1 00:00:00,920 --> 00:00:05,480 This is the Art Beauty podcast where we tell the real truth about the fake shit. 2 00:00:05,520 --> 00:00:06,320 Hi everybody. 3 00:00:06,320 --> 00:00:07,480 I am a Amber and. 4 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:10,560 My fabulous co-host is Miss JAcqui Pugh. 5 00:00:10,800 --> 00:00:15,120 She is a freedom and fulfillment coach and we are going to get all into 6 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:17,680 what that means because to be honest, I'm not quite sure of myself, 7 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:19,600 but I do want to point out 8 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:23,800 before we get started, this is our last show of the year. 9 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:27,880 Thank you so much for listening to being here with us all year long. 10 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:30,480 You know, the last two weeks as we're going to the holidays, 11 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:33,080 I want you to enjoy with your family and friends. 12 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:34,680 I want to enjoy it with my family friends. 13 00:00:34,680 --> 00:00:38,520 But we will be back on January 3rd with amazing content that you know, 14 00:00:38,520 --> 00:00:39,840 and you love. 15 00:00:39,840 --> 00:00:42,480 So just thank you for everybody for listening through the year. 16 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:42,880 Okay. 17 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:45,720 So, Jacqui first of all, welcome to the show. 18 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:47,640 Thank you for having me. 19 00:00:47,640 --> 00:00:50,040 And I'm like, January 3rd, that's my birthday. Yes. 20 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:51,600 These are great to be back. 21 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:52,040 Oh, my. 22 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:54,360 Goodness. Oh, girl, Happy birthday. 23 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:56,360 We are like in the homestretch here. 24 00:00:57,640 --> 00:00:59,400 So, you know, 25 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:04,520 let's get into, first of all, what is a freedom 26 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:07,880 and fulfillment coach? 27 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:08,840 You have freedom in the film. 28 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:12,920 It is usually what my clients end up experiencing when we are 29 00:01:13,760 --> 00:01:16,080 at the end of my program. 30 00:01:16,080 --> 00:01:16,720 Okay? 31 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:20,400 They usually come in feeling unfulfilled, feeling 32 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:24,720 like they can't live life on their terms, that they have to go and play 33 00:01:24,720 --> 00:01:27,360 by society's terms or their family's terms or whatever that is. 34 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:29,640 And by the end of it, they feel completely free. 35 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:31,680 Ever felt from the inside out. 36 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:32,160 I love that. 37 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:34,040 Now, if you're listening right now and you're saying, Wait, Amber, 38 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:35,600 what does this have to do with beauty? 39 00:01:35,600 --> 00:01:37,240 I want to point out that we're doing things 40 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:39,680 a little bit different again last year of the year. 41 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:42,960 And I know that this can be a very difficult time for us. 42 00:01:42,960 --> 00:01:46,240 And I want you to go into the holidays not only looking your best, 43 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:48,560 but also feeling your best. 44 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:52,920 So if you're single, you know, if you're having issues about, 45 00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:54,480 I don't know, getting together with family, 46 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:56,960 if you have anxiety about this time of year, 47 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:00,160 we're going to make sure that you're feeling your best. 48 00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:06,040 So, Jacqui, how did you become a freedom and fulfillment coach? 49 00:02:06,160 --> 00:02:10,080 That is a loaded question. 50 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:13,440 I have always been the Inspire since I was a little girl. 51 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:16,520 And honestly, I knew that that was a job. 52 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:20,560 I probably would have gone to school for psychology, but I'd done it and long 53 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:26,160 story short, I ended up taking surf lessons from this guy and his energy. 54 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:29,280 I just want to be around him all the time. 55 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:31,160 Like he's just a light. 56 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:34,600 And he started posting little different, like three minute 57 00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:37,880 videos on Facebook about different things. 58 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:42,120 And I could tell he was starting to to build a business, becoming a life coach, 59 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:44,880 and I was thinking I want to do this. 60 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:48,640 And I, I hit my rock bottom in life where I was on unfulfilled 61 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:50,840 and not feeling free. 62 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:54,240 And literally every area of my life I've been through. 63 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:55,360 Three. 64 00:02:55,360 --> 00:02:58,560 Traumatic heartbreaks like break ups back to back to back. 65 00:02:58,560 --> 00:03:01,200 And you like. Traumatic. 66 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:03,520 FOSTER Yes. 67 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:08,040 And I was in real estate as good at it because I cared. 68 00:03:08,040 --> 00:03:10,320 But I hated it. 69 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:12,680 I was hanging around people where 70 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:15,200 I necessarily have a lot in common with them, 71 00:03:15,200 --> 00:03:19,400 but I felt like I should be networking and fill in the things for my job. 72 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:20,800 And I had stuff going on, family 73 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:24,480 and just literally every hour of my life I was unfulfilled and one day 74 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:29,680 I had hit my rock bottom and I was depressed for two months. 75 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:32,000 I couldn't get out of bed and work nothing. 76 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:35,680 And the last week of that, I finally made it to the couch 77 00:03:35,680 --> 00:03:37,680 and I was like, What's the common denominator? 78 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:41,040 What is the common denominator in all of the entitlement in my life? 79 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:44,560 Because once I find it out, I'm going to blame it so hard. 80 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:47,160 I can't wait and I figured it out. 81 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:48,400 And it was me. 82 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:51,360 Me. Me, me. 83 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:53,560 So I had a whole like 5 minutes of being victim. 84 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:55,800 That's why I realized, 85 00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:59,040 wait a minute, if it's me, that means I'm not waiting for anything 86 00:03:59,040 --> 00:04:02,920 outside of me for the boss to change, for the boyfriend to change, for the friends, 87 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:05,880 the change for the family, the means. I have the power to change it. 88 00:04:05,880 --> 00:04:08,680 All right. Now. And so the surf instructor. 89 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:09,440 That I. 90 00:04:09,440 --> 00:04:13,600 Met, I hired him and worked with him in his group coaching program. 91 00:04:13,600 --> 00:04:17,560 Like, you know how they say when the student is ready, the teacher appears. 92 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:21,480 Literally that day, this man launched a group 93 00:04:21,480 --> 00:04:23,360 coaching program for the first time ever. 94 00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:24,040 And I was like, 95 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:26,960 I don't have no idea how my favorite I have not worked in two months, but. 96 00:04:27,480 --> 00:04:28,320 This. Is for me. 97 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:32,240 And so I spent $5,000 that I did not have found a way 98 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:34,400 out of no way and got in there. 99 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:36,120 And I changed my whole life and I was like, 100 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:38,280 This is what I want to do for other people. 101 00:04:38,280 --> 00:04:39,480 This is what I want to do. 102 00:04:39,480 --> 00:04:41,160 And now that's what I give to other people. 103 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:44,440 And I'm actually laughing because what you're like, 104 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:47,280 how does this have anything to do with your beauty? Right? 105 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:49,600 H And I will tell you guys, 106 00:04:50,440 --> 00:04:54,320 men were coming up to me like guy friends were coming out 107 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:56,520 to be like, Jackie, what are you doing? Your skin is glowing. 108 00:04:56,720 --> 00:04:59,800 And just yesterday I have a 24 year old. 109 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:02,640 I don't know the politically correct term anymore. 110 00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:05,880 You black a black 24 year old client. 111 00:05:06,280 --> 00:05:08,880 And I looked at him. 112 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:11,040 We only had three sessions together. 113 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:14,600 I was like, your skin is glowing. 114 00:05:14,800 --> 00:05:17,520 He's like you to to 115 00:05:17,520 --> 00:05:19,360 his confidence, right? 116 00:05:19,360 --> 00:05:21,720 Yeah, Confidence is beautiful. 117 00:05:22,080 --> 00:05:25,440 I tried to tell people all the time, You know, when I met my husband, 118 00:05:25,440 --> 00:05:30,160 I was actually, I would say, like, £20 heavier, like, you know, my fashion was, 119 00:05:30,280 --> 00:05:34,520 you know, as my twenties, actually, No, I was just I just turned 30. 120 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:38,560 I did not have my stuff together in any way. 121 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:40,720 I was so confident. 122 00:05:40,720 --> 00:05:41,760 I was with my best friend. 123 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:45,520 I'd gone through a huge heartbreak, a huge heartbreak. 124 00:05:45,520 --> 00:05:47,560 We used to like sit and call the dinner and be like, 125 00:05:47,560 --> 00:05:51,320 You see the right side of the menu, Just send that over, you know? 126 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:54,120 But I was living my best life. I'd finally gotten my groove back. 127 00:05:54,120 --> 00:05:56,240 I was traveling, I was having a great time with my girlfriends. 128 00:05:56,240 --> 00:05:59,040 And I think that even though I look now and I'm like, Oh, 129 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:01,520 that's not how I felt my physically best. 130 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:04,480 My husband's like, That's I remember you so beautiful 131 00:06:04,480 --> 00:06:08,200 because you were shining with confidence and that really does matter. 132 00:06:08,520 --> 00:06:09,640 It does. 133 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:12,080 So you have actually taken a 134 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:15,080 you've totally transformed your career. 135 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:18,200 My career, my life, my family 136 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:21,240 dynamics, my friendships, my finances. 137 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:24,040 I mean, every literally, I'm a full life transformation coach 138 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:25,440 every year of my life, my options. 139 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:29,040 So, you know, I do want to get into, you know, 140 00:06:29,440 --> 00:06:32,680 like we mentioned at the top of the show, the holidays can be tough. 141 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:34,080 It can be great for some people. 142 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:37,560 But I think actually in some ways it can be tough on everybody. 143 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:39,480 You know. 144 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:40,760 Do you have any advice? 145 00:06:40,760 --> 00:06:43,200 Let's start with the people who are single this time of year, 146 00:06:43,880 --> 00:06:46,240 whether you've never been in a relationship or those people 147 00:06:46,240 --> 00:06:50,160 who have lost a relationship, either they've broken up or divorced 148 00:06:50,160 --> 00:06:53,400 or maybe somebody who's passed away, what advice do you have 149 00:06:53,400 --> 00:06:57,200 for people to not feel so distraught during the holidays? 150 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:02,280 Well, one, I am a proponent of feeling your feelings 151 00:07:02,320 --> 00:07:05,680 because emotions are just energy in motion. 152 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:08,080 That's literally what emotion means. 153 00:07:08,320 --> 00:07:11,440 And so they get magic come through and we experience them when they pass. 154 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:12,880 But oftentimes 155 00:07:12,880 --> 00:07:16,720 with how our society is these days, it's not cool to feel any emotion, right? 156 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:19,360 So they come through and we're like, That was like you. 157 00:07:19,360 --> 00:07:22,200 I was going to shut it down and I'm going to carry it with me everywhere. 158 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:24,400 And like, energy checks, like energy. 159 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:28,920 So my my first invitation would be, It's okay, you're human. 160 00:07:29,440 --> 00:07:32,440 Feel it without guilt, let it out. 161 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:35,600 And there are things that you can do. 162 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:41,160 Like I never in a million years thought that I could say I love being single. 163 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:43,440 And if I meet my person in this lifetime. 164 00:07:43,440 --> 00:07:45,120 Amazing. If not, that's okay. 165 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:47,200 I never thought that I would get that way. 166 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:49,880 But you can find companionship and 167 00:07:49,880 --> 00:07:52,800 in, you know, get a pet, call your friends. 168 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:54,680 And a lot of times if we're feeling yucky, 169 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:56,800 we don't want to feel like we're a burden on other people. 170 00:07:56,800 --> 00:07:59,720 Or maybe they don't want to hang out with me. 171 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:01,200 They haven't reached out to me in a while. 172 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:04,240 And so we'll just play extra small, especially during the holidays. 173 00:08:04,800 --> 00:08:09,480 I want to challenge you, like reach out to three people that you have not spoken 174 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:13,800 to in a while, that when you meet them you're and you feel more energy. 175 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:14,320 You know what I mean? 176 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:16,360 Like you're with people and you're like, Oh my God. 177 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:17,400 I'm so tired. 178 00:08:17,400 --> 00:08:18,800 Yes, yeah, yeah. 179 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:21,440 There are people in my life who are definitely energy suck. 180 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:25,080 And then there are definitely people who, you know, my best, best, best friends 181 00:08:25,080 --> 00:08:28,800 who are just givers of life and energy and can make you 182 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:31,560 and who I actually always call when I'm feeling down. 183 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:33,560 And they do the same with me. 184 00:08:33,560 --> 00:08:35,680 But those are my best, best friends, right? 185 00:08:35,680 --> 00:08:38,800 Because, you know, it's like, all right, I just I need to get this off my chest 186 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:41,000 or I need somebody to kind of put things in perspective. 187 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:43,520 I love this idea that you're saying, you know, 188 00:08:44,880 --> 00:08:47,320 you know, let it happen, feel your emotions, 189 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:51,440 and then maybe you can let them go as opposed to carry them on. Yes. 190 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:55,760 Because there is a difference between wallowing and allowing. 191 00:08:56,280 --> 00:08:56,640 Okay. 192 00:08:56,680 --> 00:09:00,120 Like if we while we're just sitting in it and having a pity party and 193 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:03,960 this is my life and I'm in victim mode, but I shouldn't be feeling like this. 194 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:06,080 I have all this guilt with staying with me, 195 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:07,240 but when we allow it, 196 00:09:07,240 --> 00:09:11,840 I literally will tell myself I'm having like I could tell if it's a hormonal thing 197 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:15,000 or if it's a mindset thing or an emotional thing. 198 00:09:15,400 --> 00:09:17,760 And if I know that it's 199 00:09:18,560 --> 00:09:19,640 some type of hormonal, 200 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:23,040 hormonal or emotional thing, I really would just be like, Fine, 201 00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:25,320 Jack, if this is how you need to feel right now, feel it. 202 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:28,480 I mean, sometimes it's all three and that's 203 00:09:28,480 --> 00:09:31,120 when I'm like, Yikes, good luck, world. 204 00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:32,800 Watch out. 205 00:09:32,800 --> 00:09:34,520 Okay, So that's really, really great advice. 206 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:35,520 Let it flow, let it go. 207 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:37,400 Is there like a time limit on how, like, you know, 208 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:40,120 when you work with clients and they're feeling really down, 209 00:09:40,800 --> 00:09:44,640 whether it's, you know, relationship wise or where they are in their life? 210 00:09:44,880 --> 00:09:46,240 Is there a time where you're like, okay, 211 00:09:46,240 --> 00:09:48,280 you can feel this for like X amount of times, 212 00:09:48,280 --> 00:09:50,880 Like when you break up, it's like was in the Sex and the City. 213 00:09:50,880 --> 00:09:54,160 That was like half the time that you were together. 214 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:57,240 You're allowed to, like, feel bad about it. 215 00:09:57,240 --> 00:09:59,040 Is there any kind of guidelines on how long, 216 00:09:59,040 --> 00:10:02,600 when it's time to say, okay, no, no, about okay. 217 00:10:03,160 --> 00:10:04,480 There's more. 218 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:08,640 But if I do catch that, my clients are wallowing and not allowing 219 00:10:08,800 --> 00:10:10,480 tough love is going to be coming 220 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:13,080 and and they're going to move out of it much quicker. Right. 221 00:10:13,120 --> 00:10:15,320 I tools and stuff to take them through. 222 00:10:16,200 --> 00:10:19,840 But typically speaking, just to give an idea, 223 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:24,520 I guess, of what's possible, like for me when I give myself that permission, 224 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:28,200 maybe a phase out of taking me a month to get out of like 225 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:30,720 a funk or a week to get out of, 226 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:35,840 when I give myself that permission, I a time and specific 227 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:38,960 coming to mind was a Friday, and by Sunday I was back to myself. 228 00:10:39,120 --> 00:10:40,440 But I went there. 229 00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:42,480 I stayed at home under the covers. 230 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:47,040 I took a bad, I did the thing and then I was able to move out. 231 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:50,680 But and for my clients, when they come to me in a state like that, 232 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:52,880 even going through a breakup, 233 00:10:52,880 --> 00:10:56,080 I mean, I have people who've done therapy for 25 plus years. 234 00:10:56,280 --> 00:10:56,520 Yeah. 235 00:10:56,520 --> 00:11:00,960 And week five, they like I had no idea that I could feel like this. 236 00:11:00,960 --> 00:11:04,560 But part of it is allowing the emotion that's part of it. 237 00:11:04,920 --> 00:11:06,240 And the other part, 238 00:11:06,240 --> 00:11:10,440 another little tip I'd like to give is Chris Evans talks about this. 239 00:11:10,440 --> 00:11:13,280 And because if you're watching me kind of day. 240 00:11:15,240 --> 00:11:17,400 Same same and husband if 241 00:11:17,400 --> 00:11:19,680 you're listening, which I know you're not, you can come to 242 00:11:21,680 --> 00:11:23,280 that with. The threesome. 243 00:11:23,280 --> 00:11:27,960 Like you guys are going to look a little funny on when he talks 244 00:11:27,960 --> 00:11:32,280 about having romance with life and it's something that I do as well. 245 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:36,240 So instead of being at home and being, 246 00:11:36,240 --> 00:11:38,760 even if you are in a relationship, you could still feel lonely, right? 247 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:43,200 Instead of being at home, like, Oh, like I'm all alone and nobody loves me, 248 00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:45,880 like how cozy it is outside and I'm here by myself. 249 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:47,280 I love it. 250 00:11:47,280 --> 00:11:50,640 I like I get my twinkle lights on. 251 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:53,360 I'll go make like a hot cocoa. 252 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:55,160 I'll put on my favorite movie. 253 00:11:55,160 --> 00:11:58,600 I'll cry with my bed, with like a fuzzy, fuzzy blanket. 254 00:11:58,600 --> 00:12:01,840 I'll have my dog and I literally will just look around and be like, 255 00:12:03,040 --> 00:12:05,600 I'm having a romantic moment with life. 256 00:12:05,600 --> 00:12:07,440 Like me and life are in this. 257 00:12:07,440 --> 00:12:08,840 I'm not by myself. 258 00:12:08,840 --> 00:12:11,040 We created something special. 259 00:12:11,040 --> 00:12:13,080 I mean, I know I love my alone time. 260 00:12:13,080 --> 00:12:16,160 I spend a lot of my time alone because I work from home. 261 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:18,120 My husband goes out to work. 262 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:21,000 He works long hours. 263 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:24,280 I think that one of the things that I learned early on was like to be 264 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:27,360 if you could be comfortable being by yourself, 265 00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:30,160 that is like the greatest gift of all. 266 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:31,200 Because then you're right. 267 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:33,760 You can just have a relationship with life, with the things around you. 268 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:36,680 You're not relying on somebody else to give you that. 269 00:12:37,640 --> 00:12:40,600 You know, you I, you had mentioned somewhere 270 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:44,120 maybe I'd read it, but that single time is your golden time. 271 00:12:45,000 --> 00:12:47,720 Can you tell me a little bit about what you meant when you said that? 272 00:12:48,560 --> 00:12:51,480 Yeah, I think that so many people don't 273 00:12:51,480 --> 00:12:54,960 utilize their single time efficiently. 274 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:55,480 Okay. 275 00:12:55,520 --> 00:12:58,440 Like even somebody, you just shared a really great story. 276 00:12:58,560 --> 00:13:00,000 You're like, I was incompetent. 277 00:13:00,000 --> 00:13:01,520 I was do it right like that. 278 00:13:01,520 --> 00:13:03,800 That's what your single time gets to be about. 279 00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:04,680 If you allow it. 280 00:13:04,680 --> 00:13:07,760 And in turn, you attracted an amazing man, right? 281 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:10,280 You found the love of your life and you got married because she was just 282 00:13:10,480 --> 00:13:13,680 she care what he looked like on the outside, sizzling, amazing on the inside. 283 00:13:13,680 --> 00:13:14,240 And that. 284 00:13:14,280 --> 00:13:14,520 Made. 285 00:13:14,520 --> 00:13:17,360 Her outside look different just naturally. And 286 00:13:18,400 --> 00:13:19,320 someone that I 287 00:13:19,320 --> 00:13:21,960 know that's pretty close to me, 288 00:13:22,720 --> 00:13:26,000 they would cry so often on the phone. 289 00:13:26,160 --> 00:13:29,840 I'm I'm always but literally she was like always the bridesmaid like sometimes 290 00:13:29,840 --> 00:13:33,040 like four times in a summer, you know, like I'm always a bridesmaid. 291 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:34,240 I'm always made of honor. 292 00:13:34,240 --> 00:13:35,880 I don't have anybody. 293 00:13:35,880 --> 00:13:38,240 Is it ever going to be me? 294 00:13:38,240 --> 00:13:40,880 And now she's married and she has three kids in the house 295 00:13:40,880 --> 00:13:41,880 and the fence and all the things. 296 00:13:41,880 --> 00:13:44,920 And I asked her if you could have spent your single time 297 00:13:44,920 --> 00:13:48,280 differently knowing that your life is going to end up like this. 298 00:13:48,560 --> 00:13:50,560 Would you have spent it any differently? 299 00:13:50,560 --> 00:13:52,200 And she was like, Yeah. Yeah. 300 00:13:52,200 --> 00:13:54,760 So it's not. So much time being sad and crying. 301 00:13:54,960 --> 00:13:55,680 Yeah, but it wasn't 302 00:13:55,680 --> 00:13:59,360 until she got into therapy and and changed how she was feeling. 303 00:13:59,360 --> 00:14:01,080 So for me, 304 00:14:01,080 --> 00:14:04,360 single time was your golden time because I, the divorce rate is super high, 305 00:14:04,640 --> 00:14:07,920 but I think it's because so many people don't take the time. 306 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:10,400 And you can do this even if you are married or in a relationship. 307 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:13,120 I work with people in relationships as well, but 308 00:14:14,560 --> 00:14:16,560 taking that time just for you, 309 00:14:16,600 --> 00:14:22,560 that solo time to figure out who you are, what actually lights you up, why? 310 00:14:22,560 --> 00:14:25,320 Why do you operate the way that you do? What are your patterns? 311 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:26,920 Why are you always attracted to the guy? 312 00:14:26,920 --> 00:14:30,040 You're the girl that's like too cool and emotionally unavailable, 313 00:14:30,040 --> 00:14:32,280 and that's what you end up with every single time. 314 00:14:32,280 --> 00:14:34,600 Let's figure out why. Well. 315 00:14:35,360 --> 00:14:39,480 My ex before him, when I met my husband, he was kind of like a little bit goofy. 316 00:14:39,680 --> 00:14:43,920 And I was used to dating like a banker isn't going out to these fancy places. 317 00:14:43,920 --> 00:14:46,920 And then one day I realized my type was a dick, 318 00:14:47,160 --> 00:14:49,920 and I'm like, Oh my gosh, When I met my husband, I'm like, He's not my type. 319 00:14:49,920 --> 00:14:50,400 He's not my type. 320 00:14:50,400 --> 00:14:52,440 And then I was like, Wow, here's this amazing, funny, 321 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:55,200 Wait a minute, why is my type in such a douche bag? 322 00:14:55,200 --> 00:14:56,040 Up until now? 323 00:14:56,040 --> 00:14:57,600 I need to change that. 324 00:14:57,600 --> 00:14:59,760 This is the type that I really want. 325 00:14:59,760 --> 00:15:01,640 So that's a really good point. 326 00:15:01,640 --> 00:15:05,520 You know, give yourself a little bit of that self-examination sometimes because. 327 00:15:05,520 --> 00:15:06,040 Right. 328 00:15:06,040 --> 00:15:08,520 All the problems in our life, as you mentioned before, 329 00:15:08,800 --> 00:15:11,640 the common denominator is always going to be us. 330 00:15:12,160 --> 00:15:14,480 And we do have the power to change some things. 331 00:15:14,520 --> 00:15:16,760 Not everything, right, but something. 332 00:15:16,800 --> 00:15:18,720 That a lot a lot we can. 333 00:15:18,720 --> 00:15:21,280 And I think that there's a huge stigma around, 334 00:15:21,880 --> 00:15:24,760 well, that this bad thing happened to me, right? 335 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:27,440 There's this thing happened to me or this person did this thing to me. 336 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:29,880 And some of those things might actually be really bad. 337 00:15:29,880 --> 00:15:34,640 And I'm not saying that we aren't victims in situations like that, right? 338 00:15:34,960 --> 00:15:39,640 However, it is our responsibility to heal from it and grow from it. 339 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:44,720 And I know that we have a responsibility to like this should be my responsibility. 340 00:15:45,120 --> 00:15:47,280 Responsibility is taking our power back. 341 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:49,360 You're just taking your power back. 342 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:51,800 You don't You, in that situation, no longer control me. 343 00:15:52,120 --> 00:15:53,440 Yeah, I'm doing making. 344 00:15:53,440 --> 00:15:55,720 I'm literally making the situation gold. 345 00:15:55,720 --> 00:15:57,400 I think. It is. 346 00:15:57,400 --> 00:16:00,280 It is really about kind of owning it and taking her power back. 347 00:16:00,440 --> 00:16:02,760 So such a wonderful way to put it. 348 00:16:03,520 --> 00:16:07,720 You know, going back to this idea because we do know what are the holidays. 349 00:16:07,720 --> 00:16:09,960 So depressing? Wow. 350 00:16:10,160 --> 00:16:13,400 Why do you think they can be so depressing for people when they're single? 351 00:16:13,400 --> 00:16:14,720 Why is that like the go to? 352 00:16:15,960 --> 00:16:17,840 I think it's because, 353 00:16:17,840 --> 00:16:21,880 once again, going back to society, you know, it's like you have the rom. 354 00:16:21,880 --> 00:16:22,440 Coms, which I'm. 355 00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:28,240 Not going to like, I love, but I, I watch them and I see other couples as, 356 00:16:28,680 --> 00:16:32,160 Oh, that's what's waiting for me when I'm ready. 357 00:16:32,200 --> 00:16:33,680 Right. With divine timing. 358 00:16:33,680 --> 00:16:37,480 That's what's waiting for me versus look at what I don't have anymore. 359 00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:39,600 We think like that more. We're going to check that. 360 00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:44,160 But I think that with the with the rom coms and the coziness and, 361 00:16:44,440 --> 00:16:47,040 you know, when you get to get together for holidays 362 00:16:47,040 --> 00:16:48,880 and I was like, bring your plus one to this event. 363 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:52,920 Bring your plus one, we immediately think that the plus one 364 00:16:53,800 --> 00:16:56,040 has to be a significant other. 365 00:16:56,040 --> 00:16:59,520 And I'm about to go to a wedding tomorrow and I'm we want to bring one of my best 366 00:16:59,760 --> 00:17:00,720 friends and I had the option 367 00:17:00,720 --> 00:17:04,520 of bringing guy friends to and I like to go with my girlfriend. 368 00:17:04,520 --> 00:17:05,920 She wants to dance like. 369 00:17:05,920 --> 00:17:07,920 Yeah, because she's so much more fun. 370 00:17:07,920 --> 00:17:10,400 I went to a wedding with my best friend in India. 371 00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:13,280 We went as dates and she was like, Can I bring my best friend? 372 00:17:13,280 --> 00:17:15,280 And they were like, Yeah, I guess so. 373 00:17:15,280 --> 00:17:19,920 And we have the best time together because we're your best friend. 374 00:17:19,920 --> 00:17:20,760 You're going to have the best time. 375 00:17:20,760 --> 00:17:22,000 That's a great idea. Is it? 376 00:17:22,000 --> 00:17:26,040 You know, bring ask if there's an event plus one great 377 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:28,560 advice is asking you can bring your bestie. 378 00:17:29,280 --> 00:17:31,280 Bring your bestie like bring your bestie. 379 00:17:31,280 --> 00:17:33,320 Even love songs like love songs. Come on. 380 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:38,800 You know, in holiday songs like All One's about like two sexy people, 381 00:17:38,800 --> 00:17:43,040 like sitting next to each other roasting chestnuts by an open fire, you know? But 382 00:17:44,040 --> 00:17:46,440 I like to play a game with my clients, 383 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:50,400 and I challenge every listening to listen to. 384 00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:53,840 Even if you're in a relationship, listen to any love song. 385 00:17:54,640 --> 00:17:58,240 And I guarantee at least 95% of them 386 00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:02,200 could be sung from your higher selves to you. 387 00:18:02,800 --> 00:18:06,360 Oh, we think it's about somebody else 388 00:18:06,360 --> 00:18:08,040 that it really could be from your higher self. 389 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:12,640 So like one of my go tos is one of the things that I love. 390 00:18:12,640 --> 00:18:16,720 Maybe I'll you be like, I like me better when I'm with you. 391 00:18:16,760 --> 00:18:18,440 That's okay. Yes. 392 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:20,880 Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 393 00:18:20,880 --> 00:18:22,160 I that was like my jam. 394 00:18:22,160 --> 00:18:23,040 And I'm like, yeah, 395 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:25,440 I do like me better when I'm with you and I'm not tearing you down. 396 00:18:25,520 --> 00:18:26,600 Let's go out and have fun. Great. 397 00:18:26,600 --> 00:18:28,560 Let's create a good memory. 398 00:18:28,560 --> 00:18:33,560 All the love songs literally be about your how yourself loving you 399 00:18:33,800 --> 00:18:36,840 and it can literally start to rewire your brain 400 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:40,040 and make you feel completely different in a totally different state. 401 00:18:40,200 --> 00:18:42,320 So I everybody out there to go do that. 402 00:18:42,320 --> 00:18:42,880 You know what? 403 00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:45,720 There is a much greater chance, let me tell you, of me, myself 404 00:18:45,720 --> 00:18:48,000 and I roasting chestnuts, the me and my husband. 405 00:18:48,080 --> 00:18:49,440 Like that's never going to happen. 406 00:18:49,440 --> 00:18:51,680 We're never going to roast chestnuts on an open bar. 407 00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:55,120 Now, I might with myself, but, 408 00:18:55,120 --> 00:18:58,640 you know, also, I will say from the relationship side, like 409 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:01,920 sometimes the idea of what 410 00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:05,120 you think you're going to have is really not 411 00:19:06,360 --> 00:19:07,840 the reality. 412 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:09,320 I agree. 413 00:19:09,320 --> 00:19:11,160 It's not the reality. 414 00:19:11,160 --> 00:19:12,800 You know, this has been so helpful to you. 415 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:14,680 Are there any other wonderful tips that you have? 416 00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:16,040 You know, before we kind of wrap this up, 417 00:19:16,040 --> 00:19:20,240 for people who might be single during the holidays. 418 00:19:20,240 --> 00:19:23,360 Schools choose your word. 419 00:19:24,520 --> 00:19:29,040 Even if you're not single, choose your way for for next year. 420 00:19:29,200 --> 00:19:31,200 So New Year's is coming up. 421 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:32,600 Choose your word. 422 00:19:32,600 --> 00:19:36,160 And what I mean by that is kind of like your intention 423 00:19:36,720 --> 00:19:41,120 and I have seen this populate in my life. 424 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:44,120 I'm like, Wow, I know I said best nose. 425 00:19:44,120 --> 00:19:47,040 So that was my word. But holy cow, that I grow, you know, I got like. 426 00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:50,560 Got what I asked for one of my clients are hers. 427 00:19:50,640 --> 00:19:54,160 Let her word for the year with love. 428 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:57,440 She met the love of her life My my best friend. 429 00:19:57,440 --> 00:20:00,480 She went through my program, see her Word of the year was 430 00:20:01,440 --> 00:20:02,760 opulent at the 431 00:20:02,760 --> 00:20:06,720 beginning of the year and see that was not her life. 432 00:20:06,720 --> 00:20:09,040 I was going to. Put it like that. That was not her life. 433 00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:11,120 And what has come from it. 434 00:20:11,120 --> 00:20:13,080 Like she has this amazing job. 435 00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:15,440 She flies to Italy, she flies to the Hamptons, 436 00:20:15,440 --> 00:20:18,360 she goes to Belle's, She's dating this amazing man like 437 00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:20,840 she has a beautiful brand new apartment. 438 00:20:20,840 --> 00:20:23,400 Like, literally, that became her reality. 439 00:20:23,960 --> 00:20:26,320 My thing was creation and expression, 440 00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:28,800 and I didn't know really what was going to happen. 441 00:20:28,800 --> 00:20:30,560 And then I kind of, like, went through like a little phase. 442 00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:31,840 I wasn't really feeling it. 443 00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:34,480 And the amount of things that I have created this year 444 00:20:34,880 --> 00:20:38,240 that have just come out of me is is crazy. 445 00:20:38,240 --> 00:20:40,960 Like so many programs and podcasts, like, like all the things. 446 00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:44,160 So if you want your life to be different, 447 00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:46,680 like just tell tell the universe, this is 448 00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:50,840 this is what I'm putting out here for next year and watch it change. 449 00:20:51,280 --> 00:20:54,160 I love to pick your word and then kind of act on it, 450 00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:56,560 huh? Yeah, you have to. 451 00:20:56,560 --> 00:20:59,280 Act on it. You have to act, not. 452 00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:00,320 Pick who wrote an act on it. 453 00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:02,440 Don't pick your word and then put it in your back pocket and forget it. 454 00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:04,320 Pick your word and act on it. 455 00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:07,360 I want to just say, Jackie, thank you so much for being on. 456 00:21:07,360 --> 00:21:08,800 You know, and everybody who's listening 457 00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:13,600 right now, again, I hope that this gives you some whether you're single, 458 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:17,200 whether you're in a relationship, no matter what your status is. 459 00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:21,440 I hope it gives you some some reminders of how beautiful it is to be with yourself, 460 00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:24,600 how much power that we have to 461 00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:27,360 sort of control the direction of our own lives. 462 00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:29,080 You mentioned going into New Year's. 463 00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:31,200 If you make resolutions and that's your thing, 464 00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:33,080 you know, 465 00:21:33,120 --> 00:21:35,760 we can actually sort of make those come to life. 466 00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:37,760 I love this idea of picking award. 467 00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:40,320 You know, if people want to know more about you, 468 00:21:40,360 --> 00:21:42,120 you are the most positive person. 469 00:21:42,120 --> 00:21:44,320 Like I've been smiling this entire interview. 470 00:21:44,840 --> 00:21:48,360 You just exude this confidence and friendliness. 471 00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:51,640 If people want to work with you, if they're ready to kind of make a change 472 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:53,720 in their own lives, how can they do that? 473 00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:58,240 Yeah, you can go to my website, Jacquipugh.com 474 00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:01,720 and I'm sure it'll be in the notes somewhere. 475 00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:05,040 Well, that is, it's very different. So 476 00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:09,520 and you can go to programs and you'll see a program under there called LEARN. 477 00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:10,800 You can apply there. 478 00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:14,280 You can find me on Instagram and send me a note there and I'm happy 479 00:22:14,280 --> 00:22:17,760 to send you an application and see if you can, you know, if I can truly help you. 480 00:22:17,760 --> 00:22:20,560 If I can't, I will never be like, yes, do my program. 481 00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:23,240 Like, that's why all my clients have my one transformations, 482 00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:25,400 because I will only help you if I think I can. 483 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:26,040 Otherwise, 484 00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:29,960 I know tons of other people who are in my same field who may be able to help. 485 00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:32,640 So Instagram is usually where I hang out. 486 00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:34,800 So you could find me there where I am. 487 00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:36,120 I would say. Amazing. 488 00:22:36,120 --> 00:22:39,680 And when you talk about a program like how long Ballpark is a program. 489 00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:42,400 That it's four months long. 490 00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:46,560 It's called it's called Burn using your old flame to light your new fire. 491 00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:49,240 And it's it's deep. 492 00:22:49,400 --> 00:22:50,840 I'm not going to lie. 493 00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:51,480 It's deep. 494 00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:52,840 But we have fun. 495 00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:55,960 And you come out a brand new person. 496 00:22:56,200 --> 00:22:58,400 All my single clients whou've gone through it. 497 00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:02,040 50% of them have already found the love of their life afterwards. 498 00:23:03,360 --> 00:23:04,560 Yes. It's with you. 499 00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:06,360 It's their idea group. 500 00:23:06,360 --> 00:23:09,480 So if anybody is interested, the next one is going to be starting 501 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,560 at the end of January, beginning of February. 502 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:13,840 So and only do it twice a year. 503 00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:16,360 So you're going to want to make sure to. 504 00:23:16,360 --> 00:23:19,760 Sign up and make sure to have that in the notes for sure. 505 00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:22,440 I want to thank you, Jacki, so much for being on with me today. 506 00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:24,920 What a wonderful helping me. 507 00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:26,520 I love your energy, too. 508 00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:28,400 Oh, thank you. Well, you know what? 509 00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:30,200 I'm ready to go into the holidays. 510 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:32,280 Like you said, everybody, two weeks off. 511 00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:35,160 But we will be back on January 3rd, Jackie's birthday. 512 00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:37,960 So let's put out some positive vibes for Jackie's birthday. 513 00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:40,920 I hope that you have had such a wonderful year. 514 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:44,400 I've enjoyed going through so many different things with you this year. 515 00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:45,960 I want to thank everybody who's listening. 516 00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:48,240 Your your your support means the world. 517 00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:52,640 If you have questions you want me to pass on to Jacqui you can do that. 518 00:23:52,640 --> 00:23:55,800 You can email us at hello@artbeautypodcast.com. 519 00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:59,720 You can find us on Facebook, Instagram and YouTube @artbeautypodcast. 520 00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:03,240 And as always, we will see you, I would say, next Tuesday, 521 00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:06,800 but we're going to see you next year, hopefully brighter and beautiful. 522 00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:09,720 Is that your puppy in the back chiming in? 523 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:10,280 I love it. 524 00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:11,880 We get every ramble on. 525 00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:14,200 You know, I think the mailman just got here. 526 00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:17,000 No worries. All right. Well, you go. Have a wonderful day. 527 00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:19,080 Happy birthday and we'll see you next year. 528 00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:20,680 Everyone loves you. 529 00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:29,160 Bye. Love ya!