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Well, the holiday season is upon us again.

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Hallmark Christmas movies are fun, but just don't

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cut it.

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Look, surviving the holidays as a single person

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can be tough.

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As single women and men dreading yet another

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holiday season alone,

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you're probably struggling or thinking about

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where you're gonna spend the holidays to avoid

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depression and loneliness,

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how unfair it is that another Christmas is

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coming and you're still single.

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What you're gonna tell or do to those

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annoying relatives who ask you again

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why you're not yet married?

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The holiday season is often seen as a

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time of joy, togetherness, and celebration.

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However, for many single Christians, it can also

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be a challenging and lonely

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time. The emphasis on family gatherings, romantic relationships,

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and holiday traditions

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can sometimes make you get the feeling of

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FOMO.

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But fear not.

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With the right mindset and strategies,

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you can not only survive, but thrive during

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the holidays

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as a single Christian.

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Surviving the holiday blues survival guide.

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As you reflect upon how to approach the

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potential for holiday blues this season,

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it's important to celebrate in a way you

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feel comfortable as a single person,

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whether you are dating or not.

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As you begin to see all the commercialism,

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decorations, and Christmas pagan hype,

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let the following holiday do's and don'ts guide

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you.

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Holiday do's for singles.

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Focus on the birth of our dear lord

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and savior Jesus

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as the focal point of your holiday.

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Not to employ an overused cliche,

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but he is after all the reason for

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the season.

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If you have never heard the good news

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about Jesus,

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you can read here about how to become

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a child of God.

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Jesus loves you so much.

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Do remember that as a single, you have

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the same need and right to enjoy this

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holiday season

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as any other couple or family does.

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So if you wanna decorate your home or

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apartment,

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do it up well.

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How you choose to spend the holidays is

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your personal choice,

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not that of those around you.

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Before being cajoled by friends and family members

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to attend this event or that party,

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ask yourself if this is really what you

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wanna do.

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Will it make you feel more lonely and

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depressed?

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Will it bring others and you some measure

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of joy? As a single person, set

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unrealistic

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expectations

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of what the holiday time should bring.

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That way, if things don't go that way,

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there will be less disappointment and hurt.

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Jesus said, it's more blessed to give than

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to receive.

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So make this Christmas a time of service

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to others

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instead of focusing on your own needs and

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wants as a single person.

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Doing things such as feeding the poor or

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visiting the sick

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will not only help you put the holidays

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into their proper perspective,

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it will cause your spirits to soar.

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We guarantee it.

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If you have not already done so,

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find a Christian singles group or church in

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your area

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where you can find and give support to

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other singles during the holidays.

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If you're not part of any group, why

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not throw a holiday bash for other single

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friends you know?

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Make sure to count every blessing the Lord

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has granted to you in the past.

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The holidays are an excellent opportunity to reflect

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on the blessings in your life.

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As a single Christian, you can focus on

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the gratitude you feel

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for your relationship with God, your friends, and

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your church community.

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Take time to count your blessings and thank

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God for the abundance of love and support

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in your life.

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Holiday don'ts for singles.

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Avoid using too much alcohol,

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Ephesians five eighteen,

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to cope with holiday stress

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because this tends to make one depressed.

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As singles, we tend to overbook ourselves to

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the point of exhaustion.

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Make sure you don't do this this holiday

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season, but give yourself plenty of downtime to

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relax and rest.

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Fatigue can lead to negative thought patterns.

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Don't spend all your holiday time with family

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members and other couples,

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but split the time with your single friends

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as well.

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This will help you keep a more positive

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perspective

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while enjoying everybody's company.

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Overall, however,

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if you choose to celebrate the Christmas or

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New Year holidays,

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remember to be safe,

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trust in God's promises for your future,

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Jeremiah twenty nine eleven,

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and have fun.

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Happy holidays.

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Surviving the holidays alone as a single Christian

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is not only possible,

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but can be a season of personal growth

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and spiritual enrichment.

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By embracing gratitude,

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creating meaningful traditions,

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staying active in your church community,

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reaching out to others,

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practicing self care, and deepening your faith,

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you can find joy and purpose during this

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special time of the year.

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Remember that you are not alone,

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and God's love and presence are with you

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every step of the way.

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Are you a single person with added thoughts

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on surviving the holiday blues?

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Help others by sharing your thoughts with you.