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four forty four. That is so satisfying.

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Kayla Lawrence here with the one, the only,

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the light of my life,

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the

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peanut butter to my jelly Goodness. The chocolate

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to my milk. Because sometimes I'm lactose intolerant,

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so that won't work. The diet to my

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Coke.

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The ice to my Diet Coke.

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Yeah. John Brownstone.

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Look. The this week's episode is kind of

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like

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I mean, I don't have a lot of

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feelings. I'm I'm too much of a Scorpio

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bitch, but it's got me a little bit

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in my, like, you know,

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squishy feelings,

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this week.

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We're kind of taking a first. It's a

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direct request for a topic from a long

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time cricket,

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affectionately known as x.

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He has

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an actual online name. I'm not gonna try

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and say it and butcher it. I'll just

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let him laugh at me if if he

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happens to hear this.

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But I know him as x. He's ex.

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He was like, hey. Please talk about this.

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I was like, okay. We could do it.

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We're talking about incorporating kink into special occasions

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and days in your life and relationship, like

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birthdays, anniversaries,

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and whatever else may be special to you.

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Welcome to the Loving BDSM podcast. If this

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Bring this meeting to order. Something like that.

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Podcast listeners, you have no idea.

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From the time we recorded the intro and

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then we we put a pause on it

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to the time we're back with you It

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was a rocky road. For y'all, it was

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a blip.

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For us, we've been on a journey, and

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I'm exhausted.

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Mhmm. Mhmm. And I would like somebody to

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spike my caffeine free

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Diet Coke with vodka.

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After the show. Okay. Give you give you

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incentive there. Okay?

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So I've said it before. I'm gonna say

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it again because I wanna make sure, you

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know, give credit where credit is due. Thank

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you to x Mhmm.

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Who is a long time

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cricket and friend of the pod and, like,

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part of our Discord and very helpful with

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stuff when we need help with, like, technical

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stuff and just all around decent human being,

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requested this topic. And,

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I think I have more to say than

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I thought I did. Mhmm. But I also

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think that for some people,

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the idea of incorporating kink into your special

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occasions is gonna be like a, oh, yeah.

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there's some overthinkers among you who have probably

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overthought it and,

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so we don't go, like, all out crazy

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with what we do to incorporate kink into

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our special occasions. But, hopefully, talking this through

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for anybody who this appeals to, you can,

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like, incorporate maybe some new

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into your dynamic.

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So I don't have any special announcements.

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just gonna get right on into it. So

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let's talk about like, I got a lot

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of notes. You see? I see that. I

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got a lot of notes. I got a

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lot of notes. So the first thing that

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I did not put in my notes, but

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let's sort of talk about it, is what

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kind of special occasions

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kink into.

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Basically all of them? Pretty much. I mean,

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there's our our individual birthdays. Yep. Our anniversary

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our wedding anniversary.

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overwhelmed, tired, and stressed from life, we used

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the anniversary of when we first started talking

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engaged. Those two kind of follow it. We

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mark it. We go, oh, happy, you know

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do anything. Right. And, you know, the the

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birthday thing that was, you know,

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he said about this. That was the first

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thing that that popped up in my head

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because that's something we've done for quite a

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while now. Since the beginning. Yeah. Mhmm. You

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we we have a tradition in this home.

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In this power exchange. Yep.

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Not only does Kayla get her birthday spankings

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She gets mine.

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so, you know,

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I have a birthday coming up. Yeah. You

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do. Mhmm. Mhmm. Yeah. You do. Getting older,

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you know. I know.

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feels different than 60

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especially since somebody is a sadist who draws

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them out,

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and they tend to to get harder to

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handle. Incrementally

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like, the 60 mark, I mean, unless you're

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just used to that kind of thing, I

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like, no. Why do you hate me?

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an immediate for us. Mhmm.

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incorporate kink because we are both parents. Mother's

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Day and Father's Day, we are are not

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necessarily see, the thing is is when you

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say incorporating kink, I think most people's immediate

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idea goes into scenes,

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and we just incorporate when we can't do

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a scene or even when we do a

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scene, we incorporate more of our power exchange.

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there's a word I want,

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informs Mhmm. How we celebrate those special occasions.

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I mean, there there was a there was

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a while. We haven't done it for the

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last couple years because of,

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you know, financial constraints.

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you know, we we celebrate Christmas Mhmm. And,

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would have our,

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family facing

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Right. Stocking.

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Yep. Stalking that was closed doors. You know,

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was only looked at,

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were just in the bedroom, and I was

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like, okay. Mhmm. The very first one I

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still remember,

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is when you got me the original magic

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wand, a k a the Hitachi.

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Mhmm. Old fashioned one. It plugs into the

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fucking wall. Yeah.

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And I was even able to get a,

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An adapter. An adapter to to control the

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speed.

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Gigi asked in the live chat. I get

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all Spanx. She gets them all. That you

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know, do both of us get Spanx? No.

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JV does not bottom for impact

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in no,

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way,

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shape, or form. It's JB Bottom for impact

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or anything involving pain. So I'm getting spankings

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on both our special days, and JB is

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getting the pleasure

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of,

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hearing me go, but don't you love me?

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and how old are you?

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And can't we lie about our age?

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And his comes first in the year, and

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he's older than me. So by the time

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we get to my birthday, it's like my

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ass got a break. Right. I'm like, oh,

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18 less. Okay.

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Mhmm.

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Now, in

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let's talk about some of the ways you

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can incorporate kink. And what I I don't

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mean, like,

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specifics, but, like, top top level. And the

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first one, I don't wanna spend too much

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time on for two reasons. One, I think

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we've talked about this specifically in other places.

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this is the one that not everybody will

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get to be fortunate enough to do all

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of the time. We haven't been for several

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years,

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and that is

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spending money for your kink to be added

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to your special day. Right? So there's,

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experiences. We love to do experiences more than

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physical gifts these days. We like free experiences,

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but if you got a budget

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right? Like, is there a kinky convention? Is

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there,

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a big event coming to an area you're

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willing to travel to and can afford to?

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Right? Do you have access to a dungeon?

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Are you know, do you have friends who

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communities,

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somebody who usually hosts a play party will

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sometimes coordinate with a friend and, like, make

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it a birthday party for this person or

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make it a a celebration for that person

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as well as just the general play party.

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Toys as we talked about.

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We're gonna go dark. Oh, we're gonna go

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dark. Okay. Okay. Hands off. No. I was

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gonna Yeah. Pull up so I could see

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is what I was gonna do.

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Hopefully, everybody can hear us, and I'm just

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gonna keep talking to podcast folks if not.

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So

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lost my train of thought. Sorry, y'all. There

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it goes. So we have

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absolutely per like we talked about earlier, we've

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purchased toys that we've talked about wanting,

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and we've also sometimes had the money to

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budget to pay for the stuff to try

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a new kink.

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Kind of a shameless plug but also lived

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experience with having the kinkery

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and shipping out you know toys that people

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buy all the time.

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We absolutely get notes on orders that say

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this paddle is for my Dom's birthday.

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This wax play stuff is for our anniversary.

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We're gonna finally try wax play for the

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first time. So it's if you've got the

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money to, you know, you're already gonna splurge.

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Maybe the only time you really spend for

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yourself or each other is on a special

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occasion.

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The there's definitely no problem with them. Very

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common to go, okay let's buy ourselves a

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kink thing. Nobody wants a new vacuum. Nobody

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needs a new, washing machine for this anniversary.

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Can we buy

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rope? Can we buy candles? What what can

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we buy?

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JB is clicking but I need my notes.

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Okay.

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So,

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the other thing to keep in mind if

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you are gonna spend money

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to incorporate

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kink into like a special occasion,

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some I've we all know this, but I

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just wanna, like, put it out there because

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sometimes you know something, but that don't mean

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you think about it.

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We did this recently with mother's day. We

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delay

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the special occasion celebration

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for a time that works. So if you're

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gonna plan for a convention or a play

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party or dungeon or a whatever experience and

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you're gonna spend the money,

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we the way we look at it is

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we would move the celebration. Like, if it's

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near our wedding anniversary, if it's near

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Father's Day, that's the celebration for that. We'll

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do something special on the day to mark

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it but this will be our big celebration

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and that way we're not trying to spend

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money twice. Right?

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So the money thing is kind of like

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most of us know if you have access

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to money you just buy gift move on.

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Gifts of course can be experiences.

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Let's talk about

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our reality and I think a lot of

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people's reality.

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Also the reminder that you don't have to

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spend money to like

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mark an occasion. Right?

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Let's talk about the stuff you can do

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that's not money. This is how we do

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this. Like we

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it's been years since we spent money

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for kink stuff on anniversary, birthday,

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even Christmas. Like, we just don't spend a

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lot of money in general.

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So we do what we can

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completely free. Mhmm. Mhmm. Yep. So the first

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thing

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that I've noticed that we do and if

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anybody were asking me, this is what I

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would recommend.

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You do what works for your power exchange?

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I I don't matter. If if what I

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say is, like, we don't need to do

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that, then don't do it. But if you

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were asking me, I just wanna tell you,

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we stay within our power exchange when we

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are planning this. What that means

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is that before I plan something for JB's

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birthday or for Father's Day or what I

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wanna do for him on our anniversary or

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whatever, Christmas,

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I go ask him. I go say, I

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two questions.

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What do you want

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and or depending on if I have something

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in mind, can I surprise you?

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Sometimes I can.

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Sometimes I can't. Why do I do this?

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Because in our power exchange, he has ultimate

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control and is the decider. So it gets

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to be his decision how I handle

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it. Right? If he wants to dictate everything

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we do for that and that for him

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is is

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a gift for him and he's happy and

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satisfied with it, we'll do it that way.

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If he's like, oh do you have an

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idea? Yes. Do you wanna surprise me? Yes.

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Go for it. There I think once

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you let me surprise you and then two

390
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days, like, two or three days before neither

391
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of us could handle it anymore. And I

392
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was about to burst

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and I said, I really wanna tell you,

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but I want it to be a surprise.

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And he goes, I really want you to

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tell me. I was like, are you telling

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me to tell you?

398
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Is this the daddy dom speaking? Is that

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what's happening? And

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I think it was a few hours later

401
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you finally went, yes. Yes. I'm telling you

402
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to tell me. And then I, you know,

403
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broke the surprise early.

404
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Because for us,

405
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you know, it doesn't need to be a

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surprise to be fulfilling.

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But if I have something in mind that

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I wanna do

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for my Dom,

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I sometimes I want it to be kind

411
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of a surprise because I'm really proud of

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myself when I do something special for JB

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that he did not anticipate I would do

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for him, and he likes it. Right? Like,

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it's it's gets me going. I really enjoy

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that.

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Now the way we do it in reverse

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for me,

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if there is something I know that I

420
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want to have experience, do whatever whatever. I

421
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it's like anything else in our power exchange.

422
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I speak up. I say something. Ultimately, the

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control

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and the means and the whatever decisions are

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left to JB. Now most recently,

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and I think this will be more common

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going forward from here.

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JB's like, it's Mother's Day. How would you

429
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we actually celebrated belatedly. We talked about this

430
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a couple episodes ago. It's like, how do

431
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you wanna celebrate? And I went, I don't

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wanna make a fucking decision. I don't wanna

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be asked what I want. I don't wanna

434
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have to think about

435
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it. Ask me questions if it involves consent

436
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or if you are like, wait. Does she

437
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even like like, that's fine. I was like,

438
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but we've been together

439
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long enough.

440
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You know me.

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You know what I like and don't like.

442
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I don't need you to rewrite, like,

443
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the greatest hits. I'd give me something that

444
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you know I would love to have fun.

445
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Like Carp Manch. I think I could have

446
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fun with that. Well, also, you do

447
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think about yourself in the relationship. If if

448
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you are saying do whatever to the sadist,

449
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just know

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you did that to yourself.

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That doesn't mean my safe word goes away.

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It just

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in that case, I knew what I wanted

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was to be in that

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for for us incorporating our kinks in our

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part dynamic into a special occasion. I wanted

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to be my most most baby girl self.

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I wanted to be my most submissive self.

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I wanted to be told where to go,

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what to do, how to get there, when

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to show up,

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you know, and to just to just not

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have to think. Now I I know it's

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a common ish,

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sort of fantasy or

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feeling from a lot of submissives. I'm like,

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I just wanna turn my brain off. I

468
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just don't wanna think. And I have those

469
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moments too. I also have control issues.

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So I don't like to do that for

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too long. It makes me antsy. But we've

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spent

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a long period where I didn't have the

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luxury to turn my brain off hardly ever.

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And when he asked, I was like, I

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want permission to turn my brain off. Just

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do whatever the fuck you you wanna do

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that you know I don't hate. I'm I'm

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here for it. That's how I got a

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home cooked steak dinner.

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And it was fucking delicious.

482
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And I didn't have to clean up. I

483
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didn't have to do anything. And I didn't

484
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have to decide. I didn't have to set

485
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the table. I didn't have to there was

486
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no what do you want to drink? He

487
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just he knows what I was he just

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did it. Yeah.

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And it was delightful. It was delightful.

490
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So

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when you're thinking about how are we gonna

492
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incorporate kink into marking this special occasion,

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To the extent that it makes sense for

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your power dynamic,

495
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work within your power dynamic. Because the last

496
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thing you wanna do is think you've done

497
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something great for your partner or you're planning

498
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something great for them to find out that

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they're upset that there was no communication. They

500
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couldn't give consent. The dom is like, what

501
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are you doing taking control? I'm not okay.

502
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You know what I mean? Like some people

503
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are gonna be like, I don't care. This

504
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is a special thing. Just do whatever. I'll

505
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be happy with it. And some some doms

506
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are gonna be like, no. No. I want

507
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to have some level of control over this,

508
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even if it's just a little bit.

509
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So that's a thing to keep in mind,

510
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whether you're doing an experience,

511
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buying a product, or you're doing something on

512
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the cheap. Okay?

513
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Now

514
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I have a thought.

515
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Uh-oh.

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And I don't like to I don't like

517
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to make blanket statements because nothing ever applies

518
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to everybody

519
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and

520
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everything doesn't apply to nobody. You know what

521
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I mean.

522
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I think from my experience

523
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and this is a pure I know there's

524
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bias here. Somebody's gonna disagree and it's fine.

525
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I believe

526
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from my personal experience in trying to

527
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create

528
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a moment for you on a special occasion

529
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that's your special occasion, your birthday, Father's Day,

530
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your Christmas present, whatever whatever.

531
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I think I have it easier,

532
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and I think in general, service oriented kinksters

533
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will have it easier. And here's why I

534
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think that.

535
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If

536
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you're depends on how your service works and

537
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how you provide service, and that's service tops.

538
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It's caregiver doms who take care of. That's

539
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kind of a form of service even if

540
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it's within control and service subs and then

541
00:19:19,255 --> 00:19:19,994
any other

542
00:19:20,295 --> 00:19:22,375
words we wanna use to describe people who

543
00:19:22,375 --> 00:19:24,634
are service oriented in their power exchange.

544
00:19:26,420 --> 00:19:27,720
When I want to

545
00:19:29,619 --> 00:19:30,519
give my

546
00:19:31,059 --> 00:19:32,119
daddy something

547
00:19:32,500 --> 00:19:33,480
special for

548
00:19:34,340 --> 00:19:36,519
an occasion and we're not spending money,

549
00:19:36,904 --> 00:19:39,224
I can do something. I can be of

550
00:19:39,224 --> 00:19:40,744
service. Now I still have to make sure

551
00:19:40,744 --> 00:19:42,365
it's of service he wants.

552
00:19:44,505 --> 00:19:46,204
Like, all that still matters.

553
00:19:46,505 --> 00:19:48,125
But I get to go, you know,

554
00:19:48,505 --> 00:19:50,424
I would like to do this for you.

555
00:19:50,424 --> 00:19:52,125
Right? If I already have an idea.

556
00:19:52,529 --> 00:19:53,029
Mhmm.

557
00:19:53,330 --> 00:19:55,170
Or I get to go, hey, what would

558
00:19:55,170 --> 00:19:57,330
you like to have done for you? What

559
00:19:57,330 --> 00:19:59,730
can I do for you? And the reason

560
00:19:59,730 --> 00:20:02,369
I think that service oriented kinksters might have

561
00:20:02,369 --> 00:20:03,109
it easier

562
00:20:03,650 --> 00:20:04,335
is because

563
00:20:05,294 --> 00:20:07,534
there's no running around unless you really enjoy

564
00:20:07,534 --> 00:20:10,174
this thinking of some special surprise moment that's

565
00:20:10,174 --> 00:20:12,575
supposed to be this like amazing scene or

566
00:20:12,575 --> 00:20:13,694
it's gonna be this or it's gonna be

567
00:20:13,694 --> 00:20:16,349
that. There's the to me there's less pressure.

568
00:20:16,829 --> 00:20:18,609
It's what can I do for you or

569
00:20:19,309 --> 00:20:21,789
can I do this? For Father's Day for

570
00:20:21,789 --> 00:20:22,289
JB,

571
00:20:23,869 --> 00:20:24,609
our domestic

572
00:20:24,910 --> 00:20:26,950
chores are not about power exchange. They're Mhmm.

573
00:20:27,069 --> 00:20:29,230
They're distributed based on what we are willing

574
00:20:29,230 --> 00:20:31,630
and capable of doing as two grown ass

575
00:20:31,630 --> 00:20:32,130
adults.

576
00:20:32,705 --> 00:20:34,244
And we do this for each other

577
00:20:35,424 --> 00:20:37,684
on our special occasions, birthdays and,

578
00:20:38,224 --> 00:20:39,445
mother or father's day.

579
00:20:40,305 --> 00:20:41,984
I was like, you do not have to

580
00:20:41,984 --> 00:20:43,365
touch the dishes this weekend.

581
00:20:43,664 --> 00:20:45,210
You do not have to do the laundry.

582
00:20:45,210 --> 00:20:47,210
You're part of the laundry this weekend. Right?

583
00:20:47,210 --> 00:20:49,049
I was like, anything I can do for

584
00:20:49,049 --> 00:20:51,210
you that you would normally do, I will

585
00:20:51,210 --> 00:20:53,609
do it. Now here's the thing. Outside of

586
00:20:53,609 --> 00:20:54,669
a kink context,

587
00:20:55,849 --> 00:20:57,929
that's what people who care about one another

588
00:20:57,929 --> 00:21:00,509
do for each other to mark special occasions,

589
00:21:00,585 --> 00:21:03,724
Of course. But just like with everything kink,

590
00:21:04,024 --> 00:21:06,184
in in my opinion at least, it's about

591
00:21:06,184 --> 00:21:08,105
mindset. It's about where your head is at.

592
00:21:08,105 --> 00:21:10,265
It's about the headspace within which you do

593
00:21:10,265 --> 00:21:12,024
this. If I'm I'm not just doing this

594
00:21:12,024 --> 00:21:14,365
because I love JB and happy Father's Day.

595
00:21:15,369 --> 00:21:17,630
I am doing this in a submissive mindset.

596
00:21:17,690 --> 00:21:19,210
I'm like, oh, I get to be of

597
00:21:19,210 --> 00:21:19,710
service

598
00:21:20,490 --> 00:21:22,029
in this power exchange

599
00:21:22,329 --> 00:21:24,569
to give him the kind of day he

600
00:21:24,569 --> 00:21:26,730
would like to have. And that day ended

601
00:21:26,730 --> 00:21:27,630
up just being

602
00:21:28,009 --> 00:21:30,409
very quiet and very lazy. I wasn't even

603
00:21:30,409 --> 00:21:31,149
in the house.

604
00:21:33,025 --> 00:21:34,545
Because I mean, I know as a mother,

605
00:21:34,545 --> 00:21:36,305
on Mother's Day, I love my children. They

606
00:21:36,305 --> 00:21:38,305
can go away. I could be alone. I'm

607
00:21:38,305 --> 00:21:40,465
fine with that. And JB is so much

608
00:21:40,465 --> 00:21:41,825
different. Like, no. No. I don't need the

609
00:21:41,825 --> 00:21:44,359
kids around to celebrate this day of parenthood.

610
00:21:46,019 --> 00:21:47,619
In fact, I would like them to all

611
00:21:47,619 --> 00:21:50,359
go away to celebrate this day of parenthood,

612
00:21:50,819 --> 00:21:52,440
which is the ultimate irony,

613
00:21:52,819 --> 00:21:53,960
if you're raising children.

614
00:21:55,779 --> 00:21:57,940
So that's another thing I would say for

615
00:21:57,940 --> 00:22:00,284
for folks who are like, but everything I

616
00:22:00,284 --> 00:22:03,404
do is, like, basic and boring and other,

617
00:22:03,404 --> 00:22:05,345
you know, non kinky people do it too.

618
00:22:05,404 --> 00:22:06,764
How does it make you feel? Do you

619
00:22:06,764 --> 00:22:07,264
feel

620
00:22:07,565 --> 00:22:09,644
within like, you're sitting in your power exchange?

621
00:22:09,644 --> 00:22:11,964
Are you in your submissive mindset? Are you

622
00:22:11,964 --> 00:22:14,500
in your dominant mindset? Does it does it

623
00:22:14,500 --> 00:22:17,000
give you that opportunity to to just

624
00:22:18,339 --> 00:22:18,839
experience

625
00:22:19,140 --> 00:22:20,039
your role

626
00:22:20,660 --> 00:22:22,660
in a way that's also like, oh, we

627
00:22:22,660 --> 00:22:24,500
wouldn't be doing this if it wasn't our

628
00:22:24,500 --> 00:22:25,880
anniversary. If it wasn't,

629
00:22:26,339 --> 00:22:27,000
you know,

630
00:22:27,674 --> 00:22:29,695
my birthday, whatever whatever. Right?

631
00:22:30,394 --> 00:22:32,715
So that is that's why I say I

632
00:22:32,715 --> 00:22:34,335
feel like service oriented kingsters.

633
00:22:34,955 --> 00:22:36,394
Just have it easier because it's like what

634
00:22:36,394 --> 00:22:37,755
can I do? I would like to do

635
00:22:37,755 --> 00:22:39,295
something for you. What can I do?

636
00:22:40,555 --> 00:22:42,394
Whereas I know you kind of struggle. I

637
00:22:42,394 --> 00:22:43,890
had to remind you. I was like, you

638
00:22:43,890 --> 00:22:46,130
are my daddy dong. Mhmm. I have not

639
00:22:46,130 --> 00:22:47,650
been taken care of as the baby girl

640
00:22:47,650 --> 00:22:49,330
I am because we just we haven't had

641
00:22:49,330 --> 00:22:51,170
the luxury of it. Right? It's not that

642
00:22:51,170 --> 00:22:53,090
JB's slacking. It's not that I'm well, it's

643
00:22:53,090 --> 00:22:55,170
probably as I'm a total bitch. But it's

644
00:22:55,170 --> 00:22:56,769
just like that hasn't been the priority. And

645
00:22:56,769 --> 00:22:57,890
I was like, you know what I really

646
00:22:57,890 --> 00:23:00,105
fucking want? I wanna feel like the fucking

647
00:23:00,105 --> 00:23:01,945
baby girl that I am. I wanna be

648
00:23:01,945 --> 00:23:04,345
coddled. I wanna be taken care of. I

649
00:23:04,345 --> 00:23:06,105
want to not be responsible for a damn

650
00:23:06,105 --> 00:23:06,605
thing.

651
00:23:07,545 --> 00:23:09,484
Anything that came within that umbrella

652
00:23:10,424 --> 00:23:13,224
was amazing because I knew while it was

653
00:23:13,224 --> 00:23:13,965
all happening,

654
00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:15,759
I don't have to do this because I'm

655
00:23:15,759 --> 00:23:17,200
the baby girl and that's my daddy dom

656
00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:19,200
taking care of me. Like it's it's all

657
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:21,840
mind fuckery and I am here for mind

658
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:22,660
fucking ourselves.

659
00:23:23,279 --> 00:23:24,960
Do would you agree with that or do

660
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:26,500
you think it's very easy

661
00:23:27,274 --> 00:23:29,515
because you just kinda know what you wanna

662
00:23:29,515 --> 00:23:31,274
do anyway? I mean, there are those doms

663
00:23:31,274 --> 00:23:32,234
who are like, oh, I know what I

664
00:23:32,234 --> 00:23:34,794
wanna do because I'm always planning or whatever.

665
00:23:34,794 --> 00:23:36,315
Well, I'm yeah. I mean, to a certain

666
00:23:36,315 --> 00:23:37,835
extent, you know, I I know what I

667
00:23:37,835 --> 00:23:39,774
wanna do at a at a given time.

668
00:23:40,210 --> 00:23:42,289
You know? I mean, like, that that weekend,

669
00:23:42,289 --> 00:23:44,930
I ended up sitting on the sofa barely

670
00:23:44,930 --> 00:23:47,269
moving and binge watching and or

671
00:23:47,809 --> 00:23:50,450
Deadpool and Wolverine and And having a great

672
00:23:50,450 --> 00:23:52,450
old time. I meant in reverse. Like, when

673
00:23:52,450 --> 00:23:54,855
you are like, like, I I did what

674
00:23:54,855 --> 00:23:56,455
I could to give you that space because

675
00:23:56,455 --> 00:23:57,914
that was a service. Right.

676
00:23:58,295 --> 00:24:00,795
When you're doing that for me in reverse,

677
00:24:01,335 --> 00:24:03,434
you're a caregiver, Don, but you're a sadist

678
00:24:03,494 --> 00:24:07,174
before anything else. Let's let's be real. If

679
00:24:07,174 --> 00:24:09,519
he can be kind of mean and evil

680
00:24:09,519 --> 00:24:11,380
about something while having control

681
00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:14,320
Mhmm. It's mostly a happy camper. So do

682
00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:16,320
you find it when it's my turn to

683
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:18,240
go this way? When to go no. It's

684
00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:21,279
not that difficult because I I know you

685
00:24:21,279 --> 00:24:22,580
well enough. We've been together

686
00:24:23,039 --> 00:24:25,375
long enough that I know what you Mhmm.

687
00:24:25,575 --> 00:24:27,035
What you do. Mhmm.

688
00:24:27,654 --> 00:24:29,674
So yeah. No. It's not that difficult.

689
00:24:30,215 --> 00:24:31,734
Was I out of practice over the last

690
00:24:31,734 --> 00:24:32,715
few years? Absolutely.

691
00:24:33,255 --> 00:24:33,755
Absolutely.

692
00:24:34,375 --> 00:24:34,855
But,

693
00:24:35,654 --> 00:24:37,255
you know, it's like anything else. It's not

694
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:40,160
stretch the muscle and, you know, it comes

695
00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:42,480
back. Did you enjoy it with it coming

696
00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:43,920
back like that with you being the one

697
00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:45,920
to decide everything? You didn't have to ask

698
00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:47,839
me what I wanted. Like, you could have

699
00:24:47,839 --> 00:24:49,119
and I said that because I didn't want

700
00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:50,099
him to be overwhelmed

701
00:24:50,799 --> 00:24:52,305
either. Like, I want that this

702
00:24:52,865 --> 00:24:55,205
I wasn't trying to make my special occasion

703
00:24:55,345 --> 00:24:57,744
a major chore and headache for him. I

704
00:24:57,744 --> 00:24:58,244
just

705
00:24:58,865 --> 00:24:59,445
I just

706
00:25:00,705 --> 00:25:03,664
I wanted I didn't wanna think. Were you

707
00:25:03,664 --> 00:25:05,740
feeling your dom self in that moment while

708
00:25:05,740 --> 00:25:07,259
you're doing all is it were you In

709
00:25:07,259 --> 00:25:08,319
in a way, yeah.

710
00:25:08,779 --> 00:25:11,019
Yeah. Me because even though I was doing

711
00:25:11,019 --> 00:25:12,779
things for you, it was because of me

712
00:25:12,779 --> 00:25:15,740
that, you know Right. Every you decided everything.

713
00:25:15,740 --> 00:25:17,119
Yeah. I knew nothing.

714
00:25:17,899 --> 00:25:18,399
Nothing.

715
00:25:19,179 --> 00:25:21,974
Quite frankly, knew so little, forgot this was

716
00:25:21,974 --> 00:25:23,515
the day we were celebrating.

717
00:25:26,375 --> 00:25:27,654
But I didn't have to do any of

718
00:25:27,654 --> 00:25:28,855
the stuff I was supposed to have to

719
00:25:28,855 --> 00:25:30,694
do that I would also got all taken

720
00:25:30,694 --> 00:25:32,855
away from me. And I should've known, like,

721
00:25:32,855 --> 00:25:35,174
oh, I'm the laundry is already folded, and

722
00:25:35,174 --> 00:25:37,109
it's not waiting for four days for me

723
00:25:37,109 --> 00:25:38,890
to fold it. Oh, it's a special

724
00:25:39,269 --> 00:25:39,769
occasion.

725
00:25:40,630 --> 00:25:42,730
Nope. It was when he pulled out the

726
00:25:42,869 --> 00:25:44,410
the rib eyes from Aldi.

727
00:25:45,190 --> 00:25:46,009
I was like,

728
00:25:46,549 --> 00:25:47,369
oh, yeah.

729
00:25:49,115 --> 00:25:51,355
This is my special day. And I did.

730
00:25:51,355 --> 00:25:52,634
And, you know, that's the nice thing in

731
00:25:52,634 --> 00:25:55,034
that moment. Once I once I connected the

732
00:25:55,034 --> 00:25:56,714
dots, I was like, oh, yeah. This is

733
00:25:56,714 --> 00:25:58,954
our belated Mother's Day. I did. I felt

734
00:25:58,954 --> 00:26:01,259
like there's a a soft squishy part of

735
00:26:01,660 --> 00:26:03,259
me as a baby girl that gets, like,

736
00:26:03,259 --> 00:26:03,759
all,

737
00:26:04,059 --> 00:26:05,980
you know? And I did get that feeling.

738
00:26:05,980 --> 00:26:06,640
And that

739
00:26:07,259 --> 00:26:07,660
weird

740
00:26:08,140 --> 00:26:09,980
not weirdly. I don't think anybody would think

741
00:26:09,980 --> 00:26:12,700
it's weird because I don't get to feel

742
00:26:12,700 --> 00:26:14,380
that way as often as I would like

743
00:26:14,380 --> 00:26:14,880
in

744
00:26:15,575 --> 00:26:17,994
in recent years, not very often at all.

745
00:26:18,134 --> 00:26:19,674
And there went our camera again.

746
00:26:21,414 --> 00:26:24,454
Because I don't get that, I forget that

747
00:26:24,454 --> 00:26:25,434
I need it.

748
00:26:25,815 --> 00:26:27,994
But then when I get it again,

749
00:26:28,909 --> 00:26:30,349
I'm like, oh my god. This feels so

750
00:26:30,349 --> 00:26:32,210
good. I now want more of it.

751
00:26:32,750 --> 00:26:33,250
But

752
00:26:33,789 --> 00:26:36,429
and this is very specific to our dynamic.

753
00:26:36,429 --> 00:26:38,190
I cannot say that it'll do this for

754
00:26:38,190 --> 00:26:39,329
anybody else's dynamic.

755
00:26:40,750 --> 00:26:42,509
Once I get to kinda swim in those

756
00:26:42,509 --> 00:26:44,954
baby girl feels and JB gets to swim

757
00:26:44,954 --> 00:26:46,494
in the daddy dom feels,

758
00:26:47,194 --> 00:26:49,035
when because we want to feel it again,

759
00:26:49,035 --> 00:26:49,855
we start

760
00:26:50,554 --> 00:26:53,355
doing things and responding and thinking along those

761
00:26:53,355 --> 00:26:56,394
lines. So then after that special occasion has

762
00:26:56,394 --> 00:26:59,609
been marked and and after, you know, we're,

763
00:27:01,910 --> 00:27:03,049
am I trying to say?

764
00:27:03,750 --> 00:27:05,990
After we've had that moment and we've done

765
00:27:05,990 --> 00:27:06,970
our kink thing,

766
00:27:07,430 --> 00:27:10,150
there's still kind of a a remnant left

767
00:27:10,150 --> 00:27:12,630
over where we are getting back into that

768
00:27:12,630 --> 00:27:13,130
mindset,

769
00:27:13,894 --> 00:27:15,575
you know, a little bit more frequently, a

770
00:27:15,575 --> 00:27:16,794
little bit more easily

771
00:27:17,174 --> 00:27:18,714
and it doesn't last forever,

772
00:27:19,015 --> 00:27:19,994
you know, because

773
00:27:21,095 --> 00:27:22,075
regular life

774
00:27:22,375 --> 00:27:24,855
crops back up every time and we'll screw

775
00:27:24,855 --> 00:27:27,359
it all up. But it's never just the

776
00:27:27,599 --> 00:27:30,160
single occasion. It's never just the one special

777
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:31,859
day where we get to feel that way.

778
00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:34,160
Like, you know, Father's Day was a Sunday

779
00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:36,319
and even Monday, I was, like, a softer

780
00:27:36,319 --> 00:27:37,460
version of myself.

781
00:27:37,759 --> 00:27:40,019
And JB was definitely a more, like,

782
00:27:40,799 --> 00:27:42,179
I'm gonna make some decisions

783
00:27:42,615 --> 00:27:44,954
side of himself, you know, and and taking

784
00:27:45,015 --> 00:27:46,454
charge instead of waiting for me to go,

785
00:27:46,454 --> 00:27:47,575
hey. What do you want? Let me give

786
00:27:47,575 --> 00:27:48,315
you the decisions

787
00:27:48,775 --> 00:27:49,835
to make. Right?

788
00:27:52,454 --> 00:27:54,234
So, yeah, there's a benefit

789
00:27:54,750 --> 00:27:55,490
to that.

790
00:27:56,190 --> 00:27:57,809
I'm gonna try and find my notes.

791
00:27:58,190 --> 00:28:00,910
Oh, sorry. It's okay. It's okay. Nothing is

792
00:28:00,910 --> 00:28:03,490
working. So No. It's a yeah. Podcast listeners,

793
00:28:04,589 --> 00:28:06,369
you're good. You're good. Yeah.

794
00:28:07,309 --> 00:28:07,809
Okay.

795
00:28:08,735 --> 00:28:09,235
Now

796
00:28:10,975 --> 00:28:13,535
let's talk about some ways that we have,

797
00:28:13,535 --> 00:28:15,295
not just the birthday spanking. So I guess

798
00:28:15,295 --> 00:28:17,695
we have been doing that, but let's talk

799
00:28:17,695 --> 00:28:20,174
about some ways somebody could maybe or some

800
00:28:20,414 --> 00:28:22,839
Mhmm. Reasons. Well, I don't know. I don't

801
00:28:22,839 --> 00:28:25,159
know where to to take it because I

802
00:28:25,159 --> 00:28:27,319
want to offer folks a way to think

803
00:28:27,319 --> 00:28:28,919
about it that's not just this is what

804
00:28:28,919 --> 00:28:31,240
Kayla and JB do. That's no fun. It's

805
00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:31,980
not enough.

806
00:28:33,079 --> 00:28:34,945
But I do think people overthink it and

807
00:28:34,945 --> 00:28:36,545
they think they have to plan some big

808
00:28:36,545 --> 00:28:38,785
grand thing. And if you have the means,

809
00:28:38,785 --> 00:28:41,105
opportunity, time, and money to do that, go

810
00:28:41,105 --> 00:28:43,345
for it. Do it. There there's nothing wrong

811
00:28:43,345 --> 00:28:45,505
with that. We it's been several years now.

812
00:28:45,505 --> 00:28:47,369
I can't remember what the occasion was,

813
00:28:47,769 --> 00:28:49,849
but hell yeah. I got carted off to

814
00:28:49,849 --> 00:28:52,109
the dungeon, strapped to the Saint Andrew's Cross

815
00:28:52,410 --> 00:28:54,569
and flogged for as long as we were

816
00:28:54,569 --> 00:28:56,329
allowed to Yeah. To take up that space

817
00:28:56,329 --> 00:28:58,009
and that and then went was taken to

818
00:28:58,009 --> 00:29:00,809
breakfast. And that was an amazing day. Had

819
00:29:00,809 --> 00:29:01,630
a great

820
00:29:02,009 --> 00:29:02,509
time.

821
00:29:03,984 --> 00:29:04,724
But also

822
00:29:06,384 --> 00:29:08,164
knowing that I, you know,

823
00:29:09,105 --> 00:29:10,404
don't have to make decisions

824
00:29:10,785 --> 00:29:13,585
that I would normally make. Right? Like, that's

825
00:29:13,585 --> 00:29:14,085
the

826
00:29:14,944 --> 00:29:16,565
the relief of it. Like, there

827
00:29:18,259 --> 00:29:20,420
even when you have power exchange, everybody's making

828
00:29:20,420 --> 00:29:22,259
decisions throughout the day to get through the

829
00:29:22,259 --> 00:29:22,759
day.

830
00:29:23,299 --> 00:29:24,759
When I could as

831
00:29:25,140 --> 00:29:27,220
not just the service missive who does stuff

832
00:29:27,220 --> 00:29:29,059
for JB, but the baby girl who wants

833
00:29:29,059 --> 00:29:31,075
to desperately be taken care of and to

834
00:29:31,075 --> 00:29:33,335
turn her brain off and just Mhmm.

835
00:29:33,715 --> 00:29:36,215
Swim in whatever my baby girl feels are.

836
00:29:37,315 --> 00:29:39,234
Once I realized I could have that and

837
00:29:39,234 --> 00:29:41,154
I was having that, oh my god. I

838
00:29:41,154 --> 00:29:41,654
just

839
00:29:42,434 --> 00:29:45,795
I relaxed. It felt good. Mhmm. Do you

840
00:29:45,795 --> 00:29:46,295
get

841
00:29:48,059 --> 00:29:49,900
an in reverse kind of feel when I'm

842
00:29:49,900 --> 00:29:52,619
over here being, like, even more service oriented

843
00:29:52,619 --> 00:29:53,279
than usual?

844
00:29:53,819 --> 00:29:55,740
And or do you feel it more on,

845
00:29:55,740 --> 00:29:56,880
like, birthday spanking

846
00:29:57,819 --> 00:30:00,859
days? Or when do you feel it as

847
00:30:00,859 --> 00:30:01,599
a dom?

848
00:30:02,804 --> 00:30:04,105
On the birthday spanking.

849
00:30:05,125 --> 00:30:07,845
Your evil laugh is just there the whole

850
00:30:07,845 --> 00:30:09,605
fucking time. Believe it or not the whole

851
00:30:09,605 --> 00:30:11,544
time. There there are times,

852
00:30:12,244 --> 00:30:14,484
you know, like, believe me, I I appreciate

853
00:30:14,484 --> 00:30:16,309
it. You know, like for father's day, I

854
00:30:16,309 --> 00:30:17,670
didn't have to touch laundry, I didn't have

855
00:30:17,670 --> 00:30:19,910
to touch dishes, nothing, none of that. It

856
00:30:19,910 --> 00:30:20,809
was fantastic.

857
00:30:21,509 --> 00:30:22,730
But then there are times

858
00:30:23,029 --> 00:30:24,570
I'm sitting there and I'm thinking,

859
00:30:27,134 --> 00:30:28,734
oh my gosh. She's doing all this work.

860
00:30:28,734 --> 00:30:31,154
I feel bad. That's what I do. Yeah.

861
00:30:34,095 --> 00:30:35,695
Yeah. And I feel the same way when

862
00:30:35,695 --> 00:30:37,454
you're doing stuff for me on my special

863
00:30:37,454 --> 00:30:40,355
occasion. I don't I'm not capable of just

864
00:30:41,490 --> 00:30:43,490
being nothing but baby girl for more than

865
00:30:43,490 --> 00:30:45,349
about five minutes at a time.

866
00:30:45,650 --> 00:30:47,109
You know, it's it's just

867
00:30:48,930 --> 00:30:51,490
the being an adult in a in the

868
00:30:51,490 --> 00:30:53,090
world that we live in. Like, there's just

869
00:30:53,090 --> 00:30:54,630
always so much to do.

870
00:30:55,490 --> 00:30:57,025
But you can't, you you know, if you

871
00:30:57,025 --> 00:30:58,164
are able to stay

872
00:30:58,865 --> 00:31:00,404
in your power exchange

873
00:31:01,025 --> 00:31:02,164
or your kink headspace

874
00:31:02,625 --> 00:31:03,605
for more than,

875
00:31:03,904 --> 00:31:05,744
you know, the duration of a scene or

876
00:31:05,744 --> 00:31:07,505
for more than ten minutes at a time

877
00:31:07,505 --> 00:31:09,825
anytime else, I am so happy for you,

878
00:31:09,825 --> 00:31:11,039
but my brain don't work that

879
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:13,519
way. I got a whole hell of a

880
00:31:13,519 --> 00:31:15,600
lot of tabs open and I'm still trying

881
00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:16,960
to figure out where the music is coming

882
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:18,019
from. So

883
00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:20,160
I can feel it for a little bit

884
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:22,080
and then I flip over to guilt because

885
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:23,840
I should be doing something. I'm the service

886
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:25,600
of what am I doing just sitting here

887
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:25,755
right?

888
00:31:26,714 --> 00:31:28,815
There have been some other times that you've

889
00:31:29,835 --> 00:31:31,295
I don't know. Did

890
00:31:32,234 --> 00:31:34,595
you plan it or was it spur of

891
00:31:34,595 --> 00:31:36,795
the moment but would be near like an

892
00:31:36,795 --> 00:31:38,815
anniversary I think you did it one year.

893
00:31:39,275 --> 00:31:41,295
Recently, past couple years when

894
00:31:41,970 --> 00:31:44,049
nobody was leaving this house and there was

895
00:31:44,049 --> 00:31:45,750
no privacy and I basically

896
00:31:46,289 --> 00:31:47,109
got commanded

897
00:31:47,490 --> 00:31:48,309
out to

898
00:31:48,849 --> 00:31:50,390
the shop in the backyard,

899
00:31:51,890 --> 00:31:54,309
stepped over the threshold of the door

900
00:31:54,875 --> 00:31:58,154
and was just, like, hair grab, tossed down

901
00:31:58,394 --> 00:32:01,615
Mhmm. You know, pants pulled down and just

902
00:32:02,955 --> 00:32:05,275
wailed on. And it's like and I knew

903
00:32:05,275 --> 00:32:07,195
at any point, like, we've been together long

904
00:32:07,195 --> 00:32:08,880
enough. There's no question to me. I could

905
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:10,339
say for it out of anything,

906
00:32:10,799 --> 00:32:13,839
but I wasn't expecting it. I it wasn't

907
00:32:13,839 --> 00:32:14,980
a planned thing,

908
00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:17,599
but I I knew. I think it was

909
00:32:17,599 --> 00:32:19,599
our anniversary. It was like, we were this

910
00:32:19,599 --> 00:32:22,900
was our time to go. Yeah. Let's celebrate.

911
00:32:23,039 --> 00:32:26,024
And let's celebrate for us in kink ways

912
00:32:26,024 --> 00:32:28,444
are very small, relatively quiet,

913
00:32:30,024 --> 00:32:32,105
are not like, there's no, like nobody puts

914
00:32:32,105 --> 00:32:34,825
a banner up and and does noisemakers for

915
00:32:34,825 --> 00:32:37,164
that. It's like, oh, this is this moment

916
00:32:37,224 --> 00:32:39,349
and for us impact being what it is.

917
00:32:39,349 --> 00:32:40,730
I'm a beat your fucking

918
00:32:41,190 --> 00:32:43,190
ass until, you know, I get tired or

919
00:32:43,190 --> 00:32:44,809
you safe word. Let's go.

920
00:32:45,909 --> 00:32:46,409
Right?

921
00:32:46,710 --> 00:32:47,210
So,

922
00:32:47,589 --> 00:32:49,269
you know, I I do think sometimes we

923
00:32:49,269 --> 00:32:49,769
overthink

924
00:32:50,230 --> 00:32:52,149
trying to do that. We we imagine we

925
00:32:52,149 --> 00:32:53,589
need to plan the big scene. Oh, but

926
00:32:53,589 --> 00:32:55,315
what if the kids won't, you know, will

927
00:32:55,315 --> 00:32:56,835
be home or, oh, we've got to do

928
00:32:56,835 --> 00:32:58,615
this, but there's no money for it. It

929
00:32:58,914 --> 00:32:59,414
really

930
00:32:59,954 --> 00:33:01,954
it really doesn't have to be that way.

931
00:33:01,954 --> 00:33:03,394
I think more of us would like I

932
00:33:03,394 --> 00:33:04,914
would like it to be that way. I

933
00:33:04,914 --> 00:33:06,674
would love to be able to that way.

934
00:33:06,674 --> 00:33:08,355
Sometimes it's good to be that way. Right.

935
00:33:08,355 --> 00:33:10,460
And when you can, take the opportunity.

936
00:33:10,759 --> 00:33:12,759
Right? Don't, you know, don't worry about, you

937
00:33:12,759 --> 00:33:14,279
know, if you couldn't buy a new toy

938
00:33:14,279 --> 00:33:16,039
or you can't go someplace special. Can you

939
00:33:16,039 --> 00:33:18,359
get a certain amount of time alone and

940
00:33:18,359 --> 00:33:20,440
quiet and you're not worried about scaring anybody

941
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:22,940
else who lives, you know, in your home,

942
00:33:24,039 --> 00:33:25,855
and and do whatever it is. But when

943
00:33:25,855 --> 00:33:27,075
you don't have that,

944
00:33:27,934 --> 00:33:29,534
to me, it's just like everything else we

945
00:33:29,534 --> 00:33:32,034
do with Power Exchange. Find ways to incorporate

946
00:33:32,255 --> 00:33:34,734
it in seamlessly and in ways nobody else

947
00:33:34,734 --> 00:33:35,554
is gonna clock.

948
00:33:35,855 --> 00:33:38,095
All anybody looked at for my Mother's Day

949
00:33:38,095 --> 00:33:40,335
was, oh, look at mister John being really

950
00:33:40,335 --> 00:33:42,799
nice for mom, you know, making her a

951
00:33:42,799 --> 00:33:44,799
dinner she loves and surprising her with it.

952
00:33:44,799 --> 00:33:46,259
That's what it looks like from the outside.

953
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:48,480
And I'm over here going, no thoughts, just

954
00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:51,200
vibes. This is the life, you know. This

955
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:52,820
is how it should be,

956
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:55,394
you know. And, for for Father's Day, it

957
00:33:55,394 --> 00:33:57,475
looks like JB's getting a lazy day and

958
00:33:57,475 --> 00:33:58,134
he was.

959
00:33:58,434 --> 00:34:01,075
But I'm over there hauling ass with Right.

960
00:34:01,315 --> 00:34:02,835
Joy in my heart because I'm like, oh,

961
00:34:02,835 --> 00:34:04,674
I'm feeling so fucking so it's alright now.

962
00:34:04,674 --> 00:34:07,495
Let's do this. I got laundry done faster

963
00:34:07,875 --> 00:34:09,574
You did. Doing it for JB

964
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:12,180
than I ever do for myself alone

965
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:15,599
because that's the submissive in me. I am

966
00:34:15,599 --> 00:34:16,500
so motivated

967
00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:19,619
to do even the most fucking mundane

968
00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:21,840
shit when I know I'm doing it as

969
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:24,180
a submissive and not just as a fucking

970
00:34:24,505 --> 00:34:26,664
responsible adult who has to exist in life.

971
00:34:26,664 --> 00:34:27,324
You know?

972
00:34:27,784 --> 00:34:29,784
No motivation to get shit done for that,

973
00:34:29,784 --> 00:34:30,284
but

974
00:34:30,585 --> 00:34:32,744
to make my daddy happy. So I I

975
00:34:32,744 --> 00:34:35,385
do I do think people tend to overthink

976
00:34:35,385 --> 00:34:37,960
it is what I'm saying. Yeah. It you

977
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:38,460
know,

978
00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:39,460
do

979
00:34:39,960 --> 00:34:42,219
I miss having the ability to just

980
00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:44,460
go off and do the thing

981
00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:47,239
and spend whatever the money is and take

982
00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:49,000
the time and drive two hours and do

983
00:34:49,640 --> 00:34:50,140
yeah.

984
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:52,380
And we'll get there again

985
00:34:52,715 --> 00:34:54,315
because we did enjoy it when we could

986
00:34:54,315 --> 00:34:55,855
do it. Mhmm. But,

987
00:34:56,155 --> 00:34:58,074
you know, in a in a broke life,

988
00:34:58,074 --> 00:35:00,255
in a quiet life, in a busy life,

989
00:35:02,635 --> 00:35:03,135
finding

990
00:35:03,594 --> 00:35:07,215
small ways Right. Is very meaningful. Mhmm.

991
00:35:07,650 --> 00:35:09,750
Yep. And sometimes those small

992
00:35:10,609 --> 00:35:13,250
things have, more meaning than any big thing.

993
00:35:13,250 --> 00:35:13,750
Mhmm.

994
00:35:14,609 --> 00:35:16,369
I agree. I have a question for you.

995
00:35:16,369 --> 00:35:18,289
Uh-oh. That has nothing to do with the

996
00:35:18,289 --> 00:35:19,269
topic. Okay.

997
00:35:20,135 --> 00:35:22,295
And normally, I ask before you start hitting

998
00:35:22,295 --> 00:35:22,795
buttons.

999
00:35:23,094 --> 00:35:25,574
Did you turn off the Windows blahdy blahdy

1000
00:35:25,574 --> 00:35:28,534
blah thing on the computer that always stops

1001
00:35:28,534 --> 00:35:31,414
our camera? No. That's why our camera stops

1002
00:35:31,414 --> 00:35:33,255
working. I'll bet I'll bet that's what it

1003
00:35:33,255 --> 00:35:33,755
is.

1004
00:35:34,550 --> 00:35:35,750
We can talk about that in the bonus

1005
00:35:35,750 --> 00:35:36,250
section.

1006
00:35:37,909 --> 00:35:39,590
I wish x was able to watch the

1007
00:35:39,590 --> 00:35:41,369
live stream because I don't know

1008
00:35:41,670 --> 00:35:43,609
if we have answered his question

1009
00:35:44,309 --> 00:35:44,809
satisfactorily.

1010
00:35:45,269 --> 00:35:47,849
I don't know if there was something specific

1011
00:35:47,989 --> 00:35:48,730
that he

1012
00:35:49,635 --> 00:35:50,135
wanted

1013
00:35:51,074 --> 00:35:54,375
Yeah. Answered. I'd all I know is,

1014
00:35:55,554 --> 00:35:57,394
yeah, they're the kind of the obvious ways

1015
00:35:57,394 --> 00:35:59,335
when you have money to spend and time

1016
00:35:59,394 --> 00:36:01,474
to do it in. And what we've gotten

1017
00:36:01,474 --> 00:36:02,280
really good at is

1018
00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:05,340
the, you know, broke as a motherfucker.

1019
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:08,039
Mhmm. And there's always somebody else in this

1020
00:36:08,039 --> 00:36:10,619
house besides just us. Yeah. And our privacy

1021
00:36:10,679 --> 00:36:13,480
is limited, and our time is limited. And

1022
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:13,980
so

1023
00:36:15,184 --> 00:36:17,525
we do even the most special days

1024
00:36:17,824 --> 00:36:19,744
the way we do everything else in our

1025
00:36:19,744 --> 00:36:20,485
power exchange

1026
00:36:20,945 --> 00:36:22,945
as we can, where we can in small

1027
00:36:22,945 --> 00:36:23,445
doses

1028
00:36:23,824 --> 00:36:25,844
and under the fucking radar. Mhmm.

1029
00:36:26,465 --> 00:36:26,965
And

1030
00:36:27,369 --> 00:36:29,150
those days feel special to me.

1031
00:36:29,690 --> 00:36:31,210
Part of it is because some of the

1032
00:36:31,210 --> 00:36:32,809
things we do, we don't do for any

1033
00:36:32,969 --> 00:36:33,469
like,

1034
00:36:34,010 --> 00:36:36,089
short of, like, if JB's sick, of course

1035
00:36:36,089 --> 00:36:37,849
I'm gonna do the stuff he would normally

1036
00:36:37,849 --> 00:36:40,329
do because he's sick. But we don't just

1037
00:36:40,329 --> 00:36:42,344
randomly come up to one another. Maybe we

1038
00:36:42,344 --> 00:36:43,945
should, but maybe this is what keeps it

1039
00:36:43,945 --> 00:36:46,105
special. I don't just show up on some

1040
00:36:46,105 --> 00:36:47,085
random, like,

1041
00:36:47,704 --> 00:36:49,704
I don't know, August day and go, hey,

1042
00:36:49,704 --> 00:36:51,484
I'll do the laundry for you this weekend.

1043
00:36:51,625 --> 00:36:52,204
I could.

1044
00:36:53,065 --> 00:36:55,144
Please don't look for that. That is what

1045
00:36:55,144 --> 00:36:56,505
your birthday and our

1046
00:36:58,289 --> 00:37:00,849
anniversary is though, is the one that that's

1047
00:37:00,849 --> 00:37:02,530
hard to do. There's not much we can

1048
00:37:02,530 --> 00:37:03,750
do for one another.

1049
00:37:04,289 --> 00:37:04,789
Anniversary,

1050
00:37:05,329 --> 00:37:07,489
that used to be what we would do.

1051
00:37:07,489 --> 00:37:08,849
I haven't done it in a couple years.

1052
00:37:08,849 --> 00:37:10,050
Hopefully, we can get back to it this

1053
00:37:10,050 --> 00:37:12,385
year. We would go out to a meal

1054
00:37:12,385 --> 00:37:15,105
and sometimes, like, for us, air quote, fancy,

1055
00:37:15,105 --> 00:37:17,025
but sometimes not. Sometimes, like, a little dive

1056
00:37:17,025 --> 00:37:17,684
or whatever.

1057
00:37:18,065 --> 00:37:19,525
And the whole time

1058
00:37:19,824 --> 00:37:21,525
out in public, we'd be in

1059
00:37:21,905 --> 00:37:24,640
power exchange mode. Daddy would be, like, daddy

1060
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:26,160
oh, god. I still remember the one the

1061
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:27,760
time when we went to the cigar bar

1062
00:37:27,760 --> 00:37:29,840
and the restaurant, and you were dressed up,

1063
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:31,380
and I was dressed nice.

1064
00:37:31,920 --> 00:37:32,420
And

1065
00:37:33,199 --> 00:37:35,519
you like, I didn't speak unless spoken to

1066
00:37:35,519 --> 00:37:38,704
you. I've spoken, you know, spoken to. Mhmm.

1067
00:37:38,764 --> 00:37:41,404
And you kinda just, like, we went to

1068
00:37:41,404 --> 00:37:43,324
that cigar bar, and you're just looking out

1069
00:37:43,324 --> 00:37:45,404
on the world, smoking your cigar, looking all

1070
00:37:45,404 --> 00:37:47,904
cool, and I'm all quiet over there.

1071
00:37:50,019 --> 00:37:52,099
And that was a huge turn on. You

1072
00:37:52,099 --> 00:37:54,260
never sort of ordered me to do anything,

1073
00:37:54,260 --> 00:37:55,880
but we fell into that

1074
00:37:56,180 --> 00:37:56,680
mode.

1075
00:37:57,300 --> 00:37:59,239
My my hand got held everywhere.

1076
00:38:00,500 --> 00:38:03,140
I was I was guided wherever we needed

1077
00:38:03,140 --> 00:38:03,800
to be.

1078
00:38:05,144 --> 00:38:06,765
Yeah. It was it was delightful.

1079
00:38:07,224 --> 00:38:08,664
He it was the way he talked to

1080
00:38:08,664 --> 00:38:11,005
me. That's another thing. It doesn't like,

1081
00:38:11,465 --> 00:38:13,625
we can do this at home, but it's

1082
00:38:13,625 --> 00:38:15,864
harder to do at home. So, yeah, tone

1083
00:38:15,864 --> 00:38:18,425
of voice, very, like, deep and the the

1084
00:38:18,425 --> 00:38:20,309
gleam in his eye was, like, there. Like,

1085
00:38:20,309 --> 00:38:21,289
very serious.

1086
00:38:22,070 --> 00:38:23,989
Like, even the baby girl in me probably

1087
00:38:23,989 --> 00:38:25,510
could not have gotten the daddy dom to

1088
00:38:25,510 --> 00:38:28,309
come out. The dominant sadist was out, and

1089
00:38:28,309 --> 00:38:29,989
it was having a good time. But we

1090
00:38:29,989 --> 00:38:31,670
did, you know, stuff like that. Like, we

1091
00:38:31,670 --> 00:38:33,914
just Mhmm. Changed the and and it's not

1092
00:38:33,914 --> 00:38:35,775
always easy. And sometimes

1093
00:38:36,394 --> 00:38:37,055
you know

1094
00:38:38,954 --> 00:38:41,434
the the mood you wanna be in for

1095
00:38:41,434 --> 00:38:44,394
the special occasion of that specific day does

1096
00:38:44,394 --> 00:38:46,875
not align with what your mind and or

1097
00:38:46,875 --> 00:38:48,360
body will allow you to do.

1098
00:38:48,920 --> 00:38:51,019
But when it does, when the stars fucking

1099
00:38:51,720 --> 00:38:53,980
align, I mean, we could've gone for, like,

1100
00:38:54,119 --> 00:38:55,019
fucking McDonald's

1101
00:38:55,559 --> 00:38:58,140
value menu and still had that kind of

1102
00:38:58,599 --> 00:39:00,220
power exchange y experience

1103
00:39:11,655 --> 00:39:13,434
fucking week? Of course. But

1104
00:39:13,829 --> 00:39:15,670
I feel like it's when you take when

1105
00:39:15,670 --> 00:39:16,489
you do it

1106
00:39:17,269 --> 00:39:19,050
for a birthday, for an anniversary,

1107
00:39:19,349 --> 00:39:21,590
for whatever a special day is for for

1108
00:39:21,590 --> 00:39:22,090
you,

1109
00:39:24,390 --> 00:39:25,450
and you do it,

1110
00:39:26,934 --> 00:39:29,494
Swiss cheese brain has gotten me, intentionally with

1111
00:39:29,494 --> 00:39:32,295
intentionality. Right? Like, there's you are focused on

1112
00:39:32,295 --> 00:39:33,974
this and this is why you're doing it.

1113
00:39:33,974 --> 00:39:35,994
It even if it's kind of a mundane

1114
00:39:36,054 --> 00:39:38,394
thing that you do more often than not,

1115
00:39:39,010 --> 00:39:41,030
that's where the meaning can come from.

1116
00:39:41,489 --> 00:39:43,170
And then there's like the build up to

1117
00:39:43,170 --> 00:39:45,090
the day. If we do make a plan

1118
00:39:45,090 --> 00:39:46,390
for like our wedding anniversary

1119
00:39:46,690 --> 00:39:48,289
and we're gonna go out, we're gonna do

1120
00:39:48,289 --> 00:39:50,369
some whatever, we're talking about it a week

1121
00:39:50,369 --> 00:39:52,130
or two or more in advance. Yeah. You

1122
00:39:52,130 --> 00:39:54,195
know, especially if we're gonna spend like more

1123
00:39:54,195 --> 00:39:55,954
than the average amount of money we would

1124
00:39:55,954 --> 00:39:57,795
spend. Well, we're planning for it. And so

1125
00:39:57,795 --> 00:39:58,934
then there's the anticipation

1126
00:39:59,394 --> 00:40:02,035
of it. And that's fun because then I'm

1127
00:40:02,035 --> 00:40:03,315
like, do you want me to wear something

1128
00:40:03,315 --> 00:40:04,914
specific? Do you you know? What do you

1129
00:40:04,914 --> 00:40:07,394
want to control of this, JB? Because you

1130
00:40:07,394 --> 00:40:09,155
get to be in charge of this, and

1131
00:40:09,155 --> 00:40:11,519
I will cede that control to you. And

1132
00:40:11,519 --> 00:40:12,420
there we are

1133
00:40:12,720 --> 00:40:14,579
just trying to go to dinner and it's

1134
00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:16,559
two or three days before and we're in

1135
00:40:16,559 --> 00:40:18,900
our power exchange. And I you know, that's

1136
00:40:20,079 --> 00:40:22,800
that's how we approach it. Mhmm. Because it

1137
00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:23,119
doesn't

1138
00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:25,065
you can do it when you spend money,

1139
00:40:25,065 --> 00:40:26,525
but it doesn't require money.

1140
00:40:27,224 --> 00:40:29,065
You can't it's fun to do when you

1141
00:40:29,065 --> 00:40:30,425
leave the house, but you don't even have

1142
00:40:30,425 --> 00:40:31,324
to leave the house.

1143
00:40:31,784 --> 00:40:33,085
You know? True. True.

1144
00:40:33,784 --> 00:40:34,284
So

1145
00:40:36,105 --> 00:40:37,724
yeah. Excuse me.

1146
00:40:39,590 --> 00:40:40,969
I cannot think of

1147
00:40:41,670 --> 00:40:43,530
anything else I would say about that.

1148
00:40:44,309 --> 00:40:46,150
X, when you hear this or watch this

1149
00:40:46,150 --> 00:40:48,230
or however you consume this, if you're like,

1150
00:40:48,230 --> 00:40:50,150
no. I have follow-up questions. Please share them

1151
00:40:50,150 --> 00:40:50,890
with me.

1152
00:40:51,510 --> 00:40:53,510
We will we'll do a segment, like, next

1153
00:40:53,510 --> 00:40:55,614
week or something. It's follow-up. I

1154
00:40:55,914 --> 00:40:56,494
don't know.

1155
00:40:57,194 --> 00:40:57,694
But,

1156
00:40:58,155 --> 00:41:00,394
yeah, that's all I can think about Okay.

1157
00:41:00,474 --> 00:41:02,894
On that one. So, are we good?

1158
00:41:03,514 --> 00:41:05,914
The way this live stream and the video

1159
00:41:05,914 --> 00:41:07,514
of God, I don't know. Yeah. You know.

1160
00:41:07,514 --> 00:41:09,674
Podcast listeners be grateful. You just have to

1161
00:41:09,674 --> 00:41:09,929
listen.

1162
00:41:24,744 --> 00:41:25,244
Dottie.

1163
00:41:25,945 --> 00:41:28,025
Yes, baby girl. I'm terrified to try to

1164
00:41:28,025 --> 00:41:29,704
do this, but can we talk to the

1165
00:41:29,704 --> 00:41:30,844
crickets? Yeah.

1166
00:41:31,545 --> 00:41:32,824
Do you wanna know when I thought about

1167
00:41:32,824 --> 00:41:34,280
that security thing and I was like, did

1168
00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:36,280
you hit that button? But see, it never

1169
00:41:36,280 --> 00:41:38,519
did anything to the camera. It used to

1170
00:41:38,519 --> 00:41:39,659
botch up Audacity.

1171
00:41:40,599 --> 00:41:42,199
No. It did stuff to the camera. Oh,

1172
00:41:42,199 --> 00:41:42,699
yeah.

1173
00:41:43,079 --> 00:41:45,420
And I was in mid thought on something,

1174
00:41:45,559 --> 00:41:47,079
saw a thing come up and I went,

1175
00:41:47,079 --> 00:41:48,519
oh my god. Oh my god. Did we

1176
00:41:48,519 --> 00:41:50,264
not hit that button? We used to remind

1177
00:41:50,264 --> 00:41:52,105
each other about it. I I need to

1178
00:41:52,105 --> 00:41:52,605
reinstall

1179
00:41:53,224 --> 00:41:54,364
the webcam utility.

1180
00:41:55,545 --> 00:41:58,045
It's done this before. Had to reinstall it.

1181
00:41:59,144 --> 00:42:02,424
Give that that's gonna be a first thing

1182
00:42:02,424 --> 00:42:04,720
I try. Not really a project. Oh, okay.

1183
00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:06,880
But on the other hand, part of what's

1184
00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:08,640
going on with this computer, the hard drive

1185
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:11,280
is almost full. That's right. God. I know

1186
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:12,980
we had that conversation. Yeah.

1187
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:15,700
Yeah. And what was our solution?

1188
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:19,065
Install a new hard drive. Oh, yeah.

1189
00:42:20,264 --> 00:42:23,244
Reload the operating system. It's almost like

1190
00:42:24,264 --> 00:42:27,144
after all these years and 444

1191
00:42:27,144 --> 00:42:29,704
long form episodes and well over a 100

1192
00:42:29,704 --> 00:42:30,605
short episodes,

1193
00:42:31,144 --> 00:42:33,565
it's almost like things might be,

1194
00:42:34,460 --> 00:42:34,960
like,

1195
00:42:35,980 --> 00:42:38,480
getting tired, getting old, getting full.

1196
00:42:39,659 --> 00:42:41,440
We need to refresh everything.

1197
00:42:42,299 --> 00:42:44,460
Man. I just oh, I don't like you

1198
00:42:44,460 --> 00:42:46,380
know how I get about tech issues. They

1199
00:42:46,380 --> 00:42:48,559
stress me out so much.

1200
00:42:49,179 --> 00:42:49,574
I,

1201
00:42:50,054 --> 00:42:52,554
okay. Let's let's get away from this stress

1202
00:42:52,614 --> 00:42:54,795
and talk about Lola's stress.

1203
00:42:55,574 --> 00:42:57,574
We were not our favorite people today. I

1204
00:42:57,574 --> 00:43:00,454
know. She's fine. She's absolutely fine. She was

1205
00:43:00,454 --> 00:43:02,454
sleeping at my feet earlier when we started.

1206
00:43:02,454 --> 00:43:04,420
She's sleeping on her cot Yeah. Like, the

1207
00:43:04,420 --> 00:43:05,719
rest of us don't exist.

1208
00:43:06,099 --> 00:43:07,139
Yeah. She had her,

1209
00:43:07,619 --> 00:43:08,760
six month follow-up.

1210
00:43:09,539 --> 00:43:10,920
Yeah. She has to do a semiannual

1211
00:43:11,460 --> 00:43:14,420
Mhmm. Heart her heartworm thing, I think. Right.

1212
00:43:14,420 --> 00:43:15,460
And then she has,

1213
00:43:15,860 --> 00:43:16,579
Because of the,

1214
00:43:17,699 --> 00:43:18,199
thyroid.

1215
00:43:19,034 --> 00:43:21,194
No. The the thyroid is what they're doing

1216
00:43:21,194 --> 00:43:23,755
annual. The heartworm was because she's had heartworms

1217
00:43:23,755 --> 00:43:25,594
in the past. That's right. Yeah. And then

1218
00:43:25,594 --> 00:43:27,755
she had to get a vaccine. Is it

1219
00:43:27,755 --> 00:43:31,194
lepto? Is it leptin? It's lep something. Yeah.

1220
00:43:31,194 --> 00:43:33,469
You work with, like, vet and animals, you

1221
00:43:33,469 --> 00:43:35,469
will probably know. Mhmm. I just went, sure,

1222
00:43:35,469 --> 00:43:36,989
give her the fucking shot. How much is

1223
00:43:36,989 --> 00:43:38,210
it? Okay. Fine.

1224
00:43:39,630 --> 00:43:42,050
Look. Look. I am that person. I

1225
00:43:42,510 --> 00:43:45,965
know that nobody is infallible and things change

1226
00:43:45,965 --> 00:43:48,785
all the time. But when a trusted professional

1227
00:43:48,925 --> 00:43:49,425
says,

1228
00:43:49,965 --> 00:43:53,085
you, your child, your dog, your cat need

1229
00:43:53,085 --> 00:43:54,925
this, I go give a fucking to them.

1230
00:43:54,925 --> 00:43:55,824
I don't care.

1231
00:43:56,605 --> 00:43:58,679
I just don't even blink. It's like So,

1232
00:43:58,679 --> 00:44:00,920
yeah. She was she was a little stressed

1233
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:01,420
out.

1234
00:44:02,199 --> 00:44:04,119
She is down to 75.

1235
00:44:04,119 --> 00:44:05,719
She's lost weight. We're so proud of her.

1236
00:44:05,719 --> 00:44:08,280
Yep. She she is she is losing weight.

1237
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:08,780
Log.

1238
00:44:10,535 --> 00:44:11,675
She has hips again.

1239
00:44:12,135 --> 00:44:14,695
She has a waistline. Yeah. Just snatched, y'all.

1240
00:44:14,695 --> 00:44:16,695
She looks so good. They were so proud

1241
00:44:16,695 --> 00:44:18,855
of us, and I am god damn, I'm

1242
00:44:18,855 --> 00:44:20,454
such a fucking baby girl. So this was

1243
00:44:20,454 --> 00:44:21,815
like, oh, I wish I there was like

1244
00:44:21,815 --> 00:44:23,570
a gold star we could get with this.

1245
00:44:23,710 --> 00:44:25,070
I was kinda soaking it up a little

1246
00:44:25,070 --> 00:44:27,570
bit. Oh, well, it does it did does

1247
00:44:27,789 --> 00:44:29,869
does or does not help that the vet

1248
00:44:29,869 --> 00:44:32,110
who has been seeing her most frequently, he

1249
00:44:32,110 --> 00:44:33,970
is a beautiful man.

1250
00:44:34,670 --> 00:44:36,989
He he is an incredibly beautiful man. And

1251
00:44:36,989 --> 00:44:39,445
he's And his accent. And he's kind, and

1252
00:44:39,445 --> 00:44:41,364
he's good at what he does. And has

1253
00:44:41,364 --> 00:44:43,445
a sense of humor. Right. He clearly loves

1254
00:44:43,445 --> 00:44:44,984
animals. And, you know,

1255
00:44:45,764 --> 00:44:48,664
I mean, just like, god, just amazing.

1256
00:44:49,525 --> 00:44:51,190
Part of me wants, because I just don't

1257
00:44:51,190 --> 00:44:53,030
trust when things seem that amazing. I'm like,

1258
00:44:53,030 --> 00:44:54,809
is he a shit? Like, buzzwords.

1259
00:44:55,110 --> 00:44:56,949
That's not my problem. The two or three

1260
00:44:56,949 --> 00:44:58,550
times a year we come to this thing.

1261
00:44:58,550 --> 00:44:59,670
But but but,

1262
00:45:00,150 --> 00:45:02,570
you know, yeah. Looks Yeah. Looks wise,

1263
00:45:03,110 --> 00:45:05,769
he's right up there with, Pedro Pascal and

1264
00:45:06,174 --> 00:45:06,755
and Cavill.

1265
00:45:07,135 --> 00:45:09,534
Oh my god. Pedro Pascal. I'm glad that

1266
00:45:09,534 --> 00:45:10,914
man's having his moment.

1267
00:45:12,255 --> 00:45:13,694
Don't even get me started on that. But,

1268
00:45:13,694 --> 00:45:16,335
yes, this this vet is just I mean,

1269
00:45:16,335 --> 00:45:16,835
we

1270
00:45:18,174 --> 00:45:21,369
we both get very quiet and listen and

1271
00:45:21,369 --> 00:45:23,769
pay very close attention while he's talking to

1272
00:45:23,769 --> 00:45:25,530
us. And we're polite and we smile, and

1273
00:45:25,530 --> 00:45:27,769
we're not gross or creepy. But the moment

1274
00:45:27,769 --> 00:45:29,610
that man leaves the room, we're like, oh

1275
00:45:29,610 --> 00:45:30,269
my god.

1276
00:45:31,130 --> 00:45:32,190
He's so beautiful.

1277
00:45:33,494 --> 00:45:35,414
I just can I just say I love

1278
00:45:35,414 --> 00:45:37,654
being in a relationship with somebody that I

1279
00:45:37,654 --> 00:45:39,734
can do we do that over any type

1280
00:45:39,734 --> 00:45:41,654
of human? If we find them beautiful regardless

1281
00:45:41,654 --> 00:45:43,414
of gender, we're like, oh my god. They're

1282
00:45:43,414 --> 00:45:43,914
fucking

1283
00:45:44,214 --> 00:45:46,760
hot, beautiful, gourd, like, pick a word, whatever

1284
00:45:46,760 --> 00:45:47,659
we find them.

1285
00:45:48,119 --> 00:45:49,900
We send each other

1286
00:45:50,679 --> 00:45:51,500
other creators'

1287
00:45:52,359 --> 00:45:54,859
thirst traps Yeah. On Instagram to one another

1288
00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:58,219
to go, look at that human. That's sexiest

1289
00:45:58,440 --> 00:45:58,940
shit.

1290
00:45:59,394 --> 00:46:01,175
Yeah. That is how I learned

1291
00:46:01,875 --> 00:46:04,515
that I have a slight interest. I don't

1292
00:46:04,515 --> 00:46:06,675
have the means or the will yet, but

1293
00:46:06,675 --> 00:46:08,055
I have a slight interest

1294
00:46:08,595 --> 00:46:12,035
in being similar to what the Internet calls

1295
00:46:12,035 --> 00:46:13,494
muscle mommies. Mhmm.

1296
00:46:14,090 --> 00:46:16,030
And I asked JB. I was like

1297
00:46:16,650 --> 00:46:18,809
like, I know you like you are happy

1298
00:46:18,809 --> 00:46:20,829
with me in whatever form I take.

1299
00:46:22,170 --> 00:46:24,809
You love me regardless. I was like, but

1300
00:46:24,809 --> 00:46:27,949
if I actually cared about, like, building muscle

1301
00:46:28,684 --> 00:46:31,485
and whatever that entailed, and I I was

1302
00:46:31,485 --> 00:46:32,945
like, you know,

1303
00:46:33,485 --> 00:46:34,764
what are the words for it? I don't

1304
00:46:34,764 --> 00:46:36,605
know. I was like, would if I was

1305
00:46:36,605 --> 00:46:37,505
a muscle mommy,

1306
00:46:38,925 --> 00:46:40,625
the look at his face

1307
00:46:41,324 --> 00:46:43,530
was I was like, oh, okay. Okay. Well,

1308
00:46:43,530 --> 00:46:46,010
I'm not gonna worry that I will somehow

1309
00:46:46,010 --> 00:46:46,989
lose the attraction

1310
00:46:49,050 --> 00:46:51,390
of JB and that. Okay. Okay.

1311
00:46:52,809 --> 00:46:53,309
So,

1312
00:46:56,410 --> 00:46:56,910
anyway.

1313
00:46:57,315 --> 00:46:59,155
Yep. Yeah. We got we got to lust

1314
00:46:59,155 --> 00:47:01,014
over some for our

1315
00:47:01,394 --> 00:47:03,155
vet. Now and I I want it on

1316
00:47:03,155 --> 00:47:05,074
the record that I'm not trying to lust

1317
00:47:05,074 --> 00:47:07,954
after this very kind beautiful man with gorgeous

1318
00:47:07,954 --> 00:47:08,454
hair.

1319
00:47:09,074 --> 00:47:09,574
Anyway,

1320
00:47:10,594 --> 00:47:12,130
when I called the vet to make her

1321
00:47:12,130 --> 00:47:14,690
appointment because they only sent me three emails

1322
00:47:14,690 --> 00:47:17,510
and four text messages and and a postcard

1323
00:47:17,969 --> 00:47:20,449
to let me know she needed services. Yeah.

1324
00:47:20,449 --> 00:47:23,090
And we were not even late. Goddamn it.

1325
00:47:23,090 --> 00:47:25,224
Like, today was the deadline for one of

1326
00:47:25,224 --> 00:47:26,525
them. Anyway anyway,

1327
00:47:27,545 --> 00:47:28,585
when I was on the phone with the

1328
00:47:28,585 --> 00:47:29,784
vet and they're like, oh, we have this

1329
00:47:29,784 --> 00:47:31,304
doctor. And that do you do you have

1330
00:47:31,304 --> 00:47:32,984
a preference? No. I don't have a preference

1331
00:47:32,984 --> 00:47:33,885
whoever's available.

1332
00:47:34,905 --> 00:47:36,905
And I think that's that's how the universe

1333
00:47:36,905 --> 00:47:39,065
graced us with that particular vet because I

1334
00:47:39,065 --> 00:47:39,570
wasn't being

1335
00:47:40,530 --> 00:47:43,010
all thirsty about it. I was just, like,

1336
00:47:43,010 --> 00:47:44,849
whatever. Whatever comes our way. Whatever the universe

1337
00:47:44,849 --> 00:47:47,269
grants us, it's fine. It's fine.

1338
00:47:49,010 --> 00:47:51,329
But yeah. Yeah. So no. She

1339
00:47:52,304 --> 00:47:55,204
it clearly wasn't too terrible for her because,

1340
00:47:55,264 --> 00:47:57,125
at least with me, she did not

1341
00:47:57,505 --> 00:47:59,664
act like, she's when she has to go

1342
00:47:59,664 --> 00:48:01,184
to the vet and it's, like, really like,

1343
00:48:01,184 --> 00:48:02,724
she really fucking hates it,

1344
00:48:03,025 --> 00:48:05,280
she does not, air quote, talk to you

1345
00:48:05,280 --> 00:48:06,640
for the rest of the day. She does

1346
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:08,800
not give space. She's not making eye contact.

1347
00:48:08,800 --> 00:48:10,320
She's not sitting next to you. She's not

1348
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:12,800
following, like, nothing. Like, wants nothing to do

1349
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:14,239
with nobody. And she went like that to

1350
00:48:14,239 --> 00:48:16,400
that. I lay down on the couch earlier

1351
00:48:16,400 --> 00:48:17,140
this afternoon.

1352
00:48:18,534 --> 00:48:19,034
And,

1353
00:48:19,574 --> 00:48:21,815
you know, most more times than not, Lola

1354
00:48:21,815 --> 00:48:23,575
will climb up on there with me Mhmm.

1355
00:48:23,735 --> 00:48:26,215
More than that. Mhmm. No. She she slept

1356
00:48:26,215 --> 00:48:27,894
on the floor. She she was in the

1357
00:48:27,894 --> 00:48:28,715
living room.

1358
00:48:29,494 --> 00:48:31,175
K. So she was mad at you. But

1359
00:48:31,175 --> 00:48:32,534
she was on the floor. She kept coming

1360
00:48:32,534 --> 00:48:34,451
back here and sitting next to me when

1361
00:48:34,451 --> 00:48:36,574
I was at my desk. Okay. So it

1362
00:48:36,574 --> 00:48:38,697
wasn't me she was mad at. No. No.

1363
00:48:38,697 --> 00:48:40,820
Probably because I fed her the doughnut. Right.

1364
00:48:40,820 --> 00:48:42,943
Right. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. When when when she

1365
00:48:42,943 --> 00:48:45,066
has to go to the bed or or

1366
00:48:45,066 --> 00:48:47,719
something like that Or the groomer. Or the

1367
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:50,864
groomer. Something she hates. Yeah. We, we do

1368
00:48:50,864 --> 00:48:51,525
give her

1369
00:48:52,144 --> 00:48:52,965
a a special

1370
00:48:53,825 --> 00:48:56,005
premium treat as we call it. Yeah.

1371
00:48:56,945 --> 00:48:57,445
But

1372
00:48:58,785 --> 00:49:01,105
old fashioned donuts from Dunkin' that don't have

1373
00:49:01,105 --> 00:49:03,480
any glaze on them. Yeah. They're just like

1374
00:49:03,480 --> 00:49:05,900
a cake donut. That's that's the thing. Yeah.

1375
00:49:06,199 --> 00:49:06,699
But,

1376
00:49:07,320 --> 00:49:09,659
her her treats anymore are

1377
00:49:10,119 --> 00:49:11,739
apple slices. Mhmm.

1378
00:49:13,079 --> 00:49:16,219
And right now, she she loves watermelon.

1379
00:49:16,679 --> 00:49:18,059
Absolutely loves watermelon.

1380
00:49:21,414 --> 00:49:22,554
And excuse me.

1381
00:49:22,855 --> 00:49:25,094
And I came across this this thing that

1382
00:49:25,094 --> 00:49:26,155
somebody was making

1383
00:49:26,855 --> 00:49:27,994
with Greek yogurt

1384
00:49:28,454 --> 00:49:29,275
and watermelon

1385
00:49:29,574 --> 00:49:30,074
puree.

1386
00:49:30,454 --> 00:49:32,554
For dogs. Like, they're just making it randomly.

1387
00:49:33,094 --> 00:49:33,929
Yeah. No. No.

1388
00:49:35,289 --> 00:49:37,130
So what what they were doing and I

1389
00:49:37,369 --> 00:49:39,150
they had a special, like, little silicone

1390
00:49:39,449 --> 00:49:41,369
Right. Thing to do. And I'm like, I

1391
00:49:41,369 --> 00:49:42,889
bet that'll work in an ice tray too.

1392
00:49:42,889 --> 00:49:44,730
Yeah. They probably had that linked in their

1393
00:49:44,730 --> 00:49:48,349
Amazon storefront. Right. With an affiliate link. Yeah.

1394
00:49:48,650 --> 00:49:49,050
But,

1395
00:49:50,405 --> 00:49:51,844
so, you know, I tried. I put a

1396
00:49:51,844 --> 00:49:52,344
scoop

1397
00:49:52,644 --> 00:49:53,204
of Greek,

1398
00:49:53,684 --> 00:49:56,425
Greek yogurt, plain, non no flavor,

1399
00:49:56,885 --> 00:49:58,105
and, then

1400
00:49:58,405 --> 00:50:01,125
poured the puree on there and froze it.

1401
00:50:01,125 --> 00:50:02,824
Put it in the freezer and froze it.

1402
00:50:03,045 --> 00:50:04,885
And, yeah, cracked the ice tray that came

1403
00:50:04,885 --> 00:50:07,760
out, dropped one in her bowl. She loved

1404
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:09,280
it. The first time you did it, she

1405
00:50:09,280 --> 00:50:11,360
was She wasn't sure. She wasn't sure. But

1406
00:50:11,360 --> 00:50:13,360
then when she started licking it So that

1407
00:50:13,360 --> 00:50:15,280
was interesting. The first the first one you

1408
00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:17,360
ever gave her, you tried to hand it

1409
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:18,579
to her like a regular

1410
00:50:18,885 --> 00:50:20,965
treat. Like, you would an apple slicer or

1411
00:50:20,965 --> 00:50:23,045
whatever. Yeah. And she was like, what the

1412
00:50:23,045 --> 00:50:25,204
fuck? So then I was like, hey. Try

1413
00:50:25,204 --> 00:50:26,804
putting it in her bowl. She knows that's

1414
00:50:26,804 --> 00:50:28,025
food. So Mhmm.

1415
00:50:28,644 --> 00:50:30,724
Does this thing because it's frozen. She's licking

1416
00:50:30,724 --> 00:50:32,724
at it, and it's racing around her bowl.

1417
00:50:32,724 --> 00:50:33,224
Yeah.

1418
00:50:33,890 --> 00:50:35,410
And then finally, she got wise to it,

1419
00:50:35,410 --> 00:50:36,930
and she went, fuck this. She picked it

1420
00:50:36,930 --> 00:50:39,170
up. She carried it here in the office.

1421
00:50:39,170 --> 00:50:41,410
It's where she likes to eat certain treats.

1422
00:50:41,410 --> 00:50:43,250
Not all treats, but certain treats. She's like,

1423
00:50:43,250 --> 00:50:44,369
no. No. I have to take this away

1424
00:50:44,369 --> 00:50:45,890
to my special place, and I gotta, like

1425
00:50:45,969 --> 00:50:48,135
Right. Get comfy so we can eat this.

1426
00:50:48,135 --> 00:50:51,035
But my fear was that was Greek yogurt

1427
00:50:51,175 --> 00:50:53,035
that was eventually going to

1428
00:50:53,414 --> 00:50:56,295
defrost and be mushy. I was like, if

1429
00:50:56,295 --> 00:50:58,215
she does not like it, we'll have a

1430
00:50:58,215 --> 00:50:58,715
problem.

1431
00:50:59,255 --> 00:51:00,394
So she came back

1432
00:51:00,775 --> 00:51:02,909
thirty seconds after she did that. We're like,

1433
00:51:02,909 --> 00:51:04,849
oh, shit. Did she just leave gloopy

1434
00:51:05,230 --> 00:51:07,789
Greek yogurt on the floor? Looked and No.

1435
00:51:07,789 --> 00:51:09,789
There there was It just took her thirty

1436
00:51:09,789 --> 00:51:11,789
seconds to eat it. You couldn't tell there

1437
00:51:11,789 --> 00:51:14,989
was ever anything there. Mm-mm. Mm-mm. Nope. Yep.

1438
00:51:14,989 --> 00:51:16,574
It's like, okay. That one that one worked.

1439
00:51:16,574 --> 00:51:17,775
But, yeah, that was the thing I was

1440
00:51:17,775 --> 00:51:18,815
worried about. I was like, oh my god.

1441
00:51:18,815 --> 00:51:20,414
I don't wanna have to clean up So

1442
00:51:20,414 --> 00:51:23,215
that's that's, that's become her summer snack right

1443
00:51:23,215 --> 00:51:25,474
now, and she she likes it. Mhmm.

1444
00:51:27,135 --> 00:51:29,695
Yeah. No. Well, for the five minutes, I

1445
00:51:29,695 --> 00:51:32,099
got to enjoy blueberry season this year Yeah.

1446
00:51:32,300 --> 00:51:34,059
I mostly missed it because I base is

1447
00:51:34,059 --> 00:51:36,619
it blueberry season on the price of fucking

1448
00:51:36,619 --> 00:51:37,119
blueberries?

1449
00:51:38,059 --> 00:51:39,579
Because they go down. Not because they're a

1450
00:51:39,579 --> 00:51:41,500
specific price, but they go from a price

1451
00:51:41,500 --> 00:51:42,860
I don't wanna pay to a price I'm

1452
00:51:42,860 --> 00:51:45,275
willing to pay. Yeah. And for two weeks,

1453
00:51:45,275 --> 00:51:46,635
I saw a price I was willing to

1454
00:51:46,635 --> 00:51:47,595
pay, so I don't know what the fuck

1455
00:51:47,595 --> 00:51:49,695
happened there. But she loves

1456
00:51:50,235 --> 00:51:52,795
blueberries. Yeah. And so, normally, if if it's

1457
00:51:52,795 --> 00:51:54,875
blueberry season and I'm buying blueberries, then I

1458
00:51:54,875 --> 00:51:56,335
am sharing them with her.

1459
00:51:57,460 --> 00:51:58,579
And we didn't get to that very much.

1460
00:51:58,579 --> 00:52:01,539
But now it's watermelon season and watermelons have

1461
00:52:01,539 --> 00:52:03,780
been a price, like, less than $6 for

1462
00:52:03,780 --> 00:52:05,700
a good sized watermelon. We've been getting one

1463
00:52:05,700 --> 00:52:06,840
almost every week.

1464
00:52:08,260 --> 00:52:10,474
Two people in this household are very happy

1465
00:52:10,474 --> 00:52:11,934
about that, me and Lola.

1466
00:52:13,434 --> 00:52:15,275
We have cut a watermelon in the fridge

1467
00:52:15,275 --> 00:52:16,954
because it's so big and like, we don't

1468
00:52:16,954 --> 00:52:18,315
really have a container that you could put

1469
00:52:18,315 --> 00:52:20,635
a lid on that's big enough. Yeah. So

1470
00:52:20,635 --> 00:52:22,875
we keep it open and, until it gets

1471
00:52:22,875 --> 00:52:23,994
down to a certain point, then we could

1472
00:52:23,994 --> 00:52:25,590
put it in a in something to keep

1473
00:52:25,590 --> 00:52:26,329
it fresh.

1474
00:52:26,710 --> 00:52:28,230
And I'll just walk to the fridge, open

1475
00:52:28,230 --> 00:52:30,309
it up, grab a hunk of watermelon, walk

1476
00:52:30,309 --> 00:52:30,809
away.

1477
00:52:31,110 --> 00:52:33,430
Oh, I'm a little thirsty. Walk back to

1478
00:52:33,430 --> 00:52:34,890
the fridge, grab watermelon.

1479
00:52:36,070 --> 00:52:38,150
Oh, I could I wouldn't because I think

1480
00:52:38,150 --> 00:52:39,344
I would probably burst

1481
00:52:39,824 --> 00:52:42,144
with that much water. But sometimes I'm like,

1482
00:52:42,144 --> 00:52:43,824
I could eat a whole ass watermelon. I

1483
00:52:43,824 --> 00:52:45,344
wouldn't wanna do anything else for the rest

1484
00:52:45,344 --> 00:52:46,625
of the fucking day till I get to

1485
00:52:46,625 --> 00:52:47,284
eat. There is

1486
00:52:47,824 --> 00:52:50,885
that. Yeah. Woah. Oh, god. Watermelon's so good.

1487
00:52:51,585 --> 00:52:52,324
So good.

1488
00:52:54,059 --> 00:52:55,900
Mister Spock asks if you are not a

1489
00:52:55,900 --> 00:52:58,380
watermelon I I am. I am. I I

1490
00:52:58,380 --> 00:52:59,599
do enjoy It's not obsessively,

1491
00:52:59,900 --> 00:53:00,960
like, me and Lola.

1492
00:53:01,340 --> 00:53:02,940
No. No. Not like those two, but I

1493
00:53:02,940 --> 00:53:04,320
do enjoy me a good watermelon.

1494
00:53:05,099 --> 00:53:07,599
This is how nonchalant he is about watermelon.

1495
00:53:07,660 --> 00:53:09,340
We have this massive watermelon. I put it

1496
00:53:09,340 --> 00:53:11,474
in a big old bowl, and Lola was

1497
00:53:11,474 --> 00:53:13,234
getting some, and I was eating every day.

1498
00:53:13,234 --> 00:53:15,714
I was having watermelon with breakfast and or

1499
00:53:15,714 --> 00:53:16,214
lunch.

1500
00:53:16,674 --> 00:53:17,574
And I was like,

1501
00:53:17,875 --> 00:53:20,914
holy crap. JB has not really touched this.

1502
00:53:20,914 --> 00:53:22,594
So then I go and I put the

1503
00:53:22,594 --> 00:53:24,369
rest of the it's falling down enough. I

1504
00:53:24,369 --> 00:53:26,369
can put the watermelon in a container. I'm

1505
00:53:26,369 --> 00:53:27,110
like, hey,

1506
00:53:27,570 --> 00:53:30,050
you haven't eaten any, so I've stopped eating

1507
00:53:30,050 --> 00:53:32,210
the watermelon so you can have some. I

1508
00:53:32,210 --> 00:53:33,329
still don't think you ate any of that.

1509
00:53:33,329 --> 00:53:35,590
No. I didn't. I didn't. It's ambivalent

1510
00:53:35,969 --> 00:53:36,375
watermelon.

1511
00:53:36,855 --> 00:53:39,201
That's the problem. Part of the problem at

1512
00:53:39,201 --> 00:53:40,934
that time too, we had too many snacks

1513
00:53:40,934 --> 00:53:42,875
around the house. Oh, my lord.

1514
00:53:43,175 --> 00:53:44,155
Yeah. Yeah.

1515
00:53:45,014 --> 00:53:47,494
This this is a first world problem and

1516
00:53:47,494 --> 00:53:49,815
this is a problem of privilege. I recognize

1517
00:53:49,815 --> 00:53:51,160
that because I have been in positions where

1518
00:53:51,160 --> 00:53:52,139
I was like, am I gonna be able

1519
00:53:52,139 --> 00:53:54,059
to go grocery shopping this week? But when

1520
00:53:54,059 --> 00:53:56,380
the refrigerator has too much shit in it,

1521
00:53:56,380 --> 00:53:56,960
that is

1522
00:53:57,420 --> 00:53:59,420
that is not stressful, like, when you don't

1523
00:53:59,420 --> 00:54:01,500
have enough. I'm not gonna minimize that. But

1524
00:54:01,500 --> 00:54:03,894
that's its own kind of stress, like, what

1525
00:54:03,894 --> 00:54:05,494
do I eat first and can I get

1526
00:54:05,494 --> 00:54:07,434
into my fridge and what's gonna fall out?

1527
00:54:07,494 --> 00:54:09,994
And I the problem is is that sounds

1528
00:54:10,535 --> 00:54:11,755
so, like,

1529
00:54:12,055 --> 00:54:15,015
oh, gross privilege. Yeah. But I am also

1530
00:54:15,015 --> 00:54:17,095
because I have had those moments where there

1531
00:54:17,095 --> 00:54:19,440
was not necessarily enough. I'm an over buyer.

1532
00:54:19,519 --> 00:54:21,359
I want my fridge and freezer to be

1533
00:54:21,359 --> 00:54:22,900
stocked when it can be,

1534
00:54:23,280 --> 00:54:25,839
but it is But what what was nice

1535
00:54:25,839 --> 00:54:26,639
too was that,

1536
00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:29,119
part of that was we had so many

1537
00:54:29,119 --> 00:54:29,619
leftovers

1538
00:54:30,079 --> 00:54:32,559
in the freeze in the fridge. We, we

1539
00:54:32,559 --> 00:54:34,480
ate for two days on leftovers, didn't have

1540
00:54:34,480 --> 00:54:35,059
to cook.

1541
00:54:35,375 --> 00:54:36,194
That was delightful.

1542
00:54:36,734 --> 00:54:37,635
That was delightful.

1543
00:54:38,815 --> 00:54:39,315
I,

1544
00:54:40,174 --> 00:54:42,734
my whole childhood, there were always leftovers. That's

1545
00:54:42,734 --> 00:54:45,454
what you had for a a meal later

1546
00:54:45,454 --> 00:54:46,974
on or if it was summer, that's what

1547
00:54:46,974 --> 00:54:48,894
was lunch the next day, whatever whatever. Leftovers

1548
00:54:48,894 --> 00:54:50,494
are part of my life. And I was

1549
00:54:50,494 --> 00:54:53,079
kind of a probably a typical kid. I

1550
00:54:53,079 --> 00:54:54,539
hated having have leftovers.

1551
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:56,619
And so there

1552
00:54:57,000 --> 00:54:59,420
some I guess from my, like, early twenties,

1553
00:55:00,920 --> 00:55:02,860
probably to mid thirties truly,

1554
00:55:03,474 --> 00:55:05,074
I cooked in such a way, we ate

1555
00:55:05,074 --> 00:55:06,675
in such a way, there was hardly ever

1556
00:55:06,675 --> 00:55:09,074
leftovers, and I was grateful because I hated

1557
00:55:09,074 --> 00:55:09,894
eating leftovers.

1558
00:55:11,795 --> 00:55:14,755
And then by the time the children started

1559
00:55:14,755 --> 00:55:17,234
being bigger than we were, taller anyway, I

1560
00:55:17,234 --> 00:55:19,210
was like, oh, we we can't

1561
00:55:19,589 --> 00:55:20,569
feed them

1562
00:55:21,909 --> 00:55:23,670
in the same way. Like, we have to

1563
00:55:23,670 --> 00:55:25,589
we have to cook in bulk, not just

1564
00:55:25,589 --> 00:55:26,710
buy in bulk. We have to cook in

1565
00:55:26,710 --> 00:55:28,949
bulk. So I started having leftovers again, and

1566
00:55:28,949 --> 00:55:30,569
then I was, like, reminded

1567
00:55:31,295 --> 00:55:33,375
or I learned or I don't know, but

1568
00:55:33,375 --> 00:55:36,414
my parents knew most most adults know. The

1569
00:55:36,414 --> 00:55:39,235
beauty of having leftovers because that's less food

1570
00:55:39,375 --> 00:55:41,775
you have to cook and buy. We've we

1571
00:55:41,775 --> 00:55:43,295
are at a point now one day a

1572
00:55:43,295 --> 00:55:45,695
week is always left overnight Mhmm. Because we

1573
00:55:45,695 --> 00:55:47,849
have just enough leftovers. But sometimes,

1574
00:55:48,550 --> 00:55:49,929
we have too many leftovers.

1575
00:55:52,550 --> 00:55:54,570
And am I a person who will stretch,

1576
00:55:56,710 --> 00:55:58,630
how much time you should keep something and

1577
00:55:58,630 --> 00:56:00,644
try to keep eating on it. Uh-huh. Because

1578
00:56:00,644 --> 00:56:01,844
I know what it I know what it

1579
00:56:01,844 --> 00:56:03,765
is to have a slightly empty fridge. Like,

1580
00:56:03,765 --> 00:56:05,545
it's I get it. I I know.

1581
00:56:06,164 --> 00:56:06,664
But,

1582
00:56:07,525 --> 00:56:10,405
yeah, they're I yeah. We've probably I've probably

1583
00:56:10,405 --> 00:56:11,765
kept things for too long because I was

1584
00:56:11,765 --> 00:56:13,204
like, oh, it's a waste if I throw

1585
00:56:13,204 --> 00:56:13,864
it away.

1586
00:56:15,409 --> 00:56:16,630
Oh, we shouldn't do that.

1587
00:56:17,170 --> 00:56:17,670
But,

1588
00:56:18,690 --> 00:56:20,869
you know, Kim says we should trade leftovers.

1589
00:56:21,009 --> 00:56:23,250
Not gonna lie. Somebody else's leftovers always look

1590
00:56:23,250 --> 00:56:25,250
way better than your own leftovers. Be interesting.

1591
00:56:25,250 --> 00:56:27,344
You know, a big like a a Like

1592
00:56:27,425 --> 00:56:30,005
Like a swap meat for leftovers? Mhmm. Just,

1593
00:56:30,065 --> 00:56:32,465
you know Yeah. That's kind of the first

1594
00:56:32,465 --> 00:56:33,045
of all,

1595
00:56:33,505 --> 00:56:35,045
some things do taste better

1596
00:56:35,744 --> 00:56:38,484
the second day or later. Yeah. Chili, spaghetti

1597
00:56:38,625 --> 00:56:40,945
sauce, like, things that just taste better the

1598
00:56:40,945 --> 00:56:42,890
longer they can kind of simmer and cook

1599
00:56:42,890 --> 00:56:44,750
anyway. They get happy. Right.

1600
00:56:45,210 --> 00:56:46,989
Some things do not

1601
00:56:47,289 --> 00:56:49,930
taste as good. No. And sometimes just down

1602
00:56:50,090 --> 00:56:52,030
there were years I couldn't eat leftover

1603
00:56:52,329 --> 00:56:54,329
chicken. If it had to be reheated in

1604
00:56:54,329 --> 00:56:56,730
the microwave, had such a funky taste to

1605
00:56:56,730 --> 00:56:58,304
me, I could not eat it, would not

1606
00:56:58,304 --> 00:57:01,344
eat it. Now I found tricks to avoid

1607
00:57:01,344 --> 00:57:01,844
that,

1608
00:57:02,224 --> 00:57:03,204
both the rubber,

1609
00:57:03,905 --> 00:57:07,425
texture of microwaved reheated chicken Mhmm. And the

1610
00:57:07,425 --> 00:57:10,965
flavor, sauce or butter. Something that will override

1611
00:57:11,025 --> 00:57:13,449
the there's a flavor to reheated chicken. I

1612
00:57:13,449 --> 00:57:13,949
just

1613
00:57:15,210 --> 00:57:17,849
but do I cook like I'm feeding a

1614
00:57:17,849 --> 00:57:20,590
football team? Anytime I'm cooking something with chicken

1615
00:57:20,809 --> 00:57:21,550
and rice

1616
00:57:21,929 --> 00:57:24,170
or something and potato. Yes. And then I

1617
00:57:24,170 --> 00:57:25,309
don't wanna eat it

1618
00:57:26,675 --> 00:57:27,175
because

1619
00:57:27,795 --> 00:57:29,414
I don't really like leftover chicken.

1620
00:57:30,594 --> 00:57:33,074
I don't meal prep chicken by cooking it

1621
00:57:33,074 --> 00:57:34,994
if the plan is to have to reheat

1622
00:57:34,994 --> 00:57:36,755
it. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. If I can if

1623
00:57:36,755 --> 00:57:38,514
it's like grilled chicken, I'm gonna eat cold

1624
00:57:38,514 --> 00:57:40,054
and a cold salad. That's fine.

1625
00:57:40,500 --> 00:57:41,559
But if

1626
00:57:42,099 --> 00:57:43,940
I'm plan to reheat the chicken later, I

1627
00:57:43,940 --> 00:57:45,860
cannot cook it. It tastes Yeah. It tastes

1628
00:57:45,860 --> 00:57:47,480
so bad. Even in

1629
00:57:47,940 --> 00:57:49,800
an air fryer, it still tastes funky.

1630
00:57:50,420 --> 00:57:52,420
Don't like it. And she said lasagna is

1631
00:57:52,420 --> 00:57:55,320
a great leftover. It is. Indeed it is.

1632
00:57:56,925 --> 00:57:58,765
Indeed it is. Was it you asked me

1633
00:57:58,765 --> 00:58:00,445
to make you lasagna or I offered to

1634
00:58:00,445 --> 00:58:01,965
make you lasagna that was, like

1635
00:58:03,644 --> 00:58:05,885
It was for some reason. Last year? No.

1636
00:58:05,885 --> 00:58:06,525
It feels like something

1637
00:58:07,085 --> 00:58:07,585
recent.

1638
00:58:07,965 --> 00:58:10,125
What was it? It was special for you.

1639
00:58:10,125 --> 00:58:10,625
Mhmm.

1640
00:58:11,239 --> 00:58:12,679
What the fuck was it? Because it was

1641
00:58:12,679 --> 00:58:14,039
your special day, and I was like, I'll

1642
00:58:14,039 --> 00:58:16,359
cook for you. What would you like? Fuck

1643
00:58:16,359 --> 00:58:18,699
it. I don't I made lasagna, though. You

1644
00:58:19,000 --> 00:58:19,500
did.

1645
00:58:20,280 --> 00:58:22,139
Mhmm. And it was damn good.

1646
00:58:23,000 --> 00:58:24,199
You know what it was? I think we

1647
00:58:24,199 --> 00:58:26,219
do this this is another thing we do.

1648
00:58:26,804 --> 00:58:28,244
Not as often as we used to, but

1649
00:58:28,244 --> 00:58:30,344
for a while, we did it semi regularly.

1650
00:58:30,405 --> 00:58:32,964
We do at home date nights. Mhmm. Mhmm.

1651
00:58:32,964 --> 00:58:33,864
And it wasn't

1652
00:58:34,405 --> 00:58:36,085
meant to be kinky. It was just meant

1653
00:58:36,085 --> 00:58:36,744
to, like,

1654
00:58:37,045 --> 00:58:38,425
have a special meal

1655
00:58:39,309 --> 00:58:40,510
and have it just be the two of

1656
00:58:40,510 --> 00:58:42,130
us, no child at a table.

1657
00:58:43,230 --> 00:58:45,309
The youngest loves when we do those special

1658
00:58:45,309 --> 00:58:48,190
date nights because I'm not cooking a separate

1659
00:58:48,190 --> 00:58:50,190
meal while cooking some special thing we would

1660
00:58:50,190 --> 00:58:51,869
not normally eat. They usually wind up with

1661
00:58:51,869 --> 00:58:53,655
McDonald's or something like that. I'm like, here

1662
00:58:53,894 --> 00:58:54,635
is your,

1663
00:58:55,094 --> 00:58:55,994
chicken nuggies

1664
00:58:56,534 --> 00:58:58,775
and your Doctor Pepper that's, like, in a

1665
00:58:58,775 --> 00:59:00,954
bucket or something. Yeah. Have a good night.

1666
00:59:01,574 --> 00:59:03,494
They're in heaven, and then we get to

1667
00:59:03,494 --> 00:59:04,934
sit down and have a food that I

1668
00:59:04,934 --> 00:59:07,170
could not even put on the table for

1669
00:59:07,170 --> 00:59:07,670
that

1670
00:59:08,050 --> 00:59:08,550
child

1671
00:59:09,889 --> 00:59:10,210
to eat. So

1672
00:59:11,170 --> 00:59:12,849
That is true. Yeah. We haven't done that

1673
00:59:12,849 --> 00:59:14,309
in a hot minute. I think the lasagna

1674
00:59:14,369 --> 00:59:15,409
might have been a day.

1675
00:59:15,889 --> 00:59:17,730
Been. Might have been. Anyway, yeah, there are

1676
00:59:17,730 --> 00:59:20,210
certain things I I will I'm happy to

1677
00:59:20,210 --> 00:59:21,925
eat the left overs on. Pastas.

1678
00:59:22,304 --> 00:59:22,804
Mhmm.

1679
00:59:25,664 --> 00:59:26,724
Chili. Yeah.

1680
00:59:28,545 --> 00:59:31,025
There was something else because every time mashed

1681
00:59:31,025 --> 00:59:31,525
potatoes.

1682
00:59:31,985 --> 00:59:34,820
Left left I'll make too many mashed potatoes

1683
00:59:34,820 --> 00:59:36,840
just to have the leftover mashed potatoes.

1684
00:59:37,380 --> 00:59:39,539
You need some mashed potatoes now. Look. I'm

1685
00:59:39,539 --> 00:59:41,640
part potato. Okay? I

1686
00:59:42,099 --> 00:59:44,019
I have not found a way for it

1687
00:59:44,019 --> 00:59:45,444
to be cooked that I don't like yet.

1688
00:59:45,444 --> 00:59:47,764
There are ways that I won't cook because

1689
00:59:47,764 --> 00:59:49,605
they they feel too complicated or I'm afraid

1690
00:59:49,605 --> 00:59:51,605
of fucking it up. But as a kid,

1691
00:59:51,605 --> 00:59:52,085
I had,

1692
00:59:53,045 --> 00:59:54,244
I know I'm not gonna say it the

1693
00:59:54,244 --> 00:59:55,605
way it's probably supposed to be said. I'm

1694
00:59:55,605 --> 00:59:56,824
gonna say it the way

1695
00:59:57,125 --> 00:59:57,625
my,

1696
00:59:58,369 --> 01:00:00,849
country mother used to say it. Potatoes au

1697
01:00:00,849 --> 01:00:01,349
gratin,

1698
01:00:02,289 --> 01:00:04,369
twice baked potatoes. I love those, but that's

1699
01:00:04,369 --> 01:00:05,590
a lot of fucking work.

1700
01:00:06,050 --> 01:00:07,989
Of course baked potatoes, roasted potatoes.

1701
01:00:08,610 --> 01:00:11,489
There's another potato that was like always made

1702
01:00:11,489 --> 01:00:12,925
me me think of potatoes au gratin, but

1703
01:00:12,925 --> 01:00:14,605
it wasn't potatoes au gratin. It was something

1704
01:00:14,605 --> 01:00:16,224
else, but it was very potatoey.

1705
01:00:17,164 --> 01:00:19,264
With or without cheese, I can't remember.

1706
01:00:19,964 --> 01:00:22,545
I can't remember potatoes. Man, potatoes.

1707
01:00:23,005 --> 01:00:24,869
I like a good French fry. I mean,

1708
01:00:24,950 --> 01:00:26,710
shit. Look at me. I like a good

1709
01:00:26,710 --> 01:00:28,970
french fry. But no. No. No. I'll

1710
01:00:29,349 --> 01:00:31,430
I'll just take, like, a baked potato with

1711
01:00:31,430 --> 01:00:32,570
a little bit of butter

1712
01:00:33,269 --> 01:00:35,510
and, salt and pepper and we'll just be

1713
01:00:35,510 --> 01:00:38,230
fucking happy. Roasted potatoes with just, like, some

1714
01:00:38,230 --> 01:00:39,590
herbs and some olive oil on it. You

1715
01:00:39,590 --> 01:00:41,164
don't want to be fans. Oh my god.

1716
01:00:41,164 --> 01:00:42,625
I could eat my weight in potatoes,

1717
01:00:43,005 --> 01:00:44,925
which would not be difficult to do because

1718
01:00:44,925 --> 01:00:47,485
they are apparently the most satiating food that

1719
01:00:47,485 --> 01:00:50,224
we have. Fucking delicious. I am part potato.

1720
01:00:52,925 --> 01:00:53,425
So

1721
01:00:54,440 --> 01:00:55,259
now that we've

1722
01:00:56,039 --> 01:00:57,739
got me thinking about potatoes,

1723
01:01:00,519 --> 01:01:02,359
I would not oh, I would not No.

1724
01:01:02,359 --> 01:01:03,659
It's too late in the evening.

1725
01:01:03,960 --> 01:01:05,819
No. No. No. No. I'm thinking future.

1726
01:01:06,519 --> 01:01:09,179
A date night where you grill steaks

1727
01:01:09,494 --> 01:01:12,454
and I spend a million years making twice

1728
01:01:12,454 --> 01:01:14,454
baked potatoes. Did we have this conversation? Have

1729
01:01:14,454 --> 01:01:15,734
you ever had a twice baked potato? I

1730
01:01:15,734 --> 01:01:16,394
have not.

1731
01:01:17,174 --> 01:01:19,494
I have not. Oh my god. I I

1732
01:01:19,494 --> 01:01:21,275
even had to ask you what it is.

1733
01:01:21,414 --> 01:01:23,574
Okay. So if you don't know, I here's

1734
01:01:23,574 --> 01:01:24,714
the thing. My dad,

1735
01:01:25,190 --> 01:01:26,470
I don't know if he loved to cook,

1736
01:01:26,470 --> 01:01:27,630
but there was a point in life he

1737
01:01:27,670 --> 01:01:28,789
there was no choice if we were gonna

1738
01:01:28,789 --> 01:01:30,070
eat. He had to cook, and he just

1739
01:01:30,070 --> 01:01:32,630
kinda went all out. And so he made

1740
01:01:32,630 --> 01:01:34,570
all kinds of stuff. Twice baked potatoes

1741
01:01:34,869 --> 01:01:36,869
was semi regular in our house. If you

1742
01:01:36,869 --> 01:01:38,809
don't know what a twice baked potato is,

1743
01:01:39,164 --> 01:01:41,085
oh, my god. Let me bring you into

1744
01:01:41,085 --> 01:01:43,405
the fold. You bake a potato. Bake the

1745
01:01:43,405 --> 01:01:45,644
potato. However you bake the potato. Cut kind

1746
01:01:45,644 --> 01:01:48,045
of part of the top off. Scoop out

1747
01:01:48,045 --> 01:01:50,364
the guts. You want it fully cooked. Scoop

1748
01:01:50,364 --> 01:01:52,304
out the potato. Leave a shell.

1749
01:01:52,605 --> 01:01:54,659
You were then gonna take that transfer scooped

1750
01:01:54,659 --> 01:01:56,500
out potato and you can mix it with

1751
01:01:56,500 --> 01:01:57,800
whatever you want. But typically,

1752
01:01:58,179 --> 01:02:00,739
we would do butter and cheese and maybe

1753
01:02:00,739 --> 01:02:02,420
like a sour cream or a milk or

1754
01:02:02,420 --> 01:02:04,519
a cream to like make it creamier,

1755
01:02:05,539 --> 01:02:07,800
scallions, bacon, whatever, whatever, whatever.

1756
01:02:08,945 --> 01:02:10,945
Just that all up and then you put

1757
01:02:10,945 --> 01:02:11,844
that mixture

1758
01:02:12,545 --> 01:02:14,085
back in the potato.

1759
01:02:14,704 --> 01:02:16,625
Because you've got that little hollowed out shell

1760
01:02:16,625 --> 01:02:17,445
of a potato

1761
01:02:17,744 --> 01:02:19,985
probably topped with cheese. Pop it back in

1762
01:02:19,985 --> 01:02:21,807
the, oven. I think my my dad would

1763
01:02:21,807 --> 01:02:23,722
just put it under the broiler so I

1764
01:02:23,722 --> 01:02:25,636
get it warm again. Like you didn't have

1765
01:02:25,636 --> 01:02:27,550
to recook it. I guess you could if

1766
01:02:27,550 --> 01:02:29,465
you wanted to. You didn't have to. And

1767
01:02:29,465 --> 01:02:31,619
then it was like this decadent because then,

1768
01:02:31,619 --> 01:02:33,533
like, I love potato skin. I'm, I'm gonna

1769
01:02:33,533 --> 01:02:35,447
eat that outside part. And that would be

1770
01:02:35,447 --> 01:02:37,304
a little extra crispier. And then you get

1771
01:02:37,605 --> 01:02:38,744
this gooey,

1772
01:02:39,125 --> 01:02:39,625
cheesy

1773
01:02:40,324 --> 01:02:43,684
mashed potato situation on the ends. Oh, my

1774
01:02:43,684 --> 01:02:46,664
my mouth is watering. My mouth is watering.

1775
01:02:47,045 --> 01:02:47,545
Mhmm.

1776
01:02:48,005 --> 01:02:50,019
My mouth is watering. Kim says recook for

1777
01:02:50,019 --> 01:02:52,039
about twenty minutes. There we go.

1778
01:02:52,339 --> 01:02:52,839
Mhmm.

1779
01:02:53,619 --> 01:02:55,460
Yeah. But my dad would do that, like,

1780
01:02:55,460 --> 01:02:57,880
semi regularly. Like, it'd be a Tuesday.

1781
01:02:58,739 --> 01:02:59,880
He would have made, like,

1782
01:03:00,900 --> 01:03:01,960
some, like, maybe,

1783
01:03:02,339 --> 01:03:04,420
some beef thing, some chicken thing, some whatever

1784
01:03:04,420 --> 01:03:06,844
thing. And there'd be twice baked potatoes. Oh

1785
01:03:06,844 --> 01:03:09,344
my god. I already ate dinner and I'm

1786
01:03:10,605 --> 01:03:13,005
Oh, the thought of twice baked potato. Holy

1787
01:03:13,005 --> 01:03:13,505
shit.

1788
01:03:14,364 --> 01:03:15,824
Oh, mouth is watering now.

1789
01:03:16,204 --> 01:03:17,610
I don't know how I could ever become

1790
01:03:20,809 --> 01:03:22,410
Don't see it. I don't think it's gonna

1791
01:03:22,410 --> 01:03:22,910
happen.

1792
01:03:24,970 --> 01:03:27,470
Yeah. Oh my god. So fucking good. Mhmm.

1793
01:03:28,250 --> 01:03:31,130
So fucking good. And, my finger is better.

1794
01:03:31,130 --> 01:03:32,784
Yeah. Your bandage is off. Oh, I don't

1795
01:03:32,784 --> 01:03:34,405
wanna look at the tip of it though.

1796
01:03:34,465 --> 01:03:36,144
It's a little better. It's a little scabby

1797
01:03:36,144 --> 01:03:36,644
looking.

1798
01:03:37,425 --> 01:03:39,605
Only, covered up now when I'm working.

1799
01:03:40,945 --> 01:03:41,445
Fair.

1800
01:03:45,059 --> 01:03:47,880
Excuse me. Did you hit the vodka before

1801
01:03:47,940 --> 01:03:49,559
we started? Not intentionally.

1802
01:03:50,660 --> 01:03:52,680
Might have fallen, you know, on the cabinet

1803
01:03:52,700 --> 01:03:55,539
and or some hit Oh, the vodka fell

1804
01:03:55,539 --> 01:03:58,125
out of the cabinet, fell open, dripped into

1805
01:03:58,125 --> 01:03:59,985
your waiting open mouth underneath.

1806
01:04:00,364 --> 01:04:02,784
Oh, no. How did that happen? Happened.

1807
01:04:08,045 --> 01:04:09,184
Oh my god.

1808
01:04:10,519 --> 01:04:12,280
Yeah. I'm I'm here for that. Oh, I

1809
01:04:12,280 --> 01:04:14,119
did speaking of this is it's not even

1810
01:04:14,119 --> 01:04:16,039
a Friday night livestream, and here we are

1811
01:04:16,199 --> 01:04:18,359
Yeah. Back on our our food and drink

1812
01:04:18,359 --> 01:04:20,920
stuff. I told JB recently that I didn't

1813
01:04:20,920 --> 01:04:22,380
know how we could do it,

1814
01:04:22,679 --> 01:04:24,539
but we needed to. At home,

1815
01:04:25,094 --> 01:04:27,094
out. At probably at home, cheaper and I

1816
01:04:27,094 --> 01:04:28,375
don't have to worry about trying to get

1817
01:04:28,375 --> 01:04:29,514
home. I am

1818
01:04:29,974 --> 01:04:30,474
craving

1819
01:04:31,014 --> 01:04:33,414
a margarita. I don't drink I don't drink

1820
01:04:33,414 --> 01:04:34,155
very often.

1821
01:04:34,454 --> 01:04:35,894
I there was a time I think I

1822
01:04:35,894 --> 01:04:38,489
drink margaritas, like, two, maybe three times a

1823
01:04:38,570 --> 01:04:40,110
year tops, if that.

1824
01:04:40,489 --> 01:04:41,309
It's been

1825
01:04:42,969 --> 01:04:44,570
five or six years since I had a

1826
01:04:44,570 --> 01:04:46,889
margarita. Last time we went, we were in

1827
01:04:46,889 --> 01:04:47,389
Mississippi.

1828
01:04:47,690 --> 01:04:48,190
Yeah.

1829
01:04:48,489 --> 01:04:48,809
And,

1830
01:04:49,369 --> 01:04:51,150
my mouth was watering

1831
01:04:51,449 --> 01:04:53,924
for it. No. I mean, yeah. The tequila's

1832
01:04:54,545 --> 01:04:56,545
nice. The feeling is nice. But there's that,

1833
01:04:56,545 --> 01:04:59,344
like, sourness from the margarita. I don't wanna

1834
01:04:59,344 --> 01:05:01,585
drink just margarita mix, Yoda. I do want

1835
01:05:01,585 --> 01:05:03,984
the tequila in it. I also want the

1836
01:05:03,984 --> 01:05:07,284
chips and queso that frequently comes with margarita.

1837
01:05:09,199 --> 01:05:11,280
Nope. Not gonna be a muscle mommy. No.

1838
01:05:11,280 --> 01:05:12,980
I'm gonna be soft and squidgy.

1839
01:05:13,440 --> 01:05:15,139
Thank God you like me like that.

1840
01:05:17,679 --> 01:05:18,719
I know how to I've got my moments

1841
01:05:18,719 --> 01:05:20,559
too, so I can't talk, you know? I

1842
01:05:20,559 --> 01:05:22,319
barely I think I could have the discipline

1843
01:05:22,319 --> 01:05:24,164
to, like, work out specifically for, like I

1844
01:05:24,164 --> 01:05:25,525
need to do strength training. That's a very

1845
01:05:25,525 --> 01:05:27,605
healthy thing apparently, supposedly at my age, blah

1846
01:05:27,605 --> 01:05:28,344
blah blah blah.

1847
01:05:28,644 --> 01:05:29,704
But the discipline

1848
01:05:30,085 --> 01:05:31,765
to eat in such a way that the

1849
01:05:31,765 --> 01:05:34,164
muscles are visible, I I don't know. I

1850
01:05:34,164 --> 01:05:35,844
don't think I got it. I don't think

1851
01:05:35,844 --> 01:05:38,184
I got it. There's too many foods.

1852
01:05:38,940 --> 01:05:39,920
Oh, guacamole.

1853
01:05:40,300 --> 01:05:42,239
Yes, mister Spock. Yeah.

1854
01:05:42,940 --> 01:05:43,440
Queso,

1855
01:05:43,820 --> 01:05:46,859
guac. Oh, yeah. And if the salsa that

1856
01:05:46,859 --> 01:05:49,179
they is provided is really good, oh, yeah.

1857
01:05:49,179 --> 01:05:50,239
A good salsa.

1858
01:05:50,859 --> 01:05:52,934
But I'm a lightweight. It can't be too

1859
01:05:52,934 --> 01:05:55,815
spicy. I can't. Not not a lot of

1860
01:05:55,815 --> 01:05:57,114
jalapeno in that.

1861
01:05:58,695 --> 01:06:00,474
That salsa, I can't do it.

1862
01:06:01,015 --> 01:06:01,994
I can't do it.

1863
01:06:03,575 --> 01:06:05,735
As the children are so fond of pointing

1864
01:06:05,735 --> 01:06:08,340
out, oh my god, mom. You're so white.

1865
01:06:08,480 --> 01:06:10,739
Yes. I am. I guess. Whatever.

1866
01:06:13,119 --> 01:06:13,619
Yeah.

1867
01:06:14,239 --> 01:06:15,679
When I was a kid, I would have

1868
01:06:15,679 --> 01:06:19,039
told you onions were spicy. That's that's who

1869
01:06:19,039 --> 01:06:22,144
I I am slash was. Black pepper was

1870
01:06:22,144 --> 01:06:22,965
too spicy.

1871
01:06:24,465 --> 01:06:24,905
So

1872
01:06:25,344 --> 01:06:25,844
okay.

1873
01:06:26,784 --> 01:06:29,105
The camera went out, and you had already

1874
01:06:29,105 --> 01:06:30,804
clicked the other thing. So yeah.

1875
01:06:32,945 --> 01:06:35,344
This live streaming video is a hot mess

1876
01:06:35,344 --> 01:06:35,844
express.

1877
01:06:37,730 --> 01:06:38,230
Yep.

1878
01:06:38,929 --> 01:06:40,469
Yeah. It is. Yeah.

1879
01:06:41,489 --> 01:06:43,989
Kitty Roasters, they're having spaghetti tonight. We're having

1880
01:06:44,769 --> 01:06:47,090
We're having that tomorrow. Yeah. It's not spaghetti.

1881
01:06:47,170 --> 01:06:48,469
Ten a. Yeah. Mhmm.

1882
01:06:48,894 --> 01:06:49,394
Mhmm.

1883
01:06:52,095 --> 01:06:54,175
So now that we're having even more tech

1884
01:06:54,175 --> 01:06:56,255
issues that just they're coming left, right, and

1885
01:06:56,255 --> 01:06:58,414
center Mhmm. I guess that means it's time

1886
01:06:58,414 --> 01:06:59,855
to go. Yeah. Now that,

1887
01:07:00,494 --> 01:07:01,875
you're more stressed and

1888
01:07:02,280 --> 01:07:03,880
I am craving food we don't have in

1889
01:07:03,880 --> 01:07:04,619
this house.

1890
01:07:05,239 --> 01:07:07,559
Okay. Alright. I guess we'll go. So thank

1891
01:07:07,559 --> 01:07:08,699
you for joining us.

1892
01:07:09,480 --> 01:07:12,039
You've to the bitter end especially, and God

1893
01:07:12,039 --> 01:07:14,619
love you. If you are watching on YouTube,

1894
01:07:15,640 --> 01:07:16,780
you're a hero.

1895
01:07:17,315 --> 01:07:19,635
Okay. I I would roller coaster ride. I

1896
01:07:19,635 --> 01:07:21,795
wouldn't have I wouldn't have had the patience.

1897
01:07:21,795 --> 01:07:22,295
So,

1898
01:07:23,235 --> 01:07:25,155
I appreciate you if you if you made

1899
01:07:25,155 --> 01:07:25,815
it through.

1900
01:07:26,994 --> 01:07:29,235
So, yeah, we're gonna go, and hopefully next

1901
01:07:29,235 --> 01:07:31,635
week is less of a dumpster fire than

1902
01:07:31,635 --> 01:07:33,920
this week. Alright. That's all we can hope.

1903
01:07:33,980 --> 01:07:34,480
Okay.

1904
01:07:34,859 --> 01:07:35,920
Bye. Bye.