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Dating within the Christian community can feel like

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a breath of fresh air. You're navigating

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values, faith, and goals hoping to find that

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deep spiritual connection

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that's more than just skin deep.

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However,

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as with any dating pool, you might come

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across people who aren't quite as sincere as

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they seem.

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Maybe it's subtle, an offhand comment, a questionable

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reaction during bible study, or the way they

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gloss over prayer time.

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If you're wondering whether your Christian date is

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being genuine or just putting on a front,

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you're not alone.

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In this guide, we'll explore some of the

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telltale signs that your date might not be

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as sincere as they appear.

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But don't worry,

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we'll keep it light and humorous

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because sometimes

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the best way to handle these things is

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with a little laughter.

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One,

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over the top bible knowledge

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with no depth.

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We all know someone who can quote scripture

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like they've got an internal concordance.

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But when you dig a little deeper, it

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becomes clear they're more interested in winning most

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pious award than living out those words.

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If your date is quoting verses left, right,

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and center, but seems to fumble when you

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ask them how those teachings have impacted their

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life,

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that's a red flag.

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Let's put it this way. If your date

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is rattling off first Corinthians like they're auditioning

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for a seminary,

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but their personal stories involve little more than,

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yeah, I really like that verse,

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it might be time to consider whether they're

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putting on a show.

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Remember,

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sincerity is about walking the walk, not just

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talking the talk. What to watch for? Do

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they have a real relationship with their faith

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or are they simply showing off their bible

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quoting skills?

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Ask them how a specific verse has shaped

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their actions or mindset.

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Two,

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prayers that feel like mini sermons.

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We all know that prayer is a conversation

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with God,

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intimate,

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personal, and most importantly,

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sincere.

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But if your date's prayers sound more like

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an audition for the pastorate,

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something's off. It's one thing to be eloquent.

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It's another to make every prayer a mini

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sermon.

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If your date's prayer goes on for five

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minutes,

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touching on every single theological

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point ever mentioned in a study guide, you

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might start wondering,

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are they praying or performing?

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Genuine prayer doesn't need to be impressive, it

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just needs to be heartfelt.

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What to watch for? Are they praying with

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sincerity?

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Or do they seem more concerned with impressing

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you or God with their theological knowledge?

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If you find yourself mentally timing how long

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they've been at it, that might be a

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clue.

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their church attendance seems a bit

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performative.

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It's great to have a date who loves

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attending church, but here's the kicker.

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Are they going because they're deeply engaged,

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or is it more about maintaining an image?

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You know the type. They check into every

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Sunday service on social media,

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post selfies from bible study, and make sure

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everyone knows they're at all the events.

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If their involvement feels more like a PR

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campaign

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than genuine

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spiritual engagement,

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take note.

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Here's the truth.

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Sincere people go to church because they're seeking

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community and growth.

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Insincere

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people go because it looks good on their

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dating profile.

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What to watch for?

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Ask about what their church community means to

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them. If they have a hard time describing

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any real connections or impact,

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that might signal they're just clocking in for

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appearances sake. Four, they're overly judgmental of others'

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judgmental dater.

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A classic sign of insincerity.

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If your Christian date is constantly pointing out

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the flaws in everyone else's faith journey, it

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might be a red flag that they're more

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concerned with appearing holier than thou than they

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are with genuine connection.

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Look,

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nobody's faith is perfect.

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We're all on a journey trying to figure

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things out. But if your date is busy

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criticizing everyone else's church attendance,

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prayer life, or gasp denomination,

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it could indicate that they're insecure in their

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own faith.

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Insincere people often deflect attention

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away from their their own shortcomings

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by pointing out those of others.

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What to watch for? Do they offer grace

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and understanding when talking about others' faith, or

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are they quick to judge? A sincere Christian

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recognizes the flaws in their own walk before

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pointing out those in others.

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Five,

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they avoid tough questions about faith.

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Dating a fellow Christian is about more than

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shared beliefs.

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It's about shared values and growth. If you're

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trying to have a deep conversation about faith,

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life challenges,

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or even doubts, but your date keeps dodging

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the topic like it's a theological minefield,

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that's cause for concern.

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Faith isn't always easy and genuine Christians will

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acknowledge that. What

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sincerity and faith involves being open about struggles

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and questions.

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If your date can't engage in these kinds

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of conversations or worse, if they get defensive

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when you try,

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it might be a sign they're not as

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invested as they claim.

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What to watch for? Do they seem open

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to discussing both the highs and lows of

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their spiritual journey?

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Or do they steer every conversation back to

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surface level niceties?

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Sincere people won't shy away from discussing tough

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topics.

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Six, the too good to be true syndrome.

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If your date seems too perfect, like they've

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stepped straight out of a Christian romance novel,

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there might be reason to pause. It's one

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thing to be committed to living a Christ

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centered life. It's another to pretend like you've

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got it all figured out. If your date

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never acknowledges any mistakes,

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doubts, or imperfections,

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there's a chance they're more focused on projecting

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an image than being honest about who they

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are. We're all sinners after all. So if

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your date is portraying themselves as someone who's

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never missed a quiet time, never struggled with

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faith, and never gotten impatient in traffic because

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let's be real, that's a challenge for all

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of us. It could be a sign that

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they're putting on a show.

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What to watch for. Are they willing to

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admit their mistakes and weaknesses,

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or could they paint themselves as the perfect

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Christian?

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Sincere people aren't afraid to be vulnerable.

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actions speak louder than words.

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This is the big one, folks. At the

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end of the day, it's not about what

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your date says.

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It's about what they do. Are they living

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out their faith in tangible ways, or is

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it all just talk?

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Sincerity is demonstrated through action.

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How they treat others, how they handle challenges,

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and how they navigate relationships.

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If your date talks a big game about

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loving others but treats the waiter poorly, that's

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a red flag.

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If they talk about generosity but seem to

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hoard their time and resources,

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take note.

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Faith isn't just a series of beliefs. It's

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a way of life.

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What to watch for.

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Pay attention to how they treat people, how

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they serve others, and how they handle difficult

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situations.

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Sincere Christians live out their faith even when

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it's inconvenient.

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Eight,

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they avoid accountability like the plague.

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We all need accountability in our faith journeys.

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But if your date bristles at the idea

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of being held accountable or avoids any kind

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of spiritual mentorship,

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that's a sign they might not be as

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committed as they appear.

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Genuine Christians recognize the importance of being in

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community with others,

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allowing themselves to be sharpened and refined by

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fellow believers.

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If your date can't name a single person

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who holds them accountable in their spiritual life

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or if they seem to scoff at the

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idea,

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it could mean they're not really interested in

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growing in their faith.

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What to watch for. Ask about their mentors

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or accountability partners. If they can't think of

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anyone or if they seem dismissive of the

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idea,

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that might be a red flag.

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Conclusion.

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It's okay to laugh and learn.

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Let's be honest. Navigating the dating world as

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a Christian can feel like walking a tight

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rope sometimes.

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You want to find someone who shares your

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faith, but you also want to make sure

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they're sincere.

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By paying attention to these telltale signs and

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keeping your sense of humor intact, you can

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protect your heart and your time.

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Remember,

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nobody's perfect, and you don't need to expect

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your date to be either. But sincerity,

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that's nonnegotiable.

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Stay prayerful,

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keep your eyes open, and don't be afraid

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to trust your gut or laugh when necessary.

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With a little discernment and a lot of

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grace, you'll be well on your way to

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finding a relationship that's built on truth,

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faith, and, yes, a good sense of humor.