing comparisonitis.
And um, of course during Covid there
was this huge spike in obviously
device usage and social media.
So it was an important time for
comparisonitis to come out and
so we put this on ice basically.
And it was interesting during covid,
the sales in the personal development of
self-help books really went down quite
a lot and fiction went through the roof
cause people were wanting an escape.
Yeah.
You know, which is fair enough, I
was reading fiction during Covid.
And he's never really read fiction
so that, you know, we are all
about mindset and entrepreneurship
and personal development.
So for him to kind of go, Hmm, I
wanna read fiction, I was like, wow.
It also inspired me to
write a fiction novel.
So I wrote a fiction novel which
is based on journal entries that
we kept at the beginning of our
relationship and I fictionalized it.
But it's kind of A star is born mixed
with 50 shades of gray and a bit
of celestine prophecy or something.
It's pretty cool.
And so that's the next book.
So then, our publisher reached
out and said, what's happening with
that book we signed four years ago?
You know, and we're like,
well what do you think?
They said, we think it's great timing.
So we sort of sat down and went
through it again and realized,
oh, it's mostly there, but we
now see what this book is about.
And then the title came to
us, which is Time Magic.
It was actually called
79 Marbles before that.
It's a totally different sort of concept.
So, yeah, that's how the book came about.
And in terms of creating space for it, as
I said, we had a lot of it written and we
had to sit down and kind of rewrite it.
So it was almost like starting from
scratch, even though we had a lot of it
already, and we did it in our own time.
We had deadlines.
Melissa always hits her deadlines early.
I hit it right on the day
because that's how I operate.
But we're really proud of it.
You know, it was, it was a big effort,
but it came out very well we think.
And I think, you know, I got this
huge download that Comparisonitis
was next, and I called my publisher
and I was like we can't do this one.
And, and they were like, why?
And I was like, you just have to trust me.
Like my intuition is saying no.
And so they were like, okay.
And cause I've done all
of my books with them.
They're incredible.
Harper Collins in Australia,
they're just the best ever.
And so we put that on ice like Nick said.
And I truly believe that another
reason why Time Magic wanted to come
out now as opposed to a few years ago.
Not only, you know, covid, but
because it needed for me to ride
it from the lens of a mother.
And I wasn't yet a mother
and I was a step mumma.
Which is very different to being a mother,
especially to a mother of a newborn.
And so I feel like Time Magic was
like, go and become a mother and
then write from that perspective.
And so, yeah, you know, like that
is put through the whole book.
Which is so important because it's
very different for someone to, you
know, talk about time, who doesn't
have children and yeah, it's a
different perspective, you know?
That leads me to my next question,
Melissa, cuz it is a whole new way of,
of, uh, figuring out life hey, when you
do have a a bub, a kid and they like bring
so much joy and they need so much time and
we want to spend so much time with them.
I was listening to a podcast for your
500 episodes podcast that you both did
and you shared on there a little bit
about, I think just that readjustment
into you used to get so much done and
seek productivity and be able to do so
many things, just the realization and the
adjustment to Okay, right now I've got
to be kind to myself, I think, and look
at resetting my own expectations that
I'm only putting on myself in the more
limited hours that I have for my work.
I would love you to share, what that
work schedule looks like now in terms
of how you are making that part of your
day or part of . Your week and just
what's working for you now in terms of
that?
I'm
Still to figure it out babes.
You know, I'm, I am definitely not,
there's no such thing as perfect,
and I always talk about this in
all of my books, all of my work.
There's no such thing as the
perfect day, the perfect routine,
the perfect work schedule.
It's all perfect and it's all not perfect.
And so, I think one of the biggest
things for mothers is to readjust
your expectation on yourself when
it comes to the amount of work that
you can get done in one day, or
that you do get done in one day.
So what happens is when I finally went
back to work after a year off, I still
had that same expectation on myself
to do and achieve and work the same
way like I was before I had Bambi.
And that is absolutely
ludicrous and not possible.
And so I've had to reprogram
my expectation on myself, be
kinder and literally rewire how
I think about achievement and
success and all of those things.
And it's been huge.
You know, that transition from Maiden to
Mother, which we call Matresence, and I
talk about this in Holy Mama, my program.
It is such a huge transition and it is
definitely not given enough support.
It's not given enough airtime.
You know, out there, it's, it's
such a huge transition and we
need to support women who are
going through that transition.
And so it's about constantly shifting
and finding what works for you.
And, and we are always doing that.
And as the children get older and older,
like you will have to keep transitioning
and have to keep shifting things and
going, okay, well she's okay to have more
time with her nanny, or whatever it is.
So it's about constantly tuning
in and checking in and readjusting
with when your children grow.
And I think for me it's like
Monday to Friday, you know, I get a
section of time to work and, and the
other times I am present with her.
You know, I try very hard
not to touch my phone.
I don't ever take calls when I'm with her.
The only time I really touch my
phone when I'm with her is to put
on music and it's very important.
And if I do need to do something,
like I'll say, Nick, I need to
quickly go send an email in my office.
Can you please just take
her for a couple of minutes?
But it's really important to me that
when I'm with her, I'm with her.
And when I'm working, I'm working.
And being really kind and gentle to
myself and soft and readjusting my
expectations has been huge for me.
And yourself.
Nick, what's it look like for you?
Yeah.
I think for me it's a bit
different because there's
less need on me from Bambi.
That's more placed on
Melissa at this sort of age.
So it hasn't changed a whole lot for me.
I would just in general, I just think
that my life's a lot richer because
when I do come out from my office and I
have this beautiful little fairy fairy
running around, naked eating watermelon
or something, you know, like, and it's
just, it just makes life so much richer.
And you know, I've got a 17 year
old son, which still amazes me,
Ashley, when, when I say that.
And he's in his final year of school
and you know, he'll be out in the, in
the wild world doing his own thing.
Which is just incredible.
So I don't think it's
changed a lot to be honest.
But what has become very apparent to me
is I want more children because why not
amplify, multiply the feeling you have.
I mean, it's so beautiful having
children in your life and having family.
And I don't, I don't wanna say
the older you get, but the older
you get, the more years you live,
you realise what else is there?
You know, like there is meaning,
of course there is dharma.
All these things are important,
but ultimately spending time with
the people you love is number one.
And you don't love anyone, like
you love your own children.
So I'm pretty excited
to explore having more.
Definitely, definitely is
definitely on the cards.
Absolutely.
And I truly feel like it's my
most important work, you know?
Yes.
Books and podcasts and supporting all
of the women that, that I support.
And Nick with his music and
everything that he does.
Yes that is all so important and, and
brings us so much joy, but ultimately
my most job is raising my daughter,
and if I'm not doing a good job there,
if I'm, just not present, overwhelmed,
stressed, angry, reactive, then I'm
totally missing the point of life.
And so that's where the deep work happens.
You know, right there in our four walls.
That is the most important
work in our four walls.
Last couple of questions for you both.
People have to read the book to get all
the incredible insights and tips and
tricks, but if there were just three tips
that you could give to someone that's
listening and thinking, this is really
calling to me to find, create more time
for being there with my kids or my family
or travel or looking after and being there
with my aging grandparents or what or my
health, whatever it looks like to them.
What are three of your favorite
ways to get started now?
I'll start with a little micro strategy.
Something which is, it may seem small,
but it's these little things that you do
in the book, when you add them all up is
where you start to get a lot of time back.
And one of those is just an app which we
absolutely swear by, which you would've
read in the book called One Password.
And I dunno how people
live without one password.
Now to be clear, it's, it doesn't
mean you have one password.
If everything.
It just is this vault, which
captures every single login, all
your credit card details, your
passports, your software licenses.
You know, just kind of your
entire life is in this thing.
It's fully encrypted, it's never
been hacked, and it just means that
when you do have to buy something or
you do need some sort of information
or you need to log into a website,
it's just instant click of a button.
And how much time, if you add
it up over a lifetime, do we
spend searching for passwords?
There's probably 40, 50 days maybe of just
stuffing around looking for these things.
And not only that, then like clicking
forget password, then you've gotta go
to your email and then you've gotta
wait for the email to come in, and
then you've gotta reset your password.
So yeah, add up all of
that over a lifetime.
And it's just a waste of time.
And I think it bubbles up that
frustration hey, as well, which
Isn't, isn't really the energy
we wanna be having with us in our
day.
No, and I think as well, just
to add to that, um, one of the
reasons these little things are
important is, for example, security.
Now we dunno how it happened, but we
had a massive Facebook hack recently
where both of our pages were stolen.
We had thousands of
thousands of dollars stolen.
, it's been eight weeks now and Facebook
still haven't given our pages back.
Shame on you meta we're, you know,
it's just like criminal the way that
they've treated us, to be honest.
Even though we have the best security
that we think, we feel like we
do, somehow it still got hacked.
So it just goes to show the importance
of having amazing digital hygiene.
Cuz somewhere along the line
something happened and someone got in.
Now it just, maybe it's just a very,
very smart hacker, I don't know.
But two-factor authentication on
everything these days is so important.
And in one password you can literally
scan those QR codes and it, and
it will save that information.
So next time you need to enter a six
digit thing to get into something.
Puts it in automatically for you.
So these little things
are really important.
So that's one.
What's one of your top tips, baby?
I
think one of my favorite ones in the
book is actually looking at where
you're spending your time digitally.
And you can do that on your phone and
you can look at what apps you're using,
like where you're spending your time.
And I think most people don't do that
because they don't wanna know the answer
Yep.
I saw mine pop up the other day
without me wanting to see it.
And I'm like, oh, wow.
How did that add up?
I know, right?
It's shocking and embarrassing.
Like really, it's, it's, yeah.
For me anyway, I'll speak from
my own personal experience.
So I think when we look at the actual
data and go, okay, I'm spending
five hours on Instagram a day.
Wow.
Okay.
Something needs to shift here.
So looking at the actual data and then
asking yourself, am I okay with this?
When I put my head on my pillow
at night, am I okay with where
my precious time was spent today?
And so if not, do something about it.
You know, there's so many
things that you can do.
You can put limits on different
apps and things like that.
There's so many things you can do, but for
me, that is a really big one and a very
low hanging fruit for a lot of people.
Yeah.
And so I'll say the third one would
be, the chapter on Everyday Longevity.
This was the one I loved writing
the most, to be honest and it, it
looks quite different and we had
to actually reduce it quite a lot.
There was a whole section on the
environment originally in the book.
I was making the point that,
okay, cool so we're, we're now
making the most of our time.
We've reclaimed in this book
you can reclaim up to 16 years.
That's our promise to you.
Just by implementing what we talk
about in the book, which is incredible.
Right?
16 years.
What's that worth to you?
It's worth, it's priceless and then we
teach you how to actually live longer.
That's the point of everyday longevity.
And for one of these activities or
strategies to make it into that chapter,
it had to meet certain criteria.
It had to be either free to do
or very cheap and accessible,
scientifically proven, very effective.
And we can now using the strategies
and time magic, get the time back,
spend more time doing things we love
and now, Add more time onto our life.
And again, what's that worth to you?
What's an extra year
or two years, 10 years?
What's that worth to you?
And it can be done by following those
strategies in that chapter and telling.
She's tapping me on the bottom,
so she wants to say something.
I was just gonna add to, that, you know
the book is about reclaiming your time,
adding 16 years to your life if you follow
the steps that we talk about in the book.
But there's no point in adding years to
your life if you don't have your health.
Your physical and your mental health.
So that's why the everyday longevity and
all of the health hacks were put inside
the book because we want you to live long,
meaningful, happy, and healthy lives.
I want to be, I was saying
this in an interview yesterday.
I want to be doing yoga
still when I'm 100.
Like Nick's grandma, she was 95 and still
able to do yoga, and that is the goal.
You know, we don't wanna be riddled
with the disease and, and all sorts
of things physically and mentally when
we're in our second half of our life.
We wanna be thriving, running
around with our great-grandchildren.
That's where we wanna be.
So it's the things that you do
today that will manifest that.
Yeah.
I just wanna add to that, that
it's really important, our mindset
around health and longevity and what
is our belief system about aging.
Because for me personally, I have a
very, very inbuilt, I'm not too sure
where it came from, but my, my belief
system is that every year I'm getting
better, I'm getting stronger, smarter,
faster, more mobile, more flexible.
That's not something, it's not
a story I'm telling myself.
It's my actual belief system, which
I've somehow developed through whatever,
because I obviously lost my health
years ago and I had to rebuild myself.
And I honestly feel
that's what's happening.
And if, if that's not your belief system,
I would really implore you to one,
read the book and two, to start working
on your mindset around health aging.
You are gonna be a reflection
of what your thoughts are.
If you think you're gonna be 80
years old and decrepit, that's
probably what's gonna happen.
If you think you'll be 80 years old
and running marathons, you can do that.
And there's this great
guy, forgotten his name.
He's on Rich Rolls podcast recently.
He's a centenarian and he's a hundred
years old, and he was diagnosed
with terminal colon cancer at 69,
who's given three years to live.
His son gave him this book on.
How to basically heal from cancer.
It was a macro biotic diet at the time.
So he went fully plant-based and not only
is he still alive, he's got about 30 or 40
world records in marathons and decathlons
and like all these sorts of things.
He's still potentially gonna do one more
marathon and he's a hundred years old,
right.
So imagine his belief system, right?
And, and through this he found such
strong meaning, his new meaning,
his new purpose in life was around
educating on sustainability.
So he now has this really strong purpose
and it shows because you listen to him,
he would never know he is a hundred
years old because he's changed his belief
system around what it's like to to age.
So I think that's a really, really
important thing to mention as
It's so inspiring hey, to see people
that perhaps change and shift our own
assumptions, , of way life is meant
to be done and shows us, hang on a
minute I can rethink that and I can
see other possibilities out there.
So thank you so much both for being here.
Final question, is there anything that I
haven't asked you that you would share?
Ooh, just what is your life worth to you?
You know what is nothing that
I want you to ask me, but just,
I just wanted to share this.
Like we only get one.
We only get one and like it makes
me emotional even saying that,
just thinking about my daughter,
that I only get like one with her.
I like in this time, Space and reality,
like I'm sure we've had many past
lives together and I'm sure we'll
have many in the future together.
But like in this body, in
this time, space, reality.
This is it.
And so we really do need to make the
most of this beautiful one magical,
precious life that we have been gifted.
And we teach you how to do that in
Time Magic because it's so important.
And you are important.
Your children are important.
The work that you do is important and we
wanna help you unleash that and live a
life that is meaningful and inspiring to
you and it's going to look different for
everyone, and this is really important.
You know, my ideal day is going to look
different to someone else's ideal day.
My ideal year, my ideal life
is, is going to look different.
And it's not about comparing, go and
read comparisonitis if you need to stop
comparing, but it's not about comparing.
It's about finding what is meaningful
to you and doing those things.
We also talk about rest and why rest?
Oh my gosh.
It was so funny actually
reading that part and um,
I was reading, I'm like, yeah, but
what is what do we do for rest.
And then you wrote the line that's
like, okay, now for you A types or
people pleasers or perfectionists,
if you're wondering, what am
I meant to be doing for rest?
Here's some ideas.
And I realized that one of them for
me at the minute is lying outside on
a mat in the sun and you write about
that and how amazing that can be.
And just lying there with Lando,
my son, and maybe reading some
books or but yeah, I loved that
I had to laugh when you actually
gave examples because we need them.
Well this is the thing, like
lot of mamas especially,
they're like, rest, what's that?
And how do I do that?
And what does that look like?
And so, and it's going to change
as you evolve and that's really
important to remember as well.
Like rest is going to look different
at different phases and also,
when we were writing the book, we
speak about what brings you joy.
So many people we were asking
were like, well, I don't know.
And haven't even given themselves the
opportunity to ponder that question.
And so for me, this year, this season
in my life, I sat with myself and I
was like, what really lights me up?
What really lights
me up?
And one of them was dancing.
So I went back to dance classes this
year, which has brought me so much joy.
I've started sewing, which is so beautiful
and creative and brings me so much joy.
And then another thing, gardening.
You know, Nick and I
are studying gardening.
We're doing a gardening course
and we're planting so much of our
own produce, which is awesome.
And so doing that is
really bringing me joy.
And so these three little things that
I don't monetize they have no agenda.
They're just the, the purpose of doing
them is because they bring me joy, and
we need to take that time to figure out
what those things or thing is for us,
and to do that every day if we can, and
live every day, like it's the best day
ever because it is the best day ever.
So Good.
Melissa?
thank you for sharing.
what?
about you, Nick?
Well more just to make the point that, um,
a lot of books about time are about time
management and we make it very clear that
this is not a book about time management,
cuz time management tends to be learning
how to squash more into your day.
How to get more done, you know?
And that's not what
this book is, is about.
It's about creating this spacious
life that you know, that you're
worthy of, that you dream of.
And it's a very, as you know,
it's an extremely practical book.
You know, this is a book where
it's not theory, it is like,
right, step one, go and do this.
Step two, go and do this.
You know?
So a friend of ours, Sally, who is
reading it over the weekend, so she
could leave a review for us today.
And for anyone listening, if you have
read it, we would be so grateful for a
review on Amazon because it really, it
just helps spread the book into more
people's what's algorithmic really.
So if you can, we, we do know this
book is an absolute game changer for
people, so we want to get it out there.
But, um, Sally said, you know, I was
gonna read it in one sitting, but I
just need to sort of digest it, you
know, because there's a lot to do.
But it's all good because if you spend
the time and you do it, you're going
to free up a truckload of time right.
And as we say, up to 16 years, even
if you just do like one thing, you
might get a year of your life back.
Just one, you know?
So just wanted to make that point
because, uh, you know, books about
time can seem really dry sometimes.
This is a, this is a fun, playful
book, but it's very, very practical.
And we have our productivity
system there called, um, Tick
or flick, which I created.
And that again, is an absolute game
changer if you use Tick or Flick
your life will never be the same.
Simple as that.
I'm gonna start implementing that one.
I have my own version, but
I'm like, this is next level.
So good.
Well, thank you so much to both of you for
being here today for making the time to do
this, and the biggest congratulations on
getting this book out there in the world.
You're both incredible people.
Thank you for sharing the work
that you do, and I wish you both.
all.
Thank you, Emily.
Thank you so much for having us.