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You're listening to the Loving BDSM podcast episode

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four seventy. Kayla Lords here with the one,

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the only,

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the

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I'm I love you, and I'm glad that

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we're doing this thing together both in general,

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like the bigger picture, but also this specific

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episode. True. John Brownstone.

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I'm so glad to say your name.

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Who am I?

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Well, that is the question we all have

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to wrestle with at some point in our

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lives. Yeah. Yeah. Maybe multiple times. I know.

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We're not that's that's not really what we're

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talking about. But, you know, in a weird,

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like, existential metaphorical way, we will it's weird.

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That is it it all connects. That's all

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I'm saying.

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Actually, this week specifically,

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because I know unless I change the title

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from the time of recording to the time

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of putting this

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episode

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out, some people get it. It's a vibe.

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Gestures broadly at the world. Y'all know. We're

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gonna be talking about some of what's going

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on. I say the world. It's The US

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primarily, but the entire world is impacted

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we're gonna be focusing on resources of, like,

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how do how do I help? What do

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I do in this time of seeing all

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this

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awfulness going on around me? That is what

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we're focusing on with talking about

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the state of the world.

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Plus at the very end, we're gonna answer

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a question we were asked ages ago,

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but we needed to be in the or

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the right,

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mindset for this, which is can you have

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a power exchange with someone you disagree with

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politically?

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Yeah.

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This episode this week's episode, I'll probably say

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this later when we get to, like, the

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main episode. I'm gonna say it now in

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case I forget. This episode's gonna be broken

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up into three main parts: the oh my

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god, what's going on in the world? Here

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are some resources. We're gonna try and help

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you help yourself help the world.

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Then we have what we consider a happy

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announcement that should not be political, but parts

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of the world disagree with that. So we're

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gonna talk about that, and then we'll get

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into the question. We I will try to

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give you time stamps if there are bits

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and pieces you're like, I would rather avoid

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some of this parts of the conversation or

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if you just want to get to the

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because while I want everybody to be

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engaged in the world around them, I also

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know that there are very good reasons that

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some people need to tune it out. So

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consent matters

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to us and all things including this.

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So if you're like, uh-oh. I I I

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wanted to answer the question but that's all

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I want to know. I'll try to put

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in specific, like go to this point in

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the podcast

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to listen to that thing you want. Okay?

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Yeah. Welcome to the Loving BDSM podcast.

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If this is your first time listening, glad

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Wait. We go. Okay. So

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I'm doing this because

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you have to walk the line between being,

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like, a good human citizen of the world

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and also living under capitalism.

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Brief reminder.

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Brief reminder,

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that we are having our Patreon membership drive

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right now.

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And if you join

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now through the February,

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you get stuff in the mail sometime in

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April.

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I'm not gonna go into a lot of

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details about it other than, our Discord

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quite frankly, our Discord server

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is sort of what gives me the strength

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to, like, I'm gonna do those To power

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to the scary thing. And I'm I will

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defend

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the audience who should not have to justify

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their existence because people suck. Like, that that's

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giving me some moves there.

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But we're gonna talk about

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donation stuff today,

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where you can if you have the cash

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to do something and you're like, how do

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I help the world? Like, that kind of

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thing. And quite frankly, and I mean this

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we have our own on YouTube,

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fundraiser running. We'll talk about it in a

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minute.

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I mean this truly, bottom of my heart.

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If you've got an extra $5 dollars

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to

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spend and it's between us and a cause

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that's important to you, please give it to

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Yeah. The cause that's important to you. We

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will be okay and we're gonna keep showing

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up. Okay?

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it's a membership.

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just wish the world would like let me

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keep a schedule. Okay. Okay. Good luck with

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that. I know. So that's all I've got

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to say about that.

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to be real

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We don't bring up specific politics politics specifically,

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in bonus sections, Shirley, and when I just

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need a moment to vent, you if you

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have paid attention, you know

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that we don't like the, current administration. We

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did not vote for them and will never

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could never could not be me.

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stand up and go, here's the thing we

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stand for. Right?

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live our

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politics. Because our politics

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to our ethics, morals, and values.

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is not gonna be enough for some people.

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And because I've gotten the emails and comments

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before, it'll be too much for others. If

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it's too much for you, you should just

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nope out now. Okay? Because

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you'll be fine. I will be fine.

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anywhere on any platform

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where you can communicate,

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just stick to kink. Why do you have

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to make it about politics?

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My baby, my precious sweet summer child,

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kink

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is political.

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For all kinds of reasons, but let me

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break it down on a person to person

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if you did not know this. There are

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100% people who can lose their job in

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America for being kinky.

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I have met and talked

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to more than one person who lost custody

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of their children Yes. Because their FetLife profile

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got them and was presented in In court.

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Yeah. I don't know how much the law

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has changed over the past few years, but

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a few years ago a judge in it

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was either Virginia or it was North Carolina,

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it was one of those two states said

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you do not have a right to BDSM.

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fuckery,

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if if you get picked up by the

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police, if somebody decides to prosecute whatever whatever

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Yeah. So kink is political.

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Kink and sex. Sex is not automatically part

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of kink. They are two separate things, but

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they often get

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go together

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politically and then with people's lives. Right? So

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people are kinky and it's sexy for them,

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blah blah blah.

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That is heavily politicized. There is an entire

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section in Project twenty twenty five that was

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about how do we make the scary bad

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sex stuff go away.

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I have not heard about current legislation

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in any state

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level or federal level. If anybody has, feel

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free to send me the links,

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because this rest of the world has overtaken

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news feeds

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and right? Mhmm.

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That hasn't happened

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yet as far as I know. It's coming.

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It's been happening. I've said this before. It

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is regardless of administration.

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There are people even in your own political

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party, whichever one that might be, and you

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think you're, like, quite liberal, who would like

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the sex and kink stuff to be to

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go away. Yeah. Right? There are people who

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say that,

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cis women cannot possibly fully consent

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to be submissives. Yeah. Yeah. Like, there's some

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shit. Kink is political is what I'm saying.

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I here in Florida, you cannot access,

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porn unless you Unless you have a VPN.

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They they have outlawed,

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porn here in the state of Florida.

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Even as adult, you cannot

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really watch it. Yeah. They've outlawed it. You

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have

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to prove who you are. You have to

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prove who you are, but you have to

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jump through hoops

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for it. I don't wanna give any site,

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even a porn site, my whole entire government

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identity. Well, yeah. I mean, that's that's Not

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the way it's being done. Yeah. Anyway, that

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is probably outside the scope of this conversation.

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That's our point though. Yeah. Your very existence

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as a kinky person, regardless of any other

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part of your identity,

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is inherently political. So yeah,

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we get to talk about politics. Okay.

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So we do want to like I said

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before,

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we try to live our morals, values, ethics.

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to be those people and embody that to

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the extent that we know how. We are

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constantly learning. We're trying to always do better.

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Over the years, I know

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OGs have heard my voice shake when I

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have to try and learn how to say

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something in a new way because I don't

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like to be bad at stuff in front

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of people. Okay?

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in part so I can clip it and

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actually put it out everywhere else, to make

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sure that we are very clear. So if

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you thought you were in a different place

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than you are, we all know where

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we stand. Okay? So can I go down

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the list? If I forget anything, you jump

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in.

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Trans rights are human rights.

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Drag queens were never the fucking problem. Read

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a goddamn banned book, please, I beg you.

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Abortion is health care.

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Please please say gay because in Florida they

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don't want you to. They have Yeah. They

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have laws against they're trying to have legislation

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against them.

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Mhmm.

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Fuck ice all the fucking way. Absolutely.

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Fuck ice. The only ice I want is

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in my goddamn coffee.

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I know. They're ruining the ice thing for

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me.

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Nobody's illegal on stolen land. Right. Let me

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be very clear. Yep. Absolutely. If you're not

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committing crimes, I do not care how you

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got into my country. I don't care that

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you're here. Right. If you're working, you're raising

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a family.

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I I don't I don't

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care. I don't care.

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Murders are being committed in the streets.

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Black lives matter. And let's also be clear

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that, what we're seeing is not new. There

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are just some of us who are not

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used to seeing it and, having to worry

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about it.

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So that's where we stand. I did I

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forget any?

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No. Not really. I think I covered everything

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I meant to. There's definitely more than two

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genders, but we've always y'all have always known

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we know that. Mhmm.

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Yeah.

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So that's that's what we're coming from. Now

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this

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Yeah. Floor you know, I

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I'm I'm just gonna go into something real

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quick. I want you to have your moment.

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You know,

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Florida and, unfortunately, Texas

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have been a proving ground

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for some of these laws that they're trying

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to push through at the federal level.

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Florida is not the Florida I moved to

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in 1981

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in no way, shape, or form.

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They are trying to repeal,

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the Fair Wages Act that the people voted

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in

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several years back, and they are trying to

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circumvent that.

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They are trying to

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enact a law that if you speak out

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against the government, whether it's local, state, or

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federal,

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you can be labeled as a domestic terrorist.

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That is what they're trying to do in

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Florida right now. And,

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legislation that happens at the state, if it

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can pass, it then gets copy pasted around

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the Around the country.

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Now that's Florida, other wherever you're living.

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God, I hope you're in another country that

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has better laws than we do. But if

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you're in another state, your state will be

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handling things differently, or maybe similarly. Maybe you

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are in a deep red state like we

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are.

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-Yeah. -Okay? We're gonna offer some things that

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maybe can give you a place to, like,

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go look and see what can I do

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to help the people in my community, okay?

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That's the whole point of this. We don't

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don't we could JB and I are, at

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this point, probably over informed about some things,

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obsessive on some levels. We really probably should

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take an Instagram break for a couple of

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days. Let's be real.

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I don't want to get too much into

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that,

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because that is not our area of expertise.

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And also, we could we could record for

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literal hours and still not be done.

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But also,

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I don't I'm not a this is a

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boundary we're placing. Okay?

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You get to think whatever you wanna think.

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You go say whatever you wanna say. But

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we are not going to get into debates

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with people over our politics. That's not up

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for debate for us. That's not in question

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for us.

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If I thought there could be a a

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good faith conversation about policy, I might consider

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it, but that's not how the Internet works.

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So if you decide to put thumbs or

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just all your fingers to a keyboard, tap

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tap tap, tell me exactly how you think

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I'm wrong, you will be talking to yourself

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because I don't give a fuck. Okay?

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In the live chat during the stream,

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my moderators are that delicious kind of evil.

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Like,

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they're great humans in general. They wouldn't be

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our mods otherwise. Mhmm.

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But they do love making sure

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things are taken care of in the live

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chat.

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So

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they get to they get to do their

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thing with MP and E. Okay?

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Because my concern

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is one, nobody nobody's got time to be

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to having these back and forths because they

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don't change anybody's mind. And that's not what

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I'm here to do. I'm not here to

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change anybody's damn mind. You're gonna think what

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you wanna think and if you align with

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me, cool. If you don't,

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you get to decide what to do about

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that.

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But I know in our audience there are

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people who are

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in any number of marginalized communities based on

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any different part of their life and identity,

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and they should not have to watch other

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people debate their very fucking existence, and they

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should not feel compelled to have to come

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into a comment section and justify their existence.

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And I will

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not I will not engage with that on

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their behalf. K?

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So

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just to, like, set the boundaries. Do I

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sound like I'm yelling a little bit? Is

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my blood pressure up? Yes.

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Politics has always been something I struggle to

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talk about,

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but we live in a different world than

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the way I was raised in, both politically

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but also the way things get talked about.

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Also,

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we

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don't always know what we should do with

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it but we know we have the responsibility

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of a platform.

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Right?

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And there comes times for us where

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we can't just, like, bitch about the things

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we don't like. We gotta do something like

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this. I don't think this is our first

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time ever doing this. It's just the first

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time in a while. Yeah.

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So I'm sure there are things I wanted

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to say and that I have forgotten.

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That's okay. Okay, so we are gonna start

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with some of the things

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in the news and point you to some

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places. I have a shit ton of notes,

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okay?

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First of all we're gonna start with I'm

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saying Minnesota because if you are even slightly

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aware of the

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world, you know what that means. Renee Good's

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death, Alex Prady's death. Those aren't the only

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two people who have died throughout all of

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these ICE raids. They're the ones we know

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about and are the most immediate right now.

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And it is not just Minnesota.

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I've I've linked all my resources and all

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the places I'm pointing you to in in

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the places, show notes, and, description box in

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YouTube so you can go see this stuff

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for yourself.

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Current plans and I think

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almost immediate future plans

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for ICE raids. We've got Florida. They are

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currently in Orlando and Tampa.

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Tampa and Miami.

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They were probably elsewhere in the state, but

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those are the big ones. Maine,

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I've seen about Portland. California, they're all over

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the place. Let me be clear: Keith Porter

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Jr, a black man was killed. Was it

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New Year's Eve or New Year's Day? Yeah.

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Presumably by ICE, but there's not a lot

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of reporting. Thankfully some of the people I

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follow have talked about that.

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New Orleans and South Mississippi,

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Chicago, Charlotte, North Carolina, Memphis, Tennessee, Denver, Philadelphia,

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Phoenix, Atlanta, Seattle, New York City, Washington, DC,

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and the one that I went, what?

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San Juan, Puerto Rico. I know. I don't

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know why I went what. I think that

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might be my own, like,

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lack of education, but I was like I

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mean, Puerto Rico is is American territory. Like,

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I but they are Americans.

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But I was like,

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if you're picking up black and brown people

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Yeah. Like

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Well, you know, it's funny,

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during the first term when that hurricane

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hit Puerto Rico, you know, and it they

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were ignored because they don't really not really

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at all. Oh, the amount of people who

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don't realize Puerto Rico Rica or Americans is

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so maddening. Anyway, we're not getting into that.

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So if you're like, how do I help

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the people? How do I help people in

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my own city, in my own town, in

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my own state? Okay.

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Minnesota specifically, if that's like you're drawn there,

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there's a site called standwithminnesota.com.

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It has got a shit ton of resources

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of ways you can donate, give, volunteer, whatever.

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And you can go by your

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subject

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matter area

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of preference. So if you want to help

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with,

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food panthers, if you want to help with

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pets, if you want to help people who

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need, you know, need help paying their rent

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because they can't go to work because they're

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terrified of being picked up off the fucking

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street. Whatever. It's there. It's a massive site.

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There's tons of stuff. It's all specific to

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Minnesota. If you want if you're looking more

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broadly or you're trying to narrow it down

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to your location let me let me scroll

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here y'all. There's a site called welcome.us.

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It is all about being welcoming to immigrants.

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There are all kinds of ways to get

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involved. And then the one that I liked

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because it gave options,

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by state,

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is called

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Win Without War. They're Immigration and Mutual Aid

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Resources.

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This is not comprehensive for every state, but

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if you're like, I don't even know where

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to start, find your state and see what's

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there.

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If that's not enough or you want to

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do something different, I did this for our

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area and came up with some resources so

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I think everybody can do this.

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Google

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mutual

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aid near me or your city name or

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your region name and Google. You have to

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get past all that sponsored crap and the

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AI crap, and then it should start giving

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you some options where you can put your

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time and attention. Okay?

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And those those organizations need all kinds of

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things. If you've got dollars to give, feel

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free to donate. If you've got time to

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give, if it's like a, hey, we're, you

543
00:19:41,315 --> 00:19:44,375
know, taking food donations or your gently used

544
00:19:44,595 --> 00:19:47,075
coke donations or whatever. Whatever you've got where

545
00:19:47,154 --> 00:19:49,075
and that that's your thing and you're like,

546
00:19:49,075 --> 00:19:50,674
this is where I want to focus my

547
00:19:50,674 --> 00:19:51,174
attention,

548
00:19:51,475 --> 00:19:53,654
just pick one thing. And that's the overarching

549
00:19:53,795 --> 00:19:55,690
thing I wanna say because this all gets

550
00:19:55,690 --> 00:19:56,630
very overwhelming.

551
00:19:57,410 --> 00:19:59,430
Because there is so much need,

552
00:19:59,809 --> 00:20:01,910
so many places, for so many reasons.

553
00:20:02,850 --> 00:20:04,150
Pick your one thing

554
00:20:04,769 --> 00:20:07,250
that you're really like like, this is my

555
00:20:07,250 --> 00:20:08,850
thing. This is this is what I'm passionate

556
00:20:08,850 --> 00:20:11,384
about. And then figure out what start with

557
00:20:11,384 --> 00:20:13,065
one thing that you can do, that you

558
00:20:13,065 --> 00:20:15,224
can reasonably do without causing harm to yourself.

559
00:20:15,224 --> 00:20:16,904
K? Mhmm. Now let me back up. I

560
00:20:16,904 --> 00:20:18,045
meant to say this earlier.

561
00:20:18,825 --> 00:20:20,825
I did mean to say this earlier. Here's

562
00:20:20,825 --> 00:20:21,565
my opinion

563
00:20:21,945 --> 00:20:22,605
of this.

564
00:20:22,904 --> 00:20:24,605
When I'm offering these things,

565
00:20:26,390 --> 00:20:28,230
I am talking to people who are probably

566
00:20:28,230 --> 00:20:29,289
a lot like me.

567
00:20:29,750 --> 00:20:31,769
You're cis, you're white, you're straight.

568
00:20:32,470 --> 00:20:32,970
You've

569
00:20:33,430 --> 00:20:36,549
never had to deal with what the system

570
00:20:36,549 --> 00:20:38,125
and the state and the government can do

571
00:20:38,125 --> 00:20:40,045
to you and how they can marginalize you

572
00:20:40,045 --> 00:20:41,585
and make your life a living hell.

573
00:20:43,005 --> 00:20:44,765
That's who I want to make sure I'm

574
00:20:44,765 --> 00:20:46,684
like, here's what you could be doing and

575
00:20:46,684 --> 00:20:47,984
please maybe pick something.

576
00:20:48,365 --> 00:20:49,509
If you are a part of a marginalized

577
00:20:49,509 --> 00:20:49,549
community, I want you to survive and thrive.

578
00:20:49,549 --> 00:20:50,305
If you get involved in

579
00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:56,480
cool, cool, cool. That that's a that's all.

580
00:20:56,480 --> 00:20:58,160
That's a you choice and that's what works

581
00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:00,000
for you. But this white lady's not gonna

582
00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:01,359
fucking tell you that you need to be

583
00:21:01,359 --> 00:21:04,160
doing something. Okay? I want you to survive

584
00:21:04,160 --> 00:21:05,654
and thrive and do what you gotta do

585
00:21:06,134 --> 00:21:07,755
to get through this crazy lot.

586
00:21:08,695 --> 00:21:09,434
So just

587
00:21:09,894 --> 00:21:12,215
just whoever I'm lecturing, I'm lecturing the folks

588
00:21:12,215 --> 00:21:13,815
that look like me and JB. Let's let's

589
00:21:13,815 --> 00:21:16,634
be real. Okay? I am lecturing us.

590
00:21:17,255 --> 00:21:19,434
So let me put that in there. Okay.

591
00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:24,059
Should put that at the top.

592
00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:25,820
Now

593
00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:28,759
that's the whole ICE raids and the the

594
00:21:28,759 --> 00:21:30,380
current thing that is

595
00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:32,859
it's painful to watch.

596
00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:35,684
I shut down over the weekend. I start

597
00:21:35,684 --> 00:21:38,804
crying. I just it was Wow. It just

598
00:21:38,964 --> 00:21:40,884
that's that's how I handled it until we

599
00:21:40,884 --> 00:21:41,865
got to this point.

600
00:21:42,325 --> 00:21:43,865
Okay. So there's

601
00:21:45,204 --> 00:21:47,204
there like I said earlier, pick an issue

602
00:21:47,204 --> 00:21:49,444
you're passionate about and then figure out the

603
00:21:49,444 --> 00:21:51,740
thing that maybe you can do. I'm gonna

604
00:21:51,740 --> 00:21:53,200
go through some things. Okay?

605
00:21:53,820 --> 00:21:55,100
Because I know if you're like me and

606
00:21:55,100 --> 00:21:57,420
you scroll through your social media platform of

607
00:21:57,420 --> 00:21:58,779
choice and you get on that side of

608
00:21:58,779 --> 00:22:01,200
the algorithm, maybe it's like minded individuals,

609
00:22:01,820 --> 00:22:04,299
your politics like that, you're siloed in that

610
00:22:04,299 --> 00:22:05,200
and it's whatever,

611
00:22:05,585 --> 00:22:08,065
they're all kinda yelling and screaming at you.

612
00:22:08,065 --> 00:22:10,244
And I can I find it very overwhelming

613
00:22:10,384 --> 00:22:12,625
at times? Mhmm. So maybe we can break

614
00:22:12,625 --> 00:22:13,365
this down.

615
00:22:13,984 --> 00:22:15,845
If you have extra money

616
00:22:16,545 --> 00:22:17,444
and you're willing,

617
00:22:17,744 --> 00:22:19,940
donate. Y'all, $10

618
00:22:20,240 --> 00:22:21,859
means a lot to these organizations.

619
00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:24,500
If you can set up a recurring thing,

620
00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:26,019
cool. Great.

621
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:30,319
Our the charities we tend to donate to,

622
00:22:30,319 --> 00:22:31,920
we do not donate often. We don't always

623
00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:33,599
have the money to do that. But when

624
00:22:33,599 --> 00:22:35,164
we do, they are

625
00:22:35,945 --> 00:22:37,644
LGBTQ plus rights organizations,

626
00:22:37,945 --> 00:22:40,045
specifically those helping the trans community.

627
00:22:40,585 --> 00:22:41,565
That's our

628
00:22:42,184 --> 00:22:43,865
thing of choice that we're like Yeah. We're

629
00:22:43,865 --> 00:22:45,065
gonna put as much of our time and

630
00:22:45,065 --> 00:22:47,179
attention as we can here. Okay?

631
00:22:47,799 --> 00:22:48,940
So pick your thing,

632
00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:51,579
if you've got the cash. If you don't,

633
00:22:52,039 --> 00:22:55,000
it's okay. Not everybody can do that. The

634
00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:56,919
donation thing I saw over the weekend, people

635
00:22:56,919 --> 00:22:58,440
were like, you can't you don't there's no

636
00:22:58,440 --> 00:22:59,720
protest for you to go out to. You

637
00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:01,394
cannot physically get to a protest.

638
00:23:01,875 --> 00:23:04,115
You don't you if something keeps you from

639
00:23:04,115 --> 00:23:06,434
volunteering, do you have some cash? Because that

640
00:23:06,434 --> 00:23:07,815
will help these organizations

641
00:23:08,674 --> 00:23:10,994
render aid to the people who need them.

642
00:23:10,994 --> 00:23:11,494
Right?

643
00:23:12,674 --> 00:23:13,654
One thing we

644
00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:15,600
do a combination of, and there are different

645
00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:16,340
ways to do

646
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:19,380
this, we sign petitions. We contact our representatives.

647
00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:21,840
We do it through email primarily, but phone

648
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:23,359
calls. The last time JB did a phone

649
00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:25,200
call, he cussed out the senators. I I

650
00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:26,960
I got a little, my blood pressure went

651
00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:28,320
up a little bit. Yeah. I mean, it

652
00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:30,845
was delight ball. It was delight ball. I'm

653
00:23:30,845 --> 00:23:31,505
a traitor.

654
00:23:32,524 --> 00:23:34,684
I think you dropped a couple f bombs.

655
00:23:34,684 --> 00:23:35,424
And yeah.

656
00:23:35,964 --> 00:23:37,565
Jamie might be on a list somewhere, but

657
00:23:37,565 --> 00:23:40,224
that's fine. The cool people are. Okay?

658
00:23:40,684 --> 00:23:41,585
I'm just saying.

659
00:23:42,605 --> 00:23:43,105
Now

660
00:23:43,599 --> 00:23:45,759
for anybody who just completely clinched over the

661
00:23:45,759 --> 00:23:48,000
idea of a phone call, I feel you.

662
00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:49,839
Here's my theory on it because I'm getting

663
00:23:49,839 --> 00:23:50,579
there myself.

664
00:23:51,599 --> 00:23:52,899
If all you can do

665
00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:54,559
that you feel like I can do this

666
00:23:54,559 --> 00:23:56,720
consistently is sign petitions and send emails, there

667
00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:58,705
are organizations you can sign up for and

668
00:23:58,705 --> 00:24:00,865
they'll send you links of, hey, go send

669
00:24:00,865 --> 00:24:03,345
this letter to your senator or your house

670
00:24:03,345 --> 00:24:04,085
rep. Right?

671
00:24:04,865 --> 00:24:06,384
Start there, and if you can work up

672
00:24:06,384 --> 00:24:08,305
the phone calls, cool. Because there's stuff to

673
00:24:08,305 --> 00:24:10,305
help you with that too. Yeah. There, you

674
00:24:10,305 --> 00:24:10,625
know,

675
00:24:11,265 --> 00:24:12,005
I use

676
00:24:12,559 --> 00:24:14,319
ResistBot. Yep. That's one of the ones in

677
00:24:14,319 --> 00:24:16,259
my desk. It is it is a fantastical

678
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:19,279
thing. It when there is a letter that,

679
00:24:19,279 --> 00:24:20,179
you know, you

680
00:24:20,559 --> 00:24:22,799
for a cause, it tells you tells you

681
00:24:22,799 --> 00:24:24,720
what the cause is, lets you read the

682
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:26,660
letter, so you don't even have to write

683
00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:29,785
anything. Mhmm. I, you know, I I want

684
00:24:29,785 --> 00:24:30,924
to send these letters.

685
00:24:31,545 --> 00:24:33,144
I know I'm not gonna sit down and

686
00:24:33,144 --> 00:24:35,225
write them. Right. The ones you have sent,

687
00:24:35,225 --> 00:24:36,825
I just edited for you. That's true. You

688
00:24:36,825 --> 00:24:38,525
you edited You did letters to the editor.

689
00:24:38,585 --> 00:24:40,690
Yeah. That's another option you can use for

690
00:24:40,690 --> 00:24:41,650
your local area. And,

691
00:24:42,609 --> 00:24:44,450
they are they are great. All you have

692
00:24:44,450 --> 00:24:46,609
to do, you know, you read through the

693
00:24:46,609 --> 00:24:47,830
letter on your text,

694
00:24:48,769 --> 00:24:50,869
and then you hit you have your choice

695
00:24:50,930 --> 00:24:51,430
of,

696
00:24:52,930 --> 00:24:53,430
phone,

697
00:24:54,965 --> 00:24:57,205
fax, or email. The free one is email.

698
00:24:57,205 --> 00:24:59,125
Free free email is free. You don't pay

699
00:24:59,125 --> 00:25:00,664
for, like, coins or

700
00:25:01,684 --> 00:25:03,765
or credits, you can do other things, but

701
00:25:03,765 --> 00:25:05,445
free is email. And I've always used the

702
00:25:05,445 --> 00:25:08,240
free option. Yeah. And that's what I've used

703
00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:11,039
and and it's a fantastic thing. Mhmm. For

704
00:25:11,039 --> 00:25:12,400
phone calls, I saw it in the live

705
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:14,319
chat and I used to have this question

706
00:25:14,319 --> 00:25:14,819
too.

707
00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:16,420
You can go to,

708
00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:20,480
there are websites for the Senate and the

709
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:21,940
House of Representatives, but

710
00:25:23,335 --> 00:25:26,315
five calls. The number five, the word calls,

711
00:25:26,454 --> 00:25:28,134
it's both a website and an app. So

712
00:25:28,134 --> 00:25:29,095
if you want to do everything on your

713
00:25:29,095 --> 00:25:30,454
phone, you can. If you want to use

714
00:25:30,454 --> 00:25:32,394
desktop, whatever, you can.

715
00:25:32,934 --> 00:25:34,694
You put in your information of where you're

716
00:25:34,694 --> 00:25:35,194
located

717
00:25:35,559 --> 00:25:37,740
and they then tell you who your representatives

718
00:25:38,039 --> 00:25:40,279
and your senators are. They give you the

719
00:25:40,279 --> 00:25:42,460
phone numbers and they provide scripts.

720
00:25:42,839 --> 00:25:44,119
So if you're like I can do a

721
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:45,559
phone call, but what the fuck do I

722
00:25:45,559 --> 00:25:47,820
say and who do I call? You don't

723
00:25:48,279 --> 00:25:49,660
they will help you with that.

724
00:25:51,035 --> 00:25:53,194
What I have learned, even though I've I

725
00:25:53,194 --> 00:25:54,794
I haven't gotten I haven't worked up the

726
00:25:54,794 --> 00:25:56,474
phone calls yet. I admit that I'm not

727
00:25:56,474 --> 00:25:59,275
doing the perfect thing. Phone calls are gold

728
00:25:59,275 --> 00:26:01,595
standard because they count they have to count

729
00:26:01,595 --> 00:26:03,434
every phone call that comes in, and you

730
00:26:03,434 --> 00:26:05,600
can, like, flood the system and, like, fill

731
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:07,759
their voicemails up. Now, I will But And

732
00:26:07,759 --> 00:26:10,640
that's Everything matters. Yeah. Emails, letters, all of

733
00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:12,559
it. Now, I will say this, and and

734
00:26:12,559 --> 00:26:13,779
this is something that,

735
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:16,400
kind of struck me as gold a little

736
00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:17,460
bit in

737
00:26:17,984 --> 00:26:18,224
in,

738
00:26:18,944 --> 00:26:20,404
reference to the phone calls.

739
00:26:22,065 --> 00:26:23,625
There are some people who do not like

740
00:26:23,625 --> 00:26:25,025
to make the phone calls, that do, you

741
00:26:25,025 --> 00:26:26,244
know, do not want to talk,

742
00:26:27,184 --> 00:26:29,525
call on the weekends. You're gonna get voicemail.

743
00:26:29,585 --> 00:26:31,359
You're gonna get voicemail. Just leave it on

744
00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:33,359
voice mail, and they still should do what?

745
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:35,039
I hadn't thought about that. I could leave

746
00:26:35,039 --> 00:26:36,399
a voice mail. I pray for voice mail

747
00:26:36,399 --> 00:26:38,019
every time I have to make a call.

748
00:26:38,079 --> 00:26:39,440
I could do So, yeah, if you call

749
00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:41,039
at nights or on the weekends, you're gonna

750
00:26:41,039 --> 00:26:42,559
get voice mail and leave as long as

751
00:26:42,559 --> 00:26:44,159
the the voice mail is not If the

752
00:26:44,159 --> 00:26:46,394
box is full, then you can. But if

753
00:26:46,394 --> 00:26:49,134
the box is full now I'm gonna tell

754
00:26:49,355 --> 00:26:50,494
tell my my fellow,

755
00:26:52,714 --> 00:26:55,914
red state folks who have only conservatives representing

756
00:26:55,914 --> 00:26:58,234
you. It if you feel like we do

757
00:26:58,234 --> 00:26:58,437
politically, it can feel like it doesn't matter.

758
00:26:58,437 --> 00:26:58,639
They're not gonna change their mind. Right? Right?

759
00:26:58,639 --> 00:26:59,454
That is true. But here,

760
00:27:09,950 --> 00:27:11,490
closer they get to an election

761
00:27:11,789 --> 00:27:13,305
as more people yell at them.

762
00:27:14,105 --> 00:27:16,505
So you might not change their mind. But

763
00:27:16,505 --> 00:27:17,005
maybe

764
00:27:17,384 --> 00:27:18,605
you can make them worry

765
00:27:19,065 --> 00:27:20,904
about how that election's gonna turn out for

766
00:27:20,904 --> 00:27:23,144
them. Just saying. Just saying. With the resist

767
00:27:23,144 --> 00:27:25,545
with the resist bot that I like I

768
00:27:26,519 --> 00:27:28,539
with all the cock a going on,

769
00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:31,900
I almost send a a letter a day.

770
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:33,880
Really? I didn't realize you were no wonder

771
00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:35,080
you're on your phone so damn much. Yeah.

772
00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:37,160
I didn't realize. I did not respond to

773
00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:39,240
a couple too many resist bot things. I've

774
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:39,900
been doing,

775
00:27:40,214 --> 00:27:42,214
online through emails that are coming through. Yeah.

776
00:27:42,214 --> 00:27:42,694
And,

777
00:27:43,414 --> 00:27:45,815
they stopped messaging me. So I should probably

778
00:27:45,815 --> 00:27:47,575
go back in and be like, hi. I'm

779
00:27:47,575 --> 00:27:49,575
here. What's the issue? What's the issue of

780
00:27:49,575 --> 00:27:50,234
the dump?

781
00:27:51,174 --> 00:27:53,029
Another thing you can do, we do this,

782
00:27:53,269 --> 00:27:55,589
we do it either through social media and

783
00:27:55,589 --> 00:27:56,490
or email.

784
00:27:57,429 --> 00:27:58,410
We follow organizations

785
00:27:58,869 --> 00:28:00,970
that we believe are doing good work. So

786
00:28:01,029 --> 00:28:02,410
for us, that's ACLU,

787
00:28:03,349 --> 00:28:03,849
Indivisible,

788
00:28:04,710 --> 00:28:07,190
Equality Florida. Equality Florida is near and dear

789
00:28:07,190 --> 00:28:08,765
to our heart. We'll get to that.

790
00:28:09,224 --> 00:28:11,705
Okay? They often send out emails or have

791
00:28:11,705 --> 00:28:13,625
sections on their websites of, like, here's the

792
00:28:13,625 --> 00:28:15,565
issue that we're trying to push back on.

793
00:28:15,705 --> 00:28:17,705
The current one as of recording is to

794
00:28:17,705 --> 00:28:20,125
get the Senate to pull out the DHS

795
00:28:20,859 --> 00:28:23,819
appropriations bill from the bundle of bills, pass

796
00:28:23,819 --> 00:28:26,700
the other bundle of bills Yeah. And deal

797
00:28:26,700 --> 00:28:28,779
with DHS. That's a big issue to try

798
00:28:28,779 --> 00:28:29,599
and get concessions.

799
00:28:30,859 --> 00:28:32,400
You can we cannot defund

800
00:28:33,099 --> 00:28:36,194
DHS with this appropriations bill. They got funding.

801
00:28:36,274 --> 00:28:38,835
For days they got funding. But this thing

802
00:28:38,835 --> 00:28:40,755
could make it so that maybe they don't

803
00:28:40,755 --> 00:28:43,954
wear fucking masks in the goddamn street. Just

804
00:28:43,954 --> 00:28:45,894
sayin'. Just sayin'. Anyway,

805
00:28:46,755 --> 00:28:49,714
so when you find an organization of choice

806
00:28:49,714 --> 00:28:50,194
that's your

807
00:28:50,899 --> 00:28:53,139
that hits the thing you care about and

808
00:28:53,139 --> 00:28:54,519
you want to help with,

809
00:28:54,899 --> 00:28:57,139
get on their email newsletter, follow them on

810
00:28:57,139 --> 00:28:57,639
social.

811
00:28:58,259 --> 00:29:00,519
We were sitting at lunch today and Equality

812
00:29:00,579 --> 00:29:03,079
Florida had a post about some Florida legislation

813
00:29:03,315 --> 00:29:05,794
that's some bullshit legislation. And they're like, link

814
00:29:05,794 --> 00:29:07,875
in bio. And I'm going, Jimmy, link in

815
00:29:07,875 --> 00:29:10,274
bio, and right in Instagram. I'm sending a

816
00:29:10,274 --> 00:29:11,575
letter to my senators.

817
00:29:11,954 --> 00:29:12,855
Yeah. So,

818
00:29:13,554 --> 00:29:15,474
that's a way to do it that you're

819
00:29:15,474 --> 00:29:16,534
already on your phone.

820
00:29:17,089 --> 00:29:19,650
You're Right. You're doing something. Something is better

821
00:29:19,650 --> 00:29:21,269
than nothing if you have the

822
00:29:22,049 --> 00:29:23,910
the wherewithal. Right? So

823
00:29:24,289 --> 00:29:26,049
and again, you don't have to do all

824
00:29:26,049 --> 00:29:27,490
the things we're talking about. Any one of

825
00:29:27,490 --> 00:29:29,115
them that's like, oh,

826
00:29:29,515 --> 00:29:31,515
that, oh, I mean that. Just like Let

827
00:29:31,515 --> 00:29:32,634
me stick with that. You know, just like

828
00:29:32,634 --> 00:29:34,474
Kayla said, there there are times I need

829
00:29:34,474 --> 00:29:36,154
to step back from it all because it

830
00:29:36,154 --> 00:29:38,795
does become over overwhelming. His blood pressure gets

831
00:29:38,795 --> 00:29:41,515
so high. Yeah. And and not just my

832
00:29:41,515 --> 00:29:43,829
blood pressure, but it it, you know, it

833
00:29:43,829 --> 00:29:45,049
affects my depression.

834
00:29:46,549 --> 00:29:48,230
It's hearing a lot of this stuff. You

835
00:29:48,230 --> 00:29:50,869
know? What's going on? And and I do.

836
00:29:50,869 --> 00:29:52,230
I there are times I just need to

837
00:29:52,230 --> 00:29:54,470
step back. I don't look at any news.

838
00:29:54,470 --> 00:29:56,009
I don't look at social media.

839
00:29:57,525 --> 00:29:59,924
TV doesn't go on unless I'm watching something

840
00:29:59,924 --> 00:30:01,384
like Walking Dead, but

841
00:30:02,565 --> 00:30:03,224
you know,

842
00:30:03,845 --> 00:30:06,005
We gotta finish watching Percy Jackson. We gotta

843
00:30:06,005 --> 00:30:06,904
do that too.

844
00:30:07,205 --> 00:30:08,184
You know, so,

845
00:30:09,684 --> 00:30:12,679
you know, you do what you can comfortably

846
00:30:13,539 --> 00:30:16,179
do. Right. You know, without harming yourself. Right.

847
00:30:16,179 --> 00:30:18,259
And that there's a fine line because Yeah.

848
00:30:18,339 --> 00:30:18,839
Again,

849
00:30:19,299 --> 00:30:21,700
if I'm talking to the cis straight white

850
00:30:21,700 --> 00:30:22,919
ladies of the world,

851
00:30:25,315 --> 00:30:27,315
we we can be very comfortable very easily

852
00:30:27,315 --> 00:30:31,075
because many things don't impact us. And so

853
00:30:31,075 --> 00:30:32,755
you do have to get comfortable with being

854
00:30:32,755 --> 00:30:33,975
uncomfortable. Yeah.

855
00:30:34,355 --> 00:30:35,875
But I do think start with where you're

856
00:30:35,875 --> 00:30:37,555
at. If all you can if all you

857
00:30:37,555 --> 00:30:39,174
feel like you're able to do

858
00:30:39,475 --> 00:30:42,289
is to sign petitions or to send emails

859
00:30:42,509 --> 00:30:44,429
to your senator, to your House rep, to

860
00:30:44,429 --> 00:30:44,929
whoever,

861
00:30:45,549 --> 00:30:48,269
start there. Because, man, it it feels kind

862
00:30:48,269 --> 00:30:50,109
of good. You know? I mean do it

863
00:30:50,109 --> 00:30:51,869
enough and then after a while it becomes

864
00:30:51,869 --> 00:30:54,035
easier to do something else to add on.

865
00:30:54,035 --> 00:30:55,315
You know how we talk about with kink,

866
00:30:55,315 --> 00:30:57,555
please start slow, start with one small thing

867
00:30:57,555 --> 00:30:58,454
and build up?

868
00:30:59,234 --> 00:31:00,835
This is kind of the same thing. If

869
00:31:00,835 --> 00:31:02,595
you try to do all the things all

870
00:31:02,595 --> 00:31:04,515
the time all at once, you'll burn yourself

871
00:31:04,515 --> 00:31:05,730
out and you'll be a wreck. I mean,

872
00:31:05,730 --> 00:31:07,250
no. That's not helpful. You know? One one

873
00:31:07,250 --> 00:31:09,349
thing I did right off the bat,

874
00:31:11,410 --> 00:31:13,670
I decided I'm no longer buying from Amazon.

875
00:31:13,809 --> 00:31:15,890
Yeah. We haven't spent on Amazon since the

876
00:31:15,890 --> 00:31:18,710
inauguration. Yeah. Yeah. And it it since saw

877
00:31:19,424 --> 00:31:20,465
that person up on the,

878
00:31:21,904 --> 00:31:22,485
you know,

879
00:31:23,184 --> 00:31:23,924
I stopped.

880
00:31:24,705 --> 00:31:25,605
Was it hard?

881
00:31:26,225 --> 00:31:28,225
A little bit. We actually use Amazon as

882
00:31:28,225 --> 00:31:29,904
a search engine. Yeah. We need a product,

883
00:31:29,904 --> 00:31:31,424
we wanna see what brands make. And that's

884
00:31:31,424 --> 00:31:33,045
now what it's come down to.

885
00:31:34,019 --> 00:31:36,340
You know, importantly, you search for some something

886
00:31:36,340 --> 00:31:37,000
to buy

887
00:31:37,299 --> 00:31:39,700
online, Amazon's gonna be right there at the

888
00:31:39,700 --> 00:31:40,680
top. Right.

889
00:31:43,220 --> 00:31:45,220
And I use it. I I go to

890
00:31:45,220 --> 00:31:47,059
Amazon. I find what I'm looking for, then

891
00:31:47,059 --> 00:31:49,000
I go and search out the the company.

892
00:31:49,335 --> 00:31:51,994
Yep. And often they are on another platform.

893
00:31:52,054 --> 00:31:54,375
Right. They are on another platform or you

894
00:31:54,375 --> 00:31:55,194
can buy directly.

895
00:31:55,654 --> 00:31:57,335
And And let me do a disclaimer. We

896
00:31:57,335 --> 00:31:59,755
do spend with Amazon for Kindle Unlimited. True.

897
00:31:59,894 --> 00:32:02,214
But it's $12 a month, and I read

898
00:32:02,214 --> 00:32:04,294
an average of 30 to 40 books a

899
00:32:04,294 --> 00:32:07,230
month. I believe they're losing money on me.

900
00:32:07,230 --> 00:32:09,889
And I am supporting indie authors. So

901
00:32:10,349 --> 00:32:13,789
that is our one concession. But buying like,

902
00:32:13,789 --> 00:32:15,549
being on Amazon Prime, we stopped out a

903
00:32:15,549 --> 00:32:17,710
year two years ago. That was a a

904
00:32:17,710 --> 00:32:19,309
money thing. That was just a broke bitch

905
00:32:19,309 --> 00:32:22,134
thing. The buying from Amazon, we went, this

906
00:32:22,134 --> 00:32:23,095
is a choice we can make. And then

907
00:32:23,095 --> 00:32:24,775
let me remind you, we're not saying everybody

908
00:32:24,775 --> 00:32:25,974
else needs to go out and do that.

909
00:32:25,974 --> 00:32:28,055
Like, everybody has access to different things. We'd

910
00:32:28,055 --> 00:32:30,055
love to boycott all of the companies we

911
00:32:30,055 --> 00:32:32,214
disagree with. Mhmm. We would not be able

912
00:32:32,214 --> 00:32:34,154
to buy groceries. Things. Yeah.

913
00:32:35,095 --> 00:32:35,494
We just

914
00:32:36,359 --> 00:32:38,679
so we make we pick and choose when

915
00:32:38,679 --> 00:32:40,839
it can I think both companies do this,

916
00:32:40,839 --> 00:32:42,359
but the one that I know for a

917
00:32:42,359 --> 00:32:44,279
fact when it came out that Home Depot

918
00:32:44,279 --> 00:32:46,200
was working with ICE to pick up people

919
00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:47,559
who are in their parking lot trying to,

920
00:32:47,559 --> 00:32:49,179
like, get some fucking work,

921
00:32:49,484 --> 00:32:51,164
We have them in the Home Depot sense?

922
00:32:51,164 --> 00:32:53,005
Right? Like, those are choices we make, and

923
00:32:53,005 --> 00:32:54,224
only you can know

924
00:32:55,005 --> 00:32:57,325
what's right for your situation and your family,

925
00:32:57,325 --> 00:32:59,724
but the not spending money, like And and

926
00:32:59,804 --> 00:33:01,825
that's a not doing a thing Yeah.

927
00:33:02,210 --> 00:33:03,730
Instead of doing a thing. And we have

928
00:33:03,890 --> 00:33:06,369
we live in an area that as, we

929
00:33:06,369 --> 00:33:09,029
have, the option of still local,

930
00:33:09,730 --> 00:33:11,890
hardware stores. Yeah. We do. We do. Yeah.

931
00:33:11,890 --> 00:33:13,170
You've been going to a lot of local

932
00:33:13,170 --> 00:33:14,930
places. Yeah. Been been doing a lot of

933
00:33:14,930 --> 00:33:17,865
stuff with, local businesses. Yes. Yes. And,

934
00:33:18,744 --> 00:33:20,664
look, let us get our bias out right

935
00:33:20,664 --> 00:33:22,285
here. Thecancery.com.

936
00:33:22,585 --> 00:33:25,805
When you can, shop small business. Right? Like,

937
00:33:26,424 --> 00:33:27,404
just in general.

938
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:30,360
It doesn't have to do with us. I'm

939
00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:33,160
just saying. If you can, that's that's also

940
00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:35,100
helpful. And it's a thing you're doing

941
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:38,119
that maybe doesn't feel so hard. And I

942
00:33:38,119 --> 00:33:39,400
think that's the thing. A lot of people

943
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:40,840
get very in their head about all the

944
00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:43,400
really hard things there are to do. There

945
00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:43,900
are

946
00:33:44,684 --> 00:33:45,184
slower,

947
00:33:45,565 --> 00:33:48,944
smaller, quieter things that make a difference. Okay?

948
00:33:49,964 --> 00:33:51,804
Because it's not one person has to do

949
00:33:51,804 --> 00:33:54,845
everything to fix everything. It's everybody who can

950
00:33:54,845 --> 00:33:57,085
does one small thing and you've made a

951
00:33:57,085 --> 00:33:58,304
slightly better world.

952
00:33:59,419 --> 00:33:59,919
So,

953
00:34:01,819 --> 00:34:03,440
there is the stay informed.

954
00:34:04,220 --> 00:34:05,519
Like, you piggyback.

955
00:34:05,900 --> 00:34:07,740
You piggyback before I got there so good

956
00:34:07,740 --> 00:34:08,960
on you. -Yeah. -Um,

957
00:34:09,500 --> 00:34:11,420
we believe in social media breaks. I do

958
00:34:11,420 --> 00:34:11,579
not

959
00:34:12,300 --> 00:34:13,760
I personally cannot

960
00:34:14,744 --> 00:34:15,644
in good conscience,

961
00:34:16,505 --> 00:34:18,824
pay attention to nothing and stay ignorant about

962
00:34:18,824 --> 00:34:19,404
it all.

963
00:34:19,944 --> 00:34:22,284
It doesn't it doesn't feel right to me.

964
00:34:22,505 --> 00:34:23,565
But I do

965
00:34:24,184 --> 00:34:26,204
have to know my own limits

966
00:34:26,585 --> 00:34:29,065
and go, wait. I literally can't concentrate and

967
00:34:29,065 --> 00:34:31,280
do the work that keeps our mortgage paid.

968
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:33,440
I probably need to put like not go

969
00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:35,619
into Instagram for a little bit.

970
00:34:37,039 --> 00:34:39,280
But when you're staying informed, there is a

971
00:34:39,280 --> 00:34:42,000
lot of bias. Yeah. Things are being labeled

972
00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:44,079
fake media that aren't necessary or fake news

973
00:34:44,079 --> 00:34:46,215
that aren't. Some things that should be labeled

974
00:34:46,215 --> 00:34:48,474
fake news are not being labeled that.

975
00:34:49,494 --> 00:34:51,655
There are books out there you can read.

976
00:34:51,655 --> 00:34:53,655
I just today I didn't have time to,

977
00:34:53,655 --> 00:34:55,335
like, look through all the lists and link

978
00:34:55,335 --> 00:34:56,055
things here

979
00:34:58,215 --> 00:34:58,954
found several

980
00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:01,039
posts by creators who were like, here are

981
00:35:01,039 --> 00:35:02,960
some books so you can learn about these

982
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:04,640
things if what you want to be is

983
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:05,539
more well informed.

984
00:35:06,079 --> 00:35:08,559
Your news source, my current preferred news source,

985
00:35:08,559 --> 00:35:09,940
is Associated Press.

986
00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:11,460
For two reasons,

987
00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:14,348
they are usually where some of the stories

988
00:35:14,348 --> 00:35:16,314
and even your local paper come from. An

989
00:35:16,314 --> 00:35:18,526
Associated Press writer probably journalist probably read it.

990
00:35:18,526 --> 00:35:20,737
And two, they're on their app I can

991
00:35:20,737 --> 00:35:22,704
read every news story they publish and they

992
00:35:22,704 --> 00:35:24,670
don't put they don't put it behind a

993
00:35:24,670 --> 00:35:26,636
paywall. I do not have to pay to

994
00:35:26,636 --> 00:35:28,602
access the news from the Associated Press. Yeah,

995
00:35:28,602 --> 00:35:30,539
I know. So that is an option.

996
00:35:32,059 --> 00:35:33,500
Where was I? I gotta find it on

997
00:35:33,500 --> 00:35:34,320
my list. Oh,

998
00:35:34,700 --> 00:35:35,200
okay.

999
00:35:35,980 --> 00:35:36,480
Organizations

1000
00:35:36,780 --> 00:35:39,180
you support, follow follow them on social media,

1001
00:35:39,180 --> 00:35:40,960
your preferred platform if you can,

1002
00:35:41,420 --> 00:35:43,660
if if they're active there, if that's even

1003
00:35:43,660 --> 00:35:44,160
helpful.

1004
00:35:44,875 --> 00:35:46,235
And then I have a we have a

1005
00:35:46,235 --> 00:35:49,195
handful of creators, content creators That we follow.

1006
00:35:49,434 --> 00:35:51,675
That we follow because we feel like we're

1007
00:35:51,675 --> 00:35:52,494
being informed

1008
00:35:53,275 --> 00:35:56,155
without being terrified Yeah. Without the hype and

1009
00:35:56,155 --> 00:35:57,835
and yelled at Mhmm.

1010
00:35:58,315 --> 00:36:00,849
Or being sold to in some way. Yeah.

1011
00:36:01,170 --> 00:36:02,070
I have linked

1012
00:36:02,530 --> 00:36:03,269
to everybody's

1013
00:36:03,570 --> 00:36:05,570
Instagram on these people we're gonna talk about,

1014
00:36:05,570 --> 00:36:07,349
but they they are on other platforms.

1015
00:36:08,050 --> 00:36:09,329
Two, I know for a fact are on

1016
00:36:09,329 --> 00:36:11,010
YouTube. So if you're watching us on YouTube,

1017
00:36:11,010 --> 00:36:12,530
you can just find them in the same

1018
00:36:12,530 --> 00:36:15,214
app that you're watching us on. My absolute

1019
00:36:15,275 --> 00:36:17,855
favorite I've talked about her before. It's her

1020
00:36:17,914 --> 00:36:21,454
name is Amanda Nelson. Her handle is amandas

1021
00:36:22,074 --> 00:36:22,574
mild

1022
00:36:22,954 --> 00:36:25,454
takes. Mhmm. All one word, no spaces.

1023
00:36:26,074 --> 00:36:28,320
She gives she'll tell you about, like, what's

1024
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:30,239
happening in the Senate and the House and

1025
00:36:30,239 --> 00:36:33,599
politics, but she also gives historical context. Yeah.

1026
00:36:33,599 --> 00:36:35,440
She was the one that gave me the

1027
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:38,739
reality check that the shit we're seeing

1028
00:36:39,199 --> 00:36:39,699
now

1029
00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:43,184
is not new in America. Yeah. We have

1030
00:36:43,184 --> 00:36:44,404
been this way

1031
00:36:44,704 --> 00:36:47,344
for a very long time, and that was

1032
00:36:47,344 --> 00:36:47,844
great.

1033
00:36:48,545 --> 00:36:50,484
It was eye opening, it was also grounding,

1034
00:36:50,784 --> 00:36:53,264
because there for me, thinking this was a

1035
00:36:53,264 --> 00:36:55,079
brand new evil, how what do we do

1036
00:36:55,079 --> 00:36:56,279
about it? We don't know what to do.

1037
00:36:56,279 --> 00:36:58,299
Blah blah blah. That was overwhelming.

1038
00:36:58,759 --> 00:37:01,179
But going, wait. We've been dealing with these

1039
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:03,739
people this whole time, and we've been

1040
00:37:04,599 --> 00:37:06,714
pushing them back, and we've been fighting and

1041
00:37:06,714 --> 00:37:09,914
and sometimes winning and, like, working very slowly,

1042
00:37:09,914 --> 00:37:12,094
not fast enough for a better world.

1043
00:37:12,554 --> 00:37:13,054
Okay.

1044
00:37:13,514 --> 00:37:15,514
I can breathe again. I don't like it.

1045
00:37:15,514 --> 00:37:17,275
I'm mad about it, but I can breathe

1046
00:37:17,275 --> 00:37:19,434
again. And the other thing I like about

1047
00:37:19,434 --> 00:37:22,079
Amanda is she's snarky as fucking shit. Oh

1048
00:37:22,079 --> 00:37:22,579
yeah.

1049
00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:23,700
Oh yeah.

1050
00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:26,420
She has no time for fools

1051
00:37:26,960 --> 00:37:28,960
and, oh, make she's one of the few

1052
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:30,240
people who can make a pun. And I'm

1053
00:37:30,240 --> 00:37:31,760
like, no, that's actually a good one because

1054
00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:33,059
it's snarky as shit.

1055
00:37:34,005 --> 00:37:36,804
So Amanda's small takes. When JB gets really

1056
00:37:36,804 --> 00:37:38,724
riled up in the news he's seeing because

1057
00:37:38,724 --> 00:37:39,224
our

1058
00:37:39,525 --> 00:37:41,525
our algorithms sync up a little bit, but

1059
00:37:41,525 --> 00:37:42,264
there's differences.

1060
00:37:42,644 --> 00:37:44,724
I'm like, go watch what Amanda posted today.

1061
00:37:44,724 --> 00:37:47,125
You'll feel better. Yeah. Yeah. And it helps.

1062
00:37:47,125 --> 00:37:49,510
It does. Another creator I like, his name

1063
00:37:49,510 --> 00:37:51,429
is Jay Bowie. He is a New York

1064
00:37:51,429 --> 00:37:52,329
Times columnist.

1065
00:37:52,789 --> 00:37:54,170
He has a YouTube channel.

1066
00:37:54,789 --> 00:37:56,630
I've seen him on Instagram. He's probably on

1067
00:37:56,630 --> 00:37:59,684
TikTok because most people are. He gives good

1068
00:38:00,164 --> 00:38:00,664
calm,

1069
00:38:01,925 --> 00:38:03,144
well thought out

1070
00:38:04,324 --> 00:38:06,664
analysis on what the fuck's going on.

1071
00:38:07,445 --> 00:38:09,125
And he's like a sweet guy to, like,

1072
00:38:09,125 --> 00:38:10,724
listen. I I he just seems like a

1073
00:38:10,724 --> 00:38:13,045
nice guy. A parasocial relationship there. I'm like,

1074
00:38:13,045 --> 00:38:14,105
aw, you seem nice.

1075
00:38:14,989 --> 00:38:16,289
But when I listen to

1076
00:38:16,750 --> 00:38:19,949
him, the the topic might be maddening and

1077
00:38:19,949 --> 00:38:21,949
raise my blood pressure, but the information makes

1078
00:38:21,949 --> 00:38:23,549
me feel like I walked away going, oh,

1079
00:38:23,549 --> 00:38:25,230
I have a better understanding of that. I

1080
00:38:25,230 --> 00:38:26,289
have more context.

1081
00:38:27,630 --> 00:38:28,130
I'm

1082
00:38:28,454 --> 00:38:30,295
looking at this maybe from a different angle

1083
00:38:30,295 --> 00:38:31,914
than it was presented in another

1084
00:38:32,454 --> 00:38:35,515
post or another news story. Mhmm. Jay Bowie,

1085
00:38:35,815 --> 00:38:37,355
b o u I e.

1086
00:38:38,454 --> 00:38:40,454
A new one for me, but I like

1087
00:38:40,454 --> 00:38:41,355
her so far.

1088
00:38:41,735 --> 00:38:42,750
She's called goes by

1089
00:38:43,789 --> 00:38:44,769
Kate underscore ForThePeople.

1090
00:38:45,710 --> 00:38:46,449
I watched

1091
00:38:47,070 --> 00:38:48,989
a reel with her just yesterday or day

1092
00:38:48,989 --> 00:38:50,829
before and she said I'm an independent. I'm

1093
00:38:50,829 --> 00:38:52,909
not Republican or Democrat. I I fight for

1094
00:38:52,909 --> 00:38:54,750
the legislation. I fight against the legislation I

1095
00:38:54,750 --> 00:38:56,030
don't like. I fight for what I do

1096
00:38:56,030 --> 00:38:58,289
like. Her whole thing is she'll do videos

1097
00:38:58,864 --> 00:39:01,664
showing how she calls senators and reps and

1098
00:39:01,664 --> 00:39:03,204
what she says to them,

1099
00:39:04,144 --> 00:39:06,224
to kind of demystify it, maybe make it

1100
00:39:06,224 --> 00:39:07,844
seem a little easier for folks

1101
00:39:08,144 --> 00:39:10,224
to to try on their own. She also

1102
00:39:10,224 --> 00:39:12,625
breaks down legislation. She'll also talk about where

1103
00:39:12,625 --> 00:39:14,590
things are in the House or the Senate

1104
00:39:14,969 --> 00:39:17,469
and the process part, and I've really enjoyed

1105
00:39:18,010 --> 00:39:19,610
that. The last one on the list is,

1106
00:39:19,849 --> 00:39:20,590
your recommendation,

1107
00:39:21,530 --> 00:39:24,090
Jess Craven one zero one. Craven with a

1108
00:39:24,090 --> 00:39:25,949
c. Two s's in Jess.

1109
00:39:27,035 --> 00:39:28,414
What do you want to say about Jess?

1110
00:39:29,195 --> 00:39:30,715
You know, she does a she does a

1111
00:39:30,715 --> 00:39:31,855
lot of things. She,

1112
00:39:32,555 --> 00:39:34,335
has a way of bringing stuff

1113
00:39:34,635 --> 00:39:35,375
to your attention,

1114
00:39:35,755 --> 00:39:38,075
and there are times she comes up with

1115
00:39:38,075 --> 00:39:40,175
different action things that you can do.

1116
00:39:41,859 --> 00:39:43,960
One of the things I like about her,

1117
00:39:44,420 --> 00:39:46,339
about once a week she does a like

1118
00:39:46,339 --> 00:39:46,920
a compilation

1119
00:39:47,219 --> 00:39:48,440
reel of

1120
00:39:49,380 --> 00:39:51,320
different news good news,

1121
00:39:51,780 --> 00:39:53,460
you know. Yeah. I've seen some of those

1122
00:39:53,460 --> 00:39:55,864
videos. Mhmm. You know, she she works with

1123
00:39:55,864 --> 00:39:57,405
a lot of different content creators

1124
00:39:57,784 --> 00:39:59,965
to, bring a lot of that stuff in.

1125
00:40:00,505 --> 00:40:01,005
Mhmm.

1126
00:40:01,304 --> 00:40:03,465
In the live chat, things are mentioned that

1127
00:40:03,465 --> 00:40:04,684
definitely are worth a mention.

1128
00:40:05,144 --> 00:40:05,644
PBS,

1129
00:40:06,819 --> 00:40:09,239
local news stations, local radio, NPR.

1130
00:40:09,539 --> 00:40:10,039
-Yeah.

1131
00:40:10,819 --> 00:40:13,219
-Um, PBS for sure. If you still have

1132
00:40:13,219 --> 00:40:14,679
PBS in your area

1133
00:40:15,139 --> 00:40:16,199
and you want

1134
00:40:16,500 --> 00:40:18,119
a cause to donate to,

1135
00:40:19,094 --> 00:40:21,494
Help PBS out. Yeah. How many of us

1136
00:40:21,494 --> 00:40:23,494
grew up on watching all of the,

1137
00:40:24,295 --> 00:40:24,795
fundraisers?

1138
00:40:25,255 --> 00:40:27,175
Man, I always wished my mama would spend

1139
00:40:27,175 --> 00:40:28,775
some money because I really wanted that t

1140
00:40:28,775 --> 00:40:31,494
shirt mug tote bag set. Seeing seeing them

1141
00:40:31,494 --> 00:40:33,494
all up there in phone banks, you know?

1142
00:40:33,494 --> 00:40:34,840
Oh, my god. Yeah. Well,

1143
00:40:35,219 --> 00:40:35,719
PBS,

1144
00:40:37,860 --> 00:40:40,659
the corporate of public broad Corporation for Public

1145
00:40:40,659 --> 00:40:42,820
Broadcasting had to shut down. They lost so

1146
00:40:42,820 --> 00:40:44,659
much funding, if I'm understanding that correctly, if

1147
00:40:44,659 --> 00:40:46,599
I'm remembering that correctly. And PBS

1148
00:40:46,980 --> 00:40:48,659
lost a shit ton of funding from the

1149
00:40:48,659 --> 00:40:51,025
federal government. Yeah. There's a lot that's lost

1150
00:40:51,025 --> 00:40:52,945
a shit ton of funding and that could

1151
00:40:52,945 --> 00:40:55,025
be an entire fucking episode. I'm not an

1152
00:40:55,025 --> 00:40:57,344
expert. We don't have time. But if you're

1153
00:40:57,344 --> 00:40:58,405
looking for a place

1154
00:40:59,025 --> 00:40:59,525
to

1155
00:41:00,304 --> 00:41:02,085
spend time, money, effort, whatever,

1156
00:41:02,704 --> 00:41:04,099
PBS, Local PBS.

1157
00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:05,220
For when

1158
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:07,920
when the news was felt like it was

1159
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:10,160
peak craziness right after the inauguration last year,

1160
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:11,680
we were like, we want to stay informed,

1161
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:13,760
but I cannot watch these people yell on

1162
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:16,695
CNN or MSNBC or I I cannot do

1163
00:41:16,695 --> 00:41:18,315
this. So we started watching PBS

1164
00:41:18,775 --> 00:41:19,275
NewsHour

1165
00:41:20,135 --> 00:41:20,954
on YouTube.

1166
00:41:21,575 --> 00:41:23,175
Like we didn't even pull up the channel.

1167
00:41:23,175 --> 00:41:25,414
We just watched it on YouTube. And it

1168
00:41:25,414 --> 00:41:26,155
was so

1169
00:41:26,855 --> 00:41:28,960
I've been around like I don't watch cable

1170
00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:30,400
news very often now. I used to. I

1171
00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:32,420
used to watch too much of it. And,

1172
00:41:32,960 --> 00:41:34,559
when it kind of first started becoming a

1173
00:41:34,559 --> 00:41:36,980
thing when I was, like, what, teenage years,

1174
00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:39,440
it was usually on somewhere. And God help

1175
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:40,960
us, we're in the South. Everywhere I go,

1176
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:43,015
Fox News is on a TV in a

1177
00:41:43,015 --> 00:41:44,074
lobby somewhere.

1178
00:41:45,255 --> 00:41:47,255
Yeah. But it's all that yelling back and

1179
00:41:47,255 --> 00:41:48,394
forth. I get very

1180
00:41:49,574 --> 00:41:50,875
overwhelmed by that.

1181
00:41:51,735 --> 00:41:52,875
PBS NewsHour?

1182
00:41:53,255 --> 00:41:55,414
Nice. No. They're just talking to one another

1183
00:41:55,414 --> 00:41:58,450
like adults. Yeah. Civil conversation. Imagine that. Even

1184
00:41:58,450 --> 00:42:00,369
when they clearly don't agree with something. Right.

1185
00:42:00,369 --> 00:42:02,450
Which, you know They're kinda how it should

1186
00:42:02,450 --> 00:42:04,610
be. They're professional news broadcasters, so you're not

1187
00:42:04,610 --> 00:42:06,289
really gonna see if they don't agree, but

1188
00:42:06,289 --> 00:42:08,789
they might push back on something. Yeah. Yeah.

1189
00:42:09,804 --> 00:42:11,244
I sometimes I need a break from that

1190
00:42:11,244 --> 00:42:12,684
too, but that is where if you want

1191
00:42:12,684 --> 00:42:14,525
to watch the news, we'll watch it. So

1192
00:42:14,525 --> 00:42:16,684
yeah, if you can donate to PBS, your

1193
00:42:16,684 --> 00:42:18,525
local PBS, please do. The other one I

1194
00:42:18,525 --> 00:42:20,364
saw in the live chat was, something that

1195
00:42:20,364 --> 00:42:22,625
a lot of YouTubers and podcasters

1196
00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:26,159
and people, you know, who make reels and

1197
00:42:26,159 --> 00:42:26,659
TikToks,

1198
00:42:27,519 --> 00:42:30,480
promote, which is called Ground News. Yes. I've

1199
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:31,539
never tried it.

1200
00:42:32,159 --> 00:42:33,679
I'm kind of curious. I might go in

1201
00:42:33,679 --> 00:42:35,679
one day, but what they do is they

1202
00:42:35,679 --> 00:42:36,820
aggregate news

1203
00:42:37,199 --> 00:42:38,579
and then let you see

1204
00:42:38,925 --> 00:42:41,164
the what's being written by the left leaning,

1205
00:42:41,164 --> 00:42:43,485
what's being written by the right leaning, what's

1206
00:42:43,485 --> 00:42:45,585
being written by the Moderate. The

1207
00:42:46,525 --> 00:42:48,925
the organizations that are considered Mhmm. You know,

1208
00:42:48,925 --> 00:42:50,525
in the middle. Yeah. And then you can

1209
00:42:50,525 --> 00:42:52,704
see how things are, like, leaning, or maybe

1210
00:42:53,219 --> 00:42:55,380
something that you might care about is not

1211
00:42:55,380 --> 00:42:58,179
being covered by like, for us it would

1212
00:42:58,179 --> 00:42:59,320
be left leaning journalists

1213
00:43:00,179 --> 00:43:01,239
or or outlets,

1214
00:43:02,260 --> 00:43:03,940
and you've learned that, wait, there's a thing

1215
00:43:03,940 --> 00:43:06,144
that nobody's even talking about over here on

1216
00:43:06,144 --> 00:43:07,445
the right or in the center.

1217
00:43:08,144 --> 00:43:10,005
And it's and the thing,

1218
00:43:10,785 --> 00:43:12,545
Hank Green, because he got mentioned in the

1219
00:43:12,545 --> 00:43:14,144
live chat Mhmm. Because he talks about it

1220
00:43:14,144 --> 00:43:15,905
a lot now. What he said he likes,

1221
00:43:15,905 --> 00:43:17,744
because I didn't know this either, is when

1222
00:43:17,744 --> 00:43:19,619
you see the story and you go to

1223
00:43:19,619 --> 00:43:21,219
click on, like, the headline or whatever to

1224
00:43:21,219 --> 00:43:23,319
read more, it takes you to that

1225
00:43:23,940 --> 00:43:24,920
company, that

1226
00:43:25,859 --> 00:43:27,779
Wherever it was originally Thank you. What are

1227
00:43:27,779 --> 00:43:28,920
words? I don't know.

1228
00:43:29,619 --> 00:43:32,179
So that, you know, you're not it's

1229
00:43:33,425 --> 00:43:35,344
you might find a publication that you're like,

1230
00:43:35,344 --> 00:43:37,445
oh, wow, I like getting news from them.

1231
00:43:37,505 --> 00:43:39,344
Here they are, you can support them. From

1232
00:43:39,344 --> 00:43:42,065
an internet creator perspective, that's very nice when

1233
00:43:42,065 --> 00:43:44,405
something links to your actual site.

1234
00:43:44,864 --> 00:43:47,364
And and, you know, not I've also heard,

1235
00:43:48,699 --> 00:43:49,180
Amanda

1236
00:43:49,539 --> 00:43:52,059
Uh-huh. From Amanda's mild takes Mhmm. Talk about

1237
00:43:52,059 --> 00:43:52,880
ground news,

1238
00:43:53,900 --> 00:43:54,719
Jon Stewart.

1239
00:43:55,019 --> 00:43:56,699
Yep. You know, a number of people now.

1240
00:43:56,699 --> 00:43:59,180
Oh, yeah. Jon Stewart's podcast. Whoo. Yeah. Sometimes

1241
00:43:59,180 --> 00:44:00,699
he it stresses me out because he's talking

1242
00:44:00,699 --> 00:44:02,875
about serious shit, but sometimes it's it's really

1243
00:44:02,875 --> 00:44:05,035
good stuff. Very informative, the people he has

1244
00:44:05,035 --> 00:44:07,114
on there. I've I've been listening to it

1245
00:44:07,275 --> 00:44:09,114
Yeah. A bit too. His podcast is the

1246
00:44:09,114 --> 00:44:11,614
weekly podcast with Mhmm. Jon Stewart.

1247
00:44:13,355 --> 00:44:16,335
He had a conversation with a Palestinian

1248
00:44:17,275 --> 00:44:17,775
author

1249
00:44:18,750 --> 00:44:19,250
who,

1250
00:44:19,789 --> 00:44:21,489
is able to travel from Palestine

1251
00:44:22,030 --> 00:44:24,269
to America, has a lot of family in

1252
00:44:24,269 --> 00:44:26,670
Palestine, and he was talking about what his

1253
00:44:26,670 --> 00:44:28,590
family experienced over there. And I just I

1254
00:44:28,829 --> 00:44:30,590
this was in the summer. We were mowing

1255
00:44:30,590 --> 00:44:32,510
the lawn. I was listening to this podcast,

1256
00:44:32,510 --> 00:44:34,644
and I was crying while mowing lawn. It

1257
00:44:34,644 --> 00:44:37,045
was it was tragic. It was awful. But

1258
00:44:37,045 --> 00:44:38,644
he has those kinds of conversations and then

1259
00:44:38,644 --> 00:44:41,204
he talks to like he did an interview

1260
00:44:41,204 --> 00:44:42,984
with, Governor JB Pritzker.

1261
00:44:43,444 --> 00:44:46,404
Illinois governor? Was Pritzker Illinois? I think so.

1262
00:44:46,404 --> 00:44:48,824
Yes. I can't remember. Somebody cracked me. Yeah.

1263
00:44:49,519 --> 00:44:50,179
You know?

1264
00:44:51,519 --> 00:44:53,519
And he he and he, if if you're

1265
00:44:53,519 --> 00:44:55,760
aware of Jon Stewart, will a 100% push

1266
00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:56,260
back

1267
00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:58,639
on somebody he don't agree with. Mhmm.

1268
00:44:59,039 --> 00:45:01,599
So there's there's lots out there, and some

1269
00:45:01,599 --> 00:45:03,679
of that's personal preference and who you vibe

1270
00:45:03,679 --> 00:45:05,414
with and all that stuff. Like, I'm waiting

1271
00:45:05,414 --> 00:45:07,335
for John Oliver to get back from his

1272
00:45:07,335 --> 00:45:07,835
break

1273
00:45:08,215 --> 00:45:09,515
to start the new season.

1274
00:45:09,974 --> 00:45:12,454
Right. I need him to both depress and

1275
00:45:12,454 --> 00:45:14,235
amuse me. Thank you very much.

1276
00:45:15,735 --> 00:45:18,055
We watch something we watch it through HBO

1277
00:45:18,055 --> 00:45:20,699
Max, but it's available through CNN Mhmm. Called

1278
00:45:20,699 --> 00:45:22,160
Have I Got News For You?

1279
00:45:25,019 --> 00:45:26,460
Oh my god. I can see the host

1280
00:45:26,460 --> 00:45:28,320
face in my Roy. Roy.

1281
00:45:29,420 --> 00:45:31,244
I feel awful like a host face. We've

1282
00:45:31,244 --> 00:45:32,144
watched this conversation.

1283
00:45:32,525 --> 00:45:35,404
It's comedians and politicians or journalists that come

1284
00:45:35,404 --> 00:45:37,324
in, and you get a highlight of the

1285
00:45:37,324 --> 00:45:37,824
news,

1286
00:45:39,164 --> 00:45:40,844
and you get a moment to laugh about

1287
00:45:40,844 --> 00:45:42,684
some of it. It's let off steam. It

1288
00:45:42,684 --> 00:45:44,304
doesn't take away from the importance

1289
00:45:44,969 --> 00:45:45,550
of things,

1290
00:45:46,329 --> 00:45:48,170
but so that's all I mean, we're throwing

1291
00:45:48,170 --> 00:45:50,090
a lot out there because we are probably

1292
00:45:50,090 --> 00:45:51,769
a little too connected and probably, like, need

1293
00:45:51,769 --> 00:45:53,230
to go touch some grass. But,

1294
00:45:58,464 --> 00:46:00,864
The my point is is wherever you like

1295
00:46:00,864 --> 00:46:03,585
to consume information from, there'll be somebody out

1296
00:46:03,585 --> 00:46:05,824
there who is not trying to terrify you.

1297
00:46:05,824 --> 00:46:07,505
They're trying to inform you. Maybe they're trying

1298
00:46:07,505 --> 00:46:09,264
to help you laugh through it. Maybe they're

1299
00:46:09,264 --> 00:46:11,125
trying to help you, like, stay calm.

1300
00:46:11,425 --> 00:46:13,025
So you and the calmness is so that

1301
00:46:13,025 --> 00:46:14,780
you can go do whatever the thing is

1302
00:46:14,780 --> 00:46:16,619
that's important to you to do to help

1303
00:46:16,619 --> 00:46:17,920
with whatever. Right?

1304
00:46:18,300 --> 00:46:19,820
The calmness is so that you're not walking

1305
00:46:19,820 --> 00:46:21,599
around all the time going, oh my god.

1306
00:46:21,900 --> 00:46:22,559
I think

1307
00:46:22,940 --> 00:46:25,519
the world is ending right now. Right? Because

1308
00:46:25,914 --> 00:46:28,315
those feelings are valid, but it's very hard

1309
00:46:28,315 --> 00:46:29,934
to function through that.

1310
00:46:31,674 --> 00:46:32,894
And part of how

1311
00:46:33,674 --> 00:46:36,014
you push back against and ultimately

1312
00:46:36,875 --> 00:46:38,174
defeat regimes

1313
00:46:38,714 --> 00:46:41,275
Mhmm. Is you don't just survive, but you

1314
00:46:41,275 --> 00:46:43,940
thrive. You find moments for joy. You keep

1315
00:46:43,940 --> 00:46:45,880
living to the extent that you can.

1316
00:46:46,260 --> 00:46:46,760
You

1317
00:46:47,619 --> 00:46:48,519
laugh at

1318
00:46:48,820 --> 00:46:50,739
the fucked up headlines because of the way

1319
00:46:50,739 --> 00:46:54,039
the comedians are talking, whatever it is. So,

1320
00:46:56,184 --> 00:46:57,784
yeah. My thing is is if none of

1321
00:46:57,784 --> 00:46:59,704
our suggestions appeal or you're like that's too

1322
00:46:59,704 --> 00:47:01,065
much. How do I find somebody on my

1323
00:47:01,065 --> 00:47:01,565
own?

1324
00:47:01,944 --> 00:47:04,684
Here's my criteria. Do this what you will.

1325
00:47:05,065 --> 00:47:06,925
If all they do is yell at me,

1326
00:47:07,784 --> 00:47:08,684
if they

1327
00:47:09,199 --> 00:47:11,699
tell me the headlines in a breathless, like,

1328
00:47:11,839 --> 00:47:13,519
are you ready to be terrified kind of

1329
00:47:13,519 --> 00:47:14,579
way Yeah.

1330
00:47:15,039 --> 00:47:16,259
And no.

1331
00:47:16,559 --> 00:47:17,619
There's another one.

1332
00:47:18,159 --> 00:47:19,380
They don't give me

1333
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:22,105
something I can do. Right? They don't say,

1334
00:47:22,105 --> 00:47:24,184
here's what you can do about this, whether

1335
00:47:24,184 --> 00:47:25,704
it's now, in the moment, or in the

1336
00:47:25,704 --> 00:47:26,525
future. Right?

1337
00:47:26,985 --> 00:47:28,525
And they don't show their sources

1338
00:47:28,985 --> 00:47:30,585
on the green screen to show me the

1339
00:47:30,585 --> 00:47:33,545
article or link or, you know, list the

1340
00:47:33,545 --> 00:47:35,679
URL and the caption or whatever whatever, if

1341
00:47:35,679 --> 00:47:36,900
they don't cite sources,

1342
00:47:37,599 --> 00:47:38,739
I find them questionable.

1343
00:47:39,280 --> 00:47:40,719
Because tell me where you got show me

1344
00:47:40,719 --> 00:47:42,160
or tell me where you got this information

1345
00:47:42,160 --> 00:47:43,219
from. Right?

1346
00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:44,980
Because

1347
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:47,199
those things, when somebody does all they're yelling

1348
00:47:47,199 --> 00:47:49,155
at me and they're making me anxious and

1349
00:47:49,394 --> 00:47:50,994
and they're not telling me where they got

1350
00:47:50,994 --> 00:47:51,974
this information from,

1351
00:47:52,434 --> 00:47:54,675
I'm stressed now. And that's not helpful. I

1352
00:47:54,675 --> 00:47:56,054
can't function. So

1353
00:47:56,594 --> 00:47:57,394
feel free to,

1354
00:47:58,275 --> 00:48:01,015
look for folks who are matter of fact,

1355
00:48:01,474 --> 00:48:03,279
cite their sources, aren't afraid to show you

1356
00:48:03,279 --> 00:48:04,960
where they got the information from, and are

1357
00:48:04,960 --> 00:48:07,599
not Yeah. They're tell might be telling you

1358
00:48:07,599 --> 00:48:10,239
scary things, but they themselves are not actively

1359
00:48:10,239 --> 00:48:12,400
trying to terrify you. Yeah.

1360
00:48:13,119 --> 00:48:13,619
Algorithms

1361
00:48:14,719 --> 00:48:17,779
love our fear and our anger. Yeah.

1362
00:48:18,945 --> 00:48:19,905
Things including

1363
00:48:20,465 --> 00:48:23,905
especially incredibly false things travel so fast when

1364
00:48:23,905 --> 00:48:25,045
we're angry and afraid.

1365
00:48:25,985 --> 00:48:28,325
And that's how misinformation it's one way misinformation

1366
00:48:28,465 --> 00:48:31,285
gets spread. Yeah. So I seek out creators

1367
00:48:31,345 --> 00:48:33,664
who inform me without freaking me the fuck

1368
00:48:33,664 --> 00:48:33,960
out.

1369
00:48:34,839 --> 00:48:36,679
I have found that to be the best

1370
00:48:36,679 --> 00:48:37,179
way.

1371
00:48:38,199 --> 00:48:39,579
I do wanna mention volunteering,

1372
00:48:41,400 --> 00:48:43,719
because that is how I kind of started

1373
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:45,880
really more focusing on what the hell's going

1374
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:47,099
on in the world around me.

1375
00:48:48,525 --> 00:48:51,724
I write postcards for election campaigns because there's

1376
00:48:51,724 --> 00:48:53,164
a lot we need to do, and I

1377
00:48:53,164 --> 00:48:54,545
do believe electorally

1378
00:48:55,005 --> 00:48:57,085
voting is part of it. Not everybody agrees

1379
00:48:57,085 --> 00:48:59,005
with that, and that's fine. That's fine. That's

1380
00:48:59,005 --> 00:48:59,824
what I believe.

1381
00:49:00,125 --> 00:49:01,452
JB has worked with our local Democrats here

1382
00:49:01,452 --> 00:49:03,050
in the county. Here in the

1383
00:49:06,309 --> 00:49:08,550
county. And that that's like, I do postcards.

1384
00:49:08,550 --> 00:49:10,230
I can do that from home. It costs

1385
00:49:10,230 --> 00:49:12,390
money to do. So if you're like, when

1386
00:49:12,390 --> 00:49:14,010
we were on a tight budget, I couldn't.

1387
00:49:14,150 --> 00:49:16,309
Yeah. There have been times I couldn't. But

1388
00:49:16,309 --> 00:49:17,530
when I can, I do?

1389
00:49:18,444 --> 00:49:19,964
If you're interested in that, because it is

1390
00:49:19,964 --> 00:49:21,264
a thing you do at home

1391
00:49:22,364 --> 00:49:23,105
by yourself.

1392
00:49:23,804 --> 00:49:25,484
Do it naked if you want. Nobody gives

1393
00:49:25,484 --> 00:49:26,065
a fuck.

1394
00:49:26,684 --> 00:49:28,764
Here are the three that I work with

1395
00:49:28,764 --> 00:49:31,025
most often. They are linked in the places.

1396
00:49:31,480 --> 00:49:33,019
Postcards to Swing States,

1397
00:49:33,559 --> 00:49:34,780
Activate America,

1398
00:49:35,559 --> 00:49:37,099
Center for Common Ground.

1399
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:39,719
They have other activist work. If you're a

1400
00:49:39,719 --> 00:49:41,579
person who likes talking on the phone,

1401
00:49:42,039 --> 00:49:43,800
teach me your Waze because I couldn't be

1402
00:49:43,800 --> 00:49:45,764
me. They do phone banking or they'll do

1403
00:49:45,764 --> 00:49:48,244
text banking or the there's different ways to

1404
00:49:48,244 --> 00:49:49,784
get involved if you are

1405
00:49:50,565 --> 00:49:52,644
if you are interested in helping with elections.

1406
00:49:52,644 --> 00:49:53,144
Right?

1407
00:49:54,484 --> 00:49:56,824
JB has done we've done not a lot,

1408
00:49:57,300 --> 00:49:59,219
but we've done a few different things for

1409
00:49:59,219 --> 00:50:02,760
our local Democrats. Mhmm. We sent postcards out

1410
00:50:02,980 --> 00:50:04,980
for a local candidate who did not win.

1411
00:50:04,980 --> 00:50:06,820
I was very sad. Yeah. He was he

1412
00:50:06,820 --> 00:50:08,900
was he I think he was a good

1413
00:50:08,900 --> 00:50:09,400
candidate.

1414
00:50:10,355 --> 00:50:12,114
Just Yeah. Dimms don't do well in our

1415
00:50:12,114 --> 00:50:12,614
county.

1416
00:50:13,635 --> 00:50:14,855
You did social media

1417
00:50:15,394 --> 00:50:16,214
at an event.

1418
00:50:17,155 --> 00:50:18,835
We signed up for an event where our

1419
00:50:18,835 --> 00:50:20,835
entry fee was a donation Right.

1420
00:50:21,234 --> 00:50:23,315
That there's hopefully gonna do more of. Like

1421
00:50:23,554 --> 00:50:24,994
Mhmm. It doesn't have to be all the

1422
00:50:24,994 --> 00:50:25,440
time.

1423
00:50:26,159 --> 00:50:27,059
In our county

1424
00:50:27,519 --> 00:50:29,059
they will do their monthly

1425
00:50:29,519 --> 00:50:31,839
meetings via Zoom so you don't have to

1426
00:50:31,839 --> 00:50:33,679
even go to know what the hell's going

1427
00:50:33,679 --> 00:50:35,359
on in your local and that's assuming you're

1428
00:50:35,359 --> 00:50:38,420
into electoral politics and, like, you you identify

1429
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:39,974
as a party. Like, a lot of people

1430
00:50:39,974 --> 00:50:41,174
are independent and are like, I don't give

1431
00:50:41,174 --> 00:50:43,014
a fuck about either party, and that's cool.

1432
00:50:43,014 --> 00:50:45,174
Like, I I'm not gonna I don't have

1433
00:50:45,174 --> 00:50:46,554
an opinion on that. Right?

1434
00:50:49,014 --> 00:50:50,775
We do. We align with the party, but

1435
00:50:50,775 --> 00:50:52,360
you don't have to to do any of

1436
00:50:52,360 --> 00:50:54,679
these other things. Like not a damn thing

1437
00:50:54,679 --> 00:50:55,800
do you have to be part of a

1438
00:50:55,800 --> 00:50:57,639
party to give a fuck about what's going

1439
00:50:57,639 --> 00:51:00,760
on around us. Right? That's just where we

1440
00:51:00,760 --> 00:51:03,019
tend to put our time and energy.

1441
00:51:04,760 --> 00:51:06,444
Let me just reiterate because this is a

1442
00:51:06,444 --> 00:51:08,684
lot of information. I did not did not

1443
00:51:08,684 --> 00:51:09,724
know it would take me this long to

1444
00:51:09,724 --> 00:51:10,385
get there.

1445
00:51:10,924 --> 00:51:13,105
If you are so inclined and you're like,

1446
00:51:13,164 --> 00:51:15,264
I feel like I need to do something.

1447
00:51:15,724 --> 00:51:16,224
Right?

1448
00:51:16,844 --> 00:51:18,364
And you're like, but I can't do it

1449
00:51:18,364 --> 00:51:19,804
all and I can't do the thing that

1450
00:51:19,804 --> 00:51:21,699
erases is the the perfect thing I should

1451
00:51:21,699 --> 00:51:23,619
do, like or is the only thing that

1452
00:51:23,619 --> 00:51:25,699
matters. Like, don't listen to people who tell

1453
00:51:25,699 --> 00:51:27,380
you that there's only one thing that matters

1454
00:51:27,380 --> 00:51:29,140
and can change the world. They're lying to

1455
00:51:29,140 --> 00:51:32,039
you. Pick one cause you care about.

1456
00:51:32,420 --> 00:51:34,179
Pick one thing within that cause you think

1457
00:51:34,179 --> 00:51:34,815
you can do.

1458
00:51:35,375 --> 00:51:37,534
I heard somebody say online the other day,

1459
00:51:37,534 --> 00:51:39,954
it's what you can do sustainably, consistently.

1460
00:51:40,494 --> 00:51:42,275
Consistently does not mean constantly.

1461
00:51:42,815 --> 00:51:43,315
K?

1462
00:51:43,775 --> 00:51:46,094
Maybe you can volunteer somewhere and you can

1463
00:51:46,094 --> 00:51:48,034
only do it every few weeks.

1464
00:51:48,494 --> 00:51:51,430
That's more help than they that organization had

1465
00:51:51,430 --> 00:51:53,769
before. You can only give $10

1466
00:51:54,150 --> 00:51:56,390
every couple of months. That's $10 they didn't

1467
00:51:56,390 --> 00:51:57,769
have before. Right?

1468
00:51:58,869 --> 00:52:01,210
So yeah. That's the thing I would say.

1469
00:52:02,230 --> 00:52:03,130
With anybody

1470
00:52:03,695 --> 00:52:05,614
who is looking at the world right now

1471
00:52:05,614 --> 00:52:07,375
and going, what the fuck is happening and

1472
00:52:07,375 --> 00:52:08,514
how do I stop it?

1473
00:52:09,215 --> 00:52:09,715
Okay?

1474
00:52:10,815 --> 00:52:12,835
Let me give just reminder of a reality

1475
00:52:12,894 --> 00:52:15,074
check for people who look like me

1476
00:52:15,375 --> 00:52:17,235
and probably people who look like JB.

1477
00:52:17,799 --> 00:52:19,799
This is not new here in America. No.

1478
00:52:19,799 --> 00:52:21,639
This is not this has been building in

1479
00:52:21,639 --> 00:52:23,260
its current form for decades.

1480
00:52:23,719 --> 00:52:26,699
And these things that we're seeing, these horrific

1481
00:52:26,760 --> 00:52:28,760
things that are playing out in real time

1482
00:52:28,760 --> 00:52:30,139
on our fucking phones,

1483
00:52:31,385 --> 00:52:33,324
some form of that has been happening for

1484
00:52:33,864 --> 00:52:37,625
decades and centuries. Yeah. So Yeah. Sad. Sad.

1485
00:52:37,625 --> 00:52:39,304
Very sad. Right. I don't ever I don't

1486
00:52:39,304 --> 00:52:40,984
want to lose sight of that because it's

1487
00:52:40,984 --> 00:52:42,184
real easy to think this is a brand

1488
00:52:42,184 --> 00:52:44,364
new thing and it it's really not. Yeah.

1489
00:52:45,210 --> 00:52:46,809
Black people have been fighting this fight in

1490
00:52:46,809 --> 00:52:49,550
America for a long goddamn time. Mhmm.

1491
00:52:50,889 --> 00:52:51,389
So

1492
00:52:51,929 --> 00:52:52,429
that

1493
00:52:52,969 --> 00:52:53,789
is the

1494
00:52:54,250 --> 00:52:55,469
fire hose of information

1495
00:52:55,769 --> 00:52:57,289
I have. Yeah. Is there anything you would

1496
00:52:57,289 --> 00:52:59,344
like to add to this portion of today's

1497
00:52:59,485 --> 00:53:01,485
episode? I think the only thing I'd like

1498
00:53:01,485 --> 00:53:03,244
to say at this point, and and it's,

1499
00:53:03,965 --> 00:53:04,864
something that

1500
00:53:05,644 --> 00:53:06,704
I have been,

1501
00:53:07,644 --> 00:53:10,065
reminded of from George Carlin.

1502
00:53:10,764 --> 00:53:12,625
I wish he was alive for this time.

1503
00:53:13,150 --> 00:53:13,809
I know.

1504
00:53:14,670 --> 00:53:17,230
You know, he he made this statement, and

1505
00:53:17,230 --> 00:53:18,690
it's absolutely true.

1506
00:53:18,989 --> 00:53:19,969
It is easy

1507
00:53:20,429 --> 00:53:21,570
to lose your rights.

1508
00:53:22,590 --> 00:53:25,150
No. It's not that easy to gain them.

1509
00:53:25,150 --> 00:53:26,175
No. So.

1510
00:53:26,655 --> 00:53:29,375
No. People fought for centuries and decades for

1511
00:53:29,375 --> 00:53:29,875
rights

1512
00:53:30,255 --> 00:53:31,775
and still didn't have full access for a

1513
00:53:31,775 --> 00:53:33,775
long time. Right. The other thing I'll say

1514
00:53:33,775 --> 00:53:36,434
for anybody who's skeptical about the voting thing,

1515
00:53:37,054 --> 00:53:38,515
saying voting doesn't matter,

1516
00:53:39,934 --> 00:53:42,035
let me a couple things. One,

1517
00:53:42,630 --> 00:53:43,130
if

1518
00:53:45,109 --> 00:53:46,329
if it didn't matter,

1519
00:53:46,869 --> 00:53:48,230
they wouldn't be trying so hard to keep

1520
00:53:48,230 --> 00:53:49,049
you from voting.

1521
00:53:49,510 --> 00:53:51,670
We wouldn't hear about people being taken off

1522
00:53:51,670 --> 00:53:53,210
the voter rolls or,

1523
00:53:54,069 --> 00:53:57,464
voter suppression stuff. Right? The gerrymandering where some

1524
00:53:57,464 --> 00:53:59,144
states are trying to have all red districts

1525
00:53:59,144 --> 00:54:01,144
and some states to combat that are, like,

1526
00:54:01,144 --> 00:54:02,844
I gotta have some blue districts. Right?

1527
00:54:03,464 --> 00:54:05,545
If if it wasn't important, they wouldn't try

1528
00:54:05,545 --> 00:54:08,264
and rig it. Yeah. For anybody who's like,

1529
00:54:08,264 --> 00:54:10,184
oh, well, they're all the same. There are

1530
00:54:10,184 --> 00:54:11,049
a lot of some there are a lot

1531
00:54:11,049 --> 00:54:12,650
of things that piss me off about Democrats.

1532
00:54:12,650 --> 00:54:14,329
Okay? I might vote that way, but man,

1533
00:54:14,329 --> 00:54:16,809
some of this bullshit. Yeah. Fucking Chuck Schumer.

1534
00:54:16,809 --> 00:54:17,309
Anyway,

1535
00:54:18,250 --> 00:54:19,949
what I will say confidently,

1536
00:54:21,289 --> 00:54:22,190
I don't know

1537
00:54:22,569 --> 00:54:24,804
what what Kamala Harris would have done,

1538
00:54:25,424 --> 00:54:26,405
but I know

1539
00:54:26,784 --> 00:54:28,005
if she had won,

1540
00:54:28,704 --> 00:54:30,464
ice raids would not be happening in major

1541
00:54:30,464 --> 00:54:30,964
cities.

1542
00:54:31,505 --> 00:54:33,924
People would not be deported without due process.

1543
00:54:36,680 --> 00:54:38,599
People who have been killed would probably be

1544
00:54:38,599 --> 00:54:39,660
alive right now.

1545
00:54:40,599 --> 00:54:42,519
And all of us in this fucking country

1546
00:54:42,519 --> 00:54:44,599
wouldn't be paying out our asses for tariffs

1547
00:54:44,599 --> 00:54:46,920
that have been one of the reasons prices

1548
00:54:46,920 --> 00:54:48,940
have gone up. That's not the only reason.

1549
00:54:49,505 --> 00:54:51,285
But that is one those things

1550
00:54:52,065 --> 00:54:53,824
would not have happened if votes had gone

1551
00:54:53,824 --> 00:54:54,724
a different way.

1552
00:54:55,105 --> 00:54:55,605
So

1553
00:54:56,224 --> 00:54:58,625
I don't I'm not gonna strong-arm anybody and,

1554
00:54:58,625 --> 00:55:00,385
like, bully anybody into you gotta fucking vote.

1555
00:55:00,385 --> 00:55:02,589
That's a personal choice. I didn't I did

1556
00:55:02,589 --> 00:55:04,510
not turn 18 and go register to vote.

1557
00:55:04,510 --> 00:55:05,409
Okay? I was

1558
00:55:06,190 --> 00:55:08,510
almost 30 before I ever registered to vote.

1559
00:55:08,510 --> 00:55:09,329
My mother,

1560
00:55:10,030 --> 00:55:11,969
I wanna say, was in her fifties

1561
00:55:12,349 --> 00:55:14,050
before she registered to vote.

1562
00:55:15,114 --> 00:55:16,494
So I know it's not

1563
00:55:17,195 --> 00:55:18,394
a thing everybody's gonna

1564
00:55:19,195 --> 00:55:20,954
but I just I I just want to,

1565
00:55:20,954 --> 00:55:22,894
like, piss somebody off and point that out.

1566
00:55:23,195 --> 00:55:24,954
I I registered to vote as soon as

1567
00:55:24,954 --> 00:55:25,855
I turned 18.

1568
00:55:26,235 --> 00:55:28,090
You're a better human than I am. And,

1569
00:55:28,869 --> 00:55:31,530
I voted every election since then.

1570
00:55:32,230 --> 00:55:33,750
Up until I met you, I was a

1571
00:55:33,750 --> 00:55:34,809
registered independent.

1572
00:55:35,590 --> 00:55:37,590
Yeah. I I started as an independent and

1573
00:55:37,590 --> 00:55:38,710
then I learned you can't vote in a

1574
00:55:38,710 --> 00:55:40,150
primary where you might want to vote, and

1575
00:55:40,150 --> 00:55:41,429
I was like, fuck that. I want to

1576
00:55:41,429 --> 00:55:42,949
vote in the primary. I want to make

1577
00:55:42,949 --> 00:55:44,845
sure the person I like gets an extra

1578
00:55:44,845 --> 00:55:47,265
vote. So that's when I changed my affiliation.

1579
00:55:47,325 --> 00:55:48,625
Yeah. Mhmm. Mhmm.

1580
00:55:49,005 --> 00:55:49,505
Okay.

1581
00:55:50,045 --> 00:55:50,945
Anything else

1582
00:55:52,204 --> 00:55:54,305
about this section? No. Okay.

1583
00:55:55,565 --> 00:55:57,345
We we have become, like,

1584
00:55:57,789 --> 00:56:00,269
not obsessed, but we've become very, like, focused

1585
00:56:00,269 --> 00:56:01,949
on the science of we really could just

1586
00:56:01,949 --> 00:56:04,369
keep complaining about things we don't Yeah.

1587
00:56:05,630 --> 00:56:08,210
And sharing stuff that we've learned. Yeah.

1588
00:56:08,589 --> 00:56:09,069
We,

1589
00:56:09,389 --> 00:56:11,309
both do a thing when we are looking

1590
00:56:11,309 --> 00:56:11,684
at

1591
00:56:12,164 --> 00:56:13,144
information online.

1592
00:56:13,525 --> 00:56:15,285
If we can't personally verify it, we haven't

1593
00:56:15,285 --> 00:56:17,364
gone to the source or whatever whatever, we

1594
00:56:17,364 --> 00:56:17,864
do

1595
00:56:18,164 --> 00:56:19,684
caution each other with, I don't know if

1596
00:56:19,684 --> 00:56:20,965
this is true. Take this with a grain

1597
00:56:20,965 --> 00:56:22,805
of salt because so much shit can be

1598
00:56:22,805 --> 00:56:24,184
fake as fuck. So

1599
00:56:25,045 --> 00:56:25,809
so this thing we want to talk about,

1600
00:56:25,809 --> 00:56:25,880
I hate putting it here because it feels

1601
00:56:25,880 --> 00:56:26,425
like we're politicizing this, but I'm

1602
00:56:27,125 --> 00:56:27,625
being

1603
00:56:36,859 --> 00:56:37,359
political.

1604
00:56:37,900 --> 00:56:39,783
And quite frankly, this has probably made me

1605
00:56:39,783 --> 00:56:39,958
even more focused on politics because, you know,

1606
00:56:39,958 --> 00:56:42,075
I'm not gonna be even more focused on

1607
00:56:42,135 --> 00:56:42,635
politics

1608
00:56:42,934 --> 00:56:43,434
because

1609
00:56:44,775 --> 00:56:47,195
it was always important, but now it's like

1610
00:56:49,655 --> 00:56:51,735
So I'm pretty sure I know some people

1611
00:56:51,735 --> 00:56:53,335
know because I've had conversations and some people

1612
00:56:53,335 --> 00:56:54,855
probably get it. But we're just gonna say

1613
00:56:54,855 --> 00:56:57,139
it because I also don't want to ever

1614
00:56:57,139 --> 00:56:59,319
make to ever feel like we didn't

1615
00:56:59,779 --> 00:57:01,699
want to talk about this. That's not it

1616
00:57:01,699 --> 00:57:02,199
either.

1617
00:57:03,779 --> 00:57:06,339
We have not we've for years talked about

1618
00:57:06,339 --> 00:57:08,065
how we had two boys. Two boys. Two

1619
00:57:08,065 --> 00:57:08,565
boys.

1620
00:57:09,744 --> 00:57:10,644
We were wrong.

1621
00:57:11,105 --> 00:57:12,885
We had a boy and a girl. Yep.

1622
00:57:14,224 --> 00:57:17,265
Our youngest is trans. She is adorable right

1623
00:57:17,265 --> 00:57:17,765
now.

1624
00:57:19,025 --> 00:57:21,700
It's all social stuff right now. New glasses,

1625
00:57:21,700 --> 00:57:22,519
new haircut,

1626
00:57:23,140 --> 00:57:24,119
different name.

1627
00:57:25,140 --> 00:57:27,460
Her favorite color is pink. I'm like, why

1628
00:57:27,460 --> 00:57:28,900
could I have been purple? But that's okay.

1629
00:57:28,900 --> 00:57:30,760
I respect it. I respect it.

1630
00:57:31,219 --> 00:57:33,000
We are not gonna talk about

1631
00:57:33,300 --> 00:57:34,119
her experience

1632
00:57:34,420 --> 00:57:35,800
in this space. Okay?

1633
00:57:36,864 --> 00:57:38,945
You might still get proud mom shit. I

1634
00:57:38,945 --> 00:57:40,785
love to brag about the oldest and his,

1635
00:57:40,785 --> 00:57:43,425
you know, crazy shit with whatever. Right. You

1636
00:57:43,425 --> 00:57:44,885
might get that in the future.

1637
00:57:46,065 --> 00:57:47,664
But we also don't want it to ever

1638
00:57:47,905 --> 00:57:49,829
like, in the beginning, we were it was

1639
00:57:49,829 --> 00:57:51,750
privacy. It was she was figuring her shit

1640
00:57:51,750 --> 00:57:53,670
out, and we were figuring it out along

1641
00:57:53,670 --> 00:57:54,650
with her. Okay. Yeah.

1642
00:57:57,989 --> 00:57:58,489
But

1643
00:58:00,984 --> 00:58:02,445
at this point, it's like

1644
00:58:03,144 --> 00:58:05,484
every time I stay, like, gender neutral,

1645
00:58:05,784 --> 00:58:07,625
it's like, that's not right. That's not that

1646
00:58:07,704 --> 00:58:11,324
no. She is an adorable teenage girl, and

1647
00:58:11,385 --> 00:58:12,840
poor JB is learning

1648
00:58:14,920 --> 00:58:15,079
what it's like to have two of me

1649
00:58:15,079 --> 00:58:15,980
in one house.

1650
00:58:16,760 --> 00:58:17,820
Oh my gosh.

1651
00:58:19,079 --> 00:58:21,640
Yeah. She didn't fall far from the, tree

1652
00:58:21,640 --> 00:58:22,780
on that one. No.

1653
00:58:23,480 --> 00:58:25,800
We didn't get to see it prior go

1654
00:58:25,800 --> 00:58:27,420
ahead. Yeah. Prior to this. And

1655
00:58:28,235 --> 00:58:28,715
and,

1656
00:58:29,114 --> 00:58:31,994
yeah. I I get tag teamed now It's

1657
00:58:31,994 --> 00:58:33,755
kind of fun. With the sass. Kind of

1658
00:58:33,755 --> 00:58:34,255
fun.

1659
00:58:37,035 --> 00:58:37,535
This

1660
00:58:37,994 --> 00:58:40,394
I would I'm gonna support my children no

1661
00:58:40,394 --> 00:58:42,335
matter what. Yeah. But

1662
00:58:42,949 --> 00:58:45,130
the thing that just made it, like,

1663
00:58:45,589 --> 00:58:47,769
cemented in, like, oh, shit. Yeah.

1664
00:58:48,150 --> 00:58:49,289
Is that she's blossomed.

1665
00:58:49,670 --> 00:58:52,069
She is the person she was always meant

1666
00:58:52,069 --> 00:58:55,449
to be. Her personality is shining. Shiny.

1667
00:58:55,989 --> 00:58:57,284
I was there at

1668
00:58:57,605 --> 00:59:00,324
pre k when she cried every day. Yeah.

1669
00:59:00,324 --> 00:59:01,764
And I couldn't leave her. They would take

1670
00:59:01,764 --> 00:59:02,964
me to the side and be like, what

1671
00:59:02,964 --> 00:59:05,045
the hell's wrong with your kid? And now

1672
00:59:05,045 --> 00:59:07,364
she's Or or even through middle school where

1673
00:59:07,364 --> 00:59:09,545
she just sank deeper and deeper.

1674
00:59:10,150 --> 00:59:12,550
You know? And and now see this this

1675
00:59:12,550 --> 00:59:13,690
beautiful personality.

1676
00:59:14,070 --> 00:59:16,070
Oh my god. Oh my god. That's shining

1677
00:59:16,070 --> 00:59:18,150
and it and it's it's it's beautiful. It's

1678
00:59:18,150 --> 00:59:19,769
just beautiful. Mhmm.

1679
00:59:20,710 --> 00:59:21,210
So

1680
00:59:21,510 --> 00:59:22,949
it's not a thing even our whole family

1681
00:59:22,949 --> 00:59:24,230
knows. There are not people who are safe

1682
00:59:24,230 --> 00:59:24,375
in

1683
00:59:26,375 --> 00:59:28,908
our family. The reason it was like, we'll

1684
00:59:28,908 --> 00:59:31,894
do it here because our politics of choice,

1685
00:59:31,894 --> 00:59:34,494
our focus of choices on trans rights Yeah.

1686
00:59:34,775 --> 00:59:36,695
Because it was always important, but and I

1687
00:59:36,695 --> 00:59:37,735
hate to say it. It feels like I

1688
00:59:37,735 --> 00:59:38,940
should have been doing it anyway because I

1689
00:59:38,940 --> 00:59:39,839
knew it was important.

1690
00:59:40,699 --> 00:59:42,539
But now I'm like, how do I make

1691
00:59:42,539 --> 00:59:43,519
a safer world

1692
00:59:43,820 --> 00:59:45,119
for her? Yeah.

1693
00:59:45,420 --> 00:59:46,859
So anyway, we're not gonna talk about her

1694
00:59:46,859 --> 00:59:49,039
personal details. We're not gonna talk about her,

1695
00:59:49,820 --> 00:59:51,900
medical stuff. That is nobody's fucking business. That's

1696
00:59:51,900 --> 00:59:52,559
all private.

1697
00:59:53,445 --> 00:59:55,605
But you will hear us refer to her

1698
00:59:55,605 --> 00:59:56,744
as her. Yeah.

1699
00:59:59,684 --> 01:00:01,465
And we'll have, I'm sure,

1700
01:00:01,845 --> 01:00:04,505
proud parent moments to, like, talk about.

1701
01:00:05,364 --> 01:00:06,980
We cannot get her the health care she

1702
01:00:06,980 --> 01:00:08,679
needs in the state we live in. No.

1703
01:00:08,739 --> 01:00:10,039
The state is currently

1704
01:00:11,059 --> 01:00:11,559
actively

1705
01:00:12,019 --> 01:00:14,519
trying to make what little bit they allow

1706
01:00:15,219 --> 01:00:17,539
harder for professionals to do what little bit

1707
01:00:17,539 --> 01:00:20,819
is legally allowed. They're they're they have as

1708
01:00:20,819 --> 01:00:22,244
parents we cannot make,

1709
01:00:23,365 --> 01:00:25,704
decisions on medical care for her.

1710
01:00:26,164 --> 01:00:26,664
Nope.

1711
01:00:27,125 --> 01:00:29,525
Yeah. Not allowed. As parents, that those rights

1712
01:00:29,525 --> 01:00:31,445
have been stripped away. Our state is all

1713
01:00:31,445 --> 01:00:33,684
about talking about parents' rights, but sure should

1714
01:00:33,684 --> 01:00:35,385
not these parents' rights. No.

1715
01:00:35,829 --> 01:00:38,650
And and now they're they're trying to push

1716
01:00:38,869 --> 01:00:39,769
laws through,

1717
01:00:40,230 --> 01:00:41,929
which if a teacher

1718
01:00:42,230 --> 01:00:42,730
or,

1719
01:00:43,030 --> 01:00:44,650
you know, anybody in that position

1720
01:00:45,109 --> 01:00:46,969
assists or doctor assists

1721
01:00:47,429 --> 01:00:48,089
a kid

1722
01:00:48,474 --> 01:00:50,414
in any of this, that they they are

1723
01:00:50,554 --> 01:00:52,014
legally then liable.

1724
01:00:52,315 --> 01:00:52,815
Right.

1725
01:00:54,074 --> 01:00:54,574
So

1726
01:00:55,034 --> 01:00:55,514
the,

1727
01:00:56,155 --> 01:00:57,514
two things are happening. And I meant to

1728
01:00:57,514 --> 01:00:59,034
talk about it earlier because the whole video

1729
01:00:59,034 --> 01:01:00,554
has been going for YouTube folks and I

1730
01:01:00,554 --> 01:01:01,694
hadn't mentioned it.

1731
01:01:04,530 --> 01:01:05,030
So

1732
01:01:05,329 --> 01:01:05,829
the

1733
01:01:06,210 --> 01:01:08,869
the thing that we focus on most,

1734
01:01:09,570 --> 01:01:12,710
where energy outside of voting electoral stuff,

1735
01:01:13,090 --> 01:01:15,510
is an organization here in Florida called Equality

1736
01:01:15,570 --> 01:01:16,070
Florida.

1737
01:01:17,074 --> 01:01:19,234
They were the first organization of their type

1738
01:01:19,234 --> 01:01:19,974
in the country,

1739
01:01:21,154 --> 01:01:22,514
and what they do is they are an

1740
01:01:22,514 --> 01:01:23,014
LGBTQ

1741
01:01:23,394 --> 01:01:26,135
plus advocacy group. They work to

1742
01:01:26,514 --> 01:01:27,894
pass good legislation

1743
01:01:28,355 --> 01:01:29,815
and get bad legislation

1744
01:01:31,800 --> 01:01:33,400
not passed. I don't know what the words

1745
01:01:33,400 --> 01:01:35,320
are. Taken taken away. Yeah. Taken away. Make

1746
01:01:35,320 --> 01:01:36,300
it taken away.

1747
01:01:38,280 --> 01:01:41,000
And sometimes they're successful and sometimes there's not.

1748
01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:41,500
So,

1749
01:01:42,199 --> 01:01:45,400
they fight anti LGBTQ plus legislation. Currently in

1750
01:01:45,400 --> 01:01:46,860
Florida, there's this massive

1751
01:01:47,434 --> 01:01:49,675
page of shit Oh, yeah. To both oppose

1752
01:01:49,675 --> 01:01:50,175
and,

1753
01:01:50,875 --> 01:01:51,195
like

1754
01:01:52,954 --> 01:01:54,974
Support. Support. Thank you. What were words?

1755
01:01:55,994 --> 01:01:57,594
I did I just took a couple out

1756
01:01:57,594 --> 01:01:59,755
of the big long list. For Florida specifically

1757
01:01:59,994 --> 01:02:02,074
Mhmm. They want to do a pride flag

1758
01:02:02,074 --> 01:02:03,800
ban. They've been working on it. They want

1759
01:02:03,800 --> 01:02:05,480
to, like, make it worse, I guess, with

1760
01:02:05,480 --> 01:02:05,980
legislation.

1761
01:02:06,440 --> 01:02:08,519
They want a don't say gay thing in

1762
01:02:08,519 --> 01:02:10,599
the workplace. They've already done it in the

1763
01:02:10,599 --> 01:02:11,739
schools. Yeah.

1764
01:02:12,360 --> 01:02:14,039
I've I, who never thought I would be

1765
01:02:14,039 --> 01:02:16,034
a homeschool parent, am so fucking grateful to

1766
01:02:16,034 --> 01:02:18,114
be a homeschool parent. Mhmm. I don't I

1767
01:02:18,114 --> 01:02:19,474
don't know how I don't know how she

1768
01:02:19,474 --> 01:02:21,014
would have survived in Florida

1769
01:02:21,635 --> 01:02:22,454
school system.

1770
01:02:22,994 --> 01:02:24,594
I don't. Knowing what we know now, I

1771
01:02:24,594 --> 01:02:26,195
don't know how she would have survived. And

1772
01:02:26,195 --> 01:02:27,635
then that one we were just talking about,

1773
01:02:28,114 --> 01:02:30,034
making it easier to penalize teachers and health

1774
01:02:30,034 --> 01:02:32,750
care providers for helping slash supporting trans kids.

1775
01:02:33,849 --> 01:02:35,230
Give you a little inside baseball.

1776
01:02:35,930 --> 01:02:38,010
We have are going out of state for

1777
01:02:38,010 --> 01:02:39,949
a medical appointment for our youngest.

1778
01:02:40,650 --> 01:02:41,869
It is not required

1779
01:02:42,410 --> 01:02:44,250
that whoever they might be working with, like

1780
01:02:44,250 --> 01:02:46,684
their therapist or whatever, provide a letter of

1781
01:02:46,684 --> 01:02:48,925
support to kind of show whatever they need

1782
01:02:48,925 --> 01:02:50,445
for I'm learning all this so I don't

1783
01:02:50,445 --> 01:02:52,144
even know what's in a letter of support.

1784
01:02:52,445 --> 01:02:53,965
But they don't require it, but they they

1785
01:02:53,965 --> 01:02:55,485
like it when they can get it. I

1786
01:02:55,485 --> 01:02:57,324
go to the therapist and I say, is

1787
01:02:57,324 --> 01:02:58,625
this something you can do?

1788
01:02:59,005 --> 01:03:00,449
She takes a couple days to get back

1789
01:03:00,449 --> 01:03:02,530
to me and says, we would love to,

1790
01:03:02,530 --> 01:03:04,690
but we cannot without losing our license in

1791
01:03:04,690 --> 01:03:06,389
the state of Florida. Yep.

1792
01:03:11,809 --> 01:03:14,130
So when I say that we know we

1793
01:03:14,130 --> 01:03:15,809
we will at some point be moving out

1794
01:03:15,809 --> 01:03:16,855
of fucking Florida, that

1795
01:03:17,474 --> 01:03:18,775
Yep. We know it.

1796
01:03:19,074 --> 01:03:20,755
It's just not easy, and I think most

1797
01:03:20,755 --> 01:03:23,234
people understand that it's just not people are

1798
01:03:23,234 --> 01:03:25,155
doing it. I saw in the live chat,

1799
01:03:25,394 --> 01:03:27,234
from Malley, I think, a stat I had

1800
01:03:27,234 --> 01:03:27,974
seen recently

1801
01:03:28,275 --> 01:03:29,710
that 400,000

1802
01:03:30,170 --> 01:03:32,029
trans people have moved states

1803
01:03:32,730 --> 01:03:33,230
Yeah.

1804
01:03:33,609 --> 01:03:36,010
In the past was it past year? Year

1805
01:03:36,010 --> 01:03:37,849
probably. Yeah. Yeah. I don't remember the time

1806
01:03:37,849 --> 01:03:38,349
frame.

1807
01:03:38,650 --> 01:03:40,089
Yeah. And we are in that list of

1808
01:03:40,089 --> 01:03:42,105
people who are trying to figure out how

1809
01:03:42,105 --> 01:03:43,565
that's gonna be feasible for

1810
01:03:45,385 --> 01:03:48,505
us. So I tell you this about Florida

1811
01:03:48,505 --> 01:03:49,005
equality

1812
01:03:49,385 --> 01:03:49,885
Florida

1813
01:03:50,184 --> 01:03:50,684
because

1814
01:03:50,985 --> 01:03:54,329
they helped other states have their own version.

1815
01:03:54,570 --> 01:03:55,070
Okay?

1816
01:03:56,170 --> 01:03:58,170
I did searches to see what it would

1817
01:03:58,170 --> 01:03:59,930
look like if you pick your state and

1818
01:03:59,930 --> 01:04:02,329
you go, do you have an equality Florida

1819
01:04:02,489 --> 01:04:03,869
a version of equality Florida?

1820
01:04:04,969 --> 01:04:06,670
I found Georgia equality,

1821
01:04:07,324 --> 01:04:08,545
Alabama equality,

1822
01:04:08,924 --> 01:04:09,424
Virginia

1823
01:04:09,804 --> 01:04:10,304
equality.

1824
01:04:10,605 --> 01:04:13,164
Mhmm. So what I'm saying is whatever state

1825
01:04:13,164 --> 01:04:14,625
you're in, type

1826
01:04:15,404 --> 01:04:17,404
equality and your state name or your state

1827
01:04:17,404 --> 01:04:19,324
name and the word equality. You might have

1828
01:04:19,324 --> 01:04:21,630
to scroll a little bit, But once you

1829
01:04:21,630 --> 01:04:23,969
see we are an, anti LGBTQ

1830
01:04:24,829 --> 01:04:25,329
legislation

1831
01:04:25,630 --> 01:04:28,909
advocacy group, that's usually how they label themselves

1832
01:04:29,150 --> 01:04:31,329
Yeah. You've got it. So

1833
01:04:31,630 --> 01:04:33,904
if I would say two things. Things. I

1834
01:04:33,904 --> 01:04:34,804
would say many

1835
01:04:35,264 --> 01:04:37,045
things. If you were in a red state

1836
01:04:37,344 --> 01:04:39,344
and you're like, I hadn't heard about any

1837
01:04:39,344 --> 01:04:40,484
anti trans legislation,

1838
01:04:41,184 --> 01:04:44,324
go check. Yeah. Find your equality for

1839
01:04:44,625 --> 01:04:46,784
whatever for your state and see what they've

1840
01:04:46,784 --> 01:04:48,889
got coming up and what they're working

1841
01:04:49,670 --> 01:04:51,369
for or against. Okay?

1842
01:04:51,989 --> 01:04:53,190
If you're in a blue state and you're

1843
01:04:53,190 --> 01:04:54,630
like, we don't have to worry about that

1844
01:04:54,630 --> 01:04:55,130
here,

1845
01:04:55,429 --> 01:04:57,050
check anyway. Yeah.

1846
01:04:57,989 --> 01:04:59,849
There are several states I have investigated

1847
01:05:00,309 --> 01:05:01,755
for, like, what do they say and what

1848
01:05:01,755 --> 01:05:03,295
are their laws and what are their rules.

1849
01:05:03,594 --> 01:05:06,094
And some states just sound amazing, but

1850
01:05:06,394 --> 01:05:07,694
I I can't live there.

1851
01:05:08,954 --> 01:05:10,554
But I am all the states are kinda,

1852
01:05:10,554 --> 01:05:12,795
like, on my list. I'm I'm watching their

1853
01:05:12,795 --> 01:05:15,199
legislation too Yeah. Because they could come off

1854
01:05:15,199 --> 01:05:18,260
my list real fucking quick after a single

1855
01:05:18,319 --> 01:05:20,099
election. Right? Because

1856
01:05:20,400 --> 01:05:21,780
elections fucking matter.

1857
01:05:22,319 --> 01:05:24,079
A thing if you do follow Amanda's mild

1858
01:05:24,079 --> 01:05:26,239
takes, highly recommend, by the way, she will

1859
01:05:26,239 --> 01:05:29,380
tell you. It's local that determines almost everything.

1860
01:05:29,894 --> 01:05:30,875
Come. Start local.

1861
01:05:31,414 --> 01:05:31,914
Because

1862
01:05:32,295 --> 01:05:35,175
the anti trans bills are coming from our

1863
01:05:35,175 --> 01:05:37,655
state legislature. Yeah. They're not coming I mean,

1864
01:05:37,655 --> 01:05:40,054
federal tried. Yeah. Federal tried and the one

1865
01:05:40,054 --> 01:05:41,909
thing thank you Democrats, I guess. Guess. They

1866
01:05:41,909 --> 01:05:43,769
got the anti trans stuff

1867
01:05:44,309 --> 01:05:45,929
pulled out of these appropriations

1868
01:05:46,230 --> 01:05:48,489
bills going through the process right now.

1869
01:05:48,789 --> 01:05:50,089
Thank fucking God.

1870
01:05:51,109 --> 01:05:52,889
But it's happening at the state level

1871
01:05:53,715 --> 01:05:55,635
probably more than most people realize. And I

1872
01:05:55,715 --> 01:05:58,375
look, trans folks who are listening or watching,

1873
01:05:58,434 --> 01:06:01,155
y'all been screaming this. Y'all fucking know. Right?

1874
01:06:01,155 --> 01:06:03,635
I'm, like, late to the fucking party, but

1875
01:06:03,635 --> 01:06:04,535
I'm here now.

1876
01:06:08,339 --> 01:06:10,099
So I don't expect you to care about

1877
01:06:10,099 --> 01:06:10,599
our

1878
01:06:10,900 --> 01:06:13,380
issue. Find your issue. But if you do

1879
01:06:13,380 --> 01:06:15,460
care about these things, if you're like, what?

1880
01:06:15,460 --> 01:06:17,460
They're they're passing that kind of shit? They're

1881
01:06:17,460 --> 01:06:19,380
not letting parents work with doctors to do

1882
01:06:19,380 --> 01:06:20,519
what's best for a child?

1883
01:06:21,764 --> 01:06:24,484
They're wanting to ban pride flags or say

1884
01:06:24,484 --> 01:06:25,444
don't say gay. Some

1885
01:06:26,644 --> 01:06:28,565
I urge you if that matters to you

1886
01:06:28,565 --> 01:06:30,744
in any way, go find your state's version.

1887
01:06:31,525 --> 01:06:32,005
Lola

1888
01:06:32,324 --> 01:06:32,824
Agrees.

1889
01:06:33,125 --> 01:06:33,625
Okay.

1890
01:06:38,839 --> 01:06:40,219
Lola fucking agrees.

1891
01:06:41,799 --> 01:06:44,539
Look. We we love, you know,

1892
01:06:45,000 --> 01:06:47,099
an ally, even in the four legs.

1893
01:06:48,279 --> 01:06:50,744
The other thing that I got secured away

1894
01:06:50,744 --> 01:06:52,605
with that I forgot to mention again.

1895
01:06:53,144 --> 01:06:55,065
On if you're watching on YouTube, you should

1896
01:06:55,065 --> 01:06:55,565
see,

1897
01:06:56,585 --> 01:06:57,964
where there's a donate thing.

1898
01:06:58,424 --> 01:07:01,464
We are gonna utilize YouTube fundraiser things. This

1899
01:07:01,464 --> 01:07:03,144
is our first one. We're gonna utilize them

1900
01:07:03,144 --> 01:07:04,949
more often as we go forward.

1901
01:07:05,429 --> 01:07:07,690
We are hosting a fundraiser,

1902
01:07:08,070 --> 01:07:10,809
through YouTube for the Campaign for Southern Equality.

1903
01:07:11,109 --> 01:07:14,070
It runs through February. Our goal is $250

1904
01:07:14,070 --> 01:07:15,909
because I don't know if this is a

1905
01:07:15,909 --> 01:07:16,150
thing

1906
01:07:16,789 --> 01:07:18,389
like, there's so many places you can put

1907
01:07:18,389 --> 01:07:18,855
your money.

1908
01:07:19,815 --> 01:07:20,315
Right?

1909
01:07:20,614 --> 01:07:22,454
Like, I don't wanna overtax people. I don't

1910
01:07:22,454 --> 01:07:23,974
wanna be like, hey, give me all your

1911
01:07:23,974 --> 01:07:25,494
money. You know? No. That's what I'm trying

1912
01:07:25,494 --> 01:07:26,074
to do.

1913
01:07:26,855 --> 01:07:29,594
Campaign for Southern Equality was the first organization

1914
01:07:29,734 --> 01:07:31,574
I got in touch with on behalf of

1915
01:07:31,574 --> 01:07:32,315
the youngest,

1916
01:07:33,320 --> 01:07:33,820
And

1917
01:07:35,400 --> 01:07:37,019
I almost cried the whole conversation

1918
01:07:37,559 --> 01:07:38,860
because it was wonderful.

1919
01:07:40,679 --> 01:07:41,739
And they have

1920
01:07:42,280 --> 01:07:45,019
helped. We have benefited from their grant program.

1921
01:07:47,925 --> 01:07:50,184
We are using their grant program for

1922
01:07:51,204 --> 01:07:52,184
travel needs,

1923
01:07:53,204 --> 01:07:54,585
and we're grateful to it.

1924
01:07:56,164 --> 01:07:57,925
So I wouldn't be able to do it.

1925
01:07:57,925 --> 01:07:59,144
Right. We,

1926
01:08:00,849 --> 01:08:03,170
hosting this fundraiser. It's gonna run through February.

1927
01:08:03,170 --> 01:08:04,849
If you've got it to give, thank you.

1928
01:08:04,849 --> 01:08:06,690
Yeah. If you don't, I totally fucking get

1929
01:08:06,690 --> 01:08:07,969
it. I will say the thing I said

1930
01:08:07,969 --> 01:08:09,489
at the top. If you're like, well, I

1931
01:08:09,489 --> 01:08:11,489
could become a Patreon member with my $5

1932
01:08:11,489 --> 01:08:13,985
or I could give to an organization, please

1933
01:08:13,985 --> 01:08:15,505
give to the organization. Please give. They they

1934
01:08:15,505 --> 01:08:17,265
they need help right now. They they need

1935
01:08:17,265 --> 01:08:18,545
as much as they do. All of them

1936
01:08:18,545 --> 01:08:19,045
do.

1937
01:08:19,505 --> 01:08:20,005
Our

1938
01:08:20,385 --> 01:08:23,045
our focus is trans rights.

1939
01:08:26,750 --> 01:08:27,250
I

1940
01:08:27,710 --> 01:08:29,329
am not going there.

1941
01:08:32,350 --> 01:08:32,850
Here's

1942
01:08:34,030 --> 01:08:35,489
here's what I will say

1943
01:08:36,510 --> 01:08:37,329
to parents.

1944
01:08:38,510 --> 01:08:39,570
I think it's universal

1945
01:08:39,949 --> 01:08:41,329
that we tend to be

1946
01:08:41,704 --> 01:08:43,704
afraid for our children. Right? Afraid for their

1947
01:08:43,704 --> 01:08:44,204
future.

1948
01:08:44,664 --> 01:08:47,145
Afraid afraid when they start driving. Right? Like

1949
01:08:47,145 --> 01:08:49,085
there's plenty of things to fear.

1950
01:08:53,545 --> 01:08:55,885
I have never been so afraid.

1951
01:08:57,170 --> 01:08:59,270
Now I am filled with hope

1952
01:09:01,170 --> 01:09:03,510
and I will fight like fucking hell.

1953
01:09:06,210 --> 01:09:07,889
But if you're like, yeah. As a parent,

1954
01:09:07,889 --> 01:09:09,270
I relate to the fear.

1955
01:09:09,905 --> 01:09:10,725
For me,

1956
01:09:11,265 --> 01:09:13,685
this has turned up a lot of fucking

1957
01:09:14,145 --> 01:09:14,645
notches.

1958
01:09:15,664 --> 01:09:16,485
And so

1959
01:09:19,185 --> 01:09:20,864
you will probably see a lot of stuff

1960
01:09:20,864 --> 01:09:21,525
like this.

1961
01:09:22,225 --> 01:09:23,204
Our last donation

1962
01:09:23,985 --> 01:09:27,070
our last fundraiser for Equality Florida. We did

1963
01:09:27,070 --> 01:09:28,130
that through the Kinkery.

1964
01:09:29,070 --> 01:09:31,070
We're trying to figure out a plan to

1965
01:09:31,070 --> 01:09:32,829
do more fundraisers and who we want to

1966
01:09:32,829 --> 01:09:33,890
do them for.

1967
01:09:35,150 --> 01:09:37,329
There's lots of organizations that need help.

1968
01:09:38,030 --> 01:09:39,250
This one through YouTube

1969
01:09:40,904 --> 01:09:42,685
is the Campaign for Southern Equality

1970
01:09:43,064 --> 01:09:44,204
so that other people

1971
01:09:44,824 --> 01:09:47,005
can benefit from their grants. Yeah.

1972
01:09:50,585 --> 01:09:52,529
Once I figure out the mechanism, it should

1973
01:09:52,529 --> 01:09:54,609
show up on most if not all of

1974
01:09:54,609 --> 01:09:56,469
our videos going forward

1975
01:09:57,090 --> 01:09:59,569
through the fundraiser, but it's a new tool

1976
01:09:59,569 --> 01:10:01,189
I've never used. So

1977
01:10:03,010 --> 01:10:05,569
if you can, great. If you can't, no

1978
01:10:05,569 --> 01:10:06,069
worries.

1979
01:10:06,994 --> 01:10:08,194
For anybody who's like, I want to do

1980
01:10:08,194 --> 01:10:09,635
stuff and I don't have money. God knows

1981
01:10:09,635 --> 01:10:11,414
I've been there. If you are

1982
01:10:11,954 --> 01:10:14,755
feel safe to, share these kinds of things

1983
01:10:14,755 --> 01:10:15,494
with your

1984
01:10:15,875 --> 01:10:18,835
your social media folk. And I don't mean

1985
01:10:18,835 --> 01:10:20,229
this episode. You can if you want. If

1986
01:10:20,229 --> 01:10:21,510
you would like if there's somebody you would

1987
01:10:21,510 --> 01:10:23,289
like to be yelled at, this is fine.

1988
01:10:24,390 --> 01:10:26,310
But like the organization that you're like, I

1989
01:10:26,310 --> 01:10:27,609
wanna support this organization.

1990
01:10:28,550 --> 01:10:30,250
This is my cause of choice.

1991
01:10:30,869 --> 01:10:32,789
And you don't have money to give? Spread

1992
01:10:32,789 --> 01:10:34,470
the word about them because there will probably

1993
01:10:34,470 --> 01:10:36,694
be somebody who got $10 that they can

1994
01:10:36,694 --> 01:10:37,194
give.

1995
01:10:38,935 --> 01:10:39,435
Okay.

1996
01:10:41,975 --> 01:10:44,694
I know I can't talk about this stuff

1997
01:10:44,694 --> 01:10:47,994
without crying, both happy tears and angry tears.

1998
01:10:53,529 --> 01:10:55,770
So thanks to, oh my gosh, all of

1999
01:10:55,770 --> 01:10:57,449
these donations that have come through. I saw

2000
01:10:57,449 --> 01:10:59,149
Tayesu at the top of the

2001
01:10:59,529 --> 01:11:00,029
stream.

2002
01:11:01,689 --> 01:11:03,309
JB had to go

2003
01:11:04,385 --> 01:11:07,345
deal with Lola who might be eating cat

2004
01:11:07,345 --> 01:11:08,405
shit in the backyard.

2005
01:11:10,545 --> 01:11:12,225
Thank you to Kim. Thank you to the

2006
01:11:12,225 --> 01:11:12,725
anonymous,

2007
01:11:13,345 --> 01:11:14,805
donor. I appreciate that.

2008
01:11:15,905 --> 01:11:16,405
So

2009
01:11:22,100 --> 01:11:22,979
Andre had the,

2010
01:11:24,659 --> 01:11:27,079
idea we should do, dollars for demos.

2011
01:11:27,539 --> 01:11:29,460
You know, for the fundraiser for sure for

2012
01:11:29,460 --> 01:11:31,779
sure. I will happily be hit with, Weapons

2013
01:11:31,779 --> 01:11:33,375
of Ass Destruction. We gotta make some more

2014
01:11:33,375 --> 01:11:34,914
Weapons of Ass Destruction, though.

2015
01:11:36,014 --> 01:11:37,154
Hopefully by

2016
01:11:37,534 --> 01:11:37,934
the,

2017
01:11:38,734 --> 01:11:39,554
the Friday.

2018
01:11:40,814 --> 01:11:42,594
The February Friday livestream.

2019
01:11:43,694 --> 01:11:44,194
Okay.

2020
01:11:44,574 --> 01:11:46,594
When JB gets back and gets settled,

2021
01:11:47,135 --> 01:11:50,000
I'll let him share any thoughts he has

2022
01:11:50,000 --> 01:11:51,279
that he has not shared, and then we'll

2023
01:11:51,279 --> 01:11:53,939
go to the third section of this episode.

2024
01:11:54,720 --> 01:11:56,560
And we still have a bonus section because

2025
01:11:56,560 --> 01:11:59,380
we've got Ella and Lola news. Yeah.

2026
01:12:00,239 --> 01:12:01,725
Anyway, is there anything you would like to

2027
01:12:01,725 --> 01:12:03,784
say about our our happy news and also

2028
01:12:04,885 --> 01:12:06,885
why? I mean, I Why are people that,

2029
01:12:06,885 --> 01:12:07,385
like

2030
01:12:07,764 --> 01:12:10,244
Why is America? You know, all I can

2031
01:12:10,404 --> 01:12:11,465
all I wanna say

2032
01:12:11,925 --> 01:12:12,425
is

2033
01:12:14,979 --> 01:12:16,279
I want to see her

2034
01:12:16,659 --> 01:12:17,719
be able to

2035
01:12:19,539 --> 01:12:22,340
grow and be happy. And thrive. And thrive.

2036
01:12:22,340 --> 01:12:24,020
And live whatever her life is supposed to

2037
01:12:24,020 --> 01:12:25,000
look like. Yeah.

2038
01:12:26,099 --> 01:12:28,104
Silent asked in the live chat if her

2039
01:12:28,104 --> 01:12:30,984
anxiety has maybe gotten changed or gotten any

2040
01:12:30,984 --> 01:12:32,664
better. This is still one of the most

2041
01:12:32,664 --> 01:12:34,284
anxious human beings I've ever met.

2042
01:12:35,064 --> 01:12:36,744
And But you know what she's not anxious

2043
01:12:36,744 --> 01:12:37,244
about?

2044
01:12:37,625 --> 01:12:39,085
Who the fuck she is.

2045
01:12:39,465 --> 01:12:41,145
And and to me So and to me

2046
01:12:41,145 --> 01:12:42,685
it seems like it is better.

2047
01:12:43,260 --> 01:12:45,420
She is able to articulate it better. She

2048
01:12:45,420 --> 01:12:47,420
can recognize what it is. She can talk

2049
01:12:47,420 --> 01:12:49,260
through it. That's that's a lot of therapy.

2050
01:12:49,260 --> 01:12:51,840
That's just some maturation. She's 16 now.

2051
01:12:53,659 --> 01:12:54,159
She

2052
01:12:55,340 --> 01:12:57,525
she she handles it. I think she does

2053
01:12:57,525 --> 01:12:58,824
handle it better, but,

2054
01:12:59,604 --> 01:13:02,645
it's almost like all of the anxiety genes

2055
01:13:02,645 --> 01:13:05,225
from all of the generations from me back,

2056
01:13:05,685 --> 01:13:07,625
quite frankly through the women in our family,

2057
01:13:07,845 --> 01:13:08,744
were concentrated

2058
01:13:10,060 --> 01:13:12,399
and inserted into this child because,

2059
01:13:12,859 --> 01:13:14,539
I mean, I always thought, oh, I'm an

2060
01:13:14,539 --> 01:13:16,539
anxious human. My mom is so anxious I

2061
01:13:16,539 --> 01:13:18,479
knew the youngest has us beak.

2062
01:13:19,100 --> 01:13:21,659
But she she is doing better. She's There's

2063
01:13:21,659 --> 01:13:22,664
there's a lot of growth

2064
01:13:23,625 --> 01:13:25,944
there. Okay. Now we're gonna actually talk about

2065
01:13:25,944 --> 01:13:26,925
kink. Yeah.

2066
01:13:29,385 --> 01:13:31,484
It's a question we got ages ago.

2067
01:13:32,185 --> 01:13:33,885
I've had thoughts about it ever since.

2068
01:13:35,399 --> 01:13:36,679
I don't know that the answer is gonna

2069
01:13:36,679 --> 01:13:39,899
be satisfying because we believe in nuance, but

2070
01:13:40,439 --> 01:13:42,279
can you be in a power exchange with

2071
01:13:42,279 --> 01:13:44,460
somebody that you don't agree with politically? You're

2072
01:13:45,560 --> 01:13:47,260
on differing sides of the political

2073
01:13:48,234 --> 01:13:49,454
spectrum. It depends.

2074
01:13:49,994 --> 01:13:52,475
It's the most dissatisfying answer. Right? I and,

2075
01:13:52,475 --> 01:13:54,734
you know, I mean, it it is, but,

2076
01:13:54,875 --> 01:13:56,975
you know, that you you can't,

2077
01:13:58,555 --> 01:13:59,835
I was I was,

2078
01:14:02,314 --> 01:14:04,940
in a long term relationship somebody who is,

2079
01:14:05,900 --> 01:14:06,800
very conservative.

2080
01:14:07,260 --> 01:14:08,380
Mhmm. And,

2081
01:14:11,340 --> 01:14:12,640
you see where I am today.

2082
01:14:15,180 --> 01:14:17,340
The stock power exchange, but yes, my my

2083
01:14:17,340 --> 01:14:18,239
mother and

2084
01:14:19,375 --> 01:14:22,095
the man she married are on complete opposite

2085
01:14:22,095 --> 01:14:23,074
sides of the political

2086
01:14:23,534 --> 01:14:25,715
political spectrum, and that's not a happy relationship.

2087
01:14:25,774 --> 01:14:27,215
Not just for that, but that's a big

2088
01:14:27,215 --> 01:14:28,034
fucking part.

2089
01:14:28,494 --> 01:14:30,015
Here's how I break it down in my

2090
01:14:30,015 --> 01:14:31,454
head, and I think there's more ways than

2091
01:14:31,454 --> 01:14:32,655
what I can come up with, but this

2092
01:14:32,655 --> 01:14:33,149
is what I've

2093
01:14:34,350 --> 01:14:35,250
come up with. If

2094
01:14:36,029 --> 01:14:36,529
you

2095
01:14:36,989 --> 01:14:37,489
are

2096
01:14:38,270 --> 01:14:38,770
politically

2097
01:14:40,429 --> 01:14:42,289
active or knowledgeable or engaged,

2098
01:14:42,829 --> 01:14:43,550
right, on your side of the political spectrum,

2099
01:14:43,550 --> 01:14:44,130
and your

2100
01:14:47,085 --> 01:14:49,164
partner is one of a few things I

2101
01:14:49,164 --> 01:14:50,685
think the outcome might change, but it is

2102
01:14:50,685 --> 01:14:52,064
a personal decision for you.

2103
01:14:53,244 --> 01:14:55,645
If they are completely apolitical, they do not

2104
01:14:55,645 --> 01:14:57,484
look at the news, they don't know what's

2105
01:14:57,484 --> 01:15:00,349
happening outside of whatever their hobbies are, they

2106
01:15:00,349 --> 01:15:01,329
don't even vote,

2107
01:15:02,909 --> 01:15:03,649
but they,

2108
01:15:04,189 --> 01:15:04,849
you know,

2109
01:15:05,630 --> 01:15:06,130
registered

2110
01:15:07,229 --> 01:15:09,710
Republican and you're a Democrat, but they're not

2111
01:15:09,710 --> 01:15:12,414
doing anything with it? They're not supporting anything,

2112
01:15:12,414 --> 01:15:14,255
I think that's worth a conversation. Like, why

2113
01:15:14,255 --> 01:15:16,414
are you registered if you don't support? Register

2114
01:15:16,414 --> 01:15:18,494
independent. Right? If that if your state does

2115
01:15:18,494 --> 01:15:18,994
that.

2116
01:15:20,414 --> 01:15:21,154
That becomes

2117
01:15:21,454 --> 01:15:23,935
a a conversation for you of do I

2118
01:15:23,935 --> 01:15:25,529
want to be in a power exchange with

2119
01:15:25,529 --> 01:15:27,609
somebody who does not care about this thing

2120
01:15:27,609 --> 01:15:29,689
that I care about? That's a choice only

2121
01:15:29,689 --> 01:15:30,510
you can make.

2122
01:15:31,449 --> 01:15:33,369
If you've got if you're in a relationship

2123
01:15:33,369 --> 01:15:34,750
with somebody who

2124
01:15:35,289 --> 01:15:35,789
votes,

2125
01:15:36,569 --> 01:15:38,670
but they vote who they've always voted for,

2126
01:15:38,969 --> 01:15:40,875
they don't they're not engaged in politics because

2127
01:15:40,875 --> 01:15:42,474
maybe they say they just don't care. But

2128
01:15:42,474 --> 01:15:44,554
win a big election, they're always gonna vote

2129
01:15:44,554 --> 01:15:46,314
for the same party no matter what regardless

2130
01:15:46,314 --> 01:15:47,295
of what's happening.

2131
01:15:47,994 --> 01:15:50,414
This is dissatisfying but only you can decide

2132
01:15:50,715 --> 01:15:52,154
if that is okay with you, if you

2133
01:15:52,154 --> 01:15:53,215
can live with that.

2134
01:15:54,570 --> 01:15:56,090
There are people I know who could not,

2135
01:15:56,090 --> 01:15:58,250
would not, would never be them and then

2136
01:15:58,250 --> 01:15:59,850
there are people I know who are like

2137
01:15:59,850 --> 01:16:01,149
everything else is good,

2138
01:16:01,609 --> 01:16:02,270
you know,

2139
01:16:02,729 --> 01:16:04,329
maybe they'll change, maybe we can have these

2140
01:16:04,329 --> 01:16:06,090
conversations, maybe we can grow together, like whatever

2141
01:16:06,090 --> 01:16:06,590
whatever.

2142
01:16:07,234 --> 01:16:08,994
There I don't think there's a singular right

2143
01:16:08,994 --> 01:16:09,814
answer here.

2144
01:16:10,114 --> 01:16:11,255
It gets trickier

2145
01:16:12,435 --> 01:16:15,494
when you both are pretty fucking firm and

2146
01:16:15,555 --> 01:16:18,354
activated and know what you think and how

2147
01:16:18,354 --> 01:16:19,095
you feel.

2148
01:16:19,590 --> 01:16:22,409
Now here's what my decision would be.

2149
01:16:23,590 --> 01:16:26,229
I don't know that I can trust a

2150
01:16:26,229 --> 01:16:27,770
person with the responsibility

2151
01:16:28,229 --> 01:16:29,929
of control over me

2152
01:16:30,789 --> 01:16:31,125
if

2153
01:16:31,604 --> 01:16:33,784
they literally do not care

2154
01:16:34,164 --> 01:16:35,465
about other people.

2155
01:16:36,404 --> 01:16:38,404
They don't care that rights are being stripped

2156
01:16:38,404 --> 01:16:40,164
away. They don't care that people are being

2157
01:16:40,164 --> 01:16:42,505
killed in the streets. They don't care that,

2158
01:16:42,564 --> 01:16:44,164
you know, we have federal agents who think

2159
01:16:44,164 --> 01:16:45,064
they can walk around

2160
01:16:45,765 --> 01:16:48,000
not showing their face, not having a badge

2161
01:16:48,000 --> 01:16:49,599
number, not giving a last name, like, nothing

2162
01:16:49,599 --> 01:16:51,119
that the police would have to do. These

2163
01:16:51,119 --> 01:16:53,840
got like, if they actively are telling you

2164
01:16:53,840 --> 01:16:55,599
that they don't give a fuck and or

2165
01:16:55,599 --> 01:16:57,619
they support it and you were actively

2166
01:16:57,920 --> 01:16:59,219
on the other side going,

2167
01:16:59,725 --> 01:17:01,725
that that's a violation of due process. That's

2168
01:17:01,725 --> 01:17:02,465
that's unethical.

2169
01:17:03,005 --> 01:17:04,385
That's evil. That

2170
01:17:04,765 --> 01:17:06,125
I don't know how you do it because

2171
01:17:06,125 --> 01:17:07,265
I I could not.

2172
01:17:08,765 --> 01:17:10,844
Are there people who decide they can do

2173
01:17:10,844 --> 01:17:12,064
it? Yep.

2174
01:17:12,685 --> 01:17:14,385
That goes back to a personal decision.

2175
01:17:15,539 --> 01:17:17,800
It I think it's how you view both

2176
01:17:17,859 --> 01:17:20,579
the politics of of what you believe wherever

2177
01:17:20,579 --> 01:17:23,159
you're on at on the spectrum of politics

2178
01:17:23,699 --> 01:17:24,600
and also

2179
01:17:25,140 --> 01:17:27,239
how you feel about power exchange.

2180
01:17:29,025 --> 01:17:31,345
I don't don't need a partner who agrees

2181
01:17:31,345 --> 01:17:33,265
with me on everything, but I do want

2182
01:17:33,265 --> 01:17:35,425
a partner that has similar ethics and morals

2183
01:17:35,425 --> 01:17:38,225
and values to me. Because there can come

2184
01:17:38,225 --> 01:17:41,284
a time when shit gets real fucking real.

2185
01:17:42,140 --> 01:17:44,720
And if we don't align on how we

2186
01:17:45,340 --> 01:17:47,739
think people should be treated regardless of who

2187
01:17:47,739 --> 01:17:48,479
they are,

2188
01:17:48,859 --> 01:17:50,800
and we don't align on,

2189
01:17:51,260 --> 01:17:51,920
you know,

2190
01:17:52,380 --> 01:17:53,439
does our constitution

2191
01:17:53,819 --> 01:17:56,539
count for everybody or just a few special

2192
01:17:56,539 --> 01:17:59,194
people? Like, the the and and that's important

2193
01:17:59,194 --> 01:17:59,854
to you. Right?

2194
01:18:01,274 --> 01:18:03,354
Now if you are just like your registered

2195
01:18:03,354 --> 01:18:05,274
thing one way because you just are and

2196
01:18:05,274 --> 01:18:06,574
you just don't care

2197
01:18:06,875 --> 01:18:09,274
and they're the same way, you're probably gonna

2198
01:18:09,274 --> 01:18:11,529
be fine. Yeah. I there there comes a

2199
01:18:11,529 --> 01:18:13,930
point It depends. Yeah. It it depends on

2200
01:18:13,930 --> 01:18:15,689
a lot of things. And I mean, you

2201
01:18:15,689 --> 01:18:16,590
you can even,

2202
01:18:17,770 --> 01:18:19,609
you know, I've I've had I've done this

2203
01:18:19,609 --> 01:18:21,869
with with friends in the past, you know.

2204
01:18:22,890 --> 01:18:24,489
I don't agree with you, but can we

2205
01:18:24,489 --> 01:18:25,469
agree to disagree?

2206
01:18:26,145 --> 01:18:28,465
And see, and I think it depends. Policy

2207
01:18:28,545 --> 01:18:30,784
oh, yeah. Yeah. It definitely depends. Yeah. Talking

2208
01:18:30,784 --> 01:18:33,104
about here's this bucket of tax dollars, and

2209
01:18:33,104 --> 01:18:34,625
I think it should go to this, and

2210
01:18:34,625 --> 01:18:36,164
you think it should go to that.

2211
01:18:36,625 --> 01:18:37,765
That's a political

2212
01:18:38,385 --> 01:18:38,885
discussion.

2213
01:18:39,260 --> 01:18:42,380
Mhmm. But the current situation in the world,

2214
01:18:42,380 --> 01:18:43,920
we don't have those conversations.

2215
01:18:44,859 --> 01:18:46,079
We, you know,

2216
01:18:46,460 --> 01:18:48,939
we literally say, I don't think trans one

2217
01:18:48,939 --> 01:18:51,579
side says trans people should not exist. Yeah.

2218
01:18:51,579 --> 01:18:52,560
Right? Yeah.

2219
01:18:53,145 --> 01:18:55,625
That's not I can't policy discuss my way

2220
01:18:55,625 --> 01:18:57,064
out of that with somebody. I can't make

2221
01:18:57,064 --> 01:18:58,664
you see the humanity of my child if

2222
01:18:58,664 --> 01:19:02,284
you were determined not to. Mhmm. And look,

2223
01:19:03,465 --> 01:19:05,324
cis white lady here just, like,

2224
01:19:05,784 --> 01:19:08,599
jumping on the right many of y'all have

2225
01:19:08,599 --> 01:19:10,539
been here. Your whole lives have been this.

2226
01:19:10,920 --> 01:19:12,840
I cannot speak for you. I do not

2227
01:19:12,840 --> 01:19:14,139
wanna talk over anybody.

2228
01:19:16,039 --> 01:19:18,760
But this is me reminding others who look

2229
01:19:18,760 --> 01:19:19,500
like me

2230
01:19:19,880 --> 01:19:21,739
that none of that's new either.

2231
01:19:22,564 --> 01:19:24,264
It's just more obvious.

2232
01:19:27,444 --> 01:19:28,505
Yeah. I

2233
01:19:31,604 --> 01:19:33,944
and mister Spock Mhmm. Said it, I think.

2234
01:19:34,005 --> 01:19:35,820
I I wasn't sure mister Spock was quoting

2235
01:19:35,820 --> 01:19:37,199
silent or answering silent.

2236
01:19:37,659 --> 01:19:39,659
I wouldn't feel safe in a BDSM relationship

2237
01:19:39,659 --> 01:19:41,420
with someone who didn't believe in basic rights

2238
01:19:41,420 --> 01:19:43,260
that speaks a lot to questions about how

2239
01:19:43,260 --> 01:19:46,140
they'll look at consent. Yeah. Thank you. Mhmm.

2240
01:19:46,140 --> 01:19:48,079
A 100%. That that's, yeah.

2241
01:19:48,614 --> 01:19:50,715
But I'm not gonna vilify somebody who

2242
01:19:51,814 --> 01:19:53,894
has a partner and a power exchange that

2243
01:19:53,894 --> 01:19:56,694
works that you don't align politically because it

2244
01:19:56,694 --> 01:19:58,694
is a personal choice. I can only tell

2245
01:19:58,694 --> 01:20:00,390
you what I'm gonna do, but I do

2246
01:20:00,470 --> 01:20:02,550
I do think it depends on how political

2247
01:20:02,550 --> 01:20:04,070
are they because a lot of people don't

2248
01:20:04,070 --> 01:20:04,570
care.

2249
01:20:05,110 --> 01:20:07,770
Half the fucking eligible voters in The US

2250
01:20:08,070 --> 01:20:09,670
do not vote whether they're registered or not.

2251
01:20:09,670 --> 01:20:10,789
I can't remember if that number is that

2252
01:20:10,789 --> 01:20:12,145
they're not even registered or they just don't

2253
01:20:12,145 --> 01:20:13,154
vote. I cannot remember.

2254
01:20:14,114 --> 01:20:14,854
But half

2255
01:20:15,715 --> 01:20:18,194
half those people probably have partners. You know

2256
01:20:18,194 --> 01:20:20,434
what I mean? And some of those partners

2257
01:20:20,434 --> 01:20:21,094
are voting.

2258
01:20:21,395 --> 01:20:23,715
And it's entirely possible that with a person

2259
01:20:23,715 --> 01:20:25,474
who just doesn't seem to care, it's not

2260
01:20:25,474 --> 01:20:27,474
a priority, it doesn't affect them enough for

2261
01:20:27,474 --> 01:20:29,789
them to wanna hear, or or, and this

2262
01:20:29,789 --> 01:20:31,969
is very real, they believe it doesn't matter.

2263
01:20:32,189 --> 01:20:33,710
Yeah. There are a lot of people who

2264
01:20:33,710 --> 01:20:35,149
have been conditioned to think it doesn't matter.

2265
01:20:35,149 --> 01:20:36,609
They've been conditioned to think that

2266
01:20:37,069 --> 01:20:39,329
both sides are exactly the same. No.

2267
01:20:39,869 --> 01:20:41,010
There's some problems.

2268
01:20:41,645 --> 01:20:43,484
There's some shit I want to change in

2269
01:20:43,484 --> 01:20:43,984
my

2270
01:20:44,444 --> 01:20:45,984
particular party affiliation,

2271
01:20:47,164 --> 01:20:48,385
but there are differences.

2272
01:20:48,765 --> 01:20:51,024
Right? And some of them are stark differences,

2273
01:20:51,725 --> 01:20:53,265
and voting does matter.

2274
01:20:53,885 --> 01:20:56,439
Yeah. It is possible that you as the

2275
01:20:56,439 --> 01:20:59,079
political one with a supportive partner who supports

2276
01:20:59,079 --> 01:21:00,920
your endeavors and is like, I don't give

2277
01:21:00,920 --> 01:21:02,539
a fuck, but I'm happy for you.

2278
01:21:03,399 --> 01:21:05,899
We do influence the people around us.

2279
01:21:06,279 --> 01:21:07,739
You know? Not immediately,

2280
01:21:08,604 --> 01:21:09,425
not quickly.

2281
01:21:10,524 --> 01:21:13,005
It can take a long time. Sometimes and

2282
01:21:13,005 --> 01:21:13,984
I hate this,

2283
01:21:15,085 --> 01:21:17,104
but I've also been this.

2284
01:21:17,645 --> 01:21:20,045
Sometimes it has to impact us personally before

2285
01:21:20,045 --> 01:21:21,324
we can step up in the way we

2286
01:21:21,324 --> 01:21:23,050
need to. Should it be that way? No.

2287
01:21:23,050 --> 01:21:25,050
I think basic empathy and caring about your

2288
01:21:25,050 --> 01:21:28,170
fellow human being and their basic right to

2289
01:21:28,170 --> 01:21:29,789
fucking exist peacefully

2290
01:21:30,650 --> 01:21:32,750
shouldn't be a thing we don't care about.

2291
01:21:33,770 --> 01:21:35,335
And the thing I've been see, I've been

2292
01:21:35,335 --> 01:21:36,154
telling JB

2293
01:21:37,094 --> 01:21:39,094
all this whole time since he became a

2294
01:21:39,094 --> 01:21:41,494
little bit more politically active. I was like,

2295
01:21:41,494 --> 01:21:43,255
look. I've been a blue dot in a

2296
01:21:43,255 --> 01:21:45,494
sea of fucking deep red conservative my whole

2297
01:21:45,494 --> 01:21:47,654
life except for the three five years we

2298
01:21:47,654 --> 01:21:48,930
lived in the Tampa Bay area and I

2299
01:21:48,930 --> 01:21:51,010
got to be in a purple area, and

2300
01:21:51,010 --> 01:21:53,030
it was a whole new fucking world.

2301
01:21:53,489 --> 01:21:53,989
Okay?

2302
01:21:54,369 --> 01:21:57,250
But I've been in these spaces and I

2303
01:21:57,250 --> 01:21:58,710
know how some not.

2304
01:21:59,170 --> 01:22:00,229
Some of these people

2305
01:22:00,610 --> 01:22:03,244
act. They do not give a fuck until

2306
01:22:03,244 --> 01:22:04,864
it it impacts them

2307
01:22:05,324 --> 01:22:06,545
personally. But you know what?

2308
01:22:07,885 --> 01:22:09,404
I don't have to like those people. I

2309
01:22:09,404 --> 01:22:10,925
don't have to forgive those people, but I

2310
01:22:10,925 --> 01:22:12,364
sure as shit will take their fucking vote

2311
01:22:12,364 --> 01:22:14,619
and take their their money and take their

2312
01:22:14,619 --> 01:22:15,440
support on

2313
01:22:15,820 --> 01:22:18,220
the causes I care about if they'll finally

2314
01:22:18,220 --> 01:22:19,280
fucking get there.

2315
01:22:21,420 --> 01:22:22,720
When I told JB,

2316
01:22:23,739 --> 01:22:25,280
both times both times,

2317
01:22:25,659 --> 01:22:26,479
this president

2318
01:22:26,780 --> 01:22:27,659
got to be president,

2319
01:22:29,074 --> 01:22:30,675
that people probably would not care until it

2320
01:22:30,675 --> 01:22:31,875
had to it would have to get real

2321
01:22:31,875 --> 01:22:34,194
bad for the people who voted him in

2322
01:22:34,194 --> 01:22:35,494
before there was change.

2323
01:22:36,114 --> 01:22:37,795
I didn't know how bad, and I didn't

2324
01:22:37,795 --> 01:22:39,335
wanna be right. Mhmm.

2325
01:22:39,954 --> 01:22:40,935
But I've just

2326
01:22:41,789 --> 01:22:43,630
I remember the tea part. I was I

2327
01:22:43,630 --> 01:22:44,909
feel like I was there the day the

2328
01:22:44,909 --> 01:22:46,590
tea party started because I lived in a

2329
01:22:46,590 --> 01:22:49,310
deep red fucking area where MAGA is currently

2330
01:22:49,310 --> 01:22:50,130
very popular.

2331
01:22:50,590 --> 01:22:53,229
Tea party was thriving. Yeah. And if you're

2332
01:22:53,229 --> 01:22:54,270
old enough to know who the fuck the

2333
01:22:54,270 --> 01:22:56,204
tea party was, if you know, you know.

2334
01:22:57,405 --> 01:22:59,484
I've just I've I've lived it. I've been

2335
01:22:59,484 --> 01:23:01,564
around it. I've got I've got people in

2336
01:23:01,564 --> 01:23:03,645
my family who are it, and I see

2337
01:23:03,645 --> 01:23:04,145
how

2338
01:23:04,445 --> 01:23:06,864
many, not all Yeah. Of those people are.

2339
01:23:07,164 --> 01:23:10,445
Until it matters to them personally, it doesn't

2340
01:23:10,445 --> 01:23:12,520
matter. And I don't want the world to

2341
01:23:12,520 --> 01:23:13,659
be that way, but

2342
01:23:14,119 --> 01:23:16,060
that's how the world is for some people.

2343
01:23:17,000 --> 01:23:18,840
I I think it would be better if

2344
01:23:18,840 --> 01:23:19,979
they weren't like that.

2345
01:23:22,920 --> 01:23:23,420
So

2346
01:23:24,439 --> 01:23:24,939
yeah.

2347
01:23:26,104 --> 01:23:27,304
Can you be in a power exchange with

2348
01:23:27,304 --> 01:23:29,064
somebody you are not politically aligned with? It

2349
01:23:29,064 --> 01:23:31,545
depends. Mhmm. And I think it starts with

2350
01:23:31,545 --> 01:23:33,864
your personal ethics. Do you want a partner

2351
01:23:33,864 --> 01:23:36,444
who maybe you don't agree on every topic,

2352
01:23:37,064 --> 01:23:39,465
but you know you're you have similar morals

2353
01:23:39,465 --> 01:23:40,524
and values and ethics?

2354
01:23:41,000 --> 01:23:43,079
If you're aligned there, I think the rest

2355
01:23:43,079 --> 01:23:44,140
can be figured out.

2356
01:23:44,520 --> 01:23:46,279
The rest can kinda be like, okay. Well,

2357
01:23:46,279 --> 01:23:48,039
we don't disagree on how the tax dollars

2358
01:23:48,039 --> 01:23:49,659
should be spent or what the property

2359
01:23:50,199 --> 01:23:53,319
tax millage rate should be. That's fine. I

2360
01:23:53,560 --> 01:23:55,079
can we go to a time when we

2361
01:23:55,079 --> 01:23:56,375
could just discuss that?

2362
01:23:56,755 --> 01:23:58,935
Can we that's where we disagree on shit?

2363
01:23:59,074 --> 01:24:00,994
But, you know, if you've got a, if

2364
01:24:00,994 --> 01:24:02,515
you've got a partner who's like, I think

2365
01:24:02,515 --> 01:24:04,274
every book that I don't like, that I

2366
01:24:04,274 --> 01:24:06,675
have not read should be banned, and you're

2367
01:24:06,675 --> 01:24:08,595
like, actually, I think kids should have access

2368
01:24:08,595 --> 01:24:10,135
to all kinds of books. Yeah.

2369
01:24:11,039 --> 01:24:13,760
I'm just there's some alignments that don't align,

2370
01:24:13,760 --> 01:24:16,640
you know? I think some people are don't

2371
01:24:16,640 --> 01:24:17,939
deserve, you

2372
01:24:18,479 --> 01:24:21,039
know, full rights and humanity within our country,

2373
01:24:21,039 --> 01:24:22,720
and you're over here going, but I do.

2374
01:24:22,720 --> 01:24:23,699
That's a problem.

2375
01:24:24,085 --> 01:24:26,965
I don't know how you was that square

2376
01:24:26,965 --> 01:24:29,524
that circle? Circle that? Close there's a square

2377
01:24:29,524 --> 01:24:31,125
circle. Yeah. I can't see it right now

2378
01:24:31,125 --> 01:24:32,824
either. Somebody will remind me in the comments.

2379
01:24:35,524 --> 01:24:36,024
So

2380
01:24:42,119 --> 01:24:42,619
yeah.

2381
01:24:43,079 --> 01:24:43,579
Yeah.

2382
01:24:45,000 --> 01:24:46,439
I hope I don't get yelled at too

2383
01:24:46,439 --> 01:24:47,800
much, but I just need folks to know

2384
01:24:47,800 --> 01:24:48,840
if you want to yell at me, you

2385
01:24:48,840 --> 01:24:50,359
are yelling at your fucking self because I'm

2386
01:24:50,359 --> 01:24:51,420
not talking to you.

2387
01:24:52,975 --> 01:24:53,475
I'm,

2388
01:24:57,055 --> 01:24:58,654
I'm I'm firm in my beliefs. I know

2389
01:24:58,654 --> 01:25:00,034
where I stand on things.

2390
01:25:00,494 --> 01:25:02,094
I am willing to be wrong on the

2391
01:25:02,094 --> 01:25:04,335
details of something, on the specific, like, facts,

2392
01:25:04,335 --> 01:25:05,454
but not in this

2393
01:25:06,094 --> 01:25:07,350
I I don't think I'm wrong in the

2394
01:25:07,350 --> 01:25:07,850
spirit.

2395
01:25:09,189 --> 01:25:11,109
I have said this many times over the

2396
01:25:11,109 --> 01:25:13,109
past ten plus years that I do not

2397
01:25:13,109 --> 01:25:15,429
understand how somebody can be kinky and somehow

2398
01:25:15,429 --> 01:25:17,350
think that they are better than other facets

2399
01:25:17,350 --> 01:25:18,010
of humanity

2400
01:25:18,310 --> 01:25:18,810
because

2401
01:25:20,025 --> 01:25:22,265
you can lose access to certain parts of

2402
01:25:22,265 --> 01:25:23,864
society just for being kinky too. It is

2403
01:25:23,945 --> 01:25:25,385
is it the same as being a person

2404
01:25:25,385 --> 01:25:27,005
of color or being in the LGBTQ

2405
01:25:27,465 --> 01:25:30,125
plus community? Of course not. But it's still

2406
01:25:30,585 --> 01:25:33,305
you I promise you, kinky people, there are

2407
01:25:33,305 --> 01:25:34,925
entire swaths of

2408
01:25:35,599 --> 01:25:37,460
population in every country

2409
01:25:38,159 --> 01:25:40,079
that do not approve of your kinkiness, that

2410
01:25:40,079 --> 01:25:42,099
think that you are deviant and wrong,

2411
01:25:43,039 --> 01:25:45,520
and they are across the political spectrum. I

2412
01:25:45,520 --> 01:25:47,059
know plenty of extremely,

2413
01:25:47,574 --> 01:25:49,255
or is it leftist? Is it liberal? The

2414
01:25:49,255 --> 01:25:51,895
language is changing for the the the Democrat

2415
01:25:51,895 --> 01:25:53,414
side and I have not kept up yet,

2416
01:25:53,414 --> 01:25:56,055
so I don't the far left, there are

2417
01:25:56,055 --> 01:25:59,194
some extremely liberal people who think all BDSM,

2418
01:25:59,335 --> 01:26:01,975
all porn, all it is inherently evil and

2419
01:26:01,975 --> 01:26:03,409
should not exist. So

2420
01:26:04,989 --> 01:26:06,510
I feel like if you're gonna be kinky

2421
01:26:06,510 --> 01:26:08,050
and you're gonna be up in this community,

2422
01:26:08,670 --> 01:26:10,590
you're gonna have to learn about inclusivity and

2423
01:26:10,590 --> 01:26:12,609
giving a fuck about more than just you

2424
01:26:13,310 --> 01:26:13,810
because

2425
01:26:14,845 --> 01:26:15,965
there are people in this world who would

2426
01:26:15,965 --> 01:26:17,324
take away your right to be kinky if

2427
01:26:17,324 --> 01:26:18,305
they thought they could.

2428
01:26:19,364 --> 01:26:19,864
Mhmm.

2429
01:26:20,925 --> 01:26:21,324
So

2430
01:26:21,805 --> 01:26:22,305
Yep.

2431
01:26:23,324 --> 01:26:23,824
Okay.

2432
01:26:27,300 --> 01:26:27,800
Yeah.

2433
01:26:28,340 --> 01:26:30,020
Oh, Silent had a very good point to

2434
01:26:30,020 --> 01:26:31,220
make. I don't know in what part of

2435
01:26:31,220 --> 01:26:32,979
the conversation this comes up in, but the

2436
01:26:32,979 --> 01:26:34,520
point in general is

2437
01:26:34,979 --> 01:26:37,300
spot on. Okay. Silent says, I feel like

2438
01:26:37,300 --> 01:26:38,340
the BIPOC, that's,

2439
01:26:39,060 --> 01:26:42,135
black indigenous people of color community, LGBTQ plus

2440
01:26:42,215 --> 01:26:44,694
community, disabled, and other marginalized communities have different

2441
01:26:44,694 --> 01:26:46,375
thoughts on how different your views can be

2442
01:26:46,375 --> 01:26:47,034
while coexisting.

2443
01:26:47,494 --> 01:26:48,534
A 100

2444
01:26:48,534 --> 01:26:51,175
percent. Yeah. A 100%. And I'm not speaking

2445
01:26:51,175 --> 01:26:53,175
for none of y'all. Y'all y'all tell me.

2446
01:26:53,175 --> 01:26:53,675
Okay?

2447
01:26:54,210 --> 01:26:55,909
Y'all tell me because that is

2448
01:26:56,529 --> 01:26:59,829
we have different experiences. And just remember, anybody

2449
01:27:00,369 --> 01:27:02,210
y'all some of y'all know. I'm gonna say

2450
01:27:02,210 --> 01:27:03,510
the thing you're like, duh.

2451
01:27:04,609 --> 01:27:06,550
We speak through the lens of our experience.

2452
01:27:06,555 --> 01:27:08,555
We try to broaden our horizons. We we

2453
01:27:08,555 --> 01:27:10,795
try so hard to remember that our experience

2454
01:27:10,795 --> 01:27:12,335
is not the experience.

2455
01:27:12,875 --> 01:27:14,954
We will miss shit. Okay? That because our

2456
01:27:14,954 --> 01:27:16,814
experiences we literally cannot have.

2457
01:27:17,114 --> 01:27:17,614
So

2458
01:27:18,600 --> 01:27:19,100
I

2459
01:27:20,520 --> 01:27:22,680
when we can, let's let me put that

2460
01:27:22,680 --> 01:27:24,680
out there for y'all. For people who let's

2461
01:27:24,680 --> 01:27:26,119
listen to the people who are living this

2462
01:27:26,119 --> 01:27:28,439
shit. Right? And can tell us, wait this

2463
01:27:28,439 --> 01:27:30,280
is my experience because it will be different

2464
01:27:30,280 --> 01:27:32,965
from mine. A 100% every day, all day.

2465
01:27:34,225 --> 01:27:35,585
Which is why we need to be more

2466
01:27:35,585 --> 01:27:37,585
fucking inclusive in general because everybody's got a

2467
01:27:37,585 --> 01:27:39,604
point of view and everybody's got an experience.

2468
01:27:40,064 --> 01:27:40,564
Mhmm.

2469
01:27:42,305 --> 01:27:42,805
Anyway.

2470
01:27:45,199 --> 01:27:48,479
So for anybody who wonders, yes. I will

2471
01:27:48,479 --> 01:27:49,780
obsess over everything.

2472
01:27:50,159 --> 01:27:52,239
I didn't say, thought I said. Was that

2473
01:27:52,239 --> 01:27:54,320
tone right? Did it did it come away

2474
01:27:54,560 --> 01:27:56,283
come across the way I meant you? Did

2475
01:27:56,283 --> 01:27:58,281
I sound like a dumbass? This one usually

2476
01:27:58,281 --> 01:28:00,057
I do it for three or four days.

2477
01:28:00,057 --> 01:28:01,834
This one, I think we'll have a week

2478
01:28:01,834 --> 01:28:03,610
or so I'll be obsessing over it. You

2479
01:28:03,610 --> 01:28:05,387
know, for anybody who recognizes this, if you

2480
01:28:05,387 --> 01:28:07,163
ever had a conversation with somebody and then

2481
01:28:07,163 --> 01:28:09,590
like hours later, sometimes days later, sometimes years

2482
01:28:09,590 --> 01:28:11,510
later, why? You're like, why did I say

2483
01:28:11,510 --> 01:28:13,369
that thing? Did I say that right? I

2484
01:28:13,989 --> 01:28:14,970
do that with the podcast.

2485
01:28:15,829 --> 01:28:17,050
Everything we record.

2486
01:28:18,310 --> 01:28:19,530
Everything we record.

2487
01:28:20,869 --> 01:28:23,609
And the more desperately I want to

2488
01:28:24,425 --> 01:28:26,024
do right by a topic, the more I

2489
01:28:26,024 --> 01:28:26,524
obsess.

2490
01:28:27,305 --> 01:28:27,805
So,

2491
01:28:31,064 --> 01:28:32,505
I'm sure I missed some things. I'm sure

2492
01:28:32,505 --> 01:28:34,664
there's some things to add. Certainly resources, I

2493
01:28:34,664 --> 01:28:35,944
could not have listed. We could not have

2494
01:28:35,944 --> 01:28:37,625
listed every resource. We would still be here

2495
01:28:37,625 --> 01:28:38,489
just reciting resources.

2496
01:28:39,690 --> 01:28:41,530
Those kinds of comments, the kinds of comments

2497
01:28:41,530 --> 01:28:43,530
that are helpful for people to here's a

2498
01:28:43,530 --> 01:28:44,650
place where you can go learn, here's a

2499
01:28:44,650 --> 01:28:46,650
place who needs your time and attention, here's

2500
01:28:46,650 --> 01:28:49,050
an issue to consider, please please share it

2501
01:28:49,050 --> 01:28:50,595
in all the ways that you can because

2502
01:28:50,755 --> 01:28:51,954
there will be other people who find your

2503
01:28:51,954 --> 01:28:53,235
comments and will be like, oh, that's a

2504
01:28:53,235 --> 01:28:54,914
thing. I didn't think about that. Oh, that's

2505
01:28:54,914 --> 01:28:56,375
a thing that interests me. Whatever.

2506
01:28:57,074 --> 01:28:58,835
But yes. If you would like to put

2507
01:28:58,835 --> 01:29:00,614
fingers to keyboard to

2508
01:29:01,395 --> 01:29:03,715
yeah. To to debate me bro kind of

2509
01:29:03,715 --> 01:29:06,810
on politics and on our personal ethics, morals,

2510
01:29:06,810 --> 01:29:07,469
and values,

2511
01:29:08,010 --> 01:29:09,710
you're talking to yourself. I don't care.

2512
01:29:10,649 --> 01:29:12,090
I hate say I I feel like I

2513
01:29:12,090 --> 01:29:13,609
wanna say that because it's important, but I

2514
01:29:13,609 --> 01:29:14,969
also know some people take that as a

2515
01:29:14,969 --> 01:29:15,469
challenge.

2516
01:29:15,929 --> 01:29:18,489
We're just I'm just blocking and deleting it

2517
01:29:18,489 --> 01:29:19,469
as I see it,

2518
01:29:20,090 --> 01:29:21,149
just so you know.

2519
01:29:28,295 --> 01:29:30,295
So all that, and we could go into

2520
01:29:30,295 --> 01:29:32,715
a bonus section if you're ready, Jamie.

2521
01:29:33,574 --> 01:29:35,274
I'm as ready as I'm going, babe.

2522
01:29:36,054 --> 01:29:38,000
Oh Oh my gosh. It's already good. I

2523
01:29:38,000 --> 01:29:38,739
don't know.

2524
01:29:39,600 --> 01:29:41,680
Keep it kinky, y'all. And we'll see you

2525
01:29:41,680 --> 01:29:42,420
next week.

2526
01:29:52,564 --> 01:29:54,404
Can we talk to the crickets? Yes, baby

2527
01:29:54,404 --> 01:29:56,564
girl. About our cats and dogs. Damn. I

2528
01:29:56,564 --> 01:29:57,925
say dogs like we got more. We got

2529
01:29:57,925 --> 01:30:00,244
one. Yep. She is not currently wearing her

2530
01:30:00,244 --> 01:30:02,244
cone of shame. That's Lola for anybody who's

2531
01:30:02,244 --> 01:30:02,744
new.

2532
01:30:04,244 --> 01:30:06,104
So we took her to the eye doctor.

2533
01:30:06,949 --> 01:30:09,289
She still has ulcers in her eyeball,

2534
01:30:10,069 --> 01:30:11,829
which part of that was why she was

2535
01:30:11,829 --> 01:30:13,189
scratching at her eye and she had to

2536
01:30:13,189 --> 01:30:14,469
wear the cone of shame so she would

2537
01:30:14,469 --> 01:30:15,989
stop scratching at her eye because she was

2538
01:30:15,989 --> 01:30:18,090
causing more ulcers by scratching at her eye.

2539
01:30:19,244 --> 01:30:20,385
And the doctor

2540
01:30:21,005 --> 01:30:23,725
said, oh, she's almost healed. There's still a

2541
01:30:23,725 --> 01:30:25,564
little bit of ulcer left in here. Keep

2542
01:30:25,564 --> 01:30:26,704
giving her the antibiotic

2543
01:30:27,324 --> 01:30:30,204
drops. Antibiotic drops three times a day and

2544
01:30:30,204 --> 01:30:32,925
the sodium chloride four times a day. And

2545
01:30:32,925 --> 01:30:34,969
the antibiotic you have to give twenty minutes

2546
01:30:34,969 --> 01:30:36,409
before you give the sodium chloride or the

2547
01:30:36,409 --> 01:30:38,329
sodium chloride won't work the way it's supposed

2548
01:30:38,329 --> 01:30:40,569
to work. No. What it's it's the other

2549
01:30:40,569 --> 01:30:42,510
way around. Oh, is it? The,

2550
01:30:43,689 --> 01:30:45,770
the way he explained it to me was

2551
01:30:45,770 --> 01:30:46,270
the

2552
01:30:47,210 --> 01:30:47,710
antibiotic,

2553
01:30:48,095 --> 01:30:50,655
the liquid it's a liquid antibiotic dropped into

2554
01:30:50,655 --> 01:30:51,235
the eye

2555
01:30:52,015 --> 01:30:55,235
and It pulls out moisture. No. Oh. That

2556
01:30:55,614 --> 01:30:58,914
goes that goes in to stop any infection.

2557
01:30:59,215 --> 01:31:01,774
Right. Right. Right. Right. The sodium chloride, that's

2558
01:31:01,774 --> 01:31:03,215
what draws the water out. Right. Which is

2559
01:31:03,215 --> 01:31:04,890
why you have to do the antibiotic before

2560
01:31:04,890 --> 01:31:07,529
you get the soda back because neither will

2561
01:31:07,529 --> 01:31:09,050
work the way they're supposed to work. Neither.

2562
01:31:09,050 --> 01:31:10,489
Well, I guess so you're right. The sodium

2563
01:31:10,489 --> 01:31:12,909
chloride would work Would work. Then the antibiotic

2564
01:31:12,969 --> 01:31:14,329
would not. But then it would counter the

2565
01:31:14,329 --> 01:31:16,810
antibiotics. Taking care of Lola's meds, including her

2566
01:31:16,810 --> 01:31:19,085
eyes, is JB's new full time job.

2567
01:31:20,104 --> 01:31:21,944
I used to want to complain about dealing

2568
01:31:21,944 --> 01:31:23,545
with the litter boxes, and then I just

2569
01:31:23,545 --> 01:31:24,444
watched JB

2570
01:31:24,744 --> 01:31:27,704
with his Lola pill organizer, and I went,

2571
01:31:27,704 --> 01:31:29,305
you know what? I'm a shut my fucking

2572
01:31:29,305 --> 01:31:31,225
mouth. I I I I have a single

2573
01:31:31,225 --> 01:31:33,119
problem. It it was getting so

2574
01:31:34,079 --> 01:31:36,159
confusing with her meds, what she takes in

2575
01:31:36,159 --> 01:31:37,680
the morning, what she takes at night, what

2576
01:31:37,680 --> 01:31:39,280
has to be done. So, yeah, I put

2577
01:31:39,280 --> 01:31:41,280
together a pill minder for her. I had

2578
01:31:41,280 --> 01:31:43,920
to. Yeah. Otherwise, I couldn't keep it straight

2579
01:31:43,920 --> 01:31:44,979
for the poor thing.

2580
01:31:45,520 --> 01:31:47,520
So what they said was even though her

2581
01:31:47,520 --> 01:31:49,225
eye is still healing a little bit the

2582
01:31:49,225 --> 01:31:51,385
actual eyeball, the, like, gloopy part not around

2583
01:31:51,385 --> 01:31:53,145
her eye as long as she's not scratching

2584
01:31:53,145 --> 01:31:54,345
at her eye, she doesn't have to wear

2585
01:31:54,345 --> 01:31:55,324
the cone of shame.

2586
01:31:55,945 --> 01:31:58,345
She is happy, we are happy, all of

2587
01:31:58,345 --> 01:32:01,010
our furniture that's movable by the weight of

2588
01:32:01,010 --> 01:32:03,409
a 72 pound dog is happy. Our end

2589
01:32:03,409 --> 01:32:06,050
tables were just everywhere. She she was re

2590
01:32:06,210 --> 01:32:08,530
yeah. You know? Yeah. Moving furniture around left

2591
01:32:08,530 --> 01:32:09,350
and right, redecorating.

2592
01:32:10,130 --> 01:32:10,630
Yeah.

2593
01:32:11,090 --> 01:32:13,250
Or when she couldn't get through a spot

2594
01:32:13,250 --> 01:32:14,164
that she normally

2595
01:32:14,704 --> 01:32:16,145
could without her coat on, she just look

2596
01:32:16,145 --> 01:32:17,984
at you with the most pathetic tone of

2597
01:32:17,984 --> 01:32:19,684
a little bit. I wanna tell you something.

2598
01:32:20,304 --> 01:32:21,984
You know how she likes to go through

2599
01:32:21,984 --> 01:32:24,804
that spot between the cup the end table

2600
01:32:25,184 --> 01:32:27,984
and the sofa? Yes. I do. She plows

2601
01:32:27,984 --> 01:32:29,739
by me. She she had not been able

2602
01:32:29,739 --> 01:32:31,899
to go through that particular spot that she

2603
01:32:31,899 --> 01:32:32,399
does

2604
01:32:32,939 --> 01:32:34,159
with the cone on.

2605
01:32:34,539 --> 01:32:36,239
Not for lack of trying. Right.

2606
01:32:36,619 --> 01:32:37,119
Now

2607
01:32:37,659 --> 01:32:38,399
this morning,

2608
01:32:39,179 --> 01:32:40,319
when I woke her

2609
01:32:41,145 --> 01:32:42,304
when I woke her up and we did

2610
01:32:42,425 --> 01:32:44,844
I'm gonna do you know, she went

2611
01:32:45,864 --> 01:32:47,064
when I got up to go to the

2612
01:32:47,064 --> 01:32:49,645
kitchen to start feeding them, she went,

2613
01:32:50,024 --> 01:32:52,744
went around, went to that little cut up,

2614
01:32:52,744 --> 01:32:54,425
she looked at it, and then she walked

2615
01:32:54,425 --> 01:32:55,564
around the other way.

2616
01:32:56,920 --> 01:32:58,220
Sweet baby. Yeah.

2617
01:32:59,239 --> 01:33:01,079
Now the thing with Lola is the thing

2618
01:33:01,079 --> 01:33:02,760
that's wrong with her eye please don't ask

2619
01:33:02,760 --> 01:33:04,279
me to explain it. I I will look

2620
01:33:04,279 --> 01:33:06,359
that up. But it's an an ongoing problem,

2621
01:33:06,359 --> 01:33:08,039
and the fact that she might get ulcers

2622
01:33:08,039 --> 01:33:09,800
in her eye could become a pattern. It

2623
01:33:09,800 --> 01:33:11,079
could be a thing that happens and goes

2624
01:33:11,079 --> 01:33:11,564
and happens

2625
01:33:13,564 --> 01:33:13,671
goes. And what they said was if we

2626
01:33:13,671 --> 01:33:14,524
can keep her stable where she's not getting

2627
01:33:14,524 --> 01:33:16,064
these ulcers in her eye

2628
01:33:16,685 --> 01:33:18,604
consistently and we're not constantly having to give

2629
01:33:18,604 --> 01:33:20,204
her an antibiotic and put the damn phone

2630
01:33:20,204 --> 01:33:22,125
on, then cool, we can just, as the

2631
01:33:22,125 --> 01:33:23,744
doctor said, ride this wave.

2632
01:33:24,159 --> 01:33:26,559
Okay? But if this starts becoming an ongoing

2633
01:33:26,559 --> 01:33:28,559
thing where we're constantly having to do this,

2634
01:33:28,559 --> 01:33:30,500
then we have to look at surgery. Yeah.

2635
01:33:30,960 --> 01:33:32,179
So we are hoping

2636
01:33:32,559 --> 01:33:34,239
Mhmm. This is a one off and we

2637
01:33:34,239 --> 01:33:35,519
know what to look for and it'll be

2638
01:33:35,519 --> 01:33:37,679
fine, but we are prepared that there may

2639
01:33:37,679 --> 01:33:39,039
come a time that they have to do

2640
01:33:39,039 --> 01:33:41,734
surgery on her eye. Yeah. And and they

2641
01:33:41,734 --> 01:33:44,215
were really nice at this at the office.

2642
01:33:44,215 --> 01:33:45,814
They told us, you know, if you're ever

2643
01:33:45,814 --> 01:33:47,994
in doubt, take a picture of her eye

2644
01:33:48,614 --> 01:33:50,375
and send it to them, and they will,

2645
01:33:50,375 --> 01:33:52,935
you you know, advise what I you know,

2646
01:33:52,935 --> 01:33:54,399
it's weird to have an ophthalmologist

2647
01:33:54,699 --> 01:33:56,780
for a dog, but I do like them.

2648
01:33:56,780 --> 01:33:58,880
Yeah. The tech who always,

2649
01:33:59,579 --> 01:34:01,659
is always there. She Mhmm. That person is

2650
01:34:01,739 --> 01:34:04,079
just works every time we go in. Loves

2651
01:34:04,140 --> 01:34:06,619
Lola. Oh, yeah. If Lola was not so

2652
01:34:06,619 --> 01:34:08,984
stressed out about being there, Lola would love

2653
01:34:08,984 --> 01:34:10,045
this person. Okay.

2654
01:34:10,425 --> 01:34:11,484
She's too stressed.

2655
01:34:11,864 --> 01:34:14,024
But you know be there. You know what

2656
01:34:14,024 --> 01:34:17,164
I what I like about about her? Mhmm.

2657
01:34:17,784 --> 01:34:18,604
She understands

2658
01:34:19,145 --> 01:34:20,364
pities. Mhmm.

2659
01:34:21,225 --> 01:34:23,484
When when we first went in there,

2660
01:34:25,119 --> 01:34:28,800
okay, you know, she, she obviously saw Lola

2661
01:34:28,800 --> 01:34:30,180
was was nervous.

2662
01:34:31,279 --> 01:34:31,939
So obvious.

2663
01:34:32,399 --> 01:34:34,000
She took, you know, she had the camera,

2664
01:34:34,000 --> 01:34:35,600
she had this other stuff that they're gonna

2665
01:34:35,600 --> 01:34:37,859
do. She let her sniff everything. Mhmm.

2666
01:34:38,159 --> 01:34:41,715
Mhmm. She let Lola sniff everything. Mhmm. And

2667
01:34:42,655 --> 01:34:44,414
Lola was fine. And that and that's something

2668
01:34:44,414 --> 01:34:46,354
I've noticed with Lola. If if

2669
01:34:46,814 --> 01:34:48,194
she sniffs something,

2670
01:34:49,375 --> 01:34:51,715
once she knows, you know, it's fine.

2671
01:34:53,055 --> 01:34:53,534
She,

2672
01:34:55,090 --> 01:34:56,609
That tells we can tell how stressed she

2673
01:34:56,609 --> 01:34:58,210
is when she does not want to sniff.

2674
01:34:58,210 --> 01:35:00,210
And that this last visit something about this

2675
01:35:00,210 --> 01:35:00,949
last appointment,

2676
01:35:01,810 --> 01:35:03,109
girl was stressed

2677
01:35:03,489 --> 01:35:06,529
out. Yeah. Didn't want Yeah. Oh, but here's

2678
01:35:06,529 --> 01:35:09,569
how she proves how sweet she is every

2679
01:35:09,569 --> 01:35:12,435
time. She hates being there. She would do

2680
01:35:12,435 --> 01:35:14,054
anything to run out of that room.

2681
01:35:14,594 --> 01:35:16,675
Sometimes it takes two of them to hold

2682
01:35:16,675 --> 01:35:18,534
her in place to do the things.

2683
01:35:18,994 --> 01:35:21,635
She never wants snarls. She doesn't curl up

2684
01:35:21,635 --> 01:35:23,970
a lip. She doesn't snap. She's it's a

2685
01:35:23,970 --> 01:35:26,069
very, like, suffering look, like,

2686
01:35:27,010 --> 01:35:30,289
okay, fine. Why? I'll just Don't you love

2687
01:35:30,289 --> 01:35:30,789
me?

2688
01:35:32,050 --> 01:35:32,550
Now

2689
01:35:33,010 --> 01:35:34,310
Lola also

2690
01:35:35,569 --> 01:35:36,069
got

2691
01:35:36,425 --> 01:35:38,905
to go to doggy daycare. Yes. We did

2692
01:35:38,905 --> 01:35:40,185
a meet and greet because we have to

2693
01:35:40,185 --> 01:35:41,565
board her next month,

2694
01:35:42,104 --> 01:35:43,864
and we talked about this in last week's

2695
01:35:43,864 --> 01:35:45,485
bonus, I think it was bonus section,

2696
01:35:46,104 --> 01:35:48,265
because JB was, like, you know, clutching his

2697
01:35:48,265 --> 01:35:50,010
pearls that I would just give her to

2698
01:35:50,010 --> 01:35:51,389
anybody to watch.

2699
01:35:52,250 --> 01:35:54,170
So it was a half day of doggy

2700
01:35:54,170 --> 01:35:56,889
daycare, and they were assessing her for, like,

2701
01:35:56,889 --> 01:35:58,729
what what environment would be best for her?

2702
01:35:58,729 --> 01:36:00,170
What do we need to know about her?

2703
01:36:00,170 --> 01:36:01,770
I think they probably are also like, your

2704
01:36:01,770 --> 01:36:03,335
dog is a if if this was necessary,

2705
01:36:03,335 --> 01:36:05,274
your dog's a menace. They can't come back.

2706
01:36:05,494 --> 01:36:07,274
Lola could never. Right?

2707
01:36:07,895 --> 01:36:11,034
So they also text you updates, which

2708
01:36:11,574 --> 01:36:13,335
Yeah. Let me let me just tell you

2709
01:36:13,335 --> 01:36:16,614
something. We dropped Lola off. She was nervous.

2710
01:36:16,614 --> 01:36:18,119
It was a new place. She didn't have

2711
01:36:18,119 --> 01:36:19,420
her cone on, thank God.

2712
01:36:20,119 --> 01:36:22,039
She she was uncertain, and it was a

2713
01:36:22,039 --> 01:36:24,360
little bit like leaving if if you've dropped

2714
01:36:24,360 --> 01:36:26,280
a child off at daycare before in your

2715
01:36:26,280 --> 01:36:27,960
life, and they're crying, but you walk out

2716
01:36:27,960 --> 01:36:29,320
and you find out later they were fine.

2717
01:36:29,320 --> 01:36:30,199
It was a little bit like that. If

2718
01:36:30,199 --> 01:36:31,635
we just leave she'll be fine.

2719
01:36:32,675 --> 01:36:34,854
We get in the car and JB's like,

2720
01:36:35,154 --> 01:36:35,715
what if she's

2721
01:36:36,594 --> 01:36:37,814
what if something happens?

2722
01:36:38,434 --> 01:36:40,354
What if what if they need us? What

2723
01:36:40,354 --> 01:36:41,814
if what if something goes wrong?

2724
01:36:42,434 --> 01:36:44,194
And I'm the one like, the person of

2725
01:36:44,194 --> 01:36:45,954
contact is my phone. And I went, I

2726
01:36:45,954 --> 01:36:47,255
think it'll be fine.

2727
01:36:47,850 --> 01:36:49,529
I have my phone with me everywhere, but

2728
01:36:49,529 --> 01:36:50,969
he kinda is just like, but what if?

2729
01:36:50,969 --> 01:36:53,130
What if how would we know? Like, obviously

2730
01:36:53,210 --> 01:36:55,609
meaning they're gonna call and your dumbass is

2731
01:36:55,609 --> 01:36:57,369
not gonna pick up that fucking phone. I

2732
01:36:57,369 --> 01:36:58,109
went, look.

2733
01:36:58,889 --> 01:37:01,104
I'll take my phone off silent. Okay? Because

2734
01:37:01,104 --> 01:37:01,844
the only

2735
01:37:02,145 --> 01:37:02,645
notifications,

2736
01:37:03,264 --> 01:37:04,804
phone, and text I get,

2737
01:37:05,104 --> 01:37:06,864
because my phone is always on silent, are

2738
01:37:06,864 --> 01:37:08,625
the ones I have on emergency bypass. That

2739
01:37:08,625 --> 01:37:10,324
is JB and my two children.

2740
01:37:10,625 --> 01:37:12,704
Everybody else, you'll wait till I get there.

2741
01:37:12,704 --> 01:37:15,010
I hope you don't die because it'll be

2742
01:37:15,010 --> 01:37:16,210
a couple minutes before I look at my

2743
01:37:16,210 --> 01:37:18,130
phone. The three of them, I wanna know

2744
01:37:18,130 --> 01:37:20,630
immediately, even when it is the oldest going,

2745
01:37:21,170 --> 01:37:21,670
hey,

2746
01:37:22,130 --> 01:37:23,350
can you tell me about

2747
01:37:23,650 --> 01:37:24,150
gynecologists?

2748
01:37:24,850 --> 01:37:26,689
That's the whole conversation. I'm not getting into

2749
01:37:26,689 --> 01:37:29,234
it because it was wild. But even for

2750
01:37:29,234 --> 01:37:30,454
that, I want the notification.

2751
01:37:31,234 --> 01:37:33,074
So I'm like, you know what? I'll take

2752
01:37:33,074 --> 01:37:35,314
my phone off silent. That way, if something

2753
01:37:35,314 --> 01:37:36,054
comes up,

2754
01:37:36,914 --> 01:37:39,074
I'll know that the phone is ringing. And

2755
01:37:39,074 --> 01:37:40,935
then I spent the entire morning

2756
01:37:41,359 --> 01:37:43,359
having the spam calls, the ones that go

2757
01:37:43,359 --> 01:37:45,460
straight to voicemail, and the few text messages,

2758
01:37:45,840 --> 01:37:48,340
none of which were the doggy daycare

2759
01:37:49,119 --> 01:37:50,340
coming through my phone.

2760
01:37:50,960 --> 01:37:52,340
And I did not take

2761
01:37:52,960 --> 01:37:55,494
the phone off silent until we were on

2762
01:37:55,494 --> 01:37:57,195
our way to pick her up.

2763
01:37:57,735 --> 01:37:59,655
But they they did send because they asked

2764
01:37:59,655 --> 01:38:00,855
us, they're like, do you think we should

2765
01:38:00,855 --> 01:38:03,015
do group play where she's with other dogs?

2766
01:38:03,015 --> 01:38:04,215
Do you think we should do the one

2767
01:38:04,215 --> 01:38:06,215
on one care? Because they offer both, right?

2768
01:38:06,215 --> 01:38:07,655
Because some dogs just should not be around

2769
01:38:07,655 --> 01:38:09,355
other dogs. We're like, we don't know.

2770
01:38:09,710 --> 01:38:12,029
We know she's mostly okay with other dogs

2771
01:38:12,029 --> 01:38:13,949
except a small yappy dog. She doesn't like

2772
01:38:13,949 --> 01:38:15,550
those. And I went, it's not that she

2773
01:38:15,550 --> 01:38:17,389
doesn't like them. It's that they stress her

2774
01:38:17,389 --> 01:38:19,889
out. So just keep that in mind. Yeah.

2775
01:38:20,029 --> 01:38:20,770
So the

2776
01:38:21,149 --> 01:38:23,229
the update we get is Lola was real

2777
01:38:23,229 --> 01:38:25,324
good. She got to play lay in the

2778
01:38:25,324 --> 01:38:27,564
sun. She didn't really wanna be outside for

2779
01:38:27,564 --> 01:38:29,085
too long. We didn't stay out there too

2780
01:38:29,085 --> 01:38:29,585
long.

2781
01:38:31,244 --> 01:38:34,625
She's okay with other dogs, but high energy

2782
01:38:34,685 --> 01:38:37,085
dogs make her nervous. And I'm just like,

2783
01:38:37,085 --> 01:38:40,329
same girl. Same. There's high energy people.

2784
01:38:40,949 --> 01:38:41,449
Man,

2785
01:38:41,909 --> 01:38:43,050
sometimes I'm like,

2786
01:38:43,510 --> 01:38:45,350
can I handle this? Sometimes I am the

2787
01:38:45,350 --> 01:38:47,030
high energy person. That's a whole other conversation.

2788
01:38:48,470 --> 01:38:48,970
So

2789
01:38:50,310 --> 01:38:51,369
they were very sweet.

2790
01:38:53,364 --> 01:38:54,104
So yeah.

2791
01:38:54,805 --> 01:38:56,805
Lola's doing as well as Lola can do.

2792
01:38:56,805 --> 01:38:58,885
Yeah. With this cold weather, she's living her

2793
01:38:58,885 --> 01:39:00,725
best life with her heating pad. Yeah. That's

2794
01:39:00,725 --> 01:39:02,585
on her bed. Got her a heating pad.

2795
01:39:02,885 --> 01:39:04,564
Those old bones need some place to, like

2796
01:39:04,645 --> 01:39:06,645
Yeah. They do. Well, her preferred place is

2797
01:39:06,645 --> 01:39:07,765
to lay in the sun and the rocks,

2798
01:39:07,765 --> 01:39:09,539
but if she's inside, she she now has

2799
01:39:09,539 --> 01:39:11,420
a heating pad. She now spends a lot

2800
01:39:11,420 --> 01:39:12,699
less time on the couch because she's got

2801
01:39:12,699 --> 01:39:13,600
that fucking heat.

2802
01:39:14,380 --> 01:39:16,060
If we had only known, our maybe our

2803
01:39:16,060 --> 01:39:17,280
couch could have survived.

2804
01:39:19,180 --> 01:39:19,760
It's fine.

2805
01:39:20,460 --> 01:39:20,960
Okay.

2806
01:39:21,579 --> 01:39:22,560
Next saga

2807
01:39:23,354 --> 01:39:27,055
in the fur babies of the Brownstone household.

2808
01:39:27,354 --> 01:39:28,954
I'll let you talk about Ella. I know

2809
01:39:28,954 --> 01:39:30,114
you gotta go run and do something next

2810
01:39:30,114 --> 01:39:30,814
week. I'll be

2811
01:39:31,194 --> 01:39:31,694
here.

2812
01:39:32,234 --> 01:39:32,734
Ella,

2813
01:39:33,194 --> 01:39:35,675
we talked about last week, was not peeing

2814
01:39:35,675 --> 01:39:36,654
the right color.

2815
01:39:39,949 --> 01:39:42,130
She's peeing the right color again, but

2816
01:39:42,430 --> 01:39:43,329
she had a UTI.

2817
01:39:43,869 --> 01:39:45,489
She had stones in her bladder.

2818
01:39:46,270 --> 01:39:47,869
They really want to just do the surgery

2819
01:39:47,869 --> 01:39:49,789
to remove the stones, but we're gonna just

2820
01:39:49,789 --> 01:39:51,235
change her diet for three months. We're gonna

2821
01:39:51,235 --> 01:39:52,354
change her diet for the rest of her

2822
01:39:52,354 --> 01:39:53,015
life, but

2823
01:39:53,395 --> 01:39:55,875
we're changing her diet to a urinary care

2824
01:39:55,875 --> 01:39:58,135
diet. It's very expensive.

2825
01:39:58,595 --> 01:39:59,494
Oh my god.

2826
01:40:00,275 --> 01:40:02,275
To see if the stones in her bladder

2827
01:40:02,275 --> 01:40:03,699
will shrink so that she can either pass

2828
01:40:03,699 --> 01:40:05,460
them or they'll go away. I got conflicting

2829
01:40:05,460 --> 01:40:07,380
information from the vets, but it was fine.

2830
01:40:07,380 --> 01:40:09,159
That they would not be an issue anymore.

2831
01:40:13,219 --> 01:40:14,899
So $700

2832
01:40:14,899 --> 01:40:15,399
later,

2833
01:40:15,905 --> 01:40:17,845
before the cost of the new food,

2834
01:40:18,385 --> 01:40:19,925
Ella is doing better.

2835
01:40:22,225 --> 01:40:23,204
She is actually

2836
01:40:23,744 --> 01:40:24,885
getting a lot more

2837
01:40:25,265 --> 01:40:27,185
love and attention from both of us because

2838
01:40:27,185 --> 01:40:28,625
I think we feel bad for her. It's

2839
01:40:28,625 --> 01:40:30,989
like, oh, you weren't just being a little

2840
01:40:30,989 --> 01:40:32,909
shithead. You were like, there was something actively

2841
01:40:32,909 --> 01:40:35,309
wrong. I'm so sorry, Ella. I'm so sorry.

2842
01:40:35,309 --> 01:40:36,689
We do love you. I promise.

2843
01:40:37,149 --> 01:40:38,369
I so technically

2844
01:40:38,750 --> 01:40:40,750
Ella belongs to the oldest, the 20 year

2845
01:40:40,750 --> 01:40:43,894
old. So I texted I texted him to

2846
01:40:43,894 --> 01:40:44,795
go had

2847
01:40:45,175 --> 01:40:46,054
to take Ella to the vet. They did

2848
01:40:46,054 --> 01:40:47,994
these tests. They did this. Here's the outcome.

2849
01:40:48,534 --> 01:40:50,135
Because his plan is when he has a

2850
01:40:50,135 --> 01:40:52,135
place and a job where he can take

2851
01:40:52,135 --> 01:40:54,215
care of a cat, he wants his cat

2852
01:40:54,215 --> 01:40:55,894
to be with him. And I'm like, cool.

2853
01:40:55,894 --> 01:40:57,140
You gotta have two cats cats or she

2854
01:40:57,140 --> 01:40:59,180
will drive you crazy. She needs another cat

2855
01:40:59,180 --> 01:41:01,500
with her. I think Onyx would be okay

2856
01:41:01,500 --> 01:41:03,340
on her own because she prefers it that

2857
01:41:03,340 --> 01:41:04,560
way. Same.

2858
01:41:05,180 --> 01:41:07,020
But Ella will always need to not be

2859
01:41:07,020 --> 01:41:09,260
the only cat. She I don't that that

2860
01:41:09,260 --> 01:41:10,720
cat she cannot handle it.

2861
01:41:11,260 --> 01:41:11,760
So,

2862
01:41:12,114 --> 01:41:14,354
you know, we're we talk about when he

2863
01:41:14,354 --> 01:41:16,195
takes Ella home with him, what that will

2864
01:41:16,195 --> 01:41:17,715
look like. And I'm, you know, I'm like

2865
01:41:17,715 --> 01:41:19,494
when you can take her to the vet

2866
01:41:19,555 --> 01:41:21,635
to get her vaccines and you know, and

2867
01:41:21,635 --> 01:41:24,274
you can feed her consistently and here's So

2868
01:41:24,274 --> 01:41:26,114
it's not a right now, probably maybe after

2869
01:41:26,114 --> 01:41:28,159
he graduates college. Hell, he might change his

2870
01:41:28,159 --> 01:41:28,659
mind.

2871
01:41:29,360 --> 01:41:30,180
That's fair.

2872
01:41:31,039 --> 01:41:33,360
But I'm telling him, okay. Your girl eats

2873
01:41:33,360 --> 01:41:34,659
the bougie shit now.

2874
01:41:35,119 --> 01:41:36,420
It's very expensive.

2875
01:41:37,600 --> 01:41:39,119
But it's for her health and that's what

2876
01:41:39,119 --> 01:41:40,560
we're gonna do. And he's like, what you

2877
01:41:40,560 --> 01:41:41,539
do to my cat?

2878
01:41:42,125 --> 01:41:44,385
And my literal ass got offended

2879
01:41:45,725 --> 01:41:47,425
and was like, excuse me.

2880
01:41:48,524 --> 01:41:50,524
And then he comes back two days later

2881
01:41:50,524 --> 01:41:51,965
the child texts me back and goes, I

2882
01:41:51,965 --> 01:41:54,385
was just joking. Like, I am a literal

2883
01:41:54,765 --> 01:41:56,685
bitch, okay? Like, I you gotta put an

2884
01:41:56,685 --> 01:41:58,659
emoji in a text. If you are making

2885
01:41:58,659 --> 01:41:59,319
a joke,

2886
01:42:00,340 --> 01:42:01,800
but it could be read

2887
01:42:02,979 --> 01:42:05,060
in another way. I just there's a reason

2888
01:42:05,060 --> 01:42:06,819
I put a lot of LOLs when I'm

2889
01:42:06,819 --> 01:42:07,484
writing shit. There's smiley emojis. I need you

2890
01:42:07,484 --> 01:42:07,515
to know that this is lighthearted, and the

2891
01:42:07,515 --> 01:42:08,289
only way I know to express that is

2892
01:42:10,604 --> 01:42:11,965
hearted, and the only way I know to

2893
01:42:11,965 --> 01:42:12,944
express that

2894
01:42:13,324 --> 01:42:15,984
is with an LOL or a smiley. Okay?

2895
01:42:16,125 --> 01:42:18,204
I need to indicate that I'm having a

2896
01:42:18,204 --> 01:42:20,225
good time over here. I'm not yelling.

2897
01:42:20,765 --> 01:42:22,125
I need I need the oldest to do

2898
01:42:22,125 --> 01:42:22,944
that for me.

2899
01:42:23,645 --> 01:42:24,145
But,

2900
01:42:27,119 --> 01:42:27,619
so

2901
01:42:28,560 --> 01:42:31,520
yeah. We're pretty sure there's probably gonna be

2902
01:42:31,520 --> 01:42:32,020
surgery.

2903
01:42:32,320 --> 01:42:34,340
We're trying the diets Yeah.

2904
01:42:36,640 --> 01:42:38,100
To see blah blah blah.

2905
01:42:38,485 --> 01:42:40,885
Her surgery, much like Lola actually, we don't

2906
01:42:40,885 --> 01:42:43,525
know what Lola's surgery would cost. Ella's surgery,

2907
01:42:43,525 --> 01:42:45,604
minimum, as of today's current price is, because

2908
01:42:45,604 --> 01:42:47,845
we know how inflation goes, that's a $1,800

2909
01:42:47,845 --> 01:42:50,645
surgery. Yep. I'm sort of thinking, okay, oldest

2910
01:42:50,645 --> 01:42:51,145
child,

2911
01:42:51,560 --> 01:42:53,180
who sometimes has more money

2912
01:42:53,720 --> 01:42:55,239
access to a buddy than I might in

2913
01:42:55,239 --> 01:42:55,819
a moment.

2914
01:42:56,520 --> 01:42:58,380
I'm not. We're gonna pay for it ourselves.

2915
01:42:58,520 --> 01:43:00,439
I am tempted to be like, you wanna

2916
01:43:00,439 --> 01:43:01,420
pitch in for this?

2917
01:43:03,239 --> 01:43:04,600
I can't get the child to buy his

2918
01:43:04,600 --> 01:43:05,260
own lunch.

2919
01:43:05,694 --> 01:43:08,094
You want to know. Yeah. Right? Yeah. I

2920
01:43:08,094 --> 01:43:09,935
I really wouldn't. He's a college student. He

2921
01:43:09,935 --> 01:43:11,475
needs to focus on that. But

2922
01:43:12,814 --> 01:43:14,114
so yeah.

2923
01:43:14,494 --> 01:43:16,835
She goes back in three months, new X-ray,

2924
01:43:16,975 --> 01:43:19,475
see what's happening, make decisions then.

2925
01:43:21,600 --> 01:43:22,180
I did

2926
01:43:22,640 --> 01:43:24,579
I did point out to JB

2927
01:43:25,439 --> 01:43:27,520
that he clearly likes Ella more than he

2928
01:43:27,520 --> 01:43:30,000
lets on. He was concerned about her. He

2929
01:43:30,000 --> 01:43:32,560
did neither was we did we blink when

2930
01:43:32,560 --> 01:43:34,500
we saw the price of the prescription medicine?

2931
01:43:34,824 --> 01:43:36,824
Prescription food? Of course. But he did not

2932
01:43:36,824 --> 01:43:38,425
blink. Now we went, okay, that's what we

2933
01:43:38,425 --> 01:43:39,164
gotta do.

2934
01:43:40,185 --> 01:43:41,864
And then he was like extra nice to

2935
01:43:41,864 --> 01:43:42,364
her.

2936
01:43:47,079 --> 01:43:48,680
So but you know, I I feel like

2937
01:43:48,680 --> 01:43:51,239
we should know she hasn't really been feeling

2938
01:43:51,239 --> 01:43:54,280
well because her favorite pastime is to sit

2939
01:43:54,280 --> 01:43:56,720
in windows. And our front windows, we have

2940
01:43:56,720 --> 01:43:58,280
a like, is that a bay window in

2941
01:43:58,280 --> 01:44:00,520
her? Yeah. It's a big old window. Mhmm.

2942
01:44:00,520 --> 01:44:01,935
And it's this wide window

2943
01:44:02,414 --> 01:44:04,815
sill. And she lives for sitting there Mhmm.

2944
01:44:05,135 --> 01:44:07,135
And yelling at the cats who are in

2945
01:44:07,135 --> 01:44:09,135
the front yard. One's a stray. One is

2946
01:44:09,135 --> 01:44:10,435
just an outdoor cat.

2947
01:44:12,095 --> 01:44:14,574
Look, I think we're dealing with an enemies

2948
01:44:14,574 --> 01:44:15,715
to lovers situation.

2949
01:44:17,500 --> 01:44:20,380
I think they really just enjoy hating one

2950
01:44:20,380 --> 01:44:21,899
another, but if they got to know each

2951
01:44:21,899 --> 01:44:22,399
other,

2952
01:44:23,180 --> 01:44:24,960
it it'd be a sweet romance.

2953
01:44:26,140 --> 01:44:28,140
It is a love triangle. I prefer a

2954
01:44:28,140 --> 01:44:30,079
white shoes, but this is a love triangle.

2955
01:44:30,220 --> 01:44:32,405
There's Butterball the Stray, who does not look

2956
01:44:32,405 --> 01:44:33,605
like a Butterball. I don't know how they

2957
01:44:33,605 --> 01:44:35,925
got that name. He will come over and

2958
01:44:35,925 --> 01:44:38,164
walk through the front yard in the in

2959
01:44:38,164 --> 01:44:39,925
front of that window when Ella was feeling

2960
01:44:39,925 --> 01:44:41,204
well and would spend a lot of time

2961
01:44:41,204 --> 01:44:41,704
there.

2962
01:44:42,164 --> 01:44:44,340
And she would oh, she'd make some noises

2963
01:44:44,340 --> 01:44:46,199
at him and he would spray on things

2964
01:44:46,260 --> 01:44:48,579
like at our front door. And then Koi,

2965
01:44:48,579 --> 01:44:50,260
the neighbor cat, who's just an outdoor cat,

2966
01:44:50,260 --> 01:44:51,539
he's not a stray, he has a home,

2967
01:44:51,539 --> 01:44:53,399
he is chipped and vaccinated and all that,

2968
01:44:53,699 --> 01:44:56,119
he would run Butterball off,

2969
01:44:56,500 --> 01:44:58,579
spray on top of where Butterball had sprayed,

2970
01:44:58,579 --> 01:45:00,454
and Ella would be screeching at him through

2971
01:45:00,454 --> 01:45:01,114
the window.

2972
01:45:02,694 --> 01:45:04,454
So we should have known she wasn't feeling

2973
01:45:04,454 --> 01:45:06,215
well because she stopped spending a lot of

2974
01:45:06,215 --> 01:45:08,055
time yelling at the boys. Yeah.

2975
01:45:08,694 --> 01:45:10,295
But I I do think if they would

2976
01:45:10,295 --> 01:45:11,989
just spend a little time together, romance.

2977
01:45:18,770 --> 01:45:19,270
Anyway.

2978
01:45:20,130 --> 01:45:20,630
Anyway.

2979
01:45:24,210 --> 01:45:25,270
That's the girls.

2980
01:45:26,850 --> 01:45:27,135
Onyx

2981
01:45:27,934 --> 01:45:30,014
Onyx is just living her best anxious life

2982
01:45:30,014 --> 01:45:31,854
where she just wishes everybody leave her the

2983
01:45:31,854 --> 01:45:32,594
fuck alone.

2984
01:45:34,014 --> 01:45:34,675
You know?

2985
01:45:35,295 --> 01:45:36,114
That's it.

2986
01:45:40,560 --> 01:45:41,539
Oh my gosh.

2987
01:45:42,079 --> 01:45:42,579
So

2988
01:45:45,119 --> 01:45:46,180
yeah. Yeah.

2989
01:45:46,720 --> 01:45:48,579
Do you have anything? Have we missed anything?

2990
01:45:48,640 --> 01:45:49,920
Oh, I don't know if you wanna talk

2991
01:45:49,920 --> 01:45:52,420
about it. What? My Your hand. Yeah. Yeah.

2992
01:45:52,800 --> 01:45:53,300
Yeah.

2993
01:45:54,564 --> 01:45:56,104
Real quick. I

2994
01:45:56,804 --> 01:45:58,965
got an answer finally about my hand. What's

2995
01:45:58,965 --> 01:45:59,704
going on?

2996
01:46:00,724 --> 01:46:02,104
It's not carpal tunnel.

2997
01:46:03,684 --> 01:46:04,164
No. It's,

2998
01:46:05,204 --> 01:46:07,304
severe arthritis in the thumb.

2999
01:46:08,159 --> 01:46:10,260
Mhmm. Apparently, there is no more,

3000
01:46:12,479 --> 01:46:14,180
gap between the

3001
01:46:14,560 --> 01:46:16,320
what do they call it? First metacarpal, I

3002
01:46:16,320 --> 01:46:17,939
think. Mhmm. The first joint.

3003
01:46:18,720 --> 01:46:20,175
So, yeah. It's kinda

3004
01:46:20,734 --> 01:46:21,234
owie.

3005
01:46:21,934 --> 01:46:24,734
Yeah. Apparently, it's so severe. He absolutely qualifies

3006
01:46:24,734 --> 01:46:27,454
for surgery. Yeah. But the best hand surgeon

3007
01:46:27,454 --> 01:46:30,014
in our area is retiring. Mhmm. And so

3008
01:46:30,014 --> 01:46:31,375
she was like, you're gonna need to find

3009
01:46:31,375 --> 01:46:33,934
another hand surgeon in another town. I'm doing

3010
01:46:33,934 --> 01:46:36,010
that research now. She'll do she'll write whatever

3011
01:46:36,010 --> 01:46:38,729
referral. Right. We are hope I'm hoping we're

3012
01:46:38,729 --> 01:46:40,530
both hoping that we can wait till July

3013
01:46:40,810 --> 01:46:43,070
Yes. When JB gets that sweet, sweet,

3014
01:46:45,130 --> 01:46:45,630
Medicare.

3015
01:46:48,729 --> 01:46:50,784
I hope so. Because I don't wanna know

3016
01:46:50,784 --> 01:46:52,864
what our current insurance would charge for a

3017
01:46:52,864 --> 01:46:53,844
hand surgery.

3018
01:46:54,304 --> 01:46:56,304
I don't wanna find out if we can

3019
01:46:56,304 --> 01:46:57,264
help it. Yes.

3020
01:46:57,824 --> 01:47:00,005
It's on an osteo yes. It's osteoarthritis.

3021
01:47:00,704 --> 01:47:03,264
Yeah. All the bone spurs and all the

3022
01:47:03,264 --> 01:47:05,505
fun that goes with it. It's so this

3023
01:47:05,505 --> 01:47:06,359
was a strange situation.

3024
01:47:09,880 --> 01:47:10,380
Orthopedic

3025
01:47:11,000 --> 01:47:12,219
office works, typically,

3026
01:47:13,479 --> 01:47:15,020
you check-in, you go sit down.

3027
01:47:15,399 --> 01:47:17,479
A nice person calls you back to take

3028
01:47:17,479 --> 01:47:19,800
your vitals, your weight, your your blood pressure.

3029
01:47:19,800 --> 01:47:21,319
Mhmm. And then they send you back out

3030
01:47:21,319 --> 01:47:23,835
into the waiting area. So I never go

3031
01:47:23,835 --> 01:47:25,914
back with JB. The first time, they're just,

3032
01:47:25,914 --> 01:47:27,135
like, doing that stuff.

3033
01:47:28,074 --> 01:47:29,675
This time, I'm like, okay. I'll stay here.

3034
01:47:29,675 --> 01:47:31,595
Okay. Here. They changed it up. They changed

3035
01:47:31,595 --> 01:47:32,954
it up. He texts me. I'm in there.

3036
01:47:32,954 --> 01:47:34,555
Now, technically, could I have been like, hey.

3037
01:47:34,555 --> 01:47:35,994
Can I go back there? Of course, I

3038
01:47:35,994 --> 01:47:38,130
could have. But I was like, no. It's

3039
01:47:38,130 --> 01:47:40,770
fine. It's fine. It's fine. I don't wanna

3040
01:47:40,770 --> 01:47:42,369
talk to somebody I don't know. Just ask

3041
01:47:42,369 --> 01:47:44,150
for a thing. And that would be weird

3042
01:47:44,289 --> 01:47:46,050
because I was feeling away this morning. I

3043
01:47:46,050 --> 01:47:47,970
just it didn't have any of me. So

3044
01:47:47,970 --> 01:47:50,050
what I said was do not downplay your

3045
01:47:50,050 --> 01:47:52,045
pain. Make sure they know the like, there's

3046
01:47:52,045 --> 01:47:53,564
a reason I go in, not just because

3047
01:47:53,564 --> 01:47:55,484
I'm a nosy bitch, but JB will not

3048
01:47:55,484 --> 01:47:56,864
tell them pertinent information.

3049
01:47:57,244 --> 01:47:58,844
And I'm usually there, so I was giving

3050
01:47:58,844 --> 01:48:00,545
him the tell them this.

3051
01:48:01,404 --> 01:48:03,804
So he comes out and I'm like, okay.

3052
01:48:03,804 --> 01:48:05,185
How are we doing? Blah blah blah.

3053
01:48:05,750 --> 01:48:07,850
He's telling me. He's like, he's

3054
01:48:08,229 --> 01:48:09,750
a medication he takes, he takes for his

3055
01:48:09,750 --> 01:48:11,430
back, not for his hand. It's not even

3056
01:48:11,430 --> 01:48:13,590
working on his hand. Yeah. I know. But

3057
01:48:13,590 --> 01:48:15,829
the doctor was like, oh, well, what's going

3058
01:48:15,829 --> 01:48:17,510
on? He lists, like, the arthritis in the

3059
01:48:17,510 --> 01:48:18,635
bone spurs and the disc in the back

3060
01:48:18,635 --> 01:48:19,994
of the she goes and this is her

3061
01:48:19,994 --> 01:48:21,755
response, her immediate response is, oh my gosh.

3062
01:48:21,755 --> 01:48:23,435
You are a hard worker, aren't you? Like,

3063
01:48:23,435 --> 01:48:25,914
physically don't like, you have beaten the shit

3064
01:48:25,914 --> 01:48:27,215
out of your body, man.

3065
01:48:28,475 --> 01:48:31,515
Yeah. It's clapping back now. Yeah. I'm tolerating

3066
01:48:31,515 --> 01:48:31,949
it now.

3067
01:48:33,310 --> 01:48:35,229
Like, I was like, oh, I I hate

3068
01:48:35,229 --> 01:48:35,890
that it's

3069
01:48:36,270 --> 01:48:39,090
a it's a those kinds of injuries

3070
01:48:39,710 --> 01:48:40,210
that

3071
01:48:40,670 --> 01:48:43,310
the doctor clocks is, oh, manual like, you've

3072
01:48:43,310 --> 01:48:45,675
worked hard. You physically worked hard. I've worked

3073
01:48:45,675 --> 01:48:47,515
since I was six years old. I know.

3074
01:48:47,515 --> 01:48:50,555
There's I got we've had those conversations. I

3075
01:48:50,555 --> 01:48:52,015
won't rant about that here.

3076
01:48:54,074 --> 01:48:55,755
But but, yeah, I was like, he is

3077
01:48:55,755 --> 01:48:57,755
a hard worker. And I was and I

3078
01:48:57,755 --> 01:49:00,130
was thinking 11. I wasn't even thinking like

3079
01:49:01,310 --> 01:49:01,970
like baby.

3080
01:49:03,149 --> 01:49:03,649
So

3081
01:49:10,189 --> 01:49:11,170
So yeah.

3082
01:49:12,984 --> 01:49:15,885
That's the saga with the procedures with JB

3083
01:49:16,345 --> 01:49:18,744
and the dog and the cat. And we

3084
01:49:18,824 --> 01:49:20,104
we've been doing a little we did a

3085
01:49:20,104 --> 01:49:22,345
little stuff around the house We did. Lately.

3086
01:49:22,345 --> 01:49:22,925
We did.

3087
01:49:23,465 --> 01:49:24,125
I finally

3088
01:49:24,984 --> 01:49:25,484
finished

3089
01:49:25,810 --> 01:49:26,469
all the

3090
01:49:26,850 --> 01:49:27,350
screens.

3091
01:49:28,369 --> 01:49:29,729
That took me a hot minute. Well, I

3092
01:49:29,729 --> 01:49:31,329
stopped. I had to slow down because of

3093
01:49:31,329 --> 01:49:34,449
my my hand. My hand. But, the screens

3094
01:49:34,449 --> 01:49:35,429
are all done.

3095
01:49:36,529 --> 01:49:37,029
And

3096
01:49:37,569 --> 01:49:39,350
we have replaced our outside

3097
01:49:40,465 --> 01:49:42,564
lights on the house. Mhmm. One of them

3098
01:49:42,784 --> 01:49:43,284
just

3099
01:49:44,944 --> 01:49:47,204
just fell off the wall one day. Literally

3100
01:49:47,585 --> 01:49:49,505
we're sitting back here we heard a clash

3101
01:49:49,505 --> 01:49:51,765
and open up the door and it just

3102
01:49:51,904 --> 01:49:53,430
it it fell off the wall. I think

3103
01:49:53,430 --> 01:49:55,270
our outdoor lights are are very nice. They're

3104
01:49:55,270 --> 01:49:58,149
they're definitely my style for sure. I love

3105
01:49:58,149 --> 01:50:00,310
a satin or a brushed nickel. That's, like,

3106
01:50:00,310 --> 01:50:03,369
my jam, and so JB indulges me. Yeah.

3107
01:50:05,510 --> 01:50:08,409
We had our septic tank pumped. Yeah.

3108
01:50:09,034 --> 01:50:10,715
And that was so funny because most people

3109
01:50:10,715 --> 01:50:12,635
do not call the septic tank company until

3110
01:50:12,635 --> 01:50:15,114
things have gotten very, very bad. And so

3111
01:50:15,114 --> 01:50:17,755
they're like, are you having problems? And JB's

3112
01:50:17,755 --> 01:50:20,175
like, nope. I'm trying to prevent them. Mhmm.

3113
01:50:20,234 --> 01:50:21,270
Go ahead and, like,

3114
01:50:22,069 --> 01:50:24,329
suck that up. Make that go away. Yeah.

3115
01:50:25,029 --> 01:50:27,369
Yeah. So Who knew they worked on Saturdays?

3116
01:50:27,430 --> 01:50:28,949
I know. To do base like, maintenance stuff,

3117
01:50:28,949 --> 01:50:30,470
not to, like, fix problems. Yeah. I would

3118
01:50:30,470 --> 01:50:32,470
expect that, but I was like, okay. And,

3119
01:50:32,789 --> 01:50:34,564
yeah. It was it was cool. They, you

3120
01:50:34,564 --> 01:50:36,564
know, did that, and he he said septic

3121
01:50:36,564 --> 01:50:38,024
tank because everything is fine.

3122
01:50:39,925 --> 01:50:40,824
He he

3123
01:50:41,284 --> 01:50:41,864
he complimented

3124
01:50:42,484 --> 01:50:45,225
me on taking the two trees out.

3125
01:50:45,844 --> 01:50:47,619
Yeah. Because I was gonna kill our septic

3126
01:50:47,619 --> 01:50:50,340
tank too. Yeah. Oh, yes. I said onyx

3127
01:50:50,340 --> 01:50:52,420
is fine. She's just anxious bitch as always.

3128
01:50:52,420 --> 01:50:55,539
Yeah. Onyx onyx is being onyx. Yeah. Yeah.

3129
01:50:55,539 --> 01:50:56,439
You know? Yeah.

3130
01:50:56,819 --> 01:50:57,880
We have ordered

3131
01:50:58,340 --> 01:51:00,824
the new door. I complained about this in

3132
01:51:00,824 --> 01:51:01,324
Discord.

3133
01:51:02,024 --> 01:51:04,364
To replace a door, it requires a permit.

3134
01:51:04,505 --> 01:51:05,944
That was new to me. We learned something

3135
01:51:05,944 --> 01:51:07,625
new. It's a $300

3136
01:51:07,625 --> 01:51:09,704
permit Yeah. For the door. But we are

3137
01:51:09,704 --> 01:51:11,064
getting a new backdoor. Now why do you

3138
01:51:11,224 --> 01:51:13,130
you all give a fuck? If you watch

3139
01:51:13,130 --> 01:51:14,189
our YouTube videos,

3140
01:51:14,569 --> 01:51:16,729
the light gets wonky. Part of part of

3141
01:51:16,729 --> 01:51:18,170
that, not completely, but part of that is

3142
01:51:18,170 --> 01:51:20,170
our backdoor. So getting a new backdoor, there's

3143
01:51:20,170 --> 01:51:21,689
many things that will be better with that

3144
01:51:21,689 --> 01:51:23,710
new backdoor. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah.

3145
01:51:24,729 --> 01:51:25,229
So

3146
01:51:26,454 --> 01:51:27,855
so we live in the county part of

3147
01:51:27,975 --> 01:51:30,135
Yeah. Outside this We we live just outside

3148
01:51:30,135 --> 01:51:30,795
of the city.

3149
01:51:32,295 --> 01:51:34,534
It's deep suburbia. You would not know we

3150
01:51:34,534 --> 01:51:36,475
were outskirts of the city, but we are.

3151
01:51:38,840 --> 01:51:40,619
They asked what's a septic tank?

3152
01:51:41,880 --> 01:51:43,099
A tank is basically,

3153
01:51:44,039 --> 01:51:45,340
yeah. Where where all

3154
01:51:45,719 --> 01:51:48,059
your sewage goes. When you flush your toilet?

3155
01:51:48,119 --> 01:51:50,279
Yep. And that goes somewhere. When you take

3156
01:51:50,279 --> 01:51:52,564
a shower. So you know, in in the

3157
01:51:52,564 --> 01:51:54,885
cities, yeah. It's it's in the sewer, so

3158
01:51:54,885 --> 01:51:57,045
it goes to a main pumping station and

3159
01:51:57,045 --> 01:51:59,444
and is dealt with. But then here, it's

3160
01:51:59,444 --> 01:52:01,925
buried in the in your yard, front or

3161
01:52:01,925 --> 01:52:02,425
back,

3162
01:52:02,965 --> 01:52:03,204
and,

3163
01:52:04,085 --> 01:52:06,085
yeah. It collects all that stuff and then

3164
01:52:06,085 --> 01:52:06,164
there

3165
01:52:07,100 --> 01:52:09,180
And sits there. Well, no. It doesn't actually

3166
01:52:09,180 --> 01:52:09,819
sit there.

3167
01:52:10,619 --> 01:52:12,460
That's the tank, and then off the tank

3168
01:52:12,460 --> 01:52:13,600
is what they call

3169
01:52:13,979 --> 01:52:17,100
a leach field. Okay. Okay. And there it

3170
01:52:17,180 --> 01:52:18,000
the liquid

3171
01:52:18,699 --> 01:52:21,074
will flow out and disperse itself

3172
01:52:21,694 --> 01:52:22,835
Mhmm. Into the ground.

3173
01:52:23,935 --> 01:52:25,854
But the rest is just sitting there. This

3174
01:52:25,854 --> 01:52:27,935
this is the I I wanna say like

3175
01:52:27,935 --> 01:52:30,335
three or four feet Mhmm. Down that this

3176
01:52:30,335 --> 01:52:31,875
leach field is dug usually.

3177
01:52:32,335 --> 01:52:35,070
And you do monthly maintenance to help our

3178
01:52:35,070 --> 01:52:37,310
septic tank stay healthy. I do. I try.

3179
01:52:37,310 --> 01:52:37,810
Because

3180
01:52:38,909 --> 01:52:41,090
nobody wants a septic tank problem.

3181
01:52:41,630 --> 01:52:44,829
Nobody wants anything to crack, break, explode. Whatever

3182
01:52:44,829 --> 01:52:46,590
happens with septic tanks, I'm not even sure.

3183
01:52:46,590 --> 01:52:49,149
I just know it's tragic every time. Back

3184
01:52:49,149 --> 01:52:51,274
in 1982

3185
01:52:52,154 --> 01:52:53,914
Oh, God. When I bought my I was

3186
01:52:53,914 --> 01:52:56,175
three years old. I bought my first house.

3187
01:52:57,914 --> 01:52:59,614
Moved into said house. Right?

3188
01:52:59,994 --> 01:53:00,494
Mhmm.

3189
01:53:00,875 --> 01:53:01,854
A week later,

3190
01:53:03,529 --> 01:53:06,750
water backing up everywhere. Tubs, toilets, sinks.

3191
01:53:08,970 --> 01:53:10,109
Come to find out,

3192
01:53:10,729 --> 01:53:12,649
the people who from the neighbors. This is

3193
01:53:12,649 --> 01:53:14,430
how I found this out, from the neighbors.

3194
01:53:15,225 --> 01:53:16,845
The people who sold the house

3195
01:53:17,305 --> 01:53:19,005
knew that the septic tank

3196
01:53:19,465 --> 01:53:21,324
and leach field was bad.

3197
01:53:22,104 --> 01:53:23,645
They had the tank

3198
01:53:24,185 --> 01:53:24,685
pumped

3199
01:53:26,185 --> 01:53:28,445
and then they did not allow any water

3200
01:53:28,750 --> 01:53:31,310
to go down. They they went somewhere, they

3201
01:53:31,310 --> 01:53:32,349
took their laundry. But, they turned off the

3202
01:53:32,349 --> 01:53:34,029
water, or didn't even use it? They didn't,

3203
01:53:34,029 --> 01:53:36,590
they lived there. They did live there, but

3204
01:53:36,590 --> 01:53:39,310
they took their laundry out to wash. They

3205
01:53:39,310 --> 01:53:41,229
went to a friend's house to take a

3206
01:53:41,229 --> 01:53:41,729
shower.

3207
01:53:43,314 --> 01:53:45,314
So, yeah. They had the tank pumped, so

3208
01:53:45,314 --> 01:53:47,255
when the home inspection was done,

3209
01:53:47,795 --> 01:53:49,734
and this was back before they had,

3210
01:53:50,114 --> 01:53:52,614
you know, buyer warranties on this. Sure, yeah.

3211
01:53:52,675 --> 01:53:54,054
Way before that. So,

3212
01:53:54,354 --> 01:53:55,234
yeah. It,

3213
01:53:56,194 --> 01:53:56,694
yeah.

3214
01:53:57,539 --> 01:53:58,039
So,

3215
01:53:58,420 --> 01:54:00,439
a week after I moved into this house,

3216
01:54:00,819 --> 01:54:03,159
I was out there digging Leach Field.

3217
01:54:03,780 --> 01:54:06,500
Are you a homeowner if something doesn't fuck

3218
01:54:06,500 --> 01:54:07,319
up within

3219
01:54:07,699 --> 01:54:09,780
about a week of moving into your home?

3220
01:54:09,780 --> 01:54:11,479
Life is the first house I ever bought.

3221
01:54:11,939 --> 01:54:13,239
We moved in

3222
01:54:13,765 --> 01:54:15,925
the first few days. It was the summer

3223
01:54:15,925 --> 01:54:18,164
when I bought it. The AC, which had

3224
01:54:18,164 --> 01:54:20,005
been fine for the home inspection, I did

3225
01:54:20,005 --> 01:54:22,164
I did what they suggest. They they recommend

3226
01:54:22,164 --> 01:54:24,085
it. I had a home inspection. Yeah. AC

3227
01:54:24,085 --> 01:54:24,585
worked.

3228
01:54:24,965 --> 01:54:27,784
Closed on the fucker, moved our shit in,

3229
01:54:29,000 --> 01:54:31,800
the AC died. Now I did not think

3230
01:54:31,800 --> 01:54:33,640
to say something to my realtor about it

3231
01:54:33,640 --> 01:54:34,920
because it was like, well, the

3232
01:54:35,479 --> 01:54:37,260
we've closed on the house. Right?

3233
01:54:37,720 --> 01:54:40,199
She was actually, like, a professional colleague, and

3234
01:54:40,199 --> 01:54:41,720
we were friendly with one another, and, like,

3235
01:54:41,720 --> 01:54:44,295
I picked her as my realtor for multiple

3236
01:54:44,295 --> 01:54:44,795
reasons,

3237
01:54:45,095 --> 01:54:46,555
mostly because we vibe together.

3238
01:54:47,335 --> 01:54:49,814
But she's also a really good realtor, took

3239
01:54:49,814 --> 01:54:50,795
care of her clients,

3240
01:54:51,335 --> 01:54:52,854
and she was like, oh my god. Why

3241
01:54:52,854 --> 01:54:54,135
didn't you call me sooner? I was like,

3242
01:54:54,135 --> 01:54:55,494
I didn't think I needed to tell you.

3243
01:54:55,494 --> 01:54:56,694
I've closed on the house. What are you

3244
01:54:56,694 --> 01:54:57,515
gonna do?

3245
01:54:57,859 --> 01:54:58,680
My realtor

3246
01:54:59,060 --> 01:55:01,619
helped me get helped me buy a new

3247
01:55:01,619 --> 01:55:02,520
AC unit

3248
01:55:03,300 --> 01:55:05,720
and then got, like, some people she knows

3249
01:55:05,859 --> 01:55:08,500
who can professionally Mhmm. To install it for

3250
01:55:08,500 --> 01:55:10,340
me at, like, cost or something. Like, some

3251
01:55:10,340 --> 01:55:13,914
crazy thing. Wow. Which, ironically, AC problems follow

3252
01:55:13,914 --> 01:55:15,275
me everywhere because when you and I moved

3253
01:55:15,275 --> 01:55:17,114
in together for the first time, that was

3254
01:55:17,114 --> 01:55:18,875
the thing that died on the first day.

3255
01:55:18,875 --> 01:55:19,675
Yep. So

3256
01:55:20,475 --> 01:55:22,475
Yep. And then we had the problem in

3257
01:55:22,475 --> 01:55:24,735
the condo when we moved in there. Mhmm.

3258
01:55:25,820 --> 01:55:26,320
Yeah.

3259
01:55:26,699 --> 01:55:28,060
Yeah. But, yeah, I just don't think you're

3260
01:55:28,060 --> 01:55:29,039
a homeowner if something

3261
01:55:29,340 --> 01:55:31,900
break, burn down, fall off, or just Right.

3262
01:55:31,980 --> 01:55:34,300
Crumble Right now. Right after you close on

3263
01:55:34,300 --> 01:55:35,760
your new house. Yeah.

3264
01:55:36,619 --> 01:55:37,579
Yep. So

3265
01:55:38,460 --> 01:55:38,960
Alright.

3266
01:55:39,494 --> 01:55:41,735
Anyway, we could keep going. Y'all know us.

3267
01:55:41,735 --> 01:55:42,055
But,

3268
01:55:43,895 --> 01:55:44,395
anyway,

3269
01:55:45,494 --> 01:55:47,655
for anybody who watches on YouTube, pay podcast

3270
01:55:47,655 --> 01:55:49,015
listeners. So if you're willing to come to

3271
01:55:49,015 --> 01:55:52,314
YouTube, wanna donate to Campaign for Southern Equality,

3272
01:55:52,375 --> 01:55:54,475
help them give out more grants to,

3273
01:55:55,670 --> 01:55:58,149
trans folks who need Help. Medical care and

3274
01:55:58,149 --> 01:55:59,369
cannot get in in the South.

3275
01:56:00,869 --> 01:56:02,949
That will be open and available through the

3276
01:56:02,949 --> 01:56:03,770
February.

3277
01:56:05,430 --> 01:56:07,110
If you're interested in any of the resources,

3278
01:56:07,110 --> 01:56:07,930
I've linked

3279
01:56:08,630 --> 01:56:10,444
to nearly if I we mentioned anything, it

3280
01:56:10,444 --> 01:56:11,645
was off that's not linked. That's because it

3281
01:56:11,645 --> 01:56:13,804
was off the cuff. I've linked to purposely

3282
01:56:13,804 --> 01:56:16,284
linked to everything in my outline, my notes,

3283
01:56:16,284 --> 01:56:18,784
so there's there they are there.

3284
01:56:19,965 --> 01:56:20,284
And,

3285
01:56:21,779 --> 01:56:23,539
even though Mali in live chat is asking

3286
01:56:23,539 --> 01:56:25,619
for five women, because as of recording, it

3287
01:56:25,619 --> 01:56:26,840
is four fifty five.

3288
01:56:27,380 --> 01:56:30,659
Yeah. Leah is now, adding to the the

3289
01:56:30,659 --> 01:56:31,159
begging.

3290
01:56:32,579 --> 01:56:34,039
I do have to cook dinner,

3291
01:56:34,435 --> 01:56:36,354
and five is a round number. And and

3292
01:56:36,354 --> 01:56:38,034
I have to feed the girls. So we're

3293
01:56:38,034 --> 01:56:38,774
gonna go.

3294
01:56:39,154 --> 01:56:39,554
Yep.

3295
01:56:39,954 --> 01:56:41,475
We'll be back next week. And I need

3296
01:56:41,475 --> 01:56:43,635
to put Lola's second drops in because that's

3297
01:56:43,635 --> 01:56:44,994
what I did when I stepped away. I

3298
01:56:44,994 --> 01:56:46,454
gave her her first eye drop.

3299
01:56:46,859 --> 01:56:47,359
So,

3300
01:56:48,539 --> 01:56:50,380
next week we'll be back to our more

3301
01:56:50,380 --> 01:56:53,340
normal, like, topics you Mhmm. Are used to.

3302
01:56:53,340 --> 01:56:53,840
Yeah.

3303
01:56:54,619 --> 01:56:56,579
Yeah. Okay. Okay. Thanks for being here Mhmm.

3304
01:56:56,699 --> 01:56:59,279
To the bitter end. Mhmm. Okay. Bye. Bye.