- Hey y'all.
This is the part where I usually go.
You're listening to Loving BDSM podcast episode,
some number here.
Uh, and I'm Kayla Lords.
And then I say something like witty
and funny about John Brownstone and yay.
And then we start an episode and we're chaotic.
Uh, if you can't tell, it's just me right now.
And if you actually got a chance
to look at your podcast app, you would've seen.
This is not a typical episode
because it's not like an hour and a half long.
Um, we are not doing an episode this week, ,
if you haven't already figured it out.
Uh, JB got sick this week
and has not been able to do anything.
He's basically just slept through the week as best he could
and taken a lot of day quil
and cough medicine and all kinds of stuff.
He is absolutely, uh, recovering and getting better.
Uh, at least as of recording this, uh, late Thursday night,
um, there's a chance
we may do our Friday night live stream.
The day you get to hear this little short commercial,
like, let's not call it an episode,
this thing I'm doing here on my own.
Um, but that is something
that we won't really know if we can do
until sometime on Friday.
So, the reason I'm here, even though we are not here,
and there's no episode this week,
nor will there be an episode on Monday either, which sucks,
um, is because we are doing a thing
that we do every year.
And normally we get to talk about it on the podcast
when we start doing it.
And with JB being sick, we couldn't do that,
but I wanted to make sure that I got you the information.
Um, and that is our annual Patreon membership drive.
Uh, we do this every year
because, you know, we like to encourage folks
to join our kinky community
or stay around in it if they're already there.
Uh, and this year's no different.
Um, it's one of those things.
Patreon is a thing that, um, the support of
that part of our community keeps our lights on,
keeps the cameras rolling, allows us to put out a lot
of content, um, and hopefully educate
and inform at no charge to folks.
Um, and it, yeah, Patreon is like, what makes that possible?
So we like to do a membership drive every year, make it kind
of special, entice some people
who maybe have thought about it but weren't sure.
Um, you can join for as little as $2 a month you can join
for hire, but minimum to get in the door, $2 a month.
What you get for that is you get, uh, access
to our Discord server.
Super cool, super nice sters.
And the way we run our Discord server,
it's not a meetup hookup like dating thing.
We, we don't do that .
It's a, Hey, come be kind of your full self.
So we absolutely have channels that are devoted to kink.
Um, but we also have channels that are for,
if you're a crafter, you can share
what you're working on if you have pets
and wanna share pictures if you are a gamer,
if you're a reader, if you are, oh, all kinds of stuff.
Like we just, we have tons of channels that are
for all the other parts of your life as well.
And just for the record, when I say we don't do the dating
hookup thing through our community,
that doesn't mean people have not met there
and then gotten into relationships,
but they did it in the way that is kind of our preference
and the, the way we recommend for, for most people,
they became friends first
and got to know one another as people
and then a relationship formed.
So, um, just wanted to let you know that's
what the Discord server is like.
The other thing you get for as little as $2 a month
is access to an exclusive video.
It is about kink,
but it's not like educational how to,
here's how these things work.
We keep that free, but it's usually fun stuff.
So last year we started doing these videos
and a lot of them were us taking
online BDSM quizzes
and, uh, me ranting about how awful many
of them were .
Um, but we've also played smash or pass, uh, and,
and indulged in our geeky side.
So we did one on Dr. Who characters.
We did one on Star Trek, the Next Generation Characters.
We did a random one that was just a mashup of all kinds.
We'll probably do more this year.
Um, we have done a reaction video to a,
um, BDSM show.
We did that once. It was exhausting
because I'd never edited a video like that before.
We haven't done another one since,
but that doesn't mean we won't.
So those are what the videos are like.
We do a monthly behind the scenes podcast episode, um,
where we talk about what we're doing professionally,
like what's going on with the kry, what's going on
with living BDSM, but we also
talk about what's going on with us.
Stuff that we don't really talk about publicly.
Like you might hear a little bit more about, um,
our family life or you'll hear a little bit more about some
of the stuff we're going through.
But we do also talk about the business stuff.
So you get to kind of know stuff before it happens
or know what's been going on behind the scenes.
That's why it's called the Behind the Scenes podcast, um,
that we might not really think
to talk about when we're focused on
talking about power exchanges.
And then the other thing you get for that $2 minimum a month
is a monthly live q and a.
We live stream, usually it's on the
first Saturday of the month.
We take an hour and we'll answer questions
and we'll chitchat and we'll hang out.
Um, it's a slightly less chaotic version
of our Friday Night live streams
and it is focused on answering questions.
Um, so that's what we offer for everybody who joins,
no matter what tier you choose,
what dollar amount you choose,
if you choose higher than $2 a month, um,
at the $5 level, you get access to our monthly game nights.
We use our Discord server to chat
and then we'll play an online game together.
Last year we played a lot of Cards Against Humanity.
Uh, the site that we were using got so buggy
and so, oh, I was even paying for that site.
Y'all. Um, we're not going to use that, at least for now.
We're gonna look for other games this year.
I'm in the process of figuring out what, um,
what we wanna do with that.
Um, but that's, we do
that once a month, usually on a Friday night.
And then at the $10 level, which is our official top tier,
it's two, five or 10 y'all.
Um, at the $10 level, you get everything that two
and $5 levels get,
but also you get access to any digital product.
The digital downloads we sell in our Etsy shop,
you get access to those, uh, at no charge.
So our planner sheets are habit trackers, workbooks, um,
including new workbooks.
And I do have a plan to do a new workbook this year.
I don't know when, but I do have a plan.
And so you get that for free.
You don't have to pay for that on Etsy.
The other thing everybody gets, I don't usually make it like
a huge selling point 'cause I don't, it's a perk,
but I don't know that that's gonna entice anybody.
You do get discounts to both, uh, our Etsy shop and the kry.
Um, and those discounts are better than any sale we ever do.
So you can use 'em all year long, that kind of stuff.
So that's, that's what you get .
Um, but why an annual membership drive?
Why, uh, sign up now, now through February 15th, our, uh,
membership drive is going on.
Well, we do extra stuff to, you know, convince you
to come hang out with the cool kids, you know, uh, .
So the one thing that will, um, benefit any member
regardless is you're gonna get a goodie in the mail,
usually in mid to late March.
It could be early April.
Like timing is a little weird 'cause we have to make stuff.
Um, this year the goodies, um, there's two, two of them, uh,
the two and $5 tiers will get a sticker sheet
that have some loving BDSM stickers
and then like some little kinky stickers.
Um, the designs that we're doing
for our sticker sheet were chosen by current members.
And then at the $10 level
and anybody who might be paying more than $10
'cause of old levels or other stuff.
'cause there are ways to pay more than the we've created.
Um, we'll get an enamel pin pin.
This is the, uh, annual time to tease me about
how my southern self says pin
pin, PIN pin.
Y'all. I'm southern, I can't help it.
Anyway, um, the final design on
that is also being chosen by current members.
Um, because I couldn't decide,
and there are two I wanted to do.
And so I said, Hey, uh, which of these two?
And they're, they're voting in a poll right now.
So if you are a paying member as
of February 15th, 2024, uh, to our Patreon,
you're gonna get a goodie in the mail as long
as we have your mailing address.
The other thing we offer during this membership drive is
for people who want to pay one time
to get access for the full year.
So a lot of people come into Patreon in general
and they pay per month, which is good
because it means you can,
you can bounce whenever you gotta go.
You're like, oh, I have money for this,
or, oh, I'm not using this anymore.
Or, oh, I don't even listen to their podcast anymore.
I'm outta here. If you're a month to month subscriber,
then you can leave whenever you need to
and you don't have to keep paying.
But a lot of people do like to just pay the one time,
maybe when they have a little bit of extra cash in their
pocket, then they get access for the full year
during our membership drive.
So that's now through February 15th.
If you sign up as an annual member,
you get two months for free.
So what that means is you pay upfront for 10 months
of access, but you get a full year to be a part
of our Patreon and do all the things and,
and hopefully have a good time
outside of our membership drive.
Uh, if you sign up as an annual member,
you get one month free.
Um, the right now, during this time you get two months free.
And then, you know, depending on your tier,
that can be a decent savings.
You know, if you're at the $10 a month tier,
that's $20 off, right?
Um, do we, can we offer anything special like that
for month to month subscribers?
No. Not because we don't want to, but
because Patreon doesn't let us.
Um, the one thing we do offer for five
and $10 tiers, you can come join our community
with a seven day free trial to take a look around,
see if it's what you want.
The thing for the membership drive
to get your goodie is you have to be a paying member
as a February 15th.
So if you take advantage of the seven day trial, you need
to have started paying
by the time the membership drive is over.
So you're on the list that Patreon gives me of members
who get this goody.
So that is something to keep in mind.
But, um, if you're like me, maybe I'll do that.
But I don't know. You can come in as a, a free member
for seven days, take a look around, see if it's, you know,
the right vibe for you before you spend any money.
So that is also an option that we, uh, now offer.
'cause Patreon lets us offer that option.
Um, I am out of breath
because I think I'm talking
without actually stopping to breathe.
Sorry, y'all , this would be normally
where I'd throw it to JB and like calm myself.
But he's not here 'cause he's recovering on the couch right
now watching a lot of Netflix, by the way, if you,
if you didn't, wondered what he was doing.
Okay. So all of that is at patreon.com/kayla lords.
Um, a link to our Patreon is in the show notes, a link to,
um, a blog post we wrote
where I outline everything I just said for people who need
to read it and see it visually for, to like understand
what the, what the hell I just fucking said.
Uh, that will be in the show notes.
The thing I also wanna make sure that we say is,
while we appreciate,
and God knows we do, y'all, I just can't even tell you
how much we appreciate financial support.
Um, if you don't have cash to be spending on our Patreon
or to buy stuff from the Kry or to buy stuff from the Etsy
and you're just like a broke bitch, like, like we are,
quite frankly, you are no less valuable to us
and no less a part of our overall community.
Okay? Y'all, we cherish everybody who is willing to listen
to the sound of this fucking voice right here, okay?
Um, if you would like to support the work we do,
but you don't have any money to spend
or that's, this is not where,
where you're gonna spend the money that you do have.
There are things you can do that don't cost a time.
You know, if you have an online kink community, whether
that's in Discord
or it's on social media, feel free
to share like our episodes or our website
or our, you know, that handle I fucking hate on Instagram,
, you know, tell people about us, you know,
tell other kink sters about us.
Um, if you ever hear an episode that you're like,
this shit is life changing, or you watch a video
and you're like, this shit is life changing, share it where
you feel safe and comfortable to do that.
That can be on fat life.
Um, that can be on social media, that can be in discord,
that can be kick, that can be WhatsApp.
Like wherever you're hanging out with other kinky people
and it is safe for you to do.
So. That is an easy
and no-cost way to help us keep helping other Sters.
The money is great and we, we need the money .
But I also know that not everybody can do that.
And I don't want anybody to think that we
care more about people with money than people without money.
We are also people without money. .
Um, I say this is somebody who's telling
you about her Patreon.
It is what helps us pay the, uh, the mortgage.
It's not like, it's not money that I go, Ooh, I'm gonna go
to a fancy dinner on y'all.
So I feel you. If you're like, uh, nope, I'm a broke bitch.
I, I don't have it to give.
It sounds great, but I I promise we still love you.
You are a part of our wider total community.
We consider everybody who pays us any fucking attention
and is, is not an asshole.
A member of our community.
Our inner kink community is through Patreon.
And that is where we just, we just offer more stuff
to hopefully make it worth the,
the, the spending you're doing.
That's all I'm saying. So if you can
and are interested in if we've ever helped you
or your relationship or your kink life
and you got a little, little money that you are willing
to spend to help us do the thing, patreon.com/kayla lords.
Again, if you're a month to month subscriber,
you don't like, you don't have to hang out for forever.
You could just come in for a couple months if you want,
get the goodie and then, you know, bounce, that's fine.
Um, but if you don't have any money
and you just, just let people know we exist,
you know, that's all.
Tell other sters like, Hey, this,
this podcast is not the worst thing I've ever listened to.
Uh, yes, they're chaotic,
but they're fun, you know, whatever.
Just you can do that too. And that, that is appreciated.
So that is my Ramly commercial.
Y'all wanna know a little thing?
I told JB I thought it would be under 10 minutes.
Y'all know, y'all know I was wrong the
moment I said the words right?
That's it though. Um, there are probably details
that I meant to tell you and I have forgotten.
I'll think about that later.
We'll talk about it again next week,
assuming there is an episode.
Again, I won't shut up about the membership drive
until the membership drive is over.
Y'all know me. So with that, I'm gonna go,
I'm gonna go check on jb, make sure he's doing good.
Check on the 14-year-old, make sure he's doing good.
Um, maybe I'll sit and rest too at some point.
Uh, and I will talk to y'all later. Okay?