Alright.
Well, good evening.
Not everybody at once.
So it's, my privilege this evening. We talked
about this Sunday.
It's my privilege this evening to,
turn the mic, the pulpit over to
papa, papa Bomer.
And,
he's gonna talk to us about marriage.
And I really, really just I mean, I
enjoy him as a person.
He's a great man, great man of God,
but I'm also looking forward to his
insight
and,
his scriptural acumen.
So, papa Bomer. Thank you. I'm here.
Bless you.
Strange thing
to talk about in church,
but a real thing, real matter. I don't
know where you are at.
Where I come from, marriage is outdated.
People don't get married anymore.
South Africa,
most most young people,
brother Scott, they just move in
and move out.
They
they
move
they fall in love and then they fall
out of love.
And
I'm not surprised that
marriages don't work and
and and that a nation can fall apart
because of that.
Nations fall apart because of that.
In our country,
young girls get
government grants,
for every child.
So in Mafeking where I am, we have,
really helped me with with the right wording
now. They say, I I cannot speak,
I cannot talk about feeding schemes because then
we're busy with a scheme.
Rescue center. Rescue center.
We have a rescue center for these children
where we feed 55 children 3 meals a
day, every day. And and
and and all these children
are of women who receive grants
for every child.
So so they have children to receive grants,
And
some girls at the age of 20
have 4 children
and they they they don't
they don't use the money to raise their
children.
That money is
used for alcohol abuse and drug abuse.
And
these kids just roam around the streets.
Little ones,
I'm not talking about
10 year olds.
I'm talking about toddlers, little kids.
And and we started this rescue center for
these children
and the mothers are absent,
and the fathers are nowhere.
They just know it,
and
I
I thought to myself,
who's guilty?
I think the church
has allowed
society,
churchgoers,
I'm talking about Christians,
to to to lose their moral standards.
I'm sorry my wife is not here. Are
they coming, Willie? Yeah. They're coming. They just
had something to do with the children.
My wife and I got married in
in
1975 and,
I wasn't I wasn't born again then.
I thought Christ was Jesus' surname
and
we we we we met the Lord
a couple of years after we got married.
And
even
if we got married for the wrong reasons
I I mean, I didn't love my wife.
When I got married, I didn't love my
wife.
I was madly in love. I was
23.
We were in Rwanda
and we were sitting,
the the pastors that were there, and they
were talking about why they got married.
And
my wife said,
my
husband and I didn't love one another.
We lusted one another.
And I'm just giving straight talk, can I?
And Tony Nichols
who led
the the team there, he said, will you
speak on that tomorrow in the church?
And and and we do that.
And
so,
let's look at marriage.
I don't spell very well, especially not in
English.
There's a difference.
So,
marriage is holy.
It's
an institution
of
by God.
It's it's sacred.
It's
it should be the best thing that can
ever happen to anybody.
And and and why doesn't it work?
Because
Satan
wants to destroy
what God has
brought in,
what God is doing.
And,
so
I
let's go to the very beginning.
Right in the beginning in Genesis.
Genesis chapter 1 verse
from verse 1 God created.
And God spoke and things happened.
And and and and and he did so
for
for a number of days. He just spoke
and then
God got together
And God said, let us.
That's why I said, God got together.
God said, let us
make man in our image.
In our likeness,
and let them
rule.
So
God made man
in his image
and in his likeness
and then God said, let them.
Not men, man,
them. So
if this is God,
if if if that's God,
then God made man
in His image
and in His likeness.
Man looks like God.
He has all the intrinsic values,
image, likeness, we like God
and
this man,
he said, they
will rule.
So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God. He created him
male and female.
So
within
this
Adam,
there is a male
and a female.
So he created them
male and female he created them and God
blessed them. He said, bless you.
Have it. It's yours
And
so God put man into a deep sleep
and then God,
God took man and put him in the
garden, I mean,
on verse 15
and and he told him to take care
of it
and then in verse 18, God the Lord
God said it is not good for man
to be alone.
I will make him a helper
that is suitable,
that that fits in with him, that that
that can work together with him, that
they can be in
cooperation
with one another.
And
so
so the Lord caused the man to fall
into a deep sleep, and while he was
sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs
and closed up the place
with flesh,
and then the Lord
made the woman.
So
if this is God,
God put this man into a deep sleep
and this is God.
This is man, sorry.
He separated them,
and
so what remains here,
what remains here
is is is is 50%.
50% or half.
So
with
this is still
the image.
This is still the likeness
but it is separated.
So,
here you get
half a soul,
half a body,
and half spirit.
Does that make sense?
Yes.
So
God separated them
and
then
God said
this is
after he separated it, he he brought the
2 together.
He brings them together
And and
therefore a man shall leave his father and
his mother and he will be united with
his wife
and they will become 1 flesh.
So
so
this is where
things can go terribly wrong.
That's that's all
where is
where is the eve?
She's somewhere here.
So
for some reason,
we have been made
the ones
that that are the hunters
that look for,
that want.
And it happens,
it happens somewhere.
By the age of 15, 16,
17,
18,
we start we start looking.
Because
something happens
and and I've
I find out that something is missing.
Something that is part of me,
something that needs to be with me,
something that is me
is not there,
and
I I start looking.
So
because
I'm I'm I'm missing half of who I
am,
I remember my sister, I have an older
sister,
her husband
was
was shot
in what we call a farm murder in
Africa, in South Africa.
And she said to me
when he died,
it felt as if a part of her
was ripped out of her.
And and it's just missing.
And and she said
it feel it felt
as if
half of who she was
had died.
Well, it did,
and and and and a certain period
of time
takes to get the healing.
But when when when when God brought
Eve to Adam, what did he say? What
what was his experience
after he woke up?
He said,
wow,
this is
flesh of my flesh.
This is bone of my bone.
This is the part of me
that was taken out of me
and and
and then God says,
what I have joined together,
let no man separate.
So the problem came
into the world
when
when when when when we start looking
because we have not been educated
by the church, by our godly parents
in the godly way.
So,
I'm I'm I'm I'm taking a little bit
of a shortcut tonight. We we normally take,
we teach this whole thing
in series over a weekend
but we don't have time for that.
So,
so God says
what I join together,
let no man separate.
So how does God
join?
How does God create
a oneness
between a man and a woman?
He does it through
intimacy
which Satan
has
soiled,
made dirty
through sex.
So
if this is God
and this is
Adam
and this is Eve.
How does
the oneness,
the joining together
that man cannot
separate
take place
through intimacy.
There's there's a literal
coming together,
a joining
together
through intimacy
that takes place
and the moment
that happens,
the moment that play takes place,
you are 1.
And and and and
and you cannot separate that
and so this is this is what happens
in the world.
I go and I look
for my part that is hidden here somewhere
and I meet
a lovely young lady at
at the church.
I'm born again now.
And
so tonight,
I walk her home
and
the moon is shining,
lovely
and and and we do what we're not
supposed to do
And God is speaking.
He says, don't.
You're playing with fire.
Be careful.
Watch out.
And and I'm spiritually
not connected
because
what is in my mind
is this young lady
and what is in her mind is
whatever.
And
before we can
help ourselves,
we can if
we are
obedient
and we listen to God's voice
and we are connected.
But
the world
has taught us
to be
disconnected
And before we find ourselves,
we're there.
And we become
1 body, 1 soul,
1 body,
one spirit.
And after
3, 4 months, 3 weeks,
I
find another one,
because I'm trying.
And before I find myself,
I'm there.
So
I grow up and I leave school. I
go to college
and it happens there
and it happens again
and then I get qualified
and I'm I now have a job
and and
and I get somebody in the office
and they send me to another town
to go on a course or to go
and sell something or whatever I do.
And this is what happens
and this is what we
call soul ties.
So I have become
1 soul,
1 body, 1 spirit
with these with with this
And then
I I meet my lady
and I propose
and I buy her a nice ring
and
she comes down the aisle and we get
married
and I put her in here.
What am I
allowing her into?
What
ties
am I bringing her into?
Now remember,
she may be also not been
that that innocent,
so she brings a couple in here as
well.
And,
Renee, what does this look like?
A knot? A knot? A mess?
A hamorze. That's what we call it in
where I come from. It's
it's
so so so my question is,
when does marriage
take place?
When are you married?
Is it when the pastor of the church
says,
I declare
that Willie and Lindy
are now legally
married
whatever the the the the ceremony how the
ceremony goes and
he says, you may now kiss your bride.
No, my dear friend.
No. No.
No. That very first
circle
was when you first got married
because you became 1 flesh.
And then you become 1 flesh again,
and you become 1 flesh again, and you
become 1 flesh again,
and she brings other fleshes into this flesh
situation.
And then we wonder why marriages don't work.
And they don't.
It's a miracle.
If you are married from
1975
to
2024.
It's a miracle.
So
I'm sorry my wife is not here yet
or
maybe they're not coming.
Because we share this together,
we were brought up
very
religious.
Very
very strictly
religious.
So
my my my wife is the only woman
I've ever had I've been intimate with.
I don't know why.
For the rest of
the things that men do, I did them
all.
I was not a good guy.
I met Jesus
after we got married.
But but for some reason,
God protected us,
both my wife and I.
So I met my wife in in in
in January.
I saw her.
We went out for the first time in
in in April
and I married her in September
and and and we got engaged I met
her in April. We got engaged in June
and then we got married in September.
And
and and for some reason,
we decided
to abstain
until we got engaged.
And
I don't think we decided,
but it happened.
And our marriage didn't work for the 1st
7 years.
Didn't work. Why?
We allowed a crack in the foundation.
And and
Satan just
did this in the door.
And our marriage did not work for 7
years
until
we met
with this thing.
My wife was the only is the only
person that I've ever been intimate with, but
I was intimate
with her
before I married her,
before God could put his seal on the
thing.
And because of that,
damage was made.
And
so
God says here,
what he has joined together,
no man can separate.
So
if I
am intimate
with a woman before I get married,
I am forcing God
into a oneness.
Does that make sense?
Because he says, that
is the act
of marriage
and the moment
you get intimate with one another,
you are joined together
and
and and and man cannot separate that.
That's the tragedy
and and you cannot separate this.
And
and and it
this is a destroyer.
This is a real destroyer.
That's why in the nation that I come
from,
I think that divorce rate is 70%.
Well, I
I I I don't even think there's a
divorce rate anymore because people just don't get
married anymore.
They just move in and they move out
and they move in and they move out
and the children will know who their father
and their mother is and
and and and society is falling apart. The
church is falling apart.
Pastors,
marriages are destroyed.
Brother, how many pastors do you know that
have divorced?
Many.
They don't know it, but it's this.
It's this thing
that brings destruction in our lives.
We are hurting and we don't know why.
We are doing things and we don't know
why.
I I I I I I I bring
spirits
in through this.
And and and then we then we wonder
why
it doesn't work.
And and
and
and and when destruction takes place,
we just divorce
and we start the process all over again.
We just go further.
So
do I have
sympathy with divorce? Yes, I have.
This is my view.
I don't believe that divorce
is
the unforgivable
sin.
My my daughter has been divorced twice.
I understand
but we can't make a habit of divorcing
and marrying.
We must there's a place to come clean.
There's really a place to come clean.
So
how how do we
how do we do this?
How do we come clean on this?
If the word of God says
if Jesus says
in in in in in in Mark chapter
9,
what God has the 2 will become 1
And what God has joined together,
no man can separate.
So I I I normally come with it
with it with this great solution.
Buy a gun and shoot yourself.
Or get a rope and hang yourself.
No.
Please,
no.
What God has joined together, no man can
separate who can.
Help me.
Help me. If
what man cannot separate,
what God has put together,
who can separate?
Yes. Who said that?
Bless you.
So
what what we normally do
when when we handle
this, my wife takes the ladies and I
take the men
and and and we we we literally ask
them to put the name of every soul
tie
that they have
on that piece of paper.
And one guy said to me,
there's not enough paper in this city
on which I can write the names.
And and I'm not saying that's bad.
I'm not
if I've done it once,
I have a wrong soul tie.
Ten wrong soul ties doesn't make that worse.
The challenge is to get rid of them
and so what we do
is we say,
write at least those that you know, that
you can remember.
And if you remember
the face or the
day or the evening, just write
A and B
and then after that we
bring the people together
and we fold those papers
and we make a fire
and we ask God to break every soul
tie
to undo them.
To undo them. To undo them.
To undo them
until this is left.
And God is faithful.
God is love.
If you come in genuineness
and with the right heart
and and and and and you you break
all those soul ties
until only that is left,
your marriage will work.
I'm married I think it's 48 years.
My marriage has worked
for 47 years
because we did that.
Because we did that.
God is faithful.
I I
I said to Billy, can I say this
here? And he said to me, just say
it there.
What is sex outside of marriage?
It's masturbation.
You are pleasing yourself.
What is intimacy in marriage?
It's holy.
It's clean.
It's beautiful.
It's God.
He made that
to bring us together,
and we allow Satan to destroy that.
Why?
Why? What is intimacy?
Intimacy is
I'm ministering to my wife's needs
and my wife is ministering to my needs.
I need that from her
and she needs that from me.
And if I don't minister
in intimacy
to her needs and she's not ministering to
my needs, we are taking
a
walk.
We're just taking a walk.
So my request is my my the challenge
I lay before you
is minister to one another
after you have come clean.
Do you know what marriage really is?
It is
I'm not sure whether I'm using the right
words.
It's the practice run
of when I become missus Jesus Christ.
Because he says
in John 15
and verse 4,
remain in me
and I will remain in you.
That's intimate.
That's this.
That's a oneness
with with my Lord, with my God.
If you remain in me, I will remain
in you.
If you remain in her and she remains
in you,
it's
ministry.
It's godly.
That's
what it was made for.
And it works.
Here I stand, it works.
So
I'm actually through.
So
we're not going to do that tonight, but
come clean.
Go and make your little list
and take that list,
and tear it up,
and and and and burn it,
bury it,
destroy it,
and you will see what God can do
or what He will do,
what He wants to do.
If it worked for me,
it'll work for you.
What God has joined together,
let no man separate.
Allow God to bring the wrong separation.
Let him break the
the the wrong soul ties
in your life
and let him
join you
with the one
that you married to.
Minister to one another.
It's good ministry.
I tell you,
may the Lord bless you, keep you,
make his light shine upon you and give
you peace.
May the love of the father, the grace
of the Lord Jesus Christ,
and the communion of the Holy Spirit
be with you.
Amen. Thank you, brother Scott.
So,
yeah, this is the stuff that,
that, this is real.
And, and here's something that I've found over
the years. We all know this.
We know this to be true.
Even even the way Hollywood
represents,
you know, sex outside of marriage,
there's a guilt factor. Even in Hollywood,
there's that. Why? Because there's something taken from
us when this happens. And so
I'd like us to pray about
this. And,
consider consider processing
this in your own life, your own transgender
issues and the LGBT, all these other things
that we don't even talk about the fact
that
sex outside of the marriage is still a
sin.
So,
so yeah, I don't need to preach it
again. Let's pray. God, we commit ourselves to
you. Lord, I pray for the marriages in
our church. Every single marriage
And I know this stuff. This stuff really
does attack,
our marriages.
It plagues our marriages.
God, all the stuff that comes along with
this, all the baggage that comes along with
this, all the stuff that comes along with
this, all the baggage that comes along with
this, all the that comes along with this,
all the baggage that comes along with this,
or Satan uses this to manipulate us,
to hurt us, to play us. And so
God, we ask you we ask you to
help us to work through these things for
every marriage in our church
that's got some of this in the in
the background,
Lord, that they will pray through this, that
they'll work through this and and not not
just pretend like it doesn't exist, but Lord,
truly
repent and get this stuff under the blood
of Jesus. And so Lord, we
I thank you for,
for this, this evening. I thank you for
the truth of this, the reality of this.
And Lord, I pray this across our church,
across our teenagers,
across
single people in our church that they just,
they they won't get caught up in this.
It's so much a part of our culture.
But Lord, we stand against it. We rebuke
it in the name of Jesus.
And that God, we want we want that
intimacy
with only our spouse.
And so Lord, help us with this. In
the name of Jesus, we pray.
Amen. There's actually, one of the segments that
I do in, my pre married counseling that
is it includes all this, that my pre
married counseling that is, it includes all this,
that how do you deal with this moving
forward? You know, by the time I get
to a pre married counseling setting,
you know, these 2 can't go back and
change everything that they've done,
But they can start right there and figure
this out.
And, and that's that's where we go. We
work through this and we pray through this.
And, and it's very necessary. So
thank you. Thank you for coming all the
way from South Africa
to speak to us tonight.
That's
awesome.
Why don't you stand with me? Let's let's,
I do want to end by praying for
for Papa Ballmer, just like we do for
our missionaries.
If you'll come up here, if you don't
mind, just stand down here. We're going to
gather around you and pray for you. There's
a lot of ministry and things that they
are doing.
And, and if you know any anything about,
Joshua's nation,
he's he's the,
African
person for that.
And so we want to pray over him.
We want to pray over the ministry that
they're doing there. And he is also
a, the equivalent of a state representative
in in his area too. So
so we're like twins. So So
something like that.
So if you guys want, come down here.
Almost identical. Almost identical. You can barely tell
us apart.
I don't know how come his hair is
so much darker though. That's the problem that
gets me. And his hair is darker. So
let's pray. God, I thank you for for
Papa Baumer. I thank
you for his heart for you. And Lord,
we do ask you for all the ministry
that he's doing.
And, and all the all of the guys
that are connected with him, specifically,
Pastor Emmanuel, Lord, I know that they 2
they both work so close together.
God, anoint them. Bless them with your spirit.
Are changed, souls are
saved, people are set free, Lord, that that
all the things that they're doing in all
of these different cities and countries and villages
with, Joshua's nation, Lord, let that let that
continue to propagate through the countries
or through the peoples, through the, through, through
people's lives and churches spring up from this
and more and more churches.
Upon
him and his wife both and the ministry
that they do together. God, we give you
all the glory in the name of Jesus
we pray. Amen.
Amen.
Alright. Well, you don't have to go home,
but you gotta get on up out of
here.
We'll see you
Sunday morning.