On 05/24/2024,
we spread Mighty Casey's
ashes in the gulf stream of the Atlantic
ocean.
You're Stewart Florida.
This episode later several of the many pieces
of that experience.
I stopped here because I'd had enough.
Time to publish.
You'll find an intro
conversation
between Jan Olden
and me recorded
on June 20 seventh,
followed by self introductions of the dis party,
recorded by our guide, Karen Hall.
Next, we'll take a historical photo tour of
Casey's life
piloted by Casey's sister Cc.
I only
included about 15 of the almost a hundred
photos as the resulting 3 minute clip took
almost 20 hours to produce.
Will end with me reading hank Birch
post event reflection, and then Jan and I
will wrap it up.
The written and audio versions include everything, except
the videos, of course.
I will create a 17 minute video
with the introductions
and a 3 minute 1 with the photo
tour.
I'm resurrect Casey's website to include all our
podcasts and the contents of 6 V
and 1 beta tape, Casey recorded over the
years.
The Url will be casey's.
Mighty casing 1 word dot com.
Try it and see how far we've gotten.
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Let's face some sense of of this.
Thank you.
What don't you tell us a little bit
about how this memorial event or Casey?
Took place... Like, what was the
genesis of it?
Her dying obviously.
Yes.
1 of the things that Casey had specified
in her will.
Was that she wanted to be rem,
and she wanted her asha spread
now
in the Humboldt current
off the coast of California,
near Coronado where she grew up
and path in the Gulf Street,
which is not on the gulf side of
Florida as you may have thought as I
thought originally. It's actually
Atlantic side.
And
she
actually specified
that a portion of her life insurance.
Be dedicated
to this
event under the au
of her
sister short of a blood test piper.
So paper
with a number of family members,
organize the first
boat journey
last fall
off of the post coronary note,
and
they
thought through in design service,
and then they
orchestrated the second half
this spring at the end of May
in
Florida.
And Danny, that's the event that you and
I joined for.
And
it was a mix of family members,
people
who loved casey from a number of for
many
incarnation and
focus points and
I think it was the first time all
of us got together. But
it was Casey's wishes, and I learned afterwards
that part of the reason for specifying these
2 locations
is that
eventually
the humboldt current
and the Gulf stream join up and ci
the glow, took
navigate
globe, but
including I believe passing as
London and.
I participated obviously with you.
And
in the
preparation of it that there were several fits
and start
in terms of the logistics?
Now,
so
can you just tell us briefly about
arranging those logistics.
There were a number number of a lot
of movement have been parts.
Coordinate. 1 was the location and a boat
of sufficient size, but there was a trade
off between
the date, the boat,
the size and how many people could come.
And
Casey's family
knew and connected with family members and people
they were aware
but
they didn't know all of the people
from the health side
of casey's he's left So they asked me
to help
coordinate it that side of it.
I pulled in
a couple of people that I knew P
loved from
the Richmond area
that was in particular
my isaac ex, my partner in
helping to
manage all things Casey in hospice and case
state.
Thank bur Sc, who was a long time
friend from Virginia.
And then I worked with a number of
people.
Dave Bro,
you Danny,
others to circulate the word get as much
of the word out to people as we
could.
But by the time we were at that
stage of the organization, it was really only
remade
4 weeks
before the date. And the date was at
the beginning of Memorial bay weekend and so
people had plans already
things and so there were also fits and
starts about who could come
when they'd come,
and then
the boat that we were initially going to
go out on,
ended up in dry docks. So then they
had to scramble both for an alternate boat
and that changed the date as well as
the rain date
and that
further
turned for some people in terms of their
range.
Hi, channel this.
The cancer in 2007
in 2000
a
newspaper
because I had looked to my medical records
discovered whole bunch
there.
And
out it was a big
1
hyper dang worth.
Actually Casey knew me before I knew her
because she was older and we known each
other since I was born.
So she is the older sister that I
never had us. Used to say that you
a sister short of blood test. So
basically grew up with her and Cc,
and we shared love of horses.
Love see
love of martini.
Love a buffet
and
for
years.
Loud.
No.
I'm the second of the casey kids.
Mary.
Yes. I can call you, Mary.
Nashville
for your birthday
I would that
She started failing and was having trouble getting
her
we would get together and
have a recorded
conversation
being
and out room.
So they were different but the same.
We did that
4
years and that
and I go back to
late twentieth century
And I met through an infinity group for
the after
knowledge.
My function and her wife was me her
hunting guy.
What.
1 my property
in maine
where
wherever the
restaurant
undertook
the restaurants
and we made a pretty good start
bad.
Have somebody hand got
pointer.
She
she picked it up
extremely fast
I
so I was happy to
Hey am Laurie Rogers S. I
am
Mary Qui Casey are very Casey Qui,
youngest
cousin on the Rogers side of the family
and, I guess I've known her all of
my life.
She was... The oldest cousin and somebody, I
always...
I was always so admired
admired her so much for
what I saw her do on stage, and
I went to
New York City when I graduated high school
and met at Nbc she showed me around,
and she just always was somebody I looked
up to. We didn't grow up together other
than all the wonderful times we had as
cousins. We have
13 amazing cousins that we spent a lot
of time together,
but she was always the oldest and somebody
I always looked up to. Then in 2010,
I got breast cancer and I didn't
I didn't know that Mary had press canada,
and it was very unique because we didn't
have it in our family at all, which
doesn't really matter anymore but
We had that in common, and she provided
me with so much information and inspired me
so much.
Anna
very thankful
for her for that.
This her, she come see here in Florida,
have
overjoyed that she came in. Spent some time.
Very have meet you all her close rents.
She high name price and
a lot of us here. I don't know
exactly when I'm met Casey.
Because Casey just kept coming in and out
of my like 1 me or another
because the folks have a little bit of
a a rebel revolutionary
ben,
but
also
that reseller.
And what a really admire is that with
that strength. She get such a gentle compassion.
For people that parked wrong like that or.
It couldn't really speak for the themselves, she
lost talk
and she was kind.
And I just
I just love her. But there's an awesome
right here.
So sometimes we would go back and forth
on,
like writing things at Bm and
So
the most 1 I had with the I
was we were 1,
and we were filming it up.
I'm like like
corporal
research with
patience. Sounds pretty. Yeah. It spot. Yeah. But
1 I was fine. We just been all
over it and we ate the whole time.
This is awesome great.
I get. And so we I just... I
like your and let me get that artistic
car. I think
she could make art room anything.
Whether I was speaking movie writing
about
actual.
Work code on her.
That you are code under jess.
And what kind of
What kind of statement is
And
that statement lives on. I think that's the
translated by several
organizations as... Oh, this is something people and
it's becoming
on h 7, which a health level 7
standard.
It's becoming a fan but qr
Not been quite literally translated
now.
Alright. Qr code.
Yeah. So qr codes Listen those for me.
Yeah.
I've tried to avoid this.
So, yeah. How long right known?
Jc. You since my bird blah blah blah.
But she was always to go back to
what lord I would say, in my life,
she was always
like this
occasional special guest are.
When I was when I was a kid
because she would be in college or she'd
be in new york. And then bam she's
there. And everything's different with
there. Yeah. And
I had this kinda of hero was thing
for the most of my childhood and she
was just so resolute
and
she wanted something by god without got it.
I don't she made a big impression of
you know,
And
She had to sense of humor that it
just wouldn't die,
and it came useful a lot of times.
I went through some really rough stuff in
the nineties
with
my younger 2 kid or my older 2
kids, and
she was by my side to this whole
thing. And physically all the time, but she
was
constantly checking him with me and the how
are things going. And then when she had
cancer later on,
I
to try to do the safer her, but
I know that it's more natural for her
than
was for me yet. She just puts late
say she passionate.
She cared about the people around and she
wanted them to
better life.
I can't believe it took her as long
as it did to figure out this angle
on the healthcare that she had.
She wrote a butt know.
It's cancer for Christmas.
And
That's right in it. That's her. That's like
her that's so brilliant for
to turn
a life's threatening medical situation too.
I keep
These days, she's begun hell. I keep coming
across things where I wanna find out her
opinion on stuff.
I can't.
She was always the coolest the offenses, but
she was always the coolest of the 3
of us. She knew more about Tuesday and
she knew more about
closer
than
anybody I did. Like, when I was in
second grade,
at my birthday, she gave me a copy
the album pre,
which
when you think about second graders? You say?
I been a maybe he'll like it?
But listen to
became a.
Yeah. And then
She got the first Harry Potter book had
sent it to my oldest.
When it was like still being published by
sc and they're, like, 20000 copies of it
in or whatever.
And she just said this is gonna be
great. This is great story and you right.
She I don't see she any idea about
how to used it it again, But that's
the kind of cool hunting thing did she
do. And so when I come across stuff,
they're like, oh, what does she think of
this?
I mean that haven't them heard here to
be able to ask.
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Casey's sister,
Cc
took us on a historical photo tour
of Mary Martha Casey's life.
I've selected several of those photos to share
in the video
and written version of this documentary
that can be accessed in the show notes.
The tour was not chronological,
although this presentation is, sort of.
I selected some music to help blend the
dis
nature of the audio.
We start with Mary and her mom Betty.
That's a Mary having a very in... Say
she was Santa claus when she was maybe
5 or so. U. And that's I think
that was a Halloween costume or something. I
don't know. Notice the crown. Anyways.
And well, looking at what he there she's
she's on She's on the phone with somebody
looking very attentive.
Yeah
just hacking up the storm. Can you tell
which 1 is my sister?
And then the 06:10 north picket in the
front yard of them with the 3 Casey
kids. And that she got the part of
Aurora and the school play. She was in
eighth grade. Yeah. They went out and bought
were rented
a spinning loop and love this beach. And
then I do 2. This is her under
her boat.
Sign waves. I believe that she sailed it
all by herself and really Yeah. What year
do you think that would? This was
mid
let's say,
med to late eighties.
My god that's were.
Yeah. I love what
Mary. Well, their boat.
Okay There's... This is 1 of my favorite
pictures.
Okay. Oh, look at that. Wow. Yeah. And...
This is at yankee stadium. Oh. She took
us alt yankee stadium,
Dad had been the yankee stadium when he
was a young guy of the navy
and not since.
This is Mary and who is that standing
next door? Hold on.
I... Yeah. That's Mike.
Standing next door
at the Naval Academy. Wow.
Where she was born?
It's good to have his historian of family.
Well,
the I I remember as much as I
possibly can and then I write everything dead.
Okay.
Wow, that's cool.
That special that.
Why change to casey.
Because she gave the name Mary. I volume
it was also the product of a bad
doors. And also reinvent the reinvent
k.
The memorial happened memorial day weekend.
It was a hoo and a half.
So from your perspective.
What did you get out of it?
It's a great question... Because I have been...
Living
with Casey's dying.
Now for more than a year.
And by that,
not just dealing with the emotional fallout of
it. But also dealing with the state issues.
Because you're the executor. Right? 1 of the
executive. I'm the executor here. Yes.
I have
felt as if along the way. I've I
was probably the only person there who I
knew everyone except 1 of casey's cousins.
And I think I was the only person
at that intersection of all of the moving
parts.
And
I also had been talking to various people
as I was trying to figure out
things about its statements so in in some
respects I had
thought
that when I
really had done my breathing.
But 1 of the things I realized
was that
I had really needed the ritual and the
ceremony and the gathering together
and the telling you stories
to have the process come to some sort
of completion.
And for me,
that was really important.
I loved
hearing
about all these different chapters
in Jc life.
I especially
appreciated
hearing about
Casey as a sailor
and a hunter.
These were
nowhere
in my
in my the my grasp of her.
I knew she was very ec.
I loved here in the stories.
Yeah.
Oh,
when you grieve.
Grieving is an opening of your heart,
and
it's
It's not...
And you just don't know.
When you open your heart You don't know.
You don't know what's gonna
come out.
So it's nice to grieve.
In a safe space.
And I felt like
this was
safe and
the grief certainly
the emotion, the
that feeling in your chest and your throat
and your
got everything. Your gut
but also, oh, another adventure.
At felt
my
my life with Casey,
was an adventure.
And so this was nice to have
yet another
adventure
with her.
Absolutely.
It was
I was so glad. I went and so
honored to be included in
the process
and
the event itself.
And frankly,
in casey's he's life.
She cast a big shadow, but she also
opened a big tent.
It was
it was
lots of room for every kind of person
and
every kind of adventure and
I really felt like I got a little
bit of a snippet of that from
the time I was able to spend with
Casey and it was renewed and fresh by
hearing those stories from people from all over
her life.
Thank you.
You get him.
From Hank.
I struggled in my forgotten hunting bag as
we left for the dock
where several miniature
captain Morgan Rum,
Tito vodka
and Hen Cognac,
which I'd intended the 3 of us to
stream overboard.
To sheer Casey along
with a travel size of Tab tobacco as
Ko
kickstarter.
This morning, I took them down to my
creek where Casey often crossed the bar.
And whose r saying to her as she
stocked Peck deer
and Turkeys.
Indian Creek flows into the pine, a att
of James his river
and onto the C
as the original owners knew it.
Once Mountain Waters mean
offshore to ming with that great river in
the sea, we call the Gulf stream.
Should Casey lag or flag on her long
last voyage,
made the tip tied her T word.
I'm so very glad I did it.
It's a wonderful.
It wonderfully expanded my understanding of Casey with
whom my relationship was long and lovely,
but limited.
Although she doubled in brass,
she left her advocacy career pretty much at
home when she came to Peck,
fo
focusing on hunting,
food,
computer turner,
computer,
computer tutoring,
and mourning that and mourning the decline of
the news biz.
So the round table discussion of her many
parts was a revolution
was a revelation to me.
I had signed up for the trip largely
from a sense of duty to her shade
and you and Myra.
But it turned out to be deeply healing.
And Y'all y'all cheerful capable
companionship and care taking, was Casey's final gift
to me.
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