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You're listening to the Loving BDSM podcast, episode

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four forty

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nine. Kilolord's here with the one, the only,

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the

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I can't think of anything snarky to say,

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and I don't know how I feel about

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that, John Brownstone.

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Wow.

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I don't know if it's because of

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the great dickening as mentioned

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last

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week

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or

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if it's actually because of what we've been

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doing that is the topic of this week's

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episode.

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I don't know.

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But every time I look at you, I'm

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just like, I'm supposed to find something sort

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of cheeky to say. I'm like, I just

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wanna say I love him so much,

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which is not a bad thing. I'm not

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complaining. Yet. But it does make the

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the sass a little harder to do. Yeah.

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And I don't I don't think I do

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well with sweet. I don't know if it's

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Oh. Yeah. I prefer the sass.

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Anyway, so that is and isn't what we're

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talking about. This week, we're talking about our

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experience over the past several weeks of using

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the Obedience app. Welcome to the Loving BDSM

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podcast. If this is your first time listening,

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every Friday for your kinky pleasure and education,

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get more of us, including

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Okay. So

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before we get into

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the episode,

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I would like to announce,

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one, that I remembered this, and it's been

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on my mind long enough for me to

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have remembered it. But next week, we celebrate

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our tenth podcast anniversary. Mhmm. 08/15/2005

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is when we began. Mhmm. 08/15/2005.

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Jesus. 2015.

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You just let me go too. You're like,

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yeah. 02/2005.

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Yep. Yep. Twenty fucking years. '10. 2015.

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Oh my god.

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Professionals would redo that.

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We've never claimed to be professionals. Yeah. 2015.

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August 15. Next week is next is a

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Friday night livestream. So, hopefully, that livestream will

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be a part day. Mhmm.

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So, yeah, we are gonna have a giveaway.

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I'm finalizing that,

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like, literally in the next two days.

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We're gonna celebrate next week, and

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we have not nailed down the topic for

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next week, but I'm thinking it's a poll

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questions,

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from audience like we do sometimes on Instagram

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or whatever.

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So we shall see.

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So, yeah, that's coming next week. We're very

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excited. Yay. Okay.

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So the topic

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Mhmm. Is on our use for the of

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the Obedience app.

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We will talk about what it is if

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you were not familiar with it, but,

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we have used the free version this whole

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time. We've been using it, what, like, two

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months? That seems about right? About eight weeks?

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my phone and tell you. Mhmm. I'm just

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not doing that right now. We we have

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done everything we're gonna talk about using the

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free version. There is a paid version. We

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both agree if we get to a point

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with our usage of the app that we're

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like, oh, we want these features or we

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need them to to do more of what

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we wanna do, then we are we like

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it enough. I'll go ahead and give you

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the spoiler that we would pay for it.

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as we're talking about this through this whole

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episode, everything you're gonna hear from our experience

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is the free version.

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So you don't necessarily have to pay for

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it to do what we have done with

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it.

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So yeah. That's kinda like the disclaimer.

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If at any point you're like, I am

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curious about the obedience app. There is a

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link down below in the places blah blah

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blah.

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You can go clicky click and learn more,

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tapy tap, whatever people do with links anymore.

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I don't I am old school. You say

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click the link, but most people are not

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clicking links anymore. We are tapping.

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I don't like to be imprecise.

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So Yep. JB's got a whole portion he

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is gonna have to do because he did

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this,

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not me, which was cool. But

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well before we started using the obedience app

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we talked about it because how this came

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about, it was only because we had previously

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talked about it. We're like, oh, yes. Part

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of our, like, twenty twenty five. Let's, like,

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figure ourselves out again. Maybe we try what

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we said was maybe we'll try different apps.

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another app called Embrace, which we are gonna

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try, but it's not the same thing as

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Obedience. It's has different

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wanted to promote their app, and I was

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like, hey. Then we can compare apps. Right.

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By the time I finally got to that

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link in my inbox, they no longer existed.

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I couldn't find them anywhere. Oh, dear. So

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all I'm sure there are others out there.

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BDSM apps, not

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what we always have to do, which is

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prefer a vanilla thing and and make it

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work for us. But that's yeah. We're we're

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focused right now on obedience, and I think

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we're mostly happy.

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But we talked about it, and then we

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both kinda kept saying, we should do something.

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eventually. And that was one of the that

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was one of the things that we it

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was one of those things that you know

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we we're just going back and forth talking

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about it. Talk talk talk talk talk talk.

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You know and and we both

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liked the idea Yes. But it never moved

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beyond

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talking.

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it was wishful thinking. Yeah. It was we'll

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do that later and then later never came.

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Right. Until I decided later is now. And

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so I'm gonna get in. I wanna talk

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about what it is before we talk about

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what we did with it. But what I'm

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curious about

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from you is, what was the impetus for

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that? Where you finally went, fuck it. We're

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just doing this. Mhmm.

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know, there there were a couple different reasons.

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I have been so busy lately immersed in

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so many different things.

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Heart keeping shit straight. Mhmm.

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Mhmm. And I thought if that this if

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this could help me,

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then let's do it. Mhmm.

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that we had you know, the idea that

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we had talked about it and we both

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agreed with it,

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I was just like,

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you know,

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time to, pull the trigger on this. Yeah.

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It was really random. He is on the

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couch. I'm on the love seat. I'm holding

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my phone because, of course, I am. I'm

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holding my phone, and here comes a a

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text with a link, like an invite

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from Southern Sir, and I'm like,

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and so

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click the link, download the app, set up

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the account, put my picture in there,

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and then see that there are at the

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time, there was, like, one task. Yes. There

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was one task in there. Mhmm.

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There were

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rewards.

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There were punishments,

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which

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if we needed to, we would because that

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is technically part of our power exchange. But,

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man, it has to be real fucking egregious

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to get to that damn point at this

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point in our relationship. Yes.

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So I was I was like, well, okay.

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We're doing this. And Mhmm. So first, I

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had the content creator wannabe educator pat on

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and went, but, woah. We didn't actually talk

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about this. And when we did talk about

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it, but we didn't talk about it right

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ahead of time. Well, I guess that's good.

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We're a long term relationship. We could do

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this. I wouldn't recommend that for everybody. No.

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That is how my mind works.

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So yeah. Before before Dawn's out there, before

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you go, like, setting up links for folks,

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make sure you've had the conversation.

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But JB was able to set everything up

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without my input because

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you just took what things we already do

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or we're trying to do and just made

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them electronic essentially. Right. Okay. So let's talk

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about what the Obedience app is, like, what

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its main function is, and then we'll get

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into all that. So

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and I got this paraphrasing, but straight from

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there, about page where you can actually, like,

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read a little bit more. But this is

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the essential thing. Dom's can set and track

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tasks for their submissives. Correct.

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Submissives can earn rewards based on the amount

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of points they have. Mhmm. They can air

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quote earn

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discipline, but it's k.

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Based on what you do or don't do.

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So for everything

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you tap off that, yes, I did the

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thing, you gain a an amount of points

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that is set by the Dom. Mhmm.

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And I have learned

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not when you don't do the thing, because

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today was the first day I didn't do

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the thing by the time, but I've done

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the thing every fucking day since we started

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using this app. But if you do not

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do it by the time deadline set, you've

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lost your fucking point. Sucks to be you.

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Anyway, I'll get into that in a minute.

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For anybody who is curious,

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yes. You can have multiple partners,

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and use this app. The way they say

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it on the website is the tasks you

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see are your tasks. You're not gonna see,

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like, the whole, like, all the different partners

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stuff. You're gonna see yourself. Just yours.

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And you can use it as switches

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because, again, you see your part as, like,

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the Dom, what you're

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looking at for yourself, and then you see

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the things that are being tracked for you

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on the sub side.

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So, yes, you can do that.

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And, yeah, points can be earned

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or taken away. Yeah. All. Yeah. Yeah. That's

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the name of the game.

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The the basic version, the free version that

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we've used,

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you can you set habits, you set punishments,

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you set rewards. There is a limit to

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how many, habits you they call them habits,

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habit tracking, but it could be task. Call

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it what you want.

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I think they really personally, I think they

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call it habit tracking so that the,

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the app stores

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don't ding them too much. Yeah. Yeah. It's

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like, yeah, it's a habit tracker.

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And,

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yes, but also Okay. So in in the

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free version five

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Okay. Because when you pay for it, I

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think it's unlimited. Unlimited. Yes. Mhmm.

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And

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the sis the way we have it set

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up with the free,

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when I tap off that, yeah, I did

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the thing by

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you know what? Yeah. By the deadline,

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I get a little, like, pop up thing,

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and it says, good girl. And it tells

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me how many points I've gotten for that

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thing. I'm, like, check kind of checking off

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that I've done.

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And and JB has it set. So he

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gets notifications. Like, as with any app, you

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can turn off notifications. I I don't recommend

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that if you want to remember shit. I'm

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just saying.

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So when I, you know, mark the thing

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as completed, JB gets a notification. Yep. And

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sometimes I get a surprise extra,

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good girl via text, which

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I'm not mad about.

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I'm not mad about. So

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do you wanna walk us through what you

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like, what we've set up or what you've

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initially set up and how you decided on

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the points Mhmm. Kinda thing and all that.

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You know,

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now let me just kinda

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start from here. When when I set this

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up, we

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something

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in the morning,

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one of the things

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do is put her collar on. Yeah. We're

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back we're making that a habit again because

348
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we've kinda fallen into it. Gotten out of

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that habit.

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Sometimes she would remember. Sometimes I would remember.

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And prior to that, nobody was remembering. And

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literally, sometimes the only time I wore a

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collar in a given week was when we

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were streaming.

355
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Yeah. It was bad. Yep. So we were

356
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developing a new habit. And,

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you know, that then

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led me to thinking about all our talk

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about this. Mhmm. And

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it's like, okay. What if I can set

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this up?

362
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That way, I remember Mhmm. Gives you imp

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gives you impetus

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to remember,

365
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and we all move on. Right. And nobody

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is we can talk about it, like, in

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a check-in or just a regular conversation. Right.

368
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But nobody is carrying around the brainpower that

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you have to remember to do this thing.

370
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Right. Yeah. Yeah. So and and that was

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absolutely,

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you know, the the main reason Mhmm. I

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jumped on this. And and that's how I

374
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set it up. Now

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when I initially set it up, you know,

376
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during

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day we are up and about, you know,

378
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I'm up by 06:00 in the morning

379
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because the fur babies don't allow for anything

380
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Much later. Much later. Yeah.

381
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But,

382
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you know, and you're not up you're up.

383
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The alarm goes off at 06:30. You're awake,

384
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but you're not I'm not up. Yeah.

385
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So, you know, the the setting the time

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at eight in the morning was not a

387
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problem. Right. And it says, you know,

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caller by 8AM. Mhmm. Essentially is what it

389
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says on my task.

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And

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it it was very easy

392
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to set that up. It asked you to

393
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give it a a name, you you put

394
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a name, and,

395
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you know, then it allows you to pick

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your days,

397
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you know, and times and all that, and

398
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very simple to walk through. Mhmm. And easy

399
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to refine and edit as we Yeah. Lose

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later. Right.

401
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And,

402
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you know, I I set it up. She

403
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got the thing and and away we went.

404
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Mhmm.

405
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And in all honesty, it has been

406
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it it has become a helpful tool. Oh,

407
00:14:31,679 --> 00:14:34,000
absolutely. It has become a helpful tool for

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us. Folks, you can't remember as well as

409
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we once could. Yeah.

410
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Yeah. I too much, hard drive is full.

411
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I need a Mhmm. Swiss cheese brain. Just

412
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saying.

413
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So here's a a quirk I learned. I

414
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was just complaining about this a few minutes

415
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ago. So

416
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JB said to me verbally, the 8AM, I

417
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only care about Monday through Friday. The weekends,

418
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it doesn't matter. Okay. Cool.

419
00:14:59,029 --> 00:14:59,529
Well,

420
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two things.

421
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One,

422
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I was doing it daily before the 8AM.

423
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Yeah.

424
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But I was not always

425
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remembering

426
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to go in and tap

427
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the thing to to indicate I done it

428
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prior to 8AM. And what I quickly learned,

429
00:15:16,115 --> 00:15:17,315
it took me a minute because I was

430
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watching. Every time I tap that I've completed

431
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something, if

432
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it's something, if it's by the deadline that

433
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is set Mhmm. The little circle is is

434
00:15:25,600 --> 00:15:27,200
it's a little white circle, and it's it

435
00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:29,759
shows that it's done. If you miss your

436
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deadline,

437
00:15:31,200 --> 00:15:32,339
you get an x.

438
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Not my favorite. Yeah. So there were some

439
00:15:36,404 --> 00:15:38,804
days I mean, up until, like, even, I

440
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think, last week, it was still happening on

441
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occasion where I was not yet in the

442
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habit to go in by the time that

443
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was set on a weekday. Excuse me. And

444
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I had learned after a couple weeks that

445
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JB didn't care

446
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what time the collar went on on the

447
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weekend, but I was not getting the points

448
00:15:57,059 --> 00:15:59,235
that were due to Right. So at that

449
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point, I dug into the app again, and

450
00:16:01,315 --> 00:16:04,434
I realized I could set a set it

451
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for

452
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the week, Monday through Friday, and then have

453
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the weekend as its own Yep. Little time.

454
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Yep. And I the way you have it

455
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set up is every day that I I

456
00:16:14,480 --> 00:16:16,480
showed that I have gotten the collar on

457
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on time, it's eight it's one point.

458
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There have been other things that were more

459
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points, which is cool. I like that. I

460
00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:25,120
like that, you know, some activities, that's just

461
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that's the point. That's just basic. Right? Some

462
00:16:27,664 --> 00:16:30,065
things are a little bit extra, and I

463
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am a fan.

464
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I was mentally preparing this morning, like, while

465
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eating my breakfast. I am mentally preparing for

466
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today's live streaming episode because we decided this

467
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topic two weeks ago. And I was like,

468
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yes. I can't wait to tell them how

469
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this is working out. But the thing I've

470
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had to work through the most for an

471
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early morning completion

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is remembering to go into my app Mhmm.

473
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To complete the task. And I was gonna

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say prior to this morning

475
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that I had remembered

476
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every day to put the collar on. I

477
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just

478
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until

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today

480
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until today until

481
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fucking the day we're supposed to talk about

482
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it,

483
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08:08

484
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in the morning, I'm like,

485
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I walk back into the bedroom,

486
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and I see my collar,

487
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and I grab it.

488
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And I thought you were already so there's

489
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a story here. Yeah. I thought JB was

490
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already out in the shop, and I was

491
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like, oh my god. I'm good. I mean,

492
00:17:31,785 --> 00:17:34,345
I'm literally slack jawed because I was so

493
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proud of myself

494
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thirty seconds prior.

495
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I think I'm gonna have to run out

496
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to the shop and be, like, make him

497
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stop working so I can get the damn

498
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collar on. Thankfully, he's still

499
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sitting at his desk, so no problem. But

500
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why did I think he was in the

501
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shop?

502
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At some point at or right before, I

503
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didn't look at the time. It was five

504
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minutes it was 07:55.

505
00:17:57,105 --> 00:17:59,585
Okay. JB, who is a who is a

506
00:17:59,585 --> 00:18:00,485
great communicator,

507
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he is

508
00:18:02,230 --> 00:18:03,529
super fucking intelligent.

509
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He is wonderful

510
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on all levels.

511
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This man

512
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looked at me and said, at apparently five

513
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till eight Mhmm.

514
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That man, the morning has really gone by

515
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fast. I can't believe it's almost 08:00. And

516
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I'm not out in the shop. Like, it

517
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was all centered around him being in the

518
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shop. I gave him the most blank look

519
00:18:23,804 --> 00:18:25,345
you could imagine. I'm like,

520
00:18:25,884 --> 00:18:26,384
what?

521
00:18:26,845 --> 00:18:27,345
What?

522
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So at 08:08,

523
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when I realized what the fuck happened,

524
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he and I come to him. He goes,

525
00:18:34,299 --> 00:18:36,299
well, I thought you would take my you

526
00:18:36,299 --> 00:18:37,299
got my hint.

527
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Hint. I'm trying to help you. I was

528
00:18:39,099 --> 00:18:41,680
like, in what world was that? A hint?

529
00:18:43,605 --> 00:18:44,745
A hint is,

530
00:18:45,285 --> 00:18:46,884
baby girl, is there something that maybe you've

531
00:18:46,884 --> 00:18:48,805
forgotten? Baby girls, there's something you still need

532
00:18:48,805 --> 00:18:51,285
to do? Mm-mm. That'd be too easy. 08:00.

533
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Deadline, 08:00. But I was supposed to understand

534
00:18:54,325 --> 00:18:56,609
him talking about 08:00 in the shop, which

535
00:18:56,609 --> 00:18:58,470
is not about me at all,

536
00:18:59,570 --> 00:19:02,049
was supposed to be, bitch, you don't have

537
00:19:02,049 --> 00:19:04,049
your collar on yet, and you're about to

538
00:19:04,049 --> 00:19:05,829
legitimately lose a point.

539
00:19:06,930 --> 00:19:08,070
Go get your collar.

540
00:19:10,609 --> 00:19:13,105
Look. If if you out there

541
00:19:13,964 --> 00:19:15,565
are like, oh, yeah. If I've gotten that

542
00:19:15,565 --> 00:19:17,484
hint, I it totally yeah. I wouldn't know

543
00:19:17,484 --> 00:19:18,784
what you're talking about.

544
00:19:19,164 --> 00:19:21,004
I am so happy for you, but I

545
00:19:21,004 --> 00:19:23,404
am not that bitch. Okay? I'm not

546
00:19:24,284 --> 00:19:26,910
we were not we didn't say specifically caller.

547
00:19:26,910 --> 00:19:29,170
We kept the the the example

548
00:19:29,630 --> 00:19:31,789
very generic. But we were talking to kids

549
00:19:31,789 --> 00:19:34,529
at dinner tonight, and the youngest goes,

550
00:19:34,910 --> 00:19:36,589
you know, wouldn't it be nice if people

551
00:19:36,589 --> 00:19:38,845
just, like, said what the hell they meant

552
00:19:38,845 --> 00:19:41,265
so you didn't have to guess? And I

553
00:19:41,484 --> 00:19:42,625
went, thank you, my child.

554
00:19:43,085 --> 00:19:44,464
I've raised that one right.

555
00:19:45,964 --> 00:19:47,265
Anyway And yet,

556
00:19:47,565 --> 00:19:48,224
the oldest

557
00:19:48,845 --> 00:19:50,980
Oh, was on your side completely? Mhmm.

558
00:19:51,519 --> 00:19:52,720
I don't know where I went wrong with

559
00:19:52,720 --> 00:19:54,660
that boy, but okay. Yeah. Anyway,

560
00:19:55,759 --> 00:19:58,240
so the time my whole point to that

561
00:19:58,240 --> 00:20:01,059
whole rant is if you set a time

562
00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:03,700
for a task to be completed,

563
00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:05,700
they meant that shit.

564
00:20:06,125 --> 00:20:07,884
I have not certainly not on my side

565
00:20:07,884 --> 00:20:09,805
as dismissive. There's no mechanism for me to

566
00:20:09,805 --> 00:20:11,984
go, no. But really, I did the thing

567
00:20:12,525 --> 00:20:15,164
at 07:30. I just forgot to come into

568
00:20:15,164 --> 00:20:17,565
the app until 08:01, and they're not playing

569
00:20:17,565 --> 00:20:19,805
y'all. I came into the app at 08:09,

570
00:20:19,805 --> 00:20:20,785
and my opportunity

571
00:20:21,565 --> 00:20:23,299
to show show that that was done was

572
00:20:23,299 --> 00:20:25,539
already gone. There's Mhmm. Like, no leeway that

573
00:20:25,539 --> 00:20:26,200
I found.

574
00:20:26,660 --> 00:20:28,259
Now what I'm curious about on your end,

575
00:20:28,259 --> 00:20:30,099
could you go back and give me those

576
00:20:30,099 --> 00:20:32,339
points? I you know, I don't know. I

577
00:20:32,339 --> 00:20:33,559
honestly don't know.

578
00:20:35,700 --> 00:20:37,320
Okay. No. I don't need any.

579
00:20:38,605 --> 00:20:40,365
No. Don't need that. But what yeah. What

580
00:20:40,365 --> 00:20:42,044
we ended up doing for the weekend is

581
00:20:42,044 --> 00:20:44,125
that's when we've we talked about it. Because

582
00:20:44,125 --> 00:20:45,105
here's the thing.

583
00:20:45,404 --> 00:20:46,924
We are not using this for me to

584
00:20:46,924 --> 00:20:49,404
collect points. I have things I can trade

585
00:20:49,404 --> 00:20:51,184
my points in for for a reward.

586
00:20:51,644 --> 00:20:54,410
But at this moment in life, not in

587
00:20:54,410 --> 00:20:56,170
general, not always, but at this moment in

588
00:20:56,170 --> 00:20:58,890
life, I'm not really as reward driven. I

589
00:20:58,890 --> 00:21:00,570
just kinda wanna get the shit done and

590
00:21:00,570 --> 00:21:03,049
know it's done, and I want to carry

591
00:21:03,049 --> 00:21:03,549
less

592
00:21:04,090 --> 00:21:05,529
stuff in my brain that I have to

593
00:21:05,529 --> 00:21:06,350
try and remember.

594
00:21:07,654 --> 00:21:09,974
So on one hand, I kinda don't care

595
00:21:09,974 --> 00:21:11,575
about the points. But on the other hand,

596
00:21:11,575 --> 00:21:13,575
I am who I am and I don't

597
00:21:13,575 --> 00:21:14,555
like to falsely

598
00:21:15,734 --> 00:21:18,075
lose points. Are you kidding me?

599
00:21:18,775 --> 00:21:20,454
Because you get, like I'm sure you can

600
00:21:20,454 --> 00:21:22,559
set it for different time, but weekly, I

601
00:21:22,559 --> 00:21:24,319
get, like, this notification that'll tell me how

602
00:21:24,319 --> 00:21:25,700
many points I earned,

603
00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:28,000
how many points I lost. And I'm like,

604
00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:30,480
I'm only losing points because I'm not tapping

605
00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:31,059
the thing

606
00:21:32,319 --> 00:21:35,119
on time. And prior to today, JB was

607
00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:36,424
like, I know you're doing it, so I'm

608
00:21:36,424 --> 00:21:37,304
not mad at you but I was like,

609
00:21:37,304 --> 00:21:39,304
yeah, but I'm kinda pissy about this point

610
00:21:39,304 --> 00:21:40,605
thing. It's not accurate.

611
00:21:41,384 --> 00:21:42,984
So what did you learn when you went

612
00:21:42,984 --> 00:21:44,904
in? I do not see anywhere I can

613
00:21:44,904 --> 00:21:45,884
do that. Okay.

614
00:21:48,279 --> 00:21:50,279
It does, you know, each day it shows

615
00:21:50,279 --> 00:21:52,039
me what you've done. I get a daily

616
00:21:52,039 --> 00:21:53,640
summary. And then it also gives a week

617
00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:56,940
weekly and monthly Mhmm. Summary. Mhmm. Alright.

618
00:21:57,319 --> 00:21:59,000
Which is which is kinda cool. It tells

619
00:21:59,000 --> 00:22:01,115
me what you've earned, what you've lost, you

620
00:22:01,115 --> 00:22:03,275
know, goals reached, different things like that. That

621
00:22:03,275 --> 00:22:05,275
lost thing is bullshit is all I'm saying.

622
00:22:05,275 --> 00:22:07,215
Yeah. Today was the first day I genuinely

623
00:22:07,835 --> 00:22:09,835
lost. I mean, we did we did talk

624
00:22:09,835 --> 00:22:11,515
about that a little bit. You know, there

625
00:22:11,515 --> 00:22:12,255
there is

626
00:22:12,555 --> 00:22:14,575
to me, that's a little bit of a

627
00:22:16,409 --> 00:22:18,490
imperfection. I mean a few times Right. If

628
00:22:18,490 --> 00:22:19,929
you could go in as the DOM and

629
00:22:19,929 --> 00:22:21,450
fix it, I think that would be fine.

630
00:22:21,450 --> 00:22:22,490
I think I'd be cool with that. And

631
00:22:22,490 --> 00:22:24,569
I might be able I wonder if that

632
00:22:24,569 --> 00:22:26,990
is a Maybe a premium feature? Premium feature.

633
00:22:28,164 --> 00:22:30,244
Okay. So Because I know one of the

634
00:22:30,244 --> 00:22:32,085
other things with the premium feature, you can

635
00:22:32,085 --> 00:22:32,744
now also,

636
00:22:33,765 --> 00:22:34,744
set it for,

637
00:22:35,285 --> 00:22:36,105
photo proof.

638
00:22:36,484 --> 00:22:38,805
Yes. That is yeah. For that Mhmm. So

639
00:22:38,805 --> 00:22:41,160
we are together so often. There's no way

640
00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:43,500
he doesn't know if I haven't done something

641
00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:45,720
Correct. You know, after I say that I've

642
00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:47,799
done it in the app. But if something

643
00:22:47,799 --> 00:22:49,240
has to be done while y'all are apart,

644
00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:51,559
maybe you're already long distance, the photo thing

645
00:22:51,559 --> 00:22:53,720
would probably come in very, very handy. As

646
00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:56,724
somebody who sent proof of a photo proof

647
00:22:56,724 --> 00:22:58,964
of the panties I was wearing every day

648
00:22:58,964 --> 00:23:01,204
that we were long distance. Mhmm. The only

649
00:23:01,284 --> 00:23:03,845
no. Look. We are we are living in

650
00:23:03,845 --> 00:23:05,444
the twenty first century and we know how

651
00:23:05,444 --> 00:23:06,505
these things go.

652
00:23:07,525 --> 00:23:09,765
I think it is perfectly legit if you're

653
00:23:09,765 --> 00:23:12,650
like, I am not putting up nakey photos

654
00:23:12,650 --> 00:23:13,390
of myself

655
00:23:13,690 --> 00:23:16,089
on this fucking app. I think that's fair.

656
00:23:16,089 --> 00:23:18,570
I think that's fair. I think that's fair.

657
00:23:18,809 --> 00:23:20,490
Definitely can you know, think about your own

658
00:23:20,490 --> 00:23:22,570
sense of privacy and security. We know that

659
00:23:22,570 --> 00:23:24,984
apps, like, get fucked with more often than

660
00:23:24,984 --> 00:23:27,244
we would like. So Mhmm. You know,

661
00:23:28,025 --> 00:23:29,625
make it as anonymous as you can if

662
00:23:29,625 --> 00:23:30,904
you choose to use that. But I could

663
00:23:30,904 --> 00:23:32,924
see that being a really, really handy tool

664
00:23:33,625 --> 00:23:35,224
when you are long distance or just are

665
00:23:35,224 --> 00:23:37,544
not physically together to see that the thing

666
00:23:37,544 --> 00:23:39,785
was done. And it's a visual that you

667
00:23:39,785 --> 00:23:41,279
have to be able to see to really

668
00:23:41,279 --> 00:23:42,339
know that it was done.

669
00:23:43,279 --> 00:23:45,440
I think if you have strong enough trust

670
00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:47,299
in one another and, like, legit,

671
00:23:47,759 --> 00:23:49,599
you don't need photo break. If JB was

672
00:23:49,599 --> 00:23:50,819
out of town for a week

673
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:53,599
at one, we would turn off the collar

674
00:23:53,599 --> 00:23:54,880
thing. But if he was out of town

675
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:56,375
for a week, I could still go

676
00:23:56,755 --> 00:23:58,755
in and tap the, yes, I folded the

677
00:23:58,755 --> 00:24:00,595
laundry to get my two points for that

678
00:24:00,595 --> 00:24:02,615
because that's a weekly task. Mhmm.

679
00:24:03,795 --> 00:24:04,195
And,

680
00:24:04,835 --> 00:24:06,674
he he wouldn't doubt that because I wouldn't

681
00:24:06,674 --> 00:24:08,359
give him a reason to doubt

682
00:24:08,740 --> 00:24:09,480
that. Right.

683
00:24:10,099 --> 00:24:12,259
So after you set up the daily thing

684
00:24:12,259 --> 00:24:14,180
with with my collar, because that was a

685
00:24:14,180 --> 00:24:17,859
habit we were actively actively, like, trying to

686
00:24:17,859 --> 00:24:20,180
make a thing. And it was very, like,

687
00:24:20,180 --> 00:24:21,194
all over the place.

688
00:24:21,914 --> 00:24:24,474
Then you set up a random task Yes.

689
00:24:24,554 --> 00:24:25,914
That was not, like, it was a one

690
00:24:25,914 --> 00:24:27,774
off do thing. One off one time thing.

691
00:24:27,835 --> 00:24:30,174
I we had we had become the recipient

692
00:24:30,315 --> 00:24:30,815
of

693
00:24:32,315 --> 00:24:33,214
pizza dough,

694
00:24:33,914 --> 00:24:36,575
fresh homemade pizza dough. Mhmm. And

695
00:24:37,250 --> 00:24:39,410
From an Italian bakery. From Italian bakery. Where

696
00:24:39,410 --> 00:24:40,630
nonnas are making

697
00:24:40,930 --> 00:24:43,109
the dough. That's all I'm saying. Yeah.

698
00:24:43,650 --> 00:24:45,750
Yeah. That was some good shit. Mhmm.

699
00:24:46,369 --> 00:24:46,850
And,

700
00:24:47,410 --> 00:24:49,190
I really wanted to make

701
00:24:50,134 --> 00:24:51,975
pizza from scratch. I had no idea how

702
00:24:51,975 --> 00:24:52,475
to

703
00:24:54,295 --> 00:24:56,775
achieve that. Mhmm. So I assigned her the

704
00:24:56,775 --> 00:24:57,275
task

705
00:24:57,894 --> 00:24:59,975
to find me a good pizza recipe. Mhmm.

706
00:24:59,975 --> 00:25:01,815
Now he intended to come talk to me

707
00:25:01,815 --> 00:25:03,740
about it after he had done it. But

708
00:25:03,740 --> 00:25:05,919
sometimes, I'm actually on top of my game.

709
00:25:06,859 --> 00:25:09,460
Yeah. So the Obedience app is literally when

710
00:25:09,579 --> 00:25:12,799
I think, other than text messages and voicemail,

711
00:25:13,500 --> 00:25:16,220
I don't let notifications come through on my

712
00:25:16,220 --> 00:25:16,720
phone

713
00:25:17,099 --> 00:25:18,159
for anything.

714
00:25:18,835 --> 00:25:21,315
Except the Obedience app because I'll I need

715
00:25:21,315 --> 00:25:21,975
a reminder.

716
00:25:23,235 --> 00:25:24,934
What I like about that, my collar,

717
00:25:25,315 --> 00:25:26,595
I know it has to be on by

718
00:25:26,595 --> 00:25:28,755
8AM. I will certainly remember now that I

719
00:25:28,755 --> 00:25:29,815
fucked it up today.

720
00:25:30,710 --> 00:25:32,309
But I haven't note I set the time

721
00:25:32,309 --> 00:25:34,789
of my notification. It pops up at seven.

722
00:25:34,789 --> 00:25:36,230
So if I happen to be lying in

723
00:25:36,230 --> 00:25:38,150
bed still and have not actually, like, started

724
00:25:38,150 --> 00:25:39,210
moving yet, I'm like,

725
00:25:39,750 --> 00:25:41,269
That's impetus. I need to get my ass

726
00:25:41,269 --> 00:25:42,950
out of bed so I get this done

727
00:25:42,950 --> 00:25:43,849
in time. Mhmm.

728
00:25:44,230 --> 00:25:46,605
Apparently, that was a two birds one stone

729
00:25:46,605 --> 00:25:47,105
situation.

730
00:25:47,884 --> 00:25:49,805
Jimmy was like, I'm kinda tired of you

731
00:25:49,805 --> 00:25:51,964
rolling out of bed later and later. Look,

732
00:25:51,964 --> 00:25:54,305
look, this is a 45 year old

733
00:25:54,684 --> 00:25:55,904
engine and transmission.

734
00:25:56,285 --> 00:25:59,339
Okay? It has to be warmed up. Also

735
00:25:59,339 --> 00:26:02,380
cooled off because it overheats very easily. And

736
00:26:02,380 --> 00:26:04,140
it takes me a minute to get out

737
00:26:04,140 --> 00:26:06,240
of, like, a mess in the morning. Anyway.

738
00:26:07,900 --> 00:26:10,079
But two words, one stone. So that worked.

739
00:26:11,019 --> 00:26:11,519
So

740
00:26:12,554 --> 00:26:14,474
so I've got notification. The moment he assigned

741
00:26:14,474 --> 00:26:16,654
something poof that notification pops up.

742
00:26:17,355 --> 00:26:18,875
So at first I looked at it and

743
00:26:18,875 --> 00:26:19,774
I had this

744
00:26:20,075 --> 00:26:22,174
jittery moment of uh-oh.

745
00:26:22,634 --> 00:26:24,634
When is this due? What does this mean?

746
00:26:24,634 --> 00:26:26,819
Like I got like, for half a second,

747
00:26:26,819 --> 00:26:29,619
I let myself feel overwhelmed that wasn't really

748
00:26:29,619 --> 00:26:31,299
warranted. It was just like, oh, I wasn't

749
00:26:31,299 --> 00:26:32,119
expecting this.

750
00:26:32,819 --> 00:26:33,319
But

751
00:26:34,019 --> 00:26:35,859
I still liked that because it meant the

752
00:26:35,859 --> 00:26:37,539
moment he thought of a thing he wanted

753
00:26:37,539 --> 00:26:39,265
me to do, he didn't have to try

754
00:26:39,265 --> 00:26:40,085
and remember it

755
00:26:40,865 --> 00:26:42,224
or try and meet up with me and

756
00:26:42,544 --> 00:26:44,544
Exactly. He just put it in. And then

757
00:26:44,544 --> 00:26:45,904
I could go in and it was like,

758
00:26:45,904 --> 00:26:48,304
when is my deadline? Because I had understood

759
00:26:48,304 --> 00:26:50,565
by at that point, you could set deadlines.

760
00:26:51,345 --> 00:26:52,325
And JB

761
00:26:52,704 --> 00:26:54,304
was who he always is. It was a

762
00:26:54,304 --> 00:26:56,839
very generous deadline. Like, I think I got

763
00:26:56,839 --> 00:26:58,779
the thing on, like, a Friday or Saturday.

764
00:26:59,079 --> 00:27:01,079
Yeah. And the deadline was, like, for the

765
00:27:01,079 --> 00:27:03,339
following Monday at 5PM or something.

766
00:27:04,039 --> 00:27:05,799
It was plenty of time. Mhmm.

767
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:08,700
And what was really nice about that was

768
00:27:09,134 --> 00:27:11,134
I had, like, a quiet moment probably thirty

769
00:27:11,134 --> 00:27:13,695
minutes before that notification aft after that notification

770
00:27:13,695 --> 00:27:15,214
came in, and I just went and did

771
00:27:15,214 --> 00:27:15,714
it,

772
00:27:16,414 --> 00:27:19,134
wrote up a very detailed email with links.

773
00:27:19,134 --> 00:27:19,634
Mhmm.

774
00:27:20,095 --> 00:27:21,394
And here and then

775
00:27:22,095 --> 00:27:24,900
sent it, checked the thing off as done.

776
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:27,279
JB didn't see his notifications. He comes to

777
00:27:27,279 --> 00:27:28,100
me and he goes,

778
00:27:28,559 --> 00:27:31,279
so there's a task, like, twenty minutes after

779
00:27:31,279 --> 00:27:32,100
I've done this.

780
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:34,240
So there's a task I've assigned to you.

781
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:36,799
And I go, I know. The response is

782
00:27:36,799 --> 00:27:39,625
in an email in your inbox. He goes,

783
00:27:39,785 --> 00:27:41,464
oh. I was like, look. You're a little

784
00:27:41,464 --> 00:27:43,005
sad. Like, it is done.

785
00:27:43,464 --> 00:27:44,525
Look. Look.

786
00:27:45,224 --> 00:27:47,484
I was firing on all cylinders.

787
00:27:47,865 --> 00:27:48,365
Okay?

788
00:27:48,825 --> 00:27:50,585
I was on it. It was it was

789
00:27:50,585 --> 00:27:52,910
like 35 year old me. Okay? Mhmm.

790
00:27:54,990 --> 00:27:56,690
And that I like that because,

791
00:27:57,470 --> 00:28:00,289
you know, I had that that initial, like,

792
00:28:00,430 --> 00:28:02,190
uh-oh, how quickly? Then I could just go

793
00:28:02,190 --> 00:28:04,670
fucking look and calm myself down. Then because

794
00:28:04,670 --> 00:28:06,465
I had that extra time, but it was

795
00:28:06,785 --> 00:28:08,384
I had the time I needed more time

796
00:28:08,384 --> 00:28:09,285
than I needed.

797
00:28:10,224 --> 00:28:12,144
I was able to the pressure was off.

798
00:28:12,144 --> 00:28:12,884
And sometimes

799
00:28:13,345 --> 00:28:15,744
when JB assigns a task verbally, even if

800
00:28:15,744 --> 00:28:17,664
he tells me, you I don't need it

801
00:28:17,664 --> 00:28:19,424
right now. You know, let me know tomorrow

802
00:28:19,424 --> 00:28:22,400
or whatever. There's a pressure to remember. There's

803
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:24,320
a pressure to get it done. And then

804
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:26,720
there's the very real fear that I'm it's

805
00:28:26,799 --> 00:28:28,240
I'm gonna forget about it. And if I

806
00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:30,400
don't remember to write it down, it's gone.

807
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:31,619
It doesn't exist anymore.

808
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,180
This has alleviated a lot of that.

809
00:28:35,534 --> 00:28:37,534
Then so that's a one off. Now it's

810
00:28:37,534 --> 00:28:39,694
still sitting in our list. I'm sure you

811
00:28:39,694 --> 00:28:40,974
could remove it if you want to. I'm

812
00:28:40,974 --> 00:28:42,494
sure. Yeah. It's not one I'll need to

813
00:28:42,494 --> 00:28:43,714
do again. Right.

814
00:28:44,335 --> 00:28:46,335
So here's the thing. It talks about being

815
00:28:46,335 --> 00:28:47,315
a habit tracker,

816
00:28:47,859 --> 00:28:50,259
talks about, you know, assigning tasks is essentially

817
00:28:50,259 --> 00:28:52,899
what it is. But we are definitely talking

818
00:28:52,899 --> 00:28:53,799
about some

819
00:28:56,019 --> 00:28:56,519
behavior

820
00:28:56,899 --> 00:28:57,399
modification

821
00:28:58,259 --> 00:28:58,759
slash,

822
00:28:59,460 --> 00:28:59,960
like,

823
00:29:00,419 --> 00:29:02,200
an assist for when

824
00:29:02,934 --> 00:29:04,695
you you just got a Swiss cheese brain

825
00:29:04,695 --> 00:29:06,394
and you're not gonna remember shit.

826
00:29:07,335 --> 00:29:09,414
Also, I'm a goal oriented girl. You give

827
00:29:09,414 --> 00:29:12,315
me a deadline look. I might slide in

828
00:29:12,815 --> 00:29:15,174
Under the burrito. Thirty seconds right before Yeah.

829
00:29:15,255 --> 00:29:17,174
But a deadline works for me. That kind

830
00:29:17,174 --> 00:29:18,315
of air quote pressure,

831
00:29:19,470 --> 00:29:20,910
I I used to say I thrive under

832
00:29:20,910 --> 00:29:22,509
pressure. And what it meant was I work

833
00:29:22,509 --> 00:29:24,109
real, really well when I know I've got

834
00:29:24,109 --> 00:29:25,950
a deadline and no fucking time left. I

835
00:29:25,950 --> 00:29:26,930
can get shit done,

836
00:29:27,630 --> 00:29:28,130
because

837
00:29:28,670 --> 00:29:30,450
I think it's I think it's neurodivergency,

838
00:29:30,750 --> 00:29:32,049
but I don't actually know.

839
00:29:32,990 --> 00:29:34,275
So a thing that we

840
00:29:35,634 --> 00:29:37,714
had something that had been happening more and

841
00:29:37,714 --> 00:29:40,755
more, JB washes. Like, he gets the clothes

842
00:29:40,755 --> 00:29:42,434
in the washer. He gets them in the

843
00:29:42,434 --> 00:29:44,674
dryer. He puts them in the basket. My

844
00:29:44,674 --> 00:29:47,190
job is to fold and put away. Yep.

845
00:29:47,250 --> 00:29:49,730
And some weeks, again, firing on all cylinders.

846
00:29:49,730 --> 00:29:51,730
Yep. And some weeks, it's later and later.

847
00:29:51,730 --> 00:29:53,809
And it there was we were getting to

848
00:29:53,809 --> 00:29:55,410
the next Saturday when it was time to

849
00:29:55,410 --> 00:29:58,769
wash Yeah. Clothes. Mhmm. And I hadn't put

850
00:29:58,769 --> 00:30:00,345
away last Saturday.

851
00:30:01,044 --> 00:30:03,924
Yeah. Something need to change. Yeah. So at

852
00:30:03,924 --> 00:30:04,424
first,

853
00:30:05,204 --> 00:30:06,884
it started off with, okay, have it done

854
00:30:06,884 --> 00:30:08,644
by Wednesday. And that was verbal. And I

855
00:30:08,644 --> 00:30:10,724
knew. And I I was I was walking

856
00:30:10,724 --> 00:30:12,424
around with it in my head understanding

857
00:30:13,284 --> 00:30:14,619
that I had to get it done by

858
00:30:14,619 --> 00:30:17,200
Wednesday. There was no question about that. Mhmm.

859
00:30:17,259 --> 00:30:18,559
But then at some point,

860
00:30:19,500 --> 00:30:21,740
you made it a task. I I you

861
00:30:21,740 --> 00:30:22,319
know, I

862
00:30:22,859 --> 00:30:25,119
told you that, and then I was like,

863
00:30:25,259 --> 00:30:25,919
a little,

864
00:30:26,404 --> 00:30:27,464
what am I doing?

865
00:30:27,765 --> 00:30:29,765
Right. What am I doing? We have the

866
00:30:29,765 --> 00:30:30,265
technology.

867
00:30:30,644 --> 00:30:32,644
Right. And and I just put it in

868
00:30:32,644 --> 00:30:35,865
the app. Mhmm. And now you're for that.

869
00:30:36,484 --> 00:30:38,184
Well and here is the realization

870
00:30:38,484 --> 00:30:40,559
that I've come to about myself and I've

871
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:42,400
explained it to JB. And when he does

872
00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:44,400
not remember six weeks from now, I'll explain

873
00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:45,140
it again.

874
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:48,799
Because I don't expect him to remember, like,

875
00:30:48,799 --> 00:30:50,880
every single one of my fucking quirks. That's

876
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:52,960
too much for a person. No. Nobody. No.

877
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:53,775
I barely remember

878
00:30:55,134 --> 00:30:56,994
them all. And it's that some

879
00:30:57,375 --> 00:30:57,875
weeks,

880
00:30:58,494 --> 00:31:00,974
some days, I'm on top of it. Everything

881
00:31:00,974 --> 00:31:02,674
is working as it should.

882
00:31:03,214 --> 00:31:06,450
I have energy. I have motivation. I if

883
00:31:06,529 --> 00:31:09,069
I'm a rolling stone, if I start, I

884
00:31:09,089 --> 00:31:11,809
can gather no fucking moss, y'all. I got

885
00:31:11,809 --> 00:31:12,309
this.

886
00:31:12,849 --> 00:31:14,309
And so there are some

887
00:31:14,929 --> 00:31:17,409
weeks where I've got it done before, like,

888
00:31:17,409 --> 00:31:19,169
by the weekend. I'm just like, yeah. I

889
00:31:19,169 --> 00:31:21,909
can do this. Mhmm. And then there are

890
00:31:22,244 --> 00:31:26,244
some weeks where, I don't know, the dopamine

891
00:31:26,244 --> 00:31:28,404
is low, the hormones are raging. I don't

892
00:31:28,404 --> 00:31:30,345
know. I don't know. What do I

893
00:31:30,964 --> 00:31:32,244
what do I blame it on? I don't

894
00:31:32,244 --> 00:31:32,744
know.

895
00:31:33,365 --> 00:31:35,605
And I thank God for the deadline because

896
00:31:35,605 --> 00:31:37,470
I will get something done by a deadline.

897
00:31:37,549 --> 00:31:39,470
I'm I'm wired that way. That's part of

898
00:31:39,470 --> 00:31:40,289
who I am.

899
00:31:40,829 --> 00:31:41,329
So

900
00:31:43,390 --> 00:31:44,690
JB to encourage

901
00:31:45,789 --> 00:31:46,029
the,

902
00:31:48,750 --> 00:31:50,829
the part of me that loves a gold

903
00:31:50,829 --> 00:31:52,369
star point whatever,

904
00:31:53,975 --> 00:31:56,134
and we both understand the importance of positive

905
00:31:56,134 --> 00:31:58,234
reinforcement. We have we have talked about it

906
00:31:58,375 --> 00:32:00,075
on this podcast Yeah. Before.

907
00:32:01,174 --> 00:32:03,255
If I get it done early, like, early,

908
00:32:03,255 --> 00:32:04,934
early, like, it's still the weekend when it

909
00:32:04,934 --> 00:32:06,934
should be put away if you're capable of,

910
00:32:06,934 --> 00:32:09,369
you know, all your brain cells firing together.

911
00:32:10,070 --> 00:32:11,670
I get an extra I get that extra

912
00:32:11,670 --> 00:32:13,930
good girl text. Like, I get extra acknowledgment,

913
00:32:15,269 --> 00:32:16,170
and I

914
00:32:17,029 --> 00:32:17,769
love that.

915
00:32:19,269 --> 00:32:21,269
But the first time he

916
00:32:22,244 --> 00:32:24,164
like, that happened and he acknowledged it. We

917
00:32:24,164 --> 00:32:26,244
then talked about it later. And that's when

918
00:32:26,244 --> 00:32:27,305
I had to say, look,

919
00:32:27,845 --> 00:32:29,365
I like that I could do this this

920
00:32:29,365 --> 00:32:29,865
week.

921
00:32:30,325 --> 00:32:31,865
I also like knowing

922
00:32:32,484 --> 00:32:34,724
that if next week's a bad week, the

923
00:32:35,605 --> 00:32:37,529
there's no false pressure. It's just

924
00:32:38,009 --> 00:32:41,130
Wednesday at 5PM is the deadline. And Mhmm.

925
00:32:41,450 --> 00:32:43,769
And please understand, some weeks I need that

926
00:32:43,769 --> 00:32:45,609
deadline and some weeks I don't. Right. Past

927
00:32:45,609 --> 00:32:47,529
two weeks, I haven't. I've just gotten it

928
00:32:47,529 --> 00:32:50,269
done. Just gotten it done. I don't know.

929
00:32:54,144 --> 00:32:54,644
So,

930
00:32:55,744 --> 00:32:56,484
we have

931
00:32:56,785 --> 00:32:57,684
used the basics.

932
00:32:58,065 --> 00:33:00,384
So far, we have not needed the extra

933
00:33:00,384 --> 00:33:00,884
features.

934
00:33:01,984 --> 00:33:03,125
Every every

935
00:33:03,424 --> 00:33:06,065
few days, a or not a notification. A

936
00:33:06,065 --> 00:33:07,345
thing pops up when you go into the

937
00:33:07,345 --> 00:33:09,608
Obedience app. App. It's like, oh, wouldn't you

938
00:33:09,608 --> 00:33:11,819
like to do the premium? And they will,

939
00:33:11,819 --> 00:33:14,307
you know, sometimes they're offering, like, 50% off

940
00:33:14,307 --> 00:33:16,519
every so often. So we will at some

941
00:33:16,519 --> 00:33:18,730
point. I'm sure I'm sure we will at

942
00:33:18,730 --> 00:33:21,218
some point if we because what I'm finding

943
00:33:21,218 --> 00:33:21,494
is,

944
00:33:22,134 --> 00:33:25,015
you know, this is a great tool that

945
00:33:25,015 --> 00:33:27,515
does not require either of us to use

946
00:33:27,575 --> 00:33:28,555
extra brainpower.

947
00:33:28,934 --> 00:33:32,295
Mhmm. Like, there's no walking around constantly, like,

948
00:33:32,295 --> 00:33:34,454
on a on a tab that I can't

949
00:33:34,454 --> 00:33:37,250
see, but I'm repeating my list to myself

950
00:33:37,250 --> 00:33:38,690
over and over again to try to remember

951
00:33:38,690 --> 00:33:41,330
things or that panic of, wait. Was there

952
00:33:41,330 --> 00:33:42,390
something I'm forgetting?

953
00:33:42,769 --> 00:33:45,089
You know? I like that I can set

954
00:33:45,089 --> 00:33:45,750
my notifications

955
00:33:46,049 --> 00:33:47,109
for each task

956
00:33:47,809 --> 00:33:49,650
to arrive when I need them so that

957
00:33:49,650 --> 00:33:52,625
I I get that. I also like that

958
00:33:53,424 --> 00:33:54,664
I I think it's because I don't have

959
00:33:54,664 --> 00:33:57,125
a lot of notifications set on my phone.

960
00:33:57,664 --> 00:34:00,065
This is that doesn't feel overwhelming to me.

961
00:34:00,065 --> 00:34:02,325
For anybody who feels maybe a little overwhelmed

962
00:34:02,785 --> 00:34:04,164
by the supercomputer

963
00:34:04,599 --> 00:34:06,679
that is supposedly a phone, who talks on

964
00:34:06,679 --> 00:34:07,419
those? Whatever.

965
00:34:08,440 --> 00:34:09,880
The best thing I ever did for myself

966
00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:11,900
was to turn off all unnecessary

967
00:34:12,199 --> 00:34:12,699
notifications.

968
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:16,359
All of them. Because it was I I

969
00:34:16,359 --> 00:34:17,880
would get so distracted. It was not a

970
00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:20,734
dopamine rush. It was I was angry Every

971
00:34:20,734 --> 00:34:22,175
time I don't know if the case was

972
00:34:22,175 --> 00:34:22,835
going through.

973
00:34:23,614 --> 00:34:25,715
But it means that I'm more aware

974
00:34:26,094 --> 00:34:28,414
Mhmm. With the obedience app. Yeah.

975
00:34:28,894 --> 00:34:30,414
But I like that I'm I'm not worried

976
00:34:30,414 --> 00:34:32,275
about forgetting all of the time or

977
00:34:32,589 --> 00:34:34,190
going back and going, wait. I know you

978
00:34:34,190 --> 00:34:36,510
wanted me to do that thing. Mhmm. And

979
00:34:36,510 --> 00:34:38,349
when did I need to do that thing?

980
00:34:38,349 --> 00:34:38,849
Right.

981
00:34:39,630 --> 00:34:41,710
So that that has been the the best

982
00:34:41,710 --> 00:34:43,309
part of this. I think that's a, you

983
00:34:43,309 --> 00:34:44,844
know, an aging thing. Those of us who

984
00:34:44,844 --> 00:34:46,465
don't have a fucking memory, neurodivergency,

985
00:34:47,244 --> 00:34:49,164
any of that. Business logs. I am curious.

986
00:34:49,164 --> 00:34:51,105
Can you go into the app and see

987
00:34:51,324 --> 00:34:53,425
how many points you have accumulated?

988
00:34:53,965 --> 00:34:55,505
Yes. I also have

989
00:34:55,885 --> 00:34:58,204
some more notifications. Did you do something in

990
00:34:58,204 --> 00:35:00,289
there? Yeah. I was poke I've been poking

991
00:35:00,289 --> 00:35:01,030
around. Yeah.

992
00:35:01,489 --> 00:35:02,610
Yeah. And,

993
00:35:03,170 --> 00:35:05,170
okay. So I can I go into my

994
00:35:05,170 --> 00:35:06,949
little thing? I go into activity.

995
00:35:08,210 --> 00:35:10,150
I go into my reward history.

996
00:35:10,530 --> 00:35:11,030
No.

997
00:35:11,890 --> 00:35:13,030
Weekly summary,

998
00:35:14,144 --> 00:35:16,085
and I can look at weekly and monthly.

999
00:35:18,144 --> 00:35:20,784
The month of July, I earned 37 points.

1000
00:35:20,784 --> 00:35:22,164
I lost five.

1001
00:35:22,704 --> 00:35:23,204
Yeah.

1002
00:35:26,304 --> 00:35:27,364
Let's see. Account.

1003
00:35:28,839 --> 00:35:30,599
Can I see, I'm still learning some of

1004
00:35:30,599 --> 00:35:31,579
this stuff because

1005
00:35:32,119 --> 00:35:34,359
I I do this with every app I

1006
00:35:34,359 --> 00:35:36,119
have? I use it for what the hell

1007
00:35:36,119 --> 00:35:37,960
I need it for and not a fucking

1008
00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:39,420
thing other than that.

1009
00:35:40,519 --> 00:35:42,539
Oh, yes. When I go into my rewards

1010
00:35:42,679 --> 00:35:43,179
tab,

1011
00:35:44,054 --> 00:35:45,974
I can see that I have 42 points.

1012
00:35:45,974 --> 00:35:47,974
Okay. Now we were talking about earlier if

1013
00:35:47,974 --> 00:35:49,355
I can add or

1014
00:35:50,295 --> 00:35:50,795
and

1015
00:35:51,175 --> 00:35:53,894
on my point here Mhmm. I can add

1016
00:35:53,894 --> 00:35:56,489
or remove points. You can give me extra

1017
00:35:56,550 --> 00:35:57,530
points. Yes.

1018
00:35:59,269 --> 00:36:00,969
I'm good. I don't need that.

1019
00:36:01,750 --> 00:36:03,349
I can see that. Know a couple weeks

1020
00:36:03,349 --> 00:36:04,250
ago. Anyway,

1021
00:36:06,550 --> 00:36:08,625
there is a chat feature. We have not

1022
00:36:08,625 --> 00:36:10,945
used it because we are side by side

1023
00:36:10,945 --> 00:36:12,864
all day long. If there's something that needs

1024
00:36:12,864 --> 00:36:14,864
to be said, we'll say it. Alright. It's

1025
00:36:14,864 --> 00:36:15,364
fine.

1026
00:36:17,025 --> 00:36:19,125
Oh, yeah. You were playing. My notifications,

1027
00:36:19,585 --> 00:36:23,125
Southern sir has added one reward point. Southern

1028
00:36:23,184 --> 00:36:25,260
sir has subtracted one reward point.

1029
00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:29,640
Okay. I mean, a little freebie. Look at

1030
00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:31,640
me talking about it and, you know, being

1031
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:33,739
mostly coherent. That that might

1032
00:36:35,480 --> 00:36:36,460
that might mean,

1033
00:36:37,894 --> 00:36:39,655
you know, that might be worth a point

1034
00:36:39,655 --> 00:36:40,954
or two. I'm just saying.

1035
00:36:42,695 --> 00:36:44,295
I had some points I was gonna make.

1036
00:36:44,295 --> 00:36:46,315
No. At those points, I had some things.

1037
00:36:46,375 --> 00:36:48,074
Did I write them down in my notes?

1038
00:36:48,695 --> 00:36:51,000
Oh, I hope so. No. I didn't. I

1039
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:52,599
left it very generic so we could say

1040
00:36:52,599 --> 00:36:53,980
whatever we needed to say.

1041
00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:58,519
Oh, that's what it was because it's been

1042
00:36:58,519 --> 00:36:59,980
on my mind the past couple weeks.

1043
00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:02,460
So

1044
00:37:02,894 --> 00:37:04,735
I love the way we're using it. It

1045
00:37:04,735 --> 00:37:06,355
it has allowed us to to

1046
00:37:06,735 --> 00:37:08,755
do things that we already know we wanna

1047
00:37:09,135 --> 00:37:10,355
do or have done,

1048
00:37:11,215 --> 00:37:14,094
within our power exchange and be consistent. Right?

1049
00:37:14,094 --> 00:37:16,949
Mhmm. There's been the tweaking, like, changing it

1050
00:37:16,949 --> 00:37:18,869
from a timed thing of having my collar

1051
00:37:19,429 --> 00:37:20,949
you know, bringing my collar to JB is

1052
00:37:20,949 --> 00:37:22,809
essentially what I'm doing before 8AM.

1053
00:37:23,429 --> 00:37:25,510
And that went from every day by 8AM

1054
00:37:25,510 --> 00:37:27,750
to Monday through Friday. You know, we we

1055
00:37:27,750 --> 00:37:29,349
adjust as we need to go on. It

1056
00:37:29,429 --> 00:37:30,809
it's no different than

1057
00:37:32,144 --> 00:37:34,144
negotiating face to face per se. It's just

1058
00:37:34,144 --> 00:37:37,265
tech it's technological, and it's there for you

1059
00:37:37,265 --> 00:37:39,045
to look at whenever you need to. Correct.

1060
00:37:39,744 --> 00:37:41,824
But the other thing, I have not brought

1061
00:37:41,824 --> 00:37:43,425
this up to Jamie because I've not been

1062
00:37:43,425 --> 00:37:45,605
in the headspace for it. Uh-uh. But

1063
00:37:45,950 --> 00:37:47,809
when I've had moments of clarity

1064
00:37:48,430 --> 00:37:50,130
and enough dopamine to function

1065
00:37:51,550 --> 00:37:52,450
and enough serotonin,

1066
00:37:54,190 --> 00:37:56,289
I've had these thoughts about

1067
00:37:56,990 --> 00:38:00,074
how we could incorporate other things, and here's

1068
00:38:00,074 --> 00:38:01,594
the example that came up. And then I

1069
00:38:01,675 --> 00:38:03,434
it's made me spiral. So then I started

1070
00:38:03,434 --> 00:38:05,034
thinking about it. So let's let's talk about

1071
00:38:05,034 --> 00:38:06,815
it now. Alright. I'll spiral later.

1072
00:38:08,394 --> 00:38:09,375
If you are

1073
00:38:09,755 --> 00:38:10,974
a long time,

1074
00:38:12,554 --> 00:38:13,054
cricket

1075
00:38:13,389 --> 00:38:14,929
or you've gone through the archives,

1076
00:38:15,389 --> 00:38:17,469
you've probably heard us a few times over

1077
00:38:17,469 --> 00:38:18,530
literal ten years

1078
00:38:18,989 --> 00:38:19,969
talk about how

1079
00:38:20,349 --> 00:38:22,349
at different points in our power exchange, we

1080
00:38:22,349 --> 00:38:23,650
would try to incorporate

1081
00:38:24,590 --> 00:38:26,744
me trying to be a healthier human being

1082
00:38:26,744 --> 00:38:28,585
and doing things I need to do and

1083
00:38:28,585 --> 00:38:30,444
not doing things I don't need to do

1084
00:38:30,585 --> 00:38:33,065
into our Power Exchange. And every time it

1085
00:38:33,065 --> 00:38:35,864
fizzled, it flopped, it was never sustainable. Crashed

1086
00:38:35,864 --> 00:38:39,144
and burned. Just you know, I I needed

1087
00:38:39,144 --> 00:38:41,489
the accountability. JB didn't have the

1088
00:38:42,210 --> 00:38:43,969
it wasn't a thing that was important enough

1089
00:38:43,969 --> 00:38:46,210
to him. Like, it wasn't he wasn't driving

1090
00:38:46,210 --> 00:38:49,010
it. And also, if I wasn't driving it

1091
00:38:49,010 --> 00:38:50,929
with my own, like, ambition to be a

1092
00:38:50,929 --> 00:38:51,670
good girl,

1093
00:38:51,969 --> 00:38:53,409
like, it was easy for both of us

1094
00:38:53,409 --> 00:38:54,869
to go and it fizzled.

1095
00:38:55,170 --> 00:38:57,905
And I started thinking about, wait, What

1096
00:38:58,445 --> 00:38:59,744
if I started including

1097
00:39:00,765 --> 00:39:01,265
habits

1098
00:39:02,045 --> 00:39:04,204
that I do want to have and things

1099
00:39:04,204 --> 00:39:06,364
I do want to do, but I know

1100
00:39:06,364 --> 00:39:06,864
me

1101
00:39:07,324 --> 00:39:08,704
for whatever reason?

1102
00:39:10,469 --> 00:39:12,550
There can be one person on the planet

1103
00:39:12,550 --> 00:39:14,650
who I let tell me what to do.

1104
00:39:16,710 --> 00:39:19,110
I actually, I'm open to more than one,

1105
00:39:19,110 --> 00:39:21,429
but it's it's tough job to get. So

1106
00:39:21,429 --> 00:39:23,515
I get, like, it's fine. There's no line

1107
00:39:23,515 --> 00:39:25,855
out my door. I got one. I'm good.

1108
00:39:26,875 --> 00:39:29,195
His name is JB. Okay. And I've lost

1109
00:39:29,195 --> 00:39:29,695
you.

1110
00:39:30,954 --> 00:39:32,875
And so I thought about bringing that to

1111
00:39:32,875 --> 00:39:33,675
you because

1112
00:39:33,994 --> 00:39:34,494
Mhmm.

1113
00:39:34,989 --> 00:39:36,610
If that was a thing I was serious

1114
00:39:36,750 --> 00:39:37,730
about pursuing

1115
00:39:38,190 --> 00:39:38,690
Right.

1116
00:39:39,390 --> 00:39:42,190
The only, like, effort on your part is

1117
00:39:42,190 --> 00:39:43,090
in the setup.

1118
00:39:43,789 --> 00:39:45,730
And then you don't have to think about

1119
00:39:45,950 --> 00:39:46,905
is she doing the thing

1120
00:39:47,864 --> 00:39:49,164
thing, is she not? Your

1121
00:39:49,945 --> 00:39:51,144
notifications will tell you. Right. And I can

1122
00:39:51,144 --> 00:39:53,885
have that false, like, air quote pressure

1123
00:39:54,344 --> 00:39:54,844
of,

1124
00:39:55,224 --> 00:39:57,644
wait. You don't like losing brains.

1125
00:39:58,184 --> 00:39:58,684
Right.

1126
00:39:59,519 --> 00:40:01,119
You like having a deadline and this is

1127
00:40:01,199 --> 00:40:02,820
it's artificial. Like, we're

1128
00:40:03,119 --> 00:40:04,719
you know, we have free will. We can

1129
00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:06,559
ignore whatever we want, but it works for

1130
00:40:06,559 --> 00:40:07,059
me.

1131
00:40:07,599 --> 00:40:09,539
Maybe that's an option. And then

1132
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:11,360
I got all of it in my head.

1133
00:40:11,360 --> 00:40:12,340
There was a spiral.

1134
00:40:13,199 --> 00:40:13,519
The,

1135
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:14,980
the feel good

1136
00:40:15,355 --> 00:40:17,675
hormones and brain chemistry tanked for, like, two

1137
00:40:17,675 --> 00:40:19,594
weeks. And I haven't gone back to it.

1138
00:40:19,594 --> 00:40:22,074
But it was it got me thinking about

1139
00:40:22,074 --> 00:40:25,275
for other people who this app or an

1140
00:40:25,275 --> 00:40:26,655
app like it y'all,

1141
00:40:27,355 --> 00:40:28,875
that, you know, sounds like it might be

1142
00:40:28,875 --> 00:40:30,900
a good tool for you. Those things that

1143
00:40:30,900 --> 00:40:32,420
you keep saying to one another, you keep

1144
00:40:32,420 --> 00:40:34,819
having these conversations of, oh, we really wanna

1145
00:40:34,819 --> 00:40:36,760
do this. And then it fizzles out because

1146
00:40:36,980 --> 00:40:39,699
maybe it requires too much mental energy to

1147
00:40:39,699 --> 00:40:40,599
keep up with.

1148
00:40:40,980 --> 00:40:41,880
It you know,

1149
00:40:42,339 --> 00:40:44,385
one or both of you are like your

1150
00:40:44,385 --> 00:40:46,304
memory is faulty and it's easy to forget

1151
00:40:46,304 --> 00:40:48,644
stuff and it's really hard to change habits.

1152
00:40:49,905 --> 00:40:52,385
I the collar is meaningful and important to

1153
00:40:52,385 --> 00:40:55,265
me. I was pissed that I forgot it

1154
00:40:55,265 --> 00:40:56,965
today because this I'm

1155
00:40:57,389 --> 00:40:59,309
Today was the first fucking day. The whole

1156
00:40:59,309 --> 00:41:01,389
time. That you genuinely forgot it. Right. But

1157
00:41:01,389 --> 00:41:02,849
the thing I don't care about

1158
00:41:03,389 --> 00:41:05,630
is doing shit on apps on my phone.

1159
00:41:05,630 --> 00:41:06,130
Right?

1160
00:41:06,429 --> 00:41:08,369
So that's actually been the harder

1161
00:41:08,750 --> 00:41:10,855
part is is to remember to go into

1162
00:41:10,855 --> 00:41:12,775
my app at a certain time. But the

1163
00:41:12,775 --> 00:41:15,595
task, the activity because that part is meaningful

1164
00:41:15,655 --> 00:41:16,235
to me

1165
00:41:16,775 --> 00:41:19,275
knowing that it's there that I'm I'm accountable

1166
00:41:19,494 --> 00:41:21,115
in that way. Mhmm.

1167
00:41:22,135 --> 00:41:24,719
That's where the drive kind of comes from

1168
00:41:24,719 --> 00:41:26,559
of, oh, yeah. I will definitely get this

1169
00:41:26,559 --> 00:41:28,400
done knowing that I've agreed to it. It's

1170
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:29,940
what I want. And

1171
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:32,000
I'm not relying on my memory. I'm not

1172
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:32,820
even I'm

1173
00:41:33,519 --> 00:41:36,179
I'm I am relying on my own willpower,

1174
00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:37,219
but also

1175
00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:39,954
no. I don't know if that would make

1176
00:41:39,954 --> 00:41:42,914
sense to anybody else. I have free will.

1177
00:41:42,914 --> 00:41:44,434
I have willpower. I can do what the

1178
00:41:44,434 --> 00:41:46,054
fuck I wanna do. Consent,

1179
00:41:46,434 --> 00:41:48,375
you know, means something. But also,

1180
00:41:48,994 --> 00:41:51,474
I am a service sub who is desperate

1181
00:41:51,474 --> 00:41:53,714
to be a good girl. You if you

1182
00:41:53,714 --> 00:41:56,200
are my trusted person person who's allowed to

1183
00:41:56,200 --> 00:41:58,039
tell me what to do, everybody else, I

1184
00:41:58,039 --> 00:41:59,559
have a whole you don't tell me what

1185
00:41:59,559 --> 00:42:01,960
to do and will purposely not do a

1186
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:04,039
thing that somebody I don't want to tell.

1187
00:42:04,039 --> 00:42:06,840
Like, I I'll fuck myself over. But JB

1188
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:08,219
can do it. So it's like,

1189
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:10,300
if that, like, that

1190
00:42:10,795 --> 00:42:13,434
thing doesn't feel like willpower. It is. It

1191
00:42:13,434 --> 00:42:14,655
doesn't feel like

1192
00:42:14,954 --> 00:42:16,815
a thing I control. It is.

1193
00:42:17,355 --> 00:42:19,275
But it's ingrained in me in some way.

1194
00:42:19,275 --> 00:42:21,114
And so then I does am I making

1195
00:42:21,114 --> 00:42:23,369
any goddamn sense? Probably not.

1196
00:42:25,610 --> 00:42:26,110
Anyway.

1197
00:42:32,250 --> 00:42:34,570
Yeah. It got me thinking about things that

1198
00:42:34,570 --> 00:42:36,670
we could add. It got me thinking about

1199
00:42:37,050 --> 00:42:37,869
the reasons

1200
00:42:38,250 --> 00:42:38,750
it

1201
00:42:39,924 --> 00:42:41,625
feels like it works. I'm

1202
00:42:43,444 --> 00:42:46,164
also old enough, mature enough, something enough to

1203
00:42:46,164 --> 00:42:46,905
know that

1204
00:42:47,284 --> 00:42:49,284
a thing can work right now and there

1205
00:42:49,284 --> 00:42:50,964
can come a point down the line it

1206
00:42:50,964 --> 00:42:53,125
doesn't work anymore. Right now, it works really

1207
00:42:53,125 --> 00:42:55,650
fucking well. Yeah. And I can see where

1208
00:42:55,650 --> 00:42:57,170
I want to For both of us, actually.

1209
00:42:57,170 --> 00:42:59,489
Right. Because it's there's a level of pressure

1210
00:42:59,489 --> 00:43:01,510
that's not there anymore. There's a level of

1211
00:43:03,730 --> 00:43:06,449
angst and anxiety. It's probably too strong of

1212
00:43:06,449 --> 00:43:07,750
a a word. Mhmm.

1213
00:43:08,130 --> 00:43:09,885
I don't know what's lighter than that.

1214
00:43:10,605 --> 00:43:12,704
But I know how I feel when I'm,

1215
00:43:14,045 --> 00:43:16,684
one, trying to remember things and I I

1216
00:43:16,684 --> 00:43:19,005
get overwhelmed and anxious not because there's so

1217
00:43:19,005 --> 00:43:20,684
much to do, because it's so much to

1218
00:43:20,684 --> 00:43:21,585
fucking remember.

1219
00:43:21,885 --> 00:43:24,059
And how I feel when I can't remember

1220
00:43:24,059 --> 00:43:26,160
a thing that is important to me

1221
00:43:26,460 --> 00:43:28,559
because that's not how like first like

1222
00:43:29,099 --> 00:43:31,099
your feelings of it if it's a thing

1223
00:43:31,099 --> 00:43:32,400
you've had to live with

1224
00:43:32,700 --> 00:43:34,640
are your feelings I don't I can't relate.

1225
00:43:34,805 --> 00:43:36,724
The feeling I have is remembering how I

1226
00:43:36,724 --> 00:43:39,144
used to mind like a steel trap y'all.

1227
00:43:39,364 --> 00:43:41,224
You told me something I could fucking remember

1228
00:43:41,364 --> 00:43:44,085
it. Was my process, like, not good? I

1229
00:43:44,085 --> 00:43:46,900
was I was making myself anxious by my

1230
00:43:46,900 --> 00:43:49,300
process. Sure. But I could remember shit. And

1231
00:43:49,300 --> 00:43:50,420
now I'm at a point in life I

1232
00:43:50,420 --> 00:43:52,739
cannot remember shit and it's a it fucks

1233
00:43:52,739 --> 00:43:55,559
with me. So to have some of that

1234
00:43:55,619 --> 00:43:56,119
pressure

1235
00:43:56,420 --> 00:43:56,920
off

1236
00:43:57,219 --> 00:43:58,280
and some of that

1237
00:43:58,900 --> 00:44:00,855
angst, I don't think that's the right word,

1238
00:44:00,855 --> 00:44:01,914
but it's what I got.

1239
00:44:02,375 --> 00:44:02,875
That

1240
00:44:03,175 --> 00:44:05,755
is freeing. That is refreshing. That makes it,

1241
00:44:06,375 --> 00:44:08,074
you know, there's less

1242
00:44:09,574 --> 00:44:12,239
bad pressure and less stress over things that

1243
00:44:12,239 --> 00:44:13,940
I do want to be doing

1244
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:16,880
because the stuff that makes it difficult, the

1245
00:44:16,880 --> 00:44:17,380
remembering,

1246
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:19,780
the mental energy, all of that,

1247
00:44:20,239 --> 00:44:22,719
that's taken away with the way we're using

1248
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:23,460
this app.

1249
00:44:24,639 --> 00:44:25,039
Is that

1250
00:44:27,414 --> 00:44:27,914
And,

1251
00:44:28,694 --> 00:44:30,714
I just learned I could remove the,

1252
00:44:31,815 --> 00:44:34,135
the one time. Okay. That would make sense

1253
00:44:34,135 --> 00:44:35,755
that you would. Yeah. Now

1254
00:44:36,534 --> 00:44:38,214
when you go in there and and and

1255
00:44:38,214 --> 00:44:39,355
you select that

1256
00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:41,700
particular task,

1257
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:43,840
you then tap and you get a drop

1258
00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:45,140
down menu. Mhmm.

1259
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:47,140
One of the options in there,

1260
00:44:47,840 --> 00:44:50,400
in addition to deleting the task, is to

1261
00:44:50,400 --> 00:44:53,835
archive it. Oh, okay. Okay. So you apparently

1262
00:44:53,894 --> 00:44:55,815
have it. Right. It's just not It's just

1263
00:44:55,815 --> 00:44:56,474
not visible.

1264
00:44:56,775 --> 00:44:58,635
That is only available in premium.

1265
00:44:59,414 --> 00:45:01,815
Okay. Okay. So so at that point with

1266
00:45:01,815 --> 00:45:03,335
the free, the only option to get rid

1267
00:45:03,335 --> 00:45:05,355
of that is then to delete it completely.

1268
00:45:07,059 --> 00:45:09,219
And it seems that if you were to

1269
00:45:09,219 --> 00:45:11,000
archive Mhmm. A task

1270
00:45:11,300 --> 00:45:13,059
that you weren't using, you could go in

1271
00:45:13,059 --> 00:45:14,819
and reactivate it. Oh, okay. If it came

1272
00:45:14,819 --> 00:45:16,659
up again. Mhmm. Oh, that's not see, the

1273
00:45:16,659 --> 00:45:18,339
more you're telling me about the premium because

1274
00:45:18,339 --> 00:45:19,539
I in the premium, I know it was

1275
00:45:19,539 --> 00:45:22,154
unlimited habits Right. And it was photos. I

1276
00:45:22,154 --> 00:45:23,155
I knew that off the top of my

1277
00:45:23,155 --> 00:45:25,315
head. Literally, every almost every time I go

1278
00:45:25,315 --> 00:45:26,454
on the app, the

1279
00:45:27,074 --> 00:45:28,675
the blurb of the ad of do you

1280
00:45:28,675 --> 00:45:30,434
wanna join premium comes with a list of

1281
00:45:30,434 --> 00:45:31,875
things, but those are the two things that

1282
00:45:31,875 --> 00:45:33,875
stuck in my head Mhmm. That you definitely

1283
00:45:33,875 --> 00:45:34,994
get. Yeah. It wouldn't do it because it

1284
00:45:34,994 --> 00:45:36,789
already did it once for me. But, yeah.

1285
00:45:36,789 --> 00:45:37,769
I like the

1286
00:45:39,109 --> 00:45:41,190
I like how much we're getting done without

1287
00:45:41,190 --> 00:45:43,510
paying a dime. Yeah. You know, for basic

1288
00:45:43,510 --> 00:45:45,429
stuff. For for basic stuff, it is an

1289
00:45:45,429 --> 00:45:46,869
app that you can pick up and start

1290
00:45:46,869 --> 00:45:49,369
using in your dynamic. Very sim very easily.

1291
00:45:49,429 --> 00:45:52,554
And, you know, you are the more savvy

1292
00:45:52,554 --> 00:45:55,835
one with both technology and online stuff. So

1293
00:45:55,835 --> 00:45:57,755
I would be surprised if you couldn't open

1294
00:45:57,755 --> 00:45:59,775
this up, set it up, and start doing.

1295
00:45:59,835 --> 00:46:01,934
I can get easily confused.

1296
00:46:03,000 --> 00:46:04,760
And I opened the app and immediately was

1297
00:46:04,760 --> 00:46:07,160
able to start tapping around and everything made

1298
00:46:07,160 --> 00:46:09,320
sense. It's for me, it was simple enough.

1299
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:11,400
It didn't like, I wasn't overwhelmed. I was

1300
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:13,960
not confused. Now Right. If JB had set

1301
00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:17,875
20 tasks and 85 rewards and 13 punishments,

1302
00:46:18,094 --> 00:46:19,554
that would have been overwhelming.

1303
00:46:20,255 --> 00:46:22,255
We started with one thing. Just like everything

1304
00:46:22,255 --> 00:46:24,574
else, we talk about you start slow. Yep.

1305
00:46:24,574 --> 00:46:26,335
And that's what that's what it did. Started

1306
00:46:26,335 --> 00:46:27,394
slow with one thing.

1307
00:46:28,949 --> 00:46:29,449
And

1308
00:46:29,829 --> 00:46:31,929
Lola is very opinionated today.

1309
00:46:33,110 --> 00:46:35,590
And the way we're using it, it's not

1310
00:46:35,590 --> 00:46:37,510
the stuff that is so ingrained in the

1311
00:46:37,510 --> 00:46:39,429
routine that there's no question, am I gonna

1312
00:46:39,429 --> 00:46:41,664
get it done? Making JB's coffee, getting the

1313
00:46:41,664 --> 00:46:43,105
bed ready, some of those things, those are

1314
00:46:43,105 --> 00:46:44,864
not in, in the app. We do not

1315
00:46:44,864 --> 00:46:46,545
use it for that. Those those are things

1316
00:46:46,545 --> 00:46:49,045
that at this point in our relationship that

1317
00:46:49,905 --> 00:46:50,964
it is so ingrained.

1318
00:46:51,744 --> 00:46:53,684
And, yes, there's kind of a time

1319
00:46:55,239 --> 00:46:57,019
requirement there, but it's like

1320
00:46:57,320 --> 00:46:59,239
JB wants his coffee before he's gone out

1321
00:46:59,239 --> 00:46:59,980
to the shop.

1322
00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:02,039
Even if I somehow for air quote, forget

1323
00:47:02,039 --> 00:47:03,559
to make coffee, I can make the coffee

1324
00:47:03,559 --> 00:47:05,800
in time. It's not something we're trying to

1325
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:08,234
track or change habits on or, you know,

1326
00:47:08,234 --> 00:47:10,635
create a reward system for after all these

1327
00:47:10,635 --> 00:47:12,234
years. It does not need to go in

1328
00:47:12,234 --> 00:47:14,474
there. It it's these one offs. It's these

1329
00:47:14,474 --> 00:47:15,934
things where I am clearly

1330
00:47:16,394 --> 00:47:16,894
struggling

1331
00:47:17,355 --> 00:47:19,694
Yep. To remember to create the habit because

1332
00:47:21,019 --> 00:47:21,519
Lola

1333
00:47:22,219 --> 00:47:22,719
agrees.

1334
00:47:23,980 --> 00:47:25,819
I've never been able to easily create a

1335
00:47:25,819 --> 00:47:28,460
habit. Like, I I'm coming to terms with

1336
00:47:28,460 --> 00:47:29,900
that. Like, it used to be a guilt

1337
00:47:29,900 --> 00:47:31,599
thing and now I'm like, oh,

1338
00:47:32,139 --> 00:47:34,514
it's the wiring. It's it's the wiring.

1339
00:47:36,094 --> 00:47:38,815
If the engine and transmission are kinda, like,

1340
00:47:38,815 --> 00:47:40,275
old and need to warm up,

1341
00:47:40,735 --> 00:47:41,394
the computer

1342
00:47:41,695 --> 00:47:43,474
processing part of the car,

1343
00:47:45,095 --> 00:47:46,815
it it probably needs to be replaced. Like,

1344
00:47:46,815 --> 00:47:47,855
you need to put me up on the

1345
00:47:47,855 --> 00:47:49,789
thing and hook me up so the error

1346
00:47:49,789 --> 00:47:51,409
codes can come up. You know?

1347
00:47:52,269 --> 00:47:54,510
And trying to develop habits, if it's not

1348
00:47:54,510 --> 00:47:56,670
something I'm physically doing every single day without

1349
00:47:56,670 --> 00:47:59,390
fail and God was probably reminded of every

1350
00:47:59,390 --> 00:48:00,924
day for, like, two months when I first

1351
00:48:00,924 --> 00:48:01,424
started.

1352
00:48:02,045 --> 00:48:03,724
And even now, I I can kind of

1353
00:48:03,724 --> 00:48:05,005
go, oh, yeah. I was supposed to do

1354
00:48:05,005 --> 00:48:05,505
that.

1355
00:48:05,885 --> 00:48:08,125
This takes that away. This is, you know

1356
00:48:08,684 --> 00:48:10,045
Oh. It does take it away. It makes

1357
00:48:10,045 --> 00:48:12,444
it easier. God dang it, Lola. Silent. Silent

1358
00:48:12,444 --> 00:48:15,300
said, Lola Lola knows a thing about obedience.

1359
00:48:15,300 --> 00:48:17,059
That's where she's speaking out. That girl ain't

1360
00:48:17,059 --> 00:48:17,880
a good girl.

1361
00:48:19,140 --> 00:48:21,380
She is for her daddy. I mean, as

1362
00:48:21,380 --> 00:48:22,599
am I, but that's

1363
00:48:24,099 --> 00:48:26,119
we were sitting in this office today.

1364
00:48:27,059 --> 00:48:28,599
JB is taking a nap.

1365
00:48:29,494 --> 00:48:30,875
I'm sitting on one end.

1366
00:48:31,175 --> 00:48:33,015
Lola's on that, and she starts crying like

1367
00:48:33,015 --> 00:48:35,015
she's been abandoned and would not hear me.

1368
00:48:35,015 --> 00:48:36,614
Did not care that I was in that

1369
00:48:36,614 --> 00:48:38,535
room with her. Anyway, that's that's a side

1370
00:48:38,535 --> 00:48:40,335
tangent that is not about this Yeah. No.

1371
00:48:40,454 --> 00:48:40,954
Topic.

1372
00:48:41,414 --> 00:48:43,275
That's what the bonus section is for.

1373
00:48:44,650 --> 00:48:46,969
So, yeah. I you know, the people I'm

1374
00:48:46,969 --> 00:48:48,190
thinking of, if

1375
00:48:48,489 --> 00:48:50,329
you are drawn to this idea, if it

1376
00:48:50,329 --> 00:48:51,630
seems like it can be helpful,

1377
00:48:51,929 --> 00:48:54,409
are, you know, very busy folks who already

1378
00:48:54,409 --> 00:48:56,809
have plenty of shit to remember and you

1379
00:48:56,809 --> 00:48:58,989
need to free up some disk space.

1380
00:49:00,045 --> 00:49:02,364
Any anybody with memory issues for whatever the

1381
00:49:02,364 --> 00:49:03,425
reason might be.

1382
00:49:04,125 --> 00:49:06,764
And for Dom's out there who want to

1383
00:49:06,764 --> 00:49:09,804
help your sub do these things, but you

1384
00:49:09,804 --> 00:49:10,545
are overwhelmed

1385
00:49:10,844 --> 00:49:12,800
by trying to keep track of what you're

1386
00:49:12,800 --> 00:49:14,820
supposed to be doing and when.

1387
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:17,360
You know? If it's an app or if

1388
00:49:17,360 --> 00:49:19,599
it's, like, a fucking Google Doc, like, whatever

1389
00:49:19,599 --> 00:49:21,940
method, like, get it the thing I've learned

1390
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:23,440
about myself is get it out of my

1391
00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:24,820
brain and into

1392
00:49:25,920 --> 00:49:26,420
another,

1393
00:49:27,684 --> 00:49:29,224
for you know, format

1394
00:49:29,684 --> 00:49:31,284
that works for me that I'm go I'm

1395
00:49:31,284 --> 00:49:32,824
willing to access. My phone,

1396
00:49:34,085 --> 00:49:36,005
it's with me more often than it should

1397
00:49:36,005 --> 00:49:37,364
be. I mean, I there are times I

1398
00:49:37,364 --> 00:49:38,964
shouldn't put the fucking thing down. I'd get

1399
00:49:38,964 --> 00:49:39,864
more work done.

1400
00:49:40,309 --> 00:49:42,409
But the phone is always fucking there.

1401
00:49:42,710 --> 00:49:44,409
I'm being I'm being called out online

1402
00:49:44,869 --> 00:49:45,690
in chat.

1403
00:49:47,829 --> 00:49:49,690
Because you try to keep two

1404
00:49:50,070 --> 00:49:50,570
girls

1405
00:49:51,030 --> 00:49:53,954
as good girls, and one gets to be

1406
00:49:53,954 --> 00:49:55,795
told she's a good girl more than the

1407
00:49:55,795 --> 00:49:56,295
other,

1408
00:49:56,675 --> 00:49:58,595
I bet you could guess who it is,

1409
00:49:58,595 --> 00:49:59,655
and it's not

1410
00:50:00,235 --> 00:50:00,735
me.

1411
00:50:01,315 --> 00:50:03,235
Anyway, I'm not bitter. She's a dog, and

1412
00:50:03,235 --> 00:50:04,215
I love her.

1413
00:50:05,394 --> 00:50:07,815
But I do notice. I do notice.

1414
00:50:09,579 --> 00:50:11,980
So yeah. Yeah. We we took our sweet

1415
00:50:11,980 --> 00:50:13,980
ass time getting to the obedience because you

1416
00:50:13,980 --> 00:50:15,179
know what? There was a time we did

1417
00:50:15,179 --> 00:50:17,019
not need anything like this. We didn't we

1418
00:50:17,019 --> 00:50:19,179
didn't think we would need something like that.

1419
00:50:19,179 --> 00:50:21,500
It didn't it didn't interest. And and then

1420
00:50:21,500 --> 00:50:22,559
we had our little

1421
00:50:23,664 --> 00:50:25,105
Yeah. I think there if we had tried

1422
00:50:25,105 --> 00:50:27,264
to do it over the past few years

1423
00:50:27,264 --> 00:50:28,545
prior to this year, I think we would

1424
00:50:28,545 --> 00:50:30,484
have overwhelmed ourselves with Yeah.

1425
00:50:31,505 --> 00:50:33,424
Trying to do something that that we were

1426
00:50:33,424 --> 00:50:35,045
not in a headspace to

1427
00:50:35,609 --> 00:50:36,969
celebrate. I think it would have felt like

1428
00:50:36,969 --> 00:50:37,949
yet another obligation,

1429
00:50:38,730 --> 00:50:40,269
and that's not what you want

1430
00:50:40,809 --> 00:50:42,589
your power exchange to feel like.

1431
00:50:43,369 --> 00:50:45,210
You're supposed to want to do this. You

1432
00:50:45,210 --> 00:50:47,049
know, you might, like, look. Look. Let's be

1433
00:50:47,049 --> 00:50:47,549
real,

1434
00:50:47,849 --> 00:50:49,309
service subs out there.

1435
00:50:50,005 --> 00:50:50,505
Sometimes

1436
00:50:50,965 --> 00:50:53,045
I real I look. Look. Left to my

1437
00:50:53,045 --> 00:50:55,364
own devices, I don't think I'd ever fold

1438
00:50:55,364 --> 00:50:56,984
another fucking piece of laundry.

1439
00:50:57,605 --> 00:50:59,545
But for my daddy,

1440
00:50:59,844 --> 00:51:02,264
I can I can do all the chores?

1441
00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:07,800
It has given me back some confidence Mhmm.

1442
00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:09,880
Because okay. So the laundry thing

1443
00:51:12,760 --> 00:51:14,059
so not only

1444
00:51:14,875 --> 00:51:16,315
prior to all of this, prior to using

1445
00:51:16,315 --> 00:51:17,914
the app, prior to getting the deadline, blah

1446
00:51:17,914 --> 00:51:18,655
blah blah,

1447
00:51:19,835 --> 00:51:22,175
not you know, the laundry would take

1448
00:51:22,795 --> 00:51:24,875
a week sometimes before I would fold it,

1449
00:51:24,875 --> 00:51:26,795
and that was just, like, under duress because

1450
00:51:26,795 --> 00:51:28,474
Jimmy was like, I really need the basket

1451
00:51:28,474 --> 00:51:29,454
now. Thank you.

1452
00:51:30,039 --> 00:51:32,199
Or my favorite, baby girl, I have run

1453
00:51:32,199 --> 00:51:33,819
out of underwear. Could you?

1454
00:51:34,119 --> 00:51:35,900
Like, it's falling apart.

1455
00:51:37,239 --> 00:51:39,179
For the record, that only happened one time.

1456
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:42,460
But folding sheets

1457
00:51:43,425 --> 00:51:45,425
is my fucking nemesis. I don't know what

1458
00:51:45,425 --> 00:51:47,105
it is about sheets. I'll fold towels all

1459
00:51:47,105 --> 00:51:48,945
day long. That is very easy. I think

1460
00:51:48,945 --> 00:51:51,585
that's what it is. Towels, easy sheets, bane

1461
00:51:51,585 --> 00:51:53,684
of my existence. Mhmm. But

1462
00:51:54,945 --> 00:51:56,724
ever since we started using

1463
00:51:57,159 --> 00:51:57,900
the app

1464
00:51:58,199 --> 00:52:00,199
to like, for me to track, you know,

1465
00:52:00,199 --> 00:52:02,519
yes. I've done the laundry. The sheets get

1466
00:52:02,519 --> 00:52:03,019
folded

1467
00:52:03,639 --> 00:52:05,079
most of the time the very same day.

1468
00:52:05,079 --> 00:52:07,400
I just do it all. Sometimes it's like

1469
00:52:07,400 --> 00:52:10,039
the next day because the main the points

1470
00:52:10,039 --> 00:52:11,179
are for the

1471
00:52:11,704 --> 00:52:14,025
daily like, the regular laundry sheets don't have

1472
00:52:14,025 --> 00:52:14,925
their own points.

1473
00:52:15,545 --> 00:52:16,985
I'm good with that. It's fine. I don't

1474
00:52:16,985 --> 00:52:17,724
need the pressure.

1475
00:52:18,744 --> 00:52:21,065
But as I've gained in, like, the confidence

1476
00:52:21,065 --> 00:52:22,525
of, oh, yeah. I'm doing this.

1477
00:52:23,144 --> 00:52:24,664
I can do other things that I have

1478
00:52:24,664 --> 00:52:27,039
struggled with. With. It's not major. It's not

1479
00:52:27,039 --> 00:52:27,940
mind blowing.

1480
00:52:28,480 --> 00:52:30,880
But, you know, I I kinda I kinda

1481
00:52:30,880 --> 00:52:31,619
like that

1482
00:52:32,639 --> 00:52:33,780
feeling. You know?

1483
00:52:35,199 --> 00:52:35,699
So,

1484
00:52:36,079 --> 00:52:36,579
anyway

1485
00:52:38,320 --> 00:52:39,760
so, yeah, I guess it's safe to say

1486
00:52:39,760 --> 00:52:43,425
overall, we are pro obedience app. Mhmm. Yep.

1487
00:52:43,425 --> 00:52:44,644
Yep. And I have another,

1488
00:52:45,824 --> 00:52:47,744
task I'm gonna be adding in there shortly

1489
00:52:47,744 --> 00:52:48,724
for you. Okay.

1490
00:52:49,585 --> 00:52:51,264
I need you to do some research for

1491
00:52:51,264 --> 00:52:53,025
me. Okay. Probably the thing I would say

1492
00:52:53,025 --> 00:52:54,644
to anybody who's considering it,

1493
00:52:55,010 --> 00:52:57,329
do not add anything first of all, unless

1494
00:52:57,329 --> 00:52:58,130
you're like

1495
00:52:59,650 --> 00:53:02,130
your relationship is long term enough, strong enough,

1496
00:53:02,130 --> 00:53:03,809
enough trust, and you've at least had one

1497
00:53:03,809 --> 00:53:06,210
conversation about using the fucking app, do not

1498
00:53:06,210 --> 00:53:07,730
do a fucking thing without talking to one

1499
00:53:07,730 --> 00:53:08,175
another

1500
00:53:08,574 --> 00:53:09,934
first. No. No. No. No. No. No. No.

1501
00:53:09,934 --> 00:53:10,594
No. No. No. Also,

1502
00:53:13,295 --> 00:53:15,215
unless you're brand new to a power exchange

1503
00:53:15,215 --> 00:53:18,335
and you were, like, newly negotiating things, I

1504
00:53:18,335 --> 00:53:19,934
would start with shit you're already trying to

1505
00:53:19,934 --> 00:53:21,614
do, but maybe there's a struggle. Right. Maybe

1506
00:53:21,614 --> 00:53:23,320
it's been difficult for some reason.

1507
00:53:24,260 --> 00:53:26,179
Mhmm. And, yeah, like JB said earlier, start

1508
00:53:26,179 --> 00:53:27,079
slow. Like,

1509
00:53:27,699 --> 00:53:29,460
get used to it. Get, like, into a

1510
00:53:29,460 --> 00:53:31,860
rhythm of using it. But you still have

1511
00:53:31,860 --> 00:53:33,880
to negotiate like you always did.

1512
00:53:34,900 --> 00:53:36,500
This time though, because it's so easy to,

1513
00:53:36,500 --> 00:53:38,875
like, add things, add things, do not overwhelm

1514
00:53:38,875 --> 00:53:41,114
yourself either side of the slash. It's um-mm.

1515
00:53:41,114 --> 00:53:43,214
Um-mm. Um-mm. Um-mm. Don't just don't do it.

1516
00:53:43,514 --> 00:53:45,914
Please please please for the love of all

1517
00:53:45,914 --> 00:53:46,655
that is

1518
00:53:47,034 --> 00:53:48,894
kinky and fucked up,

1519
00:53:49,514 --> 00:53:52,315
do not just assign shit you've never talked

1520
00:53:52,315 --> 00:53:53,969
to your partner. No. No. No. No. Like,

1521
00:53:53,969 --> 00:53:55,809
we have that ability where JB can just

1522
00:53:55,809 --> 00:53:57,969
assign a task, like a research or a

1523
00:53:57,969 --> 00:53:59,570
look this up or whatever, because that's the

1524
00:53:59,570 --> 00:54:01,250
nature of our relationship. He doesn't have to

1525
00:54:01,250 --> 00:54:03,250
come negotiate with me every time he wants

1526
00:54:03,250 --> 00:54:04,070
to give me

1527
00:54:04,690 --> 00:54:05,829
a one off task.

1528
00:54:06,195 --> 00:54:08,434
But if y'all don't have that, no no

1529
00:54:08,434 --> 00:54:09,954
no no no no. Don't add anything you

1530
00:54:09,954 --> 00:54:10,775
hadn't talked about.

1531
00:54:11,715 --> 00:54:14,195
Just saying. I just may have come across

1532
00:54:14,195 --> 00:54:15,335
a a a hack

1533
00:54:15,795 --> 00:54:16,934
for your sheep problem.

1534
00:54:17,715 --> 00:54:19,315
I did see somebody say just roll them

1535
00:54:19,315 --> 00:54:20,980
up in a ball. Panda rolls them up

1536
00:54:20,980 --> 00:54:22,119
and puts them in a pillowcase.

1537
00:54:24,019 --> 00:54:24,840
I so

1538
00:54:25,539 --> 00:54:27,140
the one that I want to roll up

1539
00:54:27,140 --> 00:54:28,760
and kind of mostly do

1540
00:54:29,220 --> 00:54:30,500
is the fitted sheet.

1541
00:54:30,980 --> 00:54:33,380
We are old. Apparently, the younger kids don't

1542
00:54:33,380 --> 00:54:35,320
do this. We do use a top sheet.

1543
00:54:35,675 --> 00:54:37,355
If you don't, that's one less thing you

1544
00:54:37,355 --> 00:54:38,094
gotta fall.

1545
00:54:38,554 --> 00:54:39,054
Lola,

1546
00:54:39,355 --> 00:54:40,734
goddamn it, girl.

1547
00:54:42,315 --> 00:54:44,875
It's it's really it's really the the fitted

1548
00:54:44,875 --> 00:54:47,034
sheet. There's some it's just tedious and it's

1549
00:54:47,034 --> 00:54:48,155
boring and who gives a fucking

1550
00:54:49,760 --> 00:54:52,079
And the sheets aren't doing anything to anybody

1551
00:54:52,079 --> 00:54:54,239
sitting off in the corner over there. So

1552
00:54:54,239 --> 00:54:56,820
does it even matter? Does it even matter?

1553
00:55:04,904 --> 00:55:05,885
So, yeah, she's

1554
00:55:06,264 --> 00:55:09,464
she's fussy. Yep. So, yeah, we are pro

1555
00:55:09,464 --> 00:55:11,625
obedience app. Do I think it's for everybody?

1556
00:55:11,625 --> 00:55:13,625
Of course not. Mhmm. But for anybody who's

1557
00:55:13,625 --> 00:55:15,085
been, like, looking for a tool,

1558
00:55:15,920 --> 00:55:17,940
you could try this one. It's free. Yeah.

1559
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:22,239
So yeah. Now I'm I'm curious about one

1560
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:25,519
thing. You have 42 points Uh-huh. But you

1561
00:55:25,519 --> 00:55:27,835
haven't cashed anything in for your rewards. Right.

1562
00:55:27,835 --> 00:55:28,335
Because,

1563
00:55:32,155 --> 00:55:34,155
I've been getting myself diet. Okay. So my

1564
00:55:34,155 --> 00:55:35,215
rewards for me,

1565
00:55:35,515 --> 00:55:37,614
Diet Coke Mhmm. Special coffee,

1566
00:55:38,235 --> 00:55:40,679
movie, animated movie. Right? Movie of my choice.

1567
00:55:41,559 --> 00:55:43,319
I've been getting my own damn Diet Cokes

1568
00:55:43,319 --> 00:55:44,619
whenever the hell I please.

1569
00:55:46,440 --> 00:55:48,440
Also we haven't had full access to the

1570
00:55:48,440 --> 00:55:49,339
car with

1571
00:55:49,639 --> 00:55:51,559
the oldest having to go to campus every

1572
00:55:51,559 --> 00:55:53,739
single day. That's about to end, so whatever.

1573
00:55:57,135 --> 00:55:59,775
Buying special coffees does not feel like a

1574
00:55:59,775 --> 00:56:02,514
financially responsible decision. Well, not right now.

1575
00:56:02,894 --> 00:56:04,574
At at the time I set it up,

1576
00:56:04,574 --> 00:56:06,994
it was It it was a little different.

1577
00:56:07,135 --> 00:56:08,494
Oh, okay. You know, but right now in

1578
00:56:08,494 --> 00:56:10,650
this time point in time, time, no. Goddamn

1579
00:56:10,710 --> 00:56:11,690
the summer slump.

1580
00:56:12,389 --> 00:56:13,110
But the third

1581
00:56:13,670 --> 00:56:14,969
But okay. So

1582
00:56:15,590 --> 00:56:16,869
I used to be a person who could

1583
00:56:16,869 --> 00:56:18,630
not function if there the TV was not

1584
00:56:18,630 --> 00:56:20,230
on in the background. I wouldn't necessarily watch

1585
00:56:20,230 --> 00:56:21,829
it. I just always had something on, and

1586
00:56:21,829 --> 00:56:24,284
I was, you know, interested in what might

1587
00:56:24,284 --> 00:56:26,764
be coming out. I don't know what it

1588
00:56:26,764 --> 00:56:28,525
is because I, there are movies I enjoy.

1589
00:56:28,525 --> 00:56:30,864
There are shows I enjoy but sometimes

1590
00:56:31,484 --> 00:56:32,464
something about,

1591
00:56:33,885 --> 00:56:34,416
one, something about watching a show or a

1592
00:56:34,416 --> 00:56:34,567
movie feels like pressure. Like I'm committing to

1593
00:56:34,567 --> 00:56:36,380
something and I'm not watching a show or

1594
00:56:36,380 --> 00:56:38,300
a movie feels like pressure. Like, I'm committing

1595
00:56:38,300 --> 00:56:40,000
to something and I'm not ready to commit.

1596
00:56:41,340 --> 00:56:41,840
Two,

1597
00:56:42,700 --> 00:56:43,200
sometimes

1598
00:56:43,579 --> 00:56:45,900
it's I don't think I could focus on

1599
00:56:45,900 --> 00:56:47,175
that if you paid me

1600
00:56:47,974 --> 00:56:48,875
to. And so

1601
00:56:49,335 --> 00:56:52,054
and then three, sometimes I I forget that

1602
00:56:52,054 --> 00:56:54,215
movies exist and that you can sit down

1603
00:56:54,215 --> 00:56:56,535
on your couch and watch your TV and

1604
00:56:56,535 --> 00:56:58,215
you can do like, I just it's so

1605
00:56:58,215 --> 00:56:59,594
not in my fucking head.

1606
00:57:00,375 --> 00:57:00,875
So,

1607
00:57:02,260 --> 00:57:04,519
like, you know, which one is it?

1608
00:57:05,140 --> 00:57:07,460
It changes minute by minute. May the odds

1609
00:57:07,460 --> 00:57:09,940
be ever in your favor. Mhmm. But some

1610
00:57:09,940 --> 00:57:11,140
of it is a little out of sight

1611
00:57:11,140 --> 00:57:11,880
out of mind.

1612
00:57:12,180 --> 00:57:13,320
So it's a sign.

1613
00:57:14,660 --> 00:57:16,260
But, yeah, I could I could I could

1614
00:57:16,260 --> 00:57:18,804
cash them. Mhmm. I I know. Mhmm.

1615
00:57:19,505 --> 00:57:22,085
So, yeah, I I like the app. Mhmm.

1616
00:57:22,144 --> 00:57:22,545
It,

1617
00:57:24,385 --> 00:57:25,525
it definitely helps.

1618
00:57:25,984 --> 00:57:26,484
Yeah.

1619
00:57:27,585 --> 00:57:28,644
Yeah. It's

1620
00:57:30,690 --> 00:57:32,929
it's been refreshing to use because it feels

1621
00:57:32,929 --> 00:57:35,489
like we're getting somewhere. We're getting forward movement

1622
00:57:35,489 --> 00:57:36,849
on things we wanna get forward movement on.

1623
00:57:36,849 --> 00:57:39,730
Exactly. Makes sense. Lot less effort, if that

1624
00:57:39,730 --> 00:57:41,589
makes sense. Mhmm. So anyway,

1625
00:57:41,889 --> 00:57:43,349
I think Excuse me.

1626
00:57:44,449 --> 00:57:46,844
I still remember how to burp babies from

1627
00:57:46,844 --> 00:57:48,465
all those years ago if you, you

1628
00:57:48,765 --> 00:57:50,204
know, need me to get that whole technique

1629
00:57:50,204 --> 00:57:51,485
out. Now you'll have to sit on the

1630
00:57:51,485 --> 00:57:53,405
edge of my leg, and you'll have to

1631
00:57:53,405 --> 00:57:55,565
lean forward while I hold your chin and

1632
00:57:55,565 --> 00:57:58,045
neck steady. And then I will I will

1633
00:57:58,045 --> 00:58:00,309
go back and forth between rubbing and patting

1634
00:58:00,309 --> 00:58:02,569
your back, but I'll keep your torso upright

1635
00:58:02,630 --> 00:58:04,630
and you will just but I'll have a

1636
00:58:04,630 --> 00:58:06,150
washcloth over my hand like one of those

1637
00:58:06,150 --> 00:58:07,750
soft cloths. So if you spit up, it

1638
00:58:07,750 --> 00:58:08,969
will be on my hand.

1639
00:58:09,909 --> 00:58:11,269
I don't know if I can remember how

1640
00:58:11,269 --> 00:58:11,510
to,

1641
00:58:12,230 --> 00:58:13,829
change a diaper at this point because last

1642
00:58:13,829 --> 00:58:14,969
time I did that was,

1643
00:58:15,695 --> 00:58:17,954
god, how old is the youngest? Almost 16.

1644
00:58:18,014 --> 00:58:18,594
It looks

1645
00:58:18,974 --> 00:58:20,014
like 14

1646
00:58:20,014 --> 00:58:20,514
ago.

1647
00:58:21,375 --> 00:58:23,934
I'll, pass on that thing. The burping? Because

1648
00:58:23,934 --> 00:58:25,695
that the when I learned that technique, it

1649
00:58:25,695 --> 00:58:27,074
was fucking life changing.

1650
00:58:28,280 --> 00:58:30,280
So I still remember it. So I got

1651
00:58:30,280 --> 00:58:31,719
a baby that needs burp. I can do

1652
00:58:31,719 --> 00:58:32,219
it.

1653
00:58:33,000 --> 00:58:33,500
Anyway.

1654
00:58:34,920 --> 00:58:35,420
So

1655
00:58:37,639 --> 00:58:38,139
yeah.

1656
00:58:38,599 --> 00:58:39,000
So,

1657
00:58:39,480 --> 00:58:41,664
are we good? As good as we'll ever

1658
00:58:41,664 --> 00:58:43,844
get. We're going to a bonus section. Okay.

1659
00:58:43,984 --> 00:58:44,484
Okay.

1660
00:58:45,264 --> 00:58:47,025
Keep it kinky, y'all. And we'll see you

1661
00:58:47,025 --> 00:58:47,764
next week.

1662
00:58:58,980 --> 00:58:59,480
Daddy.

1663
00:59:00,659 --> 00:59:02,659
Yes, baby girl. Can we talk about crickets

1664
00:59:02,659 --> 00:59:04,359
now? What do you think we've been doing?

1665
00:59:04,659 --> 00:59:05,559
No. No. No.

1666
00:59:07,235 --> 00:59:08,035
About things that

1667
00:59:09,315 --> 00:59:11,474
can we have a reason for me to

1668
00:59:11,474 --> 00:59:13,555
go off on tangents and derail the whole

1669
00:59:13,555 --> 00:59:15,635
conversation with a thing that is not, like,

1670
00:59:15,635 --> 00:59:17,635
off topic? That's what the bonus section is.

1671
00:59:17,635 --> 00:59:19,094
Have at it. Thank you.

1672
00:59:21,949 --> 00:59:23,949
Now Silent does point out that, the app

1673
00:59:23,949 --> 00:59:25,309
does not work nearly as well when your

1674
00:59:25,309 --> 00:59:26,989
big d has ADHD and forgets to look

1675
00:59:26,989 --> 00:59:28,449
at it. That is very true.

1676
00:59:30,030 --> 00:59:31,869
For me as somebody who forgets to look

1677
00:59:31,869 --> 00:59:33,250
at shit, it the notifications

1678
00:59:33,789 --> 00:59:35,775
were kind of handy, but, I mean, that

1679
00:59:35,894 --> 00:59:37,835
yeah. You gotta kinda know know thyself.

1680
00:59:38,375 --> 00:59:40,135
If that's if that's gonna be another struggle,

1681
00:59:40,135 --> 00:59:42,215
then Mhmm. Yeah. Then it's not it's not

1682
00:59:42,215 --> 00:59:43,675
gonna work quite as well.

1683
00:59:44,295 --> 00:59:44,454
But

1684
00:59:46,590 --> 00:59:47,489
anyway, so

1685
00:59:47,950 --> 00:59:48,450
Lola

1686
00:59:49,470 --> 00:59:51,550
has what I call her satellite ears up.

1687
00:59:51,550 --> 00:59:53,470
She is listening hard. Oh, yeah. But she

1688
00:59:53,470 --> 00:59:55,809
is now, like, right next to you. Yeah.

1689
00:59:55,950 --> 00:59:58,030
Yeah. She's she's laying next to my chair.

1690
00:59:58,030 --> 00:59:59,675
Now that we're no longer on the the

1691
00:59:59,675 --> 01:00:00,175
topic,

1692
01:00:01,434 --> 01:00:03,594
she's quiet. She wanted to add in. She

1693
01:00:03,594 --> 01:00:04,815
had stuff to say.

1694
01:00:07,675 --> 01:00:08,175
So

1695
01:00:08,554 --> 01:00:10,255
what's been going on?

1696
01:00:14,570 --> 01:00:16,730
I've I've been deep in I I think

1697
01:00:16,730 --> 01:00:20,429
it's his latest book, Stephen King's Never Flinch.

1698
01:00:21,050 --> 01:00:22,030
What's it about?

1699
01:00:22,969 --> 01:00:23,869
Psycho killers.

1700
01:00:24,170 --> 01:00:26,614
Oh, now the song's in my head. I

1701
01:00:26,614 --> 01:00:28,394
can just hear the lyric psycho killer.

1702
01:00:34,375 --> 01:00:35,994
Yep. Psycho killer.

1703
01:00:36,694 --> 01:00:37,194
Yeah.

1704
01:00:37,494 --> 01:00:38,954
Got the synth in the background.

1705
01:00:43,260 --> 01:00:43,760
Oh

1706
01:00:44,300 --> 01:00:44,800
god.

1707
01:00:46,380 --> 01:00:47,280
Oh my gosh.

1708
01:00:48,140 --> 01:00:48,640
So,

1709
01:00:51,340 --> 01:00:51,840
yeah.

1710
01:00:53,260 --> 01:00:54,000
I know

1711
01:00:54,380 --> 01:00:57,434
days happened prior to the one we're in

1712
01:00:57,434 --> 01:00:57,934
now.

1713
01:01:00,474 --> 01:01:01,434
What have I done? I

1714
01:01:02,714 --> 01:01:03,454
we had

1715
01:01:05,275 --> 01:01:07,674
a very nice day out on Saturday. We

1716
01:01:07,674 --> 01:01:08,130
did.

1717
01:01:08,690 --> 01:01:09,750
We did. We,

1718
01:01:13,250 --> 01:01:15,029
yeah, we we did a lot of things.

1719
01:01:15,089 --> 01:01:16,929
And we we did errands, but we also

1720
01:01:16,929 --> 01:01:19,489
did fun stuff. And you were, like, in

1721
01:01:19,489 --> 01:01:20,789
your big d,

1722
01:01:21,329 --> 01:01:21,829
like,

1723
01:01:22,130 --> 01:01:24,164
element. You You planned everything. Planned the whole

1724
01:01:24,164 --> 01:01:25,864
day. And see, I'm used to

1725
01:01:26,325 --> 01:01:28,164
asking questions about what we're gonna do. And

1726
01:01:28,164 --> 01:01:29,845
when I say asking questions, not the anxiety

1727
01:01:29,845 --> 01:01:32,005
questions, the would you like to do this

1728
01:01:32,005 --> 01:01:33,364
or would you like to do that? And

1729
01:01:33,364 --> 01:01:35,125
so I was realizing we were gonna be

1730
01:01:35,125 --> 01:01:38,210
out all day. I was gonna get hungry.

1731
01:01:38,829 --> 01:01:40,190
So I just said, hey.

1732
01:01:41,070 --> 01:01:42,510
I'm sure we're gonna get hungry while we're

1733
01:01:42,510 --> 01:01:44,210
out today. We have a big day plan.

1734
01:01:44,269 --> 01:01:45,550
I was like, do you wanna grab we

1735
01:01:45,550 --> 01:01:47,390
have coupons on our refrigerator that come in

1736
01:01:47,390 --> 01:01:49,230
the mail. I was like, do anyway, I

1737
01:01:49,230 --> 01:01:51,974
already have that planned out. And I went,

1738
01:01:52,114 --> 01:01:52,614
oh.

1739
01:01:53,315 --> 01:01:53,815
Okay.

1740
01:01:54,355 --> 01:01:55,875
And did I get a little thrill? Was

1741
01:01:55,875 --> 01:01:57,715
I like, whoop. Yes. Yes. I did. Yes.

1742
01:01:57,715 --> 01:01:58,614
I did. It was delightful.

1743
01:01:59,795 --> 01:02:01,474
Now we were both on the same page.

1744
01:02:01,474 --> 01:02:02,775
I have gotten some

1745
01:02:03,234 --> 01:02:05,074
two so far, but we haven't gone back

1746
01:02:05,074 --> 01:02:06,119
to look for anything else.

1747
01:02:06,680 --> 01:02:07,820
Cute little, like,

1748
01:02:08,360 --> 01:02:11,000
dresses from some thrift shops. And the the

1749
01:02:11,000 --> 01:02:12,920
reason they got to come home with me,

1750
01:02:12,920 --> 01:02:13,420
one,

1751
01:02:14,039 --> 01:02:16,039
they looked like I you know, something I

1752
01:02:16,039 --> 01:02:17,720
would but when I put them on, they

1753
01:02:17,720 --> 01:02:21,554
fit fine and and nothing was itchy, scratchy,

1754
01:02:21,855 --> 01:02:23,454
pulling in a weird like, it was just

1755
01:02:23,454 --> 01:02:25,155
like it was fine. Right?

1756
01:02:25,535 --> 01:02:27,614
And so I had you know, I recognized

1757
01:02:27,614 --> 01:02:29,414
this was a special day. We were gonna

1758
01:02:29,614 --> 01:02:31,375
we're doing something other than just errands. And

1759
01:02:31,375 --> 01:02:32,815
in my head, I was like, I'll wear

1760
01:02:32,815 --> 01:02:34,574
one of my cute dresses. And I was

1761
01:02:34,574 --> 01:02:35,599
surprised JB.

1762
01:02:36,220 --> 01:02:38,079
But JB was in his, like,

1763
01:02:38,539 --> 01:02:41,019
dom self, like, he was feeling his dom

1764
01:02:41,019 --> 01:02:41,840
self. He goes,

1765
01:02:42,220 --> 01:02:43,980
before I you know, I wanted to surprise

1766
01:02:43,980 --> 01:02:46,300
him with I'm gonna, like, not look like

1767
01:02:46,300 --> 01:02:47,039
Adam Sandler.

1768
01:02:48,135 --> 01:02:49,034
He was over

1769
01:02:49,414 --> 01:02:50,775
there going, today when you're getting ready, I

1770
01:02:50,775 --> 01:02:51,815
want you to pick out one of the

1771
01:02:51,815 --> 01:02:53,655
dresses you just got. And I was like,

1772
01:02:53,655 --> 01:02:54,954
you ruined my surprise.

1773
01:02:55,454 --> 01:02:55,954
I

1774
01:02:56,454 --> 01:02:58,315
was gonna surprise you with that.

1775
01:02:59,014 --> 01:02:59,994
So but we did.

1776
01:03:00,534 --> 01:03:01,175
But, yeah, we went

1777
01:03:01,989 --> 01:03:05,050
Our town has a museum of art. Mhmm.

1778
01:03:05,750 --> 01:03:07,910
And we were not sure what to expect.

1779
01:03:07,910 --> 01:03:09,349
We know they do exhibits. We've seen the

1780
01:03:09,349 --> 01:03:11,269
ads for them. It was like a fucking

1781
01:03:11,269 --> 01:03:12,950
TARDIS. We walked in, and Yeah. For a

1782
01:03:12,950 --> 01:03:14,469
hot minute, it felt like it did not

1783
01:03:14,469 --> 01:03:16,644
end. It it does not look when you

1784
01:03:16,644 --> 01:03:18,724
roll up, it does not look very big.

1785
01:03:18,724 --> 01:03:19,784
No. It does not.

1786
01:03:20,164 --> 01:03:22,744
And, yeah, you you will step into there,

1787
01:03:23,444 --> 01:03:24,244
and it's,

1788
01:03:25,844 --> 01:03:26,344
huge.

1789
01:03:26,885 --> 01:03:29,070
And two floors. Two floor. I I was

1790
01:03:29,390 --> 01:03:31,390
tired by the time we got through, and

1791
01:03:31,390 --> 01:03:32,690
I was starting to get hangry.

1792
01:03:33,070 --> 01:03:34,610
I was like, I'm going

1793
01:03:35,390 --> 01:03:36,849
to be a sweet submissive

1794
01:03:37,230 --> 01:03:39,869
who's looking super cute and with her daddy.

1795
01:03:39,869 --> 01:03:41,410
But in my head, I was like,

1796
01:03:42,184 --> 01:03:44,505
I'm a need to eat soon. Yeah. I'm

1797
01:03:44,505 --> 01:03:45,864
a need to eat soon. It it was

1798
01:03:45,864 --> 01:03:47,545
tiring. And, yeah, it was a lot of

1799
01:03:47,545 --> 01:03:49,385
walking, but it was very cool. It was.

1800
01:03:49,385 --> 01:03:51,385
It was interesting. Really, really neat stuff in

1801
01:03:51,385 --> 01:03:53,864
there. There was one ex a photograph exhibit

1802
01:03:53,864 --> 01:03:55,565
we were walking through, and

1803
01:03:56,369 --> 01:03:57,969
JB said as we walked past, there was

1804
01:03:57,969 --> 01:04:00,609
a person there with their camera take taking

1805
01:04:00,609 --> 01:04:01,109
photographs.

1806
01:04:01,409 --> 01:04:03,009
Hey. We walked past. He goes, I think

1807
01:04:03,009 --> 01:04:04,069
that was the artist

1808
01:04:04,690 --> 01:04:07,569
taking photographs of us reacting to his photos.

1809
01:04:07,730 --> 01:04:08,025
Was like, so Yeah. Photograph Inception? Like, what

1810
01:04:08,025 --> 01:04:08,549
are we doing? Right. Okay.

1811
01:04:09,489 --> 01:04:09,885
Okay.

1812
01:04:12,445 --> 01:04:12,945
Okay.

1813
01:04:13,991 --> 01:04:15,885
The live chat, because podcast listeners Yeah. You

1814
01:04:15,885 --> 01:04:17,644
would not have caught this, wants to know

1815
01:04:17,644 --> 01:04:19,244
why JP is on the floor and why

1816
01:04:19,244 --> 01:04:21,485
I'm ignoring it. Because he was with his

1817
01:04:21,485 --> 01:04:22,784
best good girl.

1818
01:04:26,000 --> 01:04:26,739
I was.

1819
01:04:27,039 --> 01:04:29,359
She, you know, normally around this time of

1820
01:04:29,359 --> 01:04:32,559
night, we're we're settling oh, Lola. Lola don't

1821
01:04:32,559 --> 01:04:34,260
knock over the tripod. Right?

1822
01:04:36,079 --> 01:04:37,679
She was on her back doing her

1823
01:04:38,239 --> 01:04:40,260
Oh, yeah. That big old thing. Mhmm.

1824
01:04:40,664 --> 01:04:41,164
And,

1825
01:04:42,105 --> 01:04:44,105
hang on. Let's see how much she moved

1826
01:04:44,105 --> 01:04:46,105
this stupid thing. Oh, yeah. Is our camera

1827
01:04:46,105 --> 01:04:47,485
even, like, onto oh.

1828
01:04:48,985 --> 01:04:51,465
Oh. So she was doing a wiggle thing,

1829
01:04:51,465 --> 01:04:53,429
and you went down to what? Like

1830
01:04:54,389 --> 01:04:54,889
Well,

1831
01:04:55,589 --> 01:04:57,609
I thought she needed to go out.

1832
01:04:58,469 --> 01:05:00,089
Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay.

1833
01:05:00,710 --> 01:05:02,710
So I had gotten up to to let

1834
01:05:02,710 --> 01:05:04,710
her out, and she was like, no. That's

1835
01:05:04,710 --> 01:05:06,045
not what I want. You got out of

1836
01:05:06,045 --> 01:05:07,744
the seat. Now you can give me attention.

1837
01:05:07,885 --> 01:05:10,045
And and, like, started walking back, and that's

1838
01:05:10,045 --> 01:05:10,784
when she

1839
01:05:12,364 --> 01:05:14,364
plopped down and rolled over on her back

1840
01:05:14,364 --> 01:05:15,585
and for belly rubs.

1841
01:05:16,364 --> 01:05:19,664
The, entire episode is just the Lola shout.

1842
01:05:22,650 --> 01:05:23,150
So

1843
01:05:24,809 --> 01:05:27,690
So Yeah. It was it was, the museum

1844
01:05:27,690 --> 01:05:29,469
was was really nice. I was

1845
01:05:30,010 --> 01:05:31,769
I was you know, I didn't think it

1846
01:05:31,769 --> 01:05:33,710
would be bad. I I'm good with museums,

1847
01:05:33,849 --> 01:05:36,914
like, going into but I was genuinely impressed.

1848
01:05:37,295 --> 01:05:38,894
There were some things that I guess they

1849
01:05:38,894 --> 01:05:39,394
kinda

1850
01:05:39,694 --> 01:05:40,434
have exhibits

1851
01:05:40,815 --> 01:05:43,054
most of the year. They they they they

1852
01:05:43,054 --> 01:05:44,574
have stuff that swap some of them out.

1853
01:05:44,574 --> 01:05:45,855
Right? They they have,

1854
01:05:46,255 --> 01:05:47,795
some exhibits that are

1855
01:05:48,654 --> 01:05:49,315
the main

1856
01:05:49,900 --> 01:05:51,739
part of the exhibit is there year round.

1857
01:05:51,739 --> 01:05:52,219
It it's,

1858
01:05:52,699 --> 01:05:54,860
was all mostly all donated by a local

1859
01:05:54,860 --> 01:05:56,860
family at some point. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay.

1860
01:05:56,860 --> 01:05:58,140
Until we even have a museum like that.

1861
01:05:58,219 --> 01:05:59,840
Open, I think, '87.

1862
01:06:00,860 --> 01:06:02,719
Yeah. Somewhere around there, maybe.

1863
01:06:03,099 --> 01:06:03,599
And,

1864
01:06:04,194 --> 01:06:05,795
but they also have,

1865
01:06:06,994 --> 01:06:08,054
you know, rotating

1866
01:06:09,155 --> 01:06:10,614
Exhibits. Exhibits. Mhmm.

1867
01:06:11,315 --> 01:06:14,755
So Mhmm. The one on the the I

1868
01:06:14,755 --> 01:06:16,690
do not remember the artist name anymore. Yeah.

1869
01:06:16,690 --> 01:06:18,369
It was not what it was fascinating. It

1870
01:06:18,369 --> 01:06:19,570
was not my style of art where I

1871
01:06:19,570 --> 01:06:20,690
was like, oh, I can't I have to

1872
01:06:20,690 --> 01:06:22,849
keep looking at this. But it was,

1873
01:06:23,489 --> 01:06:24,309
an abstract

1874
01:06:25,250 --> 01:06:28,449
of massive canvases. Oh, yeah. And as you

1875
01:06:28,449 --> 01:06:30,369
walk through the full exhibit, like, we're literally

1876
01:06:30,369 --> 01:06:33,065
walking through different periods of his artwork. And

1877
01:06:33,065 --> 01:06:35,944
the very first one is, mixed media, bright

1878
01:06:35,944 --> 01:06:37,164
colors, like,

1879
01:06:37,625 --> 01:06:39,065
you know, thank God they have the plaque

1880
01:06:39,065 --> 01:06:41,304
of what it's supposed to mean because I

1881
01:06:41,304 --> 01:06:42,984
was not I was not getting that meaning,

1882
01:06:42,984 --> 01:06:44,264
but I was like, okay. That's what it

1883
01:06:44,264 --> 01:06:46,424
means. And then we go into another section

1884
01:06:46,424 --> 01:06:46,739
where,

1885
01:06:47,300 --> 01:06:48,039
it was

1886
01:06:48,420 --> 01:06:49,480
the medium was

1887
01:06:51,780 --> 01:06:52,679
oh, god.

1888
01:06:52,980 --> 01:06:53,380
It was

1889
01:06:54,260 --> 01:06:56,340
I mean, the way I interpret it was

1890
01:06:56,340 --> 01:06:58,980
pencil, but, like, not pencil. Like, not number

1891
01:06:58,980 --> 01:07:01,719
two pencils, but, like, that kind of

1892
01:07:02,704 --> 01:07:05,025
Charcoal? Maybe. That's the word that keeps coming

1893
01:07:05,025 --> 01:07:05,925
to mind. Yeah.

1894
01:07:06,864 --> 01:07:08,164
And that that was

1895
01:07:08,545 --> 01:07:11,684
amazing. That that the talent he has there,

1896
01:07:13,184 --> 01:07:14,704
but, yeah, that was that was all really

1897
01:07:14,704 --> 01:07:16,065
cool. And then there were parts where I

1898
01:07:16,065 --> 01:07:17,369
didn't expect it. I was like

1899
01:07:18,170 --> 01:07:18,670
in

1900
01:07:19,369 --> 01:07:21,150
my podunk country brain

1901
01:07:21,769 --> 01:07:24,170
who did not, you know, only did museums

1902
01:07:24,170 --> 01:07:26,010
because, like, there was a school trip and

1903
01:07:26,010 --> 01:07:27,690
maybe that was once every three years to

1904
01:07:27,690 --> 01:07:28,269
a museum.

1905
01:07:29,130 --> 01:07:31,005
And you always had to, like, leave the

1906
01:07:31,085 --> 01:07:33,404
city to go find a museum, sometimes the

1907
01:07:33,404 --> 01:07:33,904
street.

1908
01:07:35,324 --> 01:07:37,324
I think of, like, air quote classic art

1909
01:07:37,324 --> 01:07:38,864
pieces as being, like,

1910
01:07:39,484 --> 01:07:41,964
in, like, New York, in London, like, in

1911
01:07:41,964 --> 01:07:43,025
the big city.

1912
01:07:43,724 --> 01:07:45,964
We were walking through some exhibits. I was

1913
01:07:45,964 --> 01:07:48,119
like, oh, I know I took art history

1914
01:07:48,119 --> 01:07:49,800
for two semesters in college. I don't know

1915
01:07:49,800 --> 01:07:51,239
why. I don't I don't know anything about

1916
01:07:51,239 --> 01:07:52,539
art. I'm not drawn to it.

1917
01:07:53,079 --> 01:07:54,059
Pun not intended.

1918
01:07:54,599 --> 01:07:56,039
And I'm walking through going, I think I

1919
01:07:56,039 --> 01:07:57,880
remember that style. I think I know how

1920
01:07:57,880 --> 01:08:00,545
that works. Wow. That looks like something that

1921
01:08:00,545 --> 01:08:02,144
I that we would have seen in the

1922
01:08:02,144 --> 01:08:03,125
British Museum.

1923
01:08:03,744 --> 01:08:06,005
Yeah. And they have you down there. Mhmm.

1924
01:08:07,505 --> 01:08:08,005
Mhmm.

1925
01:08:08,465 --> 01:08:10,785
And they have the gift shop. Yep. We

1926
01:08:10,785 --> 01:08:13,139
walked in the front door, never having been

1927
01:08:13,139 --> 01:08:15,780
in there. It clearly looked like Like deer

1928
01:08:15,780 --> 01:08:18,500
in the headlights. Headlights. Yeah. And the the

1929
01:08:18,579 --> 01:08:20,100
there are several people working the desk because

1930
01:08:20,100 --> 01:08:22,020
it was the the one day a month

1931
01:08:22,020 --> 01:08:23,460
where it's free to come in. You have

1932
01:08:23,460 --> 01:08:25,060
to pay The first the first Saturday of

1933
01:08:25,060 --> 01:08:27,945
every month, it's they offer free admission. And

1934
01:08:27,945 --> 01:08:28,845
we have spent

1935
01:08:29,545 --> 01:08:31,625
six years saying we need to go do

1936
01:08:31,625 --> 01:08:33,385
that. We finally did it. Finally did it.

1937
01:08:33,625 --> 01:08:35,145
But we walk in like deer in headlights

1938
01:08:35,145 --> 01:08:36,744
because we're like, where do we go? Where

1939
01:08:36,744 --> 01:08:38,425
do we start? What do you like? What's

1940
01:08:38,425 --> 01:08:40,505
this all about? Right. And it's kinda busy

1941
01:08:40,505 --> 01:08:42,439
because it's the free day. Everybody with a

1942
01:08:42,439 --> 01:08:44,679
child who's like They had food trucks outside.

1943
01:08:44,679 --> 01:08:46,600
Right. And they had a whole kids' art

1944
01:08:46,600 --> 01:08:49,179
section where they, like, could create art and

1945
01:08:49,399 --> 01:08:51,079
whatever. And so we're, like, looking around like,

1946
01:08:51,079 --> 01:08:52,439
what do we do? And one of the

1947
01:08:52,439 --> 01:08:53,880
people working on the desk was like, is

1948
01:08:53,880 --> 01:08:56,024
this your first time here? Mhmm. Yeah.

1949
01:08:56,324 --> 01:08:57,845
So, you know, she tells us She gave

1950
01:08:57,845 --> 01:09:00,324
us a map and explained everything. Yeah. And

1951
01:09:00,324 --> 01:09:02,164
then we just started walking. My feet hurt

1952
01:09:02,164 --> 01:09:04,005
so bad when we were done. Yeah. You

1953
01:09:04,005 --> 01:09:05,845
weren't really wearing shoes. I was wearing cute

1954
01:09:05,845 --> 01:09:07,685
shoes because I was wearing a dress. And

1955
01:09:07,685 --> 01:09:10,024
you look very cute, Luke. Cute. Very nice.

1956
01:09:11,010 --> 01:09:12,869
Yeah. That was that was a nice little

1957
01:09:13,170 --> 01:09:15,590
date. Mhmm. I enjoyed that. Yep.

1958
01:09:17,250 --> 01:09:17,569
So

1959
01:09:18,929 --> 01:09:21,270
And then I surprised you for lunch. Mhmm.

1960
01:09:23,965 --> 01:09:25,725
I'm an out of sight, out of mind

1961
01:09:25,725 --> 01:09:27,725
kinda girl. I didn't used to be that

1962
01:09:27,725 --> 01:09:29,425
way, but whatever I am now.

1963
01:09:31,244 --> 01:09:31,984
And so

1964
01:09:33,164 --> 01:09:35,664
past couple of times, we've talked about, like,

1965
01:09:35,885 --> 01:09:36,385
getting,

1966
01:09:37,890 --> 01:09:39,510
like, some, not all, weeks.

1967
01:09:39,969 --> 01:09:41,409
We want one night where we don't have

1968
01:09:41,409 --> 01:09:42,449
to think we don't have to make dinner.

1969
01:09:42,449 --> 01:09:43,489
We don't have to think about what it

1970
01:09:43,489 --> 01:09:44,850
is. We don't have to preplan it. We're

1971
01:09:44,850 --> 01:09:46,449
like, we'll go get drive through. We'll do,

1972
01:09:46,449 --> 01:09:48,850
like, something. We got coupons or something. And

1973
01:09:48,850 --> 01:09:50,274
I had said a couple times over the

1974
01:09:50,274 --> 01:09:52,434
past few weeks, like, oh, Popeye's would be

1975
01:09:52,434 --> 01:09:53,335
really good.

1976
01:09:53,715 --> 01:09:55,255
Popeye's would be really good.

1977
01:09:56,114 --> 01:09:57,474
But it was like, it's kind of out

1978
01:09:57,474 --> 01:09:58,994
of the way. It's not a place that's

1979
01:09:59,074 --> 01:10:00,914
like, we're gonna go run and grab something

1980
01:10:00,914 --> 01:10:02,909
real quick. It's it's not located there. And

1981
01:10:02,909 --> 01:10:04,670
then if I don't see it, I don't

1982
01:10:04,829 --> 01:10:06,289
I'm not thinking about it.

1983
01:10:06,909 --> 01:10:07,409
So

1984
01:10:08,109 --> 01:10:10,029
right before we left the museum, I was

1985
01:10:10,029 --> 01:10:12,510
like, if we're gonna eat, it's gotta be

1986
01:10:12,510 --> 01:10:14,609
soon because you girl's hungry.

1987
01:10:15,310 --> 01:10:17,284
He's like, okay. And I asked, where are

1988
01:10:17,284 --> 01:10:18,725
we going? Nope. Can't tell you. It's a

1989
01:10:18,725 --> 01:10:19,225
surprise.

1990
01:10:20,324 --> 01:10:22,405
Which, I mean, did that make my little

1991
01:10:22,405 --> 01:10:24,324
subby heart kinda like go pitter patter a

1992
01:10:24,324 --> 01:10:25,064
little bit?

1993
01:10:26,405 --> 01:10:28,710
Because I get frustrated when I don't know

1994
01:10:28,710 --> 01:10:30,630
stuff, but also it's a control thing. And

1995
01:10:30,630 --> 01:10:33,530
I'm like, okay. I'm here for it. Mhmm.

1996
01:10:33,829 --> 01:10:36,070
So every road he took and he took,

1997
01:10:36,070 --> 01:10:37,909
like, a a straight path. He wasn't trying

1998
01:10:37,909 --> 01:10:40,935
to, like Mm-mm. Like, you know, have me,

1999
01:10:41,335 --> 01:10:43,494
like, fool me. It was a surprise not

2000
01:10:43,494 --> 01:10:44,234
fooling. Right?

2001
01:10:44,534 --> 01:10:45,975
But every road we went down, I was

2002
01:10:45,975 --> 01:10:47,335
like, okay. Well, it could be this or

2003
01:10:47,335 --> 01:10:48,454
it could be that or it could be

2004
01:10:48,454 --> 01:10:49,734
this or it could be that. And then

2005
01:10:49,734 --> 01:10:50,935
he turned off the road. I'm like, oh,

2006
01:10:50,935 --> 01:10:52,555
it can't it can't be any of that.

2007
01:10:53,015 --> 01:10:55,260
And so I started thinking when we got

2008
01:10:55,260 --> 01:10:57,199
on the main road to get there, like,

2009
01:10:57,420 --> 01:10:59,340
may maybe. I was like, don't get your

2010
01:10:59,340 --> 01:11:00,699
hopes up. It could be there's all kinds

2011
01:11:00,699 --> 01:11:02,140
of places and you like all of them,

2012
01:11:02,140 --> 01:11:03,199
so it's fine.

2013
01:11:03,899 --> 01:11:05,899
He turns down the way that immediately I

2014
01:11:05,899 --> 01:11:07,659
was like, oh, this is the easiest way

2015
01:11:07,659 --> 01:11:09,664
to get there because you can, like, kinda

2016
01:11:09,664 --> 01:11:10,704
get out of the way of traffic and

2017
01:11:10,704 --> 01:11:11,204
everything.

2018
01:11:11,505 --> 01:11:13,185
But I still wasn't sure because there was

2019
01:11:13,185 --> 01:11:15,185
also a McDonald's right there. And a Mexican

2020
01:11:15,185 --> 01:11:17,025
restaurant. And a Mexican restaurant that I didn't

2021
01:11:17,025 --> 01:11:18,244
even know was there.

2022
01:11:18,864 --> 01:11:21,104
And he starts pulling in the Popeyes and

2023
01:11:21,104 --> 01:11:23,679
it's, y'all, it's fried damn chicken.

2024
01:11:24,699 --> 01:11:27,520
And I started squealing. I was like, yep.

2025
01:11:28,219 --> 01:11:28,719
Yep.

2026
01:11:29,100 --> 01:11:30,779
I guess you did. That's the best surprise

2027
01:11:30,779 --> 01:11:31,679
ever. Mhmm.

2028
01:11:32,539 --> 01:11:34,380
I couldn't I couldn't even eat all my

2029
01:11:34,380 --> 01:11:35,600
food. I didn't like,

2030
01:11:35,925 --> 01:11:37,845
you know, I've just been told to just

2031
01:11:37,845 --> 01:11:39,864
be in there and have the Popeye's rides.

2032
01:11:40,005 --> 01:11:42,244
Yeah. I'll be able to go another six

2033
01:11:42,244 --> 01:11:44,085
months to a year without it. Now that

2034
01:11:44,085 --> 01:11:45,305
I've had it, I'm good.

2035
01:11:45,765 --> 01:11:47,045
There is such a thing as too much

2036
01:11:47,045 --> 01:11:47,545
Popeye's.

2037
01:11:48,244 --> 01:11:48,744
Yeah.

2038
01:11:49,284 --> 01:11:49,604
But,

2039
01:11:50,190 --> 01:11:51,789
yeah. It was it was it was such

2040
01:11:51,789 --> 01:11:53,550
a small thing, but, oh, it was it

2041
01:11:53,550 --> 01:11:55,550
was so so cool. It made me so

2042
01:11:55,550 --> 01:11:57,470
happy. Yeah. It was a very, very nice

2043
01:11:57,470 --> 01:12:00,270
day. Mhmm. And we were out much all

2044
01:12:00,270 --> 01:12:00,770
day.

2045
01:12:01,310 --> 01:12:01,869
The kids

2046
01:12:02,430 --> 01:12:04,750
okay. So the youngest is like, please leave

2047
01:12:04,750 --> 01:12:06,375
the house. Never come back. Okay? Just keep

2048
01:12:06,375 --> 01:12:08,054
the Wi Fi on and the AC on.

2049
01:12:08,054 --> 01:12:09,574
I don't give a fuck. I I never

2050
01:12:09,574 --> 01:12:12,474
see you again. And snacks. Right. The oldest

2051
01:12:12,774 --> 01:12:13,594
was like,

2052
01:12:14,774 --> 01:12:16,375
first, we walk in and he looks at

2053
01:12:16,375 --> 01:12:17,514
me like I'm,

2054
01:12:18,070 --> 01:12:20,390
I don't know, like, a freak of nature.

2055
01:12:20,390 --> 01:12:21,750
I am wearing a dress. This is very

2056
01:12:21,750 --> 01:12:24,310
cute. He's like, where did you go? And

2057
01:12:24,310 --> 01:12:26,090
I it took me a minute to realize.

2058
01:12:26,229 --> 01:12:27,989
He was like, you are dressed the fuck

2059
01:12:27,989 --> 01:12:29,430
up. What has happened? I was like, well,

2060
01:12:29,430 --> 01:12:31,675
we went out. Yeah. I can see that

2061
01:12:32,054 --> 01:12:32,554
where?

2062
01:12:33,255 --> 01:12:33,994
I was like,

2063
01:12:35,175 --> 01:12:35,675
dude,

2064
01:12:36,295 --> 01:12:38,954
we go places when you're not living here,

2065
01:12:39,734 --> 01:12:42,375
but where did you go, mom? I was

2066
01:12:42,375 --> 01:12:45,029
like, I'm glad somebody cared that we were

2067
01:12:45,676 --> 01:12:46,176
not

2068
01:12:47,969 --> 01:12:49,569
glad somebody cared. I was like, oh, it's

2069
01:12:49,569 --> 01:12:50,929
the museum. And we had to go run

2070
01:12:50,929 --> 01:12:52,609
errands and we got lunch. And I was

2071
01:12:52,609 --> 01:12:54,689
like, oh, well, you could've just told me

2072
01:12:54,689 --> 01:12:55,510
that. I'm like

2073
01:12:56,210 --> 01:12:58,125
what he didn't say, what she clearly wanted

2074
01:12:58,125 --> 01:13:00,204
to go is, why were you dressed like

2075
01:13:00,204 --> 01:13:02,204
that? I'm only used to you looking like

2076
01:13:02,204 --> 01:13:03,984
Adam Sandler. What is happening?

2077
01:13:05,965 --> 01:13:07,805
It was nice. Mhmm. It was nice. Yeah.

2078
01:13:07,805 --> 01:13:09,104
We had a very nice time.

2079
01:13:11,469 --> 01:13:11,969
Yeah.

2080
01:13:16,029 --> 01:13:17,869
I think that's about it. Mhmm. Especially since

2081
01:13:17,869 --> 01:13:19,630
I literally do not remember the past two

2082
01:13:19,630 --> 01:13:21,409
days. That's a little scary.

2083
01:13:21,909 --> 01:13:22,409
Mhmm.

2084
01:13:22,909 --> 01:13:24,404
Oh, because I did a lot of driving

2085
01:13:24,404 --> 01:13:25,364
in my car. You did a lot of

2086
01:13:25,364 --> 01:13:27,125
driving in the morning. Was. You were road

2087
01:13:27,125 --> 01:13:29,364
weary. And yesterday, most of the work I

2088
01:13:29,364 --> 01:13:31,125
did was in the morning, and I sweated

2089
01:13:31,125 --> 01:13:33,524
through my shirt multiple times. I was only

2090
01:13:33,524 --> 01:13:35,764
out there for, like, thirty minutes. I'm, like,

2091
01:13:35,764 --> 01:13:37,909
I'm soaked. This is gross. Maybe that's why

2092
01:13:37,909 --> 01:13:39,829
I don't remember anything. I I cannot believe

2093
01:13:39,909 --> 01:13:41,590
I I mean, it needed to be done.

2094
01:13:41,590 --> 01:13:44,090
The big the our we have a huge

2095
01:13:44,630 --> 01:13:45,350
old growth,

2096
01:13:45,909 --> 01:13:47,529
Laurel Oak in the front yard.

2097
01:13:48,550 --> 01:13:49,529
Mhmm. And this,

2098
01:13:50,389 --> 01:13:51,289
early spring,

2099
01:13:52,404 --> 01:13:54,324
I had someone come in and do a

2100
01:13:54,324 --> 01:13:56,564
heavy, heavy trim. We were a few years

2101
01:13:56,564 --> 01:13:58,904
overdue for trimming. Yeah. I I had been

2102
01:13:59,045 --> 01:14:00,725
keeping it up as best I could in

2103
01:14:00,725 --> 01:14:03,045
between, but it needed, you know, more than

2104
01:14:03,045 --> 01:14:03,685
what I could,

2105
01:14:04,564 --> 01:14:06,244
do. So they came in, and they they

2106
01:14:06,244 --> 01:14:08,619
trimmed it up. They cleaned out dead wood

2107
01:14:08,619 --> 01:14:09,920
and lifted and everything.

2108
01:14:10,300 --> 01:14:12,300
But what that did does now the house

2109
01:14:12,300 --> 01:14:14,380
does not get as much shade. So much

2110
01:14:14,380 --> 01:14:17,819
more sunlight. And the garage heats up so

2111
01:14:17,819 --> 01:14:19,039
fast now in the morning.

2112
01:14:19,420 --> 01:14:20,560
Mhmm. Mhmm.

2113
01:14:21,180 --> 01:14:22,755
So And I was being a good little

2114
01:14:22,755 --> 01:14:25,074
shop elf. Yeah. I was drilling holes and

2115
01:14:25,074 --> 01:14:25,574
diabolical

2116
01:14:26,034 --> 01:14:26,935
stick stuff.

2117
01:14:27,475 --> 01:14:29,074
She was doing that while I was turning

2118
01:14:29,074 --> 01:14:32,274
handles. Because eventually, we'll have diabolical sticks back.

2119
01:14:32,354 --> 01:14:35,734
We'll meet in the middle. The kingcurrythekingcurry.com.

2120
01:14:37,619 --> 01:14:38,680
So on that,

2121
01:14:39,539 --> 01:14:42,100
we're probably done. Right? I think so. Yeah.

2122
01:14:42,100 --> 01:14:42,600
Yeah.

2123
01:14:43,300 --> 01:14:44,119
Thanks for

2124
01:14:44,500 --> 01:14:46,579
being here. Hanging out with us. Especially to

2125
01:14:46,579 --> 01:14:48,899
the bitter end. OMG. Y'all are real ones

2126
01:14:48,899 --> 01:14:49,640
for that.

2127
01:14:51,060 --> 01:14:53,375
See, I can see both on YouTube and

2128
01:14:53,375 --> 01:14:55,795
in podcast stats. I can see how long

2129
01:14:56,175 --> 01:14:58,815
people listen on average. I can also see

2130
01:14:58,815 --> 01:15:01,875
when the majority of people drop. Yeah. Fuck.

2131
01:15:02,175 --> 01:15:03,454
I try to look at that. That's a

2132
01:15:03,454 --> 01:15:04,195
little depressing.

2133
01:15:05,215 --> 01:15:06,895
Because see, you would look at that in

2134
01:15:06,895 --> 01:15:09,050
order to maybe change how you're doing things

2135
01:15:09,109 --> 01:15:10,250
and no.

2136
01:15:11,670 --> 01:15:14,090
If this can't be a podcast I enjoy

2137
01:15:14,149 --> 01:15:14,649
doing,

2138
01:15:15,109 --> 01:15:16,729
then I can't do it. So,

2139
01:15:17,590 --> 01:15:19,670
I'm just grateful to those of you who

2140
01:15:19,670 --> 01:15:21,270
stick around to the bitter end. That's what

2141
01:15:21,270 --> 01:15:23,704
I'm saying. So anyway. I am. So I

2142
01:15:23,704 --> 01:15:26,345
guess we'll go. Yeah. Okay. Thanks, y'all. Bye.

2143
01:15:26,345 --> 01:15:26,845
Bye.