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Welcome to back pocket wisdom with Jackie and

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Elizabeth where we are creating a space for

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you to get real with yourself. So tune

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in to feel like you're just chatting with

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your friends about reachable mental health and just

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having fun. We gotta have fun. And look

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kinda good while doing it. Hell no.

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Uh-huh.

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Uh-oh.

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Oh my gosh. Okay. So

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I'm gonna tell you a little story Okay.

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That I thought was way cool. Okay. And

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I was like, I had a crush on

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this kid named Beau. Beau Cooper, if you're

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out there, what's up? Beau Cooper. What are

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you doing now? I don't think he even

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has hair anymore, but

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I don't know. No Beau has hair. No

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joke.

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No joke.

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Listen, I grew up with not a lot

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of money, not a not not a huge

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fashion.

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I loved clothes, but we didn't have any

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money to buy clothes. So,

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I had the basics, you know, Kmart 101.

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And so,

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but I did get this,

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is it was it a Morley shirt?

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Yes. It was like a surf brand. Okay.

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And this kid had a Morley shirt.

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Oh, my gosh.

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Every time my brother

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had soccer practice Thursday nights,

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I

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freaking even if it was dirty, pull that

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shit out and put that stinky ass shirt

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on.

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And then I'd go up to him and

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I'm like, hey. What's up?

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Thinking I had some You should've been like,

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what's up? A mini. And I'm like, oh

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my gosh. Morley is not even the the

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Morley is the is the boutique guy. Shop

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at now. Yeah. I don't

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even know. I don't know what it was

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called. It was some same shirt, whatever. Like

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Maui I'm kidding. Gym or something. No. Whatever.

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Not my gym either. Maui something. Whatever. Okay.

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We had the same shirt. Same

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we are sleeping. So same shirt. And when

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I think about it, I'm like, oh my

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gosh. I wear the same shirt every single

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time you saw me and that is so

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lame. Alright.

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So Wait that's seriously so cute. That's so

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wholesome. Okay. So think about this how wholesome

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it is when you are an adult and

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there is this woman Okay. No. It's not

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wholesome when you're an adult. Oh, yeah. Consider

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that woman

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that wears

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at the soccer field.

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It's a mom,

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and she wears this shirt

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every for I I don't know if I've

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ever seen her wear an audition. What is

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the shirt? It says a 100% tired.

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We got to make that's a statement. That's

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a don't be a dick shirt. Wait. She

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sounds fantastic.

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I was like,

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you wear that on the soccer field,

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And but, like, you wanna reinforce? I'm a

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100% tired. Like, don't be a dick I

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wanna reinforce. But

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every time I see that shirt, I crack

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up because I'm like Honestly, really funny.

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I'm like, me too.

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I'm like, oh my god. That's how I

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feel right now. And it just reinforces how

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tired I am. So But you know what?

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I think that it also is coming from

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a perspective of, like, moms are doing so

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much, and it's like we're all tired. Like,

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we're all we all feel Well, evidently, you

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don't do your laundry and you wear a

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t shirt every time.

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Maybe she's on a budget. Uh-oh. Okay. Well,

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bless her heart.

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So oh my gosh. I get like that

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though. Like, I get hyper fixated on meals

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too. We're, like, I'll make the same thing

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for dinner for a month and a half

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Yeah. And then I'll be sick

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Yeah. Over it. I'll listen to the same

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song. I'm like, is there a deeper problem?

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Yeah. Maybe I should

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I heard should I? I I actually heard

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about the song. That means, like, that you

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are actually high functioning because

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you,

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yeah, because you wanna listen to it over

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and over again. Wait. No. Actually, because I

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I do that, like, a lot. Yeah. No.

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I mean, we're high functioning. I'm telling you.

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I was thinking it was like a twitch.

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You're like No. No. Means you're the most

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beautiful girl in the world. Yeah. Yeah. Spoiler.

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Well, and somebody Spoiler, Jackie. Something one of

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my clients told me they were

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teacher,

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some sort, and,

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said that,

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I I said, yeah. I I have dyslexia,

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but undiagnosed.

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I just do. I know it. And

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I just do got that. I do do.

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I do do that. I mean, it it

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got worse actually after some, after I had

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my babies.

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it's gotten into the writing part too. So

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I, like, transpose my writing. It's so crazy.

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Yeah. So anyhoo,

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always text me directly the numbers that you

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need me to so I can press them

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instead of write them. Yeah. Anyway, she said

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that that was a sign of brilliance. And

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I I took him I took that and

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ran. I was like Well, I Sign me

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up for being brilliant. I can even attest

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to that. However

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okay. This is so embarrassing. I don't think

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I've ever even shared this story. So I

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was a senior in high school, and

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I was just like a naughty little angry

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girl. Like, I just, like, didn't wanna be

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there, and I neglected it, and I just

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rebelled. And I just I mean, like, I

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would every therapist that I had

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would bring my mom in and be like,

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she's an Advent perfectionist.

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There's no way her grades aren't good. And

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my mom goes, oh, no. She's got a

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2.5

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GPA.

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She goes, I can't even get her to

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go to class. And they look at me

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and they go, what?

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And I'm like, I don't like rules that

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I don't wanna follow.

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And so, anyway,

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I 1st gen college student, didn't know what

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I was doing. My mom is an entrepreneur,

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but just started her own business from

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interesting I totally am following in my mom's

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footsteps. She just she gained her knowledge by

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doing and learning, like, through working in companies.

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she actually had a South African mentor.

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Oh, there you go. Barunch. What's up with

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South Africa? What's up, Johannesburg,

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baby?

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I it's funny. The other story, but I

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had a roommate when I first moved down

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here from Johannesburg.

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No. Like, I love them. They're it's so

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funny how

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we're connected, my mom and me. Anyway

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and she hired a college

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coach for me because she didn't know how

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to help. And he looked at me and

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he goes, read this, and I read it.

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And he goes, read this, and he I

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read it. And then he goes, and read

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this and don't say anything out loud, but

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just read it in your head. And he

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looked at my mom and she and he

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goes, she's dyslexic.

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And my mom goes, what? And he goes,

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how long did it just take you to

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read the page? I was like, well, I'm

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just tired. He goes, your eyes shaking back

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and forth. Yeah. He was like, your eyes

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shake when you read too much. Mhmm. And

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I go, yeah. And he goes, your headaches

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are probably a result of that. Your brain's

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working hard, whatever.

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They had me do special testing.

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Oh, wow.

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No. This is, like, the latter end of

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my senior year. This was, like,

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you know, hoping that I can get a

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scholarship. Yeah. Like or just maybe extra time

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in college.

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Because I also had

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admin test anxiety where I would know everything,

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and I would sit down. And the sweat

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on my hands would make the pen slip

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out of it. So

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I go, and I'm thinking that I have

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to do really bad on this test. Like,

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it was, like came to find out it

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was an IQ test.

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And I'm thinking I have to do really

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bad so that I could get more time.

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And my mom goes, just do as bad

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as you can and don't care. Don't even

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really read it. Like, it's fine.

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Oh my. It probably showed that my IQ

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was, like, slim to none. Like, because I

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remember the aide that looked at me and

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she goes,

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Jacqueline, like, your scores are really low.

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Oh, wow.

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It turns out I have a high IQ.

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I'm pretty fine. But

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I thought when I was, like, 17

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had to, like, really fail at to have

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a shot at getting into college. So I

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purposely

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fucked it up, and I just looked like

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I had

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a lot more going on. Yeah.

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Not good.

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Well, you know And everyone just looked at

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me and I go, told you guys I

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didn't understand what you're saying.

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You know?

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They're like, babe, seriously. And my mom was

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like, my mom oh my gosh.

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She comes in for this. My mom's so

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New York. And she comes in, she looks

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in, she goes,

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she gets her bag under her thing and

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she's walking out with me. I go, how

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did I do? She goes, yeah. Not good.

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She goes, just walk. Just who cares? Just

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keep walking. Just keep going. Back. It's not

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good, though. It's not good. It's not good.

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It's fine. It's fine. And I'm like, why?

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Oh my gosh. So I hear you. But

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I at work, if I have to type

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in numbers and stuff,

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I always get them backwards. And I end

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up calling, like, why doesn't anyone's fucking phone

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number work? Oh my god. That's probably why

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I still don't have a renter.

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Oh, what? A renter

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in my in my,

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office.

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Why? I think I met I well, the

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first person I sent my number to, I

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done messed that one up. Why? What did

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you do? I put an 8 instead of

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a 7. Yeah. I do that. But my

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fingers are fat.

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Mine are too.

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I, Oh my gosh. So funny. I think,

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yeah. I mean, you just work around what

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you got. Work around what you got. Talk

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to me about that, JB. Talk to me

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about that. Hell yeah. So the theme today,

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it was, basically 100% tired.

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Do you get 100% tired?

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Tired.

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That's kind it's kind of a theme. Yeah.

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Definitely

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this week. A lot of people are exhausted.

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People are having a hard time keeping their

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eyes open,

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late for for sessions. The gym is, like,

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not packed as much. I've noticed that.

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My husband's real tired. I'm ex I like

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I feel so sorry. It might be the

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heat. Mhmm. I don't know what's going on,

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but come 3 o'clock, I am Yeah. I

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know. Though. I'm rough.

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It is tough. I've been drinking more espresso

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during the day. I mean, like, it's been

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really difficult. Backfiring on me. Yeah. I mean,

285
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it's not good. I but, I mean, it's

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been difficult for me to even get out

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of bed. Yeah. I think that

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there is an element, and I'll only really

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speak for myself because I don't know what's

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your ring. But I don't know what your

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problem is.

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No one knows

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what's in my brain. That's a shame.

294
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Very.

295
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But Spell Sox really fast. S o s

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c gaz. S you

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just you just dyslexic ed that.

298
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No. I get it. Say it again?

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Fuck off.

300
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Well, I'm just saying. Okay. So that's what's

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in my brain

302
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at 3 o'clock in the morning. So is

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EKS. It was EKS?

304
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Because I heard a joke.

305
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When you're like Rico Suave?

306
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Yeah. And I'm like, if I say it

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faster, I sound like I'm I'm Spanish and

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that's awesome.

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And I'm going to make I'm going to

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just be like so sexy if I can

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speak Spanish. I said, yes. And that's not

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even a freaking evening. Do you know I

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was speaking Spanish today and then I got

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told I was really good? Si. And I

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go, gracias. Si. Gracias. Gracias. Si.

316
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Well, it is hot. Okay?

317
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So I know. Stop doing that in front

318
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no. I know. I know. All I have

319
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to do is just look at people if

320
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I need something and go

321
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I'm kidding. Oh, yeah. But I used to

322
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get a lot more attention when I told

323
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people I was Colombian.

324
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Well I still rock on that. Yeah. Yeah.

325
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They go, are you? I go, well, I'm

326
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not not Colombian, but I'm not Colombian. In

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my heart.

328
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Yeah. We will own land in Colombia one

329
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day. Do you know? Okay. During the US

330
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final

331
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soccer game Uh-huh. We went to,

332
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beer garden. That's rough. Uh-huh. And I I

333
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looked at

334
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this friend and I go, ugh, both of

335
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my nationalities colliding.

336
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And he's like, why? And I'm like,

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Madrid

338
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and, you know, my blood, kind of, Germany.

339
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And he's like, what are the 2 have

340
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to do with each other? I go,

341
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Latina

342
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is the soccer player,

343
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and the schnitzel is in beer garden ordering

344
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beer cheese and a burr and a beer.

345
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And a burr. And a burger. And a

346
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burger.

347
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And he goes,

348
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are you Spanish? I was like, seriously?

349
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Walk away from me.

350
00:12:18,865 --> 00:12:19,684
I was like,

351
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now you're insulting me.

352
00:12:22,384 --> 00:12:22,884
Why?

353
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The fun you have. No. I really my

354
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goal is It it's a good thing that

355
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I'm I'm not I'm not your age. Yeah.

356
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No. We would be in jail.

357
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I would have had, yeah, definitely some cuffs

358
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couple times.

359
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Okay. Anyway, so how do how the fuck

360
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do we get out? It's good to hear.

361
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We so this was really cool. I go

362
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to the gym this morning and I wake

363
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up at, like, 3:48.

364
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I know the exact time because I had

365
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to use the bathroom. And I go, I

366
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pee, I come back, I lay down. And

367
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you know when you just lay down after

368
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you wake up? And you're, like, not gonna

369
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not gonna fall back asleep? S e c

370
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k s. Yeah. S e c k s.

371
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Exactly. And

372
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the English version, Elizabeth is, like, still spelling

373
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it.

374
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Oh my god. We gotta start doing video.

375
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You're just looking at me like your eyes

376
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fixated, and I'm like, she's lost in thought,

377
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and her hand shows in my, like like

378
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like, matter of fact. And I'm like she

379
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just felt it again.

380
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Yeah.

381
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And How did 348 go? 348.

382
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I ended up falling back asleep at 5.

383
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I nearly know that because right when I

384
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started falling back asleep my alarm went off

385
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at 5:30.

386
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So I knew I needed to get to

387
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the gym because we were gonna record this

388
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tonight, whatever.

389
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And

390
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I get up, and I also was pretty

391
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energetic. I was like, you know when you

392
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don't sleep, so then you're just, like, wired.

393
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And you're like, oh my god. Why don't

394
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I just go see the world right now?

395
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And then maybe I'll be tired, but then

396
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wait. My day won't stop for me. So

397
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we're gonna have to find some happy medium.

398
00:14:03,845 --> 00:14:05,924
I have I I just call that quote,

399
00:14:05,924 --> 00:14:09,040
unquote cracked out. Yeah. No. For real. Yeah.

400
00:14:09,259 --> 00:14:10,460
Absolutely. It feels

401
00:14:10,860 --> 00:14:13,740
I'm not distracted today. I'm cracked out. You're

402
00:14:13,740 --> 00:14:15,759
cracked out. Yeah. But, I mean so

403
00:14:16,394 --> 00:14:18,794
whenever I talk to anybody about how I

404
00:14:18,794 --> 00:14:19,914
get up from the gym in the morning

405
00:14:20,075 --> 00:14:22,235
crack people then. No. I mean, crack is

406
00:14:22,235 --> 00:14:23,534
not whack if you do.

407
00:14:26,610 --> 00:14:29,009
Yes. No. It is it is whack. Crack

408
00:14:29,009 --> 00:14:31,830
is fine. Okay. Come on, Wendy. Alright.

409
00:14:33,570 --> 00:14:34,629
Anyway, well,

410
00:14:36,274 --> 00:14:37,634
silly, goofy girl. So

411
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And I tell this to anybody that asks

412
00:14:40,274 --> 00:14:40,774
me,

413
00:14:41,235 --> 00:14:42,995
I guess, like, how I find motivation to

414
00:14:42,995 --> 00:14:44,615
get up in the morning and work out.

415
00:14:44,950 --> 00:14:45,450
And,

416
00:14:46,149 --> 00:14:47,669
really, to be honest with you, when I

417
00:14:47,669 --> 00:14:49,750
started doing it religiously, it took me about

418
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4 months.

419
00:14:50,870 --> 00:14:52,009
Did you hear that?

420
00:15:01,660 --> 00:15:03,759
Your vibrator is moving in.

421
00:15:05,980 --> 00:15:06,480
Silly.

422
00:15:07,259 --> 00:15:07,759
Very.

423
00:15:08,540 --> 00:15:09,679
What was that?

424
00:15:12,315 --> 00:15:13,914
Okay. I don't think anybody can hear it.

425
00:15:13,914 --> 00:15:14,815
It's still recording.

426
00:15:19,009 --> 00:15:21,029
Okay. Tell me about how you got up,

427
00:15:21,330 --> 00:15:23,029
out of bed this morning at 3:48

428
00:15:23,409 --> 00:15:24,230
or 5.

429
00:15:26,115 --> 00:15:28,454
So for everybody, that was my dishwasher

430
00:15:28,834 --> 00:15:31,174
that we're recording in my apartment. And

431
00:15:31,554 --> 00:15:33,794
I've just put it on, and it's been

432
00:15:33,794 --> 00:15:35,889
making it's been speaking to me lately.

433
00:15:36,269 --> 00:15:38,610
And it made a noise, and Elizabeth jumped.

434
00:15:39,389 --> 00:15:42,029
Yeah. Sorry. I'm a little, cracked up. Yeah.

435
00:15:42,029 --> 00:15:45,254
No. We're tired. Yeah. Anyway, I get up.

436
00:15:45,254 --> 00:15:47,335
This happened. It took me probably 4 months

437
00:15:47,335 --> 00:15:49,654
to get used to waking up so early

438
00:15:49,654 --> 00:15:52,235
and getting the discipline and just routine in.

439
00:15:52,534 --> 00:15:55,700
And I guess, forming a habit that it

440
00:15:55,700 --> 00:15:57,540
just was second nature to me. It just

441
00:15:57,620 --> 00:15:59,879
I know how much better I feel

442
00:16:00,259 --> 00:16:02,179
because I've been doing it consistently now for

443
00:16:02,179 --> 00:16:02,759
a while,

444
00:16:03,654 --> 00:16:05,495
working out first thing in the morning opposed

445
00:16:05,495 --> 00:16:06,875
to later on at night.

446
00:16:07,254 --> 00:16:07,754
And

447
00:16:08,214 --> 00:16:10,214
I use that to drive me because I

448
00:16:10,214 --> 00:16:11,514
like to feel good. Right?

449
00:16:12,054 --> 00:16:12,554
So

450
00:16:14,040 --> 00:16:16,600
I get up, and it takes me a

451
00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:18,440
little bit longer today because I'm kind of

452
00:16:18,440 --> 00:16:20,279
struggling. And something that does help me is

453
00:16:20,279 --> 00:16:21,534
I go in a child's pose,

454
00:16:22,254 --> 00:16:24,735
like yoga child's pose, and I stretch. Oh,

455
00:16:24,735 --> 00:16:27,054
I do that in bed. Me too. Yeah.

456
00:16:27,054 --> 00:16:28,654
Yeah. But I do that to, like, get

457
00:16:28,654 --> 00:16:31,009
out of my comfortable little nook that I'm

458
00:16:31,009 --> 00:16:33,670
in. Otherwise, I'm never gonna get up. And

459
00:16:34,370 --> 00:16:35,490
I go to the gym and I see

460
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Elizabeth, and she looks bright eyed, bushy tailed.

461
00:16:38,134 --> 00:16:40,235
And My asses are at 5:45

462
00:16:40,615 --> 00:16:42,534
this morning. Get this. The owner of the

463
00:16:42,534 --> 00:16:43,034
gym

464
00:16:43,495 --> 00:16:45,375
told me and Elizabeth Mhmm.

465
00:16:45,815 --> 00:16:46,875
And I quote,

466
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we are

467
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the fittest girls

468
00:16:51,279 --> 00:16:53,679
that go to the gym. Holy smokes. And

469
00:16:53,679 --> 00:16:55,205
that gym has a lot of fit chicks.

470
00:16:55,285 --> 00:16:57,445
Yeah. There are some Like, some pretty badass.

471
00:16:57,445 --> 00:16:59,285
And I was like, really? He's like, yeah.

472
00:16:59,285 --> 00:17:01,365
You guys just are always here fucking working

473
00:17:01,365 --> 00:17:02,665
hard. And I'm like,

474
00:17:04,039 --> 00:17:06,200
okay. Say that again, and feel free to

475
00:17:06,200 --> 00:17:08,119
add in anything else that you think of

476
00:17:08,119 --> 00:17:08,619
me.

477
00:17:09,400 --> 00:17:10,059
I'm amazing.

478
00:17:10,815 --> 00:17:12,515
I'm just gonna hit record on my phone,

479
00:17:13,134 --> 00:17:14,494
and then we're just gonna we're gonna send

480
00:17:14,494 --> 00:17:15,555
it out to a few people.

481
00:17:16,255 --> 00:17:18,174
It felt good, though. How did but, really,

482
00:17:18,174 --> 00:17:19,634
seriously, how did you

483
00:17:20,230 --> 00:17:21,930
flipping get up

484
00:17:22,390 --> 00:17:25,210
from being 3:3 o'clock in the morning, 3:45?

485
00:17:25,670 --> 00:17:28,535
Like, I have been okay. I'm doing I

486
00:17:28,535 --> 00:17:30,295
think I probably announced this a 1000000 times,

487
00:17:30,295 --> 00:17:32,455
but I'm doing more deep dive into learning

488
00:17:32,455 --> 00:17:33,195
about perimenopause.

489
00:17:34,055 --> 00:17:37,059
Did you, side note, did you know menopause

490
00:17:37,519 --> 00:17:40,099
was only one moment in your life?

491
00:17:40,559 --> 00:17:42,559
What? Yes. Is that why they call it

492
00:17:42,559 --> 00:17:43,059
menopause?

493
00:17:43,914 --> 00:17:45,615
No. It is really legitimately

494
00:17:46,875 --> 00:17:49,674
it's 1 year for 1 year, you you

495
00:17:49,674 --> 00:17:50,654
don't have menstruation.

496
00:17:51,359 --> 00:17:53,859
One full year. That's the moment of menopause.

497
00:17:54,799 --> 00:17:56,660
Everything else is either peri

498
00:17:57,119 --> 00:17:58,500
before or post.

499
00:17:59,394 --> 00:18:01,894
And everybody calls it symptoms though?

500
00:18:02,755 --> 00:18:04,755
Very similar. So how do you know the

501
00:18:04,755 --> 00:18:05,255
year?

502
00:18:06,410 --> 00:18:08,490
You don't. It's a right it's very okay.

503
00:18:08,490 --> 00:18:10,009
Hold on. We could have it. I I

504
00:18:10,009 --> 00:18:11,450
will tell you what I learned, but not

505
00:18:11,450 --> 00:18:12,410
in this one. Okay.

506
00:18:13,130 --> 00:18:15,585
It it's just so to me so just

507
00:18:15,585 --> 00:18:16,725
like how people call

508
00:18:17,184 --> 00:18:17,684
postpartum

509
00:18:18,945 --> 00:18:22,119
depression or postpartum anxiety or postpartum they just

510
00:18:22,119 --> 00:18:22,940
call it postpartum?

511
00:18:23,480 --> 00:18:26,140
Yeah. Well, we just call it menopause.

512
00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:29,579
Very interesting. Fascinating. Yeah. So

513
00:18:29,964 --> 00:18:31,884
I realized I don't I know jack shit

514
00:18:31,884 --> 00:18:33,265
about menopause, and

515
00:18:33,964 --> 00:18:35,025
I'm not there,

516
00:18:35,404 --> 00:18:37,265
but I certainly am experiencing

517
00:18:37,565 --> 00:18:38,750
perimenopause, It's

518
00:18:40,153 --> 00:18:40,653
doesn't

519
00:18:45,690 --> 00:18:47,304
have to be old. It It's doesn't have

520
00:18:47,304 --> 00:18:48,585
to be old. It's it could be 10

521
00:18:48,585 --> 00:18:49,085
years

522
00:18:49,464 --> 00:18:50,525
before menopause.

523
00:18:50,984 --> 00:18:53,545
Really? Yes. So I was taught that when

524
00:18:53,545 --> 00:18:56,059
you have menopause, you're, like, you're almost 6

525
00:18:56,059 --> 00:18:56,720
feet under.

526
00:18:57,179 --> 00:18:59,099
No. That's how it was, like, really exciting.

527
00:18:59,179 --> 00:19:00,779
What I'm saying to you. And so what

528
00:19:00,779 --> 00:19:02,319
I'm learning is trying to,

529
00:19:03,414 --> 00:19:06,295
get a better feeling around it because I

530
00:19:06,295 --> 00:19:07,994
thought I'm like, great. I'm dying.

531
00:19:08,535 --> 00:19:10,615
No. Yeah. That's what in my I remember

532
00:19:10,615 --> 00:19:12,634
when my mom said it, she goes, fuck.

533
00:19:12,750 --> 00:19:14,130
I go, what? She goes,

534
00:19:14,590 --> 00:19:16,450
fuck. Yeah. And I go, what? She goes,

535
00:19:16,590 --> 00:19:17,650
going through menopause.

536
00:19:18,029 --> 00:19:18,850
And I go,

537
00:19:19,309 --> 00:19:20,830
what? Is that, like, the end of

538
00:19:21,545 --> 00:19:23,465
that's the end of your story? You know?

539
00:19:23,465 --> 00:19:24,985
Like, I didn't get it. And she goes,

540
00:19:24,985 --> 00:19:26,825
she's such a son of a bitch. And

541
00:19:26,825 --> 00:19:29,164
I'm like, okay. Yeah. And, really,

542
00:19:29,545 --> 00:19:29,940
it's,

543
00:19:30,659 --> 00:19:32,179
fine. Used to tell me it happens when

544
00:19:32,179 --> 00:19:35,139
you get older. Yes. Well, it does. Yeah.

545
00:19:35,139 --> 00:19:38,015
But I also yeah. It's like I I'm

546
00:19:38,015 --> 00:19:41,134
definitely in the possibilities of that. Is there

547
00:19:41,134 --> 00:19:43,054
a way that I could be getting Peri?

548
00:19:43,054 --> 00:19:44,894
Because I've been having hot flashes. Well, the

549
00:19:44,894 --> 00:19:47,410
deal is That that I have Peri? Which

550
00:19:47,410 --> 00:19:49,970
so well, I'm telling you. I'm reading this

551
00:19:49,970 --> 00:19:51,890
book and I'm like You've seen me play

552
00:19:51,890 --> 00:19:53,924
mom. Done. You've seen me get, like, my

553
00:19:54,005 --> 00:19:56,485
whole body turns red, and I can't be

554
00:19:56,485 --> 00:19:58,725
touched. I can't be near anything. Yes. And

555
00:19:58,725 --> 00:20:00,345
I start, like, dry heaving.

556
00:20:00,725 --> 00:20:02,644
And I'm thinking all these symptoms People are

557
00:20:02,644 --> 00:20:05,029
gonna hear me after. Right? Like symptoms. And

558
00:20:05,029 --> 00:20:06,410
I'm like and I'm like,

559
00:20:07,029 --> 00:20:08,950
oh, well, this sounds like just being a

560
00:20:08,950 --> 00:20:10,950
woman. I mean, really. I'm sorry. I didn't

561
00:20:11,110 --> 00:20:12,664
I'm not knocking book. I'm not even gonna

562
00:20:12,664 --> 00:20:13,964
tell you what I'm reading, but

563
00:20:14,345 --> 00:20:16,585
it's it was it was like it keeps

564
00:20:16,585 --> 00:20:19,500
saying symptoms over and over again. And I'm

565
00:20:19,500 --> 00:20:22,000
like, oh, well, that just sounds like

566
00:20:22,380 --> 00:20:25,119
every day. Yeah. You know? Or not

567
00:20:25,660 --> 00:20:27,119
every day, but at least

568
00:20:27,865 --> 00:20:28,684
20 days

569
00:20:29,144 --> 00:20:29,884
of the month.

570
00:20:30,424 --> 00:20:32,605
No. It's true. I mean, you're I have

571
00:20:32,744 --> 00:20:36,349
2 good weeks, maybe. Yeah. Like, I really

572
00:20:36,349 --> 00:20:38,589
probably have ideally one good week Mhmm. And

573
00:20:38,589 --> 00:20:40,210
then a couple following over

574
00:20:40,750 --> 00:20:42,589
of that I feel like rock star. I

575
00:20:42,589 --> 00:20:44,210
could run a marathon today,

576
00:20:45,375 --> 00:20:47,134
maybe a week. Well and that's why I

577
00:20:47,134 --> 00:20:47,615
tell,

578
00:20:48,015 --> 00:20:50,015
my clients. I'm like, I these are the

579
00:20:50,015 --> 00:20:51,315
cycles I I follow.

580
00:20:51,750 --> 00:20:52,490
I follow

581
00:20:52,869 --> 00:20:55,529
my the moon, and I follow my menstruation.

582
00:20:56,150 --> 00:20:58,869
Yeah. And and those are the things that

583
00:20:58,869 --> 00:21:01,424
I think that affect me the most. And

584
00:21:01,585 --> 00:21:03,845
Yeah. Then I also then take in consideration,

585
00:21:05,424 --> 00:21:07,539
is rent due? Or, like, I mean, these

586
00:21:07,539 --> 00:21:09,480
are, like, the, like Yeah. The different stressors

587
00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:11,480
that are that could be happening too. Like,

588
00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:13,579
at the end of the month, I'm usually

589
00:21:13,640 --> 00:21:16,404
a little more agitated because I know that

590
00:21:16,785 --> 00:21:17,025
my

591
00:21:17,585 --> 00:21:20,545
every every bill is coming out of my

592
00:21:20,545 --> 00:21:23,029
bank account by the 3rd. Ditto. Yeah. Oh,

593
00:21:23,029 --> 00:21:25,029
my me too. 3rd is my cutoff day.

594
00:21:25,029 --> 00:21:27,269
Yeah. That's my car insurance day. So I'm

595
00:21:27,269 --> 00:21:28,089
like, yeah.

596
00:21:28,549 --> 00:21:30,549
So those are these little these things that

597
00:21:30,549 --> 00:21:31,289
are happening.

598
00:21:31,815 --> 00:21:33,335
Yeah. That's actually really And the so I

599
00:21:33,335 --> 00:21:36,054
look at it like, you know, grandfather clocks

600
00:21:36,054 --> 00:21:37,654
with all the little gears? Yes. We talked

601
00:21:37,654 --> 00:21:39,355
about this, and I I think we did

602
00:21:39,494 --> 00:21:41,950
the first episode. And then I think your

603
00:21:41,950 --> 00:21:45,309
friend mentioned the she loved the grandfather clock

604
00:21:45,309 --> 00:21:46,750
story. Oh. I don't know why that just

605
00:21:46,750 --> 00:21:48,590
came up. Yeah. But I know. Yeah. So

606
00:21:48,590 --> 00:21:51,065
I I think about those The each cycle

607
00:21:51,065 --> 00:21:53,944
is is adding and contributing to it. But

608
00:21:53,944 --> 00:21:55,384
the main ones that I really focus on,

609
00:21:55,384 --> 00:21:57,724
because I can't concentrate on all of them

610
00:21:57,865 --> 00:21:58,525
at once,

611
00:21:58,840 --> 00:21:59,820
is my menstruation

612
00:22:00,519 --> 00:22:02,759
and, the moon cycle. And so when I'm

613
00:22:02,759 --> 00:22:04,680
thinking, I'm like, okay. I'm in those 10

614
00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:05,180
days.

615
00:22:05,480 --> 00:22:06,860
I feel like a rock star,

616
00:22:07,274 --> 00:22:09,994
and I'm feel powerful. I feel like I

617
00:22:09,994 --> 00:22:12,474
could conquer the world. I almost feel like

618
00:22:12,474 --> 00:22:14,075
I thought I felt manic, but I'm just

619
00:22:14,075 --> 00:22:16,049
like, woah. I'm high on life. Whoo. Yeah.

620
00:22:16,049 --> 00:22:18,070
And then the other other

621
00:22:18,609 --> 00:22:19,109
days,

622
00:22:19,490 --> 00:22:21,910
I I kinda decline. And

623
00:22:22,289 --> 00:22:26,115
this is why that 100% tired thing kinda

624
00:22:26,115 --> 00:22:27,174
cracks me up because

625
00:22:28,515 --> 00:22:30,055
I remembered this

626
00:22:30,434 --> 00:22:31,974
page in your workbook.

627
00:22:32,275 --> 00:22:35,659
Mhmm. And it was from versus to, and

628
00:22:35,659 --> 00:22:37,279
it was basically, like,

629
00:22:38,380 --> 00:22:39,599
all the things that we

630
00:22:39,980 --> 00:22:42,694
are from, which I'm I'm tired, was one

631
00:22:42,694 --> 00:22:44,775
of them. And then and then you go

632
00:22:44,855 --> 00:22:45,914
you're moving toward,

633
00:22:46,375 --> 00:22:47,194
I feel good

634
00:22:47,494 --> 00:22:50,295
and will do what I can. So you're

635
00:22:50,295 --> 00:22:52,599
being nice to yourself, you still keep going.

636
00:22:52,599 --> 00:22:54,759
So it's like even if you can't do

637
00:22:54,759 --> 00:22:55,740
the gym for

638
00:22:56,039 --> 00:22:58,440
60 minutes and or if I can't run

639
00:22:58,440 --> 00:22:59,845
those 6 mile I used to be I

640
00:22:59,845 --> 00:23:01,924
used to commit to 6 miles. If I

641
00:23:01,924 --> 00:23:03,285
don't run 6 miles, I'm doing You didn't

642
00:23:03,285 --> 00:23:04,345
do anything. Yep.

643
00:23:04,724 --> 00:23:06,724
So but if you just can do a

644
00:23:06,724 --> 00:23:07,464
little bit.

645
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:09,759
I wanna back it down. I mean, go

646
00:23:09,759 --> 00:23:11,359
ahead. You said you gotta say So the

647
00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:13,359
to versus the from or the from versus

648
00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:14,960
the to and almost just how to explain

649
00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:17,224
it. Because I explain it in, like, the

650
00:23:17,224 --> 00:23:19,865
from is everything that you wanna avoid, essentially.

651
00:23:19,865 --> 00:23:21,865
It literally is everything you wanna run from.

652
00:23:21,865 --> 00:23:24,039
That you wanna wanna run away from, that

653
00:23:24,039 --> 00:23:26,119
you don't really wanna acknowledge because it's icky

654
00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:27,019
and it sucks

655
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:29,100
and excuse me.

656
00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:32,759
And it also correlates to excuses in that

657
00:23:32,759 --> 00:23:33,259
part.

658
00:23:33,575 --> 00:23:35,654
So the from is like, what excuse do

659
00:23:35,654 --> 00:23:37,095
I make that I don't so that I

660
00:23:37,095 --> 00:23:38,875
don't have to confront it? So for example,

661
00:23:39,335 --> 00:23:40,794
I don't have to go to the gym

662
00:23:40,829 --> 00:23:42,269
because then I'm gonna have to get up,

663
00:23:42,269 --> 00:23:44,269
and I really don't feel good because I

664
00:23:44,269 --> 00:23:46,130
ate a pint of ice cream last night,

665
00:23:46,990 --> 00:23:49,105
and I drank a bottle of wine or

666
00:23:49,105 --> 00:23:51,184
whatever unhealthy thing that you did that day,

667
00:23:51,184 --> 00:23:53,105
whatever reason why it's gonna stump you in

668
00:23:53,105 --> 00:23:53,684
the morning,

669
00:23:54,224 --> 00:23:55,664
and you're gonna have to acknowledge that you

670
00:23:55,664 --> 00:23:57,829
did it and move through it. Mhmm. It's

671
00:23:57,829 --> 00:23:59,829
difficult, and it poses just sort of a

672
00:23:59,829 --> 00:24:00,329
mirror

673
00:24:00,789 --> 00:24:02,390
of of you looking in yourself and saying

674
00:24:02,390 --> 00:24:03,829
that wasn't a good way to treat my

675
00:24:03,829 --> 00:24:05,694
body. Mhmm. I knew I had shit to

676
00:24:05,694 --> 00:24:07,534
do. Mhmm. I drank too much wine last

677
00:24:07,534 --> 00:24:09,134
night. Mhmm. That was mine. I didn't even

678
00:24:09,134 --> 00:24:10,974
realize it. And I got up for the

679
00:24:10,974 --> 00:24:12,255
gym this morning and as soon as I

680
00:24:12,255 --> 00:24:14,650
walked in, you're like, you wanna film? I

681
00:24:14,869 --> 00:24:15,529
go, no.

682
00:24:16,390 --> 00:24:18,150
I drink so much wine. But I don't

683
00:24:18,150 --> 00:24:20,445
do that every day. I'm just saying I

684
00:24:20,445 --> 00:24:22,525
could have easily have been, like, you know,

685
00:24:22,525 --> 00:24:23,984
I don't wanna go to the gym

686
00:24:24,445 --> 00:24:27,244
and feel the effects big time of drinking

687
00:24:27,244 --> 00:24:28,144
too much wine

688
00:24:28,740 --> 00:24:30,599
and and have a less,

689
00:24:31,859 --> 00:24:35,079
I guess, productive feeling workout. And then,

690
00:24:36,044 --> 00:24:37,724
I don't know, just have the mirror held

691
00:24:37,724 --> 00:24:39,085
to me of what what I did to

692
00:24:39,085 --> 00:24:40,625
my body that wasn't

693
00:24:41,005 --> 00:24:42,625
functional the night before.

694
00:24:43,005 --> 00:24:44,125
I don't know if I'm doing a great

695
00:24:44,125 --> 00:24:45,904
example with that. My my

696
00:24:47,230 --> 00:24:48,450
I've been really

697
00:24:48,990 --> 00:24:49,490
feeling,

698
00:24:49,869 --> 00:24:50,369
like,

699
00:24:51,710 --> 00:24:53,169
I wanna say down on myself.

700
00:24:53,964 --> 00:24:55,804
I'm just because I think I'm so tired,

701
00:24:55,804 --> 00:24:57,724
I'm just tired. So I'm like And it's

702
00:24:57,724 --> 00:24:59,644
just a sleep. So I'm I'm like, oh

703
00:24:59,644 --> 00:25:00,144
gosh.

704
00:25:00,444 --> 00:25:02,799
And if I then I don't feel very

705
00:25:02,960 --> 00:25:03,460
productive

706
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,240
and then I'm like, you're product and then

707
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:08,960
I say, Elizabeth, your productivity doesn't mean that

708
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:10,799
you're not a good human. Like, I mean,

709
00:25:10,799 --> 00:25:12,515
I'm I'm trying to get this self

710
00:25:13,394 --> 00:25:15,255
talk and getting myself motivated

711
00:25:15,714 --> 00:25:18,115
and, you know, maybe splash water on my

712
00:25:18,115 --> 00:25:20,579
face, all this stuff. I what I'm I

713
00:25:20,579 --> 00:25:22,599
I wanna ask you this because

714
00:25:23,940 --> 00:25:25,960
I I may know the answer or not.

715
00:25:27,859 --> 00:25:29,545
I wanna know what you do

716
00:25:29,945 --> 00:25:32,664
is if if the example is I'm too

717
00:25:32,664 --> 00:25:33,164
tired,

718
00:25:34,105 --> 00:25:35,565
and you're laying in bed,

719
00:25:36,585 --> 00:25:39,259
and the alarm goes goes off because this

720
00:25:39,259 --> 00:25:40,480
happened to me on Monday.

721
00:25:41,500 --> 00:25:44,160
And my alarm went off, and I'm like,

722
00:25:45,154 --> 00:25:47,315
oh my gosh. I know I can speak

723
00:25:47,315 --> 00:25:49,875
to myself nicely. Yeah. It's time to get

724
00:25:49,875 --> 00:25:52,194
up. You know that even if you did

725
00:25:52,194 --> 00:25:54,214
15 minutes on the bike, you'll feel better

726
00:25:54,819 --> 00:25:56,900
for the whole entire day or you can

727
00:25:56,900 --> 00:25:58,339
pretend like you're gonna go to sleep, but

728
00:25:58,339 --> 00:25:59,619
you're not even gonna go to sleep at

729
00:25:59,619 --> 00:26:01,700
all again because it's impossible to go back

730
00:26:01,700 --> 00:26:03,140
to sleep right now because you know you

731
00:26:03,140 --> 00:26:04,535
gotta wake up. Yeah.

732
00:26:05,154 --> 00:26:05,654
So

733
00:26:06,035 --> 00:26:07,575
so there's this conversation

734
00:26:07,875 --> 00:26:10,194
back and forth and back and forth, and

735
00:26:10,194 --> 00:26:11,575
I just took a deep breath

736
00:26:11,980 --> 00:26:14,140
and all of a sudden, not my brain,

737
00:26:14,140 --> 00:26:16,319
but the inside of me said

738
00:26:16,779 --> 00:26:19,099
really loudly. And I almost thought somebody said

739
00:26:19,099 --> 00:26:21,119
something to me. That's how loud it was.

740
00:26:21,305 --> 00:26:23,805
And it said, you know what to do.

741
00:26:24,345 --> 00:26:24,845
Yeah.

742
00:26:25,144 --> 00:26:27,865
And I I'm like, okay. And I got

743
00:26:27,865 --> 00:26:30,320
up and then I just kept going. Yeah.

744
00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:32,480
And I believe me, I got up. I

745
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:34,080
picked up my phone. I go put put

746
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,585
the phone down. Yeah. Brush your teeth. Yeah.

747
00:26:36,585 --> 00:26:39,404
And I started doing military style on me

748
00:26:39,464 --> 00:26:41,244
because I wasn't listening.

749
00:26:42,025 --> 00:26:43,464
And so I don't know what that was

750
00:26:43,464 --> 00:26:45,724
going on inside me. So But something was

751
00:26:46,650 --> 00:26:49,210
really making it happen. And thank god. I

752
00:26:49,210 --> 00:26:50,490
I I only did 20 minutes on the

753
00:26:50,490 --> 00:26:52,730
bike, but holy crap. If I hadn't done

754
00:26:52,730 --> 00:26:53,105
it,

755
00:26:53,664 --> 00:26:55,585
I I don't know how my Monday would

756
00:26:55,585 --> 00:26:57,025
have been. Yeah. Because it was a tough

757
00:26:57,025 --> 00:26:59,825
Monday. So I I play different roles in

758
00:26:59,825 --> 00:27:01,664
my head with myself. Okay. I do a

759
00:27:01,664 --> 00:27:03,000
lot of this when I do my inner

760
00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:03,740
child work.

761
00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:06,359
And I I have found inner child work

762
00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:08,119
is a continuous process for me. That's a

763
00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:10,119
part of my healing process. That's something that

764
00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:11,500
I do every day, honestly.

765
00:27:11,964 --> 00:27:12,785
And I find

766
00:27:13,164 --> 00:27:15,984
myself in different situations, obviously, every day. But

767
00:27:16,444 --> 00:27:18,684
each situation is kind of relating to a

768
00:27:18,684 --> 00:27:20,950
different part of who I was, and I'm

769
00:27:20,950 --> 00:27:22,570
learning to rely on

770
00:27:22,950 --> 00:27:25,690
on old parts of myself to help me

771
00:27:25,910 --> 00:27:27,609
progress in my life. So, for example,

772
00:27:28,470 --> 00:27:29,930
when I moved down here,

773
00:27:30,575 --> 00:27:31,855
I had a little bit of an eating

774
00:27:31,855 --> 00:27:32,355
disorder,

775
00:27:33,775 --> 00:27:36,095
worked out way too much, didn't eat enough

776
00:27:36,095 --> 00:27:38,710
at all, was obsessed with being skinny. It

777
00:27:38,710 --> 00:27:41,289
was like this whole mumbo jumbo

778
00:27:41,830 --> 00:27:43,049
unhealthy dynamic.

779
00:27:43,509 --> 00:27:46,035
But Welcome to South Florida. Sure. But I

780
00:27:46,035 --> 00:27:48,355
did feel good. This is what contradicted it.

781
00:27:48,355 --> 00:27:49,795
Yeah. Because I felt good when I was

782
00:27:49,795 --> 00:27:51,494
at the gym. I was so strong.

783
00:27:51,875 --> 00:27:54,390
I I mean, I had, like, almost less

784
00:27:54,390 --> 00:27:55,289
than 18%

785
00:27:55,590 --> 00:27:58,650
body fat. Mhmm. And I was just, like,

786
00:27:58,789 --> 00:27:59,289
shredded,

787
00:28:00,150 --> 00:28:03,275
like, sick, like, lifting and doing this and

788
00:28:03,275 --> 00:28:05,214
doing that. But then I was an asshole

789
00:28:05,275 --> 00:28:07,275
to myself, and I wouldn't eat enough. And

790
00:28:07,275 --> 00:28:07,934
I was

791
00:28:08,899 --> 00:28:11,639
totally being a dick Mhmm. To myself.

792
00:28:12,500 --> 00:28:14,339
Right? So when I'm training for my half

793
00:28:14,339 --> 00:28:16,679
marathon, I was getting so anxious.

794
00:28:17,144 --> 00:28:18,585
I was like, well, I don't wanna fall

795
00:28:18,585 --> 00:28:21,144
back into that hole. Meanwhile, I wasn't realizing

796
00:28:21,144 --> 00:28:22,924
that this is a self limiting belief.

797
00:28:23,465 --> 00:28:25,559
I have to, you know,

798
00:28:25,940 --> 00:28:28,339
not work out as hard because I have

799
00:28:28,339 --> 00:28:29,319
to stay

800
00:28:29,940 --> 00:28:31,159
a weight that's

801
00:28:31,460 --> 00:28:33,240
heavier than I wanna be because

802
00:28:33,804 --> 00:28:35,724
when I was skinny, I was unhealthy. So

803
00:28:35,724 --> 00:28:38,845
skinny equals unhealthy for Jackie. Mhmm. Can't do

804
00:28:38,845 --> 00:28:40,845
it. Sorry. Can only do this. Mhmm. Can

805
00:28:40,845 --> 00:28:43,279
only do that. Mhmm. Can only run x

806
00:28:43,279 --> 00:28:44,880
amount, and then I can eat whatever I

807
00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:47,440
want. And it was this pattern of I

808
00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:49,315
didn't know how to maintain a healthy weight.

809
00:28:49,315 --> 00:28:50,454
I didn't know how to maintain

810
00:28:50,835 --> 00:28:53,575
health. Mhmm. And it wasn't even just the

811
00:28:53,794 --> 00:28:54,294
weight.

812
00:28:54,674 --> 00:28:56,034
Sorry. I don't even think that was my

813
00:28:56,034 --> 00:28:57,960
phone. It's the feeling. It wasn't even just

814
00:28:57,960 --> 00:28:59,799
about the weight. It was about the feeling.

815
00:28:59,799 --> 00:29:03,079
Right? Yeah. There was something in feeling shitty

816
00:29:03,079 --> 00:29:05,000
that made me feel good because it was

817
00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:07,034
my from. It was my excuse why I

818
00:29:07,034 --> 00:29:08,095
didn't have to

819
00:29:08,794 --> 00:29:09,534
run to

820
00:29:10,075 --> 00:29:11,514
the other side of where I wanted to

821
00:29:11,514 --> 00:29:13,835
be. It was my excuses why I didn't

822
00:29:13,835 --> 00:29:15,430
have to look at myself in the mirror

823
00:29:15,670 --> 00:29:17,350
and acknowledge the things that I was doing

824
00:29:17,350 --> 00:29:18,970
didn't make me feel good. Okay?

825
00:29:19,350 --> 00:29:21,910
I was running, and I was like, I

826
00:29:21,910 --> 00:29:23,529
think I need to look at a program

827
00:29:23,964 --> 00:29:25,644
to help me run. I think I need

828
00:29:25,644 --> 00:29:26,945
to look at a diet program.

829
00:29:27,484 --> 00:29:30,065
Who do I ask for help? I'm overwhelmed.

830
00:29:31,059 --> 00:29:33,220
And this is why this is where running

831
00:29:33,220 --> 00:29:35,059
really was providing me downloads, and this is

832
00:29:35,140 --> 00:29:37,700
Yeah. Where it really festered up. And it

833
00:29:37,700 --> 00:29:39,140
goes, you know who would know what to

834
00:29:39,140 --> 00:29:41,434
do? And I go, who? And I go,

835
00:29:41,434 --> 00:29:41,934
you.

836
00:29:42,794 --> 00:29:43,694
5 years ago.

837
00:29:44,634 --> 00:29:47,914
She wasn't healthy, but she knew her programs,

838
00:29:47,914 --> 00:29:49,615
and she had fucking discipline.

839
00:29:50,130 --> 00:29:51,970
So maybe you need to take discipline from

840
00:29:51,970 --> 00:29:54,069
her chapter and apply it to yourself

841
00:29:54,369 --> 00:29:56,230
Yeah. As a healthy person. Right?

842
00:29:56,529 --> 00:29:59,734
So I'm playing different roles with myself, and

843
00:30:00,514 --> 00:30:02,534
I share that example just because

844
00:30:03,075 --> 00:30:03,575
I

845
00:30:03,875 --> 00:30:06,079
I made excuses as to why I couldn't,

846
00:30:06,079 --> 00:30:07,359
why I could never work out in the

847
00:30:07,359 --> 00:30:08,819
morning, why I couldn't do this,

848
00:30:09,359 --> 00:30:11,279
and I didn't look at it from a

849
00:30:11,279 --> 00:30:13,755
healthy mindset. So there is a part where

850
00:30:13,755 --> 00:30:14,894
I do mother myself,

851
00:30:15,275 --> 00:30:17,674
right, where I nurture that person that was

852
00:30:17,674 --> 00:30:18,815
hurting so bad.

853
00:30:19,275 --> 00:30:21,480
But I I I reassure her. Yeah. You're

854
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:23,319
not a bad per you're not all bad.

855
00:30:23,319 --> 00:30:25,500
Like, you're so great at discipline.

856
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:27,259
Your discipline is unmatched.

857
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:30,144
I just want you to know how worthy

858
00:30:30,144 --> 00:30:31,825
you are where you don't have to feel

859
00:30:31,825 --> 00:30:33,265
so sad, and that's what I can tell

860
00:30:33,265 --> 00:30:34,785
myself now. Right? So now I can have

861
00:30:34,785 --> 00:30:36,710
the 2 worlds existing in one almost.

862
00:30:37,190 --> 00:30:37,690
So

863
00:30:38,390 --> 00:30:40,409
I say that because now

864
00:30:41,109 --> 00:30:43,190
I can acknowledge when I need a break

865
00:30:43,190 --> 00:30:44,894
and not be an asshole. I could take

866
00:30:44,894 --> 00:30:47,134
a break. Okay. I won't binge on my

867
00:30:47,134 --> 00:30:49,295
break where I won't I'm gonna eat a

868
00:30:49,295 --> 00:30:50,894
whole thing of ice cream and then drink

869
00:30:50,894 --> 00:30:52,654
a whole bottle of wine and feel like

870
00:30:52,654 --> 00:30:55,440
shit and then say, well, this is healthy

871
00:30:55,660 --> 00:30:57,820
because I let myself do this. You know?

872
00:30:57,820 --> 00:30:59,900
I can have the healthy regulation, if you

873
00:30:59,900 --> 00:31:00,275
will.

874
00:31:00,835 --> 00:31:02,214
And then there's also a coach

875
00:31:02,595 --> 00:31:05,154
that I play in my head where, like,

876
00:31:05,154 --> 00:31:07,315
what you just did, I know when I'm

877
00:31:07,315 --> 00:31:08,375
making an excuse,

878
00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:12,119
and I know when I need to get

879
00:31:12,119 --> 00:31:14,059
my ass up. I know when I'm not,

880
00:31:14,279 --> 00:31:15,960
you know, going through something. I know when

881
00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:18,234
I don't have my period, and I just

882
00:31:18,234 --> 00:31:20,474
am tired, and I just I I'm feeling

883
00:31:20,474 --> 00:31:21,994
lazy. Yeah. And I know I need to

884
00:31:21,994 --> 00:31:23,355
get it done. And that's when I'll turn

885
00:31:23,355 --> 00:31:25,970
on the coach of, come on. Get up.

886
00:31:25,970 --> 00:31:28,069
Yeah. Let's go. No. Like,

887
00:31:28,369 --> 00:31:29,990
get out of your head. You know?

888
00:31:30,369 --> 00:31:32,849
And that's why the to is so important

889
00:31:32,849 --> 00:31:35,190
because it's something bigger than you're from. So

890
00:31:35,474 --> 00:31:36,775
what you wanna avoid,

891
00:31:37,315 --> 00:31:38,755
you don't wanna look at it sucks, and

892
00:31:38,755 --> 00:31:40,434
you need something to motivate you. It's almost

893
00:31:40,434 --> 00:31:42,994
like, what's your why? Right? Yeah. So I

894
00:31:43,154 --> 00:31:44,454
when I'm in that funk,

895
00:31:45,299 --> 00:31:46,839
I, a lot of the time, say,

896
00:31:47,299 --> 00:31:49,619
how lucky are you, Jackie, that you have

897
00:31:49,619 --> 00:31:52,099
the option Yeah. Of getting out of bed

898
00:31:52,099 --> 00:31:53,825
alone? You don't need help getting out of

899
00:31:53,825 --> 00:31:55,825
bed, 1st of all. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. How

900
00:31:55,825 --> 00:31:57,744
lucky are you to have the fucking option

901
00:31:57,744 --> 00:31:59,105
to go to the gym right now? To

902
00:31:59,105 --> 00:32:00,865
use a car, to drive to the gym,

903
00:32:00,865 --> 00:32:03,450
to use your legs? You have no problems.

904
00:32:03,450 --> 00:32:04,670
You're so healthy.

905
00:32:05,210 --> 00:32:07,130
And I sit there and I'm like, if

906
00:32:07,130 --> 00:32:08,670
you don't get up right now,

907
00:32:09,184 --> 00:32:12,625
you're really not taking advantage of everything that

908
00:32:12,625 --> 00:32:14,884
you have in this life that you built.

909
00:32:14,945 --> 00:32:17,265
Mhmm. You're not you're not respecting yourself, and

910
00:32:17,265 --> 00:32:19,559
you're not giving yourself the credit that's credit's

911
00:32:19,559 --> 00:32:20,059
due.

912
00:32:20,679 --> 00:32:22,119
And I look at it that way, and

913
00:32:22,119 --> 00:32:23,480
I I look at it as a a

914
00:32:23,480 --> 00:32:25,765
practice of giving gratitude to myself of look

915
00:32:25,765 --> 00:32:27,765
how far we've come. Yeah. I'm so proud

916
00:32:27,765 --> 00:32:29,444
of you for showing up. Even if you

917
00:32:29,444 --> 00:32:31,304
just did a 15 minute walk on Peloton,

918
00:32:31,924 --> 00:32:33,544
treadmill, whatever it is,

919
00:32:33,924 --> 00:32:35,470
you got up and you moved your body.

920
00:32:35,630 --> 00:32:37,169
And there's also the part where

921
00:32:37,789 --> 00:32:38,849
I don't feel good.

922
00:32:39,549 --> 00:32:41,789
And, normally, if I woke up the way

923
00:32:41,789 --> 00:32:43,309
I did last night, I would have let

924
00:32:43,309 --> 00:32:45,424
myself sleep in. I just couldn't really

925
00:32:46,305 --> 00:32:48,065
it wasn't working for me. My I was

926
00:32:48,065 --> 00:32:50,144
having anxiety. Yeah. So I needed to help

927
00:32:50,144 --> 00:32:52,485
myself rather than fester in it. Yeah.

928
00:32:53,180 --> 00:32:55,819
But I think there's a huge portion of

929
00:32:55,819 --> 00:32:58,140
self awareness where you have to just know

930
00:32:58,140 --> 00:32:59,500
when you need a break and not be

931
00:32:59,500 --> 00:33:01,674
a dick. And you have to know also,

932
00:33:01,975 --> 00:33:03,894
be honest with yourself. Yeah. I just really

933
00:33:03,894 --> 00:33:05,815
don't wanna fucking do that right now and

934
00:33:05,815 --> 00:33:08,430
make yourself do it anyway. I love the

935
00:33:08,750 --> 00:33:11,809
yeah. So key components that I'm hearing is

936
00:33:12,110 --> 00:33:12,610
discipline

937
00:33:12,990 --> 00:33:13,970
Mhmm. Gratitude,

938
00:33:14,830 --> 00:33:16,769
honoring self, and listening.

939
00:33:17,535 --> 00:33:19,154
Respect. Respect. Yeah.

940
00:33:20,174 --> 00:33:20,674
And

941
00:33:21,055 --> 00:33:21,795
the energy

942
00:33:22,174 --> 00:33:23,955
when you're speaking of

943
00:33:24,335 --> 00:33:25,555
around the,

944
00:33:27,599 --> 00:33:29,299
I I don't know whose phone is.

945
00:33:30,399 --> 00:33:32,179
The energy around speaking

946
00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:34,899
the from Mhmm. Is

947
00:33:35,704 --> 00:33:36,525
is actually,

948
00:33:37,144 --> 00:33:40,265
like, yucky energy. It's low vibration. Yeah. Right?

949
00:33:40,265 --> 00:33:43,464
And then when you are moving to or

950
00:33:43,464 --> 00:33:44,525
toward your

951
00:33:44,980 --> 00:33:46,200
your higher vibration.

952
00:33:46,500 --> 00:33:48,119
So it's more positive

953
00:33:48,740 --> 00:33:50,359
thinking. It's more encouraging.

954
00:33:51,299 --> 00:33:53,859
It feels more nurturing. Can I even just

955
00:33:53,859 --> 00:33:56,755
say, like, emphasis on the encouraging? Yeah. Because

956
00:33:56,755 --> 00:33:58,835
that just hits so much home because it's

957
00:33:58,835 --> 00:34:01,315
not pushing yourself and being an asshole. It's

958
00:34:01,315 --> 00:34:03,154
not being a dick to yourself. It's nothing.

959
00:34:03,154 --> 00:34:05,349
It's encouraging it. It's Yeah. Look at what

960
00:34:05,349 --> 00:34:07,109
you can do. Yes. And that's where you

961
00:34:07,109 --> 00:34:08,789
tied it with nurturing. So what else? Yeah.

962
00:34:08,789 --> 00:34:10,789
That was really cool. Well, the encouraging oh,

963
00:34:10,789 --> 00:34:12,784
let me caveat on that too. Yeah. For

964
00:34:12,784 --> 00:34:13,284
me,

965
00:34:13,824 --> 00:34:14,324
encouraging

966
00:34:14,944 --> 00:34:15,444
sometimes

967
00:34:15,984 --> 00:34:18,085
has to sound a little more military.

968
00:34:18,385 --> 00:34:20,730
Yes. You know, for me. I came up

969
00:34:20,730 --> 00:34:21,789
like that. I'm like,

970
00:34:23,210 --> 00:34:24,510
yeah. Because I'm like,

971
00:34:25,769 --> 00:34:26,269
oh,

972
00:34:29,094 --> 00:34:32,295
You don't own it better. Yeah. Yeah. So

973
00:34:32,295 --> 00:34:34,154
what I say is,

974
00:34:34,454 --> 00:34:37,574
you know, maybe in the stern internal voice

975
00:34:37,574 --> 00:34:38,074
of,

976
00:34:38,869 --> 00:34:40,969
you know you'll feel great

977
00:34:41,429 --> 00:34:45,030
Yeah. When you're through Yeah. No matter what

978
00:34:45,030 --> 00:34:47,244
you do Yeah. As long as you do

979
00:34:47,244 --> 00:34:47,744
something.

980
00:34:48,125 --> 00:34:49,684
You know? And it's and it's a little

981
00:34:49,804 --> 00:34:51,885
it's it's going it's playing that's what I

982
00:34:51,885 --> 00:34:53,905
wanted to say, the playing the tape forward

983
00:34:54,400 --> 00:34:55,539
because ultimately,

984
00:34:56,719 --> 00:34:58,640
you know, if I was just living in

985
00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:00,660
those 15 minutes Mhmm.

986
00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:03,440
I'm staying in bed. I mean, I just

987
00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:06,385
washed my sheets. They're nice and cozy. Too.

988
00:35:06,385 --> 00:35:08,545
Yeah. I'm like, they're nice and cozy, and

989
00:35:08,545 --> 00:35:10,784
I'm like, and I have the little warm

990
00:35:10,784 --> 00:35:13,525
spot in the bed. Like, I'm like, sure.

991
00:35:13,769 --> 00:35:14,589
This is the

992
00:35:14,889 --> 00:35:15,789
best. And

993
00:35:16,650 --> 00:35:18,809
at the same time, I I I go,

994
00:35:18,809 --> 00:35:21,130
okay. 15 minutes is going to pass, and

995
00:35:21,130 --> 00:35:23,309
you're going to be right in this position

996
00:35:24,554 --> 00:35:25,614
still really struggling.

997
00:35:26,074 --> 00:35:26,574
Yeah.

998
00:35:27,114 --> 00:35:27,614
So

999
00:35:27,994 --> 00:35:30,795
I asked and this is for all my

1000
00:35:30,795 --> 00:35:31,295
wonderful,

1001
00:35:32,155 --> 00:35:32,655
friends

1002
00:35:32,969 --> 00:35:35,849
in the addiction world too is, you know,

1003
00:35:35,849 --> 00:35:37,710
this is a rule that we have

1004
00:35:38,170 --> 00:35:39,050
out there of,

1005
00:35:39,449 --> 00:35:40,590
first off, you have

1006
00:35:41,055 --> 00:35:41,954
thought stopping.

1007
00:35:42,335 --> 00:35:44,114
So stop your thought of

1008
00:35:44,575 --> 00:35:45,474
I'm tired.

1009
00:35:45,775 --> 00:35:48,015
You know? Yeah. And you have to insert

1010
00:35:48,015 --> 00:35:50,900
it with something that so you you stop

1011
00:35:50,900 --> 00:35:52,980
your stop your thought. You pull it out

1012
00:35:52,980 --> 00:35:54,119
of your brain. You

1013
00:35:54,420 --> 00:35:56,900
insert with something else, which would be more

1014
00:35:56,900 --> 00:35:57,400
motivating,

1015
00:35:57,699 --> 00:35:58,500
more of the toward,

1016
00:36:00,184 --> 00:36:00,684
commenting

1017
00:36:00,985 --> 00:36:02,284
Mhmm. Or the encouragement.

1018
00:36:03,065 --> 00:36:03,565
And

1019
00:36:03,864 --> 00:36:06,045
you also have to play the tape

1020
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:09,679
farther than 15 minutes. I love that. But

1021
00:36:09,679 --> 00:36:11,989
you gotta give yourself that 15 minutes to

1022
00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:12,400
so,

1023
00:36:13,494 --> 00:36:15,175
if we are up and at them and

1024
00:36:15,175 --> 00:36:17,094
we wanna have a drink and we don't

1025
00:36:17,094 --> 00:36:19,255
really wanna have a drink, we make a

1026
00:36:19,255 --> 00:36:19,994
cup of tea.

1027
00:36:20,730 --> 00:36:22,889
Good. You know, that would be like, I

1028
00:36:22,889 --> 00:36:24,489
want okay. Yes. I want a drink. Oh,

1029
00:36:24,489 --> 00:36:26,030
do you wanna drink? You know, I'm acknowledging

1030
00:36:26,090 --> 00:36:27,610
you wanna drink. Oh, no. But on my

1031
00:36:27,610 --> 00:36:29,369
alcohol well, no. We're good. Why don't we

1032
00:36:29,369 --> 00:36:31,315
have a cup of tea, and we're gonna

1033
00:36:31,315 --> 00:36:33,715
wait past that 15 minutes? And the 15

1034
00:36:33,715 --> 00:36:36,434
minutes Really cool. Yeah. If you can if

1035
00:36:36,434 --> 00:36:38,960
you can forward past the 15 minutes and

1036
00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:39,460
even

1037
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:42,639
and think farther out and go, oh gosh.

1038
00:36:42,639 --> 00:36:45,359
You know? Once I'm through with this 15

1039
00:36:45,359 --> 00:36:48,224
minutes and I I make a healthier decision

1040
00:36:48,224 --> 00:36:50,464
for myself that's more loving and nurturing

1041
00:36:50,944 --> 00:36:53,525
and for me, exercise is loving and nurturing

1042
00:36:53,824 --> 00:36:56,304
because moving my body is loving and nurturing

1043
00:36:56,304 --> 00:36:58,789
for me. Really? It's freaking cool. So whether

1044
00:36:58,789 --> 00:36:59,530
it's stretching,

1045
00:36:59,909 --> 00:37:02,010
bicycle. I'm not I'm not talking about aggressive

1046
00:37:02,070 --> 00:37:04,154
stuff because I'm talking about 15 minutes. We're

1047
00:37:04,154 --> 00:37:06,974
not Yeah. This isn't crossfit every day. Crossfit.

1048
00:37:07,674 --> 00:37:10,494
And so then you're switching the the

1049
00:37:11,114 --> 00:37:13,650
the direction and where in in the focus

1050
00:37:13,650 --> 00:37:14,550
in your brain.

1051
00:37:15,010 --> 00:37:15,510
And

1052
00:37:15,889 --> 00:37:17,329
a lot of the time, this is one

1053
00:37:17,329 --> 00:37:19,250
of those things that, it's one of those

1054
00:37:19,250 --> 00:37:21,445
tricks that that helps our brains,

1055
00:37:22,224 --> 00:37:24,464
you know, move past something that's really hard

1056
00:37:24,464 --> 00:37:25,125
for us.

1057
00:37:26,065 --> 00:37:26,565
I

1058
00:37:27,599 --> 00:37:29,519
love that. I love the roll the tape

1059
00:37:29,519 --> 00:37:31,519
forward analogy that you use. I think it

1060
00:37:31,519 --> 00:37:34,400
paints a really beautiful picture because it's so

1061
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:34,900
personal.

1062
00:37:35,605 --> 00:37:38,005
Right? Yeah. And you're really the author of

1063
00:37:38,005 --> 00:37:39,204
the way you want your life to be.

1064
00:37:39,204 --> 00:37:41,605
And it's just like what any what the

1065
00:37:41,605 --> 00:37:44,099
military says is you choose your suck. Pick

1066
00:37:44,099 --> 00:37:46,179
your suck. Yeah. It's gonna suck Yeah. If

1067
00:37:46,179 --> 00:37:48,179
you don't get up Yeah. And it's gonna

1068
00:37:48,179 --> 00:37:50,360
suck for 2 seconds of you getting up.

1069
00:37:50,420 --> 00:37:52,875
But the whole thing is you roll the

1070
00:37:52,875 --> 00:37:54,414
tape forward and you choose

1071
00:37:54,795 --> 00:37:56,795
what hard you wanna live through that day.

1072
00:37:56,795 --> 00:37:57,934
Yeah. Also,

1073
00:37:58,569 --> 00:38:01,469
you accomplish something hard right off the bat,

1074
00:38:02,170 --> 00:38:02,909
you dedicate

1075
00:38:03,289 --> 00:38:04,429
time for yourself

1076
00:38:04,730 --> 00:38:06,109
and you honor yourself

1077
00:38:06,635 --> 00:38:08,655
for 15 minutes before your day,

1078
00:38:09,355 --> 00:38:10,255
your day,

1079
00:38:10,635 --> 00:38:12,894
the shit that happens outside of you,

1080
00:38:13,434 --> 00:38:14,255
you know

1081
00:38:14,650 --> 00:38:16,670
it doesn't weigh as heavy because

1082
00:38:17,690 --> 00:38:18,670
your internal

1083
00:38:19,449 --> 00:38:19,949
is

1084
00:38:22,170 --> 00:38:22,670
operating

1085
00:38:23,050 --> 00:38:24,030
at a,

1086
00:38:25,414 --> 00:38:27,735
I guess, just a higher vibration, if you

1087
00:38:27,735 --> 00:38:28,954
will Mhmm. Of

1088
00:38:29,335 --> 00:38:31,574
I already I already showed myself how much

1089
00:38:31,574 --> 00:38:32,474
I love myself.

1090
00:38:32,855 --> 00:38:34,155
You can't bring me down.

1091
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:37,039
I already showed myself how much I respect

1092
00:38:37,039 --> 00:38:37,539
myself.

1093
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:40,079
You can't piss me off. I'm not giving

1094
00:38:40,079 --> 00:38:41,679
my energy to you. I gave my energy

1095
00:38:41,679 --> 00:38:44,179
to myself this morning of getting up. Yeah.

1096
00:38:44,625 --> 00:38:45,125
And

1097
00:38:45,664 --> 00:38:47,445
you you're choosing you're choosing

1098
00:38:48,465 --> 00:38:51,125
you're choosing you to how you wanna start

1099
00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:53,320
the day. You first now. You first now.

1100
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:54,760
Oh, yeah. I don't know. I know. It's

1101
00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:56,840
Chandler's drop. Bam. Yeah. What? Yeah. Gosh. It's

1102
00:38:56,840 --> 00:38:58,679
such a good name. It's so good. It's

1103
00:38:58,679 --> 00:39:01,255
so good. No. It's so good. Yeah. That

1104
00:39:01,255 --> 00:39:02,775
slapped me in the head, man, when I

1105
00:39:02,775 --> 00:39:03,434
was running.

1106
00:39:03,894 --> 00:39:06,614
Really? Talk about downloads. That was one that

1107
00:39:06,614 --> 00:39:08,714
was one of those things that just downloaded.

1108
00:39:08,869 --> 00:39:10,789
I love it. My company's name was strength

1109
00:39:10,789 --> 00:39:13,030
and happiness. Yes. I remember you telling me

1110
00:39:13,030 --> 00:39:13,910
that. So,

1111
00:39:14,710 --> 00:39:16,275
and I'm running and I'm like,

1112
00:39:16,835 --> 00:39:18,755
gosh. I just feel like I'm always on

1113
00:39:18,755 --> 00:39:21,494
the back burner. Yeah. You know? And,

1114
00:39:22,755 --> 00:39:25,239
yeah. You first now. Bam. Right there. So

1115
00:39:25,239 --> 00:39:27,320
okay this is what I want to ask

1116
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:29,719
everybody to do so we're gonna start making

1117
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:30,219
merch

1118
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:32,059
and I'm curious

1119
00:39:32,605 --> 00:39:35,264
to hear your guys' opinions of what,

1120
00:39:35,964 --> 00:39:38,924
I guess, article of material or clothing do

1121
00:39:38,924 --> 00:39:40,764
you prefer or do you wear the best?

1122
00:39:40,764 --> 00:39:43,750
Do you like hats, trucker hats, baseball caps,

1123
00:39:43,969 --> 00:39:46,609
T shirts, tank tops, shorts, pant whatever it

1124
00:39:46,609 --> 00:39:47,109
is.

1125
00:39:47,489 --> 00:39:49,750
Write us. Let us know what you like

1126
00:39:50,164 --> 00:39:51,764
because we're gonna have some really fucking awesome

1127
00:39:51,764 --> 00:39:53,065
things coming out

1128
00:39:54,005 --> 00:39:56,724
on them. I finally get to use my

1129
00:39:56,724 --> 00:39:59,420
fashion design. It's gonna be my face. It's

1130
00:39:59,420 --> 00:40:00,159
hot twist.

1131
00:40:01,980 --> 00:40:04,159
It's Elizabeth's face on

1132
00:40:05,099 --> 00:40:05,920
no underwear.

1133
00:40:06,300 --> 00:40:07,599
Yeah. Right.

1134
00:40:08,219 --> 00:40:11,184
Right. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Well, write us in.

1135
00:40:11,565 --> 00:40:13,505
Write us in. Let us know and

1136
00:40:14,045 --> 00:40:16,045
choose you first now. My name I love

1137
00:40:16,045 --> 00:40:17,889
that. Can't even That's funny. Can't even think

1138
00:40:17,889 --> 00:40:19,109
of anything else. Jackie,

1139
00:40:21,569 --> 00:40:22,389
this this

1140
00:40:23,730 --> 00:40:27,514
workbook is amazing, and I really tell us

1141
00:40:27,514 --> 00:40:29,214
where you can get this because

1142
00:40:30,074 --> 00:40:31,934
I think everyone

1143
00:40:32,315 --> 00:40:33,809
I mean, the price point is

1144
00:40:34,769 --> 00:40:35,269
insanely

1145
00:40:35,809 --> 00:40:37,110
Yeah. It's really inexpensive.

1146
00:40:37,410 --> 00:40:39,570
Okay. Well, you taught me also too with

1147
00:40:39,570 --> 00:40:41,489
the self care workshop. You're like, everybody should

1148
00:40:41,489 --> 00:40:42,025
have access

1149
00:40:44,025 --> 00:40:44,083
to this. Yeah. And that's how I felt

1150
00:40:44,083 --> 00:40:45,244
when I made it. It was like,

1151
00:40:45,704 --> 00:40:48,025
I don't wanna gatekeep it. Like, if my

1152
00:40:48,025 --> 00:40:50,344
if my true intention in my life is

1153
00:40:50,344 --> 00:40:52,010
to help people, then I will make this

1154
00:40:52,090 --> 00:40:54,349
accessible to anybody that wants to help themselves.

1155
00:40:54,489 --> 00:40:56,010
And it but it's, you know, you're the

1156
00:40:56,010 --> 00:40:58,010
author of the book. But that's the unique

1157
00:40:58,010 --> 00:40:59,449
part is you get to write your own

1158
00:40:59,449 --> 00:41:01,605
story on it. And you I keep do

1159
00:41:01,684 --> 00:41:04,184
redoing it. I keep rewriting stories for myself,

1160
00:41:04,324 --> 00:41:06,905
redoing the whole workbook. But it's $36.

1161
00:41:07,844 --> 00:41:09,144
Like, it's pretty good.

1162
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:11,880
We could do a 3 month program. That's

1163
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:14,279
more expensive. But But that's one on one

1164
00:41:14,279 --> 00:41:16,119
and you're getting coaching from yourself. That's a

1165
00:41:16,119 --> 00:41:18,760
coaching program. There's information on my website to

1166
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:20,864
not from dot net. It's being sold on

1167
00:41:20,864 --> 00:41:22,864
Etsy right now. You can also just message

1168
00:41:22,864 --> 00:41:25,344
me, and I'll send you the the files

1169
00:41:25,344 --> 00:41:26,644
for it if that's easier.

1170
00:41:27,210 --> 00:41:27,710
Etsy

1171
00:41:28,170 --> 00:41:31,050
Estee. Estee. Uh-huh. For mom's dog. I always

1172
00:41:31,050 --> 00:41:32,989
mix the 2. So Estee.

1173
00:41:33,609 --> 00:41:34,829
Estee. Estee.

1174
00:41:36,355 --> 00:41:37,815
Mary, I love your doggy.

1175
00:41:39,155 --> 00:41:40,755
Etsy has been giving kind of a,

1176
00:41:41,155 --> 00:41:43,795
issue. Sometimes people that were downloading it, they

1177
00:41:43,795 --> 00:41:46,400
weren't getting the copy. So I just emailed

1178
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:46,900
them

1179
00:41:47,199 --> 00:41:49,460
to the people that it happened to. So

1180
00:41:49,920 --> 00:41:51,519
if you want a copy, you can always

1181
00:41:51,519 --> 00:41:52,960
just message me and I'll send it to

1182
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:54,534
you. You can message me on Instagram at

1183
00:41:54,534 --> 00:41:56,614
the back pocket wisdom. There you go.

1184
00:41:56,934 --> 00:41:57,835
Life's a burch.

1185
00:41:58,695 --> 00:42:00,375
You First Now, it'll be up on You

1186
00:42:00,375 --> 00:42:02,155
First Now with Yeah. The community.

1187
00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:04,599
We have really exciting things coming there too.

1188
00:42:04,599 --> 00:42:07,179
Oh my gosh. So many exciting things. Elizabeth,

1189
00:42:07,480 --> 00:42:10,574
tell me your workshop is when? Oh, September

1190
00:42:10,574 --> 00:42:13,074
3rd. So we're doing the self care workshop.

1191
00:42:13,375 --> 00:42:14,355
It's 8

1192
00:42:14,735 --> 00:42:15,235
people

1193
00:42:15,775 --> 00:42:17,614
and face to face and,

1194
00:42:18,015 --> 00:42:18,914
8 weeks.

1195
00:42:19,250 --> 00:42:21,489
So we have 5 more spots left at

1196
00:42:21,489 --> 00:42:22,710
this current moment,

1197
00:42:23,250 --> 00:42:24,289
and it's,

1198
00:42:24,690 --> 00:42:25,190
$1500.

1199
00:42:25,730 --> 00:42:26,869
It is a bargain.

1200
00:42:27,329 --> 00:42:29,125
No. I'm telling you too because we

1201
00:42:30,065 --> 00:42:32,405
I mean, I took it before I helped

1202
00:42:32,704 --> 00:42:33,765
delete it with everybody,

1203
00:42:34,545 --> 00:42:37,610
and it is life changing, dude. I mean,

1204
00:42:37,769 --> 00:42:39,930
I use this analogy for everything you carry

1205
00:42:39,930 --> 00:42:41,849
around your toolbox and you pick whichever tool

1206
00:42:41,849 --> 00:42:43,369
you need for the problem in your life.

1207
00:42:43,369 --> 00:42:44,989
Yeah. You construct

1208
00:42:45,565 --> 00:42:46,465
and you rebuild

1209
00:42:47,244 --> 00:42:50,204
your toolbox. So think like, this has helped

1210
00:42:50,204 --> 00:42:52,284
me so much, the healthy communication, I will

1211
00:42:52,284 --> 00:42:54,630
just say. Yes. Boundaries and everything, but the

1212
00:42:54,630 --> 00:42:55,450
healthy communication

1213
00:42:56,150 --> 00:42:58,489
is pulling in every aspect of my life

1214
00:42:59,510 --> 00:43:01,644
because I'm not pointing the finger at people.

1215
00:43:01,644 --> 00:43:03,585
I'm not blaming anybody. I'm telling you,

1216
00:43:03,965 --> 00:43:04,625
I feel

1217
00:43:05,164 --> 00:43:07,164
happy when you come over and you're on

1218
00:43:07,164 --> 00:43:08,969
time because what I think is that you

1219
00:43:08,969 --> 00:43:10,890
value my time. And what I would like

1220
00:43:10,890 --> 00:43:13,369
is to keep showing each other you respect

1221
00:43:13,369 --> 00:43:15,050
each other by doing so. I love it.

1222
00:43:15,050 --> 00:43:16,170
What can I what do you need from

1223
00:43:16,170 --> 00:43:17,795
me? Yeah. And it it it makes it

1224
00:43:17,795 --> 00:43:19,715
so like, when you were reading it, I

1225
00:43:19,715 --> 00:43:21,074
remember when I was reading it, I was

1226
00:43:21,074 --> 00:43:22,755
like, oh, I'm never gonna just, like, sit

1227
00:43:22,755 --> 00:43:24,695
there and be like, I feel happy when

1228
00:43:25,155 --> 00:43:26,295
I feel ill.

1229
00:43:26,659 --> 00:43:28,739
And I find myself it just I find

1230
00:43:28,739 --> 00:43:29,940
my own flow with it. And you know

1231
00:43:29,940 --> 00:43:30,440
what?

1232
00:43:30,980 --> 00:43:34,760
I have more productive conversations in confrontation too.

1233
00:43:35,025 --> 00:43:37,824
I had a confrontation this past weekend, and

1234
00:43:37,824 --> 00:43:39,505
I just looked. I said, I don't wanna

1235
00:43:39,505 --> 00:43:40,005
fight.

1236
00:43:40,704 --> 00:43:41,364
I feel

1237
00:43:41,744 --> 00:43:43,764
happy when we can communicate

1238
00:43:44,144 --> 00:43:46,110
and and hear each other, but I don't

1239
00:43:46,110 --> 00:43:47,550
think that you're hearing me. Are you hearing

1240
00:43:47,550 --> 00:43:49,570
me? No. What do you need from me?

1241
00:43:49,710 --> 00:43:52,130
This and that and that. Okay. I understand.

1242
00:43:52,269 --> 00:43:54,530
That's not at all what I meant. Cool.

1243
00:43:54,815 --> 00:43:55,315
Cool.

1244
00:43:55,614 --> 00:43:57,934
Now I feel excited. Moving you know? I

1245
00:43:57,934 --> 00:43:59,855
mean, you just kind of you make it

1246
00:43:59,855 --> 00:44:00,594
so personalized,

1247
00:44:01,214 --> 00:44:04,034
the communication. That's a whole other topic. But

1248
00:44:04,500 --> 00:44:06,260
that is one tool that I will take

1249
00:44:06,260 --> 00:44:07,699
for the rest of my life. I've done

1250
00:44:07,699 --> 00:44:09,719
it with bosses. I've done it with friends.

1251
00:44:09,780 --> 00:44:12,739
Mhmm. Emphasis on bosses because Yeah. I've done

1252
00:44:12,739 --> 00:44:14,184
it with more than one boss.

1253
00:44:14,505 --> 00:44:17,945
And it's given me confidence to own my

1254
00:44:17,945 --> 00:44:18,925
fucking voice

1255
00:44:19,224 --> 00:44:21,405
and to advocate for myself because

1256
00:44:22,360 --> 00:44:24,599
I'm sharing my boundary of how to keep

1257
00:44:24,599 --> 00:44:26,280
you how how you can be in my

1258
00:44:26,280 --> 00:44:28,039
life. Yeah. And that all stemmed from the

1259
00:44:28,039 --> 00:44:30,135
self care workshop. So $1500

1260
00:44:30,515 --> 00:44:33,795
is ridiculous. Yeah. The self care workshop really

1261
00:44:33,875 --> 00:44:36,114
it's it's everything that I wish I knew

1262
00:44:36,114 --> 00:44:36,789
when I was,

1263
00:44:37,269 --> 00:44:39,829
you know, just a young young adult. And,

1264
00:44:40,550 --> 00:44:43,289
I have carefully put it together. It has

1265
00:44:43,349 --> 00:44:45,605
morphed. Every time I have a group,

1266
00:44:45,925 --> 00:44:48,965
I add more. And guess what? I have

1267
00:44:48,965 --> 00:44:50,724
a new I just put it together last

1268
00:44:50,724 --> 00:44:52,184
night. What? It is,

1269
00:44:52,804 --> 00:44:54,510
a letter. It's kind of like an ad

1270
00:44:54,510 --> 00:44:56,750
lib. Oh, so we are going to do

1271
00:44:56,750 --> 00:44:59,390
a little bonus edition, and it's an ad

1272
00:44:59,390 --> 00:45:00,119
lib. And,

1273
00:45:00,964 --> 00:45:02,644
I'm so excited because I tried it on

1274
00:45:02,644 --> 00:45:04,085
one of my clients. I said, hey. Can

1275
00:45:04,085 --> 00:45:05,605
you be my guinea pig? And she's like,

1276
00:45:05,605 --> 00:45:07,844
yeah. Absolutely. I'm like, give me give me

1277
00:45:07,844 --> 00:45:08,824
a verb, like

1278
00:45:09,525 --> 00:45:11,030
and I added it all together and I

1279
00:45:11,030 --> 00:45:12,329
sent her her letter.

1280
00:45:13,110 --> 00:45:15,510
And she was like, oh my goodness. I

1281
00:45:15,510 --> 00:45:17,190
am putting this up on my way. No.

1282
00:45:17,190 --> 00:45:19,190
That's really awesome. So you have your own

1283
00:45:19,190 --> 00:45:21,885
letter that you customize, and it's very cool.

1284
00:45:21,885 --> 00:45:24,285
There also is I will just say with

1285
00:45:24,285 --> 00:45:26,204
that, not because we didn't do the letter,

1286
00:45:26,204 --> 00:45:26,704
but

1287
00:45:27,164 --> 00:45:30,230
the I think the effect that the

1288
00:45:30,849 --> 00:45:33,409
people in this group have on each other

1289
00:45:33,409 --> 00:45:33,909
is

1290
00:45:34,530 --> 00:45:37,409
the is a dynamic part of why being

1291
00:45:37,409 --> 00:45:38,954
in person is so

1292
00:45:39,655 --> 00:45:40,155
beneficial.

1293
00:45:40,454 --> 00:45:42,775
Like, I remember when I went in, I

1294
00:45:42,775 --> 00:45:42,934
was

1295
00:45:43,735 --> 00:45:45,755
it's it's uncomfortable to be vulnerable

1296
00:45:46,375 --> 00:45:48,730
right away. Yeah. Right? But you establish

1297
00:45:49,109 --> 00:45:49,609
these

1298
00:45:50,389 --> 00:45:53,670
clear, you know, boundaries and rules of this

1299
00:45:53,670 --> 00:45:56,065
is safe. And when people start sharing their

1300
00:45:56,224 --> 00:45:58,385
stories, you relate to somebody that you would

1301
00:45:58,385 --> 00:46:00,864
not that's 20 years younger, 20 years older,

1302
00:46:00,864 --> 00:46:03,199
that's from a different state. I mean, these

1303
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:04,800
people that you would never think you have

1304
00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:06,820
anything in common with, and it's a perspective

1305
00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:07,539
to you

1306
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:09,300
of I'm not that

1307
00:46:09,679 --> 00:46:10,179
big.

1308
00:46:10,954 --> 00:46:13,594
My problems are not bigger than me. Other

1309
00:46:13,594 --> 00:46:15,215
people go through this.

1310
00:46:15,594 --> 00:46:17,515
Wait. This is what helped me. And then

1311
00:46:17,515 --> 00:46:19,375
you're just sitting there, and you're all

1312
00:46:19,780 --> 00:46:21,160
helping each other of

1313
00:46:21,619 --> 00:46:23,300
okay. Well, when my husband and I were

1314
00:46:23,300 --> 00:46:25,460
fighting, this is what happened. Or when this,

1315
00:46:25,460 --> 00:46:25,960
and

1316
00:46:26,340 --> 00:46:29,480
you just see everybody just sort of connect.

1317
00:46:29,924 --> 00:46:30,424
And

1318
00:46:30,724 --> 00:46:32,184
it's very interesting

1319
00:46:33,204 --> 00:46:34,724
to be an observer, but to be a

1320
00:46:34,724 --> 00:46:38,170
participant is something that's, I mean, you really

1321
00:46:38,230 --> 00:46:40,710
build a community of people that you can

1322
00:46:40,710 --> 00:46:43,989
trust. Is life life altering. So and and

1323
00:46:43,989 --> 00:46:46,535
and for the better, always. Always. Always. Always.

1324
00:46:46,535 --> 00:46:49,255
Yeah. And what more do we need now

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is is really to be Yeah. Together Mhmm.

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To see each other as human beings Yeah.

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And to

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to be heard also. You know? So,

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let yourself be heard of September 3rd. I

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would love for anybody to

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ask me any questions. Yeah. DM me at

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you first now, Instagram, and

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I I think I mean, I know it

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always ends up being a fantastic

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group. Yeah.

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And organically, it comes together. Yeah. And Plus

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Elizabeth's outfits get really cool each week. So

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Oh my gosh. My outfit is

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Obviously. Alright. Well, love you so much.

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Love you. Love you too, Elizabeth.

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Oh. I know. It's like I was like,

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me? Really?

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Oh, man. Alright. Ta ta for now. Ta

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ta clowns.

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Thanks for listening. Make sure to like this

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