1 00:00:10,465 --> 00:00:12,205 - You are listening to the 11 BDSM podcast. 2 00:00:12,255 --> 00:00:14,005 Kayla Lords here were the one, the only, 3 00:00:14,305 --> 00:00:16,005 the you were totally shirtless 4 00:00:16,005 --> 00:00:17,365 and, uh, I was playing 5 00:00:17,365 --> 00:00:18,925 with your nipples, John Brownstone. You 6 00:00:18,925 --> 00:00:20,845 - Were, and I was, - It was delightful. 7 00:00:20,845 --> 00:00:21,805 Mm-Hmm. . Mm-Hmm. . Was 8 00:00:21,805 --> 00:00:22,525 it as good for you as it 9 00:00:22,525 --> 00:00:23,525 - Was? 10 00:00:23,525 --> 00:00:24,485 For me, it was. Absolutely. It's all that 11 00:00:24,485 --> 00:00:26,365 - Matters, - . That's 12 00:00:26,365 --> 00:00:27,645 - Not, that's not what we're talking about this week. 13 00:00:27,795 --> 00:00:31,805 This week we're actually talking about pervert balls. Yes. 14 00:00:32,225 --> 00:00:35,285 So, yeah. I don't know. 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I am on a budget. 32 00:01:13,145 --> 00:01:17,485 Can I use these items in my home for BDSM dining chair? 33 00:01:17,635 --> 00:01:21,725 I'll fit hooks on front, legs for sex chair, plastic spatula 34 00:01:21,725 --> 00:01:25,405 for spanking eye mask as an O-ring ball gag 35 00:01:25,465 --> 00:01:27,445 as my girlfriend likes giving oral sex. 36 00:01:27,985 --> 00:01:31,245 And can a yoga mat be used for BDSM sex positions? 37 00:01:33,235 --> 00:01:34,855 - Wow. - The first thing 38 00:01:34,855 --> 00:01:36,255 to know is if you've got stuff at home 39 00:01:36,255 --> 00:01:38,615 that you're looking at, like, can I get kinky with this? 40 00:01:39,275 --> 00:01:40,895 The answer is usually yes. Yes. Yeah. 41 00:01:40,975 --> 00:01:41,975 I mean, there are some things you might 42 00:01:41,975 --> 00:01:43,095 have to consider, but Mm-Hmm. 43 00:01:43,135 --> 00:01:44,295 in general. Yes. Right. 44 00:01:44,355 --> 00:01:46,935 So let's go through this person's specific things. Okay. 45 00:01:47,115 --> 00:01:49,695 The dining chair as a sex chair. Sure. 46 00:01:50,455 --> 00:01:54,095 I do you, because you are better at like the bondy things 47 00:01:54,095 --> 00:01:55,495 and the hooky things than I am. 48 00:01:55,915 --> 00:01:58,895 Do you, does the structure of the chair matter, 49 00:01:58,925 --> 00:02:00,975 like do is the legs or the sides? 50 00:02:01,295 --> 00:02:03,095 - Absolutely. To a certain extent. It does. Um, 51 00:02:03,675 --> 00:02:05,615 - Are you gonna get better results if your 52 00:02:05,615 --> 00:02:06,775 chair has armrests? 53 00:02:07,275 --> 00:02:09,895 - It depends what you're looking to do. Okay. Okay. 54 00:02:09,955 --> 00:02:12,415 If a chair has armrest, absolutely you can, 55 00:02:12,635 --> 00:02:16,255 you can tie the arms in a resting position on the armrest. 56 00:02:16,255 --> 00:02:17,855 Mm-Hmm. . If there is no armrest, 57 00:02:18,195 --> 00:02:19,535 but you haven't opened back, 58 00:02:19,875 --> 00:02:22,375 you can tie the arms down to the side. 59 00:02:22,845 --> 00:02:24,055 Okay. Against the back 60 00:02:24,395 --> 00:02:27,815 - If you're not somebody who knows how 61 00:02:27,815 --> 00:02:29,415 to do rope bondage yet Mm-Hmm. 62 00:02:29,455 --> 00:02:31,135 or just isn't comfortable even 63 00:02:31,135 --> 00:02:32,335 with a basic box tie. 64 00:02:33,315 --> 00:02:38,255 Um, what are ways that aren't bondage, you know, 65 00:02:38,255 --> 00:02:40,015 rope bondage to secure a person 66 00:02:40,035 --> 00:02:41,375 to something like a dining room chair, 67 00:02:41,885 --> 00:02:43,055 - Belt - Belt. 68 00:02:43,165 --> 00:02:46,935 Okay. Okay. Um, I know you love to have pieces 69 00:02:46,995 --> 00:02:48,415 of Velcro around here. 70 00:02:48,415 --> 00:02:50,015 Mm-Hmm. , would that, 71 00:02:50,735 --> 00:02:52,775 assuming the Velcro is strong enough 72 00:02:52,775 --> 00:02:55,375 and long enough, could that do as well? 73 00:02:55,855 --> 00:02:56,935 - I would think so. I mean, I'm 74 00:02:56,935 --> 00:02:58,895 - Trying to think in the, the realm of perverts, you 75 00:02:58,895 --> 00:02:59,895 - Know, know. 76 00:02:59,895 --> 00:03:02,925 Yeah. Um, absolutely it would. Mm-Hmm. . Yeah. 77 00:03:02,985 --> 00:03:05,285 You, I mean, you can go to Home Depot or Lowe's 78 00:03:05,285 --> 00:03:09,925 and, you know, buy a, a roll of a Velcro strap 79 00:03:10,345 --> 00:03:12,365 - And it's not terribly expensive. 80 00:03:12,425 --> 00:03:13,365 No, it's not. And it's 81 00:03:13,445 --> 00:03:14,685 reusable for other things around your house. 82 00:03:15,165 --> 00:03:16,805 Absolutely. I was so excited for 83 00:03:16,995 --> 00:03:19,645 - Once you cut it to length, I mean, you, you've got it 84 00:03:19,705 --> 00:03:20,925 for, for that purpose. 85 00:03:21,095 --> 00:03:23,845 - Right. Okay. So I, I'm so excited for this question. 86 00:03:23,925 --> 00:03:27,005 I forgot, let's, real, real quick, define what a pervert is 87 00:03:27,185 --> 00:03:29,685 for somebody who's like completely new to the concept 88 00:03:30,325 --> 00:03:31,485 , how would you define pervert? 89 00:03:32,345 --> 00:03:36,285 - Um, something that is basically 90 00:03:37,465 --> 00:03:38,725 an everyday use item. 91 00:03:38,785 --> 00:03:40,405 Mm-Hmm. that is then taken 92 00:03:40,785 --> 00:03:45,205 and using used for purpose of BDSM. 93 00:03:45,205 --> 00:03:46,485 - There you go. And it's really 94 00:03:46,485 --> 00:03:50,445 that simple is literally anything around your house Mm-Hmm. 95 00:03:50,525 --> 00:03:52,885 that you can go into a Walmart, uh, 96 00:03:53,085 --> 00:03:55,605 a Home Depot or Lowe's or any kind of Right. 97 00:03:55,845 --> 00:03:57,045 A dollar tree. Mm-Hmm. 98 00:03:57,125 --> 00:03:58,485 like you have to spend a lot of money. Mm-Hmm. 99 00:03:58,525 --> 00:04:00,285 . But it's a non kink item. 100 00:04:00,425 --> 00:04:03,005 We are repurposing for kinky fuckery. Right. 101 00:04:03,225 --> 00:04:05,845 Um, and the nice thing about non-kin items being used 102 00:04:05,845 --> 00:04:09,085 that way is that they can, they can slide under the radar. 103 00:04:09,085 --> 00:04:11,045 People aren't gonna look at your dining room chair 104 00:04:11,465 --> 00:04:14,005 and go, oh, that's clearly used for a sex chair. 105 00:04:14,005 --> 00:04:16,005 Mm-Hmm. , unless you leave your hooks 106 00:04:16,145 --> 00:04:20,285 and your bondage items True, true on the chair, then Yeah. 107 00:04:20,285 --> 00:04:21,725 Then you're giving yourself away. Mm-Hmm. . 108 00:04:21,875 --> 00:04:23,045 Okay. The next one. 109 00:04:23,145 --> 00:04:25,325 And I, I think we're both completely on board 110 00:04:25,325 --> 00:04:27,365 with this plastic spatula for spanking. 111 00:04:27,385 --> 00:04:29,765 Oh yeah. I think anything with a flat surface 112 00:04:29,865 --> 00:04:31,845 and a handle is gonna be just fine. 113 00:04:32,515 --> 00:04:34,965 - Spatula, wooden spoon, anything like that. Yeah. 114 00:04:34,965 --> 00:04:36,885 - Mm-Hmm. , you can even if, 115 00:04:36,945 --> 00:04:38,965 if we're in the kitchen 116 00:04:39,025 --> 00:04:43,965 and we're pulling out items to, um, try to use for 117 00:04:44,485 --> 00:04:45,525 whatever kink play you've got, 118 00:04:45,585 --> 00:04:48,205 you can use something like a fork would be great 119 00:04:48,225 --> 00:04:49,245 for sensation play. 120 00:04:49,265 --> 00:04:53,845 - For, for Yes. I was gonna say that, um, you know, I, 121 00:04:54,085 --> 00:04:57,645 I have, uh, played with tongs sometime, 122 00:04:57,645 --> 00:04:59,005 you know, you get a little grab, you 123 00:04:59,005 --> 00:05:00,325 - Come after my boobs with tongs. 124 00:05:00,325 --> 00:05:02,725 Yeah. I'm like, no, no. What is happened, . 125 00:05:02,985 --> 00:05:04,485 And that's not even like in scene. 126 00:05:04,705 --> 00:05:06,045 I'm just trying to cook dinner 127 00:05:06,665 --> 00:05:08,165 and somebody grabbed the tongs 128 00:05:08,165 --> 00:05:09,605 and went clack, clack clack at me. 129 00:05:09,665 --> 00:05:11,845 And , I'm not usually wearing a bra. 130 00:05:11,985 --> 00:05:15,885 So they're there to, they're there to be, you know, truth, 131 00:05:15,885 --> 00:05:16,885 - Truth. 132 00:05:17,025 --> 00:05:19,885 - Uh, so yeah, the way I look at impact play stuff, 133 00:05:20,025 --> 00:05:21,685 if you can look at an object 134 00:05:21,685 --> 00:05:23,925 and it has either enough of a flat surface 135 00:05:24,625 --> 00:05:27,685 or something that allows you to hold it and, 136 00:05:27,865 --> 00:05:32,045 and hit somebody with it, it can be an impact item. 137 00:05:32,045 --> 00:05:33,525 Mm-Hmm. the things you wanna be careful over, 138 00:05:33,555 --> 00:05:36,685 it's anything with a blade or a very sharp end 139 00:05:36,685 --> 00:05:38,405 because now you know, 140 00:05:38,455 --> 00:05:40,405 we're looking at potentially cutting somebody, 141 00:05:40,405 --> 00:05:42,125 and that might not be the kind of kinky play you want. 142 00:05:42,125 --> 00:05:44,805 Mm-Hmm. . Okay. This one gives me pause 143 00:05:44,805 --> 00:05:48,565 because I can't, I can't envision it. 144 00:05:49,065 --> 00:05:52,565 And that's an iask as an o-ring ball gag. 145 00:05:54,145 --> 00:05:57,285 If you, the way I look at it is if you can manipulate it 146 00:05:57,285 --> 00:06:01,245 with enough around a person's body 147 00:06:01,825 --> 00:06:04,605 and it works for the purpose, then it works 148 00:06:04,665 --> 00:06:06,445 for the purpose. Go ahead. 149 00:06:06,905 --> 00:06:10,485 - Are you, are you sure that I, I mask is an O-ring? 150 00:06:11,625 --> 00:06:14,245 - Yes. I copy and paste straight from the question. 151 00:06:14,395 --> 00:06:15,965 - Okay. 'cause there is a comma there. 152 00:06:16,295 --> 00:06:17,805 - Right. The, there's a comma 153 00:06:17,805 --> 00:06:21,285 after dining chair, comma, I will blah, blah, blah. 154 00:06:21,285 --> 00:06:23,125 Mm-Hmm. , sorry. We're getting a grammar lesson 155 00:06:23,185 --> 00:06:24,405 on how we do our Mm-Hmm. 156 00:06:24,445 --> 00:06:26,805 . Yes. That is, this is the order of, 157 00:06:26,955 --> 00:06:27,965 - Okay. Right. All right. 158 00:06:28,545 --> 00:06:29,645 - And if I got it wrong 159 00:06:29,905 --> 00:06:31,565 and misinterpreted the question that is 160 00:06:33,025 --> 00:06:34,925 lifted from the email, 161 00:06:34,955 --> 00:06:36,525 then the person needs to let me know, but yes. 162 00:06:36,525 --> 00:06:39,165 Mm-Hmm. and I now iask as a blindfold. 163 00:06:39,565 --> 00:06:40,645 - Absolutely. That and that's what I 164 00:06:40,645 --> 00:06:42,125 immediately thought of. Right. Yeah. 165 00:06:42,305 --> 00:06:44,285 - But an o-ring ball gag. 166 00:06:46,085 --> 00:06:48,185 Now an O-ring ball gag in general, if you own it, 167 00:06:48,185 --> 00:06:49,185 of course use it. 168 00:06:49,185 --> 00:06:50,225 Yeah. But we're talking about 169 00:06:50,405 --> 00:06:52,345 - You - Can stuff I have at home. Yeah. 170 00:06:52,685 --> 00:06:56,385 - You can go to again, any hardware store 171 00:06:56,965 --> 00:06:58,665 and buy an O-ring. Mm. 172 00:06:59,125 --> 00:07:00,825 - And then what, like, do - Velcro 173 00:07:00,825 --> 00:07:05,185 - Straps, - do, do Velcro straps or, or ribbon 174 00:07:05,325 --> 00:07:08,225 or anything to, to bring it back and tie it back. Yeah. 175 00:07:08,255 --> 00:07:10,145 - Yeah. So like I said, I could not envision 176 00:07:10,815 --> 00:07:13,025 what the person is envisioning, 177 00:07:13,245 --> 00:07:17,385 but my point is, if you can manipulate the thing Yeah. 178 00:07:17,925 --> 00:07:19,785 To make it do what you wanna do 179 00:07:19,845 --> 00:07:23,505 and it does not cause unwelcome harm 180 00:07:23,605 --> 00:07:24,825 or pain to your partner. 181 00:07:25,095 --> 00:07:27,345 Yeah. Then go for it. My brain is not imagining it 182 00:07:27,905 --> 00:07:29,305 I mask as blindfold. 183 00:07:29,665 --> 00:07:31,145 Absolutely. Like that's a, that's a given. 184 00:07:31,525 --> 00:07:34,985 Um, I guess I would say if you're gonna turn something into 185 00:07:35,145 --> 00:07:38,985 a ball gag, just be careful, mindful of, um, the material. 186 00:07:39,135 --> 00:07:40,625 Make sure it's clean before somebody 187 00:07:40,625 --> 00:07:41,705 has to put their mouth on it. 188 00:07:42,205 --> 00:07:43,665 Um, and make sure, you know, 189 00:07:43,665 --> 00:07:45,385 if your partner has any sensitivities 190 00:07:45,385 --> 00:07:46,865 to any certain materials 191 00:07:46,865 --> 00:07:48,065 that maybe should not touch their skin. 192 00:07:48,295 --> 00:07:50,665 Yeah. But that would be the, um, 193 00:07:50,765 --> 00:07:51,865 the only thing I could think of. 194 00:07:52,725 --> 00:07:56,225 So then finally there is, can a yoga mat be used 195 00:07:56,225 --> 00:07:57,865 for BDSM sex positions? 196 00:07:59,745 --> 00:08:01,545 - I don't see why not. 197 00:08:01,885 --> 00:08:02,945 - Here's the thing that I thought of. 198 00:08:03,005 --> 00:08:04,185 It was actually, 'cause I think 199 00:08:04,295 --> 00:08:05,585 most people go, well, of course you can. 200 00:08:05,765 --> 00:08:07,505 Mm. That's a good question 201 00:08:07,505 --> 00:08:11,865 because I have a cheapy, cheapy old as hell yoga mat 202 00:08:12,295 --> 00:08:14,305 that slips and slides on carpet. 203 00:08:14,605 --> 00:08:17,865 Ah. Like I'll bust my ass just trying to go into like 204 00:08:18,545 --> 00:08:20,705 downward dog, whatever that pose is called. 205 00:08:20,965 --> 00:08:22,345 I'm not a yoga person. Um, 206 00:08:23,285 --> 00:08:26,105 and yet on a hardwood floor, it doesn't slip 207 00:08:26,105 --> 00:08:27,225 and slide as much. 208 00:08:27,445 --> 00:08:29,865 So if you're gonna be on a yoga mat mm-Hmm. 209 00:08:29,965 --> 00:08:33,305 And contorting bodies make sure it's got the right kind 210 00:08:33,305 --> 00:08:34,625 of traction . 211 00:08:34,645 --> 00:08:36,945 So it does not slide out from under you 212 00:08:36,975 --> 00:08:40,025 because that is how you end up in the er, uh, 213 00:08:40,095 --> 00:08:41,985 with an awkward conversation about Mm-Hmm. 214 00:08:41,985 --> 00:08:43,225 How did you get this injury? 215 00:08:43,925 --> 00:08:47,865 So if you're using, if you're gonna use a yoga mat, 216 00:08:47,885 --> 00:08:48,985 and I could see where you might, 217 00:08:48,985 --> 00:08:50,585 maybe it makes the floor more comfortable, 218 00:08:50,995 --> 00:08:52,785 maybe it has enough slip 219 00:08:52,785 --> 00:08:55,605 and glide that a person can move their body on it better. 220 00:08:55,665 --> 00:08:58,045 Mm-Hmm. , like, nothing wrong with that. 221 00:08:58,115 --> 00:09:00,765 Just, just check to make sure it's not, 222 00:09:00,905 --> 00:09:02,925 you're not gonna bust your ass is what I would say. 223 00:09:02,955 --> 00:09:04,685 Yeah. So those are the 224 00:09:05,245 --> 00:09:07,365 specific items this person asked about, 225 00:09:07,365 --> 00:09:09,805 but let's talk about perverts in general. 226 00:09:10,635 --> 00:09:13,645 What, um, what other items 227 00:09:14,185 --> 00:09:17,525 and ideas have you utilized for perverts? 228 00:09:17,745 --> 00:09:22,525 - Oh gosh. Um, I mean, a lot of the more common things like, 229 00:09:22,545 --> 00:09:26,685 you know, ping pong paddles, uh, paint stirring sticks. We 230 00:09:26,685 --> 00:09:28,085 - Broke, we broke, - We broke, we broke 231 00:09:28,085 --> 00:09:29,205 - Hairbrush. We broke 232 00:09:29,205 --> 00:09:30,365 - Hairbrush. . Yep. 233 00:09:30,545 --> 00:09:33,285 - We definitely - Broke. Yeah. You know? Yeah. 234 00:09:33,295 --> 00:09:35,805 We're a little rough with some of those toys. Mm-Hmm. 235 00:09:35,845 --> 00:09:37,525 . Um, 236 00:09:37,945 --> 00:09:41,005 but I mean, they, they can all be used. Um, 237 00:09:41,625 --> 00:09:43,965 - We used our, um, coffee table, 238 00:09:44,415 --> 00:09:47,685 which is just a cheapy little Ikea coffee table as kind 239 00:09:47,685 --> 00:09:51,565 of a bondage spanking bench thing one time. 240 00:09:51,785 --> 00:09:56,125 Yes. Uh, I laid over the top of the coffee table, uh, 241 00:09:56,195 --> 00:09:59,805 face down and JB tied now with actual rope using Mm-Hmm. 242 00:09:59,845 --> 00:10:02,765 , like rope bondage techniques tied my, uh, 243 00:10:02,955 --> 00:10:04,365 arms or wrist to the front. 244 00:10:04,365 --> 00:10:08,285 Mm-Hmm. To the legs to, and then my legs. Legs to the back. 245 00:10:08,285 --> 00:10:11,045 Mm-Hmm. Other legs. And I was immobilized 246 00:10:11,065 --> 00:10:13,205 and the dog was traumatized by . 247 00:10:13,505 --> 00:10:18,165 Yes. . But that was using the table in a way 248 00:10:18,165 --> 00:10:20,845 that it's clearly not really designed Mm-Hmm. 249 00:10:20,885 --> 00:10:21,965 to be used. Mm-Hmm. So 250 00:10:21,965 --> 00:10:23,005 that is, that is an option. 251 00:10:23,005 --> 00:10:24,405 Mm-Hmm. of course. Mm-Hmm. . Um, 252 00:10:25,285 --> 00:10:26,285 - Absolutely. 253 00:10:26,665 --> 00:10:28,445 Um, what else? What else? 254 00:10:29,205 --> 00:10:33,165 - Hmm. I mean, it's kind of, it's a, it's a necessity thing. 255 00:10:33,165 --> 00:10:35,005 Like you don't have money to go out and buy Yeah. 256 00:10:35,315 --> 00:10:37,485 Toys you wanna get your kink on. 257 00:10:37,505 --> 00:10:39,405 And then it's a little bit of creative thinking. 258 00:10:39,425 --> 00:10:40,845 So you look at an item 259 00:10:40,945 --> 00:10:45,925 and go, could this be used for something kinky? 260 00:10:45,945 --> 00:10:50,125 Mm-Hmm. , um, probably think of the, 261 00:10:50,125 --> 00:10:52,765 there are considerations you have to think about, um, 262 00:10:52,955 --> 00:10:55,005 what could the material do against your 263 00:10:55,005 --> 00:10:56,165 partner's skin in that? 264 00:10:56,255 --> 00:11:00,925 Could it cut them? Could it, um, rub them raw in a way 265 00:11:00,925 --> 00:11:02,965 that they don't necessarily want to experience? 266 00:11:03,465 --> 00:11:07,245 Is it a safe material to maybe put in the body or the mouth 267 00:11:07,345 --> 00:11:09,005 or in, in any orifice Mm-Hmm. 268 00:11:09,045 --> 00:11:10,685 of the body. Um, so you have 269 00:11:10,685 --> 00:11:11,805 to consider those things. 270 00:11:11,915 --> 00:11:15,325 Sure. Um, you also have to consider, as we're talking about, 271 00:11:15,415 --> 00:11:17,525 we've broken many things in impact play. 272 00:11:18,135 --> 00:11:21,765 These items are not necessarily designed for the use, 273 00:11:23,025 --> 00:11:25,405 so they are not necessarily gonna hold up 274 00:11:25,505 --> 00:11:26,645 and last as long Mm-Hmm. 275 00:11:26,685 --> 00:11:28,965 , um, things like the paint stir sticks 276 00:11:29,075 --> 00:11:30,085 from Lowe's. 277 00:11:30,385 --> 00:11:32,485 You just have to go request those from the paint counter, 278 00:11:32,545 --> 00:11:34,245 so you're not spending any money for that. 279 00:11:34,545 --> 00:11:36,285 But a ping pong paddle Yeah. 280 00:11:36,385 --> 00:11:38,285 You break one, you gotta go buy another. 281 00:11:38,345 --> 00:11:39,805 And the way I kind of look at it is 282 00:11:40,365 --> 00:11:42,125 assuming your budget permits, 283 00:11:42,595 --> 00:11:44,565 once you start breaking per convertibles 284 00:11:44,565 --> 00:11:45,845 and they're no longer functional, 285 00:11:46,105 --> 00:11:48,085 it is likely up time, time to upgrade. 286 00:11:48,145 --> 00:11:49,525 - And you, you've outgrown and 287 00:11:49,585 --> 00:11:50,685 - Invest in Yeah. 288 00:11:51,045 --> 00:11:53,485 A single paddle or whatever kind of right toy 289 00:11:53,485 --> 00:11:54,885 - You're trying to, to do now, you know, 290 00:11:54,885 --> 00:11:58,765 talking about being on a budget, um, you know, 291 00:11:58,825 --> 00:12:02,965 if you do have a, a bit of a budget, uh, and, 292 00:12:02,985 --> 00:12:05,765 and this was years ago, there was a, a group of folks 293 00:12:06,395 --> 00:12:08,765 back at our, our old Munch, uh, 294 00:12:09,795 --> 00:12:13,565 they would have a, a challenge between a certain group 295 00:12:13,565 --> 00:12:16,085 of them, um, after the Munch. 296 00:12:17,675 --> 00:12:20,225 There was a, a gap of time 297 00:12:20,445 --> 00:12:24,345 before the, the dungeon opened and, and the play party. 298 00:12:25,685 --> 00:12:28,745 And, and their thing was they go to Dollar Tree, 299 00:12:28,745 --> 00:12:31,585 dollar General, any of the, the dollar stores 300 00:12:32,685 --> 00:12:36,145 and see what they can find in there to make 301 00:12:36,145 --> 00:12:37,945 as a pervert use As a per convertible. 302 00:12:38,045 --> 00:12:39,425 - Yes. And sometimes they would have a budget 303 00:12:39,445 --> 00:12:41,105 and sometimes it'd be like, whatever you wanna buy. 304 00:12:41,175 --> 00:12:43,385 Yeah. Just go see if you can buy things. Mm-Hmm. 305 00:12:43,425 --> 00:12:45,625 . Um, and sometimes it gets silly because Yeah. 306 00:12:45,925 --> 00:12:49,945 The, the imagination might want the item to work 307 00:12:50,165 --> 00:12:51,665 and in reality it's not going to, 308 00:12:51,725 --> 00:12:53,305 but the fun is in the trying. 309 00:12:53,455 --> 00:12:56,225 Yeah. Um, I recall one time being there for that, 310 00:12:56,445 --> 00:12:58,905 and each person who like played along, 311 00:12:59,225 --> 00:13:00,265 I think they had a different budget, 312 00:13:00,325 --> 00:13:01,865 but one person only spent like $5. 313 00:13:01,965 --> 00:13:05,145 Now this was when the Dollar tree was actually everything. A 314 00:13:05,165 --> 00:13:06,105 - Dollar. Yeah. Right. Yeah. 315 00:13:06,465 --> 00:13:07,665 - . - Yeah. 316 00:13:09,525 --> 00:13:14,225 - But, um, , you know, it's, it is just a matter 317 00:13:14,225 --> 00:13:17,585 of sort of letting your imagination run wild. And if you, 318 00:13:18,445 --> 00:13:20,625 - Excuse me, - If you are the type of person that's like, 319 00:13:20,625 --> 00:13:21,865 Ooh, my imagination's not that good, 320 00:13:21,865 --> 00:13:23,145 that is what the internet is for. 321 00:13:23,235 --> 00:13:25,265 Right. Uh, between fat life 322 00:13:25,485 --> 00:13:27,745 and just any other place where, uh, 323 00:13:27,905 --> 00:13:30,665 kinky humans gather online, you do a search for perverts, 324 00:13:30,985 --> 00:13:34,105 somebody's got ideas and you'll go, oh, I never thought 325 00:13:34,105 --> 00:13:36,145 of doing that with that thing. 326 00:13:36,455 --> 00:13:39,505 What I've noticed, um, for us 327 00:13:39,565 --> 00:13:41,545 and just other people, especially folks 328 00:13:41,545 --> 00:13:42,865 who go, I'm not really that creative. 329 00:13:42,905 --> 00:13:43,905 I don't come up with ideas. 330 00:13:44,735 --> 00:13:48,305 Once you start seeing the world through a lens of 331 00:13:49,285 --> 00:13:52,505 can I use that in kink, it becomes easier 332 00:13:52,685 --> 00:13:53,905 to see other things that way. 333 00:13:53,905 --> 00:13:56,785 Yes. It's a, a really a matter of gaining the experience of 334 00:13:57,125 --> 00:13:59,145 and of just trying things. Um, 335 00:13:59,495 --> 00:14:02,185 - It's one of those things almost like once you open your 336 00:14:02,185 --> 00:14:04,025 eyes to it, you can't 337 00:14:04,255 --> 00:14:05,255 - Exactly. 338 00:14:05,255 --> 00:14:06,105 - Yeah. Unsee it again. 339 00:14:06,175 --> 00:14:08,865 - Exactly. And that I can make, I can make things fun. 340 00:14:08,865 --> 00:14:11,025 Mm-Hmm. , obviously, uh, if you don't know, 341 00:14:11,045 --> 00:14:12,865 we are very biased on buying toys. 342 00:14:13,145 --> 00:14:17,225 'cause JB makes toys. We sell toys at the kinky the ry.com. 343 00:14:17,685 --> 00:14:20,145 Um, but that's not where we started. Yeah. 344 00:14:20,145 --> 00:14:23,785 Um, that doesn't mean even now we won't use a pervert. 345 00:14:24,325 --> 00:14:28,745 Uh, for a brief moment in time, J B's, uh, 346 00:14:29,475 --> 00:14:34,145 Wartenberg wheel was, was left at another location, 347 00:14:34,545 --> 00:14:35,865 , it took us a while to get it back. 348 00:14:36,165 --> 00:14:38,145 And he is not above using a fork 349 00:14:38,285 --> 00:14:39,505 or using a, um, 350 00:14:40,325 --> 00:14:42,665 the prong things like on your barbecue grill to come. 351 00:14:42,665 --> 00:14:43,865 Mm-Hmm. , I mean, if it's sharp 352 00:14:43,925 --> 00:14:45,225 and he knows he won't cut me with it. 353 00:14:45,225 --> 00:14:47,425 - Sharp, sharp and pointy, - He's gonna use it even now. 354 00:14:47,425 --> 00:14:50,145 Mm-Hmm. . So, um, that's a, that's a thing 355 00:14:50,145 --> 00:14:52,325 to kind of keep in mind, mind about perverts, you know? 356 00:14:52,325 --> 00:14:54,605 Yeah. And yeah, if you don't, if you don't have a lot 357 00:14:54,605 --> 00:14:57,445 of ideas, then let the internet guide you. 358 00:14:57,585 --> 00:14:59,445 Mm-Hmm. that, that being said, 359 00:15:00,065 --> 00:15:01,085 if you are watching 360 00:15:01,105 --> 00:15:04,925 or listening to this, uh, near the time that it has been, 361 00:15:05,185 --> 00:15:09,685 um, published, which is like mid ish March, kind of, 362 00:15:11,185 --> 00:15:15,525 um, pink Kink podcast, our friend Rah has a class, 363 00:15:15,745 --> 00:15:18,165 an online class about perverts. 364 00:15:18,165 --> 00:15:19,845 Mm-Hmm. . Mm-Hmm. March 28th. 365 00:15:20,145 --> 00:15:22,125 The link will be in the places if you are interested. 366 00:15:22,465 --> 00:15:24,405 Um, check out the information, see if it's something 367 00:15:24,405 --> 00:15:25,405 that will, will suit you. 368 00:15:25,785 --> 00:15:28,845 Um, we love rah rah, she does good work. Yeah. 369 00:15:28,865 --> 00:15:32,365 Um, so yeah, if you're like, Ooh, I'm, I'm into this idea 370 00:15:32,365 --> 00:15:34,125 of perverts, but I don't know where to start. 371 00:15:34,975 --> 00:15:36,525 Check out her class March 28th. 372 00:15:37,065 --> 00:15:41,435 Um, but yeah, I mean, the things that this person, 373 00:15:41,895 --> 00:15:45,095 uh, listed in their specific question, yeah, 374 00:15:45,515 --> 00:15:46,615 it all sounds just fine. 375 00:15:46,735 --> 00:15:49,255 Mm-Hmm. you just in the doing of it, 376 00:15:49,275 --> 00:15:51,215 and in the process, you still need 377 00:15:51,215 --> 00:15:52,815 to be mindful of risk factors. 378 00:15:52,945 --> 00:15:55,375 Right. Some of what you might not know , 379 00:15:55,425 --> 00:15:56,655 until you get into the play. 380 00:15:57,235 --> 00:15:59,255 If that is not a really sturdy chair 381 00:15:59,915 --> 00:16:02,175 and your partner is bound to it 382 00:16:02,175 --> 00:16:05,415 and they thrash, just know the chair might come apart. 383 00:16:05,505 --> 00:16:10,175 Uhhuh, , , the, the yoga mat, 384 00:16:10,205 --> 00:16:12,175 make sure it's not gonna slip everywhere. 385 00:16:12,175 --> 00:16:15,535 Things like that. Just, just be aware. Mm-Hmm. 386 00:16:15,575 --> 00:16:17,095 . And you can't, it's a little bit harder 387 00:16:17,155 --> 00:16:21,855 to plan for risk factors in perverts if it's not like a 388 00:16:21,955 --> 00:16:23,655 common one, because you kind of don't know 389 00:16:24,205 --> 00:16:26,295 what might happen once you start interacting 390 00:16:26,525 --> 00:16:28,015 with this non kink item. 391 00:16:28,555 --> 00:16:32,455 Um, but yeah, it's, it's fine. Let your imagination go wild. 392 00:16:33,275 --> 00:16:35,015 Always take like a, a beat 393 00:16:35,155 --> 00:16:37,455 and think through how you plan on using it 394 00:16:37,635 --> 00:16:39,655 and test it out on yourself and 395 00:16:39,655 --> 00:16:42,775 or a partner if you can, to make sure it's not gonna cause, 396 00:16:43,315 --> 00:16:44,975 you know, sensations they don't wanna feel. 397 00:16:45,635 --> 00:16:47,455 But yeah, just go for it. 398 00:16:47,575 --> 00:16:49,055 I, I promise you, once you get into the world 399 00:16:49,055 --> 00:16:51,935 of perverts trips to any store, 400 00:16:52,475 --> 00:16:53,575 become a lot more fun. 401 00:16:53,935 --> 00:16:55,055 , or they take on all, 402 00:16:55,395 --> 00:16:56,695 all new meaning when you do that. 403 00:16:56,695 --> 00:16:58,055 Mm-Hmm. . So, yeah. 404 00:16:58,435 --> 00:17:03,135 Uh, enjoy perverting whatever you have in your house. Right. 405 00:17:03,135 --> 00:17:05,495 Get, get your kink on without spending a lot of money. 406 00:17:05,635 --> 00:17:07,895 For sure. Mm-Hmm. . Yep. 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