You're listening to the Loving BDSM podcast, episode
four forty four. That is so satisfying.
Kayla Lawrence here with the one, the only,
the light of my life,
the
peanut butter to my jelly Goodness. The chocolate
to my milk. Because sometimes I'm lactose intolerant,
so that won't work. The diet to my
Coke.
The ice to my Diet Coke.
Yeah. John Brownstone.
Well, okay.
Look. The this week's episode is kind of
like
I mean, I don't have a lot of
feelings. I'm I'm too much of a Scorpio
bitch, but it's got me a little bit
in my, like, you know,
squishy feelings,
this week.
We're kind of taking a first. It's a
direct request for a topic from a long
time cricket,
affectionately known as x.
He has
an actual online name. I'm not gonna try
and say it and butcher it. I'll just
let him laugh at me if if he
happens to hear this.
But I know him as x. He's ex.
He was like, hey. Please talk about this.
I was like, okay. We could do it.
We're talking about incorporating kink into special occasions
and days in your life and relationship, like
birthdays, anniversaries,
and whatever else may be special to you.
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Okay.
Bring this meeting to order. Something like that.
Podcast listeners, you have no idea.
From the time we recorded the intro and
then we we put a pause on it
to the time we're back with you It
was a rocky road. For y'all, it was
a blip.
For us, we've been on a journey, and
I'm exhausted.
Mhmm. Mhmm. And I would like somebody to
spike my caffeine free
Diet Coke with vodka.
After the show. Okay. Give you give you
incentive there. Okay?
So I've said it before. I'm gonna say
it again because I wanna make sure, you
know, give credit where credit is due. Thank
you to x Mhmm.
Who is a long time
cricket and friend of the pod and, like,
part of our Discord and very helpful with
stuff when we need help with, like, technical
stuff and just all around decent human being,
requested this topic. And,
I think I have more to say than
I thought I did. Mhmm. But I also
think that for some people,
the idea of incorporating kink into your special
occasions is gonna be like a, oh, yeah.
Of course.
And for others, I have a feeling that
there's some overthinkers among you who have probably
overthought it and,
you know,
so we don't go, like, all out crazy
with what we do to incorporate kink into
our special occasions. But, hopefully, talking this through
for anybody who this appeals to, you can,
like, incorporate maybe some new
things
into your dynamic.
Mhmm.
So I don't have any special announcements.
So I'm not gonna worry about it. We're
just gonna get right on into it. So
let's talk about like, I got a lot
of notes. You see? I see that. I
got a lot of notes. I got a
lot of notes. So the first thing that
I did not put in my notes, but
let's sort of talk about it, is what
kind of special occasions
we have
incorporated
kink into.
Basically all of them? Pretty much. I mean,
there's our our individual birthdays. Yep. Our anniversary
our wedding anniversary.
We at one point before we got very
overwhelmed, tired, and stressed from life, we used
to do,
the anniversary of when we first started talking
Yes. And the anniversary of when we got
engaged. Those two kind of follow it. We
mark it. We go, oh, happy, you know
Yeah. Blah blah blah, but we don't necessarily
do anything. Right. And, you know, the the
birthday thing that was, you know,
he said about this. That was the first
thing that that popped up in my head
because that's something we've done for quite a
while now. Since the beginning. Yeah. Mhmm. You
know,
we we have a tradition in this home.
In this power exchange. Yep.
Not only does Kayla get her birthday spankings
With one to grow on. Yeah.
She gets mine.
Yeah. On JB's birthday.
K. And,
so, you know,
I have a birthday coming up. Yeah. You
do. Mhmm. Mhmm. Yeah. You do. Getting older,
you know. I know.
60
you're turning 64.
Yeah. Yeah. Because I'm turning 46. Okay. Mhmm.
We've been together since he was in his
fifties.
50
Spanx
feels different than 60
Spanx,
especially since somebody is a sadist who draws
them out,
and they tend to to get harder to
handle. Incrementally
Right. Harder as well. And once you hit,
like, the 60 mark, I mean, unless you're
just used to that kind of thing, I
am not.
Yeah. There there have been times I've been
like, no. Why do you hate me?
So, yeah, birthday is the one that is
an immediate for us. Mhmm.
But we absolutely
incorporate kink because we are both parents. Mother's
Day and Father's Day, we are are not
necessarily see, the thing is is when you
say incorporating kink, I think most people's immediate
idea goes into scenes,
and we just incorporate when we can't do
a scene or even when we do a
scene, we incorporate more of our power exchange.
Our power exchange,
there's a word I want,
informs Mhmm. How we celebrate those special occasions.
I mean, there there was a there was
a while. We haven't done it for the
last couple years because of,
you know, financial constraints.
But, in the past too for for,
you know, we we celebrate Christmas Mhmm. And,
we
would have our,
family facing
Right. Stocking.
And we would have our kinky
Yep. Stalking that was closed doors. You know,
was only looked at,
Oh, yeah. It was private. Closed doors. We
were just in the bedroom, and I was
like, okay. Mhmm. The very first one I
still remember,
is when you got me the original magic
wand, a k a the Hitachi.
Mhmm. Old fashioned one. It plugs into the
fucking wall. Yeah.
And I was even able to get a,
An adapter. An adapter to to control the
speed.
Gigi asked in the live chat. I get
all Spanx. She gets them all. That you
know, do both of us get Spanx? No.
JV does not bottom for impact
in no,
way,
shape, or form. It's JB Bottom for impact
or anything involving pain. So I'm getting spankings
on both our special days, and JB is
getting the pleasure
of,
hearing me go, but don't you love me?
And
and how old are you?
And can't we lie about our age?
And his comes first in the year, and
he's older than me. So by the time
we get to my birthday, it's like my
ass got a break. Right. I'm like, oh,
18 less. Okay.
Mhmm.
Now, in
let's
let's talk about some of the ways you
can incorporate kink. And what I I don't
mean, like,
specifics, but, like, top top level. And the
first one, I don't wanna spend too much
time on for two reasons. One, I think
we've talked about this specifically in other places.
And two,
this is the one that not everybody will
get to be fortunate enough to do all
of the time. We haven't been for several
years,
and that is
spending money for your kink to be added
to your special day. Right? So there's,
experiences. We love to do experiences more than
physical gifts these days. We like free experiences,
but if you got a budget
right? Like, is there a kinky convention? Is
there,
a big event coming to an area you're
willing to travel to and can afford to?
Right? Do you have access to a dungeon?
Are you know, do you have friends who
do play parties?
You know, those kinds of things. And I
know in tight knit,
communities,
somebody who usually hosts a play party will
sometimes coordinate with a friend and, like, make
it a birthday party for this person or
make it a a celebration for that person
as well as just the general play party.
Toys as we talked about.
We're gonna go dark. Oh, we're gonna go
dark. Okay. Okay. Hands off. No. I was
gonna Yeah. Pull up so I could see
is what I was gonna do.
Hopefully, everybody can hear us, and I'm just
gonna keep talking to podcast folks if not.
So
lost my train of thought. Sorry, y'all. There
it goes. So we have
absolutely per like we talked about earlier, we've
purchased toys that we've talked about wanting,
and we've also sometimes had the money to
budget to pay for the stuff to try
a new kink.
Kind of a shameless plug but also lived
experience with having the kinkery
and shipping out you know toys that people
buy all the time.
We absolutely get notes on orders that say
this paddle is for my Dom's birthday.
This wax play stuff is for our anniversary.
We're gonna finally try wax play for the
first time. So it's if you've got the
money to, you know, you're already gonna splurge.
Maybe the only time you really spend for
yourself or each other is on a special
occasion.
The there's definitely no problem with them. Very
common to go, okay let's buy ourselves a
kink thing. Nobody wants a new vacuum. Nobody
needs a new, washing machine for this anniversary.
Can we buy
rope? Can we buy candles? What what can
we buy?
JB is clicking but I need my notes.
Okay.
So,
the other thing to keep in mind if
you are gonna spend money
to incorporate
kink into like a special occasion,
some I've we all know this, but I
just wanna, like, put it out there because
sometimes you know something, but that don't mean
you think about it.
We did this recently with mother's day. We
delay
the special occasion celebration
for a time that works. So if you're
gonna plan for a convention or a play
party or dungeon or a whatever experience and
you're gonna spend the money,
we the way we look at it is
we would move the celebration. Like, if it's
near our wedding anniversary, if it's near
Father's Day, that's the celebration for that. We'll
do something special on the day to mark
it but this will be our big celebration
and that way we're not trying to spend
money twice. Right?
So the money thing is kind of like
most of us know if you have access
to money you just buy gift move on.
Gifts of course can be experiences.
Let's talk about
our reality and I think a lot of
people's reality.
Also the reminder that you don't have to
spend money to like
mark an occasion. Right?
Let's talk about the stuff you can do
that's not money. This is how we do
this. Like we
it's been years since we spent money
for kink stuff on anniversary, birthday,
even Christmas. Like, we just don't spend a
lot of money in general.
So we do what we can
completely free. Mhmm. Mhmm. Yep. So the first
thing
that I've noticed that we do and if
anybody were asking me, this is what I
would recommend.
You do what works for your power exchange?
I I don't matter. If if what I
say is, like, we don't need to do
that, then don't do it. But if you
were asking me, I just wanna tell you,
we stay within our power exchange when we
are planning this. What that means
is that before I plan something for JB's
birthday or for Father's Day or what I
wanna do for him on our anniversary or
whatever, Christmas,
I go ask him. I go say, I
two questions.
What do you want
and or depending on if I have something
in mind, can I surprise you?
Sometimes I can.
Sometimes I can't. Why do I do this?
Because in our power exchange, he has ultimate
control and is the decider. So it gets
to be his decision how I handle
it. Right? If he wants to dictate everything
we do for that and that for him
is is
a gift for him and he's happy and
satisfied with it, we'll do it that way.
If he's like, oh do you have an
idea? Yes. Do you wanna surprise me? Yes.
Go for it. There I think once
you let me surprise you and then two
days, like, two or three days before neither
of us could handle it anymore. And I
was about to burst
and I said, I really wanna tell you,
but I want it to be a surprise.
And he goes, I really want you to
tell me. I was like, are you telling
me to tell you?
Is this the daddy dom speaking? Is that
what's happening? And
I think it was a few hours later
you finally went, yes. Yes. I'm telling you
to tell me. And then I, you know,
broke the surprise early.
Because for us,
you know, it doesn't need to be a
surprise to be fulfilling.
But if I have something in mind that
I wanna do
for my Dom,
I sometimes I want it to be kind
of a surprise because I'm really proud of
myself when I do something special for JB
that he did not anticipate I would do
for him, and he likes it. Right? Like,
it's it's gets me going. I really enjoy
that.
Now the way we do it in reverse
for me,
if there is something I know that I
want to have experience, do whatever whatever. I
it's like anything else in our power exchange.
I speak up. I say something. Ultimately, the
control
and the means and the whatever decisions are
left to JB. Now most recently,
and I think this will be more common
going forward from here.
JB's like, it's Mother's Day. How would you
we actually celebrated belatedly. We talked about this
a couple episodes ago. It's like, how do
you wanna celebrate? And I went, I don't
wanna make a fucking decision. I don't wanna
be asked what I want. I don't wanna
have to think about
it. Ask me questions if it involves consent
or if you are like, wait. Does she
even like like, that's fine. I was like,
but we've been together
long enough.
You know me.
You know what I like and don't like.
I don't need you to rewrite, like,
the greatest hits. I'd give me something that
you know I would love to have fun.
Like Carp Manch. I think I could have
fun with that. Well, also, you do
think about yourself in the relationship. If if
you are saying do whatever to the sadist,
just know
you did that to yourself.
That doesn't mean my safe word goes away.
It just
in that case, I knew what I wanted
was to be in that
for for us incorporating our kinks in our
part dynamic into a special occasion. I wanted
to be my most most baby girl self.
I wanted to be my most submissive self.
I wanted to be told where to go,
what to do, how to get there, when
to show up,
you know, and to just to just not
have to think. Now I I know it's
a common ish,
sort of fantasy or
feeling from a lot of submissives. I'm like,
I just wanna turn my brain off. I
just don't wanna think. And I have those
moments too. I also have control issues.
So I don't like to do that for
too long. It makes me antsy. But we've
spent
a long period where I didn't have the
luxury to turn my brain off hardly ever.
And when he asked, I was like, I
want permission to turn my brain off. Just
do whatever the fuck you you wanna do
that you know I don't hate. I'm I'm
here for it. That's how I got a
home cooked steak dinner.
And it was fucking delicious.
And I didn't have to clean up. I
didn't have to do anything. And I didn't
have to decide. I didn't have to set
the table. I didn't have to there was
no what do you want to drink? He
just he knows what I was he just
did it. Yeah.
And it was delightful. It was delightful.
So
when you're thinking about how are we gonna
incorporate kink into marking this special occasion,
To the extent that it makes sense for
your power dynamic,
work within your power dynamic. Because the last
thing you wanna do is think you've done
something great for your partner or you're planning
something great for them to find out that
they're upset that there was no communication. They
couldn't give consent. The dom is like, what
are you doing taking control? I'm not okay.
You know what I mean? Like some people
are gonna be like, I don't care. This
is a special thing. Just do whatever. I'll
be happy with it. And some some doms
are gonna be like, no. No. I want
to have some level of control over this,
even if it's just a little bit.
So that's a thing to keep in mind,
whether you're doing an experience,
buying a product, or you're doing something on
the cheap. Okay?
Now
I have a thought.
Uh-oh.
And I don't like to I don't like
to make blanket statements because nothing ever applies
to everybody
and
everything doesn't apply to nobody. You know what
I mean.
I think from my experience
and this is a pure I know there's
bias here. Somebody's gonna disagree and it's fine.
I believe
from my personal experience in trying to
create
a moment for you on a special occasion
that's your special occasion, your birthday, Father's Day,
your Christmas present, whatever whatever.
I think I have it easier,
and I think in general, service oriented kinksters
will have it easier. And here's why I
think that.
If
you're depends on how your service works and
how you provide service, and that's service tops.
It's caregiver doms who take care of. That's
kind of a form of service even if
it's within control and service subs and then
any other
words we wanna use to describe people who
are service oriented in their power exchange.
When I want to
give my
daddy something
special for
an occasion and we're not spending money,
I can do something. I can be of
service. Now I still have to make sure
it's of service he wants.
Like, all that still matters.
But I get to go, you know,
I would like to do this for you.
Right? If I already have an idea.
Mhmm.
Or I get to go, hey, what would
you like to have done for you? What
can I do for you? And the reason
I think that service oriented kinksters might have
it easier
is because
there's no running around unless you really enjoy
this thinking of some special surprise moment that's
supposed to be this like amazing scene or
it's gonna be this or it's gonna be
that. There's the to me there's less pressure.
It's what can I do for you or
can I do this? For Father's Day for
JB,
our domestic
chores are not about power exchange. They're Mhmm.
They're distributed based on what we are willing
and capable of doing as two grown ass
adults.
And we do this for each other
on our special occasions, birthdays and,
mother or father's day.
I was like, you do not have to
touch the dishes this weekend.
You do not have to do the laundry.
You're part of the laundry this weekend. Right?
I was like, anything I can do for
you that you would normally do, I will
do it. Now here's the thing. Outside of
a kink context,
that's what people who care about one another
do for each other to mark special occasions,
Of course. But just like with everything kink,
in in my opinion at least, it's about
mindset. It's about where your head is at.
It's about the headspace within which you do
this. If I'm I'm not just doing this
because I love JB and happy Father's Day.
I am doing this in a submissive mindset.
I'm like, oh, I get to be of
service
in this power exchange
to give him the kind of day he
would like to have. And that day ended
up just being
very quiet and very lazy. I wasn't even
in the house.
Because I mean, I know as a mother,
on Mother's Day, I love my children. They
can go away. I could be alone. I'm
fine with that. And JB is so much
different. Like, no. No. I don't need the
kids around to celebrate this day of parenthood.
In fact, I would like them to all
go away to celebrate this day of parenthood,
which is the ultimate irony,
if you're raising children.
So that's another thing I would say for
for folks who are like, but everything I
do is, like, basic and boring and other,
you know, non kinky people do it too.
How does it make you feel? Do you
feel
within like, you're sitting in your power exchange?
Are you in your submissive mindset? Are you
in your dominant mindset? Does it does it
give you that opportunity to to just
experience
your role
in a way that's also like, oh, we
wouldn't be doing this if it wasn't our
anniversary. If it wasn't,
you know,
my birthday, whatever whatever. Right?
So that is that's why I say I
feel like service oriented kingsters.
Just have it easier because it's like what
can I do? I would like to do
something for you. What can I do?
Whereas I know you kind of struggle. I
had to remind you. I was like, you
are my daddy dong. Mhmm. I have not
been taken care of as the baby girl
I am because we just we haven't had
the luxury of it. Right? It's not that
JB's slacking. It's not that I'm well, it's
probably as I'm a total bitch. But it's
just like that hasn't been the priority. And
I was like, you know what I really
fucking want? I wanna feel like the fucking
baby girl that I am. I wanna be
coddled. I wanna be taken care of. I
want to not be responsible for a damn
thing.
Anything that came within that umbrella
was amazing because I knew while it was
all happening,
I don't have to do this because I'm
the baby girl and that's my daddy dom
taking care of me. Like it's it's all
mind fuckery and I am here for mind
fucking ourselves.
Do would you agree with that or do
you think it's very easy
because you just kinda know what you wanna
do anyway? I mean, there are those doms
who are like, oh, I know what I
wanna do because I'm always planning or whatever.
Well, I'm yeah. I mean, to a certain
extent, you know, I I know what I
wanna do at a at a given time.
You know? I mean, like, that that weekend,
I ended up sitting on the sofa barely
moving and binge watching and or
Deadpool and Wolverine and And having a great
old time. I meant in reverse. Like, when
you are like, like, I I did what
I could to give you that space because
that was a service. Right.
When you're doing that for me in reverse,
you're a caregiver, Don, but you're a sadist
before anything else. Let's let's be real. If
he can be kind of mean and evil
about something while having control
Mhmm. It's mostly a happy camper. So do
you find it when it's my turn to
go this way? When to go no. It's
not that difficult because I I know you
well enough. We've been together
long enough that I know what you Mhmm.
What you do. Mhmm.
So yeah. No. It's not that difficult.
Was I out of practice over the last
few years? Absolutely.
Absolutely.
But,
you know, it's like anything else. It's not
stretch the muscle and, you know, it comes
back. Did you enjoy it with it coming
back like that with you being the one
to decide everything? You didn't have to ask
me what I wanted. Like, you could have
and I said that because I didn't want
him to be overwhelmed
either. Like, I want that this
I wasn't trying to make my special occasion
a major chore and headache for him. I
just
I just
I wanted I didn't wanna think. Were you
feeling your dom self in that moment while
you're doing all is it were you In
in a way, yeah.
Yeah. Me because even though I was doing
things for you, it was because of me
that, you know Right. Every you decided everything.
Yeah. I knew nothing.
Nothing.
Quite frankly, knew so little, forgot this was
the day we were celebrating.
But I didn't have to do any of
the stuff I was supposed to have to
do that I would also got all taken
away from me. And I should've known, like,
oh, I'm the laundry is already folded, and
it's not waiting for four days for me
to fold it. Oh, it's a special
occasion.
Nope. It was when he pulled out the
the rib eyes from Aldi.
I was like,
oh, yeah.
This is my special day. And I did.
And, you know, that's the nice thing in
that moment. Once I once I connected the
dots, I was like, oh, yeah. This is
our belated Mother's Day. I did. I felt
like there's a a soft squishy part of
me as a baby girl that gets, like,
all,
you know? And I did get that feeling.
And that
weird
not weirdly. I don't think anybody would think
it's weird because I don't get to feel
that way as often as I would like
in
in recent years, not very often at all.
And there went our camera again.
Because I don't get that, I forget that
I need it.
But then when I get it again,
I'm like, oh my god. This feels so
good. I now want more of it.
But
and this is very specific to our dynamic.
I cannot say that it'll do this for
anybody else's dynamic.
Once I get to kinda swim in those
baby girl feels and JB gets to swim
in the daddy dom feels,
when because we want to feel it again,
we start
doing things and responding and thinking along those
lines. So then after that special occasion has
been marked and and after, you know, we're,
am I trying to say?
After we've had that moment and we've done
our kink thing,
there's still kind of a a remnant left
over where we are getting back into that
mindset,
you know, a little bit more frequently, a
little bit more easily
and it doesn't last forever,
you know, because
regular life
crops back up every time and we'll screw
it all up. But it's never just the
single occasion. It's never just the one special
day where we get to feel that way.
Like, you know, Father's Day was a Sunday
and even Monday, I was, like, a softer
version of myself.
And JB was definitely a more, like,
I'm gonna make some decisions
side of himself, you know, and and taking
charge instead of waiting for me to go,
hey. What do you want? Let me give
you the decisions
to make. Right?
So, yeah, there's a benefit
to that.
I'm gonna try and find my notes.
Oh, sorry. It's okay. It's okay. Nothing is
working. So No. It's a yeah. Podcast listeners,
you're good. You're good. Yeah.
Okay.
Now
let's talk about some ways that we have,
not just the birthday spanking. So I guess
we have been doing that, but let's talk
about some ways somebody could maybe or some
Mhmm. Reasons. Well, I don't know. I don't
know where to to take it because I
want to offer folks a way to think
about it that's not just this is what
Kayla and JB do. That's no fun. It's
not enough.
But I do think people overthink it and
they think they have to plan some big
grand thing. And if you have the means,
opportunity, time, and money to do that, go
for it. Do it. There there's nothing wrong
with that. We it's been several years now.
I can't remember what the occasion was,
but hell yeah. I got carted off to
the dungeon, strapped to the Saint Andrew's Cross
and flogged for as long as we were
allowed to Yeah. To take up that space
and that and then went was taken to
breakfast. And that was an amazing day. Had
a great
time.
But also
knowing that I, you know,
don't have to make decisions
that I would normally make. Right? Like, that's
the
the relief of it. Like, there
even when you have power exchange, everybody's making
decisions throughout the day to get through the
day.
When I could as
not just the service missive who does stuff
for JB, but the baby girl who wants
to desperately be taken care of and to
turn her brain off and just Mhmm.
Swim in whatever my baby girl feels are.
Once I realized I could have that and
I was having that, oh my god. I
just
I relaxed. It felt good. Mhmm. Do you
get
an in reverse kind of feel when I'm
over here being, like, even more service oriented
than usual?
And or do you feel it more on,
like, birthday spanking
days? Or when do you feel it as
a dom?
On the birthday spanking.
Your evil laugh is just there the whole
fucking time. Believe it or not the whole
time. There there are times,
you know, like, believe me, I I appreciate
it. You know, like for father's day, I
didn't have to touch laundry, I didn't have
to touch dishes, nothing, none of that. It
was fantastic.
But then there are times
I'm sitting there and I'm thinking,
oh my gosh. She's doing all this work.
I feel bad. That's what I do. Yeah.
Yeah. And I feel the same way when
you're doing stuff for me on my special
occasion. I don't I'm not capable of just
being nothing but baby girl for more than
about five minutes at a time.
You know, it's it's just
the being an adult in a in the
world that we live in. Like, there's just
always so much to do.
But you can't, you you know, if you
are able to stay
in your power exchange
or your kink headspace
for more than,
you know, the duration of a scene or
for more than ten minutes at a time
anytime else, I am so happy for you,
but my brain don't work that
way. I got a whole hell of a
lot of tabs open and I'm still trying
to figure out where the music is coming
from. So
I can feel it for a little bit
and then I flip over to guilt because
I should be doing something. I'm the service
of what am I doing just sitting here
right?
There have been some other times that you've
I don't know. Did
you plan it or was it spur of
the moment but would be near like an
anniversary I think you did it one year.
Recently, past couple years when
nobody was leaving this house and there was
no privacy and I basically
got commanded
out to
the shop in the backyard,
stepped over the threshold of the door
and was just, like, hair grab, tossed down
Mhmm. You know, pants pulled down and just
wailed on. And it's like and I knew
at any point, like, we've been together long
enough. There's no question to me. I could
say for it out of anything,
but I wasn't expecting it. I it wasn't
a planned thing,
but I I knew. I think it was
our anniversary. It was like, we were this
was our time to go. Yeah. Let's celebrate.
And let's celebrate for us in kink ways
are very small, relatively quiet,
are not like, there's no, like nobody puts
a banner up and and does noisemakers for
that. It's like, oh, this is this moment
and for us impact being what it is.
I'm a beat your fucking
ass until, you know, I get tired or
you safe word. Let's go.
Right?
So,
you know, I I do think sometimes we
overthink
trying to do that. We we imagine we
need to plan the big scene. Oh, but
what if the kids won't, you know, will
be home or, oh, we've got to do
this, but there's no money for it. It
really
it really doesn't have to be that way.
I think more of us would like I
would like it to be that way. I
would love to be able to that way.
Sometimes it's good to be that way. Right.
And when you can, take the opportunity.
Right? Don't, you know, don't worry about, you
know, if you couldn't buy a new toy
or you can't go someplace special. Can you
get a certain amount of time alone and
quiet and you're not worried about scaring anybody
else who lives, you know, in your home,
and and do whatever it is. But when
you don't have that,
to me, it's just like everything else we
do with Power Exchange. Find ways to incorporate
it in seamlessly and in ways nobody else
is gonna clock.
All anybody looked at for my Mother's Day
was, oh, look at mister John being really
nice for mom, you know, making her a
dinner she loves and surprising her with it.
That's what it looks like from the outside.
And I'm over here going, no thoughts, just
vibes. This is the life, you know. This
is how it should be,
you know. And, for for Father's Day, it
looks like JB's getting a lazy day and
he was.
But I'm over there hauling ass with Right.
Joy in my heart because I'm like, oh,
I'm feeling so fucking so it's alright now.
Let's do this. I got laundry done faster
You did. Doing it for JB
than I ever do for myself alone
because that's the submissive in me. I am
so motivated
to do even the most fucking mundane
shit when I know I'm doing it as
a submissive and not just as a fucking
responsible adult who has to exist in life.
You know?
No motivation to get shit done for that,
but
to make my daddy happy. So I I
do I do think people tend to overthink
it is what I'm saying. Yeah. It you
know,
do
I miss having the ability to just
go off and do the thing
and spend whatever the money is and take
the time and drive two hours and do
yeah.
And we'll get there again
because we did enjoy it when we could
do it. Mhmm. But,
you know, in a in a broke life,
in a quiet life, in a busy life,
finding
small ways Right. Is very meaningful. Mhmm.
Yep. And sometimes those small
things have, more meaning than any big thing.
Mhmm.
I agree. I have a question for you.
Uh-oh. That has nothing to do with the
topic. Okay.
And normally, I ask before you start hitting
buttons.
Did you turn off the Windows blahdy blahdy
blah thing on the computer that always stops
our camera? No. That's why our camera stops
working. I'll bet I'll bet that's what it
is.
We can talk about that in the bonus
section.
I wish x was able to watch the
live stream because I don't know
if we have answered his question
satisfactorily.
I don't know if there was something specific
that he
wanted
Yeah. Answered. I'd all I know is,
yeah, they're the kind of the obvious ways
when you have money to spend and time
to do it in. And what we've gotten
really good at is
the, you know, broke as a motherfucker.
Mhmm. And there's always somebody else in this
house besides just us. Yeah. And our privacy
is limited, and our time is limited. And
so
we do even the most special days
the way we do everything else in our
power exchange
as we can, where we can in small
doses
and under the fucking radar. Mhmm.
And
those days feel special to me.
Part of it is because some of the
things we do, we don't do for any
like,
short of, like, if JB's sick, of course
I'm gonna do the stuff he would normally
do because he's sick. But we don't just
randomly come up to one another. Maybe we
should, but maybe this is what keeps it
special. I don't just show up on some
random, like,
I don't know, August day and go, hey,
I'll do the laundry for you this weekend.
I could.
Please don't look for that. That is what
your birthday and our
anniversary is though, is the one that that's
hard to do. There's not much we can
do for one another.
Anniversary,
that used to be what we would do.
I haven't done it in a couple years.
Hopefully, we can get back to it this
year. We would go out to a meal
and sometimes, like, for us, air quote, fancy,
but sometimes not. Sometimes, like, a little dive
or whatever.
And the whole time
out in public, we'd be in
power exchange mode. Daddy would be, like, daddy
oh, god. I still remember the one the
time when we went to the cigar bar
and the restaurant, and you were dressed up,
and I was dressed nice.
And
you like, I didn't speak unless spoken to
you. I've spoken, you know, spoken to. Mhmm.
And you kinda just, like, we went to
that cigar bar, and you're just looking out
on the world, smoking your cigar, looking all
cool, and I'm all quiet over there.
And that was a huge turn on. You
never sort of ordered me to do anything,
but we fell into that
mode.
My my hand got held everywhere.
I was I was guided wherever we needed
to be.
Yeah. It was it was delightful.
He it was the way he talked to
me. That's another thing. It doesn't like,
we can do this at home, but it's
harder to do at home. So, yeah, tone
of voice, very, like, deep and the the
gleam in his eye was, like, there. Like,
very serious.
Like, even the baby girl in me probably
could not have gotten the daddy dom to
come out. The dominant sadist was out, and
it was having a good time. But we
did, you know, stuff like that. Like, we
just Mhmm. Changed the and and it's not
always easy. And sometimes
you know
the the mood you wanna be in for
the special occasion of that specific day does
not align with what your mind and or
body will allow you to do.
But when it does, when the stars fucking
align, I mean, we could've gone for, like,
fucking McDonald's
value menu and still had that kind of
power exchange y experience
fucking week? Of course. But
I feel like it's when you take when
you do it
for a birthday, for an anniversary,
for whatever a special day is for for
you,
and you do it,
Swiss cheese brain has gotten me, intentionally with
intentionality. Right? Like, there's you are focused on
this and this is why you're doing it.
It even if it's kind of a mundane
thing that you do more often than not,
that's where the meaning can come from.
And then there's like the build up to
the day. If we do make a plan
for like our wedding anniversary
and we're gonna go out, we're gonna do
some whatever, we're talking about it a week
or two or more in advance. Yeah. You
know, especially if we're gonna spend like more
than the average amount of money we would
spend. Well, we're planning for it. And so
then there's the anticipation
of it. And that's fun because then I'm
like, do you want me to wear something
specific? Do you you know? What do you
want to control of this, JB? Because you
get to be in charge of this, and
I will cede that control to you. And
there we are
just trying to go to dinner and it's
two or three days before and we're in
our power exchange. And I you know, that's
that's how we approach it. Mhmm. Because it
doesn't
you can do it when you spend money,
but it doesn't require money.
You can't it's fun to do when you
leave the house, but you don't even have
to leave the house.
You know? True. True.
So
yeah. Excuse me.
I cannot think of
anything else I would say about that.
X, when you hear this or watch this
or however you consume this, if you're like,
no. I have follow-up questions. Please share them
with me.
We will we'll do a segment, like, next
week or something. It's follow-up. I
don't know.
But,
yeah, that's all I can think about Okay.
On that one. So, are we good?
The way this live stream and the video
of God, I don't know. Yeah. You know.
Podcast listeners be grateful. You just have to
listen.
Dottie.
Yes, baby girl. I'm terrified to try to
do this, but can we talk to the
crickets? Yeah.
Do you wanna know when I thought about
that security thing and I was like, did
you hit that button? But see, it never
did anything to the camera. It used to
botch up Audacity.
No. It did stuff to the camera. Oh,
yeah.
And I was in mid thought on something,
saw a thing come up and I went,
oh my god. Oh my god. Did we
not hit that button? We used to remind
each other about it. I I need to
reinstall
the webcam utility.
It's done this before. Had to reinstall it.
Give that that's gonna be a first thing
I try. Not really a project. Oh, okay.
But on the other hand, part of what's
going on with this computer, the hard drive
is almost full. That's right. God. I know
we had that conversation. Yeah.
Yeah. And what was our solution?
Install a new hard drive. Oh, yeah.
Reload the operating system. It's almost like
after all these years and 444
long form episodes and well over a 100
short episodes,
it's almost like things might be,
like,
getting tired, getting old, getting full.
We need to refresh everything.
Man. I just oh, I don't like you
know how I get about tech issues. They
stress me out so much.
I,
okay. Let's let's get away from this stress
and talk about Lola's stress.
We were not our favorite people today. I
know. She's fine. She's absolutely fine. She was
sleeping at my feet earlier when we started.
She's sleeping on her cot Yeah. Like, the
rest of us don't exist.
Yeah. She had her,
six month follow-up.
Yeah. She has to do a semiannual
Mhmm. Heart her heartworm thing, I think. Right.
And then she has,
Because of the,
thyroid.
No. The the thyroid is what they're doing
annual. The heartworm was because she's had heartworms
in the past. That's right. Yeah. And then
she had to get a vaccine. Is it
lepto? Is it leptin? It's lep something. Yeah.
You work with, like, vet and animals, you
will probably know. Mhmm. I just went, sure,
give her the fucking shot. How much is
it? Okay. Fine.
Look. Look. I am that person. I
know that nobody is infallible and things change
all the time. But when a trusted professional
says,
you, your child, your dog, your cat need
this, I go give a fucking to them.
I don't care.
I just don't even blink. It's like So,
yeah. She was she was a little stressed
out.
She is down to 75.
She's lost weight. We're so proud of her.
Yep. She she is she is losing weight.
Log.
She has hips again.
She has a waistline. Yeah. Just snatched, y'all.
She looks so good. They were so proud
of us, and I am god damn, I'm
such a fucking baby girl. So this was
like, oh, I wish I there was like
a gold star we could get with this.
I was kinda soaking it up a little
bit. Oh, well, it does it did does
does or does not help that the vet
who has been seeing her most frequently, he
is a beautiful man.
He he is an incredibly beautiful man. And
he's And his accent. And he's kind, and
he's good at what he does. And has
a sense of humor. Right. He clearly loves
animals. And, you know,
I mean, just like, god, just amazing.
Part of me wants, because I just don't
trust when things seem that amazing. I'm like,
is he a shit? Like, buzzwords.
That's not my problem. The two or three
times a year we come to this thing.
But but but,
you know, yeah. Looks Yeah. Looks wise,
he's right up there with, Pedro Pascal and
and Cavill.
Oh my god. Pedro Pascal. I'm glad that
man's having his moment.
Don't even get me started on that. But,
yes, this this vet is just I mean,
we
we both get very quiet and listen and
pay very close attention while he's talking to
us. And we're polite and we smile, and
we're not gross or creepy. But the moment
that man leaves the room, we're like, oh
my god.
He's so beautiful.
I just can I just say I love
being in a relationship with somebody that I
can do we do that over any type
of human? If we find them beautiful regardless
of gender, we're like, oh my god. They're
fucking
hot, beautiful, gourd, like, pick a word, whatever
we find them.
We send each other
other creators'
thirst traps Yeah. On Instagram to one another
to go, look at that human. That's sexiest
shit.
Yeah. That is how I learned
that I have a slight interest. I don't
have the means or the will yet, but
I have a slight interest
in being similar to what the Internet calls
muscle mommies. Mhmm.
And I asked JB. I was like
like, I know you like you are happy
with me in whatever form I take.
You love me regardless. I was like, but
if I actually cared about, like, building muscle
and whatever that entailed, and I I was
like, you know,
what are the words for it? I don't
know. I was like, would if I was
a muscle mommy,
the look at his face
was I was like, oh, okay. Okay. Well,
I'm not gonna worry that I will somehow
lose the attraction
of JB and that. Okay. Okay.
So,
anyway.
Yep. Yeah. We got we got to lust
over some for our
vet. Now and I I want it on
the record that I'm not trying to lust
after this very kind beautiful man with gorgeous
hair.
Anyway,
when I called the vet to make her
appointment because they only sent me three emails
and four text messages and and a postcard
to let me know she needed services. Yeah.
And we were not even late. Goddamn it.
Like, today was the deadline for one of
them. Anyway anyway,
when I was on the phone with the
vet and they're like, oh, we have this
doctor. And that do you do you have
a preference? No. I don't have a preference
whoever's available.
And I think that's that's how the universe
graced us with that particular vet because I
wasn't being
all thirsty about it. I was just, like,
whatever. Whatever comes our way. Whatever the universe
grants us, it's fine. It's fine.
But yeah. Yeah. So no. She
it clearly wasn't too terrible for her because,
at least with me, she did not
act like, she's when she has to go
to the vet and it's, like, really like,
she really fucking hates it,
she does not, air quote, talk to you
for the rest of the day. She does
not give space. She's not making eye contact.
She's not sitting next to you. She's not
following, like, nothing. Like, wants nothing to do
with nobody. And she went like that to
that. I lay down on the couch earlier
this afternoon.
And,
you know, most more times than not, Lola
will climb up on there with me Mhmm.
More than that. Mhmm. No. She she slept
on the floor. She she was in the
living room.
K. So she was mad at you. But
she was on the floor. She kept coming
back here and sitting next to me when
I was at my desk. Okay. So it
wasn't me she was mad at. No. No.
Probably because I fed her the doughnut. Right.
Right. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. When when when she
has to go to the bed or or
something like that Or the groomer. Or the
groomer. Something she hates. Yeah. We, we do
give her
a a special
premium treat as we call it. Yeah.
But
old fashioned donuts from Dunkin' that don't have
any glaze on them. Yeah. They're just like
a cake donut. That's that's the thing. Yeah.
But,
her her treats anymore are
apple slices. Mhmm.
And right now, she she loves watermelon.
Absolutely loves watermelon.
And excuse me.
And I came across this this thing that
somebody was making
with Greek yogurt
and watermelon
puree.
For dogs. Like, they're just making it randomly.
Yeah. No. No.
So what what they were doing and I
they had a special, like, little silicone
Right. Thing to do. And I'm like, I
bet that'll work in an ice tray too.
Yeah. They probably had that linked in their
Amazon storefront. Right. With an affiliate link. Yeah.
But,
so, you know, I tried. I put a
scoop
of Greek,
Greek yogurt, plain, non no flavor,
and, then
poured the puree on there and froze it.
Put it in the freezer and froze it.
And, yeah, cracked the ice tray that came
out, dropped one in her bowl. She loved
it. The first time you did it, she
was She wasn't sure. She wasn't sure. But
then when she started licking it So that
was interesting. The first the first one you
ever gave her, you tried to hand it
to her like a regular
treat. Like, you would an apple slicer or
whatever. Yeah. And she was like, what the
fuck? So then I was like, hey. Try
putting it in her bowl. She knows that's
food. So Mhmm.
Does this thing because it's frozen. She's licking
at it, and it's racing around her bowl.
Yeah.
And then finally, she got wise to it,
and she went, fuck this. She picked it
up. She carried it here in the office.
It's where she likes to eat certain treats.
Not all treats, but certain treats. She's like,
no. No. I have to take this away
to my special place, and I gotta, like
Right. Get comfy so we can eat this.
But my fear was that was Greek yogurt
that was eventually going to
defrost and be mushy. I was like, if
she does not like it, we'll have a
problem.
So she came back
thirty seconds after she did that. We're like,
oh, shit. Did she just leave gloopy
Greek yogurt on the floor? Looked and No.
There there was It just took her thirty
seconds to eat it. You couldn't tell there
was ever anything there. Mm-mm. Mm-mm. Nope. Yep.
It's like, okay. That one that one worked.
But, yeah, that was the thing I was
worried about. I was like, oh my god.
I don't wanna have to clean up So
that's that's, that's become her summer snack right
now, and she she likes it. Mhmm.
Yeah. No. Well, for the five minutes, I
got to enjoy blueberry season this year Yeah.
I mostly missed it because I base is
it blueberry season on the price of fucking
blueberries?
Because they go down. Not because they're a
specific price, but they go from a price
I don't wanna pay to a price I'm
willing to pay. Yeah. And for two weeks,
I saw a price I was willing to
pay, so I don't know what the fuck
happened there. But she loves
blueberries. Yeah. And so, normally, if if it's
blueberry season and I'm buying blueberries, then I
am sharing them with her.
And we didn't get to that very much.
But now it's watermelon season and watermelons have
been a price, like, less than $6 for
a good sized watermelon. We've been getting one
almost every week.
Two people in this household are very happy
about that, me and Lola.
We have cut a watermelon in the fridge
because it's so big and like, we don't
really have a container that you could put
a lid on that's big enough. Yeah. So
we keep it open and, until it gets
down to a certain point, then we could
put it in a in something to keep
it fresh.
And I'll just walk to the fridge, open
it up, grab a hunk of watermelon, walk
away.
Oh, I'm a little thirsty. Walk back to
the fridge, grab watermelon.
Oh, I could I wouldn't because I think
I would probably burst
with that much water. But sometimes I'm like,
I could eat a whole ass watermelon. I
wouldn't wanna do anything else for the rest
of the fucking day till I get to
eat. There is
that. Yeah. Woah. Oh, god. Watermelon's so good.
So good.
Mister Spock asks if you are not a
watermelon I I am. I am. I I
do enjoy It's not obsessively,
like, me and Lola.
No. No. Not like those two, but I
do enjoy me a good watermelon.
This is how nonchalant he is about watermelon.
We have this massive watermelon. I put it
in a big old bowl, and Lola was
getting some, and I was eating every day.
I was having watermelon with breakfast and or
lunch.
And I was like,
holy crap. JB has not really touched this.
So then I go and I put the
rest of the it's falling down enough. I
can put the watermelon in a container. I'm
like, hey,
you haven't eaten any, so I've stopped eating
the watermelon so you can have some. I
still don't think you ate any of that.
No. I didn't. I didn't. It's ambivalent
watermelon.
That's the problem. Part of the problem at
that time too, we had too many snacks
around the house. Oh, my lord.
Yeah. Yeah.
This this is a first world problem and
this is a problem of privilege. I recognize
that because I have been in positions where
I was like, am I gonna be able
to go grocery shopping this week? But when
the refrigerator has too much shit in it,
that is
that is not stressful, like, when you don't
have enough. I'm not gonna minimize that. But
that's its own kind of stress, like, what
do I eat first and can I get
into my fridge and what's gonna fall out?
And I the problem is is that sounds
so, like,
oh, gross privilege. Yeah. But I am also
because I have had those moments where there
was not necessarily enough. I'm an over buyer.
I want my fridge and freezer to be
stocked when it can be,
but it is But what what was nice
too was that,
part of that was we had so many
leftovers
in the freeze in the fridge. We, we
ate for two days on leftovers, didn't have
to cook.
That was delightful.
I,
my whole childhood, there were always leftovers. That's
what you had for a a meal later
on or if it was summer, that's what
was lunch the next day, whatever whatever. Leftovers
are part of my life. And I was
kind of a probably a typical kid. I
hated having have leftovers.
And so there
some I guess from my, like, early twenties,
probably to mid thirties truly,
I cooked in such a way, we ate
in such a way, there was hardly ever
leftovers, and I was grateful because I hated
eating leftovers.
And then by the time the children started
being bigger than we were, taller anyway, I
was like, oh, we we can't
feed them
in the same way. Like, we have to
we have to cook in bulk, not just
buy in bulk. We have to cook in
bulk. So I started having leftovers again, and
then I was, like, reminded
or I learned or I don't know, but
my parents knew most most adults know. The
beauty of having leftovers because that's less food
you have to cook and buy. We've we
are at a point now one day a
week is always left overnight Mhmm. Because we
have just enough leftovers. But sometimes,
we have too many leftovers.
And am I a person who will stretch,
how much time you should keep something and
try to keep eating on it. Uh-huh. Because
I know what it I know what it
is to have a slightly empty fridge. Like,
it's I get it. I I know.
But,
yeah, they're I yeah. We've probably I've probably
kept things for too long because I was
like, oh, it's a waste if I throw
it away.
Oh, we shouldn't do that.
But,
you know, Kim says we should trade leftovers.
Not gonna lie. Somebody else's leftovers always look
way better than your own leftovers. Be interesting.
You know, a big like a a Like
Like a swap meat for leftovers? Mhmm. Just,
you know Yeah. That's kind of the first
of all,
some things do taste better
the second day or later. Yeah. Chili, spaghetti
sauce, like, things that just taste better the
longer they can kind of simmer and cook
anyway. They get happy. Right.
Some things do not
taste as good. No. And sometimes just down
there were years I couldn't eat leftover
chicken. If it had to be reheated in
the microwave, had such a funky taste to
me, I could not eat it, would not
eat it. Now I found tricks to avoid
that,
both the rubber,
texture of microwaved reheated chicken Mhmm. And the
flavor, sauce or butter. Something that will override
the there's a flavor to reheated chicken. I
just
but do I cook like I'm feeding a
football team? Anytime I'm cooking something with chicken
and rice
or something and potato. Yes. And then I
don't wanna eat it
because
I don't really like leftover chicken.
I don't meal prep chicken by cooking it
if the plan is to have to reheat
it. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. If I can if
it's like grilled chicken, I'm gonna eat cold
and a cold salad. That's fine.
But if
I'm plan to reheat the chicken later, I
cannot cook it. It tastes Yeah. It tastes
so bad. Even in
an air fryer, it still tastes funky.
Don't like it. And she said lasagna is
a great leftover. It is. Indeed it is.
Indeed it is. Was it you asked me
to make you lasagna or I offered to
make you lasagna that was, like
It was for some reason. Last year? No.
It feels like something
recent.
What was it? It was special for you.
Mhmm.
What the fuck was it? Because it was
your special day, and I was like, I'll
cook for you. What would you like? Fuck
it. I don't I made lasagna, though. You
did.
Mhmm. And it was damn good.
You know what it was? I think we
do this this is another thing we do.
Not as often as we used to, but
for a while, we did it semi regularly.
We do at home date nights. Mhmm. Mhmm.
And it wasn't
meant to be kinky. It was just meant
to, like,
have a special meal
and have it just be the two of
us, no child at a table.
The youngest loves when we do those special
date nights because I'm not cooking a separate
meal while cooking some special thing we would
not normally eat. They usually wind up with
McDonald's or something like that. I'm like, here
is your,
chicken nuggies
and your Doctor Pepper that's, like, in a
bucket or something. Yeah. Have a good night.
They're in heaven, and then we get to
sit down and have a food that I
could not even put on the table for
that
child
to eat. So
That is true. Yeah. We haven't done that
in a hot minute. I think the lasagna
might have been a day.
Been. Might have been. Anyway, yeah, there are
certain things I I will I'm happy to
eat the left overs on. Pastas.
Mhmm.
Chili. Yeah.
There was something else because every time mashed
potatoes.
Left left I'll make too many mashed potatoes
just to have the leftover mashed potatoes.
You need some mashed potatoes now. Look. I'm
part potato. Okay? I
I have not found a way for it
to be cooked that I don't like yet.
There are ways that I won't cook because
they they feel too complicated or I'm afraid
of fucking it up. But as a kid,
I had,
I know I'm not gonna say it the
way it's probably supposed to be said. I'm
gonna say it the way
my,
country mother used to say it. Potatoes au
gratin,
twice baked potatoes. I love those, but that's
a lot of fucking work.
Of course baked potatoes, roasted potatoes.
There's another potato that was like always made
me me think of potatoes au gratin, but
it wasn't potatoes au gratin. It was something
else, but it was very potatoey.
With or without cheese, I can't remember.
I can't remember potatoes. Man, potatoes.
I like a good French fry. I mean,
shit. Look at me. I like a good
french fry. But no. No. No. I'll
I'll just take, like, a baked potato with
a little bit of butter
and, salt and pepper and we'll just be
fucking happy. Roasted potatoes with just, like, some
herbs and some olive oil on it. You
don't want to be fans. Oh my god.
I could eat my weight in potatoes,
which would not be difficult to do because
they are apparently the most satiating food that
we have. Fucking delicious. I am part potato.
So
now that we've
got me thinking about potatoes,
I would not oh, I would not No.
It's too late in the evening.
No. No. No. No. I'm thinking future.
A date night where you grill steaks
and I spend a million years making twice
baked potatoes. Did we have this conversation? Have
you ever had a twice baked potato? I
have not.
I have not. Oh my god. I I
even had to ask you what it is.
Okay. So if you don't know, I here's
the thing. My dad,
I don't know if he loved to cook,
but there was a point in life he
there was no choice if we were gonna
eat. He had to cook, and he just
kinda went all out. And so he made
all kinds of stuff. Twice baked potatoes
was semi regular in our house. If you
don't know what a twice baked potato is,
oh, my god. Let me bring you into
the fold. You bake a potato. Bake the
potato. However you bake the potato. Cut kind
of part of the top off. Scoop out
the guts. You want it fully cooked. Scoop
out the potato. Leave a shell.
You were then gonna take that transfer scooped
out potato and you can mix it with
whatever you want. But typically,
we would do butter and cheese and maybe
like a sour cream or a milk or
a cream to like make it creamier,
scallions, bacon, whatever, whatever, whatever.
Just that all up and then you put
that mixture
back in the potato.
Because you've got that little hollowed out shell
of a potato
probably topped with cheese. Pop it back in
the, oven. I think my my dad would
just put it under the broiler so I
get it warm again. Like you didn't have
to recook it. I guess you could if
you wanted to. You didn't have to. And
then it was like this decadent because then,
like, I love potato skin. I'm, I'm gonna
eat that outside part. And that would be
a little extra crispier. And then you get
this gooey,
cheesy
mashed potato situation on the ends. Oh, my
my mouth is watering. My mouth is watering.
Mhmm.
My mouth is watering. Kim says recook for
about twenty minutes. There we go.
Mhmm.
Yeah. But my dad would do that, like,
semi regularly. Like, it'd be a Tuesday.
He would have made, like,
some, like, maybe,
some beef thing, some chicken thing, some whatever
thing. And there'd be twice baked potatoes. Oh
my god. I already ate dinner and I'm
Oh, the thought of twice baked potato. Holy
shit.
Oh, mouth is watering now.
I don't know how I could ever become
Don't see it. I don't think it's gonna
happen.
Yeah. Oh my god. So fucking good. Mhmm.
So fucking good. And, my finger is better.
Yeah. Your bandage is off. Oh, I don't
wanna look at the tip of it though.
It's a little better. It's a little scabby
looking.
Only, covered up now when I'm working.
Fair.
Excuse me. Did you hit the vodka before
we started? Not intentionally.
Might have fallen, you know, on the cabinet
and or some hit Oh, the vodka fell
out of the cabinet, fell open, dripped into
your waiting open mouth underneath.
Oh, no. How did that happen? Happened.
Oh my god.
Yeah. I'm I'm here for that. Oh, I
did speaking of this is it's not even
a Friday night livestream, and here we are
Yeah. Back on our our food and drink
stuff. I told JB recently that I didn't
know how we could do it,
but we needed to. At home,
out. At probably at home, cheaper and I
don't have to worry about trying to get
home. I am
craving
a margarita. I don't drink I don't drink
very often.
I there was a time I think I
drink margaritas, like, two, maybe three times a
year tops, if that.
It's been
five or six years since I had a
margarita. Last time we went, we were in
Mississippi.
Yeah.
And,
my mouth was watering
for it. No. I mean, yeah. The tequila's
nice. The feeling is nice. But there's that,
like, sourness from the margarita. I don't wanna
drink just margarita mix, Yoda. I do want
the tequila in it. I also want the
chips and queso that frequently comes with margarita.
Nope. Not gonna be a muscle mommy. No.
I'm gonna be soft and squidgy.
Thank God you like me like that.
I know how to I've got my moments
too, so I can't talk, you know? I
barely I think I could have the discipline
to, like, work out specifically for, like I
need to do strength training. That's a very
healthy thing apparently, supposedly at my age, blah
blah blah blah.
But the discipline
to eat in such a way that the
muscles are visible, I I don't know. I
don't think I got it. I don't think
I got it. There's too many foods.
Oh, guacamole.
Yes, mister Spock. Yeah.
Queso,
guac. Oh, yeah. And if the salsa that
they is provided is really good, oh, yeah.
A good salsa.
But I'm a lightweight. It can't be too
spicy. I can't. Not not a lot of
jalapeno in that.
That salsa, I can't do it.
I can't do it.
As the children are so fond of pointing
out, oh my god, mom. You're so white.
Yes. I am. I guess. Whatever.
Yeah.
When I was a kid, I would have
told you onions were spicy. That's that's who
I I am slash was. Black pepper was
too spicy.
So
okay.
The camera went out, and you had already
clicked the other thing. So yeah.
This live streaming video is a hot mess
express.
Yep.
Yeah. It is. Yeah.
Kitty Roasters, they're having spaghetti tonight. We're having
We're having that tomorrow. Yeah. It's not spaghetti.
Ten a. Yeah. Mhmm.
Mhmm.
So now that we're having even more tech
issues that just they're coming left, right, and
center Mhmm. I guess that means it's time
to go. Yeah. Now that,
you're more stressed and
I am craving food we don't have in
this house.
Okay. Alright. I guess we'll go. So thank
you for joining us.
You've to the bitter end especially, and God
love you. If you are watching on YouTube,
you're a hero.
Okay. I I would roller coaster ride. I
wouldn't have I wouldn't have had the patience.
So,
I appreciate you if you if you made
it through.
So, yeah, we're gonna go, and hopefully next
week is less of a dumpster fire than
this week. Alright. That's all we can hope.
Okay.
Bye. Bye.