[{"start": 0.0, "end": 8.08, "text": "Music.", "newpara": true}, {"start": 8.075, "end": 12.885, "text": "67 of Waking Up to Narcissism. I am your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["67 of Waking Up to Narcissism. I am your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family", 8.08, 12.89, 1.0]]}, {"start": 12.885, "end": 19.045, "text": "therapist, host of the Virtual Couch podcast, and several other podcasts coming soon to a podcast", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["therapist, host of the Virtual Couch podcast, and several other podcasts coming soon to a podcast", 12.89, 19.05, 1.0]]}, {"start": 19.045, "end": 24.645, "text": "network near you. So if you can go check out the show notes, there's a Linktree link that has all", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["network near you. 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I've got an article that I'm going to use as my muse, and we're also", 85.49, 91.41, 1.0]]}, {"start": 91.414, "end": 97.089, "text": "going to, I'm going to read a poem. I read a poem in last week's episode and received a lot of good", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["going to, I'm going to read a poem. I read a poem in last week's episode and received a lot of good", 91.41, 97.09, 1.0]]}, {"start": 97.334, "end": 101.014, "text": "good feedback from that too. People share in some big emotions, which I'm grateful", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["good feedback from that too. People share in some big emotions, which I'm grateful", 97.33, 101.01, 1.0]]}, {"start": 101.014, "end": 106.038, "text": "for. The poetry is something that I did not grow up listening to or reading and", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["for. 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And of course what it felt like to be me in my younger years was not even taking the time to understand or be curious about a poem and", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["realized, man, that was me. And of course what it felt like to be me in my", 119.09, 123.33, 1.0], ["younger years was not even taking the time to understand or be curious about a poem and", 123.33, 128.43, 1.0]]}, {"start": 128.854, "end": 133.874, "text": "why someone expresses themselves the way that they do. So if someone finds themselves just", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["why someone expresses themselves the way that they do. So if someone finds themselves just", 128.85, 133.87, 1.0]]}, {"start": 133.874, "end": 139.049, "text": "making an observation, there's a poem and a judgment, that's dumb, it doesn't rhyme,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["making an observation, there's a poem and a judgment, that's dumb, it doesn't rhyme,", 133.87, 139.05, 1.0]]}, {"start": 139.374, "end": 143.094, "text": "that is a sign of emotional immaturity. So it is okay to not know something and to be", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that is a sign of emotional immaturity. So it is okay to not know something and to be", 139.37, 143.09, 1.0]]}, {"start": 143.094, "end": 147.594, "text": "curious about it. The poem I want to read today comes from the Women's Private Facebook", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["curious about it. 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This person posted something after the poem", 157.0, 162.15, 1.0]]}, {"start": 162.154, "end": 166.234, "text": "that I thought would be interesting to read before just to set the stage. They said that", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that I thought would be interesting to read before just to set the stage. They said that", 162.15, 166.23, 1.0]]}, {"start": 166.234, "end": 170.134, "text": "this poem, the one I'm about to read, this was a few months after she had opened up her", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["this poem, the one I'm about to read, this was a few months after she had opened up her", 166.23, 170.13, 1.0]]}, {"start": 170.134, "end": 175.954, "text": "heart to her spouse and she said this was also the last time. She said that he in essence", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["heart to her spouse and she said this was also the last time. 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And she said that he", 196.47, 200.39, 0.9974530935287476]]}, {"start": 200.394, "end": 206.114, "text": "went on to quote, which I would assume are some confabulated studies and statistics.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["went on to quote, which I would assume are some confabulated studies and statistics.", 200.39, 206.11, 0.9974530935287476]]}, {"start": 206.114, "end": 211.374, "text": "And she says, blah, blah, blah, that these are the people that feel this way and this", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And she says, blah, blah, blah, that these are the people that feel this way and this", 206.11, 211.37, 1.0]]}, {"start": 211.374, "end": 215.494, "text": "is why they fail and this is why he can't believe that she opened up and shared those", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["is why they fail and this is why he can't believe that she opened up and shared those", 211.37, 215.49, 1.0]]}, {"start": 215.494, "end": 217.864, "text": "things because now he's really concerned.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["things because now he's really concerned.", 215.49, 217.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 218.194, "end": 223.734, "text": "And she said that was the day that she felt like her eyes opened wide and she realized", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And she said that was the day that she felt like her eyes opened wide and she realized", 218.19, 223.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 223.734, "end": 227.394, "text": "how often that he would do that, how often he would put her down when she talked about", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["how often that he would do that, how often he would put her down when she talked about", 223.73, 227.39, 1.0]]}, {"start": 227.394, "end": 229.639, "text": "her feelings or her hopes or her desires.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["her feelings or her hopes or her desires.", 227.39, 229.64, 1.0]]}, {"start": 229.874, "end": 233.735, "text": "And she said the dam burst and the memories flooded of all the things that she had allowed", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And she said the dam burst and the memories flooded of all the things that she had allowed", 229.87, 233.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 233.933, "end": 237.834, "text": "to happen in the relationship and the things that she had allowed herself to go through", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["to happen in the relationship and the things that she had allowed herself to go through", 233.93, 237.83, 1.0]]}, {"start": 237.912, "end": 242.314, "text": "in the relationship and that she had called it normal because up until that point,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["in the relationship and that she had called it normal because up until that point,", 237.91, 242.31, 1.0]]}, {"start": 242.314, "end": 247.994, "text": "that's what she felt like was love. So, with that said, let me read this poem.", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["that's what she felt like was love. So, with that said, let me read this poem.", 242.31, 247.99, 0.9734854698181152]]}, {"start": 249.057, "end": 254.027, "text": "She wrote, I want to get lost in the stars again. I want to marvel at the beauty of the natural", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["She wrote, I want to get lost in the stars again. I want to marvel at the beauty of the natural", 249.06, 254.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 254.027, "end": 260.027, "text": "world again. I want to look up at the sky and actually see, feel, breathe, just be again.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["world again. I want to look up at the sky and actually see, feel, breathe, just be again.", 254.03, 260.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 260.805, "end": 266.107, "text": "It seems so long that the little girl inside of my soul, the very core of my being, had been", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It seems so long that the little girl inside of my soul, the very core of my being, had been", 260.8, 266.11, 1.0]]}, {"start": 266.107, "end": 273.227, "text": "sleeping or suppressed. From the life I am living now, I want to feel the peace and joy inside my", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["sleeping or suppressed. From the life I am living now, I want to feel the peace and joy inside my", 266.11, 273.23, 1.0]]}, {"start": 273.227, "end": 279.142, "text": "soul again. When I see the delicate patterns in the petal of a rose, instead I glance,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["soul again. 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So much of me has", 290.35, 296.75, 1.0]]}, {"start": 296.747, "end": 303.667, "text": "has been erased or silenced. I feel hollow and blank, numb and quiet, alone. The girl", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["has been erased or silenced. I feel hollow and blank, numb and quiet, alone. The girl", 296.75, 303.67, 1.0]]}, {"start": 303.667, "end": 307.727, "text": "who could sit and stare at the stars and feel the little electrical jolt in their stomach", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["who could sit and stare at the stars and feel the little electrical jolt in their stomach", 303.67, 307.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 307.727, "end": 313.827, "text": "and blood when a shooting star raced across the dazzling darkness is quiet now. The girl", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and blood when a shooting star raced across the dazzling darkness is quiet now. 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That little girl is gone.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Yet I have been told this is normal.", 330.07, 331.97, 1.0], ["That little girl is gone.", 332.77, 333.82, 1.0]]}, {"start": 334.137, "end": 338.953, "text": "I'm told I need to grow up, let that go and move on because it's not who I am anymore.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm told I need to grow up, let that go and move on because it's not who I am anymore.", 334.14, 338.95, 1.0]]}, {"start": 339.548, "end": 345.84, "text": "I cannot accept this, but then have to wonder if the one who said this to me knows me better than I know myself.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I cannot accept this, but then have to wonder if the one who said this to me knows me better", 339.55, 344.75, 1.0], ["than I know myself.", 344.75, 345.84, 1.0]]}, {"start": 346.487, "end": 354.727, "text": "I feel so confused at who I am anymore. I'm trying to find her, scrambling before it's too late, before she is nothing and", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I feel so confused at who I am anymore.", 346.49, 349.72, 1.0], ["I'm trying to find her, scrambling before it's too late, before she is nothing and", 350.33, 354.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 354.727, "end": 355.653, "text": "I become nothing.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I become nothing.", 354.73, 355.65, 1.0]]}, {"start": 356.407, "end": 360.136, "text": "Without her, I have to find me again. I have to live again.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Without her, I have to find me again.", 356.41, 358.87, 1.0], ["I have to live again.", 359.21, 360.14, 1.0]]}, {"start": 360.847, "end": 364.439, "text": "Or I fear my soul will die, will sleep and never wake again.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Or I fear my soul will die, will sleep and never wake again.", 360.85, 364.44, 1.0]]}, {"start": 364.927, "end": 367.202, "text": "Hollow, silent, and gone.", "confidence": 0.87, "timestamps": [["Hollow, silent, and gone.", 364.93, 367.2, 0.8714022040367126]]}, {"start": 368.256, "end": 389.079, "text": "So even breaking down the poem, poetry, I felt such compassion when she said that all of this that she misses in her, that ability to honestly just be present and marvel in the glory of the universe, of God, of a creator, of a leaf floating down from the sky, of the stars in the sky.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So even breaking down the poem, poetry, I felt such compassion when she said that all of this that she misses in her, that ability to honestly just be present and marvel in the glory of the universe, of God, of a creator, of a leaf floating down from the sky, of the stars in the sky.", 368.26, 389.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 389.079, "end": 394.079, "text": "So that is something that you absolutely can still take advantage of as an adult human being.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So that is something that you absolutely can still take advantage of as an adult human being.", 389.08, 394.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 394.079, "end": 399.079, "text": "It's not childlike. It's just being and doing and appreciating and being in the moment.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It's not childlike. It's just being and doing and appreciating and being in the moment.", 394.08, 399.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 399.079, "end": 404.079, "text": "But when she says that she misses that in her, that that little girl is gone, and she said,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But when she says that she misses that in her, that that little girl is gone, and she said,", 399.08, 404.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 404.079, "end": 408.079, "text": "I'm told right there, there's the genesis of our problem.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm told right there, there's the genesis of our problem.", 404.08, 408.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 408.079, "end": 411.719, "text": "I've been told I need to grow up. Now, break that down.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I've been told I need to grow up. 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The way to live and to grow is to be asked, what is your experience?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["a marriage or a relationship. The way to live and to grow is to be asked, what is your experience?", 477.84, 483.36, 1.0]]}, {"start": 483.359, "end": 487.919, "text": "How do you feel? What would you like? What do you think? None of those have to do with,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["How do you feel? What would you like? What do you think? None of those have to do with,", 483.36, 487.92, 1.0]]}, {"start": 488.706, "end": 494.026, "text": "you shouldn't, you need to, do you know what this means to me? There's no curiosity.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["you shouldn't, you need to, do you know what this means to me? There's no curiosity.", 488.71, 494.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 494.206, "end": 496.159, "text": "So that poem just speaks volumes.", "confidence": 0.89, "timestamps": [["So that poem just speaks volumes.", 494.21, 496.16, 0.8908810019493103]]}, {"start": 497.393, "end": 502.182, "text": "Okay, let's get to the article that we're going to talk about today. It is how to move past regret.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Okay, let's get to the article that we're going to talk about today. It is how to move past regret.", 497.39, 502.18, 1.0]]}, {"start": 502.344, "end": 507.163, "text": "This is by Cian Ferguson and medically reviewed by Bethany Juby, who has her doctorate in", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["This is by Cian Ferguson and medically reviewed by Bethany Juby, who has her doctorate in", 502.34, 507.16, 1.0]]}, {"start": 507.163, "end": 513.163, "text": "psychology. And this is on psychcentral.com. Again, how to move past regret. So I want to read", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["psychology. And this is on psychcentral.com. Again, how to move past regret. So I want to read", 507.16, 513.16, 1.0]]}, {"start": 513.246, "end": 518.203, "text": "and then in essence, react and give some commentary. And not in the, this is the dumbest", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and then in essence, react and give some commentary. And not in the, this is the dumbest", 513.25, 518.2, 1.0]]}, {"start": 518.203, "end": 521.963, "text": "article kind of way, but in the thank you for putting this article out because it brings up", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["article kind of way, but in the thank you for putting this article out because it brings up", 518.2, 521.96, 1.0]]}, {"start": 521.963, "end": 523.243, "text": "of so many thoughts and emotions.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["of so many thoughts and emotions.", 521.96, 523.24, 0.9953898191452026]]}, {"start": 523.923, "end": 528.403, "text": "So Cian says, regret is a common feeling that has both negative and positive", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So Cian says, regret is a common feeling that has both negative and positive", 523.92, 528.4, 0.9953898191452026]]}, {"start": 528.403, "end": 534.283, "text": "effects, knowing how to move past and learn from them is key to your overall wellbeing.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["effects, knowing how to move past and learn from them is key to your overall", 528.4, 533.76, 0.9953898191452026], ["wellbeing.", 533.76, 534.28, 0.9953898191452026]]}, {"start": 534.816, "end": 538.883, "text": "And I will talk a little bit more in depth about that moving past. What does that mean?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I will talk a little bit more in depth about that moving past.", 534.82, 538.18, 0.9953898191452026], ["What does that mean?", 538.18, 538.88, 0.9953898191452026]]}, {"start": 539.407, "end": 543.403, "text": "So Cian says, regrets a feeling based on the idea that you could have acted", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So Cian says, regrets a feeling based on the idea that you could have acted", 539.41, 543.4, 0.9953898191452026]]}, {"start": 543.403, "end": 546.078, "text": "differently to produce a more desirable outcome.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["differently to produce a more desirable outcome.", 543.4, 546.08, 0.9953898191452026]]}, {"start": 546.465, "end": 548.859, "text": "So let's start there. Regret is absolutely normal.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So let's start there.", 546.46, 547.32, 0.9953898191452026], ["Regret is absolutely normal.", 547.36, 548.86, 0.9953898191452026]]}, {"start": 549.165, "end": 551.956, "text": "And when we say, man, if only I had done this,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And when we say, man, if only I had done this,", 549.17, 551.96, 1.0]]}, {"start": 552.172, "end": 553.594, "text": "then things would have been different.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["then things would have been different.", 552.17, 553.59, 1.0]]}, {"start": 554.081, "end": 557.15, "text": "We start moving into the world of acceptance because the reality is, yeah,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["We start moving into the world of acceptance", 554.08, 555.8, 1.0], ["because the reality is, yeah,", 555.8, 557.15, 1.0]]}, {"start": 557.366, "end": 561.803, "text": "now we don't know what those outcomes would have been, but had I done a lot of different things,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["now we don't know what those outcomes would have been,", 557.37, 559.32, 1.0], ["but had I done a lot of different things,", 559.48, 561.8, 1.0]]}, {"start": 562.003, "end": 563.533, "text": "that there would definitely be different outcomes.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that there would definitely be different outcomes.", 562.0, 563.53, 1.0]]}, {"start": 564.003, "end": 567.062, "text": "Before becoming a therapist, when I was coming out of the high tech field,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Before becoming a therapist,", 564.0, 565.16, 1.0], ["when I was coming out of the high tech field,", 565.16, 567.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 567.243, "end": 571.176, "text": "I interviewed to be a pharmaceutical sales rep as well as a financial planner", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I interviewed to be a pharmaceutical sales rep", 567.24, 569.96, 1.0], ["as well as a financial planner", 569.96, 571.18, 1.0]]}, {"start": 571.523, "end": 574.963, "text": "and got a little bit far along the process of the pharmaceutical sales rep.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and got a little bit far along the process", 571.52, 573.71, 1.0], ["of the pharmaceutical sales rep.", 573.8, 574.96, 1.0]]}, {"start": 574.963, "end": 577.513, "text": "Actually, I think I talked about this on a virtual couch episode.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Actually, I think I talked about this", 574.96, 576.44, 1.0], ["on a virtual couch episode.", 576.44, 577.51, 1.0]]}, {"start": 577.964, "end": 584.083, "text": "I found a letter and some stuff that I didn't even realize I still had from Apple Computer.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I found a letter and some stuff that I didn't even realize I still had from Apple Computer.", 577.96, 584.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 584.083, "end": 588.163, "text": "And I had gone a little bit far down looking at this director of marketing position after", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I had gone a little bit far down looking at this director of marketing position after", 584.08, 588.16, 1.0]]}, {"start": 588.163, "end": 590.723, "text": "I came out of 10 years in the computer software business.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I came out of 10 years in the computer software business.", 588.16, 590.72, 1.0]]}, {"start": 590.723, "end": 593.871, "text": "And I was devastated that I did not get that job.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I was devastated that I did not get that job.", 590.72, 593.87, 1.0]]}, {"start": 594.063, "end": 596.323, "text": "It was close to my house. I use Apple products.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It was close to my house.", 594.06, 595.11, 1.0], ["I use Apple products.", 595.16, 596.32, 1.0]]}, {"start": 596.323, "end": 600.19, "text": "I had worked for Apple Macintosh Computer Software Company for 10 years.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I had worked for Apple Macintosh Computer Software Company for 10 years.", 596.32, 600.19, 1.0]]}, {"start": 600.763, "end": 609.203, "text": "So that was, I was making my way to the mothership. And had that happened, I would like to think that I would have enjoyed it and I would have", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So that was, I was making my way to the mothership.", 600.76, 604.24, 1.0], ["And had that happened, I would like to think that I would have enjoyed it and I would have", 604.49, 609.2, 1.0]]}, {"start": 609.363, "end": 610.203, "text": "thrived.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["thrived.", 609.36, 610.2, 1.0]]}, {"start": 610.203, "end": 615.163, "text": "But oh my goodness, I can't imagine not being a therapist and not being able to do the work", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But oh my goodness, I can't imagine not being a therapist and not being able to do the work", 610.2, 615.16, 1.0]]}, {"start": 615.163, "end": 619.122, "text": "I do and being able to learn the things I've learned from a place of even just self-discovery", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I do and being able to learn the things I've learned from a place of even just self-discovery", 615.16, 619.12, 1.0]]}, {"start": 619.455, "end": 620.363, "text": "and self-confrontation.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and self-confrontation.", 619.46, 620.36, 1.0]]}, {"start": 620.958, "end": 627.583, "text": "So, is there regret? 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But now I can't even imagine if that would have gone through. But Sian says regret", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["field. But now I can't even imagine if that would have gone through. But Sian says regret", 638.08, 643.88, 1.0]]}, {"start": 643.883, "end": 647.903, "text": "can be accompanied by guilt, embarrassment, self-blame. It can include asking yourself", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["can be accompanied by guilt, embarrassment, self-blame. It can include asking yourself", 643.88, 647.9, 1.0]]}, {"start": 647.903, "end": 651.443, "text": "a lot of hypothetical questions. What if I would have acted differently? What if I took", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["a lot of hypothetical questions. What if I would have acted differently? What if I took", 647.9, 651.44, 1.0]]}, {"start": 651.443, "end": 656.343, "text": "that opportunity? What if I didn't say what I said? And the reason that I find this particularly", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that opportunity? 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Maybe if I would have just done these things differently five years ago, things would be", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Maybe he's right, or maybe she is right.", 709.74, 712.34, 1.0], ["Maybe if I would have just done these things differently five years ago, things would be", 712.34, 715.62, 1.0]]}, {"start": 715.62, "end": 716.923, "text": "so much different now.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["so much different now.", 715.62, 716.92, 1.0]]}, {"start": 717.4, "end": 720.06, "text": "Now the reality is they would, but not in the way that you're thinking.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Now the reality is they would, but not in the way that you're thinking.", 717.4, 720.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 720.06, "end": 724.26, "text": "Doesn't mean that, oh, then everything would be better now. No, in reality, it might have", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Doesn't mean that, oh, then everything would be better now. 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Let's just put you to sleep here. Let's", 778.78, 783.62, 1.0]]}, {"start": 783.62, "end": 788.06, "text": "have you sleep this one off. Maybe tomorrow you won't ruminate so much. So, as Cian says,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["have you sleep this one off. Maybe tomorrow you won't ruminate so much. So, as Cian says,", 783.62, 788.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 788.06, "end": 791.14, "text": "you might regret something even when realistically there's absolutely nothing that you could", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["you might regret something even when realistically there's absolutely nothing that you could", 788.06, 791.14, 1.0]]}, {"start": 791.14, "end": 794.06, "text": "have done. And often in the relationships, there's not a lot you could have done. And", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["have done. And often in the relationships, there's not a lot you could have done. And", 791.14, 794.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 794.06, "end": 798.74, "text": "here's why, because you didn't, because you didn't know what you didn't know. So that's", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["here's why, because you didn't, because you didn't know what you didn't know. So that's", 794.06, 798.74, 1.0]]}, {"start": 798.74, "end": 802.18, "text": "the ultimate. I almost feel like this is one of those situations where I'll go to a movie", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["the ultimate. I almost feel like this is one of those situations where I'll go to a movie", 798.74, 802.18, 1.0]]}, {"start": 802.18, "end": 806.46, "text": "at times. I remember a James Bond movie once where I think he was going and jumping out", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["at times. I remember a James Bond movie once where I think he was going and jumping out", 802.18, 806.46, 1.0]]}, {"start": 806.46, "end": 810.86, "text": "of a train that was going across a bridge. And sometimes I'll laugh to myself that,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["of a train that was going across a bridge. And sometimes I'll laugh to myself that,", 806.46, 810.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 810.86, "end": 813.76, "text": "oh, what if he wouldn't have been able to get out of that train and then the train blew", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["oh, what if he wouldn't have been able to get out of that train and then the train blew", 810.86, 813.76, 1.0]]}, {"start": 814.03, "end": 817.74, "text": "up and the bridge fell? Well, it's about a 10-minute movie, which of course wouldn't", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["up and the bridge fell? 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And we're trying to make sense of things", 824.06, 828.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 829.02, "end": 831.38, "text": "that just will not make perfect sense.", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["that just will not make perfect sense.", 829.02, 831.38, 0.9683927893638611]]}, {"start": 831.927, "end": 836.92, "text": "And so if the answer truly is why, well, because you do, what do I do about it?", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["And so if the answer truly is why, well, because you do, what do I do about it?", 831.93, 836.92, 0.9683927893638611]]}, {"start": 836.92, "end": 839.858, "text": "Hell don't. Which I know it's not that easy.", "confidence": 0.87, "timestamps": [["Hell don't.", 836.92, 837.81, 0.8585776686668396], ["Which I know it's not that easy.", 838.31, 839.86, 0.8885949850082397]]}, {"start": 840.524, "end": 844.728, "text": "So, Cian says, the feeling of regret itself isn't proof that you did the wrong thing.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So, Cian says, the feeling of regret itself isn't proof that you did the wrong thing.", 840.52, 844.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 845.094, "end": 848.14, "text": "You might just simply have complicated feelings about your experience.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["You might just simply have complicated feelings about your experience.", 845.09, 848.14, 1.0]]}, {"start": 848.854, "end": 856.014, "text": "So why? Why is regret harmful? 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Cortisol helps you when you enter fight or flight mode.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Cortisol known as the stress hormone.", 864.33, 866.21, 1.0], ["Cortisol helps you when you enter fight or flight mode.", 866.21, 868.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 868.734, "end": 872.689, "text": "Chronically high levels of cortisol are associated with mental and physical health problems.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Chronically high levels of cortisol are associated with mental and physical health problems.", 868.73, 872.69, 1.0]]}, {"start": 873.294, "end": 878.414, "text": "So that cortisol keeps you out of your prefrontal cortex or your frontal lobe or the area of", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So that cortisol keeps you out of your prefrontal cortex or your frontal lobe or the area of", 873.29, 878.41, 1.0]]}, {"start": 878.414, "end": 881.835, "text": "your brain that makes more logical sense or decisions.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["your brain that makes more logical sense or decisions.", 878.41, 881.84, 1.0]]}, {"start": 882.454, "end": 887.614, "text": "So if those cortisol levels are high, your heart rate is elevated and you are, I feel", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So if those cortisol levels are high, your heart rate is elevated and you are, I feel", 882.45, 887.61, 1.0]]}, {"start": 887.614, "end": 892.454, "text": "like ruminating is one of those things that just brings on just more and more frustration", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["like ruminating is one of those things that just brings on just more and more frustration", 887.61, 892.45, 1.0]]}, {"start": 892.454, "end": 896.932, "text": "and that frustration raises your heart rate and raising your heart rate elevates your cortisol levels.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and that frustration raises your heart rate and raising your heart rate elevates your", 892.45, 896.09, 1.0], ["cortisol levels.", 896.09, 896.93, 1.0]]}, {"start": 897.535, "end": 902.027, "text": "And so it does become this vicious cycle. Sands said, many people ruminate about regrets,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so it does become this vicious cycle.", 897.54, 899.52, 1.0], ["Sands said, many people ruminate about regrets,", 900.01, 902.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 902.614, "end": 907.334, "text": "and then rumination. So rumination is when you can't stop thinking about the past, even when you are having", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and then rumination.", 902.61, 903.53, 1.0], ["So rumination is when you can't stop thinking", 903.53, 905.33, 1.0], ["about the past, even when you are having", 905.33, 907.33, 1.0]]}, {"start": 907.334, "end": 909.346, "text": "the same thoughts over and over again.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["the same thoughts over and over again.", 907.33, 909.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 909.974, "end": 913.244, "text": "So with rumination, the thoughts are negative or they're upsetting in nature.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So with rumination, the thoughts are negative", 909.97, 912.09, 1.0], ["or they're upsetting in nature.", 912.09, 913.24, 1.0]]}, {"start": 913.734, "end": 917.594, "text": "Sands says, although most people ruminate, rumination is associated with certain mental health", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Sands says, although most people ruminate,", 913.73, 915.64, 1.0], ["rumination is associated with certain mental health", 915.73, 917.59, 1.0]]}, {"start": 917.594, "end": 921.796, "text": "conditions, including depression, anxiety, PTSD, and OCD.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["conditions, including depression, anxiety, PTSD, and OCD.", 917.59, 921.8, 1.0]]}, {"start": 921.894, "end": 923.678, "text": "Those are the top four, I believe.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Those are the top four, I believe.", 921.89, 923.68, 1.0]]}, {"start": 923.934, "end": 929.052, "text": "They say it's not possible to avoid regret entirely, but managing regret in a healthy, positive way,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["They say it's not possible to avoid regret entirely,", 923.93, 926.63, 1.0], ["but managing regret in a healthy, positive way,", 926.77, 929.05, 1.0]]}, {"start": 929.634, "end": 931.258, "text": "can help you learn from the experience.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["can help you learn from the experience.", 929.63, 931.26, 1.0]]}, {"start": 931.894, "end": 936.574, "text": "So why, why do we regret? 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Why? What if I would", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Breathing, and then moving on, we feel like, no, I have to figure this out. Why? What if I would", 963.58, 970.29, 1.0]]}, {"start": 970.289, "end": 975.569, "text": "have done this? Why did I do this? Why didn't I do this? And again, that causes our heart rate to", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["have done this? Why did I do this? Why didn't I do this? And again, that causes our heart rate to", 970.29, 975.57, 1.0]]}, {"start": 975.569, "end": 982.049, "text": "elevate. So the antidote to that is acknowledging that happened, acknowledging I am noticing I am", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["elevate. 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So instead of don't ruminate, I'm noticing,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But don't think about something, I will think about that.", 993.19, 995.47, 1.0], ["So instead of don't ruminate, I'm noticing,", 995.83, 997.75, 1.0]]}, {"start": 997.889, "end": 999.117, "text": "I'm noticing that I'm ruminating.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm noticing that I'm ruminating.", 997.89, 999.12, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1000.009, "end": 1008.689, "text": "So that feels much more calming than what is wrong with me, because that too, nothing, nothing is wrong with you,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So that feels much more calming than what is wrong with me,", 1000.01, 1004.73, 1.0], ["because that too, nothing, nothing is wrong with you,", 1005.13, 1008.69, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1008.689, "end": 1010.27, "text": "you are just going through a moment", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["you are just going through a moment", 1008.69, 1010.27, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1010.689, "end": 1015.897, "text": "for the very first time in your life, which is causing you to ruminate and causing you to have regret.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["for the very first time in your life,", 1010.69, 1012.41, 1.0], ["which is causing you to ruminate", 1012.41, 1014.26, 1.0], ["and causing you to have regret.", 1014.53, 1015.9, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1016.569, "end": 1020.254, "text": "And I'm noticing all of those things. Those are definitely things.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I'm noticing all of those things.", 1016.57, 1018.73, 1.0], ["Those are definitely things.", 1018.89, 1020.25, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1020.809, "end": 1024.773, "text": "I'm also noticing right now that I'm wondering if I should edit out the part about a wombat.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm also noticing right now that I'm wondering", 1020.81, 1022.61, 1.0], ["if I should edit out the part about a wombat.", 1022.61, 1024.77, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1025.149, "end": 1029.929, "text": "I'm also noticing that I want to pull up another tab and look up and see what a wombat is.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm also noticing that I want to pull up another tab", 1025.15, 1027.68, 1.0], ["and look up and see what a wombat is.", 1028.01, 1029.93, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1029.929, "end": 1033.309, "text": "I'm also noticing that I want to know that maybe I'll put a picture of that", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm also noticing that I want to know", 1029.93, 1031.42, 1.0], ["that maybe I'll put a picture of that", 1031.77, 1033.31, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1033.309, "end": 1035.324, "text": "in the social media post that will go up.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["in the social media post that will go up.", 1033.31, 1035.32, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1036.289, "end": 1040.518, "text": "But those are all just things I'm noticing. and I don't need to tell myself,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But those are all just things I'm noticing.", 1036.29, 1037.89, 1.0], ["and I don't need to tell myself,", 1038.41, 1040.52, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1040.949, "end": 1043.129, "text": "oh my gosh, what is wrong with me for thinking those things?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["oh my gosh, what is wrong with me", 1040.95, 1042.13, 1.0], ["for thinking those things?", 1042.13, 1043.13, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1043.129, "end": 1045.1, "text": "Well, nothing, I'm just noticing I'm thinking them.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Well, nothing, I'm just noticing I'm thinking them.", 1043.13, 1045.1, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1045.969, "end": 1050.009, "text": "And instead of saying stop thinking about them, well, literally as I'm telling you that right now,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And instead of saying stop thinking about them,", 1045.97, 1048.09, 1.0], ["well, literally as I'm telling you that right now,", 1048.09, 1050.01, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1050.009, "end": 1053.95, "text": "I'm now trying to really think hard about, well, what is, again, what is a wombat?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm now trying to really think hard about,", 1050.01, 1052.29, 1.0], ["well, what is, again, what is a wombat?", 1052.29, 1053.95, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1054.609, "end": 1057.703, "text": "But the antidote, the answer is I'm noticing.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But the antidote, the answer is I'm noticing.", 1054.61, 1057.7, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1058.409, "end": 1063.15, "text": "And that is a thing, and back to the present, and actually literally right now,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And that is a thing, and back to the present,", 1058.41, 1061.42, 1.0], ["and actually literally right now,", 1061.69, 1063.15, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1063.649, "end": 1070.505, "text": "and get back to talking about the subject today rather than going on and on about this wombat.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and get back to talking about the subject today", 1063.65, 1067.17, 1.0], ["rather than going on and on about this wombat.", 1067.17, 1070.5, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1071.589, "end": 1077.112, "text": "So it's not possible to avoid regret, but managing it in a healthy way can help you learn.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So it's not possible to avoid regret,", 1071.59, 1074.25, 1.0], ["but managing it in a healthy way can help you learn.", 1074.71, 1077.11, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1077.729, "end": 1083.149, "text": "So San goes on to say, can regrets be a positive thing? So regret is a healthy, common feeling", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So San goes on to say, can regrets be a positive thing?", 1077.73, 1080.74, 1.0], ["So regret is a healthy, common feeling", 1080.95, 1083.15, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1083.149, "end": 1084.638, "text": "that most people feel once in a while.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that most people feel once in a while.", 1083.15, 1084.64, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1084.969, "end": 1088.077, "text": "And let's talk about, they say that the benefits of regret can include", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And let's talk about,", 1084.97, 1085.93, 1.0], ["they say that the benefits of regret can include", 1086.09, 1088.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1088.349, "end": 1090.922, "text": "improving your decision-making skills.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["improving your decision-making skills.", 1088.35, 1090.92, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1091.129, "end": 1095.629, "text": "So while you can't avoid mistakes altogether, regretting past decisions can actually help you", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So while you can't avoid mistakes altogether,", 1091.13, 1093.53, 1.0], ["regretting past decisions can actually help you", 1093.53, 1095.63, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1095.629, "end": 1098.448, "text": "make better, more thoughtful choices in the future. What would that look like?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["make better, more thoughtful choices in the future.", 1095.63, 1097.63, 1.0], ["What would that look like?", 1097.63, 1098.45, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1099.029, "end": 1104.137, "text": "That if I regret a past decision. So I'll give you a, might sound a little bit simplistic,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["That if I regret a past decision.", 1099.03, 1101.99, 1.0], ["So I'll give you a, might sound a little bit simplistic,", 1101.99, 1104.14, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1104.589, "end": 1108.593, "text": "but I do, I do regret that I bought all this podcast equipment and then I sat on it", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["but I do, I do regret that I bought", 1104.59, 1106.55, 1.0], ["all this podcast equipment and then I sat on it", 1106.55, 1108.59, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1108.709, "end": 1111.744, "text": "and I worried and I ruminated and I had imposter syndrome", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and I worried and I ruminated and I had imposter syndrome", 1108.71, 1111.74, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1112.089, "end": 1117.349, "text": "and I went through all the feelings and emotions of why it would be embarrassing to put out a podcast", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and I went through all the feelings and emotions", 1112.09, 1114.05, 1.0], ["of why it would be embarrassing to put out a podcast", 1114.05, 1117.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1117.349, "end": 1119.972, "text": "and I'm not even sure exactly what I'm doing and what if people don't listen?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and I'm not even sure exactly what I'm doing", 1117.35, 1118.87, 1.0], ["and what if people don't listen?", 1118.87, 1119.97, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1120.349, "end": 1125.716, "text": "And I do, I regret that I went through that intense period of rumination and feeling like an imposter.", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["And I do, I regret that I went through", 1120.35, 1122.55, 1.0], ["that intense period of rumination", 1122.55, 1124.43, 1.0], ["and feeling like an imposter.", 1124.43, 1125.72, 0.8841997981071472]]}, {"start": 1126.616, "end": 1136.086, "text": "How does that help me make more thoughtful choices now that I'm learning to trust my gut and to go forward with my instincts because.", "confidence": 0.98, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["How does that help me make more thoughtful choices now that I'm learning to trust my gut and to go forward with my instincts because.", 1126.62, 1136.09, 0.9833838939666748]]}, {"start": 1136.743, "end": 1152.866, "text": "Yeah, all those things could have happened. No one could have ever listened. I could have been made fun of continually, but knowing that as I then took action on this thing that I thought was important to me, then I felt more of a sense of purpose and peace, then I can learn from that.", "confidence": 0.98, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Yeah, all those things could have happened. No one could have ever listened. I could have been made fun of continually, but knowing that as I then took action on this thing that I thought was important to me, then I felt more of a sense of purpose and peace, then I can learn from that.", 1136.74, 1152.87, 0.9833838939666748]]}, {"start": 1153.154, "end": 1164.695, "text": "They gonna say regret can motivate you sometimes you can motivate you to perform better take healthy risks focus your energy on what matters to you i feel like we can almost plug in that this podcast example for for several of these benefits of regret.", "confidence": 0.9, "timestamps": [["They gonna say regret can motivate you sometimes you can motivate you to perform better take healthy risks focus your energy on what matters to you i feel like we can almost plug in that this podcast example for for several of these benefits of regret.", 1153.15, 1164.7, 0.9007763862609863]]}, {"start": 1165.308, "end": 1170.466, "text": "Can you be more self aware your regrets might teach you about your values your strengths and your weaknesses.", "confidence": 0.9, "timestamps": [["Can you be more self aware your regrets might teach you about your values your strengths and your weaknesses.", 1165.31, 1170.47, 0.9007763862609863]]}, {"start": 1170.961, "end": 1177.389, "text": "Over on the virtual couch side of things i feel like i went through a little period a few weeks ago of talking an awful lot about self confrontation.", "confidence": 0.9, "timestamps": [["Over on the virtual couch side of things i feel like i went through a little period a few weeks ago of talking an awful lot about self confrontation.", 1170.96, 1177.39, 0.9007763862609863]]}, {"start": 1177.83, "end": 1184.126, "text": "So any of the feelings, regret, sadness, fear, anger, that if you really look at those as a guide", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So any of the feelings, regret, sadness, fear, anger,", 1177.83, 1181.6, 1.0], ["that if you really look at those as a guide", 1181.93, 1184.13, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1184.126, "end": 1187.786, "text": "and as a teacher and learn to not push them away, but learn how to accept them,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and as a teacher and learn to not push them away,", 1184.13, 1186.27, 1.0], ["but learn how to accept them,", 1186.61, 1187.79, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1187.786, "end": 1191.396, "text": "how to take them in in their entirety as they are without defense,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["how to take them in in their entirety", 1187.79, 1189.53, 1.0], ["as they are without defense,", 1189.53, 1191.4, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1191.886, "end": 1193.638, "text": "then now I'm noticing regret.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["then now I'm noticing regret.", 1191.89, 1193.64, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1194.046, "end": 1198.186, "text": "And so how can I self-confront? What is that regret telling me? What's the story?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so how can I self-confront?", 1194.05, 1196.13, 1.0], ["What is that regret telling me?", 1196.13, 1197.35, 1.0], ["What's the story?", 1197.35, 1198.19, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1198.319, "end": 1201.726, "text": "That there's this fear of failure or there's this fear of, again,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["That there's this fear of failure", 1198.32, 1199.53, 1.0], ["or there's this fear of, again,", 1199.81, 1201.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1201.726, "end": 1204.053, "text": "being exposed as an imposter.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["being exposed as an imposter.", 1201.73, 1204.05, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1204.646, "end": 1208.686, "text": "So then I can now self-reflect. I can self-confront and then I can say,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So then I can now self-reflect.", 1204.65, 1206.65, 1.0], ["I can self-confront and then I can say,", 1206.65, 1208.69, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1208.686, "end": 1212.974, "text": "okay, well, what do I need to do there? Do I need to do more research before I put episodes out?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["okay, well, what do I need to do there?", 1208.69, 1210.17, 1.0], ["Do I need to do more research before I put episodes out?", 1210.17, 1212.97, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1213.406, "end": 1217.584, "text": "Or do I just need to acknowledge that those are stories my brain is telling me?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Or do I just need to acknowledge", 1213.41, 1215.65, 1.0], ["that those are stories my brain is telling me?", 1215.65, 1217.58, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1218.286, "end": 1222.246, "text": "But I won't get to that self-confrontation without feeling those uncomfortable feelings,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But I won't get to that self-confrontation", 1218.29, 1220.25, 1.0], ["without feeling those uncomfortable feelings,", 1220.25, 1222.25, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1222.246, "end": 1223.471, "text": "including things like regret.", "confidence": 0.94, "timestamps": [["including things like regret.", 1222.25, 1223.47, 0.9421678185462952]]}, {"start": 1224.173, "end": 1229.35, "text": "Regret can inspire gratitude. They said that you can use your regret to fuel a deeper appreciation,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Regret can inspire gratitude. They said that you can use your regret to fuel a deeper appreciation,", 1224.17, 1229.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1229.89, "end": 1233.703, "text": "for the decisions you don't regret and the positive things you have in your life. I love", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["for the decisions you don't regret and the positive things you have in your life. I love", 1229.89, 1233.7, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1233.703, "end": 1239.054, "text": "that reframe because as I'm talking about all the lessons that I have learned from regret being.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that reframe because as I'm talking about all the lessons that I have learned from regret being.", 1233.7, 1239.05, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1240.263, "end": 1246.663, "text": "To do and be more, to take action more, to trust my gut more, but I also like the fact that okay,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["To do and be more, to take action more, to trust my gut more, but I also like the fact that okay,", 1240.26, 1246.66, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1246.663, "end": 1251.703, "text": "but there are things that thankfully decisions made that I don't regret. The decision to go", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["but there are things that thankfully decisions made that I don't regret. The decision to go", 1246.66, 1251.7, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1251.703, "end": 1257.968, "text": "back to grad school in my early 30s. The decision to go from just making therapy almost a hobby", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["back to grad school in my early 30s. The decision to go from just making therapy almost a hobby", 1251.7, 1257.97, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1258.346, "end": 1264.063, "text": "to then jumping in with both feet and going into private practice. I was not a small business", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["to then jumping in with both feet and going into private practice. I was not a small business", 1258.35, 1264.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1264.494, "end": 1269.943, "text": "owner, so this is something that was, I did make certain decisions. So, those are decisions", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["owner, so this is something that was, I did make certain decisions. So, those are decisions", 1264.49, 1269.94, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1269.943, "end": 1274.783, "text": "that I absolutely do not regret. So, with this said, Stan says if your regret is excessive", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that I absolutely do not regret. So, with this said, Stan says if your regret is excessive", 1269.94, 1274.78, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1274.783, "end": 1279.42, "text": "or obsessive, then it could do more harm than good. And this is especially the case if you", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["or obsessive, then it could do more harm than good. And this is especially the case if you", 1274.78, 1279.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1279.519, "end": 1283.503, "text": "linger on regretful thoughts for far too long, or if you find it hard to think of anything", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["linger on regretful thoughts for far too long,", 1279.52, 1282.1, 1.0], ["or if you find it hard to think of anything", 1282.1, 1283.5, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1283.503, "end": 1284.39, "text": "other than your regrets.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["other than your regrets.", 1283.5, 1284.39, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1285.023, "end": 1290.538, "text": "And if that is part of your experience, I really do hope that you are working with a professional.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And if that is part of your experience,", 1285.02, 1287.24, 1.0], ["I really do hope that you are working with a professional.", 1287.24, 1290.54, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1290.703, "end": 1294.783, "text": "Find someone that really does understand the way the brain works.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Find someone that really does understand", 1290.7, 1293.1, 1.0], ["the way the brain works.", 1293.1, 1294.78, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1294.783, "end": 1300.332, "text": "I highly recommend things like a mindfulness practice or a technique, but start to do the work.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I highly recommend things like a mindfulness practice", 1294.78, 1297.44, 1.0], ["or a technique, but start to do the work.", 1297.44, 1300.33, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1300.503, "end": 1305.419, "text": "And if you find certain programs or tools or books or therapists or podcasts,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And if you find certain programs or tools or books", 1300.5, 1304.06, 1.0], ["or therapists or podcasts,", 1304.06, 1305.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1305.903, "end": 1309.003, "text": "and they give you that little bump of dopamine and I feel like I'm on a roll", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and they give you that little bump of dopamine", 1305.9, 1307.82, 1.0], ["and I feel like I'm on a roll", 1307.82, 1309.0, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1309.003, "end": 1310.082, "text": "and I'm starting to understand,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and I'm starting to understand,", 1309.0, 1310.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1310.603, "end": 1316.423, "text": "and then you just become a human being again, and then you don't continue with consistency", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and then you just become a human being again,", 1310.6, 1314.12, 1.0], ["and then you don't continue with consistency", 1314.24, 1316.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1316.423, "end": 1318.463, "text": "of whatever the thing is that you felt like was helping.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["of whatever the thing is that you felt like was helping.", 1316.42, 1318.46, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1319.183, "end": 1320.633, "text": "Then again, you're normal.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Then again, you're normal.", 1319.18, 1320.63, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1320.823, "end": 1325.083, "text": "You're a regular human being, and so when you notice that you are no longer doing", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["You're a regular human being,", 1320.82, 1322.49, 1.0], ["and so when you notice that you are no longer doing", 1322.92, 1325.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1325.083, "end": 1329.824, "text": "this exercise or this program, or you've stopped reading this book or going and getting help,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["this exercise or this program,", 1325.08, 1326.9, 1.0], ["or you've stopped reading this book", 1326.9, 1328.44, 1.0], ["or going and getting help,", 1328.8, 1329.82, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1330.472, "end": 1332.975, "text": "then just give yourself grace and just...", "confidence": 0.76, "timestamps": [["then just give yourself grace and just...", 1330.47, 1332.97, 0.7586551308631897]]}, {"start": 1333.866, "end": 1343.016, "text": "Rinse and repeat, return and then start to do again. Or if it's something that then you, it took you a certain way, let's use a 100-yard football field analogy.", "confidence": 0.99, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Rinse and repeat, return and then start to do again. 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2018 review found that the ideal related regrets are more endearing,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["What are common regrets?", 1407.5, 1408.39, 1.0], ["2018 review found that the ideal related regrets", 1408.54, 1411.82, 1.0], ["are more endearing,", 1411.94, 1413.78, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1414.346, "end": 1415.418, "text": "Wait, there's the wrong word.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Wait, there's the wrong word.", 1414.35, 1415.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1415.516, "end": 1420.504, "text": "Yeah, all those ideal-related regrets, the pain of regretting failures and decisions,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Yeah, all those ideal-related regrets,", 1415.52, 1417.6, 1.0], ["the pain of regretting failures and decisions,", 1417.8, 1420.5, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1420.856, "end": 1424.744, "text": "not living up to your goals and acting as if you're like your ideal self.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["not living up to your goals", 1420.86, 1422.0, 1.0], ["and acting as if you're like your ideal self.", 1422.0, 1424.74, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1425.276, "end": 1432.036, "text": "How endearing are those? No, they're not. 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that's part of, again, part of the experience of living and becoming more emotionally mature.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["So it's absolutely normal to grow and change and evolve and take in new information and have new feelings and thoughts because that's part of, again, part of the experience of living and becoming more emotionally mature.", 1483.26, 1495.98, 0.9913885593414307]]}, {"start": 1496.807, "end": 1501.722, "text": "But then a 2016 study based on a survey then ranked the participants most intense regrets.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["But then a 2016 study based on a survey then ranked the participants most intense regrets.", 1496.81, 1501.72, 0.9913885593414307]]}, {"start": 1502.118, "end": 1508.66, "text": "And in order of importance, it found that people typically regret, number one, decisions that broke their own life rules.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["And in order of importance, it found that people typically regret, number one, decisions that broke their own life rules.", 1502.12, 1508.66, 0.9913885593414307]]}, {"start": 1508.66, "end": 1511.283, "text": "In other words, decisions that went against their morals and values.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["In other words, decisions that went against their morals and values.", 1508.66, 1511.28, 0.9913885593414307]]}, {"start": 1511.553, "end": 1514.199, "text": "Number two, decisions that relate to relationships with others.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Number two, decisions that relate to relationships with others.", 1511.55, 1514.2, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1514.758, "end": 1517.89, "text": "And number three, decisions that lacked an explicit justification.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And number three, decisions that lacked an explicit justification.", 1514.76, 1517.89, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1518.737, "end": 1522.56, "text": "Let me go back to number one, the decisions that broke their own life rules.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, 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I will never do a certain thing if I am put in that position.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I will never do, I don't know, I fill in the blank.", 1534.72, 1537.06, 1.0], ["I will never do a certain thing if I am put in that position.", 1537.06, 1539.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1540.06, "end": 1541.233, "text": "It feels really good.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It feels really good.", 1540.06, 1541.23, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1541.46, "end": 1545.842, "text": "It gets rid of a lot of discomfort. It gives you this sense of purpose and confidence.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It gets rid of a lot of discomfort.", 1541.46, 1542.94, 1.0], ["It gives you this sense of purpose and confidence.", 1542.94, 1545.84, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1546.34, "end": 1551.703, "text": "But then you get put in that situation and now it's the first time that you're in that situation.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But then you get put in that situation", 1546.34, 1548.17, 1.0], ["and now it's the first time that you're in that situation.", 1548.3, 1551.7, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1552.22, "end": 1558.382, "text": "And what do you do? 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So I know that sounds a bit like a hypothetical.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But in that very moment, it's a whole new situation.", 1624.8, 1627.42, 1.0], ["So I know that sounds a bit like a hypothetical.", 1627.94, 1630.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1630.743, "end": 1634.419, "text": "I did fly to Russia once in the computer software, my computer software life,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I did fly to Russia once in the computer software, my computer software life,", 1630.74, 1634.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1634.419, "end": 1638.251, "text": "and I was literally between two very, very large people.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and I was literally between two very, very large people.", 1634.42, 1638.25, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1638.62, "end": 1642.419, "text": "And I did have a book that was very boring, but no one went into cardiac arrest,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I did have a book that was very boring, but no one went into cardiac arrest,", 1638.62, 1642.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1642.419, "end": 1644.419, "text": "and I didn't have to help or save anyone.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and I didn't have to help or save anyone.", 1642.42, 1644.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1645.434, "end": 1652.419, "text": "But give yourself grace. It is absolutely wonderful to set goals and make decisions of the things that you want to do with your life.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But give yourself grace. It is absolutely wonderful to set goals and make decisions of the things that you want to do with your life.", 1645.43, 1652.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1652.419, "end": 1658.419, "text": "Because in that moment that you are making that goal or that decision, then it brings you a sense of calm and a sense of peace.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Because in that moment that you are making that goal or that decision, then it brings you a sense of calm and a sense of peace.", 1652.42, 1658.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1658.419, "end": 1662.395, "text": "And it may even be your value-based goal in that very moment.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And it may even be your value-based goal in that very moment.", 1658.42, 1662.39, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1663.016, "end": 1666.419, "text": "But then when life happens, and it's not something that you just drilled through.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But then when life happens, and it's not something that you just drilled through.", 1663.02, 1666.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1666.419, "end": 1670.299, "text": "I mean, I think about professional athletes. I've had the opportunity to work with a couple.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I mean, I think about professional athletes. I've had the opportunity to work with a couple.", 1666.42, 1670.3, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1670.812, "end": 1677.456, "text": "And the just muscle memory and the repetition. 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I mean you're gonna be in", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["now you've got to make this free throw to win the game and you have 16,000", 1710.42, 1713.86, 1.0], ["fans booing at you, you're gonna lose your stuff. I mean you're gonna be in", 1713.86, 1718.22, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1718.219, "end": 1724.379, "text": "danger of soiling yourself because that moment is gonna be terrifying even though you may have dreamed your whole life,", "confidence": 0.95, "timestamps": [["danger of soiling yourself because that moment is gonna be terrifying even", 1718.22, 1722.14, 1.0], ["though you may have dreamed your whole life,", 1722.14, 1724.38, 0.9047158360481262]]}, {"start": 1724.379, "end": 1725.447, "text": "I want that moment.", "confidence": 0.82, "timestamps": [["I want that moment.", 1724.38, 1725.45, 0.8228988647460938]]}, {"start": 1726.293, "end": 1730.353, "text": "But it's that professional athlete that is just put in the time over and over the muscle memory.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But it's that professional athlete that is just put in the time over and over the muscle memory.", 1726.29, 1730.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1730.767, "end": 1735.052, "text": "So the reason I give that example is you can say I am going to be a person that takes action.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So the reason I give that example is you can say I am going to be a person that takes action.", 1730.77, 1735.05, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1735.475, "end": 1739.023, "text": "I'm a person that is going to be there for my spouse. 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So now when you are accosted in the park.", 1745.42, 1749.34, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1749.978, "end": 1754.783, "text": "And you're reaching in your spouse's back pocket to hand over the wallet when they really were just", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["And you're reaching in your spouse's back pocket to hand over the wallet when they really were just", 1749.98, 1754.78, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1754.783, "end": 1758.543, "text": "asking for, I don't know, something that wasn't their wallet, and then you say,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["asking for, I don't know, something that wasn't their wallet, and then you say,", 1754.78, 1758.54, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1758.543, "end": 1763.183, "text": "oh my gosh, I'm such a horrible person. No, you are just in life for the very first time", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["oh my gosh, I'm such a horrible person. No, you are just in life for the very first time", 1758.54, 1763.18, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1763.183, "end": 1768.577, "text": "making those decisions. So, that regret, the common regrets, give yourself grace.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["making those decisions. So, that regret, the common regrets, give yourself grace.", 1763.18, 1768.58, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1768.801, "end": 1773.903, "text": "The study also found that people were more likely to regret inaction than action. In other words,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["The study also found that people were more likely to regret inaction than action. In other words,", 1768.8, 1773.9, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1773.903, "end": 1778.783, "text": "you're more likely to regret the things you didn't do as opposed to the things you did do. Amen to", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["you're more likely to regret the things you didn't do as opposed to the things you did do. Amen to", 1773.9, 1778.78, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1778.783, "end": 1784.907, "text": "that one. I would rather have someone take action and then have that data to process than have.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that one. I would rather have someone take action and then have that data to process than have.", 1778.78, 1784.91, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1785.343, "end": 1791.903, "text": "Regret and wish, man, if only I would have done fill in the blank. I hesitate because what if I", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Regret and wish, man, if only I would have done fill in the blank. I hesitate because what if I", 1785.34, 1791.9, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1791.903, "end": 1797.583, "text": "don't get this filmed? But there is an upcoming virtual summit. I'll just put it that way that", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["don't get this filmed? But there is an upcoming virtual summit. I'll just put it that way that", 1791.9, 1797.58, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1797.583, "end": 1804.223, "text": "I'm participating in that if I complete my portion of that, it's something that I did not do last", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm participating in that if I complete my portion of that, it's something that I did not do last", 1797.58, 1804.22, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1804.223, "end": 1809.503, "text": "year because I just read the title and I thought, eh, it's not something I'm really necessarily", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["year because I just read the title and I thought, eh, it's not something I'm really necessarily", 1804.22, 1809.5, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1809.503, "end": 1815.583, "text": "interested in. I was invited to participate in it again this year and I saw a lot of the other", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["interested in. I was invited to participate in it again this year and I saw a lot of the other", 1809.5, 1815.58, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1815.583, "end": 1820.463, "text": "participants from last year, so maybe it was a FOMO, fear of missing out, but the topic that I", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["participants from last year, so maybe it was a FOMO, fear of missing out, but the topic that I", 1815.58, 1820.46, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1820.463, "end": 1825.103, "text": "was asked to present on is about, it's about couples and it's about how to, the anatomy of a", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["was asked to present on is about, it's about couples and it's about how to, the anatomy of a", 1820.46, 1825.1, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1825.103, "end": 1834.463, "text": "healthy relationship and I love talking about that. So, I did, I regretted that I didn't do this last year.", "confidence": 0.86, "timestamps": [["healthy relationship and I love talking about that. So, I did, I regretted that I didn't do this last", 1825.1, 1832.22, 1.0], ["year.", 1832.22, 1834.46, 0.728865385055542]]}, {"start": 1833.177, "end": 1841.027, "text": "So I am absolutely regretting the thing that I didn't do versus there are things that I have done that maybe there's been a little bit of regret of.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So I am absolutely regretting the thing that I didn't do versus there are things that I have done that maybe there's been a little bit of regret of.", 1833.18, 1841.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1841.027, "end": 1848.027, "text": "I've been on a couple of podcasts I did not absolutely prepare for, meaning that I did not read about, meaning that I didn't even know some of the questions that I would be asked.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I've been on a couple of podcasts I did not absolutely prepare for, meaning that I did not read about, meaning that I didn't even know some of the questions that I would be asked.", 1841.03, 1848.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1848.027, "end": 1852.027, "text": "And there's been a couple of those that have been definitely something that has caused a little bit of regret.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And there's been a couple of those that have been definitely something that has caused a little bit of regret.", 1848.03, 1852.03, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1852.027, "end": 1860.4, "text": "But it doesn't feel like the intense or the more powerful regret that comes from, I wish I would have taken action or done fill in the blank.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But it doesn't feel like the intense or the more powerful regret that comes from, I wish I would have taken action or done fill in the blank.", 1852.03, 1860.4, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1861.462, "end": 1865.787, "text": "Zan says, how to stop thinking about regrets. So, and I could have some fun with that one", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Zan says, how to stop thinking about regrets.", 1861.46, 1863.43, 1.0], ["So, and I could have some fun with that one", 1863.43, 1865.79, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1866.17, "end": 1870.387, "text": "just because I like to talk about how to stop thinking. You know, my brain right there is like,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["just because I like to talk about how to stop thinking.", 1866.17, 1868.59, 1.0], ["You know, my brain right there is like,", 1868.59, 1870.39, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1870.387, "end": 1871.391, "text": "I will continue to think them.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I will continue to think them.", 1870.39, 1871.39, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1872.047, "end": 1875.874, "text": "But let's talk about some strategies of being able to move past or through regret.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But let's talk about some strategies", 1872.05, 1873.71, 1.0], ["of being able to move past or through regret.", 1873.71, 1875.87, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1876.567, "end": 1879.899, "text": "So again, Zan says it's okay to have regrets. As mentioned, they might even be beneficial.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So again, Zan says it's okay to have regrets.", 1876.57, 1878.51, 1.0], ["As mentioned, they might even be beneficial.", 1878.51, 1879.9, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1880.427, "end": 1883.022, "text": "But if you often ruminate on regrets or find yourself having persistent,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But if you often ruminate on regrets", 1880.43, 1881.79, 1.0], ["or find yourself having persistent,", 1881.79, 1883.02, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1883.147, "end": 1887.01, "text": "unproductive thought spirals, you might want to find a way to shift your attention elsewhere.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["unproductive thought spirals,", 1883.15, 1884.43, 1.0], ["you might want to find a way", 1884.43, 1885.85, 1.0], ["to shift your attention elsewhere.", 1885.85, 1887.01, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1887.627, "end": 1890.787, "text": "Here are some ways to press pause on those unconstructive thoughts.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Here are some ways to press pause", 1887.63, 1889.19, 1.0], ["on those unconstructive thoughts.", 1889.19, 1890.79, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1890.787, "end": 1893.051, "text": "Number one, practice mindfulness.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Number one, practice mindfulness.", 1890.79, 1893.05, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1893.287, "end": 1899.136, "text": "Oh, I cannot say this enough, and it's probably been five minutes since I've said it on a podcast.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Oh, I cannot say this enough,", 1893.29, 1894.71, 1.0], ["and it's probably been five minutes", 1894.71, 1896.19, 1.0], ["since I've said it on a podcast.", 1896.19, 1899.14, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1899.907, "end": 1903.187, "text": "Mindfulness, mindfulness, mindfulness. 25% of the people that walk into my office", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Mindfulness, mindfulness, mindfulness.", 1899.91, 1901.31, 1.0], ["25% of the people that walk into my office", 1901.31, 1903.19, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1903.187, "end": 1907.346, "text": "when I suggest mindfulness are gonna just tune me right out and never even think about it again.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["when I suggest mindfulness are gonna just tune me right out", 1903.19, 1905.79, 1.0], ["and never even think about it again.", 1905.79, 1907.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1907.827, "end": 1911.747, "text": "And when I bring it up, they're gonna be like, right, right, mindfulness, presence, whatever that was.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And when I bring it up, they're gonna be like,", 1907.83, 1908.84, 1.0], ["right, right, mindfulness, presence, whatever that was.", 1908.95, 1911.75, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1911.747, "end": 1912.541, "text": "Breathe, I'm breathing.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Breathe, I'm breathing.", 1911.75, 1912.54, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1913.327, "end": 1919.067, "text": "Another 25% are going to then leave and they are gonna download some mindfulness app,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Another 25% are going to then leave", 1913.33, 1916.79, 1.0], ["and they are gonna download some mindfulness app,", 1916.79, 1919.07, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1919.067, "end": 1922.267, "text": "they're gonna find mindfulness meditation tracks on YouTube,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["they're gonna find mindfulness meditation tracks on YouTube,", 1919.07, 1922.27, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1922.267, "end": 1928.467, "text": "or they're going to just scour the internet for mindfulness scripts, and they're gonna do it.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["or they're going to just scour the internet", 1922.27, 1924.39, 1.0], ["for mindfulness scripts, and they're gonna do it.", 1924.39, 1928.47, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1928.467, "end": 1931.667, "text": "And they're gonna come back and they're gonna say, hey, I've been meditating for a week,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And they're gonna come back and they're gonna say,", 1928.47, 1930.15, 1.0], ["hey, I've been meditating for a week,", 1930.15, 1931.67, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1931.667, "end": 1933.849, "text": "and man, I'm starting to really feel like that's a thing.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and man, I'm starting to really feel like that's a thing.", 1931.67, 1933.85, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1934.187, "end": 1936.604, "text": "And I'll say, wait, what'd you do? You already did that?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I'll say, wait, what'd you do?", 1934.19, 1935.67, 1.0], ["You already did that?", 1935.67, 1936.6, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1936.987, "end": 1942.455, "text": "And that's that person that will say, well, I'm here. I mean, I wanna change, I'm taking action.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And that's that person that will say, well, I'm here.", 1936.99, 1939.91, 1.0], ["I mean, I wanna change, I'm taking action.", 1939.91, 1942.46, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1942.947, "end": 1949.007, "text": "And that person's growth will accelerate, it really will. And then 50% of the people I talk to are gonna say,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And that person's growth will accelerate, it really will.", 1942.95, 1946.32, 1.0], ["And then 50% of the people I talk to are gonna say,", 1946.75, 1949.01, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1949.007, "end": 1953.887, "text": "I'm on it. And then next week you're gonna say, hey, what was the thing again? The mind mind space", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm on it. And then next week you're gonna say, hey, what was the thing again? The mind mind space", 1949.01, 1953.89, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1953.887, "end": 1959.887, "text": "or mind mind heads thing. And then we're gonna talk about mindfulness. I particularly am a fan", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["or mind mind heads thing. And then we're gonna talk about mindfulness. I particularly am a fan", 1953.89, 1959.89, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1959.887, "end": 1963.727, "text": "of headspace, but there are a lot of apps and that that's gonna be repeated a few times. They", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["of headspace, but there are a lot of apps and that that's gonna be repeated a few times. They", 1959.89, 1963.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1963.727, "end": 1967.647, "text": "might even download the app. They might do it for a couple of days and say, hey, I did like that.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["might even download the app. They might do it for a couple of days and say, hey, I did like that.", 1963.73, 1967.65, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1967.647, "end": 1972.767, "text": "And I so I get it now. How are you? You don't bless your heart. A consistent mindfulness practice", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I so I get it now. How are you? You don't bless your heart. A consistent mindfulness practice", 1967.65, 1972.77, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1972.767, "end": 1978.767, "text": "is gonna then eventually help you put that pause in so that you can be in that moment. So that is", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["is gonna then eventually help you put that pause in so that you can be in that moment. So that is", 1972.77, 1978.77, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1978.767, "end": 1982.527, "text": "That is one of the best ways to notice that I am regretting something, notice that I am", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["That is one of the best ways to notice that I am regretting something, notice that I am", 1978.77, 1982.53, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1982.527, "end": 1983.443, "text": "having those feelings.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["having those feelings.", 1982.53, 1983.44, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1984.127, "end": 1987.773, "text": "So then you are focusing on savoring the moment instead of getting caught up in ruminating.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So then you are focusing on savoring the moment instead of getting caught up in ruminating.", 1984.13, 1987.77, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1987.927, "end": 1991.087, "text": "I'm noticing that I am ruminating and I'm back on savoring this very moment.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm noticing that I am ruminating and I'm back on savoring this very moment.", 1987.93, 1991.09, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1991.087, "end": 1993.066, "text": "What can I smell? What can I feel?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["What can I smell?", 1991.09, 1992.09, 1.0], ["What can I feel?", 1992.09, 1993.07, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1993.264, "end": 1997.087, "text": "What can I do? What can I listen to? What can I touch? What can I dance to?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["What can I do?", 1993.26, 1994.09, 1.0], ["What can I listen to?", 1994.09, 1995.09, 1.0], ["What can I touch?", 1995.09, 1996.09, 1.0], ["What can I dance to?", 1996.09, 1997.09, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1997.087, "end": 2001.127, "text": "There's so many things that you can do in that way to bring you back to present.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["There's so many things that you can do in that way to bring you back to present.", 1997.09, 2001.13, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2001.546, "end": 2005.993, "text": "And Sian says this isn't always easy, but mindfulness gets easier with practice and it really does.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And Sian says this isn't always easy, but mindfulness gets easier with practice and", 2001.55, 2005.33, 1.0], ["it really does.", 2005.33, 2005.99, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2006.75, "end": 2011.485, "text": "Focus your energy elsewhere. You could try engaging in an art project or reading an absorbing book.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Focus your energy elsewhere. You could try engaging in an art project or reading an absorbing book.", 2006.75, 2011.48, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2011.836, "end": 2017.8, "text": "You can just do. I'm noticing that I am thinking and feeling, and so I don't try to stop it. I", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["You can just do. I'm noticing that I am thinking and feeling, and so I don't try to stop it. I", 2011.84, 2017.8, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2017.8, "end": 2021.855, "text": "don't try to change it. I don't say what's wrong with me. I notice it. I say, thank you, body.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["don't try to change it. I don't say what's wrong with me. I notice it. I say, thank you, body.", 2017.8, 2021.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2021.963, "end": 2025.177, "text": "Those are thoughts and feelings, and I am going to pay attention to you more often now. And right.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Those are thoughts and feelings, and I am going to pay attention to you more often now. And right.", 2021.96, 2025.18, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2025.96, "end": 2029.0, "text": "Now, I'm going to invite all those thoughts and feelings to come along with me while I make some", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Now, I'm going to invite all those thoughts and feelings to come along with me while I make some", 2025.96, 2029.0, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2029.0, "end": 2034.76, "text": "chocolate chip cookies. Exercise. A large 2018 study found that short bursts of exercise reduced", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["chocolate chip cookies. Exercise. A large 2018 study found that short bursts of exercise reduced", 2029.0, 2034.76, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2034.76, "end": 2039.923, "text": "rumination and improve mood and participants. Drop down and give me 20. Push-ups, sit-ups,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["rumination and improve mood and participants. Drop down and give me 20. Push-ups, sit-ups,", 2034.76, 2039.92, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2040.12, "end": 2045.96, "text": "plank, who knows. Walk with a purpose around a building or wherever you're at, but if you can", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["plank, who knows. Walk with a purpose around a building or wherever you're at, but if you can", 2040.12, 2045.96, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2045.96, "end": 2052.52, "text": "notice that I am ruminating or regretting and then give yourself grace and then exercise. Go and do.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["notice that I am ruminating or regretting and then give yourself grace and then exercise. Go and do.", 2045.96, 2052.52, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2052.643, "end": 2057.88, "text": "Because here's one of the things that you're also doing. You are starting to create new relational", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Because here's one of the things that you're also doing. You are starting to create new relational", 2052.64, 2057.88, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2057.88, "end": 2062.42, "text": "frames. When I recognize that I'm ruminating, then I come back to the present moment. That's", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["frames. When I recognize that I'm ruminating, then I come back to the present moment. 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So if you start ruminating, it can say,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I just thought that the brain is similar to that.", 2114.7, 2117.58, 1.0], ["So if you start ruminating, it can say,", 2117.9, 2120.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2120.3, "end": 2121.646, "text": "Are we doing pushups?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Are we doing pushups?", 2120.3, 2121.65, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2122.12, "end": 2123.329, "text": "Because let's go ahead and start doing that.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Because let's go ahead and start doing that.", 2122.12, 2123.33, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2124.2, "end": 2126.88, "text": "They talked about journaling, and I've had a couple of guests.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["They talked about journaling,", 2124.2, 2125.24, 1.0], ["and I've had a couple of guests.", 2125.24, 2126.88, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2126.88, "end": 2130.4, "text": "On Waking Up to Narcissism, we had Dana Killian that talked about her journal,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["On Waking Up to Narcissism, we had Dana Killian", 2126.88, 2129.28, 1.0], ["that talked about her journal,", 2129.28, 2130.4, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2130.4, "end": 2132.574, "text": "which turned into her book, which is amazing.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["which turned into her book, which is amazing.", 2130.4, 2132.57, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2133.08, "end": 2137.219, "text": "And then over on the virtual couch, I had my good friend Zlatko, Z, who talked about,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And then over on the virtual couch,", 2133.08, 2134.8, 1.0], ["I had my good friend Zlatko, Z, who talked about,", 2134.8, 2137.22, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2137.48, "end": 2142.855, "text": "he had gone through a lot of things, and so he started writing, and 365 days later,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["he had gone through a lot of things,", 2137.48, 2139.5, 1.0], ["and so he started writing, and 365 days later,", 2139.5, 2142.85, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2143.4, "end": 2147.815, "text": "after writing every day, it is such a process for him, and he actually has a little mini course", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["after writing every day, it is such a process for him,", 2143.4, 2146.36, 1.0], ["and he actually has a little mini course", 2146.36, 2147.82, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2148.24, "end": 2151.722, "text": "that will help you get into the writing experience.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that will help you get into the writing experience.", 2148.24, 2151.72, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2152.16, "end": 2156.8, "text": "So journaling, let me wrap things up. Sian says, tips to move forward from regrets.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So journaling, let me wrap things up.", 2152.16, 2153.85, 1.0], ["Sian says, tips to move forward from regrets.", 2154.12, 2156.8, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2156.8, "end": 2157.61, "text": "Let yourself feel it.", "confidence": 0.84, "timestamps": [["Let yourself feel it.", 2156.8, 2157.61, 0.8411571383476257]]}, {"start": 2158.357, "end": 2161.407, "text": "Because regret can be so painful, it's tempting to just get away from it.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Because regret can be so painful, it's tempting to just get away from it.", 2158.36, 2161.41, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2161.407, "end": 2167.179, "text": "That's why I like to talk about we don't like feeling things, and so we want to move away from them, so we want to get rid of that discomfort.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["That's why I like to talk about we don't like feeling things, and so we want to move away from them, so we want to get rid of that discomfort.", 2161.41, 2167.18, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2167.899, "end": 2172.895, "text": "But it's not as scary as we think. So, sit there. Don't squish the feeling down.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But it's not as scary as we think.", 2167.9, 2169.6, 1.0], ["So, sit there. Don't squish the feeling down.", 2169.83, 2172.9, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2173.363, "end": 2178.711, "text": "Stan says, but avoiding your regret can actually make you feel worse. If you're unwilling to have it, you will.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Stan says, but avoiding your regret can actually make you feel worse. If you're unwilling to have it, you will.", 2173.36, 2178.71, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2179.152, "end": 2182.33, "text": "If I'm unwilling to have regret, then it will intensify.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["If I'm unwilling to have regret, then it will intensify.", 2179.15, 2182.33, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2182.861, "end": 2185.307, "text": "So instead, acknowledge what you're feeling. Try to accept it.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So instead, acknowledge what you're feeling. Try to accept it.", 2182.86, 2185.31, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2185.307, "end": 2189.118, "text": "Having regrets doesn't make you a bad or foolish person. It's a natural common emotion.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Having regrets doesn't make you a bad or foolish person.", 2185.31, 2187.75, 1.0], ["It's a natural common emotion.", 2187.75, 2189.12, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2189.867, "end": 2193.547, "text": "Draw something positive from the experience. We talked about how valuable regret can be.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Draw something positive from the experience.", 2189.87, 2191.59, 1.0], ["We talked about how valuable regret can be.", 2191.59, 2193.55, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2193.547, "end": 2196.517, "text": "It might be a valuable life lesson. 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If you have questions, please reach out to me", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So thank you so much for taking the time.", 2404.53, 2406.05, 1.0], ["If you have questions, please reach out to me", 2406.05, 2407.55, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2407.545, "end": 2409.142, "text": "at contactattonioverbay.com.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["at contactattonioverbay.com.", 2407.55, 2409.14, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2409.545, "end": 2414.444, "text": "And I welcome you to take a look at some of the other offerings that I have that are going on out there,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I welcome you to take a look at some of the other", 2409.55, 2412.45, 1.0], ["offerings that I have that are going on out there,", 2412.45, 2414.44, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2414.845, "end": 2420.809, "text": "especially the Waking Up to Narcissism Premium Q&A Podcast. 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