[{"start": 0.0, "end": 7.76, "text": "Music.", "newpara": true}, {"start": 7.76, "end": 12.65, "text": "Welcome to Episode 70 of Waking Up to Narcissism. I am your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Welcome to Episode 70 of Waking Up to Narcissism. I am your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed", 7.76, 12.65, 1.0]]}, {"start": 12.65, "end": 16.699, "text": "marriage and family therapist, host of the virtual couch podcast, Murder on the Couch podcast,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["marriage and family therapist, host of the virtual couch podcast, Murder on the Couch podcast,", 12.65, 16.7, 1.0]]}, {"start": 17.203, "end": 23.21, "text": "and I am grateful to be here. So just the quickest amount of business that I could possibly do.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and I am grateful to be here. So just the quickest amount of business that I could possibly do.", 17.2, 23.21, 1.0]]}, {"start": 24.072, "end": 30.248, "text": "Go to the show notes and there is a link tree link that has a place to sign up for everything,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Go to the show notes and there is a link tree link that has a place to sign up for everything,", 24.07, 30.25, 1.0]]}, {"start": 30.509, "end": 35.05, "text": "newsletter, Waking Up to Narcissism question and answer podcast. And if you want to take my", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["newsletter, Waking Up to Narcissism question and answer podcast. And if you want to take my", 30.51, 35.05, 1.0]]}, {"start": 35.05, "end": 38.73, "text": "marriage workshop, sign up for the newsletter and you'll find out more about the marriage", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["marriage workshop, sign up for the newsletter and you'll find out more about the marriage", 35.05, 38.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 38.73, "end": 44.41, "text": "course when it's coming out and a couple of other courses as well. So one of my daughters has been", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["course when it's coming out and a couple of other courses as well. So one of my daughters has been", 38.73, 44.41, 1.0]]}, {"start": 44.41, "end": 50.65, "text": "putting out a lot of content on TikTok and now she started to put that out on YouTube shorts as", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["putting out a lot of content on TikTok and now she started to put that out on YouTube shorts as", 44.41, 50.65, 1.0]]}, {"start": 50.65, "end": 56.81, "text": "well. My content, the therapy, therapy content and some of the things that get the most attention", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["well. My content, the therapy, therapy content and some of the things that get the most attention", 50.65, 56.81, 1.0]]}, {"start": 56.81, "end": 61.61, "text": "are narcissist jokes, which I think we all need a little bit of humor. We need some levity. So I", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["are narcissist jokes, which I think we all need a little bit of humor. We need some levity. So I", 56.81, 61.61, 1.0]]}, {"start": 61.61, "end": 65.897, "text": "So I think I've told a joke or two on here, but if I take you on my train of thought,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So I think I've told a joke or two on here, but if I take you on my train of thought,", 61.61, 65.9, 1.0]]}, {"start": 66.059, "end": 71.25, "text": "I don't know why, but I felt like there has to be some good narcissist knock-knock jokes.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I don't know why, but I felt like there has to be some good narcissist knock-knock jokes.", 66.06, 71.25, 1.0]]}, {"start": 71.25, "end": 74.449, "text": "And maybe this is the dad humor in me, but I couldn't find any.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And maybe this is the dad humor in me, but I couldn't find any.", 71.25, 74.45, 1.0]]}, {"start": 74.61, "end": 80.33, "text": "And so I woke up today and I don't know why, but I thought I would write a joke, something", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so I woke up today and I don't know why, but I thought I would write a joke, something", 74.61, 80.33, 1.0]]}, {"start": 80.33, "end": 81.885, "text": "that I have not done in the past.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that I have not done in the past.", 80.33, 81.88, 1.0]]}, {"start": 82.19, "end": 86.728, "text": "And then this is not exactly where I thought the narcissist knock-knock joke would go,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And then this is not exactly where I thought the narcissist knock-knock joke would go,", 82.19, 86.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 87.21, "end": 88.321, "text": "but I am a horrible actor.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["but I am a horrible actor.", 87.21, 88.32, 1.0]]}, {"start": 88.61, "end": 95.03, "text": "But if I now had the waking up to narcissism players, then they would enact this narcissism knock-knock joke.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But if I now had the waking up to narcissism players, then they would enact this narcissism", 88.61, 93.42, 1.0], ["knock-knock joke.", 94.09, 95.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 95.415, "end": 104.219, "text": "Here we go. So this is the narcissist doing the knock-knock and then the who's there will be being played by myself.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Here we go.", 95.42, 96.03, 1.0], ["So this is the narcissist doing the knock-knock and then the who's there will be being played", 96.27, 102.89, 1.0], ["by myself.", 102.89, 104.22, 1.0]]}, {"start": 105.029, "end": 105.453, "text": "And action.", "confidence": 0.63, "timestamps": [["And action.", 105.03, 105.45, 0.6277822256088257]]}, {"start": 106.461, "end": 114.842, "text": "Knock knock uh who's there you know uh you know who no like you know you you seriously like i,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Knock knock uh who's there you know uh you know who no like you know you you seriously like i,", 106.46, 114.84, 1.0]]}, {"start": 115.351, "end": 118.791, "text": "can't even believe that you don't know who is there as a matter of fact you're actually the", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["can't even believe that you don't know who is there as a matter of fact you're actually the", 115.35, 118.79, 1.0]]}, {"start": 118.791, "end": 125.431, "text": "one who initially told me who was there but okay um it sounds like apparently if you don't even", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["one who initially told me who was there but okay um it sounds like apparently if you don't even", 118.79, 125.43, 1.0]]}, {"start": 125.431, "end": 131.172, "text": "know who is there then i feel like i'm kind of going crazy and i'm just going to assume that", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["know who is there then i feel like i'm kind of going crazy and i'm just going to assume that", 125.43, 131.17, 1.0]]}, {"start": 131.591, "end": 135.671, "text": "you are also probably going to tell me that you're not the one who told me who was there which is", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["you are also probably going to tell me that you're not the one who told me who was there which is", 131.59, 135.67, 1.0]]}, {"start": 135.671, "end": 139.778, "text": "funny because I was actually at my doctor's office earlier and my doctor was saying,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["funny because I was actually at my doctor's office earlier and my doctor was saying,", 135.67, 139.78, 1.0]]}, {"start": 140.03, "end": 144.471, "text": "Hey, you seem a little bit stressed. And so then I told my doctor that I just had this weird", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Hey, you seem a little bit stressed. And so then I told my doctor that I just had this weird", 140.03, 144.47, 1.0]]}, {"start": 144.471, "end": 149.191, "text": "feeling that Tony is going to insist on me asking him a knock knock joke. And then here's the deal.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["feeling that Tony is going to insist on me asking him a knock knock joke. And then here's the deal.", 144.47, 149.19, 1.0]]}, {"start": 149.897, "end": 155.111, "text": "He's the one who told me, uh, who was there like, you know, and knock, knock who's there.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["He's the one who told me, uh, who was there like, you know, and knock, knock who's there.", 149.9, 155.11, 1.0]]}, {"start": 155.111, "end": 159.671, "text": "And then my doctor said, okay, tell me more about this because I'm hearing more and more of these", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And then my doctor said, okay, tell me more about this because I'm hearing more and more of these", 155.11, 159.67, 1.0]]}, {"start": 159.671, "end": 163.751, "text": "kinds of stories of, of these people that are just all of a sudden they'll tell you who's there.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["kinds of stories of, of these people that are just all of a sudden they'll tell you who's there.", 159.67, 163.75, 1.0]]}, {"start": 163.751, "end": 166.231, "text": "And then they say, tell me a knock-knock joke. It's kind of crazy.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And then they say, tell me a knock-knock joke.", 163.75, 165.43, 1.0], ["It's kind of crazy.", 165.43, 166.23, 1.0]]}, {"start": 167.046, "end": 171.079, "text": "And so then my doctor, well, first of all, I said, thank you. I feel so validated.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so then my doctor, well, first of all, I said, thank you.", 167.05, 169.99, 1.0], ["I feel so validated.", 170.16, 171.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 171.511, "end": 174.071, "text": "So I shared a little bit more. And then here's the funny thing.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So I shared a little bit more.", 171.51, 172.63, 1.0], ["And then here's the funny thing.", 172.63, 174.07, 1.0]]}, {"start": 174.071, "end": 179.591, "text": "My doctor was like, Tony, is he on any kind of anti-anxiety or antidepressant medications?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["My doctor was like, Tony, is he on any kind of anti-anxiety or", 174.07, 178.47, 1.0], ["antidepressant medications?", 178.47, 179.59, 1.0]]}, {"start": 179.591, "end": 183.191, "text": "Because I think he should really be taking one. As a matter of fact, probably about 10 milligrams of Prozac.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Because I think he should really be taking one.", 179.59, 181.27, 1.0], ["As a matter of fact, probably about 10 milligrams of Prozac.", 181.27, 183.19, 1.0]]}, {"start": 183.191, "end": 184.231, "text": "Sounds like that would do the trick.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Sounds like that would do the trick.", 183.19, 184.23, 1.0]]}, {"start": 185.276, "end": 192.471, "text": "Because I just, I really feel like he's not addressing the issues that probably led him to tell you who was there and then", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Because I just, I really feel like he's not addressing the", 185.28, 188.47, 1.0], ["issues that probably led him to tell you who was there and then", 188.47, 192.47, 1.0]]}, {"start": 192.471, "end": 195.911, "text": "to insist on you asking a knock-knock joke. Like, I'm even sorry you have to go through that.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["to insist on you asking a knock-knock joke. Like, I'm even sorry you have to go through that.", 192.47, 195.91, 1.0]]}, {"start": 196.781, "end": 199.831, "text": "So, so honestly, right now, can you, Tony, just give me a minute,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So, so honestly, right now, can you, Tony, just give me a minute,", 196.78, 199.83, 1.0]]}, {"start": 199.985, "end": 202.362, "text": "because I'm kind of feeling a little triggered by this entire exchange.", "confidence": 0.93, "timestamps": [["because I'm kind of feeling a little triggered by this entire exchange.", 199.99, 202.36, 0.9309425354003906]]}, {"start": 203.217, "end": 208.664, "text": "To at that point the kind person played by me in this scenario would most likely say I.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["To at that point the kind person played by me in this scenario would most likely say I.", 203.22, 208.66, 1.0]]}, {"start": 210.257, "end": 216.027, "text": "Okay I'm I'm sorry I seriously I I swear you're the one who said knock knock like I thought it", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Okay I'm I'm sorry I seriously I I swear you're the one who said knock knock like I thought it", 210.26, 216.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 216.027, "end": 220.427, "text": "was just a knock knock joke but I don't know maybe I'm kind of making that up to which the", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["was just a knock knock joke but I don't know maybe I'm kind of making that up to which the", 216.03, 220.43, 1.0]]}, {"start": 220.427, "end": 226.907, "text": "narcissist would have already confabulated the story of uh right because you literally told me", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["narcissist would have already confabulated the story of uh right because you literally told me", 220.43, 226.91, 1.0]]}, {"start": 226.907, "end": 232.467, "text": "me to ask you a knock-knock joke, why on earth would I ask you one on my own?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["me to ask you a knock-knock joke, why on earth would I ask you one on my own?", 226.91, 232.47, 1.0]]}, {"start": 232.467, "end": 233.537, "text": "And end scene.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And end scene.", 232.47, 233.54, 1.0]]}, {"start": 234.427, "end": 239.027, "text": "So even a knock-knock joke in the world of narcissism or emotional maturity could cause", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So even a knock-knock joke in the world of narcissism or emotional maturity could cause", 234.43, 239.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 239.027, "end": 243.707, "text": "you to probably lose your own mind, and that's maybe why I couldn't find legitimate, real", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["you to probably lose your own mind, and that's maybe why I couldn't find legitimate, real", 239.03, 243.71, 1.0]]}, {"start": 243.707, "end": 249.273, "text": "knock-knock jokes about narcissism on the internet. So if you have one, if you find one, please, please submit them.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["knock-knock jokes about narcissism on the internet.", 243.71, 246.59, 1.0], ["So if you have one, if you find one, please, please submit them.", 246.59, 249.27, 1.0]]}, {"start": 249.399, "end": 252.775, "text": "I have a tremendous amount now of poetry from the Women's Narcissistic Facebook group, and,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I have a tremendous amount now of poetry from the Women's Narcissistic Facebook group, and,", 249.4, 252.77, 1.0]]}, {"start": 254.067, "end": 259.947, "text": "I had a guy, I see you, guy, submit a poem that I will share on an upcoming episode.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I had a guy, I see you, guy, submit a poem", 254.07, 257.83, 1.0], ["that I will share on an upcoming episode.", 257.83, 259.95, 1.0]]}, {"start": 259.947, "end": 263.235, "text": "So I would love more of those, but man, I love humor.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": 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humor", 275.69, 277.21, 1.0]]}, {"start": 277.306, "end": 280.268, "text": "because inevitably we get to some really difficult topics as well.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["because inevitably we get to some really difficult topics", 277.31, 279.95, 1.0], ["as well.", 279.95, 280.27, 1.0]]}, {"start": 280.947, "end": 286.187, "text": "So today I'm gonna use a couple of different articles as a reference point, I wanna talk about", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So today I'm gonna use a couple of different articles", 280.95, 283.37, 1.0], ["as a reference point, I wanna talk about", 283.59, 286.19, 1.0]]}, {"start": 286.187, "end": 287.721, "text": "the different types of narcissism.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["the different types of narcissism.", 286.19, 287.72, 1.0]]}, {"start": 287.927, "end": 293.147, "text": "And one of the, if I go back in the time machine on the virtual couch, and I think I've talked about this", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And one of the, if I go back in the time machine", 287.93, 290.81, 1.0], ["on the virtual couch, and I think I've talked about this", 291.19, 293.15, 1.0]]}, {"start": 293.147, "end": 296.634, "text": "in a little bit of the origin story of the Waking Up to Narcissism podcast,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["in a little bit of the origin story", 293.15, 294.63, 1.0], ["of the Waking Up to Narcissism podcast,", 294.63, 296.63, 1.0]]}, {"start": 296.724, "end": 302.347, "text": "if I would put out on my virtual couch, mental health podcast, an episode that had anything to do", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["if I would put out on my virtual couch,", 296.72, 298.67, 1.0], ["mental health podcast, an episode that had anything to do", 298.67, 302.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 302.347, "end": 304.979, "text": "with narcissism or gaslighting,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["with narcissism or gaslighting,", 302.35, 304.98, 1.0]]}, {"start": 305.069, "end": 311.107, "text": "then those episodes would just really surpass or eclipse the number of downloads", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["then those episodes would just really surpass", 305.07, 309.65, 1.0], ["or eclipse the number of downloads", 309.65, 311.11, 1.0]]}, {"start": 311.107, "end": 314.458, "text": "and they would be shared more than any other episodes that I would do.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and they would be shared more than any other episodes", 311.11, 313.91, 1.0], ["that I would do.", 313.91, 314.46, 1.0]]}, {"start": 315.027, "end": 320.507, "text": "And then that led to just more and more of those episodes, which eventually led to me working with a large percentage", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And then that led to just more and more of those episodes,", 315.03, 317.35, 1.0], ["which eventually led to me working with a large percentage", 317.35, 320.51, 1.0]]}, {"start": 320.507, "end": 324.827, "text": "or a large part of that population of people that were waking up to their own narcissistic traits", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["or a large part of that population of people", 320.51, 322.43, 1.0], ["that were waking up to their own narcissistic traits", 322.43, 324.83, 1.0]]}, {"start": 324.827, "end": 327.908, "text": "and tendencies or the narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and tendencies or the narcissistic traits", 324.83, 326.55, 1.0], ["and tendencies in their relationships.", 326.55, 327.91, 1.0]]}, {"start": 328.387, "end": 332.958, "text": "And so now here we are, 70 episodes later in a very large private women's Facebook group.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so now here we are, 70 episodes later", 328.39, 330.47, 1.0], ["in a very large private women's Facebook group.", 330.47, 332.96, 1.0]]}, {"start": 333.207, "end": 338.908, "text": "And I should say this right now, I met with my wonderful assistant Naomi last week or early this week.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I should say this right now,", 333.21, 334.91, 1.0], ["I met with my wonderful assistant Naomi last week", 334.91, 337.64, 1.0], ["or early this week.", 337.81, 338.91, 1.0]]}, {"start": 339.107, "end": 345.027, "text": "And she is now reaching out to the men who are saying, hey, maybe I'm more emotionally immature.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And she is now reaching out to the men who are saying,", 339.11, 343.03, 1.0], ["hey, maybe I'm more emotionally immature.", 343.03, 345.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 345.027, "end": 346.461, "text": "I'm starting to wake up to that.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm starting to wake up to that.", 345.03, 346.46, 1.0]]}, {"start": 347.107, "end": 350.867, "text": "And we're getting that group ready. And then we're also getting ready to go with the group", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["And we're getting that group ready.", 347.11, 348.29, 1.0], ["And then we're also getting ready to go with the group", 348.43, 350.87, 1.0]]}, {"start": 351.106, "end": 355.148, "text": "of men who are in relationships with emotionally immature, maybe narcissistic women.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["of men who are in relationships with emotionally immature,", 351.11, 354.11, 1.0], ["maybe narcissistic women.", 354.11, 355.15, 1.0]]}, {"start": 355.507, "end": 358.167, "text": "So please reach out and those groups are gonna be starting soon.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So please reach out and those groups", 355.51, 357.19, 1.0], ["are gonna be starting soon.", 357.19, 358.17, 1.0]]}, {"start": 358.167, "end": 364.027, "text": "So we have the numbers and I really wanna put those together so that we can get some support there as well.", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["So we have the numbers and I really wanna put those", 358.17, 360.43, 1.0], ["together so that we can get some support there as well.", 360.43, 364.03, 0.9394019246101379]]}, {"start": 363.71, "end": 369.336, "text": "But I also get a lot of questions around the types of narcissism, the subtypes of narcissism.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But I also get a lot of questions around the types of narcissism, the subtypes of narcissism.", 363.71, 369.34, 1.0]]}, {"start": 369.714, "end": 373.4, "text": "And going back to this story I was talking about more of the origin story was there was one where", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And going back to this story I was talking about more of the origin story was there was one where", 369.71, 373.4, 1.0]]}, {"start": 373.4, "end": 378.869, "text": "it just talked about the subtypes of narcissism that I referred to often back in the day in the", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["it just talked about the subtypes of narcissism that I referred to often back in the day in the", 373.4, 378.87, 1.0]]}, {"start": 379.139, "end": 383.4, "text": "in the virtual couch days. And I realized I've never really done anything like that here on the", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["in the virtual couch days. And I realized I've never really done anything like that here on the", 379.14, 383.4, 1.0]]}, {"start": 383.4, "end": 388.12, "text": "Waking Up to Narcissism podcast. So I'm pulling from an article on psychcentral.com. This is", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Waking Up to Narcissism podcast. So I'm pulling from an article on psychcentral.com. This is", 383.4, 388.12, 1.0]]}, {"start": 388.12, "end": 392.52, "text": "medically reviewed by Jeffrey Ditzel who is a doctor, a medical doctor, and it was written", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["medically reviewed by Jeffrey Ditzel who is a doctor, a medical doctor, and it was written", 388.12, 392.52, 0.9934942126274109]]}, {"start": 392.52, "end": 397.378, "text": "by a person named Courtney Telleon. So I'm just going to refer to the author as Courtney", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["by a person named Courtney Telleon. So I'm just going to refer to the author as Courtney", 392.52, 397.38, 0.9934942126274109]]}, {"start": 397.68, "end": 401.996, "text": "because it seems like I just feel so bad messing up someone's last name.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["because it seems like I just feel so bad messing up someone's last name.", 397.68, 402.0, 0.9934942126274109]]}, {"start": 402.653, "end": 405.96, "text": "But we're going to talk about the five types of narcissism, how to spot each type, and", "confidence": 0.99, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But we're going to talk about the five types of narcissism, how to spot each type, and", 402.65, 405.96, 0.9934942126274109]]}, {"start": 405.96, "end": 409.84, "text": "I'm also going to be referring to an article that I refer to so often that is called The", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["I'm also going to be referring to an article that I refer to so often that is called The", 405.96, 409.84, 0.9934942126274109]]}, {"start": 409.84, "end": 414.0, "text": "Truth About Narcissistic Personality Disorder. And this is from Eleanor Greenberg who's a", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["Truth About Narcissistic Personality Disorder. And this is from Eleanor Greenberg who's a", 409.84, 414.0, 0.9934942126274109]]}, {"start": 414.0, "end": 417.2, "text": "PhD, and this is off of Psychology Today.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["PhD, and this is off of Psychology Today.", 414.0, 417.2, 1.0]]}, {"start": 417.2, "end": 418.993, "text": "And there's so much good in that article.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And there's so much good in that article.", 417.2, 418.99, 1.0]]}, {"start": 419.47, "end": 424.106, "text": "And I'll link to both of these articles in the show notes. And I think that you can never really have too much information,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I'll link to both of these articles in the show notes.", 419.47, 421.6, 1.0], ["And I think that you can never really have too much information,", 421.6, 424.11, 1.0]]}, {"start": 424.565, "end": 427.815, "text": "when we're talking about breaking down the different types, subtypes of narcissism.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["when we're talking about breaking down the different types, subtypes of", 424.56, 427.2, 1.0], ["narcissism.", 427.2, 427.81, 1.0]]}, {"start": 428.211, "end": 432.793, "text": "And then I'm going to talk a little bit more as well about the concepts around emotional immaturity while we're here.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And then I'm going to talk a little bit more as well about the concepts", 428.21, 431.1, 1.0], ["around emotional immaturity while we're here.", 431.1, 432.79, 1.0]]}, {"start": 433.45, "end": 438.302, "text": "So five types of narcissism and how to spot each. Again, this is written by Courtney on Psych Central.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So five types of narcissism and how to spot each.", 433.45, 435.8, 1.0], ["Again, this is written by Courtney on Psych Central.", 435.8, 438.3, 1.0]]}, {"start": 439.1, "end": 443.119, "text": "So Courtney says, as a personality trait, narcissism can be overt,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So Courtney says, as a personality trait, narcissism can be overt,", 439.1, 443.12, 1.0]]}, {"start": 443.551, "end": 447.116, "text": "covert, antagonistic, communal, or malignant.", "confidence": 0.94, "timestamps": [["covert, antagonistic, communal, or malignant.", 443.55, 447.12, 0.9424716830253601]]}, {"start": 447.809, "end": 453.659, "text": "But then as a mental health condition, there's just the one diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But then as a mental health condition, there's just the one diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder.", 447.81, 453.66, 1.0]]}, {"start": 453.858, "end": 461.899, "text": "And so I don't think we talk often about the concepts around adaptive or helpful as a personality trait, narcissism as a personality trait.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so I don't think we talk often about the concepts around adaptive or helpful as a personality trait, narcissism as a personality trait.", 453.86, 461.9, 1.0]]}, {"start": 462.059, "end": 474.259, "text": "And we really stay or we talk more around the maladaptive or the unhelpful versions or concepts around narcissism, which I think is going to play into what Eleanor Greenberg talks about so well in her article, The Truth About Narcissistic Personality Disorder.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And we really stay or we talk more around the maladaptive or the unhelpful versions or concepts around narcissism, which I think is going to play into what Eleanor Greenberg talks about so well in her article, The Truth About Narcissistic Personality Disorder.", 462.06, 474.26, 1.0]]}, {"start": 474.329, "end": 476.328, "text": "So I'm going to jump back and forth a little bit.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So I'm going to jump back and forth a little bit.", 474.33, 476.33, 1.0]]}, {"start": 476.733, "end": 480.819, "text": "So, when you look at narcissism as a trait in terms of how it affects your day-to-day", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So, when you look at narcissism as a trait in terms of how it affects your day-to-day", 476.73, 480.82, 1.0]]}, {"start": 480.819, "end": 484.619, "text": "life and ability to form relationships, there are two types of narcissism.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["life and ability to form relationships, there are two types of narcissism.", 480.82, 484.62, 1.0]]}, {"start": 484.619, "end": 491.011, "text": "So there's adaptive narcissism, which can be viewed as helpful, and there is maladaptive, which is unhelpful.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So there's adaptive narcissism, which can be viewed as helpful, and there is maladaptive,", 484.62, 489.7, 1.0], ["which is unhelpful.", 489.98, 491.01, 1.0]]}, {"start": 491.699, "end": 496.219, "text": "And so, Courtney says that some research suggests that it could be more accurate to view narcissism", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so, Courtney says that some research suggests that it could be more accurate to view narcissism", 491.7, 496.22, 1.0]]}, {"start": 496.219, "end": 500.391, "text": "on a spectrum from less to more severe narcissistic traits.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["on a spectrum from less to more severe narcissistic traits.", 496.22, 500.39, 1.0]]}, {"start": 501.019, "end": 504.059, "text": "So that's where I want to jump in and say, as a matter of fact, I feel like there's the", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So that's where I want to jump in and say, as a matter of fact, I feel like there's the", 501.02, 504.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 504.059, "end": 509.059, "text": "the narcissistic personality disorder, which depending on what you look up, you can see", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["the narcissistic personality disorder, which depending on what you look up, you can see", 504.06, 509.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 509.059, "end": 513.739, "text": "that people will say it's anywhere from 2 or 3% of the population to one article I found", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that people will say it's anywhere from 2 or 3% of the population to one article I found", 509.06, 513.74, 1.0]]}, {"start": 513.739, "end": 517.199, "text": "today literally said 5.3% of the population.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["today literally said 5.3% of the population.", 513.74, 517.2, 1.0]]}, {"start": 517.199, "end": 522.379, "text": "It's very specific. So that would be the, you can diagnose from the diagnostic and statistical manual that", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It's very specific.", 517.2, 518.54, 1.0], ["So that would be the, you can diagnose from the diagnostic and statistical manual that", 518.54, 522.38, 1.0]]}, {"start": 522.379, "end": 527.731, "text": "mental health professionals use to diagnose someone with narcissistic personality disorder.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["mental health professionals use to diagnose someone with narcissistic personality disorder.", 522.38, 527.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 528.479, "end": 532.339, "text": "But I feel like if we start with, we are all emotionally immature and we don't know what", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But I feel like if we start with, we are all emotionally immature and we don't know what", 528.48, 532.34, 1.0]]}, {"start": 532.339, "end": 538.795, "text": "we don't know. So then when we are given an opportunity to have some new tools, self-confront,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["we don't know. So then when we are given an opportunity to have some new tools, self-confront,", 532.34, 538.79, 1.0]]}, {"start": 539.099, "end": 542.675, "text": "it's really about how do we show up with that discomfort? What do we do with that? Do we.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["it's really about how do we show up with that discomfort? What do we do with that? Do we.", 539.1, 542.67, 1.0]]}, {"start": 543.339, "end": 547.149, "text": "Want to just push it away and gaslight? Gaslight is a childhood defense mechanism. Were we.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Want to just push it away and gaslight? Gaslight is a childhood defense mechanism. Were we.", 543.34, 547.15, 1.0]]}, {"start": 547.739, "end": 552.879, "text": "Not given the tools to sit with discomfort in our childhood? Do we have to manage the", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Not given the tools to sit with discomfort in our childhood? Do we have to manage the", 547.74, 552.88, 1.0]]}, {"start": 552.879, "end": 558.259, "text": "relationship or do we have to manage the emotional and mental health of our parents so that we", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["relationship or do we have to manage the emotional and mental health of our parents so that we", 552.88, 558.26, 1.0]]}, {"start": 558.259, "end": 562.899, "text": "felt unseen and unheard as we were growing up.", "confidence": 0.95, "timestamps": [["felt unseen and unheard as we were growing up.", 558.26, 562.9, 0.9540108442306519]]}, {"start": 561.778, "end": 573.628, "text": "And I feel like this is a absolutely bless the heart of parents because I feel like this is still the case for the majority of people now, because we're only now starting to talk really about what mental health even looks like.", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["And I feel like this is a absolutely bless the heart of parents because I feel like this is still the case for the majority of people now, because we're only now starting to talk really about what mental health even looks like.", 561.78, 573.63, 0.980933427810669]]}, {"start": 573.85, "end": 578.628, "text": "But if you grow up with a secure attachment, what does that look like?", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["But if you grow up with a secure attachment, what does that look like?", 573.85, 578.63, 0.980933427810669]]}, {"start": 578.81, "end": 584.346, "text": "It means that it is not about you. 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It's based off of the.", 623.23, 626.27, 1.0]]}, {"start": 626.711, "end": 629.908, "text": "Things that you get excited about as a parent that you're not even aware that", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Things that you get excited about as a parent that you're not even aware that", 626.71, 629.91, 1.0]]}, {"start": 629.908, "end": 637.135, "text": "they're paying attention to or the things that you push away, the things that are pushed upon them, the things that they are told don't ever do because", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["they're paying attention to or the things that you push away, the things", 629.91, 633.15, 1.0], ["that are pushed upon them, the things that they are told don't ever do because", 633.15, 637.14, 1.0]]}, {"start": 637.468, "end": 641.028, "text": "then that little reactionary brain says, then I want to do more of it.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["then that little reactionary brain says, then I want to do more of it.", 637.47, 641.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 641.682, "end": 646.868, "text": "So they are having their own experience. There are so many things going on in the human brain at any given moment,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So they are having their own experience.", 641.68, 643.77, 1.0], ["There are so many things going on in the human brain at any given moment,", 643.77, 646.87, 1.0]]}, {"start": 646.868, "end": 649.928, "text": "especially when you're a kid that you're trying to find that sense of self.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["especially when you're a kid that you're trying to find that sense of self.", 646.87, 649.93, 1.0]]}, {"start": 649.928, "end": 653.468, "text": "So a kid gets their sense of self from external validation.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So a kid gets their sense of self from external validation.", 649.93, 653.47, 1.0]]}, {"start": 654.114, "end": 657.968, "text": "So if the parent is creating the secure attachment with their kid,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So if the parent is creating the secure attachment with their kid,", 654.11, 657.97, 1.0]]}, {"start": 658.066, "end": 661.91, "text": "then their kid really believes that things are more about them.", "confidence": 0.91, "timestamps": [["then their kid really believes that things are more about them.", 658.07, 661.91, 0.9070981740951538]]}, {"start": 662.9, "end": 667.31, "text": "Not in a narcissistic way, but in a healthy ego way. 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Help me understand.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["What was that like?", 739.17, 740.57, 1.0], ["Help me understand.", 740.57, 741.54, 1.0]]}, {"start": 741.79, "end": 743.27, "text": "What can I do to support?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["What can I do to support?", 741.79, 743.27, 1.0]]}, {"start": 743.839, "end": 746.387, "text": "Not I can't believe you did that. I think you should do this.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Not I can't believe you did that.", 743.84, 744.98, 1.0], ["I think you should do this.", 745.1, 746.39, 1.0]]}, {"start": 746.77, "end": 750.09, "text": "Here's what you don't even understand, or here's, oh, I know exactly what you're going", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Here's what you don't even understand, or here's, oh, I know exactly what you're going", 746.77, 750.09, 1.0]]}, {"start": 750.09, "end": 754.03, "text": "through. Here's what I did when I was younger. Let me tell you stories because inevitably", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["through. Here's what I did when I was younger. Let me tell you stories because inevitably", 750.09, 754.03, 0.9949724674224854]]}, {"start": 754.03, "end": 758.27, "text": "those stories are going to be, and I was really amazing. I was really good. Don't you want", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["those stories are going to be, and I was really amazing. I was really good. Don't you want", 754.03, 758.27, 0.9949724674224854]]}, {"start": 758.27, "end": 762.23, "text": "to tell me how great I am now? So the parent is getting that validation. They're looking", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["to tell me how great I am now? So the parent is getting that validation. They're looking", 758.27, 762.23, 0.9949724674224854]]}, {"start": 762.23, "end": 763.869, "text": "to their kid to validate them.", "confidence": 0.89, "timestamps": [["to their kid to validate them.", 762.23, 763.87, 0.892155110836029]]}, {"start": 764.554, "end": 770.084, "text": "But we don't even realize as a parent what we're doing in that moment that now that kid feels like,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But we don't even realize as a parent what we're doing in that moment that now that kid feels like,", 764.55, 770.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 770.084, "end": 777.124, "text": "okay, I guess I'm not as good or I'm not enough. So if a kid has a secure attachment, now when", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["okay, I guess I'm not as good or I'm not enough. So if a kid has a secure attachment, now when", 770.08, 777.12, 1.0]]}, {"start": 777.124, "end": 782.084, "text": "they move on into adolescence and adulthood, and I gave this example a couple of weeks ago,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["they move on into adolescence and adulthood, and I gave this example a couple of weeks ago,", 777.12, 782.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 782.084, "end": 785.044, "text": "and it could have been this podcast, I think I did on the virtual couch as well.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and it could have been this podcast, I think I did on the virtual couch as well.", 782.08, 785.04, 1.0]]}, {"start": 785.817, "end": 790.156, "text": "But having a client that was a computer programmer and she was in the dating world.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But having a client that was a computer programmer and she was in the dating world.", 785.82, 790.16, 1.0]]}, {"start": 790.597, "end": 794.297, "text": "And in that moment, then she is talking about, hey, I'm a computer programmer,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And in that moment, then she is talking about,", 790.6, 793.03, 1.0], ["hey, I'm a computer programmer,", 793.15, 794.3, 1.0]]}, {"start": 794.342, "end": 798.884, "text": "and being on a date with a guy who says, oh, wow, that's kind of weird.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and being on a date with a guy who says,", 794.34, 796.28, 1.0], ["oh, wow, that's kind of weird.", 796.36, 798.88, 1.0]]}, {"start": 798.884, "end": 803.964, "text": "Isn't that more of a male-dominated industry? Like that's, I would worry that people", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Isn't that more of a male-dominated industry?", 798.88, 801.64, 1.0], ["Like that's, I would worry that people", 801.64, 803.96, 1.0]]}, {"start": 803.964, "end": 807.324, "text": "are gonna not take you seriously, or they're gonna make advances on you,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["are gonna not take you seriously,", 803.96, 805.24, 1.0], ["or they're gonna make advances on you,", 805.24, 807.32, 1.0]]}, {"start": 807.324, "end": 808.644, "text": "or whatever the guy was saying.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["or whatever the guy was saying.", 807.32, 808.64, 1.0]]}, {"start": 808.644, "end": 812.564, "text": "And I love the fact that this woman, I think, had a pretty healthy attachment,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I love the fact that this woman,", 808.64, 810.24, 1.0], ["I think, had a pretty healthy attachment,", 810.86, 812.56, 1.0]]}, {"start": 812.564, "end": 814.282, "text": "secure attachment from childhood.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["secure attachment from childhood.", 812.56, 814.28, 1.0]]}, {"start": 814.684, "end": 818.252, "text": "So she said, I don't really understand why we're having this conversation.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So she said, I don't really understand", 814.68, 816.84, 1.0], ["why we're having this conversation.", 816.84, 818.25, 1.0]]}, {"start": 818.704, "end": 822.528, "text": "I'm telling you this is what I do. I feel like the next logical question would be,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm telling you this is what I do.", 818.7, 820.68, 1.0], ["I feel like the next logical question would be,", 820.78, 822.53, 1.0]]}, {"start": 822.744, "end": 824.257, "text": "oh, tell me more about that.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["oh, tell me more about that.", 822.74, 824.26, 1.0]]}, {"start": 824.635, "end": 827.146, "text": "What do you like about being a computer programmer? What are you working on?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["What do you like about being a computer programmer?", 824.63, 826.15, 1.0], ["What are you working on?", 826.3, 827.15, 1.0]]}, {"start": 827.786, "end": 835.23, "text": "So going into adulthood with a secure attachment from childhood, then you're not even gonna put up", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So going into adulthood with a secure attachment", 827.79, 832.49, 1.0], ["from childhood, then you're not even gonna put up", 832.58, 835.23, 1.0]]}, {"start": 835.344, "end": 839.407, "text": "with someone that is trying to tell you how to feel or what to think or what to do,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["with someone that is trying to tell you how to feel", 835.34, 837.96, 1.0], ["or what to think or what to do,", 837.96, 839.41, 1.0]]}, {"start": 840.011, "end": 844.854, "text": "because your experience growing up was, that's not even a part, I don't even understand,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["because your experience growing up was,", 840.01, 842.92, 1.0], ["that's not even a part, I don't even understand,", 842.92, 844.85, 1.0]]}, {"start": 845.475, "end": 847.064, "text": "because I'm who I am.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["because I'm who I am.", 845.47, 847.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 847.064, "end": 853.577, "text": "And so I want to know more about you, but when you start trying to tell me how I'm supposed to feel or think this, you know, check, please, that moment.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so I want to know more about you, but when you start trying to tell me how I'm supposed to feel or think this, you know, check, please, that moment.", 847.06, 853.58, 1.0]]}, {"start": 854.774, "end": 876.304, "text": "So without that secure attachment in that part of that secure attachment, then would create this, in essence, this adaptive or helpful version of a narcissistic trait, because now let me jump over to Eleanor Greenberg's article where she's talking about, she says, every once in a while, a new diagnostic label emerges into mass consciousness and people start to use it and misuse it as a synonym for bad behavior.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So without that secure attachment in that part of that secure attachment, then would create this, in essence, this adaptive or helpful version of a narcissistic trait, because now let me jump over to Eleanor Greenberg's article where she's talking about, she says, every once in a while, a new diagnostic label emerges into mass consciousness and people start to use it and misuse it as a synonym for bad behavior.", 854.77, 876.3, 1.0]]}, {"start": 876.304, "end": 878.333, "text": "She said, this year's label seems to be narcissist.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["She said, this year's label seems to be narcissist.", 876.3, 878.33, 1.0]]}, {"start": 878.99, "end": 883.672, "text": "So she said, I thought it might be useful to clarify what mental health professionals mean when they talk about narcissism.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So she said, I thought it might be useful to clarify what mental health", 878.99, 881.74, 1.0], ["professionals mean when they talk about narcissism.", 881.74, 883.67, 1.0]]}, {"start": 884.419, "end": 890.432, "text": "So she said, narcissistic personality disorder is the name for a series of coping strategies that began as an adaptation to a childhood family", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So she said, narcissistic personality disorder is the name for a series of", 884.42, 887.7, 1.0], ["coping strategies that began as an adaptation to a childhood family", 887.7, 890.43, 1.0]]}, {"start": 890.704, "end": 898.624, "text": "situation that left the person with unstable self-esteem, the inability to regulate their self-esteem without external validation and lower empathy.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["situation that left the person with unstable self-esteem, the inability to", 890.7, 894.98, 1.0], ["regulate their self-esteem without external validation and lower empathy.", 894.98, 898.62, 1.0]]}, {"start": 899.011, "end": 903.824, "text": "And so then she goes on to talk about this concept of whole object relations and object constancy.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so then she goes on to talk about this concept of whole object", 899.01, 902.26, 1.0], ["relations and object constancy.", 902.26, 903.82, 1.0]]}, {"start": 903.824, "end": 908.784, "text": "And I think those things are so fascinating. I know I've talked about those on other episodes, but here's where I want to get to.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I think those things are so fascinating.", 903.82, 905.26, 1.0], ["I know I've talked about those on other episodes, but here's where I want to get to.", 905.26, 908.78, 1.0]]}, {"start": 908.784, "end": 912.984, "text": "She talks about normal versus pathological narcissism, and here's where I'm taking liberty", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["She talks about normal versus pathological narcissism, and here's where I'm taking liberty", 908.78, 912.98, 1.0]]}, {"start": 912.984, "end": 917.637, "text": "with what Eleanor has defined, and I'm taking some of that and confabulating my own narrative.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["with what Eleanor has defined, and I'm taking some of that and confabulating my own narrative.", 912.98, 917.64, 1.0]]}, {"start": 918.726, "end": 934.066, "text": "She says that, unfortunately, in the English language, the word narcissism has come to mean two entirely different things, depending on whether it's being used formally as a diagnosis, as a narcissistic personality disorder, or informally as a synonym for positive self-regard.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["She says that, unfortunately, in the English language, the word narcissism has come to mean two entirely different things, depending on whether it's being used formally as a diagnosis, as a narcissistic personality disorder, or informally as a synonym for positive self-regard.", 918.73, 934.07, 1.0]]}, {"start": 935.02, "end": 939.765, "text": "Now, how often are we looking at the term narcissism as positive self-regard? I don't know if that is ever being used.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Now, how often are we looking at the term narcissism as positive self-regard? I don't know if that is ever being used.", 935.02, 939.76, 1.0]]}, {"start": 940.431, "end": 946.363, "text": "She said, I'm often asked, isn't a little bit of narcissism healthy and normal? And she said, I would like to clarify that distinction before I go on.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["She said, I'm often asked, isn't a little bit of narcissism healthy and normal? 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It wasn't a passion of mine. I didn't come out of college saying I just want to", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["software industry. It wasn't a passion of mine. I didn't come out of college saying I just want to", 1104.2, 1108.64, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1108.636, "end": 1112.556, "text": "work in the computer industry. As a matter of fact, I applied for a few different jobs coming", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["work in the computer industry. As a matter of fact, I applied for a few different jobs coming", 1108.64, 1112.56, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1112.556, "end": 1116.956, "text": "out of school, but that's the one that I had an opportunity to work in. And I'm grateful for the", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["out of school, but that's the one that I had an opportunity to work in. 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Because again, let's break that down. A defense against feelings of inferiority. I", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["narcissism. Because again, let's break that down. A defense against feelings of inferiority. I", 1131.12, 1136.16, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1136.23, "end": 1140.137, "text": "absolutely felt inferior because I'm in this world, this computer software world, where there.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["absolutely felt inferior because I'm in this world, this computer software world, where there.", 1136.23, 1140.14, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1140.876, "end": 1145.876, "text": "There were people that were literally writing computer code and computer engineers. And", "confidence": 0.99, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["There were people that were literally writing computer code and computer engineers. 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You're the one that is", 1688.06, 1692.38, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1692.379, "end": 1698.059, "text": "now learning to sit in that healthy ego or sit with that discomfort and do a little self-confrontation.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["now learning to sit in that healthy ego or sit with that discomfort and do a little self-confrontation.", 1692.38, 1698.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1698.059, "end": 1699.484, "text": "Okay, what can I learn from here?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Okay, what can I learn from here?", 1698.06, 1699.48, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1700.132, "end": 1704.948, "text": "But then as the person across from you sits in their emotional immaturity or narcissism,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But then as the person across from you sits in their emotional immaturity or narcissism,", 1700.13, 1704.95, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1705.191, "end": 1709.432, "text": "that they will push more buttons, bigger buttons. 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You will lose everything.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["You're going to ruin this.", 1710.13, 1712.06, 1.0], ["You will lose everything.", 1712.06, 1713.96, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1714.689, "end": 1721.059, "text": "Those buttons are meant to get you back into enmeshment, back into alignment, back under this person's control.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Those buttons are meant to get you back into enmeshment, back into alignment, back under this person's control.", 1714.69, 1721.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1721.059, "end": 1724.834, "text": "So that's why I think it's so important to understand what healthy ego is.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So that's why I think it's so important to understand what healthy ego is.", 1721.06, 1724.83, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1725.321, "end": 1729.939, "text": "Healthy narcissism, but we'll call it healthy ego because you are doing the work", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Healthy narcissism, but we'll call it healthy ego because you are doing the work", 1725.32, 1729.94, 0.9987916350364685]]}, {"start": 1730.281, "end": 1735.817, "text": "You are understanding what your experience is and it is a real-life experience and we want these,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["You are understanding what your experience is and it is a real-life experience and we want these,", 1730.28, 1735.82, 0.9987916350364685]]}, {"start": 1736.539, "end": 1740.139, "text": "Accomplishments that you are having these aha moments you are having for yourself,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Accomplishments that you are having these aha moments you are having for yourself,", 1736.54, 1740.14, 0.9987916350364685]]}, {"start": 1740.94, "end": 1747.699, "text": "To become assimilated into your self-image because these successes come as a result of your hard work to overcome real-life obstacles,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["To become assimilated into your self-image because these successes come as a result of your hard work to overcome real-life obstacles,", 1740.94, 1747.7, 0.9987916350364685]]}, {"start": 1748.366, "end": 1758.579, "text": "You are waking up to the narcissism in your own relationships Maybe some of the emotional maturity in your own life, and that is powerful and that is what is starting to help you develop a healthy ego.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["You are waking up to the narcissism in your own relationships", 1748.37, 1752.26, 0.9987916350364685], ["Maybe some of the emotional maturity in your own life, and that is powerful and that is what is starting to help you develop a healthy ego.", 1752.26, 1758.58, 0.9929258227348328]]}, {"start": 1760.141, "end": 1764.48, "text": "I'll take a breath because the con the content today was going to be more about these,", "confidence": 0.99, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["I'll take a breath because the con the content today was going to be more about these,", 1760.14, 1764.48, 0.9929258227348328]]}, {"start": 1765.732, "end": 1770.819, "text": "Types of narcissism, so let me get back to that. We just identified. There's adaptive which will be helpful", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["Types of narcissism, so let me get back to that. We just identified. 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A lot of those are associated with symptoms of the narcissistic personality disorder.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Those would be associated with the symptoms. A lot of those are associated with symptoms of the narcissistic personality disorder.", 1886.81, 1892.81, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1892.807, "end": 1898.807, "text": "So she said when most people talk about narcissism, they usually refer to these types of narcissism under the maladaptive umbrella.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So she said when most people talk about narcissism, they usually refer to these types of narcissism under the maladaptive umbrella.", 1892.81, 1898.81, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1898.807, "end": 1915.807, "text": "Researchers and experts typically work around five types of narcissism. So there's overt, covert, antagonistic, communal, and malignant. So overt narcissism. That's one that we hear about. I feel like we hear about overt and covert more often than any other subtype.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Researchers and experts typically work around five types of narcissism. So there's overt, covert, antagonistic, communal, and malignant. So overt narcissism. That's one that we hear about. I feel like we hear about overt and covert more often than any other subtype.", 1898.81, 1915.81, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1916.502, "end": 1926.807, "text": "Overt narcissism is also known by several other names, including grandiose narcissism. This type of narcissism is what most people associate with a narcissistic personality or narcissistic personality disorder.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Overt narcissism is also known by several other names, including grandiose narcissism. This type of narcissism is what most people associate with a narcissistic personality or narcissistic personality disorder.", 1916.5, 1926.81, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1926.807, "end": 1944.807, "text": "Somebody with overt narcissism might come across then as outgoing but arrogant, entitled, overbearing, having an exaggerated self-image, needing constantly to be praised and admired, exploitive, continually competitive, whether it's with kids or old people, you name it, their spouse, and then lacking empathy.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Somebody with overt narcissism might come across then as outgoing but arrogant, entitled, overbearing, having an exaggerated self-image, needing constantly to be praised and admired, exploitive, continually competitive, whether it's with kids or old people, you name it, their spouse, and then lacking empathy.", 1926.81, 1944.81, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1945.975, "end": 1950.087, "text": "Empathy. So, some research connects overt narcissism with what they call the big five", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Empathy. So, some research connects overt narcissism with what they call the big five", 1945.98, 1950.09, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1950.087, "end": 1955.847, "text": "personality traits of extroversion and openness. It also suggests that people with overt narcissism", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["personality traits of extroversion and openness. It also suggests that people with overt narcissism", 1950.09, 1955.85, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1955.847, "end": 1960.407, "text": "are likely to feel good about themselves and less likely to experience uncomfortable emotions like", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["are likely to feel good about themselves and less likely to experience uncomfortable emotions like", 1955.85, 1960.41, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1960.407, "end": 1965.207, "text": "sadness and worry and loneliness. And this is where I feel like we start to identify the", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["sadness and worry and loneliness. And this is where I feel like we start to identify the", 1960.41, 1965.21, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1965.207, "end": 1969.847, "text": "differences between the just absolute narcissistic personality disorder versus the traits and", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["differences between the just absolute narcissistic personality disorder versus the traits and", 1965.21, 1969.85, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1969.847, "end": 1976.087, "text": "tendencies because a true narcissist doesn't feel those uncomfortable emotions like sadness, worry,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["tendencies because a true narcissist doesn't feel those uncomfortable emotions like sadness, worry,", 1969.85, 1976.09, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1976.087, "end": 1981.207, "text": "or loneliness because those have been shut off since childhood because they can't sit with that", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["or loneliness because those have been shut off since childhood because they can't sit with that", 1976.09, 1981.21, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1981.207, "end": 1986.567, "text": "discomfort that they are sad or that they worry that they did something wrong or that they they", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["discomfort that they are sad or that they worry that they did something wrong or that they they", 1981.21, 1986.57, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1986.567, "end": 1989.367, "text": "are alone because that might lead to abandonment and death.", "confidence": 0.92, "timestamps": [["are alone because that might lead to abandonment and death.", 1986.57, 1989.37, 0.9219304323196411]]}, {"start": 1990.455, "end": 1994.948, "text": "So, people with overt narcissism tend to overestimate their own abilities, their own intelligence.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So, people with overt narcissism tend to overestimate their own abilities, their own intelligence.", 1990.46, 1994.95, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1995.205, "end": 1999.765, "text": "One study published in 2018 also suggested overt narcissism might cause somebody to overestimate", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["One study published in 2018 also suggested overt narcissism might cause somebody to overestimate", 1995.21, 1999.77, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1999.765, "end": 2001.15, "text": "their own emotional intelligence.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["their own emotional intelligence.", 1999.77, 2001.15, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2001.805, "end": 2007.389, "text": "This is what starts the, why I go so big on the healthy ego versus pathological defensive narcissism.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["This is what starts the, why I go so big on the healthy ego versus pathological defensive", 2001.81, 2006.77, 1.0], ["narcissism.", 2006.77, 2007.39, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2008.037, "end": 2011.585, "text": "You know, there's this concept called the Dunning-Kruger effect.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["You know, there's this concept called the Dunning-Kruger effect.", 2008.04, 2011.59, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2011.585, "end": 2014.807, "text": "And I should do a, I should do an episode on that because the Dunning-Kruger effect", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I should do a, I should do an episode on that because the Dunning-Kruger effect", 2011.59, 2014.81, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2014.86, "end": 2019.765, "text": "is if I go back to the, what I just read when we're talking about somebody will overestimate", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["is if I go back to the, what I just read when we're talking about somebody will overestimate", 2014.86, 2019.77, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2019.765, "end": 2023.685, "text": "their own emotional intelligence, where they will feel like, oh, no, I'm very intelligent.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["their own emotional intelligence, where they will feel like, oh, no, I'm very intelligent.", 2019.77, 2023.69, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2023.685, "end": 2025.636, "text": "I really do understand things better than most.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I really do understand things better than most.", 2023.69, 2025.64, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2026.325, "end": 2029.545, "text": "The reason I bring up Dunning-Kruger effect is it's a cognitive bias where people with", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["The reason I bring up Dunning-Kruger effect is it's a cognitive bias where people with", 2026.33, 2029.55, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2029.545, "end": 2034.165, "text": "a low with low ability or low expertise or experience regarding a certain task or an", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["a low with low ability or low expertise or experience regarding a certain task or an", 2029.55, 2034.17, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2034.165, "end": 2037.429, "text": "area of knowledge tend to overestimate their ability or knowledge.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["area of knowledge tend to overestimate their ability or knowledge.", 2034.17, 2037.43, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2038.205, "end": 2042.725, "text": "So this is one of those things where the more that you start to learn, you start to learn", "confidence": 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"timestamps": [["doctor or than the attorney.", 2071.77, 2073.12, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2073.765, "end": 2083.296, "text": "So they are so special that they know more. They don't even have to understand the area of the medicine or the law or mental health.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So they are so special that they know more.", 2073.77, 2076.75, 1.0], ["They don't even have to understand the area of the medicine or the law or mental health.", 2076.75, 2083.3, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2083.945, "end": 2086.945, "text": "They just know. They know better. What does that person know?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["They just know.", 2083.95, 2084.95, 1.0], ["They know better.", 2084.95, 2085.95, 1.0], ["What does that person know?", 2086.13, 2086.95, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2086.945, "end": 2087.788, "text": "What does the therapist know?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["What does the therapist know?", 2086.95, 2087.79, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2087.986, "end": 2091.385, "text": "He just wants money after all. Or what's the attorney? What do they even know?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["He just wants money after all.", 2087.99, 2088.82, 1.0], ["Or what's the attorney?", 2088.97, 2089.95, 1.0], ["What do they even know?", 2089.95, 2091.39, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2091.385, "end": 2093.825, "text": "What's the doctor know? He's just, he's outdated.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["What's the doctor know?", 2091.39, 2092.39, 1.0], ["He's just, he's outdated.", 2092.39, 2093.83, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2093.825, "end": 2098.978, "text": "And so that is that emotional maturity that they know so much more, that they are so confident,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so that is that emotional maturity that they know so much more, that they are so confident,", 2093.83, 2098.98, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2099.464, "end": 2101.372, "text": "that they know more than even the professionals.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that they know more than even the professionals.", 2099.46, 2101.37, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2102.265, "end": 2104.937, "text": "So that's part of that, overestimating their emotional intelligence.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So that's part of that, overestimating their emotional intelligence.", 2102.27, 2104.94, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2105.829, "end": 2111.279, "text": "Covert narcissism, also known as vulnerable narcissism, closet narcissism, covert narcissism", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Covert narcissism, also known as vulnerable narcissism, closet narcissism, covert narcissism", 2105.83, 2111.28, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2111.279, "end": 2116.239, "text": "is the contrast to overt. So many people think of narcissism as loud and overbearing. People", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["is the contrast to overt. So many people think of narcissism as loud and overbearing. People", 2111.28, 2116.24, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2116.239, "end": 2120.319, "text": "with covert don't fit the pattern. Instead, some of the common traits of somebody with covert", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["with covert don't fit the pattern. Instead, some of the common traits of somebody with covert", 2116.24, 2120.32, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2120.319, "end": 2125.359, "text": "narcissism will include expressions of low self-esteem. But I love the concept of expressions", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["narcissism will include expressions of low self-esteem. 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So this is where somebody will do whatever", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["conflict with a deep fear or sense of not being enough. So this is where somebody will do whatever", 2147.92, 2152.72, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2152.719, "end": 2159.199, "text": "they can to control another person because of that fear of just absolute abandonment and loneliness.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["they can to control another person because of that fear of just absolute abandonment and loneliness.", 2152.72, 2159.2, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2159.199, "end": 2164.639, "text": "That if they if they allow this other person to be themselves then they will lose that person and", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["That if they if they allow this other person to be themselves then they will lose that person and", 2159.2, 2164.64, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2164.639, "end": 2168.799, "text": "then they will be alone so they will just get they will play the victim they will go for control", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["then they will be alone so they will just get they will play the victim they will go for control", 2164.64, 2168.8, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2168.799, "end": 2175.599, "text": "over love and again you can have love or control in an adult relationship not both somebody with", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["over love and again you can have love or control in an adult relationship not both somebody with", 2168.8, 2175.6, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2175.599, "end": 2180.719, "text": "covert narcissism likely has a very hard time accepting criticism but unlike a person with", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["covert narcissism likely has a very hard time accepting criticism but unlike a person with", 2175.6, 2180.72, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2180.719, "end": 2184.959, "text": "overt narcissism somebody with covert narcissism may be more likely to internalize or take the", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["overt narcissism somebody with covert narcissism may be more likely to internalize or take the", 2180.72, 2184.96, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2184.959, "end": 2189.279, "text": "the criticism more harshly. 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While somebody with covert narcissism will still be very self-focused, it's likely to", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["And that can be just absolutely maddening.", 2313.97, 2315.73, 1.0], ["While somebody with covert narcissism will still be very self-focused, it's likely to", 2316.24, 2320.5, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2320.497, "end": 2323.647, "text": "conflict with this, again, this deep fear or sense of not being enough.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["conflict with this, again, this deep fear or sense of not being enough.", 2320.5, 2323.65, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2324.133, "end": 2328.757, "text": "A study on personality and covert narcissism published in 2017 found that it was most strongly", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["A study on personality and covert narcissism published in 2017 found that it was most strongly", 2324.13, 2328.76, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2328.757, "end": 2334.817, "text": "linked to high neuroticism, which is a tendency to experience unpleasant emotions and disagreeableness.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["linked to high neuroticism, which is a tendency to experience unpleasant emotions and disagreeableness.", 2328.76, 2334.82, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2334.817, "end": 2341.997, "text": "So the covert narcissist is so linked to a tendency to not want to spend any time with", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So the covert narcissist is so linked to a tendency to not want to spend any time with", 2334.82, 2342.0, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2341.997, "end": 2344.47, "text": "unpleasant emotions or anybody that disagrees with them.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["unpleasant emotions or anybody that disagrees with them.", 2342.0, 2344.47, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2345.317, "end": 2350.277, "text": "So somebody with covert narcissism is very likely to have a very difficult time accepting", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So somebody with covert narcissism is very likely to have a very difficult time accepting", 2345.32, 2350.28, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2350.277, "end": 2354.837, "text": "criticism, but unlike a person with overt narcissism, somebody with covert narcissism", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["criticism, but unlike a person with overt narcissism, somebody with covert narcissism", 2350.28, 2354.84, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2354.837, "end": 2359.764, "text": "will be more likely to internalize or take in the criticism far more harshly than it", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["will be more likely to internalize or take in the criticism far more harshly than it", 2354.84, 2359.76, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2359.997, "end": 2360.997, "text": "was intended.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["was intended.", 2360.0, 2361.0, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2360.997, "end": 2363.86, "text": "Again, even if you just simply say no to one of their requests.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Again, even if you just simply say no to one of their requests.", 2361.0, 2363.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2364.301, "end": 2368.797, "text": "So research suggests that categories of covert and overt narcissism aren't always mutually", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So research suggests that categories of covert and overt narcissism aren't always mutually", 2364.3, 2368.8, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2368.797, "end": 2372.697, "text": "exclusive. And somebody with overt narcissism might go through a period where they show more signs", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["exclusive.", 2368.8, 2369.8, 1.0], ["And somebody with overt narcissism might go through a period where they show more signs", 2369.8, 2372.7, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2372.697, "end": 2376.977, "text": "of covert narcissism. And this is where we're starting to learn that, in essence, I feel like almost everything", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["of covert narcissism.", 2372.7, 2373.7, 1.0], ["And this is where we're starting to learn that, in essence, I feel like almost everything", 2373.7, 2376.98, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2376.977, "end": 2379.137, "text": "is on some sort of spectrum of behavior.", "confidence": 0.95, "timestamps": [["is on some sort of spectrum of behavior.", 2376.98, 2379.14, 0.9517164826393127]]}, {"start": 2379.876, "end": 2395.726, "text": "We have plenty more to go, and we're at the 45-minute mark, so I'm going to wrap things up for now, and we're going to continue with this in the next episode of Waking Up the Narcissim, where we're going to cover antagonistic, communal, and malignant narcissism, and I'll give you some more examples, maybe, of these.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["We have plenty more to go, and we're at the 45-minute mark, so I'm going to wrap things up for now, and we're going to continue with this in the next episode of Waking Up the Narcissim, where we're going to cover antagonistic, communal, and malignant narcissism, and I'll give you some more examples, maybe, of these.", 2379.88, 2395.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2395.726, "end": 2400.546, "text": "So if you have questions or if you have an example that you want on this part two that will be coming in a week,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So if you have questions or if you have an example that you want on this part two that will be coming in a week,", 2395.73, 2400.55, 0.9988100528717041]]}, {"start": 2401.247, "end": 2406.066, "text": "Feel free to send it to contact at Tony over Bay comm and I just appreciate you being on this journey", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Feel free to send it to contact at Tony over Bay comm and I just appreciate you being on this journey", 2401.25, 2406.07, 0.9988100528717041]]}, {"start": 2406.36, "end": 2410.026, "text": "Because I see the work you're doing and that is starting to become part of that,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Because I see the work you're doing and that is starting to become part of that,", 2406.36, 2410.03, 0.9988100528717041]]}, {"start": 2410.483, "end": 2416.266, "text": "Healthy ego and your implicit memory or what it feels like to be you which is based on the slow residue of lived experience", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Healthy ego and your implicit memory or what it feels like to be you which is based on the slow residue of lived experience", 2410.48, 2416.27, 0.9988100528717041]]}, {"start": 2416.266, "end": 2419.946, "text": "Is you're putting in the work and that is starting to change and unfortunately", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Is you're putting in the work and that is starting to change and unfortunately", 2416.27, 2419.95, 0.9988100528717041]]}, {"start": 2419.946, "end": 2433.946, "text": "You're going to see the person that if you are in a relationship with an emotionally immature person and they are not doing the work as you start to step out of your role as caregiver fixer supply, then you're going to see more buttons pushed.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["You're going to see the person that if you are in a relationship with an emotionally immature person and they are not doing the work as you start to step out of your role as caregiver fixer supply, then you're going to see more buttons pushed.", 2419.95, 2433.95, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2433.946, "end": 2438.946, "text": "And I am so sorry for what you have to go through, but you are on the path of enlightenment.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I am so sorry for what you have to go through, but you are on the path of enlightenment.", 2433.95, 2438.95, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2438.946, "end": 2443.826, "text": "Of enlightenment, you are on the path of self-discovery, and you are getting to that place where you", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Of 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"end": 2460.041, "text": "self off of external validation, and if you are in an unhealthy relationship, then it's,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["self off of external validation, and if you are in an unhealthy relationship, then it's,", 2456.41, 2460.04, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2460.686, "end": 2465.166, "text": "likely that they are also starting to feel the pain of trying to manage their emotions", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["likely that they are also starting to feel the pain of trying to manage their emotions", 2460.69, 2465.17, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2465.166, "end": 2467.872, "text": "or read the room or manage the emotions of their parents.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["or read the room or manage the emotions of their parents.", 2465.17, 2467.87, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2469.376, "end": 2471.96, "text": "So thanks again, send those questions, see you next time.", "confidence": 0.87, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So thanks again, send those questions, see you next time.", 2469.38, 2471.96, 0.8725332021713257]]}, {"start": 2472.08, "end": 2514.495, "text": "Music.", "newpara": true}]