1 00:00:02,159 --> 00:00:04,819 Welcome to Boundless Bee, the Hemophilia Bee Podcast, 2 00:00:04,960 --> 00:00:06,960 the podcast standing with you from a family 3 00:00:06,960 --> 00:00:09,619 like yours, presented by the Coalition for Hemophilia 4 00:00:09,839 --> 00:00:12,419 Bee and in partnership with Balancing Life's Issues. 5 00:00:12,924 --> 00:00:15,164 In the second episode of our World Mental 6 00:00:15,164 --> 00:00:17,804 Health Day series, we explore how connection, even 7 00:00:17,804 --> 00:00:20,204 in the smallest amounts, can make someone feel 8 00:00:20,204 --> 00:00:23,404 seen and valued. Emotional wellness coach Leticia B 9 00:00:23,404 --> 00:00:26,140 Russell shares how authentic check ins and deep 10 00:00:26,140 --> 00:00:27,279 listening build community 11 00:00:27,579 --> 00:00:28,879 one moment at a time. 12 00:00:32,700 --> 00:00:35,020 Think about a moment when someone looked at 13 00:00:35,020 --> 00:00:38,320 you and genuinely asked, how are you doing? 14 00:00:39,774 --> 00:00:41,855 Maybe it was a coworker, maybe it was 15 00:00:41,855 --> 00:00:43,554 a friend or even a stranger. 16 00:00:43,935 --> 00:00:45,774 So the question is, did they pause to 17 00:00:45,774 --> 00:00:47,695 really wait for the answer? Right? Or did 18 00:00:47,695 --> 00:00:49,155 they go about their day? 19 00:00:51,215 --> 00:00:52,195 The one question 20 00:00:52,655 --> 00:00:53,554 can transform 21 00:00:54,219 --> 00:00:56,479 that ordinary exchange into something 22 00:00:57,340 --> 00:00:58,719 so much deeper. 23 00:00:59,420 --> 00:01:02,859 Connection doesn't require those large speeches. Right? It 24 00:01:02,859 --> 00:01:04,880 often just lives in those small gestures. 25 00:01:05,260 --> 00:01:07,020 Those gestures of how are you doing and 26 00:01:07,020 --> 00:01:08,319 then waiting for the response. 27 00:01:08,765 --> 00:01:10,465 Those gestures of just simply 28 00:01:10,765 --> 00:01:12,305 connecting and checking in. 29 00:01:19,564 --> 00:01:21,885 Hi. I'm Leticia B. Russell. I'm an emotional 30 00:01:21,885 --> 00:01:23,265 wellness coach and consultant. 31 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:26,540 Welcome back to this series celebrating 32 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:30,040 World Mental Health Day. Today in episode two, 33 00:01:30,040 --> 00:01:31,979 we are focusing on the small, 34 00:01:32,439 --> 00:01:35,340 culturally neutral ways to strengthen connections 35 00:01:36,055 --> 00:01:37,914 at work and in our communities. 36 00:01:46,534 --> 00:01:48,215 Some of the things that we want you 37 00:01:48,215 --> 00:01:50,054 to think about, you're right, the things that 38 00:01:50,054 --> 00:01:52,420 we we challenge you to think about is 39 00:01:52,719 --> 00:01:53,620 checking in 40 00:01:54,079 --> 00:01:58,079 without pressure. Right? A warm greeting, that quick 41 00:01:58,079 --> 00:02:01,140 pause to just listen, or even just saying, 42 00:02:01,359 --> 00:02:02,740 how is your day going? 43 00:02:03,534 --> 00:02:06,414 Creating spaces for people to feel seen and 44 00:02:06,414 --> 00:02:07,634 heard and valued. 45 00:02:08,655 --> 00:02:09,794 Not just 46 00:02:10,334 --> 00:02:12,414 simply saying, how's your day and then moving 47 00:02:12,414 --> 00:02:12,914 about, 48 00:02:13,455 --> 00:02:15,534 but just simply saying, how can I help 49 00:02:15,534 --> 00:02:16,834 you solve this problem? 50 00:02:17,290 --> 00:02:19,469 You're simply showing that you care. 51 00:02:19,770 --> 00:02:22,090 Maybe someone came to you and said man, 52 00:02:22,090 --> 00:02:22,830 I'm challenged 53 00:02:23,210 --> 00:02:26,010 with something about my day, but you stepping 54 00:02:26,010 --> 00:02:27,930 back to say hey, how is that thing 55 00:02:27,930 --> 00:02:28,430 going? 56 00:02:28,730 --> 00:02:30,854 Right? How can I better support you? 57 00:02:31,414 --> 00:02:34,155 It's expressing the appreciation. It's recognizing 58 00:02:35,174 --> 00:02:37,655 that it's not about waiting for that big 59 00:02:37,655 --> 00:02:39,275 project or that big milestone, 60 00:02:39,814 --> 00:02:42,375 but every morning you just doing a simple 61 00:02:42,375 --> 00:02:42,875 check-in. 62 00:02:43,479 --> 00:02:45,400 I notice the way that you handle that 63 00:02:45,400 --> 00:02:48,199 meeting or thanks for jumping in today and 64 00:02:48,199 --> 00:02:50,620 helping me with that. Right? It's reinforcing 65 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:51,500 trust 66 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:54,860 that signals the effort that they are valued. 67 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:57,099 Their situation was heard. 68 00:02:57,935 --> 00:03:01,634 It's bridging across differences, whether it's cultural 69 00:03:02,094 --> 00:03:02,995 or background 70 00:03:03,534 --> 00:03:06,014 or the life experiences that we all deal 71 00:03:06,014 --> 00:03:06,514 with. 72 00:03:07,055 --> 00:03:07,555 Curiosity 73 00:03:07,854 --> 00:03:08,594 and nonjudgmental 74 00:03:09,055 --> 00:03:11,455 listening opens the door. Let me say that 75 00:03:11,455 --> 00:03:12,919 again. It's curiosity 76 00:03:13,219 --> 00:03:14,199 and nonjudgmental 77 00:03:14,979 --> 00:03:15,479 listening. 78 00:03:15,780 --> 00:03:17,319 That's what opens the door. 79 00:03:17,860 --> 00:03:19,639 It is asking, tell me more 80 00:03:19,939 --> 00:03:22,979 about how you saw this. Right? Or helping 81 00:03:22,979 --> 00:03:23,800 me understand 82 00:03:24,099 --> 00:03:25,240 the different perspectives. 83 00:03:26,015 --> 00:03:28,275 That is what builds the stronger bonds 84 00:03:28,575 --> 00:03:29,314 and assumptions 85 00:03:30,655 --> 00:03:31,555 day to day. 86 00:03:32,575 --> 00:03:33,635 Here's a challenge. 87 00:03:34,655 --> 00:03:36,115 Before this day ends, 88 00:03:36,655 --> 00:03:37,875 check-in with someone. 89 00:03:38,569 --> 00:03:39,069 Check-in 90 00:03:39,530 --> 00:03:40,989 with genuine concern. 91 00:03:41,849 --> 00:03:43,549 Not the quick, how are you? 92 00:03:44,090 --> 00:03:46,509 What's expected in that one word answer? 93 00:03:46,969 --> 00:03:49,370 But a question that shows you're willing to 94 00:03:49,370 --> 00:03:49,870 listen. 95 00:03:50,650 --> 00:03:52,189 Notice their body language. 96 00:03:52,754 --> 00:03:55,474 Notice how it shifts when they realize that 97 00:03:55,474 --> 00:03:56,375 you actually 98 00:03:56,914 --> 00:03:58,454 care and that you actually 99 00:03:58,754 --> 00:04:00,454 took the time to ask, 100 00:04:00,754 --> 00:04:01,894 how are they doing? 101 00:04:02,834 --> 00:04:05,954 Even the smallest check-in can make someone feel 102 00:04:05,954 --> 00:04:06,454 seen. 103 00:04:07,260 --> 00:04:07,760 Practice. 104 00:04:08,540 --> 00:04:11,099 Practicing the pause and the breath and the 105 00:04:11,099 --> 00:04:11,599 recharge, 106 00:04:12,139 --> 00:04:13,439 that's what matters. 107 00:04:13,900 --> 00:04:15,360 I'm Leticia b Russell. 108 00:04:17,980 --> 00:04:19,865 Thank you for listening to Boundless Bee, the 109 00:04:19,865 --> 00:04:22,745 Hemophilia Bee Podcast, the podcast standing with you 110 00:04:22,745 --> 00:04:24,045 from a family like yours.