1 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:13,679 You're listening to the Loving BDSM podcast episode 2 00:00:13,679 --> 00:00:16,295 four forty seven. Kayla Lords here with the 3 00:00:16,295 --> 00:00:17,894 one, the only, the you just had your 4 00:00:17,894 --> 00:00:19,414 birthday, and I won't stop talking about it 5 00:00:19,414 --> 00:00:20,954 because I love you. John Brownstone. 6 00:00:23,975 --> 00:00:25,654 I mean, I felt every single one of 7 00:00:25,654 --> 00:00:28,129 those 64 plus one to grow on Spanx. 8 00:00:28,349 --> 00:00:30,269 That's true. It was delightful. I mean, I 9 00:00:30,269 --> 00:00:31,949 got tired of counting after a while, but 10 00:00:31,949 --> 00:00:32,850 it was delightful. 11 00:00:33,629 --> 00:00:34,989 I'm glad I get a break when it's 12 00:00:34,989 --> 00:00:35,809 my birthday. 13 00:00:38,189 --> 00:00:40,350 That's not what we're talking about at all 14 00:00:40,350 --> 00:00:41,809 at all today. 15 00:00:42,905 --> 00:00:44,664 For JB's sake, I will move on from 16 00:00:44,664 --> 00:00:46,664 his birthday. But if I don't, you know 17 00:00:46,744 --> 00:00:48,424 There might be otherwise, there might be, you 18 00:00:48,424 --> 00:00:48,824 know, another 19 00:00:50,024 --> 00:00:52,664 Oh, no. But not with something that you 20 00:00:52,664 --> 00:00:53,164 like. 21 00:00:53,545 --> 00:00:55,324 At this point? Oh, no. 22 00:00:58,560 --> 00:00:59,060 Anyway, 23 00:00:59,679 --> 00:01:01,840 this week we're talking about a concept that's 24 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:03,920 gone viral in the past few months known 25 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:06,640 as princess treatment. And we're gonna talk about 26 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:09,040 what it is according to the person who 27 00:01:09,040 --> 00:01:11,520 went viral for it and how that compares 28 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:12,500 to power exchange. 29 00:01:12,835 --> 00:01:14,635 Welcome to the Loving BDSM podcast. If this 30 00:01:14,635 --> 00:01:16,115 is your first time listening, glad to have 31 00:01:16,115 --> 00:01:17,475 you. If you're back for another week, welcome 32 00:01:17,475 --> 00:01:19,795 back. 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So it's at loving d s one. 43 00:01:40,865 --> 00:01:43,584 On blue sky at lovingbdsm. 44 00:01:43,584 --> 00:01:44,564 Blah blah blah, 45 00:01:45,344 --> 00:01:48,465 or on YouTube at youtube.com/lovingbdsm 46 00:01:48,465 --> 00:01:49,745 where you can watch us live stream the 47 00:01:49,745 --> 00:01:51,825 podcast every Wednesday. All links are in the 48 00:01:51,825 --> 00:01:52,349 show notes. 49 00:01:53,229 --> 00:01:56,430 Yeah. Even though it's overcast and we've had 50 00:01:56,430 --> 00:01:58,030 all kinds of rain for the past couple 51 00:01:58,030 --> 00:01:58,530 days, 52 00:01:59,629 --> 00:02:01,469 it is still warm enough that I'm grateful 53 00:02:01,469 --> 00:02:03,150 for that fan that is going on. Warm 54 00:02:03,150 --> 00:02:06,049 side. Yeah. On in the background. Okay. So 55 00:02:06,189 --> 00:02:08,085 announcements first. Mhmm. The first one 56 00:02:08,965 --> 00:02:09,205 is, 57 00:02:10,004 --> 00:02:10,905 this Friday, 58 00:02:11,605 --> 00:02:13,204 July 18. 59 00:02:13,205 --> 00:02:15,444 I'm looking at today's date right now, so 60 00:02:15,444 --> 00:02:16,905 I'm fairly confident 61 00:02:17,284 --> 00:02:18,745 Friday is July eighteenth. 62 00:02:20,325 --> 00:02:22,680 We're doing our Friday night livestream virtual munch 63 00:02:23,079 --> 00:02:25,180 q and a, chaotic, 64 00:02:26,199 --> 00:02:28,379 gigantic bonus section kinda deal, 65 00:02:28,759 --> 00:02:29,500 on YouTube. 66 00:02:30,439 --> 00:02:32,359 So we hope y'all can join it. And 67 00:02:32,359 --> 00:02:34,359 usually starts at 09:30, but the past couple 68 00:02:34,359 --> 00:02:35,995 of months, we started at nine. I don't 69 00:02:35,995 --> 00:02:37,254 know what we're doing. 70 00:02:39,314 --> 00:02:41,474 I don't know. Somewhere between nine and 09:30 71 00:02:41,474 --> 00:02:42,455 we'll show up. 72 00:02:44,034 --> 00:02:45,655 And we stream till about eleven. 73 00:02:47,074 --> 00:02:49,280 And it yeah. It's chaotic. I don't I 74 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:50,419 can't predict because 75 00:02:50,719 --> 00:02:53,139 there are certain things that are they're truisms 76 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:55,199 of our Friday night live streams. We will 77 00:02:55,199 --> 00:02:56,099 talk about food. 78 00:02:56,479 --> 00:02:58,259 We may ruin childhood memories. 79 00:02:58,639 --> 00:02:59,699 We will reminisce 80 00:03:00,239 --> 00:03:01,620 based on kind of our 81 00:03:03,584 --> 00:03:05,905 generational kind of thing, like, not fully because 82 00:03:05,905 --> 00:03:08,544 there's so much crossover between generations, but was 83 00:03:08,544 --> 00:03:10,224 it last month or the month before we 84 00:03:10,224 --> 00:03:12,465 started talking about our TV shows from what 85 00:03:12,465 --> 00:03:14,544 we remembered from being younger. Right? Yeah. That 86 00:03:14,544 --> 00:03:16,409 kind of stuff. So but also, we'll 87 00:03:16,870 --> 00:03:19,750 answer questions about kink. We try pretend this 88 00:03:19,750 --> 00:03:21,289 is about kink, you know. 89 00:03:21,590 --> 00:03:22,650 So that's this Friday 90 00:03:23,269 --> 00:03:25,449 on YouTube. Mhmm. Second announcement. 91 00:03:27,430 --> 00:03:29,504 We will not have an episode next week. 92 00:03:30,625 --> 00:03:32,305 Not because we don't want to, not because 93 00:03:32,305 --> 00:03:33,365 we planned this. 94 00:03:35,985 --> 00:03:36,885 The oldest 95 00:03:37,264 --> 00:03:39,905 is moving out of his apartment because he's 96 00:03:39,905 --> 00:03:41,125 changing apartments. 97 00:03:41,825 --> 00:03:43,764 That was supposed to occur on a weekend. 98 00:03:44,064 --> 00:03:46,170 A thing happened, which I plan on complaining 99 00:03:46,170 --> 00:03:48,330 about in the bonus section, and it's meant 100 00:03:48,330 --> 00:03:49,469 we need to now do it 101 00:03:49,849 --> 00:03:52,590 on Wednesday. And it's Yeah. Like the day. 102 00:03:52,810 --> 00:03:53,310 Mhmm. 103 00:03:54,490 --> 00:03:56,330 So I'll complain about that in the bonus 104 00:03:56,330 --> 00:03:58,250 section, but we were not gonna put ourselves 105 00:03:58,250 --> 00:04:00,330 under the strain of because he's moving back 106 00:04:00,330 --> 00:04:02,224 home for a few weeks. So the strain 107 00:04:02,224 --> 00:04:03,764 of getting him home on a Wednesday, 108 00:04:05,344 --> 00:04:06,485 settling, having 109 00:04:07,104 --> 00:04:08,884 adjusting how we're doing things, 110 00:04:09,344 --> 00:04:11,745 three of us, all adults, will be sharing 111 00:04:11,745 --> 00:04:13,990 one car. So life is about get interesting 112 00:04:13,990 --> 00:04:15,129 for a few weeks. Yeah. 113 00:04:15,990 --> 00:04:17,189 So, yeah, we just were like, we're not 114 00:04:17,189 --> 00:04:18,470 gonna we're not gonna put that pressure on 115 00:04:18,470 --> 00:04:18,970 ourselves. 116 00:04:19,509 --> 00:04:21,050 We'll just take next week off. 117 00:04:21,750 --> 00:04:23,050 So those are the announcements. 118 00:04:23,670 --> 00:04:24,490 Ta da. 119 00:04:25,350 --> 00:04:26,410 K. Okay. 120 00:04:27,645 --> 00:04:29,824 I know this is all self induced pressure, 121 00:04:30,205 --> 00:04:32,285 but I really don't wanna fuck this week's 122 00:04:32,285 --> 00:04:32,785 topic. 123 00:04:34,365 --> 00:04:36,605 But I do feel like a student who 124 00:04:36,605 --> 00:04:38,785 is giving a report to the class, 125 00:04:39,324 --> 00:04:41,520 and that's never been my favorite thing to 126 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:42,020 do. 127 00:04:42,639 --> 00:04:43,540 Gotcha. Gotcha. 128 00:04:43,920 --> 00:04:45,620 Gotcha. Okay. So 129 00:04:47,439 --> 00:04:48,660 I I believe 130 00:04:50,160 --> 00:04:53,360 that the concept of princess treatment has probably 131 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:55,225 been a term made probably even in the 132 00:04:55,225 --> 00:04:57,084 kink community, I'm not a 100% sure, 133 00:04:57,704 --> 00:04:59,644 for however long. Right? But 134 00:05:00,024 --> 00:05:02,904 sometime earlier this year, February, 135 00:05:02,904 --> 00:05:04,045 maybe a little later, 136 00:05:04,745 --> 00:05:07,564 a creator on TikTok named Courtney Palmer 137 00:05:08,185 --> 00:05:09,725 had a video go viral 138 00:05:10,399 --> 00:05:12,420 because where she was talking about 139 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:13,779 her life 140 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:16,879 receiving princess treatment and what that meant her. 141 00:05:16,879 --> 00:05:19,600 And the video specifically, it's got 7,000,000 plus 142 00:05:19,600 --> 00:05:20,500 views on TikTok. 143 00:05:21,360 --> 00:05:23,939 She was talking about what princess treatment meant 144 00:05:24,045 --> 00:05:24,944 and how 145 00:05:25,645 --> 00:05:27,745 oh. Lola walked past the tripod. It's fine. 146 00:05:28,045 --> 00:05:28,785 And how, 147 00:05:30,205 --> 00:05:30,705 that 148 00:05:31,165 --> 00:05:33,165 meant that she behaved in a restaurant. So 149 00:05:33,165 --> 00:05:34,384 she was talking about 150 00:05:34,764 --> 00:05:36,925 how she does not talk to the hostess. 151 00:05:36,925 --> 00:05:38,465 She does not give their name if it's 152 00:05:39,930 --> 00:05:41,663 reservation. She does not order, you know, her 153 00:05:41,663 --> 00:05:43,930 own food. Her husband does that for her. 154 00:05:44,729 --> 00:05:46,810 You know, he is in control of everything. 155 00:05:46,810 --> 00:05:49,449 And before I I ended up watching it 156 00:05:49,449 --> 00:05:51,949 today multiple times, get ready for this episode, 157 00:05:52,504 --> 00:05:54,345 When I first heard it, I first thought, 158 00:05:54,345 --> 00:05:56,425 well, that that sounds power exchange y to 159 00:05:56,425 --> 00:05:58,264 me. And I'm like, whoop. But when you 160 00:05:58,264 --> 00:06:00,185 started explaining it to me Right. It's like, 161 00:06:00,185 --> 00:06:02,024 yeah. It's Blipped right on. I was like, 162 00:06:02,024 --> 00:06:03,245 okay. But apparently, 163 00:06:03,625 --> 00:06:05,724 the Internet ended up having thoughts. 164 00:06:06,345 --> 00:06:09,360 And the Internet always has thoughts. And sometimes 165 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:11,600 I'm like, right on Internet, I agree. But 166 00:06:11,600 --> 00:06:12,740 most of the time I'm like, 167 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:15,199 we've just stripped all the context and nuance 168 00:06:15,199 --> 00:06:17,539 out of this conversation so whatever. 169 00:06:18,160 --> 00:06:19,919 And then two weeks ago, I was sending 170 00:06:19,919 --> 00:06:22,875 out the Loving BDSM weekly newsletter, and there 171 00:06:22,875 --> 00:06:25,355 was a Huffington Post article where they talked 172 00:06:25,355 --> 00:06:27,455 about this viral thing about the princess treatment. 173 00:06:27,675 --> 00:06:29,514 And it came up on my radar because 174 00:06:29,514 --> 00:06:31,694 they talked to Sex and Kink experts 175 00:06:32,634 --> 00:06:35,430 to get their opinion on is this like 176 00:06:35,430 --> 00:06:38,150 BDSM? Is this like power exchange? And and 177 00:06:38,150 --> 00:06:39,430 I've linked to the article in the places 178 00:06:39,430 --> 00:06:41,029 for anybody who wants to read it. Mhmm. 179 00:06:41,029 --> 00:06:42,870 And, basically, they were like, well, maybe it 180 00:06:42,870 --> 00:06:44,490 could be, but here's some differences. 181 00:06:45,110 --> 00:06:46,970 So then it stuck in my brain, 182 00:06:47,589 --> 00:06:50,365 and I needed to go learn more 183 00:06:50,745 --> 00:06:51,245 because 184 00:06:52,425 --> 00:06:53,165 what is 185 00:06:53,705 --> 00:06:55,705 this person who is not in a power 186 00:06:55,705 --> 00:06:56,205 exchange 187 00:06:56,904 --> 00:06:58,824 talking about, and why does it sound so 188 00:06:58,824 --> 00:07:01,305 fucking similar to things that I've either experienced 189 00:07:01,305 --> 00:07:02,764 or wanted to experience or whatever? 190 00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:03,660 Now 191 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:05,500 I did remember 192 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:08,279 earlier today, I completely forgotten about it. I 193 00:07:08,279 --> 00:07:10,139 don't know when. Sometime in the past 194 00:07:10,519 --> 00:07:11,019 months, 195 00:07:12,279 --> 00:07:13,259 I was randomly 196 00:07:13,879 --> 00:07:16,759 scrolling through Instagram reels. And I remember a 197 00:07:16,759 --> 00:07:19,105 reel coming up, and it was tagged like 198 00:07:19,105 --> 00:07:21,925 princess treatment. And it was like she was, 199 00:07:22,064 --> 00:07:22,644 you know, 200 00:07:23,185 --> 00:07:24,464 he reached out to hold her hand, and 201 00:07:24,464 --> 00:07:26,064 she's holding her hand, and she's talking about, 202 00:07:26,064 --> 00:07:28,964 you know, no thoughts, just vibes. And I 203 00:07:29,264 --> 00:07:31,104 I really related to the point I was 204 00:07:31,104 --> 00:07:33,104 like, wait. This algorithm is not does not 205 00:07:33,104 --> 00:07:35,279 usually have kink. How did we get here? 206 00:07:35,279 --> 00:07:36,720 And then I realized it wasn't. I was 207 00:07:36,720 --> 00:07:38,639 like, oh, who's this creator? Nope. Not a 208 00:07:38,639 --> 00:07:39,139 kinkster. 209 00:07:41,519 --> 00:07:43,360 So others may have some of y'all may 210 00:07:43,360 --> 00:07:44,639 have seen it that way too. And hell, 211 00:07:44,639 --> 00:07:46,639 if you're on TikTok enough, maybe you saw 212 00:07:46,639 --> 00:07:47,860 the original 213 00:07:48,319 --> 00:07:49,459 viral thing. 214 00:07:50,084 --> 00:07:50,584 But 215 00:07:50,884 --> 00:07:52,504 when I started looking into 216 00:07:53,285 --> 00:07:56,324 what is Prince's treatment, what's gone viral, what 217 00:07:56,324 --> 00:07:57,545 does the Internet say, 218 00:07:58,324 --> 00:07:59,925 I took I had to go search out 219 00:07:59,925 --> 00:08:02,004 this woman's actual TikTok because I look on 220 00:08:02,004 --> 00:08:04,805 Instagram first. Look. Look. Yeah. It might take 221 00:08:04,805 --> 00:08:07,040 three to four business weeks before a viral 222 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:09,279 trend from TikTok hits Instagram, but eventually it 223 00:08:09,279 --> 00:08:10,420 will. Yeah. It get yeah. 224 00:08:10,879 --> 00:08:13,300 And but what I was getting were people's 225 00:08:13,839 --> 00:08:16,259 own opinions on princess treatment. Okay. 226 00:08:17,040 --> 00:08:18,345 And I think I'll get into that in 227 00:08:23,144 --> 00:08:23,421 just a second. Yeah. My my notes are 228 00:08:23,421 --> 00:08:23,545 lengthy for this one. 229 00:08:24,504 --> 00:08:27,384 But that for me, I understand that once 230 00:08:27,384 --> 00:08:29,545 I get somebody's opinion about a thing somebody 231 00:08:29,545 --> 00:08:32,200 else said, a lot of context is gone. 232 00:08:32,200 --> 00:08:35,019 A lot of nuance is gone. Mhmm. And 233 00:08:35,240 --> 00:08:38,360 I was seeing things that the follow-up viral 234 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:40,379 trend for from Princess Treatment 235 00:08:40,839 --> 00:08:44,845 is bare minimum versus Princess Treatment. Like, is 236 00:08:44,845 --> 00:08:45,985 this bare minimum? 237 00:08:46,445 --> 00:08:48,625 Like, the bar is already in hell or 238 00:08:49,004 --> 00:08:51,184 do we classify this as princess treatment? 239 00:08:51,644 --> 00:08:53,805 And everybody's got their own opinions about that 240 00:08:53,805 --> 00:08:55,884 too. Some people are like, well, you know, 241 00:08:55,884 --> 00:08:58,205 if he's nice to me, that's princess treatment. 242 00:08:58,205 --> 00:09:00,870 And I was like, oh, honey. Honey, somebody 243 00:09:00,870 --> 00:09:01,929 needs to hug you 244 00:09:02,790 --> 00:09:04,730 and introduce you to a good human. 245 00:09:05,670 --> 00:09:06,170 Right. 246 00:09:07,029 --> 00:09:08,950 And that was when I, like, knew beyond 247 00:09:08,950 --> 00:09:10,490 a shadow of a doubt. I cannot 248 00:09:11,284 --> 00:09:13,365 do this episode and try to tell you 249 00:09:13,365 --> 00:09:15,924 what I think princess treatment is with the 250 00:09:15,924 --> 00:09:17,684 opinions of others. I was like, we're going 251 00:09:17,684 --> 00:09:18,504 to the source. 252 00:09:19,125 --> 00:09:21,365 The source has a playlist. I don't know 253 00:09:21,365 --> 00:09:23,605 what it's called on TikTok. 29 254 00:09:23,605 --> 00:09:26,659 TikToks where she's just talking about princess treatment. 255 00:09:27,039 --> 00:09:29,519 I watched 20 of them before I just 256 00:09:29,519 --> 00:09:31,919 couldn't anymore. I went, no. No. I understand 257 00:09:31,919 --> 00:09:32,500 the concept. 258 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:33,620 So 259 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:38,240 that's the definition I'm using because what has 260 00:09:38,240 --> 00:09:40,019 happened since this particular 261 00:09:40,585 --> 00:09:43,225 creator went viral is she's creating these videos 262 00:09:43,225 --> 00:09:45,725 and answering questions about how to 263 00:09:46,264 --> 00:09:48,105 engage in princess treatment, how to get that 264 00:09:48,105 --> 00:09:48,845 for yourself. 265 00:09:49,144 --> 00:09:50,825 You know, what do you do? What what 266 00:09:50,825 --> 00:09:52,424 kind of person do you have to be? 267 00:09:52,424 --> 00:09:54,360 And I was like, I have no doubt 268 00:09:54,360 --> 00:09:56,120 others have talked about princess treatment in their 269 00:09:56,120 --> 00:09:57,879 own way. Mhmm. Like I said at the 270 00:09:57,879 --> 00:10:00,600 top, there is likely something in kink where 271 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:02,379 it's a very kink specific thing, 272 00:10:02,920 --> 00:10:06,120 but that's not what the broader world is 273 00:10:06,120 --> 00:10:07,480 seeing. They're seeing this, 274 00:10:09,315 --> 00:10:12,274 trad wife adjacent but not trad wife. She 275 00:10:12,274 --> 00:10:13,634 makes that clear distinction in one of her 276 00:10:13,634 --> 00:10:16,195 videos. She's like, you can have princess treatment 277 00:10:16,195 --> 00:10:17,235 when you're a trad wife. She's like, but 278 00:10:17,235 --> 00:10:18,434 I'm not a trad wife because I don't 279 00:10:18,434 --> 00:10:19,955 wanna cook and I don't wanna clean. And 280 00:10:19,955 --> 00:10:21,254 I was like, okay. 281 00:10:22,514 --> 00:10:23,014 So 282 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:26,160 that's that's the angle I'm coming at. That's 283 00:10:26,160 --> 00:10:27,840 what we're gonna talk about what what this 284 00:10:27,840 --> 00:10:30,720 woman, Courtney Palmer says to her and what 285 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:33,700 she's teaching other people that Princess treatment is. 286 00:10:34,000 --> 00:10:34,740 And then 287 00:10:35,040 --> 00:10:35,863 as we go, but also at the end, 288 00:10:35,863 --> 00:10:35,901 we will we will do a compare and 289 00:10:35,901 --> 00:10:36,420 contrast to power exchange. So 290 00:10:36,960 --> 00:10:37,460 I 291 00:10:48,235 --> 00:10:51,514 absolutely disagree with. I'm not pissed. I'm a 292 00:10:51,514 --> 00:10:53,889 little bit, like, should I print out my 293 00:10:53,889 --> 00:10:55,829 notes and take them to our next negotiation? 294 00:10:56,449 --> 00:10:58,529 Because some of this doesn't bother me that 295 00:10:58,529 --> 00:10:59,029 much. 296 00:11:01,089 --> 00:11:03,169 Because, you know, the the discussion online about 297 00:11:03,169 --> 00:11:05,809 Prince's treatment, the backlash is, you know, that 298 00:11:05,809 --> 00:11:08,904 it's anti feminist and it's about, you know, 299 00:11:08,904 --> 00:11:10,365 subjugating women and, 300 00:11:10,904 --> 00:11:11,725 that women 301 00:11:12,264 --> 00:11:14,425 specifically are should always be submissive to their 302 00:11:14,425 --> 00:11:15,325 men. And there 303 00:11:15,705 --> 00:11:17,305 there is some of that in here. I'm 304 00:11:17,305 --> 00:11:19,245 not gonna pretend otherwise. But I was like, 305 00:11:20,425 --> 00:11:22,665 but actually, I'm gonna use this to take 306 00:11:22,665 --> 00:11:22,980 notes. 307 00:11:24,339 --> 00:11:25,860 Go to my daddy dom and go, look. 308 00:11:25,860 --> 00:11:27,959 I could use some of this princess treatment. 309 00:11:28,740 --> 00:11:31,000 So let me let's let's 310 00:11:31,379 --> 00:11:33,079 get into this. Okay. 311 00:11:34,419 --> 00:11:36,565 Okay. So when I'm talking about this, some 312 00:11:36,565 --> 00:11:38,644 of this is observations from what I was 313 00:11:38,644 --> 00:11:40,725 hearing from the creator, but also some of 314 00:11:40,725 --> 00:11:42,644 this is straight from what the creator said. 315 00:11:42,644 --> 00:11:44,884 Okay? Like I said, oh, I didn't say 316 00:11:44,884 --> 00:11:47,044 it. I linked to her TikTok in the 317 00:11:47,044 --> 00:11:49,470 places for anybody who wants to go hear 318 00:11:49,470 --> 00:11:50,389 it from her, 319 00:11:50,830 --> 00:11:51,809 yourself. Okay. 320 00:11:52,589 --> 00:11:54,110 So let's start at the top here of 321 00:11:54,110 --> 00:11:54,610 what, 322 00:11:55,149 --> 00:11:57,809 according to this creator, is princess treatment. 323 00:11:58,350 --> 00:11:59,250 First of all, 324 00:12:00,029 --> 00:12:00,690 it is 325 00:12:01,535 --> 00:12:03,235 completely cisgender heteronormative. 326 00:12:04,014 --> 00:12:06,195 It is the assumption that the man 327 00:12:06,735 --> 00:12:07,235 is 328 00:12:07,615 --> 00:12:10,815 biologically male and the provider and better have 329 00:12:10,815 --> 00:12:12,735 a good job because you better have some 330 00:12:12,735 --> 00:12:14,575 money for some of this. And that the 331 00:12:14,575 --> 00:12:17,190 woman it and everybody's straight. But the woman 332 00:12:17,190 --> 00:12:18,950 is the wife and is the submissive one. 333 00:12:18,950 --> 00:12:19,850 But it is 334 00:12:21,029 --> 00:12:23,129 like, obviously, any of us can, like, 335 00:12:23,669 --> 00:12:25,590 draw color outside the box if we wanted 336 00:12:25,590 --> 00:12:26,889 to. But this is 337 00:12:27,269 --> 00:12:28,090 man provider, 338 00:12:29,065 --> 00:12:31,004 woman submissive wife. Okay? 339 00:12:31,464 --> 00:12:32,125 And then 340 00:12:32,584 --> 00:12:34,504 add some spice in there to this princess 341 00:12:34,504 --> 00:12:35,324 treatment thing. 342 00:12:36,105 --> 00:12:38,424 So from the creator to be treated like 343 00:12:38,424 --> 00:12:39,164 a princess 344 00:12:39,945 --> 00:12:41,725 means to be adored, worshiped, 345 00:12:42,184 --> 00:12:44,730 the focus of your husband's attention. Mhmm. 346 00:12:45,070 --> 00:12:47,070 Their husband, you know, makes their princess feel 347 00:12:47,070 --> 00:12:49,549 loved. The husband is obsessed with her and 348 00:12:49,549 --> 00:12:51,490 wants what's best for her. Okay? 349 00:12:51,870 --> 00:12:53,089 Which basically, 350 00:12:53,870 --> 00:12:56,154 I went, so your husband likes you and 351 00:12:56,154 --> 00:12:57,674 wants to be with you and is happy 352 00:12:57,674 --> 00:13:00,235 to be here? Right. The bar is in 353 00:13:00,235 --> 00:13:00,735 hell. 354 00:13:01,514 --> 00:13:03,455 Yeah. Yeah. The bar is in hell. 355 00:13:03,914 --> 00:13:04,414 Now 356 00:13:04,955 --> 00:13:05,615 the activities 357 00:13:06,955 --> 00:13:08,634 take this with a grain of salt because 358 00:13:08,634 --> 00:13:10,495 as with anything, anybody 359 00:13:10,875 --> 00:13:11,519 can personal 360 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:17,440 kink perspective, but these are the things that 361 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:19,220 came up most often. So 362 00:13:19,920 --> 00:13:21,460 what the husband does 363 00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:24,660 to provide his wife the princess treatment, 364 00:13:25,120 --> 00:13:25,424 cooks, 365 00:13:25,985 --> 00:13:29,024 gives gifts and money, ties their shoes, puts 366 00:13:29,024 --> 00:13:31,745 gas in her car, pays for everything, gives 367 00:13:31,745 --> 00:13:33,605 her flowers, plans everything, 368 00:13:34,304 --> 00:13:35,445 is the provider. 369 00:13:36,144 --> 00:13:37,445 Okay? Top line, 370 00:13:38,144 --> 00:13:39,924 the provider of everything. 371 00:13:41,340 --> 00:13:41,840 Okay. 372 00:13:43,019 --> 00:13:43,840 The princess 373 00:13:44,700 --> 00:13:46,399 doesn't have to ask for things. 374 00:13:46,779 --> 00:13:49,420 Their partner pays attention. This is this one 375 00:13:49,500 --> 00:13:51,580 hear it when I say it. Their partner 376 00:13:51,580 --> 00:13:54,639 just pays attention and knows what they need. 377 00:13:56,934 --> 00:13:57,575 It's like 378 00:13:58,295 --> 00:13:58,795 Yeah. 379 00:14:00,774 --> 00:14:03,175 What? Yes. It is very much from everything 380 00:14:03,175 --> 00:14:03,915 I've gathered 381 00:14:04,855 --> 00:14:05,355 a 382 00:14:05,815 --> 00:14:07,335 and I'll get to these in my notes. 383 00:14:07,335 --> 00:14:09,915 Train your husband to know what you want. 384 00:14:11,549 --> 00:14:13,389 Be be a princess so he knows to 385 00:14:13,389 --> 00:14:14,690 treat you like a princess. 386 00:14:15,149 --> 00:14:18,029 Not once in any of this does this 387 00:14:18,029 --> 00:14:21,169 creator say, sit down and have a conversation 388 00:14:21,470 --> 00:14:22,370 with your husband 389 00:14:23,149 --> 00:14:25,490 to tell him what you want. Right. Right. 390 00:14:25,789 --> 00:14:27,284 So they're doing all doing 391 00:14:28,324 --> 00:14:30,824 all this with the expectation 392 00:14:31,524 --> 00:14:33,184 that their husband or partner will 393 00:14:33,524 --> 00:14:36,804 Yes. Know. Right. Exactly. And just do. And 394 00:14:36,804 --> 00:14:38,105 just do. Because 395 00:14:38,804 --> 00:14:40,745 That's a lot of pressure on somebody. 396 00:14:41,879 --> 00:14:44,279 But yes. I agree completely. But you have 397 00:14:44,279 --> 00:14:46,620 to understand, the people who would do this, 398 00:14:47,480 --> 00:14:49,639 for a for a woman to get princess 399 00:14:49,639 --> 00:14:51,879 treatment in this situation, you need to be 400 00:14:51,879 --> 00:14:54,279 partnered with a, I'm gonna gag when I 401 00:14:54,279 --> 00:14:56,860 say it, high value man. 402 00:14:57,295 --> 00:14:59,855 And then you need to be a high 403 00:14:59,855 --> 00:15:00,835 value woman 404 00:15:01,774 --> 00:15:03,134 in order to get this and to make 405 00:15:03,134 --> 00:15:04,835 this happen and to be a real princess. 406 00:15:06,575 --> 00:15:07,934 There I told you there were parts that 407 00:15:07,934 --> 00:15:10,415 pissed me off. But there's there's stuff that 408 00:15:10,415 --> 00:15:11,235 I do like. 409 00:15:12,269 --> 00:15:14,829 But, yeah. There's some basic elements to this 410 00:15:14,829 --> 00:15:17,629 that Mhmm. It is and I I get 411 00:15:17,629 --> 00:15:19,570 why the Internet is pissed. It is fundamentally 412 00:15:19,789 --> 00:15:20,529 a sexist 413 00:15:21,070 --> 00:15:23,309 thing. Not of this is a choice that 414 00:15:23,309 --> 00:15:25,325 these people are making together. This is a, 415 00:15:25,325 --> 00:15:27,004 you know, it is a choice that the 416 00:15:27,004 --> 00:15:29,404 the wife is making according to the original 417 00:15:29,404 --> 00:15:30,384 creator of this. 418 00:15:30,845 --> 00:15:31,345 But 419 00:15:31,725 --> 00:15:33,904 is it a choice that the husband made? 420 00:15:34,284 --> 00:15:36,684 Who who knows? Who knows? Because we haven't 421 00:15:36,684 --> 00:15:38,865 had a conversation with him yet. 422 00:15:40,950 --> 00:15:44,710 So okay. Yeah. So basically no negotiation, no 423 00:15:44,710 --> 00:15:47,929 commune communicating about any of this. No consent. 424 00:15:48,710 --> 00:15:52,250 No. No. Certainly no explicit consent. I imagine 425 00:15:52,309 --> 00:15:53,909 that if this is the provider husband, because 426 00:15:53,909 --> 00:15:55,815 another part of princess treatment is the princess 427 00:15:55,815 --> 00:15:57,195 lets her husband lead. 428 00:15:58,054 --> 00:15:59,495 Y'all know I don't have a problem with 429 00:15:59,495 --> 00:16:00,475 that kind of dynamic. 430 00:16:01,735 --> 00:16:02,475 The cons 431 00:16:03,335 --> 00:16:05,415 it is not explicit consent. The only thing 432 00:16:05,415 --> 00:16:07,254 I can imagine is if the the husband 433 00:16:07,254 --> 00:16:08,615 does not want to do this, he just 434 00:16:08,615 --> 00:16:11,014 doesn't do it. Mhmm. But then there's strife 435 00:16:11,014 --> 00:16:11,279 within 436 00:16:11,920 --> 00:16:13,379 the relationship because 437 00:16:13,920 --> 00:16:14,980 the wife wants 438 00:16:15,440 --> 00:16:18,740 princess treatment and the husband is not participating. 439 00:16:19,680 --> 00:16:20,820 And in a little 440 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:22,340 kind of the implication 441 00:16:22,879 --> 00:16:25,200 that I gleaned from this is that if 442 00:16:25,200 --> 00:16:27,345 your partner does not want to give you 443 00:16:27,345 --> 00:16:29,524 princess treatment, even though you did not specifically 444 00:16:29,825 --> 00:16:32,065 ask for it and negotiate it and talk 445 00:16:32,065 --> 00:16:34,245 about it, they're probably not a 446 00:16:34,705 --> 00:16:36,004 high value man. 447 00:16:36,705 --> 00:16:38,384 I don't like that term. I don't like 448 00:16:38,384 --> 00:16:40,550 that term. I I don't like that term. 449 00:16:40,550 --> 00:16:42,870 Well, you know, here's I'm I'm listening to 450 00:16:42,870 --> 00:16:45,129 you, you know, talk about all this. 451 00:16:47,350 --> 00:16:50,149 And so many elements of this. Yes. You 452 00:16:50,149 --> 00:16:50,649 know? 453 00:16:51,590 --> 00:16:53,745 Okay. Yeah. That that's in this kind of 454 00:16:53,745 --> 00:16:55,184 dynamic and, you know, you could do this, 455 00:16:55,184 --> 00:16:57,504 you know, the fifties household or something else. 456 00:16:57,504 --> 00:17:00,225 Yes. Absolutely. Okay. There's some parallels. There there 457 00:17:00,225 --> 00:17:01,445 there definitely are 458 00:17:02,705 --> 00:17:03,445 some parallels. 459 00:17:04,065 --> 00:17:04,565 But 460 00:17:07,450 --> 00:17:08,750 I I had a word, 461 00:17:09,210 --> 00:17:10,109 and I cannot 462 00:17:11,049 --> 00:17:13,789 it it's like they're doing this 463 00:17:14,330 --> 00:17:15,070 to exploit. 464 00:17:15,529 --> 00:17:17,049 Exploit it. Mother the word that came to 465 00:17:17,049 --> 00:17:19,289 my mind was manipulative. Yeah. Or manipulative. Yeah. 466 00:17:19,289 --> 00:17:20,910 But yeah. Yes. Absolutely. 467 00:17:21,210 --> 00:17:21,884 If the 468 00:17:22,445 --> 00:17:24,065 if the husband involved 469 00:17:24,924 --> 00:17:26,845 is was not planning on doing this and 470 00:17:26,845 --> 00:17:28,065 does not want this. 471 00:17:30,525 --> 00:17:31,585 The the 472 00:17:32,285 --> 00:17:34,605 the yucky part of this that really does 473 00:17:34,605 --> 00:17:37,269 bother me. The actions themselves don't bother me. 474 00:17:37,269 --> 00:17:39,590 It's the intent behind them. Right? It's it 475 00:17:39,590 --> 00:17:41,750 is supposing that you as a woman have 476 00:17:41,750 --> 00:17:43,190 married a man who wants to be the 477 00:17:43,190 --> 00:17:44,890 provider and this is just 478 00:17:45,350 --> 00:17:46,410 what is done. 479 00:17:46,789 --> 00:17:48,710 It gave off and I'll get into the 480 00:17:48,710 --> 00:17:50,964 men man's role and the woman's role in 481 00:17:50,964 --> 00:17:53,065 a minute, and these notes are lengthy. 482 00:17:53,605 --> 00:17:56,484 But it gave the impression of the one 483 00:17:56,484 --> 00:17:58,884 true way, a true dom does this, a 484 00:17:58,884 --> 00:18:00,184 true sub like, 485 00:18:00,484 --> 00:18:02,970 that correlation was immediately in my head of, 486 00:18:03,130 --> 00:18:04,490 well, this is just what you do if 487 00:18:04,490 --> 00:18:05,150 you are 488 00:18:05,529 --> 00:18:08,169 a high value man. I don't like that 489 00:18:08,169 --> 00:18:11,230 fucking term. Yeah. I don't like that term. 490 00:18:12,970 --> 00:18:14,589 So I put this into 491 00:18:14,980 --> 00:18:16,674 to break it up before we get into 492 00:18:16,674 --> 00:18:18,595 the roles and what is air quote from 493 00:18:18,595 --> 00:18:21,095 according to this creator expected in princess treatment. 494 00:18:21,795 --> 00:18:25,494 Because she specifically made, a video of 495 00:18:26,115 --> 00:18:28,835 princess versus queen. And I saw a lot 496 00:18:28,835 --> 00:18:30,355 in her comments. We were like, I don't 497 00:18:30,355 --> 00:18:32,669 need princess treatment. I'm the queen, you know. 498 00:18:32,669 --> 00:18:34,589 And sort of that, like, motherfucker kind of 499 00:18:34,589 --> 00:18:36,769 attitude. Now here's here's the thought. Mhmm. 500 00:18:37,150 --> 00:18:39,230 And Juliar brought it up in the live 501 00:18:39,230 --> 00:18:40,049 chat. Mhmm. 502 00:18:41,789 --> 00:18:43,549 Shoot. Now I lost we're hang on a 503 00:18:43,549 --> 00:18:44,049 second. 504 00:18:44,349 --> 00:18:45,659 Hang on a second. Hang on a second. 505 00:18:49,744 --> 00:18:50,644 Where'd it go? 506 00:18:51,424 --> 00:18:51,924 Where'd 507 00:18:52,704 --> 00:18:53,204 it 508 00:18:53,984 --> 00:18:54,484 go? 509 00:18:55,264 --> 00:18:56,865 Well, you look. I'll talk about Yeah. Go 510 00:18:56,865 --> 00:18:58,565 ahead. Queen versus princess. So 511 00:18:59,504 --> 00:19:00,544 okay. You go ahead then. Okay. I don't 512 00:19:00,544 --> 00:19:01,605 want you to forget it. 513 00:19:02,369 --> 00:19:03,109 How would 514 00:19:03,970 --> 00:19:05,970 you say in relation to, say, like a 515 00:19:05,970 --> 00:19:06,789 sugar baby? 516 00:19:07,809 --> 00:19:08,470 You know, 517 00:19:08,769 --> 00:19:10,390 that is interesting because 518 00:19:10,690 --> 00:19:13,430 from this creator's perspective Mhmm. She's a housewife. 519 00:19:13,904 --> 00:19:15,125 She has a job, 520 00:19:15,904 --> 00:19:17,585 not a job outside the house. She has 521 00:19:17,585 --> 00:19:18,805 a role to fulfill. 522 00:19:19,265 --> 00:19:21,605 She has things she's doing that are 523 00:19:22,625 --> 00:19:24,945 natural because she's getting the princess treatment and 524 00:19:24,945 --> 00:19:26,305 this is what she's supposed to do if 525 00:19:26,305 --> 00:19:27,664 she's a housewife or a stay at home 526 00:19:27,664 --> 00:19:28,109 mom. 527 00:19:29,150 --> 00:19:30,670 So there's stuff for her to do. So 528 00:19:30,670 --> 00:19:32,190 it's not like a sugar baby who's like, 529 00:19:32,190 --> 00:19:33,349 I'm just gonna be nice to you for 530 00:19:33,349 --> 00:19:34,750 a while, like Okay. No. No. No. No. 531 00:19:34,750 --> 00:19:37,230 No. Yes. I think somebody could make that 532 00:19:37,230 --> 00:19:39,069 comparison. I think it would be fair. But 533 00:19:39,069 --> 00:19:39,569 she 534 00:19:41,035 --> 00:19:43,214 explicitly talks about her role and even 535 00:19:43,674 --> 00:19:45,035 the bit of credit I will give her 536 00:19:45,035 --> 00:19:47,195 was like, your husband who's giving you this 537 00:19:47,195 --> 00:19:49,994 princess treatment better understand that what you're doing 538 00:19:49,994 --> 00:19:51,994 for your household is work and you are 539 00:19:51,994 --> 00:19:54,250 working. Yeah. You know, differently than he is. 540 00:19:54,250 --> 00:19:56,250 Yeah. But it's this because you're working, you 541 00:19:56,250 --> 00:19:57,789 should get this treatment 542 00:19:58,570 --> 00:20:00,650 Mhmm. Because of that? Like, that's the 543 00:20:01,049 --> 00:20:01,549 the 544 00:20:02,250 --> 00:20:02,910 the reciprocation 545 00:20:03,369 --> 00:20:06,424 is not just gratitude and not just, hey, 546 00:20:06,424 --> 00:20:08,505 you know, we're a team doing this. It's 547 00:20:08,505 --> 00:20:10,265 treat me like a princess because I'm taking 548 00:20:10,265 --> 00:20:11,785 care of your house for you. Let me 549 00:20:11,785 --> 00:20:13,625 say again, if you fucking want that, I 550 00:20:13,625 --> 00:20:16,205 think you should get that. Mhmm. But 551 00:20:16,519 --> 00:20:17,960 in all of this, we still haven't had 552 00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:20,139 a conversation with the husband. Right. Right. Right. 553 00:20:20,200 --> 00:20:22,279 Right. The husband has not explicitly agreed to 554 00:20:22,279 --> 00:20:22,779 this. 555 00:20:24,519 --> 00:20:25,019 So 556 00:20:25,319 --> 00:20:27,000 I wanna slide it in because when you 557 00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:28,700 start talking about princess treatment, 558 00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:30,679 somebody's gonna go, nah. I'm not a princess. 559 00:20:30,679 --> 00:20:31,275 I'm a queen. 560 00:20:31,755 --> 00:20:33,914 I I float between the two. So she 561 00:20:33,914 --> 00:20:36,075 made a video about this. This was her 562 00:20:36,075 --> 00:20:37,994 opinion, but this is how she sees princess 563 00:20:37,994 --> 00:20:40,234 treatment and what makes her a princess. A 564 00:20:40,234 --> 00:20:42,315 princess is softer. They need to be taken 565 00:20:42,315 --> 00:20:44,875 care of. They don't make decisions. They are 566 00:20:44,875 --> 00:20:46,859 pampered. They're cared for. I was 567 00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:49,559 like, are you in a caregiver dynamic? Are 568 00:20:49,559 --> 00:20:52,039 you Yeah. Are you the sub and and 569 00:20:52,039 --> 00:20:54,039 that's your daddy dom over there? That's that's 570 00:20:54,039 --> 00:20:56,619 where my mind went because that's my experience. 571 00:20:57,159 --> 00:20:59,319 But, you know, in her mind, being a 572 00:20:59,319 --> 00:21:01,964 princess is it's very it's softer, delicate, 573 00:21:02,744 --> 00:21:05,544 you know. Okay. Yeah. Right? And a queen 574 00:21:05,544 --> 00:21:08,184 is in control and takes charge and makes 575 00:21:08,184 --> 00:21:08,684 decisions. 576 00:21:09,144 --> 00:21:11,644 And if this is your world view, 577 00:21:12,105 --> 00:21:14,904 that differentiation makes total sense to me. Mhmm. 578 00:21:14,904 --> 00:21:16,349 She even said, I think towards the end 579 00:21:16,349 --> 00:21:18,509 of that video, she was like, yeah. Queens 580 00:21:18,509 --> 00:21:20,349 scare me a little bit. They're like they're 581 00:21:20,349 --> 00:21:22,450 like really in charge. And I was 582 00:21:23,630 --> 00:21:24,369 like, okay. 583 00:21:25,390 --> 00:21:27,710 Wow. And it was if I wanna be 584 00:21:27,710 --> 00:21:28,210 like 585 00:21:29,524 --> 00:21:30,804 if I want to look at it with 586 00:21:30,804 --> 00:21:32,565 ill intent, then I'm like, so you're saying 587 00:21:32,565 --> 00:21:33,944 queens can't be soft 588 00:21:34,244 --> 00:21:36,345 and it can't be taken care of? Like, 589 00:21:38,085 --> 00:21:39,144 especially when 590 00:21:40,085 --> 00:21:41,524 in the words being, you know, the way 591 00:21:41,524 --> 00:21:43,524 it's being described, a princess is worshiped. Well, 592 00:21:43,524 --> 00:21:44,904 so are queens, honey. 593 00:21:45,204 --> 00:21:46,539 I mean, mean every kind of queen, but 594 00:21:46,539 --> 00:21:47,740 you know what I mean. Right? Like 595 00:21:48,859 --> 00:21:50,940 so I just for anybody who's like, I'm 596 00:21:50,940 --> 00:21:53,119 not a princess. I'm a queen yet. But 597 00:21:53,740 --> 00:21:56,380 for this purpose, for princess treatment, that's the 598 00:21:56,380 --> 00:21:56,880 difference 599 00:21:57,674 --> 00:21:59,914 in this creator's mind. If this creator did 600 00:21:59,914 --> 00:22:01,515 not have so much influence and hadn't gone 601 00:22:01,515 --> 00:22:04,154 viral to the point every article I tried 602 00:22:04,154 --> 00:22:05,215 to look up about 603 00:22:05,755 --> 00:22:07,295 the princess treatment virality 604 00:22:07,674 --> 00:22:09,535 linked back to her. Right? 605 00:22:09,835 --> 00:22:10,575 That is 606 00:22:11,059 --> 00:22:12,579 even if she's not the only one talking 607 00:22:12,579 --> 00:22:14,819 about it, even if there's 10,000,000 different ways 608 00:22:14,819 --> 00:22:17,059 out there Mhmm. She's the one that's got 609 00:22:17,059 --> 00:22:17,799 the attention 610 00:22:18,500 --> 00:22:19,000 and 611 00:22:19,380 --> 00:22:21,539 and people are going to her now. She's 612 00:22:21,539 --> 00:22:24,819 like ground zero. Right. Right. So she her 613 00:22:24,819 --> 00:22:25,319 influences, 614 00:22:25,700 --> 00:22:27,255 other people could have been talking about it 615 00:22:27,255 --> 00:22:30,215 before in different ways in Mhmm. You know, 616 00:22:30,215 --> 00:22:31,815 in ways that I would be more comfortable 617 00:22:31,815 --> 00:22:33,494 with personally because we would be talking about 618 00:22:33,494 --> 00:22:33,994 consent. 619 00:22:34,455 --> 00:22:35,755 But they didn't capture 620 00:22:36,375 --> 00:22:38,055 the attention. They didn't get the they don't 621 00:22:38,055 --> 00:22:40,609 have the influence currently that this person does. 622 00:22:40,609 --> 00:22:43,889 So what she's defining here is influential for 623 00:22:43,889 --> 00:22:46,049 people who want this kind of lifestyle, which 624 00:22:46,049 --> 00:22:48,210 is where I'm like, I don't care if 625 00:22:48,210 --> 00:22:49,269 you want this lifestyle. 626 00:22:49,889 --> 00:22:52,769 Some elements, I'm like, sign me the fuck 627 00:22:52,769 --> 00:22:53,269 up. 628 00:22:53,934 --> 00:22:55,455 It's not all and not all the fucking 629 00:22:55,455 --> 00:22:56,914 time. But it's 630 00:22:57,375 --> 00:22:59,695 it's the way it's being done. Because Mhmm. 631 00:23:00,015 --> 00:23:01,215 Wait till we get to it. I have 632 00:23:01,215 --> 00:23:02,335 a I think I have a section on 633 00:23:02,335 --> 00:23:04,015 communication. Oh, wait till we get to it. 634 00:23:04,015 --> 00:23:04,515 So 635 00:23:04,815 --> 00:23:06,195 the man's role. 636 00:23:07,150 --> 00:23:08,369 This is the high value 637 00:23:09,230 --> 00:23:09,730 man. 638 00:23:10,509 --> 00:23:11,970 He is the financial provider. 639 00:23:12,589 --> 00:23:15,089 He is this never really 640 00:23:15,869 --> 00:23:18,210 got defined, but he is highly masculine. 641 00:23:19,404 --> 00:23:20,144 I think 642 00:23:21,085 --> 00:23:23,325 in in I'm not the audience for this 643 00:23:23,325 --> 00:23:25,484 person and the prince's treatment as they describe 644 00:23:25,484 --> 00:23:26,945 it. Right? I'm not 645 00:23:27,404 --> 00:23:27,805 I'm 646 00:23:28,205 --> 00:23:30,684 Trad wife content was not made for me. 647 00:23:30,684 --> 00:23:32,220 I am not the intended audience. 648 00:23:32,700 --> 00:23:35,339 So I do not inherently understand what what 649 00:23:35,339 --> 00:23:37,339 is not being said when you just throw 650 00:23:37,339 --> 00:23:39,819 out they're highly masculine, but the audience that 651 00:23:39,819 --> 00:23:40,640 she has captured 652 00:23:41,019 --> 00:23:42,000 seems to understand 653 00:23:42,460 --> 00:23:42,960 what 654 00:23:43,259 --> 00:23:45,179 specifically they mean. My brain don't work that 655 00:23:45,179 --> 00:23:46,859 way. I wanna know specifics, and all you 656 00:23:46,859 --> 00:23:48,654 could kinda get was provider 657 00:23:49,034 --> 00:23:49,534 and 658 00:23:49,914 --> 00:23:52,634 that term I hate and lots of money 659 00:23:52,634 --> 00:23:54,474 and worships the ground you walk on and 660 00:23:54,474 --> 00:23:55,054 I'm like, 661 00:23:55,674 --> 00:23:57,534 but that doesn't tell me anything about 662 00:23:57,835 --> 00:24:00,654 what you mean by masculinity. Now I understand 663 00:24:01,509 --> 00:24:03,130 because I live on the Internet too, 664 00:24:03,670 --> 00:24:04,890 what the manosphere 665 00:24:06,869 --> 00:24:09,829 thinks masculinity is. And I feel like this 666 00:24:09,829 --> 00:24:12,390 is just yet more proof that patriarchy is 667 00:24:12,390 --> 00:24:13,289 bad for everybody 668 00:24:13,750 --> 00:24:15,929 and not just non men. Okay? 669 00:24:16,974 --> 00:24:18,974 So that's the man's role. He is he's 670 00:24:18,974 --> 00:24:21,234 the provider. He's taking care of shit. Okay? 671 00:24:22,095 --> 00:24:23,855 This one threw me the fuck off. There 672 00:24:23,855 --> 00:24:25,454 was a whole video about this. I almost 673 00:24:25,454 --> 00:24:26,674 fell out of my chair. 674 00:24:30,309 --> 00:24:31,509 Because and we'll get to it when we're 675 00:24:31,509 --> 00:24:33,210 talking about the princess role. Okay. 676 00:24:33,990 --> 00:24:34,809 She acknowledges 677 00:24:35,590 --> 00:24:37,590 that what she's doing to take care of 678 00:24:37,590 --> 00:24:40,650 the home is work. Right? Mhmm. And that 679 00:24:40,869 --> 00:24:43,065 her husband does things first so she doesn't 680 00:24:43,065 --> 00:24:45,384 have to do them. Right? So when he 681 00:24:45,384 --> 00:24:48,585 travels for business, man, my snarky brain went, 682 00:24:48,585 --> 00:24:50,265 does he or does he need a break? 683 00:24:50,265 --> 00:24:51,805 But that's just me being a bitch. 684 00:24:52,904 --> 00:24:54,605 Her husband travels for business. 685 00:24:55,250 --> 00:24:55,750 And 686 00:24:56,529 --> 00:24:58,049 when he's away for business, she has to 687 00:24:58,049 --> 00:24:59,409 take care of herself and what she was 688 00:24:59,409 --> 00:25:01,329 already doing. Mhmm. So she apparently got this 689 00:25:01,329 --> 00:25:03,490 idea from a friend, a family member, I 690 00:25:03,490 --> 00:25:04,549 can't remember now, 691 00:25:05,009 --> 00:25:05,329 that, 692 00:25:06,784 --> 00:25:09,024 she needs to let her husband know and 693 00:25:09,024 --> 00:25:10,884 has done and apparently works, 694 00:25:11,345 --> 00:25:12,404 that he should 695 00:25:13,184 --> 00:25:13,684 repay 696 00:25:13,984 --> 00:25:14,484 her 697 00:25:16,304 --> 00:25:18,724 for the extra work she's taking on 698 00:25:19,105 --> 00:25:20,244 while he's gone. 699 00:25:20,704 --> 00:25:22,650 And I had to infer because she didn't 700 00:25:22,650 --> 00:25:24,570 say it explicitly in that particular video that 701 00:25:24,570 --> 00:25:25,930 that extra work is, well, now I have 702 00:25:25,930 --> 00:25:26,890 to tie my own shoes and I have 703 00:25:26,890 --> 00:25:28,250 to get my own water. I'm putting gas 704 00:25:28,250 --> 00:25:29,849 in my car. I'm, like, I'm having to, 705 00:25:29,849 --> 00:25:31,369 like, to do my stuff that you would 706 00:25:31,369 --> 00:25:33,849 normally do for me. So I'm taking on 707 00:25:33,849 --> 00:25:36,585 extra work and that I should when I 708 00:25:36,585 --> 00:25:39,005 say compensated, I do not mean hand you 709 00:25:39,465 --> 00:25:41,625 a a stack of cash. Don't mean that. 710 00:25:41,625 --> 00:25:42,125 Okay. 711 00:25:42,424 --> 00:25:45,305 And she's explicitly said, this is not like 712 00:25:45,305 --> 00:25:46,265 a $10,000 713 00:25:46,265 --> 00:25:47,085 whatever whatever. 714 00:25:47,625 --> 00:25:48,125 But 715 00:25:48,740 --> 00:25:50,980 she's I think sent him a text letting 716 00:25:50,980 --> 00:25:52,820 him know, like, yeah. Yeah. I think this 717 00:25:52,820 --> 00:25:54,420 needs to happen because I've had to put 718 00:25:54,420 --> 00:25:56,100 in all this extra effort while you've been 719 00:25:56,100 --> 00:25:56,600 gone. 720 00:25:57,059 --> 00:25:59,160 And so he brought her a present home. 721 00:26:01,539 --> 00:26:02,759 But the way she 722 00:26:03,505 --> 00:26:04,005 defined 723 00:26:04,704 --> 00:26:05,025 that was 724 00:26:05,664 --> 00:26:07,285 and used the word repayment. 725 00:26:07,984 --> 00:26:10,164 It it sounds more like a 726 00:26:11,424 --> 00:26:12,565 financial arrangement. 727 00:26:13,025 --> 00:26:15,424 Right. You know But it's for luxuries. It's 728 00:26:15,424 --> 00:26:17,670 for goods. Yeah. She got Chanel shoes shoes 729 00:26:17,670 --> 00:26:19,110 that she wanted. She would have bought herself, 730 00:26:19,110 --> 00:26:20,950 but he went and got them for her. 731 00:26:20,950 --> 00:26:23,049 I'd you know what? I'd be curious. Mhmm. 732 00:26:24,070 --> 00:26:25,769 Was she doing this 733 00:26:26,630 --> 00:26:27,529 princess treatment 734 00:26:28,390 --> 00:26:31,134 before they got married? No. She she says 735 00:26:31,134 --> 00:26:31,214 they 736 00:26:32,575 --> 00:26:34,255 I I do not know her journey into 737 00:26:34,255 --> 00:26:35,634 deciding she wanted to 738 00:26:36,015 --> 00:26:38,174 live this life, like, what influenced her. No 739 00:26:38,174 --> 00:26:38,674 idea. 740 00:26:39,055 --> 00:26:41,055 She wanted to be she she worked. She's 741 00:26:41,055 --> 00:26:43,019 a mom. She does, in the videos I 742 00:26:43,019 --> 00:26:44,220 watch, she does not talk about any of 743 00:26:44,220 --> 00:26:45,500 that at all. She did not want to. 744 00:26:45,500 --> 00:26:47,019 She wanted to I guess she wanted to 745 00:26:47,019 --> 00:26:48,779 stay home is the implication, but I don't 746 00:26:48,779 --> 00:26:50,160 know if it was a mutual decision. 747 00:26:50,700 --> 00:26:51,200 But 748 00:26:52,140 --> 00:26:54,400 I guess once she could stay home, 749 00:26:55,420 --> 00:26:57,200 then she could put her energy 750 00:26:57,535 --> 00:26:58,355 into this. 751 00:26:59,134 --> 00:27:02,095 And, you know, she is absolutely reveling in 752 00:27:02,095 --> 00:27:03,555 leaning into her softer 753 00:27:04,255 --> 00:27:06,914 feminine side as she defines femininity. 754 00:27:07,934 --> 00:27:09,694 And again, I don't have a fucking problem 755 00:27:09,694 --> 00:27:11,220 with that either because we all get to 756 00:27:11,700 --> 00:27:14,740 define that for ourselves. Right. But it the 757 00:27:14,740 --> 00:27:15,480 way it's 758 00:27:15,779 --> 00:27:18,099 described is this is what you do in 759 00:27:18,099 --> 00:27:19,240 order to receive 760 00:27:19,779 --> 00:27:22,980 princess treatment. And it's not put in love 761 00:27:22,980 --> 00:27:26,200 and affection, receive good treatment back. Mhmm. It's, 762 00:27:26,515 --> 00:27:27,174 you know, 763 00:27:27,474 --> 00:27:28,994 we'll get to it, but make him feel 764 00:27:28,994 --> 00:27:29,894 like a man. 765 00:27:30,595 --> 00:27:31,875 And then he will treat you like a 766 00:27:31,875 --> 00:27:34,294 princess. And we still, in in that explanation, 767 00:27:34,355 --> 00:27:35,494 haven't had a conversation. 768 00:27:36,355 --> 00:27:38,115 So the thing is is this princess treatment, 769 00:27:38,115 --> 00:27:39,794 I see Taysh, you said, you know, that 770 00:27:39,794 --> 00:27:41,320 it's it could be kink adjacent. 771 00:27:41,779 --> 00:27:43,740 Yes and no. To me, it's more like 772 00:27:43,940 --> 00:27:44,759 I don't know, 773 00:27:45,859 --> 00:27:48,180 chicken or egg here. What came first? Were 774 00:27:48,180 --> 00:27:49,160 kinksters doing 775 00:27:50,099 --> 00:27:52,980 princess treatment? And somebody saw that but went, 776 00:27:52,980 --> 00:27:53,700 let's make it, 777 00:27:54,605 --> 00:27:56,384 sexist. I don't know. 778 00:27:57,565 --> 00:27:59,484 Let's make it misogynist. I mean, I I 779 00:27:59,484 --> 00:28:01,265 truly don't know. Yeah. Or 780 00:28:01,724 --> 00:28:03,904 if we stole some of that and 781 00:28:04,605 --> 00:28:05,984 twisted it to be 782 00:28:06,445 --> 00:28:08,130 consensual and put 783 00:28:08,450 --> 00:28:11,829 hopefully healthy and Mhmm. You know, not this 784 00:28:12,369 --> 00:28:13,829 not this expectation, 785 00:28:14,130 --> 00:28:16,450 not because of what you said you've wanted 786 00:28:16,450 --> 00:28:18,690 or said you would do. This expectation based 787 00:28:18,690 --> 00:28:20,849 on who they are and who you are 788 00:28:20,849 --> 00:28:23,089 and who you were trying to be. And 789 00:28:23,089 --> 00:28:24,424 that's where for 790 00:28:24,764 --> 00:28:25,264 me, 791 00:28:25,605 --> 00:28:27,924 it's definitely a problem. It's not at all 792 00:28:27,924 --> 00:28:31,304 in the activities. Yeah. Okay. So men's role. 793 00:28:31,924 --> 00:28:33,845 Oh, this one. Because she did talk about 794 00:28:33,845 --> 00:28:35,384 dealing with conflict because 795 00:28:35,950 --> 00:28:37,789 a lot of questions came up throughout the 796 00:28:37,789 --> 00:28:39,630 videos of but when I'm angry at them, 797 00:28:39,630 --> 00:28:41,549 how do I stay soft and feminine? So 798 00:28:41,549 --> 00:28:43,170 she gets into some of this and 799 00:28:43,789 --> 00:28:44,769 this comes up. 800 00:28:45,390 --> 00:28:47,789 The man should not nitpick, and that's the 801 00:28:47,789 --> 00:28:50,204 word she used, nitpick or overly criticize their 802 00:28:50,204 --> 00:28:50,704 princess 803 00:28:51,164 --> 00:28:53,585 even in and especially in conflict. 804 00:28:54,125 --> 00:28:55,345 Like, don't be too critical. 805 00:28:55,884 --> 00:28:57,884 Don't don't have too much to say. That's 806 00:28:57,884 --> 00:28:59,964 your special baby princess. They could do no 807 00:28:59,964 --> 00:29:01,244 wrong, so you should treat them like they 808 00:29:01,244 --> 00:29:02,960 can do no wrong. You might be upset 809 00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:04,159 with them and she this is the thing 810 00:29:04,159 --> 00:29:06,000 I appreciate about her. She's like, y'all need 811 00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:06,980 to talk it out. 812 00:29:07,599 --> 00:29:09,940 Talk about your conflicts. Get it out there. 813 00:29:10,079 --> 00:29:12,019 But the man Corner time. 814 00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:16,399 The man should still treat her like a 815 00:29:16,399 --> 00:29:16,724 princess 816 00:29:24,005 --> 00:29:26,025 gentleness. But like, what if you're being the 817 00:29:26,244 --> 00:29:29,044 raging bitch and you're wrong? Like, why is 818 00:29:29,044 --> 00:29:29,544 he 819 00:29:29,845 --> 00:29:32,085 I don't usually take a man's side, especially 820 00:29:32,085 --> 00:29:33,920 a nameless faceless man that I don't fucking 821 00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:35,920 know. I don't usually take their side, but 822 00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:38,980 I'm offended on their behalf right now. 823 00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:40,660 Like, 824 00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:43,619 what? Like, both of you should be 825 00:29:44,079 --> 00:29:46,000 gentle with each other if if you can 826 00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:47,845 be assuming this is a healthy relationship. I 827 00:29:47,845 --> 00:29:49,205 mean, that that's kind of a given in 828 00:29:49,205 --> 00:29:49,705 any 829 00:29:50,404 --> 00:29:52,644 relationship, but, you know Right. Right. It's like 830 00:29:52,644 --> 00:29:54,585 relationship one zero one kinda deal. Yeah. 831 00:29:57,205 --> 00:29:59,125 She says the men's role, we're still in 832 00:29:59,125 --> 00:30:01,259 the men's role. Helping and taking care of 833 00:30:01,259 --> 00:30:03,200 their princess is what makes you masculine 834 00:30:03,660 --> 00:30:04,799 as a man, which 835 00:30:05,580 --> 00:30:08,640 if you want to define your individual masculinity 836 00:30:08,779 --> 00:30:10,380 that way, I'm saying go for it. Cool. 837 00:30:10,380 --> 00:30:10,880 Cool. 838 00:30:11,340 --> 00:30:13,039 Cool. But we're not gonna prescribe 839 00:30:13,420 --> 00:30:14,880 to the rest of society 840 00:30:15,835 --> 00:30:18,394 what is masculine. Like, art? I mean, we 841 00:30:18,394 --> 00:30:19,855 are clearly, but we shouldn't. 842 00:30:20,794 --> 00:30:22,634 They do say part of it is that 843 00:30:22,634 --> 00:30:25,194 men, air quote this, naturally, want to provide 844 00:30:25,194 --> 00:30:26,554 and take care of women, and they should 845 00:30:26,554 --> 00:30:28,894 be allowed to do so emotionally, mentally, physically. 846 00:30:29,194 --> 00:30:31,240 And in return, now I had to kinda 847 00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:33,259 correlate these things based on different things that 848 00:30:33,319 --> 00:30:35,240 in return, they get an ego boost to 849 00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:37,160 make them feel good about themselves by letting 850 00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:38,619 them do that for you. 851 00:30:40,359 --> 00:30:42,759 Here's the thing. I I have no doubt 852 00:30:42,759 --> 00:30:44,875 there are men who absolutely get the ego 853 00:30:44,875 --> 00:30:46,974 boost, and they do feel masculine 854 00:30:47,434 --> 00:30:48,575 in doing that. 855 00:30:48,954 --> 00:30:49,695 But, again, 856 00:30:50,714 --> 00:30:53,055 why are we just, like, doing a blanket 857 00:30:53,195 --> 00:30:55,035 statement for what it means to be a 858 00:30:55,035 --> 00:30:56,335 masculine man? 859 00:30:57,750 --> 00:30:58,250 Like, 860 00:30:58,869 --> 00:31:01,130 what? And and, you know okay. 861 00:31:02,309 --> 00:31:05,130 An ego boost is great. Sure. Okay. 862 00:31:05,430 --> 00:31:05,930 But, 863 00:31:06,549 --> 00:31:08,470 you know, to me, it sounds something like 864 00:31:08,470 --> 00:31:10,230 a little bit what we we've talked about 865 00:31:10,230 --> 00:31:12,309 in the past. You know, that well running 866 00:31:12,309 --> 00:31:12,809 dry. 867 00:31:13,384 --> 00:31:14,765 Oh, yeah. For sure. 868 00:31:15,144 --> 00:31:16,445 For sure. I mean, 869 00:31:16,904 --> 00:31:18,985 is he getting what he needs? I don't 870 00:31:19,225 --> 00:31:21,305 y'all, I don't usually stick up for cishet 871 00:31:21,305 --> 00:31:21,805 men. 872 00:31:22,265 --> 00:31:22,505 Not 873 00:31:23,545 --> 00:31:24,684 but yeah. It's 874 00:31:25,225 --> 00:31:27,305 what is he getting in return? Mhmm. And 875 00:31:27,305 --> 00:31:28,825 if he's getting what he needs and wants, 876 00:31:28,825 --> 00:31:31,369 again, cool. I think this can work for 877 00:31:31,369 --> 00:31:33,309 some people. It's just too 878 00:31:33,769 --> 00:31:35,529 there's it's too much of a blanket statement 879 00:31:35,529 --> 00:31:37,369 about everything. Yeah. Which is why I said 880 00:31:37,369 --> 00:31:39,130 before it was giving this is what a 881 00:31:39,130 --> 00:31:40,730 true dom does. This is what a true 882 00:31:40,730 --> 00:31:42,750 sub does. This is the one true way. 883 00:31:42,970 --> 00:31:43,454 Yeah. 884 00:31:44,414 --> 00:31:46,894 Now, princess role. There is a lot a 885 00:31:46,894 --> 00:31:49,534 princess is expected to do and be. And 886 00:31:49,534 --> 00:31:50,194 this is, it's 887 00:31:50,654 --> 00:31:52,734 weirdly where I got probably a little bit 888 00:31:52,734 --> 00:31:53,554 more annoyed. 889 00:31:54,095 --> 00:31:54,835 Oh, boy. 890 00:31:55,855 --> 00:31:57,670 Because man man is a princess who's being 891 00:31:57,670 --> 00:31:58,870 taken care of. You got a lot of 892 00:31:58,870 --> 00:32:00,630 fucking work to do and you better have 893 00:32:00,630 --> 00:32:02,410 the money, the skills, 894 00:32:02,870 --> 00:32:04,410 the access, the privilege 895 00:32:04,870 --> 00:32:06,650 to be able to do it all. Okay. 896 00:32:06,870 --> 00:32:07,370 So, 897 00:32:08,230 --> 00:32:09,130 to be a princess 898 00:32:09,944 --> 00:32:11,404 is to be soft and feminine 899 00:32:11,865 --> 00:32:12,365 always 900 00:32:12,825 --> 00:32:14,904 in everything. Now she I this is what 901 00:32:14,904 --> 00:32:16,505 I like about this creator. She said Mhmm. 902 00:32:16,585 --> 00:32:18,585 It's a it's a learned skill. You have 903 00:32:18,585 --> 00:32:19,865 to practice it. You won't always get it 904 00:32:19,865 --> 00:32:21,464 right. Like, there were things she said. I 905 00:32:21,464 --> 00:32:22,309 was like, goddamn 906 00:32:22,769 --> 00:32:24,690 I could be on your side, and it's 907 00:32:24,690 --> 00:32:25,889 why I wanted to go to the source 908 00:32:25,889 --> 00:32:27,409 and not what people were saying she was 909 00:32:27,409 --> 00:32:29,490 saying. Because she was like, these things only 910 00:32:29,490 --> 00:32:32,029 really work in a loving, healthy relationship. You 911 00:32:32,130 --> 00:32:32,630 know, 912 00:32:33,569 --> 00:32:34,994 you need to keep the lines of you 913 00:32:34,994 --> 00:32:36,394 know, you need to talk about these things. 914 00:32:36,394 --> 00:32:38,474 You don't wanna, like, fly off the handle, 915 00:32:38,474 --> 00:32:41,295 but but but then there's this okay. 916 00:32:41,914 --> 00:32:44,015 So be soft and feminine always 917 00:32:45,115 --> 00:32:46,095 and be a 918 00:32:46,555 --> 00:32:47,615 high value woman. 919 00:32:47,914 --> 00:32:49,134 I don't like that term. 920 00:32:49,679 --> 00:32:52,419 Now this is not this next one 921 00:32:52,799 --> 00:32:54,799 is not how it was worded, but I 922 00:32:54,799 --> 00:32:57,220 know what things mean. And so I'm translating. 923 00:32:57,519 --> 00:32:58,500 Okay. Essentially, 924 00:33:00,159 --> 00:33:02,159 she's saying I'll tell you what she said, 925 00:33:02,159 --> 00:33:03,299 but this is how I 926 00:33:03,875 --> 00:33:05,974 deciphered it. Mhmm. You as the princess, 927 00:33:06,434 --> 00:33:09,394 especially in conflict, you need to emotionally regulate 928 00:33:09,394 --> 00:33:11,394 yourself so that you can speak and say 929 00:33:11,394 --> 00:33:13,075 what you need to in a kind soft 930 00:33:13,075 --> 00:33:13,575 way. 931 00:33:14,034 --> 00:33:15,554 And if you can't be kind and soft, 932 00:33:15,554 --> 00:33:16,994 take a breather, come back when you can 933 00:33:16,994 --> 00:33:17,609 be calm. 934 00:33:18,089 --> 00:33:20,349 But you make sure that you are calm 935 00:33:21,450 --> 00:33:22,910 so that your husband 936 00:33:23,450 --> 00:33:24,509 will stay calm. 937 00:33:25,369 --> 00:33:27,369 I was like, is he your child? I 938 00:33:27,369 --> 00:33:29,450 I did that with the the chill the 939 00:33:29,450 --> 00:33:30,589 children, you see. 940 00:33:31,289 --> 00:33:32,349 I stayed calm 941 00:33:32,785 --> 00:33:34,704 because I knew that would keep them calm. 942 00:33:34,704 --> 00:33:36,884 Mhmm. Now do I am I 943 00:33:37,424 --> 00:33:39,025 a rational human being who knows if I 944 00:33:39,025 --> 00:33:40,244 don't fly off the handle, 945 00:33:40,785 --> 00:33:42,384 you are less likely to fly off the 946 00:33:42,384 --> 00:33:44,384 handle? Yes. That is true. But that is 947 00:33:44,384 --> 00:33:46,164 not how that was talked about. 948 00:33:46,940 --> 00:33:48,779 That is not how it was described. Okay. 949 00:33:48,779 --> 00:33:50,220 She was like and this is what she 950 00:33:50,220 --> 00:33:51,200 said that I appreciate. 951 00:33:51,660 --> 00:33:53,920 When you're in conflict, they pissed you off. 952 00:33:54,299 --> 00:33:56,299 Mhmm. They're mad at you. Whatever. Sort of 953 00:33:56,299 --> 00:33:58,059 the implication mean they shouldn't be mad at 954 00:33:58,059 --> 00:33:59,414 you. You're the princess. But 955 00:33:59,975 --> 00:34:02,134 when somebody is upset between the two of 956 00:34:02,134 --> 00:34:03,994 you, she was like, you as the princess, 957 00:34:04,695 --> 00:34:06,855 figure out what you need to say so 958 00:34:06,855 --> 00:34:08,614 that you feel like you have said everything 959 00:34:08,614 --> 00:34:10,855 on your mind. And then once you've done 960 00:34:10,855 --> 00:34:12,394 that, you need to be unbothered. 961 00:34:12,900 --> 00:34:14,900 That's why I said emotionally regulate. You need 962 00:34:14,900 --> 00:34:17,079 to be unbothered. You don't need to be 963 00:34:18,260 --> 00:34:21,319 really upset or, you know, his hysterical. 964 00:34:21,619 --> 00:34:23,940 Not being hysterical got used a lot in 965 00:34:23,940 --> 00:34:24,599 these videos. 966 00:34:26,525 --> 00:34:27,025 And 967 00:34:27,485 --> 00:34:29,905 and by doing that, by being unbothered, 968 00:34:31,085 --> 00:34:34,125 he will be calm as a result. And 969 00:34:34,125 --> 00:34:34,785 I'm like, 970 00:34:35,244 --> 00:34:35,744 yes. 971 00:34:36,125 --> 00:34:37,805 If you stay calm, it is easier for 972 00:34:37,805 --> 00:34:39,485 the other person to stay calm. But when 973 00:34:39,485 --> 00:34:41,449 is it his responsibility to learn how to 974 00:34:41,449 --> 00:34:42,909 emotionally regulate himself 975 00:34:43,289 --> 00:34:45,469 and stay calm on his own long term? 976 00:34:47,449 --> 00:34:49,769 Mhmm. What? So, yes. Basically, emotionally 977 00:34:50,250 --> 00:34:52,614 princesses emotionally regulate yourself so your man will 978 00:34:52,614 --> 00:34:55,815 stay calm and don't get hysterical over something. 979 00:34:55,815 --> 00:34:56,635 I was like 980 00:34:58,375 --> 00:34:59,434 okay. Because 981 00:35:00,135 --> 00:35:02,615 and there were several videos about conflict. Because 982 00:35:02,615 --> 00:35:04,135 it was like, how do I stay soft 983 00:35:04,135 --> 00:35:06,155 while I'm mad at him? And I'm like, 984 00:35:06,909 --> 00:35:09,789 sometimes you just fucking don't. Sometimes you're not 985 00:35:09,789 --> 00:35:11,710 mean, you're not cruel, but you just say 986 00:35:11,710 --> 00:35:13,010 the fucking thing. 987 00:35:13,630 --> 00:35:15,949 And we assume he is a big boy 988 00:35:15,949 --> 00:35:17,949 and has got his big boy panties on 989 00:35:17,949 --> 00:35:20,510 and can handle you saying the thing. And 990 00:35:20,510 --> 00:35:22,875 you don't have to, like, twist yourself in 991 00:35:22,875 --> 00:35:24,815 the knots to say it in the princess 992 00:35:25,114 --> 00:35:27,275 way. And I say that as somebody who 993 00:35:27,275 --> 00:35:29,614 absolutely understands that in power exchange dynamics, 994 00:35:29,914 --> 00:35:30,974 you can negotiate 995 00:35:31,275 --> 00:35:32,875 to the best of your ability. How you're 996 00:35:32,875 --> 00:35:35,035 gonna try and approach one another even in 997 00:35:35,035 --> 00:35:35,535 conflict. 998 00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:37,780 But we are human? 999 00:35:38,559 --> 00:35:41,519 Yeah. Yeah. And sometimes a thing sounds great 1000 00:35:41,519 --> 00:35:42,880 in theory, but then you try to put 1001 00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:43,860 that, like 1002 00:35:46,239 --> 00:35:46,739 okay. 1003 00:35:47,519 --> 00:35:49,619 Now this one this one. Oh, 1004 00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:52,454 yes and no at the same time. Feed 1005 00:35:52,454 --> 00:35:54,695 into your husband's ego to make him feel 1006 00:35:54,695 --> 00:35:55,195 good. 1007 00:35:56,614 --> 00:35:58,954 Now parts of how this was explained were, 1008 00:35:59,095 --> 00:36:00,375 you know, let him know he's doing a 1009 00:36:00,375 --> 00:36:01,114 good job, 1010 00:36:02,295 --> 00:36:03,994 show gratitude, and give praise. 1011 00:36:04,855 --> 00:36:06,235 But it was never 1012 00:36:07,989 --> 00:36:10,469 expressed as do it because that's what you 1013 00:36:10,469 --> 00:36:11,829 should do because he is working hard for 1014 00:36:11,829 --> 00:36:14,469 you. Mhmm. It was he'll feel good about 1015 00:36:14,469 --> 00:36:16,150 himself and then he'll be more likely to 1016 00:36:16,150 --> 00:36:18,090 treat you like the princess that you are. 1017 00:36:19,670 --> 00:36:21,349 So we're not telling him thanks for being 1018 00:36:21,349 --> 00:36:23,785 the provider because that that's a type of 1019 00:36:23,785 --> 00:36:25,545 work, and we're grateful that you did it 1020 00:36:25,545 --> 00:36:26,204 for us. 1021 00:36:26,585 --> 00:36:28,285 But if we stroke your ego, 1022 00:36:29,065 --> 00:36:30,364 you'll treat us like a princess. 1023 00:36:32,985 --> 00:36:33,485 Yeah. 1024 00:36:33,864 --> 00:36:34,844 Wow. Yeah. 1025 00:36:35,465 --> 00:36:35,945 I'm the 1026 00:36:37,039 --> 00:36:37,539 Yep. 1027 00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:40,900 Dress feminine. Now I did get 1028 00:36:41,599 --> 00:36:44,559 some definition here. Okay. Okay? Alright. It's not 1029 00:36:44,559 --> 00:36:47,039 satisfying. It is truly where I started going, 1030 00:36:47,039 --> 00:36:48,099 I don't like this. 1031 00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:49,380 To dress feminine, 1032 00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:52,579 wear high quality materials 1033 00:36:53,154 --> 00:36:54,835 doesn't have to she said it doesn't have 1034 00:36:54,835 --> 00:36:56,134 to be wool or cashmere. 1035 00:36:56,594 --> 00:36:58,275 It just shouldn't look like you're wearing a 1036 00:36:58,275 --> 00:36:59,494 wrestler's uniform. 1037 00:36:59,795 --> 00:37:01,335 Well, that shiny spandex. 1038 00:37:02,835 --> 00:37:05,474 The privilege was showing so fucking deep. But 1039 00:37:05,474 --> 00:37:07,795 you know what? You know what? If you 1040 00:37:08,639 --> 00:37:10,079 if at least one of y'all is making 1041 00:37:10,079 --> 00:37:12,319 enough money where you can have Chanel ballet 1042 00:37:12,319 --> 00:37:13,380 flats as a present 1043 00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:15,519 and, you know, one of you can stay 1044 00:37:15,519 --> 00:37:17,839 home and live this life of luxury, clearly, 1045 00:37:17,839 --> 00:37:18,819 you have privilege. 1046 00:37:19,679 --> 00:37:22,480 But again, she's not giving that caveat. She's 1047 00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:23,679 not saying you're gonna need a whole hell 1048 00:37:23,679 --> 00:37:25,014 of a lot of money to do this. 1049 00:37:25,014 --> 00:37:26,375 She's saying, to be feminine, don't do these 1050 00:37:26,375 --> 00:37:26,875 things. 1051 00:37:27,175 --> 00:37:27,675 So, 1052 00:37:29,175 --> 00:37:32,375 high quality materials, no cheap looking clothing regardless 1053 00:37:32,375 --> 00:37:33,034 of material, 1054 00:37:33,574 --> 00:37:34,649 no unnatural colors, and no sequins. I was 1055 00:37:34,649 --> 00:37:34,934 like, well, clearly, I'm fucking out. But okay. 1056 00:37:34,934 --> 00:37:35,434 Okay. 1057 00:37:35,909 --> 00:37:36,409 Fucking 1058 00:37:38,389 --> 00:37:41,130 out. But okay. Okay. This is her definition. 1059 00:37:42,309 --> 00:37:44,150 She thinks that you can show skin, but 1060 00:37:44,150 --> 00:37:45,829 not too much. She literally said find the 1061 00:37:45,829 --> 00:37:47,670 balance. And her examples were, if I show 1062 00:37:47,670 --> 00:37:49,429 my arms and my shoulders, my dress will 1063 00:37:49,429 --> 00:37:51,114 be a little bit longer over my legs. 1064 00:37:51,114 --> 00:37:52,795 If I show my back, it will not 1065 00:37:52,795 --> 00:37:54,235 be low cut in the front. It's a 1066 00:37:54,235 --> 00:37:56,335 balance. It's about being a lady. 1067 00:37:57,675 --> 00:37:59,135 Yeah. Okay. Sorry. 1068 00:37:59,595 --> 00:38:01,355 I'm so sorry for anybody who's got, like, 1069 00:38:01,355 --> 00:38:01,855 a, 1070 00:38:02,715 --> 00:38:04,660 the sound thing and I keep gagging into 1071 00:38:04,660 --> 00:38:05,400 the microphone. 1072 00:38:06,099 --> 00:38:07,780 But for as much as I was like, 1073 00:38:07,780 --> 00:38:09,539 this has the potential to be like a 1074 00:38:09,539 --> 00:38:11,380 really cool dynamic if somebody would just fucking 1075 00:38:11,380 --> 00:38:13,619 negotiate it. Right. It's this part where I 1076 00:38:13,619 --> 00:38:15,079 was like, I don't like it. 1077 00:38:15,619 --> 00:38:17,699 Have a signature look. Figure out your signature 1078 00:38:17,699 --> 00:38:20,195 look. And, you know, as somebody who's, like, 1079 00:38:20,195 --> 00:38:22,114 wishes she had a sense of fashion, I 1080 00:38:22,114 --> 00:38:24,275 don't think that's necessarily bad advice. But if 1081 00:38:24,275 --> 00:38:26,355 you've also said, don't use anything that I 1082 00:38:26,355 --> 00:38:29,474 think is yucky and ugly and unfeminine, but 1083 00:38:29,474 --> 00:38:31,255 make it find your signature look. 1084 00:38:31,710 --> 00:38:32,210 Yeah. 1085 00:38:32,670 --> 00:38:33,869 What? Right. Yeah. 1086 00:38:34,429 --> 00:38:36,590 So that's that's how you dress feminine. Those 1087 00:38:36,590 --> 00:38:38,369 are the definitions. Okay. Now, 1088 00:38:39,230 --> 00:38:40,849 because it came up so often, 1089 00:38:41,869 --> 00:38:43,489 I should have noticed the irony 1090 00:38:43,875 --> 00:38:46,835 that multiple videos were about, I'm mad at 1091 00:38:46,835 --> 00:38:48,614 him. How do I stay soft? 1092 00:38:52,195 --> 00:38:54,195 She had some advice for that too. This 1093 00:38:54,195 --> 00:38:56,514 is compiled over a few videos. So no 1094 00:38:56,514 --> 00:38:58,835 yelling. To stay soft and feminine in conflict, 1095 00:38:58,835 --> 00:38:59,340 no yelling. 1096 00:39:00,219 --> 00:39:01,680 No masculine energy, 1097 00:39:02,140 --> 00:39:04,640 which was very poorly defined, but yelling, 1098 00:39:05,579 --> 00:39:06,640 sharp tone, 1099 00:39:07,260 --> 00:39:07,760 sarcasm, 1100 00:39:10,219 --> 00:39:12,400 those kinds of things. I think I think 1101 00:39:13,244 --> 00:39:14,704 fall under masculine energy. 1102 00:39:15,885 --> 00:39:18,844 Don't play games within your anger, which I 1103 00:39:18,844 --> 00:39:21,404 think that's good advice for everybody. Yeah. Again, 1104 00:39:21,404 --> 00:39:23,244 that's something that's kind of, you know. It's 1105 00:39:23,244 --> 00:39:24,525 sort of like say what the fuck you 1106 00:39:24,525 --> 00:39:26,364 mean and mean what you say and don't 1107 00:39:26,444 --> 00:39:28,364 right. Don't fuck with each other just because 1108 00:39:28,364 --> 00:39:31,030 you're mad. Right? And this one never got, 1109 00:39:32,150 --> 00:39:33,909 defined. So I I'm go back to maybe 1110 00:39:33,909 --> 00:39:36,010 the intended audience has an understanding. 1111 00:39:36,389 --> 00:39:37,289 Don't be hysterical, 1112 00:39:38,389 --> 00:39:40,150 which I think I what I took from 1113 00:39:40,150 --> 00:39:42,123 that is don't be shrieky, don't be shrewish. 1114 00:39:42,123 --> 00:39:44,360 Mhmm. Don't be screaming your head off. Don't 1115 00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:46,877 be no histrionics, no over the top whatever 1116 00:39:46,877 --> 00:39:49,114 whatever. Now, if you if you are in 1117 00:39:49,114 --> 00:39:51,352 a relationship where that is how y'all are 1118 00:39:51,352 --> 00:39:53,390 typically in conflict, I would say, I I 1119 00:39:53,390 --> 00:39:54,829 mean, I don't I think there's a problem 1120 00:39:54,829 --> 00:39:56,210 with the relationship somewhere. 1121 00:39:57,630 --> 00:40:00,610 Just in general, like, it shouldn't every argument 1122 00:40:00,670 --> 00:40:03,150 should not probably devolve into that. But to 1123 00:40:03,150 --> 00:40:04,590 say that you were somehow no longer a 1124 00:40:04,590 --> 00:40:06,610 princess and you're not being soft enough, 1125 00:40:06,989 --> 00:40:07,489 if 1126 00:40:07,985 --> 00:40:10,224 you come out strong and hard when you're 1127 00:40:10,224 --> 00:40:12,545 when you're upset about something. Mhmm. Because it 1128 00:40:12,545 --> 00:40:14,864 did not there was no, hey. If he's 1129 00:40:14,864 --> 00:40:15,925 genuinely wrong, 1130 00:40:16,545 --> 00:40:18,144 this you know, you might have a bigger 1131 00:40:18,144 --> 00:40:20,465 response versus, oh, you wanna be right, but 1132 00:40:20,465 --> 00:40:22,489 you kind of realizing. There was none of 1133 00:40:22,489 --> 00:40:24,809 that differentiation. It was like no matter the 1134 00:40:24,809 --> 00:40:26,409 conflict. So you're gonna tell me if this 1135 00:40:26,409 --> 00:40:28,570 motherfucker cheats on me, has three babies I 1136 00:40:28,570 --> 00:40:30,489 didn't know about, and two families in another 1137 00:40:30,489 --> 00:40:32,750 state, I should say soft 1138 00:40:33,210 --> 00:40:34,909 and calm in that? 1139 00:40:35,214 --> 00:40:35,714 Yes. 1140 00:40:36,255 --> 00:40:36,755 Apparently. 1141 00:40:41,375 --> 00:40:41,454 Apparently. 1142 00:40:42,175 --> 00:40:44,175 She and this is a a thing that 1143 00:40:44,175 --> 00:40:44,914 I appreciated 1144 00:40:46,175 --> 00:40:47,694 as an individual thing and she did say 1145 00:40:47,694 --> 00:40:49,775 it multiple times. Say your peace when you're 1146 00:40:49,775 --> 00:40:51,599 in conflict, say your peace and then let 1147 00:40:51,599 --> 00:40:53,119 it go and be unbothered. The only thing 1148 00:40:53,119 --> 00:40:54,500 I didn't like was the let it 1149 00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:57,759 go because it was not a you cannot 1150 00:40:57,759 --> 00:40:59,519 change him. He's gonna have the response he 1151 00:40:59,519 --> 00:41:01,119 has and then you're gonna hold a boundary 1152 00:41:01,119 --> 00:41:02,639 if you need it. It's you're gonna let 1153 00:41:02,639 --> 00:41:04,659 it go so you're not harping on it 1154 00:41:05,224 --> 00:41:06,204 And so then 1155 00:41:07,065 --> 00:41:09,144 we go back to you can emotionally regulate 1156 00:41:09,144 --> 00:41:11,385 your own husband because apparently he doesn't have 1157 00:41:11,385 --> 00:41:12,765 to do it on his own self. 1158 00:41:13,385 --> 00:41:16,344 I mean, that's not said directly but that 1159 00:41:16,344 --> 00:41:17,244 is the implication. 1160 00:41:17,900 --> 00:41:19,739 You're gonna be unbothered so you can kind 1161 00:41:19,739 --> 00:41:21,500 of be his peace and be calm. And 1162 00:41:21,500 --> 00:41:23,019 so he will be calm as a result 1163 00:41:23,019 --> 00:41:24,239 of you being calm. 1164 00:41:26,860 --> 00:41:29,739 Yes. That does happen that way. Mhmm. But 1165 00:41:29,739 --> 00:41:32,719 if But that comes a point. Every argument, 1166 00:41:32,860 --> 00:41:34,815 I'm keeping your ass calm, but you don't 1167 00:41:34,815 --> 00:41:36,335 have to keep my ass calm. Right. Like, 1168 00:41:36,335 --> 00:41:38,335 what are we doing here? And when did 1169 00:41:38,335 --> 00:41:40,175 you become my toddler that I was trying 1170 00:41:40,175 --> 00:41:41,695 to raise? That that is a that's a 1171 00:41:41,855 --> 00:41:44,014 yeah. That's no. No. I don't like that 1172 00:41:44,014 --> 00:41:45,554 either. Okay. No. No. No. 1173 00:41:46,335 --> 00:41:48,289 As a princess, you avoid sarcasm, 1174 00:41:49,070 --> 00:41:51,710 loud laughter. I I knew immediately I was 1175 00:41:51,710 --> 00:41:52,210 out. 1176 00:41:52,750 --> 00:41:55,309 And other air quote, non soft traits that 1177 00:41:55,309 --> 00:41:58,910 will now get this, embarrass your husband. Oh 1178 00:41:58,910 --> 00:41:59,730 my god. 1179 00:42:02,054 --> 00:42:03,655 Which here's the thing. If you have to 1180 00:42:03,655 --> 00:42:05,574 worry that you're embarrassing your partner, they're probably 1181 00:42:05,574 --> 00:42:07,175 not the right partner for you. I mean, 1182 00:42:07,175 --> 00:42:09,014 I guess you could be acting a damn 1183 00:42:09,014 --> 00:42:11,255 fool and they are legitimately embarrassed. That's one 1184 00:42:11,255 --> 00:42:13,275 thing. But if me have like, 1185 00:42:13,590 --> 00:42:16,150 having a loud laugh made my partner who 1186 00:42:16,150 --> 00:42:18,230 I've married and has said they're gonna provide 1187 00:42:18,230 --> 00:42:19,349 for me and treat me like a princess 1188 00:42:19,349 --> 00:42:21,030 made them cringe but they're also supposed to 1189 00:42:21,030 --> 00:42:22,630 be obsessed with me. Mhmm. Like that's the 1190 00:42:22,630 --> 00:42:24,230 thing. The man is supposed to be obsessed 1191 00:42:24,230 --> 00:42:26,070 with can't can't stop thinking about can't get 1192 00:42:26,070 --> 00:42:27,530 enough of his princess. 1193 00:42:28,925 --> 00:42:31,244 But I'm I can't have my natural laugh. 1194 00:42:31,244 --> 00:42:33,244 I can't have a witty like, you're supposed 1195 00:42:33,244 --> 00:42:36,364 to be this demure, docile woman, which is 1196 00:42:36,364 --> 00:42:38,605 why, of course, people get pissed off about 1197 00:42:38,605 --> 00:42:41,105 this princess treatment thing, and it is closely 1198 00:42:41,244 --> 00:42:42,864 associated with trad wives. 1199 00:42:46,739 --> 00:42:48,280 And yes, it is problematic. 1200 00:42:48,820 --> 00:42:50,420 I'm just saying. I wouldn't mind if somebody 1201 00:42:50,420 --> 00:42:51,700 tied my shoes every once in a while. 1202 00:42:51,700 --> 00:42:53,960 Give me the snark. Give me the sassie. 1203 00:42:55,220 --> 00:42:56,200 I get it. Okay. 1204 00:42:57,425 --> 00:42:59,605 You are supposed to be well mannered 1205 00:42:59,985 --> 00:43:01,605 and understand etiquette. 1206 00:43:02,065 --> 00:43:04,144 This was clearly another one of those, 1207 00:43:04,625 --> 00:43:06,485 if you're on the in group, you understand 1208 00:43:06,864 --> 00:43:08,625 exactly what she means by that. I'm not 1209 00:43:08,625 --> 00:43:10,349 in the in group. I understand the term 1210 00:43:10,349 --> 00:43:12,269 etiquette, but it's like Yeah. I immediately go 1211 00:43:12,269 --> 00:43:14,210 to, but what whose etiquette? Like, 1212 00:43:14,590 --> 00:43:15,410 miss Yeah. Yeah. 1213 00:43:16,750 --> 00:43:18,530 Internet edit? Like High protocol. 1214 00:43:19,309 --> 00:43:22,530 Thank you. Yeah. Like, who's who's standard? 1215 00:43:22,989 --> 00:43:23,489 So 1216 00:43:24,065 --> 00:43:26,144 I I do fall back on the I 1217 00:43:26,144 --> 00:43:28,545 am not the intended audience. And just like 1218 00:43:28,545 --> 00:43:30,305 in kink where we kind of all speak 1219 00:43:30,305 --> 00:43:32,224 a language, a a non kink person might 1220 00:43:32,224 --> 00:43:34,085 not know what the fuck we're talking about. 1221 00:43:34,305 --> 00:43:36,704 This is a situation where the intended audience 1222 00:43:36,704 --> 00:43:38,885 who wants this will have an understanding, 1223 00:43:39,539 --> 00:43:41,960 hopefully, of what the hell she means. But 1224 00:43:42,660 --> 00:43:45,719 Yeah. Lay people like myself who are clearly 1225 00:43:45,780 --> 00:43:47,079 not soft and feminine, 1226 00:43:48,980 --> 00:43:50,199 we would not get it. 1227 00:43:50,500 --> 00:43:51,559 Okay. Now 1228 00:43:52,324 --> 00:43:54,005 this is where I stopped being kind of 1229 00:43:54,005 --> 00:43:55,385 annoyed again because 1230 00:43:56,565 --> 00:43:58,105 communication is encouraged. 1231 00:43:58,644 --> 00:44:00,984 She acknowledges if you want something's 1232 00:44:01,444 --> 00:44:03,989 a specific experience or even a specific gift 1233 00:44:04,230 --> 00:44:06,889 from your husband, you have to communicate that. 1234 00:44:06,949 --> 00:44:09,030 And she shared a tip that I was 1235 00:44:09,030 --> 00:44:09,530 like, 1236 00:44:10,389 --> 00:44:11,849 oh, shit. Okay. 1237 00:44:12,630 --> 00:44:14,309 She did this for Valentine's Day. This is 1238 00:44:14,309 --> 00:44:15,590 how she got the type of she got 1239 00:44:15,590 --> 00:44:17,385 the vibe on Valentine's that she wanted. She 1240 00:44:17,385 --> 00:44:19,385 wanted a specific vibe. She wanted flowers. She'd 1241 00:44:19,385 --> 00:44:21,465 like a gift. She did not Mhmm. Say 1242 00:44:21,465 --> 00:44:23,224 what, and she wanted to feel like a 1243 00:44:23,224 --> 00:44:23,724 princess. 1244 00:44:24,184 --> 00:44:25,244 K. Cool. 1245 00:44:26,265 --> 00:44:28,905 This was cool, though. She created a mood 1246 00:44:28,905 --> 00:44:29,405 board, 1247 00:44:30,025 --> 00:44:31,784 sent it to him via text. This was 1248 00:44:31,784 --> 00:44:33,300 not the first time he was used to 1249 00:44:33,300 --> 00:44:34,200 this. Okay? 1250 00:44:35,059 --> 00:44:36,820 So once he got it, he was like, 1251 00:44:36,820 --> 00:44:38,660 is this exactly what you want? Or is 1252 00:44:38,660 --> 00:44:40,099 this just the vibe you're going for? She's 1253 00:44:40,099 --> 00:44:41,960 like, this is the vibe I want. 1254 00:44:42,820 --> 00:44:44,440 Like, use it as a guide, 1255 00:44:44,835 --> 00:44:47,474 but give me this this feeling on Valentine's 1256 00:44:47,474 --> 00:44:49,894 Day. Okay. And I was like, that is 1257 00:44:50,514 --> 00:44:52,914 great for direct communication. Yeah. Especially if you 1258 00:44:52,914 --> 00:44:54,275 can't quite put it into words, you don't 1259 00:44:54,275 --> 00:44:56,514 really wanna put it into words. Mhmm. Or 1260 00:44:56,514 --> 00:44:58,130 if you know your partner does better with 1261 00:44:58,130 --> 00:44:58,630 visual, 1262 00:44:59,090 --> 00:44:59,989 you know, information. 1263 00:45:00,690 --> 00:45:01,190 Cool. 1264 00:45:01,730 --> 00:45:04,450 But then she says No. She ruins it 1265 00:45:04,450 --> 00:45:05,510 every fucking time. 1266 00:45:05,809 --> 00:45:07,489 Then she says, yes. But it took me 1267 00:45:07,489 --> 00:45:09,110 years to train my husband 1268 00:45:10,204 --> 00:45:11,505 to do this for me. 1269 00:45:15,885 --> 00:45:18,525 Which if you wondered, could princess treatment would 1270 00:45:18,525 --> 00:45:20,625 the princess be the submissive of this 1271 00:45:20,925 --> 00:45:23,005 if this translated to power exchange? I don't 1272 00:45:23,005 --> 00:45:25,250 think so. I I yeah. I I yeah. 1273 00:45:25,250 --> 00:45:26,929 No. I think that's I think that's the 1274 00:45:26,929 --> 00:45:27,989 dumb right there. 1275 00:45:29,090 --> 00:45:29,590 Yeah. 1276 00:45:30,050 --> 00:45:31,670 Now I put this under communication 1277 00:45:31,969 --> 00:45:33,650 again, even though we've talked about it because 1278 00:45:33,650 --> 00:45:34,469 it it is 1279 00:45:35,090 --> 00:45:37,030 fascinating, and I appreciate 1280 00:45:37,409 --> 00:45:38,469 that she is saying, 1281 00:45:38,974 --> 00:45:40,815 keep yourself calm in these arguments. But she 1282 00:45:40,815 --> 00:45:41,934 says, say what you need to say when 1283 00:45:41,934 --> 00:45:43,235 you're upset and do it calmly. 1284 00:45:43,695 --> 00:45:45,054 She says, and I like this because most 1285 00:45:45,054 --> 00:45:46,735 people don't get this advice. Come back to 1286 00:45:46,735 --> 00:45:48,574 the discussion later if you can't be calm 1287 00:45:48,574 --> 00:45:49,074 initially. 1288 00:45:49,375 --> 00:45:50,815 I need some time. Yeah. We'll come back 1289 00:45:50,815 --> 00:45:51,860 to it. She says, I do it all 1290 00:45:51,860 --> 00:45:53,539 the time. She's like, just there are a 1291 00:45:53,539 --> 00:45:54,980 lot of videos. She was like, just last 1292 00:45:54,980 --> 00:45:56,519 week. Just last week. I was like, 1293 00:45:56,820 --> 00:45:58,519 is everything good in paradise? 1294 00:45:58,820 --> 00:45:59,320 Like, 1295 00:46:00,900 --> 00:46:01,400 I'm 1296 00:46:01,940 --> 00:46:03,780 nosy and curious. But I did not watch 1297 00:46:03,780 --> 00:46:05,394 her whole fucking feed. I just focused on 1298 00:46:05,394 --> 00:46:06,994 the princess treatment once. So who the hell 1299 00:46:06,994 --> 00:46:07,735 knows? Yeah. 1300 00:46:08,914 --> 00:46:11,095 But yeah. That is good advice, 1301 00:46:11,555 --> 00:46:12,215 you know. 1302 00:46:12,515 --> 00:46:14,115 Keep yourself as calm as you can. If 1303 00:46:14,115 --> 00:46:16,115 you cannot speak about this calmly, take a 1304 00:46:16,115 --> 00:46:17,575 break, come back to it. 1305 00:46:18,090 --> 00:46:20,809 Coo. Coo coo coo. Coo coo. Love it. 1306 00:46:20,809 --> 00:46:21,530 Yeah. That and that 1307 00:46:22,329 --> 00:46:24,489 that's, again, good advice all around. And then 1308 00:46:24,489 --> 00:46:26,010 she follows it up, let me say again, 1309 00:46:26,010 --> 00:46:28,489 with, but it took her years to train 1310 00:46:28,489 --> 00:46:29,150 her husband. 1311 00:46:29,769 --> 00:46:31,930 And here's why. Because she's never once and 1312 00:46:31,930 --> 00:46:33,974 maybe now, especially now that she's creating content, 1313 00:46:33,974 --> 00:46:35,755 she's got all this influence. I'm sure that 1314 00:46:35,815 --> 00:46:38,055 hopefully they're not just fucking acting like this 1315 00:46:38,055 --> 00:46:40,315 is a natural way, state of being. 1316 00:46:40,855 --> 00:46:42,135 Because if you have to explain all the 1317 00:46:42,135 --> 00:46:44,155 rules to it then it's clearly not natural. 1318 00:46:44,295 --> 00:46:46,555 It's a it's a role you put on. 1319 00:46:46,869 --> 00:46:49,349 Again, perfectly fucking fine. We're all kinky around 1320 00:46:49,349 --> 00:46:50,869 here. Right? Like, we put on roles every 1321 00:46:50,869 --> 00:46:51,769 fucking day. 1322 00:46:52,869 --> 00:46:55,109 But, like, and and none of this does 1323 00:46:55,109 --> 00:46:56,949 she say sit your husband down and talk 1324 00:46:56,949 --> 00:46:59,369 about it. She also does not really imply 1325 00:46:59,670 --> 00:47:01,609 that they talk about it now. 1326 00:47:02,175 --> 00:47:04,335 It's she trained him to to teach to 1327 00:47:04,335 --> 00:47:05,535 treat her the way she wanted to be 1328 00:47:05,535 --> 00:47:06,035 treated. 1329 00:47:06,414 --> 00:47:08,175 Look, we do teach the people in our 1330 00:47:08,175 --> 00:47:09,715 lives how we want to be treated. 1331 00:47:10,175 --> 00:47:10,675 Yes. 1332 00:47:11,215 --> 00:47:13,375 But that shouldn't be the only way we 1333 00:47:13,375 --> 00:47:14,750 do it. Sometimes we we do have to, 1334 00:47:14,750 --> 00:47:16,369 like, actually say our words 1335 00:47:16,750 --> 00:47:18,349 and go, this is this is what I'm 1336 00:47:18,349 --> 00:47:20,190 going for. Can how how can we get 1337 00:47:20,190 --> 00:47:22,210 here? How how can we make this happen? 1338 00:47:22,829 --> 00:47:23,329 Okay. 1339 00:47:23,949 --> 00:47:25,250 So in that, 1340 00:47:25,949 --> 00:47:28,269 we're training him to give you the princess 1341 00:47:28,269 --> 00:47:28,769 treatment. 1342 00:47:29,309 --> 00:47:32,174 She suggests that you warm your warm up 1343 00:47:32,174 --> 00:47:33,635 your husband to the idea 1344 00:47:34,014 --> 00:47:35,154 of princess treatment. 1345 00:47:35,855 --> 00:47:37,855 But don't I mean, there was one video. 1346 00:47:37,855 --> 00:47:39,775 I wanna say if I'm I think I'm 1347 00:47:39,775 --> 00:47:42,630 remembering accurately. Mhmm. Don't have a direct conversation 1348 00:47:42,710 --> 00:47:44,949 about it. Just warm warm him up. He 1349 00:47:44,949 --> 00:47:46,569 will treat you the way you treat 1350 00:47:46,949 --> 00:47:49,449 yourself. K. So there's there's a list. 1351 00:47:50,549 --> 00:47:52,569 And some of this is not bad advice. 1352 00:47:52,630 --> 00:47:54,170 Okay? Mhmm. Talk 1353 00:47:55,125 --> 00:47:57,304 about yourself in kind, uplifting ways. 1354 00:47:57,684 --> 00:47:59,844 That's great life advice. Yeah. I think that's 1355 00:47:59,844 --> 00:48:03,525 wonderful. Everybody should. Right. Don't downplay compliments. And 1356 00:48:03,525 --> 00:48:05,684 she gave the example instead of you when 1357 00:48:05,684 --> 00:48:07,605 your your partner goes, you look really nice 1358 00:48:07,605 --> 00:48:08,804 to you. And I've gone, oh, this old 1359 00:48:08,804 --> 00:48:11,069 thing. Just she says, I go she says 1360 00:48:11,069 --> 00:48:13,569 she has two responses she'll give. Either 1361 00:48:13,949 --> 00:48:14,609 thank you, 1362 00:48:14,909 --> 00:48:15,409 appropriate 1363 00:48:16,109 --> 00:48:16,609 Mhmm. 1364 00:48:18,109 --> 00:48:20,269 Or I know. And I'm like that's sass 1365 00:48:20,269 --> 00:48:22,510 right there. Like that's honesty if you know 1366 00:48:22,510 --> 00:48:23,949 you look good Yeah. Just to go, I 1367 00:48:23,949 --> 00:48:24,284 know. 1368 00:48:24,764 --> 00:48:25,264 But 1369 00:48:26,204 --> 00:48:28,525 her whole thing was, if you are putting 1370 00:48:28,525 --> 00:48:29,424 yourself down, 1371 00:48:30,525 --> 00:48:31,664 then your husband 1372 00:48:33,164 --> 00:48:33,664 won't, 1373 00:48:34,444 --> 00:48:36,924 like, won't say nice things. You're teaching them 1374 00:48:36,924 --> 00:48:39,130 that you don't think you matter and so 1375 00:48:39,130 --> 00:48:41,449 then they won't treat you like there was 1376 00:48:41,449 --> 00:48:43,210 an implication there and I was like, that's 1377 00:48:43,210 --> 00:48:43,710 uncomfortable. 1378 00:48:44,170 --> 00:48:46,170 Yeah. I don't like that. But I do 1379 00:48:46,170 --> 00:48:48,329 like the fact that don't downplay compliments. Just 1380 00:48:48,329 --> 00:48:50,425 accept them and, you know, you don't have 1381 00:48:50,425 --> 00:48:51,704 to agree with them. You can just go 1382 00:48:51,704 --> 00:48:53,244 thank you and move on. Right? 1383 00:48:53,944 --> 00:48:54,605 The other. 1384 00:48:54,984 --> 00:48:56,905 It's because we're training our husband now. We're 1385 00:48:56,905 --> 00:48:59,065 not talking to him. We're warming him up 1386 00:48:59,065 --> 00:49:02,045 to princess treatment. He will air quote naturally 1387 00:49:02,105 --> 00:49:03,880 want to do these things for you. 1388 00:49:04,260 --> 00:49:06,599 Because remember, he's a high value 1389 00:49:06,980 --> 00:49:09,880 man who's very very masculine in his masculine 1390 00:49:09,940 --> 00:49:12,820 and masculine is all. He's the manliest man 1391 00:49:12,820 --> 00:49:13,880 who ever manned. 1392 00:49:15,464 --> 00:49:17,144 Clearly. So he will want to treat you 1393 00:49:17,144 --> 00:49:18,045 like his princess 1394 00:49:18,744 --> 00:49:20,984 because of that. Not because you talked about 1395 00:49:20,984 --> 00:49:22,764 it. Not because you've expressed interest. 1396 00:49:23,304 --> 00:49:24,444 Not for any of that. 1397 00:49:26,585 --> 00:49:29,309 I I just had this this crazy image 1398 00:49:29,609 --> 00:49:31,789 that this is like a way to sugarcoat 1399 00:49:32,010 --> 00:49:33,069 a power exchange. 1400 00:49:33,369 --> 00:49:34,809 Oh, sure. It's gonna be a power exchange. 1401 00:49:34,809 --> 00:49:36,489 We're not gonna talk call it that. We're 1402 00:49:36,489 --> 00:49:38,489 not gonna negotiate it. We don't have explicit 1403 00:49:38,489 --> 00:49:40,929 and informed consent. People should just know Yeah. 1404 00:49:41,050 --> 00:49:42,409 That this is how you're supposed to treat 1405 00:49:42,409 --> 00:49:44,465 me. Look, I love the fucking idea 1406 00:49:45,085 --> 00:49:47,244 of being treated like the you know, a 1407 00:49:47,244 --> 00:49:47,744 softer, 1408 00:49:48,445 --> 00:49:50,684 more delicate version of myself and being able 1409 00:49:50,684 --> 00:49:52,224 to be soft because goddamn 1410 00:49:52,605 --> 00:49:54,285 of their times I don't get that luxury. 1411 00:49:54,285 --> 00:49:56,125 Right? Right. Hold my hand when we cross 1412 00:49:56,125 --> 00:49:57,565 the street. Let me just leave my purse 1413 00:49:57,565 --> 00:49:59,164 at home. Let me, like, turn off my 1414 00:49:59,164 --> 00:50:01,819 brain. How many submissives say that 1415 00:50:02,199 --> 00:50:03,260 in different situations. 1416 00:50:03,880 --> 00:50:05,480 Right? That's why when I first saw, like, 1417 00:50:05,480 --> 00:50:07,480 the random video that wasn't from this creator, 1418 00:50:07,480 --> 00:50:10,139 it was somebody showing what Prince's treatment meant 1419 00:50:10,279 --> 00:50:11,400 to them. I was like, did am I 1420 00:50:11,400 --> 00:50:13,639 in the kink world? Because that that sounds 1421 00:50:13,639 --> 00:50:14,940 power exchangey to me. 1422 00:50:17,965 --> 00:50:19,724 But it's in the how that we get 1423 00:50:19,724 --> 00:50:21,005 there where I'm like 1424 00:50:21,485 --> 00:50:23,804 especially when she's giving good life advice sometimes 1425 00:50:24,045 --> 00:50:25,885 Mhmm. But then pairs it with but don't 1426 00:50:25,885 --> 00:50:27,505 actually tell your husband anything. 1427 00:50:28,489 --> 00:50:29,630 Yeah. I know. 1428 00:50:29,929 --> 00:50:31,769 Okay. I know. So we're back to you 1429 00:50:31,769 --> 00:50:33,690 because I mentioned it before. Mhmm. Give praise 1430 00:50:33,690 --> 00:50:36,269 and show gratitude to your husband again 1431 00:50:37,849 --> 00:50:39,609 to feed his ego, to make him feel 1432 00:50:39,609 --> 00:50:41,049 good. Because if you make him feel good, 1433 00:50:41,049 --> 00:50:42,730 he'll wanna make you feel good. Guess what? 1434 00:50:42,730 --> 00:50:44,755 That is also true, but that is not 1435 00:50:44,755 --> 00:50:46,514 the only way we do this. That should 1436 00:50:46,514 --> 00:50:47,815 not be the only half. 1437 00:50:48,114 --> 00:50:50,914 No. Like, yeah. Be kind to your partner 1438 00:50:50,914 --> 00:50:51,655 and and, 1439 00:50:52,034 --> 00:50:54,195 you know, let them help them feel good 1440 00:50:54,195 --> 00:50:57,155 about themselves. Fucking of course. But it's so 1441 00:50:57,155 --> 00:50:59,840 transactional. It's like, I'm gonna put in thank 1442 00:50:59,840 --> 00:51:02,239 yous and I'm going to receive you tied 1443 00:51:02,239 --> 00:51:03,460 my shoes for me. 1444 00:51:05,039 --> 00:51:07,039 I don't love that either. Now here's some 1445 00:51:07,039 --> 00:51:08,960 really good life advice, I think, especially for 1446 00:51:08,960 --> 00:51:12,079 somebody who, you know, wants to have that 1447 00:51:12,079 --> 00:51:13,775 kind of relationship where they do as a 1448 00:51:13,775 --> 00:51:15,695 wife, they devote themselves to their husband or 1449 00:51:15,695 --> 00:51:18,094 whatever. This was good life advice. She's like, 1450 00:51:18,094 --> 00:51:19,535 take care of yourself. Take care of how 1451 00:51:19,535 --> 00:51:21,235 you look. Make sure you have hobbies. 1452 00:51:21,614 --> 00:51:23,855 Take pride in your home. Now the problem 1453 00:51:23,855 --> 00:51:25,614 I had with it I had problems, if 1454 00:51:25,614 --> 00:51:26,594 you couldn't tell. 1455 00:51:28,519 --> 00:51:31,480 Is it this advice supposes that this is 1456 00:51:31,480 --> 00:51:33,480 what you wanna do. Now I I'll give 1457 00:51:33,480 --> 00:51:35,400 her credit here. When she was giving advice, 1458 00:51:35,400 --> 00:51:36,139 she said, 1459 00:51:36,920 --> 00:51:38,199 I wanted to be a stay at home 1460 00:51:38,199 --> 00:51:40,380 mom and this is the kind of princess 1461 00:51:40,440 --> 00:51:42,324 I want to be. She did not then 1462 00:51:42,324 --> 00:51:43,684 say, but there are so many ways to 1463 00:51:43,684 --> 00:51:45,364 be a princess. That's when she said, I'm 1464 00:51:45,364 --> 00:51:46,965 not a trad wife because I don't wanna 1465 00:51:46,965 --> 00:51:48,505 do this, that, and the other. 1466 00:51:49,045 --> 00:51:50,105 But I was like, 1467 00:51:51,684 --> 00:51:53,065 but what if you don't 1468 00:51:53,684 --> 00:51:56,184 care about doing all these home things and 1469 00:51:56,324 --> 00:51:57,000 and the 1470 00:51:57,480 --> 00:51:59,400 high high value people with all this money 1471 00:51:59,400 --> 00:52:01,320 and privilege. You could probably pay somebody to 1472 00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:02,679 do that for you. So Oh, yeah. Yeah. 1473 00:52:02,760 --> 00:52:05,000 Like, the supposition that you want to take 1474 00:52:05,000 --> 00:52:07,559 care of your home, again, if you do 1475 00:52:07,559 --> 00:52:08,599 and you want that to be part of 1476 00:52:08,599 --> 00:52:09,340 your relationship, 1477 00:52:09,984 --> 00:52:12,065 I want that for you. Yeah. But this 1478 00:52:12,065 --> 00:52:13,264 is more of a this is what you're 1479 00:52:13,264 --> 00:52:14,945 supposed to do because you're a woman. You're 1480 00:52:14,945 --> 00:52:16,644 a soft feminine woman, 1481 00:52:17,344 --> 00:52:20,324 and this is how that should look. Yeah. 1482 00:52:20,465 --> 00:52:20,965 Okay. 1483 00:52:21,344 --> 00:52:21,844 So 1484 00:52:22,385 --> 00:52:23,844 now, here's a thing 1485 00:52:24,410 --> 00:52:27,470 that I appreciated because it is true. Okay. 1486 00:52:27,930 --> 00:52:28,750 She says 1487 00:52:29,369 --> 00:52:29,869 explicitly, 1488 00:52:30,250 --> 00:52:30,750 compatibility 1489 00:52:31,130 --> 00:52:31,789 is important. 1490 00:52:33,849 --> 00:52:35,369 I mean, I was like, how can you 1491 00:52:35,369 --> 00:52:36,809 put these gems out where I'm like, I 1492 00:52:36,809 --> 00:52:38,735 respect you as somebody talking about relationships and 1493 00:52:38,735 --> 00:52:40,755 then you say this shit. What the hell? 1494 00:52:42,255 --> 00:52:44,255 So she's like, look for a partner who 1495 00:52:44,255 --> 00:52:46,015 wants what you want. I mean, she she 1496 00:52:46,015 --> 00:52:47,614 says look for a partner who wants you 1497 00:52:47,614 --> 00:52:49,715 to stay at home and be the provider. 1498 00:52:49,775 --> 00:52:51,750 Okay. But if you're not supposed to 1499 00:52:52,210 --> 00:52:53,890 communicate to them what you want 1500 00:52:54,530 --> 00:52:56,610 See this is Okay? Because they're gonna just 1501 00:52:56,610 --> 00:52:58,070 do what they should do. 1502 00:52:58,450 --> 00:53:00,130 Because here's where I think we fall back 1503 00:53:00,130 --> 00:53:01,730 on. We I am not the target audience. 1504 00:53:01,730 --> 00:53:03,430 You're not the target audience. Because 1505 00:53:03,970 --> 00:53:06,289 in this sphere of the Internet and part 1506 00:53:06,289 --> 00:53:07,534 of the sphere of the world, 1507 00:53:08,474 --> 00:53:10,815 right, to say be masculine, be feminine, 1508 00:53:11,194 --> 00:53:13,054 be a a high value 1509 00:53:13,755 --> 00:53:16,875 man or woman, that's code to people who 1510 00:53:16,875 --> 00:53:17,614 are already 1511 00:53:18,315 --> 00:53:20,255 trying to live this life. They have 1512 00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:23,960 an idea, a picture in their head already 1513 00:53:23,960 --> 00:53:25,480 before you even said the words of what 1514 00:53:25,480 --> 00:53:26,219 that means. 1515 00:53:26,519 --> 00:53:28,440 So she's speaking in code to the people 1516 00:53:28,440 --> 00:53:31,159 who are really her target audience. Us outsiders 1517 00:53:31,400 --> 00:53:33,099 Yeah. Especially those of us who are pissed, 1518 00:53:33,159 --> 00:53:35,394 we're not it. She's not talking to us. 1519 00:53:35,394 --> 00:53:37,155 She's telling other woman how to get what 1520 00:53:37,155 --> 00:53:39,315 she what they perceive that she has because 1521 00:53:39,315 --> 00:53:40,994 of the Internet. And she may have this 1522 00:53:40,994 --> 00:53:43,635 wonderful relationship. And again Mhmm. Short of could 1523 00:53:43,635 --> 00:53:45,714 you please go get your husband's explicit and 1524 00:53:45,714 --> 00:53:48,630 informed consent? Like, more power to you. 1525 00:53:49,190 --> 00:53:50,650 But, yeah, to say that, 1526 00:53:50,949 --> 00:53:52,630 you know, looking for a partner who wants 1527 00:53:52,630 --> 00:53:54,730 what you want, that means they have to 1528 00:53:55,029 --> 00:53:56,869 you have to suppose that they understand what 1529 00:53:56,869 --> 00:53:58,469 you mean when you say you wanna be 1530 00:53:58,469 --> 00:54:00,230 soft and feminine. Like, they have to have 1531 00:54:00,230 --> 00:54:00,889 a pre 1532 00:54:01,554 --> 00:54:03,795 disposed idea of what that is. What it 1533 00:54:03,795 --> 00:54:05,795 is. Which, guess what? Here's where the problems 1534 00:54:05,795 --> 00:54:06,994 come in. You mean a man who was 1535 00:54:06,994 --> 00:54:08,675 not the target audience, did not live that 1536 00:54:08,675 --> 00:54:11,015 life of privilege, was not raised with that. 1537 00:54:11,235 --> 00:54:12,755 There's gonna be a lot of confusion because 1538 00:54:12,755 --> 00:54:14,675 you've you're also being told don't tell them 1539 00:54:14,675 --> 00:54:16,675 what you want. Right. Just warm them up 1540 00:54:16,675 --> 00:54:17,960 to it it and train them. Mhmm. 1541 00:54:19,059 --> 00:54:19,559 Mhmm. 1542 00:54:20,500 --> 00:54:22,179 Now this one I wrote down because I 1543 00:54:22,179 --> 00:54:24,199 was like damn fucking straight. 1544 00:54:24,579 --> 00:54:27,059 Look for a partner who understands that taking 1545 00:54:27,059 --> 00:54:28,119 care of the home 1546 00:54:28,659 --> 00:54:31,059 requires work and effort and appreciates that work 1547 00:54:31,059 --> 00:54:33,724 and effort. And that's solid. Yes. Yeah. That 1548 00:54:33,724 --> 00:54:36,204 is for all genders. Yes. Right. If you 1549 00:54:36,204 --> 00:54:37,485 were gonna be the one that takes care 1550 00:54:37,485 --> 00:54:38,925 of the home in any way or you 1551 00:54:38,925 --> 00:54:40,285 want support in taking care of the home 1552 00:54:40,285 --> 00:54:42,125 and it's a team effort Cleaning, maintaining a 1553 00:54:42,125 --> 00:54:44,525 home is good. Now she does add the 1554 00:54:44,525 --> 00:54:47,565 caveats of decorating and making sure, you know, 1555 00:54:47,565 --> 00:54:50,059 it it falls with with seasons. And and 1556 00:54:50,059 --> 00:54:52,300 I'm like, oh, you're talking about people who 1557 00:54:52,300 --> 00:54:52,800 have 1558 00:54:53,179 --> 00:54:56,300 money or crafting skills, but still okay. Again, 1559 00:54:56,300 --> 00:54:58,300 I'm not the target audience. But I like 1560 00:54:58,300 --> 00:55:00,140 that. I was like, yes. That is something 1561 00:55:00,140 --> 00:55:02,780 more people in general, for sure, need to 1562 00:55:02,780 --> 00:55:04,945 hear. But also, women who are saying that 1563 00:55:04,945 --> 00:55:06,385 they are willing to give up a certain 1564 00:55:06,385 --> 00:55:09,844 level of financial control for themselves and independence 1565 00:55:10,224 --> 00:55:11,525 to be provided for. 1566 00:55:11,984 --> 00:55:14,304 Yes, please. Let's let's make sure we're with 1567 00:55:14,304 --> 00:55:16,704 somebody who acknowledges the effort you're putting in 1568 00:55:16,704 --> 00:55:18,389 to do this stuff. Right? That's 1569 00:55:18,949 --> 00:55:20,250 wonderful life advice. 1570 00:55:21,429 --> 00:55:23,510 Some people were asking, but what do you 1571 00:55:23,510 --> 00:55:25,029 tell people? How do you explain this? You 1572 00:55:25,029 --> 00:55:26,469 know, what if somebody else is gonna what 1573 00:55:26,469 --> 00:55:28,549 are they gonna think? Right? And I immediately 1574 00:55:28,549 --> 00:55:29,989 thought back to kink and when so many 1575 00:55:29,989 --> 00:55:31,445 people were like, what are they gonna what 1576 00:55:31,445 --> 00:55:33,284 should I tell people about them? Yeah. And 1577 00:55:33,284 --> 00:55:34,485 you and I were like, you ain't got 1578 00:55:34,485 --> 00:55:36,324 dumb shit if you don't want to. Right. 1579 00:55:36,324 --> 00:55:37,065 That is 1580 00:55:37,364 --> 00:55:39,765 a 100% her view. You don't have to 1581 00:55:39,765 --> 00:55:42,005 explain yourself, your life, or what princess treatment 1582 00:55:42,005 --> 00:55:43,260 is to you. You You just get to 1583 00:55:43,260 --> 00:55:45,280 live your life. And if people are confused, 1584 00:55:45,340 --> 00:55:47,659 let them be confused. Right? I'm sorry. I'm 1585 00:55:47,659 --> 00:55:50,460 sorry. And this is another moment I'm like, 1586 00:55:50,460 --> 00:55:50,960 Yes. 1587 00:55:51,340 --> 00:55:53,260 I'm with you. I'm so with you on 1588 00:55:53,260 --> 00:55:53,920 this conversation. 1589 00:55:55,099 --> 00:55:55,599 Yeah. 1590 00:55:55,900 --> 00:55:58,140 And then, you know, and then it gets 1591 00:55:58,140 --> 00:55:59,494 ruined by saying something like, 1592 00:55:59,795 --> 00:56:01,315 train your husband or warm him up or 1593 00:56:01,315 --> 00:56:02,134 whatever whatever. 1594 00:56:02,914 --> 00:56:03,414 So 1595 00:56:03,795 --> 00:56:05,474 that was a long windy path of what 1596 00:56:05,474 --> 00:56:07,335 Prince's treatment is. I did 1597 00:56:09,394 --> 00:56:11,875 I did have some, like, talking about power 1598 00:56:11,875 --> 00:56:14,000 exchange, specifically. I think we've we've touched on 1599 00:56:14,000 --> 00:56:16,000 these. Right? Yeah. The first one I want 1600 00:56:16,000 --> 00:56:18,000 to touch on, and I I should have 1601 00:56:18,159 --> 00:56:19,599 maybe I said it at the beginning, but 1602 00:56:19,599 --> 00:56:21,199 it's been fifty five minutes now. I don't 1603 00:56:21,199 --> 00:56:21,699 know. 1604 00:56:22,480 --> 00:56:26,135 Prince's treatment, if that if there if you 1605 00:56:26,135 --> 00:56:28,135 vibe with that, that should not be gendered. 1606 00:56:28,135 --> 00:56:30,775 You might call it something else if princess 1607 00:56:30,775 --> 00:56:32,855 is not the right term for you. But 1608 00:56:32,855 --> 00:56:33,355 also, 1609 00:56:33,655 --> 00:56:35,815 I think you could be the air quote 1610 00:56:35,815 --> 00:56:37,820 this because it means something different to everybody. 1611 00:56:37,820 --> 00:56:39,739 The most masculine human being on the planet. 1612 00:56:39,739 --> 00:56:41,420 If you wanna be called princess, honey, I 1613 00:56:41,420 --> 00:56:44,380 support it. Like, be called fucking princess and 1614 00:56:44,380 --> 00:56:46,480 get treated like the princess you are. 1615 00:56:46,860 --> 00:56:49,440 Yeah. So, you know, for me, that's immediately 1616 00:56:49,900 --> 00:56:51,599 the very first conflict between 1617 00:56:51,954 --> 00:56:53,655 what this is as it's described 1618 00:56:54,034 --> 00:56:56,434 by this creator in this viral moment versus 1619 00:56:56,434 --> 00:56:57,335 power exchange. 1620 00:56:57,954 --> 00:56:58,934 It is there 1621 00:56:59,795 --> 00:57:01,954 are there kinksters who think, oh, all the 1622 00:57:01,954 --> 00:57:02,454 men 1623 00:57:02,835 --> 00:57:05,234 are doms and all the women are subs 1624 00:57:05,234 --> 00:57:07,710 and they abso fucking lutely mean 1625 00:57:08,190 --> 00:57:08,690 cisgender 1626 00:57:09,150 --> 00:57:09,650 heterosexual 1627 00:57:10,030 --> 00:57:12,349 men and women when they're using that. Right? 1628 00:57:12,349 --> 00:57:14,909 Of course, those people exist. Yeah. Way more 1629 00:57:14,909 --> 00:57:15,570 of us 1630 00:57:15,949 --> 00:57:16,449 understand 1631 00:57:16,829 --> 00:57:19,489 any fucking gender can be any fucking role 1632 00:57:19,550 --> 00:57:20,769 because Mhmm. There's 1633 00:57:21,070 --> 00:57:22,929 there's no set of characteristics 1634 00:57:23,864 --> 00:57:26,364 that match a role, which is, you 1635 00:57:26,744 --> 00:57:27,885 know, that whole 1636 00:57:28,425 --> 00:57:31,144 high value man and woman. And what what 1637 00:57:31,144 --> 00:57:34,105 is feminine and masculine mean? Because it's too 1638 00:57:34,105 --> 00:57:36,344 vague of a fucking word. Again, unless you 1639 00:57:36,344 --> 00:57:37,170 know the code, 1640 00:57:37,650 --> 00:57:39,489 you're part of this in group. You're like, 1641 00:57:39,489 --> 00:57:41,329 oh, that's that's a signal. I know what 1642 00:57:41,329 --> 00:57:42,849 that means. The rest of us are like, 1643 00:57:42,849 --> 00:57:44,210 what the fuck do you mean by that? 1644 00:57:44,210 --> 00:57:46,230 Because it can mean so many different things. 1645 00:57:46,449 --> 00:57:47,269 And, you know, 1646 00:57:49,969 --> 00:57:51,349 if both people involved 1647 00:57:52,474 --> 00:57:54,715 want that and they know that, you know, 1648 00:57:54,715 --> 00:57:56,795 they that they apparently have their little code 1649 00:57:56,795 --> 00:57:58,554 words and stuff, and that's fine. We have 1650 00:57:58,554 --> 00:58:00,335 our code words too. Right. 1651 00:58:00,875 --> 00:58:02,494 You know, if that's what they want, 1652 00:58:03,195 --> 00:58:04,679 that's fine. You know, 1653 00:58:05,559 --> 00:58:07,980 it's not something I would seek out. Right. 1654 00:58:08,039 --> 00:58:09,099 Right. Okay. 1655 00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:11,579 So, you know, but the 1656 00:58:13,480 --> 00:58:13,980 parallels 1657 00:58:14,519 --> 00:58:15,019 Mhmm. 1658 00:58:15,400 --> 00:58:15,900 Between 1659 00:58:16,855 --> 00:58:20,394 princess treatment and d s is It's definitely 1660 00:58:20,535 --> 00:58:22,795 there. And I think and I get why 1661 00:58:24,055 --> 00:58:26,394 feminists on the Internet of all genders 1662 00:58:26,695 --> 00:58:29,109 got so pissed because it is it is 1663 00:58:29,109 --> 00:58:30,949 that stereotype that says women are supposed to 1664 00:58:30,949 --> 00:58:32,630 be this, men are supposed to be that. 1665 00:58:32,630 --> 00:58:34,329 It assumes heterosexual relationships 1666 00:58:34,710 --> 00:58:36,250 and the roles that are, 1667 00:58:36,550 --> 00:58:38,230 you know, a given. Like, that's not a 1668 00:58:38,230 --> 00:58:39,989 choice. This is just what you do because 1669 00:58:39,989 --> 00:58:42,150 this is who who you air quote are. 1670 00:58:42,150 --> 00:58:42,650 Right? 1671 00:58:43,445 --> 00:58:45,284 Whereas yeah. Like, one of the things I 1672 00:58:45,284 --> 00:58:46,344 put in my notes is 1673 00:58:47,204 --> 00:58:49,525 any power exchange dynamic, this could be applicable 1674 00:58:49,525 --> 00:58:51,864 to because you open doors for me. Correct. 1675 00:58:51,925 --> 00:58:52,585 You know? 1676 00:58:53,684 --> 00:58:55,364 Would I let you tie my shoes if 1677 00:58:55,364 --> 00:58:57,219 I was, like, sexy and, like, it meant 1678 00:58:57,219 --> 00:59:00,460 something? I probably I'm like, okay. That's, you 1679 00:59:00,460 --> 00:59:03,099 know, because it's a power thing. Right. When 1680 00:59:03,099 --> 00:59:05,260 I first heard about Prince's treatment and what 1681 00:59:05,260 --> 00:59:06,800 some of the activities were, 1682 00:59:07,500 --> 00:59:09,339 my one of my first thoughts was, oh, 1683 00:59:09,339 --> 00:59:11,099 I wonder, because I don't know enough about 1684 00:59:11,099 --> 00:59:12,880 it, how much that the activities 1685 00:59:13,474 --> 00:59:17,015 parallel, like, the fifties housewife thing. Right? Right. 1686 00:59:17,074 --> 00:59:17,574 But 1687 00:59:19,235 --> 00:59:20,675 I'm sure there are parallels because, like I 1688 00:59:20,675 --> 00:59:22,375 said, I don't know enough about that dynamic. 1689 00:59:22,755 --> 00:59:24,054 But there is the 1690 00:59:24,914 --> 00:59:26,614 the fifties housewife dynamic 1691 00:59:26,914 --> 00:59:28,889 tends to be somebody who is 1692 00:59:30,889 --> 00:59:31,549 like, I'm 1693 00:59:31,849 --> 00:59:33,210 I don't know how to say what I 1694 00:59:33,210 --> 00:59:35,130 think might be different. Maybe I just won't 1695 00:59:35,130 --> 00:59:37,449 because I I could see how people could 1696 00:59:37,449 --> 00:59:39,609 do everything word for word here and make 1697 00:59:39,609 --> 00:59:40,510 it part of their 1698 00:59:41,094 --> 00:59:43,255 house you know, their fifties Mhmm. Dynamic or 1699 00:59:43,255 --> 00:59:45,275 whatever. Because but I can also see caregiver 1700 00:59:45,494 --> 00:59:47,835 little dynamics being like that. Because 1701 00:59:48,135 --> 00:59:50,215 and any type of submissive because how many 1702 00:59:50,215 --> 00:59:52,235 submissives get called princess? Yep. 1703 00:59:52,855 --> 00:59:54,295 I we sell we get a lot of 1704 00:59:54,295 --> 00:59:56,489 requests for shit with crowns on it. Okay? 1705 00:59:56,489 --> 00:59:56,989 Yeah. 1706 00:59:57,530 --> 00:59:59,130 There are a lot of y'all that are 1707 00:59:59,130 --> 01:00:00,269 princess out there. 1708 01:00:00,969 --> 01:00:01,469 Mhmm. 1709 01:00:02,170 --> 01:00:02,670 But 1710 01:00:03,449 --> 01:00:06,190 yeah. I agree. This could be any this 1711 01:00:06,489 --> 01:00:07,309 these activities 1712 01:00:07,930 --> 01:00:10,744 Yeah. Could be any dynamic. Yeah. Oh, yeah. 1713 01:00:10,744 --> 01:00:12,045 Absolutely any dynamic. 1714 01:00:13,865 --> 01:00:16,125 Let's see. And like anything else, you know, 1715 01:00:16,184 --> 01:00:17,244 it's it's 1716 01:00:17,945 --> 01:00:18,525 a spectrum. 1717 01:00:18,825 --> 01:00:19,565 Yes. Absolutely. 1718 01:00:20,425 --> 01:00:22,045 I've sweated through my hair. 1719 01:00:22,825 --> 01:00:23,704 The other thing, 1720 01:00:24,184 --> 01:00:25,829 it was absolutely touched on the live chat 1721 01:00:25,829 --> 01:00:27,670 comments when I could glance at them. That 1722 01:00:27,670 --> 01:00:29,670 was four pages of notes down. I ain't 1723 01:00:29,670 --> 01:00:31,210 gotta look at comments so much. 1724 01:00:32,869 --> 01:00:34,889 There is no talk when 1725 01:00:35,269 --> 01:00:36,730 describing princess treatment 1726 01:00:37,824 --> 01:00:38,644 of what 1727 01:00:38,945 --> 01:00:40,945 in a fulfilling way is in it for 1728 01:00:40,945 --> 01:00:43,025 the man. Now let's be real. He gets 1729 01:00:43,025 --> 01:00:45,065 a clean fucking house. He you know, he 1730 01:00:45,105 --> 01:00:46,224 all he has to do is go focus 1731 01:00:46,224 --> 01:00:48,164 on work. He's got a wife that hopefully 1732 01:00:48,224 --> 01:00:50,144 he thinks is very pretty and he's absolutely 1733 01:00:50,144 --> 01:00:51,344 in love with her and they have great 1734 01:00:51,344 --> 01:00:52,704 hot sex if that's what they wanna do. 1735 01:00:52,704 --> 01:00:54,110 Like, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But 1736 01:00:55,289 --> 01:00:57,849 like, because he this the man in this 1737 01:00:57,849 --> 01:00:59,930 situation, from what I can tell, is never 1738 01:00:59,930 --> 01:01:00,430 explicitly 1739 01:01:00,809 --> 01:01:02,489 asked, do will you treat me like the 1740 01:01:02,489 --> 01:01:04,090 princess? And this is what I mean by 1741 01:01:04,090 --> 01:01:06,035 that. Right? Right. And that's where, of course, 1742 01:01:06,035 --> 01:01:09,235 it differentiates from power exchange because both sides 1743 01:01:09,235 --> 01:01:11,735 of the slash and power exchange are receiving 1744 01:01:11,875 --> 01:01:14,594 something for this. Now what they're receiving could 1745 01:01:14,594 --> 01:01:16,755 be completely opposite to what their partner is 1746 01:01:16,755 --> 01:01:19,155 receiving. Right? Yeah. Or have different a different 1747 01:01:19,155 --> 01:01:22,269 meaning for each of them. But everybody's receiving 1748 01:01:22,489 --> 01:01:24,190 something that is hopefully 1749 01:01:24,809 --> 01:01:26,090 99.9% 1750 01:01:26,090 --> 01:01:28,809 of the time equally fulfilling. Yeah. Maybe completely 1751 01:01:28,809 --> 01:01:31,690 different in the fulfillment, but fulfilling for everybody 1752 01:01:31,690 --> 01:01:32,190 involved. 1753 01:01:33,405 --> 01:01:35,485 The man in this situation, because this is 1754 01:01:35,485 --> 01:01:37,885 very, very misogynist. It's very sexist. You know, 1755 01:01:37,885 --> 01:01:39,744 he's got a lot of benefits there. 1756 01:01:40,684 --> 01:01:43,005 But when I think back to the very 1757 01:01:43,005 --> 01:01:44,849 beginning, when we're talking about what Prince's treatment 1758 01:01:44,849 --> 01:01:46,610 look like. That's a lot of fucking work 1759 01:01:46,610 --> 01:01:49,650 too. Mhmm. Now It is. Showing gratitude and 1760 01:01:49,650 --> 01:01:50,150 praising, 1761 01:01:50,769 --> 01:01:51,269 absolutely, 1762 01:01:51,730 --> 01:01:52,869 should be part of it. But 1763 01:01:53,329 --> 01:01:55,410 what happens when he don't wanna do that 1764 01:01:55,410 --> 01:01:55,910 anymore? 1765 01:01:56,369 --> 01:01:58,210 What happens when he gets sick? Or is 1766 01:01:58,210 --> 01:01:59,809 he supposed to repay her for that time 1767 01:01:59,809 --> 01:02:01,375 that she had to take care of everybody 1768 01:02:01,375 --> 01:02:02,034 and him? 1769 01:02:02,494 --> 01:02:04,674 That repayment thing fucked me up, man. 1770 01:02:06,974 --> 01:02:09,154 Yeah. Yeah. I was inconvenienced 1771 01:02:09,454 --> 01:02:11,054 because you weren't here to do things for 1772 01:02:11,054 --> 01:02:12,574 me and treat me like the pretty, pretty 1773 01:02:12,574 --> 01:02:14,319 princess that I am. So you have to 1774 01:02:14,319 --> 01:02:16,000 pay me. And yet he's on that trip 1775 01:02:16,000 --> 01:02:17,619 for work to provide and 1776 01:02:18,480 --> 01:02:21,059 Yeah. There there's some there's definitely some problematic 1777 01:02:21,839 --> 01:02:22,339 parts. 1778 01:02:22,639 --> 01:02:24,739 Yeah. But that's the thing I'd be curious 1779 01:02:24,799 --> 01:02:26,659 about. Like, do I want, 1780 01:02:26,964 --> 01:02:28,585 up? No. I don't want a supposed 1781 01:02:31,444 --> 01:02:33,444 HV man. I can't even say it anymore 1782 01:02:33,444 --> 01:02:34,565 and I don't wanna gag in the night 1783 01:02:34,565 --> 01:02:36,804 of nowhere. An HV man. I don't we 1784 01:02:36,964 --> 01:02:37,545 the manosphere 1785 01:02:37,844 --> 01:02:39,510 already tells us what they get. Get. Whatever. 1786 01:02:39,510 --> 01:02:41,610 Yeah. Thank you. HVM. HVM, whatever. 1787 01:02:42,469 --> 01:02:44,230 The manosphere is already telling us what they 1788 01:02:44,230 --> 01:02:45,909 get. They get the ego boost. They get 1789 01:02:45,909 --> 01:02:47,510 the this. They get to that. But that's 1790 01:02:47,510 --> 01:02:49,190 for the people who are in on it. 1791 01:02:49,190 --> 01:02:51,269 They know Mhmm. They know. What about 1792 01:02:51,829 --> 01:02:53,190 I know there's probably not a lot of 1793 01:02:53,190 --> 01:02:54,394 them. But what about the unsuspecting 1794 01:02:54,855 --> 01:02:55,355 guy 1795 01:02:55,894 --> 01:02:58,375 whose wife just found a TikTok, went down 1796 01:02:58,375 --> 01:03:01,434 a rabbit hole, and is now training him 1797 01:03:01,735 --> 01:03:05,035 to do all these things for her? Like, 1798 01:03:05,815 --> 01:03:08,394 I know. I know there are people of 1799 01:03:08,454 --> 01:03:10,579 any and all genders who get great satisfaction 1800 01:03:10,720 --> 01:03:12,320 from taking care of a person they care 1801 01:03:12,320 --> 01:03:14,559 about. Sure. I'm a service fucking sub. I 1802 01:03:14,559 --> 01:03:15,940 get a lot of satisfaction. 1803 01:03:16,800 --> 01:03:18,579 But I also have full 1804 01:03:18,880 --> 01:03:20,019 ability to go, 1805 01:03:20,559 --> 01:03:21,460 I have a migraine. 1806 01:03:22,079 --> 01:03:24,954 I am overwhelmed. Right. Oh, daddy, my my 1807 01:03:24,954 --> 01:03:26,795 cup need my well needs to be refilled. 1808 01:03:26,795 --> 01:03:28,414 I've been giving a lot. Right? 1809 01:03:29,434 --> 01:03:31,914 If there's no avenue for this man who 1810 01:03:31,914 --> 01:03:33,994 maybe wants to take care of his wife 1811 01:03:33,994 --> 01:03:35,454 in this way to say, 1812 01:03:36,554 --> 01:03:38,179 I I need to rest. I need a 1813 01:03:38,179 --> 01:03:39,619 nap. I need a Right. You know, I 1814 01:03:39,619 --> 01:03:41,299 need a I need a break too, especially 1815 01:03:41,299 --> 01:03:42,980 if you were doing all of the things 1816 01:03:42,980 --> 01:03:43,639 for her. 1817 01:03:43,940 --> 01:03:45,559 That's a lot to do for somebody. 1818 01:03:46,659 --> 01:03:48,179 I know there are dons out there who 1819 01:03:48,179 --> 01:03:49,400 do that for their subs. 1820 01:03:50,019 --> 01:03:51,079 And I'm assuming 1821 01:03:51,380 --> 01:03:55,114 you have talked about it, negotiated it. Everybody 1822 01:03:55,114 --> 01:03:57,195 has the freedom to withdraw consent at any 1823 01:03:57,195 --> 01:03:58,715 point, and you can change the terms as 1824 01:03:58,715 --> 01:04:00,074 long as you can both agree on things. 1825 01:04:00,074 --> 01:04:03,054 Right? That's the fucking difference, though. 1826 01:04:03,434 --> 01:04:03,934 Yeah. 1827 01:04:05,355 --> 01:04:05,855 Yeah. 1828 01:04:07,239 --> 01:04:08,920 Man, you you gotta be some kind of 1829 01:04:08,920 --> 01:04:10,360 fucked up to make me feel bad for 1830 01:04:10,360 --> 01:04:11,340 nameless, faceless 1831 01:04:12,119 --> 01:04:13,980 men who get to be considered 1832 01:04:14,840 --> 01:04:15,500 a HV 1833 01:04:16,039 --> 01:04:16,539 man 1834 01:04:17,400 --> 01:04:19,340 and have a a pretty little housewife. 1835 01:04:19,880 --> 01:04:21,019 Like, I mean, 1836 01:04:21,474 --> 01:04:23,474 are we in the upside down? Like, I 1837 01:04:23,474 --> 01:04:25,734 am very sympathetic to cis cis men. 1838 01:04:26,194 --> 01:04:27,974 I'm raising one. Okay? 1839 01:04:28,434 --> 01:04:28,934 But 1840 01:04:29,474 --> 01:04:31,315 damn. How how is it I'm looking at 1841 01:04:31,315 --> 01:04:34,034 this privileged life going, I feel so sorry 1842 01:04:34,034 --> 01:04:34,855 for him. 1843 01:04:35,960 --> 01:04:37,880 He does not need my pity, but shit, 1844 01:04:37,880 --> 01:04:38,859 he needs some 1845 01:04:39,960 --> 01:04:41,659 lessons on consent negotiating. 1846 01:04:42,039 --> 01:04:42,539 Right. 1847 01:04:44,920 --> 01:04:47,000 And making sure you are receiving as well 1848 01:04:47,000 --> 01:04:48,380 as giving in a relationship. 1849 01:04:50,025 --> 01:04:50,525 Yes. 1850 01:04:50,984 --> 01:04:52,525 And, you know, I think ultimately, 1851 01:04:53,144 --> 01:04:54,684 that is where I am the most 1852 01:04:55,545 --> 01:04:57,144 like, for all the little things that make 1853 01:04:57,144 --> 01:04:58,744 me go, what the actual fuck? That is 1854 01:04:58,744 --> 01:05:00,184 the part that really bothers me the most 1855 01:05:00,184 --> 01:05:01,545 is you could have this life. You could 1856 01:05:01,545 --> 01:05:03,244 have it vanilla. You could have it kinked. 1857 01:05:03,304 --> 01:05:06,079 Mhmm. But just have a fucking conversation 1858 01:05:06,380 --> 01:05:08,000 about it. Yeah. Oh, yeah. 1859 01:05:08,700 --> 01:05:11,599 This whole train your husband warm him up. 1860 01:05:11,980 --> 01:05:13,420 There I don't remember if I said it 1861 01:05:13,420 --> 01:05:15,119 because there's four pages of notes. 1862 01:05:15,500 --> 01:05:17,280 But there were definitely, like, 1863 01:05:17,735 --> 01:05:18,554 he should just 1864 01:05:19,175 --> 01:05:21,655 know. He should just know. He should he 1865 01:05:21,655 --> 01:05:23,815 should just know that you need this. You 1866 01:05:23,815 --> 01:05:25,175 want this. This is how you're supposed to 1867 01:05:25,175 --> 01:05:25,835 be treated. 1868 01:05:26,215 --> 01:05:28,215 You know, if you if you really think 1869 01:05:28,215 --> 01:05:29,735 about it, and I pointed it out, I 1870 01:05:29,735 --> 01:05:31,275 think a couple times now, 1871 01:05:31,974 --> 01:05:33,355 you know, some of the stuff, 1872 01:05:34,840 --> 01:05:37,000 you know, you you don't tell your husband 1873 01:05:37,000 --> 01:05:38,840 you do it because they just know what 1874 01:05:38,840 --> 01:05:39,500 to do, 1875 01:05:40,119 --> 01:05:42,300 but yet you need to find somebody compatible. 1876 01:05:42,359 --> 01:05:44,440 So it How did you even do that? 1877 01:05:44,440 --> 01:05:46,454 It contradicts itself. Well, and that's why I 1878 01:05:46,454 --> 01:05:48,295 go back to this is a very specific 1879 01:05:48,295 --> 01:05:50,875 type of world, type of Yeah. Potentially conservative. 1880 01:05:51,015 --> 01:05:52,394 I'm sure there's some 1881 01:05:52,775 --> 01:05:54,855 non conservative people and maybe just little c 1882 01:05:54,855 --> 01:05:57,515 conservative people. Like, it's not necessarily political thing, 1883 01:05:58,535 --> 01:05:58,775 who 1884 01:05:59,450 --> 01:06:01,369 this is a this is a shared experience 1885 01:06:01,369 --> 01:06:03,769 and shared language. There's code Mhmm. Is part 1886 01:06:03,769 --> 01:06:06,570 of it. You know? This means something to 1887 01:06:06,570 --> 01:06:08,650 a very specific type of person who's probably, 1888 01:06:08,650 --> 01:06:10,269 in some ways, already immersed 1889 01:06:10,650 --> 01:06:12,494 in this way of thinking. And those of 1890 01:06:12,494 --> 01:06:14,494 us who were like, yeah. We are rejecting 1891 01:06:14,494 --> 01:06:15,474 all of that shit 1892 01:06:15,855 --> 01:06:18,034 and also twisting it to work for ourselves 1893 01:06:18,094 --> 01:06:19,234 and make it kinky. 1894 01:06:19,534 --> 01:06:21,775 You know, that maybe we just don't like, 1895 01:06:21,775 --> 01:06:23,614 I'm not meant to understand what the fuck 1896 01:06:23,614 --> 01:06:25,739 that means and a certain type of man 1897 01:06:26,059 --> 01:06:28,480 might, especially, god help us if he's 1898 01:06:29,179 --> 01:06:31,420 what's it called? Red pilled? I've that's not 1899 01:06:31,420 --> 01:06:32,699 a thing I ever wanna have to talk 1900 01:06:32,699 --> 01:06:33,199 about. 1901 01:06:34,780 --> 01:06:36,619 Even though we probably should because I know 1902 01:06:36,619 --> 01:06:38,300 that there's some of those air quote alpha 1903 01:06:38,300 --> 01:06:40,639 guys who are using the language of kink 1904 01:06:41,255 --> 01:06:43,894 to get their air quote naturally submissive female 1905 01:06:43,894 --> 01:06:44,394 partner. 1906 01:06:46,775 --> 01:06:49,015 But that's a side tangent. That's not about 1907 01:06:49,015 --> 01:06:49,515 this. 1908 01:06:50,535 --> 01:06:51,675 But yeah. It's 1909 01:06:52,135 --> 01:06:52,635 like 1910 01:06:53,094 --> 01:06:55,589 be treated like a princess. Have that fucking 1911 01:06:55,589 --> 01:06:56,089 life. 1912 01:06:56,549 --> 01:06:58,549 If you are privileged enough to to be 1913 01:06:58,549 --> 01:07:00,710 able to afford that level of it, I'm 1914 01:07:00,710 --> 01:07:01,210 like, 1915 01:07:01,589 --> 01:07:04,009 you do you, baby. Mhmm. Yeah. Absolutely. 1916 01:07:04,389 --> 01:07:06,489 How are we doing this and never having 1917 01:07:14,025 --> 01:07:16,764 So that's Princess treatment versus power exchange. 1918 01:07:20,105 --> 01:07:22,199 I mean, I'm I'm I would I'm not 1919 01:07:22,199 --> 01:07:24,280 gonna lie. I would at some point when 1920 01:07:24,280 --> 01:07:25,960 my brain does not feels like Swiss cheese, 1921 01:07:25,960 --> 01:07:27,559 would love to have the conversation about how 1922 01:07:27,559 --> 01:07:30,280 I can feel more princess like. Because, you 1923 01:07:30,280 --> 01:07:31,739 know, it's funny because when I'm 1924 01:07:32,039 --> 01:07:34,574 when I'm watching the, like, surface level videos 1925 01:07:34,574 --> 01:07:36,655 of people just showing this is what Princess 1926 01:07:36,655 --> 01:07:38,914 Treatment means to me, it is all 1927 01:07:39,375 --> 01:07:40,434 turn off brain. 1928 01:07:41,375 --> 01:07:42,655 Oh, yeah. Don't have to think about it. 1929 01:07:42,655 --> 01:07:44,175 Don't have to make one more decision. Don't 1930 01:07:44,175 --> 01:07:46,275 have to carry one more, you know, 1931 01:07:47,989 --> 01:07:50,869 emotional labor or or the invisible labor of 1932 01:07:50,869 --> 01:07:52,150 running the house. You just get to, like, 1933 01:07:52,150 --> 01:07:53,909 shut that down and let somebody else take 1934 01:07:53,909 --> 01:07:55,829 care of you. And that is attractive to 1935 01:07:55,829 --> 01:07:57,609 a lot of us regardless of gender. 1936 01:07:57,989 --> 01:08:00,105 And I would love some of that. 1937 01:08:01,144 --> 01:08:03,224 And those kinds of reels, they, they like, 1938 01:08:03,224 --> 01:08:05,144 I'm like, oh, maybe I need to send 1939 01:08:05,144 --> 01:08:07,005 this to my daddy because 1940 01:08:07,465 --> 01:08:09,304 here are some examples of some things I 1941 01:08:09,304 --> 01:08:09,965 would like. 1942 01:08:11,385 --> 01:08:12,840 Yes, I would love 1943 01:08:13,640 --> 01:08:15,340 to, like, have a little bit of that 1944 01:08:15,400 --> 01:08:17,100 more often in life. 1945 01:08:17,720 --> 01:08:18,859 But fuck, I'm gonna 1946 01:08:19,560 --> 01:08:21,420 talk to you about it. Yeah. 1947 01:08:21,720 --> 01:08:22,840 Let me see if she wants to go 1948 01:08:22,840 --> 01:08:23,579 in. Sure. 1949 01:08:24,039 --> 01:08:25,020 So I guess 1950 01:08:26,265 --> 01:08:28,744 princess treatment is not, in my view, is 1951 01:08:28,744 --> 01:08:32,604 not inherently bad. To want a relationship where 1952 01:08:32,905 --> 01:08:34,744 one of you is treated like the pretty, 1953 01:08:34,744 --> 01:08:37,225 pretty princess that you are, I think you 1954 01:08:37,225 --> 01:08:39,244 should have that. I just 1955 01:08:40,800 --> 01:08:43,039 I I hate that it is so tied 1956 01:08:43,039 --> 01:08:44,020 up in stereotypical 1957 01:08:44,880 --> 01:08:47,679 gender roles because that just leaves out so 1958 01:08:47,679 --> 01:08:48,739 many fucking people. 1959 01:08:49,439 --> 01:08:51,599 I hate that it's so prescriptive. This is 1960 01:08:51,599 --> 01:08:52,960 what a woman is. This is what a 1961 01:08:52,960 --> 01:08:54,979 man is. This is what masculine is. 1962 01:08:57,734 --> 01:09:00,375 And just the lack of clear communication. I 1963 01:09:00,375 --> 01:09:02,135 just don't understand how you can give such 1964 01:09:02,135 --> 01:09:03,975 good advice on. You need to say what 1965 01:09:03,975 --> 01:09:05,734 you're feeling and tell them, get it out. 1966 01:09:05,734 --> 01:09:07,435 When you are upset, let them know. 1967 01:09:07,895 --> 01:09:09,175 And you could say that on the one 1968 01:09:09,175 --> 01:09:10,949 hand, on the other hand, it's like, but 1969 01:09:10,949 --> 01:09:12,569 but don't tell them you want this. 1970 01:09:12,869 --> 01:09:14,170 Make them figure it out. 1971 01:09:16,310 --> 01:09:18,329 Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. 1972 01:09:19,510 --> 01:09:20,310 So yeah. That's 1973 01:09:20,789 --> 01:09:22,310 I made my throat hurt, and I'm hot 1974 01:09:22,310 --> 01:09:24,470 and sweaty now. So, And did I bring 1975 01:09:24,470 --> 01:09:25,670 in a hair tie? No. I did not. 1976 01:09:25,670 --> 01:09:28,664 No. So, are we good? I don't know. 1977 01:09:29,125 --> 01:09:30,805 I don't know. But we're here. Here we 1978 01:09:30,805 --> 01:09:31,944 are. We are. Okay. 1979 01:09:32,725 --> 01:09:34,885 Keep it kinky, y'all. And we'll see you 1980 01:09:34,885 --> 01:09:36,664 not next week, but the week after. 1981 01:09:46,180 --> 01:09:48,100 Lola's howling. You sent her to the other 1982 01:09:48,100 --> 01:09:49,800 room, and she's howling. Yeah. 1983 01:09:50,500 --> 01:09:52,564 Oh, brushing up against the mic. Exactly like 1984 01:09:52,564 --> 01:09:53,055 she wanted to go to bed. 1985 01:09:54,574 --> 01:09:55,395 I think 1986 01:09:57,695 --> 01:09:59,695 that she thinks it's time that we should 1987 01:09:59,695 --> 01:10:02,195 all be sitting on the couch. That's true. 1988 01:10:02,255 --> 01:10:04,574 And she was trying to let you know 1989 01:10:04,574 --> 01:10:07,215 that we need to all leave this room 1990 01:10:07,215 --> 01:10:08,780 and go where the couch 1991 01:10:13,479 --> 01:10:13,979 is. 1992 01:10:14,280 --> 01:10:14,780 So 1993 01:10:15,640 --> 01:10:16,140 yeah. 1994 01:10:17,960 --> 01:10:19,500 Yeah. Prince's treatment 1995 01:10:20,119 --> 01:10:21,100 and power exchange. 1996 01:10:22,725 --> 01:10:24,324 There's so many elements that I'm like, oh, 1997 01:10:24,324 --> 01:10:25,925 that could be so fucking kinky. That could 1998 01:10:25,925 --> 01:10:27,604 be so cool. That could be oh, yeah. 1999 01:10:27,604 --> 01:10:30,244 That's we have already pulled that in. Not 2000 01:10:30,244 --> 01:10:32,085 we, you, and me, but, like, kinksters in 2001 01:10:32,085 --> 01:10:34,965 general. We've got that shit in dynamics left, 2002 01:10:34,965 --> 01:10:35,784 right, and center. 2003 01:10:36,645 --> 01:10:37,864 And and yet, 2004 01:10:38,300 --> 01:10:41,199 because there's no nuance on the fucking Internet, 2005 01:10:41,579 --> 01:10:43,739 if a kinkster was talking about their version 2006 01:10:43,739 --> 01:10:45,500 of Prince's treatment and it happened to go 2007 01:10:45,500 --> 01:10:46,000 viral, 2008 01:10:46,619 --> 01:10:47,680 people would condemn 2009 01:10:48,060 --> 01:10:50,159 it just as much, if not more Right. 2010 01:10:50,539 --> 01:10:51,359 As that. 2011 01:10:52,034 --> 01:10:54,994 Because what how and why would somebody choose, 2012 01:10:54,994 --> 01:10:56,694 air quote, that choose that role? 2013 01:10:57,154 --> 01:10:59,314 Well, because we're allowed to if we want 2014 01:10:59,314 --> 01:11:01,234 to. If you can find a compatible partner 2015 01:11:01,234 --> 01:11:03,494 who's willing to Well do that with you. 2016 01:11:06,399 --> 01:11:08,319 Taishu pointed out a very good thing in 2017 01:11:08,319 --> 01:11:11,439 the live chat. Even the rewards are gender 2018 01:11:11,439 --> 01:11:14,319 stereotype based. Eco boost for the man, physical 2019 01:11:14,319 --> 01:11:16,239 and financial gifts for the woman. Yeah. I 2020 01:11:16,239 --> 01:11:18,399 didn't even make that connection, but yeah. Good 2021 01:11:18,399 --> 01:11:21,015 good kit. Good call. And yes to I 2022 01:11:21,015 --> 01:11:22,954 can't see it because y'all y'all got chatty. 2023 01:11:23,094 --> 01:11:25,515 Manipulation. Yes. It there's a lot of manipulation 2024 01:11:25,654 --> 01:11:26,635 happening. Absolutely. 2025 01:11:27,654 --> 01:11:28,154 Absolutely. 2026 01:11:28,614 --> 01:11:29,755 Problem. Yep. 2027 01:11:31,175 --> 01:11:31,675 Yep. 2028 01:11:32,135 --> 01:11:34,234 Yeah. So I'd be very interested. Comments, 2029 01:11:36,539 --> 01:11:38,780 other places where we can be contacted. If 2030 01:11:38,780 --> 01:11:41,579 somebody is living there, the kink version of 2031 01:11:41,579 --> 01:11:42,079 this 2032 01:11:42,699 --> 01:11:46,079 without all the the, like, problematic parts, like, 2033 01:11:46,220 --> 01:11:46,880 you know, 2034 01:11:47,820 --> 01:11:49,020 what do you do you have a name 2035 01:11:49,020 --> 01:11:50,380 for your dynamic or is it just power 2036 01:11:50,380 --> 01:11:52,175 exchange? That's just how you express it? Is 2037 01:11:52,175 --> 01:11:53,154 it part of a caregiver 2038 01:11:53,935 --> 01:11:55,614 little thing? Is it, you know, is it 2039 01:11:55,614 --> 01:11:57,555 the fifties housewife thing? Like 2040 01:12:01,135 --> 01:12:02,835 but yeah. Yeah. 2041 01:12:03,375 --> 01:12:05,614 So now bonus section. See, I really did 2042 01:12:05,614 --> 01:12:06,114 get 2043 01:12:06,949 --> 01:12:09,029 invested in this topic and so now it's 2044 01:12:09,029 --> 01:12:10,229 kind of all I can think about. I 2045 01:12:10,229 --> 01:12:12,389 could y'all, I said this in our Discord 2046 01:12:12,389 --> 01:12:13,929 that you can access through our Patreon. 2047 01:12:15,029 --> 01:12:16,710 I could write a college essay now on 2048 01:12:16,710 --> 01:12:19,784 princess treatment. The the notes I took. Yeah. 2049 01:12:19,784 --> 01:12:21,085 And I sat through 2050 01:12:21,864 --> 01:12:22,765 so many TikToks. 2051 01:12:24,104 --> 01:12:25,625 The only way I could watch the TikToks 2052 01:12:25,625 --> 01:12:27,305 without creating an account or signing into an 2053 01:12:27,305 --> 01:12:28,664 account, because I know you used to you 2054 01:12:28,664 --> 01:12:30,505 have an old account. Mhmm. I had to 2055 01:12:30,505 --> 01:12:32,664 go on an actual browser, like, through Google, 2056 01:12:32,664 --> 01:12:33,779 do a search, pull it up, 2057 01:12:34,500 --> 01:12:36,279 and then I could I could find it. 2058 01:12:37,859 --> 01:12:39,219 And she's got a lot of other content, 2059 01:12:39,219 --> 01:12:40,819 and you could see where she went viral 2060 01:12:40,819 --> 01:12:42,020 for a while and, like, all her views, 2061 01:12:42,020 --> 01:12:44,099 like, phew, spiked. And then she's kinda, like, 2062 01:12:44,260 --> 01:12:46,579 Now leveled out. And she doesn't just talk 2063 01:12:46,579 --> 01:12:47,765 about princess 2064 01:12:48,344 --> 01:12:48,844 treatment, 2065 01:12:49,425 --> 01:12:50,324 but whole playlist. 2066 01:12:50,984 --> 01:12:51,484 So 2067 01:12:52,304 --> 01:12:52,804 yeah. 2068 01:12:53,984 --> 01:12:56,385 So bonus section. Yep. Why are we not 2069 01:12:56,385 --> 01:12:58,244 having an episode next week? 2070 01:12:58,625 --> 01:13:00,399 I have to tell this story because Go 2071 01:13:00,399 --> 01:13:01,840 ahead. Tell this story. Not that big, but 2072 01:13:01,840 --> 01:13:04,000 it's sort of like a what? Who was 2073 01:13:04,000 --> 01:13:06,579 anybody communicating with anybody else? 2074 01:13:07,920 --> 01:13:09,680 The 19 year old who will be become 2075 01:13:09,680 --> 01:13:12,239 the 20 year old this coming Sunday. Fucking 2076 01:13:12,239 --> 01:13:13,494 wild. How do I have a 20 year 2077 01:13:13,494 --> 01:13:14,314 old? Anyway, 2078 01:13:15,414 --> 01:13:16,875 he is moving out of his, 2079 01:13:18,135 --> 01:13:21,354 current apartment because he's leaving the apartment complex 2080 01:13:21,895 --> 01:13:24,454 and he'll be moving in to a different 2081 01:13:24,454 --> 01:13:26,614 apartment complex. Now these apartments are in a 2082 01:13:26,614 --> 01:13:28,779 college town and they are set up they're 2083 01:13:28,779 --> 01:13:30,619 not dorms, but they are set up set 2084 01:13:30,619 --> 01:13:33,100 up like student housing. Thank you. I love 2085 01:13:33,100 --> 01:13:33,840 you so much. 2086 01:13:34,380 --> 01:13:36,560 Podcast listeners, JB got me a hair tie. 2087 01:13:38,460 --> 01:13:41,100 So it's a shared apartment kind of thing, 2088 01:13:41,100 --> 01:13:43,645 but they also have a gap between 2089 01:13:44,425 --> 01:13:46,425 if you are leaving that complex, what move 2090 01:13:46,425 --> 01:13:48,344 out day is, and if you are coming 2091 01:13:48,344 --> 01:13:50,505 into a new complex, what move in day 2092 01:13:50,505 --> 01:13:52,364 is. And it's like a two week gap, 2093 01:13:52,425 --> 01:13:54,444 which makes sense. They gotta get the empty 2094 01:13:55,050 --> 01:13:57,770 spaces cleaned up or, you know, repairs or 2095 01:13:57,770 --> 01:13:59,949 whatever, so for a new person coming in. 2096 01:14:00,010 --> 01:14:02,329 So we have known this whole time, once 2097 01:14:02,329 --> 01:14:04,250 he decided he wanted to leave that complex, 2098 01:14:04,250 --> 01:14:05,850 they were raising his rent by way more 2099 01:14:05,850 --> 01:14:07,724 than he wanted to pay, which I don't 2100 01:14:07,724 --> 01:14:08,324 plan. Mhmm. 2101 01:14:09,925 --> 01:14:11,144 That he was gonna 2102 01:14:11,844 --> 01:14:14,324 the move out date's like July. 2103 01:14:14,324 --> 01:14:15,604 How many days are in July? I don't 2104 01:14:15,604 --> 01:14:17,204 know. But the July. 2105 01:14:17,204 --> 01:14:18,885 He was gonna move out the weekend before 2106 01:14:18,885 --> 01:14:21,064 that because we are helping him move. 2107 01:14:21,510 --> 01:14:23,349 He's only got his little bike that is 2108 01:14:23,349 --> 01:14:24,949 a round town bike, not a get on 2109 01:14:24,949 --> 01:14:27,269 the highway and do 65 bike. So we 2110 01:14:27,269 --> 01:14:28,489 were coming to get him 2111 01:14:28,949 --> 01:14:30,469 to move him out. I said we when 2112 01:14:30,469 --> 01:14:31,909 we get there, I am not packing a 2113 01:14:31,909 --> 01:14:34,550 single fucking box. Get your shit together. Be 2114 01:14:34,550 --> 01:14:36,755 ready for us. We'll help you move the 2115 01:14:36,755 --> 01:14:38,435 boxes. We won't help you pack the boxes. 2116 01:14:38,435 --> 01:14:39,255 I'm not packing 2117 01:14:39,715 --> 01:14:40,295 shit. Anyway, 2118 01:14:42,914 --> 01:14:44,914 so we've always known the plan was gonna 2119 01:14:44,914 --> 01:14:46,755 be we picked Sunday, the twenty seventh. That 2120 01:14:46,755 --> 01:14:48,000 was the day we were going to get 2121 01:14:48,479 --> 01:14:50,659 him. Nobody had any things that we no. 2122 01:14:50,800 --> 01:14:52,479 Actually, we were we have game night that 2123 01:14:52,479 --> 01:14:52,979 night. 2124 01:14:53,359 --> 01:14:54,479 But it was gonna be at night. It 2125 01:14:54,479 --> 01:14:56,159 wasn't gonna be a big deal. We're doing 2126 01:14:56,159 --> 01:14:57,220 this all in the morning. 2127 01:14:58,000 --> 01:14:58,500 Anyway, 2128 01:14:58,880 --> 01:15:00,020 he gets a notice 2129 01:15:00,824 --> 01:15:02,685 from his apartment complex today 2130 01:15:03,545 --> 01:15:04,045 that 2131 01:15:04,425 --> 01:15:05,485 he is being 2132 01:15:06,425 --> 01:15:09,645 relocated to a different apartment in the complex 2133 01:15:10,505 --> 01:15:13,244 starting the twenty third, which is next Wednesday, 2134 01:15:13,465 --> 01:15:14,685 because they're doing 2135 01:15:14,989 --> 01:15:17,229 doing a remodel in that unit that he 2136 01:15:17,229 --> 01:15:17,970 lives in. 2137 01:15:19,150 --> 01:15:21,789 But his official move out day is the 2138 01:15:21,789 --> 01:15:22,770 thirty first. 2139 01:15:23,710 --> 01:15:25,949 So they put that notice in for everybody 2140 01:15:25,949 --> 01:15:27,170 who lives in that apartment, 2141 01:15:27,550 --> 01:15:28,770 that specific unit, 2142 01:15:29,070 --> 01:15:31,364 and not everybody's leaving. So I understand they're 2143 01:15:31,364 --> 01:15:32,804 like, we're just gonna shove you over here, 2144 01:15:32,804 --> 01:15:34,404 and when we're done, we'll bring you on 2145 01:15:34,404 --> 01:15:36,324 back. But he literally had a fucking week, 2146 01:15:36,324 --> 01:15:37,844 and I was like, they could've delayed this 2147 01:15:37,844 --> 01:15:38,664 by Yeah. 2148 01:15:39,045 --> 01:15:41,444 To move out day and just timed it 2149 01:15:41,444 --> 01:15:43,625 all. I'm I'm sure there's a reason. 2150 01:15:44,760 --> 01:15:46,679 So he texts me and they and sends 2151 01:15:46,679 --> 01:15:47,880 me a copy of this letter and goes, 2152 01:15:47,880 --> 01:15:49,559 what the fuck is this shit? It's like, 2153 01:15:49,559 --> 01:15:51,800 that's how I know you're my child because 2154 01:15:51,800 --> 01:15:54,619 that's the appropriate response. And so we scrambled 2155 01:15:54,679 --> 01:15:56,920 and went because he has to be out 2156 01:15:56,920 --> 01:15:59,099 by 9AM on the twenty fourth. 2157 01:16:00,574 --> 01:16:02,574 And I was like, I don't want to 2158 01:16:02,574 --> 01:16:03,074 have 2159 01:16:03,454 --> 01:16:04,814 I don't wanna get there so early on 2160 01:16:04,814 --> 01:16:06,175 the twenty fourth for you to be it 2161 01:16:06,175 --> 01:16:08,734 to be empty Yeah. At 9AM. I said, 2162 01:16:08,734 --> 01:16:10,414 so we'll be there on the twenty third. 2163 01:16:10,414 --> 01:16:11,880 And then after I said that 2164 01:16:12,840 --> 01:16:14,859 and changed the U Haul reservation 2165 01:16:15,479 --> 01:16:17,979 and changed, a vet appointment for Ella 2166 01:16:18,920 --> 01:16:20,760 and made sure that another appointment for the 2167 01:16:20,760 --> 01:16:22,520 youngest did not conflict with how long we 2168 01:16:22,520 --> 01:16:24,093 think we needed. Then I looked at the 2169 01:16:24,093 --> 01:16:24,824 calendar and realized it was Wednesday. 2170 01:16:32,025 --> 01:16:33,164 Never dull moment. 2171 01:16:34,104 --> 01:16:36,185 No. It's gonna be very interesting. So, yeah, 2172 01:16:36,185 --> 01:16:38,590 he's coming home four four days later than 2173 01:16:38,590 --> 01:16:41,310 we originally planned. There was always that gap, 2174 01:16:41,310 --> 01:16:43,069 and I totally get the gap. I just 2175 01:16:43,069 --> 01:16:44,750 don't know why they wouldn't have timed all 2176 01:16:44,750 --> 01:16:46,609 of this with their own upcoming 2177 01:16:46,989 --> 01:16:49,010 gap. I I don't know. I 2178 01:16:49,550 --> 01:16:51,314 I I wanna believe there's a reason. Well, 2179 01:16:51,314 --> 01:16:53,795 judging from what I've seen when we last 2180 01:16:53,795 --> 01:16:55,335 time I was up there with you, 2181 01:16:56,194 --> 01:16:58,614 they are literally gutting the apartments, 2182 01:16:59,074 --> 01:16:59,574 carpet. 2183 01:16:59,954 --> 01:17:02,594 New owners came in, what, last summer? And 2184 01:17:02,594 --> 01:17:04,614 they did not raise, rent rates 2185 01:17:05,029 --> 01:17:06,349 last when they came in, but they added 2186 01:17:06,349 --> 01:17:08,390 a bunch of amenities. So we everybody knew, 2187 01:17:09,350 --> 01:17:11,510 increases were coming. And they started remodeling rooms, 2188 01:17:11,510 --> 01:17:13,750 which needed it. Desperately needed it. I mean, 2189 01:17:13,750 --> 01:17:16,550 it wasn't It wasn't terrible. Wasn't terrible, but 2190 01:17:16,630 --> 01:17:17,130 yeah. 2191 01:17:17,430 --> 01:17:19,114 It looked like student housing. 2192 01:17:22,054 --> 01:17:23,894 So yeah. So it's all just been bumped 2193 01:17:23,894 --> 01:17:25,255 up a few days, but Yeah. I was 2194 01:17:25,255 --> 01:17:27,114 in this weird headspace and I was like, 2195 01:17:27,734 --> 01:17:29,494 I should never say to the universe, please 2196 01:17:29,494 --> 01:17:31,510 not one more thing. Right. Because the universe 2197 01:17:31,510 --> 01:17:33,109 will go, I will give you Hold my 2198 01:17:33,109 --> 01:17:35,510 breath. Two things. You didn't want one? Not 2199 01:17:35,510 --> 01:17:37,429 a problem. I won't give you one. I'll 2200 01:17:37,429 --> 01:17:39,350 give you two or three. Here you go. 2201 01:17:39,350 --> 01:17:40,949 Have fun though. Yeah. 2202 01:17:41,989 --> 01:17:43,790 So, yeah, we were just like, I was 2203 01:17:43,790 --> 01:17:45,970 like, I already feel like I'm scrambling and 2204 01:17:45,970 --> 01:17:48,152 my and my brain already doesn't like that 2205 01:17:48,152 --> 01:17:50,332 feeling. Like, I had this mapped out in 2206 01:17:50,332 --> 01:17:52,512 my head of how I thought this was 2207 01:17:52,512 --> 01:17:54,694 supposed to go and we're pivoting. And now 2208 01:17:54,694 --> 01:17:57,420 I've got that, friends, episode in my head. 2209 01:17:58,140 --> 01:18:00,539 They're moving a couch down the stairs, and 2210 01:18:00,539 --> 01:18:01,679 Ross is like, pivot. 2211 01:18:02,699 --> 01:18:03,840 Sorry. Sorry. 2212 01:18:05,659 --> 01:18:08,060 Went off on a a tangent. A tangent 2213 01:18:08,060 --> 01:18:10,159 there. Yeah. That's okay. But I'm not neurospicy. 2214 01:18:10,300 --> 01:18:11,279 It's fine. Anyway, 2215 01:18:13,425 --> 01:18:15,764 so I just it's gonna be fine. 2216 01:18:16,064 --> 01:18:17,425 He's gonna get moved out. He's gonna be 2217 01:18:17,425 --> 01:18:18,804 home. We will all three 2218 01:18:19,505 --> 01:18:21,904 be sharing the one car, and he still 2219 01:18:21,904 --> 01:18:23,284 has classes in Gainesville. 2220 01:18:23,664 --> 01:18:25,760 Yeah. He's taking a summer course. It's gonna 2221 01:18:25,760 --> 01:18:28,719 be interesting. It's Monday through Friday. And he 2222 01:18:28,719 --> 01:18:30,079 has a class. I think it's, like, at 2223 01:18:30,079 --> 01:18:31,600 either ten or eleven and then a class 2224 01:18:31,600 --> 01:18:32,899 at, like, one or two. 2225 01:18:33,199 --> 01:18:34,960 So smack dab in the middle of the 2226 01:18:34,960 --> 01:18:37,864 day, which I didn't really get the implications 2227 01:18:38,085 --> 01:18:40,324 of until I need Ella went to the 2228 01:18:40,324 --> 01:18:43,284 vet today. That's a moment that she had 2229 01:18:43,284 --> 01:18:45,685 today. Yeah. And I needed to reschedule next 2230 01:18:45,685 --> 01:18:48,005 week's appointment because we're going to be moving 2231 01:18:48,005 --> 01:18:48,885 him on the day and 2232 01:18:50,164 --> 01:18:51,545 so I'm talking to the 2233 01:18:51,845 --> 01:18:54,130 lady at the office to find I'm like, 2234 01:18:54,130 --> 01:18:56,449 I need morning because afternoons, there's all kinds 2235 01:18:56,449 --> 01:18:58,550 of shit going on. Like, I need morning. 2236 01:18:59,409 --> 01:19:01,329 But I had like, I'm looking for eight, 2237 01:19:01,329 --> 01:19:04,369 08:15, 08:30 because if he's got a class 2238 01:19:04,369 --> 01:19:06,449 at ten or eleven, he's probably getting on 2239 01:19:06,449 --> 01:19:08,949 the road at nine, 09:30. And I'm like, 2240 01:19:09,944 --> 01:19:12,344 oh, for three weeks. It's actually two weeks 2241 01:19:12,344 --> 01:19:12,844 because 2242 01:19:13,704 --> 01:19:16,444 the last week before he can move in, 2243 01:19:16,744 --> 01:19:18,264 class will be over. He won't be in 2244 01:19:18,264 --> 01:19:19,484 a class. He'll be fine. 2245 01:19:20,744 --> 01:19:22,989 I was like, okay. How many how many 2246 01:19:22,989 --> 01:19:24,609 lifts am I gonna have to schedule? 2247 01:19:24,989 --> 01:19:26,369 Should we rent a car? 2248 01:19:27,229 --> 01:19:28,750 Not that he could drive. He could drive 2249 01:19:28,750 --> 01:19:31,149 the ratty old one. I don't know. It'll 2250 01:19:31,149 --> 01:19:32,750 be interesting. Yeah. No. He wouldn't we wouldn't 2251 01:19:32,750 --> 01:19:34,590 be able to. He's he's too young. Yeah. 2252 01:19:34,590 --> 01:19:36,029 No. And I wouldn't let him anyway. We're 2253 01:19:36,029 --> 01:19:38,224 already nervous about him driving the ratty old 2254 01:19:38,224 --> 01:19:40,545 car. Because in that ratty old car, he's 2255 01:19:40,545 --> 01:19:43,185 had two accidents and gotten three tickets. Right. 2256 01:19:43,185 --> 01:19:45,604 And last time we let him borrow it, 2257 01:19:46,385 --> 01:19:48,085 we went to pick it up, 2258 01:19:48,670 --> 01:19:50,829 and it had a flat tire. That flat 2259 01:19:50,829 --> 01:19:52,769 tire was not his fault. Well 2260 01:19:53,149 --> 01:19:56,109 The tickets and the accidents were absolutely his 2261 01:19:56,109 --> 01:19:58,829 fault. But, yeah, it's just the the I 2262 01:19:58,829 --> 01:20:01,069 know. Whole karma thing that He's a better 2263 01:20:01,069 --> 01:20:03,149 driver than he used to be when he's 2264 01:20:03,149 --> 01:20:05,734 not depressed over the end of a situationship. 2265 01:20:05,795 --> 01:20:07,395 That's I'm not going into that. It's not 2266 01:20:07,395 --> 01:20:09,154 my business. That's his business. But I had 2267 01:20:09,234 --> 01:20:11,314 I chose to ride in the car with 2268 01:20:11,314 --> 01:20:12,835 him while he was going through it. And 2269 01:20:12,835 --> 01:20:13,734 I was like, no. 2270 01:20:14,274 --> 01:20:16,354 No. We won't do that again. Yeah. No. 2271 01:20:16,354 --> 01:20:18,340 That was my mistake too. We won't do 2272 01:20:18,340 --> 01:20:20,279 that again. I regretted that. Like, there's literally 2273 01:20:21,219 --> 01:20:23,380 his two parental figures in the vehicle with 2274 01:20:23,380 --> 01:20:25,300 him, and it it never dawned on him 2275 01:20:25,300 --> 01:20:26,600 not to push my 2276 01:20:27,060 --> 01:20:29,460 13 year old, a 110,000 2277 01:20:29,460 --> 01:20:30,279 mile car 2278 01:20:30,579 --> 01:20:33,319 beyond 80 fucking miles per hour. I'm like, 2279 01:20:33,604 --> 01:20:35,204 wow. You really don't give a fuck, do 2280 01:20:35,204 --> 01:20:37,364 you, kid? Alright. He doesn't. He really doesn't. 2281 01:20:37,364 --> 01:20:39,364 Mister Spock, no. We had to stop and 2282 01:20:39,364 --> 01:20:41,524 get gas too. Oh, yeah. My my child 2283 01:20:41,685 --> 01:20:42,744 no. That's not true. 2284 01:20:43,604 --> 01:20:45,244 One time. No. He One time he brought 2285 01:20:45,364 --> 01:20:46,987 he gave me the keys back and there 2286 01:20:46,987 --> 01:20:49,459 was guy he he was a it was 2287 01:20:49,459 --> 01:20:51,436 my Mother's Day or my birthday present. He's 2288 01:20:51,436 --> 01:20:53,414 like, I got gas for you. Mhmm. And 2289 01:20:53,414 --> 01:20:55,392 look, I remember being young and broke and 2290 01:20:55,392 --> 01:20:57,369 feeling like hot shit when I could, like, 2291 01:20:57,369 --> 01:20:59,347 pay for a thing. I bought my mom 2292 01:20:59,347 --> 01:21:02,635 the McDonald's Diet Coke. I did something. Look. 2293 01:21:02,635 --> 01:21:04,555 I'm I might be 46, but I still 2294 01:21:04,555 --> 01:21:06,095 get that thrill. I'm like, sure. 2295 01:21:06,475 --> 01:21:08,475 I'll buy you this drink, mom, after she 2296 01:21:08,475 --> 01:21:09,935 just paid for the lunch 2297 01:21:10,715 --> 01:21:11,935 and we had an appetizer. 2298 01:21:12,715 --> 01:21:14,655 Whatever. Whatever. It's fine. 2299 01:21:17,100 --> 01:21:18,699 So, yeah. That's it's gonna be a little 2300 01:21:18,699 --> 01:21:20,699 chaotic for a couple weeks. Well, you know, 2301 01:21:20,699 --> 01:21:21,199 Silent 2302 01:21:22,140 --> 01:21:24,880 in where he is for school, 2303 01:21:25,979 --> 01:21:27,920 he could actually take the bus for free. 2304 01:21:28,140 --> 01:21:29,199 Oh, yeah. He can. 2305 01:21:29,925 --> 01:21:31,945 When he's living in Gainesville, he can absolutely 2306 01:21:32,005 --> 01:21:33,685 take the bus. He he hates it, but 2307 01:21:33,685 --> 01:21:36,265 he can't. Mhmm. But in where we live, 2308 01:21:37,125 --> 01:21:40,164 there is a bus system, but It it's 2309 01:21:40,164 --> 01:21:43,420 scattered. It's not mass transit enough. No. No. 2310 01:21:43,420 --> 01:21:43,920 No. 2311 01:21:44,220 --> 01:21:46,539 No. And to get from where we live 2312 01:21:46,539 --> 01:21:47,819 to where he needs to be for school 2313 01:21:48,300 --> 01:21:51,180 But, yeah, the the the university town that 2314 01:21:51,180 --> 01:21:53,119 he's in, they have a a very 2315 01:21:53,739 --> 01:21:55,744 Apparently, they not just for summer, but for 2316 01:21:55,744 --> 01:21:57,664 budget cuts. Cut the schedule, though. I know. 2317 01:21:57,664 --> 01:22:00,944 There's tens of thousands of students at town, 2318 01:22:00,944 --> 01:22:01,444 but 2319 01:22:01,744 --> 01:22:04,064 sure. Cut the bus schedule before the fall 2320 01:22:04,064 --> 01:22:04,564 semester. 2321 01:22:04,944 --> 01:22:05,444 Anyway, 2322 01:22:07,024 --> 01:22:09,185 but Ella had to reschedule an appointment for 2323 01:22:09,185 --> 01:22:09,845 her. Ella, 2324 01:22:11,050 --> 01:22:11,869 After the 2325 01:22:12,890 --> 01:22:15,149 litter fiasco of previous, 2326 01:22:15,529 --> 01:22:16,270 bone resections, 2327 01:22:16,729 --> 01:22:18,569 she was still peeing funny. So we're like, 2328 01:22:18,569 --> 01:22:20,510 let's let's get her to the vet. Yeah. 2329 01:22:20,969 --> 01:22:22,989 And we know she has to be sedated 2330 01:22:23,369 --> 01:22:25,914 before she could go. Both the girls are 2331 01:22:25,914 --> 01:22:28,015 very spicy with strangers, 2332 01:22:28,555 --> 01:22:30,395 especially if you start poking and prodding Ella. 2333 01:22:30,395 --> 01:22:32,975 She's like, I'll let you cuddle me until 2334 01:22:33,195 --> 01:22:35,515 one wrong move and fuck you. And then 2335 01:22:35,515 --> 01:22:37,914 then I'm done. So she gets sedated. We 2336 01:22:37,914 --> 01:22:40,760 got a whole different kind of, gabapentin for 2337 01:22:40,760 --> 01:22:43,640 the sedation, which was cool. Wasn't remembering two 2338 01:22:43,640 --> 01:22:45,560 pills. It was just one Yeah. One blah 2339 01:22:45,560 --> 01:22:46,699 blah blah, whatever whatever. 2340 01:22:47,159 --> 01:22:49,239 She was she's high as a fucking kite. 2341 01:22:49,239 --> 01:22:51,640 Her pupils were so big. Big. And she 2342 01:22:51,640 --> 01:22:53,954 was a little wobbly in her her carrier. 2343 01:22:53,954 --> 01:22:55,395 And I left her in her carrier for, 2344 01:22:55,395 --> 01:22:56,675 like, when they didn't need to deal with 2345 01:22:56,675 --> 01:22:58,194 her, it was like but then when they 2346 01:22:58,194 --> 01:22:59,314 did need to look at her, I was 2347 01:22:59,314 --> 01:23:01,074 holding her and she was leaning into me 2348 01:23:01,074 --> 01:23:03,795 and she's like Mhmm. As docile as Ella 2349 01:23:03,795 --> 01:23:05,014 is capable of. 2350 01:23:05,954 --> 01:23:07,175 And, apparently, 2351 01:23:08,140 --> 01:23:10,300 she, has the hots for the vet too 2352 01:23:10,300 --> 01:23:11,820 because she was like, I'll be your best 2353 01:23:11,820 --> 01:23:13,739 friend now. He's not a dumbass. He was 2354 01:23:13,739 --> 01:23:14,800 feeding her treats. 2355 01:23:15,180 --> 01:23:17,260 Finished he emptied out the cat treats. He 2356 01:23:17,260 --> 01:23:18,860 was like, oh, you're getting my last drink. 2357 01:23:18,860 --> 01:23:20,780 He was just steady putting treats up right 2358 01:23:20,780 --> 01:23:22,064 over to get her shots. 2359 01:23:22,545 --> 01:23:23,904 And she was loving him, and I'm like, 2360 01:23:23,904 --> 01:23:24,944 same girl. Mhmm. 2361 01:23:25,664 --> 01:23:27,444 And so she was the sweetest 2362 01:23:27,744 --> 01:23:28,725 precious baby 2363 01:23:29,344 --> 01:23:31,585 during the year. Work with Onyx. No. God, 2364 01:23:31,585 --> 01:23:33,425 no. There when we get her in, they're 2365 01:23:33,425 --> 01:23:34,079 really gonna 2366 01:23:34,800 --> 01:23:36,579 knock her out or Twilight Sedation. Anyway Yeah. 2367 01:23:36,720 --> 01:23:40,000 So then for the blood blood draw, they're 2368 01:23:40,000 --> 01:23:41,439 gonna try and get a urine sample. They're 2369 01:23:41,439 --> 01:23:42,960 gonna try and get a fecal. They're gonna 2370 01:23:42,960 --> 01:23:44,239 do all this stuff. They're like, do you 2371 01:23:44,239 --> 01:23:45,520 mind if we take her to the back? 2372 01:23:45,520 --> 01:23:46,800 And I'm like, no. You're gonna have to 2373 01:23:46,800 --> 01:23:47,920 take her to the back, but you go 2374 01:23:47,920 --> 01:23:49,380 do what you gotta do. Yeah. 2375 01:23:49,854 --> 01:23:52,494 And however they're set up back there, they 2376 01:23:52,494 --> 01:23:54,574 must have been, like, fairly close to the 2377 01:23:54,574 --> 01:23:55,074 door 2378 01:23:55,454 --> 01:23:57,935 because I knew the moment they started doing 2379 01:23:57,935 --> 01:23:59,395 shit she didn't like because 2380 01:24:00,175 --> 01:24:02,675 Ella has a very distinctive meow, and 2381 01:24:03,820 --> 01:24:06,320 she was voicing her displeasure. And then 2382 01:24:06,780 --> 01:24:09,119 she was pissed. I heard that. 2383 01:24:09,659 --> 01:24:10,880 And then I heard, 2384 01:24:11,500 --> 01:24:13,579 oh gosh. And I was like and it 2385 01:24:13,579 --> 01:24:14,479 got quiet. 2386 01:24:15,500 --> 01:24:16,640 And then I heard 2387 01:24:17,500 --> 01:24:18,914 Ella being so mad, 2388 01:24:19,475 --> 01:24:20,215 so mad. 2389 01:24:21,155 --> 01:24:21,655 So 2390 01:24:22,114 --> 01:24:23,715 the the doc the vet comes back in 2391 01:24:23,715 --> 01:24:26,295 and he goes, okay. Look. He's like, 2392 01:24:27,074 --> 01:24:29,074 we only were able to do enough of 2393 01:24:29,074 --> 01:24:31,414 a blood draw for one of the tests. 2394 01:24:32,100 --> 01:24:33,619 She has hit her limit. She is too 2395 01:24:33,619 --> 01:24:34,979 stressed out. I don't even think I would 2396 01:24:34,979 --> 01:24:37,720 trust the results if we tried to continue 2397 01:24:37,780 --> 01:24:39,939 taking blood and, you know, to get all 2398 01:24:39,939 --> 01:24:41,619 these this testing done. He's like, so what 2399 01:24:41,619 --> 01:24:43,699 we're gonna do is we're gonna reschedule you 2400 01:24:43,699 --> 01:24:45,239 for, like, next week 2401 01:24:45,675 --> 01:24:47,274 and give her time. And this is all 2402 01:24:47,274 --> 01:24:48,954 we'll do. We won't do a full exam. 2403 01:24:48,954 --> 01:24:50,875 She'll get stressed, but it she'll just this 2404 01:24:50,875 --> 01:24:51,614 is it. 2405 01:24:52,875 --> 01:24:54,414 And I was like, okay. 2406 01:24:55,274 --> 01:24:56,314 And, of course, they give her back to 2407 01:24:56,314 --> 01:24:57,675 me, and she's just looking at me like, 2408 01:24:57,675 --> 01:24:59,114 I don't know what the fuss is about. 2409 01:24:59,114 --> 01:25:00,015 I'm fine. 2410 01:25:02,770 --> 01:25:04,130 But, yeah, I I just I looked at 2411 01:25:04,130 --> 01:25:05,810 the vet and went, oh, I'm so sorry. 2412 01:25:05,810 --> 01:25:08,130 And he's like, no. That was us stressing 2413 01:25:08,130 --> 01:25:09,329 her out. And I went, I knew I 2414 01:25:09,329 --> 01:25:10,610 liked you. I didn't say that, Tammy. I'm 2415 01:25:10,610 --> 01:25:12,610 not Yeah. I'm weird, but I'm not, like, 2416 01:25:12,610 --> 01:25:15,909 weird where people can see it. We're stranger. 2417 01:25:17,345 --> 01:25:19,664 In my vanilla life, I'm not weird where 2418 01:25:19,664 --> 01:25:21,445 people can see it. So 2419 01:25:23,265 --> 01:25:23,765 no. 2420 01:25:24,625 --> 01:25:25,925 But yeah. Poor Ella. 2421 01:25:26,465 --> 01:25:28,164 And I've gotten so spoiled 2422 01:25:28,704 --> 01:25:30,225 with JB going to when we do go 2423 01:25:30,225 --> 01:25:32,350 to the vet, JB goes with me. I'd 2424 01:25:32,350 --> 01:25:33,250 actually forgotten 2425 01:25:33,630 --> 01:25:35,789 exactly why he goes with me. He goes 2426 01:25:35,789 --> 01:25:37,489 with me when we take Lola because 2427 01:25:37,869 --> 01:25:39,390 Lola does not listen to me the way 2428 01:25:39,390 --> 01:25:41,250 that she listens to her daddy. Okay? 2429 01:25:42,750 --> 01:25:44,829 I mean, when he says sit, we both 2430 01:25:44,829 --> 01:25:47,564 look around for where we can plant our 2431 01:25:47,564 --> 01:25:48,064 asses. 2432 01:25:48,844 --> 01:25:50,784 Dom voice works for 2433 01:25:51,645 --> 01:25:53,505 people in dog's life. All y'all. 2434 01:25:53,885 --> 01:25:55,024 All y'all. Yeah. 2435 01:25:56,684 --> 01:25:58,925 But I had forgot you have gone to 2436 01:25:59,012 --> 01:26:00,539 you you just go to her appointments with 2437 01:26:00,539 --> 01:26:02,780 me, and I had forgotten that I had 2438 01:26:02,780 --> 01:26:04,539 said I need you to come with me. 2439 01:26:04,539 --> 01:26:07,199 She if she pulls against me, I'm screwed. 2440 01:26:08,060 --> 01:26:10,619 So when he was clearly not making plans 2441 01:26:10,619 --> 01:26:12,619 to go to the vet with me for 2442 01:26:12,619 --> 01:26:13,119 Ella, 2443 01:26:13,524 --> 01:26:14,244 I was like, 2444 01:26:14,965 --> 01:26:16,965 are you going? He's like, why the fuck 2445 01:26:16,965 --> 01:26:18,505 was that? Right. 2446 01:26:19,284 --> 01:26:21,545 Like, because this is what we do together. 2447 01:26:21,604 --> 01:26:25,145 We go gawk at the hot vet together. 2448 01:26:25,850 --> 01:26:27,850 You did miss the opportunity. I I know 2449 01:26:27,850 --> 01:26:29,689 that. And I know that. I'm I'm well 2450 01:26:29,689 --> 01:26:31,850 aware of that, the opportunity that I missed. 2451 01:26:31,850 --> 01:26:33,210 And it was a good opportunity. It was 2452 01:26:33,210 --> 01:26:34,810 looking good. But I I was I was 2453 01:26:34,810 --> 01:26:36,029 playing with sharp things. 2454 01:26:39,534 --> 01:26:40,814 I'm pretty sure you can play the Sharp 2455 01:26:40,814 --> 01:26:42,494 Things with the vet too, but that's that's 2456 01:26:42,494 --> 01:26:45,394 a different kink, and y'all should negotiate that. 2457 01:26:46,894 --> 01:26:47,394 Yeah. 2458 01:26:47,774 --> 01:26:49,795 Yeah. I did say when we 2459 01:26:50,175 --> 01:26:52,094 nobody has to go with Onyx other than 2460 01:26:52,094 --> 01:26:53,314 to drop off because 2461 01:26:53,860 --> 01:26:56,260 Onyx will not take medication. You cannot hide 2462 01:26:56,260 --> 01:26:57,560 medication in her food. 2463 01:26:58,340 --> 01:27:00,840 If anything smells even slightly different, 2464 01:27:01,220 --> 01:27:03,619 she just won't eat. Right. There is no 2465 01:27:03,619 --> 01:27:05,699 hiding it. She's like that even if it's 2466 01:27:05,699 --> 01:27:07,985 like a different batch. Like, when when Friskies 2467 01:27:08,045 --> 01:27:10,045 made the food that day, they did something 2468 01:27:10,045 --> 01:27:13,024 different. There there was there was, just recently 2469 01:27:13,085 --> 01:27:15,265 last month in the in the, box, 2470 01:27:16,045 --> 01:27:18,925 one flavor of the food, they changed something, 2471 01:27:18,925 --> 01:27:20,539 and she would not touch it. 2472 01:27:20,920 --> 01:27:22,920 That girl knows her smells and her taste, 2473 01:27:22,920 --> 01:27:24,920 and you cannot fool her or fuck with 2474 01:27:24,920 --> 01:27:27,579 her. So we can't hide medication and food. 2475 01:27:27,880 --> 01:27:30,199 She is also very difficult to try and 2476 01:27:30,199 --> 01:27:32,085 hold. You get one shot to grab her, 2477 01:27:32,164 --> 01:27:34,805 and you better mean it because so the 2478 01:27:34,805 --> 01:27:36,805 idea of trying to shove medication down our 2479 01:27:36,805 --> 01:27:38,484 throat, like, we can't even fathom it now. 2480 01:27:38,484 --> 01:27:38,984 No. 2481 01:27:39,844 --> 01:27:42,645 So I was like, can can somebody tell 2482 01:27:42,645 --> 01:27:44,484 me what the cost would be? She needs 2483 01:27:44,484 --> 01:27:46,725 her wellness visit. She needs her full checkup. 2484 01:27:46,725 --> 01:27:48,619 She needs her rabies shot, blah blah 2485 01:27:49,079 --> 01:27:51,399 blah. But we are not gonna get the 2486 01:27:51,399 --> 01:27:52,779 sedative in her 2487 01:27:53,079 --> 01:27:55,000 at home. It's not gonna happen. So, like, 2488 01:27:55,000 --> 01:27:56,679 yes. We do this, and it's a twilight 2489 01:27:56,679 --> 01:27:58,859 sedation, and you drop them off, and they 2490 01:27:59,319 --> 01:28:01,239 give them a shot, and it sedates them. 2491 01:28:01,239 --> 01:28:03,045 And then wait for them to be fully 2492 01:28:03,045 --> 01:28:04,344 sedated. They do 2493 01:28:04,885 --> 01:28:06,564 the stuff, then they wait for them to 2494 01:28:06,564 --> 01:28:07,524 come out of it to make sure they're 2495 01:28:07,524 --> 01:28:08,805 okay, and then you can come pick them 2496 01:28:08,805 --> 01:28:09,305 up. 2497 01:28:10,005 --> 01:28:11,064 And I was like, 2498 01:28:11,765 --> 01:28:14,005 I'm glad she's a relatively healthy cat. Knock 2499 01:28:14,005 --> 01:28:16,425 on wood. It stays that way because 2500 01:28:17,359 --> 01:28:19,439 it ain't cheap to do that one. I 2501 01:28:19,439 --> 01:28:20,479 mean, it's not cheap to go to the 2502 01:28:20,479 --> 01:28:21,219 vet anyway, 2503 01:28:21,840 --> 01:28:22,979 but it's an extra, 2504 01:28:23,760 --> 01:28:25,380 probably, a $150 2505 01:28:25,599 --> 01:28:27,539 just to do it that way. Yeah. But 2506 01:28:28,159 --> 01:28:29,920 she also hasn't had a good checkup in 2507 01:28:29,920 --> 01:28:31,199 a couple of years. So 2508 01:28:31,835 --> 01:28:34,335 She's due. She's due. She's due for it. 2509 01:28:35,034 --> 01:28:37,435 She will, I promise you, not speak to 2510 01:28:37,435 --> 01:28:39,594 us for Oh, no. Three to five business 2511 01:28:39,594 --> 01:28:42,314 days after that appointment. She will be so 2512 01:28:42,314 --> 01:28:43,215 mad at us. 2513 01:28:43,675 --> 01:28:44,814 So mad at us. 2514 01:28:48,849 --> 01:28:49,489 Mm-mm. So 2515 01:28:50,130 --> 01:28:51,989 Yeah. You know? Mhmm. 2516 01:28:54,130 --> 01:28:56,289 I'm looking at Lola now. Yeah. Because Lola 2517 01:28:56,289 --> 01:28:58,929 is next up because something's up with her 2518 01:28:58,929 --> 01:29:01,010 back paw. Yeah. I was reading I was 2519 01:29:01,010 --> 01:29:02,710 reading a poster at the vet's office. 2520 01:29:03,465 --> 01:29:05,704 It was a medication advertisement, but it talked 2521 01:29:05,704 --> 01:29:06,524 about osteoarthritis. 2522 01:29:07,225 --> 01:29:08,764 Mhmm. And every 2523 01:29:09,225 --> 01:29:11,465 every symptom it listed, I was like, oh 2524 01:29:11,465 --> 01:29:13,545 oh, yeah. That's our girl, Lola. Well, that's 2525 01:29:13,545 --> 01:29:15,944 that's just like two. I, you know, looked 2526 01:29:15,944 --> 01:29:17,885 up the other day in the, hip dysplasia. 2527 01:29:19,210 --> 01:29:20,430 Yeah. You know? 2528 01:29:20,890 --> 01:29:22,570 And, At least we can take her ass 2529 01:29:22,570 --> 01:29:23,949 to the vet. Yeah. 2530 01:29:24,409 --> 01:29:26,030 I mean, the the thing was 2531 01:29:27,930 --> 01:29:30,810 she has always limped to some degree because 2532 01:29:30,810 --> 01:29:33,275 of the leg that had been shot. Mhmm. 2533 01:29:33,574 --> 01:29:34,855 You know? But now she's 2534 01:29:35,255 --> 01:29:37,034 This is her back leg. Yeah. 2535 01:29:37,494 --> 01:29:37,895 So 2536 01:29:38,375 --> 01:29:38,875 Yeah. 2537 01:29:39,735 --> 01:29:41,835 Yeah. This is the summer of 2538 01:29:42,215 --> 01:29:45,095 vet appointments Mhmm. Which I was look I 2539 01:29:45,095 --> 01:29:46,155 was looking at 2540 01:29:46,534 --> 01:29:48,619 the history because I was looking at Ella's 2541 01:29:48,619 --> 01:29:50,220 history. When we get the receipt from our 2542 01:29:50,220 --> 01:29:52,060 vet, they always show, like, the last appointments 2543 01:29:52,060 --> 01:29:52,880 they've had. And, 2544 01:29:53,340 --> 01:29:55,600 yeah, it tends to be a summer thing. 2545 01:29:57,100 --> 01:29:58,859 Mhmm. As long as by the end of 2546 01:29:58,859 --> 01:30:00,364 it, everybody is as as healthy as they 2547 01:30:00,364 --> 01:30:02,885 can Right. And doing well, then I'm Yes. 2548 01:30:02,885 --> 01:30:04,744 Yes. Yes. Then I'm good. Mhmm. 2549 01:30:06,645 --> 01:30:07,145 Yeah. 2550 01:30:08,244 --> 01:30:09,604 But, yeah, that's our life right now. And 2551 01:30:09,604 --> 01:30:10,005 if we 2552 01:30:11,524 --> 01:30:12,345 I got nothing. 2553 01:30:13,440 --> 01:30:14,479 Would we like to go back down the 2554 01:30:14,479 --> 01:30:14,979 riboholoprinsis 2555 01:30:15,280 --> 01:30:16,960 treatment? I could do that. That's on my 2556 01:30:16,960 --> 01:30:17,460 brain. 2557 01:30:18,239 --> 01:30:18,900 Talk about 2558 01:30:19,360 --> 01:30:20,180 my animals. 2559 01:30:20,800 --> 01:30:22,479 Yep. Can do that. That's on my brain. 2560 01:30:22,479 --> 01:30:22,979 Mhmm. 2561 01:30:23,520 --> 01:30:25,360 I'm gonna be a parent of a 20 2562 01:30:25,360 --> 01:30:27,460 year old Yeah. As of Sunday. 2563 01:30:28,085 --> 01:30:28,585 Yeah. 2564 01:30:30,484 --> 01:30:31,925 See, the way we do this, I have 2565 01:30:31,925 --> 01:30:32,984 done this with him. 2566 01:30:33,604 --> 01:30:35,045 I set it, like, back in the day 2567 01:30:35,045 --> 01:30:36,344 when I used to post on Facebook 2568 01:30:36,645 --> 01:30:38,185 literally nineteen years ago. 2569 01:30:39,604 --> 01:30:41,125 But I would post it, and then I 2570 01:30:41,850 --> 01:30:43,369 as he got older, I started saying it 2571 01:30:43,369 --> 01:30:44,409 to him. And I think last year, I 2572 01:30:44,409 --> 01:30:46,649 did say it to him. It's always it's 2573 01:30:46,649 --> 01:30:49,550 not just the celebration of this child's birth. 2574 01:30:49,850 --> 01:30:52,250 It is also the celebration that I managed 2575 01:30:52,250 --> 01:30:54,189 to keep him alive another year 2576 01:30:54,649 --> 01:30:57,405 because that that baby was the experiment. I 2577 01:30:57,405 --> 01:30:59,805 had y'all, I am such an only only 2578 01:30:59,805 --> 01:31:00,545 only child, 2579 01:31:01,005 --> 01:31:03,185 only grandchild. There were I had no cousins. 2580 01:31:03,885 --> 01:31:06,604 I didn't the first baby I ever held 2581 01:31:06,604 --> 01:31:09,405 was my own. The first diaper I ever 2582 01:31:09,405 --> 01:31:11,345 changed was that child's diaper. 2583 01:31:11,880 --> 01:31:12,619 I was 2584 01:31:13,239 --> 01:31:13,739 clueless. 2585 01:31:14,359 --> 01:31:15,260 I am not 2586 01:31:15,640 --> 01:31:16,219 I was 2587 01:31:16,600 --> 01:31:18,359 never one of those kids that played with 2588 01:31:18,359 --> 01:31:20,119 her dolls and tried to be, like, do 2589 01:31:20,119 --> 01:31:22,279 the mommy and this is my baby. That 2590 01:31:22,439 --> 01:31:23,414 nope. Nope. 2591 01:31:23,895 --> 01:31:26,694 Nope. That was never me. I was like, 2592 01:31:26,694 --> 01:31:29,274 I think maternal instinct is a myth because 2593 01:31:29,895 --> 01:31:30,395 nope. 2594 01:31:31,255 --> 01:31:33,515 So, yeah, those first few years, 2595 01:31:34,215 --> 01:31:36,234 it was a miracle. Like, he 2596 01:31:36,694 --> 01:31:37,730 he was relatively 2597 01:31:38,270 --> 01:31:40,130 healthy. We kept him safe. He's 2598 01:31:41,070 --> 01:31:41,730 as mentally 2599 01:31:42,190 --> 01:31:43,710 well as a human can be in the 2600 01:31:43,710 --> 01:31:45,470 year of our lord 2025. 2601 01:31:45,470 --> 01:31:48,110 Like, he's good. But, yeah, we we're not 2602 01:31:48,110 --> 01:31:49,034 just celebrating his 2603 01:31:50,235 --> 01:31:52,715 birth. We're celebrating the pure luck of keeping 2604 01:31:52,715 --> 01:31:54,875 that shot alive. I did I did have 2605 01:31:54,875 --> 01:31:55,914 to modify it when he went off to 2606 01:31:55,914 --> 01:31:57,195 college. I was like, I don't actually keep 2607 01:31:57,195 --> 01:31:59,375 you alive anymore. You keep you alive, but, 2608 01:31:59,755 --> 01:32:01,055 you know, I'm here for backup. 2609 01:32:02,074 --> 01:32:03,295 Right. So, 2610 01:32:04,770 --> 01:32:05,270 anyway, 2611 01:32:06,050 --> 01:32:07,670 20. Goddamn 20. 2612 01:32:08,210 --> 01:32:08,710 Mhmm. 2613 01:32:09,569 --> 01:32:11,010 You know, and I I know I'm not 2614 01:32:11,010 --> 01:32:11,909 alone in this. 2615 01:32:13,409 --> 01:32:16,284 I know my chronological age. I know how 2616 01:32:16,364 --> 01:32:17,805 most of the time. Sometimes I think I'm 2617 01:32:17,805 --> 01:32:19,005 older than I am, sometimes I'm living in 2618 01:32:19,005 --> 01:32:20,845 younger, but, like, I vaguely know I'm still 2619 01:32:20,845 --> 01:32:21,585 45. 2620 01:32:21,885 --> 01:32:23,164 But if you had to ask me how 2621 01:32:23,164 --> 01:32:25,244 I feel on a on a good day, 2622 01:32:25,244 --> 01:32:27,085 I would, like, in my brain, I'm still 2623 01:32:27,085 --> 01:32:27,904 25. 2624 01:32:28,204 --> 01:32:30,340 But 25 is when I have that child. 2625 01:32:30,639 --> 01:32:33,520 So to like, the concept of him being 2626 01:32:33,520 --> 01:32:35,699 20, like, my brain goes, that's not possible. 2627 01:32:36,319 --> 01:32:38,500 Having a hard time wrapping around this. Yeah. 2628 01:32:38,960 --> 01:32:39,699 What? Yeah. 2629 01:32:44,444 --> 01:32:46,204 No. On a bad day, I definitely don't 2630 01:32:46,204 --> 01:32:48,844 feel torn. Yeah. It's actually, like, not my 2631 01:32:49,085 --> 01:32:50,685 not not what I feel physically, but it's 2632 01:32:50,685 --> 01:32:52,765 like a mental age. Like, my brain was, 2633 01:32:52,765 --> 01:32:55,265 like, you're between 25 and 30, clearly. 2634 01:32:56,470 --> 01:32:58,090 I clearly am not, but 2635 01:33:00,149 --> 01:33:00,970 yeah. Yeah. 2636 01:33:02,869 --> 01:33:04,569 As y'all could tell, I could keep rambling. 2637 01:33:04,789 --> 01:33:07,130 Yeah. Of course. I should probably stop, though. 2638 01:33:09,234 --> 01:33:11,475 I mean, we couldn't yeah. We'll be back 2639 01:33:11,475 --> 01:33:12,914 again Friday night. We will be back again 2640 01:33:12,914 --> 01:33:14,515 Friday night. I hope y'all will be here 2641 01:33:14,515 --> 01:33:15,094 with us. 2642 01:33:15,715 --> 01:33:17,234 If you're like, I've never done a Friday 2643 01:33:17,234 --> 01:33:18,914 night. What is it like? It's like this. 2644 01:33:18,914 --> 01:33:20,835 Y'all, it's like this. Except there's a lot 2645 01:33:20,835 --> 01:33:22,020 more back and forth with the 2646 01:33:24,020 --> 01:33:24,659 live chat. Mhmm. A lot more back and 2647 01:33:24,659 --> 01:33:26,279 forth with the live chat. True. True. True. 2648 01:33:27,460 --> 01:33:29,000 So yeah. Excuse me. 2649 01:33:29,619 --> 01:33:30,119 I 2650 01:33:30,739 --> 01:33:31,479 oh, goodness. 2651 01:33:31,939 --> 01:33:33,380 Baby got a bobble. Pardon me? Do I 2652 01:33:33,380 --> 01:33:35,140 need to burp you? No. I still remember 2653 01:33:35,140 --> 01:33:35,385 how to 2654 01:33:36,104 --> 01:33:38,364 to do that. I learned the right technique. 2655 01:33:39,944 --> 01:33:41,224 I had to have a second child to 2656 01:33:41,224 --> 01:33:42,824 learn that technique and stop getting spit up 2657 01:33:42,824 --> 01:33:43,864 on me, but I did a bunch of 2658 01:33:43,864 --> 01:33:44,364 work. 2659 01:33:45,064 --> 01:33:45,564 Anyway, 2660 01:33:46,984 --> 01:33:48,744 I was always, why would anybody let me 2661 01:33:48,744 --> 01:33:50,104 have a child? I don't know what I'm 2662 01:33:50,104 --> 01:33:50,604 doing. 2663 01:33:51,920 --> 01:33:53,779 Kept him alive. He's fine. He's 2664 01:33:54,319 --> 01:33:55,380 mildly thriving. 2665 01:34:00,880 --> 01:34:01,380 Anyway, 2666 01:34:02,719 --> 01:34:04,319 I don't know. Well, I don't know if 2667 01:34:04,319 --> 01:34:07,314 I need an adult beverage Mhmm. For Friday 2668 01:34:07,314 --> 01:34:08,114 or if I need an 2669 01:34:09,074 --> 01:34:10,614 one of the special chocolates. 2670 01:34:13,074 --> 01:34:15,014 But I'm gonna need something to 2671 01:34:15,395 --> 01:34:17,554 force you back. Made the martini like I 2672 01:34:17,554 --> 01:34:19,554 said. You never did? No. No. You didn't 2673 01:34:19,715 --> 01:34:21,739 we should sell we'll celebrate a belated birthday 2674 01:34:21,819 --> 01:34:23,899 Yeah. For you. Mhmm. And if you don't 2675 01:34:23,899 --> 01:34:25,180 have enough of the ingredients to make me 2676 01:34:25,180 --> 01:34:26,859 a martini or or you want to, don't 2677 01:34:26,859 --> 01:34:28,380 you worry. Just put some vodka in whatever 2678 01:34:28,380 --> 01:34:29,979 I'm drinking, and I'm there with you. You're 2679 01:34:29,979 --> 01:34:31,979 with me. Having a good old time. There 2680 01:34:31,979 --> 01:34:33,819 you go. See? I wanna try the Tom 2681 01:34:33,819 --> 01:34:35,180 Hanks thing. I don't know how old that 2682 01:34:35,180 --> 01:34:36,395 video clip is. Did I send it to 2683 01:34:36,395 --> 01:34:38,515 you? I sent it to you. Where he's 2684 01:34:38,515 --> 01:34:40,034 a Diet Coke drinker. I knew I like 2685 01:34:40,034 --> 01:34:41,954 Tom Hanks for a reason. And he was 2686 01:34:41,954 --> 01:34:42,534 at some 2687 01:34:42,994 --> 01:34:43,494 something 2688 01:34:43,875 --> 01:34:46,034 and it was champagne and he had them 2689 01:34:46,034 --> 01:34:48,195 pour champagne in his Diet Coke or he 2690 01:34:48,354 --> 01:34:50,114 whatever whatever. He made his own cocktail with 2691 01:34:50,114 --> 01:34:52,650 champagne and Diet Coke. And apparently, that shit's 2692 01:34:52,650 --> 01:34:53,869 delicious. And I'm 2693 01:34:55,050 --> 01:34:56,810 like, I'll try that too. Well, that's right. 2694 01:34:56,810 --> 01:34:58,729 You sent me the, the real. Because it's 2695 01:34:58,729 --> 01:35:01,070 from the Steamboat there. So Mhmm. Mhmm. 2696 01:35:03,610 --> 01:35:04,110 So, 2697 01:35:05,895 --> 01:35:07,835 okay, we're gonna go. Okay. 2698 01:35:08,614 --> 01:35:10,454 If you're still here to this point, we 2699 01:35:10,454 --> 01:35:11,755 really appreciate you. 2700 01:35:13,335 --> 01:35:15,515 We always appreciate you hanging out with us. 2701 01:35:15,814 --> 01:35:18,369 Everybody. Yeah. Because I still I cannot fathom 2702 01:35:18,369 --> 01:35:19,570 that people are like, yeah. Yeah. I'll go 2703 01:35:19,570 --> 01:35:21,750 listen to that crazy lady on the Internet. 2704 01:35:22,369 --> 01:35:24,130 That'll keep me occupied for an hour and 2705 01:35:24,130 --> 01:35:24,710 a half. 2706 01:35:25,329 --> 01:35:27,190 Y'all are my people, so it works. 2707 01:35:28,050 --> 01:35:29,810 So, yeah, we'll be back Friday, and we'll 2708 01:35:29,810 --> 01:35:32,630 take a week off. Mhmm. Blah blah blah. 2709 01:35:33,358 --> 01:35:36,097 Okay. Okay. Okay. Bye. Good night.