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All of you and Father Matt too?

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Yes. I could get him good right now.

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If I really want it. Right?

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I'm not gonna open it because I could

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lose my job.

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I don't wanna do that. If But I

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am gonna ask you if you want to

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have parental supervision at home. Your parents could

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do this with you, and you got...

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Right parents. Right parents are like, that. So

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you could do this at home it's and

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you could talk about anger and what does

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it do? So that's a really good way

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to remember. Hey, I don't want my anger

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to explode.

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I wanna use that. Anger for good? And

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I wanna ask myself what am I angry

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about? Am I angry because I'm just mad

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today? Or do I have a reason to

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be angry where I need to put action

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to my words. Right? That's what we wanna

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do. So the last verse that I wanna

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go over with you guys. I want you

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to say it with me is fusion 04:26.

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It says in your anger, do not what

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send. Can you say it with me?

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In your anger

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do not sin. Can you whisper it to

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your neighbor? In your anger. Do not sin.

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Can you say it really loud

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in your anger.

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Do not send.

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And we were not angry when we did

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that. Right? Okay?

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Alright. So what it says is if you're

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feeling angry,

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it's okay. We all feel it.

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But don't sin. Don't lose your temper.

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Use that if that anger needs to be

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used to do something good, great. If not,

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maybe what are some ways you guys that

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can get rid of that anger in our

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heart. We'll close with this. What are some

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ways to get rid of anger in your

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heart, Lydia.

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Pray. Read the bible. What else? Yes.

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Breathe. Everybody breathe.

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I think it'll be hard to do that

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and be angry at the same same time.

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Good 1. Yes.

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Ask God for help. Yes. What about say

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you're sorry?

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Maybe you did something that's making your angry

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or what about for give someone else who

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made you angry. Like, whoever bitch you that

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day? Maybe

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maybe you should forgive them providing you. Maybe

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they just didn't know what they were doing,

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forgiving people forgiving yourself, praying, asking God for

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help. Those are all amazing questions. You guys

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are so smart. You're just so smart. Okay.

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with anger and help us to take that

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emotion and use it for him and not

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not not up anger. You guys ready to

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Bow your heads. Father, thank you so much

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for this time together.

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Thank you, Lord that you sharp us anger

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in the scriptures so that we know we're

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gonna feel it. And there's some anger that

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is good when people are being treated badly

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we wanna be angry about that, Lord is

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not right.

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things to improve that and to help that.

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bad and selfish, help it to give that

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to you and to let it go and

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to pray Lord and and not let it

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spill out on everybody else. We think you

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for your love and for how you love

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us and care for us in Jesus name.

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Ay man. You guys are awesome. High 5

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each other on the way back to your

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seats. You did amaze and you listened so

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well. Good night do great you guys?

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Dean and thank you kids. And

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we're gonna do... That that was the children's

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sermon, and I I feel like,

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maybe we got exactly what we needed this

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That was that was good enough. So we're

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talking about anger today, and, Kid you did

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a great job of confessing your anger, adults

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who who's ever felt anger.

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Who's ever been bitten by another person?

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it's an interesting 1 something's is applied to

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the kids not necessarily to the adults.

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assume it affects all of us in here

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because we're all humans.

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We're in a... Series right now called Psalms

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crying upwards. And you remember where, we're looking

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at the Psalms and talking about,

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our own emotional lives, and you remember this

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key idea that

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you're only as spiritually mature as your emotionally.

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That your emotional maturity in your spiritual maturity

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actually go hand in hand. You can't actually

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invite god into all areas if your life

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if you're not willing to name them and

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own them and reflect on here's where I've

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been. And so we've we've been looking at

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this together, and we're using the psalms through

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as our guide book for how do we

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understand, our emotions. And I don't know about

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you. If you might have prayed through psalm

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01:09 this morning. That song that we just

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prayed. And you might have even felt a

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little bit embarrassed about it. There's a part

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in there about praying that this person's

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family would be morning become orphan or that

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that he himself, his wife would be a

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widow. I mean it's a it's actually AAA

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quite jarring psalm to pray that we're going

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to be working through this morning would on

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We don't like to admit our anger

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because it seems un Christian. It's not the

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the Christian thing to do We're supposed to

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be people who are nice, people who are

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kind people, not people who are are very

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angry type of people.

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more nuanced perspective active, particularly around anger, and,

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in fact, Olivia just hit on it some...

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look at verses, like Ephesians 04:26, which she

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just put up, which says don't don't let

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the sun go down in your angry. We

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think we have to resolve anger really quickly,

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but it it says as Olivia just pointed

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out just before. In your anger,

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do not sin.

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Which means there is a way of experiencing

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anger that doesn't lead to sin. There's a

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way of of being angry towards something in

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the world.

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Going further, we see Jesus in passages like

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Mark 3 before healing a man, he looks

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around in anger.

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Deeply distress before performing this miracle saying stretch

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be angry and not sin, if Jesus experienced

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anger, than there has to be more to

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it than just to be a Christian means

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don't get angry.

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It's too simplistic of a. It doesn't accurately

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reflect the whole perspective of the bible or

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how we really are as humans.

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So what is anger? And talk about that

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first. What is anger?

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an emotional reaction

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to a perceived in justice.

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An emotional over action to a perceived

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injustice. And what I mean by that is

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you see something or you experienced something that

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you think is wrong or you think is

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an injustice.

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You see something that you think is something

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an injustice,

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and you wanna set the record straight. You

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wanna attack. You defend.

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I say perceived injustice because often our anger

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blinds us, and we're not quite sure if

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there's an accurate in injustice happening or not.

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and in or not. So it's a perceived

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injustice. You think something is unjust.

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or something is interferes

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with what we expect is right or fair

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Let me give you an example,

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I expect I expect people to be considerate.

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I'm sure many of you hold this expectation

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as well. And so when someone isn't being

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considerate of others often

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become angry because I think it's a lack

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of consideration.

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Driving down I 35. Right? Someone cuts you

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off or someone cuts someone else off. You

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have this emotional reaction of anger.

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a lack of fairness, it's a lack of

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right, lack of goodness perceived injustice.

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protector

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emotion.

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Anger protect you or wants to protect others.

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It often wants to protect you in fact,

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sometimes from feeling other things.

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with this as well. But anger is usually

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a a way of protecting,

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others protecting yourself or even protect you from

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grief or sadness.

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It's come as a common thing. So, for

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as my role is a priest I often

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company ping people and some of the last

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moments of their life.

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hospital bed, watching as someone breathes their last

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breath, people

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moments is not just tears, but usually a

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deep anger that I feel.

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This anger that this is not right this

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moment of death. That this is I wanna

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be able to punch something to hit something

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to throw something. I wanna be able to

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do something

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about the death that I'm seeing in front

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of me because I know this not how

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It's an emotional reaction of anger and that

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anger is protecting over also grief and sadness.

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This that I feel as well. The anger

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is this protector emotion.

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Anger wants to restore the world to the

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way it's supposed be.

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1 of our greatest christian philosophers and theologian.

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He said that for anger to be right,

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we know that anger can go wrong, We've

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all experienced in our own lives, yourselves or

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others anger going wrong.

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for anger to go right 2 things have

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to. Happen. 2 different situations have to be

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met. And first of all, and now we'll

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A client has said that anger has to

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be directed towards a true injustice.

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Not just a perceived injustice, but it has

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to be directed towards a true injustice.

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Anger that is right is anger that is

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directed towards sin,

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towards injustice towards evil ultimately towards the satanic

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It joins with god's own righteous anger,

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and it proclaimed this is not the world

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that was meant to be. This is not

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how things are posed to be. And so

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for instance, when I'm angry at death in

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those moments, it's a joining with god's right

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anger saying this is not how this world

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is supposed to be at all times.

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So we become angry. Here's the second thing

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a coin says, it has to be rightly

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proportion.

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On this next slide, he said there's almost

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like this bell curve

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between abbott see on the 1 hand and

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wrath on the other hand. And he says

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you can get out of proportion. And if

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your anger isn't right proportion, it's all of

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sinful anger. So here's

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here's maybe an example of this.

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If you have a parent, and

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you're maybe at the the park or something

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of and you see a a kid who's

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just bullying other kids,

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who's really picking on them name calling, maybe

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even hitting them or something like that. And

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you see the parent, and and the parent

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doesn't respond to this child in any kind

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of way. That would be an

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response. It's a lack of love.

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Because in that moment, they should have some

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anger. This isn't how children behave. This isn't

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fair on the playground happening. I should be

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able to step in as a parent and.

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Do something.

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But if you go too far in the

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other direction, you have the parent and we've

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all seen this kind of parent who's lose

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losing control, who's raising their voice who's towering

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over a child who's maybe throwing things who's

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out of losing control no longer has self

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control in that moment, and has slipped into

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an out of proportion response for anger, a

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sinful response.

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That's why the prove 29,

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Proverbs 29 says, a full gives full vent

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to his anger

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but a wise person, a wise man keeps

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himself under control. It's not that the wise

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man is

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never angry, but he isn't venting his anger

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on others in wrath.

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So I wanna look at a couple. I'm

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just gonna share with you all some examples

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for my own life of when there has

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been anger that has been right, venting there

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has been anger that is wrong, just to

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start to fill in, how do we make

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sense of what a aqua is saying about

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anger.

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Alright. For my own life, again, anger is

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wrong when you're boss tells you that you

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and your team didn't work hard enough to

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plan something, and that's why an event failed.

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And so you blow up saying that this

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wasn't enough time to do the work he

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demand it, by the way, This is not

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Cliff. This is like, over... This is 15

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years in my past.

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But this anger is wrong because do there's

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a critique of my identity, and my response

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is to angrily defend myself. Remember anger the

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protector. I'm not willing to hear the critique,

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not willing to listen to something that maybe

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need to improve on. It's anger trying to

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to wrongly protect me, not aimed towards,

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a true injustice.

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Need Anger is wrong. Maybe this resonates with

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some of you anger is wrong when it

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is kept internal

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and out of fear of conflict.

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Another person.

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Never confronts another person never says something they're

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doing is hurting you, hurting others, needs improvement,

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at pathetic. It's a lack of love.

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Anger is wrong when it isn't willing to

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listen to another side.

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Not willing to consider that I myself don't

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have the whole picture, but Maybe you've had

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an anger fantasy before. We're in that anger

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fantasy, you're really telling the person you're giving

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it to them. You know? You're really putting

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them in they're place because you're a hundred

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percent, the hero,

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you're a hundred percent right. They're clearly a

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hundred percent wrong they've made all the mistakes

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they've done everything wrong. So you've got this

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anger fantasy going on.

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Anger is wrong when it doesn't recognize there

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are different sides.

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Different perspectives.

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Doesn't name your own failures, your own adequacy,

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so it's not perfectly aligned towards a true

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and just

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That's when it some ways when anger can

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go wrong, but also when can anger go

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right.

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Anger is right.

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It searches its own heart even more than

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the actions of another person before confronting them.

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When the injustice it sees in another person...

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Spur on to self examine

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itself to evaluate its own heart and prayer

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before confronting another, aware of how easy it

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is to year from justice. This is aiming

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towards justice.

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Anger is right when it

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confronts another person, but also willingly listens to

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their side. Be here's a response.

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Wants to know what was going on with

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them? What are what are the set of

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circumstances that might have caused that type of

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behavior that kind of act that's navigating

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between apa empathy and wrath,

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saying I'm I'm confronting, but I'm also willing

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to listen to what was going on.

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Anger is right when it seeks to protect

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a defenseless or vulnerable the hurting.

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For instance, anger might notice gaps in the

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housing mark. It the housing system.

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And so I want to intervene and do

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something about it to help those who are

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living on house in the streets or to

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to take step in advocacy to to lift

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others up that's anger spur on action towards

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justice.

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Eps So how do you begin to recognize

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anger?

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You might think that's pretty easy to recognize

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anger. Right? Like, I'm I'm angry. I, It's

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it's not that hard. I can tell when...

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Alright my face is red. I'm angry. It

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should be...

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I actually think it can be difficult to

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recognize anger a lot of times. We we

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recognize the outburst, but it be hard to

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recognize

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in when we're feeling different levels of anger.

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So 1 practice that I've encouraged you to

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do before, and I'll let encourage you again

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is to practice something like a daily examine.

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Daily examine is where you take stock of

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the last 24 hours of your life, I

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asking where has god been present with you?

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Or where have you noticed his absence? You're

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just kinda looking back in your your mind's

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asking in your heart over the last 24

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hours. And as you do that, to begin

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to notice, when did I feel angry over

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the last 24 hours. And and turn this

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into a prayer exercise. Like, I actually write

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down in this moment,

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this was anger, and I felt it. And

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I'm inviting god into to noticing this moment.

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And then what injustice was I noticing that

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I I might need to take action towards.

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Becomes a wonderful prayer practice, and the more

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you do it, noticing anger isn't easy. This

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noticing any emotion isn't easy, but the more

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you do this practice, the more you become

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able to to understand your emotions actually in

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the moment. There's saw some statistics, And I

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don't know if it's right or not, but

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it said, less than 40 percent of people

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can accurately describe their emotions as they're happening.

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You get better, you get a a better...

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Fluency, the more you actually practice this.

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If you want a little bit more help,

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here's a chart I got,

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this is

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from a book, emotional intelligence 2,

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and you can see that chart there. Let's

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go to the next slide.

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As zoom in on,

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anger itself. And it's categorized 5 different emotions,

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since it's and it's giving you words based

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on how intensely you might be feeling them

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from a low intensity,

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medium intent up to a high intensity. So

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for anger for instance, it starts off with,

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you could imagine as you're praying through

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this exercise over the opacity 24 hours. You

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might say things like, I felt

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annoyed when this happened.

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I felt resistance in my own when this

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happened. I was irritated, that person said that

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thing again, it it it brought irritation. Do

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you see there's like a low level of

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of a their medium level. I was upset

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when I stepped on my kid's legos.

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I was

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I was agitated. During this, I was disgusted.

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I was mad up to a a very

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high level. I was furious. I was enraged.

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I was outraged. I was boiling,

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teething,

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felt betrayed

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These words start to give you in a

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vocabulary for expressing anger and beginning to understand

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when

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and why you are responding, inviting God. The

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purpose is not just to name your anger

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in and then, like, send it out, but

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it's to invite God into this moment.

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Because we... Remember as we talked about before,

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emotions are... They reveal your soul. They're telling

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you something is going on internally. They're like

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a check engine light, in your car. When

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you see them, you do something about them.

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And the thing that you do about them

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is you invite the lord into the situation

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saying I'm I'm having a response anger here.

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Is there an injustice? What are you calling

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me to do, God in this moment?

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So this is... Begins to give us a

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vocabulary for looking at anger. I wanna look

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at the psalm now psalm 01:09 as our

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primary vocabulary coming from the description. Themselves. So

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look at Psalm 01:09. It's in your... Now,

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your built in hand out for today.

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Psalm 01:09 is an incredible psalm. Yours You

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might wanna go home and

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and and read it pray through it later

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today.

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On face value, it does not actually seem...

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Christian.

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Right?

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If you read... If you just read someone

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0 9, you'll think, I don't think this

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belongs in the Bible. Christian it seems so

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wild. This is not how we're supposed to

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pray. Doesn't seem to speak of the the

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forgiveness. Jesus modeled.

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But I would say,

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this psalm is 1 of the best psalm

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for having a starting place for approaching anger.

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It doesn't get all the way to the

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other side of forgiveness, but it acts... It

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starts in a good place, by naming the

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wrong that has happened. So many of us

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wanna jump straight to forgiveness.

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Without actually doing the hard work of naming

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by the the hurt, naming the injustice. Here

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is a psalm

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that fully looks injustice in the face and

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names it and names it before the lord.

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So we're gonna work through this. Versus 1

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through 5. This is kind of an outline.

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You might write this alongside

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the the the the scripture that you have,

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but it a big block outline versus 1

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through 5, something has happened.

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Something has happened. And so just an excerpt

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from that and the Psalm writes. My god

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don't turn a deaf ear to my Hallelujah

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prayer.

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00:19:36,882 --> 00:19:39,673
Liars are pouring out v on me. They

537
00:19:39,673 --> 00:19:40,790
return my good with evil,

538
00:19:41,362 --> 00:19:43,745
They return my love with hate something has

539
00:19:43,745 --> 00:19:44,245
happened

540
00:19:44,778 --> 00:19:45,572
to the Psalm.

541
00:19:46,287 --> 00:19:47,955
We don't know what has happened. I can

542
00:19:47,955 --> 00:19:50,678
imagine many different types of circumstances. I... As

543
00:19:50,838 --> 00:19:52,037
I was reading this, I imagined,

544
00:19:52,676 --> 00:19:53,315
adult parents,

545
00:19:54,274 --> 00:19:56,192
I I adult... Of course, they're adult parents

546
00:19:56,192 --> 00:19:56,831
it's redundant.

547
00:19:58,758 --> 00:20:00,822
I was imagining parents of adult children.

548
00:20:01,853 --> 00:20:02,091
Right?

549
00:20:02,726 --> 00:20:05,107
And parents of adult children, have you ever

550
00:20:05,107 --> 00:20:06,615
felt betrayed by your adult children?

551
00:20:07,982 --> 00:20:10,050
Ever felt like you've asked them to do

552
00:20:10,050 --> 00:20:11,879
something. They've walked away from you raised them

553
00:20:11,879 --> 00:20:13,549
a certain way They're cutting you out there

554
00:20:13,549 --> 00:20:15,792
isolating you in a certain way. They're... They're

555
00:20:15,792 --> 00:20:17,780
they're rejecting your love as you're trying to

556
00:20:17,780 --> 00:20:18,894
pour out your love to them.

557
00:20:19,928 --> 00:20:21,837
I imagine a workplace setting.

558
00:20:22,488 --> 00:20:24,552
Where it feels like sides have been drawn

559
00:20:24,552 --> 00:20:26,934
that that different sides have developed. There's an

560
00:20:26,934 --> 00:20:29,871
us versus them mentality happening in the office

561
00:20:29,871 --> 00:20:30,030
plate.

562
00:20:31,241 --> 00:20:32,757
The fact is we don't know what the

563
00:20:32,757 --> 00:20:34,592
situation is for this psalm, but what I'm

564
00:20:34,592 --> 00:20:35,571
aware of though

565
00:20:35,949 --> 00:20:38,036
is this is not instantaneous this anger.

566
00:20:39,069 --> 00:20:40,579
You know, this person didn't have a bad

567
00:20:40,579 --> 00:20:42,883
day and think, I'm gonna go right a

568
00:20:42,883 --> 00:20:43,383
very

569
00:20:43,916 --> 00:20:46,951
invent filled calm about how angry Am. This

570
00:20:46,951 --> 00:20:48,700
is something that seems like it is a

571
00:20:48,700 --> 00:20:50,949
long lasting anger. It's a complex

572
00:20:51,720 --> 00:20:53,628
situation that has gotten them to this point.

573
00:20:54,105 --> 00:20:56,526
Calm And now they're praying and inviting God

574
00:20:56,662 --> 00:20:58,886
into this moment something that's really complex.

575
00:21:00,078 --> 00:21:02,302
This next section versus 6 through 20.

576
00:21:03,193 --> 00:21:04,549
Here's what I think you should do about

577
00:21:04,549 --> 00:21:05,027
it, God.

578
00:21:05,904 --> 00:21:06,861
Do you ever prayed like that.

579
00:21:07,978 --> 00:21:10,211
God, here's the advice I'm giving you about

580
00:21:10,211 --> 00:21:11,965
what you should do about the situation I'm

581
00:21:11,965 --> 00:21:14,056
in. Here's what I think you should do

582
00:21:14,056 --> 00:21:16,371
about it, God. And here's where the psalm

583
00:21:16,371 --> 00:21:18,686
begins to unleash his anger. He begins God

584
00:21:18,686 --> 00:21:19,644
to to tell God.

585
00:21:20,362 --> 00:21:21,240
Here's exactly.

586
00:21:21,734 --> 00:21:24,129
Point by point, how I think you should

587
00:21:24,129 --> 00:21:25,007
address this person.

588
00:21:25,565 --> 00:21:27,321
And I gotta warn you It's it's actually

589
00:21:27,321 --> 00:21:28,599
quite graphic. I'm reading

590
00:21:29,477 --> 00:21:31,247
I'm reading the message. Here because again, as

591
00:21:31,327 --> 00:21:33,480
I've said before, the message does a better

592
00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:36,192
job of translating poetry than any other translation

593
00:21:36,192 --> 00:21:37,787
that I know of. It does a better

594
00:21:37,787 --> 00:21:40,260
job of capturing the emotion. That's happening here.

595
00:21:40,593 --> 00:21:42,655
Versus 6 through 20 some excerpts. This is

596
00:21:42,655 --> 00:21:43,607
what we read this morning.

597
00:21:44,559 --> 00:21:47,336
When this person judged, let the verdict be

598
00:21:47,336 --> 00:21:47,827
give guilty.

599
00:21:49,101 --> 00:21:50,215
God give them a short life.

600
00:21:51,010 --> 00:21:53,239
Give his job to somebody else, make orphan

601
00:21:53,239 --> 00:21:55,804
of his children. Make the bang fore clothes

602
00:21:55,804 --> 00:21:58,121
and wipe him out. Chop down his family

603
00:21:58,121 --> 00:22:00,598
trees so that nobody even remembers his name.

604
00:22:02,676 --> 00:22:03,715
Level of intensity.

605
00:22:04,209 --> 00:22:05,641
Of anger is this person feeling.

606
00:22:07,153 --> 00:22:08,664
Or you use words like furious,

607
00:22:09,539 --> 00:22:09,937
boiling,

608
00:22:10,812 --> 00:22:11,184
see of

609
00:22:12,500 --> 00:22:12,820
betrayed.

610
00:22:13,697 --> 00:22:15,691
Goes beyond per preserved or annoyed. This is

611
00:22:15,691 --> 00:22:17,047
high intensity anger.

612
00:22:17,924 --> 00:22:19,439
If you look at verse 7, who is

613
00:22:19,439 --> 00:22:20,476
this person upset with?

614
00:22:21,927 --> 00:22:24,161
Verse 7 says, when he pray, let his

615
00:22:24,161 --> 00:22:26,815
prayer turn to sin or may his prayers

616
00:22:26,953 --> 00:22:29,679
condemn him, which means this other person is

617
00:22:29,679 --> 00:22:30,794
a person who pray.

618
00:22:32,148 --> 00:22:33,979
He is angry with someone who goes to

619
00:22:33,979 --> 00:22:34,218
church.

620
00:22:37,165 --> 00:22:37,299
It's other

621
00:22:38,056 --> 00:22:40,206
Other person who has hurt him also belongs

622
00:22:40,206 --> 00:22:41,799
to the the family of God.

623
00:22:42,754 --> 00:22:44,427
You know this the psalm is quoted in

624
00:22:44,427 --> 00:22:45,621
the new testament. Do you know where it's

625
00:22:45,621 --> 00:22:45,860
quoted?

626
00:22:47,384 --> 00:22:48,995
It's quoted in acts 1

627
00:22:49,606 --> 00:22:51,194
after J has betrayed Jesus.

628
00:22:52,146 --> 00:22:53,972
And it says that passage may another take

629
00:22:53,972 --> 00:22:56,134
his place of leadership ship, and Peter says

630
00:22:56,134 --> 00:22:58,863
this psalm, psalm 01:09 filled with anger

631
00:22:59,239 --> 00:23:01,070
is talking about J betrayal.

632
00:23:01,707 --> 00:23:03,712
And so we're gonna pick another pip fossil

633
00:23:03,712 --> 00:23:04,744
to be with us. And not 1 of

634
00:23:04,744 --> 00:23:05,221
the 12.

635
00:23:07,047 --> 00:23:09,032
These are prayers of nice people.

636
00:23:10,144 --> 00:23:11,827
But here it is in scripture And I

637
00:23:11,827 --> 00:23:12,384
want you to know,

638
00:23:13,100 --> 00:23:15,804
god not just allowed this prayer to happen.

639
00:23:16,043 --> 00:23:17,157
He authorized it.

640
00:23:18,032 --> 00:23:20,540
He just... Decided to include it in in

641
00:23:20,599 --> 00:23:22,593
scripture for you and me to understand here

642
00:23:22,593 --> 00:23:25,306
is a picture of of prayer. Why did

643
00:23:25,306 --> 00:23:25,625
he do that?

644
00:23:26,916 --> 00:23:29,070
My guess is because he knows that as

645
00:23:29,070 --> 00:23:30,186
we feel anger,

646
00:23:30,745 --> 00:23:32,978
our temptation is to run from God.

647
00:23:34,334 --> 00:23:37,053
But here's an invitation to run to God

648
00:23:37,053 --> 00:23:37,767
with your anger.

649
00:23:38,797 --> 00:23:40,383
Here's an invitation that when you are feeling

650
00:23:40,383 --> 00:23:43,529
most angry not to abandon or isolate yourself

651
00:23:43,649 --> 00:23:46,856
god, but actually run to God naming the

652
00:23:46,913 --> 00:23:49,301
true anger that you are feeling. This is

653
00:23:49,301 --> 00:23:51,610
a picture of what psalm 01:09 does force

654
00:23:51,610 --> 00:23:54,105
from Here's finally a human who tells us

655
00:23:54,105 --> 00:23:56,664
the truth. God, I am ce with anger.

656
00:23:57,464 --> 00:23:59,305
And here's the perspective you can run towards

657
00:23:59,305 --> 00:24:01,065
and we often again, we we think we're

658
00:24:01,065 --> 00:24:02,299
supposed to just be nice

659
00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:03,320
all the time.

660
00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:06,519
I mean, just as you read the new

661
00:24:06,519 --> 00:24:07,980
testament, the Corinthians

662
00:24:08,599 --> 00:24:09,320
constantly fighting.

663
00:24:10,367 --> 00:24:12,034
The Romans, they were racist.

664
00:24:12,589 --> 00:24:15,605
You read through Romans and the whole problem

665
00:24:15,605 --> 00:24:18,145
of Romans is that the Gentile Christian,

666
00:24:18,718 --> 00:24:19,218
have

667
00:24:19,676 --> 00:24:21,351
racially excluded the Jewish Christians.

668
00:24:22,149 --> 00:24:23,664
It's racism and the whole chapter of of,

669
00:24:23,824 --> 00:24:25,260
the whole book of Romans is about that.

670
00:24:25,674 --> 00:24:27,903
H corinthians it's because they can't get along

671
00:24:27,903 --> 00:24:29,177
because they're fighting with 1 another.

672
00:24:29,894 --> 00:24:33,078
The Bible is pointing out humans are filled

673
00:24:33,078 --> 00:24:33,636
with anger.

674
00:24:34,129 --> 00:24:36,678
And the temptation is to run away from

675
00:24:36,758 --> 00:24:38,670
God, not actually to run towards God and

676
00:24:38,670 --> 00:24:39,786
here in psalm 01:09.

677
00:24:41,394 --> 00:24:43,625
God showing us actually run tum me with

678
00:24:43,625 --> 00:24:45,299
your anger, not away from me.

679
00:24:47,291 --> 00:24:49,377
We move to the next section versus 21

680
00:24:49,377 --> 00:24:50,490
through 25.

681
00:24:51,763 --> 00:24:53,274
And I just called this section fear.

682
00:24:54,149 --> 00:24:55,875
Because you remember I said anger is a

683
00:24:56,233 --> 00:24:56,551
protector.

684
00:24:58,222 --> 00:25:00,872
Anger here is protecting this person's fear

685
00:25:01,247 --> 00:25:04,192
versus 21 through 25. The the psalm starts

686
00:25:04,192 --> 00:25:06,777
to turn because that the psalm begins to

687
00:25:06,835 --> 00:25:09,464
to actually say what he's really scared of.

688
00:25:10,022 --> 00:25:11,615
Well he really doesn't wanna have happen.

689
00:25:12,571 --> 00:25:14,244
It says, oh, god, my Lord step in,

690
00:25:14,403 --> 00:25:15,613
you have to get me as out of

691
00:25:15,613 --> 00:25:17,446
here. I'm at the end of my rope.

692
00:25:17,685 --> 00:25:20,075
I imagine someone who's tried everything and can't

693
00:25:20,075 --> 00:25:21,111
get any resolution.

694
00:25:21,828 --> 00:25:23,740
I'm fading away to nothing. I'm passing away.

695
00:25:23,900 --> 00:25:25,905
I'm weak from hunger. I can hardly stand

696
00:25:25,905 --> 00:25:27,894
up, my body is a rack of skin

697
00:25:27,894 --> 00:25:28,371
and bones.

698
00:25:29,246 --> 00:25:32,347
Anger is protecting a fear that this person

699
00:25:32,347 --> 00:25:32,585
has.

700
00:25:33,301 --> 00:25:34,595
That barley God won't protect him.

701
00:25:35,875 --> 00:25:37,875
He's saying God, I am not in control

702
00:25:37,875 --> 00:25:40,595
of the situation anymore. You know when anger

703
00:25:40,595 --> 00:25:42,515
often comes. It's when you feel like you

704
00:25:42,515 --> 00:25:44,765
don't have con control, and you're trying to

705
00:25:44,765 --> 00:25:45,803
get control back.

706
00:25:46,601 --> 00:25:49,095
Says, Scott, I'm not in control of the

707
00:25:49,154 --> 00:25:50,611
situation, and I'm afraid

708
00:25:50,924 --> 00:25:53,399
this complex situation between this person at church.

709
00:25:53,878 --> 00:25:55,874
I'm actually afraid it's gonna affect my livelihood.

710
00:25:56,513 --> 00:25:58,349
I'm afraid I'm not gonna have a job.

711
00:25:58,509 --> 00:25:59,627
I'm not gonna have food on the table.

712
00:25:59,866 --> 00:26:00,640
I'm not gonna have

713
00:26:01,079 --> 00:26:02,518
enough that I need. And so I need

714
00:26:02,518 --> 00:26:03,876
you God to step in.

715
00:26:05,634 --> 00:26:06,434
You have to help.

716
00:26:07,632 --> 00:26:09,471
And this is where anger can become sinful

717
00:26:09,471 --> 00:26:11,478
because out of fear that God won't act.

718
00:26:11,716 --> 00:26:13,805
We want to do something ourselves. We wanna

719
00:26:13,861 --> 00:26:16,245
to get get somehow these people to pay

720
00:26:16,245 --> 00:26:18,568
this... We want resolution, Figure out some way

721
00:26:18,568 --> 00:26:20,326
to get control again anger starting to move

722
00:26:20,326 --> 00:26:22,803
towards wrath is the potential here, but this

723
00:26:22,803 --> 00:26:24,480
is not the choice the psalm makes.

724
00:26:25,372 --> 00:26:27,830
The next section verse 26 through 31 towards

725
00:26:27,830 --> 00:26:30,210
the end. Instead of going towards wrath,

726
00:26:30,924 --> 00:26:31,955
he lands in hope.

727
00:26:33,558 --> 00:26:35,627
And says help me help me, God. My

728
00:26:35,627 --> 00:26:37,696
mouth full of great praise for you.

729
00:26:38,413 --> 00:26:40,323
You're always at hand to take the side

730
00:26:40,323 --> 00:26:40,880
of the needy.

731
00:26:41,691 --> 00:26:44,240
To rescue a life from the unjust judge.

732
00:26:45,515 --> 00:26:47,268
And instead of trying to take back this

733
00:26:47,268 --> 00:26:49,339
situation on his own, he allows his anger

734
00:26:49,339 --> 00:26:50,349
to give birth to hope

735
00:26:52,216 --> 00:26:54,281
You remember a coin. This isn't he's not

736
00:26:54,281 --> 00:26:54,758
passive.

737
00:26:55,791 --> 00:26:56,529
He's not.

738
00:26:57,380 --> 00:26:58,809
He's named the injustice.

739
00:26:59,207 --> 00:27:01,530
He's named the injustice against himself, but he's

740
00:27:01,530 --> 00:27:04,083
not going so far into wrath to plot

741
00:27:04,083 --> 00:27:05,301
out his own revenge

742
00:27:05,758 --> 00:27:07,832
or how he's gonna get get it right

743
00:27:07,832 --> 00:27:08,629
on his own.

744
00:27:09,666 --> 00:27:11,910
He's asking God, God you do what only

745
00:27:11,910 --> 00:27:12,808
you can do

746
00:27:13,342 --> 00:27:15,172
and I'll patiently wait for you.

747
00:27:16,365 --> 00:27:18,292
There's a hope that he's clinging to God.

748
00:27:18,451 --> 00:27:20,126
God, I know you're on the side of

749
00:27:20,126 --> 00:27:22,440
justice. I know you will rescue me 1

750
00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:25,869
way or another. This anger ends in a

751
00:27:25,869 --> 00:27:29,079
patient hope for god to act, which takes

752
00:27:29,079 --> 00:27:29,319
faith,

753
00:27:30,679 --> 00:27:31,799
which takes courage.

754
00:27:32,599 --> 00:27:34,059
If you are in a complex

755
00:27:34,599 --> 00:27:34,679
situation,

756
00:27:35,813 --> 00:27:38,051
You're in a situation where you need resolution,

757
00:27:38,211 --> 00:27:40,928
you need resolve, you need conflict resolution. If

758
00:27:40,928 --> 00:27:42,686
you're in a situation where you feel like

759
00:27:42,686 --> 00:27:43,805
your job's running out.

760
00:27:44,379 --> 00:27:46,389
It takes incredible faith

761
00:27:46,763 --> 00:27:49,011
to make the choice the Psalm makes here

762
00:27:49,306 --> 00:27:51,134
to say God I'm actually gonna wait on

763
00:27:51,134 --> 00:27:53,849
you. I'm gonna allow you to... Act.

764
00:27:55,593 --> 00:27:56,862
This is not a picture by the way,

765
00:27:57,020 --> 00:27:58,606
just to be clear on this of remaining

766
00:27:58,606 --> 00:28:00,746
in an abusive situation or remaining in a...

767
00:28:00,999 --> 00:28:02,745
A violent or hurtful situation,

768
00:28:03,539 --> 00:28:05,523
but it is a picture of trusting god

769
00:28:05,523 --> 00:28:08,778
to resolve what seems incapable of you resolving

770
00:28:08,778 --> 00:28:09,865
on your own, a

771
00:28:10,541 --> 00:28:12,529
And this psalm goes far because it names

772
00:28:12,529 --> 00:28:14,438
the anger and it begins to move our

773
00:28:14,438 --> 00:28:15,552
hearts towards hope.

774
00:28:16,427 --> 00:28:18,669
But this Psalm doesn't even yet have a

775
00:28:18,669 --> 00:28:20,737
picture of what the true god is like.

776
00:28:22,010 --> 00:28:23,681
Because you and I both stand from a

777
00:28:23,681 --> 00:28:25,689
different perspective, we stand on the far side

778
00:28:25,689 --> 00:28:27,602
of the cross where we've seen our God,

779
00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:30,654
be the 1 who not only takes up

780
00:28:30,792 --> 00:28:33,198
our own cause, but he takes up the

781
00:28:33,198 --> 00:28:35,506
causes of anyone we've also hurt in the

782
00:28:35,506 --> 00:28:35,744
world.

783
00:28:36,779 --> 00:28:38,768
What Jesus does on the cross is he

784
00:28:38,768 --> 00:28:41,251
makes a way of for every the situation

785
00:28:41,251 --> 00:28:43,642
where we have contributed to hurting others for

786
00:28:43,642 --> 00:28:45,395
every situation where we have been hurt by

787
00:28:45,395 --> 00:28:45,634
others.

788
00:28:46,272 --> 00:28:48,678
And some punishment has to be paid. He

789
00:28:48,678 --> 00:28:51,151
takes the punishment upon himself. We live on

790
00:28:51,151 --> 00:28:52,746
the far side of the cross where we

791
00:28:52,746 --> 00:28:56,016
know anger gives in into hope and hope

792
00:28:56,016 --> 00:28:57,930
ultimately can move towards forgiveness.

793
00:28:59,063 --> 00:29:01,239
Because we've received the forgiveness of a god

794
00:29:01,458 --> 00:29:02,735
has forgiven us in the cross.

795
00:29:03,533 --> 00:29:06,088
If we've experienced his forgiveness. And so somehow

796
00:29:06,088 --> 00:29:07,605
we know that our anger is on a

797
00:29:07,605 --> 00:29:10,566
project that can lead us into forgiveness towards

798
00:29:10,566 --> 00:29:11,442
others as well.

799
00:29:13,273 --> 00:29:16,035
Anger cannot be transformed into forgiveness, 3

800
00:29:17,434 --> 00:29:19,595
without first doing the work of Psalm 01:09,

801
00:29:20,394 --> 00:29:21,035
truth telling,

802
00:29:21,835 --> 00:29:22,234
naming,

803
00:29:22,955 --> 00:29:25,356
confront thing, exposing the hurt and sin of

804
00:29:25,356 --> 00:29:28,059
the other person not ignoring it, but offering

805
00:29:28,059 --> 00:29:28,774
it to god.

806
00:29:29,490 --> 00:29:31,397
And believing that after naming all the sin

807
00:29:31,397 --> 00:29:33,402
another person did to you that even their

808
00:29:33,402 --> 00:29:35,713
sin can be washed in the mercy of

809
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the cross just as your sin has been.

810
00:29:38,981 --> 00:29:40,336
Until you confront your heart,

811
00:29:40,987 --> 00:29:43,050
that not only you others have hurt you,

812
00:29:43,129 --> 00:29:44,875
but you have hurt others. You won't be

813
00:29:44,875 --> 00:29:46,858
prepared for this final transformation of anger.

814
00:29:47,572 --> 00:29:49,811
We all want to move into forgiveness, but

815
00:29:49,811 --> 00:29:50,788
it can't happen

816
00:29:51,243 --> 00:29:53,709
until we pray through the way Psalm 01:09

817
00:29:53,709 --> 00:29:56,278
does accurately naming our anger

818
00:29:57,148 --> 00:29:58,107
to who are you angry with?

819
00:29:59,945 --> 00:30:01,623
Who in your your life are you angry

820
00:30:01,623 --> 00:30:02,262
with right now?

821
00:30:04,274 --> 00:30:05,072
Who makes you upset?

822
00:30:06,029 --> 00:30:07,225
Who has disappointed you?

823
00:30:08,262 --> 00:30:09,140
Who has hurt you?

824
00:30:10,176 --> 00:30:12,011
Who do you think doesn't deserve your forgiveness?

825
00:30:13,526 --> 00:30:14,737
Who do you do who do you wish?

826
00:30:14,897 --> 00:30:16,730
Who do you have anger fantasies about? You

827
00:30:16,730 --> 00:30:18,642
wish you could just tell them in person

828
00:30:18,642 --> 00:30:19,838
like you tell them in your mind?

829
00:30:20,475 --> 00:30:21,964
What they've done to you? Who

830
00:30:23,365 --> 00:30:24,724
And if you've tried to forgive them before,

831
00:30:24,804 --> 00:30:26,484
and it feel like it's not working, then

832
00:30:26,484 --> 00:30:28,565
here's here's the invitation for you this morning.

833
00:30:28,724 --> 00:30:30,539
Is to pray a psalm 01:09 song

834
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Psalm 01:09 prayer to God,

835
00:30:33,682 --> 00:30:34,079
naming,

836
00:30:34,875 --> 00:30:36,307
actually God hears what's happened.

837
00:30:36,863 --> 00:30:39,743
Ending in hope that things might be different

838
00:30:39,743 --> 00:30:42,210
between you and them, somehow beginning to trust

839
00:30:42,210 --> 00:30:42,847
in the cross.

840
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:45,647
It's the only way to move to board

841
00:30:45,647 --> 00:30:48,272
with anger, anger revealing our soul that we

842
00:30:48,272 --> 00:30:50,419
think there's been an injustice. And so help

843
00:30:50,419 --> 00:30:52,327
us lord to see that injustice. Would you

844
00:30:52,327 --> 00:30:52,804
pray with me?

845
00:30:55,110 --> 00:30:57,438
Well lord Jesus, we know the the anger

846
00:30:57,438 --> 00:30:59,911
we feel in us. Sometimes we feel scared

847
00:30:59,911 --> 00:31:01,107
by and intimidated by.

848
00:31:03,021 --> 00:31:05,015
Sometimes we wish just wasn't there. Sometimes we

849
00:31:05,015 --> 00:31:06,781
wish situations were just different.

850
00:31:09,249 --> 00:31:11,022
We trust you as a god of hope

851
00:31:11,557 --> 00:31:12,964
that you know better the circle

852
00:31:13,483 --> 00:31:13,882
and we.

853
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:17,235
You judge better the circumstances than we judge.

854
00:31:18,751 --> 00:31:19,150
Reassure us,

855
00:31:19,948 --> 00:31:20,507
give us hope,

856
00:31:21,719 --> 00:31:23,637
us to be truth tellers that we can

857
00:31:23,637 --> 00:31:26,194
accurately tell the truth and the situations we've

858
00:31:26,194 --> 00:31:28,352
been a part of, and then holy spirit

859
00:31:28,352 --> 00:31:29,651
come and bring healing

860
00:31:30,030 --> 00:31:32,269
that only you can bring. You ask and

861
00:31:32,269 --> 00:31:33,302
pray in your name, Jesus.

862
00:31:34,096 --> 00:31:34,334
Amen.

863
00:31:35,128 --> 00:31:36,715
Man, I invite you now to either Neil

864
00:31:36,715 --> 00:31:38,303
or stand as we respond in prayer.

865
00:31:39,335 --> 00:31:39,470
Only