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Have you ever thought about whether or not

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you have the gift of singleness?

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You've been praying, fasting, and maybe even sent

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up one of those emergency.

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God, if this is really your plan, please

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send a very clear sign because I'm not

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seeing it kind of prayers.

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Yet, here you stand in the land of

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singleness and you're wondering,

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could I actually have the gift of singleness?

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Let's take a deep breath, laugh a little,

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and explore some reasons why this might be

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God's wonderful plan for you right now.

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Spoiler alert.

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Singleness

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might just be a gift wrapped in unexpected

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packaging.

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One, God's got plans,

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big plans.

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Let's be real. You're not just sitting around

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doing nothing.

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No. You're serving in ministry, building a career,

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trying new hobbies, making time for friends,

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and maybe even running a side hustle.

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When you're single,

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you have the freedom to do all of

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these things without the added responsibility of caring

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for a spouse.

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Paul knew what he was talking about when

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he said, an unmarried man is concerned about

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the lord's affairs,

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how he can please the lord.

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First Corinthians

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seven thirty two.

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You've got some major kingdom work to do,

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and this is your moment to fully embrace

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it.

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In your singleness, you might be able to

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focus on things that you wouldn't otherwise be

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able to do with the same intensity.

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After all, there are benefits to being single.

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Whether it's investing time in others, pursuing a

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passion, or just being available to serve when

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someone asks,

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this season is all about maximizing opportunities.

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There's no need to rush into another phase

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of life when this one has so much

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potential.

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God might just be calling you to thrive

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in this current season

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without the distractions of a relationship.

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Two,

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independence looks good on you.

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There's something beautifully empowering about being single.

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You've got the freedom to take spontaneous trips,

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pick up new hobbies, and even binge watch

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The Chosen for the third time this month

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without negotiating TV rights.

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More importantly,

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this independence means you have space to cultivate

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your relationship with god

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in a way that no one else can

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touch.

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It's just you and Jesus,

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and that's a pretty solid duo if you

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ask me.

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When you're single, you learn a lot about

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yourself. You grow in ways that aren't always

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possible in a relationship.

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Your self awareness sharpens. You become more in

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tune with your strengths and weaknesses.

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And you start recognizing God's voice with more

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clarity.

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No one else gets to speak into your

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daily decisions quite like he does.

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That's a pretty special thing.

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Who needs a relationship status when you've got

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an ongoing conversation

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with the creator of the universe?

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Three.

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You're in preparation mode.

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Let's talk about preparation.

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Being single doesn't mean that you're just waiting

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around for something better to happen.

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Think of this time as God preparing you

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for what's next, whether that's a future relationship

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or another path entirely.

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Maybe he's equipping you with the patience to

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handle future in laws, the wisdom to navigate

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conflict,

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or even the cooking skills to avoid burning

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a romantic dinner.

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Because let's be honest, we've all been there.

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If marriage is in your future, then this

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is the season where god is working on

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you to become the best version of yourself.

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It's kind of like spiritual CrossFit.

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It's tough, but the results are worth it.

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And if marriage isn't part of his plan,

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then he's preparing you for something even better

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that aligns perfectly

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with your unique gifts and calling.

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Either way, you're being shaped for greatness.

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Four,

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less drama, more pizza.

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Not to be too blunt, but one of

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the perks of being single is that you

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have significantly less drama in your life.

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Relationship challenges, compromises, and the inevitable what do

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you want to eat dilemma

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are not your concerns right now.

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And you know what that means? More time

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for pizza.

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See, the benefits are stacking up.

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Now I'm not saying relationships are all bad.

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They can be wonderful, fulfilling, and absolutely worth

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it in the right context.

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But sometimes, it's good to embrace the simplicity

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of life without the constant emotional roller coaster

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that dating can bring.

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Instead of worrying about someone else's feelings or

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planning dates, you get to focus on the

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things that bring you joy,

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contentment, and peace.

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Plus, let's be real.

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Less drama means more time for Netflix,

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friends, and deepening your walk with God.

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Can't argue with that. Five, your identity isn't

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tied to a relationship.

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One of the most beautiful truths in scripture

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is that your identity is found in Christ,

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not in your relationship status.

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Whether you're single, dating, or married,

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your worth doesn't change.

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The world loves to put people in categories,

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single and searching, single and not searching, or

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why are you still single?

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But God doesn't work that way. He calls

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you his child, his beloved, and his masterpiece,

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Ephesians two ten.

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And that, my friend, is where your true

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value lies.

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Singleness is not a problem to be solved,

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but a season or calling to be embraced.

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If God's plan for you includes a spouse

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down the road, that's wonderful. But if it

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doesn't, you're still 100%

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complete in him.

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You don't need anyone else to validate your

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existence or make you feel worthy.

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You're already enough just as you are.

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The gift of singleness,

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conclusion.

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It's a gift.

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So why might you have the gift of

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singleness?

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Well, maybe it's because God knows this is

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the perfect time for you to grow,

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serve, and shine without any distractions.

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Maybe it's because he wants to teach you

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independence and deepen your relationship with him before

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anything else.

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Or maybe it's because you still got a

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lot of pizza nights and Netflix marathons left

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to enjoy.

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Whatever the reason, rest assured that singleness is

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not a burden, it's a gift.

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Take heart in knowing that God's plan for

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your life is so much bigger than you

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can see right now.

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Whether this season lasts a year or a

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lifetime,

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trust that he's working out everything for your

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good, Romans eight twenty eight. And in the

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meantime,

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enjoy the journey,

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love the adventure,

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and embrace the gift of singleness with joy,

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confidence,

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and maybe a slice of pizza or two.