1 00:00:01,025 --> 00:00:02,965 - Belief is just a thought that I've thought a lot. 2 00:00:02,985 --> 00:00:05,805 So if I believe I can't, if I shift that thinking, 3 00:00:05,965 --> 00:00:07,245 I can believe something different 4 00:00:07,245 --> 00:00:08,645 and I can be something different 5 00:00:08,945 --> 00:00:10,685 and it's time to be something different. 6 00:00:14,755 --> 00:00:17,005 - Welcome to balancing Life's Issues, the podcast. 7 00:00:17,465 --> 00:00:18,965 I'm your host Kai, and today we're here 8 00:00:18,965 --> 00:00:21,685 to continue the celebration of Women's History Month 9 00:00:21,985 --> 00:00:23,965 by sharing the stories of inspiring women 10 00:00:24,265 --> 00:00:25,325 and honoring the choices 11 00:00:25,355 --> 00:00:26,885 that they've made throughout their lives. 12 00:00:27,495 --> 00:00:29,725 Today, Wendy invited National speaker, trainer, 13 00:00:29,785 --> 00:00:33,405 and Toastmasters graduate Rock Alon onto the podcast Raw. 14 00:00:33,425 --> 00:00:35,805 Got their bachelor's in strategic communication from the 15 00:00:35,805 --> 00:00:38,405 University of North Texas and claimed their master's in 16 00:00:38,925 --> 00:00:40,405 clinical counseling from UNT Dallas. 17 00:00:40,995 --> 00:00:43,285 They went on to found their own emotional intelligence 18 00:00:43,285 --> 00:00:44,725 consulting company in 2020. 19 00:00:45,155 --> 00:00:46,155 Take it away, Wendy. 20 00:00:48,465 --> 00:00:49,485 - Hey Rah, how are ya? 21 00:00:50,065 --> 00:00:51,645 - I'm doing so well this morning, Wendy, 22 00:00:51,705 --> 00:00:53,165 how about yourself? Good. 23 00:00:53,185 --> 00:00:56,245 - I'm so happy you like, popped in to my living room 24 00:00:56,945 --> 00:00:59,925 and, um, I love talking to brilliant women, so thank you. 25 00:01:00,265 --> 00:01:01,925 Um, I appreciate that. 26 00:01:01,945 --> 00:01:04,645 And, and we're, we're just taking some time out this month 27 00:01:04,785 --> 00:01:06,925 to highlight, um, women 28 00:01:07,225 --> 00:01:11,805 and especially caring smart, amazing women that are helping 29 00:01:11,805 --> 00:01:13,445 to change the world in their own way. 30 00:01:13,625 --> 00:01:15,845 So instead of me introducing you, 31 00:01:16,225 --> 00:01:17,445 I'm gonna just throw it over to you. 32 00:01:17,635 --> 00:01:20,685 Like, can you tell our everyone who you are? 33 00:01:21,925 --> 00:01:25,205 - Absolutely. So my name is Raw Kalon de She pronouns. 34 00:01:25,525 --> 00:01:28,125 I am the creator and owner of Raw Kalon Coaching 35 00:01:28,125 --> 00:01:30,605 and Consulting, an emotional intelligence agency 36 00:01:30,605 --> 00:01:33,045 that helps individuals, couples, communities, 37 00:01:33,045 --> 00:01:34,485 and companies understand 38 00:01:34,485 --> 00:01:36,845 that they are not simply enough, but they are more than. 39 00:01:37,465 --> 00:01:39,965 So in a nutshell, I just help people, people better 40 00:01:39,965 --> 00:01:42,205 through welcoming with them, with emotional health 41 00:01:42,225 --> 00:01:43,525 and emotional intelligence. 42 00:01:43,585 --> 00:01:46,685 And it's been a lifelong journey and very fulfilling. 43 00:01:46,865 --> 00:01:47,965 - You know, it, it's so funny 44 00:01:48,205 --> 00:01:49,485 'cause sometimes you ever just take a step back 45 00:01:49,485 --> 00:01:51,485 and say like, don't they know this already? 46 00:01:51,915 --> 00:01:53,205 Like, and what would you say? 47 00:01:53,205 --> 00:01:54,965 Like, but the problem Wendy is, 48 00:01:55,585 --> 00:01:56,845 - Oh, the problem Wendy, is 49 00:01:56,845 --> 00:01:58,085 that people don't trust themselves. 50 00:01:58,175 --> 00:01:59,765 There are lots of things that we know, 51 00:01:59,905 --> 00:02:01,685 we know on a deep cellular level. 52 00:02:01,755 --> 00:02:04,365 However, we have been conditioned throughout life 53 00:02:04,545 --> 00:02:05,605 to trust people 54 00:02:05,785 --> 00:02:08,245 and circumstances external to us, outside of us. 55 00:02:08,545 --> 00:02:12,805 And so, especially as women, especially as women of color, 56 00:02:13,725 --> 00:02:16,365 I know that I can find myself having imposter syndrome 57 00:02:16,385 --> 00:02:19,245 or self-doubt that just inhibits me from living 58 00:02:19,305 --> 00:02:20,405 in my full potential. 59 00:02:20,545 --> 00:02:21,925 So what I've been able to do 60 00:02:21,925 --> 00:02:24,605 and what I'm doing all my life is removing those layers 61 00:02:24,665 --> 00:02:27,685 of doubt, revealing the truth, and then embodying that 62 00:02:27,685 --> 00:02:29,525 and reminding other people to do the same. 63 00:02:29,745 --> 00:02:31,485 - Oh my goodness. I need tip number one. 64 00:02:32,025 --> 00:02:35,085 - Tip number one is sit with yourself, 65 00:02:35,465 --> 00:02:37,685 become comfortable in your own solitude. 66 00:02:37,945 --> 00:02:40,885 You'll be amazed at how quickly you go into survival mode. 67 00:02:40,905 --> 00:02:43,565 As soon as you sit your butt down to actually be still. 68 00:02:43,585 --> 00:02:46,285 You just don't trust it. There's been so much go, go, go 69 00:02:46,285 --> 00:02:47,925 that you think that if you're sitting still, 70 00:02:47,925 --> 00:02:48,965 you're missing something. 71 00:02:49,425 --> 00:02:50,965 But really by not sitting still 72 00:02:50,985 --> 00:02:53,365 and sitting with you, sitting in your own solitude, 73 00:02:53,365 --> 00:02:54,565 you're missing everything. 74 00:02:54,825 --> 00:02:56,525 You're missing how you are feeling 75 00:02:56,705 --> 00:02:58,565 and your feelings determine what you think 76 00:02:58,785 --> 00:03:00,565 and your thoughts determine your behavior. 77 00:03:01,025 --> 00:03:04,285 So yeah, that's thought number one. Suggestion number one. 78 00:03:04,505 --> 00:03:07,125 - So rock, can you share with us like when 79 00:03:07,125 --> 00:03:08,285 that's been a challenge for you? 80 00:03:08,595 --> 00:03:11,805 Like, can you share a particular story about 81 00:03:11,805 --> 00:03:14,565 where it's like been like, you know, Winnie, I get it 82 00:03:14,565 --> 00:03:16,005 because it's been hard because, 83 00:03:16,875 --> 00:03:19,445 - Well, I think it's, uh, the easiest story 84 00:03:19,445 --> 00:03:21,845 to think about is starting your own business. 85 00:03:22,145 --> 00:03:24,165 You know, you know that you have a gift. 86 00:03:24,445 --> 00:03:25,925 I have always had a gift with speaking. 87 00:03:26,115 --> 00:03:29,285 I've always had a gift with words, writing, playwriting, 88 00:03:29,335 --> 00:03:30,405 connecting with people. 89 00:03:31,145 --> 00:03:32,565 And when I went through grad school 90 00:03:32,565 --> 00:03:35,365 and I got my master's in clinical counseling, it seemed easy 91 00:03:35,425 --> 00:03:38,525 to go the path that everyone else would go be a counselor, 92 00:03:38,545 --> 00:03:40,485 be a licensed counselor, go that direction. 93 00:03:40,945 --> 00:03:43,365 But the community that I was working with, the community 94 00:03:43,365 --> 00:03:45,965 that I was around, honestly didn't trust counselors, 95 00:03:45,965 --> 00:03:47,165 didn't trust therapists, 96 00:03:47,665 --> 00:03:50,485 and was much more interested in having someone to talk to. 97 00:03:50,555 --> 00:03:52,685 Just someone who could help them unpack how they feel. 98 00:03:53,425 --> 00:03:55,365 And so terms like coaching, oh, 99 00:03:55,365 --> 00:03:56,965 - Wait a minute, raw, how many people told you 100 00:03:56,965 --> 00:03:59,085 that it was a bad idea to start your own business? 101 00:03:59,225 --> 00:04:00,645 - You know, it wasn't so much 102 00:04:00,645 --> 00:04:02,525 that people told me it was a bad idea. 103 00:04:02,635 --> 00:04:06,445 They would just ask questions that would point to doubt. 104 00:04:06,965 --> 00:04:08,645 Interesting. No one had the audacity, 105 00:04:08,655 --> 00:04:11,005 especially if you know me and how big I dream. 106 00:04:11,545 --> 00:04:13,925 No one had the audacity to say, that's a bad idea. 107 00:04:14,035 --> 00:04:15,285 They would try to poke holes. 108 00:04:15,315 --> 00:04:17,845 They, and, and it wasn't even that they wanted 109 00:04:17,865 --> 00:04:19,965 to discourage me, they wanted me to be prepared. 110 00:04:20,345 --> 00:04:21,685 And that's what a lot of people do, 111 00:04:21,695 --> 00:04:22,695 - Right? 112 00:04:22,695 --> 00:04:25,005 Because we shield you from being hurt, right? I mean, they 113 00:04:25,005 --> 00:04:27,725 - Wanna shield you, but really they're just really setting 114 00:04:27,725 --> 00:04:29,925 you up to be hurt by not trusting yourself. 115 00:04:30,825 --> 00:04:33,685 So starting this organization, starting this platform, 116 00:04:34,385 --> 00:04:37,685 it is one of those moments where self-awareness, self-trust, 117 00:04:37,865 --> 00:04:40,325 self-acceptance and really leaning into your 118 00:04:40,325 --> 00:04:41,485 gift making room for you. 119 00:04:42,025 --> 00:04:43,165 All of that started with this. 120 00:04:43,665 --> 00:04:46,445 - So do you have women that you go to not maybe even 121 00:04:46,445 --> 00:04:48,045 that you know, or that you don't know, 122 00:04:48,485 --> 00:04:51,125 I don't know if you wanna use the word role model or mentor. 123 00:04:51,265 --> 00:04:53,445 Do you have those people, like when you walk in a room 124 00:04:54,065 --> 00:04:56,085 and you're networking, are there a lot of women 125 00:04:56,145 --> 00:04:57,445 or there a lot of women of color 126 00:04:57,445 --> 00:04:58,685 and you're like, I wanna be like her. 127 00:04:59,195 --> 00:05:01,845 - There's a handful of women that I want 128 00:05:01,845 --> 00:05:05,045 to be in the same opportunities as her. 129 00:05:05,125 --> 00:05:06,405 I can say that at this point in life, 130 00:05:06,405 --> 00:05:08,805 there's no other woman I want to be other than me. 131 00:05:09,185 --> 00:05:13,125 Uh, but I do have Dr. Quinta, Dr. Chandler. 132 00:05:13,415 --> 00:05:15,685 These are experts in the field of mental health 133 00:05:15,785 --> 00:05:18,765 and emotional health that I enjoy being able to reach out 134 00:05:18,765 --> 00:05:20,205 to when my world is spending. 135 00:05:20,265 --> 00:05:21,605 And let's be clear, just 136 00:05:21,605 --> 00:05:23,845 because you know how to help people with their emotions 137 00:05:23,845 --> 00:05:25,165 and their mindset doesn't mean 138 00:05:25,165 --> 00:05:28,045 that you are constantly working on your own maintenance. 139 00:05:28,235 --> 00:05:29,445 - Yeah, it's so true. 140 00:05:30,065 --> 00:05:32,765 You know, one thing here at at BLI that's always important 141 00:05:32,785 --> 00:05:35,245 to us is we talk a little bit about holistically, 142 00:05:35,395 --> 00:05:37,445 like our own health, our own family. 143 00:05:37,585 --> 00:05:40,125 So will you share with us like a little bit about what's the 144 00:05:40,125 --> 00:05:41,725 other world like over there for you, raw, 145 00:05:41,725 --> 00:05:44,325 like your family, your health? How's it going for you? 146 00:05:44,845 --> 00:05:47,125 - I would say that my body is changing. 147 00:05:47,305 --> 00:05:50,205 I'm 32 and I can tell and I can feel that. 148 00:05:50,265 --> 00:05:52,485 So I'm learning what my body needs right now. 149 00:05:52,705 --> 00:05:55,045 So my health is doing well because I'm paying attention, 150 00:05:55,505 --> 00:05:56,685 but I'm looking forward to 151 00:05:56,685 --> 00:05:58,205 what this next evolution looks like. 152 00:05:58,945 --> 00:06:01,125 My family is doing well, we are thriving 153 00:06:01,465 --> 00:06:03,005 and grateful to be doing so. 154 00:06:03,035 --> 00:06:04,645 This marks the 10 year anniversary 155 00:06:04,645 --> 00:06:06,005 of my mother passing away. 156 00:06:06,065 --> 00:06:09,525 And so this 10 year moment, there's a lot of full circle. 157 00:06:09,555 --> 00:06:12,205 There's a lot of appreciation for not being in the depths 158 00:06:12,205 --> 00:06:13,965 of grief like we were, but still knowing 159 00:06:13,965 --> 00:06:15,925 that grief holds a place within us, 160 00:06:16,135 --> 00:06:18,285 we've just grown bigger than the grief at this point. 161 00:06:18,425 --> 00:06:20,245 So I'm more than proud of my family. 162 00:06:20,785 --> 00:06:23,605 - Do you think that, like, as a woman, when you look at 163 00:06:23,695 --> 00:06:24,965 where you mean 32? 164 00:06:25,305 --> 00:06:27,205 I'm 62, so we got a little age thing. 165 00:06:27,305 --> 00:06:29,005 I'm enough to be your mom over here. Right? 166 00:06:29,395 --> 00:06:31,725 I'll ask you this question, and I don't mean it negative, 167 00:06:31,725 --> 00:06:33,285 but it does come out a little negative, 168 00:06:33,385 --> 00:06:35,965 is we just haven't made enough progress. 169 00:06:36,285 --> 00:06:38,605 I feel like we just haven't made enough progress. 170 00:06:39,225 --> 00:06:41,405 Um, and it's, it gets to me some mornings. 171 00:06:41,425 --> 00:06:44,125 How are you feeling about like women and our empowerment? 172 00:06:44,305 --> 00:06:47,445 - You know, I, I think that we have made, 173 00:06:47,935 --> 00:06:50,285 we've made progress, but there's always more to be done 174 00:06:50,825 --> 00:06:51,885 for me and my perspective. 175 00:06:52,065 --> 00:06:54,725 It really is about appreciating where you're at 176 00:06:54,745 --> 00:06:57,365 and using that as a catalyst to get to the next place. 177 00:06:57,845 --> 00:07:00,685 I find that if I'm always only having my sight set on 178 00:07:00,685 --> 00:07:03,365 where I want to get to without acknowledging all 179 00:07:03,365 --> 00:07:05,845 that it took to get to here, that I can start 180 00:07:05,845 --> 00:07:08,405 to come off ungrateful and I'll get fussy 181 00:07:08,585 --> 00:07:10,365 and then I'll start to put up obstacles 182 00:07:10,365 --> 00:07:12,165 that aren't even necessarily there. 183 00:07:12,585 --> 00:07:15,165 But if I start to see how I've overcome obstacles, 184 00:07:15,195 --> 00:07:16,805 I've had 100% success, 185 00:07:16,805 --> 00:07:18,685 success rate at getting to where I'm at. 186 00:07:18,715 --> 00:07:20,685 Even if there were some scenic routes versus 187 00:07:20,715 --> 00:07:21,925 some shortcuts that I wanted, 188 00:07:22,025 --> 00:07:23,565 - Oh, I like that scenic route idea. 189 00:07:23,945 --> 00:07:25,405 - The scenic route, you know, take, 190 00:07:25,405 --> 00:07:27,165 taking all the scenery, taking the views. 191 00:07:27,465 --> 00:07:31,885 But by this point now I am just eager to see women embody, 192 00:07:32,765 --> 00:07:34,525 honoring the desires of their heart, 193 00:07:34,865 --> 00:07:36,285 not feeling selfish for that. 194 00:07:36,965 --> 00:07:39,685 Recognizing self care is self preservation 195 00:07:39,985 --> 00:07:42,565 and that by doing so, you have more to give to the rest 196 00:07:42,565 --> 00:07:44,365 of your village, to the rest of the community. 197 00:07:44,745 --> 00:07:47,325 And by honoring that unapologetically, that's 198 00:07:47,325 --> 00:07:48,325 what I'm interested in. 199 00:07:48,465 --> 00:07:49,965 And I know that our progress is going 200 00:07:49,965 --> 00:07:50,965 - On. 201 00:07:50,965 --> 00:07:52,365 So let me ask you the hardest question. What's that? 202 00:07:52,825 --> 00:07:56,965 Now in context, I have been called some names along the way 203 00:07:57,445 --> 00:07:58,885 'cause I want what I want, what I want it. 204 00:07:59,145 --> 00:08:00,605 Mm-Hmm, and 205 00:08:00,605 --> 00:08:02,445 that word witch, but it has a different name. 206 00:08:02,465 --> 00:08:04,845 Mm-Hmm. rhyme. Different first letter. Mm-Hmm. 207 00:08:04,885 --> 00:08:05,965 . Has it ever happened 208 00:08:05,965 --> 00:08:07,125 to you? And how do you feel about that? 209 00:08:07,625 --> 00:08:10,445 - You know, with the energy that I have, Wendy, 210 00:08:10,705 --> 00:08:12,685 people don't talk to me like that. 211 00:08:12,825 --> 00:08:15,605 And if they talk about me like that, they know better than 212 00:08:15,605 --> 00:08:17,605 to do it to my face because I, 213 00:08:17,945 --> 00:08:20,485 - But how, tell me how you set that boundary. 214 00:08:20,665 --> 00:08:23,965 How did you change that? Like, what did you do, rod? 215 00:08:23,965 --> 00:08:26,245 That I can learn from that They would never 216 00:08:26,345 --> 00:08:27,365 say that about me, Wendy. 217 00:08:27,565 --> 00:08:28,845 'cause that's what I hear you saying. They would never 218 00:08:28,845 --> 00:08:29,845 - Do that. 219 00:08:29,845 --> 00:08:30,125 Well, they wouldn't do it to my face. 220 00:08:30,445 --> 00:08:31,805 I don't know what they do when they're not 221 00:08:31,805 --> 00:08:32,965 in front of me, but they wouldn't do 222 00:08:32,965 --> 00:08:33,965 - It. 223 00:08:33,965 --> 00:08:34,445 And, and you know what, I'm good with that 224 00:08:34,725 --> 00:08:35,805 'cause we can't control control that. 225 00:08:35,945 --> 00:08:38,525 But, but what do you think? What do you think you've done? 226 00:08:38,705 --> 00:08:40,845 And I, I mean, really tell me what do you think you've done 227 00:08:40,845 --> 00:08:43,005 that that's just not part of the conversation 228 00:08:43,005 --> 00:08:46,005 where they would say to your face, you know, 229 00:08:46,185 --> 00:08:47,445 you're a a, a witch. 230 00:08:47,445 --> 00:08:48,445 Mm-Hmm. . But the other one 231 00:08:48,675 --> 00:08:49,805 - I've respected myself 232 00:08:50,105 --> 00:08:52,325 and I have put myself in positions 233 00:08:52,325 --> 00:08:53,645 where other people respect me too. 234 00:08:53,785 --> 00:08:56,325 So that even when they disagree with me, there's no need 235 00:08:56,325 --> 00:08:57,885 to talk crazy to one another. 236 00:08:58,345 --> 00:09:01,165 And also they know that I am so observant 237 00:09:01,545 --> 00:09:04,885 and I am so aware of how I navigate people 238 00:09:04,985 --> 00:09:06,445 and how I lead with humility. 239 00:09:06,555 --> 00:09:08,845 That if they did get that low vibrational, 240 00:09:09,065 --> 00:09:11,845 if they did choose to behave that emotionally immature, 241 00:09:11,955 --> 00:09:13,885 they would be kicking themselves out 242 00:09:13,885 --> 00:09:15,285 of an opportunity to work with me. 243 00:09:15,585 --> 00:09:18,565 So when we disagree, they just find an amicable way to do it 244 00:09:18,565 --> 00:09:20,845 because why would you wanna miss out on someone 245 00:09:20,865 --> 00:09:22,405 who has this much to offer? Whoa, 246 00:09:23,235 --> 00:09:24,235 - Whoa. 247 00:09:24,235 --> 00:09:27,085 You know what I hear from you and I appreciate it 248 00:09:27,385 --> 00:09:29,445 and it is something that I think we need so much more. 249 00:09:29,645 --> 00:09:30,685 I self-confidence, 250 00:09:30,865 --> 00:09:32,405 - Uh, and, and self-confidence. 251 00:09:32,425 --> 00:09:33,965 Not arrogance confidence. 252 00:09:34,395 --> 00:09:36,365 - Yeah. But you know, ra this is gonna be silly, 253 00:09:36,465 --> 00:09:38,125 but let's, let's turn this into a 254 00:09:38,125 --> 00:09:39,365 real coaching moment for a minute. 255 00:09:39,475 --> 00:09:41,925 Okay? I went to a function last night 256 00:09:42,305 --> 00:09:43,525 and there were a lot of people there, 257 00:09:44,105 --> 00:09:47,805 and I, I thought I looked nice, I was pretty happy 258 00:09:49,145 --> 00:09:51,365 and, but not, and, and the people were dressed 259 00:09:51,505 --> 00:09:53,485 and, you know, it was pretty, you know, upscale. 260 00:09:54,065 --> 00:09:57,165 Not one person commented on my attire, 261 00:09:57,225 --> 00:09:58,765 but they did on everyone else's. 262 00:09:58,985 --> 00:10:01,485 Mm mm-Hmm, . And I went home 263 00:10:01,585 --> 00:10:03,845 and I thought, I don't think a 264 00:10:03,845 --> 00:10:05,805 man would ever care about that. Why do I care? 265 00:10:06,425 --> 00:10:08,965 - Mm. - Where, well, what happens with that? 266 00:10:09,185 --> 00:10:10,685 What's wrong with me ? 267 00:10:11,035 --> 00:10:13,045 - Well, it's not even. And I love when people ask 268 00:10:13,045 --> 00:10:14,165 that question, what's wrong with me? 269 00:10:14,445 --> 00:10:16,085 A better question is what happened to me? 270 00:10:16,475 --> 00:10:18,285 It's not, what's wrong with you? What happened? 271 00:10:18,665 --> 00:10:21,165 And what happens with most women is that we're conditioned 272 00:10:21,165 --> 00:10:23,205 to find value in our appearance, 273 00:10:23,625 --> 00:10:26,165 not necessarily at the same level that we do with 274 00:10:26,165 --> 00:10:27,645 what we are contributing. 275 00:10:28,185 --> 00:10:30,725 And so even with that being the case, 276 00:10:31,785 --> 00:10:33,285 you have this thoughtfulness over, 277 00:10:33,485 --> 00:10:35,445 I put intention into how I look. 278 00:10:35,885 --> 00:10:37,645 I want other people to appreciate that. 279 00:10:37,865 --> 00:10:39,645 But at the end of the day, as long as you enjoyed 280 00:10:39,645 --> 00:10:41,805 how you were styling, that's what matters. You know, 281 00:10:42,355 --> 00:10:43,725 - What would be the last thing? 282 00:10:43,795 --> 00:10:47,245 Like if you were, if you were, you know, you're on your, 283 00:10:47,355 --> 00:10:51,045 your ability now to communicate to the world and, 284 00:10:51,225 --> 00:10:53,605 and no script, um, 285 00:10:54,395 --> 00:10:56,925 women's history month, you would say 286 00:10:57,275 --> 00:10:59,965 - What I would say women, it's time. 287 00:11:00,665 --> 00:11:01,765 The future is female, 288 00:11:01,865 --> 00:11:03,885 but the present moment is divinely feminine. 289 00:11:04,525 --> 00:11:06,965 I would say that the door is locked from the inside. 290 00:11:07,545 --> 00:11:09,805 So stop waiting for someone to come and save you. 291 00:11:10,185 --> 00:11:11,845 You have all the things you're equipped, 292 00:11:11,845 --> 00:11:14,285 even if you don't feel prepared to save yourself. 293 00:11:14,785 --> 00:11:16,565 It just comes with sitting your butt down 294 00:11:16,565 --> 00:11:19,085 and getting familiar with who that self you're saving is 295 00:11:19,595 --> 00:11:21,405 leading with that self-acceptance 296 00:11:21,425 --> 00:11:24,725 and that unconditional compassion that it is not 297 00:11:24,725 --> 00:11:26,685 what is wrong with me, but what happened to me 298 00:11:26,715 --> 00:11:29,005 that conditioned me to perceive things this way. 299 00:11:29,665 --> 00:11:32,085 And that a belief is just a thought that I've thought a lot. 300 00:11:32,145 --> 00:11:34,965 So if I believe I can't, if I shift that thinking, 301 00:11:35,125 --> 00:11:36,405 I can believe something different 302 00:11:36,405 --> 00:11:37,725 and I can be something different 303 00:11:37,945 --> 00:11:39,605 and it's time to be something different. 304 00:11:40,245 --> 00:11:42,045 - I don't think you could get any better than that. 305 00:11:42,055 --> 00:11:43,605 She's a freaking genius off. 306 00:11:44,105 --> 00:11:46,565 So I, all I can do is tell you I'm grateful 307 00:11:46,565 --> 00:11:49,885 for your relationship and your words and yeah, thank you. 308 00:11:50,145 --> 00:11:51,885 - Of course. Well have me on anytime. 309 00:11:52,125 --> 00:11:54,125 I love coming to your, your living room and talking with 310 00:11:54,125 --> 00:11:55,125 - You. 311 00:11:56,865 --> 00:11:59,405 - Big thanks to Raw Kalan and Wendy for today's episode. 312 00:11:59,665 --> 00:12:01,085 If you'd like to hear more from Raw, 313 00:12:01,185 --> 00:12:03,805 you can catch your hosting this month's free BLI webinar 314 00:12:04,105 --> 00:12:05,125 titled Leadership 315 00:12:05,125 --> 00:12:07,245 for Women on March 29th at 1:00 PM Eastern. 316 00:12:07,245 --> 00:12:09,245 Registration information is available at 317 00:12:09,785 --> 00:12:12,965 bli-info.com/free webinars. 318 00:12:13,335 --> 00:12:15,085 Until next time, everyone take care. 319 00:12:21,555 --> 00:12:24,005 This has been a production of Balancing Life's Issues 320 00:12:24,005 --> 00:12:25,685 with your hosts, Kai Sorenson 321 00:12:25,685 --> 00:12:28,925 and Wendy Woner, produced by me Kai Rate. 322 00:12:29,065 --> 00:12:30,965 Lie a review and subscribe to the podcast 323 00:12:31,605 --> 00:12:33,325 wherever you listen so you can get brand new 324 00:12:33,325 --> 00:12:34,485 episodes as they drop. 325 00:12:34,905 --> 00:12:35,965 Got an idea for the show. 326 00:12:36,455 --> 00:12:40,845 Email me, k i@balancinglifesissues.com. Anything to add? 327 00:12:40,845 --> 00:12:41,125 Miles.