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The hopeless romantic. You've probably heard the term,

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and if you're single and dating in the

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Christian world, you may even be one, but

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what exactly is a hopeless romantic, especially

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from a Christian perspective?

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Is it a bad thing, a good thing,

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or just something that requires a little guidance

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and prayer?

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Let's dive in. A hopeless romantic is someone

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who absolutely loves the idea of love. They

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often dream about the perfect relationship,

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the fairy tale ending, and let's be honest,

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long walks on the beach while holding hands

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under the sunset. Cue the romantic music. And

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while there's nothing wrong with appreciating romance,

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being a hopeless romantic can sometimes lead to

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unrealistic

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expectations,

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especially when it comes to Christian dating. You

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see, being a hopeless romantic as a Christian

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means you not only want that deep soul

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stirring love, but you also want it to

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reflect the beauty and sacredness of a relationship

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centered on Christ.

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And let's face it, those two things don't

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always come in the same package. So what

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exactly are the signs of a hopeless romantic

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in the Christian dating world? Here are 10

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signs you might be a hopeless

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with a good dose of humor and some

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solid biblical wisdom to help you keep your

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heart grounded.

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One,

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you love a good proposal video and maybe

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have cried over a few.

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Let's be real. Real. If you're a hopeless

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romantic, you've definitely spent more time than you'd

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like to admit watching elaborate proposal videos on

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YouTube.

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The ones with the flash mobs, surprise serenades,

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and dramatic

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tears of joy.

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Yep, you've seen them all and you might

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even keep tissues nearby for the inevitable waterworks.

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But here's the thing,

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while grand gestures are lovely, they aren't the

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foundation of a biblical marriage. In first Peter

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four eight, we're reminded

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that above all, love each other deeply because

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love covers over a multitude of sins.

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Real love goes beyond the Instagram worthy moments.

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It's about loving your partner deeply every day,

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not just during a perfectly choreographed proposal.

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Two, you write love letters in your head

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to your future spouse.

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Ever catch yourself daydreaming about the day you'll

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finally meet your future spouse? Maybe you've even

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drafted mental love letters to them, just waiting

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for the moment when you can put them

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to paper. And hey, nothing wrong with writing

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a love letter. But let's keep it real

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for a second. As wonderful as it is

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to dream about your future relationship,

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it's important to trust God's timing and plan.

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Proverbs sixteen:nine says, in their hearts, humans plan

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their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.

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So while you can dream, make sure your

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focus is on walking faithfully with God in

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the present.

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Three, you believe in the one and only

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the one.

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A hopeless romantic tends to believe that there

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is exactly one person out there who is

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destined to be their perfect match. While it's

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sweet to think about the one, this idea

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can sometimes be a little misleading.

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Why?

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Because it puts an incredible amount of pressure

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on finding someone who meets every criteria on

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your list.

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The Bible offers a different perspective on marriage.

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Instead of focusing on finding the one, we're

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encouraged to love selflessly.

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Ephesians five twenty five instructs,

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husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved

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the church and gave himself up for her.

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It's about sacrificial love and devotion, not a

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perfect checklist.

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Four,

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you picture every first date as the beginning

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of a fairy

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tale.

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If you find yourself planning the wedding after

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a really good first date, you might be

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a hopeless romantic. It's easy to get caught

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up in the excitement and wonder if this

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person could be the one that God has

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prepared for you. You're practically picking out baby

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names before dessert. While there's nothing wrong with

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being hopeful, it's important to remember that relationships

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take time and effort.

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First Corinthians thirteen four to seven tells us

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that love is patient,

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love is kind, it does not envy, it

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does not boast, it is not proud. So

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take it slow,

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allow the relationship to grow, and focus on

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building a solid foundation

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before rushing into the future.

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Five. You've read every Christian romance novel and

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probably have opinions on all the characters.

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Christian romance novels can be lovely with characters

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who overcome obstacles,

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find faith,

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and fall in love. What's not to enjoy?

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But if you find yourself comparing every date

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to the fictional lead in your favorite book,

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we may have a problem.

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In real life, relationships are messy, imperfect,

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and require more than just a great storyline.

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James one twenty two encourages us to be

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doers of the word and not hearers only.

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It's good to enjoy a Christian love story,

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but we should also focus on living out

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biblical love in real life. That means forgiveness,

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grace,

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and yes, sometimes even conflict resolution.

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Six,

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you believe in love at first sight or

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at least really,

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really hope it's real.

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Hopeless romantics love the idea of locking eyes

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across a crowded room and knowing instantly that

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this person is the one.

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You probably hope for that magical movie style

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moment where time slows down, the music swells,

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and boom, you're in love. But real love

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usually doesn't happen in a single moment. It's

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built over time through trust, communication, and shared

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experiences.

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Colossians three fourteen says, and over all these

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virtues put on love, which binds them all

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together in perfect unity.

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Love is something we put on, an action

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and a commitment that grows,

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not just a feeling we fall into.

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Seven, you overanalyze

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every text message for signs of true love.

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Did he use a smiley face? Was that

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emoji really necessary?

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Is she texting back quickly

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or is there a strategic pause between each

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message if you find yourself dissecting every single

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text for signs of deep affection?

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Welcome to the world of hopeless romantics.

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But let's not forget, love is about more

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than words on a screen. In Matthew seven

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twenty, Jesus reminds us, by their fruit, you

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will recognize them. It's someone's actions, how they

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treat you, how they show kindness and respect

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that truly matter in the long run. A

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well placed emoji won't tell you if they're

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the one God has for you.

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Eight, you think every wedding you attend is

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your destiny calling.

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You go to a wedding and suddenly feel

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like you're in a romantic

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comedy.

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The beautiful couple at the altar, the vows,

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the emotional speeches, your heart is bursting and

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you can't help but think, when will it

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be my turn?

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Bonus points if you've ever caught the bouquet

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and saw it as a divine sign.

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While weddings are beautiful celebrations of love, they're

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not necessarily a predictor of your own future

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timeline.

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Psalm twenty seven fourteen encourages us wait for

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the Lord.

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Be strong and take heart and wait for

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the Lord.

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God's timing for your own love story is

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unique and it's worth waiting for.

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Nine, you believe the right person will complete

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you.

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Cue the famous line from Jerry Maguire, you

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complete me. Hopeless romantics often have this idea

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that the right person will fill every empty

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space in their heart and solve all their

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problems.

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But as Christians, we know there's only one

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person who can truly complete us and it's

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not a spouse, but Jesus.

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In Colossians two ten, it says, in Christ,

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you have been brought to fullness.

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Christ completes us. Marriage is a beautiful partnership

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where you complement one another, but no human

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can fill the space only God was meant

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to occupy.

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10, you believe your love story will be

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the best of all time.

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Lastly, hopeless romantics often believe their love story

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will be the greatest of all time. A

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combination of all the best romance movies

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and books wrapped into one. But here's the

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reality, the greatest love story of all time

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has already been written. It's the story of

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Christ's love for his church. Ephesians five twenty

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five to 27

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beautifully illustrates this love. Husbands, love your wives

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just as Christ loved the church and gave

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himself up for her to make her holy.

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The love story you're hoping for pales in

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comparison to the sacrificial love Jesus has for

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us. So while your love story might not

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have a Hollywood script, it can still reflect

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the greatest love of all.

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Final thoughts, hopeless romantic hopeful heart.

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Being a hopeless romantic isn't all bad. After

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all, it means you have a big heart

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full of love and hope for the future.

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But as Christian singles, it's important to balance

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that that romantic idealism with biblical wisdom and

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truth.

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Remember, real love is less about grand gestures

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and more about everyday faithfulness,

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patience, and kindness.

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So embrace the romance, enjoy the dreams, but

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let God write your love story in his

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perfect timing.

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Trust that he knows the desires of your

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heart and is preparing something far greater than

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anything you could imagine, whether or not it

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looks like the movies.