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Alright. On the last long form
episode called getting honest with your process,
I talked a little bit about this experience
I had with a friend and we were
talking and somebody from his past
And I had run into somebody from his
past
that he didn't care for because they had
a falling out back in the day. And
I was describing in the last episode. Oh,
funny, I thought his reaction was when I
mentioned that I had bumped into him. And
he started telling me some stories from the
past and all those kind of stuff the
end. The bottom line was, he was not
wishing this gentleman well.
And it just reminded me that it is
a beautiful thing to be able to get
really, really honest about where we are at
any particular point in time regarding a situation
that has troubled us or that happens to
still trigger us.
Alright. So I went into detail about how
to do that, how to find that what's
called initial sen
event. Whatever it is from the past, the
first time you ever remember feeling that feeling,
having that experience, maybe there's a theme connected
to it a a feeling of not being
heard or a feeling of being disrespect or
a feeling of being disregard or whatever it
is. There usually is this sort of pattern
or theme
that goes along with that and you'll notice
that pattern They call it a pathology, love
to sneak its way back in. Over the
course of time through different situations, and it
typically does that because we abbott in a
category in our minds as unresolved. It is
an un yield
unresolved conflict, and it's just gonna keep making
its way into the forefront of our experience
and tell. We actually identify it, call it
what it is. You know, whatever feeling it
is. It's insecurity. It's pain, It's disrespect. It's
anger, it's frustration. It's abandonment. It's whatever it
is. We pull it out, We stick it
in front of us and we look at,
we examine it from every angle. Every shape
and size of the thing. And we call
it. What it is. You know, you really
can't change something if you can't identify it.
Right? So we identify it, and we find
out, you know, where we really first encountered
that experience.
Okay. So we... That's where we left off
in that episode. Today, I wanted to pick
it up by giving you some strategies as
to what you can do with it now.
You know, there's a saying that says you
really can't rewrite history.
I think you can. Well, I I believe
people do it all the time. I think
mainstream media does it all the time.
Or they just write history. They don't even
have to rewrite it. I think they make
it up
oftentimes. I'm all Sam allowed to say that
because I used to work in news.
So as a veteran of television news, and
Internet news is much the same, you can
con
just about anything with the right editing, and
the right series of pictures in the right
content put together in just the right way.
So we can actually do that in our
minds as well. Now I would never suggest
that you deny that something happened. That's called
denial. We don't want to toe the line
of denial. That's not productive. It's not helpful.
It's not gonna serve you. It's definitely not
gonna help you heal and grow. So it's
okay to feel uncomfortable
identifying. What this is, do you know that
a lot of people don't do this exercise
because they're afraid that if they open that
flood gate, they'll never get the gate closed
again.
If they tap in
to the anger or the sadness or the
feeling, they won't be able to sort of
bottle it back up.
That's a very natural, very normal feeling. I
have felt that way before as well. Here's
the beauty. We can't stay in a state
of that type of unleashing as it were
for too long. So even if you allowed
yourself a good hard cry,
your body is eventually going to be done,
crying,
whether you feel it or not, your your
physiology is gonna need to wrap it up
and move on to something different at some
point. So I wanna invite you not to
be too concerned about this notion of, you
know, if I tap into that emotion or
if I experience that or feel or work
to process it. You know, I may never
be able to shut the door on it
again. The idea isn't to shut the door
on it. Again, the idea is to bring
it out into the light, experience the emotions
that go along with it and then process
those emotions. So the emotion that went along
with the event or the
situation were, and then we name each and
every 1 of them. After we're den naming
each and every emotion that went along with
that specific
situation or event, then we find out where
where does that live inside of us Where
has that series of emotions? Where is that
lived in us? Because I know this sounds
voodoo, but you gotta trust me on this?
Emotions are energetic, like words.
They carry a frequency in a vibration, and
they actually live on the inside of us
Why do you think doctors always say things
like 90 something percent of all
disease has a root born in stress. It's
because stress, what is stress and think about
what it is really. Stress is pressure
based on
a series of emotions, which are based on
a series of thoughts.
So the thoughts lead to the emotions or
sometimes the emotions buried
or hidden in the unconscious mind, create the
thoughts, it doesn't matter, which is the chicken
and and which is the egg. None of
that matters. What matters is, there are thoughts
and emotions that Will bury themselves inside of
us, if we have not brought them out
to the light. If we have not released
them if we have not identified them called
them, named them and release them, they will
find spaces to live in our bodies.
I cannot tell you how many times people
who have gone through These releasing exercises feel
the freedom from things like chronic pain
or inflammation. So much of the stress we
carry is born out of emotion. And that
stress manifests
itself in sometimes in disease.
Ach joints. Back pain, neck pain. You ever
heard the expression pain in the neck. You've
heard another expression pain in the... Yeah. The
other place. It's all the same, and it's
real. It's not just a metaphor. It actually
can be real and true. So
once we can start tapping where have I
carried this? Have I carried this in my
chest and my solar plexus? Have I carried
this in my gut? Have I ball it
up into a big knot in my gut?
Have I carried it like a burden
on my back? Is it causing me shoulder
tension or back pain, where has this series
of emotions lived
and then pull it out.
I know It sounds really simple, Almost nonsensical.
You pull it out. Pull it out in
your mind or watch yourself actually start pulling
those things out of your body just to
see yourself. Pulling them extracting things out of
your gut out of your heart space out
of your back.
Just go along with me. Just try it.
I can practically guarantee. You're gonna feel a
little something. Remember, this is all the mind
doing the work.
But the mind, your unconscious mind works in
metaphor. And if you can see yourself pulling
and extracting those things out,
your mind will cooperate your unconscious will give
you your conscious mind job, and we'll go
to work to start relieving and releasing
those
intensely vibrating,
emotions out of the tissue and you can
almost start just ex ex them as you
go. Now you're identifying them and you're pulling
them out, and you're releasing them as you
go. You're releasing them. And
After you finish the exercise of releasing
all this stuff out of you, the emotion,
the physical
sensations in the body that correspond with the
emotions, all of this. Breathe it out,
truly release it. I love that technique that
animals do when they shake, you know, like
a dog will shake something off. Literally,
We wanna shake it off. After we were
done identifying releasing and going through the emotional
discomfort if that's what's necessary. It's okay.
And then when it... That's exhausted when you've
tapped in and you're done. And there's nothing
left to pull out or extract, and we're
breathing
that
out of our system,
both physically and also metaphorically,
then is your opportunity, my friend to
rewrite
history,
get back into that situation and replay that
in your mind, the way you would have
it done.
Rewrite it like a play. See the actors
on a stage, arrange them in the order
they need to be arranged. You're the director,
give them their lines and seen
and have the maxed it out if you
need to actually visualize this in your minds.
I
but replay this scene several times over as
many times as you can, at least 3,
start with 3 and go from there 3
times replay the seen 3 times in a
row over and over in your mind as
you wish it were as you are now
choosing to recreate the memory in your own
mind. And again, this is to provide you
and the situation some relief. You are not
responsible for justice.
If justice needs to be served in the
situation, then you can imagine justice being
exercised, here's the beauty of it. You and
I, you and I are not responsible for
that outcome. If you know scripture, you know
that scripture says vengeance is mine, says the
lord. I don't know about you, but I'm
not gonna start calling myself Lord and exacting
justice anytime soon, but besides we wouldn't know
how.
Our viewpoint and perspective is so limited,
there is a justice system,
and if justice is required through the legal
system,
then may justice be served. But sometimes there
are situations that don't rise to that level
or that occasion, but they still messed with
us because there is an internal injustice that
we really wish we're rectified. We want the
wrong, right because it just feels right it's
and it feels unresolved and incomplete when it's
not. So start replaying that in your mind,
you get to rewrite your...
Story, you rewrite your own history.
And the emotions that come along with that
revision. Feel them, really get into that scene
and feel all of the emotions think the
things. Hear the things in your ears that
would be said in that perfect scenario. Here
are the apologies if you need to. And
offer extend your forgiveness if you need to.
But go through this exercise my dear friend
if you can this is the meditation today.
I have done this
many times over for many different
situations. It can and will transform you if
you'll just indulge the process.
But today's takeaway is we can rewrite history
our own anyway. We can rewrite our own
as we go in and start doing these
self actual rationalization exercises, pulling out those things
when the past, the first time we felt
them or experienced them.
Looking to see where that pattern has shown
up over and over again. It keeps... It's
gonna keep showing up if we don't resolve
it. And we don't release it. We're just
gonna keep on seeing it with a different
face and a different name. So let's get
rid of it. Let's be done. Let's learn
the lesson
Let's say thank you. I got it. I
will be better as a result of transforming
this. I now choose to create the scenario
that looks just like this that is healing
and empowering,
and that's the emotion by which I move
forward in this
situation. I look so forward hearing how this
is going for you. We can connect on
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me. I cannot wait to connect with you,
my friend. Much love to you. I'm with
you in it. As always, and I can't
wait to see you on the next episode.
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