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You're listening to the Loving BDSM podcast episode

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four forty six. Kayla Lords here with the

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one, the only, the it's almost your birthday.

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Shout browns down.

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Nope. Birthday's been canceled this year. Nope. Nope.

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Nope. I want cake. I want wherever you've

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decided we're going out to eat. And while

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I'm

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also dreading it, I want my I want

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your birthday spanks

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because that's what we do. That's how we

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do this. That's a lot.

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Yeah. I mean, I want you to keep

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getting older. Aging is privileged. You're not going

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to grow without me. We're living to be

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over 100. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But also,

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you're about to be 64.

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That's the day after this episode comes out.

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True. And you always give me one to

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grow on. Yep. So it's 65

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smacks, and you always make the last one

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the hardest.

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Space. I do. So I am both

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really looking forward to that and also

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dreading it.

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Don't you hate when that happens? I mean,

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the older we keep getting, the less I

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can sit down after a birthday span. Frank.

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And then you get an extra one on

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your end. I know. It's coming up, you

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know, in the world. In the sixties. We

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won't Not yet. Nope. Not yet. Still in

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the forties. Still in the forties.

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If this all sounds a little unhinged,

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then I guess it works for this week's

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episode.

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We're gonna keep it chaotic and weird, by

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answering

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10, quote,

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unhinged

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relationship questions,

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as posted on Instagram and probably TikTok, I'm

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sure, by therapy Jeff.

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He actually said in, like, the real, I

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mean,

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should you answer these? I don't know.

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And and that's when I knew, Yes. That

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that's what the questions are. Boy. This sounded

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really good. Alright.

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Okay. So before we get into our 10

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unhinged

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relationship questions,

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a reminder: you can still sign up for

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not just like real surface level stuff and

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then, you know,

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genuine information. I had somebody ask last week

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would this be okay

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or good for somebody who's not currently in

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a relationship? And I think to me I

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think so because

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part of the whole purpose is to help

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you figure out how BDSM will fit with

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the life you have, what you want, how

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you want this to look in, you know,

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now and in the future. And you can

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absolutely

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start figuring some of that out without a

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partner.

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It can make it clearer for you on

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what kind of partner you're looking for. It

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can help with negotiations because you're like, this

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is what I know I want, this is

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what I know I don't want.

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So yeah. It's free. Link is in the

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places.

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If you haven't already signed up, you haven't

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checked out the link yet, go take a

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look, see if it's for you. Sign up.

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Yay. Okay.

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Oh, that is through Dom Sub Living.

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It's not through us. We have partnered with

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Alessandra many, many, many times. They're the ones

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who do the virtual summit that we did

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earlier this year and, a few other things

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throughout the year. So

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they've been around and we've been around them

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for a few years and

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yeah. We like them. We trust them.

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Good educational stuff.

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And that's how you do a sales pitch.

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I'm a professional.

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Okay. I'm gonna get into,

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these questions, the way it's gonna work. I'm

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gonna read them. JB is gonna answer so

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he actually gets some airtime, and then I'll

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suck up all the oxygen in the room,

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and then we'll repeat and do this for

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for 10 whole times. Oh. Before you do

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that Sure. Oh, please turn the fan on.

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I was starting to, like, swelter in here.

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And that's with it being evening

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and overcast. It really, really wants to rain

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outside, but it has not yet. And all

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the curtains closed. Right. Still sweltering.

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Yep.

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So Therapy Jeff is a relationship

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therapist,

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counselor person. He's professional.

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I I see him on Instagram. I know

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he's on TikTok.

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His reels are,

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sometimes quite to the point

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you know, somebody probably got their feelings hurt

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based on the comments, but he's pretty no

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nonsense, and I kinda like his delivery and

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his vibe. So

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if you like these questions,

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you might like him.

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Go check him out. The link to the

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actual reel where these questions come from is

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in the places as well.

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Okay. Here we go.

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First question.

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Yeah. I know. This one blouse. Yeah. Okay.

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If you learned that your partner had been

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hired to date you as part of a

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social experiment

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where very hot people dated complete losers,

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would you be able to forgive them?

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I love the implication that we are individually

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on each side of the question, the hot

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person. Yeah.

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You know, I honestly don't know. Mhmm.

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I honestly don't know.

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it would depend on a lot of variables.

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Mhmm. I agree with that. I agree with

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What, like some name some variables. Name some

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variables? Yes.

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I I guess if they showed remorse.

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That would be that would be one thing.

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You know, and I think it if if

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the feeling if there were feelings that were

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genuine.

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Sure. You know? But,

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yeah. That'd be wild. Would you be do

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you think can you imagine what your initial

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reaction might be? Probably shock.

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I I definitely shock, betrayal,

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so pissed off. But then I'm I agree

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with you. It

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it context dependent. If it's a month into

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the relationship,

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a year into the relationship,

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I don't know that I could move on

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from something like that. That's that's too soon.

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That's not enough depth of trust for me.

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At this point, ten years in, I'd be

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dude, they forgot the game was even being

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played.

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It's just you on on your lonesome eye.

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At this point, a decade in, you clearly

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want to be here. So there would have

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to be some level of Grove

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Ling. I accept cash payments and gifts.

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There would have to be

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remorse in order for me. We would have

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to go to a therapist because I would

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my trust issues being what they are,

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that's a pretty deep

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betrayal.

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Mhmm. But

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if I can then add the layers of,

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everything else that's gone on since and those

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things still feel genuine,

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I could probably get over it. But if

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now I'm looking at everything that's gone on

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for the entirety of our relationship through that

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That'd be tough. That would be tough. That

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would be tough. That would be tough. So

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yeah. Early days in a relationship, honey, you're

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out on your fucking ass. Go. Go. Go.

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years later, in in a relatively

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good relationship where you're Mhmm. You're happy to

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be there and, you know, everybody seems to

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wanna be there,

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I mean, there'd be some work to do.

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Yeah. But, you know. Yeah. I I think

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the thing that gets me

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the most out of it, you know, that

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oh, so I'm a loser then. Right. You

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know? That's the thing that's the implication. Like,

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what's going on in my head?

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I I I was the loser.

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Okay. That's what you thought of me when

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you like, that those are the kinds of

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thoughts I think I would be having. I'd

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be like, that's what you thought of me

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at first. Mhmm. And I think,

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you know, hypothetically,

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once I could think clearly

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and my sarcasm came back, I'd be like,

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well, clearly, there's something wrong with you because

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you stuck around all this time. But yeah.

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Or a newish relationship that doesn't have, like,

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any foundation? Yeah. Get the fuck out of

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here. I'm done.

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Go. Okay. Next question.

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This one cracked me. This no. Not this

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one. I'm thinking of another one. Sorry. Chaos.

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Okay. Imagine a situation where someone offered you

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money to go no contact

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with your partner for one year.

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What would be the minimum amount that could

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make you seriously consider it?

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I am terrified.

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It better be more than 5 damn dollars.

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I don't think

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well, you know what? In all honesty, I

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don't think I could do it. I could

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not. I there is no.

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Tell me a trillion. Oh, let's make that's

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make believe money. Okay. No. It's Yeah. I

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I don't I

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Not no contact. Not no contact. Yeah. No.

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Something,

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something. And I couldn't do it for, like,

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longer than that because,

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you know, even if I tried to, like,

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put our myself back into the long distance

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relationship headspace Mhmm. We didn't do, like, so

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hot mentally in as individuals when we went

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more than, like, two months without seeing what

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it is like or so. There's, like, a

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a time limit. And now the layers of,

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interdependency

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we have on each other.

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Nope. There's It's scary. The amount of money

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does not exist. It does not exist.

284
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Okay. This one this one is unhinged. No.

285
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That's right. This one

286
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is so unhinged. And I this one's so

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unhinged.

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If it was discovered that you and your

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partner are actually long lost half siblings,

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would you stay together and would you tell

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anyone?

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Fuck.

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Visions of VC Andrews popping in my head.

294
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Lord. I'm a little braggy. Try to reread

295
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those books. Yeah. I know. But we're but

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long lost. Long lost. Yeah. Yeah. We're not

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raised together.

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Long lost. Okay. So

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I I I I,

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damn. It's a it's a two parter. Would

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we stay together? Siblings, half siblings. Right. Like

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like, we don't share both parents. It's just,

303
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like, share a mom, share a dad something.

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I don't think I could.

305
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Really? I don't think I could. Not not

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with not like that. That that's just too

307
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close for comfort for me.

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I respect that. I think most people would

309
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say that. Me?

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My because I'm thinking of you. I'm not

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thinking of a random partner. It's you. Oh,

312
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no. We're together. We're not trying to procreate.

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This is not about there's no inbreeding that's

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about to happen. If we were not raised

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together,

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we've gone forty some odd and sixty some

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odd years

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apart, never as siblings, and we're not trying

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to mix and match genetics.

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I'm not going no fucking way.

321
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Am I telling anybody? But that is not

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the episode that would pop up in this

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podcast.

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I mean,

325
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nope.

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But, I mean,

327
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everything's context dependent. You know? Are we

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19 and, you know, graduated from the same

329
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high school?

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Like

331
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yeah. That no. Thank you. At this point,

332
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though, and not not knowing a damn thing

333
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about each other and, again, let me see.

334
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Not making babies

335
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together.

336
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Yeah. No. I with you knowing it's you,

337
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you're not going just sit down. You'll be

338
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okay. We won't tell anybody. We will pretend

339
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we don't don't know.

340
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It'll be fine.

341
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It'll be fine.

342
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Maybe maybe the libido will, like,

343
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be dormant for a while while we get

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our head on

345
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right. But just sit down. Okay? We're not

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we're not gonna tell anybody.

347
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They don't need to know

348
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what we do

349
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in our own house

350
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behind closed doors.

351
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Us. Truly, uncle, daddy, two in one deal.

352
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Oh my gosh. Love it. I love it.

353
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Love it. Love it. Look. Look. Look.

354
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It if the step

355
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sibling,

356
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smut trope can be a thing,

357
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the we were raised completely apart

358
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for literal decades,

359
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did not know, don't have a the only

360
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connection is genetic,

361
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and we're not trying to make babies

362
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with our genetic code,

363
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I think the step sibling thing is more

364
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taboo

365
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based on all of that. But I'm still

366
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not telling no damn body.

367
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That is for fucking sure. I'm not telling

368
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anybody. Nope.

369
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Nope.

370
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Okay. This one,

371
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I I have a very clear answer on

372
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this next one. Yeah.

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Suppose you discovered that your previous relationship ended

374
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because your current partner covertly

375
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orchestrated its demise, ensuring you were single so

376
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they could step into your life. Would you

377
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find this romantic or a red flag? Red

378
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flag. Romantic.

379
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Really? You would have saved me from my

380
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fucking ex husband. Thank you very much. Jeez.

381
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No. When I answer these questions, I'm thinking

382
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of you and the relationship that we have.

383
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Had I found out five minutes into it,

384
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that's a red flag.

385
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Here I am looking back on my life,

386
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and I'm like, oh, that needed to end.

387
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Thank you for helping me.

388
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It only works if I find out a

389
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decade plus later.

390
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Within the first year, it's like a betrayal.

391
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It's a red flag. What the hell is

392
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going on? Because

393
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will that be happening to me in the

394
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future? I mean, I do have a little

395
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bit of that. It's not it's not universally

396
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true, but it is more common than not

397
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that what somebody will do with one partner,

398
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like, when it comes to betraying trust, they

399
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will likely do with somebody else. Could orchestrate

400
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something like that, I wouldn't wanna be around

401
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to see what else you could do if

402
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you get pissed at me.

403
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No. I'd be like, okay. Look. We're gonna

404
00:15:47,735 --> 00:15:49,490
try a bank heist next because

405
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I'm feeling a little broke.

406
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Really? Have a very specific set of skills.

407
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Like, you need to capitalize on this. Now

408
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when it's you

409
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and we're because especially

410
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once you've been together at a there's a

411
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certain amount of time,

412
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assuming there are no, like, other red flags

413
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in a relationship, assuming it's a genuinely on

414
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both sides

415
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happy relationship,

416
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I'm just gonna be like, okay. You paved

417
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the way you made this possible. Because here's

418
00:16:20,460 --> 00:16:21,899
the thing, I can look back and see

419
00:16:21,899 --> 00:16:24,299
how my life is better with you than

420
00:16:24,299 --> 00:16:26,860
with anybody else I was with before. Same.

421
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I mean, I can yeah. If that holds

422
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true,

423
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then thank you. Thank you for saving me

424
00:16:33,014 --> 00:16:33,754
from myself.

425
00:16:34,134 --> 00:16:36,054
I clearly should not be allowed to pick

426
00:16:36,054 --> 00:16:38,375
my own partner, and you just keep doing

427
00:16:38,375 --> 00:16:39,835
it for me.

428
00:16:44,769 --> 00:16:46,629
I mean, that's that's just you know?

429
00:16:49,490 --> 00:16:51,269
Okay. Excuse me. This one

430
00:16:53,570 --> 00:16:54,470
this one

431
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Yeah.

432
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Is

433
00:16:58,264 --> 00:17:00,665
it doesn't feel that unhinged to me. Mhmm.

434
00:17:00,665 --> 00:17:01,565
Because I think

435
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we in the kink world would call this

436
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a Saturday night.

437
00:17:07,465 --> 00:17:08,845
Imagine a situation

438
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where someone offered you money

439
00:17:11,465 --> 00:17:14,140
to watch your partner make passionate love with

440
00:17:14,140 --> 00:17:16,400
their number one celebrity crush.

441
00:17:16,779 --> 00:17:18,860
What would be the minimum amount that could

442
00:17:18,860 --> 00:17:20,460
make you pull up a chair and watch

443
00:17:20,460 --> 00:17:21,200
it go down?

444
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Wouldn't need to pay me a dime. I

445
00:17:23,019 --> 00:17:24,779
know. You would be paying us. You'd be

446
00:17:24,779 --> 00:17:27,660
like, Henry Cavill? Come on down. Right. I

447
00:17:27,660 --> 00:17:29,765
have a check for you. Pedro Pascal? You

448
00:17:29,765 --> 00:17:31,464
know? Oh my both? Jesus.

449
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God.

450
00:17:33,525 --> 00:17:35,785
Oh my god. Yeah. Because they both have

451
00:17:36,005 --> 00:17:38,265
a similar kind of inner oh my god.

452
00:17:39,444 --> 00:17:41,099
Yeah. I would pay you. I would pay

453
00:17:41,179 --> 00:17:42,619
them. I would pay you. Yeah. I I

454
00:17:42,619 --> 00:17:44,220
wouldn't no. Yeah. Yeah. No. You wouldn't need

455
00:17:44,220 --> 00:17:45,819
to pay me. Just go. Because you're a

456
00:17:45,819 --> 00:17:47,519
voyeur though. Right? You are a voyeur.

457
00:17:47,900 --> 00:17:50,059
Also, we don't have weird feelings about, oh,

458
00:17:50,059 --> 00:17:51,740
you have a celebrity crush you'd like to

459
00:17:51,740 --> 00:17:53,419
fuck. We talk about who we'd like to

460
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fuck together and who would we destroy?

461
00:17:55,595 --> 00:17:57,375
Who could not handle us?

462
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Every time I see

463
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a

464
00:18:02,315 --> 00:18:04,335
clip or a reel or, like, rehashing

465
00:18:04,875 --> 00:18:07,375
when Pager Pascal basically said he was submissive,

466
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I'm just like,

467
00:18:09,630 --> 00:18:12,430
oh my god. Okay. I I can't make

468
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it work on my own, but that's why

469
00:18:14,109 --> 00:18:15,730
we make a good team.

470
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And

471
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oh, yeah.

472
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So here's

473
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here's the thing. I am

474
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I am both an exhibitionist

475
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and, like, anti voyeur. Like, I am repulsed

476
00:18:29,045 --> 00:18:31,144
by voyeurism I don't wanna watch.

477
00:18:31,605 --> 00:18:33,625
Like, I can I can read it,

478
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and I can kinda watch it in movies

479
00:18:35,845 --> 00:18:37,529
and TV shows, kind of?

480
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But to be in the room,

481
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I'm gonna need I am gonna need some

482
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money. Not because I'm freaked out. Not because

483
00:18:45,769 --> 00:18:47,849
I'm like, oh, no. I don't wanna watch

484
00:18:47,849 --> 00:18:49,609
the man I love. Fuck somebody else. No.

485
00:18:49,609 --> 00:18:51,855
No. No. No. It's because I am so

486
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deeply uncomfortable

487
00:18:54,414 --> 00:18:56,434
watching things like that and being the voyeur.

488
00:18:56,494 --> 00:18:57,714
I I get impatient.

489
00:18:58,174 --> 00:18:59,075
I get antsy.

490
00:18:59,615 --> 00:19:01,634
I figure if you give me an edible

491
00:19:02,255 --> 00:19:05,380
and enough money to pay off, like, actual

492
00:19:05,380 --> 00:19:07,700
debt, like, you could feel the difference the

493
00:19:07,700 --> 00:19:09,220
next month when you don't have to pay

494
00:19:09,220 --> 00:19:09,960
that bill.

495
00:19:11,619 --> 00:19:13,799
That's enough. I'll watch you fuck anybody.

496
00:19:14,419 --> 00:19:15,640
Create a line, everybody.

497
00:19:16,179 --> 00:19:18,755
Roll up, pay me money, get the mortgage

498
00:19:18,755 --> 00:19:20,515
paid off while we're at it. But I

499
00:19:20,515 --> 00:19:22,515
might need an edible. I might need something

500
00:19:22,515 --> 00:19:23,174
to, like,

501
00:19:23,714 --> 00:19:25,575
relax me. I might need something

502
00:19:26,275 --> 00:19:29,315
to to temper the whatever I got going.

503
00:19:29,315 --> 00:19:30,055
I'm gonna,

504
00:19:30,839 --> 00:19:32,440
yeah, I'm gonna need that. I'm gonna need

505
00:19:32,440 --> 00:19:34,519
that. Yeah. But see, the thing is because

506
00:19:34,519 --> 00:19:37,319
we both not universally, but we both have

507
00:19:37,319 --> 00:19:37,819
several

508
00:19:38,599 --> 00:19:39,500
of the same

509
00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:42,599
celebrity crushes. Yeah. I really think we're just

510
00:19:42,599 --> 00:19:44,595
gonna tag team, and we'll just tap in

511
00:19:44,595 --> 00:19:46,355
when it's our turn to be the watcher

512
00:19:46,355 --> 00:19:47,894
versus the day. Yeah.

513
00:19:49,795 --> 00:19:51,554
Good lord. I can see that. I mean,

514
00:19:51,554 --> 00:19:53,954
I just think we'd we'd ride Henry Cavill

515
00:19:53,954 --> 00:19:55,795
just the two of us, he's a big

516
00:19:55,795 --> 00:19:58,194
dude. Mhmm. You know? You're you're our short

517
00:19:58,194 --> 00:19:58,694
king.

518
00:19:59,634 --> 00:19:59,849
I,

519
00:20:01,450 --> 00:20:03,049
I am not. But, you know, I think

520
00:20:03,049 --> 00:20:05,069
I think he could take us. I just

521
00:20:05,690 --> 00:20:07,690
bounce on that man like a trampoline. Right.

522
00:20:07,690 --> 00:20:09,690
And then have Pedro in, like, the corner

523
00:20:09,690 --> 00:20:11,929
waiting for, you know, whatever. But he'd probably,

524
00:20:11,929 --> 00:20:13,609
like, smile a little big, and I'd be

525
00:20:13,609 --> 00:20:14,494
like He

526
00:20:14,934 --> 00:20:16,979
no. That's not his energy. He'd he'd be

527
00:20:16,979 --> 00:20:18,855
like dancing and He'd probably be dancing. Yeah.

528
00:20:18,855 --> 00:20:20,654
You know, try he'd be he'd be working

529
00:20:20,654 --> 00:20:21,974
on corner, he'd be he'd get him in

530
00:20:21,974 --> 00:20:24,134
a submissive headspace and he'd probably sit there

531
00:20:24,134 --> 00:20:25,575
and do whatever the fuck you wanted him

532
00:20:25,575 --> 00:20:27,335
to do. True. True. True. True. And if

533
00:20:27,335 --> 00:20:30,240
I ever had to hear Pedro Pascal call

534
00:20:30,240 --> 00:20:32,559
some sexy man daddy, I just think I

535
00:20:32,559 --> 00:20:34,640
wouldn't just I'd be a puddle. I'd be

536
00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:35,860
a fucking puddle.

537
00:20:38,080 --> 00:20:40,019
Where where did I find my libido?

538
00:20:40,634 --> 00:20:43,295
When Pedro Pascal starts saying daddy and saying,

539
00:20:43,755 --> 00:20:45,595
that was it. That was it. Now I

540
00:20:45,595 --> 00:20:47,134
will pay you for that.

541
00:20:47,755 --> 00:20:48,255
Anyway

542
00:20:53,515 --> 00:20:54,954
oh, but I'm gonna need an edible to

543
00:20:54,954 --> 00:20:56,210
have sit there and watch. I'm gonna need

544
00:20:56,210 --> 00:20:57,190
a comfy chair,

545
00:20:57,970 --> 00:20:58,950
an edible Julie.

546
00:20:59,730 --> 00:21:01,650
And at least 5 figure payment. Julie said

547
00:21:01,650 --> 00:21:03,330
I better watch out that you may pimp

548
00:21:03,330 --> 00:21:05,109
me out to to pay the mortgage.

549
00:21:05,730 --> 00:21:07,490
I have pimped out. But she she she

550
00:21:07,490 --> 00:21:09,170
already pimps me out. So I don't you

551
00:21:09,170 --> 00:21:11,404
know? Not in the not in the,

552
00:21:11,944 --> 00:21:12,444
you

553
00:21:12,744 --> 00:21:14,284
know, money for, like,

554
00:21:15,065 --> 00:21:17,464
sex with another human, but I I've put

555
00:21:17,464 --> 00:21:19,464
many many bits and pieces of JB on

556
00:21:19,464 --> 00:21:21,404
the Internet in exchange for money.

557
00:21:22,025 --> 00:21:24,119
He was my stunt dick for about a

558
00:21:24,119 --> 00:21:24,619
year,

559
00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:26,539
some sex toy stuff.

560
00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:30,440
Yeah. No. I've I've

561
00:21:31,799 --> 00:21:33,240
I was trying to sell some of his

562
00:21:33,240 --> 00:21:35,559
Dom services. Like, would you like JB to

563
00:21:35,559 --> 00:21:36,940
tell you what to do?

564
00:21:37,724 --> 00:21:38,224
Money.

565
00:21:39,164 --> 00:21:40,144
I'll try to convince

566
00:21:40,525 --> 00:21:41,265
him. Anyway

567
00:21:42,525 --> 00:21:43,825
okay. Number six.

568
00:21:46,285 --> 00:21:48,204
Okay. This is this is sort of a

569
00:21:48,204 --> 00:21:49,345
deep one, I think.

570
00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:52,320
Imagine you have the option to know every

571
00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:54,960
secret, big or small, that your partner has

572
00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:55,940
kept from you.

573
00:21:56,240 --> 00:21:58,240
Would you wanna know? No. No. I don't

574
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:00,480
even know. I I I you know, it

575
00:22:00,559 --> 00:22:01,619
it's just like

576
00:22:02,134 --> 00:22:03,514
in in any relationship,

577
00:22:05,414 --> 00:22:06,075
you know,

578
00:22:06,534 --> 00:22:07,974
you have your little thing that you go

579
00:22:07,974 --> 00:22:09,254
off and do. I have my little, you

580
00:22:09,254 --> 00:22:11,034
know, things that I go off and do,

581
00:22:11,254 --> 00:22:13,754
you know, and and we each have our

582
00:22:13,894 --> 00:22:14,714
little separate

583
00:22:15,179 --> 00:22:16,779
spaces. It's the same way with that. I

584
00:22:16,779 --> 00:22:19,359
don't have to know every single little thing.

585
00:22:19,819 --> 00:22:21,339
I know. You know? How long did it

586
00:22:21,339 --> 00:22:22,779
take me to realize I didn't have to

587
00:22:22,779 --> 00:22:24,779
tell you every single thought going through my

588
00:22:24,779 --> 00:22:26,940
brain? It was several years. It was almost

589
00:22:26,940 --> 00:22:28,505
a decade before I finally we did a

590
00:22:28,505 --> 00:22:30,664
whole damn episode on it once I figured

591
00:22:30,664 --> 00:22:31,325
it out.

592
00:22:31,784 --> 00:22:34,984
No. You know, again, I'm thinking in context

593
00:22:34,984 --> 00:22:35,884
of our relationship,

594
00:22:36,345 --> 00:22:38,984
the trust is strong, the openness, and the

595
00:22:38,984 --> 00:22:39,804
open communication

596
00:22:40,345 --> 00:22:42,125
is there. We are both

597
00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:44,019
happy. It's a healthy

598
00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:45,140
relationship.

599
00:22:46,319 --> 00:22:48,160
If, you know, if I don't know about

600
00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:49,519
it, I don't need to know about it.

601
00:22:49,519 --> 00:22:51,220
We each get to have our own

602
00:22:51,759 --> 00:22:52,259
individual

603
00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:54,179
like thoughts and experiences.

604
00:22:54,634 --> 00:22:57,115
It makes the relationship stronger when you can

605
00:22:57,115 --> 00:22:59,115
kinda come back together after being off doing

606
00:22:59,115 --> 00:22:59,934
your own thing.

607
00:23:00,795 --> 00:23:02,555
How long did it take me to finally,

608
00:23:02,555 --> 00:23:04,555
like, get that that thought to sink into

609
00:23:04,555 --> 00:23:06,255
my brain? Oh, about

610
00:23:06,715 --> 00:23:08,095
about a week ago. Anyway.

611
00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:10,619
But

612
00:23:11,640 --> 00:23:13,319
if I'm in a relationship where I don't

613
00:23:13,319 --> 00:23:15,799
have full trust of my partner yet or

614
00:23:15,799 --> 00:23:18,779
some shit has gone down, in a in

615
00:23:19,159 --> 00:23:20,859
a second, just tell me everything.

616
00:23:21,319 --> 00:23:23,775
But that to me is a sign of

617
00:23:23,775 --> 00:23:25,795
something. Is it a sign that there's

618
00:23:26,095 --> 00:23:26,755
a problem

619
00:23:27,215 --> 00:23:29,295
with the dynamic between the two of you

620
00:23:29,295 --> 00:23:31,134
that you feel like important things are being

621
00:23:31,134 --> 00:23:33,394
hidden from you? Mhmm. Is it

622
00:23:33,695 --> 00:23:35,934
because you yourself are hiding things so you

623
00:23:35,934 --> 00:23:38,650
assume that other people are? Like, what is

624
00:23:38,650 --> 00:23:40,410
it in your life and your experiences either

625
00:23:40,410 --> 00:23:42,670
within this relationship or prior to

626
00:23:43,369 --> 00:23:45,210
that, you know, to me, that's the thing

627
00:23:45,210 --> 00:23:46,750
to look at. The the answer,

628
00:23:47,130 --> 00:23:47,789
you know,

629
00:23:48,250 --> 00:23:48,750
determines

630
00:23:49,610 --> 00:23:51,434
more than anything. You know, the answer

631
00:23:51,735 --> 00:23:53,755
tells you more than just the answer. Like,

632
00:23:53,975 --> 00:23:55,654
you and I have no interest in it

633
00:23:55,654 --> 00:23:57,575
because at this point, we know that we're

634
00:23:57,575 --> 00:23:58,555
not hiding anything,

635
00:23:59,414 --> 00:23:59,994
you know,

636
00:24:00,375 --> 00:24:03,174
bad. We're not actually hiding anything. It's just

637
00:24:03,174 --> 00:24:05,414
privacy. It's just this is my thing. Right.

638
00:24:05,414 --> 00:24:05,940
That's your

639
00:24:06,419 --> 00:24:08,259
thing. I mean, that that's like, you know,

640
00:24:08,259 --> 00:24:09,960
in in in some dynamics,

641
00:24:10,339 --> 00:24:12,039
you know, Dom's wanna have

642
00:24:12,419 --> 00:24:15,220
their all their subs passwords and codes and

643
00:24:15,220 --> 00:24:17,079
things like that. And I have no desire.

644
00:24:17,379 --> 00:24:18,839
Never have every you know.

645
00:24:19,795 --> 00:24:21,555
You let me set most of the passwords

646
00:24:21,555 --> 00:24:24,275
anywhere. I know. Yeah. It throws me off

647
00:24:24,275 --> 00:24:25,894
when you make one up on your own.

648
00:24:28,835 --> 00:24:30,214
And yet, you know what?

649
00:24:31,570 --> 00:24:33,570
I agree with you because I'm I give

650
00:24:33,570 --> 00:24:35,090
a little bit of side eye when a

651
00:24:35,090 --> 00:24:36,869
Dom wants that level of

652
00:24:37,250 --> 00:24:39,570
control and knowledge, but does not share it

653
00:24:39,570 --> 00:24:42,609
and reciprocate. Right. But that that that's where

654
00:24:42,609 --> 00:24:43,910
the difference lies because

655
00:24:44,394 --> 00:24:47,275
from the very beginning, once we commingled our

656
00:24:47,275 --> 00:24:47,775
lives,

657
00:24:48,394 --> 00:24:50,394
I had access to yours, you had access

658
00:24:50,394 --> 00:24:51,054
to mine.

659
00:24:51,515 --> 00:24:53,535
I could I log in to your bank,

660
00:24:53,595 --> 00:24:54,654
your account

661
00:24:55,355 --> 00:24:57,355
with your login more than I log in

662
00:24:57,355 --> 00:24:58,174
to my own

663
00:24:58,474 --> 00:25:00,680
to the point that one day JB had

664
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:02,200
to call me and go, can you log

665
00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:03,480
in to this? I'm like, you have it

666
00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:05,240
on your phone. I know, but I cannot

667
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:05,980
get in.

668
00:25:06,279 --> 00:25:08,119
It's not recognizing me. I'm like, oh, let

669
00:25:08,119 --> 00:25:09,259
me just click a button.

670
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:10,539
Here we are.

671
00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:14,595
But nine you know, me having all that

672
00:25:14,595 --> 00:25:16,355
information is not a control thing. It's a

673
00:25:16,515 --> 00:25:18,674
Mhmm. These are my tasks. When JB was

674
00:25:18,674 --> 00:25:20,674
in charge, like, financially, he had all that

675
00:25:20,674 --> 00:25:21,174
information

676
00:25:21,634 --> 00:25:23,475
because he was doing the work, but I

677
00:25:23,475 --> 00:25:25,015
always had access. I could

678
00:25:25,315 --> 00:25:27,230
I know where to go find passwords. I

679
00:25:27,230 --> 00:25:29,869
know what our main air quote main password

680
00:25:29,869 --> 00:25:31,950
is with some variations. I've created a new

681
00:25:31,950 --> 00:25:34,849
main password for us because they the requirements

682
00:25:34,990 --> 00:25:36,049
keep getting longer.

683
00:25:36,430 --> 00:25:38,990
And yeah. More special characters, and I had

684
00:25:38,990 --> 00:25:40,450
to come up with a new one. Right.

685
00:25:41,654 --> 00:25:43,734
But yeah. So Gonna need to add on

686
00:25:43,734 --> 00:25:45,434
to the keyboards. I know.

687
00:25:47,815 --> 00:25:48,794
Bring back Wingdings.

688
00:25:49,454 --> 00:25:49,954
Oh,

689
00:25:50,615 --> 00:25:51,115
damn.

690
00:25:52,134 --> 00:25:53,990
Oh, I think it just I think it

691
00:25:53,990 --> 00:25:55,569
just showed you eight. Yeah. Birthday boy.

692
00:26:01,230 --> 00:26:02,589
Next thing you're gonna tell me, we're gonna

693
00:26:02,589 --> 00:26:05,389
make something up in, Microsoft Paint. Yeah. Yeah.

694
00:26:05,389 --> 00:26:07,389
I don't know. MS Paint. I think it's

695
00:26:07,389 --> 00:26:09,134
what it's called back in the day.

696
00:26:09,994 --> 00:26:11,214
Mhmm. So yeah. Like,

697
00:26:12,875 --> 00:26:15,515
the important stuff gets shared when it needs

698
00:26:15,515 --> 00:26:17,454
to get shared, and sometimes not as quickly

699
00:26:17,515 --> 00:26:18,575
as I would like.

700
00:26:18,954 --> 00:26:20,255
I tend to read you

701
00:26:20,809 --> 00:26:21,309
quicker

702
00:26:21,690 --> 00:26:23,230
and go something's off,

703
00:26:24,170 --> 00:26:25,710
but it's it's

704
00:26:26,250 --> 00:26:27,690
never been I don't want to tell you.

705
00:26:27,690 --> 00:26:29,130
It's I can't tell you yet. I need

706
00:26:29,130 --> 00:26:31,609
time. I'm processing. I'm thinking. Or, oh, you

707
00:26:31,609 --> 00:26:33,224
noticed something that I didn't even notice. Let

708
00:26:33,224 --> 00:26:35,144
me go away and think about what's what's

709
00:26:35,144 --> 00:26:37,545
going on because I you weren't consciously think

710
00:26:37,545 --> 00:26:39,464
about it. Yeah. Me, I'm in my head

711
00:26:39,464 --> 00:26:41,785
too much. I know that I'm gonna be

712
00:26:41,785 --> 00:26:44,424
upset about something before the thing happens, before

713
00:26:44,424 --> 00:26:47,160
I see anybody's reactions. And I'm already preparing

714
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:49,559
in advance for the, I'm gonna feel. So

715
00:26:49,559 --> 00:26:51,559
we're gonna talk about it in advance about

716
00:26:51,559 --> 00:26:54,299
how I'm gonna feel, but, like, there's no

717
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:58,255
there's nothing for you to not know. But

718
00:26:58,335 --> 00:26:59,775
so when there's something that I'm just not

719
00:26:59,775 --> 00:27:02,335
talking about, it's just a personal private thing.

720
00:27:02,335 --> 00:27:04,255
It's not a secret. Mhmm. You know? Does

721
00:27:04,255 --> 00:27:06,914
that make sense? Yep. Okay. Yep.

722
00:27:09,214 --> 00:27:11,154
Okay. This one. Hoo goodness.

723
00:27:12,015 --> 00:27:12,914
Number seven.

724
00:27:13,470 --> 00:27:15,470
If you could ask all of your partner's

725
00:27:15,470 --> 00:27:17,710
exes what they didn't like about them and

726
00:27:17,710 --> 00:27:19,970
what their major red flags are,

727
00:27:20,269 --> 00:27:22,269
would you want to know that information? No.

728
00:27:22,269 --> 00:27:23,250
Absolutely not.

729
00:27:24,990 --> 00:27:25,890
I would not.

730
00:27:26,424 --> 00:27:28,045
Because here's here's the thing.

731
00:27:29,305 --> 00:27:30,525
The way you were

732
00:27:30,984 --> 00:27:33,785
with somebody else Mhmm. Was because that person

733
00:27:33,785 --> 00:27:34,285
was

734
00:27:34,585 --> 00:27:37,305
different. They they're not like me. And that

735
00:27:37,305 --> 00:27:38,904
was a different point in my life. Right.

736
00:27:38,904 --> 00:27:40,829
Different everything. Right. So you know

737
00:27:41,309 --> 00:27:42,669
most of what they would have to say

738
00:27:42,669 --> 00:27:44,909
would be moot Mhmm. To begin with. Or

739
00:27:44,909 --> 00:27:46,109
you'd be like, oh, I see where she

740
00:27:46,109 --> 00:27:48,049
worked through that. I'm not Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

741
00:27:48,349 --> 00:27:50,750
Yeah. See, and here's go ahead. Sure. And

742
00:27:50,750 --> 00:27:53,549
and see, you know, for for anything like

743
00:27:53,549 --> 00:27:54,529
that, it's like

744
00:27:55,024 --> 00:27:56,784
we have the communication. If I wanted to

745
00:27:56,784 --> 00:27:57,924
know, I could ask you.

746
00:27:58,544 --> 00:28:00,544
If I if I'm capable of looking back

747
00:28:00,544 --> 00:28:01,744
and going, oh, yeah. That was a red

748
00:28:01,744 --> 00:28:03,904
flag. For sure. For sure. Yeah. See, I'm

749
00:28:03,904 --> 00:28:04,565
the opposite,

750
00:28:05,024 --> 00:28:07,204
but not because I think I'm gonna

751
00:28:07,904 --> 00:28:10,679
be told some crazy information I already know.

752
00:28:10,679 --> 00:28:12,539
Oh, yeah. Go ahead and tell me because

753
00:28:12,919 --> 00:28:14,440
knowing you the way that I do, one,

754
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:15,720
it will give me a peek at who

755
00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:17,500
were you at that point in your life.

756
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:21,179
Two, it will tell me,

757
00:28:21,639 --> 00:28:23,099
depending on what they say,

758
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:24,859
more about them,

759
00:28:26,384 --> 00:28:29,105
probably more than, at this point, ten plus

760
00:28:29,105 --> 00:28:31,265
years on, over a decade. Like, we've got

761
00:28:31,265 --> 00:28:33,904
so much time in that, you know, I'm

762
00:28:33,904 --> 00:28:36,065
either gonna hear something that I'm like, yeah.

763
00:28:36,065 --> 00:28:37,585
I mean, I wouldn't have called that a

764
00:28:37,585 --> 00:28:39,745
red flag, but sure sure. Or I'll be

765
00:28:39,745 --> 00:28:40,245
like,

766
00:28:40,690 --> 00:28:43,090
oh, I see where your head space is

767
00:28:43,090 --> 00:28:45,009
at. I I've learned some things about you,

768
00:28:45,009 --> 00:28:46,390
the the former partner.

769
00:28:46,850 --> 00:28:48,710
But but that's because that's how I just

770
00:28:48,769 --> 00:28:50,450
move through the world when people tell me

771
00:28:50,450 --> 00:28:50,950
information.

772
00:28:51,330 --> 00:28:52,470
I've, you know,

773
00:28:53,650 --> 00:28:55,845
think I know who that person is based

774
00:28:55,845 --> 00:28:56,585
on that.

775
00:28:56,884 --> 00:28:58,744
It's and and and

776
00:28:59,285 --> 00:29:01,125
I know who the hell I don't know

777
00:29:01,125 --> 00:29:02,565
them know them, but I know who the

778
00:29:02,565 --> 00:29:04,744
hell your exes were. So there's

779
00:29:05,045 --> 00:29:07,845
one ex where it was amicable. I mean,

780
00:29:07,845 --> 00:29:10,529
y'all went however many decades without even knowing

781
00:29:10,529 --> 00:29:12,049
y'all were running in the same circles, but

782
00:29:12,049 --> 00:29:13,250
then when you caught back up, it was

783
00:29:13,250 --> 00:29:13,750
amicable.

784
00:29:14,210 --> 00:29:15,670
And then another

785
00:29:15,970 --> 00:29:17,750
that did not end amicably,

786
00:29:20,130 --> 00:29:23,410
but over time, y'all could be in the

787
00:29:23,410 --> 00:29:24,470
same room without

788
00:29:24,850 --> 00:29:26,075
it being a problem.

789
00:29:29,174 --> 00:29:30,934
If I'm sure everybody has their own red

790
00:29:30,934 --> 00:29:34,234
flags. If my major, like, ex husband x

791
00:29:34,375 --> 00:29:36,775
started listing out red flags, I'm I might

792
00:29:36,775 --> 00:29:38,474
have to be oh, lord.

793
00:29:39,119 --> 00:29:40,900
There goes my

794
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:45,619
I might have to be held back because

795
00:29:47,839 --> 00:29:50,180
and the mature part of me is, like,

796
00:29:50,559 --> 00:29:51,059
it

797
00:29:51,525 --> 00:29:53,765
it takes two for a relationship to to

798
00:29:53,765 --> 00:29:55,384
fall apart, blah blah

799
00:29:55,845 --> 00:29:58,644
blah, barring something dangerous. Right. Right. It takes

800
00:29:58,644 --> 00:30:00,325
two for a relationship to fall apart. But

801
00:30:00,325 --> 00:30:03,384
if that motherfucker wanted to start listing my,

802
00:30:04,644 --> 00:30:06,744
problems and how I was a problem,

803
00:30:07,159 --> 00:30:08,440
I would need to be held back from

804
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:10,460
him because I would become violent.

805
00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:13,720
And I would show you a red flag,

806
00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:16,759
motherfucker. But that's because I've got, like, some

807
00:30:16,759 --> 00:30:18,779
stuff I need to work through.

808
00:30:20,839 --> 00:30:21,659
With that,

809
00:30:22,605 --> 00:30:24,144
I thought I put my phone on airplane.

810
00:30:24,204 --> 00:30:24,704
Mhmm.

811
00:30:25,565 --> 00:30:27,585
So, yeah, I would I would be interested

812
00:30:27,724 --> 00:30:28,944
more as, like, a psychological,

813
00:30:30,045 --> 00:30:32,944
what was JB like back then? You know?

814
00:30:33,724 --> 00:30:35,664
Or Don't go too far back.

815
00:30:36,125 --> 00:30:37,349
And or how

816
00:30:38,230 --> 00:30:39,929
did they view this situation?

817
00:30:40,390 --> 00:30:41,990
Because you have shared things with me from

818
00:30:41,990 --> 00:30:44,150
those previous relationships. So then I would, like,

819
00:30:44,150 --> 00:30:46,150
oh my god. That's a nosy person's, like

820
00:30:46,309 --> 00:30:48,470
or at least my nosy self's, like, fucking

821
00:30:48,470 --> 00:30:50,150
wet dream. Like, oh, oh, let me get

822
00:30:50,150 --> 00:30:52,950
everybody's perspective, and then I can decide what

823
00:30:52,950 --> 00:30:54,695
I think think the actual truth is in

824
00:30:54,695 --> 00:30:57,414
the middle. That is gonna be so much

825
00:30:57,414 --> 00:31:00,295
advice. And see that's that's why I I

826
00:31:00,295 --> 00:31:01,755
would prefer not to know

827
00:31:02,375 --> 00:31:03,994
because, you know, it's

828
00:31:05,414 --> 00:31:07,174
I was told this many years ago and

829
00:31:07,174 --> 00:31:07,829
I believe it.

830
00:31:08,309 --> 00:31:10,549
There there is three sides to every story.

831
00:31:10,549 --> 00:31:11,450
Yes. I agree.

832
00:31:12,069 --> 00:31:14,230
One side, their side And the truth. And

833
00:31:14,230 --> 00:31:16,069
somewhere in the middle is the truth. Yes.

834
00:31:16,069 --> 00:31:17,690
I agree. I agree. Yep.

835
00:31:19,750 --> 00:31:21,269
Yeah. But that's all that's why I wanna

836
00:31:21,269 --> 00:31:23,029
know the other side because then I can

837
00:31:23,029 --> 00:31:24,894
do all in my head all the analysis.

838
00:31:24,894 --> 00:31:26,615
I don't wanna go through all that. All

839
00:31:26,615 --> 00:31:27,275
the analysis

840
00:31:27,654 --> 00:31:29,734
and oh, I know why JB was like

841
00:31:29,734 --> 00:31:31,174
that because here's where he was at this

842
00:31:31,174 --> 00:31:33,255
point in the time. Oh, I know why

843
00:31:33,255 --> 00:31:35,494
she was like that because she's a bit

844
00:31:35,575 --> 00:31:38,670
no. No. I wouldn't do that.

845
00:31:41,230 --> 00:31:42,450
Okay. Number

846
00:31:42,830 --> 00:31:44,369
eight. If a genie

847
00:31:44,670 --> 00:31:46,609
offered you three wishes, but there was a

848
00:31:47,390 --> 00:31:49,869
10% chance your partner would disappear from your

849
00:31:49,869 --> 00:31:50,529
life forever,

850
00:31:50,924 --> 00:31:52,924
would you accept those wishes? Wouldn't take the

851
00:31:52,924 --> 00:31:53,424
risk.

852
00:31:53,884 --> 00:31:55,965
That was my initial thought too, but then

853
00:31:55,965 --> 00:31:57,664
I had a secondary thought, like

854
00:31:58,445 --> 00:31:59,985
a comma button. Okay.

855
00:32:00,365 --> 00:32:02,125
Could I use one of my three wishes

856
00:32:02,125 --> 00:32:03,424
to bring your ass back?

857
00:32:03,965 --> 00:32:04,465
Oh.

858
00:32:05,230 --> 00:32:07,009
Or to make sure you didn't go anywhere.

859
00:32:08,269 --> 00:32:09,750
Because yes, the first time I read it,

860
00:32:09,750 --> 00:32:12,269
I went no. No. Not 10% is too

861
00:32:12,269 --> 00:32:15,309
high. Too fucking high. Point 01%

862
00:32:15,309 --> 00:32:16,609
is too fucking high.

863
00:32:17,524 --> 00:32:18,964
But what if I could wish your ass

864
00:32:18,964 --> 00:32:19,464
back?

865
00:32:20,085 --> 00:32:21,625
And then I'd still have two wishes.

866
00:32:22,404 --> 00:32:23,524
And by the end of it, I would

867
00:32:23,524 --> 00:32:24,825
have no fucking mortgage.

868
00:32:28,404 --> 00:32:30,345
This is all about the mortgage tonight.

869
00:32:31,044 --> 00:32:32,829
Because I gotta pay it. Okay?

870
00:32:33,150 --> 00:32:34,929
No. But yeah. Like, that's

871
00:32:36,750 --> 00:32:38,190
Yeah. Because I I'm right there with you,

872
00:32:38,190 --> 00:32:39,950
Maya. That that's an interesting way it's in

873
00:32:39,950 --> 00:32:42,029
here. I'm yeah. And because initially, he's saying

874
00:32:42,029 --> 00:32:43,089
that, you know,

875
00:32:43,390 --> 00:32:46,134
10% It's not. You know, there there there

876
00:32:46,355 --> 00:32:47,954
would have been some in the past. Yeah.

877
00:32:47,954 --> 00:32:50,054
Let's play that. Let's spin that wheel.

878
00:32:50,355 --> 00:32:52,835
Let's spin that wheel. The the biological father

879
00:32:52,835 --> 00:32:54,375
of the children. Oh, yeah.

880
00:32:55,554 --> 00:32:57,210
And then I would be reminded that I've

881
00:32:57,529 --> 00:32:59,950
I I never get to win those guys.

882
00:33:05,049 --> 00:33:07,690
Because I don't have gambling and me and

883
00:33:07,690 --> 00:33:10,269
luck and me. No. No. No. No. So

884
00:33:10,329 --> 00:33:11,835
I go into a casino. I just tip

885
00:33:11,835 --> 00:33:14,252
tip really well because if I put the

886
00:33:14,252 --> 00:33:16,972
money in the slot machine, I it's never

887
00:33:16,972 --> 00:33:19,693
coming back to me. I'll take that $10

888
00:33:19,693 --> 00:33:22,111
and give somebody a tip. It'll be mine.

889
00:33:22,413 --> 00:33:24,830
But yeah. No. With you, 10%

890
00:33:25,133 --> 00:33:27,480
no. That's that's oh my god. Like, when

891
00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:28,920
I like when I think about it, like,

892
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:30,519
my stomach drops. One, because I don't think

893
00:33:30,519 --> 00:33:32,440
I have any, like, air quote, luck. Right?

894
00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:34,279
Mhmm. Like, of course, that would be the

895
00:33:34,279 --> 00:33:35,180
universe going,

896
00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:37,400
you were finding out now that you fucked

897
00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:37,900
around.

898
00:33:39,174 --> 00:33:39,674
But

899
00:33:40,214 --> 00:33:42,234
Yeah. If I can wish you back,

900
00:33:43,255 --> 00:33:44,555
you still have two wishes?

901
00:33:45,335 --> 00:33:45,835
Okay.

902
00:33:46,615 --> 00:33:47,894
But I would need to see the fine

903
00:33:47,894 --> 00:33:50,234
print of the agreement with Genie before

904
00:33:50,695 --> 00:33:52,455
let me read the contract because there's always

905
00:33:52,455 --> 00:33:54,150
loopholes. That's a whole thing with the genie

906
00:33:54,150 --> 00:33:56,150
thing. You got a lot of loopholes. Oh,

907
00:33:56,150 --> 00:33:58,390
yeah. You know, they're you're you're gonna ask

908
00:33:58,390 --> 00:33:59,990
for what you want, but you're never gonna

909
00:33:59,990 --> 00:34:01,590
ask for it in a way that there's

910
00:34:01,590 --> 00:34:02,809
not some fuckery

911
00:34:03,110 --> 00:34:04,009
going on.

912
00:34:04,549 --> 00:34:06,710
Like, I could wish for my mortgage to

913
00:34:06,710 --> 00:34:08,364
be paid off and come to find out

914
00:34:08,364 --> 00:34:09,885
somebody has purchased it and now we don't

915
00:34:09,885 --> 00:34:11,052
have a house. Right? You know what I

916
00:34:11,052 --> 00:34:13,824
mean? Like, there's always those twists. Mhmm. So,

917
00:34:14,684 --> 00:34:16,224
yeah. I'd have to read the fine print.

918
00:34:16,844 --> 00:34:18,224
I like that one. Okay.

919
00:34:19,324 --> 00:34:19,824
Okay.

920
00:34:23,250 --> 00:34:24,309
Number nine.

921
00:34:24,690 --> 00:34:26,289
If you had the ability to get rid

922
00:34:26,289 --> 00:34:29,429
of one of your partner's flaws or imperfections,

923
00:34:30,530 --> 00:34:33,030
which one would it be and why?

924
00:34:39,405 --> 00:34:41,324
Go ahead. I could if I'm gonna cry,

925
00:34:41,324 --> 00:34:43,105
I'll do it off camera. Don't you worry.

926
00:34:44,204 --> 00:34:44,945
You know,

927
00:34:47,885 --> 00:34:50,285
I I I drop things a lot, folks.

928
00:34:50,285 --> 00:34:52,045
I, you know, I my things slip through

929
00:34:52,045 --> 00:34:52,785
my fingers.

930
00:34:53,369 --> 00:34:53,869
And,

931
00:34:56,570 --> 00:34:57,070
so

932
00:34:57,369 --> 00:34:59,630
every time I drop something, I get

933
00:34:59,930 --> 00:35:01,550
are you alright? Are you okay?

934
00:35:01,930 --> 00:35:02,910
Is everything alright?

935
00:35:05,130 --> 00:35:06,795
Yeah. Let's let's do away with that.

936
00:35:07,434 --> 00:35:08,714
Can can I tell you

937
00:35:09,194 --> 00:35:11,114
I mean, there's the obvious I'm an anxious

938
00:35:11,114 --> 00:35:12,574
human being. Like, we know that.

939
00:35:12,954 --> 00:35:14,174
Put that to the side.

940
00:35:16,554 --> 00:35:17,934
The the couple of times

941
00:35:18,394 --> 00:35:21,114
there have been big crash like sounds emanating

942
00:35:21,114 --> 00:35:23,710
from your presence and you were actively harming

943
00:35:23,710 --> 00:35:25,950
yourself. And the response I got was, well,

944
00:35:25,950 --> 00:35:28,110
I'm glad it went more serious because you

945
00:35:28,110 --> 00:35:29,950
didn't even come and look check check on

946
00:35:29,950 --> 00:35:30,450
me.

947
00:35:31,150 --> 00:35:33,730
Means, honey, the moment we hear anything, I'm

948
00:35:34,265 --> 00:35:35,085
like a mere

949
00:35:35,465 --> 00:35:35,965
cat.

950
00:35:37,704 --> 00:35:40,025
Are you okay? When it sounds real serious,

951
00:35:40,025 --> 00:35:41,385
I'll actually get up and go in the

952
00:35:41,385 --> 00:35:42,445
other room real quick.

953
00:35:43,625 --> 00:35:45,465
But I think you did that one to

954
00:35:45,465 --> 00:35:45,965
yourself.

955
00:35:47,780 --> 00:35:48,900
I mean, other than the fact that I'm

956
00:35:48,900 --> 00:35:50,199
an anxious person. Yeah.

957
00:35:50,820 --> 00:35:51,800
Okay. So

958
00:35:52,340 --> 00:35:54,659
I wish mine was fun. I'm just gonna

959
00:35:54,659 --> 00:35:57,159
show off my job in drama some more.

960
00:36:00,344 --> 00:36:02,105
So flaws are in the eye of the

961
00:36:02,105 --> 00:36:05,224
beholder. Right? Some one person's flaws, another person's

962
00:36:05,224 --> 00:36:07,005
who the fuck cares. Like, I get that.

963
00:36:08,025 --> 00:36:09,324
If I could, like,

964
00:36:09,625 --> 00:36:11,965
wave my magic wand I know.

965
00:36:12,585 --> 00:36:13,565
It would be

966
00:36:14,639 --> 00:36:16,980
the so when you are

967
00:36:17,599 --> 00:36:18,739
agitated, anxious,

968
00:36:19,359 --> 00:36:20,339
slightly annoyed,

969
00:36:21,199 --> 00:36:23,380
surprised even, but not in a pleasant way,

970
00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:26,480
and you or you're passionate about something, but

971
00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:28,079
it's a thing that makes you angry. I

972
00:36:28,079 --> 00:36:28,819
get loud.

973
00:36:29,465 --> 00:36:31,304
Yes. And and me and the the fifteen

974
00:36:31,304 --> 00:36:33,144
year old both call it aggressive. There's a

975
00:36:33,465 --> 00:36:35,385
you feel like you're being yelled at, and

976
00:36:35,385 --> 00:36:36,905
I know part of it's the you know,

977
00:36:36,905 --> 00:36:38,264
that's how I was raised in Italian. Let's

978
00:36:38,264 --> 00:36:39,545
tell me I'll talk to another. Yes. It

979
00:36:39,545 --> 00:36:41,224
sounds like you're all yelling at one another.

980
00:36:41,224 --> 00:36:42,525
I was raised by Italians

981
00:36:43,469 --> 00:36:45,090
on one side and German

982
00:36:45,630 --> 00:36:47,230
on the other. You only know how to

983
00:36:47,230 --> 00:36:49,230
speak very firmly and very loudly to one

984
00:36:49,230 --> 00:36:49,730
another.

985
00:36:50,109 --> 00:36:50,609
I

986
00:36:52,030 --> 00:36:54,670
was traumatized by a parent who was raised

987
00:36:54,670 --> 00:36:56,510
by Italians, but he was actually mean. He

988
00:36:56,590 --> 00:36:58,315
that one just how he talked. He's

989
00:36:58,695 --> 00:36:59,195
mean.

990
00:36:59,494 --> 00:36:59,994
And

991
00:37:00,295 --> 00:37:01,894
so take out the silliness of it. Yeah.

992
00:37:01,894 --> 00:37:03,575
Yeah. That's actually my problem to work on.

993
00:37:03,575 --> 00:37:05,655
But man, if I could just snap my

994
00:37:05,655 --> 00:37:07,275
fingers and that went away.

995
00:37:07,655 --> 00:37:09,275
Like, I don't want you to be fake

996
00:37:09,575 --> 00:37:11,914
sweet, fake nice. I don't want that either.

997
00:37:12,215 --> 00:37:12,875
I just

998
00:37:13,739 --> 00:37:16,059
just wish that even when like, the only

999
00:37:16,059 --> 00:37:18,860
time it came out, like, air quote aggressive,

1000
00:37:18,860 --> 00:37:19,679
it was when

1001
00:37:20,139 --> 00:37:22,139
when it warranted, like, when there's a serious

1002
00:37:22,139 --> 00:37:24,619
thing or, like, you're super, super mad. But

1003
00:37:24,619 --> 00:37:27,179
sometimes you think you're just talking to us

1004
00:37:27,179 --> 00:37:29,039
and me and the youngest are like,

1005
00:37:29,795 --> 00:37:31,095
what did we do wrong?

1006
00:37:32,195 --> 00:37:33,494
What is going on?

1007
00:37:33,795 --> 00:37:36,355
Are you mad at us? I would change

1008
00:37:36,355 --> 00:37:38,595
that if I could. Man, you you you

1009
00:37:38,595 --> 00:37:39,095
know,

1010
00:37:41,969 --> 00:37:43,269
when I was a kid

1011
00:37:44,050 --> 00:37:46,369
and I finally got old enough to sit

1012
00:37:46,369 --> 00:37:48,550
at the big table Were you terrified?

1013
00:37:51,489 --> 00:37:53,650
No. Mhmm. I was happy to be there.

1014
00:37:53,650 --> 00:37:55,829
I wanted to be there. Oh, okay. Okay?

1015
00:37:56,945 --> 00:37:59,605
But the only way you would get heard

1016
00:38:00,465 --> 00:38:01,844
Mhmm. Mhmm. Okay?

1017
00:38:02,625 --> 00:38:04,704
You had to speak up. You had to,

1018
00:38:04,704 --> 00:38:06,465
you know Yeah. You know, you're just in

1019
00:38:06,465 --> 00:38:06,965
there.

1020
00:38:08,940 --> 00:38:10,780
No. It ain't gonna cut it in in

1021
00:38:10,780 --> 00:38:13,339
in that family. Here's what's interesting to me.

1022
00:38:13,339 --> 00:38:15,260
I feel like I'm seeing some family dynamics

1023
00:38:15,260 --> 00:38:17,500
come out here. I'm a person who can

1024
00:38:17,500 --> 00:38:18,000
absolutely

1025
00:38:18,300 --> 00:38:19,599
project her voice

1026
00:38:20,699 --> 00:38:22,380
to the point I'm often told you're talking

1027
00:38:22,380 --> 00:38:23,414
real loud, and I don't think

1028
00:38:25,414 --> 00:38:26,695
I am, but whatever whatever. You and I

1029
00:38:26,695 --> 00:38:27,195
think

1030
00:38:27,735 --> 00:38:29,655
knowing a little bit about your family dynamics

1031
00:38:29,655 --> 00:38:30,635
when you were younger,

1032
00:38:31,094 --> 00:38:32,315
you don't just project,

1033
00:38:33,655 --> 00:38:36,695
you put, like, some spice behind it. Like,

1034
00:38:36,695 --> 00:38:38,699
you're like, it's like, let me show you

1035
00:38:38,699 --> 00:38:40,639
how serious I am by, like,

1036
00:38:41,179 --> 00:38:41,840
you know?

1037
00:38:43,019 --> 00:38:44,940
Whereas I just learned how to just project

1038
00:38:44,940 --> 00:38:46,000
the fucking voice.

1039
00:38:47,579 --> 00:38:48,960
Now in my situation,

1040
00:38:50,184 --> 00:38:52,364
our air quote big family gathering

1041
00:38:52,904 --> 00:38:55,385
might have 11 people total. And I was

1042
00:38:55,385 --> 00:38:57,864
always the only child, so there was no

1043
00:38:57,864 --> 00:38:59,864
kids table for me. I was right in

1044
00:38:59,864 --> 00:39:01,484
the thick of things. Yeah.

1045
00:39:02,904 --> 00:39:05,964
But yeah. My my mom and my grandmother

1046
00:39:06,559 --> 00:39:07,780
formed a club

1047
00:39:09,360 --> 00:39:11,519
called the dozen cousins. Oh my god. That's

1048
00:39:11,519 --> 00:39:13,360
too many fucking cousins. There was a lot

1049
00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:15,039
more. I don't have any cousins. That's too

1050
00:39:15,039 --> 00:39:17,280
many. There there by by the end, there

1051
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:18,800
was a lot more than a dozen cousins.

1052
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:19,619
Oh, sure.

1053
00:39:20,159 --> 00:39:21,139
Sure. Yeah.

1054
00:39:21,519 --> 00:39:24,614
No. No. Yeah. No. I don't have any

1055
00:39:24,614 --> 00:39:26,155
close cousins at all.

1056
00:39:26,454 --> 00:39:28,855
Was the only kid, the only grandkid, the

1057
00:39:28,855 --> 00:39:29,355
only,

1058
00:39:30,695 --> 00:39:33,755
niece slash nephew because nobody had boys either.

1059
00:39:33,815 --> 00:39:35,195
I was I was it.

1060
00:39:35,769 --> 00:39:36,829
So one,

1061
00:39:37,849 --> 00:39:39,690
when somebody raised their voice and they were

1062
00:39:39,690 --> 00:39:41,150
firm or slash aggressive,

1063
00:39:41,849 --> 00:39:43,050
it was it was because they were pissed

1064
00:39:43,050 --> 00:39:44,750
off of me. Like, that's my only experience.

1065
00:39:48,074 --> 00:39:49,994
But yeah. Yeah. No. No. You if if

1066
00:39:49,994 --> 00:39:51,514
you don't speak up, you you just you

1067
00:39:51,514 --> 00:39:53,034
got left behind. I think part of it

1068
00:39:53,034 --> 00:39:55,114
is you've your face gets real serious when

1069
00:39:55,114 --> 00:39:57,114
you get that tone. Even if you don't

1070
00:39:57,114 --> 00:39:59,610
think like, it's a it's an entire vibe.

1071
00:39:59,930 --> 00:40:00,750
And Okay.

1072
00:40:02,329 --> 00:40:04,970
I could possibly be gaslit into thinking, oh,

1073
00:40:04,970 --> 00:40:07,530
no. That's normal. It's all me. But the

1074
00:40:07,530 --> 00:40:08,910
kid who has

1075
00:40:09,450 --> 00:40:11,289
not the same kind of childhood trauma that

1076
00:40:11,289 --> 00:40:13,315
I do, They've got their own, but it's

1077
00:40:13,315 --> 00:40:15,894
thankfully Mhmm. Not anything we did to them.

1078
00:40:17,315 --> 00:40:19,555
They clock it too. It's I know. I

1079
00:40:19,555 --> 00:40:21,155
I know both you do. And when you

1080
00:40:21,155 --> 00:40:22,755
call me out on it, I'm kinda like

1081
00:40:22,914 --> 00:40:24,275
Well, you poor thing. I What are you

1082
00:40:24,275 --> 00:40:26,675
talking about? Oh, gosh. I was just having

1083
00:40:26,675 --> 00:40:26,940
a

1084
00:40:28,460 --> 00:40:29,199
conversation aggressively

1085
00:40:30,300 --> 00:40:32,000
with a frown on my face.

1086
00:40:37,179 --> 00:40:40,304
Apparently, this livestream is therapy for at least

1087
00:40:40,784 --> 00:40:41,605
one of us.

1088
00:40:42,065 --> 00:40:44,545
Okay. Okay. Very curious. This is the last

1089
00:40:44,545 --> 00:40:46,944
question. I'm very I'm very curious about your

1090
00:40:46,944 --> 00:40:48,385
answer. I think I know my answer. I'm

1091
00:40:48,385 --> 00:40:49,125
very curious.

1092
00:40:49,505 --> 00:40:52,484
You have a one time use time machine

1093
00:40:52,944 --> 00:40:54,704
and you have to use it to alter

1094
00:40:54,704 --> 00:40:55,925
something in your relationship.

1095
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:57,820
What are you going to alter?

1096
00:41:04,199 --> 00:41:06,059
I think the only thing I would alter

1097
00:41:07,159 --> 00:41:07,480
is,

1098
00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:09,579
if we had met earlier.

1099
00:41:11,355 --> 00:41:13,054
Yeah. If we had met sooner.

1100
00:41:13,675 --> 00:41:14,175
Oh.

1101
00:41:14,795 --> 00:41:16,315
Oh my god. That's

1102
00:41:17,355 --> 00:41:19,355
I did not think of something sweet like

1103
00:41:19,355 --> 00:41:19,855
that.

1104
00:41:22,590 --> 00:41:24,910
Well, you're the Scorpio bitch from hell. I

1105
00:41:24,910 --> 00:41:26,510
expect that. And you're a Cancer with all

1106
00:41:26,510 --> 00:41:28,670
those fucking feelings, but that was actually very

1107
00:41:28,670 --> 00:41:29,170
surreal.

1108
00:41:30,590 --> 00:41:32,510
Here's the thing I would alter. One time

1109
00:41:32,510 --> 00:41:35,950
use. Okay. I'm going back to either 2017

1110
00:41:35,950 --> 00:41:37,010
or 2018,

1111
00:41:37,125 --> 00:41:38,405
cause y'all know how I am with time.

1112
00:41:38,405 --> 00:41:39,784
I'd have to go look at a calendar.

1113
00:41:40,164 --> 00:41:41,445
And I'm gonna go back to us and

1114
00:41:41,445 --> 00:41:43,125
I'm gonna sit us down. I'm gonna hold

1115
00:41:43,125 --> 00:41:44,744
our hands and I'm gonna go,

1116
00:41:45,284 --> 00:41:47,605
you need to start saving money and stop

1117
00:41:47,605 --> 00:41:50,824
spending money. And you need a six month

1118
00:41:50,965 --> 00:41:51,465
minimum

1119
00:41:51,844 --> 00:41:52,344
emergency

1120
00:41:54,190 --> 00:41:55,969
fund to pay your bills. Also,

1121
00:41:56,349 --> 00:41:56,849
also,

1122
00:41:57,550 --> 00:41:59,550
don't do 3% down when you buy your

1123
00:41:59,550 --> 00:42:01,809
house. Do 20% down and get

1124
00:42:02,590 --> 00:42:04,670
just you have the money if you just

1125
00:42:04,670 --> 00:42:04,910
have the

1126
00:42:06,030 --> 00:42:06,530
Yeah.

1127
00:42:07,155 --> 00:42:10,295
Yeah. Because here's what's coming in 2020.

1128
00:42:10,515 --> 00:42:11,015
Right?

1129
00:42:12,275 --> 00:42:13,015
Yeah. Really.

1130
00:42:15,235 --> 00:42:15,974
And so

1131
00:42:16,434 --> 00:42:16,934
yes.

1132
00:42:18,035 --> 00:42:20,619
Yes. I think you're like, uh-huh. Sure. But

1133
00:42:20,619 --> 00:42:22,539
also, here's where I piss me off, and

1134
00:42:22,539 --> 00:42:24,400
here's why I annoy even me.

1135
00:42:24,780 --> 00:42:25,280
Okay.

1136
00:42:25,820 --> 00:42:28,780
I would not have wished the several crazy

1137
00:42:28,780 --> 00:42:30,159
years we had were,

1138
00:42:30,940 --> 00:42:32,780
you know, there were car accidents and motorcycle

1139
00:42:32,780 --> 00:42:35,085
accidents and no money and, like, all the

1140
00:42:35,085 --> 00:42:37,005
stuff. Mhmm. I'm not wishing it on me.

1141
00:42:37,005 --> 00:42:38,844
I'm not wishing it on anybody. But I

1142
00:42:38,844 --> 00:42:39,744
also know

1143
00:42:40,364 --> 00:42:41,824
that our relationship

1144
00:42:42,364 --> 00:42:45,324
went through fire together. Yes. And we are

1145
00:42:45,324 --> 00:42:47,485
now coming out on the other side way

1146
00:42:47,485 --> 00:42:48,900
stronger. I mean, I would have told you

1147
00:42:48,900 --> 00:42:50,359
five years ago, we were solid,

1148
00:42:50,739 --> 00:42:51,319
you know.

1149
00:42:51,859 --> 00:42:53,059
We were Well, you know that. Everything was

1150
00:42:53,059 --> 00:42:55,299
unlocked. That's how they harden steel by fire.

1151
00:42:55,299 --> 00:42:57,859
Right. And so Here we are. If I

1152
00:42:57,859 --> 00:43:00,099
could alter it, I'd tell us because here's

1153
00:43:00,099 --> 00:43:01,425
the thing. Here's what I know to be

1154
00:43:01,585 --> 00:43:03,985
true. If a future me showed up and

1155
00:43:03,985 --> 00:43:05,985
started telling me what I needed to do,

1156
00:43:05,985 --> 00:43:08,324
I'd have two reactions probably simultaneously.

1157
00:43:08,864 --> 00:43:10,385
Who the fuck are you to tell me

1158
00:43:10,385 --> 00:43:12,385
what I gotta do? And also I'd be

1159
00:43:12,385 --> 00:43:12,885
like,

1160
00:43:13,585 --> 00:43:15,285
is this person for real?

1161
00:43:15,900 --> 00:43:17,980
To so how do I look like? What

1162
00:43:17,980 --> 00:43:20,319
year are you coming from? Like, I'd have

1163
00:43:21,179 --> 00:43:22,619
I don't even know if I would, like,

1164
00:43:22,619 --> 00:43:24,299
trust it, but I sure as shit would

1165
00:43:24,299 --> 00:43:25,359
try if I could.

1166
00:43:26,059 --> 00:43:28,000
And yet knowing what I know now,

1167
00:43:29,500 --> 00:43:31,099
I you know, I think what life would

1168
00:43:31,099 --> 00:43:33,894
do, and I'm sure this is maybe how

1169
00:43:34,114 --> 00:43:36,114
it might happen cosmically if you think of

1170
00:43:36,114 --> 00:43:37,735
a cosmic whatever whatever,

1171
00:43:38,434 --> 00:43:40,855
cosmic force, like, making things happen.

1172
00:43:41,394 --> 00:43:42,855
If we didn't have to

1173
00:43:43,235 --> 00:43:43,974
get forged

1174
00:43:45,019 --> 00:43:46,780
in that fire, we'd have another fucking fire

1175
00:43:46,780 --> 00:43:48,880
to go through. Yeah. It's

1176
00:43:49,260 --> 00:43:49,760
weird.

1177
00:43:50,619 --> 00:43:52,619
But but yeah. Nuts. You go back and

1178
00:43:52,619 --> 00:43:54,300
make us meet earlier. I'll go back and

1179
00:43:54,300 --> 00:43:56,480
tell us to slow the fuck down. Right.

1180
00:43:57,019 --> 00:43:59,444
Stop. We did that very common thing of,

1181
00:43:59,444 --> 00:44:00,724
oh, the more money you make, the more

1182
00:44:00,724 --> 00:44:02,804
money you spend. And Yeah. What I know

1183
00:44:02,804 --> 00:44:05,045
now? No. No. I'm way too paranoid for

1184
00:44:05,045 --> 00:44:05,545
that.

1185
00:44:06,324 --> 00:44:08,804
Yep. I would like to live well beneath

1186
00:44:08,804 --> 00:44:10,424
my means. Yeah. Thank you.

1187
00:44:10,724 --> 00:44:11,224
Yep.

1188
00:44:12,960 --> 00:44:15,460
Ta da. Those were our 10 questions. Cool.

1189
00:44:15,519 --> 00:44:15,760
I'm not

1190
00:44:17,840 --> 00:44:19,519
maybe it's because we're old and boring, and

1191
00:44:19,519 --> 00:44:21,920
we've just we don't have, like, a relationship

1192
00:44:21,920 --> 00:44:23,359
that anybody's gonna give a side eye to.

1193
00:44:23,359 --> 00:44:24,719
I mean, other than the kink thing. But,

1194
00:44:24,719 --> 00:44:26,239
you know, in this space with all of

1195
00:44:26,239 --> 00:44:28,784
us together, nobody's given a side eye. Those

1196
00:44:28,784 --> 00:44:30,085
don't feel unhinged

1197
00:44:30,625 --> 00:44:31,844
so much as, like,

1198
00:44:32,545 --> 00:44:33,045
random.

1199
00:44:33,505 --> 00:44:35,505
But if we had sat down and done

1200
00:44:35,505 --> 00:44:37,664
with these, like, six months in before, like,

1201
00:44:37,664 --> 00:44:38,565
I was, like,

1202
00:44:39,719 --> 00:44:41,000
in it in it when it was still

1203
00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:43,159
kinda new and shiny, I might have been

1204
00:44:43,159 --> 00:44:44,599
sent for I might have started running for

1205
00:44:44,599 --> 00:44:46,039
the Hills. I might have been, like, a

1206
00:44:46,039 --> 00:44:46,539
little

1207
00:44:48,119 --> 00:44:49,980
a little worried about things.

1208
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:52,920
But also, if I try to go back

1209
00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:54,139
to to then,

1210
00:44:54,505 --> 00:44:56,264
what would you have said my flaw was

1211
00:44:56,264 --> 00:44:57,945
then? It would probably been like, could you

1212
00:44:57,945 --> 00:44:59,885
just believe me when I tell you something?

1213
00:45:01,784 --> 00:45:03,784
Could you just believe that I'm actually into

1214
00:45:03,784 --> 00:45:05,144
you and I want to be here? That

1215
00:45:05,144 --> 00:45:06,525
would be great. Thanks.

1216
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:14,660
Anyway,

1217
00:45:15,199 --> 00:45:17,940
ta da. Ta da. Those are the questions.

1218
00:45:18,239 --> 00:45:18,640
If,

1219
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:21,699
if you want the questions,

1220
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:24,485
I've linked to Therapy Jeff's Instagram reel where

1221
00:45:24,485 --> 00:45:26,164
he actually put the questions in the caption.

1222
00:45:26,164 --> 00:45:27,845
I was very grateful for that because I

1223
00:45:27,845 --> 00:45:30,505
copied and pasted into my script. For podcast

1224
00:45:30,565 --> 00:45:32,405
listeners, the show notes on Friday will have

1225
00:45:32,405 --> 00:45:34,724
the questions as well. So if anybody wants

1226
00:45:34,724 --> 00:45:37,049
to, like for yourself as an individual or,

1227
00:45:37,049 --> 00:45:39,150
like, as a little relationship exercise

1228
00:45:40,569 --> 00:45:43,130
Yeah. Feel free. Mhmm. Feel free. Yeah.

1229
00:45:43,769 --> 00:45:45,929
But, yeah, that's it. And we'll go into

1230
00:45:45,929 --> 00:45:49,210
a bonus section. So, are we good? I

1231
00:45:49,210 --> 00:45:49,905
don't know.

1232
00:45:51,905 --> 00:45:53,744
Keep it kinky, y'all. And we'll see you

1233
00:45:53,744 --> 00:45:54,485
next week.

1234
00:46:03,869 --> 00:46:04,369
Daddy.

1235
00:46:05,069 --> 00:46:06,909
Yes, baby girl. Can we talk to the

1236
00:46:06,909 --> 00:46:08,130
crickets? Sure.

1237
00:46:08,429 --> 00:46:08,929
Okay.

1238
00:46:09,869 --> 00:46:12,190
Jamie's birthday is on Saturday. Nope. Nope. Nope.

1239
00:46:12,190 --> 00:46:13,010
Nope. He's stuck.

1240
00:46:18,914 --> 00:46:19,974
You have some interference.

1241
00:46:20,434 --> 00:46:22,994
Stop. Somebody is very annoyed with you right

1242
00:46:22,994 --> 00:46:23,494
now.

1243
00:46:24,034 --> 00:46:25,795
Don't worry. Probably, like, half a second, I'll

1244
00:46:25,795 --> 00:46:29,069
accidentally bump accidentally bump the microphone and somebody

1245
00:46:29,069 --> 00:46:31,309
will be annoyed with me. See? It's fine.

1246
00:46:31,309 --> 00:46:32,609
It's fine. It's

1247
00:46:35,630 --> 00:46:35,949
fine.

1248
00:46:36,589 --> 00:46:37,650
So other than

1249
00:46:38,190 --> 00:46:39,554
Jamie's birthday is on Saturday.

1250
00:46:40,275 --> 00:46:42,454
What have you got for the bonus section?

1251
00:46:44,194 --> 00:46:46,355
Look. Look. Man, I have to wait till

1252
00:46:46,355 --> 00:46:48,375
my birthday to keep that shit up.

1253
00:46:54,940 --> 00:46:55,440
Look.

1254
00:46:56,300 --> 00:46:56,960
Look. Even

1255
00:46:57,340 --> 00:46:58,559
in our driest

1256
00:46:58,860 --> 00:46:59,920
dry spells,

1257
00:47:00,460 --> 00:47:02,699
when nobody was like, we were like, yeah.

1258
00:47:02,699 --> 00:47:05,099
We love one another. Yeah. Dom sub. Sure.

1259
00:47:05,099 --> 00:47:07,260
Sure. But nobody was thinking of anything else.

1260
00:47:07,260 --> 00:47:09,204
There were still two birthday spagings a year.

1261
00:47:09,204 --> 00:47:11,784
Thank you very much. That's true. That's true.

1262
00:47:12,804 --> 00:47:13,625
That's true.

1263
00:47:16,405 --> 00:47:17,784
So what's going on?

1264
00:47:19,764 --> 00:47:21,144
Been playing in the shop.

1265
00:47:21,579 --> 00:47:22,880
You have been? Yep.

1266
00:47:23,579 --> 00:47:25,980
Got the, got the new lade set up.

1267
00:47:25,980 --> 00:47:26,480
Mhmm.

1268
00:47:27,819 --> 00:47:29,280
But I'm waiting for the

1269
00:47:30,619 --> 00:47:33,179
adapters to show up so I can actually

1270
00:47:33,179 --> 00:47:34,239
fully use it.

1271
00:47:34,780 --> 00:47:36,400
And, you know, did we have the conversation

1272
00:47:36,585 --> 00:47:38,184
upon ordering, do we need to buy the

1273
00:47:38,184 --> 00:47:40,025
adapters? And somebody went, oh, no. We're fine.

1274
00:47:40,025 --> 00:47:42,505
We're fine. Somebody needed the adapters. The and

1275
00:47:42,505 --> 00:47:44,764
and I I will admit that was totally

1276
00:47:45,065 --> 00:47:46,445
on me. Sure.

1277
00:47:48,025 --> 00:47:50,025
All my all my chucks that I have

1278
00:47:50,025 --> 00:47:50,525
used

1279
00:47:51,069 --> 00:47:51,889
on the lades

1280
00:47:52,829 --> 00:47:53,969
are NOVA chucks.

1281
00:47:54,589 --> 00:47:56,670
And in order to make NOVA chucks work

1282
00:47:56,670 --> 00:47:57,170
on

1283
00:47:58,750 --> 00:48:01,469
Non NOVA things. Non NOVA things, you need

1284
00:48:01,469 --> 00:48:01,969
adapters.

1285
00:48:02,670 --> 00:48:05,775
So my initial thought was, oh, I'm getting

1286
00:48:05,775 --> 00:48:08,275
a Nova Nova Lathe. So the Novakooks

1287
00:48:08,815 --> 00:48:10,894
that I have should be compatible with them.

1288
00:48:10,894 --> 00:48:12,734
Right? Which would make sense. I agree. I

1289
00:48:12,734 --> 00:48:15,054
agree. No. They were not. No. Now here's

1290
00:48:15,054 --> 00:48:18,014
what's hilarious. Somebody was very excited for Monday

1291
00:48:18,014 --> 00:48:19,380
to roll around before they realized they needed

1292
00:48:19,380 --> 00:48:20,119
these adjusters,

1293
00:48:20,500 --> 00:48:22,179
blah blah blah things, because they wanted to

1294
00:48:22,179 --> 00:48:24,659
turn. And I have a long list of

1295
00:48:24,659 --> 00:48:27,500
things we're sold out of at theconcrete,thebigger.com.

1296
00:48:27,619 --> 00:48:29,460
Keep writing them in bigger and bigger letters

1297
00:48:29,460 --> 00:48:31,219
on the board, you know. And of them

1298
00:48:31,299 --> 00:48:33,299
and I've gotta actually move one thing up

1299
00:48:33,299 --> 00:48:35,074
to the list because it's now officially sold

1300
00:48:35,074 --> 00:48:36,795
out too. Oh, dear. Of the things that

1301
00:48:36,795 --> 00:48:38,175
are sold out, there's

1302
00:48:38,715 --> 00:48:40,175
five things on the list

1303
00:48:40,715 --> 00:48:43,195
that are completely out of stock. Mhmm. Four

1304
00:48:43,195 --> 00:48:44,894
of them require the lathe.

1305
00:48:45,355 --> 00:48:45,855
Yes.

1306
00:48:46,474 --> 00:48:47,454
Four of them.

1307
00:48:48,074 --> 00:48:50,175
Yep. So Yep. Yep. Yep.

1308
00:48:50,610 --> 00:48:52,309
Yeah. And then here's

1309
00:48:53,490 --> 00:48:55,410
what's ironic. I don't know. I don't know.

1310
00:48:55,410 --> 00:48:55,910
Mhmm.

1311
00:48:56,369 --> 00:48:59,650
Order the big, big expensive tool. It's coming

1312
00:48:59,650 --> 00:49:01,890
from Clearwater, which is, the area we used

1313
00:49:01,890 --> 00:49:03,190
to live. It arrives

1314
00:49:03,894 --> 00:49:05,654
the next day? The next day. The next

1315
00:49:05,654 --> 00:49:07,894
day. Yeah. We didn't, like, pay for special

1316
00:49:07,894 --> 00:49:09,755
the next day. It arrived the next day.

1317
00:49:09,894 --> 00:49:12,134
Because and we're, like, okay. It's close. Great.

1318
00:49:12,134 --> 00:49:13,494
We ordered early in the day, and, like,

1319
00:49:13,494 --> 00:49:14,554
it worked out.

1320
00:49:15,335 --> 00:49:17,734
These little adapters, they're coming from the same

1321
00:49:17,734 --> 00:49:18,234
location.

1322
00:49:19,050 --> 00:49:20,090
Will they be here by the end of

1323
00:49:20,090 --> 00:49:20,750
the week?

1324
00:49:21,690 --> 00:49:24,090
Hopefully. Are they coming through the see, the

1325
00:49:24,090 --> 00:49:26,650
big tools came through UPS. UPS. Right. Are

1326
00:49:26,650 --> 00:49:28,730
these coming through the post office? Post office.

1327
00:49:28,730 --> 00:49:30,170
Yeah. Oh my god. That's why I said

1328
00:49:30,170 --> 00:49:31,550
that's why Mhmm.

1329
00:49:32,704 --> 00:49:35,265
Our all our mail, regardless of where it

1330
00:49:35,265 --> 00:49:37,284
comes from, goes through Jacksonville.

1331
00:49:39,585 --> 00:49:42,465
And, But sometimes it goes other places, but

1332
00:49:42,465 --> 00:49:44,085
Jacksonville is the main one. Yeah?

1333
00:49:44,489 --> 00:49:47,210
Jacksonville is technically where it goes before it

1334
00:49:47,210 --> 00:49:49,869
comes here Mhmm. To to this town.

1335
00:49:52,809 --> 00:49:53,309
Sometimes

1336
00:49:53,610 --> 00:49:55,630
Jacksonville is a black hole.

1337
00:49:56,090 --> 00:49:56,909
Oh, yeah.

1338
00:49:57,605 --> 00:49:59,944
It's a it's a it's in transit. Yeah.

1339
00:50:00,244 --> 00:50:02,484
Air quote that. We we we've had stuff

1340
00:50:02,484 --> 00:50:06,005
go from Jacksonville recently to Puerto Rico. Then

1341
00:50:06,005 --> 00:50:07,144
came back up to

1342
00:50:07,684 --> 00:50:10,324
Orlando, then went to Gainesville, then came to

1343
00:50:10,324 --> 00:50:11,224
us. Yeah.

1344
00:50:11,525 --> 00:50:12,025
Yeah.

1345
00:50:12,429 --> 00:50:14,190
And then there was something else that that

1346
00:50:14,190 --> 00:50:17,390
traveled along all the the Mid Midwest states,

1347
00:50:17,390 --> 00:50:19,949
I think. Wasn't there something There's one thing

1348
00:50:19,949 --> 00:50:21,329
that just finally arrived

1349
00:50:21,789 --> 00:50:24,269
two weeks after I ordered it because it

1350
00:50:24,269 --> 00:50:26,844
was shipped out of North Dakota Mhmm. Went

1351
00:50:26,844 --> 00:50:28,545
to one North Dakota

1352
00:50:29,005 --> 00:50:30,224
processing center,

1353
00:50:30,764 --> 00:50:32,525
left there. I could see that in tracking,

1354
00:50:32,525 --> 00:50:34,464
and then just went on a journey

1355
00:50:35,005 --> 00:50:37,585
until it finally arrived in Jacksonville

1356
00:50:38,239 --> 00:50:40,480
two weeks later. Yeah. And all the tracking

1357
00:50:40,480 --> 00:50:42,719
shows you is it's in transit, which,

1358
00:50:43,280 --> 00:50:44,659
the little bit I know about

1359
00:50:45,119 --> 00:50:47,679
US post office, which is damn little, is

1360
00:50:47,679 --> 00:50:48,980
that when things

1361
00:50:49,599 --> 00:50:51,585
get backed up, whether it's weather or it's

1362
00:50:51,585 --> 00:50:52,804
really busy or,

1363
00:50:53,184 --> 00:50:53,844
you know,

1364
00:50:54,144 --> 00:50:54,804
the governmental

1365
00:50:55,824 --> 00:50:58,065
things are not functioning properly because this is

1366
00:50:58,065 --> 00:50:59,605
the hellscape we live in,

1367
00:51:00,385 --> 00:51:02,190
they will not scan things

1368
00:51:02,670 --> 00:51:04,670
at every destination to just kinda move it

1369
00:51:04,670 --> 00:51:05,170
through,

1370
00:51:06,190 --> 00:51:08,670
and they will also reroute things from, like,

1371
00:51:08,670 --> 00:51:10,349
where it would normally go because that place

1372
00:51:10,349 --> 00:51:12,589
is too busy to somewhere else. My favorite

1373
00:51:12,589 --> 00:51:14,829
is when they don't scan and they reroute,

1374
00:51:14,829 --> 00:51:16,875
that's how you get a package down in

1375
00:51:16,875 --> 00:51:19,534
Puerto Rico even though it came from, like,

1376
00:51:21,034 --> 00:51:22,974
not not down that far. Nope.

1377
00:51:24,315 --> 00:51:26,954
So Yeah. So, yeah. What what what has

1378
00:51:26,954 --> 00:51:28,954
happened thus far, because I I've been kind

1379
00:51:28,954 --> 00:51:31,135
of peeking at, you know, watching the

1380
00:51:31,989 --> 00:51:32,489
tracking.

1381
00:51:34,150 --> 00:51:36,650
Two days ago, it made it to Jacksonville,

1382
00:51:37,030 --> 00:51:38,489
and it got scanned in.

1383
00:51:38,789 --> 00:51:40,890
Mhmm. Hasn't been seen since anywhere.

1384
00:51:42,309 --> 00:51:44,789
Look. That's okay. I'm helping a person through

1385
00:51:44,789 --> 00:51:46,550
the kinkery, thekinkery.com,

1386
00:51:46,550 --> 00:51:47,690
who lives in Australia.

1387
00:51:48,045 --> 00:51:48,864
Ordered something

1388
00:51:49,164 --> 00:51:51,405
two and a half, two ish, almost three

1389
00:51:51,405 --> 00:51:52,944
week close to three weeks ago.

1390
00:51:55,644 --> 00:51:57,804
I I either it was either picked up

1391
00:51:57,804 --> 00:51:59,804
by our postal our mail carrier or it

1392
00:51:59,804 --> 00:52:01,005
was one of the ones I dropped off.

1393
00:52:01,005 --> 00:52:02,284
There was, like, a two day period where

1394
00:52:02,284 --> 00:52:03,380
I was doing both because we had so

1395
00:52:03,380 --> 00:52:05,460
much kinda going out. I try not to,

1396
00:52:05,460 --> 00:52:05,619
like,

1397
00:52:07,059 --> 00:52:08,760
be mean to our mail carrier

1398
00:52:09,140 --> 00:52:11,079
and give them, like, too many packages. But

1399
00:52:12,340 --> 00:52:14,660
I know that it left this property, and

1400
00:52:14,660 --> 00:52:15,719
it is in the possession

1401
00:52:16,099 --> 00:52:17,355
of the USPS.

1402
00:52:18,215 --> 00:52:19,355
The tracking says,

1403
00:52:19,735 --> 00:52:21,355
label has been created

1404
00:52:21,655 --> 00:52:22,155
awaiting

1405
00:52:22,775 --> 00:52:25,015
pickup by the post office, and this poor

1406
00:52:25,015 --> 00:52:27,575
person has is emailing going, do you know

1407
00:52:27,575 --> 00:52:28,635
when a package

1408
00:52:29,015 --> 00:52:30,315
will leave, will arrive?

1409
00:52:30,695 --> 00:52:32,809
I'm like, I don't even know if it

1410
00:52:32,809 --> 00:52:33,789
exists anymore.

1411
00:52:34,650 --> 00:52:36,329
Have a plan. I'm gonna work with that

1412
00:52:36,329 --> 00:52:39,390
person and help them out. Mhmm. Yeah. Yeah.

1413
00:52:39,849 --> 00:52:40,750
Thanks. Yep.

1414
00:52:41,369 --> 00:52:43,050
Post office. And see, the thing is is

1415
00:52:43,050 --> 00:52:44,890
I know it's not the post office. It's

1416
00:52:44,890 --> 00:52:46,190
not I mean, every

1417
00:52:46,704 --> 00:52:49,025
every place that has employees employees are people

1418
00:52:49,025 --> 00:52:50,405
and some weird shit happens.

1419
00:52:52,144 --> 00:52:53,905
The weather issues. Oh my god. The weather

1420
00:52:53,905 --> 00:52:54,405
stuff.

1421
00:52:56,065 --> 00:52:57,045
The tragedies

1422
00:52:57,344 --> 00:52:59,364
from the weather stuff is what's awful.

1423
00:52:59,984 --> 00:53:02,005
But that slows everything down. Then

1424
00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:05,179
if our local post offices are,

1425
00:53:05,559 --> 00:53:08,360
like, indicative of anything, they're all they're short

1426
00:53:08,360 --> 00:53:09,420
staffed somewhere

1427
00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:10,380
because

1428
00:53:11,159 --> 00:53:12,219
they're, I mean,

1429
00:53:12,679 --> 00:53:15,400
seem to be constantly hiring. Yeah. Are they

1430
00:53:15,400 --> 00:53:16,714
on a hiring freeze? Don't know. I don't

1431
00:53:16,714 --> 00:53:18,135
know anything about that part.

1432
00:53:20,194 --> 00:53:22,034
So, like, I wanna I wanna support my

1433
00:53:22,034 --> 00:53:22,855
post office,

1434
00:53:23,315 --> 00:53:25,574
but I would like packages to arrive.

1435
00:53:27,875 --> 00:53:29,315
Mhmm. Mhmm. So, you know, as I don't

1436
00:53:29,315 --> 00:53:31,190
know, what is this? Is it's

1437
00:53:34,449 --> 00:53:35,670
the good good. Yeah.

1438
00:53:36,769 --> 00:53:38,849
Yep. It's it's it's a good good machine

1439
00:53:38,849 --> 00:53:40,690
and I'm I'm looking forward to really putting

1440
00:53:40,690 --> 00:53:41,010
it to,

1441
00:53:42,690 --> 00:53:45,184
I'm looking forward to products being restocked. I

1442
00:53:45,184 --> 00:53:47,284
know. Because you could fully use the machine.

1443
00:53:48,065 --> 00:53:49,744
But, you know, this this has given me

1444
00:53:49,744 --> 00:53:51,445
time to play with some other things.

1445
00:53:52,224 --> 00:53:53,525
True true. True true.

1446
00:53:54,065 --> 00:53:55,184
And I'm I am,

1447
00:53:56,304 --> 00:53:58,385
not even really focused on that right now,

1448
00:53:58,385 --> 00:53:58,577
because I am in the process of, not

1449
00:53:58,577 --> 00:53:59,844
rebuilding, but building our

1450
00:54:01,239 --> 00:54:02,059
process of

1451
00:54:03,079 --> 00:54:06,599
not rebuilding, but building our site somewhere else

1452
00:54:06,599 --> 00:54:08,840
other than where it currently lives. And if

1453
00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:10,360
I can make that happen and it can

1454
00:54:10,360 --> 00:54:12,440
work properly and it not be expensive to

1455
00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:14,394
run, then I we will be

1456
00:54:15,014 --> 00:54:18,394
switching things up for the kinkery, the kinkery.com.

1457
00:54:19,494 --> 00:54:21,494
So it's my current, and I'm I am

1458
00:54:21,494 --> 00:54:23,094
using this the way it is actually meant

1459
00:54:23,094 --> 00:54:24,635
to be. It is my current Hyperfocus

1460
00:54:25,734 --> 00:54:26,234
because

1461
00:54:27,059 --> 00:54:28,980
I have ignored all kinds of other things

1462
00:54:28,980 --> 00:54:30,660
I need to do so that I could

1463
00:54:30,660 --> 00:54:31,800
play with that system.

1464
00:54:32,260 --> 00:54:33,699
And then when I finally can, like, sit

1465
00:54:33,699 --> 00:54:35,380
down and really work on it, like I

1466
00:54:35,380 --> 00:54:36,039
could today,

1467
00:54:36,900 --> 00:54:38,835
I lost all track of time.

1468
00:54:39,234 --> 00:54:40,355
I am really tired of having to be

1469
00:54:40,355 --> 00:54:43,414
a responsible adult slash parent because I was

1470
00:54:43,474 --> 00:54:46,195
bitching at dinner tonight and was like, I

1471
00:54:46,195 --> 00:54:48,614
don't even get to enjoy my focus because

1472
00:54:49,155 --> 00:54:49,655
there's

1473
00:54:50,594 --> 00:54:53,049
no point in any day, and I'm sure

1474
00:54:53,049 --> 00:54:54,929
this is just a responsible adult thing, but

1475
00:54:54,929 --> 00:54:57,150
it is definitely a parenting thing too.

1476
00:54:57,609 --> 00:54:58,750
There is no

1477
00:54:59,210 --> 00:55:00,589
world in which I get

1478
00:55:00,889 --> 00:55:01,869
literal hours

1479
00:55:02,650 --> 00:55:03,150
where

1480
00:55:04,809 --> 00:55:06,030
I can just

1481
00:55:06,889 --> 00:55:09,704
lose myself. Self. And I'm not wired to

1482
00:55:09,704 --> 00:55:11,085
be a person who

1483
00:55:12,264 --> 00:55:13,964
can somehow tune out

1484
00:55:14,424 --> 00:55:15,724
all of the other things.

1485
00:55:16,184 --> 00:55:18,184
I'm not a person that if I'm focused,

1486
00:55:18,184 --> 00:55:19,944
if you start talking to me, it'll take

1487
00:55:19,944 --> 00:55:21,385
me a few minutes to realize you are

1488
00:55:21,385 --> 00:55:23,670
there. But once I've come up,

1489
00:55:24,530 --> 00:55:25,969
you know, it's my turn to cook dinner.

1490
00:55:25,969 --> 00:55:27,570
Let me go do that. It's this. A

1491
00:55:27,570 --> 00:55:29,650
kid needs that. This is what's going on.

1492
00:55:29,650 --> 00:55:31,349
But but because there's just so much.

1493
00:55:32,130 --> 00:55:33,190
And I have spent

1494
00:55:33,969 --> 00:55:35,844
my whole adult life going, I I just

1495
00:55:35,844 --> 00:55:37,765
want I just want one whole day. I

1496
00:55:37,765 --> 00:55:39,285
just want one whole day or whatever it

1497
00:55:39,285 --> 00:55:40,425
is I'm working on.

1498
00:55:40,724 --> 00:55:42,005
But you know what I do when I

1499
00:55:42,005 --> 00:55:43,305
even get half a day?

1500
00:55:44,164 --> 00:55:46,085
I scroll on Instagram or I read my

1501
00:55:46,085 --> 00:55:48,425
book and I procrastinate. It's very annoying.

1502
00:55:48,965 --> 00:55:50,105
Yep. Yep. Yep.

1503
00:55:52,119 --> 00:55:52,760
So Yeah. Anyway

1504
00:55:53,079 --> 00:55:54,599
So with that, you know, I've been I've

1505
00:55:54,599 --> 00:55:57,500
been playing with knives. You have been? Mhmm.

1506
00:55:57,640 --> 00:55:58,780
I need more knives.

1507
00:55:59,719 --> 00:56:01,400
Plus, you're like playing with new things. I've

1508
00:56:01,400 --> 00:56:03,344
been I've been playing with real knives. Oh,

1509
00:56:03,425 --> 00:56:04,864
well, I need more of the kind that

1510
00:56:04,864 --> 00:56:06,945
we sell. I know. We're running out of

1511
00:56:06,945 --> 00:56:07,764
those too.

1512
00:56:10,465 --> 00:56:12,304
It's such a it's it's such a good

1513
00:56:12,304 --> 00:56:13,984
problem to have. I don't like to complain

1514
00:56:13,984 --> 00:56:15,125
about it. Yeah.

1515
00:56:15,664 --> 00:56:17,984
But I also hate seeing that stressed out

1516
00:56:17,984 --> 00:56:18,869
expression you get

1517
00:56:19,510 --> 00:56:21,510
when you start thinking about all the I

1518
00:56:21,510 --> 00:56:23,110
have this long list of I need this,

1519
00:56:23,110 --> 00:56:24,470
and I need this, and I need this.

1520
00:56:24,470 --> 00:56:25,289
And he's like,

1521
00:56:25,750 --> 00:56:26,970
you stop his breathing

1522
00:56:27,510 --> 00:56:28,010
properly.

1523
00:56:29,269 --> 00:56:30,650
Excuse me. Yeah.

1524
00:56:31,985 --> 00:56:34,065
I do. I don't like to stress you

1525
00:56:34,065 --> 00:56:36,144
out like that. I'll find I'll find fun

1526
00:56:36,144 --> 00:56:38,704
ways to stress you out. Ways that crack

1527
00:56:38,704 --> 00:56:39,925
me up. Okay?

1528
00:56:40,704 --> 00:56:41,684
That's fine.

1529
00:56:44,190 --> 00:56:46,589
It's not real stress. You'll get you'll get

1530
00:56:46,589 --> 00:56:48,109
your outlet the way I like to do

1531
00:56:48,109 --> 00:56:49,869
it. But when it's real stress, it's just

1532
00:56:49,869 --> 00:56:51,650
not fun. No. No.

1533
00:56:54,829 --> 00:56:55,579
No. No.

1534
00:56:57,224 --> 00:56:57,724
So

1535
00:56:59,465 --> 00:57:01,005
Lola's good. Mhmm.

1536
00:57:01,865 --> 00:57:04,505
We stressed Ella the hell out. Oh. Oh,

1537
00:57:04,505 --> 00:57:06,365
I will I will complain about this.

1538
00:57:10,380 --> 00:57:12,559
I got to learn the depths and breadth

1539
00:57:12,940 --> 00:57:15,679
of JB's disdain for Ella the cat.

1540
00:57:16,460 --> 00:57:19,179
She takes okay. We have been trying to

1541
00:57:19,179 --> 00:57:21,920
transition these cats to a different litter for

1542
00:57:22,355 --> 00:57:22,855
literally

1543
00:57:23,394 --> 00:57:23,894
three

1544
00:57:24,514 --> 00:57:26,914
months. We've been doing a slow, like, mix

1545
00:57:26,914 --> 00:57:29,155
in, mix in, mix in. We've got three

1546
00:57:29,155 --> 00:57:31,954
litter boxes. Two are fully switched over. We

1547
00:57:31,954 --> 00:57:33,174
had one that

1548
00:57:33,474 --> 00:57:35,234
we had one that was fully switched over,

1549
00:57:35,234 --> 00:57:37,699
one that was, like, mostly the new stuff,

1550
00:57:37,840 --> 00:57:39,360
very little of the old stuff. And then

1551
00:57:39,360 --> 00:57:40,639
we had one that was, like, an an

1552
00:57:40,639 --> 00:57:42,719
even split between the two. And I was

1553
00:57:42,719 --> 00:57:44,880
like, these litter boxes are all getting used,

1554
00:57:44,880 --> 00:57:46,260
so I think it's safe

1555
00:57:46,880 --> 00:57:49,380
if we just let's go ahead and swap

1556
00:57:49,599 --> 00:57:51,744
these others out and make it fully the

1557
00:57:51,744 --> 00:57:54,065
new. We're doing the pine pellet thing because

1558
00:57:54,065 --> 00:57:55,045
it smells better.

1559
00:57:56,625 --> 00:57:59,425
Ella stressed out so much. Even though she

1560
00:57:59,425 --> 00:58:01,445
has put her paws on this shit for

1561
00:58:01,744 --> 00:58:03,204
three months now,

1562
00:58:03,985 --> 00:58:07,380
she started peeing on everything and everywhere except

1563
00:58:07,380 --> 00:58:09,460
the litter box. Yep. And JB took it

1564
00:58:09,460 --> 00:58:09,960
personally.

1565
00:58:10,900 --> 00:58:12,739
I did I did have to go. She

1566
00:58:12,739 --> 00:58:14,840
is not doing this to piss you off.

1567
00:58:15,300 --> 00:58:17,800
She is stressed out. We washed

1568
00:58:18,099 --> 00:58:19,719
all kinds manners of blankets.

1569
00:58:20,694 --> 00:58:22,375
We had to wash our curtains. I didn't

1570
00:58:22,534 --> 00:58:24,375
Yeah. I didn't know it,

1571
00:58:25,974 --> 00:58:26,474
a

1572
00:58:26,934 --> 00:58:29,494
a cat that doesn't spray like the, I

1573
00:58:29,494 --> 00:58:31,574
guess, the boy cats do. I didn't know

1574
00:58:31,574 --> 00:58:34,130
a girl cat could pee standing up like

1575
00:58:34,130 --> 00:58:34,630
that,

1576
00:58:35,250 --> 00:58:38,289
but, apparently, she can't. She went in and

1577
00:58:38,289 --> 00:58:41,010
pissed in roll Lola's crate. She did. Poor

1578
00:58:41,010 --> 00:58:43,090
Lola did not wanna go in there, but

1579
00:58:43,090 --> 00:58:45,489
she could not tell us why. Lola did

1580
00:58:45,489 --> 00:58:46,470
not like that.

1581
00:58:47,934 --> 00:58:48,434
So

1582
00:58:48,815 --> 00:58:51,394
we, who love one another very, very much,

1583
00:58:52,414 --> 00:58:53,154
ended up

1584
00:58:55,214 --> 00:58:57,074
not sounding like we loved one another.

1585
00:58:58,734 --> 00:58:59,234
And

1586
00:58:59,900 --> 00:59:01,280
we have got one.

1587
00:59:01,900 --> 00:59:04,059
JB is the the king of mind fucks

1588
00:59:04,059 --> 00:59:05,500
because at first, you're like, okay. Let's get

1589
00:59:05,500 --> 00:59:06,960
some stuff to spray to deter,

1590
00:59:07,340 --> 00:59:08,860
like, where she's been pinging so she doesn't

1591
00:59:08,860 --> 00:59:10,460
go back, which she was not going back

1592
00:59:10,460 --> 00:59:11,199
to the same

1593
00:59:11,500 --> 00:59:14,014
spot more than once, except for the fucking

1594
00:59:14,074 --> 00:59:15,694
curtain, but that I don't know.

1595
00:59:16,795 --> 00:59:18,795
And then I don't think either of us

1596
00:59:18,795 --> 00:59:21,194
trusted that was enough. And then JB had

1597
00:59:21,194 --> 00:59:22,894
a brilliant idea. He goes, look.

1598
00:59:23,594 --> 00:59:24,815
Keep the new

1599
00:59:25,355 --> 00:59:28,369
stuff at the bottom. Just sprinkle the old

1600
00:59:28,369 --> 00:59:30,550
stuff on top. I was like, oh, like

1601
00:59:30,930 --> 00:59:32,690
like powdered sugar on top of a cake

1602
00:59:32,690 --> 00:59:33,430
or something.

1603
00:59:35,329 --> 00:59:38,130
Okay. It worked. Yeah. It worked now. She

1604
00:59:38,130 --> 00:59:40,764
is now pickier about her. Look. I have

1605
00:59:40,764 --> 00:59:41,905
to go in more often

1606
00:59:42,284 --> 00:59:44,364
to sprinkle more on top of it, and

1607
00:59:44,364 --> 00:59:46,545
she's not a dumbass because guess what?

1608
00:59:47,485 --> 00:59:49,724
By the end of this week, that box

1609
00:59:49,724 --> 00:59:52,045
will be 50 fucking 50 again, and we're

1610
00:59:52,045 --> 00:59:55,239
back to buying two goddamn Yeah. Litters. Yeah.

1611
00:59:55,380 --> 00:59:56,819
But, yeah, she was so stressed out. I

1612
00:59:56,819 --> 00:59:58,339
felt bad for her. I was like, we

1613
00:59:58,339 --> 01:00:00,500
were not we thought we thought three months

1614
01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:01,559
was enough time.

1615
01:00:01,940 --> 01:00:04,260
Mhmm. It was not enough time. No. I

1616
01:00:04,260 --> 01:00:06,519
don't think there is enough time for her.

1617
01:00:07,859 --> 01:00:09,465
No. No. I mean, it was you know,

1618
01:00:09,704 --> 01:00:12,184
she she peed on your shoes. She peed

1619
01:00:12,184 --> 01:00:13,864
on your shoes. Peed on my shoes. And

1620
01:00:13,864 --> 01:00:15,805
see, here's the thing. And I don't know

1621
01:00:15,945 --> 01:00:18,265
if I don't know if it's because I

1622
01:00:18,265 --> 01:00:20,025
really was calm about it or if I

1623
01:00:20,025 --> 01:00:20,765
was trying

1624
01:00:21,719 --> 01:00:23,480
to show JB how you could get through

1625
01:00:23,480 --> 01:00:25,420
this without losing your shit,

1626
01:00:26,039 --> 01:00:27,800
he would come storming into her room and

1627
01:00:27,800 --> 01:00:30,119
go, she pissed on this now. And I'd

1628
01:00:30,119 --> 01:00:30,619
go,

1629
01:00:31,400 --> 01:00:33,159
okay. And if it was a thing that

1630
01:00:33,159 --> 01:00:34,920
I would just clean, I would just go

1631
01:00:34,920 --> 01:00:36,280
clean it. But, like, the curtains he had

1632
01:00:36,280 --> 01:00:38,375
to help take down. He found out about

1633
01:00:38,375 --> 01:00:39,734
Lola's bed before I even got out of

1634
01:00:39,734 --> 01:00:41,414
bed. Had to strip all that down. He

1635
01:00:41,414 --> 01:00:43,034
started those. But, like, the shoes,

1636
01:00:44,054 --> 01:00:46,375
he put my foot in my shoe and

1637
01:00:46,375 --> 01:00:48,454
went up. Oh, god. Yeah. Pulled my foot

1638
01:00:48,454 --> 01:00:50,695
out, hobbled to where the Clorox went. And

1639
01:00:50,695 --> 01:00:51,594
I'm not, like,

1640
01:00:51,894 --> 01:00:53,940
I'm I'm not having a it was like

1641
01:00:53,940 --> 01:00:56,920
gentle parenting. I was emotionally regulating myself

1642
01:00:57,219 --> 01:00:59,719
in hopes that that would help JB regulate

1643
01:00:59,780 --> 01:01:01,780
his emotions about it. And I was like,

1644
01:01:01,780 --> 01:01:04,199
if I stay calm, hopefully, he'll stay calm.

1645
01:01:04,434 --> 01:01:06,114
It'll be fine. We're just gonna be no

1646
01:01:06,114 --> 01:01:07,494
nonsense. We you know?

1647
01:01:09,074 --> 01:01:09,574
We

1648
01:01:10,674 --> 01:01:13,654
we did not last forty eight hours. No.

1649
01:01:14,034 --> 01:01:14,534
No.

1650
01:01:15,074 --> 01:01:16,594
I mean, I wouldn't I don't want Ella

1651
01:01:16,594 --> 01:01:18,034
to run around being stressed. I also don't

1652
01:01:18,034 --> 01:01:20,420
want me to clean up pee all day.

1653
01:01:21,199 --> 01:01:22,659
No. No. No. No. But

1654
01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:26,500
Yeah. Yeah.

1655
01:01:26,880 --> 01:01:27,519
JB was,

1656
01:01:28,480 --> 01:01:29,119
a little

1657
01:01:29,679 --> 01:01:31,940
We we we had gotten to the point

1658
01:01:32,559 --> 01:01:34,659
within that forty eight hours that

1659
01:01:35,735 --> 01:01:38,775
our bedroom door was closed. Mhmm. Both boys'

1660
01:01:38,775 --> 01:01:41,335
bedroom's doors And their bathroom doors. Were closed,

1661
01:01:41,335 --> 01:01:42,554
and the bathroom door,

1662
01:01:43,094 --> 01:01:45,414
and the door to the office. Yeah. We

1663
01:01:45,414 --> 01:01:47,574
were just boxing her into the dining room,

1664
01:01:47,574 --> 01:01:49,940
kitchen, and living room. And she was still

1665
01:01:49,940 --> 01:01:51,940
finding shit to pee on. I mean, I

1666
01:01:51,940 --> 01:01:53,779
think here's what I think. I think Jamie

1667
01:01:53,779 --> 01:01:56,179
started taking it personal because Ella has zero

1668
01:01:56,179 --> 01:01:58,260
fucks to give. She's always had zero fucks

1669
01:01:58,260 --> 01:02:01,139
to give. And she was looking him in

1670
01:02:01,139 --> 01:02:01,755
the eye

1671
01:02:02,154 --> 01:02:04,074
while peeing on what and he would come

1672
01:02:04,074 --> 01:02:06,394
in and go. She stared at me I

1673
01:02:06,474 --> 01:02:08,315
while she did. Peed on my shoes. I

1674
01:02:08,315 --> 01:02:10,234
I walked in the bedroom. She was in

1675
01:02:10,234 --> 01:02:13,594
the bathroom. She saw me. She squatted down

1676
01:02:13,594 --> 01:02:14,494
on that damn

1677
01:02:15,519 --> 01:02:17,519
mat in the bathroom and just looked at

1678
01:02:17,519 --> 01:02:19,599
me and just let it rip. And and

1679
01:02:19,599 --> 01:02:20,739
he took that personally.

1680
01:02:22,480 --> 01:02:24,179
I was like, you know, she's a cat,

1681
01:02:24,239 --> 01:02:26,079
and Onyx doesn't let her hold the brain

1682
01:02:26,079 --> 01:02:27,940
cell. Okay? She's probably

1683
01:02:28,239 --> 01:02:29,699
just gonna piss you off.

1684
01:02:30,815 --> 01:02:32,894
I promise you. This is not personal. Well,

1685
01:02:32,894 --> 01:02:35,614
that's true. Onyx does not share the brain

1686
01:02:35,614 --> 01:02:36,674
cell with her.

1687
01:02:37,214 --> 01:02:38,734
Look. I'm not sure. I think Onyx sets

1688
01:02:38,734 --> 01:02:40,335
it down and walks away and forgets where

1689
01:02:40,335 --> 01:02:42,654
she left the brain cell too sometimes. Yeah.

1690
01:02:42,654 --> 01:02:44,434
Because oh, sometimes.

1691
01:02:45,900 --> 01:02:48,219
So, yeah, Ella was a hot mess and

1692
01:02:48,219 --> 01:02:50,239
in turn made me a hot mess. And

1693
01:02:50,780 --> 01:02:52,460
Oh my god. I was like, yeah. I'll

1694
01:02:52,460 --> 01:02:54,380
just see, I do the litter all the

1695
01:02:54,380 --> 01:02:56,985
litter box stuff. And when I start, like,

1696
01:02:57,065 --> 01:02:58,585
getting in my feelings about it where I'm

1697
01:02:58,585 --> 01:03:00,265
like, oh, I have to do litter box

1698
01:03:00,265 --> 01:03:01,785
stuff. Then I do have to remind myself

1699
01:03:01,785 --> 01:03:03,085
that JB feeds them

1700
01:03:03,785 --> 01:03:05,545
without twice a day every day, and I

1701
01:03:05,545 --> 01:03:07,785
only rarely come in and go, oh. Right?

1702
01:03:07,785 --> 01:03:09,164
So I'm like, okay. It's

1703
01:03:09,625 --> 01:03:10,905
I have to deal with the smell of

1704
01:03:10,905 --> 01:03:12,960
cat pee and cat poo and clean

1705
01:03:15,280 --> 01:03:17,380
you know, we've it's a fair distribution.

1706
01:03:19,599 --> 01:03:21,119
But by the end of that week, and

1707
01:03:21,119 --> 01:03:22,239
I was like, I will put up with

1708
01:03:22,239 --> 01:03:24,400
two fucking litters if it'll calm this fucking

1709
01:03:24,400 --> 01:03:26,880
man down because I need him to take

1710
01:03:26,880 --> 01:03:29,315
a breath. He is stressing me. I was

1711
01:03:29,474 --> 01:03:30,994
like, I understood this was gonna be a

1712
01:03:30,994 --> 01:03:32,594
bit of a transition period, and then I

1713
01:03:32,594 --> 01:03:33,875
got worried that we should we were stressing

1714
01:03:33,875 --> 01:03:35,734
around in a, like, a harmful way.

1715
01:03:36,114 --> 01:03:37,954
But I just couldn't live with JB freaking

1716
01:03:37,954 --> 01:03:40,694
out. I was like, nope. Nope. We'll just

1717
01:03:40,914 --> 01:03:43,394
nope. It'd be fine. It'd be fine. It's

1718
01:03:43,394 --> 01:03:44,869
fine. It's fine.

1719
01:03:45,650 --> 01:03:48,130
This is fine. Well, we we came up

1720
01:03:48,130 --> 01:03:50,690
with a solution. We executed, said it. And

1721
01:03:50,690 --> 01:03:52,289
we are basically back to where we were

1722
01:03:52,289 --> 01:03:53,909
before we started.

1723
01:03:54,210 --> 01:03:55,190
And and she's

1724
01:03:55,650 --> 01:03:58,130
happy as a freaking clam. She's actually

1725
01:03:59,505 --> 01:04:00,784
she makes a lot more noise when she

1726
01:04:00,784 --> 01:04:02,625
feels like her one litter box that she

1727
01:04:02,625 --> 01:04:04,784
has claimed is Yeah. Is not is not

1728
01:04:04,784 --> 01:04:07,105
proper. Mhmm. Mhmm. And that's when then she,

1729
01:04:07,105 --> 01:04:09,025
like, pees on the outside of it or

1730
01:04:09,025 --> 01:04:11,045
she gets shifty around the house.

1731
01:04:12,065 --> 01:04:12,565
Yeah.

1732
01:04:13,744 --> 01:04:14,244
But

1733
01:04:15,849 --> 01:04:16,750
I don't know.

1734
01:04:17,530 --> 01:04:18,250
So anyway

1735
01:04:18,730 --> 01:04:21,130
That's it. That's us. That's that. That's us.

1736
01:04:21,130 --> 01:04:23,630
That's the chaos that rules around here. Yep.

1737
01:04:23,690 --> 01:04:25,150
And now I'm hoping

1738
01:04:25,449 --> 01:04:25,949
that

1739
01:04:26,570 --> 01:04:28,409
my oldest child who's, oh, god, about to

1740
01:04:28,409 --> 01:04:31,872
be 20, Jesus. Cool. Yeah. Was calling just

1741
01:04:31,872 --> 01:04:34,425
to shoot the shit. And then when I

1742
01:04:34,425 --> 01:04:36,125
turn my take my phone off airplane,

1743
01:04:37,065 --> 01:04:39,005
that everything's fine and there are no crises.

1744
01:04:39,385 --> 01:04:39,885
Yeah.

1745
01:04:40,585 --> 01:04:43,390
But I'm I'm that was? Yeah. I'm an

1746
01:04:43,390 --> 01:04:45,829
anxious human being who is also a parent.

1747
01:04:46,050 --> 01:04:48,449
Yeah. So I can conjure up all kinds

1748
01:04:48,449 --> 01:04:48,690
of,

1749
01:04:49,809 --> 01:04:50,710
scary scenarios.

1750
01:04:51,010 --> 01:04:52,630
He's been going through it lately.

1751
01:04:52,929 --> 01:04:53,429
Yeah.

1752
01:04:53,730 --> 01:04:55,105
We got him to come home for fourth

1753
01:04:55,105 --> 01:04:55,684
of July.

1754
01:04:56,144 --> 01:04:58,545
Yeah. Just for one night just to, like,

1755
01:04:58,545 --> 01:04:59,605
get away from

1756
01:05:00,224 --> 01:05:01,744
he was stuck in his head because of

1757
01:05:01,744 --> 01:05:02,785
stuff going on there, and I was like,

1758
01:05:02,785 --> 01:05:04,224
why don't you come home? Let me feed

1759
01:05:04,224 --> 01:05:06,144
you, like, just Some heart some heartbreak happened.

1760
01:05:06,144 --> 01:05:07,110
I was like, look.

1761
01:05:07,590 --> 01:05:08,950
We are who we are. We're not putting

1762
01:05:08,950 --> 01:05:10,230
on a show for you. We're not gonna

1763
01:05:10,230 --> 01:05:11,910
be extra fun, but at least you're not,

1764
01:05:11,910 --> 01:05:14,070
like, by yourself. And if you wander into

1765
01:05:14,070 --> 01:05:15,430
a room, you have somebody there to talk

1766
01:05:15,430 --> 01:05:17,510
to. Mhmm. And you you got access to

1767
01:05:17,510 --> 01:05:19,590
the car if you come home and gotta

1768
01:05:19,590 --> 01:05:20,410
come home.

1769
01:05:20,869 --> 01:05:21,369
So

1770
01:05:22,105 --> 01:05:22,605
Yeah.

1771
01:05:24,025 --> 01:05:24,525
So,

1772
01:05:25,224 --> 01:05:28,045
alright. Are we, are we good? As

1773
01:05:28,905 --> 01:05:30,985
good as we'll ever be. Who knows. Right?

1774
01:05:30,985 --> 01:05:31,724
Who knows?

1775
01:05:32,825 --> 01:05:34,985
So I guess we're gonna go. Alright. Thanks

1776
01:05:34,985 --> 01:05:36,800
for being here Yeah. Especially to the bitter

1777
01:05:36,800 --> 01:05:37,740
end. Mhmm.

1778
01:05:38,360 --> 01:05:40,360
And we'll be back next week. Enjoyed y'all

1779
01:05:40,360 --> 01:05:42,519
hanging out with us. Thank you. Jamie's birthday's

1780
01:05:42,519 --> 01:05:43,260
on Saturday.

1781
01:05:44,680 --> 01:05:45,430
Okay. Bye.