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I am your host Tony Overbay.", 21.52, 26.57, 0.9691787958145142]]}, {"start": 26.962, "end": 31.285, "text": "I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified mindful habit coach, writer, speaker,", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified mindful habit coach, writer, speaker,", 26.96, 31.29, 0.9691787958145142]]}, {"start": 31.285, "end": 34.731, "text": "husband and father of four, and creator of The Path Back, an online pornography recovery,", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["husband and father of four, and creator of The Path Back, an online pornography recovery,", 31.29, 34.73, 0.9691787958145142]]}, {"start": 35.424, "end": 41.085, "text": "program that is helping people turn to a life of amazing, wonderful things. And let's just", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["program that is helping people turn to a life of amazing, wonderful things. And let's just", 35.42, 41.09, 0.9691787958145142]]}, {"start": 41.085, "end": 45.885, "text": "stop right there. Turn to a life of amazing, wonderful things. And we're talking about", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["stop right there. Turn to a life of amazing, wonderful things. And we're talking about", 41.09, 45.89, 0.9691787958145142]]}, {"start": 45.885, "end": 50.026, "text": "a pornography recovery program in the same paragraph.", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["a pornography recovery program in the same paragraph.", 45.89, 50.03, 0.9691787958145142]]}, {"start": 50.725, "end": 54.965, "text": "We're going to talk a little bit more about pornography. And that always sounds funny", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["We're going to talk a little bit more about pornography. And that always sounds funny", 50.73, 54.97, 1.0]]}, {"start": 54.965, "end": 60.165, "text": "to say when I was creating my pornography recovery program with the help of Craig Parra", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["to say when I was creating my pornography recovery program with the help of Craig Parra", 54.97, 60.17, 1.0]]}, {"start": 60.165, "end": 66.365, "text": "who is a leader in this field of the new way to look at overcoming addiction and impulse", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["who is a leader in this field of the new way to look at overcoming addiction and impulse", 60.17, 66.37, 1.0]]}, {"start": 66.365, "end": 71.345, "text": "control and unhealthy coping mechanisms. I would go shoot at his place and he had a green", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["control and unhealthy coping mechanisms. I would go shoot at his place and he had a green", 66.37, 71.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 71.345, "end": 75.405, "text": "screen and he had the professional recording equipment. I remember telling my friends at", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["screen and he had the professional recording equipment. I remember telling my friends at", 71.35, 75.41, 1.0]]}, {"start": 75.405, "end": 80.165, "text": "the time I would say, oh, I can't do something on Friday because I'm shooting my porn videos", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["the time I would say, oh, I can't do something on Friday because I'm shooting my porn videos", 75.41, 80.17, 1.0]]}, {"start": 80.165, "end": 85.365, "text": "and I didn't say that to be funny. I just, it kind of, it came out and then I would realize", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and I didn't say that to be funny. I just, it kind of, it came out and then I would realize", 80.17, 85.37, 1.0]]}, {"start": 85.365, "end": 89.275, "text": "somebody was around me that that sure didn't sound like what I wanted it to sound like.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["somebody was around me that that sure didn't sound like what I wanted it to sound like.", 85.37, 89.28, 1.0]]}, {"start": 89.845, "end": 95.285, "text": "But the Path Back was something that we created years ago and I have since helped a lot of", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But the Path Back was something that we created years ago and I have since helped a lot of", 89.85, 95.29, 1.0]]}, {"start": 95.285, "end": 99.845, "text": "people turn to healthier coping mechanisms and move away from turning to pornography", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["people turn to healthier coping mechanisms and move away from turning to pornography", 95.29, 99.85, 1.0]]}, {"start": 99.845, "end": 104.462, "text": "as a coping mechanism. And today we're going to talk about a really, it's a new tool, it's,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["as a coping mechanism. And today we're going to talk about a really, it's a new tool, it's,", 99.85, 104.46, 1.0]]}, {"start": 104.965, "end": 111.25, "text": "an app that is seeing a lot of success in helping people find more of a sense of community", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["an app that is seeing a lot of success in helping people find more of a sense of community", 104.97, 111.25, 1.0]]}, {"start": 111.547, "end": 116.725, "text": "and the efficacy or how helpful that is in people turning away from unhealthy coping", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and the efficacy or how helpful that is in people turning away from unhealthy coping", 111.55, 116.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 116.725, "end": 122.179, "text": "mechanisms. Now, the company is called Relay and we're going to talk about the Relay app.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["mechanisms. Now, the company is called Relay and we're going to talk about the Relay app.", 116.73, 122.18, 1.0]]}, {"start": 123.133, "end": 127.067, "text": "But it really can work with any unhealthy coping mechanism, whether you're turning to", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But it really can work with any unhealthy coping mechanism, whether you're turning to", 123.13, 127.07, 1.0]]}, {"start": 127.112, "end": 132.845, "text": "food or gambling or pornography, anything like that as this unhealthy coping mechanism,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["food or gambling or pornography, anything like that as this unhealthy coping mechanism,", 127.11, 132.85, 1.0]]}, {"start": 132.845, "end": 135.165, "text": "a sense of community can just do wonders.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["a sense of community can just do wonders.", 132.85, 135.17, 1.0]]}, {"start": 135.165, "end": 140.285, "text": "When you can turn to someone and say, hey, I need a little help or I need a little support", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["When you can turn to someone and say,", 135.17, 137.21, 1.0], ["hey, I need a little help or I need a little support", 137.69, 140.29, 1.0]]}, {"start": 140.285, "end": 144.765, "text": "or does anybody have my back, that that can just be one of these amazing tools", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["or does anybody have my back,", 140.29, 141.79, 1.0], ["that that can just be one of these amazing tools", 142.25, 144.77, 1.0]]}, {"start": 144.765, "end": 146.629, "text": "in your arsenal on the road to recovery.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["in your arsenal on the road to recovery.", 144.77, 146.63, 1.0]]}, {"start": 147.583, "end": 152.605, "text": "But I thought I would take this opportunity before I get to this interview with their CEO Chandler Rogers,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But I thought I would take this opportunity", 147.58, 149.29, 1.0], ["before I get to this interview", 149.41, 150.93, 1.0], ["with their CEO Chandler Rogers,", 150.93, 152.61, 1.0]]}, {"start": 152.605, "end": 156.495, "text": "and I thought we had a really fun conversation. It's not very long.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and I thought we had a really fun conversation.", 152.61, 155.53, 1.0], ["It's not very long.", 155.53, 156.5, 1.0]]}, {"start": 156.885, "end": 158.53, "text": "So I haven't really talked about.", "confidence": 0.88, "timestamps": [["So I haven't really talked about.", 156.89, 158.53, 0.8824476003646851]]}, {"start": 159.718, "end": 171.538, "text": "Talked about dealing with pornography in quite a while. And so I just thought I would give a state of the union address, so to speak, in my work still in helping people overcome turning to pornography as a coping mechanism, which is a mouthful.", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["Talked about dealing with pornography in quite a while.", 159.72, 162.69, 0.963997483253479], ["And so I just thought I would give a state of the union address, so to speak, in my work still in helping people overcome turning to pornography as a coping mechanism, which is a mouthful.", 162.73, 171.54, 0.963997483253479]]}, {"start": 171.853, "end": 176.399, "text": "And but it's very intentional because I don't really like saying the pornography addiction.", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["And but it's very intentional because I don't really like saying the pornography addiction.", 171.85, 176.4, 0.963997483253479]]}, {"start": 176.624, "end": 179.964, "text": "And I was interviewed again on a podcast a couple of weeks ago.", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["And I was interviewed again on a podcast a couple of weeks ago.", 176.62, 179.96, 0.963997483253479]]}, {"start": 180.45, "end": 186.08, "text": "It's called unashamed and unafraid and that was one of the I want to say one of the funnest interviews", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It's called unashamed and unafraid and that was one of the I want to say one of the funnest interviews", 180.45, 186.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 186.08, "end": 191.22, "text": "I think I've done in a long time Which is so ironic or odd to say when we talked about pornography for an hour,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I think I've done in a long time", 186.08, 187.16, 1.0], ["Which is so ironic or odd to say when we talked about pornography for an hour,", 187.16, 191.22, 1.0]]}, {"start": 191.757, "end": 196.186, "text": "but one of the first questions that they asked was do I feel like pornography is an addiction now by.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["but one of the first questions that they asked was do I feel like pornography is an addiction now by.", 191.76, 196.19, 1.0]]}, {"start": 197.132, "end": 202.58, "text": "Definition or in the diagnostic and statistical manual or the ICD the International Code of,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Definition or in the diagnostic and statistical manual or the ICD the International Code of,", 197.13, 202.58, 1.0]]}, {"start": 203.16, "end": 208.06, "text": "Diagnoses there isn't a specific diagnosis of pornography addiction now", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Diagnoses there isn't a specific diagnosis of pornography addiction now", 203.16, 208.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 208.06, "end": 212.94, "text": "there is impulse control disorder and compulsive behavior and so if we really", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["there is impulse control disorder and compulsive behavior and so if we really", 208.06, 212.94, 1.0]]}, {"start": 212.94, "end": 217.0, "text": "needed to give something a diagnosis we could do that. But what I said then and", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["needed to give something a diagnosis we could do that. But what I said then and", 212.94, 217.0, 1.0]]}, {"start": 217.0, "end": 224.34, "text": "what I will continue to say is I just really want to meet somebody where they're at and on that note I'm gonna use humor. So if somebody says that I", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["what I will continue to say is I just really want to meet somebody where", 217.0, 220.74, 1.0], ["they're at and on that note I'm gonna use humor. So if somebody says that I", 220.74, 224.34, 1.0]]}, {"start": 224.34, "end": 230.02, "text": "feel like I work better without a label then okay then that one's pretty easy so", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["feel like I work better without a label then okay then that one's pretty easy so", 224.34, 230.02, 1.0]]}, {"start": 230.02, "end": 233.62, "text": "we won't label you but what can I help you with? But if somebody said it was", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["we won't label you but what can I help you with? But if somebody said it was", 230.02, 233.62, 1.0]]}, {"start": 233.62, "end": 242.22, "text": "once I received this label or title of addict that then I really took it seriously, then okay, I can do that as well. And I'm not a fan of the word", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["once I received this label or title of addict that then I really took it", 233.62, 237.78, 1.0], ["seriously, then okay, I can do that as well. And I'm not a fan of the word", 237.78, 242.22, 1.0]]}, {"start": 242.22, "end": 245.7, "text": "relapse. I don't mind something like setback. But if somebody says, okay,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["relapse. I don't mind something like setback. 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I haven't really updated this part in a while because I think that when you can get people dialed in in these areas,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I'm sure there's more. I haven't really updated this part in a while because I think that when you can get people dialed in in these areas,", 291.38, 297.27, 1.0]]}, {"start": 297.651, "end": 301.594, "text": "the siren song of turning to an unhealthy coping mechanism lessens a great deal.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["the siren song of turning to an unhealthy coping mechanism lessens a great deal.", 297.65, 301.59, 1.0]]}, {"start": 301.936, "end": 306.617, "text": "So these voids are when people don't feel connected in their marriage or their relationship in general,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So these voids are when people don't feel connected in their marriage or their relationship in general,", 301.94, 306.62, 1.0]]}, {"start": 307.058, "end": 336.919, "text": "or if they don't feel a connection as a parent, or if they don't feel if they are good in their faith, whatever that faith is, or if they feel like their health is something that they is not where they want it to be, or if they don't like what they do, what they do for a living, whether that is high powered corporate attorney, or if they don't really enjoy being a stay at home mom, whatever that looks like when people don't feel a connection or a sense of purpose in any of those areas, then I feel like it's very easy to turn to an unhealthy coping mechanism.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["or if they don't feel a connection as a parent, or if they don't feel if they are good in their faith, whatever that faith is, or if they feel like their health is something that they is not where they want it to be, or if they don't like what they do, what they do for a living, whether that is high powered corporate attorney, or if they don't really enjoy being a stay at home mom, whatever that looks like when people don't feel a connection or a sense of purpose in any of those areas, then I feel like it's very easy to turn to an unhealthy coping mechanism.", 307.06, 336.92, 1.0]]}, {"start": 337.441, "end": 355.939, "text": "And I love acceptance and commitment therapy as I've said about 900 million times I think on the podcast and in this world of acceptance and commitment therapy, I especially appreciate the concept of socially compliant goal, which is if I am doing something that I think someone else wants me to do or if I'm doing it so that I will get the praise of others.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["And I love acceptance and commitment therapy as I've said about 900 million times I think on the podcast and in this world of acceptance and commitment therapy, I especially appreciate the concept of socially compliant goal, which is if I am doing something that I think someone else wants me to do or if I'm doing it so that I will get the praise of others.", 337.44, 355.94, 1.0]]}, {"start": 355.939, "end": 362.019, "text": "Of others, if I am living a life full of socially compliant goals, then according to Dr. Stephen", "confidence": 0.85, "timestamps": [["Of others, if I am living a life full of socially compliant goals, then according to Dr. Stephen", 355.94, 362.02, 0.8472474813461304]]}, {"start": 362.019, "end": 367.259, "text": "Hayes, the founder of ACT, then my motivation is weak and ineffective because it goes against", "confidence": 0.85, "timestamps": [["Hayes, the founder of ACT, then my motivation is weak and ineffective because it goes against", 362.02, 367.26, 0.8472474813461304]]}, {"start": 367.259, "end": 373.439, "text": "my own process of unfolding. 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I am going to use what is also an act referred to as experiential avoidance. I am going to do any other experience to avoid the life that I am currently in because I may not feel like I am living this life for me.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Then I am going to turn to other things to cope. I am going to use what is also an act referred to as experiential avoidance. 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In that moment, they really do mean that this is the last time.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["This is it, this is the last time I'm doing it. In that moment, they really do mean that this is the last time.", 427.17, 432.14, 1.0]]}, {"start": 432.361, "end": 437.897, "text": "And I've been talking a lot on the virtual couch over the last few months on what do we do with discomfort?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I've been talking a lot on the virtual couch over the last few months on what do we do with discomfort?", 432.36, 437.9, 1.0]]}, {"start": 438.095, "end": 442.957, "text": "So if we don't feel a connection in these areas in our lives, then we feel uncomfortable.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So if we don't feel a connection in these areas in our lives, then we feel uncomfortable.", 438.1, 442.96, 1.0]]}, {"start": 443.038, "end": 448.124, "text": "If I don't know how to parent well, if I don't have a framework to operate from, from parenting,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["If I don't know how to parent well, if I don't have a framework to operate from, from parenting,", 443.04, 448.12, 1.0]]}, {"start": 448.43, "end": 452.812, "text": "If sometimes I am very angry and sometimes I'm happy and sometimes I am willing to say,", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["If sometimes I am very angry and sometimes I'm happy and sometimes I am willing to say,", 448.43, 452.81, 0.9923083186149597]]}, {"start": 452.812, "end": 457.09, "text": "hey, champ, come tell me what's going on. And other times I just feel like I'm just not in a mood right now,", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["hey, champ, come tell me what's going on. And other times I just feel like I'm just not in a mood right now,", 452.81, 457.09, 0.9923083186149597]]}, {"start": 457.63, "end": 462.933, "text": "then I can over time start to really feel bad about myself and it can feel uncomfortable to be a parent.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["then I can over time start to really feel bad about myself and it can feel uncomfortable to be a parent.", 457.63, 462.93, 0.9923083186149597]]}, {"start": 463.356, "end": 470.828, "text": "So what do I do with that discomfort? People will drink. I mean, they will numb out. They'll binge on shows. They'll turn to pornography.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["So what do I do with that discomfort? People will drink. I mean, they will numb out. They'll binge on shows. They'll turn to pornography.", 463.36, 470.83, 0.9923083186149597]]}, {"start": 471.053, "end": 474.059, "text": "They'll just look at their phones, whatever that looks like.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["They'll just look at their phones, whatever that looks like.", 471.05, 474.06, 0.9923083186149597]]}, {"start": 474.645, "end": 479.911, "text": "And so, we get rid of our discomfort often by turning to coping mechanisms.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["And so, we get rid of our discomfort often by turning to coping mechanisms.", 474.64, 479.91, 1.0]]}, {"start": 480.235, "end": 483.836, "text": "And one of the best things that we can do is really learn to sit with discomfort.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And one of the best things that we can do is really learn to sit with discomfort.", 480.23, 483.84, 1.0]]}, {"start": 484.052, "end": 490.692, "text": "And especially when we just have the world is at our fingertips and we don't have to sit with discomfort.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And especially when we just have the world is at our fingertips and we don't have to sit with discomfort.", 484.05, 490.69, 1.0]]}, {"start": 490.692, "end": 495.052, "text": "It has to be something that is very intentional for us to do, then we will turn away.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It has to be something that is very intentional for us to do, then we will turn away.", 490.69, 495.05, 1.0]]}, {"start": 495.052, "end": 500.886, "text": "We might then turn to this unhealthy coping mechanism and again, feel like in the moment, that's the last time I'm ever doing it.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["We might then turn to this unhealthy coping mechanism and again, feel like in the moment, that's the last time I'm ever doing it.", 495.05, 500.89, 1.0]]}, {"start": 501.39, "end": 518.198, "text": "And I really believe that people do believe that. And oftentimes, if somebody gets caught, let's say they get caught and they're looking at porn or they get caught in any kind of unhealthy coping mechanism by a spouse or by somebody that they're interacting with, somebody that they care about or cares about them, then when they get caught, they feel uncomfortable.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["And I really believe that people do believe that.", 501.39, 503.6, 1.0], ["And oftentimes, if somebody gets caught, let's say they get caught and they're looking at porn or they get caught in any kind of unhealthy coping mechanism by a spouse or by somebody that they're interacting with, somebody that they care about or cares about them, then when they get caught, they feel uncomfortable.", 503.72, 518.2, 0.9898269176483154]]}, {"start": 518.369, "end": 520.493, "text": "And so there's a lot of ways to get rid of that discomfort.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["And so there's a lot of ways to get rid of that discomfort.", 518.37, 520.49, 0.9898269176483154]]}, {"start": 520.826, "end": 524.772, "text": "One is to go complete victim. 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And that will make that person that was feeling bad, they'll feel a lot better.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["You're all right.", 535.43, 536.37, 0.9952895045280457], ["And that will make that person that was feeling bad, they'll feel a lot better.", 536.46, 539.81, 0.9952895045280457]]}, {"start": 540.452, "end": 543.971, "text": "Or the person that gets, let's say, just, we'll say getting caught in this scenario,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Or the person that gets, let's say, just, we'll say getting caught in this scenario,", 540.45, 543.97, 0.9952895045280457]]}, {"start": 544.532, "end": 548.692, "text": "that then they may get angry and they say, okay, what were you even doing snooping?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that then they may get angry and they say, okay, what were you even doing snooping?", 544.53, 548.69, 0.9952895045280457]]}, {"start": 548.692, "end": 549.692, "text": "Why were you even looking?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Why were you even looking?", 548.69, 549.69, 0.9952895045280457]]}, {"start": 549.822, "end": 553.692, "text": "Can't even believe I don't have privacy,\" then that's a way for them to alleviate", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["Can't even believe I don't have privacy,\" then that's a way for them to alleviate", 549.82, 553.69, 0.9902307987213135]]}, {"start": 553.692, "end": 556.646, "text": "Their discomfort is through anger and putting it back on this other person.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["Their discomfort is through anger and putting it back on this other person.", 553.69, 556.65, 0.9881288409233093]]}, {"start": 557.267, "end": 563.47, "text": "And so there's so many ways other than just to sit with that discomfort and then to self-confront.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so there's so many ways other than just to sit with that discomfort and then to self-confront.", 557.27, 563.47, 1.0]]}, {"start": 563.956, "end": 568.077, "text": "What am I pretending not to know? 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So, there are people that are going to say, okay, you just need to really try harder and you need to do some gratitude journals every day and you need to do your push-ups and you need to have a mantra and then we'll check in once a week and you pay me the five grand and then you'll be great.", 818.78, 835.78, 1.0]]}, {"start": 836.194, "end": 841.497, "text": "And that will work until it doesn't because it really has to be this internal change and", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And that will work until it doesn't because it really has to be this internal change and", 836.19, 841.5, 1.0]]}, {"start": 841.497, "end": 843.458, "text": "that locus of change is on you.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that locus of change is on you.", 841.5, 843.46, 1.0]]}, {"start": 843.977, "end": 848.257, "text": "And too often I think when we turn to just simply a course or a guru or someone like", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["And too often I think when we turn to just simply a course or a guru or someone like", 843.98, 848.26, 1.0]]}, {"start": 848.257, "end": 852.353, "text": "that, then we're saying lead me, oh course or guru and I will follow.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that, then we're saying lead me, oh course or guru and I will follow.", 848.26, 852.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 852.74, "end": 855.81, "text": "But in reality, this is an individualized treatment plan.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But in reality, this is an individualized treatment plan.", 852.74, 855.81, 1.0]]}, {"start": 856.197, "end": 861.706, "text": "So, when I'm talking about a course ironically, then like my path back, I've got some tools", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So, when I'm talking about a course ironically, then like my path back, I've got some tools", 856.2, 861.71, 1.0]]}, {"start": 861.886, "end": 864.297, "text": "that will- I've got a vehicle that will lead you to the destination.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that will- I've got a vehicle that will lead you to the destination.", 861.89, 864.3, 1.0]]}, {"start": 864.297, "end": 867.437, "text": "And I personally think that that vehicle is a very powerful one that it's based on real", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I personally think that that vehicle is a very powerful one that it's based on real", 864.3, 867.44, 1.0]]}, {"start": 867.437, "end": 873.616, "text": "data and evidence and experience. 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That is the time for self-confrontation.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["What again?", 893.82, 894.7, 1.0], ["What am I pretending to know in that moment?", 894.7, 896.58, 1.0], ["That is the time for self-confrontation.", 896.58, 898.0, 1.0]]}, {"start": 898.497, "end": 902.855, "text": "And it still comes with an absolute no shame. It needs to come from a place of no shame.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And it still comes with an absolute no shame.", 898.5, 900.61, 1.0], ["It needs to come from a place of no shame.", 900.96, 902.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 903.497, "end": 908.707, "text": "That there is nothing inherently wrong with you. You are a human being that is reacting to the situations in your life.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["That there is nothing inherently wrong with you.", 903.5, 905.55, 1.0], ["You are a human being that is reacting to the situations in your life.", 905.86, 908.71, 1.0]]}, {"start": 909.337, "end": 910.084, "text": "So check that out.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So check that out.", 909.34, 910.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 910.537, "end": 915.377, "text": "So then when you turn inward and you self-reflect and you aren't just simply wanting someone", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So then when you turn inward and you self-reflect and you aren't just simply wanting someone", 910.54, 915.38, 1.0]]}, {"start": 915.377, "end": 920.329, "text": "else to tell you you're okay, you have to start and operate from this place of you're okay.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["else to tell you you're okay, you have to start and operate from this place of you're", 915.38, 919.46, 1.0], ["okay.", 919.46, 920.33, 1.0]]}, {"start": 920.608, "end": 925.235, "text": "I am telling you, you are okay. You are a human being going through life for the first time as you,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I am telling you, you are okay. You are a human being going through life for the first time as you,", 920.61, 925.24, 1.0]]}, {"start": 925.676, "end": 929.417, "text": "and you have a lot of things that brought you to this moment. And now, what do you do with that", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and you have a lot of things that brought you to this moment. And now, what do you do with that", 925.68, 929.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 929.417, "end": 934.857, "text": "information? What person do you want to become? Did you want to even overcome turning to pornography", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["information? What person do you want to become? Did you want to even overcome turning to pornography", 929.42, 934.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 934.857, "end": 939.417, "text": "as an unhealthy coping mechanism? I still love telling the story. I got, I'll call it almost", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["as an unhealthy coping mechanism? I still love telling the story. I got, I'll call it almost", 934.86, 939.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 939.417, "end": 945.417, "text": "Shanghai'd once on a national radio show where the guy said he wants a porn expert to come on", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Shanghai'd once on a national radio show where the guy said he wants a porn expert to come on", 939.42, 945.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 945.417, "end": 948.377, "text": "and talk about it. And I jump on there. I didn't do a lot of research and right out of the gate,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and talk about it. And I jump on there. I didn't do a lot of research and right out of the gate,", 945.42, 948.38, 1.0]]}, {"start": 948.377, "end": 953.577, "text": "He said, well, I think it's okay. I think it's fine. And I said, that's awesome. Then you wouldn't need my services.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["He said, well, I think it's okay. I think it's fine. And I said, that's awesome. Then you wouldn't need my services.", 948.38, 953.58, 0.9997097849845886]]}, {"start": 954.204, "end": 958.777, "text": "And he says, I do struggle with I think eating brownies or chocolate. And I said, well, I can help with that.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And he says, I do struggle with I think eating brownies or chocolate. And I said, well, I can help with that.", 954.2, 958.78, 0.9997097849845886]]}, {"start": 959.003, "end": 964.926, "text": "But if you feel like things are good with porn, then go for it. And I said, I might challenge that in the relationship.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But if you feel like things are good with porn, then go for it. 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And then we had a good discussion.", 965.47, 969.18, 0.9997097849845886]]}, {"start": 969.177, "end": 972.577, "text": "And by the end of the interview, he called me a friend of the program.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And by the end of the interview, he called me a friend of the program.", 969.18, 972.58, 1.0]]}, {"start": 972.577, "end": 974.333, "text": "So I guess that was a good thing.", "confidence": 0.91, "timestamps": [["So I guess that was a good thing.", 972.58, 974.33, 0.9114144444465637]]}, {"start": 975.711, "end": 980.001, "text": "But there's a couple of quotes I think about when it comes to these concepts around self-confrontation", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But there's a couple of quotes I think about when it comes to these concepts around self-confrontation", 975.71, 980.0, 1.0]]}, {"start": 980.001, "end": 984.121, "text": "and getting rid of shame and what am I pretending not to know and just starting to learn to", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and getting rid of shame and what am I pretending not to know and just starting to learn to", 980.0, 984.12, 1.0]]}, {"start": 984.121, "end": 988.641, "text": "sit with this discomfort. Albert Einstein said once, he said, you cannot solve a problem", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["sit with this discomfort. Albert Einstein said once, he said, you cannot solve a problem", 984.12, 988.64, 1.0]]}, {"start": 988.641, "end": 993.081, "text": "from the same consciousness that created. You must learn to see the world anew. So,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["from the same consciousness that created. You must learn to see the world anew. So,", 988.64, 993.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 993.081, "end": 997.521, "text": "if you are continuing to do the same thing over and over, then you're still trying to", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["if you are continuing to do the same thing over and over, then you're still trying to", 993.08, 997.52, 1.0]]}, {"start": 997.521, "end": 1001.841, "text": "figure out the problem from the same consciousness that created the problem. So, it might be", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["figure out the problem from the same consciousness that created the problem. So, it might be", 997.52, 1001.84, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1001.841, "end": 1007.601, "text": "time to expand your customized treatment plan and look at things like this app I'm going", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["time to expand your customized treatment plan and look at things like this app I'm going", 1001.84, 1007.6, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1007.601, "end": 1011.881, "text": "to talk about today or my course, The Path Back, or anybody. There is no scarcity of", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["to talk about today or my course, The Path Back, or anybody. There is no scarcity of", 1007.6, 1011.88, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1011.881, "end": 1016.261, "text": "help in the mental health field, but I just feel like look for something that really resonates", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["help in the mental health field, but I just feel like look for something that really resonates", 1011.88, 1016.26, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1016.261, "end": 1020.581, "text": "with you, something that you like the person who has created this or you like the vibe", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["with you, something that you like the person who has created this or you like the vibe", 1016.26, 1020.58, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1020.581, "end": 1025.541, "text": "and not just the sales page that says, here's the destination, but what does that look like?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and not just the sales page that says, here's the destination, but what does that look like?", 1020.58, 1025.54, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1025.541, "end": 1029.781, "text": "What are you going to do? 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But I really want", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that this is why I did this because it helped me. Then that's awesome. But I really want", 1038.06, 1042.51, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1042.787, "end": 1047.521, "text": "I want you to find tools that that help people. I mean, that are based off of what it feels", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I want you to find tools that that help people. I mean, that are based off of what it feels", 1042.79, 1047.52, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1047.521, "end": 1052.981, "text": "like to be you and the way that you're showing up in life and the things that you maybe aren't", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["like to be you and the way that you're showing up in life and the things that you maybe aren't", 1047.52, 1052.98, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1052.981, "end": 1056.581, "text": "even aware of. There's a thought I wrote down a couple other quotes I thought were really", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["even aware of. There's a thought I wrote down a couple other quotes I thought were really", 1052.98, 1056.58, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1056.581, "end": 1060.017, "text": "interesting. I will leave with this and then we'll get to the interview with Chandler.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["interesting. I will leave with this and then we'll get to the interview with Chandler.", 1056.58, 1060.02, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1060.641, "end": 1064.521, "text": "When I had Sam Teeleman's on and he works a lot with pornography and helping people", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["When I had Sam Teeleman's on and he works a lot with pornography and helping people", 1060.64, 1064.52, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1064.521, "end": 1068.441, "text": "overcome turning to pornography as an unhealthy coping mechanism as well. He's the one that", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["overcome turning to pornography as an unhealthy coping mechanism as well. He's the one that", 1064.52, 1068.44, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1068.441, "end": 1072.368, "text": "said the strongest force in the human personality is to act in alignment with how you see yourself.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["said the strongest force in the human personality is to act in alignment with how you see yourself.", 1068.44, 1072.37, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1073.081, "end": 1076.881, "text": "So however you identify yourself, you're going to find a way back to that home base. So if", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So however you identify yourself, you're going to find a way back to that home base. 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But if how you see yourself is you fill in the", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["know I'm going to find my way back to addiction. 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And check that out and you're noticing that they're", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["amazing human being and these things happen. And check that out and you're noticing that they're", 1110.32, 1115.36, 0.9912592768669128]]}, {"start": 1115.361, "end": 1119.761, "text": "happening and now what do I do with those things? Man, I could go on. I need to do another episode", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["happening and now what do I do with those things? Man, I could go on. I need to do another episode", 1115.36, 1119.76, 0.9912592768669128]]}, {"start": 1119.761, "end": 1123.121, "text": "just completely on this subject because with what we talked about on the virtual couch the", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["just completely on this subject because with what we talked about on the virtual couch the", 1119.76, 1123.12, 0.9912592768669128]]}, {"start": 1123.121, "end": 1126.769, "text": "the last few weeks, even the concept of learning how to not only sit with discomfort.", "confidence": 0.9, "timestamps": [["the last few weeks, even the concept of learning how to not only sit with discomfort.", 1123.12, 1126.77, 0.9049224257469177]]}, {"start": 1127.354, "end": 1132.737, "text": "That it's not as scary as we think, but also just that a couple weeks ago I did one on acceptance.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["That it's not as scary as we think, but also just that a couple weeks ago I did one on acceptance.", 1127.35, 1132.74, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1132.917, "end": 1138.404, "text": "And acceptance, it means, it doesn't mean to just acquiesce or to just, I guess, deal with or", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And acceptance, it means, it doesn't mean to just acquiesce or to just, I guess, deal with or", 1132.92, 1138.4, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1138.404, "end": 1143.524, "text": "tolerate. But if I accept the fact that I may still have setbacks or relapses or whatever we want to", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["tolerate. But if I accept the fact that I may still have setbacks or relapses or whatever we want to", 1138.4, 1143.52, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1143.524, "end": 1148.724, "text": "call them, then I'm not so afraid. I mean, because again, in ACT, we say that if you're unwilling to", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["call them, then I'm not so afraid. I mean, because again, in ACT, we say that if you're unwilling to", 1143.52, 1148.72, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1148.724, "end": 1154.884, "text": "have it, you will, whatever that is. So, if I am unwilling to have bad days or to have bad moments", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["have it, you will, whatever that is. 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It's crazy.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and my son and his girlfriend, my daughter, and her husband. They like to go on dates with my wife and I. It's crazy.", 1168.08, 1173.88, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1173.884, "end": 1178.487, "text": "I couldn't even imagine going on dates with my parents when I was young at all.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I couldn't even imagine going on dates with my parents when I was young at all.", 1173.88, 1178.49, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1179.009, "end": 1183.884, "text": "But they like scary movies, and my wife and I are not fans. We haven't been to scary movies in a very long time.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But they like scary movies, and my wife and I are not fans. We haven't been to scary movies in a very long time.", 1179.01, 1183.88, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1184.428, "end": 1191.664, "text": "So I have to accept the fact that I am going to be scared. Because if I am afraid, if I'm afraid of being afraid, then I'm going to say, I'm not going", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So I have to accept the fact that I am going to be scared.", 1184.43, 1186.8, 1.0], ["Because if I am afraid, if I'm afraid of being afraid, then I'm going to say, I'm not going", 1187.18, 1191.66, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1191.664, "end": 1193.683, "text": "you guys, because I don't want to be scared.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["you guys, because I don't want to be scared.", 1191.66, 1193.68, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1193.944, "end": 1195.717, "text": "I mean, I'm afraid of being afraid.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I mean, I'm afraid of being afraid.", 1193.94, 1195.72, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1196.444, "end": 1203.459, "text": "So if I'm unwilling to be afraid, then I will be. And so instead, then I accept the fact, oh, I will be afraid.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So if I'm unwilling to be afraid, then I will be.", 1196.44, 1199.31, 1.0], ["And so instead, then I accept the fact, oh, I will be afraid.", 1199.98, 1203.46, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1203.567, "end": 1204.782, "text": "Man, will I be afraid.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Man, will I be afraid.", 1203.57, 1204.78, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1205.244, "end": 1207.276, "text": "And these are all very literal things. I will scream.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And these are all very literal things.", 1205.24, 1206.58, 1.0], ["I will scream.", 1206.58, 1207.28, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1207.627, "end": 1210.472, "text": "I will throw popcorn, which is such a waste, because I love popcorn.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I will throw popcorn, which is such a waste, because I love popcorn.", 1207.63, 1210.47, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1210.744, "end": 1213.353, "text": "I will watch a movie through my fingers or with my hat.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I will watch a movie through my fingers or with my hat.", 1210.74, 1213.35, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1213.784, "end": 1220.064, "text": "And lately, when I am anticipating a jump scare, I will accept the fact that my son will poke me in the ribs", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And lately, when I am anticipating a jump scare,", 1213.78, 1217.0, 1.0], ["I will accept the fact that my son will poke me in the ribs", 1217.34, 1220.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1220.064, "end": 1221.311, "text": "and I will also scream.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and I will also scream.", 1220.06, 1221.31, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1222.175, "end": 1224.623, "text": "But those are just things that are gonna happen. 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So if I'm going to live a life of purpose and value,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so we get to have these shared experiences.", 1237.77, 1239.59, 1.0], ["So if I'm going to live a life of purpose and value,", 1239.68, 1243.28, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1243.604, "end": 1246.824, "text": "then I'm gonna have things like fear, and I'm gonna have things like anxiety,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["then I'm gonna have things like fear,", 1243.6, 1245.5, 1.0], ["and I'm gonna have things like anxiety,", 1245.5, 1246.82, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1246.824, "end": 1249.992, "text": "and I'm gonna have things like maybe setbacks, whatever that looks like,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and I'm gonna have things like maybe setbacks,", 1246.82, 1249.1, 1.0], ["whatever that looks like,", 1249.1, 1249.99, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1250.352, "end": 1252.125, "text": "but that's all just part of the human process.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["but that's all just part of the human process.", 1250.35, 1252.13, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1252.664, "end": 1256.144, "text": "So if you are willing to accept the fact that you're gonna have these bad days,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So if you are willing to accept the fact", 1252.66, 1254.82, 1.0], ["that you're gonna have these bad days,", 1254.82, 1256.14, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1256.144, "end": 1258.85, "text": "you're gonna have these times you're gonna wanna turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["you're gonna have these times", 1256.14, 1256.98, 1.0], ["you're gonna wanna turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms,", 1256.98, 1258.85, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1259.444, "end": 1262.944, "text": "then you're gonna go out and into the world, and you're gonna learn these tools", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["then you're gonna go out and into the world,", 1259.44, 1261.4, 1.0], ["and you're gonna learn these tools", 1261.4, 1262.94, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1262.944, "end": 1266.052, "text": "that will help you become a better version of you, as cliched as that sounds,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that will help you become a better version of you,", 1262.94, 1264.82, 1.0], ["as cliched as that sounds,", 1264.82, 1266.05, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1266.448, "end": 1273.254, "text": "and then over time, it's gonna feel a lot easier to sit with that discomfort and then turn to these value-based things in your life rather", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and then over time, it's gonna feel a lot easier", 1266.45, 1269.21, 1.0], ["to sit with that discomfort and then turn to these value-based things in your life rather", 1269.55, 1273.25, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1273.56, "end": 1277.998, "text": "than turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms. And heaven forbid you do have another setback,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["than turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms. And heaven forbid you do have another setback,", 1273.56, 1278.0, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1278.264, "end": 1282.084, "text": "well then, like I say to my group all the time, here's what we do with that. So somebody", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["well then, like I say to my group all the time, here's what we do with that. So somebody", 1278.26, 1282.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1282.084, "end": 1287.264, "text": "comes in and they say, yeah, I had this sobriety streak and then I just, I had a, I had a relapse.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["comes in and they say, yeah, I had this sobriety streak and then I just, I had a, I had a relapse.", 1282.08, 1287.26, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1287.264, "end": 1293.248, "text": "I had a setback and I feel like we can almost say it wrote in the group of, okay, well noted", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I had a setback and I feel like we can almost say it wrote in the group of, okay, well noted", 1287.26, 1293.25, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1293.374, "end": 1295.975, "text": "That happened. Anyway, don't beat yourself up.", "confidence": 0.87, "timestamps": [["That happened. Anyway, don't beat yourself up.", 1293.37, 1295.98, 0.8682054281234741]]}, {"start": 1296.588, "end": 1301.242, "text": "That's no shame. And then let's just review the game film. Maybe what am I pretending not to know that?", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["That's no shame.", 1296.59, 1297.67, 1.0], ["And then let's just review the game film.", 1298.14, 1299.64, 1.0], ["Maybe what am I pretending not to know that?", 1299.64, 1301.24, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1301.438, "end": 1308.338, "text": "Oh, yeah, every time I'm home alone for a couple of hours on Wednesdays when my family goes and does whatever some church activity, that's the red zone.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Oh, yeah, every time I'm home alone for a couple of hours on Wednesdays when my family goes and does whatever some church activity, that's the red zone.", 1301.44, 1308.34, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1308.338, "end": 1309.164, "text": "That's when it happens.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["That's when it happens.", 1308.34, 1309.16, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1309.416, "end": 1311.144, "text": "So, okay, then check that out.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So, okay, then check that out.", 1309.42, 1311.14, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1311.522, "end": 1321.416, "text": "Now, turning back to healthy coping mechanisms or value-based goals and actions, then I'm going to by the time next Wednesday rolls around, I'm a much better version of myself because I'm doing something about it.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Now, turning back to healthy coping mechanisms or value-based goals and actions, then I'm going to by the time next Wednesday rolls around, I'm a much better version of myself because I'm doing something about it.", 1311.52, 1321.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1321.623, "end": 1322.631, "text": "I'm not beating myself up.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm not beating myself up.", 1321.62, 1322.63, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1323.117, "end": 1327.889, "text": "I'm not hanging my head so that somebody else will tell me, hey, it's okay. You're going to get there sometime.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm not hanging my head so that somebody else will tell me, hey, it's okay. You're going to get there sometime.", 1323.12, 1327.89, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1328.411, "end": 1331.363, "text": "I'm not even necessarily going and having to make a confession to someone,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm not even necessarily going and having to make a confession to someone,", 1328.41, 1331.36, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1331.804, "end": 1339.249, "text": "because if I'm just saying, oh, I feel so bad I did this thing, and then they say, oh, well, that's, I really appreciate you admitting that you did the thing.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["because if I'm just saying, oh, I feel so bad I did this thing, and then they say, oh, well, that's, I really appreciate you admitting that you did the thing.", 1331.8, 1339.25, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1339.852, "end": 1347.72, "text": "Well, then I feel better, but am I really doing anything about it? Now, if a confession to someone in, let's say, in a religious authority, if that's how you want to show up,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Well, then I feel better, but am I really doing anything about it? Now, if a confession to someone in, let's say, in a religious authority, if that's how you want to show up,", 1339.85, 1347.72, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1347.99, "end": 1351.321, "text": "Is that because I just want them to alleviate my anxiety or stress?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Is that because I just want them to alleviate my anxiety or stress?", 1347.99, 1351.32, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1351.727, "end": 1354.607, "text": "Or is it because I'm turning there because I say, hey, I could use a little extra help.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Or is it because I'm turning there because I say, hey, I could use a little extra help.", 1351.73, 1354.61, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1354.859, "end": 1357.776, "text": "So I can use your guidance or maybe your help support.", "confidence": 0.88, "timestamps": [["So I can use your guidance or maybe your help support.", 1354.86, 1357.78, 0.882451593875885]]}, {"start": 1358.46, "end": 1380.147, "text": "I mean, that's a whole different thing. So, I could go on. I will say this too. I do feel like the solution for a better marriage, the solution for turning away from unhealthy coping mechanisms, the solution for overcoming your anxiety or your fear or your doubt, it actually isn't as far away as you might think. But you will never know until you start to head in a direction.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I mean, that's a whole different thing. So, I could go on. I will say this too. I do feel like the solution for a better marriage, the solution for turning away from unhealthy coping mechanisms, the solution for overcoming your anxiety or your fear or your doubt, it actually isn't as far away as you might think. But you will never know until you start to head in a direction.", 1358.46, 1380.15, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1380.642, "end": 1382.82, "text": "Maybe talking about that Albert Einstein quote again.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Maybe talking about that Albert Einstein quote again.", 1380.64, 1382.82, 0.9963637590408325]]}, {"start": 1383.388, "end": 1385.97, "text": "You can't solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["You can't solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it.", 1383.39, 1385.97, 0.9963637590408325]]}, {"start": 1385.97, "end": 1390.913, "text": "You have to learn to see the world anew. And oftentimes that is learning how to open up and be vulnerable.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["You have to learn to see the world anew.", 1385.97, 1387.47, 0.9963637590408325], ["And oftentimes that is learning how to open up and be vulnerable.", 1387.47, 1390.91, 0.9963637590408325]]}, {"start": 1391.318, "end": 1394.77, "text": "Last time I'll say the last time, at least I believe that is the case.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Last time I'll say the last time, at least I believe that is the case.", 1391.32, 1394.77, 0.9963637590408325]]}, {"start": 1394.77, "end": 1398.47, "text": "I have a couple of clients that have come that I haven't seen in a while that have come back", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I have a couple of clients that have come that I haven't seen in a while that have come back", 1394.77, 1398.47, 0.9963637590408325]]}, {"start": 1398.47, "end": 1401.57, "text": "and it's been really interesting because both of them and they don't know each other,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and it's been really interesting because both of them and they don't know each other,", 1398.47, 1401.57, 0.9963637590408325]]}, {"start": 1401.57, "end": 1402.913, "text": "but they're in for similar things.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["but they're in for similar things.", 1401.57, 1402.91, 0.9963637590408325]]}, {"start": 1403.075, "end": 1406.27, "text": "It sounds like they're in prison. They're in my office for similar things, which is a joy.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It sounds like they're in prison.", 1403.08, 1404.06, 0.9963637590408325], ["They're in my office for similar things, which is a joy.", 1404.16, 1406.27, 0.9963637590408325]]}, {"start": 1406.334, "end": 1406.955, "text": "It's not a prison.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It's not a prison.", 1406.33, 1406.96, 0.9963637590408325]]}, {"start": 1407.397, "end": 1411.11, "text": "But they're in for learning how to be better in new relationships.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But they're in for learning how to be better in new relationships.", 1407.4, 1411.11, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1411.11, "end": 1415.526, "text": "And part of the struggles they've had in the past has been turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms like pornography.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And part of the struggles they've had in the past has been turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms like pornography.", 1411.11, 1415.53, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1415.913, "end": 1420.23, "text": "And they have both in their own ways, which I so love. And this is coming from a healthy ego for myself.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And they have both in their own ways, which I so love.", 1415.91, 1418.23, 1.0], ["And this is coming from a healthy ego for myself.", 1418.23, 1420.23, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1420.23, "end": 1426.526, "text": "I promise this isn't me saying, I'm so grateful that someone wants me to tell them how they should live and what they should do, because that is not the case.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I promise this isn't me saying, I'm so grateful that someone wants me to tell them how they should live and what they should do, because that is not the case.", 1420.23, 1426.53, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1426.994, "end": 1433.044, "text": "But both of these people are coming in and saying, hey, help me know, help me understand what I don't understand.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But both of these people are coming in and saying, hey, help me know, help me understand what I don't understand.", 1426.99, 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Get the tools that will start to help and know that there are going to be times where", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["not to know?", 1508.75, 1509.75, 1.0], ["Get the tools that will start to help and know that there are going to be times where", 1509.75, 1513.25, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1513.252, "end": 1515.847, "text": "that tool is going to work for a little while, but then I might need to find a new tool.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that tool is going to work for a little while, but then I might need to find a new tool.", 1513.25, 1515.85, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1516.882, "end": 1520.636, "text": "So with that said, let's get to an interview with Chandler Rogers, the CEO of Relay, and,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["So with that said, let's get to an interview with Chandler Rogers, the CEO of Relay, and,", 1516.88, 1520.64, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1521.172, "end": 1523.932, "text": "let's talk about a new tool, which is an app of theirs.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["let's talk about a new tool, which is an app of theirs.", 1521.17, 1523.93, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1523.932, "end": 1530.572, "text": "And I do have, if you click through the link in the show notes, you can get that app for", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I do have, if you click through the link in the show notes, you can get that app for", 1523.93, 1530.57, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1530.572, "end": 1532.024, "text": "free for a limited time.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["free for a limited time.", 1530.57, 1532.02, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1532.432, "end": 1536.672, "text": "Can join one of their communities, their relay communities, and we'll talk about that more", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Can join one of their communities, their relay communities, and we'll talk about that more", 1532.43, 1536.67, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1536.672, "end": 1542.472, "text": "in the interview. But it's these small communities based off of a lot of different things, based", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["in the interview. But it's these small communities based off of a lot of different things, based", 1536.67, 1542.47, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1542.472, "end": 1547.232, "text": "off of what you're struggling, your age, your religiosity, a lot of the things that you'll", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["off of what you're struggling, your age, your religiosity, a lot of the things that you'll", 1542.47, 1547.23, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1547.232, "end": 1551.872, "text": "identify when you're signing up for their app. And then that will help put you with", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["identify when you're signing up for their app. And then that will help put you with", 1547.23, 1551.87, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1551.872, "end": 1555.61, "text": "communities. And those communities are, in essence, your accountability partners. And,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["communities. 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And I have couples coming into my office often.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Again, I'll meet you there.", 1584.19, 1585.43, 0.9991126656532288], ["And I have couples coming into my office often.", 1585.43, 1587.07, 0.9991126656532288]]}, {"start": 1587.672, "end": 1591.547, "text": "If you are really working on overcoming, turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["If you are really working on overcoming,", 1587.67, 1590.03, 1.0], ["turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms,", 1590.03, 1591.55, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1591.972, "end": 1595.232, "text": "there are good tools out there and they are not just turning to your spouse", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["there are good tools out there", 1591.97, 1593.39, 1.0], ["and they are not just turning to your spouse", 1593.39, 1595.23, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1595.232, "end": 1598.992, "text": "or your ecclesiastical leader and saying, I did it again, and they say,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["or your ecclesiastical leader and saying,", 1595.23, 1597.71, 1.0], ["I did it again, and they say,", 1597.71, 1598.99, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1598.992, "end": 1600.819, "text": "oh, thanks for telling me, you're okay.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["oh, thanks for telling me, you're okay.", 1598.99, 1600.82, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1601.352, "end": 1604.663, "text": "No, it's time to do something different and to use these tools that are out there.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["No, it's time to do something different", 1601.35, 1603.05, 1.0], ["and to use these tools that are out there.", 1603.15, 1604.66, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1605.152, "end": 1606.372, "text": "So look in the show notes.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So look in the show notes.", 1605.15, 1606.37, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1606.372, "end": 1610.038, "text": "If you have questions, you can send me an email, contact at tonyoverbay.com,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["If you have questions,", 1606.37, 1607.23, 1.0], ["you can send me an email, contact at tonyoverbay.com,", 1607.23, 1610.04, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1610.352, "end": 1615.313, "text": "or you can actually reach out to any of the guys at Relay as well because they are very accessible", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["or you can actually reach out", 1610.35, 1612.11, 1.0], ["to any of the guys at Relay as well", 1612.11, 1613.91, 1.0], ["because they are very accessible", 1613.91, 1615.31, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1615.752, "end": 1618.972, "text": "and they want to do one thing, and that's simply change the world.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and they want to do one thing,", 1615.75, 1617.65, 1.0], ["and that's simply change the world.", 1617.65, 1618.97, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1618.972, "end": 1622.492, "text": "So let's get to the interview with Relay CEO Chandler Rogers,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So let's get to the interview", 1618.97, 1619.88, 1.0], ["with Relay CEO Chandler Rogers,", 1620.25, 1622.49, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1622.492, "end": 1625.558, "text": "and I think you're really gonna like what Chandler's offering with this app.", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["and I think you're really gonna like", 1622.49, 1624.08, 1.0], ["what Chandler's offering with this app.", 1624.21, 1625.56, 0.9582469463348389]]}, {"start": 1625.84, "end": 1632.24, "text": "Music.", "newpara": true}, {"start": 1632.237, "end": 1635.307, "text": "Chandler Rogers, welcome to the virtual couch. How are you doing?", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Chandler Rogers, welcome to the virtual couch.", 1632.24, 1634.77, 1.0], ["How are you doing?", 1634.87, 1635.31, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1635.847, "end": 1640.847, "text": "Doing great. Happy to be here. Thanks, Tony. Yeah. And Chandler and I were talking off the air.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Doing great.", 1635.85, 1636.85, 1.0], ["Happy to be here.", 1636.85, 1637.5, 1.0], ["Thanks, Tony.", 1637.85, 1638.85, 1.0], ["Yeah.", 1638.85, 1639.85, 1.0], ["And Chandler and I were talking off the air.", 1639.85, 1640.85, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1640.847, "end": 1642.734, "text": "That's the official term, right? Like what the kids call it.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["That's the official term, right?", 1640.85, 1641.85, 1.0], ["Like what the kids call it.", 1641.85, 1642.73, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1642.847, "end": 1646.447, "text": "Yeah. And the platform I'm using right now, which I'm not talking about openly just yet because", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Yeah.", 1642.85, 1643.85, 1.0], ["And the platform I'm using right now, which I'm not talking about openly just yet because", 1643.85, 1646.45, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1646.447, "end": 1648.981, "text": "I had one bad experience. But other than that, it's been amazing.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I had one bad experience.", 1646.45, 1647.45, 1.0], ["But other than that, it's been amazing.", 1647.45, 1648.98, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1649.487, "end": 1652.207, "text": "And Chandler has been part of one experience where it didn't go so well.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And Chandler has been part of one experience where it didn't go so well.", 1649.49, 1652.21, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1652.207, "end": 1656.327, "text": "There's a part of me that is gun shy. We're going to probably spend some gold and then the file is going to be corrupt.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["There's a part of me that is gun shy.", 1652.21, 1653.69, 1.0], ["We're going to probably spend some gold and then the file is going to be corrupt.", 1653.69, 1656.33, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1656.887, "end": 1660.887, "text": "But let's- Praying for some good luck today. There you go. Let's just go for it, right?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But let's-", 1656.89, 1657.89, 1.0], ["Praying for some good luck today.", 1657.89, 1658.89, 1.0], ["There you go.", 1658.89, 1659.8, 1.0], ["Let's just go for it, right?", 1660.07, 1660.89, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1660.887, "end": 1665.767, "text": "I think it's funny, the way that you and I met was through the co-founder of the company", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["I think it's funny, the way that you and I met was through the co-founder of the company", 1660.89, 1665.77, 0.9912184476852417]]}, {"start": 1665.767, "end": 1668.187, "text": "that you work with named Jace.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["that you work with named Jace.", 1665.77, 1668.19, 0.9912184476852417]]}, {"start": 1668.187, "end": 1675.967, "text": "And then Jace is talking about the Wayback Machine. And Jace, I think is like a nephew or something to some friends of mine from high school.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["And then Jace is talking about the Wayback Machine.", 1668.19, 1670.63, 0.9912184476852417], ["And Jace, I think is like a nephew or something to some friends of mine from high school.", 1670.63, 1675.97, 0.9912184476852417]]}, {"start": 1675.967, "end": 1677.287, "text": "And I'm a very old man.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["And I'm a very old man.", 1675.97, 1677.29, 0.9912184476852417]]}, {"start": 1677.287, "end": 1680.967, "text": "So when they reached out to me and said, Hey, we want to put you in contact with our nephew.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["So when they reached out to me and said, Hey, we want to put you in contact with our nephew.", 1677.29, 1680.97, 0.9912184476852417]]}, {"start": 1680.967, "end": 1683.82, "text": "Honestly, I'm so used to people saying, because he needs therapy.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["Honestly, I'm so used to people saying, because he needs therapy.", 1680.97, 1683.82, 0.9912184476852417]]}, {"start": 1684.087, "end": 1686.215, "text": "And so then I half read the message.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["And so then I half read the message.", 1684.09, 1686.21, 0.9912184476852417]]}, {"start": 1686.607, "end": 1691.407, "text": "I think that's why I didn't get back quick, because I thought, oh, bless his heart.", "confidence": 0.95, "timestamps": [["I think that's why I didn't get back quick, because I thought, oh, bless his heart.", 1686.61, 1691.41, 0.9500899314880371]]}, {"start": 1691.407, "end": 1692.183, "text": "I don't know if I can help.", "confidence": 0.95, "timestamps": [["I don't know if I can help.", 1691.41, 1692.18, 0.9500899314880371]]}, {"start": 1692.407, "end": 1695.487, "text": "But man, once I started reading why we're talking, it's kind of exciting.", "confidence": 0.95, "timestamps": [["But man, once I started reading why we're talking, it's kind of exciting.", 1692.41, 1695.49, 0.9500899314880371]]}, {"start": 1695.487, "end": 1698.447, "text": "So maybe why don't you tell my listeners why are we talking?", "confidence": 0.95, "timestamps": [["So maybe why don't you tell my listeners why are we talking?", 1695.49, 1698.45, 0.9500899314880371]]}, {"start": 1698.447, "end": 1699.52, "text": "What are you guys, what are you doing?", "confidence": 0.86, "timestamps": [["What are you guys, what are you doing?", 1698.45, 1699.52, 0.8622684478759766]]}, {"start": 1700.267, "end": 1704.277, "text": "Yeah, you know, struggling with pornography was something that was always kind of a theme", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Yeah, you know, struggling with pornography was something that was always kind of a theme", 1700.27, 1704.28, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1704.277, "end": 1709.756, "text": "for me growing up. And one of the big lessons that is key to my story is realizing that,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["for me growing up. 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It was just a project.", 1751.28, 1754.03, 0.9963330626487732]]}, {"start": 1754.506, "end": 1758.719, "text": "But I was like, hey, what if we build something that actually could be meaningful? And then.", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["But I was like, hey, what if we build something that actually could be meaningful? And then.", 1754.51, 1758.72, 0.9846616387367249]]}, {"start": 1759.357, "end": 1764.117, "text": "Built something actually totally not related to addiction. And what we ended up actually", "confidence": 0.98, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Built something actually totally not related to addiction. 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I won't say we're engineering wizards now.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["these engineering wizards going into this. I won't say we're engineering wizards now.", 1819.33, 1824.63, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1825.84, "end": 1830.872, "text": "You know, hopefully the users on the app don't know that. But no, it probably took us six months", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["You know, hopefully the users on the app don't know that. But no, it probably took us six months", 1825.84, 1830.87, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1830.998, "end": 1835.352, "text": "to get the first version out there. So it wasn't terribly long, but we learned a ton along the way.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["to get the first version out there. 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Are you starting with that vibe?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["getting a bad grade but go on to make millions of dollars? Are you starting with that vibe?", 1848.15, 1851.83, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1851.832, "end": 1855.992, "text": "Well, the end of the story still has yet to be written. So millions of dollars,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Well, the end of the story still has yet to be written. So millions of dollars,", 1851.83, 1855.99, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1856.15, "end": 1861.192, "text": "definitely not. Haven't paid ourselves anything from it yet. But yeah, no, it quickly transitioned", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["definitely not. Haven't paid ourselves anything from it yet. But yeah, no, it quickly transitioned", 1856.15, 1861.19, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1861.192, "end": 1865.992, "text": "from just a project to we were graduating and we had other job offers. 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So it's not done. But we were really", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["we want to continue to improve this thing for years. So it's not done. But we were really", 1889.05, 1892.71, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1892.712, "end": 1897.66, "text": "excited about what we were seeing so far. And we realized that we care a lot about helping", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["excited about what we were seeing so far. And we realized that we care a lot about helping", 1892.71, 1897.66, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1897.741, "end": 1901.712, "text": "people more than going and working for big tech companies.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["people more than going and working for big tech companies.", 1897.74, 1901.71, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1901.712, "end": 1905.952, "text": "And so we decided this is what we want to do. And so we didn't show up to our other jobs,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And so we decided this is what we want to do.", 1901.71, 1903.43, 1.0], ["And so we didn't show up to our other jobs,", 1903.43, 1905.95, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1905.952, "end": 1907.617, "text": "and instead we're doing this now full time.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["and instead we're doing this now full time.", 1905.95, 1907.62, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1907.792, "end": 1912.649, "text": "OK, and so then it's funny, full transparency, I didn't read the material initially.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["OK, and so then it's funny, full transparency,", 1907.79, 1910.67, 1.0], ["I didn't read the material initially.", 1910.67, 1912.65, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1913.072, "end": 1917.843, "text": "And then I had a client where he was looking for something from an accountability standpoint.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And then I had a client where he was", 1913.07, 1915.03, 1.0], ["looking for something from an accountability standpoint.", 1915.03, 1917.84, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1918.203, "end": 1922.572, "text": "And then I was trying to sound really cool. And I said, oh, I think I've got a really cool brand new thing", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And then I was trying to sound really cool.", 1918.2, 1919.71, 1.0], ["And I said, oh, I think I've got a really cool brand new thing", 1919.71, 1922.57, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1922.572, "end": 1923.56, "text": "that nobody knows about.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that nobody knows about.", 1922.57, 1923.56, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1923.992, "end": 1928.512, "text": "And then when I started reading about it, And I really did feel like I could see how interesting", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["And then when I started reading about it,", 1923.99, 1925.99, 1.0], ["And I really did feel like I could see how interesting", 1925.99, 1928.51, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1928.512, "end": 1932.212, "text": "or important this could be in the world of addiction because the connection is so important.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["or important this could be in the world of addiction", 1928.51, 1930.41, 1.0], ["because the connection is so important.", 1930.99, 1932.21, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1932.212, "end": 1934.884, "text": "And I feel like I facilitated 12 step groups forever.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I feel like I facilitated 12 step groups forever.", 1932.21, 1934.88, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1935.232, "end": 1940.152, "text": "You know, I've worked with, I don't know, I think 1500 plus individuals trying to overcome pornography", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["You know, I've worked with, I don't know,", 1935.23, 1936.07, 1.0], ["I think 1500 plus individuals trying to overcome pornography", 1936.07, 1940.15, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1940.152, "end": 1941.51, "text": "or other unhealthy coping mechanisms.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["or other unhealthy coping mechanisms.", 1940.15, 1941.51, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1941.912, "end": 1947.109, "text": "And I feel like there's that part where the one-on-one concept of an accountability partner sounds great.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I feel like there's that part where the one-on-one", 1941.91, 1944.63, 1.0], ["concept of an accountability partner sounds great.", 1944.63, 1947.11, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1947.552, "end": 1950.791, "text": "But then I find that, man, it's one of those things where it sounds good until it doesn't,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But then I find that, man, it's one of those things", 1947.55, 1949.35, 1.0], ["where it sounds good until it doesn't,", 1949.35, 1950.79, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1950.912, "end": 1953.897, "text": "until they can't get ahold of somebody or until they feel like the person's gonna, you know,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["until they can't get ahold of somebody", 1950.91, 1952.47, 1.0], ["or until they feel like the person's gonna, you know,", 1952.47, 1953.9, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1954.492, "end": 1958.252, "text": "just checking a box or till they feel like they're bothering somebody or so is that kind", "confidence": 0.88, "timestamps": [["just checking a box or till they feel like they're bothering somebody or so is that kind", 1954.49, 1958.25, 0.8842306733131409]]}, {"start": 1958.252, "end": 1961.532, "text": "of some of the things that you guys ran into or why you created it?", "confidence": 0.88, "timestamps": [["of some of the things that you guys ran into or why you created it?", 1958.25, 1961.53, 0.8842306733131409]]}, {"start": 1961.532, "end": 1964.572, "text": "I remember from my story growing up, like I.", "confidence": 0.87, "timestamps": [["I remember from my story growing up, like I.", 1961.53, 1964.57, 0.8725829124450684]]}, {"start": 1965.24, "end": 1969.25, "text": "You know, for many years, thought, let's try to do this on my own. Right.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["You know, for many years, thought, let's try to do this on my own. Right.", 1965.24, 1969.25, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1969.25, "end": 1970.93, "text": "Yeah. That old chestnut. Yeah.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Yeah. That old chestnut. Yeah.", 1969.25, 1970.93, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1970.93, "end": 1980.625, "text": "Yeah. And so this is even the step before what you're talking about and quickly realized, I think that it just, A, sucks to try to get through this alone.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Yeah. And so this is even the step before what you're talking about and", 1970.93, 1974.43, 1.0], ["quickly realized, I think that it just, A, sucks to try to get through this alone.", 1974.77, 1980.62, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1981.003, "end": 1984.64, "text": "It's really miserable. And then B, I just realized that it wasn't very effective. Like they,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["It's really miserable. 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I think", 1988.85, 1991.57, 1.0], ["I think human beings, I don't believe, are designed to just navigate these personal trials", 1991.81, 1996.65, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1996.65, "end": 1997.65, "text": "alone.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["alone.", 1996.65, 1997.65, 1.0]]}, {"start": 1997.65, "end": 2002.09, "text": "I think even between us and God, from a faith perspective, I think God wants us to leverage", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I think even between us and God, from a faith perspective, I think God wants us to leverage", 1997.65, 2002.09, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2002.09, "end": 2006.74, "text": "each other and work together. We're placed on this world together for a reason, I believe.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["each other and work together.", 2002.09, 2003.65, 1.0], ["We're placed on this world together for a reason, I believe.", 2003.65, 2006.74, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2006.97, "end": 2011.53, "text": "But yeah, I think when I started adding just my bishop, my church leader as my one accountability.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But yeah, I think when I started adding just my bishop, my church leader as my one accountability.", 2006.97, 2011.53, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2011.944, "end": 2016.616, "text": "Person, just my therapist at another point in time, or just my wife and our marriage,", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Person, just my therapist at another point in time, or just my wife and our marriage,", 2011.94, 2016.62, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2016.93, "end": 2018.41, "text": "none of those setups worked very well.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["none of those setups worked very well.", 2016.93, 2018.41, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2018.41, "end": 2021.55, "text": "And all of them actually were really tough for me personally because I had an existing", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And all of them actually were really tough for me personally because I had an existing", 2018.41, 2021.55, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2021.55, "end": 2022.61, "text": "relationship with them.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["relationship with them.", 2021.55, 2022.61, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2022.61, "end": 2026.57, "text": "So for me, the shame factor was magnified because I was like, yeah, it was either kind", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["So for me, the shame factor was magnified because I was like, yeah, it was either kind", 2022.61, 2026.57, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2026.57, "end": 2031.13, "text": "of checking the box or there was a little bit of extra barrier to be honest, just because", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["of checking the box or there was a little bit of extra barrier to be honest, just because", 2026.57, 2031.13, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2031.13, "end": 2035.305, "text": "I hated letting them down. 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Can I struggle with this and still be a good person, still be a good", 2057.07, 2060.91, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2061.006, "end": 2065.65, "text": "follower of God, husband, whatever it is, career professional.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["follower of God, husband, whatever it is, career professional.", 2061.01, 2065.65, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2065.65, "end": 2070.486, "text": "And I think I had this light bulb moment as I realized I needed to expand my support system.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I think I had this light bulb moment as I realized I needed to expand my support system.", 2065.65, 2070.49, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2070.77, "end": 2074.95, "text": "At the same time, I realized that it's not how many days in a row that I haven't looked", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["At the same time, I realized that it's not how many days in a row that I haven't looked", 2070.77, 2074.95, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2074.95, "end": 2080.15, "text": "pornography that defines how solid of a person I am. 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It's like unsurprisingly, GroupMe weren't built to help recovery groups stay connected", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["Yeah. It's like unsurprisingly, GroupMe weren't built to help recovery groups stay connected", 2179.5, 2184.55, 0.9850502014160156]]}, {"start": 2184.659, "end": 2189.719, "text": "and accountable in an effective way. They're good chat messaging platforms. So this theme", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["and accountable in an effective way. They're good chat messaging platforms. So this theme", 2184.66, 2189.72, 0.9850502014160156]]}, {"start": 2189.719, "end": 2193.141, "text": "of like what relay is, it's more than a group chat. There is the group chat component. But", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["of like what relay is, it's more than a group chat. There is the group chat component. 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Yeah. Right. Like we were talking about more substance than that and also focusing on higher up the", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Exactly. Yeah.", 2225.32, 2226.32, 0.9963188171386719], ["Right. Like we were talking about more substance than that and also focusing on higher up the", 2226.32, 2230.52, 0.9963188171386719]]}, {"start": 2230.959, "end": 2235.199, "text": "chain, I think, on what's helpful. And what's really helpful, I think a lot of people have", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["chain, I think, on what's helpful. 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There's a little bit more visibility in the app there. And so there are", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["how they're doing. There's a little bit more visibility in the app there. 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So I can even say, Hey, what's the, what's up with the sleep?", "confidence": 0.89, "timestamps": [["And that's kind of an interaction that I think is.", 2329.56, 2331.12, 0.8930588960647583], ["So I can even say, Hey, what's the, what's up with the sleep?", 2331.12, 2334.0, 0.8930588960647583]]}, {"start": 2334.084, "end": 2337.444, "text": "Is it literally, you can see it looks like Chandler slept three and a half hours.", "confidence": 0.89, "timestamps": [["Is it literally, you can see it looks like Chandler slept three and a half hours.", 2334.08, 2337.44, 0.8930588960647583]]}, {"start": 2337.444, "end": 2338.771, "text": "Like what's going on there? That kind of thing.", "confidence": 0.89, "timestamps": [["Like what's going on there?", 2337.44, 2338.28, 0.8930588960647583], ["That kind of thing.", 2338.28, 2338.77, 0.8930588960647583]]}, {"start": 2339.404, "end": 2342.964, "text": "I mean, is that not that level of detail? Okay. Just like it's kind of logging.", "confidence": 0.89, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["I mean, is that not that level of detail?", 2339.4, 2341.0, 0.8930588960647583], ["Okay.", 2341.0, 2341.12, 0.8930588960647583], ["Just like it's kind of logging.", 2341.12, 2342.96, 0.8930588960647583]]}, {"start": 2342.964, "end": 2345.82, "text": "Like I'm feeling, I'm feeling bored. Gotcha. Okay.", "confidence": 0.82, "timestamps": [["Like I'm feeling, I'm feeling bored.", 2342.96, 2344.88, 0.8930588960647583], ["Gotcha.", 2344.88, 2345.2, 0.8930588960647583], ["Okay.", 2345.2, 2345.82, 0.6704120635986328]]}, {"start": 2347.062, "end": 2351.472, "text": "Usually, that sparking conversation is like, Hey man, you've been putting that you're feeling", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Usually, that sparking conversation is like, Hey man, you've been putting that you're feeling", 2347.06, 2351.47, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2351.472, "end": 2355.072, "text": "bored every day for the last three days. Do you have anything meaningful going on with", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["bored every day for the last three days. Do you have anything meaningful going on with", 2351.47, 2355.07, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2355.072, "end": 2357.046, "text": "work right now? 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I'm thinking through this from the therapist lens of the, we need, we tell people all the", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["Okay. I'm thinking through this from the therapist lens of the, we need, we tell people all the", 2394.09, 2398.15, 0.9904902577400208]]}, {"start": 2398.152, "end": 2402.012, "text": "time, all right, we need to go from not needing external validation to validating yourself", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["time, all right, we need to go from not needing external validation to validating yourself", 2398.15, 2402.01, 0.9904902577400208]]}, {"start": 2402.066, "end": 2407.312, "text": "internally. But then the reality is we still want, we sometimes want the attaboys, the", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["internally. But then the reality is we still want, we sometimes want the attaboys, the", 2402.07, 2407.31, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2407.312, "end": 2411.392, "text": "kudos. 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It can be super hard.", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["that there.", 2452.15, 2453.15, 0.9751883149147034], ["It can be super hard.", 2453.15, 2454.15, 0.9751883149147034]]}, {"start": 2454.558, "end": 2457.392, "text": "Yeah. I think tons of tons of therapists that I've talked to.", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["Yeah.", 2454.56, 2455.15, 0.9751883149147034], ["I think tons of tons of therapists that I've talked to.", 2455.15, 2457.39, 0.9751883149147034]]}, {"start": 2457.392, "end": 2461.688, "text": "Yeah, I have all sorts of thoughts about why the spouse is kind of the primary accountability is hard for both.", "confidence": 0.89, "timestamps": [["Yeah, I have all sorts of thoughts about why the spouse is kind of the primary accountability", 2457.39, 2460.71, 0.933577835559845], ["is hard for both.", 2460.71, 2461.69, 0.8443032503128052]]}, {"start": 2462.255, "end": 2466.385, "text": "Absolutely. 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And I think that's been really helpful for a lot of species.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["I need it to not just be me, essentially.", 2492.16, 2494.02, 0.9880128502845764], ["And I think that's been really helpful for a lot of species.", 2494.29, 2496.31, 0.9880128502845764]]}, {"start": 2496.305, "end": 2501.545, "text": "Yeah. It's funny too. 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What's not working for you?", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["People, what's working for you?", 2515.67, 2516.99, 0.9880128502845764], ["What's not working for you?", 2516.99, 2518.59, 0.9880128502845764]]}, {"start": 2518.585, "end": 2522.785, "text": "And I even feel like in my men's group, I've got some stuff I want to share. We've got", "confidence": 0.91, "timestamps": [["And I even feel like in my men's group, I've got some stuff I want to share. We've got", 2518.59, 2522.79, 0.9130222201347351]]}, {"start": 2522.984, "end": 2526.351, "text": "some question or prompt. And so I even feel like at times there's not enough of that.", "confidence": 0.91, "timestamps": [["some question or prompt. And so I even feel like at times there's not enough of that.", 2522.98, 2526.35, 0.9130222201347351]]}, {"start": 2526.705, "end": 2529.785, "text": "Tell me about a victory or tell me what's working for you. 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And I don't think it's a silver bullet, right?", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["I think they feel kind of energized having that.", 2544.13, 2545.9, 1.0], ["And I don't think it's a silver bullet, right?", 2545.9, 2548.06, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2548.061, "end": 2553.541, "text": "Like it's not, you know, it's not something someone's going to say as a brilliant idea of what's working for them.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Like it's not, you know, it's not something someone's going to say as a brilliant idea of what's working for them.", 2548.06, 2553.54, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2553.79, "end": 2555.101, "text": "That's probably going to change the game for me.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["That's probably going to change the game for me.", 2553.79, 2555.1, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2555.78, "end": 2564.861, "text": "But I think having that environment can be really helpful. No, I like what you're saying, because I do one of my go to lines is when somebody comes in and they've worked with other people in the past.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But I think having that environment can be really helpful.", 2555.78, 2558.31, 1.0], ["No, I like what you're saying, because I do one of my go to lines is when somebody comes in and they've worked with other people in the past.", 2558.7, 2564.86, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2564.861, "end": 2572.668, "text": "And I will often just say, hey, are you expecting that I've got some magic pill or secret phrase that once you learn, then this thing's going to be easier?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I will often just say, hey, are you expecting that I've got some magic pill or secret phrase that once you learn, then this thing's going to be easier?", 2564.86, 2572.67, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2573.028, "end": 2576.741, "text": "And I've been talking a lot lately to Chandler about, I feel like it's, I've been calling", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And I've been talking a lot lately to Chandler about, I feel like it's, I've been calling", 2573.03, 2576.74, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2576.741, "end": 2579.852, "text": "it an individualized, customized treatment program for each individual.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["it an individualized, customized treatment program for each individual.", 2576.74, 2579.85, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2580.301, "end": 2584.501, "text": "Because I feel like my Path Back program is gold and if people adhere to it, then it's", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Because I feel like my Path Back program is gold and if people adhere to it, then it's", 2580.3, 2584.5, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2584.501, "end": 2585.586, "text": "going to change their whole life.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["going to change their whole life.", 2584.5, 2585.59, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2585.841, "end": 2588.656, "text": "But I know that everybody's got their own stuff they bring to the table.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But I know that everybody's got their own stuff they bring to the table.", 2585.84, 2588.66, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2589.261, "end": 2591.951, "text": "And so anyway, now I feel like I'm down to seeing your praises.", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["And so anyway, now I feel like I'm down to seeing your praises.", 2589.26, 2591.95, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2592.023, "end": 2596.081, "text": "I just like that idea of a connection with a small group or even a larger group of people.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I just like that idea of a connection with a small group or even a larger group of people.", 2592.02, 2596.08, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2596.326, "end": 2599.342, "text": "I like the idea of hitting a red flag instead of even saying I'm struggling.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I like the idea of hitting a red flag instead of even saying I'm struggling.", 2596.33, 2599.34, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2599.861, "end": 2603.641, "text": "And I like the idea of that you can have a variety of ways to respond because I like", "confidence": 0.94, "timestamps": [["And I like the idea of that you can have a variety of ways to respond because I like", 2599.86, 2603.64, 0.9449838995933533]]}, {"start": 2603.641, "end": 2607.813, "text": "humor and so I'll have clients from time to time I'll say you can text me.", "confidence": 0.94, "timestamps": [["humor and so I'll have clients from time to time I'll say you can text me.", 2603.64, 2607.81, 0.9449838995933533]]}, {"start": 2607.885, "end": 2611.401, "text": "I might end up just sending you a meme or something, you know, and I don't know.", "confidence": 0.94, "timestamps": [["I might end up just sending you a meme or something, you know, and I don't know.", 2607.89, 2611.4, 0.9449838995933533]]}, {"start": 2611.401, "end": 2613.025, "text": "So can you guys do that within the app?", "confidence": 0.94, "timestamps": [["So can you guys do that within the app?", 2611.4, 2613.03, 0.9449838995933533]]}, {"start": 2613.121, "end": 2615.801, "text": "Can you do that? That's been one of our most requested features, Tony.", "confidence": 0.94, "timestamps": [["Can you do that?", 2613.12, 2614.12, 0.9449838995933533], ["That's been one of our most requested features, Tony.", 2614.12, 2615.8, 0.9449838995933533]]}, {"start": 2615.801, "end": 2619.161, "text": "I didn't realize that the memes were going to be a huge part of it, but they were like,", "confidence": 0.94, "timestamps": [["I didn't realize that the memes were going to be a huge part of it, but they were like,", 2615.8, 2619.16, 0.9449838995933533]]}, {"start": 2619.161, "end": 2622.937, "text": "we need to send these gifts, however you pronounce it right there.", "confidence": 0.94, "timestamps": [["we need to send these gifts, however you pronounce it right there.", 2619.16, 2622.94, 0.9449838995933533]]}, {"start": 2623.36, "end": 2627.132, "text": "Yeah, we're working on that right now actually. Are you really? Okay.", "confidence": 0.94, "timestamps": [["Yeah, we're working on that right now actually.", 2623.36, 2625.12, 0.9449838995933533], ["Are you really?", 2625.42, 2626.24, 0.9449838995933533], ["Okay.", 2626.24, 2627.13, 0.9449838995933533]]}, {"start": 2627.636, "end": 2635.101, "text": "Yeah. Okay. have, and not that you have to have data or results or it shows that it helps this much", "confidence": 0.95, "timestamps": [["Yeah.", 2627.64, 2628.24, 0.9449838995933533], ["Okay.", 2628.24, 2629.24, 0.9449838995933533], ["have, and not that you have to have data or results or it shows that it helps this much", 2629.24, 2635.1, 0.9562978744506836]]}, {"start": 2635.101, "end": 2637.862, "text": "more or do you have that kind of data behind this as well?", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["more or do you have that kind of data behind this as well?", 2635.1, 2637.86, 0.9562978744506836]]}, {"start": 2638.349, "end": 2641.896, "text": "Yeah. One of the things that we've actually been tracking that we were interested in is", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["Yeah. One of the things that we've actually been tracking that we were interested in is", 2638.35, 2641.9, 0.9562978744506836]]}, {"start": 2642.238, "end": 2646.381, "text": "people's perception of how they feel like things are trending. Because we can see they're", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["people's perception of how they feel like things are trending. Because we can see they're", 2642.24, 2646.38, 0.9562978744506836]]}, {"start": 2646.381, "end": 2652.001, "text": "logging, they are logging it, their sobriety data, right? Like how are the results going", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["logging, they are logging it, their sobriety data, right? Like how are the results going", 2646.38, 2652.0, 0.9562978744506836]]}, {"start": 2652.001, "end": 2655.741, "text": "from an outcome perspective? And then we can see, which I think is even a little more interesting,", "confidence": 0.96, "timestamps": [["from an outcome perspective? And then we can see, which I think is even a little more interesting,", 2652.0, 2655.74, 0.9562978744506836]]}, {"start": 2655.741, "end": 2660.161, "text": "How are people doing at those input type goals and systems and habits?", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["How are people doing at those input type goals and systems and habits?", 2655.74, 2660.16, 0.9804031848907471]]}, {"start": 2660.161, "end": 2665.4, "text": "I'm tracking my exercise, my sleep, my journaling, spiritual habits, whatever it is.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I'm tracking my exercise, my sleep, my journaling, spiritual habits, whatever it is.", 2660.16, 2665.4, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2665.913, "end": 2670.323, "text": "But we're asking people in a weekly reflection how they feel about the level of connection", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["But we're asking people in a weekly reflection how they feel about the level of connection", 2665.91, 2670.32, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2670.323, "end": 2673.691, "text": "with their group, because really one of the main outcomes we want is to help people feel more connected.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["with their group, because really one of the main outcomes we want is to help people feel", 2670.32, 2673.2, 1.0], ["more connected.", 2673.2, 2673.69, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2674.484, "end": 2679.075, "text": "And then we're asking them how they feel. Do they feel like things are getting better, staying the same, or getting worse?", "confidence": 1.0, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["And then we're asking them how they feel.", 2674.48, 2675.6, 1.0], ["Do they feel like things are getting better, staying the same, or getting worse?", 2675.6, 2679.07, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2679.363, "end": 2683.443, "text": "And 79% of our users report feeling like things are getting better within the first month", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["And 79% of our users report feeling like things are getting better within the first month", 2679.36, 2683.44, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2683.443, "end": 2685.169, "text": "of using the app. Okay.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["of using the app.", 2683.44, 2684.44, 1.0], ["Okay.", 2684.62, 2685.17, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2685.443, "end": 2688.527, "text": "So that's kind of the main data we found so far. 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And so I make my phone number and my email very available because I just", 2694.92, 2699.24, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2699.243, "end": 2703.563, "text": "want to understand what people find really effective in the app and what they wish was", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["want to understand what people find really effective in the app and what they wish was", 2699.24, 2703.56, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2703.563, "end": 2706.923, "text": "different. And that's how like people are like, yeah, I want to send memes. And we're like, okay,", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["different. And that's how like people are like, yeah, I want to send memes. And we're like, okay,", 2703.56, 2706.92, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2707.0, "end": 2714.923, "text": "we can go add that. No, I do notice on the website to Johan Hari and dig that. So that Ted talk and", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["we can go add that. No, I do notice on the website to Johan Hari and dig that. 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And he really just talks about a few studies that", 2725.48, 2729.4, 0.9282948970794678]]}, {"start": 2729.403, "end": 2733.803, "text": "they've done that even with substance abuse, not just prion addiction, they found that connection.", "confidence": 0.93, "timestamps": [["they've done that even with substance abuse, not just prion addiction, they found that connection.", 2729.4, 2733.8, 0.9282948970794678]]}, {"start": 2733.803, "end": 2739.003, "text": "Is he the one that did the rat amusement park? Yeah, exactly. Do you know that went off the top", "confidence": 0.93, "timestamps": [["Is he the one that did the rat amusement park? Yeah, exactly. Do you know that went off the top", 2733.8, 2739.0, 0.9282948970794678]]}, {"start": 2739.003, "end": 2741.243, "text": "of your head Chandler? I was just telling us one of the groups. I was just about to try to", "confidence": 0.93, "timestamps": [["of your head Chandler? I was just telling us one of the groups. I was just about to try to", 2739.0, 2741.24, 0.9282948970794678]]}, {"start": 2741.243, "end": 2747.403, "text": "summarize this. I may butcher it. I do. Okay. I literally just had somebody text it to me a", "confidence": 0.93, "timestamps": [["summarize this. I may butcher it. I do. Okay. I literally just had somebody text it to me a", 2741.24, 2747.4, 0.9282948970794678]]}, {"start": 2747.403, "end": 2750.123, "text": "a couple of days ago. So no, let's talk about this before we wrap it up.", "confidence": 0.94, "timestamps": [["a couple of days ago. So no, let's talk about this before we wrap it up.", 2747.4, 2750.12, 0.9405243396759033]]}, {"start": 2750.123, "end": 2756.323, "text": "Matt Thompson Yeah. So I believe what happened, they had these rats in a cage, right? And I can't remember what the substance was. It was essentially", "confidence": 0.94, "timestamps": [["Matt Thompson Yeah. 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But generally, I think the principle of connection helping and actually", 2813.96, 2817.89, 0.9832048416137695]]}, {"start": 2817.886, "end": 2821.726, "text": "being central to the healing process, not just trying to figure out how do I stop a behavior,", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["being central to the healing process, not just trying to figure out how do I stop a behavior,", 2817.89, 2821.73, 0.9832048416137695]]}, {"start": 2822.013, "end": 2825.246, "text": "how do I get more meaningfully connected in my life and in my relationships?", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["how do I get more meaningfully connected in my life and in my relationships?", 2822.01, 2825.25, 0.9832048416137695]]}, {"start": 2825.47, "end": 2828.766, "text": "And I think even connected with the things that I'm doing in a good way,", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["And I think even connected with the things that I'm doing in a good way,", 2825.47, 2828.77, 0.9832048416137695]]}, {"start": 2828.766, "end": 2832.206, "text": "like you were talking about, whether it's my work or my family or other things.", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["like you were talking about, whether it's my work or my family or other things.", 2828.77, 2832.21, 0.9832048416137695]]}, {"start": 2833.094, "end": 2835.806, "text": "Chase Gray 003404 Well, I was going to say before, and that was before we jumped on, I told Chandler,", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["Chase Gray 003404", 2833.09, 2832.43, 0.9832048416137695], ["Well, I was going to say before, and that was before we jumped on, I told Chandler,", 2833.09, 2835.81, 0.9832048416137695]]}, {"start": 2835.806, "end": 2839.54, "text": "And I think most of the people that listen to my podcast, I tell them I don't do enough.", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["And I think most of the people that listen to my podcast, I tell them I don't do enough.", 2835.81, 2839.54, 0.9795087575912476]]}, {"start": 2839.81, "end": 2844.006, "text": "I don't talk enough about this. But yeah, I say that turning to porn is a coping mechanism.", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["I don't talk enough about this.", 2839.81, 2841.19, 0.9795087575912476], ["But yeah, I say that turning to porn is a coping mechanism.", 2841.37, 2844.01, 0.9795087575912476]]}, {"start": 2844.006, "end": 2846.805, "text": "You don't feel connected in your marriage or your parenting, your health, your faith,", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["You don't feel connected in your marriage or your parenting, your health, your faith,", 2844.01, 2846.8, 0.9795087575912476]]}, {"start": 2847.399, "end": 2848.902, "text": "or your career in a nutshell.", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["or your career in a nutshell.", 2847.4, 2848.9, 0.9795087575912476]]}, {"start": 2849.606, "end": 2854.606, "text": "And I pulled up this study and I do. I love it. He says, Rat Park, they don't drink the drug water.", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["And I pulled up this study and I do.", 2849.61, 2851.45, 0.9795087575912476], ["I love it.", 2851.45, 2852.45, 0.9795087575912476], ["He says, Rat Park, they don't drink the drug water.", 2852.5, 2854.61, 0.9795087575912476]]}, {"start": 2854.606, "end": 2860.03, "text": "It was everything the rat could want food and other rats to befriend and colored things, shiny things.", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["It was everything the rat could want food and other rats to befriend and colored things,", 2854.61, 2859.37, 0.9795087575912476], ["shiny things.", 2859.37, 2860.03, 0.9795087575912476]]}, {"start": 2860.408, "end": 2863.648, "text": "And then both water bottles are there, one with water and one with the drug water.", "confidence": 0.98, "timestamps": [["And then both water bottles are there, one with water and one with the drug water.", 2860.41, 2863.65, 0.9795087575912476]]}, {"start": 2864.286, "end": 2870.186, "text": "And they don't drink the drug water. hardly used it. None of them overdosed. And so he talked about how addiction is largely", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["And they don't drink the drug water.", 2864.29, 2865.44, 0.9795087575912476], ["hardly used it. None of them overdosed. And so he talked about how addiction is largely", 2865.57, 2870.19, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2870.186, "end": 2874.466, "text": "an adaptation to your environment. And so I just, I think that's so fascinating because", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["an adaptation to your environment. 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I like", 2885.88, 2889.27, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2889.266, "end": 2893.761, "text": "that a lot. Okay. So where do people find you? Where do.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["that a lot. Okay. So where do people find you? Where do.", 2889.27, 2893.76, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2894.666, "end": 2897.245, "text": "We go. Yeah, it's join relay.app.", "confidence": 0.76, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["We go. Yeah, it's join relay.app.", 2894.67, 2897.24, 0.764004647731781]]}, {"start": 2897.983, "end": 2905.153, "text": "Okay, Chandler, anything else that you want to share? First of all, can I ask you, can you tell if you or Jace are the better coder?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Okay, Chandler, anything else that you want to share?", 2897.98, 2902.15, 1.0], ["First of all, can I ask you, can you tell if you or Jace are the better coder?", 2902.15, 2905.15, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2905.153, "end": 2905.671, "text": "Is that a thing?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Is that a thing?", 2905.15, 2905.67, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2906.175, "end": 2911.468, "text": "Well, I'll give that title to Jace for sure. He does a lot more of it these days than I do.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Well, I'll give that title to Jace for sure.", 2906.18, 2908.87, 1.0], ["He does a lot more of it these days than I do.", 2909.12, 2911.47, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2911.531, "end": 2913.422, "text": "I've stepped away a little bit from doing that a ton.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I've stepped away a little bit from doing that a ton.", 2911.53, 2913.42, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2913.993, "end": 2917.833, "text": "Jace is great. I was going to say real quick, I just remembered any on the streets of New York stories?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["Jace is great.", 2913.99, 2914.99, 1.0], ["I was going to say real quick, I just remembered any on the streets of New York stories?", 2914.99, 2917.83, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2917.833, "end": 2922.253, "text": "I mean, did you guys have to get scrappy or throw it down at all or did you get really good at it?", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I mean, did you guys have to get scrappy or throw it down at all or did you get really", 2917.83, 2921.58, 1.0], ["good at it?", 2921.87, 2922.25, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2922.873, "end": 2926.873, "text": "I don't know. What did you see there? Man, I love New York. We didn't see too many sketchy things.", "confidence": 1.0, "timestamps": [["I don't know.", 2922.87, 2923.52, 1.0], ["What did you see there?", 2923.87, 2924.87, 1.0], ["Man, I love New York.", 2924.87, 2925.87, 1.0], ["We didn't see too many sketchy things.", 2925.87, 2926.87, 1.0]]}, {"start": 2926.873, "end": 2930.713, "text": "Don't have that many funny stories. Some kind of wild things that just you'd expect to see", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["Don't have that many funny stories. Some kind of wild things that just you'd expect to see", 2926.87, 2930.71, 0.9717798233032227]]}, {"start": 2930.713, "end": 2934.353, "text": "people peeing in random places and stuff like that.", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["people peeing in random places and stuff like that.", 2930.71, 2934.35, 0.9717798233032227]]}, {"start": 2935.225, "end": 2940.353, "text": "But Jace and I, I remember we had a really fun day together out near the Hamptons, like", "confidence": 0.97, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["But Jace and I, I remember we had a really fun day together out near the Hamptons, like", 2935.23, 2940.35, 0.9717798233032227]]}, {"start": 2940.353, "end": 2944.933, "text": "the end of Long Island. So it's not familiar with the corner of the city. We did both spend", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["the end of Long Island. So it's not familiar with the corner of the city. We did both spend", 2940.35, 2944.93, 0.9717798233032227]]}, {"start": 2944.933, "end": 2948.553, "text": "some time there. But yeah, I remember even when I met Jace that like, I don't know, we", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["some time there. But yeah, I remember even when I met Jace that like, I don't know, we", 2944.93, 2948.55, 0.9717798233032227]]}, {"start": 2948.553, "end": 2951.993, "text": "just clicked really well together and we were both just really passionate about trying to", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["just clicked really well together and we were both just really passionate about trying to", 2948.55, 2951.99, 0.9717798233032227]]}, {"start": 2951.993, "end": 2956.153, "text": "help the people out there. And I think we were both Spanish speaking. And so we saw", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["help the people out there. And I think we were both Spanish speaking. And so we saw", 2951.99, 2956.15, 0.9717798233032227]]}, {"start": 2956.153, "end": 2961.833, "text": "lot of people who were very isolated. So it again ties back to this theme of connection.", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["lot of people who were very isolated. So it again ties back to this theme of connection.", 2956.15, 2961.83, 0.9650004506111145]]}, {"start": 2962.502, "end": 2966.393, "text": "We're trying to work through all sorts of personal challenges and just realized how,", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["We're trying to work through all sorts of personal challenges and just realized how,", 2962.5, 2966.39, 0.9650004506111145]]}, {"start": 2967.012, "end": 2972.153, "text": "important I guess that theme was as we were out there in New York. No crazy stories. I kind of", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["important I guess that theme was as we were out there in New York. No crazy stories. I kind of", 2967.01, 2972.15, 0.9650004506111145]]}, {"start": 2972.153, "end": 2976.473, "text": "wanted more. I remember leaving being like, I hope like I get shot at, but I live like that.", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["wanted more. I remember leaving being like, I hope like I get shot at, but I live like that.", 2972.15, 2976.47, 0.9650004506111145]]}, {"start": 2976.473, "end": 2981.047, "text": "That would be cool. Yeah. And do you, do you miss any of the food? I mean, was it a good old?", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["That would be cool. Yeah. And do you, do you miss any of the food? I mean, was it a good old?", 2976.47, 2981.05, 0.9650004506111145]]}, {"start": 2981.344, "end": 2984.162, "text": "Yes. My wife, I'd love to move back there for the food.", "confidence": 0.97, "timestamps": [["Yes. My wife, I'd love to move back there for the food.", 2981.34, 2984.16, 0.9650004506111145]]}, {"start": 2984.666, "end": 2986.88, "text": "What do you miss in particular? What was your favorite food there?", "confidence": 0.92, "timestamps": [["What do you miss in particular? What was your favorite food there?", 2984.67, 2986.88, 0.9183452725410461]]}, {"start": 2987.646, "end": 2991.753, "text": "Matthew 1. I mean, the Dominican food is really good. Just all of that, all of their type", "confidence": 0.92, "timestamps": [["Matthew 1. I mean, the Dominican food is really good. Just all of that, all of their type", 2987.65, 2991.75, 0.9183452725410461]]}, {"start": 2991.753, "end": 2994.953, "text": "of food is really good. I also love pupusas from El Salvador.", "confidence": 0.92, "timestamps": [["of food is really good. I also love pupusas from El Salvador.", 2991.75, 2994.95, 0.9183452725410461]]}, {"start": 2995.45, "end": 2996.792, "text": "Chris What's a pupusa?", "confidence": 0.92, "timestamps": [["Chris What's a pupusa?", 2995.45, 2996.79, 0.9183452725410461]]}, {"start": 2997.539, "end": 3000.813, "text": "Matthew 1. It's hard to describe. They're like these little like tortilla, like filled", "confidence": 0.92, "timestamps": [["Matthew 1. It's hard to describe. They're like these little like tortilla, like filled", 2997.54, 3000.81, 0.9183452725410461]]}, {"start": 3001.023, "end": 3006.553, "text": "with beans and meat and cheese, but it's like a little thicker. Anyways, it's super good.", "confidence": 0.92, "timestamps": [["with beans and meat and cheese, but it's like a little thicker. Anyways, it's super good.", 3001.02, 3006.55, 0.9183452725410461]]}, {"start": 3006.553, "end": 3007.63, "text": "Chris That's kind of fun. Yeah.", "confidence": 0.92, "timestamps": [["Chris That's kind of fun. Yeah.", 3006.55, 3007.63, 0.9183452725410461]]}, {"start": 3008.486, "end": 3011.033, "text": "Matthew 1. You're in California, right? You should go. Chris Yes. Yeah.", "confidence": 0.92, "timestamps": [["Matthew 1. You're in California, right? You should go.", 3008.49, 3010.03, 0.9183452725410461], ["Chris Yes. Yeah.", 3010.65, 3011.03, 0.9183452725410461]]}, {"start": 3011.196, "end": 3012.033, "text": "Matthew 1. They definitely have them there. You should go try them.", "confidence": 0.92, "timestamps": [["Matthew 1. They definitely have them there. You should go try them.", 3011.2, 3012.03, 0.9183452725410461]]}, {"start": 3012.033, "end": 3015.473, "text": "Oh, I'm sure they do. Okay. No, that sounds good. All right. Chandler. Chandler Rogers.", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["Oh, I'm sure they do. Okay. No, that sounds good. All right. Chandler. Chandler Rogers.", 3012.03, 3015.47, 0.9930150508880615]]}, {"start": 3015.473, "end": 3018.379, "text": "Thank you for coming on the virtual couch. I look forward to seeing you maybe in the app and", "confidence": 0.99, "timestamps": [["Thank you for coming on the virtual couch. I look forward to seeing you maybe in the app and", 3015.47, 3018.38, 0.9930150508880615]]}, {"start": 3018.593, "end": 3022.475, "text": "and we can share a meeting or two. For sure, let's do it. Thanks, Tony.", "confidence": 0.86, "timestamps": [["and we can share a meeting or two.", 3018.59, 3020.99, 0.9050155282020569], ["For sure, let's do it.", 3020.99, 3022.07, 0.9050155282020569], ["Thanks, Tony.", 3022.07, 3022.48, 0.7698377966880798]]}, {"start": 3022.48, "end": 3146.96, "text": "Music.", "newpara": true}, {"start": 3146.98, "end": 3153.86, "text": "Distance don't explode allow the understanding through to heal the legs and heart.", "confidence": 0.83, "newpara": true, "timestamps": [["Distance don't explode allow the understanding through to heal the legs and heart.", 3147.13, 3153.84, 0.8331332802772522]]}, {"start": 3153.84, "end": 3224.842, "text": "Music.", "newpara": true}]