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You're listening to the Loving BDSM

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episode four forty one. Kayla Lords here with

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the one, the only, the you're sweating your

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ass off just like me for once. It's

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not just a hormonal thing.

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It's a a Florida thing. John Brownstone. That's

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me. Mhmm. Mhmm.

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Do you also feel

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the line of sweat on your upper lip?

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Yeah. Is it also sitting at the tops

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of your cheeks where just below your eyes?

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No. Where you go oh. Oh. No. I'm

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the lucky one. It's delightful. Mhmm. I'm about

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to do this damn live stream naked.

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Study lessons.

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We'd be demonetized, but we might get a

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shit ton of watchers.

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We'd probably get kicked off at YouTube if

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I didn't.

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Anyway, that is not happening this week, but,

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get ready for the chaos, clearly.

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We're back after a longer than planned break.

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We'll talk about that in the bonus section,

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and we're easing ourselves back into it with

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a kinky q and a with questions

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from

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social media platform

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with that handle I will forever fucking hate.

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Yes. That's right. Instagram. And we're time traveling

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here, so maybe we'll have questions from YouTube

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live chat as well, but we can't know

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that until we do it. Right. Right. Yeah.

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Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So yeah. Chaos. Okay.

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Welcome to the Loving BDSM podcast. If this

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forever fucking hate.

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of summer schedule breaky thing. We'll talk more

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or use the link in the show notes.

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Okay. So before,

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I look at questions and we try to

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answer them, let us do our announcements.

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Yes. The first one,

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livestream folks already know we're hot as fuck

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because we can't stop bitching about it.

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We are going to our summer schedule. Mhmm.

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Last summer was the first time we did

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this. We are just as unorganized about it

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this year as we were last year.

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Starting next week, the first Wednesday in June,

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it's the first Wednesday in June. Our livestream

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time is changing because we cannot sit in

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this room at 1PM eastern

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during the Florida

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summer. We're gonna start livestreaming our episodes on

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Wednesday at 7PM

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when it is

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slightly cooler and the fan and the AC

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actually can make Right. This room cool down

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The audio podcast still coming out on Friday

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as usual. No. Nothing with that changes.

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I know that the time change means that

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some people who normally watch will not be

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able to watch at all. I am so

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sorry for that, but I don't know if

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I can do live streams while I'm nauseous

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because of the heat. So I don't wanna

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July, and August.

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get to September. If If it is a

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hotter than usual summer, as they all have

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been, thanks climate change,

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we might have to extend this into September

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reminders because I know folks there are folks

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out there like me that's, like, you have

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a schedule in your mind and having to

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shift that. Mhmm.

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Third year off. I totally get it. We

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will be thrown off at least the first

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The other change we're making,

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because of all kinds of reasons, including

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summer and the very hot office that is

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not cooled properly,

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we are gonna take a break from our

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Monday episodes through the summer.

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That's our q and a episodes. Right. Our

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inbox is still open for questions. I would

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love to get questions over the summer. So

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jump back in. Right. Go right down the

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list. We will have an episode that comes

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streaming in the evening is great. We do

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record video at night, and then we have

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figured we just we just, you know Yeah.

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This this room was warming up It's easy

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this summer. In and of itself, and then

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you add in all the lights. I have

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exhausted the light of sweat on my upper

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lip where my glasses touch my cheeks.

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all the way around my face is very

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sweaty. And I am wearing the cooling neck

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thing that some,

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kind listener slash watcher sent me through Amazon.

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Thank you to that person.

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floor is floor is hot, y'all.

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surface of the sun. So

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all that being said, we're just calling it

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a summer schedule. We're lightening things up so

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we can spend less time in this office.

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Everything slows down in the summer anyway. Yeah.

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The heat for one and just because people

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us ten years to finally figure this out?

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Here we are. Here we are.

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Okay. So those are our

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two announcements.

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Now we're gonna get into questions. We asked

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her questions,

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over on Instagram with that handle I will

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forever fucking hate.

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And it that's real. I will forever fucking

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hate it.

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There are reasons I cannot change it, to

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what I want.

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Nobody asked that question, so I'm not gonna

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go on that rant.

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We are gonna start this up this episode,

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podcast stream thing, whatever whatever whatever.

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With those questions,

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there were too many that I we're not

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even going to acknowledge because what the hell

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is wrong with people?

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we may have time to take some questions

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from the YouTube live chat during the stream.

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If we get to that point, I will

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explain how we will do that, and then

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we will go from there.

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first question. Uh-oh.

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How to navigate dynamics of a Dom organizing

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a threesome

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with his two

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very similar

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sips.

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God damn. Look at his face.

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Podcast listeners, I'm sorry. You didn't get a

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single look on his face. Go ahead. Talk.

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Well, you know, I'm I'm gonna say the

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snarky thing, and apologies to this person Yeah.

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If you've already done the work. Do your

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two very similar submissives

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both

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know about one another, get along with each

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other, and have they been like hell yeah

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let's do a threesome. If you've got that,

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then,

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it it goes back to okay now sit

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in a circle somewhere and like hash this

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out. I I I think the biggest thing

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you're gonna need to

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demand, or one of the biggest things in

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my mind, are the expectations.

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Oh. Something like that. Oh, yeah. Alright. You

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know, because you can

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I mean, let's face it? You can blow

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it up in your head, and, you know,

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woo hoo. Mhmm.

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You know, and I think the submissives

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may be very similar in your mind, but

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I have no doubt there will be very

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clear differences

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on preferences and certain ways of, you know,

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behaving and things they like. So

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while you are very mindful of how they

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are like, I would spend time digging into

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where they're different and where there could be

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some, like, potential pain points, you know.

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I also would think

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back to within this relationship or these relationships,

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have has there been insecurity? Has there been

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envy? Has there been jealousy for, like, when

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you're with one person and not the other?

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If any of that has is there and

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has never been properly addressed and dealt with

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on some level,

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I can absolutely see it coming out in

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the middle of a threesome

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or in the aftermath of a threesome.

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So, yeah, I you know,

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the fun part is talking. I'm sure is

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the talking about what you're going to do.

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are, maybe you're used to having a whole

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hell of a lot of control.

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as I've been told by by JB, it's

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hard managing one sub at a time.

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how it might be with two at a

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time. Mhmm.

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But, yeah, I don't think anybody is surprised

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at the the main answers you gotta communicate.

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Right. But I think it's Right. If you're

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even if you're used to planning scenes primarily

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on your own and maybe just letting your

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sub know and, you know, checking for consent,

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as I assume you are doing,

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I don't think this is the time to

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plan it alone. I think No.

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To the extent that they are willing to

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be a part of the conversation, and I

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hope they are very willing to be, everybody

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needs to be in on some of the

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planning conversations.

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Everybody involved needs to, sit down, have a

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cup of coffee, and, chat or beverage of

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choice, whatever that may be. Right. And, you

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know, just,

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talk. Right. And I don't think this is

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a time if you're if you or your

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subs are like this,

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this is a time to try to do

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your best to not be people pleasers. Do

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not Mhmm. Your subs do not need to

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be saying what they think you wanna hear

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or what they think the other person wants

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to hear. Right. If the idea

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of doing a certain act with another human

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being that's not you really bothers them, they

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need to be able to go, I don't

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like that. That really bothers me. Yeah. So

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those are the things from a a dominant

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perspective. I'd say you need to watch for,

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especially

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if you know these missives as well as

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you feel like you do, then you know

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when they're not telling you

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what they really feel, maybe they're telling you

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what you want, they think you wanna hear.

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Mhmm. You know

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when they

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hide

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not hide when they Hold back? Hold back.

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Thank you. Yes.

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And you kinda gotta go, nope. That's not

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acceptable here. That's gonna that's not gonna make

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this a good thing for anybody. Does that

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sound boring and kind of clinical? Sure. But

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if you wanna continue having what I'm assuming

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are healthy relationships,

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after said threesome,

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get fucking clinical with it.

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Like,

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Just yeah. Don't rely on fantasy and just

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what you think Mm-mm. You want to do.

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Okay.

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Our next question is not about kink at

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all. It's about us. Uh-oh. What was your

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wedding like?

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Interesting. Chaotic is everything we do as so

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I think this person probably did ask just

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to see, did we have, like, a kinky

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wedding? Mhmm. We tried to have some elements

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of kink in our wedding, and it did

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not go to plan.

335
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Because the person who was supposed to officiate

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our wedding

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is was a kink friend, somebody who owned

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a dungeon, somebody we'd played with before. Like,

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it was supposed to be super cool. They

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were gonna work with us on, like, nonstandard,

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nontraditional,

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vows. Vowels. So it we could, like, slip

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in, kink under the radar. Right? Power change.

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And then they

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bailed on us and ghosted us. Yeah. And

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if it was not for my aunt, who

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is, like,

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legally allowed to officiate weddings in the state

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of Florida,

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that would have been the actual, like, official

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documentation part would have been in the fucking

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courthouse.

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Yep.

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So,

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I was grateful for her. Mhmm. I was

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very pissed about the other. Yeah. Because that

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was the only real thing where we felt

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like we could air quote this safely add

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kink in and none of our non kink

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people Yeah. No. Would have clocked it.

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But we needed help with that. I Right.

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I might have been a full time writer

363
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at the time, but I was not that

364
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creative. So and we did not get that.

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We

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we kept it inexpensive and easy. We got

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married on a cruise ship out in,

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the Tampa Bay, like, bay. Mhmm.

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So that it had we had the ceremony,

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the the food, the dancing entertainment,

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all contained to a two hour cruise. So

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we had to clean up. We didn't have

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to, like, go somewhere, like No. Easy. Easy.

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Easy.

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I was supposed to have a kink friend

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be the photographer.

377
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They bailed on me.

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They they legitimately had, like, stuff going on,

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but they sort of told me very late

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in the planning process.

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So a family member who was is an

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amateur photographer, she loves taking pictures, you know.

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She's not a wedding photographer, but she was

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like, I got a camera. I'm willing to.

385
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I was like, thank you. Thank you. We

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really appreciated her.

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Purple was the main color with accents of

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gray

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and silver, but kinda came out as gray.

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So my dress

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was,

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purple. It was

393
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got it from Amazon, actually. It's kind of

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in a sort of

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air quote fifties style because it had kind

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of that tight bodice. And then I got

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a a petticoat thing, and it

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out. And my petticoat was silver gray and

399
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my dress was purple. And I went on,

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like, a whole 30 keto thing for a

401
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month, did not touch one drop of sugar

402
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and looked snatched in that dress. But then

403
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the day of the wedding, I was like,

404
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I need sugar again.

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Tried to have my my hair was about

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the length that is now. Podcast listeners, it's

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a bob that goes to my chin. Tried

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to have it curled between my hair being

409
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super straight and the heat and humidity curls

410
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fell.

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But I could not stop smiling the whole

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time. No. You didn't. The one air quote

413
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power exchange y thing we did is anytime

414
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I wanted a drink, I had to ask

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JB if I was allowed to have a

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drink.

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He allowed many drinks.

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Very impressive.

419
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But I danced until I embarrassed my children.

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Both kids walk air quote walked me down

421
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the aisle. They got shy right as, we

422
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were supposed to start walking, so I basically

423
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dragged them down the aisle because I was

424
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like, I am ready to get married. Come

425
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on. We're doing this. We're doing this. I

426
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could not stop smiling. I just cheesed the

427
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whole time. The whole time.

428
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So and then we were supposed to get

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one night kid free. Like, my mom was

430
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in town. I was like, hey. I'll take

431
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the kids. Y'all enjoy your one night. And

432
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we spent our one night seeking out food

433
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and ended up at a Waffle House at

434
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midnight.

435
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Yeah.

436
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Then ate too much at midnight

437
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and didn't do anything

438
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sexual or kinky on our wedding night.

439
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We were wore out. We were wore wore

440
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out. We were. But we were fucking married,

441
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man. Yeah.

442
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We were. Being married was it is was

443
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important to us. But we're we've been together

444
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so long, and we're so unbothered by any

445
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of it. We don't we remember the date.

446
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I know when my anniversary is. I can

447
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never remember what year I was married. Was

448
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it 2017 or was it 2018?

449
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I remember what day we got engaged because

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JB very helpfully

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did it on May. May the fourth be

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with you.

453
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Right? I was very grateful

454
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for that.

455
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I did not change my legal last name

456
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because I had already been there, done that

457
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in the first marriage. I went, oh, no.

458
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I'm not going through that bullshit again.

459
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JV is like, cool. I don't give a

460
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fuck.

461
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Truly, truly with our relationship, we did it

462
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for the insurance and tax breaks you get

463
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when you were legally married to another adult.

464
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That is what we did it for.

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It it had meaning to us, but I

466
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think our power exchange was, in some ways,

467
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more meaningful. Yeah. But you don't you don't

468
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get a tax break.

469
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With power exchange. No. No. And I wanted

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the

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I also explained to him there was no

472
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take backs.

473
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There was no refunds. No exchanges. You were

474
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in it for fucking life,

475
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so you better be sure.

476
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And so now he's stuck here. Okay.

477
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Okay. Next question. Let me get my phone

478
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back up because I did not turn off

479
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the go to sleep thing.

480
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Okay. This is a a big one, and

481
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we will probably only be partially helpful.

482
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We're both sub submissives.

483
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What do we do?

484
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Well,

485
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couple choices.

486
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Mhmm. Probably more choices than you realize. Yeah.

487
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You know, you

488
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I I I assume what you're saying is

489
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you're both submissives in a relationship?

490
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Yeah. I think they're I take it to

491
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be they're in a relationship and they're both

492
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submissive. Both both submissive.

493
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Right. I mean, you know, if what you

494
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are looking for,

495
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each of you is different than the other,

496
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then you can kinda strike out on your

497
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own

498
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and and find your own person.

499
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If you're both open to that. If you're

500
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both open to that. And it doesn't have

501
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to be sexual and romantic either. It can

502
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be platonic, you know. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. For

503
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sure. You know, or or, you know, to

504
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it it depending on depends on what submissive

505
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is

506
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to them. Sure. Sure. Okay?

507
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You know, if if submission to you is,

508
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you know, masochism,

509
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then you, you know, find find a play

510
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partner maybe. Can your partner provide

511
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what you need as a service situation? Mhmm.

512
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Are they are either of y'all comfortable topping

513
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for each other? Right.

514
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I have

515
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heard

516
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of

517
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couples

518
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who have sought a d type to

519
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One d type to rule them all. Rule

520
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them all. Yeah. Gotcha. Okay. Yeah.

521
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Which I think if you can find it,

522
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that's great. I think that,

523
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you know,

524
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that might be more challenging. Mhmm. Right? Like,

525
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it's

526
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sort of that unicorn hunting thing that happens

527
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in other kinds of non monogamous situations. Let's

528
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let's not treat somebody like a kink dispenser.

529
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Mhmm. If you happen to find that, I

530
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think that's great. But I agree with you

531
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that if y'all are open to the idea

532
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of

533
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having

534
00:19:06,509 --> 00:19:07,890
power exchange experiences

535
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outside of your immediate relationship with one another,

536
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go seek that out. Mhmm. But I for

537
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anybody, if either of you are uncomfortable with

538
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the idea of a sexual or romantic relationship

539
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with another person,

540
00:19:22,174 --> 00:19:25,955
yeah, platonic platonic power exchange, platonic kink absolutely

541
00:19:26,174 --> 00:19:28,174
exists. I don't think that that means that

542
00:19:28,174 --> 00:19:29,615
you just act like it's not that big

543
00:19:29,615 --> 00:19:31,690
of a deal because it's not sexual romantic.

544
00:19:32,390 --> 00:19:33,910
You still have to negotiate it. You still

545
00:19:33,910 --> 00:19:35,509
have to figure out boundaries. You still like,

546
00:19:35,509 --> 00:19:37,750
you still have to navigate whatever feelings are

547
00:19:37,750 --> 00:19:38,730
gonna come up.

548
00:19:39,589 --> 00:19:41,430
But a lot of people will reject the,

549
00:19:41,430 --> 00:19:43,049
oh, I can't go outside of my relationship

550
00:19:43,190 --> 00:19:44,890
because they are imagining it,

551
00:19:45,224 --> 00:19:47,224
you know, as in a type of relationship

552
00:19:47,224 --> 00:19:48,585
they already have with another partner and they

553
00:19:48,585 --> 00:19:49,484
don't want that.

554
00:19:50,025 --> 00:19:52,345
So yeah. But yeah. I would you know,

555
00:19:52,345 --> 00:19:53,404
if there are activities

556
00:19:54,184 --> 00:19:55,325
that one of you

557
00:19:55,704 --> 00:19:57,224
really wants and the other one's like, I

558
00:19:57,224 --> 00:19:59,244
don't wanna experience that, but,

559
00:20:00,430 --> 00:20:02,190
you know, maybe you can maybe I can

560
00:20:02,190 --> 00:20:04,589
top you. Like, it's not the exact same

561
00:20:04,589 --> 00:20:05,970
experience as a

562
00:20:06,509 --> 00:20:07,890
a power exchange where

563
00:20:08,190 --> 00:20:09,869
a dominant does all of those things for

564
00:20:09,869 --> 00:20:11,869
the submissive. I get that. But if it

565
00:20:11,869 --> 00:20:14,255
gives you some experiences and some sensations you

566
00:20:14,255 --> 00:20:16,654
want, and if you were the subby partner

567
00:20:16,654 --> 00:20:18,815
who would act as the top in that

568
00:20:18,815 --> 00:20:19,315
situation,

569
00:20:20,015 --> 00:20:22,174
you know, some people get you know, they

570
00:20:22,174 --> 00:20:24,515
don't like not being in the submissive mindset,

571
00:20:25,375 --> 00:20:27,855
then that's when I say mind fuck yourself

572
00:20:27,855 --> 00:20:29,910
and consider it an act of service. If

573
00:20:29,910 --> 00:20:32,950
that vibes with your Right. Submissive self. Some

574
00:20:32,950 --> 00:20:36,009
people can do that, others can't. Mhmm. Exactly.

575
00:20:36,230 --> 00:20:37,509
But, yeah, I think it's a a matter

576
00:20:37,509 --> 00:20:40,309
of, getting creative, thinking outside of the box,

577
00:20:40,309 --> 00:20:41,769
thinking outside of

578
00:20:42,224 --> 00:20:44,724
titles and roles and labels. Mhmm.

579
00:20:46,065 --> 00:20:47,045
And, you know,

580
00:20:47,585 --> 00:20:49,585
I think there's there's ways to navigate it.

581
00:20:49,585 --> 00:20:52,304
Your relationship just probably isn't going to look

582
00:20:52,304 --> 00:20:55,664
like any air quote this average relationship. Yeah.

583
00:20:55,664 --> 00:20:57,529
I know. But we're in kinky all. None

584
00:20:57,529 --> 00:21:00,190
of our relationships are like the average relationship.

585
00:21:00,329 --> 00:21:02,269
Oh, no. No. No. It's all customizable.

586
00:21:02,730 --> 00:21:03,869
So yeah.

587
00:21:04,490 --> 00:21:06,109
That's true. Okay.

588
00:21:06,569 --> 00:21:07,390
Next one.

589
00:21:07,769 --> 00:21:10,410
Best advice for new subs and where can

590
00:21:10,410 --> 00:21:12,029
I find ritual ideas?

591
00:21:14,224 --> 00:21:15,664
So let me we'll let me start with

592
00:21:15,664 --> 00:21:17,444
the second question, if you don't mind. Okay.

593
00:21:17,984 --> 00:21:20,464
Ritual for what? Yeah. Like, there's no one

594
00:21:20,464 --> 00:21:22,404
size fits all of ritual. You can ritualize

595
00:21:22,944 --> 00:21:25,125
literally anything. I ritualize

596
00:21:25,859 --> 00:21:27,559
making coffee. I ritualize

597
00:21:29,140 --> 00:21:31,539
bending over naked and asking for permission to

598
00:21:31,539 --> 00:21:33,380
go to to bed. It was not a

599
00:21:33,380 --> 00:21:34,759
ritual that I discovered

600
00:21:35,779 --> 00:21:37,700
Yeah. No. On the Internet. It was something

601
00:21:37,700 --> 00:21:39,779
we agreed to do, and we ourselves have,

602
00:21:39,779 --> 00:21:42,424
like, created a ritual around it.

603
00:21:43,525 --> 00:21:45,684
So Yeah. And, you know, when it when

604
00:21:45,684 --> 00:21:46,505
it comes to

605
00:21:47,125 --> 00:21:48,744
rituals and things like that,

606
00:21:49,525 --> 00:21:51,845
you know, just like one of the biggest

607
00:21:51,845 --> 00:21:53,924
questions get asked, you know, what can we

608
00:21:53,924 --> 00:21:54,744
do for punishment,

609
00:21:55,230 --> 00:21:56,990
You know, along the same lines. Yeah. Yeah.

610
00:21:56,990 --> 00:21:57,490
And

611
00:21:57,789 --> 00:21:58,529
and the

612
00:21:59,470 --> 00:22:01,869
the true answer is we can't tell you.

613
00:22:01,869 --> 00:22:02,369
Mhmm.

614
00:22:02,750 --> 00:22:05,250
It it's hard to say because what

615
00:22:05,869 --> 00:22:08,755
is your S type like? Right. Okay. What

616
00:22:08,755 --> 00:22:11,555
what do they like? What don't they like?

617
00:22:11,555 --> 00:22:13,954
Right. You know, this one likes spanking. That's

618
00:22:13,954 --> 00:22:15,255
not a very

619
00:22:15,954 --> 00:22:18,515
No. That that would not deter. Because the

620
00:22:18,595 --> 00:22:20,434
at this point, even when you give the

621
00:22:20,434 --> 00:22:22,434
mean spanking, that's no fun. I'm still a

622
00:22:22,434 --> 00:22:24,589
little delighted that my ass is getting attention.

623
00:22:24,809 --> 00:22:25,309
So

624
00:22:25,690 --> 00:22:27,369
but so let's go back to rituals. Any

625
00:22:27,369 --> 00:22:28,970
of Right. It's like, well, what do you

626
00:22:29,210 --> 00:22:30,890
what rituals what do you want them for?

627
00:22:30,890 --> 00:22:32,269
Mhmm. Do you want them something

628
00:22:32,730 --> 00:22:34,329
do you want them to be something you

629
00:22:34,329 --> 00:22:36,169
do for yourself to get into a submissive

630
00:22:36,169 --> 00:22:37,929
mindset? Do you want them to be something

631
00:22:37,929 --> 00:22:40,265
you do to show devotion to your partner?

632
00:22:40,265 --> 00:22:42,345
Mhmm. Do you want like, what purpose is

633
00:22:42,345 --> 00:22:44,184
it supposed to serve and who is it

634
00:22:44,184 --> 00:22:44,684
for?

635
00:22:45,065 --> 00:22:47,305
And then from there, you can go, okay.

636
00:22:47,305 --> 00:22:49,704
Well, what's meaningful? Yeah. When you're doing something

637
00:22:49,704 --> 00:22:51,464
for a partner or the partner is doing

638
00:22:51,464 --> 00:22:52,525
something for you,

639
00:22:53,109 --> 00:22:55,829
then it's extremely personalized because what do they

640
00:22:55,829 --> 00:22:58,149
want and need? What's gonna hit hit their

641
00:22:58,149 --> 00:22:59,049
buttons? Right?

642
00:22:59,909 --> 00:23:02,329
If it's something for you, for your own

643
00:23:03,190 --> 00:23:03,690
mindset,

644
00:23:04,309 --> 00:23:06,389
you may have more resources available than you

645
00:23:06,389 --> 00:23:07,849
realize. Submissiveguide,

646
00:23:08,295 --> 00:23:10,134
.com is a very good site for all

647
00:23:10,134 --> 00:23:11,434
kinds of ideas

648
00:23:12,055 --> 00:23:12,555
and,

649
00:23:13,095 --> 00:23:15,195
ways perspectives on submission.

650
00:23:16,215 --> 00:23:18,715
I'm sure there are submissive groups on FetLife

651
00:23:19,095 --> 00:23:20,934
that, you know, where people are talking about

652
00:23:20,934 --> 00:23:22,555
these kinds of things. Mhmm.

653
00:23:23,174 --> 00:23:23,674
So

654
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:25,759
that that would be the answer to that.

655
00:23:25,759 --> 00:23:26,259
Now

656
00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:28,559
oh, my gosh. I've already forgotten the first

657
00:23:28,559 --> 00:23:30,880
part of the question. Best advice for new

658
00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:31,380
subs?

659
00:23:32,079 --> 00:23:34,880
That's a that's a very broad question. Do

660
00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:36,855
you have something that comes to mind? Learn.

661
00:23:38,054 --> 00:23:38,554
Learn.

662
00:23:39,174 --> 00:23:42,375
And, you know, understand what submission means to

663
00:23:42,375 --> 00:23:44,855
you as a new sub. Mhmm. You know,

664
00:23:45,255 --> 00:23:45,755
submission

665
00:23:46,375 --> 00:23:49,734
means many things to many people. Mhmm. Alright?

666
00:23:49,734 --> 00:23:50,554
And no

667
00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:53,799
two are the same. Exactly the same. And

668
00:23:53,799 --> 00:23:55,160
some of that you're gonna figure out with

669
00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:56,680
a partner, but there is plenty to learn

670
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:58,920
on your own. Like, you don't you know,

671
00:23:58,920 --> 00:23:59,420
my

672
00:23:59,799 --> 00:24:01,720
a lot of my kink education was led

673
00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:04,680
by JB, but anything beyond that, I I

674
00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:07,605
sought out. And there are resources absolutely that

675
00:24:07,605 --> 00:24:09,924
are created just for submissives in mind, just

676
00:24:09,924 --> 00:24:12,484
for dominance in mind. Right? Submissiveguide.com

677
00:24:12,484 --> 00:24:13,785
being a great one.

678
00:24:15,525 --> 00:24:16,984
The so I will not

679
00:24:17,605 --> 00:24:19,365
add that. I'll give you a second piece

680
00:24:19,365 --> 00:24:20,105
of advice

681
00:24:20,404 --> 00:24:22,005
to go with that because Jamie is a

682
00:24:22,005 --> 00:24:23,849
% right. So you get a twofer.

683
00:24:25,029 --> 00:24:26,650
Whether online or in person,

684
00:24:27,190 --> 00:24:29,109
yes. Even if you are like me and

685
00:24:29,109 --> 00:24:30,809
find it very difficult to be social,

686
00:24:31,190 --> 00:24:32,970
try to find community. Mhmm.

687
00:24:33,349 --> 00:24:34,490
Try to

688
00:24:34,950 --> 00:24:36,755
find people who even if they do not

689
00:24:36,755 --> 00:24:38,194
submit the way you do, even if they

690
00:24:38,194 --> 00:24:40,115
do not view power exchange and kink quite

691
00:24:40,115 --> 00:24:42,515
the way you do, but they ex accept

692
00:24:42,515 --> 00:24:44,534
you, you accept them, the vibe is right.

693
00:24:44,835 --> 00:24:45,734
Find that community

694
00:24:47,075 --> 00:24:49,100
because it there's a lot of of reasons

695
00:24:49,100 --> 00:24:51,099
it can be very helpful and important if

696
00:24:51,099 --> 00:24:53,420
it's a good community. Right? Do not hesitate

697
00:24:53,420 --> 00:24:56,299
to withdraw yourself from a bad community, toxic

698
00:24:56,299 --> 00:24:58,700
community, negative community. Right? Any place you don't

699
00:24:58,700 --> 00:24:59,900
feel welcome. Right? Yep.

700
00:25:00,619 --> 00:25:03,414
But there's the semi normalization of what you're

701
00:25:03,414 --> 00:25:05,014
doing. When you are out there on your

702
00:25:05,014 --> 00:25:05,514
own,

703
00:25:05,815 --> 00:25:07,974
knowing you're submissive, knowing you're kinky, and you

704
00:25:07,974 --> 00:25:08,634
don't have

705
00:25:09,014 --> 00:25:09,914
any interaction

706
00:25:10,375 --> 00:25:13,095
online or in person with other kinky people,

707
00:25:13,095 --> 00:25:15,589
it is very easy to feel isolated and

708
00:25:15,589 --> 00:25:17,269
that you are the only one. You are

709
00:25:17,269 --> 00:25:18,809
never the only one.

710
00:25:19,269 --> 00:25:21,589
Also, if you can have community and spaces

711
00:25:21,589 --> 00:25:22,569
in this situation,

712
00:25:22,950 --> 00:25:24,409
other submissives. Right?

713
00:25:25,190 --> 00:25:25,929
As you,

714
00:25:26,244 --> 00:25:28,644
you know, make friends or get into conversations

715
00:25:28,644 --> 00:25:30,085
or just get to watch what other people

716
00:25:30,085 --> 00:25:32,325
are talking about, you will learn. Here's some

717
00:25:32,325 --> 00:25:34,244
red flags to watch out for. Oh, here's

718
00:25:34,244 --> 00:25:35,845
sub frenzy. Maybe I need to be careful

719
00:25:35,845 --> 00:25:37,524
with that. You know, you learn a lot

720
00:25:37,524 --> 00:25:39,680
from each other. And then if you, you

721
00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:42,099
know, get fortunate enough to make, like, genuine

722
00:25:42,320 --> 00:25:44,720
friendships, hopefully, you have somebody who will go,

723
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:47,299
hey. Hey. That that person you're talking to,

724
00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:50,480
they're three red flags in a trench coat.

725
00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:50,924
So,

726
00:25:51,485 --> 00:25:51,985
you

727
00:25:53,045 --> 00:25:53,545
know

728
00:25:54,765 --> 00:25:56,684
or, like, if, you know, you have to

729
00:25:56,684 --> 00:25:59,005
go through the awfulness that is a power

730
00:25:59,005 --> 00:25:59,985
exchange breakup,

731
00:26:00,445 --> 00:26:03,045
you have somebody in your corner to go,

732
00:26:03,045 --> 00:26:05,259
you know, we're here for you. We care

733
00:26:05,259 --> 00:26:07,900
about you. You're valid. You know? Also, fuck

734
00:26:07,900 --> 00:26:10,299
that guy or whatever you need. Look. I

735
00:26:10,299 --> 00:26:12,059
am both the I will sit with you

736
00:26:12,059 --> 00:26:13,740
in silence and let you just cry and

737
00:26:13,740 --> 00:26:15,500
cry and cry and talk your head off

738
00:26:15,500 --> 00:26:16,480
to to process.

739
00:26:17,019 --> 00:26:18,815
I'm also the one who'll be like, oh,

740
00:26:18,815 --> 00:26:20,734
yeah. We hate that motherfucker. I don't know

741
00:26:20,734 --> 00:26:22,095
what he did. I don't know the guy.

742
00:26:22,095 --> 00:26:22,994
Never saw him.

743
00:26:23,295 --> 00:26:24,894
Do am I assuming it's a guy? I

744
00:26:24,894 --> 00:26:26,894
mean, that could be my own baggage showing,

745
00:26:26,894 --> 00:26:28,035
but you know what I mean.

746
00:26:28,335 --> 00:26:28,835
So

747
00:26:29,375 --> 00:26:32,674
yeah. For for new subs, education and community.

748
00:26:32,815 --> 00:26:35,299
Yep. The the top pieces of advice. There

749
00:26:35,299 --> 00:26:36,759
you go. Okay.

750
00:26:37,140 --> 00:26:38,120
Next question.

751
00:26:39,140 --> 00:26:42,279
Dynamic of four plus years now in love.

752
00:26:42,740 --> 00:26:44,580
How do we bring back the fire of

753
00:26:44,580 --> 00:26:46,505
power exchange in us both?

754
00:26:48,805 --> 00:26:50,265
How to reignite that,

755
00:26:51,765 --> 00:26:52,505
that fire.

756
00:26:52,884 --> 00:26:53,384
Yeah.

757
00:26:56,884 --> 00:26:58,244
You know I have thoughts. I'm just trying

758
00:26:58,244 --> 00:27:00,130
to, like, actually give you room. Give me

759
00:27:00,130 --> 00:27:01,490
room. Yeah. I'm gonna I'm

760
00:27:02,529 --> 00:27:04,369
yeah. See, I can't talk. I'm gonna defer

761
00:27:04,369 --> 00:27:05,849
to you. Two weeks off. See what happened?

762
00:27:05,849 --> 00:27:07,009
Yeah. One of us had to go tongue

763
00:27:07,009 --> 00:27:07,509
tied.

764
00:27:08,130 --> 00:27:10,230
Okay. So my first thought, and this

765
00:27:11,089 --> 00:27:11,750
is my

766
00:27:12,049 --> 00:27:14,049
my bias showing because of what we've gone

767
00:27:14,049 --> 00:27:14,444
through.

768
00:27:15,085 --> 00:27:17,164
Why did the fire die over however many

769
00:27:17,164 --> 00:27:19,804
years? Yeah. Was it life situations that have

770
00:27:19,804 --> 00:27:21,585
pulled you away from power exchange?

771
00:27:22,044 --> 00:27:22,865
Was it

772
00:27:23,484 --> 00:27:27,005
the downside of routines which turn into ruts

773
00:27:27,005 --> 00:27:28,764
where you're doing the same thing over and

774
00:27:28,764 --> 00:27:30,299
over again, but not putting a lot of

775
00:27:30,299 --> 00:27:32,639
thought into it. Is it

776
00:27:32,940 --> 00:27:33,440
that

777
00:27:35,099 --> 00:27:37,339
your life was different in the beginning and

778
00:27:37,339 --> 00:27:39,500
so your power exchange was different, but it

779
00:27:39,500 --> 00:27:41,579
has not it didn't shift. It either had

780
00:27:41,579 --> 00:27:43,500
to stop completely because your life changed enough

781
00:27:43,500 --> 00:27:45,075
that that didn't work anymore.

782
00:27:45,535 --> 00:27:48,015
Or you've been trying to do the same

783
00:27:48,015 --> 00:27:50,494
thing you always did, but your life looks

784
00:27:50,494 --> 00:27:51,234
different now.

785
00:27:51,775 --> 00:27:52,275
Alright?

786
00:27:52,575 --> 00:27:53,555
Is it that

787
00:27:54,174 --> 00:27:55,875
the power exchange, the kink

788
00:27:56,255 --> 00:27:59,000
stuff you did at one point is no

789
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:00,779
longer as exciting. Like, that

790
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:03,480
that's to me the first part. You gotta

791
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:05,960
kinda get a handle on how and why

792
00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:08,679
did we get here. Because to me, that's

793
00:28:08,679 --> 00:28:10,140
what helps you figure out

794
00:28:11,234 --> 00:28:13,234
how do we kind of, like, find a

795
00:28:13,234 --> 00:28:15,075
new path that is out of it. Right.

796
00:28:15,075 --> 00:28:17,394
Because if it's, like, life stressors that like,

797
00:28:17,394 --> 00:28:19,095
life's been beating you down because

798
00:28:20,115 --> 00:28:21,335
we we get it.

799
00:28:21,955 --> 00:28:23,714
Sometimes you have to just kinda get through

800
00:28:23,714 --> 00:28:24,775
that. Right? Yeah.

801
00:28:25,559 --> 00:28:27,159
Is it that your life has just shifted

802
00:28:27,159 --> 00:28:28,599
and you never talked about again? Well, now

803
00:28:28,599 --> 00:28:29,980
it's okay. Plan a conversation.

804
00:28:31,159 --> 00:28:33,659
I think it's a start small, pick something.

805
00:28:33,799 --> 00:28:34,299
Yeah.

806
00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:37,960
You know, we've started saying more and more,

807
00:28:38,359 --> 00:28:38,859
recently

808
00:28:39,399 --> 00:28:42,075
that when you pick that something small and

809
00:28:42,075 --> 00:28:43,595
slow to start off with to kind of

810
00:28:43,595 --> 00:28:45,835
build it back up, start with the thing

811
00:28:45,835 --> 00:28:48,875
you were both, like, super excited about, super

812
00:28:48,875 --> 00:28:51,035
turned on by, like, you're like, oh, I

813
00:28:51,035 --> 00:28:52,414
have missed this. Right?

814
00:28:53,069 --> 00:28:54,909
Because you both need to look forward to

815
00:28:54,909 --> 00:28:56,909
it. There needs to be some level of

816
00:28:56,909 --> 00:28:59,069
enthusiasm there. And then when you do it,

817
00:28:59,069 --> 00:29:01,150
even if it's imperfect and maybe it gets

818
00:29:01,150 --> 00:29:02,929
goofy and you have to laugh it off,

819
00:29:02,990 --> 00:29:05,150
you still shared this experience where you were,

820
00:29:05,150 --> 00:29:07,515
like, both, like, yeah. Let's fucking do this.

821
00:29:07,755 --> 00:29:08,974
Makes it a little easier

822
00:29:09,275 --> 00:29:10,575
to go to the next thing.

823
00:29:10,954 --> 00:29:12,795
What would you add? I think you did

824
00:29:12,795 --> 00:29:15,134
just fine with that. Oh, yeah. Thank you.

825
00:29:16,474 --> 00:29:18,015
Okay. Next one.

826
00:29:19,195 --> 00:29:21,275
Okay. I'm a part of me does not

827
00:29:21,275 --> 00:29:23,134
want to get to to do this one,

828
00:29:23,650 --> 00:29:25,670
but a part of me does. Okay.

829
00:29:27,329 --> 00:29:29,329
How to because the answer is the same

830
00:29:29,329 --> 00:29:30,869
as it was for anything else.

831
00:29:31,650 --> 00:29:34,210
But here we go. How to introduce swinging

832
00:29:34,210 --> 00:29:35,109
with your partner?

833
00:29:37,195 --> 00:29:38,815
Time to sit down and have a conversation.

834
00:29:39,115 --> 00:29:40,955
I mean, that's the obvious answer for sure.

835
00:29:40,955 --> 00:29:42,474
And and the best way to do that

836
00:29:42,474 --> 00:29:44,555
is to do it in a nod non

837
00:29:44,555 --> 00:29:45,775
judgmental manner.

838
00:29:46,394 --> 00:29:49,195
With as as few expectations as you can

839
00:29:49,195 --> 00:29:51,215
have going into that conversation. Yep.

840
00:29:51,674 --> 00:29:53,890
Yep. But it's no different than introducing your

841
00:29:53,890 --> 00:29:55,890
partner to kink, introducing them to power exchange

842
00:29:55,890 --> 00:29:57,809
if you never did that before, introducing them

843
00:29:57,809 --> 00:29:59,809
to a a new kink to try that

844
00:29:59,809 --> 00:30:01,029
y'all haven't tried before.

845
00:30:01,650 --> 00:30:03,670
You need to have an idea of what,

846
00:30:04,049 --> 00:30:06,450
you know, some understanding that you have of

847
00:30:06,450 --> 00:30:08,289
it and some understanding of yourself of what

848
00:30:08,289 --> 00:30:08,535
maybe

849
00:30:11,575 --> 00:30:13,335
and then you need to have patience. You

850
00:30:13,335 --> 00:30:14,455
need to be willing to come back to

851
00:30:14,455 --> 00:30:15,195
this conversation

852
00:30:16,695 --> 00:30:19,815
multiple times. You also need to understand and

853
00:30:19,815 --> 00:30:21,839
be willing to fucking drop it if they

854
00:30:21,839 --> 00:30:23,920
go, that's a hard no. I don't wanna

855
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:25,519
even talk about this. This is not gonna

856
00:30:25,519 --> 00:30:27,599
be my thing. You then have to decide

857
00:30:27,599 --> 00:30:28,960
where you wanna go from there with the

858
00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:31,679
relationship you have. How important is this to

859
00:30:31,679 --> 00:30:32,179
you?

860
00:30:34,924 --> 00:30:36,305
Yeah. So Yeah.

861
00:30:36,924 --> 00:30:38,224
Be prepared to

862
00:30:38,684 --> 00:30:41,805
share the resources you have on learning about,

863
00:30:41,805 --> 00:30:43,724
in this case, swinging. If you don't have

864
00:30:43,724 --> 00:30:45,484
resources, you need to go out and get

865
00:30:45,484 --> 00:30:47,660
some to make sure you are well versed

866
00:30:47,660 --> 00:30:50,299
in Mhmm. You know, ethical practices and risk

867
00:30:50,299 --> 00:30:52,240
awareness and, like, just how

868
00:30:52,619 --> 00:30:55,339
the swinging culture can operate. And I'm sure

869
00:30:55,339 --> 00:30:57,980
it's like the kink communities. Everybody's different in

870
00:30:57,980 --> 00:30:58,720
some way.

871
00:30:59,984 --> 00:31:02,945
But yeah. Health assure assurances and things that

872
00:31:02,945 --> 00:31:04,625
you Like, I would not I'm not gonna

873
00:31:04,625 --> 00:31:06,325
ever talk on swinging because I have

874
00:31:06,865 --> 00:31:07,605
no knowledge,

875
00:31:08,144 --> 00:31:08,644
no

876
00:31:09,265 --> 00:31:09,765
experience,

877
00:31:10,224 --> 00:31:12,490
no real interest. Like, that's that's not my

878
00:31:12,490 --> 00:31:12,990
jam.

879
00:31:13,369 --> 00:31:15,069
I have read a couple

880
00:31:15,450 --> 00:31:18,409
of, fictional romances about it and that was

881
00:31:18,409 --> 00:31:18,909
intriguing,

882
00:31:19,289 --> 00:31:21,230
but that's not the same. Yeah.

883
00:31:23,769 --> 00:31:25,769
So yeah. I mean, it's it's not a

884
00:31:25,769 --> 00:31:26,829
one and done conversation.

885
00:31:27,130 --> 00:31:29,615
No. Even if they say yes. Right?

886
00:31:29,914 --> 00:31:31,994
And you have to walk the fine line

887
00:31:31,994 --> 00:31:32,494
of

888
00:31:33,035 --> 00:31:33,695
are they

889
00:31:34,075 --> 00:31:34,575
unsure

890
00:31:34,955 --> 00:31:35,695
but willing

891
00:31:36,235 --> 00:31:37,855
to keep talking about it versus

892
00:31:38,394 --> 00:31:39,134
are they

893
00:31:39,434 --> 00:31:41,115
unsure and they wanna drop it for a

894
00:31:41,115 --> 00:31:42,555
while and they wanna think about it and

895
00:31:42,555 --> 00:31:44,059
then you have to, like, make sure you're

896
00:31:44,059 --> 00:31:46,480
not pressuring your partner, like, that's,

897
00:31:47,259 --> 00:31:47,759
as

898
00:31:48,140 --> 00:31:50,940
that's red, red flag trench coat behavior right

899
00:31:50,940 --> 00:31:51,440
there.

900
00:31:52,220 --> 00:31:53,900
But, yeah, you need to to come with

901
00:31:53,900 --> 00:31:55,454
information and resources and

902
00:31:56,174 --> 00:31:58,414
Correct. But don't bombard your partner in the

903
00:31:58,414 --> 00:31:59,234
first conversation.

904
00:31:59,855 --> 00:32:01,375
Right? Yeah. We always say when we're talking

905
00:32:01,375 --> 00:32:03,294
about kinks and you wanna introduce a partner

906
00:32:03,294 --> 00:32:05,054
to the idea of it, I like to

907
00:32:05,054 --> 00:32:06,974
start with hypotheticals. Like, have you heard of

908
00:32:06,974 --> 00:32:08,414
that? What if, you know, what do you

909
00:32:08,414 --> 00:32:10,460
think of that? Instead of jumping in and

910
00:32:10,460 --> 00:32:11,980
going, hey, I wanna fucking do this. And

911
00:32:11,980 --> 00:32:13,980
your partner's like, what the hell? Where's this

912
00:32:13,980 --> 00:32:15,580
coming from? Kinda kinda dip your toes in

913
00:32:15,580 --> 00:32:17,740
the water and test the waters first. Mhmm.

914
00:32:17,740 --> 00:32:18,240
Mhmm.

915
00:32:19,180 --> 00:32:19,680
Exactly.

916
00:32:20,220 --> 00:32:22,160
Mhmm. Okay. And then

917
00:32:23,134 --> 00:32:24,974
trying to refresh. Yep. Okay. We have one

918
00:32:24,974 --> 00:32:28,014
last question from Instagram. Now I'm gonna stop

919
00:32:28,014 --> 00:32:30,095
here because I'm gonna tell live chat what

920
00:32:30,095 --> 00:32:31,954
to do so they can be doing it

921
00:32:32,095 --> 00:32:34,255
while we're doing the last question. Okay. So

922
00:32:34,255 --> 00:32:36,029
we are gonna take questions from from YouTube

923
00:32:36,029 --> 00:32:38,269
live chat from the live stream. To ask

924
00:32:38,269 --> 00:32:41,309
your question in live chat, you need to

925
00:32:41,309 --> 00:32:44,029
tag us. Just type at loving BDSM. It

926
00:32:44,029 --> 00:32:46,289
lights up first. We can see it. Two,

927
00:32:46,430 --> 00:32:48,755
your question needs to fit within whatever the

928
00:32:48,755 --> 00:32:52,134
character limit is of one post comment thingy

929
00:32:52,674 --> 00:32:54,914
in live chat. If it's multiples, that's too

930
00:32:54,914 --> 00:32:57,234
much for where we're at now. You can

931
00:32:57,234 --> 00:32:58,034
send it to us,

932
00:32:58,914 --> 00:33:00,674
through our contact page on our website. Link

933
00:33:00,674 --> 00:33:01,494
is down below.

934
00:33:01,930 --> 00:33:03,210
And that might be a Q and A

935
00:33:03,210 --> 00:33:04,750
episode when we come back from that.

936
00:33:05,130 --> 00:33:07,529
And also, if you think we are not,

937
00:33:07,930 --> 00:33:09,930
answering your question fast enough and you decide

938
00:33:09,930 --> 00:33:12,330
you want to spam the channel, don't. But

939
00:33:12,330 --> 00:33:13,712
if you do, you will be putting in

940
00:33:13,712 --> 00:33:16,075
a time out because our moderators are awesome.

941
00:33:16,294 --> 00:33:18,774
Okay. So while live chat folks are thinking

942
00:33:18,774 --> 00:33:20,375
if they have a question and hell, if

943
00:33:20,375 --> 00:33:22,934
nobody has questions, I am happy to bullshit

944
00:33:22,934 --> 00:33:25,014
for a very long bonus section. Easy for

945
00:33:25,014 --> 00:33:25,514
me.

946
00:33:26,029 --> 00:33:28,210
Our last question from Instagram.

947
00:33:29,470 --> 00:33:31,309
What's one kink that you would like to

948
00:33:31,309 --> 00:33:33,869
try but haven't had the chance to? Either

949
00:33:33,869 --> 00:33:34,690
one of us.

950
00:33:39,595 --> 00:33:41,214
What would be the one thing?

951
00:33:44,154 --> 00:33:45,355
I would I think I would have to

952
00:33:45,355 --> 00:33:45,755
say,

953
00:33:46,714 --> 00:33:47,694
probably suspension.

954
00:33:50,930 --> 00:33:51,430
Yeah.

955
00:33:52,529 --> 00:33:53,029
Yeah.

956
00:33:54,049 --> 00:33:56,210
I could see that being, like, your your

957
00:33:56,210 --> 00:33:57,809
thing. Mhmm. And to be clear, you do

958
00:33:57,809 --> 00:33:59,490
not want to be suspended. You would like

959
00:33:59,490 --> 00:34:01,910
to suspend somebody else. Correct. Right. I

960
00:34:02,384 --> 00:34:03,144
I would not

961
00:34:03,585 --> 00:34:05,105
you know this. I'm I'm not telling you

962
00:34:05,105 --> 00:34:06,865
anything new. Yeah. I'm telling y'all something that's

963
00:34:06,865 --> 00:34:08,545
probably not new either. I would not be

964
00:34:08,545 --> 00:34:10,784
the partner for that. Not because I'm like

965
00:34:10,784 --> 00:34:12,784
have some aversion to that kind of bondage

966
00:34:12,784 --> 00:34:13,284
or

967
00:34:13,985 --> 00:34:16,065
I am already an anxious girl and there

968
00:34:16,065 --> 00:34:18,119
is something about leaving the ground that makes

969
00:34:18,119 --> 00:34:19,099
me very panicky.

970
00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:22,059
I also have all of the childhood

971
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:24,539
stuff from being bullied for

972
00:34:25,079 --> 00:34:25,579
for

973
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:27,019
not being

974
00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:29,319
apparently the right weight and body shape. So

975
00:34:29,319 --> 00:34:31,480
I walk around life going I am too

976
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:33,275
heavy for things. I am likely not too

977
00:34:33,275 --> 00:34:35,595
heavy for things. I have seen people with

978
00:34:35,595 --> 00:34:37,775
similar bodies to mine and larger

979
00:34:38,555 --> 00:34:40,894
get suspended safely, happily.

980
00:34:41,195 --> 00:34:43,035
Health, like, they've had the moment and it's

981
00:34:43,035 --> 00:34:44,715
been great. But my brain goes, you have

982
00:34:44,715 --> 00:34:46,815
left the ground. You're going to fall. And

983
00:34:48,019 --> 00:34:50,500
I don't care about bondage enough to put

984
00:34:50,500 --> 00:34:53,800
myself through. That. Okay. That is not

985
00:34:54,179 --> 00:34:56,679
a fear that I want to, like,

986
00:34:57,539 --> 00:34:59,480
work through. I don't know. Thank you.

987
00:35:02,885 --> 00:35:06,264
I have literally not thought about new kinks

988
00:35:06,804 --> 00:35:07,304
in

989
00:35:08,484 --> 00:35:10,565
literal years. Like, I just

990
00:35:11,364 --> 00:35:12,264
I want

991
00:35:12,644 --> 00:35:14,964
to do the kinks I like already that

992
00:35:14,964 --> 00:35:16,550
we never have time enough

993
00:35:17,010 --> 00:35:18,070
for. Mhmm.

994
00:35:18,849 --> 00:35:21,989
Yeah. Yeah. That is what I wanna do.

995
00:35:26,050 --> 00:35:27,650
Yeah. I I think part of it is

996
00:35:27,650 --> 00:35:29,410
I'm I feel like I'm a very, very

997
00:35:29,410 --> 00:35:32,414
simple kinky girl. I like a few things

998
00:35:32,414 --> 00:35:33,954
and when I like them deeply

999
00:35:34,255 --> 00:35:35,715
and then I'm kinda good

1000
00:35:36,255 --> 00:35:39,135
for you know, I'm happy to explore and

1001
00:35:39,135 --> 00:35:40,815
experiment if there's a thing we're gonna, like,

1002
00:35:40,815 --> 00:35:41,795
one off try.

1003
00:35:42,095 --> 00:35:44,914
I'm mostly open to to that, but Mhmm.

1004
00:35:45,809 --> 00:35:46,469
You know,

1005
00:35:46,769 --> 00:35:46,849
I don't

1006
00:35:48,530 --> 00:35:50,630
I have not come across anything online,

1007
00:35:52,130 --> 00:35:53,190
you know, through

1008
00:35:54,210 --> 00:35:55,969
research, through whatever. I have not come across

1009
00:35:55,969 --> 00:35:57,650
anything like, oh, yeah. I would like to

1010
00:35:57,650 --> 00:35:59,269
try that. I truly,

1011
00:36:00,804 --> 00:36:01,784
truly just

1012
00:36:02,164 --> 00:36:03,925
want enough time for the kinks I'm already

1013
00:36:03,925 --> 00:36:04,664
fucking into.

1014
00:36:05,525 --> 00:36:07,065
That's that's where I'm at.

1015
00:36:08,485 --> 00:36:09,864
Oh my god. I'm so hot.

1016
00:36:11,684 --> 00:36:14,159
Just a reminder for for anybody who's watching

1017
00:36:14,159 --> 00:36:16,799
live, we are accepting questions. Please tag us.

1018
00:36:16,799 --> 00:36:18,319
Please don't make it too long. Please don't

1019
00:36:18,319 --> 00:36:19,219
spam the channel.

1020
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:22,179
But if we don't get questions, truly, truly,

1021
00:36:22,639 --> 00:36:25,039
we we've got plenty to complain about from

1022
00:36:25,039 --> 00:36:26,565
our two week break,

1023
00:36:27,284 --> 00:36:29,224
which did end up being a decent break.

1024
00:36:29,284 --> 00:36:29,784
Okay.

1025
00:36:30,644 --> 00:36:31,304
Oh, KB.

1026
00:36:33,045 --> 00:36:35,844
Podcast funds. People who don't look at live

1027
00:36:35,844 --> 00:36:38,344
chat after the when you watch the video.

1028
00:36:38,909 --> 00:36:41,230
JB asked a fucking question because you want

1029
00:36:41,230 --> 00:36:42,589
to get me ranting, and you want me

1030
00:36:42,589 --> 00:36:44,670
to sweat this makeup off, don't you? You

1031
00:36:44,670 --> 00:36:46,829
want my glasses to just slide off my

1032
00:36:46,829 --> 00:36:49,150
face from the sweat because I will pump

1033
00:36:49,150 --> 00:36:50,690
my own blood pressure up.

1034
00:36:51,375 --> 00:36:53,775
It's because I said something. It's because I

1035
00:36:53,775 --> 00:36:56,175
said something. I did it to myself. Yeah.

1036
00:36:56,175 --> 00:36:57,954
You did. JB asks,

1037
00:36:58,894 --> 00:37:00,574
why can't you change the handle you will

1038
00:37:00,574 --> 00:37:01,875
forever fucking hate?

1039
00:37:03,909 --> 00:37:04,730
Because I can't

1040
00:37:05,670 --> 00:37:07,750
get the handle I want. We originally when

1041
00:37:07,750 --> 00:37:10,309
I I started our Instagram account for loving

1042
00:37:10,309 --> 00:37:10,809
BDSM.

1043
00:37:11,110 --> 00:37:13,690
The handle was fucking loving BDSM.

1044
00:37:14,469 --> 00:37:15,530
And then Instagram

1045
00:37:15,989 --> 00:37:18,150
came under Meta and Facebook had their fucked

1046
00:37:18,150 --> 00:37:19,644
up rules that they didn't want

1047
00:37:20,585 --> 00:37:22,605
certain names or acronyms or

1048
00:37:22,905 --> 00:37:24,125
grouping of letters

1049
00:37:24,505 --> 00:37:24,905
in,

1050
00:37:26,585 --> 00:37:29,405
a handle for on Facebook or on Instagram.

1051
00:37:29,864 --> 00:37:30,605
And when

1052
00:37:32,425 --> 00:37:33,484
we've we've somehow

1053
00:37:33,900 --> 00:37:36,219
showed up on the fucking vanilla side of

1054
00:37:36,219 --> 00:37:36,719
Instagram

1055
00:37:37,500 --> 00:37:39,679
and somebody clearly reported us

1056
00:37:40,059 --> 00:37:40,559
and

1057
00:37:41,260 --> 00:37:44,139
Instagram does what Instagram and Facebook do, and

1058
00:37:44,139 --> 00:37:46,699
with no communication and no warning and no

1059
00:37:46,699 --> 00:37:47,199
reason,

1060
00:37:47,885 --> 00:37:49,644
the account got yanked and banned and so

1061
00:37:49,644 --> 00:37:50,385
I could not

1062
00:37:50,764 --> 00:37:52,925
get that handle back to begin with. I

1063
00:37:52,925 --> 00:37:55,724
could also not get any iteration of loving

1064
00:37:55,724 --> 00:37:58,525
BDSM where the name clearly you could tell

1065
00:37:58,525 --> 00:38:00,065
was supposed to be loving BDSM.

1066
00:38:00,684 --> 00:38:03,779
Not with letters, not with numbers, not no

1067
00:38:03,779 --> 00:38:06,099
with fucking nothing. The best I could come

1068
00:38:06,099 --> 00:38:06,839
up with

1069
00:38:07,460 --> 00:38:09,859
was Loving and DS because DS for right.

1070
00:38:09,859 --> 00:38:12,914
Right. Power exchange. But that wasn't enough characters

1071
00:38:14,914 --> 00:38:14,994
so I had to add a goddamn one

1072
00:38:14,994 --> 00:38:15,894
on the end.

1073
00:38:16,594 --> 00:38:17,655
I hate that.

1074
00:38:20,195 --> 00:38:21,974
So, yeah, I can technically

1075
00:38:22,275 --> 00:38:23,494
change the handle.

1076
00:38:24,035 --> 00:38:25,554
And maybe one of these days, I need

1077
00:38:25,554 --> 00:38:27,394
to go see if the rules have changed

1078
00:38:27,394 --> 00:38:29,159
a little bit, but then I won't have

1079
00:38:29,159 --> 00:38:31,000
the running joke, and we won't have the

1080
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,500
lore of having the handle I fucking hate.

1081
00:38:39,079 --> 00:38:41,835
So that is why. Mhmm. Hey, you, JB.

1082
00:38:41,914 --> 00:38:43,454
Now we have a real question

1083
00:38:43,835 --> 00:38:45,454
from Paul. Thank you, Paul.

1084
00:38:45,835 --> 00:38:47,514
How do y'all deal with long days or

1085
00:38:47,514 --> 00:38:48,714
at the end of the day, one is

1086
00:38:48,714 --> 00:38:50,315
in, like, a bratty mood and the other

1087
00:38:50,315 --> 00:38:52,155
one wants nothing more than to shut down

1088
00:38:52,155 --> 00:38:53,454
and forget the world exists?

1089
00:38:54,554 --> 00:38:56,460
For us, it's not bratty. It's sassy

1090
00:38:57,420 --> 00:38:58,159
and playful.

1091
00:38:58,539 --> 00:39:00,219
But, yeah. I totally get that vibe. Go

1092
00:39:00,219 --> 00:39:01,920
ahead. How did you handle that?

1093
00:39:04,380 --> 00:39:07,099
Trial and error. Trial and error. You got

1094
00:39:07,099 --> 00:39:09,500
you an obedient sub is what you've Yeah.

1095
00:39:09,500 --> 00:39:10,079
I do.

1096
00:39:11,065 --> 00:39:11,565
You

1097
00:39:12,025 --> 00:39:14,585
know, it it comes down and and I

1098
00:39:14,585 --> 00:39:17,065
think what I have learned over over time

1099
00:39:17,065 --> 00:39:17,565
because,

1100
00:39:19,224 --> 00:39:21,465
I overstepped that balance a little bit number

1101
00:39:21,465 --> 00:39:22,045
of times,

1102
00:39:23,070 --> 00:39:25,489
but it comes down to mutual respect.

1103
00:39:26,030 --> 00:39:27,010
Mhmm. You know?

1104
00:39:28,190 --> 00:39:30,190
If she's just not in the mood, and

1105
00:39:30,190 --> 00:39:31,250
I and I understand,

1106
00:39:32,430 --> 00:39:34,130
how she gets overstimulated

1107
00:39:34,590 --> 00:39:36,849
and and, you know, different things affect her.

1108
00:39:37,295 --> 00:39:39,454
So I I respect her when she says

1109
00:39:39,454 --> 00:39:41,775
she needs that downtime to And I know

1110
00:39:41,775 --> 00:39:43,535
I'm safe enough to go, I can't do

1111
00:39:43,535 --> 00:39:45,695
this tonight. Yeah. Right? Like, it's not I'm

1112
00:39:45,695 --> 00:39:47,614
not gonna get in trouble for telling my

1113
00:39:47,614 --> 00:39:49,614
my daddy, Dom, that I was not on

1114
00:39:49,614 --> 00:39:51,795
the same wavelength that he was for tonight.

1115
00:39:52,269 --> 00:39:54,190
Mhmm. But, like, at night, this happened to

1116
00:39:54,190 --> 00:39:56,190
us last night, the other way around. Like

1117
00:39:56,190 --> 00:39:58,269
I said, I get sassy and playful. Mhmm.

1118
00:39:58,269 --> 00:40:01,550
I got some severe fucking bedtime zoos. Oh,

1119
00:40:01,550 --> 00:40:03,390
god. Yeah. I I mean, I Oh. I

1120
00:40:03,390 --> 00:40:05,329
was surprised. I don't think

1121
00:40:05,630 --> 00:40:07,425
those supplements are supposed to work quite that

1122
00:40:07,425 --> 00:40:09,425
fast. I feel like that's just a placebo

1123
00:40:09,425 --> 00:40:11,905
effect. I'm taking new supplements and they arrive

1124
00:40:11,985 --> 00:40:14,164
whatever whatever. Started them yesterday. Anyway,

1125
00:40:16,545 --> 00:40:17,684
and so I was

1126
00:40:18,065 --> 00:40:19,045
whole wide yolked

1127
00:40:19,425 --> 00:40:22,380
in bed. Like, not wild, like, riding him

1128
00:40:22,380 --> 00:40:24,619
like a fucking bunk of rocks. Bouncing off

1129
00:40:24,619 --> 00:40:26,719
the wall. Bouncing off the walls.

1130
00:40:27,980 --> 00:40:30,699
And JB has this ability. And even in

1131
00:40:30,699 --> 00:40:31,359
my, like,

1132
00:40:31,900 --> 00:40:35,375
foggiest moments, it cuts through. It literally goes,

1133
00:40:35,675 --> 00:40:38,255
not tonight, baby girl. Now do I pout?

1134
00:40:38,635 --> 00:40:39,695
Of course she does.

1135
00:40:39,994 --> 00:40:42,315
Do I, you know, huff and especially when

1136
00:40:42,315 --> 00:40:44,255
it's in bed, real low, real heavy.

1137
00:40:45,195 --> 00:40:45,695
Yes.

1138
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:48,800
But we know each other well enough to

1139
00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:50,239
know. He knows I'm not serious and I'm

1140
00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:52,400
not being disrespectful. That's, like, let let me

1141
00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:54,239
baby girl the moment out, and we'll get

1142
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:56,160
there. Because I'm gonna respect the fact that

1143
00:40:56,160 --> 00:40:58,400
he's, like, I can't tonight. Yeah. Now what

1144
00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:00,000
I would say is if you have if

1145
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:02,484
every night for some length of time is

1146
00:41:02,484 --> 00:41:03,144
like that,

1147
00:41:03,764 --> 00:41:06,085
it's time to figure out when you can

1148
00:41:06,085 --> 00:41:07,625
plan for some time

1149
00:41:08,085 --> 00:41:10,724
to to reconnect. Because that's the thing that

1150
00:41:10,724 --> 00:41:12,804
usually ends up being the worst for us

1151
00:41:12,804 --> 00:41:15,579
is we'll we will be too tired, too

1152
00:41:15,579 --> 00:41:17,359
overstimulated, too whatever whatever,

1153
00:41:17,659 --> 00:41:19,019
too many days in a row, and we're

1154
00:41:19,019 --> 00:41:20,619
not getting any of what we need, and

1155
00:41:20,619 --> 00:41:23,199
we're not as connected as we usually are.

1156
00:41:23,420 --> 00:41:24,719
And then we have to, like,

1157
00:41:25,420 --> 00:41:25,920
actively

1158
00:41:26,219 --> 00:41:27,679
make it happen. Yeah.

1159
00:41:28,445 --> 00:41:31,324
So and or I like to say, fall

1160
00:41:31,324 --> 00:41:33,565
back on small things. Fall back on little

1161
00:41:33,565 --> 00:41:35,324
things that have meaning to y'all but don't

1162
00:41:35,324 --> 00:41:37,804
require a lot of energy or effort. Right?

1163
00:41:37,804 --> 00:41:38,625
True. True.

1164
00:41:38,925 --> 00:41:39,664
But yeah.

1165
00:41:40,844 --> 00:41:41,664
Oh, gosh.

1166
00:41:43,949 --> 00:41:45,170
I'm so hot.

1167
00:41:45,869 --> 00:41:47,010
I'm so hot.

1168
00:41:48,989 --> 00:41:50,210
It's kinda warmish.

1169
00:41:50,910 --> 00:41:52,349
There's a reason we went through the sketch

1170
00:41:52,349 --> 00:41:54,349
change. I'll do that again for anybody who

1171
00:41:54,349 --> 00:41:56,385
missed it in the beginning, is joining after

1172
00:41:56,385 --> 00:41:56,885
the

1173
00:41:57,265 --> 00:41:59,105
fact, had already forgotten because I know how

1174
00:41:59,105 --> 00:42:00,005
memories were.

1175
00:42:00,545 --> 00:42:01,284
We are

1176
00:42:01,664 --> 00:42:03,844
changing our livestream schedule for the summer,

1177
00:42:04,144 --> 00:42:06,885
June, July, August for sure, possibly September.

1178
00:42:07,184 --> 00:42:10,085
We are now livestreaming on Wednesdays at 7PM

1179
00:42:10,144 --> 00:42:13,420
eastern when it is slightly cooler. And when

1180
00:42:13,420 --> 00:42:15,180
we do the cool down things, they actually

1181
00:42:15,180 --> 00:42:16,079
start to work,

1182
00:42:17,019 --> 00:42:17,519
because

1183
00:42:17,820 --> 00:42:20,960
this heat right here is miserable right now.

1184
00:42:22,700 --> 00:42:24,539
And then we are also taking a break

1185
00:42:24,539 --> 00:42:27,255
from our Monday episodes through that same time.

1186
00:42:27,734 --> 00:42:29,034
Because in our

1187
00:42:29,815 --> 00:42:31,835
schedule and the way our life and

1188
00:42:32,534 --> 00:42:34,934
work and everything operate, the best time to

1189
00:42:34,934 --> 00:42:36,855
record those videos is in the middle of

1190
00:42:36,855 --> 00:42:38,534
the day, and that is what we are

1191
00:42:38,534 --> 00:42:39,994
trying to avoid. Yeah.

1192
00:42:41,094 --> 00:42:41,594
So,

1193
00:42:45,150 --> 00:42:46,610
yeah, so that is happening.

1194
00:42:47,070 --> 00:42:49,309
Again, feel free for anybody who's watching on

1195
00:42:49,390 --> 00:42:50,610
live on YouTube to,

1196
00:42:52,670 --> 00:42:53,650
get in a question.

1197
00:42:53,949 --> 00:42:56,349
I'm happy to maybe take one more and

1198
00:42:56,349 --> 00:42:58,315
or if we get to 01:45PM

1199
00:42:58,315 --> 00:43:00,474
by our computer clock and there's no questions,

1200
00:43:00,474 --> 00:43:02,335
we'll go into a bonus section. Okay.

1201
00:43:03,195 --> 00:43:05,195
You know, it's funny. I love to just

1202
00:43:05,195 --> 00:43:07,835
hang out and just chitchat and, like, whatever

1203
00:43:07,835 --> 00:43:08,335
whatever

1204
00:43:08,875 --> 00:43:10,530
until it gets hot like this.

1205
00:43:11,409 --> 00:43:13,409
And it it really mostly just pisses me

1206
00:43:13,409 --> 00:43:15,570
off because I would happily, like, just bullshit

1207
00:43:15,570 --> 00:43:17,110
around for however long,

1208
00:43:17,650 --> 00:43:18,150
but

1209
00:43:18,610 --> 00:43:20,210
I get nauseous when I get hot like

1210
00:43:20,210 --> 00:43:23,324
this. I once I get hot, I stay

1211
00:43:23,324 --> 00:43:25,505
hot even once I'm in a Mhmm. Cool

1212
00:43:25,565 --> 00:43:26,764
place. I don't know if I should blame

1213
00:43:26,764 --> 00:43:27,425
the perimenopause.

1214
00:43:27,724 --> 00:43:30,065
I don't know. I just know it happens.

1215
00:43:30,204 --> 00:43:31,984
And it's worse now. Like, it

1216
00:43:32,284 --> 00:43:33,804
you know? Yeah. I've been living in the

1217
00:43:33,804 --> 00:43:35,984
South my whole fucking life. I've I understand

1218
00:43:36,125 --> 00:43:38,579
heat, but the get hot, stay hot, and

1219
00:43:38,660 --> 00:43:40,019
can't cool down no matter what you do.

1220
00:43:40,019 --> 00:43:43,140
Oh, that's new. That's new. Yeah. But,

1221
00:43:44,900 --> 00:43:45,400
yeah.

1222
00:43:46,019 --> 00:43:48,500
I think spoilers for anybody who gives a

1223
00:43:48,500 --> 00:43:49,780
fuck about this kind of thing. I think

1224
00:43:49,780 --> 00:43:52,900
next week will be a BDSM Reddit episode.

1225
00:43:52,900 --> 00:43:54,019
We haven't done one of those in a

1226
00:43:54,019 --> 00:43:55,204
hot minute.

1227
00:43:55,664 --> 00:43:56,885
Mhmm. Mhmm.

1228
00:43:57,345 --> 00:43:58,005
Mhmm. Yep.

1229
00:43:58,864 --> 00:44:00,545
Yeah. If it's if the room is slightly

1230
00:44:00,545 --> 00:44:02,405
cooler, I have no problem ranting.

1231
00:44:02,864 --> 00:44:03,364
Yeah.

1232
00:44:04,465 --> 00:44:06,065
And I I know I should have worn

1233
00:44:06,065 --> 00:44:08,246
my hair up today, but I had I

1234
00:44:08,246 --> 00:44:10,797
literally just got it cut yesterday, day before

1235
00:44:10,797 --> 00:44:13,666
recording, though. And it's cute. I was like,

1236
00:44:13,666 --> 00:44:16,536
I I was too what's the word I

1237
00:44:16,536 --> 00:44:19,086
want? There's a word I want. I can't

1238
00:44:19,086 --> 00:44:21,956
think of it. I could have had her

1239
00:44:21,956 --> 00:44:23,654
go shorter and more

1240
00:44:24,434 --> 00:44:26,375
obvious with what she did,

1241
00:44:27,954 --> 00:44:29,875
but I hesitated at the last minute. And

1242
00:44:29,875 --> 00:44:31,875
I think I don't know. It's been fifteen

1243
00:44:31,875 --> 00:44:33,795
months since my last haircut. So in another

1244
00:44:33,795 --> 00:44:35,255
fifteen months, if I recall,

1245
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:37,719
I'll I'll go shorter and because it's supposed

1246
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:40,039
to be an asymmetrical bob. So for anybody

1247
00:44:40,039 --> 00:44:42,119
who who's like, what the fuck? The back

1248
00:44:42,119 --> 00:44:45,159
of your haircut is shorter and it angles,

1249
00:44:45,159 --> 00:44:46,599
and so the longest part is at the

1250
00:44:46,599 --> 00:44:48,199
front of your face. And I wanted it

1251
00:44:48,199 --> 00:44:50,279
very, very subtle because I wasn't sure if

1252
00:44:50,279 --> 00:44:51,994
it would look like I'd look crazy

1253
00:44:52,375 --> 00:44:54,234
with it. And then when she was done,

1254
00:44:54,295 --> 00:44:55,194
I was like,

1255
00:44:57,094 --> 00:44:58,534
I should have said more, but I didn't

1256
00:44:58,534 --> 00:44:59,755
wanna sit there anymore.

1257
00:45:06,750 --> 00:45:07,250
So

1258
00:45:09,150 --> 00:45:10,050
oh my gosh.

1259
00:45:11,469 --> 00:45:13,250
I know. I know. It's hot.

1260
00:45:13,789 --> 00:45:15,469
I feel sorry for anybody who's like, I

1261
00:45:15,469 --> 00:45:17,710
thought this is a podcast with people talking

1262
00:45:17,710 --> 00:45:19,150
about things. And we're just like, do do

1263
00:45:19,150 --> 00:45:20,494
do do. I'm running out the clock at

1264
00:45:20,494 --> 00:45:21,535
this point. I'm waiting to see if a

1265
00:45:21,535 --> 00:45:24,015
question comes in less than a minute according

1266
00:45:24,015 --> 00:45:24,835
to our clock.

1267
00:45:26,015 --> 00:45:27,715
And then we'll go into a bonus section.

1268
00:45:28,735 --> 00:45:31,375
Mhmm. Ticking down. The clock changed. No new

1269
00:45:31,375 --> 00:45:33,295
questions came through. We're gonna go into a

1270
00:45:33,295 --> 00:45:34,914
bonus section now. Okay.

1271
00:45:37,460 --> 00:45:40,099
Okay. You're gonna hit buttons. Yep. I'm gonna

1272
00:45:40,099 --> 00:45:42,359
try and remember how all this works. Okay.

1273
00:45:42,500 --> 00:45:44,199
So are you ready? Sure.

1274
00:45:44,500 --> 00:45:45,000
K.

1275
00:45:45,380 --> 00:45:47,300
Keep it kinky, y'all. And we'll see you

1276
00:45:47,300 --> 00:45:48,039
next week.

1277
00:45:57,674 --> 00:45:59,855
Okay. Can we talk to the crickets?

1278
00:46:00,234 --> 00:46:00,734
Sure.

1279
00:46:01,114 --> 00:46:02,875
It's really you who needs to talk because

1280
00:46:02,875 --> 00:46:04,170
you've been through it.

1281
00:46:04,730 --> 00:46:06,489
Well, I'm I'm not gonna talk a whole

1282
00:46:06,489 --> 00:46:10,170
lot about Yeah. I'm gonna I intend to

1283
00:46:10,170 --> 00:46:11,549
talk more about it later,

1284
00:46:12,809 --> 00:46:14,650
in the Patreon. Yeah. Yeah. I was thinking

1285
00:46:14,650 --> 00:46:16,170
about your foot more than that. That too.

1286
00:46:16,170 --> 00:46:17,849
Yeah. Because we went from we had the

1287
00:46:17,849 --> 00:46:19,514
first reason we were off for a week.

1288
00:46:19,914 --> 00:46:21,434
My mom came to town and we didn't

1289
00:46:21,434 --> 00:46:22,875
wanna, like, have to juggle all that. And

1290
00:46:22,875 --> 00:46:24,315
it was good to get a break. Mhmm.

1291
00:46:24,795 --> 00:46:26,875
I was emotionally drained from that visit. Not

1292
00:46:26,875 --> 00:46:29,194
not because my mother is emotionally draining. She's

1293
00:46:29,194 --> 00:46:30,014
really not.

1294
00:46:30,394 --> 00:46:31,755
In some ways, she and I are very

1295
00:46:31,755 --> 00:46:33,420
similar and so we vibe well.

1296
00:46:33,819 --> 00:46:36,480
But the dynamic between her and her sister,

1297
00:46:37,900 --> 00:46:39,440
trying to manage that,

1298
00:46:39,739 --> 00:46:41,519
so two grown women don't like

1299
00:46:42,139 --> 00:46:44,380
I don't know. Yeah. Do whatever they would

1300
00:46:44,380 --> 00:46:45,434
do that would be negative

1301
00:46:46,074 --> 00:46:47,594
that I'm trying to avoid. They they need

1302
00:46:47,594 --> 00:46:48,175
a handler.

1303
00:46:48,795 --> 00:46:51,355
And when I stopped trying to be that

1304
00:46:51,355 --> 00:46:53,114
person, because I just couldn't do it anymore

1305
00:46:53,114 --> 00:46:54,954
and I recognized that was the healthiest way,

1306
00:46:54,954 --> 00:46:56,795
is to not insert myself and try and

1307
00:46:56,795 --> 00:46:59,594
fix a 60 year old problem between the

1308
00:46:59,594 --> 00:47:00,414
two of them.

1309
00:47:01,449 --> 00:47:03,690
The first question I got was, you sure

1310
00:47:03,690 --> 00:47:05,610
are quiet. Mhmm. I don't have anything to

1311
00:47:05,610 --> 00:47:07,690
say. You don't? Nope. Because in my head,

1312
00:47:07,690 --> 00:47:09,130
I'm like, you don't wanna fucking hear what

1313
00:47:09,130 --> 00:47:11,530
I gotta say. Anyway, so we went from

1314
00:47:11,530 --> 00:47:12,670
that into

1315
00:47:13,369 --> 00:47:15,309
finally get our getting our kitchen floor

1316
00:47:15,795 --> 00:47:16,295
replaced,

1317
00:47:16,675 --> 00:47:17,175
we,

1318
00:47:18,275 --> 00:47:19,974
so first of all, if you don't recall,

1319
00:47:20,275 --> 00:47:22,994
the kitchen floor got flooded from a faulty

1320
00:47:22,994 --> 00:47:24,694
dishwasher back in October.

1321
00:47:25,714 --> 00:47:26,214
Yeah.

1322
00:47:26,675 --> 00:47:29,155
May 2025, we finally got the kitchen floors

1323
00:47:29,155 --> 00:47:29,954
replaced. Mhmm. And we had originally been told

1324
00:47:29,954 --> 00:47:30,690
the place

1325
00:47:37,250 --> 00:47:38,949
hot minute to pick out the tile.

1326
00:47:39,489 --> 00:47:39,989
Mhmm.

1327
00:47:40,609 --> 00:47:43,454
And, thankfully, they were very patient about that.

1328
00:47:43,535 --> 00:47:45,375
Yeah. Five samples later. Right? We kept coming

1329
00:47:45,375 --> 00:47:47,614
in and carting out samples. Yep. And we

1330
00:47:47,614 --> 00:47:48,974
were on our last thing, and I was

1331
00:47:48,974 --> 00:47:50,575
like, if we don't pick it from here,

1332
00:47:50,575 --> 00:47:52,575
we gotta go somewhere else because these people

1333
00:47:52,575 --> 00:47:54,255
clearly don't have it. And,

1334
00:47:55,055 --> 00:47:56,755
you know, then they sent the installers

1335
00:47:57,900 --> 00:48:00,219
out to, you know, give us the estimate

1336
00:48:00,219 --> 00:48:02,799
and everything on on putting it down. Mhmm.

1337
00:48:02,940 --> 00:48:03,339
And,

1338
00:48:04,539 --> 00:48:07,179
he was here, what, Thursday? On Thursday? He

1339
00:48:07,179 --> 00:48:09,679
came in on Thursday. And, you know, he's

1340
00:48:11,015 --> 00:48:11,655
he's like,

1341
00:48:13,655 --> 00:48:15,974
you know, I can give price was good.

1342
00:48:15,974 --> 00:48:17,175
Yeah. Yeah. It was a price. Price was

1343
00:48:17,175 --> 00:48:17,914
really good.

1344
00:48:18,375 --> 00:48:18,695
And,

1345
00:48:19,175 --> 00:48:21,175
And not for, like, like, some back alley,

1346
00:48:21,175 --> 00:48:23,175
like, shoddy, like No. No. No. Hey. I

1347
00:48:23,175 --> 00:48:24,869
got some growl under a a trench coat

1348
00:48:24,869 --> 00:48:25,369
company.

1349
00:48:26,069 --> 00:48:27,589
Not that. Not that. Have I got some

1350
00:48:27,589 --> 00:48:30,230
tile for you? Right. Not that kind of

1351
00:48:30,230 --> 00:48:30,809
a deal.

1352
00:48:32,710 --> 00:48:33,029
But,

1353
00:48:33,670 --> 00:48:35,109
you know, and then and then he rolls

1354
00:48:35,109 --> 00:48:36,809
out. He goes, I can start Monday.

1355
00:48:37,344 --> 00:48:38,885
And we went We're like, what?

1356
00:48:39,425 --> 00:48:41,824
Please start Monday. Yeah. But it meant we

1357
00:48:41,824 --> 00:48:43,505
had to then take the other week off.

1358
00:48:43,505 --> 00:48:45,184
Because he said that, you know, it was

1359
00:48:45,184 --> 00:48:47,184
a three day process and fine, you know,

1360
00:48:47,184 --> 00:48:49,265
first day in rip out and clean and

1361
00:48:49,265 --> 00:48:50,724
get it repaired, and then

1362
00:48:51,025 --> 00:48:52,065
next day come in and,

1363
00:48:53,079 --> 00:48:54,300
put the tile down.

1364
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:57,159
And then following that

1365
00:48:57,480 --> 00:48:59,339
And then the grouting. Grout. Yep.

1366
00:49:00,119 --> 00:49:03,000
So, yeah. It's it's all done. The floor

1367
00:49:03,000 --> 00:49:03,739
is done.

1368
00:49:04,440 --> 00:49:05,984
The trim work still has to be done.

1369
00:49:05,984 --> 00:49:08,144
We we have to put the trim work

1370
00:49:08,144 --> 00:49:08,884
back in,

1371
00:49:09,585 --> 00:49:10,484
and also

1372
00:49:10,864 --> 00:49:11,824
we have to,

1373
00:49:12,545 --> 00:49:14,964
pull out the kick plate from the cabinets.

1374
00:49:15,344 --> 00:49:17,904
Which we think and hope and That that

1375
00:49:17,904 --> 00:49:19,744
is all we have to be replaced. The

1376
00:49:19,744 --> 00:49:22,079
the cabinets themselves are okay. Yep.

1377
00:49:22,539 --> 00:49:24,319
Yeah. So go from there.

1378
00:49:25,339 --> 00:49:27,739
Yeah. Because the cabinets, whatever damage they might

1379
00:49:27,739 --> 00:49:28,559
have sustained,

1380
00:49:29,099 --> 00:49:31,339
would not be enough for our insurance to

1381
00:49:31,339 --> 00:49:33,420
pay for all of the cabinets to be

1382
00:49:33,420 --> 00:49:35,119
replaced. So we would have, like,

1383
00:49:35,505 --> 00:49:37,585
janky mismatch. I don't like our cabinets that

1384
00:49:37,585 --> 00:49:38,864
much, but I don't want them to be

1385
00:49:38,864 --> 00:49:41,904
mismatched either. So it's yeah. I'm like, if

1386
00:49:41,904 --> 00:49:43,344
it if we don't have to worry about

1387
00:49:43,344 --> 00:49:44,244
it, let's not.

1388
00:49:44,864 --> 00:49:46,944
Now in the middle of all this Yeah.

1389
00:49:47,184 --> 00:49:47,684
JB

1390
00:49:48,304 --> 00:49:49,424
was supposed to,

1391
00:49:51,000 --> 00:49:53,639
show up the Monday, the nineteenth. That was

1392
00:49:53,639 --> 00:49:55,320
the nineteenth, I think. When the floors were

1393
00:49:55,320 --> 00:49:55,820
starting

1394
00:49:56,519 --> 00:49:58,119
for jury duty. Oh, that's right. That's what

1395
00:49:58,119 --> 00:49:59,639
he was supposed to do. And he kept

1396
00:49:59,639 --> 00:50:01,000
forgetting, and I had to keep reminding him

1397
00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:02,199
because he was dreading it and he didn't

1398
00:50:02,199 --> 00:50:03,960
wanna do it. I'm the nosy bitch who's

1399
00:50:03,960 --> 00:50:06,324
like, put me on a jury. The one

1400
00:50:06,324 --> 00:50:07,864
time I did it, I fucking loved

1401
00:50:08,164 --> 00:50:11,204
it. Oh, to be that nosy and to

1402
00:50:11,204 --> 00:50:14,724
literally be mandated to judge something, oh, as

1403
00:50:14,724 --> 00:50:15,625
in fucking heaven.

1404
00:50:15,925 --> 00:50:16,425
Anyway,

1405
00:50:18,085 --> 00:50:19,625
Jamie does not feel that way

1406
00:50:20,085 --> 00:50:22,849
on jury duty and was dreading it. Now,

1407
00:50:23,389 --> 00:50:25,150
we were also, like, I was trying to

1408
00:50:25,150 --> 00:50:26,589
hype him up. First, I was like, oh,

1409
00:50:26,589 --> 00:50:28,030
maybe they won't ask y'all to come in

1410
00:50:28,030 --> 00:50:30,109
and we used the notification system they had.

1411
00:50:30,109 --> 00:50:31,710
He had to go. Then I was like,

1412
00:50:31,710 --> 00:50:33,309
well, maybe they'll let you go that one

1413
00:50:33,389 --> 00:50:34,829
that first day and you just lose the

1414
00:50:34,829 --> 00:50:35,684
one day, but no big

1415
00:50:36,644 --> 00:50:37,545
deal. JB,

1416
00:50:37,925 --> 00:50:40,244
what did you do to yourself? He hurt

1417
00:50:40,244 --> 00:50:41,765
himself. He had to go to the doctor

1418
00:50:41,765 --> 00:50:42,425
that Monday.

1419
00:50:42,965 --> 00:50:44,565
I got out of jury duty though. I

1420
00:50:44,565 --> 00:50:45,864
did. I did.

1421
00:50:49,219 --> 00:50:52,179
Lola and I kinda have this this little

1422
00:50:52,179 --> 00:50:52,679
thing.

1423
00:50:53,859 --> 00:50:55,719
When when she goes out in the backyard

1424
00:50:56,739 --> 00:50:57,800
to do her thing,

1425
00:50:59,859 --> 00:51:02,359
when she's done, she gets wound up,

1426
00:51:03,375 --> 00:51:05,235
and she will she will charge,

1427
00:51:06,015 --> 00:51:06,914
full tilt

1428
00:51:07,454 --> 00:51:07,954
and

1429
00:51:08,894 --> 00:51:11,215
we had kinda gotten into a routine when

1430
00:51:11,215 --> 00:51:13,215
she come when I see her start charging

1431
00:51:13,215 --> 00:51:15,315
like that, I'll throw open the back door,

1432
00:51:15,449 --> 00:51:17,369
She'll come running in and I'll chase in

1433
00:51:17,369 --> 00:51:19,289
right behind her and and, you know, get

1434
00:51:19,289 --> 00:51:20,589
her to play a little bit.

1435
00:51:21,369 --> 00:51:22,329
And that's what I was,

1436
00:51:22,969 --> 00:51:24,030
aiming to do.

1437
00:51:24,969 --> 00:51:27,050
And I I threw open the back door.

1438
00:51:27,050 --> 00:51:28,750
She came bolting in

1439
00:51:29,775 --> 00:51:31,875
and I wound myself up to

1440
00:51:32,655 --> 00:51:34,194
come in right after her,

1441
00:51:35,054 --> 00:51:36,734
and I slammed my foot on the door

1442
00:51:36,734 --> 00:51:37,234
jam.

1443
00:51:38,974 --> 00:51:40,974
Oh, the little pinky baby toe. You know,

1444
00:51:40,974 --> 00:51:43,614
somehow the worst toe ever hit, it hurts

1445
00:51:43,614 --> 00:51:45,269
the worst of all of them, somehow. I

1446
00:51:45,269 --> 00:51:48,010
don't understand why. And, yeah. It,

1447
00:51:49,750 --> 00:51:52,309
hurt like a son of a bitch. He

1448
00:51:52,309 --> 00:51:54,390
basically screamed. We all the whole house came

1449
00:51:54,390 --> 00:51:57,289
running. Like, what is happening here? And,

1450
00:51:59,074 --> 00:52:00,694
kinda let it go. And,

1451
00:52:01,234 --> 00:52:03,655
by later that evening, it was very swollen.

1452
00:52:04,835 --> 00:52:07,174
Mhmm. And it had turned several

1453
00:52:07,714 --> 00:52:09,795
shades of color. Yeah. And it wasn't like,

1454
00:52:09,795 --> 00:52:11,250
oh, it's a little red. This we were

1455
00:52:11,730 --> 00:52:13,889
the black. We were like verging on. Mhmm.

1456
00:52:13,889 --> 00:52:15,670
That can't be healthy. No.

1457
00:52:16,130 --> 00:52:16,630
So,

1458
00:52:18,530 --> 00:52:19,750
decided to let it

1459
00:52:20,369 --> 00:52:22,210
sit overnight and see how it felt in

1460
00:52:22,210 --> 00:52:22,789
the morning.

1461
00:52:23,855 --> 00:52:26,574
Mhmm. Come morning, it was more swollen, and

1462
00:52:26,574 --> 00:52:27,714
the second toe

1463
00:52:28,734 --> 00:52:30,255
was swollen. Mhmm.

1464
00:52:30,894 --> 00:52:32,994
The colors were even more vivid.

1465
00:52:33,614 --> 00:52:35,315
Yeah. And we, like, have a

1466
00:52:35,639 --> 00:52:37,319
general understanding that usually with, like, a broken

1467
00:52:37,319 --> 00:52:38,599
toe. They're probably gonna tape it. There might

1468
00:52:38,599 --> 00:52:39,880
not be much that they can do, but

1469
00:52:39,880 --> 00:52:42,440
the colors were making us very nervous. I

1470
00:52:42,440 --> 00:52:44,920
was like, that that can't be right. Right.

1471
00:52:44,920 --> 00:52:46,059
That can't be right.

1472
00:52:46,599 --> 00:52:48,380
So first thing did, contacted

1473
00:52:50,204 --> 00:52:50,704
county.

1474
00:52:51,005 --> 00:52:52,845
Oh, let me tell you this. Though, thankfully,

1475
00:52:52,845 --> 00:52:54,704
it's an online Yeah. Sit situation.

1476
00:52:55,244 --> 00:52:56,845
We were prepared for him to have to

1477
00:52:56,845 --> 00:52:59,965
call once the office opened. Right. But it's

1478
00:52:59,965 --> 00:53:01,885
five something in the morning. We got up

1479
00:53:01,885 --> 00:53:03,325
early. He was supposed to be at jury

1480
00:53:03,325 --> 00:53:05,300
duty at, what, 07:30? Seven thirty. We didn't

1481
00:53:05,300 --> 00:53:07,300
know what time the flooring people were gonna

1482
00:53:07,300 --> 00:53:08,820
be there. Like, we were just up and

1483
00:53:08,820 --> 00:53:10,980
at them, and he stumbles back onto the

1484
00:53:10,980 --> 00:53:12,539
bedroom after getting up and making his cup

1485
00:53:12,539 --> 00:53:13,559
of coffee. He's like,

1486
00:53:13,860 --> 00:53:15,300
I think I need to see a doctor.

1487
00:53:15,300 --> 00:53:17,380
I'm like, okay. Yeah. Let's organize this. So

1488
00:53:17,380 --> 00:53:18,980
I'm explaining to him, okay. You can't call

1489
00:53:18,980 --> 00:53:20,824
the doctor's office till 7AM.

1490
00:53:20,824 --> 00:53:22,585
Let me see. And he was online trying

1491
00:53:22,585 --> 00:53:23,704
to figure out what it's supposed to be

1492
00:53:23,704 --> 00:53:25,164
for dirty. I'm like, give me that phone.

1493
00:53:25,864 --> 00:53:28,444
And I found where you can electronically

1494
00:53:28,905 --> 00:53:29,405
request

1495
00:53:30,025 --> 00:53:32,824
to be excused for something other than the

1496
00:53:32,824 --> 00:53:35,085
reasons listed where it's an automatic excuse.

1497
00:53:35,650 --> 00:53:36,970
And we were doing this day of, so

1498
00:53:36,970 --> 00:53:38,289
I was like, you are probably gonna have

1499
00:53:38,289 --> 00:53:39,269
to call and follow-up.

1500
00:53:39,730 --> 00:53:41,570
We in the I wrote the little notification.

1501
00:53:41,570 --> 00:53:43,010
I was like, I hurt my foot over

1502
00:53:43,010 --> 00:53:44,690
the weekend. I'm going to the doctor this

1503
00:53:44,690 --> 00:53:46,530
morning to have it checked out. I will

1504
00:53:46,530 --> 00:53:47,989
happily provide documentation

1505
00:53:48,289 --> 00:53:49,394
of this visit if you

1506
00:53:50,114 --> 00:53:51,635
need me to. And then what? How like,

1507
00:53:51,635 --> 00:53:54,114
an hour later? No. Less than? Less than

1508
00:53:54,114 --> 00:53:56,275
fifteen, twenty minutes after that. You get an

1509
00:53:56,275 --> 00:53:59,414
automatic notification. Yep. You are ecstatic. Dismissed.

1510
00:54:00,275 --> 00:54:01,494
It's like, oh, okay.

1511
00:54:01,820 --> 00:54:03,420
I was like, look, you you had to,

1512
00:54:03,420 --> 00:54:05,260
like, bang your foot up, but you got

1513
00:54:05,260 --> 00:54:07,360
out of jury duty. Yeah. Yeah.

1514
00:54:07,739 --> 00:54:08,219
So,

1515
00:54:08,619 --> 00:54:10,880
yeah. I I off to the doctor.

1516
00:54:11,820 --> 00:54:12,480
I went

1517
00:54:13,179 --> 00:54:13,579
and,

1518
00:54:14,219 --> 00:54:15,599
spent the entire morning.

1519
00:54:16,755 --> 00:54:18,755
You were there for a hot ass minute.

1520
00:54:18,755 --> 00:54:20,934
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. They they they fit

1521
00:54:22,275 --> 00:54:24,194
I we didn't go didn't go to ER.

1522
00:54:24,194 --> 00:54:25,655
Didn't go to urgent care.

1523
00:54:28,440 --> 00:54:31,659
Went to our called our our Primary. Primary

1524
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:34,039
and, was able to get in because they

1525
00:54:34,039 --> 00:54:36,280
do every they have do everything in office

1526
00:54:36,280 --> 00:54:37,260
anyway, anyhoo.

1527
00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:39,739
And, you know, went in,

1528
00:54:40,199 --> 00:54:40,859
they did

1529
00:54:42,039 --> 00:54:43,500
a x-ray of the foot

1530
00:54:44,574 --> 00:54:45,695
and all that and,

1531
00:54:47,535 --> 00:54:48,355
wasn't broken.

1532
00:54:49,934 --> 00:54:51,875
No, no sign of a fracture.

1533
00:54:52,655 --> 00:54:54,494
So he was like, keep it iced and

1534
00:54:54,494 --> 00:54:54,994
elevated.

1535
00:54:55,855 --> 00:54:57,780
But it took, what, like, two and a

1536
00:54:57,780 --> 00:54:59,940
half hours to be told that. Yeah. Which

1537
00:54:59,940 --> 00:55:01,300
is fine. At least you got to see

1538
00:55:01,300 --> 00:55:03,300
our primary care. We have got we like

1539
00:55:03,300 --> 00:55:05,539
that office because Mhmm. They have enough doctors

1540
00:55:05,539 --> 00:55:07,640
that if your primary care isn't available,

1541
00:55:08,180 --> 00:55:09,860
like, on a same day appointment, they can

1542
00:55:09,860 --> 00:55:11,324
usually get you into somebody else.

1543
00:55:12,284 --> 00:55:13,964
And the all the doctors well, except for

1544
00:55:13,964 --> 00:55:15,724
one. We've encountered there have been great. Mhmm.

1545
00:55:15,724 --> 00:55:17,484
But we get so much better care from

1546
00:55:17,484 --> 00:55:19,484
our primary because she's got all the history.

1547
00:55:19,484 --> 00:55:20,864
She knows us. It's like,

1548
00:55:21,885 --> 00:55:23,405
when he was having to go in for

1549
00:55:23,405 --> 00:55:24,764
something else that he was dealing with, when

1550
00:55:24,764 --> 00:55:26,045
we finally got in to see her, she

1551
00:55:26,045 --> 00:55:27,719
was like, it could yeah. Yeah. Keep going

1552
00:55:27,719 --> 00:55:29,159
down that line, but it could just be

1553
00:55:29,159 --> 00:55:31,079
this. Here's a medication, and two weeks later,

1554
00:55:31,079 --> 00:55:32,920
she's like, I feel so much better. Like,

1555
00:55:32,920 --> 00:55:34,860
I wish we could've gone to her first.

1556
00:55:34,920 --> 00:55:35,420
Right.

1557
00:55:35,960 --> 00:55:37,239
So, yeah, I was glad you could at

1558
00:55:37,239 --> 00:55:39,659
least get in with her. So, yeah. It

1559
00:55:43,105 --> 00:55:44,625
took a bit hot minute for me to

1560
00:55:44,625 --> 00:55:46,804
be able to put shoes on. And

1561
00:55:47,344 --> 00:55:49,984
and he kept whacking that toe on things.

1562
00:55:49,984 --> 00:55:50,644
Of course.

1563
00:55:51,344 --> 00:55:53,664
Every day. Kinda like At least once. Isn't

1564
00:55:53,664 --> 00:55:55,605
that that's kinda like when you bite your

1565
00:55:56,010 --> 00:55:57,530
lip or your cheek. Inside your mouth. You

1566
00:55:57,530 --> 00:55:59,610
know, you you keep yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

1567
00:55:59,610 --> 00:56:00,750
You know? Except,

1568
00:56:01,849 --> 00:56:03,289
I mean, I feel a lot of empathy

1569
00:56:03,289 --> 00:56:05,130
when you bite your tongue or the inside

1570
00:56:05,130 --> 00:56:05,869
of your mouth.

1571
00:56:06,409 --> 00:56:09,289
But, oh, I was ready to cry with

1572
00:56:09,289 --> 00:56:11,655
you every time you hit that damn toe

1573
00:56:11,655 --> 00:56:14,635
on something. Right. Because JB is not

1574
00:56:14,934 --> 00:56:15,434
allowed.

1575
00:56:16,135 --> 00:56:18,454
I you know, opposite's track. Right? Not a

1576
00:56:18,454 --> 00:56:20,635
loud person. He's not overly vocal.

1577
00:56:21,094 --> 00:56:22,954
You know, he's he does not

1578
00:56:23,730 --> 00:56:24,789
show his distress

1579
00:56:26,769 --> 00:56:27,269
verbally.

1580
00:56:27,889 --> 00:56:28,869
This man was

1581
00:56:30,050 --> 00:56:31,890
screaming. It hurts so bad at the point.

1582
00:56:31,890 --> 00:56:33,650
It hurt. And it hurt. Me and the

1583
00:56:33,650 --> 00:56:34,929
youngest, no matter where we were in the

1584
00:56:34,929 --> 00:56:36,385
house, we were just converging because we're like,

1585
00:56:36,385 --> 00:56:38,785
clearly he's dying. We have to go nope.

1586
00:56:38,785 --> 00:56:40,644
He just whacked his damn toe. Yeah.

1587
00:56:41,265 --> 00:56:42,805
How is it feeling now?

1588
00:56:43,184 --> 00:56:44,305
It's Over a week later. We can have

1589
00:56:44,305 --> 00:56:45,925
later. It's feeling better.

1590
00:56:47,664 --> 00:56:48,164
Yesterday,

1591
00:56:48,465 --> 00:56:49,845
I worked out in the shop.

1592
00:56:52,010 --> 00:56:53,929
Did have my my work boots on, my

1593
00:56:53,929 --> 00:56:54,670
work shoes.

1594
00:56:55,769 --> 00:56:56,089
And,

1595
00:56:58,809 --> 00:56:59,630
excuse me.

1596
00:57:00,329 --> 00:57:02,510
As long as I did not walk

1597
00:57:03,050 --> 00:57:03,789
too much,

1598
00:57:04,569 --> 00:57:06,489
I was fine. The work boots are still

1599
00:57:06,489 --> 00:57:07,230
kind of

1600
00:57:08,065 --> 00:57:09,844
uncomfortable with the toe. Yeah.

1601
00:57:10,704 --> 00:57:13,445
Yeah. But, definitely getting better. It's

1602
00:57:14,704 --> 00:57:16,405
still just a smidge swollen.

1603
00:57:17,505 --> 00:57:19,344
I mean, it it might be less swollen

1604
00:57:19,344 --> 00:57:21,780
if you elevated it, but I saw it.

1605
00:57:21,780 --> 00:57:23,000
I know. Yeah.

1606
00:57:23,460 --> 00:57:25,460
What do I know? I don't know. I'm

1607
00:57:25,460 --> 00:57:26,119
not doctor.

1608
00:57:26,660 --> 00:57:27,700
You know? Yeah. That's,

1609
00:57:28,579 --> 00:57:29,880
that's that was my,

1610
00:57:30,900 --> 00:57:32,099
whole thing. Yeah. I forgot

1611
00:57:32,579 --> 00:57:34,500
yeah. The jury duty. I forgot. Yeah. Yeah.

1612
00:57:34,500 --> 00:57:36,234
I know you forgot about you You couldn't

1613
00:57:36,234 --> 00:57:38,234
remember the jury duty when you thought you

1614
00:57:38,234 --> 00:57:39,675
had to go. I thought I was gonna

1615
00:57:39,675 --> 00:57:41,835
have to drive him there. Be like, no.

1616
00:57:41,835 --> 00:57:43,614
Really, you're supposed to be here.

1617
00:57:46,714 --> 00:57:47,214
Yeah.

1618
00:57:47,914 --> 00:57:50,234
And I I was not jealous because I

1619
00:57:50,234 --> 00:57:52,109
will happily serve on a jury, but I'm

1620
00:57:52,109 --> 00:57:54,029
not looking for fucking jury duty. Like, I'm

1621
00:57:54,029 --> 00:57:56,029
not seeking it out. But I will accept

1622
00:57:56,029 --> 00:57:57,409
it if it comes my way.

1623
00:57:58,029 --> 00:58:00,130
So I was not unhappy that you

1624
00:58:00,670 --> 00:58:02,130
didn't have to deal with it.

1625
00:58:02,750 --> 00:58:04,349
And I wasn't jealous. I'm not saying I

1626
00:58:04,349 --> 00:58:07,454
was jealous, but, man, I'd I'd please ask

1627
00:58:07,454 --> 00:58:08,114
me to

1628
00:58:08,655 --> 00:58:10,655
make it my job so I'm judging. That's

1629
00:58:10,655 --> 00:58:11,155
delightful.

1630
00:58:12,894 --> 00:58:14,974
Because I'm not judgmental in that I'd, like,

1631
00:58:14,974 --> 00:58:17,135
stop and I make myself think before I,

1632
00:58:17,135 --> 00:58:17,795
you know,

1633
00:58:18,320 --> 00:58:20,659
react or respond to something where

1634
00:58:21,519 --> 00:58:22,659
you could be judgmental.

1635
00:58:23,119 --> 00:58:25,760
But that initial thought is always fucking judgmental.

1636
00:58:25,760 --> 00:58:27,360
And if it doesn't matter and I'm never

1637
00:58:27,360 --> 00:58:29,519
going to voice the thought, I am so

1638
00:58:29,519 --> 00:58:30,420
fucking judgmental.

1639
00:58:34,055 --> 00:58:34,954
I was grateful

1640
00:58:35,494 --> 00:58:37,655
that you did not have jury duty throughout

1641
00:58:37,655 --> 00:58:39,755
the floor stuff being done because,

1642
00:58:40,055 --> 00:58:42,535
one, I mean, I don't really wanna talk

1643
00:58:42,535 --> 00:58:43,275
to strangers

1644
00:58:43,894 --> 00:58:45,355
even if they're in my house.

1645
00:58:46,295 --> 00:58:48,210
So, yeah, the morning you were gone, and

1646
00:58:48,210 --> 00:58:49,570
the the guys who are doing the floors,

1647
00:58:49,570 --> 00:58:52,130
they were they're fine. They were professional. They

1648
00:58:52,130 --> 00:58:53,570
did their thing. They looked young, and I

1649
00:58:53,570 --> 00:58:55,489
guess I'm now in an age where anybody

1650
00:58:55,489 --> 00:58:56,769
who's not 45

1651
00:58:56,769 --> 00:58:57,989
looks young to me.

1652
00:58:59,329 --> 00:58:59,829
Yeah.

1653
00:59:00,289 --> 00:59:01,510
Guess this just happened.

1654
00:59:03,264 --> 00:59:04,625
But, yeah, I was happy that you could

1655
00:59:04,625 --> 00:59:06,465
be around for all the rest of it.

1656
00:59:06,465 --> 00:59:08,724
Because then I could just go, oops.

1657
00:59:09,585 --> 00:59:11,344
I'm not around. Let me go find something

1658
00:59:11,344 --> 00:59:13,525
else to do. You got to babysit Lola.

1659
00:59:13,905 --> 00:59:14,724
Oh, yes.

1660
00:59:15,184 --> 00:59:16,864
We didn't wanna keep her in her crate

1661
00:59:16,864 --> 00:59:18,599
for all that time. That was no cool.

1662
00:59:18,599 --> 00:59:20,920
No good. No. So we kept her in

1663
00:59:20,920 --> 00:59:23,000
the office so that she had access to

1664
00:59:23,000 --> 00:59:24,920
going outside. We brought her water in here

1665
00:59:24,920 --> 00:59:26,440
so she, you know, she wasn't gonna be

1666
00:59:26,440 --> 00:59:26,940
uncomfortable.

1667
00:59:27,480 --> 00:59:27,960
Yeah.

1668
00:59:28,280 --> 00:59:31,000
But the amount of crying. Yeah. You know,

1669
00:59:31,000 --> 00:59:32,700
and it's and it's not that she's,

1670
00:59:33,905 --> 00:59:36,324
you know, aggressive or anything because she's not.

1671
00:59:36,625 --> 00:59:38,864
She she loves people and that was that

1672
00:59:38,864 --> 00:59:42,065
was the deciding factor because she probably would

1673
00:59:42,065 --> 00:59:43,905
not have left them alone. No. She'd have

1674
00:59:43,905 --> 00:59:45,505
tried to be all in their business. She's

1675
00:59:45,505 --> 00:59:47,664
she's very curious so she would have been

1676
00:59:47,664 --> 00:59:48,864
in there and I had to figure out

1677
00:59:48,864 --> 00:59:51,119
what they're doing Mhmm. And why they're doing

1678
00:59:51,119 --> 00:59:53,440
it. Mhmm. It was funny. I I prepared

1679
00:59:53,440 --> 00:59:55,280
them. I was like, look. We're gonna have

1680
00:59:55,280 --> 00:59:56,639
our dog in the other room. She will

1681
00:59:56,639 --> 00:59:59,940
cry. Mhmm. She's fine. She just sounds pitiful.

1682
01:00:00,239 --> 01:00:01,545
And if she sees you, she'll probably bark.

1683
01:00:01,545 --> 01:00:02,984
They're like, okay. No problem. You know, no

1684
01:00:02,984 --> 01:00:05,704
big deal. Yeah. Well, they they laughed their

1685
01:00:05,704 --> 01:00:06,664
ass off that,

1686
01:00:07,625 --> 01:00:09,704
the first day because she just cried and

1687
01:00:09,704 --> 01:00:11,144
cried and cried. And I did not wanna

1688
01:00:11,144 --> 01:00:12,905
be in there with her because JB wasn't

1689
01:00:12,905 --> 01:00:14,344
there. I wanted to be out and available

1690
01:00:14,344 --> 01:00:16,184
if the guys needed anything. So I'm sitting

1691
01:00:16,184 --> 01:00:17,070
in the living room

1692
01:00:17,550 --> 01:00:20,130
reading my book, living my best fucking life,

1693
01:00:20,590 --> 01:00:22,349
listening to the dog cry as if we

1694
01:00:22,349 --> 01:00:24,989
have broken her heart. Right. And then by

1695
01:00:24,989 --> 01:00:26,750
day the end of day two and then

1696
01:00:26,750 --> 01:00:28,989
definitely into day three, they would be more

1697
01:00:28,989 --> 01:00:30,430
visible because they would be at that end

1698
01:00:30,430 --> 01:00:32,110
of the kitchen next to the door leading

1699
01:00:32,110 --> 01:00:33,945
into the office. And she would stand there

1700
01:00:33,945 --> 01:00:35,385
and she would bark, but it was not

1701
01:00:35,385 --> 01:00:37,545
her big girl mean voice. It was her

1702
01:00:37,545 --> 01:00:39,704
who the fuck are you voice. And it

1703
01:00:39,704 --> 01:00:41,465
would get that laughing. And the tail was

1704
01:00:41,465 --> 01:00:43,305
doing the the metronome. You know? And the

1705
01:00:43,305 --> 01:00:46,125
pity ears were up, like standing at attention

1706
01:00:46,184 --> 01:00:47,465
pity ears. Mhmm. And,

1707
01:00:48,320 --> 01:00:49,840
they would they would just talk to her

1708
01:00:49,840 --> 01:00:50,659
through the door.

1709
01:00:51,039 --> 01:00:52,800
Then so my favorite part is what she

1710
01:00:52,800 --> 01:00:53,460
would do

1711
01:00:53,760 --> 01:00:54,500
with judgment

1712
01:00:54,800 --> 01:00:56,820
in her eyes. She would see them

1713
01:00:57,280 --> 01:00:59,280
bark, like, who the fuck are you? And

1714
01:00:59,280 --> 01:01:01,599
then if she caught one of us in

1715
01:01:01,599 --> 01:01:03,554
her line of sight, she would

1716
01:01:04,034 --> 01:01:05,894
turn to look at us and

1717
01:01:06,514 --> 01:01:08,214
go, what the fuck? Yeah.

1718
01:01:08,675 --> 01:01:09,974
Who are these people?

1719
01:01:10,434 --> 01:01:12,675
Like, I'm not letting you out. You're just

1720
01:01:12,675 --> 01:01:15,234
gonna sit there Yeah. And be sad. I

1721
01:01:15,234 --> 01:01:16,855
don't know what to tell you. Mhmm.

1722
01:01:17,474 --> 01:01:19,489
Yeah. She did not spend a lot of

1723
01:01:19,489 --> 01:01:21,650
time in the office after the floors were

1724
01:01:21,650 --> 01:01:22,469
tight. No.

1725
01:01:23,250 --> 01:01:25,010
No. She's in here now. She's sleeping on

1726
01:01:25,010 --> 01:01:27,510
her cot. Mhmm. But yeah. No. That was

1727
01:01:27,809 --> 01:01:29,570
basically two and a half days. She was

1728
01:01:29,570 --> 01:01:31,829
like, that's that's enough. I'm done now.

1729
01:01:33,195 --> 01:01:33,695
So

1730
01:01:34,235 --> 01:01:34,735
Yeah.

1731
01:01:36,075 --> 01:01:38,335
But, yeah, that that was our

1732
01:01:38,954 --> 01:01:39,454
adventures.

1733
01:01:39,755 --> 01:01:40,255
Yep.

1734
01:01:41,355 --> 01:01:41,595
I'd

1735
01:01:42,315 --> 01:01:44,394
the the week we were meant to be

1736
01:01:44,394 --> 01:01:45,675
on a break, I tried to do that

1737
01:01:45,675 --> 01:01:47,449
right. I did not do a lot of

1738
01:01:47,829 --> 01:01:50,070
work. Then when we found ourselves, like, with

1739
01:01:50,070 --> 01:01:50,969
another break,

1740
01:01:51,269 --> 01:01:53,110
I was going, ah, like, the three days

1741
01:01:53,110 --> 01:01:54,869
of the floors, I could do some. I

1742
01:01:54,869 --> 01:01:56,630
couldn't do a lot, whatever whatever, which was

1743
01:01:56,630 --> 01:01:58,389
fine. But then there was, like, that Thursday,

1744
01:01:58,389 --> 01:02:00,325
Friday. I'm like, I could work. And I

1745
01:02:00,325 --> 01:02:03,144
went, but I really don't feel like it.

1746
01:02:04,325 --> 01:02:06,164
So I've kind of had two weeks off,

1747
01:02:06,164 --> 01:02:08,325
give or take. You know, there's packaging orders,

1748
01:02:08,325 --> 01:02:10,005
and there's some stuff that has to happen

1749
01:02:10,005 --> 01:02:12,400
no matter what. But it's like, oh. And

1750
01:02:13,340 --> 01:02:14,480
then, shockingly enough,

1751
01:02:14,860 --> 01:02:16,460
I had a lot of energy when this

1752
01:02:16,460 --> 01:02:17,360
week started

1753
01:02:17,660 --> 01:02:19,980
and was ready to be productive. It's almost

1754
01:02:19,980 --> 01:02:22,140
like when you take a break, it is

1755
01:02:22,140 --> 01:02:23,684
easier to get things

1756
01:02:24,164 --> 01:02:25,684
done when you're done with the break. I

1757
01:02:25,684 --> 01:02:27,385
know. Who knew? Who

1758
01:02:29,045 --> 01:02:29,945
knew? So

1759
01:02:30,324 --> 01:02:32,644
now I am I'm sitting in this office

1760
01:02:32,644 --> 01:02:34,405
where middle of the day working in here

1761
01:02:34,405 --> 01:02:35,844
in the middle of the day is almost

1762
01:02:35,844 --> 01:02:36,344
impossible,

1763
01:02:37,340 --> 01:02:38,480
And we have

1764
01:02:39,179 --> 01:02:41,500
things piled up. They're all jobs for me.

1765
01:02:41,500 --> 01:02:43,099
I have to process that. I have to

1766
01:02:43,099 --> 01:02:44,780
put away that. I need to do that.

1767
01:02:44,780 --> 01:02:46,059
I need to figure out where this is

1768
01:02:47,340 --> 01:02:49,659
and it's been sitting here for three weeks,

1769
01:02:49,659 --> 01:02:50,480
some of it.

1770
01:02:51,099 --> 01:02:53,494
I'll get to it. I started I started

1771
01:02:53,494 --> 01:02:55,355
digging through some of it the other day.

1772
01:02:55,414 --> 01:02:57,414
Mhmm. Yeah. Poor JB, every time he turns

1773
01:02:57,414 --> 01:02:59,174
around, I'm like, here's another empty box. And

1774
01:02:59,174 --> 01:03:01,654
it's not like a box. It's like eight

1775
01:03:01,654 --> 01:03:03,114
by eight. It's like

1776
01:03:03,900 --> 01:03:06,139
two feet by two feet and probably a

1777
01:03:06,139 --> 01:03:08,139
foot deep. It's like this massive I'm like

1778
01:03:08,139 --> 01:03:08,639
here.

1779
01:03:09,019 --> 01:03:11,099
Mhmm. And then I realized, every once in

1780
01:03:11,099 --> 01:03:12,799
a while, I end up on

1781
01:03:13,179 --> 01:03:15,199
a certain side of the algorithm.

1782
01:03:15,980 --> 01:03:16,480
Typically,

1783
01:03:16,940 --> 01:03:17,440
like,

1784
01:03:18,635 --> 01:03:21,355
straight people married side of an algorithm, which

1785
01:03:21,355 --> 01:03:22,094
is fascinating.

1786
01:03:23,194 --> 01:03:24,635
And then I go, oh, I guess that's

1787
01:03:24,635 --> 01:03:26,655
me too. And I am

1788
01:03:27,114 --> 01:03:27,614
the,

1789
01:03:28,554 --> 01:03:29,054
stereotype

1790
01:03:29,434 --> 01:03:31,534
of the wife who has never

1791
01:03:31,839 --> 01:03:33,519
broken down a box in her life. She

1792
01:03:33,519 --> 01:03:35,199
thinks they just live in the garage and

1793
01:03:35,199 --> 01:03:37,679
then the the box fairy makes them go

1794
01:03:37,679 --> 01:03:39,219
away. I would not know.

1795
01:03:39,760 --> 01:03:42,960
I mean, I clearly, I'm a functional adult.

1796
01:03:42,960 --> 01:03:44,319
I know that you break in the box

1797
01:03:44,319 --> 01:03:45,643
and you put in your I'd put it

1798
01:03:45,643 --> 01:03:47,523
out there for the but I don't know

1799
01:03:47,523 --> 01:03:49,194
what process he has. I don't know which

1800
01:03:49,194 --> 01:03:50,865
ones he breaks down and which ones he

1801
01:03:50,865 --> 01:03:52,536
keeps whole. I don't know. Does he put

1802
01:03:52,536 --> 01:03:54,416
them out the night before, the trash pickup

1803
01:03:54,416 --> 01:03:56,088
when we put down the barrels or does

1804
01:03:56,088 --> 01:03:57,758
he go out in the morning? There's a

1805
01:03:57,758 --> 01:03:59,429
whole system. I'm not aware of it. Right.

1806
01:03:59,510 --> 01:04:00,869
I just put him in the garage. System

1807
01:04:00,869 --> 01:04:02,742
and there's variables that go along with it.

1808
01:04:02,742 --> 01:04:04,230
So And I'm not fucking up a good

1809
01:04:04,230 --> 01:04:05,769
system if it already works.

1810
01:04:06,869 --> 01:04:09,130
I'll just make him aware of a box,

1811
01:04:09,510 --> 01:04:11,210
and my job is done.

1812
01:04:13,594 --> 01:04:14,734
So Yeah.

1813
01:04:15,194 --> 01:04:15,934
But yeah.

1814
01:04:17,114 --> 01:04:19,454
For all intents and purposes, we're back. Mhmm.

1815
01:04:19,514 --> 01:04:22,315
We're on a modified schedule. Yep. Part of

1816
01:04:22,315 --> 01:04:24,154
me feels very good about that. And then

1817
01:04:24,154 --> 01:04:25,800
part of me who is a people pleaser

1818
01:04:25,800 --> 01:04:27,960
from way back is like, oh, somebody will

1819
01:04:27,960 --> 01:04:28,699
be disappointed.

1820
01:04:29,000 --> 01:04:31,559
Oh, I feel selfish for taking care of

1821
01:04:31,559 --> 01:04:33,739
myself. I really need to work on that.

1822
01:04:34,280 --> 01:04:35,800
Really need to work on that. You do.

1823
01:04:35,800 --> 01:04:37,180
You do. So

1824
01:04:38,405 --> 01:04:40,565
I think taking a certain amount of a

1825
01:04:40,565 --> 01:04:42,484
break is what allows us to, like, maybe

1826
01:04:42,484 --> 01:04:44,724
have new ideas or look at things from

1827
01:04:44,724 --> 01:04:45,625
a fresh perspective.

1828
01:04:46,005 --> 01:04:48,405
And retain our sanity. I'm gonna well, there's

1829
01:04:48,405 --> 01:04:48,905
a

1830
01:04:49,364 --> 01:04:50,804
I mean, I feel like I gave that

1831
01:04:50,804 --> 01:04:52,961
up many years ago. I think the day

1832
01:04:52,961 --> 01:04:56,006
I was like, you know what I'm gonna

1833
01:04:56,006 --> 01:04:59,052
do? I'm gonna record my thoughts on this

1834
01:04:59,052 --> 01:05:02,478
janky laptop sitting in a closet. But I

1835
01:05:02,478 --> 01:05:05,523
I don't know on the calendar what date

1836
01:05:05,523 --> 01:05:07,804
this will fall on. We will celebrate our

1837
01:05:07,804 --> 01:05:08,304
tenth

1838
01:05:08,605 --> 01:05:11,105
podcast anniversary in August. Mhmm.

1839
01:05:12,284 --> 01:05:14,224
Yeah. Got some ideas for some giveaways.

1840
01:05:17,324 --> 01:05:20,849
No clue beyond that. Like, hadn't hadn't gotten

1841
01:05:20,849 --> 01:05:22,289
that far, but we will. And I feel

1842
01:05:22,289 --> 01:05:24,130
like if I say it, I can't forget

1843
01:05:24,130 --> 01:05:26,150
our anniversary. There have been years.

1844
01:05:26,449 --> 01:05:28,769
Literally forgot until we were, like, almost in

1845
01:05:28,769 --> 01:05:30,929
September. And I'm like, oh, yeah. By the

1846
01:05:30,929 --> 01:05:31,089
way

1847
01:05:32,704 --> 01:05:34,065
Yeah. This is this is kind of a

1848
01:05:34,065 --> 01:05:35,985
big one, though. Yeah. It's ten years. Yeah.

1849
01:05:35,985 --> 01:05:37,045
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

1850
01:05:37,344 --> 01:05:39,264
We should not ignore it. No. Or forget

1851
01:05:39,264 --> 01:05:41,204
it, really. Not ignore it. Just forget it.

1852
01:05:42,144 --> 01:05:43,764
But with that being said,

1853
01:05:44,465 --> 01:05:45,905
I am starting to feel sick to my

1854
01:05:45,905 --> 01:05:48,809
stomach again. And my neck coolly thing has

1855
01:05:48,809 --> 01:05:51,210
melt is melty, and there's no cooling properties

1856
01:05:51,210 --> 01:05:52,889
left. Time to turn out some of these

1857
01:05:52,889 --> 01:05:56,010
lights and open doors again. Yeah. Yep. And

1858
01:05:56,010 --> 01:05:58,170
put on my raggedy sleeveless shirt that shows

1859
01:05:58,170 --> 01:05:59,369
way too much, so I would not wear

1860
01:05:59,369 --> 01:06:00,315
it on camera. But,

1861
01:06:00,875 --> 01:06:03,034
man, at least it's a a little cooler.

1862
01:06:03,034 --> 01:06:04,394
Yeah. So I guess that means we're gonna

1863
01:06:04,394 --> 01:06:06,074
go. Yeah. Thanks for being here Mhmm. To

1864
01:06:06,074 --> 01:06:08,394
the better end. Absolutely. For anybody who sent

1865
01:06:08,394 --> 01:06:09,675
in a question, gave us a question, thank

1866
01:06:09,675 --> 01:06:11,135
you so much for that. Mhmm.

1867
01:06:11,594 --> 01:06:13,939
And we will talk to y'all next week.

1868
01:06:14,399 --> 01:06:14,899
Bye.