WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.080 --> 00:00:02.319 - Hey, everyone. This is Kurt Francom with Leading 2 00:00:02.319 --> 00:00:04.500 - Saints. I just wanna drop in your podcast 3 00:00:04.559 --> 00:00:05.540 - feed real quick 4 00:00:05.919 --> 00:00:07.440 - a, clip from, 5 00:00:08.000 --> 00:00:08.500 - upcoming 6 00:00:09.119 --> 00:00:11.380 - virtual summit that we're putting on called Liberating 7 00:00:11.439 --> 00:00:13.945 - Saints virtual summit. And this is from an 8 00:00:13.945 --> 00:00:16.045 - episode I did with Tara McCausland, 9 00:00:16.824 --> 00:00:19.724 - and she is phenomenal. Gave a great presentation. 10 00:00:20.184 --> 00:00:21.945 - And I also just wanna give you a 11 00:00:21.945 --> 00:00:24.744 - flavor of this virtual summit that's coming up 12 00:00:24.744 --> 00:00:26.524 - and encourage you to go register 13 00:00:26.904 --> 00:00:27.724 - for free. 14 00:00:28.109 --> 00:00:30.289 - This is these are such awesome online 15 00:00:30.750 --> 00:00:33.250 - conferences that don't require you to travel anywhere, 16 00:00:33.469 --> 00:00:35.729 - to book a hotel, to figure out flights. 17 00:00:35.789 --> 00:00:38.049 - You just can attend anywhere in the world 18 00:00:38.190 --> 00:00:40.670 - and benefit from this content. And we're talking 19 00:00:40.670 --> 00:00:41.890 - about how to minister 20 00:00:42.190 --> 00:00:42.850 - to individuals 21 00:00:43.385 --> 00:00:44.924 - who are struggling with pornography. 22 00:00:45.545 --> 00:00:47.784 - And again, this is free to register for 23 00:00:47.784 --> 00:00:48.604 - to get all 24 00:00:49.064 --> 00:00:50.765 - the the access to each daily, 25 00:00:51.545 --> 00:00:54.104 - presentation, and Tara McCausland is one of those 26 00:00:54.104 --> 00:00:54.604 - presentations. 27 00:00:55.145 --> 00:00:57.289 - And she talks about in this clip seeing 28 00:00:57.289 --> 00:00:59.450 - yourself as a first responder. So check out 29 00:00:59.450 --> 00:01:02.750 - the clip and then go to leadingsaints.org/liberating. 30 00:01:03.050 --> 00:01:04.409 - All the links are in the show notes 31 00:01:04.409 --> 00:01:07.049 - to register for free. So take it away, 32 00:01:07.049 --> 00:01:07.549 - Tara. 33 00:01:08.250 --> 00:01:11.364 - Okay. So point number one is to see 34 00:01:11.364 --> 00:01:11.864 - yourself 35 00:01:12.325 --> 00:01:14.025 - as a first responder. 36 00:01:14.805 --> 00:01:15.305 - Now 37 00:01:15.765 --> 00:01:17.384 - I think most of us are familiar 38 00:01:17.685 --> 00:01:18.185 - with 39 00:01:18.484 --> 00:01:21.284 - what a paramedic does. Right? So when there's, 40 00:01:21.284 --> 00:01:22.665 - for instance, a car crash, 41 00:01:23.170 --> 00:01:25.170 - a paramedic might be one of their very 42 00:01:25.170 --> 00:01:27.490 - first people on scene to help with the 43 00:01:27.490 --> 00:01:28.310 - immediate distress, 44 00:01:29.010 --> 00:01:32.609 - to help stabilize, and then they shuttle that 45 00:01:32.609 --> 00:01:34.790 - person off quite literally often, 46 00:01:35.730 --> 00:01:38.230 - to specialized care where they might need, 47 00:01:38.784 --> 00:01:39.924 - surgery from 48 00:01:40.385 --> 00:01:42.885 - a surgeon that has, again, specialized, 49 00:01:43.344 --> 00:01:45.045 - education to deal with whatever, 50 00:01:45.905 --> 00:01:47.125 - the emergency is. 51 00:01:47.505 --> 00:01:49.605 - And so like a paramedic, 52 00:01:50.385 --> 00:01:52.965 - I I invite you to see yourself as 53 00:01:53.380 --> 00:01:56.680 - as this first responder. You likely will be, 54 00:01:57.620 --> 00:02:00.260 - the first stop for many people who have 55 00:02:00.260 --> 00:02:02.359 - just had a discovery or disclosure 56 00:02:02.980 --> 00:02:04.200 - in their marriage. 57 00:02:05.060 --> 00:02:06.599 - And so for you, 58 00:02:07.064 --> 00:02:09.064 - first of all, in order to do your 59 00:02:09.064 --> 00:02:10.824 - best work, you need to get a little 60 00:02:10.824 --> 00:02:11.644 - bit of education. 61 00:02:11.944 --> 00:02:13.564 - Now I wanna back up and say, 62 00:02:14.185 --> 00:02:15.705 - I know you've got your work cut out 63 00:02:15.705 --> 00:02:16.364 - for you, 64 00:02:16.664 --> 00:02:18.584 - and I'm so grateful for your service. You 65 00:02:18.584 --> 00:02:21.930 - didn't ask for this. You you weren't especially 66 00:02:21.930 --> 00:02:23.530 - trained to deal with a lot of the 67 00:02:23.530 --> 00:02:25.530 - issues that are coming to you, but I 68 00:02:25.530 --> 00:02:26.510 - encourage you 69 00:02:26.969 --> 00:02:29.930 - to get some education specifically around this issue 70 00:02:29.930 --> 00:02:32.025 - because I know how prevalent it is. And 71 00:02:32.025 --> 00:02:33.784 - you just start with the nine best practices. 72 00:02:33.784 --> 00:02:35.064 - If you're like, I don't even know where 73 00:02:35.064 --> 00:02:37.305 - to start. It's again, it's succinct, easy to 74 00:02:37.305 --> 00:02:39.885 - digest. So get some education about the impact 75 00:02:40.025 --> 00:02:42.605 - pornography on marriages and families. Start there. 76 00:02:43.544 --> 00:02:44.284 - And then 77 00:02:44.650 --> 00:02:46.909 - be prepared to direct those individuals 78 00:02:47.450 --> 00:02:48.430 - to specialized 79 00:02:48.730 --> 00:02:49.230 - support. 80 00:02:49.849 --> 00:02:52.569 - So you'll your role as a faith leader, 81 00:02:52.569 --> 00:02:54.650 - as a bishop, is to provide that spiritual 82 00:02:54.650 --> 00:02:55.150 - guidance. 83 00:02:55.770 --> 00:02:56.510 - And then 84 00:02:57.290 --> 00:02:57.530 - you 85 00:02:58.264 --> 00:03:00.525 - you're going to shuttle them off to someone 86 00:03:00.584 --> 00:03:01.884 - with more specialized, 87 00:03:03.784 --> 00:03:06.025 - education so that they can get the care 88 00:03:06.025 --> 00:03:07.384 - that they need. And I I often like 89 00:03:07.384 --> 00:03:09.944 - to say, you are an important part of 90 00:03:09.944 --> 00:03:12.200 - the care team, but you are not the 91 00:03:12.200 --> 00:03:12.700 - team. 92 00:03:13.240 --> 00:03:15.159 - And so all of the healing that's going 93 00:03:15.159 --> 00:03:15.659 - to 94 00:03:15.960 --> 00:03:17.560 - need to take place is not going to 95 00:03:17.560 --> 00:03:19.819 - take place just there in your office. 96 00:03:20.120 --> 00:03:22.139 - But you will also do your best work 97 00:03:22.520 --> 00:03:23.580 - when you 98 00:03:23.960 --> 00:03:27.159 - can direct them to to Christ and point 99 00:03:27.159 --> 00:03:27.659 - them 100 00:03:28.014 --> 00:03:30.194 - to the hope and the healing that's available 101 00:03:30.254 --> 00:03:31.314 - through Jesus Christ. 102 00:03:31.694 --> 00:03:33.955 - So seeing yourself as that first responder 103 00:03:34.334 --> 00:03:35.555 - and helping them, 104 00:03:36.174 --> 00:03:38.414 - get a clear understanding of who they are 105 00:03:38.414 --> 00:03:40.349 - as a son or daughter of God, pointing 106 00:03:40.349 --> 00:03:43.310 - them to to God as their primary source 107 00:03:43.310 --> 00:03:45.389 - of relief, and then make sure you're directing 108 00:03:45.389 --> 00:03:46.449 - them to specialized 109 00:03:46.750 --> 00:03:47.250 - support. 110 00:03:47.949 --> 00:03:51.009 - Okay. So this next point is closely tied 111 00:03:52.509 --> 00:03:53.409 - to the first 112 00:03:53.735 --> 00:03:56.314 - point, which is to let go of responsibility 113 00:03:56.614 --> 00:03:59.254 - of fixing the problem. And I hope that, 114 00:03:59.254 --> 00:04:02.215 - actually, this helps you just breathe a sigh 115 00:04:02.215 --> 00:04:02.954 - of relief. 116 00:04:16.217 --> 00:04:17.977 - Alright. There's the clip. Again, go to the 117 00:04:17.977 --> 00:04:19.417 - show notes for all the links. Go to 118 00:04:19.417 --> 00:04:21.437 - leadingsaints.org/liberating 119 00:04:21.897 --> 00:04:23.677 - to register for this free 120 00:04:23.977 --> 00:04:27.837 - virtual summit called the Liberating Saints virtual summit.