1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:00,659 Alright. 2 00:00:03,359 --> 00:00:04,339 Well, good evening. 3 00:00:07,919 --> 00:00:09,220 Not everybody at once. 4 00:00:13,134 --> 00:00:15,615 So it's, my privilege this evening. We talked 5 00:00:15,615 --> 00:00:16,595 about this Sunday. 6 00:00:16,975 --> 00:00:18,914 It's my privilege this evening to, 7 00:00:19,935 --> 00:00:22,355 turn the mic, the pulpit over to 8 00:00:23,054 --> 00:00:24,675 papa, papa Bomer. 9 00:00:25,179 --> 00:00:25,420 And, 10 00:00:26,140 --> 00:00:27,839 he's gonna talk to us about marriage. 11 00:00:28,539 --> 00:00:30,539 And I really, really just I mean, I 12 00:00:30,539 --> 00:00:31,920 enjoy him as a person. 13 00:00:32,219 --> 00:00:33,820 He's a great man, great man of God, 14 00:00:33,820 --> 00:00:35,920 but I'm also looking forward to his 15 00:00:36,460 --> 00:00:36,960 insight 16 00:00:37,515 --> 00:00:38,015 and, 17 00:00:38,875 --> 00:00:40,734 his scriptural acumen. 18 00:00:41,594 --> 00:00:44,494 So, papa Bomer. Thank you. I'm here. 19 00:00:45,835 --> 00:00:46,655 Bless you. 20 00:00:51,530 --> 00:00:52,429 Strange thing 21 00:00:53,049 --> 00:00:54,509 to talk about in church, 22 00:00:56,809 --> 00:00:59,049 but a real thing, real matter. I don't 23 00:00:59,049 --> 00:01:00,429 know where you are at. 24 00:01:02,015 --> 00:01:05,395 Where I come from, marriage is outdated. 25 00:01:08,575 --> 00:01:10,275 People don't get married anymore. 26 00:01:16,250 --> 00:01:17,069 South Africa, 27 00:01:19,129 --> 00:01:21,149 most most young people, 28 00:01:22,009 --> 00:01:24,030 brother Scott, they just move in 29 00:01:24,810 --> 00:01:25,789 and move out. 30 00:01:26,174 --> 00:01:26,674 They 31 00:01:27,534 --> 00:01:28,034 they 32 00:01:28,415 --> 00:01:28,915 move 33 00:01:30,174 --> 00:01:32,174 they fall in love and then they fall 34 00:01:32,174 --> 00:01:33,075 out of love. 35 00:01:34,575 --> 00:01:35,075 And 36 00:01:35,855 --> 00:01:37,475 I'm not surprised that 37 00:01:38,015 --> 00:01:39,795 marriages don't work and 38 00:01:41,430 --> 00:01:43,990 and and that a nation can fall apart 39 00:01:43,990 --> 00:01:44,969 because of that. 40 00:01:46,870 --> 00:01:49,209 Nations fall apart because of that. 41 00:01:50,950 --> 00:01:52,010 In our country, 42 00:01:53,995 --> 00:01:55,375 young girls get 43 00:01:55,674 --> 00:01:56,734 government grants, 44 00:01:59,834 --> 00:02:00,974 for every child. 45 00:02:03,515 --> 00:02:06,734 So in Mafeking where I am, we have, 46 00:02:07,130 --> 00:02:09,210 really helped me with with the right wording 47 00:02:09,210 --> 00:02:11,229 now. They say, I I cannot speak, 48 00:02:11,849 --> 00:02:14,490 I cannot talk about feeding schemes because then 49 00:02:14,490 --> 00:02:15,949 we're busy with a scheme. 50 00:02:16,729 --> 00:02:18,590 Rescue center. Rescue center. 51 00:02:19,224 --> 00:02:21,645 We have a rescue center for these children 52 00:02:23,784 --> 00:02:27,145 where we feed 55 children 3 meals a 53 00:02:27,145 --> 00:02:28,844 day, every day. And and 54 00:02:30,985 --> 00:02:32,764 and and all these children 55 00:02:33,620 --> 00:02:36,439 are of women who receive grants 56 00:02:37,780 --> 00:02:38,919 for every child. 57 00:02:40,419 --> 00:02:43,719 So so they have children to receive grants, 58 00:02:46,814 --> 00:02:47,314 And 59 00:02:48,895 --> 00:02:51,074 some girls at the age of 20 60 00:02:51,694 --> 00:02:52,754 have 4 children 61 00:02:55,294 --> 00:02:57,394 and they they they don't 62 00:02:57,854 --> 00:03:00,414 they don't use the money to raise their 63 00:03:00,414 --> 00:03:00,914 children. 64 00:03:02,719 --> 00:03:04,019 That money is 65 00:03:04,560 --> 00:03:08,099 used for alcohol abuse and drug abuse. 66 00:03:10,159 --> 00:03:10,659 And 67 00:03:11,759 --> 00:03:14,099 these kids just roam around the streets. 68 00:03:15,519 --> 00:03:16,419 Little ones, 69 00:03:17,495 --> 00:03:18,715 I'm not talking about 70 00:03:20,375 --> 00:03:21,435 10 year olds. 71 00:03:23,495 --> 00:03:25,754 I'm talking about toddlers, little kids. 72 00:03:27,335 --> 00:03:30,215 And and we started this rescue center for 73 00:03:30,215 --> 00:03:30,955 these children 74 00:03:31,500 --> 00:03:33,759 and the mothers are absent, 75 00:03:35,099 --> 00:03:36,639 and the fathers are nowhere. 76 00:03:40,459 --> 00:03:41,759 They just know it, 77 00:03:42,299 --> 00:03:42,799 and 78 00:03:46,394 --> 00:03:46,894 I 79 00:03:47,354 --> 00:03:48,495 I thought to myself, 80 00:03:49,275 --> 00:03:50,174 who's guilty? 81 00:03:53,594 --> 00:03:54,814 I think the church 82 00:03:56,180 --> 00:03:57,000 has allowed 83 00:03:59,699 --> 00:04:00,199 society, 84 00:04:03,780 --> 00:04:04,280 churchgoers, 85 00:04:04,659 --> 00:04:05,879 I'm talking about Christians, 86 00:04:07,539 --> 00:04:10,120 to to to lose their moral standards. 87 00:04:17,555 --> 00:04:19,875 I'm sorry my wife is not here. Are 88 00:04:19,875 --> 00:04:22,754 they coming, Willie? Yeah. They're coming. They just 89 00:04:22,754 --> 00:04:24,375 had something to do with the children. 90 00:04:24,834 --> 00:04:26,730 My wife and I got married in 91 00:04:27,290 --> 00:04:27,790 in 92 00:04:30,810 --> 00:04:31,449 1975 and, 93 00:04:32,810 --> 00:04:35,470 I wasn't I wasn't born again then. 94 00:04:35,850 --> 00:04:38,029 I thought Christ was Jesus' surname 95 00:04:39,529 --> 00:04:40,029 and 96 00:04:40,935 --> 00:04:43,274 we we we we met the Lord 97 00:04:45,175 --> 00:04:47,435 a couple of years after we got married. 98 00:04:48,694 --> 00:04:49,194 And 99 00:04:49,735 --> 00:04:50,235 even 100 00:04:50,774 --> 00:04:53,654 if we got married for the wrong reasons 101 00:04:54,055 --> 00:04:55,914 I I mean, I didn't love my wife. 102 00:04:57,250 --> 00:04:58,850 When I got married, I didn't love my 103 00:04:58,850 --> 00:04:59,350 wife. 104 00:04:59,729 --> 00:05:01,910 I was madly in love. I was 105 00:05:02,529 --> 00:05:03,029 23. 106 00:05:08,625 --> 00:05:10,245 We were in Rwanda 107 00:05:11,585 --> 00:05:12,645 and we were sitting, 108 00:05:13,425 --> 00:05:15,745 the the pastors that were there, and they 109 00:05:15,745 --> 00:05:17,845 were talking about why they got married. 110 00:05:18,384 --> 00:05:18,884 And 111 00:05:19,904 --> 00:05:21,045 my wife said, 112 00:05:21,870 --> 00:05:22,370 my 113 00:05:23,550 --> 00:05:25,329 husband and I didn't love one another. 114 00:05:25,629 --> 00:05:27,250 We lusted one another. 115 00:05:28,669 --> 00:05:31,810 And I'm just giving straight talk, can I? 116 00:05:36,350 --> 00:05:37,490 And Tony Nichols 117 00:05:38,084 --> 00:05:38,824 who led 118 00:05:39,605 --> 00:05:41,764 the the team there, he said, will you 119 00:05:41,764 --> 00:05:43,785 speak on that tomorrow in the church? 120 00:05:45,764 --> 00:05:48,105 And and and we do that. 121 00:05:51,500 --> 00:05:52,000 And 122 00:05:52,939 --> 00:05:53,439 so, 123 00:05:56,220 --> 00:05:57,439 let's look at marriage. 124 00:06:03,339 --> 00:06:05,980 I don't spell very well, especially not in 125 00:06:05,980 --> 00:06:06,480 English. 126 00:06:16,324 --> 00:06:17,384 There's a difference. 127 00:06:23,050 --> 00:06:24,430 There's a difference. 128 00:06:28,810 --> 00:06:29,310 So, 129 00:06:31,129 --> 00:06:32,349 marriage is holy. 130 00:06:35,064 --> 00:06:35,564 It's 131 00:06:36,024 --> 00:06:36,845 an institution 132 00:06:37,384 --> 00:06:37,884 of 133 00:06:38,264 --> 00:06:39,004 by God. 134 00:06:41,064 --> 00:06:42,365 It's it's sacred. 135 00:06:45,305 --> 00:06:45,805 It's 136 00:06:47,050 --> 00:06:49,129 it should be the best thing that can 137 00:06:49,129 --> 00:06:50,669 ever happen to anybody. 138 00:06:53,050 --> 00:06:55,629 And and and why doesn't it work? 139 00:06:57,449 --> 00:06:57,949 Because 140 00:06:58,964 --> 00:06:59,464 Satan 141 00:07:00,004 --> 00:07:01,224 wants to destroy 142 00:07:03,284 --> 00:07:04,504 what God has 143 00:07:06,164 --> 00:07:06,985 brought in, 144 00:07:08,004 --> 00:07:09,305 what God is doing. 145 00:07:11,569 --> 00:07:11,889 And, 146 00:07:13,649 --> 00:07:14,149 so 147 00:07:14,729 --> 00:07:15,229 I 148 00:07:15,889 --> 00:07:17,509 let's go to the very beginning. 149 00:07:22,610 --> 00:07:24,230 Right in the beginning in Genesis. 150 00:07:25,285 --> 00:07:27,204 Genesis chapter 1 verse 151 00:07:28,805 --> 00:07:30,584 from verse 1 God created. 152 00:07:33,604 --> 00:07:35,944 And God spoke and things happened. 153 00:07:38,569 --> 00:07:41,449 And and and and and he did so 154 00:07:41,449 --> 00:07:41,949 for 155 00:07:42,730 --> 00:07:45,069 for a number of days. He just spoke 156 00:07:46,730 --> 00:07:47,470 and then 157 00:07:48,730 --> 00:07:49,790 God got together 158 00:07:53,845 --> 00:07:55,625 And God said, let us. 159 00:07:58,725 --> 00:08:00,585 That's why I said, God got together. 160 00:08:02,485 --> 00:08:04,425 God said, let us 161 00:08:05,205 --> 00:08:07,464 make man in our image. 162 00:08:10,990 --> 00:08:12,209 In our likeness, 163 00:08:12,910 --> 00:08:14,050 and let them 164 00:08:16,589 --> 00:08:17,089 rule. 165 00:08:19,789 --> 00:08:20,289 So 166 00:08:22,029 --> 00:08:23,729 God made man 167 00:08:25,925 --> 00:08:27,064 in his image 168 00:08:28,404 --> 00:08:29,625 and in his likeness 169 00:08:30,725 --> 00:08:33,304 and then God said, let them. 170 00:08:34,725 --> 00:08:36,345 Not men, man, 171 00:08:36,644 --> 00:08:37,705 them. So 172 00:08:38,950 --> 00:08:40,170 if this is God, 173 00:08:45,269 --> 00:08:47,290 if if if that's God, 174 00:08:48,950 --> 00:08:50,570 then God made man 175 00:08:55,205 --> 00:08:56,105 in His image 176 00:08:56,485 --> 00:08:57,544 and in His likeness. 177 00:08:58,245 --> 00:09:00,345 Man looks like God. 178 00:09:01,445 --> 00:09:04,184 He has all the intrinsic values, 179 00:09:05,524 --> 00:09:08,024 image, likeness, we like God 180 00:09:08,680 --> 00:09:09,180 and 181 00:09:11,320 --> 00:09:12,540 this man, 182 00:09:15,639 --> 00:09:17,100 he said, they 183 00:09:23,414 --> 00:09:24,154 will rule. 184 00:09:27,095 --> 00:09:29,654 So God created man in his own image, 185 00:09:29,654 --> 00:09:32,054 in the image of God. He created him 186 00:09:32,054 --> 00:09:33,195 male and female. 187 00:09:35,495 --> 00:09:35,995 So 188 00:09:36,590 --> 00:09:37,090 within 189 00:09:38,149 --> 00:09:38,649 this 190 00:09:39,710 --> 00:09:40,210 Adam, 191 00:09:43,790 --> 00:09:44,850 there is a male 192 00:09:47,550 --> 00:09:48,450 and a female. 193 00:09:52,285 --> 00:09:53,904 So he created them 194 00:09:54,605 --> 00:09:57,644 male and female he created them and God 195 00:09:57,644 --> 00:10:00,065 blessed them. He said, bless you. 196 00:10:01,565 --> 00:10:03,184 Have it. It's yours 197 00:10:06,409 --> 00:10:06,909 And 198 00:10:12,730 --> 00:10:15,789 so God put man into a deep sleep 199 00:10:20,394 --> 00:10:22,014 and then God, 200 00:10:23,434 --> 00:10:25,034 God took man and put him in the 201 00:10:25,034 --> 00:10:26,414 garden, I mean, 202 00:10:26,794 --> 00:10:27,934 on verse 15 203 00:10:30,235 --> 00:10:31,995 and and he told him to take care 204 00:10:31,995 --> 00:10:32,654 of it 205 00:10:33,070 --> 00:10:35,230 and then in verse 18, God the Lord 206 00:10:35,230 --> 00:10:37,149 God said it is not good for man 207 00:10:37,149 --> 00:10:37,970 to be alone. 208 00:10:38,429 --> 00:10:40,610 I will make him a helper 209 00:10:41,709 --> 00:10:42,769 that is suitable, 210 00:10:45,709 --> 00:10:48,404 that that fits in with him, that that 211 00:10:48,404 --> 00:10:50,904 that can work together with him, that 212 00:10:51,205 --> 00:10:52,584 they can be in 213 00:10:52,884 --> 00:10:53,384 cooperation 214 00:10:54,004 --> 00:10:54,985 with one another. 215 00:10:57,365 --> 00:10:57,865 And 216 00:10:58,804 --> 00:10:59,304 so 217 00:11:00,639 --> 00:11:02,720 so the Lord caused the man to fall 218 00:11:02,720 --> 00:11:04,399 into a deep sleep, and while he was 219 00:11:04,399 --> 00:11:06,639 sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs 220 00:11:06,639 --> 00:11:08,179 and closed up the place 221 00:11:08,639 --> 00:11:09,459 with flesh, 222 00:11:10,639 --> 00:11:12,179 and then the Lord 223 00:11:12,695 --> 00:11:13,754 made the woman. 224 00:11:15,174 --> 00:11:15,674 So 225 00:11:17,254 --> 00:11:18,554 if this is God, 226 00:11:22,774 --> 00:11:25,274 God put this man into a deep sleep 227 00:11:36,210 --> 00:11:37,429 and this is God. 228 00:11:39,169 --> 00:11:40,470 This is man, sorry. 229 00:11:43,514 --> 00:11:45,214 He separated them, 230 00:11:48,955 --> 00:11:49,455 and 231 00:11:51,195 --> 00:11:53,615 so what remains here, 232 00:11:56,170 --> 00:11:57,550 what remains here 233 00:11:58,009 --> 00:11:59,790 is is is is 50%. 234 00:12:02,649 --> 00:12:04,190 50% or half. 235 00:12:07,129 --> 00:12:07,629 So 236 00:12:08,649 --> 00:12:09,050 with 237 00:12:10,894 --> 00:12:11,875 this is still 238 00:12:12,335 --> 00:12:13,075 the image. 239 00:12:14,254 --> 00:12:15,634 This is still the likeness 240 00:12:16,975 --> 00:12:18,274 but it is separated. 241 00:12:21,134 --> 00:12:21,634 So, 242 00:12:22,175 --> 00:12:23,235 here you get 243 00:12:24,415 --> 00:12:25,475 half a soul, 244 00:12:30,059 --> 00:12:31,039 half a body, 245 00:12:35,740 --> 00:12:36,879 and half spirit. 246 00:12:44,095 --> 00:12:45,315 Does that make sense? 247 00:12:46,095 --> 00:12:46,595 Yes. 248 00:12:47,534 --> 00:12:48,034 So 249 00:12:48,335 --> 00:12:50,195 God separated them 250 00:12:51,695 --> 00:12:52,195 and 251 00:12:53,695 --> 00:12:54,195 then 252 00:12:57,019 --> 00:12:57,759 God said 253 00:13:03,660 --> 00:13:04,559 this is 254 00:13:05,740 --> 00:13:08,460 after he separated it, he he brought the 255 00:13:08,460 --> 00:13:09,120 2 together. 256 00:13:10,860 --> 00:13:12,195 He brings them together 257 00:13:13,394 --> 00:13:14,294 And and 258 00:13:15,554 --> 00:13:18,274 therefore a man shall leave his father and 259 00:13:18,274 --> 00:13:20,514 his mother and he will be united with 260 00:13:20,514 --> 00:13:21,335 his wife 261 00:13:21,794 --> 00:13:23,975 and they will become 1 flesh. 262 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:24,860 So 263 00:13:25,959 --> 00:13:26,459 so 264 00:13:28,039 --> 00:13:29,339 this is where 265 00:13:29,959 --> 00:13:32,139 things can go terribly wrong. 266 00:13:42,945 --> 00:13:43,825 That's that's all 267 00:13:44,544 --> 00:13:45,365 where is 268 00:13:45,825 --> 00:13:47,445 where is the eve? 269 00:13:49,264 --> 00:13:50,485 She's somewhere here. 270 00:13:55,459 --> 00:13:55,959 So 271 00:13:57,220 --> 00:13:58,360 for some reason, 272 00:14:00,019 --> 00:14:01,639 we have been made 273 00:14:02,179 --> 00:14:02,919 the ones 274 00:14:04,100 --> 00:14:05,559 that that are the hunters 275 00:14:07,304 --> 00:14:08,365 that look for, 276 00:14:09,304 --> 00:14:10,284 that want. 277 00:14:13,144 --> 00:14:14,445 And it happens, 278 00:14:16,504 --> 00:14:17,725 it happens somewhere. 279 00:14:19,065 --> 00:14:21,725 By the age of 15, 16, 280 00:14:22,105 --> 00:14:22,605 17, 281 00:14:24,240 --> 00:14:24,740 18, 282 00:14:25,199 --> 00:14:26,899 we start we start looking. 283 00:14:29,120 --> 00:14:29,620 Because 284 00:14:30,399 --> 00:14:31,699 something happens 285 00:14:33,600 --> 00:14:34,559 and and I've 286 00:14:35,519 --> 00:14:39,044 I find out that something is missing. 287 00:14:41,504 --> 00:14:43,924 Something that is part of me, 288 00:14:45,825 --> 00:14:48,485 something that needs to be with me, 289 00:14:50,429 --> 00:14:52,129 something that is me 290 00:14:53,149 --> 00:14:54,209 is not there, 291 00:14:58,589 --> 00:14:59,089 and 292 00:15:01,149 --> 00:15:02,690 I I start looking. 293 00:15:05,495 --> 00:15:05,995 So 294 00:15:07,654 --> 00:15:08,154 because 295 00:15:08,695 --> 00:15:11,414 I'm I'm I'm missing half of who I 296 00:15:11,414 --> 00:15:11,914 am, 297 00:15:12,375 --> 00:15:14,934 I remember my sister, I have an older 298 00:15:14,934 --> 00:15:15,434 sister, 299 00:15:15,894 --> 00:15:16,634 her husband 300 00:15:17,495 --> 00:15:17,995 was 301 00:15:18,570 --> 00:15:19,389 was shot 302 00:15:20,330 --> 00:15:22,730 in what we call a farm murder in 303 00:15:22,730 --> 00:15:24,110 Africa, in South Africa. 304 00:15:24,889 --> 00:15:26,830 And she said to me 305 00:15:27,450 --> 00:15:28,509 when he died, 306 00:15:29,610 --> 00:15:32,590 it felt as if a part of her 307 00:15:33,504 --> 00:15:35,204 was ripped out of her. 308 00:15:37,424 --> 00:15:39,845 And and it's just missing. 309 00:15:44,065 --> 00:15:45,044 And and she said 310 00:15:45,504 --> 00:15:46,884 it feel it felt 311 00:15:47,309 --> 00:15:48,049 as if 312 00:15:48,429 --> 00:15:50,049 half of who she was 313 00:15:52,110 --> 00:15:52,929 had died. 314 00:15:54,750 --> 00:15:55,730 Well, it did, 315 00:15:57,470 --> 00:16:00,129 and and and and a certain period 316 00:16:00,509 --> 00:16:01,409 of time 317 00:16:02,134 --> 00:16:03,835 takes to get the healing. 318 00:16:07,335 --> 00:16:10,715 But when when when when God brought 319 00:16:11,575 --> 00:16:15,040 Eve to Adam, what did he say? What 320 00:16:15,040 --> 00:16:16,820 what was his experience 321 00:16:19,200 --> 00:16:20,580 after he woke up? 322 00:16:22,639 --> 00:16:23,379 He said, 323 00:16:25,200 --> 00:16:25,700 wow, 324 00:16:28,000 --> 00:16:28,740 this is 325 00:16:29,384 --> 00:16:30,605 flesh of my flesh. 326 00:16:32,425 --> 00:16:34,125 This is bone of my bone. 327 00:16:36,264 --> 00:16:38,045 This is the part of me 328 00:16:39,304 --> 00:16:41,325 that was taken out of me 329 00:16:42,904 --> 00:16:43,804 and and 330 00:16:44,120 --> 00:16:45,500 and then God says, 331 00:16:47,559 --> 00:16:49,339 what I have joined together, 332 00:16:50,199 --> 00:16:51,500 let no man separate. 333 00:16:55,559 --> 00:16:57,659 So the problem came 334 00:16:58,039 --> 00:16:59,179 into the world 335 00:16:59,894 --> 00:17:00,394 when 336 00:17:05,494 --> 00:17:08,154 when when when when we start looking 337 00:17:08,695 --> 00:17:10,875 because we have not been educated 338 00:17:13,370 --> 00:17:16,269 by the church, by our godly parents 339 00:17:16,730 --> 00:17:18,110 in the godly way. 340 00:17:22,009 --> 00:17:22,509 So, 341 00:17:23,850 --> 00:17:25,769 I'm I'm I'm I'm taking a little bit 342 00:17:25,769 --> 00:17:28,750 of a shortcut tonight. We we normally take, 343 00:17:29,585 --> 00:17:31,765 we teach this whole thing 344 00:17:32,465 --> 00:17:34,085 in series over a weekend 345 00:17:35,664 --> 00:17:38,005 but we don't have time for that. 346 00:17:38,625 --> 00:17:39,125 So, 347 00:17:40,305 --> 00:17:41,445 so God says 348 00:17:42,150 --> 00:17:43,850 what I join together, 349 00:17:47,430 --> 00:17:48,809 let no man separate. 350 00:17:50,630 --> 00:17:52,330 So how does God 351 00:17:53,590 --> 00:17:54,090 join? 352 00:17:56,734 --> 00:17:58,595 How does God create 353 00:18:00,095 --> 00:18:00,914 a oneness 354 00:18:03,694 --> 00:18:05,875 between a man and a woman? 355 00:18:08,815 --> 00:18:10,035 He does it through 356 00:18:11,930 --> 00:18:12,430 intimacy 357 00:18:16,089 --> 00:18:17,150 which Satan 358 00:18:19,690 --> 00:18:20,190 has 359 00:18:22,170 --> 00:18:22,670 soiled, 360 00:18:23,444 --> 00:18:24,265 made dirty 361 00:18:26,005 --> 00:18:26,984 through sex. 362 00:18:32,404 --> 00:18:32,904 So 363 00:18:34,005 --> 00:18:35,304 if this is God 364 00:18:37,684 --> 00:18:38,825 and this is 365 00:18:39,470 --> 00:18:39,970 Adam 366 00:18:41,950 --> 00:18:43,250 and this is Eve. 367 00:18:45,470 --> 00:18:46,369 How does 368 00:18:46,910 --> 00:18:47,970 the oneness, 369 00:18:50,750 --> 00:18:52,210 the joining together 370 00:18:56,744 --> 00:18:57,964 that man cannot 371 00:19:00,424 --> 00:19:00,924 separate 372 00:19:01,464 --> 00:19:02,205 take place 373 00:19:07,859 --> 00:19:08,680 through intimacy. 374 00:19:12,019 --> 00:19:13,960 There's there's a literal 375 00:19:15,539 --> 00:19:16,680 coming together, 376 00:19:18,420 --> 00:19:19,160 a joining 377 00:19:19,539 --> 00:19:20,039 together 378 00:19:20,580 --> 00:19:21,880 through intimacy 379 00:19:23,835 --> 00:19:24,974 that takes place 380 00:19:26,714 --> 00:19:27,775 and the moment 381 00:19:28,394 --> 00:19:29,375 that happens, 382 00:19:29,835 --> 00:19:32,174 the moment that play takes place, 383 00:19:32,795 --> 00:19:33,694 you are 1. 384 00:19:39,230 --> 00:19:40,690 And and and and 385 00:19:41,789 --> 00:19:43,970 and you cannot separate that 386 00:19:45,789 --> 00:19:47,950 and so this is this is what happens 387 00:19:47,950 --> 00:19:48,769 in the world. 388 00:19:55,414 --> 00:19:56,714 I go and I look 389 00:19:57,654 --> 00:20:00,075 for my part that is hidden here somewhere 390 00:20:02,934 --> 00:20:04,315 and I meet 391 00:20:04,775 --> 00:20:06,875 a lovely young lady at 392 00:20:07,789 --> 00:20:08,690 at the church. 393 00:20:09,789 --> 00:20:11,089 I'm born again now. 394 00:20:12,669 --> 00:20:13,169 And 395 00:20:13,789 --> 00:20:14,769 so tonight, 396 00:20:16,349 --> 00:20:17,569 I walk her home 397 00:20:21,914 --> 00:20:22,414 and 398 00:20:23,434 --> 00:20:24,734 the moon is shining, 399 00:20:26,234 --> 00:20:26,734 lovely 400 00:20:28,634 --> 00:20:30,555 and and and we do what we're not 401 00:20:30,555 --> 00:20:31,615 supposed to do 402 00:20:33,890 --> 00:20:35,190 And God is speaking. 403 00:20:36,369 --> 00:20:37,509 He says, don't. 404 00:20:39,490 --> 00:20:41,109 You're playing with fire. 405 00:20:44,609 --> 00:20:45,429 Be careful. 406 00:20:47,424 --> 00:20:48,244 Watch out. 407 00:20:51,025 --> 00:20:52,644 And and I'm spiritually 408 00:20:54,705 --> 00:20:55,605 not connected 409 00:20:57,105 --> 00:20:57,605 because 410 00:20:58,305 --> 00:20:59,765 what is in my mind 411 00:21:03,200 --> 00:21:04,579 is this young lady 412 00:21:06,159 --> 00:21:08,419 and what is in her mind is 413 00:21:11,039 --> 00:21:11,539 whatever. 414 00:21:13,214 --> 00:21:13,714 And 415 00:21:16,255 --> 00:21:17,474 before we can 416 00:21:18,414 --> 00:21:19,154 help ourselves, 417 00:21:19,855 --> 00:21:21,315 we can if 418 00:21:22,174 --> 00:21:22,755 we are 419 00:21:24,974 --> 00:21:25,474 obedient 420 00:21:26,255 --> 00:21:28,835 and we listen to God's voice 421 00:21:30,279 --> 00:21:31,580 and we are connected. 422 00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:34,380 But 423 00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:35,980 the world 424 00:21:38,039 --> 00:21:39,180 has taught us 425 00:21:39,720 --> 00:21:40,460 to be 426 00:21:40,840 --> 00:21:41,340 disconnected 427 00:21:43,205 --> 00:21:45,225 And before we find ourselves, 428 00:21:46,965 --> 00:21:47,785 we're there. 429 00:21:51,365 --> 00:21:52,345 And we become 430 00:21:53,285 --> 00:21:54,904 1 body, 1 soul, 431 00:21:57,125 --> 00:21:57,945 1 body, 432 00:21:58,539 --> 00:21:59,279 one spirit. 433 00:22:03,579 --> 00:22:04,559 And after 434 00:22:06,619 --> 00:22:08,480 3, 4 months, 3 weeks, 435 00:22:10,859 --> 00:22:11,359 I 436 00:22:11,660 --> 00:22:12,795 find another one, 437 00:22:14,715 --> 00:22:15,934 because I'm trying. 438 00:22:20,234 --> 00:22:21,934 And before I find myself, 439 00:22:24,315 --> 00:22:25,215 I'm there. 440 00:22:26,759 --> 00:22:27,259 So 441 00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:31,019 I grow up and I leave school. I 442 00:22:31,559 --> 00:22:32,619 go to college 443 00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:38,460 and it happens there 444 00:22:42,575 --> 00:22:43,955 and it happens again 445 00:22:45,215 --> 00:22:46,595 and then I get qualified 446 00:22:48,974 --> 00:22:51,075 and I'm I now have a job 447 00:22:52,494 --> 00:22:53,394 and and 448 00:22:53,855 --> 00:22:55,955 and I get somebody in the office 449 00:22:58,320 --> 00:23:00,500 and they send me to another town 450 00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:04,960 to go on a course or to go 451 00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,380 and sell something or whatever I do. 452 00:23:08,559 --> 00:23:09,859 And this is what happens 453 00:23:10,265 --> 00:23:11,805 and this is what we 454 00:23:20,015 --> 00:23:21,085 call soul ties. 455 00:23:26,340 --> 00:23:28,119 So I have become 456 00:23:28,900 --> 00:23:30,039 1 soul, 457 00:23:30,980 --> 00:23:32,840 1 body, 1 spirit 458 00:23:35,299 --> 00:23:37,400 with these with with this 459 00:23:40,994 --> 00:23:41,734 And then 460 00:23:44,595 --> 00:23:46,454 I I meet my lady 461 00:23:49,394 --> 00:23:50,534 and I propose 462 00:23:51,554 --> 00:23:53,494 and I buy her a nice ring 463 00:23:55,750 --> 00:23:56,250 and 464 00:23:56,950 --> 00:23:59,509 she comes down the aisle and we get 465 00:23:59,509 --> 00:24:00,009 married 466 00:24:02,070 --> 00:24:03,769 and I put her in here. 467 00:24:11,244 --> 00:24:12,464 What am I 468 00:24:12,845 --> 00:24:14,544 allowing her into? 469 00:24:16,444 --> 00:24:16,944 What 470 00:24:18,044 --> 00:24:18,544 ties 471 00:24:21,419 --> 00:24:23,679 am I bringing her into? 472 00:24:24,299 --> 00:24:25,200 Now remember, 473 00:24:25,980 --> 00:24:28,240 she may be also not been 474 00:24:28,779 --> 00:24:30,079 that that innocent, 475 00:24:30,779 --> 00:24:33,019 so she brings a couple in here as 476 00:24:33,019 --> 00:24:33,519 well. 477 00:24:34,934 --> 00:24:35,434 And, 478 00:24:45,575 --> 00:24:47,515 Renee, what does this look like? 479 00:24:50,789 --> 00:24:52,089 A knot? A knot? A mess? 480 00:24:53,990 --> 00:24:56,250 A hamorze. That's what we call it in 481 00:24:56,390 --> 00:24:57,849 where I come from. It's 482 00:24:58,309 --> 00:24:58,470 it's 483 00:25:01,445 --> 00:25:03,865 so so so my question is, 484 00:25:07,285 --> 00:25:08,825 when does marriage 485 00:25:09,125 --> 00:25:10,105 take place? 486 00:25:12,644 --> 00:25:14,345 When are you married? 487 00:25:17,019 --> 00:25:19,660 Is it when the pastor of the church 488 00:25:19,660 --> 00:25:20,160 says, 489 00:25:22,619 --> 00:25:23,599 I declare 490 00:25:25,420 --> 00:25:27,200 that Willie and Lindy 491 00:25:29,265 --> 00:25:30,805 are now legally 492 00:25:31,505 --> 00:25:32,005 married 493 00:25:32,545 --> 00:25:35,744 whatever the the the the ceremony how the 494 00:25:35,744 --> 00:25:37,125 ceremony goes and 495 00:25:38,224 --> 00:25:41,045 he says, you may now kiss your bride. 496 00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:44,380 No, my dear friend. 497 00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:46,059 No. No. 498 00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:48,539 No. That very first 499 00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:49,500 circle 500 00:25:52,599 --> 00:25:54,940 was when you first got married 501 00:25:56,105 --> 00:25:57,965 because you became 1 flesh. 502 00:26:01,945 --> 00:26:04,445 And then you become 1 flesh again, 503 00:26:05,144 --> 00:26:07,465 and you become 1 flesh again, and you 504 00:26:07,465 --> 00:26:09,005 become 1 flesh again, 505 00:26:09,349 --> 00:26:12,950 and she brings other fleshes into this flesh 506 00:26:12,950 --> 00:26:13,450 situation. 507 00:26:14,789 --> 00:26:17,369 And then we wonder why marriages don't work. 508 00:26:20,549 --> 00:26:21,529 And they don't. 509 00:26:23,349 --> 00:26:24,410 It's a miracle. 510 00:26:26,375 --> 00:26:28,075 If you are married from 511 00:26:28,615 --> 00:26:29,115 1975 512 00:26:29,494 --> 00:26:29,994 to 513 00:26:30,694 --> 00:26:31,194 2024. 514 00:26:32,054 --> 00:26:32,875 It's a miracle. 515 00:26:36,214 --> 00:26:36,714 So 516 00:26:38,859 --> 00:26:40,940 I'm sorry my wife is not here yet 517 00:26:40,940 --> 00:26:41,440 or 518 00:26:41,740 --> 00:26:43,440 maybe they're not coming. 519 00:26:47,259 --> 00:26:49,039 Because we share this together, 520 00:26:51,605 --> 00:26:52,904 we were brought up 521 00:26:53,445 --> 00:26:53,945 very 522 00:26:55,924 --> 00:26:56,424 religious. 523 00:26:56,805 --> 00:26:57,305 Very 524 00:26:58,005 --> 00:26:58,744 very strictly 525 00:26:59,125 --> 00:26:59,625 religious. 526 00:27:01,045 --> 00:27:01,545 So 527 00:27:02,244 --> 00:27:03,924 my my my wife is the only woman 528 00:27:03,924 --> 00:27:06,744 I've ever had I've been intimate with. 529 00:27:08,220 --> 00:27:09,359 I don't know why. 530 00:27:10,460 --> 00:27:11,680 For the rest of 531 00:27:12,059 --> 00:27:14,380 the things that men do, I did them 532 00:27:14,380 --> 00:27:14,880 all. 533 00:27:16,619 --> 00:27:18,240 I was not a good guy. 534 00:27:20,355 --> 00:27:21,255 I met Jesus 535 00:27:25,315 --> 00:27:26,615 after we got married. 536 00:27:27,394 --> 00:27:29,335 But but for some reason, 537 00:27:29,875 --> 00:27:31,575 God protected us, 538 00:27:32,595 --> 00:27:34,134 both my wife and I. 539 00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:37,599 So I met my wife in in in 540 00:27:37,599 --> 00:27:38,259 in January. 541 00:27:39,119 --> 00:27:40,179 I saw her. 542 00:27:41,519 --> 00:27:43,700 We went out for the first time in 543 00:27:44,069 --> 00:27:45,059 in in April 544 00:27:46,815 --> 00:27:48,515 and I married her in September 545 00:27:51,054 --> 00:27:54,335 and and and we got engaged I met 546 00:27:54,335 --> 00:27:57,234 her in April. We got engaged in June 547 00:27:59,855 --> 00:28:01,954 and then we got married in September. 548 00:28:04,059 --> 00:28:04,559 And 549 00:28:04,940 --> 00:28:06,480 and and for some reason, 550 00:28:08,220 --> 00:28:08,960 we decided 551 00:28:10,380 --> 00:28:11,279 to abstain 552 00:28:14,299 --> 00:28:15,919 until we got engaged. 553 00:28:20,755 --> 00:28:21,255 And 554 00:28:23,554 --> 00:28:24,934 I don't think we decided, 555 00:28:26,355 --> 00:28:27,335 but it happened. 556 00:28:30,595 --> 00:28:32,994 And our marriage didn't work for the 1st 557 00:28:32,994 --> 00:28:33,569 7 years. 558 00:28:34,450 --> 00:28:35,589 Didn't work. Why? 559 00:28:38,609 --> 00:28:40,710 We allowed a crack in the foundation. 560 00:28:44,289 --> 00:28:45,190 And and 561 00:28:45,490 --> 00:28:46,549 Satan just 562 00:28:46,929 --> 00:28:48,230 did this in the door. 563 00:28:50,585 --> 00:28:53,144 And our marriage did not work for 7 564 00:28:53,144 --> 00:28:53,644 years 565 00:28:57,144 --> 00:28:57,644 until 566 00:28:59,625 --> 00:29:00,684 we met 567 00:29:01,945 --> 00:29:02,924 with this thing. 568 00:29:04,230 --> 00:29:06,070 My wife was the only is the only 569 00:29:06,070 --> 00:29:08,470 person that I've ever been intimate with, but 570 00:29:08,470 --> 00:29:09,450 I was intimate 571 00:29:10,150 --> 00:29:10,970 with her 572 00:29:11,750 --> 00:29:13,450 before I married her, 573 00:29:14,230 --> 00:29:16,710 before God could put his seal on the 574 00:29:16,710 --> 00:29:17,210 thing. 575 00:29:18,955 --> 00:29:20,255 And because of that, 576 00:29:22,075 --> 00:29:23,295 damage was made. 577 00:29:28,154 --> 00:29:28,654 And 578 00:29:30,235 --> 00:29:30,735 so 579 00:29:33,289 --> 00:29:34,670 God says here, 580 00:29:35,930 --> 00:29:37,710 what he has joined together, 581 00:29:40,090 --> 00:29:41,789 no man can separate. 582 00:29:43,404 --> 00:29:43,904 So 583 00:29:45,164 --> 00:29:46,065 if I 584 00:29:46,365 --> 00:29:47,345 am intimate 585 00:29:47,805 --> 00:29:50,625 with a woman before I get married, 586 00:29:52,285 --> 00:29:54,464 I am forcing God 587 00:29:55,805 --> 00:29:57,025 into a oneness. 588 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:01,140 Does that make sense? 589 00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:04,740 Because he says, that 590 00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:07,059 is the act 591 00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:08,259 of marriage 592 00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:10,980 and the moment 593 00:30:11,279 --> 00:30:13,619 you get intimate with one another, 594 00:30:15,695 --> 00:30:17,235 you are joined together 595 00:30:21,934 --> 00:30:22,434 and 596 00:30:23,375 --> 00:30:25,555 and and and man cannot separate that. 597 00:30:29,220 --> 00:30:30,359 That's the tragedy 598 00:30:31,940 --> 00:30:34,839 and and you cannot separate this. 599 00:30:38,420 --> 00:30:38,920 And 600 00:30:39,619 --> 00:30:40,259 and and it 601 00:30:41,059 --> 00:30:42,279 this is a destroyer. 602 00:30:44,705 --> 00:30:46,164 This is a real destroyer. 603 00:30:49,744 --> 00:30:52,705 That's why in the nation that I come 604 00:30:52,705 --> 00:30:53,205 from, 605 00:30:53,984 --> 00:30:56,325 I think that divorce rate is 70%. 606 00:30:59,779 --> 00:31:00,599 Well, I 607 00:31:01,140 --> 00:31:03,380 I I I don't even think there's a 608 00:31:03,380 --> 00:31:06,180 divorce rate anymore because people just don't get 609 00:31:06,180 --> 00:31:07,080 married anymore. 610 00:31:07,619 --> 00:31:09,140 They just move in and they move out 611 00:31:09,140 --> 00:31:10,500 and they move in and they move out 612 00:31:10,500 --> 00:31:12,180 and the children will know who their father 613 00:31:12,180 --> 00:31:13,305 and their mother is and 614 00:31:16,345 --> 00:31:19,305 and and and society is falling apart. The 615 00:31:19,305 --> 00:31:20,684 church is falling apart. 616 00:31:24,585 --> 00:31:25,085 Pastors, 617 00:31:27,599 --> 00:31:29,140 marriages are destroyed. 618 00:31:31,279 --> 00:31:33,279 Brother, how many pastors do you know that 619 00:31:33,279 --> 00:31:34,099 have divorced? 620 00:31:35,759 --> 00:31:36,259 Many. 621 00:31:37,519 --> 00:31:39,859 They don't know it, but it's this. 622 00:31:41,454 --> 00:31:42,755 It's this thing 623 00:31:45,855 --> 00:31:48,434 that brings destruction in our lives. 624 00:31:50,414 --> 00:31:52,914 We are hurting and we don't know why. 625 00:31:53,930 --> 00:31:55,690 We are doing things and we don't know 626 00:31:55,690 --> 00:31:56,190 why. 627 00:31:59,289 --> 00:32:02,269 I I I I I I I bring 628 00:32:04,009 --> 00:32:04,509 spirits 629 00:32:06,410 --> 00:32:07,549 in through this. 630 00:32:11,345 --> 00:32:13,744 And and and then we then we wonder 631 00:32:13,744 --> 00:32:14,244 why 632 00:32:15,505 --> 00:32:16,644 it doesn't work. 633 00:32:18,464 --> 00:32:19,285 And and 634 00:32:21,105 --> 00:32:21,569 and 635 00:32:21,970 --> 00:32:25,029 and and when destruction takes place, 636 00:32:25,490 --> 00:32:26,630 we just divorce 637 00:32:28,769 --> 00:32:31,109 and we start the process all over again. 638 00:32:32,289 --> 00:32:33,509 We just go further. 639 00:32:35,505 --> 00:32:36,005 So 640 00:32:36,384 --> 00:32:37,284 do I have 641 00:32:37,744 --> 00:32:40,005 sympathy with divorce? Yes, I have. 642 00:32:42,464 --> 00:32:44,244 This is my view. 643 00:32:44,865 --> 00:32:46,804 I don't believe that divorce 644 00:32:47,105 --> 00:32:47,519 is 645 00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:48,980 the unforgivable 646 00:32:49,359 --> 00:32:49,859 sin. 647 00:32:53,279 --> 00:32:56,019 My my daughter has been divorced twice. 648 00:32:58,320 --> 00:32:59,059 I understand 649 00:33:01,725 --> 00:33:04,705 but we can't make a habit of divorcing 650 00:33:04,845 --> 00:33:05,585 and marrying. 651 00:33:06,445 --> 00:33:09,265 We must there's a place to come clean. 652 00:33:11,565 --> 00:33:13,664 There's really a place to come clean. 653 00:33:15,789 --> 00:33:16,289 So 654 00:33:17,869 --> 00:33:19,490 how how do we 655 00:33:20,269 --> 00:33:21,970 how do we do this? 656 00:33:22,910 --> 00:33:25,170 How do we come clean on this? 657 00:33:27,404 --> 00:33:29,085 If the word of God says 658 00:33:32,045 --> 00:33:33,345 if Jesus says 659 00:33:34,365 --> 00:33:37,005 in in in in in in Mark chapter 660 00:33:37,005 --> 00:33:37,505 9, 661 00:33:39,244 --> 00:33:41,664 what God has the 2 will become 1 662 00:33:43,829 --> 00:33:45,769 And what God has joined together, 663 00:33:47,750 --> 00:33:49,049 no man can separate. 664 00:33:52,309 --> 00:33:54,789 So I I I normally come with it 665 00:33:54,789 --> 00:33:56,410 with it with this great solution. 666 00:33:59,065 --> 00:34:00,605 Buy a gun and shoot yourself. 667 00:34:04,105 --> 00:34:05,965 Or get a rope and hang yourself. 668 00:34:10,105 --> 00:34:10,605 No. 669 00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:12,739 No. 670 00:34:15,039 --> 00:34:15,539 Please, 671 00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:16,340 no. 672 00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:23,519 What God has joined together, no man can 673 00:34:23,519 --> 00:34:24,900 separate who can. 674 00:34:28,054 --> 00:34:28,954 Help me. 675 00:34:31,894 --> 00:34:33,514 Help me. If 676 00:34:34,214 --> 00:34:36,394 what man cannot separate, 677 00:34:37,094 --> 00:34:38,875 what God has put together, 678 00:34:39,815 --> 00:34:40,954 who can separate? 679 00:34:42,300 --> 00:34:43,760 Yes. Who said that? 680 00:34:46,140 --> 00:34:46,960 Bless you. 681 00:34:48,539 --> 00:34:49,440 Bless you. 682 00:34:52,140 --> 00:34:52,640 So 683 00:34:53,980 --> 00:34:56,400 what what we normally do 684 00:34:57,155 --> 00:34:58,375 when when we handle 685 00:35:01,875 --> 00:35:04,755 this, my wife takes the ladies and I 686 00:35:04,755 --> 00:35:05,734 take the men 687 00:35:07,954 --> 00:35:10,675 and and and we we we literally ask 688 00:35:10,675 --> 00:35:13,789 them to put the name of every soul 689 00:35:13,789 --> 00:35:14,289 tie 690 00:35:16,110 --> 00:35:17,170 that they have 691 00:35:17,869 --> 00:35:19,329 on that piece of paper. 692 00:35:20,670 --> 00:35:22,610 And one guy said to me, 693 00:35:24,005 --> 00:35:26,344 there's not enough paper in this city 694 00:35:27,605 --> 00:35:29,385 on which I can write the names. 695 00:35:32,405 --> 00:35:34,585 And and I'm not saying that's bad. 696 00:35:38,390 --> 00:35:38,869 I'm not 697 00:35:39,829 --> 00:35:41,289 if I've done it once, 698 00:35:43,670 --> 00:35:45,849 I have a wrong soul tie. 699 00:35:47,430 --> 00:35:50,570 Ten wrong soul ties doesn't make that worse. 700 00:35:54,364 --> 00:35:56,465 The challenge is to get rid of them 701 00:35:59,485 --> 00:36:01,184 and so what we do 702 00:36:01,885 --> 00:36:02,945 is we say, 703 00:36:03,949 --> 00:36:06,349 write at least those that you know, that 704 00:36:06,349 --> 00:36:07,250 you can remember. 705 00:36:08,349 --> 00:36:09,569 And if you remember 706 00:36:10,589 --> 00:36:12,130 the face or the 707 00:36:12,429 --> 00:36:14,609 day or the evening, just write 708 00:36:15,309 --> 00:36:16,289 A and B 709 00:36:18,464 --> 00:36:20,085 and then after that we 710 00:36:20,545 --> 00:36:21,844 bring the people together 711 00:36:25,105 --> 00:36:26,724 and we fold those papers 712 00:36:28,464 --> 00:36:29,924 and we make a fire 713 00:36:32,230 --> 00:36:34,789 and we ask God to break every soul 714 00:36:34,789 --> 00:36:35,289 tie 715 00:36:36,309 --> 00:36:37,609 to undo them. 716 00:36:40,150 --> 00:36:42,809 To undo them. To undo them. 717 00:36:43,674 --> 00:36:44,734 To undo them 718 00:36:54,315 --> 00:36:55,614 until this is left. 719 00:37:01,030 --> 00:37:02,329 And God is faithful. 720 00:37:04,630 --> 00:37:05,690 God is love. 721 00:37:08,469 --> 00:37:10,250 If you come in genuineness 722 00:37:11,675 --> 00:37:13,295 and with the right heart 723 00:37:14,315 --> 00:37:16,735 and and and and and you you break 724 00:37:16,795 --> 00:37:18,335 all those soul ties 725 00:37:20,074 --> 00:37:21,934 until only that is left, 726 00:37:23,514 --> 00:37:24,894 your marriage will work. 727 00:37:29,920 --> 00:37:32,900 I'm married I think it's 48 years. 728 00:37:35,839 --> 00:37:37,460 My marriage has worked 729 00:37:38,534 --> 00:37:39,755 for 47 years 730 00:37:40,775 --> 00:37:41,994 because we did that. 731 00:37:44,855 --> 00:37:46,155 Because we did that. 732 00:37:47,815 --> 00:37:48,954 God is faithful. 733 00:37:53,610 --> 00:37:54,429 I I 734 00:37:54,889 --> 00:37:56,889 I said to Billy, can I say this 735 00:37:56,889 --> 00:37:58,650 here? And he said to me, just say 736 00:37:58,650 --> 00:37:59,309 it there. 737 00:38:00,969 --> 00:38:03,710 What is sex outside of marriage? 738 00:38:07,655 --> 00:38:08,394 It's masturbation. 739 00:38:10,295 --> 00:38:11,755 You are pleasing yourself. 740 00:38:17,660 --> 00:38:19,760 What is intimacy in marriage? 741 00:38:20,700 --> 00:38:21,680 It's holy. 742 00:38:22,460 --> 00:38:23,519 It's clean. 743 00:38:24,619 --> 00:38:25,519 It's beautiful. 744 00:38:27,420 --> 00:38:28,400 It's God. 745 00:38:30,934 --> 00:38:32,155 He made that 746 00:38:34,535 --> 00:38:35,835 to bring us together, 747 00:38:39,255 --> 00:38:41,994 and we allow Satan to destroy that. 748 00:38:45,460 --> 00:38:45,960 Why? 749 00:38:52,340 --> 00:38:54,119 Why? What is intimacy? 750 00:38:56,994 --> 00:38:58,215 Intimacy is 751 00:38:58,675 --> 00:39:01,094 I'm ministering to my wife's needs 752 00:39:04,594 --> 00:39:07,255 and my wife is ministering to my needs. 753 00:39:10,369 --> 00:39:12,390 I need that from her 754 00:39:13,570 --> 00:39:15,910 and she needs that from me. 755 00:39:16,849 --> 00:39:18,630 And if I don't minister 756 00:39:19,570 --> 00:39:20,469 in intimacy 757 00:39:21,329 --> 00:39:24,210 to her needs and she's not ministering to 758 00:39:24,210 --> 00:39:25,724 my needs, we are taking 759 00:39:27,144 --> 00:39:27,644 a 760 00:39:29,065 --> 00:39:29,565 walk. 761 00:39:30,984 --> 00:39:32,525 We're just taking a walk. 762 00:39:35,224 --> 00:39:38,364 So my request is my my the challenge 763 00:39:38,425 --> 00:39:39,804 I lay before you 764 00:39:41,750 --> 00:39:43,369 is minister to one another 765 00:39:43,909 --> 00:39:45,530 after you have come clean. 766 00:39:51,750 --> 00:39:54,284 Do you know what marriage really is? 767 00:39:57,724 --> 00:39:58,464 It is 768 00:39:59,484 --> 00:40:01,405 I'm not sure whether I'm using the right 769 00:40:01,405 --> 00:40:01,905 words. 770 00:40:02,764 --> 00:40:04,464 It's the practice run 771 00:40:07,389 --> 00:40:10,210 of when I become missus Jesus Christ. 772 00:40:14,909 --> 00:40:16,369 Because he says 773 00:40:18,349 --> 00:40:19,650 in John 15 774 00:40:19,949 --> 00:40:21,329 and verse 4, 775 00:40:22,765 --> 00:40:24,144 remain in me 776 00:40:26,364 --> 00:40:28,144 and I will remain in you. 777 00:40:28,765 --> 00:40:29,824 That's intimate. 778 00:40:31,485 --> 00:40:32,385 That's this. 779 00:40:33,244 --> 00:40:34,465 That's a oneness 780 00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:39,500 with with my Lord, with my God. 781 00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:43,400 If you remain in me, I will remain 782 00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:44,140 in you. 783 00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:49,480 If you remain in her and she remains 784 00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:50,219 in you, 785 00:40:52,514 --> 00:40:53,014 it's 786 00:40:53,594 --> 00:40:54,094 ministry. 787 00:40:54,674 --> 00:40:55,574 It's godly. 788 00:40:58,674 --> 00:40:59,174 That's 789 00:41:00,194 --> 00:41:02,214 what it was made for. 790 00:41:06,170 --> 00:41:07,070 And it works. 791 00:41:09,369 --> 00:41:11,070 Here I stand, it works. 792 00:41:16,570 --> 00:41:17,070 So 793 00:41:19,289 --> 00:41:20,829 I'm actually through. 794 00:41:22,675 --> 00:41:23,175 So 795 00:41:24,195 --> 00:41:26,755 we're not going to do that tonight, but 796 00:41:26,755 --> 00:41:27,494 come clean. 797 00:41:28,355 --> 00:41:30,054 Go and make your little list 798 00:41:33,860 --> 00:41:35,320 and take that list, 799 00:41:35,860 --> 00:41:37,239 and tear it up, 800 00:41:39,619 --> 00:41:41,400 and and and and burn it, 801 00:41:42,099 --> 00:41:42,920 bury it, 802 00:41:44,980 --> 00:41:46,039 destroy it, 803 00:41:48,714 --> 00:41:51,614 and you will see what God can do 804 00:41:52,394 --> 00:41:53,855 or what He will do, 805 00:41:55,034 --> 00:41:56,574 what He wants to do. 806 00:41:59,194 --> 00:42:00,734 If it worked for me, 807 00:42:02,030 --> 00:42:03,329 it'll work for you. 808 00:42:04,750 --> 00:42:06,609 What God has joined together, 809 00:42:07,869 --> 00:42:09,329 let no man separate. 810 00:42:10,429 --> 00:42:12,769 Allow God to bring the wrong separation. 811 00:42:13,309 --> 00:42:14,769 Let him break the 812 00:42:15,309 --> 00:42:17,570 the the wrong soul ties 813 00:42:19,075 --> 00:42:20,055 in your life 814 00:42:23,235 --> 00:42:24,215 and let him 815 00:42:24,835 --> 00:42:25,735 join you 816 00:42:28,035 --> 00:42:28,855 with the one 817 00:42:30,114 --> 00:42:31,494 that you married to. 818 00:42:35,359 --> 00:42:36,659 Minister to one another. 819 00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:39,859 It's good ministry. 820 00:42:42,559 --> 00:42:43,619 It's good ministry. 821 00:42:46,319 --> 00:42:47,299 I tell you, 822 00:42:49,894 --> 00:42:52,315 may the Lord bless you, keep you, 823 00:42:53,574 --> 00:42:55,335 make his light shine upon you and give 824 00:42:55,335 --> 00:42:56,074 you peace. 825 00:42:57,815 --> 00:43:00,054 May the love of the father, the grace 826 00:43:00,054 --> 00:43:01,514 of the Lord Jesus Christ, 827 00:43:03,329 --> 00:43:05,349 and the communion of the Holy Spirit 828 00:43:06,690 --> 00:43:07,589 be with you. 829 00:43:08,130 --> 00:43:09,829 Amen. Thank you, brother Scott. 830 00:43:30,650 --> 00:43:31,150 So, 831 00:43:32,409 --> 00:43:34,109 yeah, this is the stuff that, 832 00:43:34,730 --> 00:43:35,710 that, this is real. 833 00:43:37,929 --> 00:43:39,769 And, and here's something that I've found over 834 00:43:39,769 --> 00:43:41,389 the years. We all know this. 835 00:43:42,250 --> 00:43:43,710 We know this to be true. 836 00:43:47,344 --> 00:43:48,724 Even even the way Hollywood 837 00:43:49,184 --> 00:43:49,684 represents, 838 00:43:50,224 --> 00:43:52,005 you know, sex outside of marriage, 839 00:43:52,545 --> 00:43:54,804 there's a guilt factor. Even in Hollywood, 840 00:43:55,744 --> 00:43:58,659 there's that. Why? Because there's something taken from 841 00:43:58,659 --> 00:44:00,519 us when this happens. And so 842 00:44:01,059 --> 00:44:02,440 I'd like us to pray about 843 00:44:04,739 --> 00:44:05,320 this. And, 844 00:44:05,619 --> 00:44:07,239 consider consider processing 845 00:44:08,340 --> 00:44:10,394 this in your own life, your own transgender 846 00:44:10,394 --> 00:44:11,355 issues and the LGBT, all these other things 847 00:44:11,355 --> 00:44:12,355 that we don't even talk about the fact 848 00:44:12,355 --> 00:44:12,855 that 849 00:44:25,130 --> 00:44:27,289 sex outside of the marriage is still a 850 00:44:27,289 --> 00:44:27,789 sin. 851 00:44:28,809 --> 00:44:29,309 So, 852 00:44:31,289 --> 00:44:32,969 so yeah, I don't need to preach it 853 00:44:32,969 --> 00:44:35,690 again. Let's pray. God, we commit ourselves to 854 00:44:35,690 --> 00:44:37,130 you. Lord, I pray for the marriages in 855 00:44:37,130 --> 00:44:39,230 our church. Every single marriage 856 00:44:40,105 --> 00:44:42,585 And I know this stuff. This stuff really 857 00:44:42,585 --> 00:44:43,324 does attack, 858 00:44:44,585 --> 00:44:45,324 our marriages. 859 00:44:46,025 --> 00:44:47,485 It plagues our marriages. 860 00:44:48,985 --> 00:44:49,839 God, all the stuff that comes along with 861 00:44:49,839 --> 00:44:50,231 this, all the baggage that comes along with 862 00:44:50,231 --> 00:44:50,623 this, all the stuff that comes along with 863 00:44:50,623 --> 00:44:51,016 this, all the baggage that comes along with 864 00:44:51,016 --> 00:44:52,920 this, all the that comes along with this, 865 00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:55,800 all the baggage that comes along with this, 866 00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:58,139 or Satan uses this to manipulate us, 867 00:44:59,000 --> 00:45:00,760 to hurt us, to play us. And so 868 00:45:00,760 --> 00:45:02,760 God, we ask you we ask you to 869 00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:04,920 help us to work through these things for 870 00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:06,380 every marriage in our church 871 00:45:06,835 --> 00:45:08,994 that's got some of this in the in 872 00:45:08,994 --> 00:45:09,735 the background, 873 00:45:10,675 --> 00:45:12,434 Lord, that they will pray through this, that 874 00:45:12,434 --> 00:45:14,835 they'll work through this and and not not 875 00:45:14,835 --> 00:45:16,994 just pretend like it doesn't exist, but Lord, 876 00:45:16,994 --> 00:45:17,494 truly 877 00:45:18,195 --> 00:45:20,434 repent and get this stuff under the blood 878 00:45:20,434 --> 00:45:22,135 of Jesus. And so Lord, we 879 00:45:22,550 --> 00:45:23,690 I thank you for, 880 00:45:24,630 --> 00:45:26,389 for this, this evening. I thank you for 881 00:45:26,389 --> 00:45:28,409 the truth of this, the reality of this. 882 00:45:28,469 --> 00:45:30,570 And Lord, I pray this across our church, 883 00:45:32,150 --> 00:45:33,210 across our teenagers, 884 00:45:34,789 --> 00:45:35,289 across 885 00:45:36,434 --> 00:45:38,195 single people in our church that they just, 886 00:45:38,195 --> 00:45:40,755 they they won't get caught up in this. 887 00:45:40,755 --> 00:45:43,015 It's so much a part of our culture. 888 00:45:43,235 --> 00:45:45,394 But Lord, we stand against it. We rebuke 889 00:45:45,394 --> 00:45:46,614 it in the name of Jesus. 890 00:45:47,394 --> 00:45:49,394 And that God, we want we want that 891 00:45:49,394 --> 00:45:49,894 intimacy 892 00:45:50,829 --> 00:45:52,210 with only our spouse. 893 00:45:53,630 --> 00:45:55,550 And so Lord, help us with this. In 894 00:45:55,550 --> 00:45:57,170 the name of Jesus, we pray. 895 00:45:59,389 --> 00:46:01,469 Amen. There's actually, one of the segments that 896 00:46:01,469 --> 00:46:02,190 I do in, my pre married counseling that 897 00:46:02,190 --> 00:46:04,244 is it includes all this, that my pre 898 00:46:04,244 --> 00:46:06,744 married counseling that is, it includes all this, 899 00:46:07,204 --> 00:46:08,964 that how do you deal with this moving 900 00:46:08,964 --> 00:46:10,404 forward? You know, by the time I get 901 00:46:10,404 --> 00:46:12,744 to a pre married counseling setting, 902 00:46:13,204 --> 00:46:14,804 you know, these 2 can't go back and 903 00:46:14,804 --> 00:46:16,424 change everything that they've done, 904 00:46:16,820 --> 00:46:18,260 But they can start right there and figure 905 00:46:18,260 --> 00:46:19,000 this out. 906 00:46:19,460 --> 00:46:21,539 And, and that's that's where we go. We 907 00:46:21,539 --> 00:46:23,480 work through this and we pray through this. 908 00:46:23,940 --> 00:46:26,039 And, and it's very necessary. So 909 00:46:26,579 --> 00:46:28,579 thank you. Thank you for coming all the 910 00:46:28,579 --> 00:46:29,800 way from South Africa 911 00:46:30,739 --> 00:46:32,119 to speak to us tonight. 912 00:46:33,114 --> 00:46:33,614 That's 913 00:46:34,234 --> 00:46:34,734 awesome. 914 00:46:35,355 --> 00:46:37,114 Why don't you stand with me? Let's let's, 915 00:46:37,355 --> 00:46:39,614 I do want to end by praying for 916 00:46:40,235 --> 00:46:42,555 for Papa Ballmer, just like we do for 917 00:46:42,555 --> 00:46:43,215 our missionaries. 918 00:46:44,315 --> 00:46:45,755 If you'll come up here, if you don't 919 00:46:45,755 --> 00:46:48,070 mind, just stand down here. We're going to 920 00:46:48,070 --> 00:46:49,909 gather around you and pray for you. There's 921 00:46:49,909 --> 00:46:51,590 a lot of ministry and things that they 922 00:46:51,590 --> 00:46:52,250 are doing. 923 00:46:52,710 --> 00:46:55,050 And, and if you know any anything about, 924 00:46:55,590 --> 00:46:56,650 Joshua's nation, 925 00:46:58,230 --> 00:46:59,690 he's he's the, 926 00:47:00,230 --> 00:47:00,730 African 927 00:47:01,614 --> 00:47:02,675 person for that. 928 00:47:03,215 --> 00:47:04,735 And so we want to pray over him. 929 00:47:04,735 --> 00:47:06,815 We want to pray over the ministry that 930 00:47:06,815 --> 00:47:08,835 they're doing there. And he is also 931 00:47:09,295 --> 00:47:11,555 a, the equivalent of a state representative 932 00:47:12,414 --> 00:47:14,515 in in his area too. So 933 00:47:14,815 --> 00:47:16,969 so we're like twins. So So 934 00:47:18,710 --> 00:47:19,690 something like that. 935 00:47:20,309 --> 00:47:21,989 So if you guys want, come down here. 936 00:47:21,989 --> 00:47:24,309 Almost identical. Almost identical. You can barely tell 937 00:47:24,309 --> 00:47:24,889 us apart. 938 00:47:26,949 --> 00:47:28,309 I don't know how come his hair is 939 00:47:28,309 --> 00:47:30,150 so much darker though. That's the problem that 940 00:47:30,150 --> 00:47:32,125 gets me. And his hair is darker. So 941 00:47:32,125 --> 00:47:33,773 let's pray. God, I thank you for for 942 00:47:33,773 --> 00:47:34,824 Papa Baumer. I thank 943 00:47:35,324 --> 00:47:36,284 you for his heart for you. And Lord, 944 00:47:36,284 --> 00:47:37,484 we do ask you for all the ministry 945 00:47:37,484 --> 00:47:38,464 that he's doing. 946 00:47:46,219 --> 00:47:47,980 And, and all the all of the guys 947 00:47:47,980 --> 00:47:49,760 that are connected with him, specifically, 948 00:47:50,460 --> 00:47:52,699 Pastor Emmanuel, Lord, I know that they 2 949 00:47:52,779 --> 00:47:54,480 they both work so close together. 950 00:47:55,099 --> 00:47:57,920 God, anoint them. Bless them with your spirit. 951 00:47:59,144 --> 00:48:00,285 Are changed, souls are 952 00:48:00,744 --> 00:48:01,137 saved, people are set free, Lord, that that 953 00:48:01,137 --> 00:48:01,339 all the things that they're doing in all 954 00:48:01,339 --> 00:48:03,244 of these different cities and countries and villages 955 00:48:12,159 --> 00:48:15,119 with, Joshua's nation, Lord, let that let that 956 00:48:15,119 --> 00:48:17,059 continue to propagate through the countries 957 00:48:17,599 --> 00:48:20,320 or through the peoples, through the, through, through 958 00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:23,059 people's lives and churches spring up from this 959 00:48:23,119 --> 00:48:24,420 and more and more churches. 960 00:48:24,785 --> 00:48:25,285 Upon 961 00:48:25,744 --> 00:48:26,087 him and his wife both and the ministry 962 00:48:26,087 --> 00:48:26,187 that they do together. God, we give you 963 00:48:26,187 --> 00:48:27,184 all the glory in the name of Jesus 964 00:48:27,184 --> 00:48:28,405 we pray. Amen. 965 00:48:38,480 --> 00:48:38,980 Amen. 966 00:48:39,440 --> 00:48:41,699 Alright. Well, you don't have to go home, 967 00:48:42,960 --> 00:48:44,480 but you gotta get on up out of 968 00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:44,980 here. 969 00:48:45,839 --> 00:48:46,900 We'll see you 970 00:48:47,519 --> 00:48:48,500 Sunday morning.